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This is exactly what I needed to hear. Thank you. I'll have to tread carefully to make sure I am ready to be a healthy version of myself when I date next.
/r/RedPillWomen10/08/17 01:33 AM
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I love tarot readings. They offer so much insight into your own mind. Hopefully I'm not too late. My last relationship just ended and I've recently met a Redpill man who interests me in a variety of ways and is very interested in me as well. Is it wise to see where this attraction leads or should I focus on myself a while?
/r/RedPillWomen09/08/17 09:47 PM
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I'm beginning to think my boyfriend is just particularly inclined to being helpful. While he doesn't notice the work that needs to be done on his own, I never need to ask twice and he doesn't make many mistakes. He also has no qualms about division of labor, even if he's naturally messier than I am. I'm more the household planner, than just the household doer.
/r/RedPillWomen24/05/17 01:43 PM
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Mental work load is totally real. I am in awe at women who can do all of it and work outside of the home. It's no wonder to me that single mothers get flack for not balancing all of it well. I imagine many people have trouble even realizing how much work just caring for a home and children properly is.
/r/RedPillWomen22/05/17 07:14 PM
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That's probably why my reply is a mini thesis, itself. Lots of stuff there.
/r/RedPillWomen22/05/17 07:10 PM
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I'm referring to the stripped away nuclear. I do feel if aunts, uncles, grandparents etc. were more present in today's family structure single motherhood wouldn't be so damning. I don't think it's bad that more and more people are rejecting lifestyles that lead to traditional monogamy. I think there are two issues: 1. the conflict between what women say they want and how they behave shows women have unreconciled notions of the societal shift they are participating in. Redpill is so useful in inf…
/r/RedPillWomen26/04/17 02:16 PM
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More than you'd imagine. Obviously if you continue doing this until you're in your 30s it won't bode well for settling down, but I feel Redpill should be more about making people aware of male preferences, then panicking on their behalf. I identify with it less over time because the societal shift is so much bigger than it. I feel it's a perfectly valid lifestyle choice with plenty of benefits, but that it isn't the only way for women to be happy, just that many women can benefit from applying s…
/r/RedPillWomen26/04/17 12:06 PM
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I've slept around plenty. When it no longer felt good, I stopped. Love was right there waiting. It's not that there weren't consequences, but I'm willing to bet most people who will learn from seeking out the CC themselves will turn out fairly well adjusted. What RP sees as the decline, I see as an inevitable societal shift which will accommodate promiscuous women and not necessarily at a detriment. I think we're just the generation experiencing the growing pains. I do worry about kids. We haven…
/r/RedPillWomen26/04/17 04:03 AM
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I've never really bought into that. Women can reinvent themselves, and often do, regardless of n-count. Some women are designed as naturally more promiscuous. Some women like to experiment before settling down. These women don't often end up with traditional men, but personally, I'd never want a traditional man. At worst you cut down your pool of options to exclude a type of man that probably wasn't designed to suit you anyway.
/r/RedPillWomen26/04/17 03:45 AM
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The best parts of RPW are the encouragement to take care of yourself, being unafraid to claim your value as a woman in society in ways that are more well rounded than just depending on looks, and learning to be unselfish in your relationships with others. Deciding that all of Redpill is prescriptive for all women in all circumstances is a little close minded. I think hypergamy is most harmful if your end goal is a relationship. If it isn't, then why does it matter?
/r/RedPillWomen26/04/17 03:31 AM
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I think there are aspects of this subreddit and the advice offered here that function out of insecurity, especially the extent to which RP thinking takes into account the opinions of others about personal choices. It's why I've taken some tools here and left others. You sound more secure in yourself and your choices than many who post. If you feel you've found a lifestyle that works for you than the positive energy you exude will attract a relationship when you're ready. It's really only an issu…
/r/RedPillWomen26/04/17 03:08 AM
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Yep. I'm winter fashion girl. Was on my periodic hiatus from the sub and came back to this weirdness. Gotta say, the women here have handled themselves with eloquence and class, as per usual.
/r/RedPillWomen21/04/17 03:16 AM
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Anyone else a little weirded out by being used as an example? The racked article is pretty fair, but it does seem so strange to have our personal inquiries (however public) compiled for the curiosity of unsympathetic strangers. I feel terrible for whomever Lauren was. She must feel her good faith was betrayed.
/r/RedPillWomen21/04/17 03:10 AM
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Semi-related, I tried to introduce my boyfriend to RP thinking so he could understand my worldview, and while he acknowledged some of it was wise, when it came to playing games he laughed the advice off. One of the tenets on a source he read in his research said to only say I love you 2/3 the amount of time a woman says it. Nowadays, if I tell him I love him I'll get "I love." Or "love you" back. He'll then, with, mock seriousness, ask " if he's redpill now" and every time I can't help but giggl…
/r/RedPillWomen17/03/17 03:06 AM
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First thing I'll recommend is counseling. You might need a little bit of help talking yourself out of the negative thought processes you've developed over time, and viewing yourself in a more objective light. If you're on a college campus, they usually offer free counseling, though appointments may fill up. If this isn't an option, I recommend you do some research into youth resources in your area. Sometimes outside professional support is the boost you need. Second, I suggest you take care of y…
/r/RedPillWomen17/03/17 02:56 AM
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The world isn't exactly fair. It's not terribly kind to ugly women, either.
