emmarie1023 Archive

Upvotes	Title	Category	Author	Subreddit	Date (UTC)
0	Ideas of ways to be less resentful	Question For Men	emmarie1023	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/06/26 02:15 AM

Upvotes	Comment on	Subreddit	Date (UTC)
–	Men need to come up with an alternative to marriage. Pretending you want a romantic relationship when really all you want is regular sex is part of the problem.	/r/PurplePillDebate	29/07/26 01:23 PM
–	Men need to display invulnerability rather No, I don’t think you need to SAY “I’ve done a lot of self work” any more than you need to say “I’m a kind person” or “I’m secure in who I am” those sort of traits come through in the way you talk and act. One of the traits of someone who has done the work on themselves is they can talk about the past without avoiding, deflecting (making a joke of it), or reliving it.	/r/PurplePillDebate	29/07/26 01:19 PM
9	Men need to display invulnerability rather Everyone, men and women, should work through their emotions. If you’re still crying about getting bullied in elementary school, yeah that makes you look like you can’t handle yourself very well. But if you can be vulnerable and say “this is how I was hurt, and this is how I’ve been able to self reflect on that experience and how it has affected me, and this is how I’ve worked through those emotions” extremely attractive! Call it invulnerability if you want. It’s not that you need to be bullet pr…	/r/PurplePillDebate	28/07/26 10:08 AM
10	The reason men get "friendzoned" more than women is often because there's a Masculinity + "Does he say / do the right things to turn me on" component to women's sexuality that eliminates her male friends from contention. I agree. As a woman this seems so incredibly basic I wouldn’t have even thought it would need to be said. Of course it’s not just looks plus enjoying time together, otherwise you would never be able to have any attractive friends. Good looks and enjoyable time are not the same as romantic or sexual interest.	/r/PurplePillDebate	15/07/26 12:42 AM
0	It’s unrealistic to expect men to find romance by just “living their lives.” Let me give an example. I was in a book club. There was a guy who joined and asked a girl out, she said no. He then proceeded to one by one ask out every other woman in the book club. Yes that came off as weird and creepy. If he had just joined, actually spent time getting to know the women and only ask out people he had made some type of connection with, that would be totally different! I don’t think there is anything wrong with joining clubs or groups in order to expand your circle and possibl…	/r/PurplePillDebate	14/07/26 11:23 PM
7	Men aren't supposed to be seductive And thank god we’ve moved on from that!	/r/PurplePillDebate	14/07/26 11:19 PM
–	Do most women take the marriage and kids revelation as positive or negative realistically? In my social circle what I’ve seen is they don’t “settle” when they reach a certain age, but what they care about does change. They look more for men who are stable, consistent, kind, would be good fathers, etc. I think a lot of people in their 20s (men and women) can be a bit more superficial and maybe focus too much on looks, or get drawn into hot and cold behavior.	/r/PurplePillDebate	11/07/26 02:25 PM
–	Why do some women find it so much more difficult to orgasm than others? The sex organ is not the vagina, it’s the clitoris. Because of individual anatomy some women’s clitoris can be stimulated through the walls of the vagina during penetrative sex, but for the majority of women, they’re not able to orgasm through penetrative sex alone.	/r/PurplePillDebate	10/07/26 02:48 PM
1	Politics matter in dating, why the red pill is political,and why women generally reject the red pill. 👏🏼 Wow!! Very well thought out and written.	/r/PurplePillDebate	09/07/26 03:51 PM
6	Question for women: When you genuinely like a guy and feel like the interest might be mutual, what do you actually expect him to do? If I liked someone I would ask them out. If they liked me I would expect them to ask me out. What would turn me off is any hot/cold behavior or games.	/r/PurplePillDebate	09/07/26 01:29 PM
–	How undesirable are single dads? As someone without children, I would not date a single dad. I think there are plenty of single moms who would find him attractive though.	/r/PurplePillDebate	08/07/26 01:01 PM
2	Would you date someone you met in person who didn’t match with you on a dating app? “Immediate attraction” is really tough for a lot of women to have. On a day to day basis I maybe see one guy a month I think is attractive. Attraction can build over time for women.	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/07/26 01:50 PM
4	Why do women keep getting into situationships? Women are taught (either directly or indirectly) from a young age not to scare off men by wanting too much too soon. If you go into a first date with a guy talking about commitment it will come off as too intense. So they play the “I’m chill” game, thinking “as he gets to know me more he will want to commit to me”. There are also a lot of men who are very good at making women feel loved and special in the moment that they’re together and women mistake this as potential for commitment. The proble…	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/07/26 01:03 PM
