| Upvotes | Title | Category | Author | Subreddit | Date (UTC) |
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| 76 | Anxiety over reputation as pickmeisha | PICKMEISHA HALL OF SHAME | elsalinneakarlberg | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/08/20 10:39 PM |
| 31 | Any other university student queens on this sub? | DISCUSSION | elsalinneakarlberg | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/08/20 03:07 PM |
| 1 | “I’m a feminist, but I don’t mind using a girl as my secret lover until I feel worthy again after my ex broke up with me” | LIES MEN TELL | elsalinneakarlberg | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/08/20 06:56 PM |
| Upvotes | Comment on | Subreddit | Date (UTC) |
|---|---|---|---|
| 9 | My mom sent me this. I thought it’d serve as a good reminder for everyone on this sub.💯 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/08/20 07:53 PM |
| 27 | My mom sent me this. I thought it’d serve as a good reminder for everyone on this sub.BEEN THERE. That’s why dating during COVID just wasn’t it | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/08/20 07:52 PM |
| 3 | Any other university student queens on this sub?The last two guys I dated were both engineering students actually :’) I like smart guys and I figured that they’d be emotionally intelligent as well but nope jokes on me. So you’d say LVM is a typical pattern within your degree? It was actually one of those guys who reintroduced me to Reddit. So at least something good came out of it :’) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/08/20 06:18 PM |
| 6 | Any other university student queens on this sub?Seems like it 😂 wanted to hear if my assumptions were correct | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/08/20 03:59 PM |
| 1 | Any other university student queens on this sub?Have you dated any HVM in uni? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/08/20 03:59 PM |
| 3 | Any other university student queens on this sub?I’m so sorry to hear that. I hope you’ve found your path without higher education? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/08/20 03:58 PM |
| 2 | Any other university student queens on this sub?I had two boyfriends my first year and I regret them both. Wish I had focused on my friends and studies instead, believe me! I don’t sleep around either. I don’t think you should fee the pressure too just because it’s very common in college. One night stands hardly care about you and your desires, plus it’s easy to feel regret afterwards. Stay true to yourself ❤️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/08/20 03:58 PM |
| 2 | Any other university student queens on this sub?So empowering! We’re in this together ❤️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/08/20 03:56 PM |
| 6 | Why are self-proclaimed "feminist" men so asshole-y?Dated a guy who stated that he was a feminist on our first date. He had donated some money to an organisation which I of course thought was sweet. But now, I’m wondering if that’s just his go-to move our something. Because using a girl as your secret little toy/no-commitment girlfriend/therapist/mother really makes it look like you find women to be objects.. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/08/20 09:34 PM |
| 21 | Oh wellSMH VIOLENTLY | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/08/20 08:55 PM |
| 8 | Why do guys get back with their ex?THIS. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/08/20 08:37 PM |
| 3 | How do you deal with shame of being a pick me in the pastThis was exactly what I needed to hear. Thank you for sharing! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/08/20 08:27 PM |
| 16 | for those who we're the " chill/ cool" girlfriend what happend and Is being the cool/ chill girlfriend ever worth it ?Guess I kept him along for longer than he intended to stay, but our breakup was inevitable anyway for other reasons. Don’t drop your standard or loosen any boundaries to be chill/cool. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/08/20 09:13 PM |
| 32 | This is why maintaining your support system with people who have your best interest in mind is important. This is also why some men isolate the women they want to control, so the woman won’t have an alternate perspective. Build and maintain your support system strong now and forever.So true. When you distance yourself from the situation and look at it as if it happened to a dear friend of yours.. that’s when you’ll finally understand | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/08/20 09:10 PM |
| 44 | He's not too busy to text back. He's not having phone issues. He's just a LVM.This needs to go in the handbook. Thanks, well-written | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/08/20 09:09 PM |
| 11 | Relapsed in contact with LVM, looking for some reminder of why to keep levelling up!Self-improvement has been key for me. I’ve channeled my anger and resentment into songwriting and the gym. I’ve also been journaling a bunch. I love my body and my mind so I have to take care of them. It’s a matter of recognising your worth. Of setting a boundaries that mark your value. You got this. Step 1: forgive yourself. Step 2: Self-improve. Soul search. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/08/20 09:06 PM |
| 55 | Stop Sexualizing yourselfAs a university student this is definitely something that I have to apply.. so hard though! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/08/20 09:00 PM |