/r/RedPillWomen15/03/17 01:04 PM
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I think 6 inches is the equivalent. Not everyone has it, but it's a minimum that's usually visually preferred. Meanwhile, functionally speaking 5 will do the trick so it's really just aesthetic. Penis size does matter to women, but if you're not dramatically below average, so much of it can be compensated for with skill that it won't make a difference in how women treat you, like height would.
/r/RedPillWomen15/03/17 11:56 AM
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I think confidence makes a big difference, as well. But I do think there are some aspects of biological attraction that are unfair and can't just be mitigated by logic. If people weren't trying to be with the socially perceived best mates they'd be denying their biology, or failing that, their own psychological satisfaction. It really is a shitty shoot for the moon, land among the stars kind of approach
/r/RedPillWomen15/03/17 02:17 AM
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I'm guessing you're not tall, huh?
/r/RedPillWomen15/03/17 01:59 AM
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I usually subtract two vanity inches from what a man says his height is and one vanity inch from what he says his penis is. We can tell, but outside of the 5'10 bracket, we don't care.
/r/RedPillWomen15/03/17 01:57 AM
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As someone who leans more towards his way of thinking, I'd say you guys are incompatible. Attraction will make you civil at first, but you have completely differing approaches to morality, and you'll lose respect for each other over time. Let him go. His hippie flower chick is out there, and so is your libertarian captain.
/r/RedPillWomen14/03/17 06:07 PM
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Eh, women slip up. I find I'm either sobbing or cursing right around the time I'm PMSing but I give my man plenty of warning and try to keep things in perspective. I have a calendar tracker for this reason. If I catch myself being unfair I apologize immediately. It's not about being perfect, but you do have to take responsibility. Not all of this advice is terrible. It's the way it's written to avoid responsibility that is bad. It could be a guide for women, or alternatively could be way more ap…
/r/RedPillWomen12/03/17 10:47 PM
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I am not a New Zealander. I'm just someone who respects men with protective instincts, and I don't believe that even irresponsible people deserve rape. It's not that hard to understand, and it thoroughly amazes me the mental gymnastics the men posting here will go through to justify not having basic humanity. You sound pretty cowardly, to be honest, if you see something like that and don't do something. You'd condemn one woman you know nothing about, because of your anger at women in society. Th…
/r/RedPillWomen12/03/17 02:48 PM
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I'm no martyr. I simply don't have patience for those who refuse reason and critical thinking. I much prefer to defer to men with those capabilities, so unless you're stepping up with a better argument, I have trouble believing you're working to build a functional society, and don't consider you guys worthy of deference. Being redpill has nothing to do with tolerating bullshit.
/r/RedPillWomen07/03/17 03:12 PM
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It's unfortunate that you seem to believe women should inconvenience themselves to the point of not being able to participate in society just to avoid individual men, instead of society meeting them halfway. Your inability to sympathize with those that live differently than you speaks loudly as to your lack of character. That's all I have left to say to you.
/r/RedPillWomen06/03/17 07:11 PM
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The nonsense being posted here about popularity mattering is not specific to dating different men. That's a surefire way to harm your reputation, as SCIENCE dictates, not other comments here. Keep your dating life private. Absolutely. 100 percent. It's male psychology, unless he's a self martyring beta.
/r/RedPillWomen06/03/17 05:38 PM
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I absolutely love when women speak rationally and redpill men automatically jump to solipsism for lack of a better argument. Is ad hominem your usual go to? I'm assuming you think your opinions are objective, right? Here's how the real world works: women work independently to support themselves these days, which means that they travel alone. They are not in control of shift scheduling. They are not in control of when classes are scheduled. You need a pretty high income and a long term plan to be…
/r/RedPillWomen06/03/17 05:35 PM
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So this is fairly solipsistic, and I hope you don't take offense , but what you're doing is what would make you see a man as more valuable, not something that raises your value to men. The standards are different for women. For example, a man who is seen with a gorgeous woman is considered to have charm or wit, or resources, or sexual talent, and women become more curious to be in his orbit. When a man is interested in a woman, the idea of her with another man is physically nauseating. It turns …
/r/RedPillWomen05/03/17 11:46 PM
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The most important skill in being a female player is vetting. Almost all men are willing to have sex with an available woman unless she's startlingly unattractive. It's your ability to pick through these men and attract quality ones with feminine traits that determine you as successful. Furthermore, men can't really handle the idea of competition. If you're truly looking to juggle, you would have to be secretive about it to do so successfully, while appearing more innocent, and some would questi…
/r/RedPillWomen05/03/17 11:31 PM
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People, the redpill community included, misunderstand BPD, because in its worst manifestations it can cause people to behave rather monstrously. This does not mean you're a monster. In fact, I'd argue that those diagnosed and seeking help to use cognitive behavioral therapy to change thinking patterns and overcome splitting, self destructive behavior, and unreasonable mood swings are ahead of the curve. There are many women who don't seek help and justify exposing people to the downsides of thei…
/r/RedPillWomen05/03/17 05:02 PM
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Would this work for skin that is slightly darker than most white skin? I'm maybe a shade darker than olive tone
/r/RedPillWomen05/03/17 04:07 PM
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Honestly, I assume a foreign taxi driver is too low status for that in the eyes of most women.
