ellaleau Archive

Upvotes	Title	Category	Author	Subreddit	Date (UTC)
355	What are (seemingly) benign things that a LVM does that betray his character?	DISCUSSION	ellaleau	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	12/05/21 04:46 PM

Upvotes	Comment on	Subreddit	Date (UTC)
20	If someone does not meet your standards, it is better to just not date them at all, rather than date them and try to change them into the person you actually want to date. Date men as they are and not by their “potential.” If he wanted to be better, he would have already been so.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	22/09/21 05:40 AM
19	How to detach from men you have crushes on On a similar vein, traits that you might find attractive can just be ones that you actually want in yourself — that is, you are dating what you lack. I’ve realized that the traits I’ve been attracted to have been ones that I didn’t (yet) have in myself (e.g. being excellent with people, being well-read), and who needs a man to grow?	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	16/05/21 03:51 PM
28	Never Extrapolate How He Treats You The cognitive dissonance is what makes the actions vs. words so difficult to reconcile! I also like framing “if he wanted to, he would” as “If I’m not valued, then you’re not worth my attention” because it keeps me in control & reminds me of my worth 😌	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	10/05/21 08:12 PM