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I see I like I approach If it all goes well I bang More often than not I get rejected No signs needed
/r/seduction19/04/18 07:13 AM
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Just say "Good." No point in being elaborate.
/r/seduction19/04/18 07:11 AM
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Nah dude, your game is ruining your game.
/r/seduction18/04/18 04:44 AM
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Stop taking pictures of women and become a normal human being lol. You talk to them, usually.
/r/seduction18/04/18 04:40 AM
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"SO after that no response now for 5 days and i know this girl is interested in me 1000%." She hasn't responded for 5 days and you think she is interested? Think again.
/r/seduction18/04/18 04:36 AM
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I'd advise you to look for guys in the UK PUA scene (should be heaps for London) and they might be able to help you with Dublin.
/r/seduction13/04/18 02:44 AM
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Maybe you are not acting like yourself when you are with women? This must be an inner game issue. It's really hard to say without meeting you. You definitely have value - hobbies, life, friends, career. So technically you shouldn't be having issues. My guess is that it is an issue with mental frames or something of that sort. My advice: Approach more + Field reports Try and dress better Watch some stuff on inner game and mindsets (RSD + Models + 3% Man)
/r/seduction13/04/18 02:42 AM
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This is great advice, seriously. Newbies could do with just looking into the sidebar instead of asking "she doesn't text back what should I do?" or "how do I make a hot girl fall for me over text". 1) Sidebar 2) Todd V: Manifesto 3) Mark Manson - Models 4) General videos from RSD This is basically all you need to build a solid foundation.
/r/seduction13/04/18 01:45 AM
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It helps to get the initial hook but if you are an unattractive person and have no game then you will not get laid much.
/r/seduction13/04/18 01:43 AM
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that, or his name is Big Pun
/r/seduction12/04/18 06:39 AM
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Ask her out on a date, if she is game you at least know. Put down the phone after you set up the date.
/r/seduction12/04/18 01:29 AM
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You go and try to get rejected a lot more times. After a while you realise it's meaningless and that rejection is a part of the process as well.
/r/seduction12/04/18 01:26 AM
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You can use any opener and transition into something interesting. Just say hello and see what she gives you to work with. Just my 0.02: I wouldn't open girls at school a lot if I were you. You can get a bad rep very fast. School is more about social circle game.
/r/seduction11/04/18 02:26 AM
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None.
/r/seduction10/04/18 04:50 AM
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By the end it won't. You will laugh off rejection and just keep going. At least you shot your shot. You put yourself out there and failed. You might succeed next time though.
/r/seduction10/04/18 04:48 AM
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Been in the same situation. Learnt some very important lessons and grew from this experience. You move on. You don't feel anger or resentment or any negativity. You make your conclusions from this and adjust your mental frames for the future. Some things to do: Write Meet new people and reconnect with old ones Talk out what happened with people, it helps you get perspective on things Change your behaviour for the future, avoid similar mistakes Come to terms that it is over, don't contact her and…
/r/seduction10/04/18 01:52 AM
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Be well groomed Don't do weird shit Be a socially well adjusted person Build comfort If she has a good time she will want to see you again. It's really not rocket science.
/r/seduction06/04/18 06:52 AM
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I used to have the exact same thing. I think you just have to realise that in the end women want someone fun and interesting to talk to while also keeping in mind that you must make your intentions clear. Talk to them like you talk to any human being, it's really not much different. This gets said a lot but check out the sidebar.
/r/seduction06/04/18 06:50 AM
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The sidebar I really like RSD Max's take on game, watch some videos Models by Mark Manson The way of the superior man by David Deida In the long run, the game should just be a sliver of the pie that makes up your life. Some guys learn game and become very good at closing girls, but the moment they find one they like they are unable to keep her. It all feeds into being a well rounded individual that has shit going on in his life. I believe that through living a full life, having friends, hobbies …
/r/seduction06/04/18 02:43 AM
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I think you may have caused her to lose interest through your inaction. I would try to contact her again and go out. This time make intentions clear. She was clearly into you.
/r/seduction06/04/18 02:37 AM
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If that's a priority and there are no other options then you are out of luck. There is no way to get better at the game other than practice. You could try tinder/bumble/etc if you truly do not have as much time. The thing is, once you have a GF you will have very little time for anything and will have to make her a priority over your studies. You have to realise this as well.