/r/RedPillWomen05/03/17 01:33 AM
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I gave multiple examples of situations that are unavoidable, and explained the nature of predators, as well as how cultural biases we impose on women's responsibility to maintain their virtue don't address predators or individual circumstances women find themselves in. If you choose to ignore all that evidence to shirk the responsibility you sign up for by joining society to uphold its safety, that speaks more to your values than anything else.
/r/RedPillWomen04/03/17 07:52 PM
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I think the real answer is teaching society to look after these women, because predators are looking for people who stray from the public eye, who are intoxicated, but they'd be looking for someone even without those factors involved, which we simply associate with making women vulnerable. Here's where culture comes into play, because in ours its not uncommon to chastise a woman for not taking responsibility for herself based on sobriety. In others women have failed themselves by being alone wit…
/r/RedPillWomen04/03/17 04:42 PM
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Incoming rant about the many ways victim blaming is harmful: So much of the responsibility arguments are used to lessen how awful it is what was done to a victim. The fact of the matter is that 75 percent of sexual assaults are performed by someone the victim knows so that they can't be avoided as easily as avoiding strangers when vulnerable. These arguments distract from more common types of abuse. In the case of this woman, she attempted to get home safely by hiring a professional to transport…
/r/RedPillWomen03/03/17 11:58 PM
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Okay, so I'm going to add an explanation that I think makes the most sense. I'll start off saying I don't agree that n count and pair bonding ability are correlated as RP asserts, or that SMV should be affected by n count, but my theory, (and I've done research to back this up, which I currently can't link) is that men and women vary in natural levels of promiscuity. If you're naturally a promiscuous woman or man, and both exist (look up r and k mating strategies in humans) it's harder for you t…
/r/RedPillWomen14/02/17 07:33 PM
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All of this is true. I definitely avoid kissing not to ruin my lipstick sometimes, and I think I am using makeup as a crutch at this point. Still figuring out what calorie intake will allow me to put on muscle at the gym without having too much go to my midsection. Too little and I don't gain anything. Too much and the effects aren't mitigated by the gym.
/r/RedPillWomen14/02/17 02:07 PM
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It seemed to me he wanted to keep the door open, at least, so there is the chance that you have time. For me, I decided to work on my domestic skills, threw myself into reading self improvement books, such as Fascinating Womanhood and Lauren Doyle's stuff. The books recommended on this subreddit will do wonders to make you a more charming version of yourself. If you very passionate about a hobby and start taking excellent care of you body, skin, hair, the way you dress, all of this will raise yo…
/r/RedPillWomen13/02/17 09:27 PM
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So I was in a fairly similar scenario as you. I met a man while vacationing in Canada, and I'm from the States. Have to admit it was during my CC phase, but for whatever reason we clicked. When I got back home we skyped and texted for months and I told him I wanted to be with him after some time. He said he couldn't be sure what he wanted, and that I was too far for a relationship to be sustainable, and that his feelings were dulled by the distance between us. I accepted this at surface level, a…
/r/RedPillWomen13/02/17 03:28 PM
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This is false, actually. There are (excluding the 1 percent or so intersex population) two biological sexes. Gender is tricky and different societies throughout time have had more than one, so it isn't crazy for SJWs to push for different gender recognition. Furthermore biology is weird and sex traits differ in individuals according to hormone levels. So it's all a little less black and white than we make it seem here. As a feminine woman, I just let them do their own thing without judgment.
/r/RedPillWomen13/02/17 03:00 AM
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Just at home with him. Which is why I'm no longer worried.
/r/RedPillWomen12/02/17 06:44 AM
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He specified that he'd like me to look more natural with him, and I'd like to think we can help each other grow by learning from each other's values. The whole incident led to a deep discussion where we realized while we think differently, we respect each other's differences and are willing to both bend a little to make time together more comfortable. As for the weight, he encourages me to go to the gym, but thought I was dieting so intensely I was losing my curves. I'm still figuring out how to…
/r/RedPillWomen12/02/17 01:56 AM
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How does this help me in the context of what I posted?
/r/RedPillWomen11/02/17 04:47 PM
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You really shouldn't generalize for all men, though. I've dated men who loved having a girl in noticeable makeup, and asked me to wear more. Kinda a pointless post
/r/RedPillWomen11/02/17 04:46 PM
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Yeah, I don't really get it either. He's not being extremely pushy, just asking me to look more comfy around him. He's a minimalist whose ideal activity is camping. I'm not deeply surprised he has a different preference for how women present themselves. He also has clarified that he would rather I wear less makeup when we hang out, not always.
/r/RedPillWomen11/02/17 04:43 PM
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I 100 percent agree. I don't do anything too crazy as far as makeup goes, and discussing it further it seems he'd rather me be happy than anything else, so I'm not too worried about having to change. Something that stood out to me was that he said he liked the idea of seeing me in ways the outside world didn't, and that it was for him that I had my guard down. I think that's the difference. Not a lack of upkeep, but vulnerability specific to him.
/r/RedPillWomen10/02/17 10:52 PM
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He's confident, but pretty sigma. I am perhaps a full point higher on the attractiveness scale. Doesn't really seem to care much about status, and told me he takes no pride in dressing nicely (which he does,) and that it's purely practical for his line of work. He's pretty anti-materialist, which I can respect, even though I'm less so. We had a talk about how I value being part of society more than he does and he's alright with it, if just with him I can let myself be less put together.