| 22 | Dumping a guy I like because we want different things out of life.I just want to say that’s very strong of you. I understand it must be hard but you make the right decision! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/08/20 08:54 PM |
| 9 | What’s something that you did with good intention, too early for a man, and now look back in it with so much regret?Flew to go see him (again) midst a global pandemic only to found out I was just a rebound 🤡 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/08/20 08:26 PM |
| 3 | Can Anyone Else’s Ego Not Handle Rejection At All?? (22F And A Huge People Pleaser)I like to remind myself: “it hurts your ego, not your feelings!” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/08/20 07:36 PM |
| 2 | Anxiety over reputation as pickmeishaIt's true. The reason I kept on giving so much, and the reason him leaving hurt so much, was because growing up I had a lot of people walk out of my life/neglect. Letting people in, take what they want/need only to leave was rather common for me, to the point where I no longer saw my own value. I'm totally aware of it now, but how do I work on this? How do I assure emotional trauma from my past won't resurface and shape my actions and emotions again? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/08/20 10:26 AM |
| 3 | Anxiety over reputation as pickmeishaIt's true. The reason I kept on giving so much, and the reason him leaving hurt so much, was because growing up I had a lot of people walk out of my life/neglect. Letting people in, take what they want/need only to leave was rather common for me, to the point where I no longer saw my own value. I'm totally aware of it now, but how do I work on this? How do I assure emotional trauma from my past won't resurface and shape my actions and emotions again? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/08/20 10:24 AM |
| 7 | Lesson learned. Never settle!This is it. Wow | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/08/20 10:32 AM |
| 6 | FDS is a GodsendThank you for being part of the community! Women unite :) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/08/20 09:57 AM |
| 6 | How to be happy aloneI can relate to this a lot. Life has become a lot about just making time pass.. like I’m waiting for someone to happen, but I’m not even sure what that would be. If you want to chat anyone I’m here :) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/08/20 09:56 AM |
| 3 | It's Complicated... No it's not 🙄The hard truth many people need to hear! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/08/20 09:53 AM |
| 2 | What are some the embarassing things you’ve done as a pickmeisha that you promise you won’t ever do it again, now that FDS has taught you better?Lately been feeling so incredibly embarrassed about how I was constantly chasing, and generously giving, to the guys I dated first year of university. I felt like I always had to prove myself to be worthy of their love and attention. I love caring for others but I must admit I compromised my own worth through it. I can’t believe I didn’t recognise my own value. When my ex ended things with me he told me “everyone always said you liked me more than I liked you”. It was very hurtful to have what I… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/08/20 09:41 PM |
| 2 | What are some the embarassing things you’ve done as a pickmeisha that you promise you won’t ever do it again, now that FDS has taught you better?I used to bring my worth down to build men up. Say things like “I thought you were so out of my league!” I just didn’t see my own value at all back then 😳 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/08/20 09:25 PM |
| 9 | How to protect all aspects of yourself / your life as a woman?I found this very moving. You seem incredibly strong and I understand why you keep your guard up. If you want to chit chat about relationships I'm always down :-) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/08/20 08:22 PM |
| 3 | Just wait. Be patient. Don’t give yourself away.This is definitely something I have to work on. What do you suggest talking about on first dates that makes the conversation interesting? I feel like I have to go deep to know if we truly connect. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/08/20 08:17 PM |
| 1 | You never truly know a man until you tell him “no”I would love to hear more about the experience of being close with an ex! Even do you think this works and doesn’t? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/07/20 07:07 PM |
| 12 | PSA: You would never stop job hunting in hopes of hearing back from the place you interviewed at.I could use some advice on dating multiple guys and cutting them off without being hurtful (like if they’re an obvious LVM it’s not hard, but if we just don’t hit it off) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/07/20 06:56 PM |
| 2 | If I'm not feeling a "spark" after 2 months of video chats/texting and 2 in-person dates, do I let him go?Can I asked how you dumped him? I’ve never done that before after seeing someone for that much time, so I could use the advice | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/07/20 09:32 PM |
| 1 | LOUDER FOR THE LVM IN THE BACKThis post couldn’t have showed up on my feed at a better timing | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/07/20 09:28 PM |
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