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In my experience, women handle the rejection worse than men.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/26 10:16 AM
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In my experience I wish this is true. All of my relationships started with me chasing them at first, they rejected me and I moved on. They reached back at me after months or years, and they all asked me "why you didn't try to contact me after or say anything". Plenty of girls that I dated briefly rejected me and then got mad that I said okay to the rejection. One time a girl told me she didn't see me as a romantic partner or that we wouldn't fit in the long run or even as just fwbs, but she woul…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/26 10:15 AM
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Depends though. A girl can either be bitchy, feel entitled to lots of things in exchange of sex. And be promiscuous but be kind and honest.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/26 09:23 AM
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I'd say for women it is more brutal, because a guy can be a simp but will feel entitled next, especially with the trap "but i buy you many things". For us men we already know by the first few dates if you are actually someone we can see long term or just someone to vibe with and have a situationship with one foot out until things go bad or find someone else more attractive(not just physically, but also in terms of what they have more in personality). The display of affection would be the same ev…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/26 09:19 AM
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It's not a general universal trait. For example gold diggers were introduced to luxury by another man and got used to it so that's why they would go after rich men only. Most of the time they started as broke and learned that all they had to do was look good and get enough of attention. See it this way. A guy who's rich wether he is self made or born into wealth, has always a backup and lacks stress in his life. Less stress means he is more confident and positive by default. He doesn't care if t…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/26 02:25 AM
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Not at all. It is just a bunch of miserable women who like to promote toxic positivity. Had lots of female friends who said we are going celibate for a full year until 3 weeks in and the ovulation phase kicked in and they were calling exes or whatever of any guy to have sex. There is a reason why some women are chronically single and it is because no one wants them. If they were really in peace they wouldn't talk about it and make thousands of videos on social media about how great it is to feel…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/26 11:53 AM
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In my experience, the majority of women I met were still hung on their first ex/guy that they lost their virginity or bonded with them, even years after the break up. Two of them got back to them even though their ex had cheated. No matter how shit all of these exes were described they still showed remorse about how things ended, were extremely guarded and brought lots of baggage. The most nottable pattern was that they always had one foot out out the door when things got real or there were issu…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/26 03:38 PM
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Although you pointing it out it is fair, from what I've seen women treat most guys like shit for their own amusement or ego boost when they don't see them as a priority if they show romantic interest. I'm 32 now and I get more attention, flirts, compliments from younger women aged 20-26 than boys of their age. A whole lot more than I did years ago. In public, common groups of friends, workplace. And I'm not even that physically attractive. Makes me wonder that experience really is the most valua…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/26 11:50 PM
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Why bother then. I'm introverted but during my solo trips, I would go and talk with random strangers just because and spend time. I enjoyed it more than being with the wrong kind of people. The worst thing that could happen is to get your things stolen.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/26 09:53 PM
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Being treated differentely is a timeless social effect that got nothing to do with the gender, not the traditional roles you said and submitting to them as part of the expecations.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/26 03:19 PM
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You are debating some issue that is no longer relevant in most countries for many decades now. It may exist in poor places, but the majority of women are indpendent
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/26 01:39 PM
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Excessively protective and sensitive over the small light comments, projections on issues that didn't exist (such as you are going to cheat on me because that's what all men do, or talking to other guys to avoid being the one abandoned), push and pull dynamics and being distant when things get deep and close, one foot out when there were problems, reacting to every minor change. Yes at first it may look cute on handling someone insecurites and thinking I can be patient and kind, but in the end t…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/26 06:15 AM
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Being 31 and looking back, for me the game changer was healing and experience. Knowing what to say and how to handle situations. How to attract and not focus only on appearance. Being more dominant in the sense of being active and taking control in a healthy way, not being controlled by the insecurities and turning into a possessive asshole. I've changed my shape over the last 5 years, got in great shape, got fat, got skinny and now I'm average fit. What I noticed is that women tended to like me…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/26 10:09 PM
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Yes, but most of the women are not straightforward and want to be seduced. For some it is called manipulation, for others it is called game.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/26 06:02 AM
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Because women need to feel emotionally stimulated before sleeping with someone. Even when they are not into a relationship aka still hooked up on trauma bonding and assholes, they would rather sleep with an attractive guy with bad personality than with someone who is less attractive, but also with bad personality but thinks he is a good guy. This means that the only scenario where a girl would sleep with a guy right away, would be if she was really that drunk or high off pills in a concert/party…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/26 05:05 PM
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Generally speaking, both men and women have put effort and chase each other. The "prize" is the thing that you build not the person. That's another issue that those who themselves as a price to be chased, will be in for an interesting ride. They will be seen as an object and the one that is successful in the chase will feel entitled to the other person by entraping them with "effort".
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/26 05:13 PM
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You are giving two extreme examples and I have never heard anyone use that line to justify sex or cheating. In my experience, women are not capable of accepting truths without getting triggered, insecure or turning into a personal issue. Every single girl I dated pushed me to be as much as honest and open without filters. When I did so, they got triggered, all of them. Even in my last relationship she was pushing me about expressing mybpreferences because I kept saying it was her that I wanted. …
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/26 01:35 PM
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4 is reasonable, but that might come with baggage. You can learn about people, what you want through friendships, workplace, travelling and not just through dating. You can also develope a habit of dating the same personality through different people and that would make you stuck in a loop and not learn anything even if you have 30 relationships. The best and the most useful skill one can learn is to see and accept people for who they really are not who you want them to be.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/26 10:43 PM
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It doesn't exist as a real kind of phase. If someone puts you in a "friendzone" and by a miracle you get picked later as a partner, it is not because you passed any kind of test or proved yourself as a friend first and then as a mate. But it happens for a few reasons. The first one being the worst, is because the other person run out of options and got through a long dry spell so they thought why not to pick you. Even if you start a relationship later, you'll risk being replaced in a blink of an…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/26 09:07 PM
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Same. I wasn't a fuckboy, sleeping around, but i got called out as a bad boy many times. That's because I was selfish, didn't care about the outcome if I lost the girl, had my own way and was never afraid to speak up my mind without taking into consideration if my actions or words were hurtful. That was seen as attractive, mostly by girls with anxious or avoidpant tendencies but who were nice. Baddies and girls who were secure in their own skin stood away from me.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/26 01:58 PM
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More and more women don't want to get married and have kids. If that is your issue, you have more than plenty. If you date a woman who wants babies and you think it is not worth the risk, it's your problem not her's.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/26 07:50 AM
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Outcome comes from the opportunities someone has. The better the conditions and it creates a state where the opportunities come to you in a passive way. Some work hard to achieve that, some are born into a wealthy background. This kind of hierarchy is relevant even in lower class environment, not only in politics or higher class. An "ugly" women with zero skills, but coming from a powerful family with connections would be treated far better and would have higher chances to get a high end job wit…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/26 04:46 PM
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I don't support fenimism because I don't believe in equality. Men are not equal among themselves, same goes for women. Society values the individual where those with the best stats get a pass, be it wealth, status, appearance, charisma, virtues, skills. I wish that we could reach one say individual equality, where everyone is treated and respected the same no matter what they own or posess. But that is a pipe dream and the reality is far more brutal. On the other hand I firmly believe that moder…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/26 04:08 PM
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Lots of women have it too. Humbling guys for having an ego, talking about insecurities and toxic masculinity. Those type of women are the worst in my experience.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/26 10:00 PM
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Back in the kitchen /s
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/26 09:58 PM
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Although there's some truth to it, I hugely disagree with both of you two. First, as a guy and what I've heard from other men, yes we can have sex with a girl we are not attracted. That's male biology. All it takes is some kiss and foreplay. There are men who might need to feel a connection first before having a boner but they are rare. So you may wonder if a guy is really that attracted into you or that he will get with other women at the first chance. Not at all. That's because we want and cra…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/26 01:03 PM
