ellamking Archive

Upvotes	Title	Category	Author	Subreddit	Date (UTC)
13	Class Helps Unwed Dads Navigate Ohio's Mom-Friendly Systems	News	ellamking	/r/MensRights	09/07/14 03:50 PM

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2	ChatGPT says my logic on paternity tests is sound. IE: There's a scenario where it's your significant others shortcoming and not yours if she ends the relationship because you asked for one. It depends on what her reasons for asking were and if she was accusing me or there was something else behind it. So it depends on her reason whether you are offended, but you asking for a paternity test doesn't? Why isn't it "there has been at least 1 woman in history that 100% trusted their partner and was still cheated on"	/r/MensRights	01/03/23 08:18 PM
-7	r/menslib is anti male and the mods will gaslight you for talking about issues that affect men May I ask what your perspective is on a solution to what you see as a problem?	/r/MensRights	30/12/22 08:50 PM
12	Thought this belonged here The lawsuit is only partially because of unequal pay from making the world cup. They also make <half of the men for non-tournament matches while having parity in revenue, and having fewer expenses (less promotion). It's complicated because there's a whole host of different pay structures, season structures, tournament, non-tournament, merchandise, sponsorship, etc. This post is ridiculous--nobody would compare fair sports salaries looking only at Superbowl vs World Series revenue.	/r/MensRights	08/07/19 06:09 PM
18	Should the Women who Made Knowingly False Statement in the Kavanaugh Hearing Be Criminally Prosecuted? The article identifies 2 women. One sent an anonymous letter, was found, and admitted it was a lie. The second did write a signed affidavit, and as far as I know, is still standing by the statements with no evidence for or against her claims.	/r/MensRights	07/11/18 08:06 PM
19	#himtoo where it'd help a political party Ford contacted her representative while it was still only a list of candidates expecting that they could choose someone else.	/r/MensRights	27/09/18 06:11 PM
2	Can someone in the comments explain how this works? That is still just specifying acts that aren't consented. It doesn't change who the victim is. There is nothing saying the penetrated is the victim. It's: "A dick in someone's mouth without consent is rape." not "Putting your dick in someone's mouth without their consent is rape"	/r/MensRights	12/01/17 08:34 PM
2	Can someone in the comments explain how this works? The part you left out. "Penetration...without consent of the victim" The rest of it is defining penetration. The victim is the one without consent, and they are not consenting to penetration (of either person).	/r/MensRights	12/01/17 08:05 PM
2	Can someone in the comments explain how this works? Wrong (in the new-ish FBI definition); penetration is required, but the victim is the one not consenting, not necessarily the one penetrated. It is phrased weird.	/r/MensRights	12/01/17 06:46 PM
0	[PDF] 47% of male victims of domestic abuse are threatened with arrest. 21% are arrested What I can't understand is why that is a source for "Male Victims of Intimate Partner Violence in the United States" in the first place. The 2004 paper is based on: "The Main Findings report on the experiences of 100 male victims of domestic violence in England and Wales and Ireland as revealed by the Dewar Research Survey 2001"	/r/MensRights	23/07/15 09:09 PM
6	A woman won $1.3 million lottery.She hid it from her husband and immediately divorced him to avoid giving him half. He found out and sued. Due a Family Code statute that penalizes spouses for falsifying data about their property during divorce, judge ordered her to give him 100% of the winnings. It may be surprising, but some people stay together and don't feel the need to betray each other, instead they both work hard with the comfort that someone has your back if something happens.	/r/MensRights	01/05/15 12:18 AM
7	I was denied my right to vote at my college because I'm male So you're saying discrimination has to be on purpose? I don't think that's how most people use the word.	/r/MensRights	24/11/14 10:26 PM
-2	No more Male Spaces! Despite having womens only gyms and spas, it's apparently not acceptable to have a male only barber. The sheer foolishness is bad enough, but it's the hypocrisy of allowing women Yes; I was only add that they may have a different legal requirement.	/r/MensRights	04/09/14 08:18 PM