/r/seduction05/04/18 11:38 PM
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Almost everyone in clubs has skills on the same level when it comes to dance. Just fucking move around, don't care. It's less about your skill in dancing and more about your confidence. It's a confidence issue, not a dance skills issue.
/r/seduction05/04/18 11:25 PM
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Say "Hello" The opener does not matter as much as people think. /thread
/r/seduction05/04/18 11:23 PM
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You have to be willing to let her go. Pull away a bit and she will probably come running back.
/r/seduction05/04/18 11:22 PM
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There is always time if you make something a priority. Also, you don't need to go out relentlessly hit on women to get a girlfriend or get laid. It's college. Have a social circle, do shit outside of studying and just don't care as much about getting yourself a girlfriend.
/r/seduction05/04/18 11:21 PM
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Step 1: Ask them for a number Step 2: Ask the girl out Step 3: Put down the phone til the date and do cool shit Step 4: Go on date Step 5: ???? Step 6: PROFIT!
/r/seduction05/04/18 07:45 AM
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Kinda yeah. I once went out with my "Khabib" hat (it's a hat a UFC fighter wears, was showing it to some guys in the gym). Halfway through the night I decided to pop this motherfucker on my head (in the club) and spend the rest of my night that way. Opened a lot easier, a few girls opened me and loved it when I shoved it onto their head hah. It's a gimmick and won't really work if you have got no follow through though. I've never peacocked before or after that but can definitely say it works and…
/r/seduction05/04/18 04:18 AM
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Can't score if you never come out of the locker room.
/r/seduction05/04/18 04:13 AM
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Do not put her on a pedestal! Be willing to walk away and keep your frames. Do not be needy and clingy, that will drive her away. Have a mentality of abundance. Take this from a guy who has a in a similar situation. Had a girl, dated > broke up > got back together > repeat cycle. Had I kept the same frame that I do with other women, had I been willing to walk away and less needy then perhaps she would still be here. She isn't. Either way, have no regrets my friend and just go for it. Do not go i…
/r/seduction05/04/18 04:08 AM
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You have anything better going on in your life than worrying about streaks? Lol go do stuff man, if you keep their streak going it means that you prob have nothing better going on. Verdict: Not as attractive Push-pull, set up meets, close.
/r/seduction03/04/18 07:38 AM
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No texting, you don't wanna be her fucking pen-pal. Go for the meet.
/r/seduction03/04/18 04:41 AM
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Ask them out within 4-5 messages. At least you will filter out the ones that are not DTF.
/r/seduction03/04/18 04:40 AM
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Set up the meet outright "I'll be doing X at Y, come join" Don't fall into the social media trap or texting trap. You can lose attraction easier than you can build it.
/r/seduction03/04/18 04:39 AM
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How about just not caring if she doesn't text back? If she is interested she will. I would maaaaybe throw out one text after a few days just to see what's up. But if she doesn't respond to that then just move on. I've had instances when girls wouldn't reply> I text in a few days>set up the meet>close. Don't seem needy and push for the interaction though. Set up a date and done.
/r/seduction03/04/18 04:32 AM
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Escalation ladder my mans. As for flirting, you gotta watch infield videos and see the kind of vibe guys are giving out.
/r/seduction03/04/18 12:36 AM
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Had the same takeaway after the first proper relationship. Attracted the girl (closed within 2 hours of first meeting her), banged, was all going well but the reality is that I over-invested and cared more than her. I ended up catching the feels for the first time and due to my inexperience I lost out in the end. With girls that I hardly care about it seems to be that I just do my usual thing and it goes smooth as butter. Setting up meets, doing shit together, playing it cool when something goes…
/r/seduction03/04/18 12:34 AM
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You can learn something from him at the expense of him bringing you down. Shit trade I think. Yeah he promised and so what. If you have game then you can get all the girls you want. Fuck that guy.
/r/seduction02/04/18 02:11 AM
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How long is a piece of string? Some are some aren't. Some go out just to have fun and end up attracted to someone and going home, others go out to "smash" and just get disappointed and go home.
/r/seduction02/04/18 01:53 AM
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Just ignore him. Some sort of weird prick. What value does he add to your life?