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It goes hand in hand. Because women get more approached since their teenage, they gain more experience in social situations with men and learn what to say or how to hide their flaws. Men on the other hand, especially when they have a disadvantage, lack the social experience. Being better at masking comes with learning and experimenting, not by default or just because women are tolerated.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/25 02:17 PM
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Yes it is true that many women are against men dating much younger partners, but guess what men date women who are okay with the age gap and see it as attractive. It is a matter of preference, not a dogma.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/25 02:10 PM
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It is not often about not being desired by other women. Because you can lie about having lots of relationships. It is more about the experience with women, knowing what you do and handling things in a non romantic way and able to seduce later. A virgin man doesn't know how to flirt, make a woman feel desired or make things happen and that's the biggest turn off in dating. A virgin falls in the same category of men who may had have sex but are not consistent and score once in a blue moon. Or a ma…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/25 04:09 PM
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There is no fairness in family or equal effort. Both parents put their all in providing and taking care of the children because it comes naturally. The biggest pressure men have in their life is being pushed to do whatever it takes so they can have a better future and afford a family. That is something inexistent among women. Being a strong independent woman who is able to afford living on her own is the bare minimum of what is expected from men. There is a huge dislike between men about dudes w…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/25 02:33 PM
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From my personal experience, lots of women tolerate shitty abusive behavior from their partners who are losers but have managed to get them hooked. And put up standarts and shit tests to guys who are decent but not abusive. I dated a girl for 8 months. She broke up with me because she wanted to explore the world, grow professionally and in her words, build her own empire. At the time I was struggling with my career but I was leading a normal life. In her eyes, it was a dealbreaker that I didn't …
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/25 04:31 PM
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Actual gold diggers are honest about their expectations and lifestyle. A man gets a wife and a prostitute in one for as long as he keeps the money flowing. Not a scam, and both parties are aware about their relationship. The issue is with women that play games and are shouting about 6 figures or standarts. While they can offer nothing in return, are unable to reach those standarts themselves and are nowhere as attractive as gold diggers. All because they feel entitled.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/25 07:31 PM
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If you are into gym and fitness as a lifestyle, and your partner complains about it, the next day you'll continue to go to the gym as per usual. If that is a dealbreaker for her, you won't miss her and maybe find another partner that shares the same enthusiasm about gym. If you drop your routine and change your ways right away without reaching for a compromise, it means two things, you don't have a spine and you are showing lack of self worth. Women will complain about everything. For as long as…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/25 04:20 AM
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You are mistaking feeling safe within a relationship with picking a safe guy. From my experience, women ideal choice would be a risky choice but feeling safe with that guy. I've seen it with women who were emotionally stable, safe personality, no mental issues and still fall for the risky choice. Then they would change their mind only after being deeply traumatized. Those that don't heal from this type would only settle for the safe choice when they run low on options.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/25 08:43 AM
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Being a safe net can be easily taken for granted and opens the door for a lot of cheating. Most women have options. The quality of these options may be debatable, but still there are men around to pick from. Having a safe option means that you can save them for later when you explore all of the others and don't end up with any of them. Most men don't care if they are the safe choice or the risky choice, but the first choice and not the back up guy. These contradict each other a lot.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/25 08:16 AM
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The problem is that these type of people are far more available and common to encounter. Secure attachment types are almost nowhere to be found in general.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/25 08:10 AM
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From what I've seen, this is very uncommon. But quite common in couples where both of them are assholes. It is a power struggle, with women being the dominant one, while their man who are the weaker side tend to never make the shots. Another relative of mine comes to my mind. He is the breadwinner of his family, goes the extra mile to provide, takes the children to school, cooks, cleans the house, while his wife barely does anything with her life while she is treated like a princess and bosses h…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/25 02:11 AM
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Yes, it is true. If you are the type of person that pleasing people is your main trait of personality, you are afraid to say no, you will gladly be a doormat instead of defending yourself, you'd rather accept whatever a woman wants without speaking out loud about your needs because that would be the end of the relationship, than every long term relationship would be just as you said. But not all of the people experience this. In fact the majority of people don't.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/25 01:47 AM
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If you have lived in the same city, or same environment for years, you will soon discover about their past. From rumors, to close friends. I doubt anyone who says they don't search on the internet about their date or SO to find any piece of information. Stalking the old posts in social media profiles is a common behavior we do and very acceptable. Experienced men are good at picking up hints or reading between the lines. So they will have an idea of what their new gf past was like. People act in…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/25 04:23 PM
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That's not the issue. If a guy says that to a woman on wanting ltr and sex right away he will be dumped in a short time because it is weird. There are a couple of things that don't hold much of the logic. First, it sounds very dishonest and offensive to make someone you see as a potential partner wait for an unlimited period of time. Most guys would be happy to wait and see where things go, but only for a few weeks and not months. People behave in patterns and if they jump quick to bed it is exp…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/25 05:05 PM
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Whenever I go out with my male friend who is extremely attractive, it is almost like I'm impossible. I can dress in the most fanciest way, display wealth, have a sharp outfit, fresh haircut, and still remain invisible while he is dressed in tracksuits, hoodies, or flip flops. Not to mention he is out of the shape and would recieve tons of attention in the past when he was in the gym. So yeah looks is everything in the initial stage or first contact to spark desire. The attention or the treatment…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/24 06:33 PM
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18 year old model would gladly take a 40 year old who has many assets and wealth. And that is normal in many industries. A normal 18 year old girl would never date a 40 year old dude. It depends on the background for both and that's where some dude have the delusions that they might score on a much younger girl.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/24 06:10 PM
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It is a cycle that most of us go through after a bad experience. In time he'll meet someone above the 30s and forget about what he said.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/24 04:48 AM
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Fork, are you in the good place lol
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/24 12:06 AM
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It is perfectly legal whining to your partner until you have sex. No one in the justice system would classify it as sexual assault. You can put pressure without being violent, if you don't do this I will not have sex with you, and still be legally okay. But it would make you look like an asshole and no one would stick around you. Consent is consent. Yes means yes and no means no. If you don't get a clear answer or you are confused you should request for one and engage in sex once you have a corr…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/24 04:38 PM
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It is an investment in the long term and it shows that you care. The majority of people I've seen to pass the age of 80 without any major health problems were the ones that had a normal weight, led a fit active lifestyle. Lots of them even ride their bike, do farm work, maintain their house and go for hiking. While many of my mates or young people I see in public are becoming more fat and quite lazy. I can't count the times I hear my friends losing their breath after 1km of walking in nearby tra…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/24 04:23 PM
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OP most women don't want a casual fling. Even the ones who have a history of not being serious, would never admit to being open for a short fwb. That's because you devalue their ego and their upper hand in dating, which are being chased and recieving attention. Your best shot is dating women who just got out of a relationship and are going through the hoe phase and red hair. Techno parties are great to find a casual partner. Or go for escorts.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/24 02:53 PM
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That's because women bond through sex and sometimes as an ego boost that they can have sex with any guy they find attractive. While for men, sex is mostly physical, but without bonding.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/24 09:16 PM
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Men are the ones that have created ego inflation on women by doing grand gestures and spending excessively to impress and get laid. A guy that takes his date out in an AMG would has more chance to have sex on the first night out, than the dude that goes for a coffee and a walk on his first date. Women being introduced to such treatment would want the same thing again from other guys and never go lower. I did both. Went for a coffee and a walk, and spend alot on drinks, dinner out, rented a drive…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/24 06:51 PM
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I wanted to prank my friend, by texting him through a fake female account. He did that to me a year ago and I thought he wouldn't expect me to take revenge after this long. I only put an animated female character on pfp and needed some followers. Anectodally, I've heard that women try to comment under some certain IG pages whenever they want to recieve lots of attention. You propabily have heard the meme phrase RIP your DMs. I made a comment in a page which gathers both men and women, by saying …