4	No more Male Spaces! Despite having womens only gyms and spas, it's apparently not acceptable to have a male only barber. The sheer foolishness is bad enough, but it's the hypocrisy of allowing women I think that's legally different. I believe clubs are allowed to discriminate membership, but if you serve the public, you have to serve the whole public. Like if they became a barber club and you had to be a member to get a haircut, it would be comparable. I don't know the legal hurdle to be private vs public.	/r/MensRights	04/09/14 06:51 PM
1	How the law punishes boys who are raped there is really no reason for a predator to be able to have continued contact with their victim for any reason. Both restitution and child support are civil matters and require that the victim pursue action. Making predators liable would make any continued contact up to the victim.	/r/MensRights	04/09/14 03:24 PM
1	24% of women would have a baby without their partner's consent I didn't even mean to bring the child into hard life, but that's a good point. Although that could become a slippery slope of taking children away from poor people. I meant the willful deceit of another person (father) for something as life changing as having children. Morally, that's kind of reverse kidnapping. I don't want to people that would force children on someone to be raising children.	/r/MensRights	22/08/14 05:59 PM
5	24% of women would have a baby without their partner's consent Or she should lose custody based on her unethical decision making.	/r/MensRights	22/08/14 04:23 PM
2	Hilarious, feminists latest #hashtag got hijacked by women campaigning against male circumcision I put the lid down because I'm forever afraid of dropping things (like a toothbrush) in.	/r/MensRights	14/08/14 05:36 AM
2	Not a Mens Rights follower, not a troll, but I have a question: how do Mens Rights activists reconcile the idea that men are losing their rights with the fact of their overwhelming representation in g I don't see it as 'men losing rights' as 'nobody protecting the rights of men'. I'm generally for a lot of what feminism and pro-women policies have done, but many have seemed to explicitly, and unnecessarily excluded men. It seems not politically possible to argue a pro-male spin onto an otherwise valid proposal, without looking against the policy. We are currently seeing this with paid maternity leave vs paternity leave. Why exclude fathers? But trying to argue that point makes you seem anti-w…	/r/MensRights	16/07/14 08:01 PM
5	Is what I'm experiencing sexism? What can I do to combat it? I don't know the nurse/doctor relationship/culture. Would it be out of place for you to ask the patient if they want to consult the other parent? Or bring it up in a staff meeting? Or talk to the doctor privately? This is the kind of sexism that people don't notice themselves doing until it is brought to their attention. At least I hope the doctor isn't thinking to shaft the father. You can even bring it up not as a gender issue at all. "I've noticed inconsistencies asking parents to consult wit…	/r/MensRights	09/04/14 02:15 PM
16	I'm quite enjoying my latest psychology book. I think that "we" is referring to therapists, not women. The previous sentence using "we" and "our" clearly referring to people with clients.	/r/MensRights	04/03/14 08:25 PM
2	Men who prefer slim women are called shallow. 98.8% of women won't message a short man because of "biological preference." While I don't doubt fat parents have fat children, the question is on the mechanism; whether behavioral, genetic, or gene expression. Looking simply at parent/child isn't enough. TeaBeforeWar's Comment shows it affecting children of children, which is clear indication of gene expression. Also it shows the opposite affect where children were more susceptible to obesity if the mother was part of a famine at the time. That said, I couldn't find "the fat on obesity" so I don't know what they control…	/r/MensRights	10/12/13 04:34 PM
2	Men who prefer slim women are called shallow. 98.8% of women won't message a short man because of "biological preference." a developing fetus builds up neural and chemical pathways Do you have evidence for that? I read a while ago a study showing the lifestyle of men when they are setting their sex cells (ages 8-12) affects their offspring. However, I haven't seen anything on the female side. Females develop eggs in utero, so I always wondered if gene expression was determined by a grandmother's lifestyle while pregnant, or a mother's lifestyle through ovulation.	/r/MensRights	10/12/13 01:54 PM