/r/seduction02/04/18 01:52 AM
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I am going to be very blunt here: You are too outcome dependent and you give off a vibe of neediness. There is also some sort of entitlement where you think that just because you are the cliche "tall handsome popular guy" women should fuck you (same goes for the "nice" thing). A few things - Take ownership for why you are not getting laid and do not blame things like Aspergers, it ain't that. Simply lack of game. Learn it, study it, do it. Friendzone, I've actually had female friends that end up…
/r/seduction02/04/18 01:48 AM
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Gotta look on the PUA forums and google CITY X Lair. If you are in a major city you will find a lair. The lairs are great because: network of generally good dudes that will wing you information regarding the city about good logistics, spots, etc country specific information (game is not cookie cutter and cultural values have to be taken into account) an overall source of information, you can defo grow your inner game by picking up the good frames that the top guys in the lair have
/r/seduction02/04/18 01:38 AM
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She doesn't miss you. Move on to different girls, keep living. Maybe she will come back, maybe she wont. Either way - you have your life.
/r/seduction02/04/18 12:31 AM
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A key factor that feeds into confidence is simply having a life. Hobbies, goals, a social circle. You have to have things going on in your life apart from the girl, this will greatly help your game: flakes won't phase you ("oh cool, I can do whatever else today") having a diverse social circle will immediately show your value to her, show that you are not socially inept you won't constantly be at your phone "waiting for her to text", less neediness outcome independence The next is kind of a catc…
/r/seduction01/04/18 11:21 PM
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Outcome independence. The more relaxed you are the more relaxed she will be and that will translate into a positive outcome or you.
/r/seduction29/03/18 12:11 AM
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And yet we are here talking about her haha. Long term the best way to deal with this is to have an abundance mentality. Short term, interact with her as little as possible and go out meet some women.
/r/seduction27/03/18 10:53 PM
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Why not just say that in the post then? The post did say - "How do you guys decide which woman to approach?" " I am trying to improve my approaching girls on the fly game and have so far been fairly unsuccessful at it. How do I decide whom to approach? Any help would be fantastic." Due to this, I gave him advice. Advice that's based on experience. If approach game is weak then the best way to improve it is to get reps in after a bit of theory-work. As for the goals thing, approaching and improvi…
/r/seduction27/03/18 10:52 PM
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Why not just go up to all of em? You aren't gonna find that special snowflake anyway. Have fun, approach all of em, end up fucking some of em haha. Do not regret, just do.
/r/seduction27/03/18 07:29 AM
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I guess it's also whether the only creampies had will be at the coffee-place or at your place.
/r/seduction27/03/18 07:28 AM
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Yeah why not just go up and say "Hi, I'm x and you are?". I once tried doing ridiculous openers, still got closes. The opener literally does not matter. My standard thing when I was in university was - See a chick go up and talk random fucking fluff "yo let's go drink" do a couple shots *go dance if at a club/bounce to a location where you can kino-escalate with them otherwise (I used to have this schtick where I use to say "I can't dance for shit, teach me", worked for me personally) kino-escal…
/r/seduction27/03/18 07:25 AM
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Don't text much. Just do it to fucking set up the meet. Bam, done.
/r/seduction27/03/18 07:19 AM
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1) Sidebar 2) Infield testing 3) Watch a bit of Toddy V, that man is gold
/r/seduction27/03/18 07:18 AM
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Walk the fuck away my man. Have your boundaries. At some point you will stop caring though.
/r/seduction27/03/18 07:16 AM
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Yeah, same rules as for everyone. Develop solid game and you will do well. It is simple as that.
/r/seduction26/03/18 07:56 AM
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Not building attraction, hence no text-back.
/r/seduction26/03/18 05:51 AM
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Seconded. Bread and butter there. Watch some Todd V too, he should give you a good opener into game.
/r/seduction08/03/18 04:52 AM
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Figure out her logistics, invite her out. Bam. Yes-yes, no-no. You'll have your response.
/r/seduction08/03/18 04:50 AM
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Social value, have to portray yourself doing cool af shit. Lots of followers lots of good pictures (high quality ones), hobbies - cooking, sports, activities (skydiving, snorkelling, etc, etc). I think it also depends on the woman you are trying to attract so while for some a poor mans Dan Bilzerian will do, for others a different sort of profile may be needed.
/r/seduction07/03/18 11:46 PM
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10/10 would read shitpost again.
/r/seduction07/03/18 11:43 PM
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In addition to the escalation ladder you must also be in the frame where you are basically ready to lose the girl too. You may escalate and it might fuck up but hey - at least you were in it to win it.