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/24 10:16 PM
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It was a PR stunt to boost her OF income. She already made 2 millions last year and kudos to her for trying to go bigger. Yes she will cry in front of the camera to make it emotional, people will say it is gross. But at the end of the day she made more than most of us combined.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/24 12:10 PM
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The hot ones marry good guys who are financially stable but didn't fool around much and have way less body count. Those that hit the wall significantly just try to get anyone and are very desperate. Lots of dudes with low self esteem that don't mind it. Plenty of them never break the cycle and still complain about men even when they get the right guy. I have a girl friend who is like this and I swear she acts and has the mentality of a 16 year old even though her younger sisters are all married …
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/24 06:28 PM
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See it this way. Guy A is the one that you described, more emotional, scared of dating and women, shy, etc. In one year he had the courage and took a long time to approach only 2 women. One of them rejected him and the other, slept with him/formed a short relationship/whatever you can classify as success. Guy B is the type of player. He asked out 100 women but only 10-20 of them slept with him or said yes. If you want you can lower that number to a what you can find realistic, but the idea stand…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/24 10:20 PM
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From my experience, women who are loud about them prefering big dicks only, are doing it solely to avenge an ex by shaming men. Or they are totally psychos that like to hurt other people's feelings, because they know most men care about the size and it is a common insecurity. You should focus more on satisfying a partner by knowing what you are doing with your dick, fingers, tongue, toys(they are your friend). A woman that you please in bed would pay you a second visit over a guy with a bigger d…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/24 06:54 PM
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Rule of thumb, if you get butterflies it is anxiety not love. It is your body telling you of a possible threat. If it continues, it means you rely on trauma. Love comes long term through bonding, intimacy, caring and doing things together. From the other hand, if you "sell" a persona who has very little to do with you, it's just not sustainable long-term. Depends. You can be attractive at first through your persona as everything about you may look sexy in the talking stage, but later people lose…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/24 01:27 PM
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Although I agree that chances of finding a woman worthy of relationship/wifey material are very low, people still find a way instead of quitting at all. Same can be said about the super couple with Brad and Angelina. Or Monica Bellucci. They both were seen as the most sexiest women on earth, being more attractive than the supermodels. In the end they both got cheated by their husbands to another woman of a lower rank. I'd say men have it harder to find a partner and I can understand why it is ea…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/24 04:18 AM
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As a hetero man, my first initial opinion on superficial level whenever I have met with a new boss, supervisor, salesman or a worker: if the guy was in simple but serious dress and had a dad bod I would trust him more. It gives the vibe that he has experience, knows what he is doing and get strsight to the work. If the guy would be dressed in a forced fashionable outfit(looking too hard to impress), have that jacked muscular body showing off his physique and have that cosmopolitan man vibe I wou…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/24 04:47 AM
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Men need a lot of time to reach financial stability, experience and personal freedom. This enables the man all the desirable charcteristics. A guy in his early 20s wouldn't be able to afford providing for a family and he is still inexperienced and wouldn't want to settle. Everyone I've seen that married in a young age had already the means and the wealth to provide for everything. But the majority are not. But once a guy has reached this level, he has options and the desired traits by young wome…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/24 03:32 PM
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I agree. I firmly believe that the majority of them are just beinf targeted as the perfect audience to feed PUA content with views and money from online courses. But at the same time, it wouldn't make sense for a guy to be a redpiller once he has a successful life, a relationship, nice salary, house, etc. Given that RP nowadays is aimed mainly at guys who are single and failing in their lives. So it is a place to start and finally make a change. A man has only but learn and reflect on his mistak…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/24 12:57 AM
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and outside of his financial success no man should aspire to be like him. Both got a huge pay from that fight. The publicity stunt and the money were the main reason they did it, not to show off any signs of being strong men that are aggresive. In this context, disregarding Tyson's career or Jake Paul reputation, they were smart enough to pull off this event and make it into a profit. That's enough to make you as a man desirable. If you are broke you'll be frowned upon. If you are rich, people w…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/24 12:50 AM
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You mean the best food in the world. I denounce the western dumplings or any other rip off form of pierogi.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/24 12:21 AM
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Not because of the gender wars but because of the economy and the standarts of living. People have more relationships than ever and that's because of what consist as normal dating today, back then it was a privilege only for the noble families. But on the other hand you have to pay for so much more. Utilities, food, clothing, rent, education, activities, internet, healthcare, insurance, unexpected costs. Which becomes impossible to provide for if you have a low income. If men and women were actu…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/24 12:08 AM
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I was paid by Western spies to make that comment, there's no one like Eastern European people.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/24 11:53 PM
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Same. I like the banter with my female friends on men vs women, but nothing offensive. If reality was like people present it on the social media about the gender wars, we would be on the verge of extinction.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/24 05:35 AM
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I think it will have effect only on women who are already practicing celibacy or have a history of disappointment with men. The thing is that the 4B movement was kept silent and only got into the spotlight 10 years after it started. Talking about sex openly is considered a taboo in South Korea. S.Korean feminist websites got heavily criticized about it. And women kept it as a secret. America is the birthplace of sexual revolution and freedom in modern times. Promiscuity, hedonism and sex in vari…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/24 12:49 AM
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It’s not the equivalent to literally anything a man does because he will never risk his bodily health to create a child Throughout the history men have gone the extra length, doing the most dangerous jobs to provide for the family and bringing up the kids until they grow up. And during the pregnancy leave, it's men who still have to take care of everything. Not to mention how it is the norm for the man to be already the provider since the talking stage. Do you think men earn money through just s…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/24 07:28 PM
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Anyone in a marriage wouldn't normally care. Once the baby is born, the parental insticts kick in and no one thinks about body size or hitting the gym. The only thing that post is trying to prove is to bring a perspective of men being okay with staying or leaving a relationship/marriage because of weight, same way our society is pushing women to normalize leaving their partners when they are no longer happy with the man, got bald, lost money, or is not the right person for her.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/24 01:28 PM
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It is the equivalent of women leaving their husband when he does a job that needs him to be away for a long time, or when that man has financial issues and can no longer support the lifestyle. Both examples of men and women are not the majority, but they are very common
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/24 01:23 PM
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I lean towards traditional values and I'm against most modern movements. But as an european, it is mindblowing to know that the majority of states have a limit on abortion or nearly have ban it all. Given that US has been the main gloabl influencer in sexual freedom especially for women's rights, it is crazy to see that half of the country falls in the same list as Middle East or Islamic African countries. I understand why such radical movement is being spread. Although it may never reach its go…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/24 03:03 PM
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Sounds like you've dated the kind of women that wants you to do all of the effort. If you can bear it, than you should not suggest places or activities, but rather take full control and play by "it's either my way or you're out". If she doesn't agree or make herself available you have to stop right there. It may be harsh, rude, and look like as if you don't care or respect her, but that's how they want to be treated. There are no mixed signals in what you described. You still talking or dating s…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/24 04:06 PM
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OP those kind of women are quite common even in the Eaatern countries. They will settle only for rich guys but with the intention to marry and become conservative. That's how they secure the bag after their youthful looks are gone and lose the competition against the new girls. But it is not most women. They are just more available and you will see them appear in social media or in public as they are constantly advertising themselves. Women who are not like this don't expose themselves and are n…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/24 06:13 PM
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Passport bros are not a movement. They have been around since forever. See it this way, we have created many ways to find a partner and build a family. If you can't make children there are quite a few methods such as surrogacy, sperm donation and adoption. When humans didn't have enough resources, they have migrated elsewhere. When men went to war or on far away locations in remote islands, there was the need to have a brothel around, as sex is a very important aspect of our well being(at least …
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/24 02:42 PM
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I agree that the guy in the video is being creepy by filming it and posting it online to prove a point. Men approach women to shoot their shot, not to force them to understand they are not going to chase them or hug strangers. Personally I avoid physical contact unless I want to be flirty with a girl I already know and have mutual understanding that I'm free to touch her. Out of the blue with strangers on the beach it is plain stupid. But I largely disagree with the rest of what you said. A bett…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/24 06:22 PM
