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if you're a man who's coupled up, you're seen as established, a lot more together, and there's a general sense that your life is moving in the right direction. On top of that, you just get invited to couples outings (and really, just any sort of outing) a lot more. I've gotten into a relationship after several years of loneliness where I was mostly keeping my head down and was working/going to school, and the difference is pretty glaring. When I was single, it's not just that I was single - I of…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/23 05:16 PM
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Yeah, but that zone is trouble and that's where mixed signals and eventually heartbreak can happen. I f I feel and demonstrate genuine affection for someone without wanting to be exclusive with them, and that affection is interpreted as me now wanting a relationship (and this is very common, because fucking always complicates things), then you might end up hurting someone. I mean, shit happens and this is sometimes part of the game when it comes to dating, but it still sucks and is one of the re…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/23 08:05 PM
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It's a fair complaint. You can't have it both ways. If you wanna keep a fuck buddy around, you've gotta maintain some level of distance and not treat her like a boyfriend. Going on dates, holding her hand, being a "caring and giving person" is goofy as hell if all you wanna do is fuck. It's insincere, so you (and her) are gonna be way better off if you stop sending mixed signals like this. I remember there was a story I heard about the late, great Patrice O'Neal involving this girl who he was ho…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/23 05:34 PM
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There is no fundamental difference in the genetics of a modern man and a Viking who rapes, pillages, and burns or a Malay man who runs amok. I agree with this, but disagree completely with the solution. Wouldn't channeling violent tendencies productively be better served through hobbies like martial arts, or really, traditionally male hobbies that boys are more likely to enjoy in the first place? I know this is anecdotal, but I was pretty angry as a teenager, and when I learned how to box (and c…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/16 01:41 PM
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It's not even that the devil is in the details, it's that OP was putting a ton of spin and distortion on the facts to suit his own conclusions. He was being an emotionally manipulative bullshitter to make it seem like the world is all against men and supports women unconditionally. Now, for the record, I do think that men are held to somewhat more scrutiny when it comes to relationships and women sometimes are given the benefit of the doubt, but I can't in good conscience support this bullshit p…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/16 12:39 AM
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On the other hand, NBA players are an incredibly small sample of the population. While they are obviously outliers in terms of height, there are also only ~450 of them, which I doubt is sufficient to draw any sort of correlation from.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/16 04:24 PM
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In Slavic culture, women had more of a support system since the family unit was not as independent. An asshole husband who beat her would get his own ass beat by her family, if not killed, until he stopped. You keep discussing "Slavic culture" as if it's this very homogeneous thing that you can paint with a broad brush like that. I myself am Bosnian, but we are culturally different than say, Russians, who themselves are different from Poles, and so on. Yeah, there are some similarities here and …
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/16 08:55 PM
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Wat? If that's the case, then why aren't guys lining up around the block to fuck grandma?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/16 06:44 PM
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Slayer gets laid, and they don't play love songs. Eh... I dunno about that. I'm sure that Kerry King and Jeff Hanneman (R.I.P.) didn't do too badly, but Slayer concerts are sausage fests. When it comes to scoring pussy as a musician, the Ed Sheerans of the world will have a huge edge over the Kerry Kings.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/16 02:00 AM
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This shit right here is why you have so many guys out there that don't like feminism. It isn't even that I disagree with you on a lot of the things that you just said, it's that "you're not wrong, Walter, you're just an asshole." Then maybe you should stop defining your social life in terms of "attaining girls". Instead, evaluate (1) your ability to establish deep and meaningful connections with people- if you're "socially awkward" the chances are that you aren't good at this with either gender,…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/16 03:03 AM
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I think that OP's attitude stems from kind of an egalitarian idea that people are "different" rather than better or worse and that hierarchies in mating don't exist, or at least are not as important as other things. If anything, I think that the sort of compatibility that OP describes is overrated, to be honest. Sure, if I have an LTR with a woman, I expect her to share similar values (i.e. I expect her to have integrity, be a good person, want to have a family, that sort of thing), but beyond t…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/15 12:26 AM
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So how do you pass said shit test? Well, I don't go around discussing feminist theory with girls that I want to fuck, but assuming a situation where a woman for some reason asked me "Are you a feminist?" point blank, I'd prefer to make a joke and keep the mood light, assuming we're still in that phase where we've initially just met. I still think telling someone what they want to hear in order to get what you want counts as manipulation. Eh, are any of us completely, 100% honest on a first date …
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/15 08:31 PM