5	How much does past sexual experience shape your current sexual preferences? Zero. Every person is an individual. You may like something a past partner has done, but dislike it when a current partner does it. Stop thinking so much about other men in the bedroom, and focus more on being in the moment with the person you’re with.	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/07/26 12:48 PM
10	Men aren't lonely and single because they're toxic, violent and sexist; they're lonely and single because they're unattractive, broke and awkward Saying men with criminal behavior have a lot of sexual partners, is not the same as saying a lot of women will sleep with men who have criminal behavior.	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/07/26 12:23 PM
0	Men are told to open up more. The only thing they open up about is women not fucking them. And then wonder why it's backfiring 🤦‍♂️ Yes, I think there is truth to that. It’s not that you have to pretend you’re not interested, it’s that you should have enough other things and people in your life that it’s not your main obsession. If you come off as desperate for sex it is a huge turn off to every single woman.	/r/PurplePillDebate	02/07/26 01:23 PM
4	Having increasingly high "standards" doesn’t make you more discerning, nor does it guarantee better relationships I think there are older men and women that can have deluded priorities in dating. You see this in the 45 year old men who are looking for a 25 year old girlfriend. I don’t know what the equivalent of that stereotype for women is, as it seems for a lot of older women who haven’t found what they’re looking for will choose to stop dating, but I’m sure there are. In general though, I think most people have better standards as they age, and care more about important things that make them more compati…	/r/PurplePillDebate	01/07/26 02:07 PM
5	Having increasingly high "standards" doesn’t make you more discerning, nor does it guarantee better relationships From what I see, younger women tend to have more standards that don’t have anything to do with compatibility. Things like height, body type, etc. I think both men and women tend to be more superficial in their 20s. What I see from women in their 30s and beyond is they do become more selective, but that selectiveness is due to life experience and learning. Where as a 20 something might have hung around with a man giving mixed signals because she believes he will get it together and be the guy she…	/r/PurplePillDebate	01/07/26 12:57 PM
2	Women Love Objectification, When It Benefits Them Yeah, that’s on you. If you see an attractive woman and “….don’t see a person”. Maybe look inward on why you feel that way.	/r/PurplePillDebate	29/06/26 01:07 AM
5	Women Love Objectification, When It Benefits Them I don’t think you know what the term objectification means. It doesn’t just mean you find the person sexually attractive. It means you see the person only as a sexual object and not as a fully formed human being. It has nothing to do with how much or how little a women puts into her own looks, but completely on how misogynistic the person viewing her is.	/r/PurplePillDebate	28/06/26 07:48 PM
7	Women detest men who “just want to have sex” yet live exactly like that from age 18 to 32 or so. It’s not that they are upset that men just want sex, it’s that they’re upset men will lie about who they are and what they’re looking for in order to get it. They are upset at any man doing this regardless of who you are. The difference is a more attractive, confident, funny, charismatic man does not have to do that in order to have casual sex, he can be more honest about what he’s looking for and there will still be women interested.	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/06/26 08:47 PM
11	Most women have someone. Maybe you need to meet more women? There are plenty who are not dating or talking to any guys.	/r/PurplePillDebate	26/06/26 01:04 PM
6	When men say "Men suffer in silence", most of them think that's cool and masculine. A lot of it just comes down to “liking yourself as a person and not caring about fitting into someone else’s idea of what a man should be”. I think for some people therapy may be helpful to be able to recognize unhealthy thought patterns, but for others it’s about gaining self acceptance and making friends, trying new hobbies, having passions, etc. could all be helpful in that realm.	/r/PurplePillDebate	25/06/26 03:06 PM
1	Desperation isn’t that bad. Well….believe it or not, there are other types of men besides those two stereotypes. But I think most women would rather take a chance and get their hearts broken than take a chance and possibly be raped or assaulted.	/r/PurplePillDebate	24/06/26 03:05 PM
2	How can men be sexualy attracted to their past prime wives? Yes, of course it’s existed for generations, who said otherwise? Vetting is a tricky subject. I guess back in the day your family would do most of the vetting. You would have a chaperone on dates and such. You can tell someone you aren’t interested in casual sex and for some people they see that as a “challenge”. At the end of the day, there is really no sure fire way to know if a man is being honest or lying.	/r/PurplePillDebate	24/06/26 03:03 PM