12	What does it mean when feminists say men's issues are feminist issues? Sadly, the men's rights movement is not interested in joining the feminist fight against sexism for either men or women, but in undermining feminism itself. The thing is, men try and are rejected. Try to bring up male victims of rape, and you are met continually with "it's not a big problem." Well guess what, every time an anti-rape campaign comes out that shows only women as victims Reinforces gender stereotypes. So even though I agree with the goal, I'm seen as anti-feminist because I feel the…	/r/MensRights	02/12/13 09:05 PM
21	HS teacher here, grading a student's paper on Rape Culture. working hard to stretch the definition of rape to include acquaintance rape, date rape, and even spousal rape even? Like feminism got so crazy in the 80s that people can't even force their spouse into sex, or drug someone and do as they will? contemplating rape and prosecution, and saying “I like my odds!” solved the rape problem, had women been living up to their pre-supposed virtue of truthfulness we will surely see the day when ...“every 6 minutes” will become a reality So is the conclusion o…	/r/MensRights	29/11/13 03:32 PM
7	Straight from my PSY101 book Wow do I HATE gender statistics. I jumped part way down the rabbit hole and here is what I found. Searching Tarvis & Wade I found "Invitation to Psychology"; I was able to find the 5th edition that looks to have the same information. I'll quote the whole paragraph below. The 10K person study is referenced is actually for the phrase "some of these sex differences do appear to be universal or at least very common" and has NOTHING to do with the dominance statement later. Looking at that source you…	/r/MensRights	30/10/13 02:11 PM
2	Woman poses as teenager to rape boy - and of course doesn't get charged with rape. Can you guess why? That's her deference, but it didn't get her off the hook. She's charged with "Lewd or lascivious battery" which is Florida's statutory rape statute. Sexual battery is their rape statute. It's a second degree felony--the same as her charge. However, it's a first degree felony when accompanied by violence, threats, restraints, etc. I'm no prosecutor, but it I would think locking him in her house would constitute a first degree felony besides kidnapping. Stupid Florida.	/r/MensRights	22/10/13 02:41 PM
8	One Direction star stunned no legal action being taken against crazed female voyeur - "If you flip it the other way round [...] I'd have been straight off to jail." "That woman is creepy". It was actually 2 girls 13 and 14; just fyi.	/r/MensRights	14/10/13 04:52 PM
2	Female Marines will be required to complete three pullups in order to pass the PFT. Have you tried negatives? They are all the rage at r/bodyweightfitness.	/r/MensRights	13/10/13 04:07 PM
0	Female Marines will be required to complete three pullups in order to pass the PFT. The biggest complaint I've heard is certain roles have different upward mobility, which seems like a legitimate concern. I know nothing about military promotions, so I don't know if it's a legitimate criticism. If you have to be 6'2" to drive a tank, and only tank drivers become officers (6'2" not required), then everyone under 6'2" would have a valid complaint. Again, I don't know how things stand, but it mobility is an additional concern to available roles.	/r/MensRights	13/10/13 03:48 PM
1	i pay $2,500/ mo to my ex-wife for 1 kid I agree with everything you said. It's not like the laws came about for no reason. They protect a non-working spouse from being stuck in marriage for lack of having their own income. Clearly there is a problem with the execution when a working parent (you) is forced to never change careers, and the non-working parent (him) have no incentive to start one. It's a crappy system, but we can't ignore that exists for a reason. I feel the only way to get anywhere is to push for individual workable chan…	/r/MensRights	11/10/13 05:21 PM
1	Strong women? more like marrying the hell up and inheriting your husband's fortune I'm kind of confused. I'm not sure the point you are trying to make. Are you saying men are disadvantaged because women don't make enough money for men to marry into?	/r/MensRights	02/10/13 08:38 PM