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This is very weird to post it online. Imagine being the child and finding mom telling people online that it was okay to leave dad because she wasn't happy even though dad made all the right things and was a good man. Or being the ex husband, still hurt from the divorce, and watching the person you thought you would spend the rest of your life, sharing it online on how it was okay leaving the marriage just like that, like some kind of story you tell to your friends in a pub. The message behind th…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/24 12:00 AM
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Nope. It fucks up with children really quick. They will get a model of a family where both parents are apart and think it is okay. Then they would feel jealous of other kids having both parents present at a time. Changing places very often. It becomes a nightmare to have your parents in different cities or worse in different continents with 7 hours of difference in timezone. And the most important part. We all talk about idealistic wishful concepts such as two people still respecting each other …
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/24 11:32 PM
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People don't know what they are doing, are too immature to take action and believe that things happen by default and magically like in the fairy tales. Dating apps are designed that way to make everyone not find a long term partner. Otherwise they would fail as a business model. A thief fully knows what he is doing. He sees the diamond being stored inside a protected building. He makes the plan, goes inside and steals it. He never complains about the obstacles, because he really needs to get tha…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/24 07:01 PM
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Saying things like “natural is prettier than being done up” or “personality matters more”. Natural means either light make up or having a simple look. And hate that Bratz dolls make up or appearing that you put too much effort, too many striking colors, or anything that screams attention seeking. We prefer classy over trashy or the bitchy look/attitude. Having a unique face not that fake orange tan with exaggerated make up, lips that look like pillows or a copy pasted face. Persnoality matters w…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/24 06:54 PM
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If you learn how to fake interest and use multiple tricks it becomes much easier. Attraction goes beyond dating and the same methods are used in marketing or selling a product that wouldn't normally be appealing to many clients.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/24 10:33 AM
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If you are not conventionally attractive or haven't reached financial stability, the majority of the women would ignore you on first sight no matter how you compensate it through having a fun and interesting personality.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/24 10:01 AM
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Not at all. There are bad parents that neglect their kids, but I've seen many parents go through hell to save their kids from drugs or a bad path. In such cases, those kids had nothing to offer but trouble. By default parents see children as a natural biological investment, legacy, a successor, a purpose in life, not for what they have to offer by default. I mean what would you expect for an underage kid to offer, when they lack money, decision making, skills, experience, knowledge, status and s…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/24 01:16 AM
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Still a guy has to offer something, it doesn't need to pay for drinks or other stuff, be it good dick, good in bed, having a way with words, making a woman feel desired. Women fuck guys based on who is able to lead them to bed, build sexual tension, make attraction happen, and not by default. I've never heard, seen anyone or have any personal experience when sex happened out of the blue or without at least flirting at first.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/24 08:19 PM
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Besides your parents, no one is going to love you based on who you are, rather what you offer. It shouldn't be a shocker or hate people about it.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/24 05:32 PM
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Beta means second in command. When alpha is no longer around he takes charge. And the cycle goes on. In this context, everyone is replacable regardless their status. Some climb above, some remain in the same position and some get worse.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/24 03:16 PM
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I agree, but the context was about being an option to a relationship and settling down, not an option as a fuck buddy.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/24 02:31 PM
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Tl;dr it depends on the guy. If you can accept being an option and handle it, good for you. Maybe you are the fixer type or into charity and humanitarian help so go on. If you don't want being a safety net, it is better to not take seriously such women or see them as possible partners. Usually guys that would be fine being as backup are guys without options and have little to no experience. This got nothing to do with the cliche money, status or looks. This is a matter of personality, experience…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/24 09:46 PM
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I meant in real life, not in debate subs. Here's a funny story. I grew up in Eastern Europe, which machoism is the norm in most of the countries. The majority of the girls when I was in high school wanted a guy who was well mannered, looked like Justin Bieber or Zac Effron, sensitive, labelled themselves as sapiosexual. But ended up with guys that looked like ogres and were the typical toxic macho. Other women would often complain about the toxic masculinity, men not having a soft side or emotio…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/24 04:35 AM
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You can win the moment you stop listening to such people and ignore their opionions that change like the weather.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/24 03:07 AM
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How would that be sexual harassment? There are cameras in case of that
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/24 04:52 AM
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I've experienced it in person. When I was a student I worked random low paying jobs such as waiter. People looked down on me when I told them about my job, no girl would want me long term, and customers didn't treat me same way as they did to my female coworkers. When I started working in the office for a well respected institution, suddenly everyone treated me better, lot's of my family members were proud of me, the girls I've dated instantly became more interested when I told them about my job…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/24 04:26 AM
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Agree. But becoming successful off selling popcorns is not common. Most people who sell popcorns work for another person, and it serves them as a temporary job to get some money. The idea is that our society is very empathetic and supportive to women doing things which are the bare minimum for a grown up person, and less forgiving or looking down on men who struggle or live below the expectations or ambitions.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/24 04:10 AM
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Various reasons. Expectations from society, a man must at all times be successful and hide the failures in life especially when downgrading in career. Women are rarely pressured into having succesful careers. Maybe the good rich families push their daughters to strive for a great career such as a doctor, architect, engineer, etc, there's no weight over their shoulders to be the main provider due to traditional roles. Anectodally, the top 10 richest men in the world are founders and investors tha…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/24 03:33 AM
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If that is what you want, sure. If you know how to play and disguise toxic with romantic, why not? But people also need to be aware of where it leads them. They come down to reality the hard way and realize it was a wasted time. But a fun one. If your goal is long term and stability, it's best to not engage in low life games.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/24 03:46 AM
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That's because of how our society is shaped. Being attractive is often associated with positive traits by default. Even if you put logic into it, an attractive person must have a great personality because he is treated better. Appearance has been one of the most important parts of our identity since the dawn of humankind and there many industries based on this fact.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/24 01:53 AM
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A famous musician is attractive only to a group of women and fans. Justin Bieber had millions of girl fanbase over the world. But there were plenty of other girls that hated him. If Bill Gates enters a room full of people, or goes to a concert the whole attention would be shifted at him. People would try to talk to him. A famous musician can vanish for a year and no one would bat an eye. If Bill Gates suddenly disappears never to return, it would take years for Microsoft to recover and would cau…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/24 01:44 AM
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I agree and it sounds reasonable. The issue that gets often mentioned is with women who are from a low status or not in a good financial situation and see men as a ticket to a comfortable life. They refuse to be with a guy that is slightly better than them or average. Such women are not that attractive, honest about their intentions or of high value like gold diggers, which you can spot right away. It's the self entitlement and wanting an easy way out just because they exist and have a vagina. T…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/24 01:36 AM
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That's what I said lol we fall for persnoality, but get initially attracted by physical appearance. If certain physical features or how the present themselves don't align with what you find attractive you will see her as a friend rather than a partner.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/24 08:32 PM
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Not commenting on your partner, but if a guy says that he got attracted because of personality traits or intelligence it is a big lie. We learn what to say and keep our mouth shut and it works just fine. It's not shallow at all and our appearance alone is what attracts other people. Getting to know each other takes time and that's when bonding happens.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/24 01:54 AM
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Most men want to be number one, but they are ridiculed and ashamed if they express that in open. Wouldn't it be more appropriate for our society to encourage single parents into dating each other since they have so much in common, rather than forcing toxic positivity into single people accepting single parents as partners.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/24 12:27 AM
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Are you calling yourself a hypocrite? Yes Nietzche made some good points. But never to be interpreted in the terms of dating, which devalues his whole philosophy. It reminds me of Ricky Gervais sketch on Hitler and Nietzche, playing both of them, "Read your book, loved it, man and superman, no one's equal, kill all the jews" "Sorry what? I didn't write that" "Nah, I read between the lines"