2	How can men be sexualy attracted to their past prime wives? It’s because most women have spent their 20s being pursued by men who lusted after them trying to disguise it as love.	/r/PurplePillDebate	24/06/26 12:01 PM
1	Desperation isn’t that bad. A desperate man is a scary man. I know it’s a small percentage, but a man who is desperate for sex may push your boundaries, not listen to your nos and force himself on you. A guy who has a lot of options, if you’re not complying, will just go find someone else who will.	/r/PurplePillDebate	24/06/26 01:23 AM
1	Can you explain what emasculation feels like? Or is? Oh that’s actually a really good comparison! Objectification definitely feels like the worst kind of humiliation combined with helplessness and anger.	/r/PurplePillDebate	23/06/26 11:36 PM
1	Can you explain what emasculation feels like? Or is? Devastated. Grief. Betrayal. I still don’t think any of those feeling get close to what I hear emasculated feels like.	/r/PurplePillDebate	23/06/26 02:30 PM
–	Expecting Men to Pay for First Dates Is Entitlement Haha, no I don’t think this guy was smart enough to strategize like that. 😆	/r/PurplePillDebate	22/06/26 12:09 AM
–	Expecting Men to Pay for First Dates Is Entitlement Whoever invites should pay, BUT first dates should be cheap/free. Especially from online or if you don’t know the person at all. I had a guy ask me out, I suggested we grab a drink. He wanted to do dinner. We go to dinner, he orders way more than me (appetizers, multiple drinks, etc) then we split the bill. I was annoyed because he was the one insisting we should do dinner. But I didn’t like other things about his personality, so the splitting was irrelevant. If you suggest something free/cheap …	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/06/26 11:52 PM
25	Just pick someone else is silly. “The women who have the behavior these guys are looking for probably is already taken and is most likely in the minority of women” Yeah. This is the same for women. The men who have the qualities most women want are taken.	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/06/26 10:49 PM
31	Excluding sons, do you have little to no sympathy for men? I think it’s harder to have empathy for specific men’s issues when it feels like you can see the solution to their problem, you suggest solutions, they don’t do it and then they continue to bemoan and blame women for their issues. Do you think men have empathy for other men? They seem to be the ones who are loudest when it comes to the “man up/don’t cry” mentality.	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/06/26 05:56 PM
22	Alot of women want to control men and their sex life and it can be proven by a simple hypothetical Yeah….i would worry about the safety of the women in this program.	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/06/26 03:46 PM
1	Blue pill ideology give terrible advice for men “Be yourself” “focus on yourself” I think both of these are trying to get to the heart of the matter that is “love yourself”….if you genuinely like who you are and feel good about yourself, you will feel more confident and it will naturally be more attractive to both potential friends and partners.	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/06/26 02:45 PM
0	Can you explain what emasculation feels like? Or is? It seems like the antidote to feeling emasculated is to have an internal sense of self worth that is not tied to specific gender identity and recognizing being a man is something that you are and not something that you do.	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/06/26 02:05 PM
0	Can you explain what emasculation feels like? Or is? Wow….i would never feel disgusted if I was more competent than a man at something. What kind of toxic women are you hanging out with???	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/06/26 02:00 PM
0	Can you explain what emasculation feels like? Or is? Depending on how invested I was in the relationship I would be disappointed, but at the same time I would understand. A lot of attraction is out of our control. It would not make me feel bad about myself, my general body type is mostly genetics and I like the way I look. What I would be upset about is that he lied (maybe even lied to himself?) about initially being attracted to me. I can understand that feeling of being lied to…almost every woman has experienced it in one form or another by a gu…	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/06/26 01:51 PM
1	Can you explain what emasculation feels like? Or is? I can accept that therapy doesn’t work for men, but flattery is not what therapy is. If you told a therapist you were ugly, a more common response might be “tell me more” “why do you feel that way?” “Do you remember the first time you had that feeling?” “What does feeling ugly mean to you?” “What else might be true?” Etc. basically the therapist is there to help you self reflect and find new ways of thinking and different perspectives outside of your own. Not denying your dislike of therapy, jus…	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/06/26 01:44 PM