3	TIL that of the 20 richest women in the world, all of them except #17, inherited their money from either their husband or their father. (xpost TIL) I posted elsewhere, but basically that "statistic" is a made up estimate by one person, unsourced, 35 years ago. http://www.theatlantic.com/sexes/archive/2013/03/women-own-1-of-world-property-a-feminist-myth-that-wont-die/273840/	/r/MensRights	01/10/13 09:58 PM
2	TIL that of the 20 richest women in the world, all of them except #17, inherited their money from either their husband or their father. (xpost TIL) Common sense for one. This article for one says the 20 richest women are worth .1% of the worlds wealth all by themselves. In fact, if all women outside North America had no possessions, and in the NA, they only controlled 10%, women would still control 2.7%. Here is an article where someone tried to actually source that statistic. It basically traces back to one source in 1978. "In that book she attributes the formula to herself, and offers an unsourced sketch of the methods used, 'based on som…	/r/MensRights	01/10/13 09:53 PM
3	27 Male Survivors Of Sexual Assault Quoting The People Who Attacked Them I agree, I just wish someone was trying to get good data. The only people that seem concerned about gendered violence are people that only care about violence against women. For example, a couple weeks ago, the UN released survey results about domestic violence. It would have been a great opportunity. Instead, they asked women how often they are abused, and asked men how often/why they abuse. Then you see a number where 70% of men abuse women, but have no idea if it's actually a gendered problem…	/r/MensRights	25/09/13 01:31 PM
4	One of the "joys" of being a male teacher in a primary school Good point; when I wrote that, I wasn't thinking male/female. I was actually thinking teacher vs principle/security guard/bus driver. Everyone is running around complaining about teachers and students alone together, but who looks at bus drivers.	/r/MensRights	16/09/13 09:20 PM
18	One of the "joys" of being a male teacher in a primary school Well; I jumped down the source-hole. First the 80-96% reports, those are samples of public records and interviews, all looking at legal and disciplinary actions. So to use that number, you have to assume both genders are equally likely to be reported, charged, and convicted. That is a HUGE assumption. The 57% comes from actually asking students. And the survey is by the American Association of University Women; I think it's safe to guess they weren't out to make female teachers look bad. If anyt…	/r/MensRights	16/09/13 07:59 PM
3	Subjecting women and men to same UK Police Fitness Test is 'sexist' I guess it depends on the nature of the test. For example, busting down a door is more "do you weight 200+lbs" than fitness.	/r/MensRights	09/09/13 07:58 PM
11	Scientists find 28 day "menstrual" pattern in female absenteeism, miss 73% more work, explain 11.8% of "wage gap" with this fact alone. PZ Myers calls for female subsidy: "of course society and employers should subsidize biology: their employees are all biological organisms!" From what I read; it looks like they look at a few reasons for possible bias. How you handle multi-day absentees, and several absentees, with regards to a 28 day frame. Multiples of 7 have an inherit increase in absentees (think being 'sick' on Friday once a month) It was a single institution Personally, I think the third is most important. The culture of a company can drastically change how severe discomfort is before staying home. Similarly, I think their analysis of New York teachers, while i…	/r/MensRights	05/09/13 03:33 AM
5	Feminist Myth: Women are 3 times more likely to attempt Suicide Also keep in mind that this is adults that attempted suicide in the year. People frequently attempt more than once, but only succeed once. Having a lower success rate in previous years will skew attempts for the current year. base rate + ((1-success rate)*recurrence) Also I would expect a lower reporting rate with men with the whole "suck it up"+"suicide is the easy way out" mentality.	/r/MensRights	30/08/13 03:34 PM
4	This is what sexism looks like "I can't tell if you're a Poe or not." Yes, Everything_Is_Rape is a novelty making fun of the "he raped me with his male gaze" culture.	/r/MensRights	30/08/13 03:03 PM
31	Feminist university newspaper article says there's no such thing as a good man in a patriarchy, and that all men oppress women by nothing more than existing. And more happy thoughts. "Ok doctor, I'm 12 weeks along, can you tell yet if it's a girl or a rapist?"	/r/MensRights	26/08/13 07:01 PM