/r/seduction07/03/18 11:38 PM
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Great little write-up. Also gives people the option of diving deeper into each individual step.
/r/seduction07/03/18 11:37 PM
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That's the spirit my man. In the eternal words of Jocko Willink - Move on.
/r/seduction07/03/18 11:32 PM
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She is not interested or she is playing games. Actions are incongruent.
/r/seduction07/03/18 08:40 AM
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I wouldn't really ever say anyone's inner game is ever super solid. Always ways to improve in that aspect. Solid is a fluid concept. You have to be continuously working on your game to be in that place. That means always looking into your inner game, approaching/doing sets constantly, working on the physical appearance (it does not matter but then again it helps a shitload), working on your inner world. As the great Russian write Anton Chekhov said - "Everything should be first-rate in a person,…
/r/seduction07/03/18 04:43 AM
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Ahh the dreaded friendzone. She sees you as a friend and nothing else, a sexless being, an amorphous blob that is there to listen and comfort her while she talks about other guys. My man, you are in the friendzone or worse yet, something far deeper. You now have to decide some things - 1) Do I value her as a friend? Do I just want to be to be friends with this girl? Why do I want to be friends, what kind of value am I getting out of this? Is she a genuinely cool and fun person or am I using this…
/r/seduction07/03/18 02:36 AM
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Numbers by and large are wood. They can just be given out to get rid of the dude pestering. The game works but it takes more than a couple of days to actually start getting solid closes, to reduce flakes, to know when to do shit. It's a skill that has to be trained and the best way to do that is in-field. I would also advise you to look into the more "natural" aspects of game. Work on your inner game, become a good conversationalist, become social, tighten up weak spots and internalise concepts …
/r/seduction07/03/18 12:29 AM
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How about just saying "Hi, I'm XXXX. How's it going?" instead of going in all guns blazing. Perhaps coming on a bit too strong there.
/r/seduction07/03/18 12:20 AM
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re: 2 - Date>Pull to your house to smash, Go for the pull as in pull them back to your house.
/r/seduction06/03/18 05:31 AM
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Kinoescalation ladder. Look it up. Set up your logistics that you can bounce them to your house after. Tinder is for smashing after all. If the date went well enough you can defo get a bang out of it. Seems fine. Play to win, don't play to lose. Try and go for the pull every time you meet a girl from tinder.
/r/seduction06/03/18 05:13 AM
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See a girl, go up. Eventually you'll start getting better at reading them. Document shit in a journal and post field reports. Also, 8am might not be the best time to be picking someone up unless they are a morning person. If they aren't in a good mood (and people forced to be awake at college at 8am probably aren't) then the interaction might not go well.
/r/seduction06/03/18 05:11 AM
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Oneitis + Friendzone. Go get some strange and never look back. If you actually like her as a friend (but you already admitted that you got them feels for her), then sure. You can continue being friends. Personally, I'd cut contact with her for a bit and just focus on myself. What sort of value does she add to you exactly that you can't get from someone else?
/r/seduction06/03/18 05:07 AM
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Second Todd V. Has great things on both inner and outer game. Shame a lot of his stuff got taken down.
/r/seduction06/03/18 04:28 AM
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To paraphrase my man Bernie Mac - you gotta give her the dick
/r/seduction06/03/18 04:28 AM
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Probably not interested. Someone who is interested will reply. Could've given out the number just to get rid of you. Solid text game depends on a solid in-person game. If the interaction went well initially then she should (in experience) reply. Text game wise, I dunno. You could've texted back too fast. Most likely though - see above. That or she is playing hard to get. You seem to be obsessing over it a bit though. Bringing up her instagram and stuff. Chill out a bit, don't seem too eager.
/r/seduction06/03/18 04:26 AM
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I think it may just be getting more comfortable with dates and realising where your interactions went wrong then. The fact that you do stream to over 50 people does show that you've got a personality. Over time you will become more calibrated and know when something feels right (gut feeling). A couple of feeler questions: 1) How do you escalate physically? 2) What do you do for dates usually, what are your logistics like? 3) Do you talk more than them? How does the interaction go on these dates …
/r/seduction06/03/18 04:18 AM
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Oh right. I'd go with the escalation ladder but try and see if she does move in a bit closer perhaps or any other indicators.
/r/seduction06/03/18 02:48 AM
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Whenever you feel like it. From the text guide: "I text her with something like "hey enjoying this crazy day? come meet me tomorrow at [chill bar] at [8]" Take it from there. OR this is riskier but you have to be willing to lose the girl anyway. Don't initiate contact. If she is into you then she will text you. Simple as that.