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/24 12:48 AM
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Two different kinds. Option 1 is about a relationship based on emotions and through opening up about everything, which sounds ideal. Option 2 is about being connected through sexual bonding and playing the traditional roles without communicating much about their opinions. The typical, the man must never open up or express any sadness or feelings of being lost. This is not ideal for men but it is more realistic than option 1.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/24 10:16 PM
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Unions and civil rights movements have done far more than gender based groups in changing the society. Modern feminism does nothing but complain. They want that extra easy mode life.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/24 04:05 PM
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It depends on the kind of woman. If she is family oriented and leans towards traditional values, she will pick a man out of many and stay with him for a long time. But they are seen as a challenge by a lot of men, especially the ones that can't match the traditional aspects. Women who tend to be progressive, exploring liberties, breaking free from the traditional values are more available in the dating scene and you will always find them around. But they are less likely to commit. They would enj…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/24 02:50 PM
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Yes when a woman wants to toy with a man's emotion and control him is usually done by talking on things that might cause insecurities.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/24 02:20 PM
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The thing is what you describe as organically or love by chance, is very passive. This holds true to women perspective as partners in their life or other things come to them without doing much, by just existing for the most part. Men's perspective is not a passive one. They have to put effort to make things work. Do you really think the hollywood fantasy that two people meet by chance, have a conversation, find out they have same preferences and same personality, magically fall in love at the sa…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/24 05:09 AM
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I hear it almost everyday. I use it sometimes to my male friends, or someone asked me about a girl I dated and it didn't end well. But it's been quite rare to hear it being used in the definition of "promiscous woman that uses sex for just fun and benefits". It is mostly used to describe someone who is spineless, or someone that is being bitchy, an asshole.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/24 04:44 AM
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Your personal experience may not be the norm or the typical kind of relationship, but it sounds normal and healthy. But for the most part there are a few issues. The main one is when two people of different preferences come together, and one of them tries to take disadvantage of the other through gaslight and leading them on. It's quite often that some guys try to date girls who are loving, caring and a bit naive because they can breach through their boundaries and use them for sex. Or women try…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/24 04:37 AM
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It's funny because I've never seen men competing each other over a woman. Sure we are aware that there other guys in line, but we never talk shit to other men. Women on the other hand, it's hell let loose. Whenever I've been with a group female friends wether in school or now at work, the shitshow never ends even at mature age past the high school/university life. It becomes a headache to listen to all those nasty stuff that they have to say at each other or behind the back.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/24 03:32 AM
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Using words as bitch or whore is used as a joke or as a slur, not to express the sexual nature of that woman. Men tend to be more offensive than women when it comes to words. We also use the word bitch for other men too. It often means someone who is spineless and not trustworthy. But I doubt men hate on women labelled as bitches. I have more respect on women who are golddiggers or promiscuous women that are honest about their sexual attraction, than women who gaslight, never straightforward and…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/24 03:22 AM
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Why not? For as long as two people have a good time and use condom it's very normal. I'd rather date briefly a promiscuous woman than be in a relationship with a woman with mood swings, personality disorders or doesn't match my needs.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/24 03:12 AM
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Women tell that they hate players after they realize that they have been used for sex in the past. I'm sure many of guys have had a friend or dated a girl that told them she is sapiosexual, how she is attracted to intelligence and well kept. But got fucked by dudes who barely could read and lived with cockroaches. Same way, women who tell they want a guy who makes 6 figures, because she got played by someone who was broke. It is all projecting. Players or bad boys don't come in leather jackets, …
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/24 05:45 PM
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Not magically, it takes at least a year of hard work to achieve the goals(bulk or cut) and a lifetime of keeping your body shape. Have you ever noticed why the Italians, the French or Japanese are regarded for having the best fashion? Not only the choice of clothes, but the avarage people have low body fat. No visible fat in their faces, no beer belly, no xxl shirts. Gym can make everyone healthy and attractive.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/24 01:24 PM
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I can totally relate with you. It's just part of the experience and it can lead to feeling confused and frustrated. But as you grow older, you will learn to see past the subtle signs and read between the lines. It happens naturally and you don't need to take an extraordinary skills class or telepathic training. Anectodally the subtle signals never stop even past the first move and when you get married. As they say a successful husband is the one that has learned to say the right thing. For examp…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/24 03:49 PM
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Not coward at all and you can't blame neither men or women. This has been observed in most of the animals, where the female leaves a typical scent, makes a sound for calling mate, moves sideways, etc. The male has to make the dance, the chase, sing louder, give something, show off the feathers and most of all make the first direct approach. Some types of mammals such as bears and elephants fight each other male vs male over a potential female mate. From what I've seen the "issue" with such matin…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/24 03:23 PM
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Anything that shows interest(romantic in this context) and leads to another thing, wether successful or a failure, can be called a move. Signals are not direct, but they are an invitation to make the "first" move. You don't need mind reading abilities to understand such things. In some cultures, signals are a bit more unique and different, such as wearing a certain color or piece of clothing to suggest an interest in a partner, or leaving/giving an apple. But most of the signals are universal an…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/24 02:54 PM
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Stuff like this proves my thesis that the red pill is merely a psy op to take NPD men and BPD women off the dating market by matching them all to each other. I wish this was true. Red pill started as a counter reaction to the modern society. It was about breaking free from the system or the brainwashing, reject the mainstream media and maintain the classical values such as stoicism. Then it got reduced to just dating and PUAs telling men how to get laid. Now it is just a market lurring broken pe…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/24 02:32 PM
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Women have been passive and regulary approached since forever. But at the same time, women always make the first move when they are being selective. Just not in a direct way. They give you hints such as repeated eye contact, body language, smiling. If they see that you don't make a quick move and be the first to approach it is over as there are other guys who will get her attention after you.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/24 02:10 PM
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Not at all. Unattractive doesn't equal ugly looks. It means you lack any of the traits that can attract other people, such as game, outfit, body language, the way you speak or the tone of the voice, confidence over noticeable nervousness, seductive behavior, etc. If you fail it doesn't matter if you look like a creep or like harassing her. No one is going to arrest you for talking to strangers in a friendly manner. If she is not interested you walk away.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/24 02:06 PM
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I'm a man and I kept the small gifts such as postcards, art crafts, handmade bracelets from the girls I've dated in the past. I keep them in a box with other small gifts I recieved from friends or strangers. These kind of gifts are the ones I don't use or have them in any place visible. I even keep stuff from women I had a bad break up or a negative experience. That's because gifts are neutral and an universal act of human touch throught history that contain a memory or a heartfelt moment. Yes t…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/24 02:35 PM
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You weren’t blindsided, you just didn’t listen so she stopped asking and moved on. I partially agree. There are signs. But it takes experiences of a few break ups to actually notice them. Most guys don't have in built skills to see past these acts. But still it is blindsided no matter how much you try to justify it. It's totally one sided because break ups rarely are reached through open discussion over time and mutual agreement. That's reserved for divorce. It is blindsided, because it involves…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/24 12:24 AM
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Similarly, just because a man wants to sleep with you, that doesn't mean a man wants to care for you. Caring about your partner comes over the time, not by default. It is called bonding. Men learn that women can fall for superficial things, and how flirting and showering with love works. Especially when it becomes a condition. This totally depends on the person though and doesn't includie everyone or a majority. Acting social and joining clubs and hobbies will just perpetuate this, because at th…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/24 11:57 PM
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Read it again, I didn't say that most guys would reject sex lol that's crazy. Most men wouldn't turn down sex, even if they find the woman physically unattractive, when given the opportunity. I said most men would rule out women when it comes to seeing a future together if sex and good looks are the only thing she can offer. That's because out there are women who offer much more than that. Sure there are men who settle for trophy wives, but partnership or bonding with other people is not somethi…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/24 11:20 PM
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In general discussion, attractive means having nice genetics and being within beauty standarts physically. And generally it implies being romantically desired. A good looking person would still be attractive if he wore in plastic bags, compared to an ugly person dressed classy. But being attractive is not limited only to physical features. It goes much more beyond that, including charisma, charming personality that gets people attention, traits of a strong person, and understanding how people wo…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/24 01:37 PM