/r/RedPillWomen10/02/17 05:59 PM
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Status is tricky for me. I'm attracted to it initially, but it isn't enough and the men I've found who had it were arrogant and self absorbed. I dated an inventor and CEO for two years and felt neglected by him due to his ambitions. I recently dated another CEO and millionaire and all he did was talk about himself. I'm now with a man who is jobless due to a healing back injury, and just yesterday he put himself at risk to break up a fight, and administer first aid to the loser of the fight who w…
/r/RedPillWomen04/02/17 10:13 PM
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This is me to a tee. Thank you for posting, and know that there are other 22 year-olds recovering from trying to be a Manic Pixie character in other people's story lines. I believe we can figure it out with the guidance here.
/r/RedPillWomen01/02/17 09:49 PM
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It's not alcohol itself. It's not even going out that's the problem. As long as you aren't getting sloppy, and you aren't trying to meet men in bars and clubs because that's where men go for one night stands, you're in the clear. The pictures might not give the best impression, and you should consider the effects of the alcohol on your aging and health, but beyond that you should be fine. Source: I'm 22 years-old and my Captain takes me out for drinking and dancing about once a month, and trusts…
/r/RedPillWomen01/02/17 09:20 PM
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I would trust the government to negotiate on our behalf if there was a serious overhaul of establishment politicians, but as it stands now, no. I would have trusted leaders such as Bernie Sanders, to navigate this, with a democratic congress, moreso, however.
/r/RedPillWomen24/01/17 08:41 PM
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Once again, I believe healthcare shouldn't be a product sold for profit, and women do require more care. I think that women should be given that care. I also think about the big picture, and don't mind paying higher premiums in order to make sure that everyone is covered to the extent that should be medically necessary. The problem with premiums is that you still have private corporations setting these prices, arbitrarily pulling out of marketplaces for lack of profits when healthcare shouldn't …
/r/RedPillWomen24/01/17 05:16 PM
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Once again, I believe healthcare shouldn't be a product sold for profit, and women do require more care. I think that women should be given that care. I also think about the big picture, and don't mind paying higher premiums in order to make sure that everyone is covered to the extent that should be medically necessary. The problem with premiums is that you still have private corporations setting these prices, arbitrarily pulling out of marketplaces for lack of profits when healthcare shouldn't …
/r/RedPillWomen24/01/17 05:16 PM
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I marched, and so did my captain. I'll tell you why: Trump will repeal ACA which will take away anti gender discriminatory insurance policies, and I believe healthcare in wealthy nations should be a right. Trump was accused of sexual assault by multiple women and I believe them. Trump has already worked to defund clinics offering abortions, and I believe in right to choose, as well as the availability of the other health resources these clinics offer women. Ethically, I think women's health shou…
/r/RedPillWomen24/01/17 08:15 AM
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She's actually a model. It definitely isn't her looks. It has to be an RMV issue
/r/RedPillWomen22/12/16 02:48 AM
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You're being so judgmental! Some people just aren't very close with their families, and it definitely sounds like she's doing enough to integrate herself if they're 5 hours away. If he is treating her as separate from his family the issue lies there, not in whether or not she's close with them. You sound rather sheltered yourself if you're insistent upon such a narrow family dynamic. If she's met them a few times and is his soft place to land, she's probably the clear.
/r/RedPillWomen19/12/16 02:42 AM
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I don't think I'm asking him to change, but to communicate with me in a way I understand more. The implications as to what this suggests I feel about him and myself are interesting, however. I've never been drawn to men who are particularly kind or supportive, but I don't blame him for that. I expect if I want my relationship to work I have to alter my views on what constitutes healthy affectionate behavior, but I don't believe it is too much to ask that he is considerate of how uncomfortable I …
/r/RedPillWomen30/11/16 04:32 AM
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This is spot on! So strange how parenting can shape you for future partners.
/r/RedPillWomen30/11/16 04:24 AM
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I don't think it's him. I think I'm very cynical when it comes to romance and find romantic gestures to be cliché. If a man is too emotionally available to me I tend to have trouble maintaining a submissive frame, unfortunately.
/r/RedPillWomen29/11/16 11:23 PM
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I guess there's some truth to this. I'm not currently inclined towards romance, but I'm realizing this is something I personally need to work on.
/r/RedPillWomen29/11/16 08:11 PM
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Not sure how much time you spend on this sub, but the women here are already spending most of their time advocating dating redpill friendly men who can maintain an alpha status in a relationship and not to up your n-count for random Chads. I also never mentioned leaving my guy, just subtly directing him not to lavish me in affection that feels claustrophobic. You seem to be the one who hasn't done their reading.
/r/RedPillWomen29/11/16 03:53 AM
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I think flowers can be cute on occasion, if there's a big event, but tied into the other things I fear you might be right and he's gotten comfortable.
/r/RedPillWomen29/11/16 02:05 AM
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All of this is making me wonder if I aim too low...
/r/RedPillWomen26/11/16 05:09 PM
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I hadn't considered this. I'll ask about less drastic options during my upcoming consultation
/r/RedPillWomen26/11/16 03:44 PM
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Yes
/r/RedPillWomen25/11/16 08:42 PM
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These are good points. I actually thought given the weird, niche aspect being studied that the sample size could be worse, but I did have questions about how attractiveness was determined, and the biases of those interpreting the therapy sessions. Overall, I'm aware that 50 percent of psych studies can't be replicated, so I take this with a grain of salt, but it's still an interesting idea.