–	Women have it harder in dating. No….attractive guys are not the ones who need to lie. They have plenty of options of attractive women without lying.	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/06/26 04:54 AM
11	CMV: women find male sexuality disgusting I wouldn’t say repulsive, but I am not turned on by random men on the street. I think both men and women can understand that sexual attention is uncomfortable when it comes from someone you don’t want to have sex with.	/r/PurplePillDebate	20/06/26 05:17 PM
13	Why is there such a massive asymmetry in how men pursue women vs. how women pursue men? I have a very weak sex drive for men I don’t know, but that isn’t a correlation to men I’m dating. I think the difference is I can see an attractive man and just think “that random guy is attractive” and not have much thought past that, where as it seems men think “that random woman is attractive, how can I sleep with her?”	/r/PurplePillDebate	20/06/26 04:48 PM
4	A lot of men do not believe women as a whole should have bodily autonomy, which can be proven by a simply hypothetical. Haha! You are like me. Men love to ask about my zombie apocalypse plan. My plan is to be one of the first to die so I don’t have to live through it.	/r/PurplePillDebate	20/06/26 02:35 PM
20	CMV: women find male sexuality disgusting Every woman has had unwanted sexual advances from men. We don’t want random men on the street calling us sexy because that leads to them trying to have sex with us and making us feel unsafe. Most women are not turned on just by the way a man looks. She needs to get to know him to some extent to be interested in him sexually, so yes even attractive men have to put in some effort to establish a level of emotional attachment. It sounds like you do not have women in your life that you’re close to wh…	/r/PurplePillDebate	20/06/26 01:30 PM
–	If you had to assign a %, how much would you say your attraction to a guy is who he is and how much of it is what he does for you? I can’t really separate those two things. For example if a guy is really kind to me that could be categorized under things he does for me, but then if he’s an asshole to everyone else it negates that quality because he’s not actually a kind person and just putting on an act.	/r/PurplePillDebate	20/06/26 06:04 AM
35	Who's worse: a man who pays for sex or a man who lies to get laid?? Lying is worse to me personally.	/r/PurplePillDebate	20/06/26 01:59 AM
–	Do women value past investment into a relationship? And do they feel relationship nostalgia? I’ve never seen that happen within my circle of friends, but I’m sure some women do that. Just like some men leave their wives when the wives get older and trade them in for a younger woman.	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/06/26 10:06 PM
-1	Women have it harder in dating. If only 5% of men lie, cheat, manipulate, pressure women into sex etc. then how could it be that almost every woman has experienced it at some point? With some women having only those types of experiences? I just don’t understand how men and women are viewing the world in such different ways.	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/06/26 10:04 PM
–	Do women value past investment into a relationship? And do they feel relationship nostalgia? You saying women “live in the moment” and don’t appreciate the romantic gestures of the past is like saying to a guy “we had sex last week, why do you want sex this week?” For most women it’s not about the cost or how extravagant it is, it’s about the thought and the effort put in. Lots of people live very ordinary lives and are very happy with it. You might be following too many influencers or something. Women do want the relationship to continue to grow in some capacity. If she feels like the …	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/06/26 09:18 PM
1	Men don't understand what women want because women have been sending mixed signals, not because men have poor understanding. I don’t think interests are a huge part of a relationship. You can go do your hobbies, she can go do her hobbies and you can come back together. I think what is more important are your values, life style, and overall personality. You might be “niche” as you say, or you might be bad at representing who you are to others and filtering out other people who are compatible to you.	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/06/26 01:42 PM
6	How would you feel about a "reverse orgasm gap*? How would I feel if the statistics were reversed? Probably a little flattered knowing that someone might be sleeping with me more for my benefit than for their own.	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/06/26 04:27 AM
1	Men don't understand what women want because women have been sending mixed signals, not because men have poor understanding. Okay….so would you say the qualities you possess are the same as the qualities you’re looking for in others? Chances are they probably are. Lean into that and don’t get too caught up in what “most” women want. You shouldn’t be trying to attract most women, you should just be focused on attracting the type you feel most compatible with.	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/06/26 04:23 AM