2	When female servers are treated like males Freakonomics interviewed Michael Lynn--he's done 51 research papers on tipping. Men tip women more; women tip men more; attractiveness doesn't affect men's tips; women are better tipped for being attractive, blonde, slender, in their 30's; and everyone tips black people less.	/r/MensRights	20/08/13 05:24 PM
1	Wife's permission for a vasectomy I understand; you are misunderstanding me. I'm saying from a practical sense, the doctor can't talk to your wife, because they can't let your wife know you are even a patient without consent.	/r/MensRights	29/07/13 06:37 PM
2	Wife's permission for a vasectomy By "talk to", I meant as in a discussion, which would be a release; poor phrasing. Although, in practice, it would be very difficult for them to ask your spouse anything about your health without your permission, when they can't even tell your spouse you have an appointment. My point is I don't believe there is anything in HIPPA that prevents providers from requiring you to disclose before performing a procedure.	/r/MensRights	29/07/13 05:56 PM
1	Wife's permission for a vasectomy I could be wrong, but I thought that was something different. I thought the debate was a law requiring permission, which was found unconstitutional. Just like they couldn't pass a law requiring spousal permission for a vasectomy. Legally, I think they could require spousal consent for non-emergency abortions, but that would, of course, be protested. If it is illegal, I would like to know why, because I don't think it's HIPPA.	/r/MensRights	29/07/13 05:22 PM
0	Wife's permission for a vasectomy They can ask you about your wife and anything else they want. You could lie about it, but it's still a crap policy. HIPPA just means they can't talk to your wife, parents, kids, neighbors, etc without your permission.	/r/MensRights	29/07/13 03:48 PM
3	Wife's permission for a vasectomy As far as I know, it's legal (although not right). They can't ask your wife because they can't share your medical information, but they can require you to. They are a private business doing an elective procedure and can refuse your business unless you jump through their hoops.	/r/MensRights	29/07/13 03:11 PM
1	A girl is taken from loving father and given to adoptive parents. http://www.radiolab.org/blogs/radiolab-blog/2013/may/30/adoptive-couple-v-baby-girl/ They interview the father at 22min. It sounds much less one sided listening to him.	/r/MensRights	19/07/13 02:49 PM
0	A girl is taken from loving father and given to adoptive parents. It's a really complicated story. Radiolab did a half-hour episode on it. http://www.radiolab.org/blogs/radiolab-blog/2013/may/30/adoptive-couple-v-baby-girl/ They interview the father. His side of it is he wanted a relationship, she didn't. He wanted the child, but was willing to give up custody to her. She secretly wanted him to give up his rights so she could adopt-out the baby. As soon as he signed the document, they told him she was giving the baby up, and he wanted to take it back. From the…	/r/MensRights	19/07/13 02:41 PM
20	MSN story "Custody denied to NAZI naming dad:" Couple lose kids named "Adolf Hitler etc". Story ignores mom's role, pretends mom was never there, and edits court photograph to remove mom. It doesn't have to be deliberate to be sexism. Unconsciously giving the mother a pass only shows a deeper problem.	/r/MensRights	12/07/13 01:25 PM
9	Only Male teachers need apply. "Surveys of male teachers have found many believed because of their interest in working with children, they are too often viewed as potential pedophiles. A 2010 Ontario survey of male teachers found one in six had faced allegations of "inappropriate contact with students." Others have claimed they have been sexually harassed by the female majority." :(	/r/MensRights	21/02/13 09:55 PM
38	So many women are posting about why they "need feminism." Figured I'd say why I need the Men's Rights Movement. Or Paternity	/r/MensRights	14/02/13 04:26 PM
1	TIL in The Vagina Monologues a 13-year-old girl is raped by a 24-year old woman, and it is referred to as "a good rape" & a healing experience. When a man at a newspaper wrote an article asking wh I'm curious if you hold the same belief for other situations. For example if a journalist interviewed a hostage, and the clearly have Stockholm Syndrome. If the journalist publishes the interview, are they legitimizing taking hostages? What about someone that was beat as a child but feels it made them a stronger person. Is anyone that publishes their story automatically in favor of abuse? Is telling of ancient willing human scarifies condoning it?	/r/MensRights	07/02/13 03:29 AM
