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elGranPandebono/r/Divorce_Men19/02/25 10:19 PM
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Therapy is a godsend. I started it when my ex left. I like to joke that I did it to save my marriage, but in the end ended up saving myself. I highly recommend talking to a therapist to get you through the crisis. Additionally, take care of yourself physically. Work out. Eat right. Sleep well. Ultimately the next chapter of your life is starting right now. Embrace that and make it a good one.
/r/Divorce_Men25/05/25 02:07 PM
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She decided to leave me after 18 years when her company got bought out and she made management for the new firm. Literally left me the week she got the offer letter, specifically before I could see it. Yet even though she was going to be making more money, she went on a $5,000 shopping spree with one of my credit cards that she was a joint user on before trying to saddle me with all our joint debt. All the recurring bills were set up by her to go to joint credit cards, so of course when I took h…
/r/Divorce_Men17/05/25 02:16 PM
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They made an excellent documentary about that. I believe it was called Joh Wick...
/r/Divorce_Men17/05/25 02:04 PM
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Lawyer up. I have a feeling most family law attorneys would have a field day making her pay up. Her last few tax returns might show no income, but the fact that you put her through school and the upside of her earning potential will count for a lot!
/r/Divorce_Men12/05/25 05:17 PM
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Sounds like YOU should file for full custody.
/r/Divorce_Men11/05/25 12:45 PM
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Oh man. I feel this to my core. I'm just 3 years out of having that conversation with my ex. Now 2 years divorced. The logistics are tough, but what you're feeling right now is the grief of losing what you thought was a happy home. Get therapy, hit the gym, eat right, and if you're up to it - go get laid. Realize that your wife already grieved the end of the relationship a long time ago. She just didn't tell you until just now. Once that sinks in you can grieve and move on yourself. Best of luck…
/r/Divorce_Men03/05/25 11:27 PM
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Personal accountability is huge! Sounds like you found a keeper.
/r/Divorce_Men03/05/25 01:14 AM
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Bravo! Well said. I felt this one in my soul...
/r/Divorce_Men03/05/25 01:12 AM
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Ditto
/r/Divorce_Men20/03/25 09:29 PM
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Why? It's cursed.
/r/Divorce_Men02/03/25 05:32 PM
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Take it to a jeweler and have it melted down into a badass signet ring for yourself.
/r/Divorce_Men02/03/25 05:32 PM
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Amen, and amen.
/r/Divorce_Men01/03/25 01:54 AM
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They call it parallel parenting. Basically two sets of rules: one set for my house and another set (or in this case no set) for hers. No effective co-parenting can be done with zero communication. It's not the best thing for the kids, but there is really no other option with an ex as belligerent as mine.
/r/Divorce_Men20/02/25 10:13 AM
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This.
/r/Divorce_Men26/10/24 01:14 AM
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I know it sounds counter intuitive, but you can't take her hate personally. She HAS to hate you to justify all of her actions to this point (which probably not only ruined your life, but your children's and hers as well). The fact that you don't act like the villain and feed into the drama she wants & craves just makes her angrier. Ignore it. Be happy. It's easier said than done (trust me, I know) but you will be better for it. Need to conserve your energy for what matters and move on.
/r/Divorce_Men28/09/24 05:03 PM
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This...OMG...THIS!!! My ex left me for another dude, and somehow it was my fault. Her whole narrative was "look what you made me do!" Take the high road. Go no contact, and if you have kids only speak about them. This is now a failed business partnership. Keep it professional, even if she won't. People will eventually see.
/r/Divorce_Men23/09/24 10:49 PM
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THIS! NEVER BEG. She most likely has a potential work crush on the wing. Don't be there when she comes crawling back. You'll be better off for it. At best, offer marriage counseling. But if she is already talking to a lawyer it's because she's already checked out.
/r/Divorce_Men23/09/24 10:44 PM
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Far from it. Go forth and be happy, my friend. Hit the gym. Get therapy. It will definitely help you give yourself the closure you need to move on. Go to church, yoga, whatever and get spiritually right. And most importantly, focus on being a good dad. Those kids will remember who the steadfast parent was and who the flake was. Godspeed.
/r/Divorce_Men12/09/24 10:31 AM
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There are no answers to be had as long as she won't take accountability for her actions in the relationship's demise. We all know it takes two hands to clap. However she has had to demonise you to justify her actions. Once you come to terms that you are the villain in her story, and that this has nothing to do with reality and your happiness going forward - you will be whole again and thrive.
/r/Divorce_Men12/09/24 10:23 AM
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That sounds miserable. Good riddance! You can do so much better!
/r/Divorce_Men12/09/24 10:10 AM
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Some day in the not too distant future you will look back on this and laugh. You'll know you have healed when it is a source of hilarity rather than anguish.
/r/Divorce_Men10/09/24 08:44 PM
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Great read! A must for all men.
/r/Divorce_Men01/09/24 04:59 PM
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We have all been there, brother. You feel hate because you still love her, and the sting of her betrayal is still fresh. Crazy as that might sound right now, it's the truth. The opposite of love is not hate, it's indifference. When you don't think about her anymore. When you see her and feel nothing. That is the true measure of indifference and personal healing. This too shall pass. So until that moment of blissful indifference, keep your head high. And remember - she was never yours. It was jus…
/r/Divorce_Men23/08/24 11:55 PM
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