1	Men don't understand what women want because women have been sending mixed signals, not because men have poor understanding. I don’t think it’s always a conscious test. But when men will pretend to be what you want long enough for you to get attached, and then you realize they’re not as you thought you might not want to tell someone outright how to win you over. It might be smarter to just sit back and see how they act, who they are, and if that’s compatible with your needs.	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/06/26 04:09 AM
3	Men don't understand what women want because women have been sending mixed signals, not because men have poor understanding. Wow! This is so well worded. Agree with everything you said.	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/06/26 04:02 AM
1	Men don't understand what women want because women have been sending mixed signals, not because men have poor understanding. Or “I wish men didn’t just pretend to listen, be honest, care about my feelings etc. in order to sleep with me”. It’s not always that these women are choosing men without these qualities, it’s that some men will put on an act in order to appear to be someone they’re not.	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/06/26 03:56 AM
1	Men don't understand what women want because women have been sending mixed signals, not because men have poor understanding. If you “feel detached from most humans” you might also feel detached from yourself? I wonder if part of not understanding “what women want” is related to you not truly knowing yourself? Because the goal isn’t to change yourself into something someone else wants you to be. The goal is to know who you are, what’s important to you, what’s your best version of yourself and find someone who shares those values and likes the direction you’re working on.	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/06/26 03:48 AM
–	How does one really change their personality? Yeah, not being able to tell social cues is very unnerving for a woman because if you’re taking a step backwards and they’re taking a step forward it can feel like they don’t respect the boundaries you’re giving them and we’re not sure where that might go. But body language can totally be learned!! It’s a skill that you can get better with the more you practice. If you feel nervous talking to women you feel attracted to, just practice making small talk with any stranger and see if you can work o…	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/06/26 03:40 AM
–	Why obsess over women with terrible boyfriends? I think society definitely acknowledges the women going after “bad boys” or it wouldn’t be the stereotype that it is. From the female perspective they usually fall into these groups. They go after the “fuck boy” type because they are not actually looking for anything real. They don’t actually care about this person. They may spend time with them or hook up with them because it’s fun or exciting, but it won’t last long because there’s not much emotional connection and she’ll be looking for the ne…	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/06/26 02:34 PM
1	Ideas of ways to be less resentful But if this woman isn’t open to getting to know the real you, how could she be the right person for you? If she doesn’t find you interesting, you guys are just incompatible. But I’m also wondering in these circumstances….do you find her interesting? This is my negative thought pattern talking, but my fear is that men just think “hot girl. Okay let me try to jump through the hoops I think she wants and act however will get me the opportunity to try to sleep with her” The thing that grabs my atten…	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/06/26 04:05 AM
5	The difficulty gap between attractive and unattractive women is not large enough to justify lowering your standards as a man. It is for a woman Agreed, don’t date someone you think is beneath you. Newsflash, “unaspirational” men also go for the hottest women. It’s almost like both genders like people who are attractive.	/r/PurplePillDebate	05/06/26 01:45 AM
9	The difficulty gap between attractive and unattractive women is not large enough to justify lowering your standards as a man. It is for a woman Okay…..and also women who are aspirational women are going to pick the dream man. I don’t understand why you would think this isn’t something both genders do.	/r/PurplePillDebate	05/06/26 01:22 AM
8	The stay at home wife is not traditional and is mostly a myth. Yep!	/r/PurplePillDebate	05/06/26 12:54 AM
16	The difficulty gap between attractive and unattractive women is not large enough to justify lowering your standards as a man. It is for a woman You just described how hotter men have more options, then you say this doesn’t apply to women because there’s a correlation between how attractive you are and what men you have access to. Didn’t you just describe the same thing twice? Hotter people have more options. Duh?	/r/PurplePillDebate	05/06/26 12:52 AM