/r/seduction06/03/18 02:41 AM
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Field reports. Start writing them, keep a journal of them. Try and see the patterns, change things up. I think that you also may have to make an effort and learn to be around people. Perhaps you are coming off as a bit awkward. Since you say you are an attractive dude then that is not an issue at all. However you say that you have very limited social time which gives me the idea that you might be uncomfortable around people in general. I could be coming off as very harsh but that's the read that…
/r/seduction06/03/18 02:37 AM
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Go out, try and get rejected as much as you can. Soon you realise rejection isn't such a big deal and your AA will die down. Approach more and more now that your AA is all but gone. Figure out what went well in those interactions. Get numbers and get dates. Meet girls during dates. learn to have solid interactions with them. Over time you'll start getting laid more or maybe even find a great girl to be in a relationship with. Don't forget to keep focusing on your life. Keep working out, keep doi…
/r/seduction06/03/18 02:33 AM
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You've made your intentions pretty clear. I mean you're going on dates for fucks sake lol. It's pretty clear you are interested in her. My mans /u/caesarcharm is correct though. You are looking for a relationship here and it is leaking through even into your posts. You are becoming highly outcome dependent. Go on another date with her and while you aren't on dates go do whatever cool shit you do like I dunno, paragliding with fucking bald eagles and judging jello wrestling contests and fucking m…
/r/seduction06/03/18 02:29 AM
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Spirituality as in things like inner game and such? Or having a correct philosophy about life? It's a really wide ranging topic man. If I go by my definition in that it means having positive frames then yeah, I would say game and spirituality are highly connected. By positive frames I mean - 1) Have a mentality of ownership (taking ownership of mistakes and what went wrong in a set/date/relationship/work/whatever else). Jocko Willink gets heavy into this. 2) Be outcome independent and focus on t…
/r/seduction06/03/18 02:23 AM
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Ok, I'd say she is into you. But do ease off a her a bit perhaps? Read up on push pull and that sort of dynamic. Implement it. Set up a date, go on it. Focus on building comfort with her, get to know the girl a bit more (not over text!). That would be my approach. Also, this is could be very Korea specific (where I live) but here even if you don't kino a girl at all on a date you can still pull her back to your place and fuck. Just thought it'd throw that out there.
/r/seduction06/03/18 02:15 AM
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Put them at ease, make them feel comfortable, give them good experiences, make them laugh. Tonnes of things you could do to "get laid". All in all though, have a "life". That doesn't mean that you have to be Van Wilder and host parties very weekend. What it means is that you have shit going on in your life, hobbies, a social circle (however big or small), a job/studies/etc.
/r/seduction06/03/18 02:11 AM
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Move on bro. If she misses you/likes you then she will reach out. You showed all your cards too early, that would be the main thing that "went wrong". Although never really frame it that way, you win or you learn eh.
/r/seduction06/03/18 02:08 AM
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Why not just go on the date and have a bit of fun? In the worst case you still had a fun time with a girl that you are attracted to. The conversation thing - 1) Ask about her interests, life, etc (something will hook and you can take it from there) 2) Anything interesting that you heard/read/did recently. Don't really frame it as bragging but something like "I read this book recently, it says X, Y, Z.", she will probably chime in with an opinion 3) Listen more than you talk. I can't stress the f…
/r/seduction06/03/18 02:06 AM
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Build comfort and rapport. It's only one date, some girls are more receptive to Kino than others. Perhaps your it was a bit too aggressive on your part? Did you go straight for the hand? Did you do other contact (light touches, etc). There is an escalation ladder framework online, check those out. Some girls just aren't touchy. Although, if someone is really into you they will not mind. It could be a lot of reasons but you haven't given us enough info. Also, this might sound a tad harsh but you …
/r/seduction06/03/18 01:59 AM
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Seconded on keeping it to logistics. If you do wanna text then keep it to short FB status like updates that are of something cool/funny/interesting. Try to end the conversation first as well. You do want her to think that you've got a lot of other shit going on in your life (not just you waiting by the phone to text her) It's hard to build attraction over text but easy to lose it. Have seen many a man crash and burn. A girl would be into them, they would text their ass off and then bam, she sudd…
/r/seduction06/03/18 01:52 AM
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