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This isn't true and is usually pushed by friendzone type guys who are just incapable of building attraction period. Lot's of young men are incapable of building up attraction and tension. Very normal. Better to gain experience throught trial and error and learn(or get rid of fantasies) how to actually behave with women and understand them. A typical woman on a date, or who's being bantered with, isn't going to friendzone a guy she was receptive to date or banter with just because he doesn't grop…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/24 06:00 AM
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In my exerience the French and the German women make the best partners. They are very social, emotionally intelligent, less generational trauma, very much into sharing life together(splitting rent, holidays, going out, etc), very realistic life expectancies and very loyal. But you have to match them and have a stable personality. If you disrespect them, play any games or you let them down it will be over. You also need to be very direct and have a secure mindset about life. For me the most toxic…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/24 05:11 PM
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Sexuality is very complex from human to human. We're among the rare cases of animals along other primates, dolphins, otters and sometimes penguins and lions, that have sex for fun(all year round fertile and sex outside of mating season). Encouraging only a certain kind of sexual activity and banning others, won't stop them. For me it is better to educate people to have responsibilities about their actions and raise awarness on where it leads them. As fully adults they have every right to make wr…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/24 03:47 PM
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Women keep these thoughts and opinions secret to them. Men are the only ones being loud about it online. On the other hand, young girls have been pretty vocal about being into older guys than their age.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/24 09:03 PM
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There is a common ubderstanding among men that it is better to too early than too late. Shooting your shot right away, getting physical, flirting will lead to sparking attraction or getting rejected. Or at least the woman might tell to take things slow at first. If a guy waits too late, she will be gone without telling why and it will put him either as a friend or back to strangers. Also the idea that when you are in the talking stage, there are other guys trying to get in her pants and pulling …
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/24 02:28 PM
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Yes I agree, but it takes two to tango. I'd say the majority of men want to settle down and build a family. But it's becoming quite a challenge to find a potential partner that gaurantees a future or a woman that is intersted in actually commiting and not just getting the relationship benefits without putting much effort. The mating standarts are also very unrealistic with women always bring up height, cars, salaries, etc. But men have witnessed that these kind of women would settle for less tha…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/24 08:41 PM
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You need to understand, there's no guy on the planet that can attract every woman he wants at his own will. Yes there very hot people and celebrities than can pull a stadium filled entirely with women lusting over them, but that is called mania and those same guys would get rejected by most girls if they didn't have that status. Hot people can attract only on physical level, but still be rejected on emotional level. You described yourself as being sure you are not ugly but have an unconventional…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/24 04:46 PM
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This is very true. Small towns are shrinking in population, most of the people you may want to be with are already taken, and no options available. Also not many career opportunities, which has a direct link to the kind of people their number in that place. Once when I moved out of my country I suddenly became "lucky" with women as there were more open minded people, diverse groups from every nationality and I could find women from different class of society. Got back home for 6 months, and it w…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/24 04:08 PM
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Having kids is a blessing to provide, teach and raise them. It becomes a burden that a man needs to get rid of it, the moment when he finds out it is not his biological child. No legal responsibility or parental duty.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/24 03:05 PM
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I think it's best to make a DNA test a few moments after the baby is born. Not just for the father's sake, but there have been lots of mistakes in hospitals around the world by getting the wrong tag on the wrong baby. Basically parents have raised someone else's baby without even knowing it until much later by accident. So the baby should be confirmed to its biological parents since day 1. It's been discussed alot in here, that women vet and are careful with men because they have to carry the ch…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/24 01:11 PM
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In here it is being discussed about the partner infidelity. But there's much more to that. In reality, cheating doesn't involve just having a sexual affair outside of the marriage. There's also financial cheating, when the spouse uses the other's credit card without their knowledge or asking prior. It is the 3rd main reason in divorces. The first option is the most common. People in general are not born with an in-built skill or have a 6th sense to make the right judgement about the perfect part…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/24 03:16 PM
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I didn't say to never trust again another person. But to have a blind trust can be a disadvantage, that's why it is best to be cautious when you sense something is not right. Being naive is very dangerous. I'm against paternity test as a common rule, but it should be normal if the father is suspicious. There's nothing to debate other two comments as they sound irrelavant to the topic. It is universal and accepted by anyone that parents should be role models and both of them have the duty of pare…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/24 03:06 PM
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I can make kids, provide for the family, have a healthy marriage and still not trust blindly the partner. There is always a reasonable doubt if something smells fishy.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/24 01:44 PM
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They demand sexual compatibility, while they don't have to do anything but look pretty. This is when it comes to reciving attention and having sex. When it comes to picking them as a long term partners, most men would ignore women who have nothing to offer but sex and good looks. The only times would be if the woman is exceptionally attractive, and there is a variety to pick from through model agencies, not the average woman that tries to act like high value.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/24 01:38 PM
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Many guys said "never again" after they got their trust broken from their partner. So yeah, good luck with convincing the whole world on that.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/24 12:51 PM
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In an utopic society yes. But irl everyone has their flaws and people will still have personality issues that would make them to not act like adults and being mentally or emotionally stable. Worse, personality disorders are on the rise. And people still go for a relationship even when they are aware that they are not worth of it.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/24 12:49 PM
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Testing about weakest spots. A confident guy wouldn't care amd would say "at least I clapped" and that's what matters. An insecure guy would be obsessed about it and question everything about himself. It usually comes from inexperience. Once you understand these kind of women, you would laugh and have an easy time if faced with such words.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/24 10:22 PM
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I was talking in general and not in facts or supported research. But I can say there are common behavior patterns such as women vetting on a potential long term partners and men vetting little to not at all in sex partners.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/24 01:34 AM
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Well for men is a bit different. We stay even if she has red flags, just for the sex, ego boost and not to bond. If a woman is relationship material and invested, men will take her seriously. Guys who always for toxic women have a pattern and are attracted only to a certain type. It's the same as women when they don't find a guy attractive or worthy for her, they keep them around to recieve attention and validation for ego boost and vet on those they think they can have a relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/24 06:58 PM
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Some people need to sacrifice all of that to live in a world of numbers and dettached from the social human interaction. You can't tell them to enjoy life or socialize, beceause they have chosen a different life. But those people are dedicated to their craft and are after solutions. And they don't complain about that. Scientists have already explained the human behavior and their patterns. Sociologists, psychologists and even CIA experts have studied this and came up with conclusions. OP sounds …
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/24 12:44 PM
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The XR headset AI on some ugly dude: So you asked me about how to attract this girl you like in front of you and how to talk to her based on how other ugly men have been successful. Let me provide you with some helpful tip. Greet her and itroduce yourself as the CEO of this groundbraking company. Tell her to go somewhere more quite to talk in private. Accompany her to your Bugatti, and drive to your luxury villa with the sea view. Tell her about your boat and using it in the near future. It will…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/24 12:32 PM
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Different times, different manners. Women say this all the time, just because you are nice and make grand gestures to appear as a gentleman, she doesn't owe you anthing. Which is true in today's world. Plenty of examples, when showing chivalry leads you nowhere, while being a mysoginistic asshole or even a criminal will be ignored for as long as a man makes the woman feel attracted to him. In simple words, there's no need for traditional behavior.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/24 11:49 AM
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It's not ubiquitous regardless of cultural subgroup. Cheating can be found in every culture, social groups and different kinds of society ranging in every income class, from the poor to the upper rich. But I said it has become very "popular" as it is easier to cheat with the technology we have and people living in the large cities. Then tell her you want a paternity test before you knock her up. Let's say you get your partner pregnant. You never doubted in her. Both of you have dark eyes. But th…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/24 10:32 PM