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(for men, done by other men). Eh, I don't know about this. Honestly, even speaking for myself, I actually find it easier to open up about things that I'm worried or insecure about with my close guy friends than I am with a woman I'm dating. After some time I might, but it definitely takes a lot of trust built up between us or me to be comfortable doing so, because I have been burned by it a bit in the past. Honestly, I think that women like the idea of a man being vulnerable and opening up their…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/15 11:08 PM
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Sounds like we'd get along great, seeing as I'm also a quattrosexual phyloromantic furry. But in all honesty, the answer is no. Looks spark attraction, and a mimimum level of physical attractiveness is important, but a raging bitch who is impossible to deal with is not the sort of person you can really be in the same room with, let alone the sort of person you can live with.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/15 04:00 AM
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I don't know dude, spending years without any sex and being unable to form any romantic attachment to the opposite sex is a pretty fucking big problem. I'm not saying that there aren't things that he couldn't be doing to better his situation, but it definitely sucks.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/15 07:16 PM
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Those guys share more in common with the Muslim suicide bombers or shooters than the red pill. They just want to see the world burn. And Muslim suicide bombers aren't ideologically motivated? This guy probably had some mental issues, and for the record, I think that the attempt to turn Elliot Rodger into somebody driven to kill women purely because he went on a bunch of websites rather than the fact that he was a narcissist who had trouble functioning socially was rather manipulative, but this a…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/15 09:33 PM
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That's asinine. A person with that sort of life, who isn't isolated and likely has no mental issues, is an entirely different person altogether.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/15 09:02 PM
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This must be a troll account, possibly actually a TRPer doing it for shits and giggles. Your username is ReginaRadfem (really?), you only seem to post on /r/purplepilldebate and /r/bluepill and your posts read as stereotypical talking points and are written as such. I mean, look at this: Personally, I think members of TRP are violent, dangerous psychopaths almost without exception. Granted, most men are already a latent threat to women, with the way our society normalizes abuse of women through …
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/15 01:40 AM
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I agree. How come whenever someone says that being sexist against women is bad, you can brush it off with "Oh yeah, well, feminists hate men!" There's a lot of stupid shit that I hate about feminism nowadays, but this sort of constant deflection when TRP's bullshit is questioned is irritating.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/15 02:17 AM
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The purpose of feminism isn't FOR mens sex lives though, it's for women's. I can respect that, and I'm far from an advocate of TRP, but I really wish feminists would stop pissing in my pocket and telling me it's raining with all this nonsense about "toxic masculinity" and stupid phrases like "patriarchy hurts men too". Now, I'm not talking about you of course, just saying that I wish that feminists wouldn't keep arguing that the things they do to benefit women are somehow also good for me in som…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/15 05:56 PM
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Just as I said earlier in this thread - TRP is perfect, it's only the practitioners, being the imperfect humans that they are, that are doing it wrong! sips kool-aid
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/15 01:34 AM
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No, he didn't use TRP at all -- his wife had a miscarriage and he acted like an asshole, offering no beta comfort at all. The comments are obviously mostly good ones that suggest taking a compassionate approach and getting this guy's wife into therapy, but I find it funny that when a TRPer fucks up royally like this, you can never pin it on TRP, only on the people who aren't doing TRP correctly. If the outcome was a successful one, then it would be further validation of the correctness of TRP, b…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/15 01:30 AM
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The nerds at silicon valley are revolutionizing the way the world operates and most of them don't fit into the stereotype of the muscular, confident, manly alpha. They might not look like Arnold Schwarzennegger (whose life is pretty much the TRP ideal made flesh), but they have the mental traits of an "alpha" as much as I'm loathe to use the term. Look at some anecdotes regarding Bill Gates if we're talking about Silicon Valley nerds: Another executive recalled that after he showed Gates a game …
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/15 03:09 PM
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Not all overly macho guys lead revolutions. But no, I haven't noticed it. It might just be you. True, but it's fair to say that the type of men who have led revolutions are probably "alpha" in the TRP sense. Whether you care for the politics of a man like Guevara - I personally don't at all - it's clear to me that he's a charismatic, driven man who was committed to his goals and very courageous. And like, what does it matter if people are virgin's in their 20s? Does it make them worse people? Is…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/15 03:30 AM
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but she's kinda shy and wouldn't make the first move. Yeah, but if she's a decent looking girl like you say, she always has the option of not making the first move and still potentially finding a guy. Men generally need to hustle a lot more and put themselves out there to a greater extent to make things happen. You can't wait for a girl to tell you that she thinks you're cute or wait for her to ask for your number - if you are a man, you have to take the initiative when it comes to dating. This …
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/15 03:12 AM