1	Consent form for wife for Vasectomy? "not required by any law or medical necessity" Exactly, I was just saying that it's also not illegal.	/r/MensRights	20/12/12 10:28 PM
1	Consent form for wife for Vasectomy? It's legal, and it's the same legally with abortion. A spouse can get an abortion/vasectomy without consent. The provider cannot be forced to perform a voluntary procedure. The provider cannot disclose the information on the patient's behalf (HIPPA). A provider could, similarly, require spousal consent for an abortion or refuse to perform the procedure. It's up to the provider.	/r/MensRights	20/12/12 09:31 PM
3	"99% of violence against women is caused by men and 99% of violence against men is caused by men" Sorry for not being clear. Your information is accurate and relevant to the subject as a whole, however, I was referring to "99% of violence against women is caused by men and 99% of violence against men is caused by men." That statement, which the OP is trying to disprove, makes no claim about the victim. It could be 1:1 or 2:3 or 10:1, the claim is saying men are the cause.	/r/MensRights	27/11/12 05:18 PM
11	"99% of violence against women is caused by men and 99% of violence against men is caused by men" You're looking at victim breakdown, which isn't the claim being made; the statistic is claiming the perpetrator is male. I found This giving the rate at 79%. It still doesn't address unreported violent crime, or violence that isn't a crime, or a crime being reclassified to non-violent. Males account for 4 in 5 adults charged, but female rates increasing over past decade In general, males tend to commit crime more frequently than females, a trend which continued in 2011. Of the almost 413,800 adu…	/r/MensRights	27/11/12 02:56 PM
29	I couldn't help but speak up when she said "it is impossible for a man to be the victim of sexism" Can an Asian be racist to a Jew? What about an Irish to a German? Is a Hispanic-Gay-Transgender-Man sufficiently oppressed that a White-Hetero-Cis-Woman can be sexist against him? Maybe he also has to be handicapped. I think we need these linguistic experts to create some kind of chart-of-oppression. That way I have a reference for when I see the exact same behavior; I will know whether to call them a sexist/racist or just a regular bigot.	/r/MensRights	25/09/12 04:05 PM
1	Man w 30 kids exposes the obsolescence of female instincts - YouTube Doing some google searching shows the quote from 5/9/82 NY times; she was NOW President '74-'77 http://www.nytimes.com/1982/05/09/magazine/l-no-headline-123813.html http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Karen_DeCrow	/r/MensRights	22/05/12 02:53 PM
9	If you are a Feminist, and you've come here to tell us that "RadFems don't represent Feminism" please read this. "Its not exactly the role of the feminist movement to fight for mens issues, its not geared that way." So would you say as a feminist, you aren't for equality, but for the benefit of women where women underprivileged? That's the whole point behind OP's #2. Many times I hear that anyone for men's rights should just declare as a feminist because feminists are for equality. Feminism is about equality except when it doesn't help women. I'm fine with that as long as the movement is willing to admit i…	/r/MensRights	16/12/11 11:53 PM
7	If you are a Feminist, and you've come here to tell us that "RadFems don't represent Feminism" please read this. That's the problem with any movement. The loudest/craziest get the spotlight. It's true for feminism and the men's right movement. It turns off members and non-members. However, I think the OP's point is that with feminism, there isn't an outcry from the larger base. The base doesn't look for agenda items, only follows along, giving support to the radical's agenda items that are less radical. I've yet to see feminism take up ANY issue that either 1. Beneficial to men without being beneficial to …	/r/MensRights	16/12/11 09:44 PM
2	Mariah Yeater stands to gain much from being a statutory rapist Seems to me that the rapist,regardless of genders, shouldn't get custody. That would eliminate the financial incentive to have sex with minors.	/r/MensRights	07/11/11 10:07 PM