1	Society is 'equal' everywhere except the expensive, high-risk part where men have to audition Wait, did you just say men take more of a high risk in dating??? Women are far more likely to be hurt or killed by a romantic partner. Women are far more likely to have negative consequences from sex like STDs (men are more often carriers and women more often have symptoms), rape, or unwanted pregnancy. I do agree with you that men should not be putting substantial financial hardship in when it comes to dating. I’m all for free/cheap dates and taking turns paying.	/r/PurplePillDebate	05/06/26 12:42 AM
7	Men will never go back to what they used to be for good reason The idea of a man enjoying a rom com or romantic novel. Wow. So attractive.	/r/PurplePillDebate	05/06/26 12:34 AM
17	Men will never go back to what they used to be for good reason People have more choices in their reproductive options and there are less unwanted babies being born so I guess I don’t see that as a negative. All species go extinct eventually.	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/06/26 11:45 PM
1	Ideas of ways to be less resentful Yeah….i don’t think what you’re describing is very relevant to my experience. I don’t think most men cheat, and I’m definitely not going after the attractive fuck boy type, so I’m rarely around this “Chad” stereotype. I’ve gone on dates with very average looking men, as I think people can become more attractive as you get to know them. Unfortunately my experience was the opposite. But I never said that they were unworthy of empathy, just that I did not enjoy spending time with them. I’m curious …	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/06/26 11:43 PM
1	Ideas of ways to be less resentful The problem with the “large percentage of women go after a small percentage of men” is I think that’s justified. I think only a small percentage of men are worth dating, so it makes sense to me that those men would have more women after them. I’ve had so many women describe a good date to me, and all they’re saying is “he treated me like an equal human being, we laughed together, he has similar values as me, he was interested in what I had to say, and didn’t try to hook up on the first date” and…	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/06/26 09:31 PM
12	Men will never go back to what they used to be for good reason Or that has just been their experience, so they come to their world view through that lens.	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/06/26 07:40 PM
72	Men will never go back to what they used to be for good reason I would not want to be with someone who thought I was more virtuous and moral than themselves. Do women really want that? I definitely prefer to be seen as an equal, flaws and all. I think the part you’re forgetting about “grandma not really loving grandpa” is that grandpa probably didn’t live her either. throughout history most marriages did not contain love. Many many men have married women for convenience and sexual gratification, while having very little respect for her. Sexual violence has …	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/06/26 07:06 PM
1	There's a difference between baseline attraction and overwhelming lust. So I think what you’re missing is that most women want sex based on their mood. Yes there are asexual people and sex addicts, but the vast majority fall somewhere in between where they don’t necessarily have a specific number of times a week they want sex, because their desire for sex with you depends on how you make her feel. If she feels loved and cared for she will want sex more often than if she feels unappreciated.	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/06/26 06:06 PM
2	Red pill tactics and female dating tactics are the same thing Yes, this is a very good take.	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/06/26 05:26 PM
1	Red pill tactics and female dating tactics are the same thing Is that book written by a man? Yeah, I don’t think you should withhold sex for a certain amount of specific time, but I do think it helps to have the emotional connection before the physical connection. As a woman there are a lot of men who will lie, manipulate and put on a facade in order to hook up, so waiting a while gives you a better chance of someone less serious not wanting to put in the time. I would say maybe a better analogy for men would be don’t spend a lot of money on a woman too so…	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/06/26 05:22 PM
1	Ideas of ways to be less resentful Thank you. It does help to hear your perspective. I’m sorry for your experience with your ex. What do you think would make “scrutinizing” be a better experience for men? I’m also curious why this is not a shared experience. Shouldn’t both people be trying to analyze the other for future compatibility? Assuming they are both looking for a serious relationship. My experience has felt like “this person is attractive enough, so I will do everything to win her over, okay now I have her attention, let…	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/06/26 05:12 PM
1	Ideas of ways to be less resentful I agree. I don’t really get the hippie comment, but okay. Yes I have a brother and father. I am not close with my brother, I feel all he cares about is money and only has transactional relationships, so it’s hard for me to relate to him. My dad I’m closer to, but he never expects much of me and shows more respect to my brother. I also grew up with hearing him say negative things about women he say as less feminine or too outspoken. I do see my dad being caring towards people he personally knows,…	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/06/26 04:57 PM