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Don't approach women with the intent of dating them. It depends but it is partially true. If you're in a party or social events, and you find a girl physically attractive of course you have to approach with the intent of dating, hook up, or whatever. But if it is social groups, workplace, or just meeting new people, it's best to get to know them first and see where it goes. She might turn out to be a good friend, or somone you may need in the future instead as a potential partner. It's up to you…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/24 09:32 PM
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Cheating culture has become quite common nowadays. People cheat and hide it very well without the other party ever noticing. Infidelity is the number one reason for the divorces increasing in numbers. There's no guarantee, a detector device or a foolproof method to find out if your partner is cheating, especially with women who are more cautious than men when they go for other dudes.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/24 01:52 PM
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It should be done for both parents when the baby is born in a hospital. I've heard numerous cases when the babies have been mistaken or given a different tag from their mothers. And the kid learned he didn't get raised by his biological parents when he got a random blood test.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/24 01:44 PM
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In case of a sickness or being in touch with their parents. Do you toss the parents away once you move out?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/24 05:39 AM
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The second guy is the type of son which is very difficult to handle and would show no remorse to his parents once he leaves home. Also going for hundreds of women, many of them married, will get him killed or expelled from society, even by his friends. No one is a James Bond. And taking everything in life through manipulation is not realistic, because there are always bigger fish around or people who might put him in place if he crosses their way. Generally, narcissists don't make it far in life…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/24 05:42 AM
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So, in one hand there are the rich people in Dubai paying money to models to eat their shit(literally, you can search that), pedophiles in high positions raping kids and being involved in the worst kinds of sexual abuse. All of them getting away. And then there are the so called progressive people, who are either complaining that all women want bad boys and gangsters with money, or others trying to interpret the laws about rape or consent. Heard a story in my local town, a guy got acused of rape…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/24 01:51 AM
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It got nothing to do with age itself, but with experience you get in life. A dude in his 30s has more resources and more freedom than a student in his early 20s. The average student can't afford having a 2 room rent, a nice car, or have a proper job with fixed schedule. It may be delusional only if someone thinks that growing older will make them successful by default and magic. You have to sacrifice your youth through working hard and planning a future in order to be successful. And even then, …
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/24 09:13 PM
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Funny thing I've had more fun in meeting girls and dating who are 4-5 years younger than me, than those around my age who may be desperate. But I'll say that no matter how desperate a woman may be, no one will ever lower their standarts.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/24 04:27 AM
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It was my hoe phase, not very proud of it lol
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/24 04:24 AM
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Yes. Early 20s for most men is being desperate and either getting laid with whoever by chance or locking down to a relationship with the first they find. Later as a man advances in life, has more experience, understands how people think especially women, has more opportunities in dating. I got dumped and left for someone else. I went to the gym, got a nice job, was travelling different places, and changed how I dressed by becoming more mature(yes you need to get rid of aj1s, funny t shirts, trim…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/24 08:41 PM
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Most women nowadays don't consider having kids before the age group 25-30. By 25 an average person would have experienced graduation, having a profession, working, living on their own, save up money, and launch a career if everything goes right. Not to mention that a lot of girls are financially aided by their families when they move out to pursue education. They have every opportunity to earn same way as men or more. Becayse the truth is in capitalism no one cares about the gender of the worker…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/24 05:41 PM
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This is untrue in the modern dating. Most couples take years before settling down and finding stability to have kids. Women tend to earn less because of the society norms. I mean how many women do you know that were pushed or motivated since teenage years to go and hustle, have the grinding mindset to make money or be oriented towards investing or financial skills. How many teenage girls go through high school counseling and are encouraged to go out there and create a start up or become street s…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/24 05:44 AM
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Given these details, of course I'd pick sex. Irl, the first scenario often happens when the guy offers his wealth and comfortable life. The guy is much aware that their relationship/marriage is transactional and not based on feelings of love. The second can be easily described as dead bedroom that happens for many couples. Often it leads to cheating and divorce. Or it is very specific to asexual couplse where both parties consent to not have sex or once or twice a year.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/24 12:20 AM
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This true only online. Someone may say they want a virgin girlfirend. IRL they meet a girl wha has had a few experience and click with her on so many levels. Do you think they will stand true to "dating only virgin girls" and refuse her? The only times I can think of this holding true would be due to religious purposes. And people from that background can definitely get another virgin wife within their community. But they wouldn't complain about all women in general. Yes, this is said often onli…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/24 12:48 AM
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Well I guess this kind of experience really puts on a light that every woman is different and they can only be with men who share same mentality as them about most life principles.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/24 04:17 PM
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I've never been to Poland so I have no clue what it is actually like. But everyone from my Polish friends have had similiar experience to me or other guys from Eastern Europe. Every country differs from one another, but they do share a large conservative mentality. Perhaps Greece is by far the most liberal country when it comes to dating. Poland is no longer the former soviet country and they have transformed into the most developed countries in the East. But the current generation of millenials…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/24 04:05 PM
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Eastern Europe culture has this. The man has to chase and lovebomb first with compliments amd gifts, prove his worth and that he is able to provide. The woman should show interest(if she likes the guy) but keep his advances at bay until she is convinced. Sex would happen eventually, but it would take also a lot of time for them to be officially a couple. Usually they last long term. In Western Europe it is the contrary even though it varies. Women select men through sex. Or getting physical sinc…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/24 01:53 PM
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A good one.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/24 02:18 AM
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I guess this is beyond logic and every sane human being is up to consent without trying to play in between, no matter the pill. But I was talking about the common ideas in opposing pills which involves mindsets and taught patterns in behavior.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/24 02:14 AM
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I see where you are coming from. I'd say to stay away from all the videos that shows a guy asking girls in public about their preferences. They are very misleading. Those videos are intended to show only a specific kind of women giving a very specific kind of the answer, where all of the interviews are filtered and selected. I was part of a project. I had to interview people in a town with very funny idiotic responses. It took me a week to get the amount of videos I wanted to select. I had inter…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/24 02:27 AM
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In general of course not. But I've worked in places and been through some social activities groups with women in their 30s who had never been married or were divorced and I'd say it was almost a daily topic to complain about. It's with a specific kind of women. As for "the wall" I've never heard irl, only online. As I said the main complaints were about competition and lack of physically ideal partners. Most of the women I mentioned, were in top form for their age.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/24 05:31 PM
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Unfortunately, all to often women approaching a certain age eschew these aging-benefits with anti-aging products and procedures. Counter productive in a sense. I find it funny, because many women looked better when they had the "old lady" look with wrinkles and aged skin than that fake look trying to mimic 20 year olds. All that surgery, heavy editing of photos, tons of make up and deaging products, but they forget their hands which are a dead giveaway on their age. After you "age out" however, …
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/24 05:16 AM
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Yes. I firmly believe that it is totally healthy to keep it on yourself and discuss it only with people you really trust about your emotions.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/24 02:50 AM
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Don't get obssesed with the internet and what people have to say to you. Being anonymous brings the worst out of the people, because normally they wouldn't express that way in public. You brought simple solid points to your comment. Move on and enjoy your time outside of these negative comments. There are people like politicians who have commited crimes and get criticised and overly offended every minute. Do they care? Of course not.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/24 02:43 AM
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I think it may be different for men. But what from I've seen and heard from other female friends group or their high comitee, if they don't like the boyfriend or their friend is dating, they will try to encourage her to find another guy and talk shit about him. This kind of behavior supports cheating and has a really toxic influence. Me and my male friends never talked shit or encouraged cheating. We all agree that it is morally wrong. But whenever one of our friends from the close group cheated…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/24 06:00 PM
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You can scam grown adults No you can't. It is wrong to scam anyone at any age. Stop treating young adults as children. Yes they lack experience but they are fully responsible about themselves. I see it as an issue nowadays that society is treating them as babies even when they are above 20.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/24 12:54 PM