/r/RedPillWomen25/11/16 07:53 PM
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This is probably true. While my personality is decent enough, and I'm positive that I'm a pretty attractive and intelligent girl, I am deeply insecure due to the way that I was raised. I've been told more than once that if I knew how hot I was, I'd probably be a bitch. I usually panic when guys I find highly attractive and successful are interested in me, so it is my own inadequacy there I'm balancing out. That being said, more attractive dudes have more options and so you'll have to be in a con…
/r/RedPillWomen25/11/16 03:21 PM
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This is fascinating, because I firmly believe the opposite and have read the opposite in studies. https://www.google.com/amp/amp.livescience.com/7483-beautiful-women-marry-attractive-men.html In my experience, the uglier guys appreciate you more, are more willing to provide etc. I'm a decently attractive girl and I always date guys a step or two below my attractiveness level because otherwise I tend to feel insecure as to how he values me. The unfortunate side effect is that a guy with low self …
/r/RedPillWomen25/11/16 09:17 AM
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I honestly doubt my significant other, or most people would notice the difference in what I'm doing, except maybe to say I look more rested than usual. I generally look as if I haven't slept. I agree fundamentally that little alterations for confidence sake, or even larger ones that you're honest about can be acceptable as long as they don't come from a deep need to transform yourself to the point of being unnatural looking.
/r/RedPillWomen25/11/16 05:06 AM
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They do in multiple cultures. Third genders have always existed, perhaps to give this role. Hijras, two spirit, kathoey are just a few examples off the top of my head. Our culture just has the two, roles, though. I can't speak for someone actually trans, but it makes sense to me that being in our culture means being naturally drawn to choosing within the gender binary
/r/RedPillWomen22/11/16 03:58 AM
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This is true. I just pick and choose my arguments on this sub. How gender and gender roles relate, culturally, internationally, philosophically, and psychologically would take a lifetime of internet comments to begin to guess.
/r/RedPillWomen22/11/16 02:57 AM
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This is really dangerous thinking. If RPW believes gender is biologically hardwired, it isn't a stretch to say that transgenderism is hardwired as well.https://www.scientificamerican.com/article/is-there-something-unique-about-the-transgender-brain/ https://www.wsj.com/amp/articles/caught-between-male-and-female-1386374537 The transgender brain is simply different, and I think we must simply respect those differences, as they have it hard enough on their own without relying on parents to force c…
/r/RedPillWomen22/11/16 02:31 AM
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I think there are ways to be both assertive and gracious and political and worldview conversations make combining the two very hard. Honestly, this guy may have a point in that there are social privileges attached to being attractive, and people tend to coddle attractive women (in a way they do not necessarily ask for or need, but RPW sagely advises they take advantage of) His comparison probably comes from his male frustration at having witnessed this coddling without understanding that it come…
/r/RedPillWomen21/11/16 06:47 AM
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Yes, guys in the same situation can be raped. But let's be real, overall biologically guys are more aggressive, and therefore more likely to rape, just like they're more likely to commit any violent crime. It's just biological fact. Edit: to clarify, women do commit crimes, but usually do so passively. They are more likely to abuse with mind games, or poison someone, than directly physically impose themselves on another person.
/r/RedPillWomen17/11/16 05:25 AM
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I'm not talking about the average guy. If two people are equally drunk, it's a different thing entirely. there are studies that show rape is committed by a small percentage of creeps who do it more than once. I'm lazy to link them, because I'm traveling, but there are men who use the grey area over and over opposed to having an awkward semi regretful night. We don't really have a society where we believe one over the other, because while an accusation can be damaging to a man's reputation, it's …
/r/RedPillWomen17/11/16 05:01 AM
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The difference here is getting raped isn't a crime. Raping someone is. One may involve some naive choices, but usually it is a misconception that women who are dressed provocatively or are leading men on are raped. Rapists don't care about these things, and mostly just go for someone who is alone and seems trusting. If you commit a crime while drunk you are still responsible for that crime and that is far worse than making the mistake of being alone and trusting the wrong person, which I'm sure …
/r/RedPillWomen17/11/16 01:19 AM
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The grey area is complicated, but I think if a person isn't really aware of their surroundings, is puking, can't hold themselves up, and is generally way past having some silly fun drunk, they probably can't consent. If the act of sex is being performed by the dude onto a drunk girl's body and she's not really mentally present or participating, I think it's on the guy, and I think you have to be a really creepy kind of guy to ignore that difference. I do think guys shouldn't risk having sex with…
/r/RedPillWomen17/11/16 01:10 AM
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So I'm seeing people posting as if rape of a drunk person is not "real rape" and I think it's pretty misguided. Rape is still a crime and the person that robs you while you're walking home alone at night is still a criminal, even if you could have gone a different way. The guilt that rape survivors feel in situations where they're judged as having been responsible for their rape can be really traumatizing, and I think more blame should be placed on the rapist. Oftentimes these guys will ply girl…
/r/RedPillWomen16/11/16 08:29 PM
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As a rule, I don't date politically conservative men. I may be a RPW now, but most of my values on the economy and social rights haven't shifted, just my approach to treating the men in my life better. Current guy is just as liberal, and I see a future with him because of it.