1	Ideas of ways to be less resentful I agree, but there’s a difference between wanting to be less judgemental, and actually feeling less judgemental. That’s the bridge I’m trying to cross. I think my mom did a good job of making an effort for me to see positive non-white representation when I was a kid. I’m trying to figure out how to give myself the positive male representation that might help my mind change neuropathways.	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/06/26 03:54 PM
1	Ideas of ways to be less resentful That was nice of you! I feel like people do that so much less now that everyone has cell phones. But that did remind me of when I was a kid and a guy helped my mom when our car got stuck in the sand. Thank you.	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/06/26 03:20 PM
1	Ideas of ways to be less resentful Are you saying “being a hippie” because I mentioned the environment? We all live on this planet and caring for it benefits others. Especially when you think about how we will die off soon, but what we do now can affect future generations. I don’t think that’s being a hippie. I think that’s being selfless, thinking of others happiness in the future and not just your own in the moment.	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/06/26 03:17 PM
2	Ideas of ways to be less resentful What??? This is such a confusing take to me. I don’t think having a job makes you a good person (whether or not you have a family). This applies to women too. If I see a woman working I don’t think “wow she’s such a good person providing for her family”. I don’t actually think “men like me so much they want to touch me”. I think the majority of men would have sex with the majority of women and walk away not giving another thought about them. I think they’re accommodating on dates because they th…	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/06/26 02:57 PM
1	Ideas of ways to be less resentful Okay, a lot to reply to here. I appreciate you taking the time to write. I think what stood out to me the most was your idea of friendship. To me friendship is a relationship where both people lean on each other for emotional support, inspire each other to be better people, enjoy shared time together, put mutual effort into making plans and communicating, process life experiences with each other, and be there for one another through important life changes. I have not met men who have this same v…	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/06/26 02:39 PM
3	Ideas of ways to be less resentful Thank you, this is a good perspective. I think I was thinking about partner in a non-gendered sense. As in I would put time and effort into a relationship. Obviously I would never date anyone I had a low opinion of, so I don’t think that would make be a bad partner. I also don’t think I am harshly judging people I meet. But I am judging men as a whole and regardless of dating, I would like to try to find a way to change my mindset. The mind set I’m struggling with is that I see so many stories o…	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/06/26 02:19 PM
1	Ideas of ways to be less resentful Yes. This is what I’m trying to do. But the news only reports on terrible men, whereas I have wonderful women in my real life. I would like to have wonderful men in my life to counteract this, but how to do that? If I approach strange men for friendship they assume I’m interested in them. I do not have any hobbies or activities that involve men. I am hesitant to try to form close friendships with my friend’s partners as that feels a bit inappropriate.	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/06/26 01:52 PM
3	Ideas of ways to be less resentful Those are all social skills you can learn. Apparently Ted Bundy was a likable guy 😆	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/06/26 04:33 AM
1	Ideas of ways to be less resentful Unfortunately sexuality isn’t a choice. But even if I did, I would still not want to feel negatively towards men.	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/06/26 04:19 AM
3	Ideas of ways to be less resentful I mean asking questions is great, but you can still be incompatible. I do think you should feel “special” to be chosen, but I also think the woman should feel that way too. Like you both are excited that you chose each other! And definitely not like a puppy dog….thats giving the woman all the power. Ideally you are equally learning about each other and deciding if you’re compatible.	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/06/26 04:18 AM
3	Ideas of ways to be less resentful Ugh. Not surprised. But also not helping my feelings towards men 😆	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/06/26 04:13 AM
2	Ideas of ways to be less resentful Be more specific? I’m guessing you get more genuine interactions with men than I do. So many times I’ve thought “oh he’s just a nice person” and then found out he was only being nice because he was interested in something more. Are there any specific looks or behaviors you see with men who are less superficial or self centered?	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/06/26 04:11 AM