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They completely invalidate their own narrative. Or, actually, they completely validate it, leading to a vicious cycle where the man in the situation is always in the right, and the woman takes the blame. I never hear TRP suggesting when it's okay to admit you fucked up and say you're sorry. Now, I'm not suggesting some pathetic, pussy shit like becoming some henpecked husk of a man, but if you actually really fucked up with a woman you're seeing, if you don't apologize ever, you lose credibility…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/08/15 12:15 PM
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Men and women are different, but it's easy to see how the RP "philosophy", for lack of a better word, creates a narrative where men are always in the right, and women are always in the wrong. It's not a stretch to say that it can easily lead to abuse by men towards women. It's simply inevitable if one party has all the power in a situation and the other party has none.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/08/15 12:10 PM
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'one of the boys' Well, it isn't necessarily that it's unfeminine that bothers me, it's that she isn't ever going to be one of the boys, no matter how hard she tries - which by the way, is perfectly fine. I'm not exactly trying to fuck one of my boys either, y'know? The point is, if you have a man and a woman who are at least somewhat attractive together, there is bound to be at least a little bit of sexual tension between them, even if they both choose not to act on it.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/08/15 11:03 AM
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RoK is Jezebel for neckbeards instead of legbeards.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/08/15 09:00 AM
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She was being honest. Y'know, for all the talk that some feminists have about "toxic masculinity", I actually find it way easier to open up to my guy friends about things that I am uncomfortable or insecure about than I do women I have a romantic interest in. Part of it is that if we're still in that "getting to know you stage", springing your personal shit on someone can be clingy (which is bad for anyone, but doubly so in a man), and part of it is that if she knows that I have a lot of my own …
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/15 04:37 AM
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I think that the specifics of social status are changing. Being a person with a shitty job, a ton of debt and a bachelor's degree is not going to give you as much status as being a rugged, manly oil platform worker who makes bank. With degrees so commonplace and their value eroding, I'm not sure if they are the marker of status that they might have been thirty years ago.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/15 01:47 AM
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As a feminist, you might be surprised to find that I agree with you here. Boys in school aren't getting the kind of personalized attention they deserve. While women are largely underrepresented in engineering and most of the hard sciences, men are largely underrepresented in the humanities, particularly English. Feminism aims to close both these gaps, encouraging children to pursue whatever fields they are most passionate about, helping to eliminate misconceptions like "math is for boys" and "te…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/15 12:03 AM
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We can safely say that a lot of women who frequent bars and are probably open to an attractive man approaching them (which is A LOT of women) generally prefer a man who is taller than her in heels.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/15 10:41 PM
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Oh, I agree as well. I think that maybe I didn't get my intent across through text that well.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/15 07:01 PM
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All it takes is a single TRPer denying much needed attention to a young girl in his third grade math class--because, you know, women aren't meant for careers in the sciences anyway--and we can end up with one less worthy person interested in engineering. I find this hypothetical example somewhat ludicrous considering that the vast majority of third-grade teachers are women. I dunno, it seems kind of disingenuous to protect the hypothetical dreams of imaginary third-grade girls when it's girls wh…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/15 10:17 AM
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i find it extremely hard to believe that people are born masculine or feminine. I find it extremely hard to believe that they aren't. You don't think that the presence of different proportions of biochemical hormones in men and women doesn't have some effect on their psychology? Here is a study documenting differences in perception of objects among newborns: 102 human neonates, who by definition have not yet been influenced by social and cultural factors, were tested to see if there was a differ…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/15 03:44 AM
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I've always thought that the presence of transgender people is evidence of gender not being a social construct.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/15 03:32 AM
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How is "AWALT" any different than "teach men not to rape"? "Teach men not to rape" operates under the premise that all men are potential rapists. AWALT is simply using the same logic, but applied to women in how they deal with men. How are both of them not completely retarded forms of logic that break down in the real world? Just because I don't think that "AWALT" doesn't mean that I think utopian bullshit like "teach men not to rape" is not idiotic as well.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/15 03:22 AM
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That is because TRP talks about women's feral, base nature. But what about men's feral, base nature? Are we then not just as base? Maybe we just shouldn't trust anybody.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/15 03:19 AM
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But those random strangers on the internet are employers, teachers, lawyers, doctors. They're also disgruntled cubicle monkeys, teenagers who don't know better, janitors, college students in a shit-ton of debt too. Somehow I doubt that TRP is a bastion of influential, powerful elites. Now, it's not just a bunch of dudes ranting on the internet; it's institutionalized sexism. It's sexism on an Internet forum with anonymous people who wouldn't be able to voice such opinions in public without (admi…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/15 03:15 AM
