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eee4666/r/Divorce_Men26/10/23 01:31 AM
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eee4666/r/Divorce_Men07/11/23 04:57 AM
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You cannot explain it to anyone unless they have gone through it themselves. It is one of the most mind bending things to go through. It’s lighting yourself on fire to keep someone else warm. People brush it off and say “why didn’t you just leave”? It’s not that easy because they always have plausible deniability on their side and they weaponize blame. You’re always wrong, they’re always right. They only think and see the world in black and white. Once you come out of it and see it from the outs…
/r/Divorce_Men04/05/26 05:02 PM
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On instagram and to her surface level acquaintances, she is the picture perfect image of what a mom should be. In reality? The kids are just an extension of her. She’s a teacher, and the relationship with the kids is very much like a student/teacher relationship. My son has said some things that made me pause about being at mom’s house completely unprompted. I brought those to her attention because she was prying, “yeah he says a lot of things about you too but I know he lies a lot and makes thi…
/r/Divorce_Men07/11/23 07:47 PM
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She reach out of the blue and told me the whole story. “I know this is going to hurt you and I hope you find someone some day… blah blah blah”. It was totally unprovoked and out of nowhere. We only talk about the kids. If someone is going to be around my kids I’d like to know who and what they are. She’s being fucking selfish at this point and it seems open communication is done with her.
/r/Divorce_Men27/10/23 05:27 PM
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She’s still drop dead gorgeous and told me she’s had to turn down multiple dates from men as she wanted to take a year off, “but things just happened”. A guy who is willing to leave his home state to uproot his life for a single mom with 2 kids? I can already see what this is going to do to my 6 year old and it fucking crushes me man. There is zero empathy or seeing things from my perspective of putting the kids needs before herself. Date as much as you want to, even for long term, but to let yo…
/r/Divorce_Men26/10/23 10:44 PM
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Thank you man. I appreciate the responses, it really helps to process all of this. My therapist said the exact same thing about the stability. Her life is in a constant state of chaos and she thrives in chaos I think. I was the boring stability she thought she wanted. Her past would absolutely blow your mind but thats my fault for ignoring all the red flags early on due to her looks. I do not miss her as the wife she once was and am pretty much disgusted by her new actions and personality. Self …
/r/Divorce_Men26/10/23 10:34 PM
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They’re “childhood friends who reconnected”
/r/Divorce_Men26/10/23 08:15 PM
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She’s not. He’s a “childhood friend who reconnected” and is willing to move states for her so she wants to slowly start introducing the kids via FaceTime. I don’t care if she fucks 100 men in one day, moves on fast or progresses a relationship. Why tell a 6 year old you have a boyfriend who you’ve met with once and only know via FaceTime? What does that do to a 6 year old who’s still processing the divorce? Why does he need to know anything about your dating life?
/r/Divorce_Men26/10/23 07:46 PM
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Now she won’t give me his information “until shes ready to introduce the kids”. We had an agreement to divulge this information early on. Not so much anymore.
/r/Divorce_Men26/10/23 05:45 AM
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I am being amicable and factual in my responses back to her. The selfishness is unreal. Rubbing salt in the wound about the relationship. Won’t give me any information.
/r/Divorce_Men26/10/23 05:42 AM
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I am in no way denying my short comings in the marriage, but after coming out of the fog and through therapy, I have found that it and I was never going to be enough. It really messes with your head thinking you’re doing everything “right” only to be met with unhappiness. I’ve finally learned you cannot make someone else happy internally. You can make them feel happy in moments, but if there is an internal void of happiness, you cannot fix that.
/r/Divorce_Men08/10/23 04:16 PM
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Say yes to more things you would have said no to in the past. Go with zero expectations other than just having a good time. You might be shocked at just how much fun you end up having. She will pop in your head randomly, and it will frustrate you, but the more you get out and just do something new the feelings pass.
/r/Divorce_Men22/09/23 11:56 PM
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That was such an eye opening and odd realization. I was drinking as a coping mechanism in the marriage without even realizing it. Now, after the divorce? I have almost zero desire to drink. None. Really bizarre to look back and come to that ah-ha moment.
/r/Divorce_Men14/09/23 03:12 PM
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I was told “I’ve been selfless for so long it’s time for me to be selfish”. Blew the family up all for her selfish “happiness”. Didn’t help that she was/is surrounded by divorced and recently divorced woman rooting her on I’m sure.
/r/Divorce_Men10/09/23 06:10 AM
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Time will tell. Most of her girlfriends are divorced or recently divorced. Most are dating or getting remarried. She moved out 4 weeks ago. She just started a full time job last week for the first time in 8 years. I don’t know if reality has set in yet. Part of me is thinking she has been living vicariously through these friends. The ones I have met are miserable to be around or dating absolute losers. I hope she finds Prince Charming because I sure as hell am not it. She’s absolutely gorgeous (…
/r/Divorce_Men22/08/23 09:07 PM
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She always dreamed of being a stay at home mom. Got that since our first child, then seemed to get bored and seemed sick of it with our second child. Bought a brand new house, shortly after, “I really don’t like the countertops, I wish they were stone” “I wish the whole downstairs was all wood, not just the kitchen”. Paid off her car a year early, “one day I cannot wait to get my dream Mercedes mom SUV.” The surprising thing is, she was not materialistic AT ALL. It was just never enough.
/r/Divorce_Men22/08/23 06:34 PM
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The self blame, what-ifs, if only I could have, and ruminating are brutal. Therapy is helping, but staying in that perpetual cycle will keep you stuck. I always hated the “it takes two to make a marriage work”, but it truly does. Go deep. Think about past conversations, arguments, situations and see how they were handled ineffectively on their side. How did she make you feel in the relationship? Sex, support, encouragement, teammate, did she talk you up rather than talk you down, etc. I was beat…
/r/Divorce_Men22/08/23 03:52 PM
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My divorce was extremely quick and all I asked was to have some respect and wait until the divorce is final until she moved on. At this point I don’t even know why it mattered, but it did for me at the time. Her response was “in the .01% chance I did meet someone during the divorce I’m not going to tell them to wait just because I haven’t moved out yet”. The woman I divorced is not the woman I married.
/r/Divorce_Men19/08/23 05:02 AM
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Man this resonated with me deeply. Thanks for sharing.
/r/Divorce_Men04/08/23 04:22 PM
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The unhealthy thing I keep going back and forth on is: Is the old person I fell in love with still in there, and the next guy gets that best version of my ex? Is she treating me the way she has been at that end because that's who she really is, or is it just because she has already processed all of this and is excited for her new life and future? The mental gymnastics I'm putting myself through is not helping me, but this is what runs through my mind constantly.
/r/Divorce_Men27/07/23 02:18 AM
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I think the echo chamber was a huge contributing factor in mine. Almost all of her friends are divorced and a few are recently divorced and the ones I have met are miserable. I can only imagine the "you got this girl, just walk away" conversations that were had. She literally told me, "it's time for me to be selfish" and blew up our family with a 1 and 6 year old so she can be selfish and find her happiness. Unbelievable.
/r/Divorce_Men27/07/23 01:54 AM
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do i remove/block my ex from social media Yes.
/r/Divorce_Men19/07/23 12:25 AM
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