1	Ideas of ways to be less resentful It’s usually a sign of their own insecurity and desire to be chosen by someone, but it could also be an addiction to hot and cold behavior. If you look up intermitten reinforcement, it’s fascinating what it can do to the brain. They’ve done some studies on it with rats, it’s incredibly addicting.	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/06/26 04:07 AM
2	Ideas of ways to be less resentful Sounds like a form of self betrayal.	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/06/26 03:58 AM
5	Ideas of ways to be less resentful Yes, male-female friendship has not been my strong suit. Because if you put effort in, then you get accused of “leading them on” I’m not interested in a friendship that doesn’t have equal effort. Men have invented an entire term “friend zone” as a negative. So it has not inspired me to feel that they enjoy my company as a fellow human. I actually see a woman’s pickiness as a sign of a great partner! Instead of swiping on every profile, she is shifting through and taking the time and effort to fi…	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/06/26 03:53 AM
2	Ideas of ways to be less resentful Hmm….i think I’m talking about men in a more general sense than just men I find attractive. Like if I could change my mindset to believe that there is an equal amount of good men as there are good women, what they look like doesn’t matter. I’m not trying to change my mindset to date, more that I don’t want to feel negatively towards so many people. I do think a lot of men are married, but I wouldn’t necessarily say that says anything about his moral character. I think a lot of people get married…	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/06/26 03:40 AM
3	Ideas of ways to be less resentful I think you may be overestimating the amount of non-monogamous women. The vast majority of women are in or would prefer to be in an exclusive relationship.	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/06/26 03:26 AM
2	Ideas of ways to be less resentful I don’t think that’s correct. I think they’ve actually studied that rates of sex have decreased in young people now than what they were previously.	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/06/26 03:21 AM
3	Ideas of ways to be less resentful Okay, well good for them I guess? I don’t really know anything about these harems you speak of, but I guess whatever makes you happy. As long as everyone is a consenting adult and no one is being coerced or manipulated into sex.	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/06/26 03:14 AM
2	Ideas of ways to be less resentful Thank you. I’ve been to two different male therapists and both were unhelpful. I was wanting to go to a male therapist because I thought that having a positive relationship with a male therapist would be healing for me and he would help me see other perspectives, but so far it has not been the case. But I have not closed the door on that option.	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/06/26 03:05 AM
4	Ideas of ways to be less resentful Yes, I think that’s my problem. I see very few men with traits I would find “admirable” compared to women in my day to day life. I think the biggest thing I’m looking for is altruism. I would love to hear more stories of men being good people. So far I have Mr Rogers, Bob Ross and Steve Irwin.	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/06/26 02:57 AM
4	Ideas of ways to be less resentful I wouldn’t say my negative experiences have been with attractive men. There are plenty of unattractive men that are self centered and don’t seem to care about others. I was sexually assaulted by a very unattractive man. In fact I would actually argue that less attractive men have treated me worse and more attractive men have treated me more like a human being.	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/06/26 02:52 AM
-1	Ideas of ways to be less resentful I think I am also better at choosing friends. It’s very easy for me to quickly see what kind of person a woman is when I meet her and can avoid those who are vapid and self centered. Therefore I have amazing friendships with wonderful women, who also introduce me to their friends who are kind, warm, grounded people. So I am bias in that that is the world I have carved out for myself. Of course I know self centered women exist in the world, I just don’t deal with them on a regular basis. I do not…	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/06/26 02:44 AM
4	Ideas of ways to be less resentful Hmm….I’m older than you. The boys were having more sex than the girls when I was in high school. It’s interesting to hear that it’s now the other way around. Seems like a lot of young women are being criticized for having too much sex (body count was not even a term I heard until my mid twenties), but also criticized for not having enough sex?? I’m not sure if I’m interpreting that correctly, I’m assuming you’re wanting more young women to be having sex with more young men?	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/06/26 02:32 AM