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I find it hard to believe that no man would choose an unattractive woman that he can build a great relationship with over a pretty face that he needs to constantly work to keep. Maybe not, "no man", but I think that most men need at least a bare minimum of attractiveness in their mate, since we tend to value looks a bit more than women do. It doesn't mean that she has to look like a Victoria's Secret model, but she should at least be someone that is physically fit, not too old, and has some nice…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/15 02:57 AM
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I'm no redpiller, but I don't see how cat-caller = badboy. I think that women and men generally have different connotations of the word "asshole" and what asshole behavior is. When women think of a guy who is an asshole, it's someone who is unattractive, uncouth, sleazy, annoying, that sort of thing. When men think of a guy who is an asshole, they think of a high-status type of guy who is ambitious, selfish and kind of ruthless in his interactions with women (or even people in general). I think …
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/15 02:46 AM
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I didn't say that it was wrong, and I even admitted that women are generally more sexually selective, but the "women rank 80% of men being 'below average'" is becoming a TRP mantra in the same way that "women earn 77 cents for every dollar a man makes" is a feminist mantra. Context is important.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/15 04:17 PM
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It's also even better "stay the fuck away from her because she's crazy and needs help" material.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/15 03:11 AM
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Can we stop taking an OK Cupid poll as gospel? I understand that it's instructive in that it shows that women generally are more sexually selective than men (which is true), but I really wish that people would source this more often so that it's known that it isn't from some peer-reviewed study.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/15 11:40 PM
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Who, Emma Sulkowicz? Her story has more holes than swiss cheese. The woman is mentally ill. And there is no such thing as an "alleged" rape victim, because being a rape victim is not a crime. You can be an alleged murder, an alleged rapist, but you can't be an alleged rape victim.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/15 09:15 PM
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Ed Hochuli is so fucking jacked.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/15 09:13 PM
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Any feminist icon attacked in public gets many hoo-rahs from TRP every single time. I don't believe this is a debatable point. Like, physically assaulted? I can't imagine even the most bitter of TRP-ers, rooting for feminists to get the shit kicked out of them in public. I mean, fuck Roosh, but can you cite an example of this?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/15 09:11 PM
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Well, because we all know that outright trying to impress a woman in such a crass way like bragging about how many women you've fucked will make her think that you are a massively insecure douchebag. It's going to give her the exact opposite impression. As Tywin Lannister would say "Any man who must say 'I am the King' is no true king". That being said, I think that displaying the trait of being confident and comfortable around women is a huge advantage. If I'm single and out at a bar with a bun…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/15 04:17 AM
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Well, the rise of streaming Internet porn has a lot to do with it as well. Jacking off to filthy sex acts functions as sort of a way for young men without options to numb themselves into complacency. It isn't the real thing by any stretch, but it's powerful anesthetic.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/15 03:21 AM
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PS: Using tumblr is cheating. I usually go to places like /r/TumblrinAction for a laugh, but I really wish people wouldn't caricaturize people who disagree with them like this. I really don't like what's become of modern feminism in general and I do have some, I guess, loosely RP-ish ideas about relationships for lack of a better word, but even I think that these generalizations are just really hasty and unfair. It's really easy to paint members of a group with the same brush by looking at the d…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/15 01:18 PM
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It's not trivia - it's meant to answer your question. You have things like weight classes and segregated sexes to emphasize ability and technique, not to diminish it. Hence, if Ronda beats up a male fighter at 135, it would be seen far more positively than some huge guy beating the shit out of her, because she has to overcome physical advantages with far superior technique. In the same way, if a guy wants to be successful with women and have a lot of attractive women in his life, it's much more …
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/15 12:34 PM
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Speaking as a fighter (boxing) myself, it is based on ability. This is why we segregate fighters based on both gender and by weight class in the first place; to make sure that technical skill is more important than just being way bigger, and having the inherent advantages in strength, durability and explosiveness that men do. It creates a far more sporting, entertaining match-up that way. Sports that highly favour sexually dimorphic traits that are present in men (i.e. football and basketball pl…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/15 11:52 AM
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Yeah, there were tons of girls in my high school who I'm sure would have loved to fuck the hot, witty, and cool English teacher with the great sense of humor. I'm befuddled when I hear the attitude that somehow girls don't have the same fantasies about their attractive male teachers that boys do about their attractive female teachers. Like, motherfucker, don't you remember anything from high school? The root of the issue here is that it is grossly unprofessional and immoral to abuse a position o…
/r/PussyPassDenied23/03/15 02:00 PM
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