/r/RedPillWomen09/11/16 05:28 AM
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-The taller, the better, starting at 5'7 -Not overweight. A little pudge is fine, a lot kills my attraction -intelligent and curious -Great in bed -Interested in travel - Educated with a good job - Atheist - Politically liberal - Funny -Romantic. - Understanding of my past It seems like a lot now that I'm listing it. Current dude in my life fits all qualifications, except for being educated to the extent I am. I've learned to be less snobbish about my education, and less concerned with financial…
/r/RedPillWomen01/11/16 05:56 PM
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As s plate I had done perhaps everything I possibly could wrong, and expected him to be into me just by the virtue of me being into him. At some point I told him I had feelings for him and he told me that he liked me as a person, but wasn't sure he saw me that way, and that he had a tendency to accidentally give women he was casual with the wrong impression. He apologized if he'd given that to me. I was pretty hurt, but I remembered briefly reading about Redpill women in the past, and thought ma…
/r/RedPillWomen30/10/16 06:02 PM
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Literally 3 weeks into my RPW transformation, a man who I had been a plate for said something about me seemed different and he realized he was interested in pursuing me romantically. Everyday he grows more and more interested in me, all because I've taken the time to make it clear that I respect him as a man, while being light, feminine, and productive when we're apart. He's dumped his other plates and I have upcoming plans to meet his family with him. I'm still working on letting him lead, as w…
/r/RedPillWomen29/10/16 05:32 AM
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While this advice normally rings true, I do have to say there are exceptions. Because the man I'm currently talking to long distance we are closer to official than we are exclusive. I've told him that until I move to his city, which will happen in a month, that I'm comfortable with him spinning plates so his needs are met. I've also insisted that I'm willing myself to wait and not sleep with anyone until I move. This has been surprisingly successful, since I'm not particularly jealous. He active…
/r/RedPillWomen27/10/16 06:04 PM
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This is a pretty thorough, well-cited look at your question: http://www.theatlantic.com/health/archive/2014/03/the-science-of-cohabitation-a-step-toward-marriage-not-a-rebellion/284512/ Gotta say, personally, I think you're making a wise choice, especially given your stated reasons. The more deliberate the cohabitation and commitment is, (ie: at a point of life and financial stability, often around the time people marry) the higher your chances of success.
/r/RedPillWomen20/10/16 02:24 AM
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These are awesome examples. Skater skirts are adorable. I'm actually headed to Canada, myself, so this is super helpful. I had no idea fleece lined leggings existed!
/r/RedPillWomen18/10/16 05:18 AM
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Thanks :)
/r/RedPillWomen18/10/16 04:44 AM
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If a guy approaches me and gives me the choice as to whether or not I want to consider him as a potential mate, it's flattering. If he doesn't give me that choice I can't respect him. RP is about SMV and RMV. The whole system is about advertising those things so that partners can vet each other for what they're looking for. If a guy isn't presenting either of those things, and hasn't even tried to, why would I want him to touch me?
/r/RedPillWomen10/10/16 01:00 PM
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I've definitely been objectified, and if I was walking alone, it has made me uncomfortable. I'm not talking about basic compliments either, but a tone, and a look, and even some following that was in poor taste. I don't mind catching a man's eye if I'm looking good, but there's no need to go out of your way to approach me while cursing and licking your lips. I've also been groped before by strangers, though once was in high school. The idea that a grown man felt he could grab at me without my pe…
/r/RedPillWomen10/10/16 12:24 PM
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Late to the pegging party, but I'd just like to say that submission and dominance is not just about acts; it's about attitude. I wouldn't say pegging is something you should try if neither of you is interested, but generally speaking:You can feel feminine and submissive performing an act on your partner if you contextualize it as submitting to his desires and pleasing him. It's a different sort of performance than a more masculine desire to perform acts on your body to control it. The body langu…
/r/RedPillWomen06/10/16 06:06 AM
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I've had men tell me they prefer me with makeup and without makeup, and so I do my best to be attractive for my partner. This can mean contouring where the genetic lottery wasn't won, if that's how he wants to see me. I've definitely dated guys who want me to look my best. That being said, I'm naturally pretty and take good care of my skin, so I can go without makeup and still be considered attractive. I prefer to do makeup, because in the city I live in, it's the norm to wear makeup, but I try …
/r/RedPillWomen04/10/16 12:26 AM
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https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/head-games/201305/how-do-people-view-women-tattoos Super interesting views on how men see women with tattoos. You may not appear as innocent, and men may assume you are more promiscuous, but you might be more likely to be approached, and from there you can turn on the femininity and charm and pleasantly surprise someone.
/r/RedPillWomen30/09/16 10:12 PM
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I also think it's possible that you might have a different view, considering the generational difference. Tattoos are just not as big of a deal as they used to be and are considered less serious in men and women who are younger. I'll admit less men will be interested in an LTR with a tattooed woman, because less men are attracted to tattoed women, but I'm pretty positive based on the experiences of many happily dating women my age, that the type of man who wants an LTR with a woman with tattoos …
/r/RedPillWomen30/09/16 09:55 PM
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I disagree. 1 in 5 millennials have tattoos and attitudes towards tattoos in younger generations are much more accepting. Many Redpill men who read theory see tattoos as a red flag, but I'd advise most women not to seek out Redpill theory reading men for relationships, and to gravitate more towards natural soft alphas/greater betas. All that being said, you certainly limit your market by getting a bunch of tattoos, and I think it's better to have them under your clothes than openly visible. I've…
/r/RedPillWomen30/09/16 07:08 PM
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Hey, welcome to RPW. As a fellow tatted newbie, I want to say it's awesome that you've found this place and you're already on your way to improving yourself, but I'm a firm believer you can be alternative and beautiful! You'll just have to acknowledge that you'll attract a more niche type of man. Self care is important, and making yourself feel and look good can go a long way, but trying to embody more feminine and giving behavior can just make you feel better about your day to day interactions.…
/r/RedPillWomen30/09/16 03:16 AM
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I'll keep all this in mind. At the moment, even with my limited creativity, I see him as a brilliant, great man the world hasn't noticed, and even if they never do, I believe I'd continue to see him that way. If I can keep my own financial security, I think it's worth a try. I mostly want to be a soft place for him to land no matter what is happening, and so I'll probably continue providing financially for myself so that he can do that, and allow him to treat me when he's up to it. I may not be …
/r/RedPillWomen25/09/16 07:30 PM
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This is so true, and to be honest, I'm not sure I believe in his dreams like he does, even though I've been supportive. I don't think they're impossible, but I don't understand his drive, so for the most part I hang back and cheer him on, without involving myself too deeply. I figure if I can provide my own financial security I won't stress over the future of his career. He talks about being open to working a 9-5, but I know he'd have to be defeated to do that. Is it enough to stand back and giv…
/r/RedPillWomen25/09/16 01:00 AM
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He's very financially responsible, but really passionate about a performing career that sometimes pays and sometimes doesn't. The fact that he has savings, and can survive decently on the little he has is impressive. I'd definitely say he's a minimalist, but only because he doesn't seem to need much. I like to go out and spend a little more than he does, and have the luxury to do so. He's encouraged me to continue doing this with friends and to tell him how it goes, and if something is really im…
/r/RedPillWomen23/09/16 03:07 PM
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He's new in his career, and always working on something. He's 23. He is extremely thrifty in his living style, but occasionally takes me out. I know he has emergency savings. He's also willing to work a side job, and is currently looking, as his previous consistent work dried up. I've definitely had to foot the bill a couple times and I'm not as much a mininmalist as he is, but he's encouraged me to go out with friends and enjoy some of the things he can't afford and doesn't think are necessary,…
/r/RedPillWomen23/09/16 03:00 PM
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Once again, you've no mind for nuance here. Just as I would rather not know about the women a man has had or loved before me, I'm sure a man has little interest in my past flings. This is not a deception of self if the self is operating differently in the present. It is merely the omission of a past that no one has a right to know but me. If you can't understand the difference between these things and actually ruining someone's life through maternity fraud or rape I can't help you.
/r/RedPillWomen18/09/16 03:10 PM
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If that's not a straw man argument, I'm not sure what is
/r/RedPillWomen18/09/16 01:05 AM
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I'm a dark skinned latina that almost exclusively dates white guys, as do my sisters and brothers. This is because we were raised middle class and are more educated on average than a lot of the people from our background. Our parents didn't teach us Spanish and we're pretty fully Americanized. As a result I relate better to the white people I grew up surrounded by and my friends refer to me as white. Socioeconomic class and education level are really important factors. The exceptions I make are …
/r/RedPillWomen15/09/16 03:32 PM
3

I naturally have fairly kinky hair and for years I fried it because I couldn't make it do what I wanted naturally. After a TON of research and trial and error, I just started using John Frieda frizz ease, and styling it with conditioner, not leave-in, actual conditioner. I struggled for so long feeling my natural hair lowered my SMV because it was unkempt, but the answers are out there, and most men want you as the whole package. Admittedly, I still get bored and spend half the year with my hair…
/r/RedPillWomen13/09/16 07:28 PM
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I'm sorry, I've no interest in the opinion of a fish on how to catch one. You're clearly not the kind I'm looking for. Have a nice night :)
/r/RedPillWomen13/09/16 02:27 AM
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Welcome! I'm fairly new myself, but so far I think this community has something to offer women from any background striving to be more feminine. Our backgrounds seem somewhat similar, and I'm glad to know that you're thinking critically about the theories here, and taking in the wisdom while staying true to yourself. Don't give up your cute boots. I'm certainly not abandoning mine.
/r/RedPillWomen13/09/16 12:06 AM
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Yes, that's exactly what I figured. Thank you.
/r/RedPillWomen12/09/16 08:52 PM
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Probably not. I'd say something along the lines of "different strokes, different folks," and let it lie. I'd throw in some cute comment about how we worked well together. The way I see it, almost my entire life story and all its details can be shared without dwelling on n-count, and I'm not embarassed to admit that I partied some, because it wasn't exactly bar-hopping, fratty, alcohol based partying.
/r/RedPillWomen12/09/16 06:12 PM
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Current plan is not to intentionally deceive, but to not bring it up, and if asked admit that mistakes were made in the past without getting into specifics.
/r/RedPillWomen12/09/16 05:56 PM
2

I made the mistake of adapting my sexuality to a partner I really loved once and ended up in some uncomfortable situations. I wouldn't mind going a little out of my comfort zone for the right partner, but I do have some limits that I would hope the right person is patient with. It's hard to find a balance between pleasing an adventurous partner and your own comfort levels if you aren't compatible, so you're lucky to have found someone that meets your specific set of needs.
/r/RedPillWomen12/09/16 03:25 PM
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I think an edgier man is in my future. I'm pretty atheistic, and am most attracted to tattoos, and a bit of scruff.
/r/RedPillWomen12/09/16 02:56 PM
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This is awesome advice. Truthfully I've never liked alcohol and drank it more socially than anything else. I could go the rest of my life without it and not miss it much. Crossing that line from slutty to affectionate is something I definitely want to do. I have to treat myself as if my body is a cherry on top for what I have to offer.
/r/RedPillWomen12/09/16 02:54 PM
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This has to be my favorite advice here. Thank you.
/r/RedPillWomen12/09/16 07:59 AM
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Humility and patience are definitely huge goals of mine. Thanks for this.
/r/RedPillWomen12/09/16 07:51 AM
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How is questioning how a study is conducted fallacious? Or disagreeing about human nature? You're grasping at ad hominem straws, here.
/r/RedPillWomen12/09/16 06:28 AM
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One thing I don't understand is when a woman counters with logical points and a man disagrees he can automatically disengage and claim hamstering. One of the more incredible facets of this subculture. Bravo.
/r/RedPillWomen12/09/16 06:19 AM
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The data surveys women from 1995, and while the sample size is large, the correlation seems to me to be weak. There are too many mitigating factors to consider such as economincs (only briefly taken into account,) sex education, differing values of the women who were old enough to be married, etc. I don't believe people fundamentally change their wiring, but I do believe they can find healthy coping mechanisms, and that is an intention of my adapting to RPW theory. It is behavior that is most im…
/r/RedPillWomen12/09/16 06:07 AM
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Tattoos can be an expression of beauty in the eyes of the right beholder. Just judging by your comments here, I assume you'd prefer to be beholden by a different, more stylistically conservative man? We all have our preferences. As for my Alpha Widowhood, I don't see it as a permanent state. The man that widowed me, so to speak, was too Alpha to make a home and life with, and so my search criteria has changed. I'm not lying around, longing for the days of alphas past. Whether or not a high quali…
/r/RedPillWomen12/09/16 05:50 AM
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I'm clean as a whistle, actually.
/r/RedPillWomen12/09/16 05:41 AM
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Are people incapable of change, in your eyes? Or self-control? I may have my demons to tame, but I can't imagine doing so is impossible. So many men use the redpill to do it. If done successfully, I don't think it is "pretending" in the least
/r/RedPillWomen12/09/16 04:17 AM
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I respect this a lot. I can't say that the majority of people I've met behave accordingly, even while professing this, and I don't intend to dismiss you personally. I'm just trying to reconcile the experiences I've had with the relationship advice I'm receiving, and the dialectic approach seems to favor silence and soft truths as opposed to advertising the past unabashedly. I'd love to find someone who will respect the details behind the choices I've made to overcome past mistakes, but I feel mo…
/r/RedPillWomen12/09/16 04:11 AM
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This is a great answer. Thank you.
/r/RedPillWomen12/09/16 04:04 AM
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This would probably be preferable. I dislike lying and only resort to it if I feel it is the only way to ensure a positive outcome. I would not want to keep the change narrative under wraps, just the specifics of it.
/r/RedPillWomen12/09/16 03:42 AM
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What is it that you suggest I do to fully deprogram? If there is anything more that I can do beyond study, take care of myself, and develop useful skills, hobbies, and a more pleasant demeanor I would definitely want to know.
/r/RedPillWomen12/09/16 03:29 AM
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This is interesting to me, because I used to believe that relationships were best based on honesty, but I've since found people want a pre-packaged, stronger, more virginal version of a woman to idealize. It's easy to romanticize relationships as spaces of trust, but no love is unconditional. If I found the right man, I'd be willing to engage in a conversation about the dark period in my life that inspired me to do things that I no longer want to represent me as a person. I've a ton of honesty a…
/r/RedPillWomen12/09/16 03:24 AM
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My opinion is: You can be a RPW without having kids. I'd rather devote myself solely to the man in my life. I'm still young, and my mind might change, but from what I've seen children are capable of disrupting happy relationship dynamics and I've no interest in having any so that I can fully care for a husband and possibly a pet or two one day.
/r/RedPillWomen10/09/16 08:07 PM
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This depends on how she handles it. People who have been raped or molested are not necessarily broken by it, but can be and can carry serious emotional or psychological scarring. If she is working to be the best version of her despite past trauma, I'd say give her a chance. Get to know how much her past will play into the relationship before assuming she is a lost cause. If you're not up for committing yourself to someone with some baggage (which most people have to varying degrees) then don't f…
/r/RedPillWomen10/09/16 08:03 PM
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This is a situation in which for now it is best to observe. You seem like a smart woman, very aware of her surroundings and social customs. If you can take the time to observe and get used to the environment and maybe even do a hint of contextual research here and there when there are aspects you don't understand you should catch on to how to behave quickly. This doesn't mean necessarily faking class or experience, but just figuring out which topics you can expand upon comfortably, and which are…
/r/RedPillWomen03/02/15 10:09 AM
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Definitely continue showing earnest signs of interest like letting him put his arm around you, kissing him and so on, so that he understands that it's not that you don't want him. If he keeps pushing, be honest about wanting to be sure. even if he's disappointed if he feels the same way about you he'll respect that you take your time to commit. If he can't wait, then he never genuinely liked you more than for sex to begin with. Try to get to Valentine's Day. Then you can reveal a whole other sid…
/r/RedPillWomen03/02/15 09:59 AM
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