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My friends, of course not. I even got them covered when their gfs asked me about their whereabouts or why they had their phone turned off. I simply don't care about my close friends sexual activity. But I judge another man who is open about him cheating and brags about it.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/24 12:43 PM
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Why would I care about some chick's feelings I barely know and have no interest? To be on her a side instead of my friends whom I've known since childhood and been there for me in good and bad days sounds plain stupid. I've never seen anyone break friendships because their friend cheated on their partner, for both genders. And yes that's who I want to be best friends with because it was built on helping each other through hardships and trust. Partners come and go that's life.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/24 12:34 PM
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To be honest it is awful. Not the women's comedy as a whole, but I think they should be registered as a new category "liberal modern millenial women tries to be funny through stand up comedy". They either use weird sex stories, mention an ex or tell something rude because they can get a pass. Maybe I'm stuck in the 2000s comedy when many women used to make witty jokes on stage and actually roasted men in a hilarious way. Maybe I can't comprehend nowadays comedy. I don't know.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/24 02:50 AM
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He also didn't say where it said he lived. In a cave... he sounded like a knuckle dragging caveman. Sounds like he doesn't need to explain where he lives. Also caves can sometimes turn out to be a really romantic spot if you are into goth stuff.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/24 01:41 AM
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Social changes for both genders in modern times. Not talking about the majority, but many fathers around the world are not around teaching their boys on how to be man. Not some alpha man bs, but actually being a role model where young boys get an idea on what is like to be a grown up man. Schools are filled with female teachers nowadays and less men. Most of the official policies, marketing campaigns from top companies are using the feminist card and targeting the female population. So many of t…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/24 01:20 PM
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Women prefer benevolent sexist men over men who see them as equals. If you are refering to the the classic "women love assholes" no it is not true. Women prefer an experienced guy who gives them attention, validation and makes them feel special. Abusers know this and use lovebombing until she catches feeling and bonds over time. Then the abuse happens. Also women fail to see or ignore the red flags, beyond that fake appearance and "good sex". Also women don't want equality or be treated as equal…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/24 09:45 AM
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Not every woman believe it or not. Yes there would be women ready to have sex with that guy, but he needs to be exeptionally hot, a one in a million. The best example is that guy who got viral after his mugshot went online and he found a career in modelling waiting for him right after he set foot out of the prison. Men like him don't even make 0.1% of the physically attractive men. I mean what are the chances to get so much attention worldwide from women of different cultures lusting over you, w…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/24 06:52 PM
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I have a funny story from last year. I'm a very timid and introverted person in general. I struggle to socialize with big groups of people. But I can always fake my personality and put on an act when I'm in a good mood. I was in a bar with two of my friends who are much more attractive than me. They were mocking me that I wasn't going to be able to pull any of the ladies in the pub. They do it to push me out of my comfort zone. I dared them. One of them started to make excuses and the other appr…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/24 03:40 PM
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There was a post a few weeks ago telling people that asexual relationships are normal and common lol
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/24 10:51 AM
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Women literally have it easy, are entitled and are privileged. Yes. But entirely not by default. Most of the female privileges come from men enabling them. Sometimes to get something in return. Have you seen that after many women spread awarness that they don't owe men sex after they play the gentleman or act nice. And then you would see women complaining that chivalry is dead, how men nowadays don't put much of effort or how they don't open up doors for them. And no it's not worth dating when w…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/24 01:29 AM
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The dating pool is worth dating if your intentions are having fun and earning experience. It is not worth being around if you want a long relationship, because potential partners that might be willing to commit are not available in the current dating scene. I said a comment yesterday about how that can be achieved(it was about matching the needs and the desires of your partner even if that means lying your way to bed for men or just to get attention and validation for women), and there were a lo…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/24 11:14 PM
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But that’s pathetic. Why pretend to be someone you are not? Drinking wine or beer are not part of who I am. I do so ocassionally. If I was a big fan of drinking beer and made part of my personality of course I wouldn't hide it. Pretending to be someone who I'm not would be if I completely changed my life story and introduced myself as an astronaut, when I'm clearly not. As a man when you meet a woman for the first time you try to bring the best of you and as I described, you find for any connect…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/24 11:34 PM
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This is actually anxious attachment style. A very random example and nothing harmful about it. As I said there are limits to it. Otherwise agreeing to everything to keep a partner around(anxious attachment style), even to conflicting ideas or preferences it will result in lots of issues. You think all men have your attachment style and it's not like that Obviously not all men, but anectodally lots of guys do these small things in trying to get a girl to like them when they are first dating. Adap…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/24 11:16 PM
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Not a lot, I've seen people go to extreme lengths. Sometimes those tricks work, sometime they backfire and I end up being ghosted. Sometimes I'm just myself and don't lie. I'm not out there trying to date the world, but when I do once in a while I try to have fun rather than looking to settle down or just to have sex as you put it. Part of the dating experience and personal viewpoint. You may try to point out what is wrong with that, but if it didn't work at all for me I would had changed my way…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/24 11:06 PM
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The irony with this is that the majority of both men and women are normal and have boring secure personalities. The catch is that toxic people are more available irl in the dating scene and put more effort to attract. The normal mentally stable girl is not out there trying to seduce men for to feed her ego. That's why we are more likely to meet someone who's emotionally broken and ready to drag you down. Dating a few of them will lead you to think that every woman on the planet is toxic, has ins…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/24 06:53 PM
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Not most women are like that, but this kind of behavior is very common. I'd say it can be more of a women thing, just like being controlling or faking relationship for sex is associated with men more, even though most men are not like this. As a man I can say we have the ability to adapt to a woman's needs to have sex, not the vice versa. Women rarely change their ways to get a dude. For example, if I like beer and the woman I'm dating likes wine, I'm going to say that I like wine as well to cre…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/24 06:45 PM
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In a situationship, she may get up and leave the moment there's a difficulty because she will have dozens of men waiting for her. That's how many women treat relationships nowadays. I had this confirmed by many women I've dated, that they hate being alone and they always have options and back ups. They usually would settle down when they run out of options.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/24 11:13 AM
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That's the reality of capitalism and many industries. All of these models and actresses are getting paid millions and it isn't because of their acting skills or their talents that deserved to be there compared to other women who refused the sexual favors. People take shit jobs, shit salaries, shit hours, shit conditions, hazing and being bullied in the workplace, but they have no choice but to go on. Being pressured? Are they held hostage with a gun to their head The worst it can happen to them …
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/24 11:07 AM
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Heard this in person a few times and left me wondering when did I made this bitch feel as not being treated as a human being. Turns out it was a projection and they really meant that they got played by their ex but they wished they didn't want to be used. And now every guy on the planet is like that. Men treat women in a normal way. Every interaction I have with most women in general is just normal and boring. Same way with other men. I treat everyone with basic level of politeness and respect. …
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/24 03:38 AM
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In their lyrics, these rappers talk about women "getting fucked for a chain", "giving oral so I call her a goat", and bragging about "having two girls at the same time". Basically, your standard boy's locker room talk, textbook objectification, and misogyny. Singers especially rappers have themes based on fantasies to attract the audience. They are entertainers and have a big managment staff that tells them what to do and what to say. One of the artists reportedly is a druggie (in fact, he raps …
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/24 01:21 AM
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The 19th and 20th century were the most important eras fro women rights. And the earlier movements have achieved their goals. But as someone from Europe I'm seeing different things in the West. This was more noticeable in Germany. Most the Western countries in Europe experience most of the American influence in cultural changes. Punk Rock movement was born in US, but its impact boomed in Europe where it is still visible today with large communities who haven't changed much since the 70s and 80s.…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/24 12:50 AM
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I agree on the general opinion that there people from both genders that only care about themselves at the expense of the others, I don't agree with this narratives. Modern society is pushing people to prioritize and put themselves first, especially the feminist groups. You can see all over the place, from girls supporting each other, online posts, tweets, YT and TikTok videos on repeating the same mantra, "focus on yourself sis, you need to make yourself a priority, you don't owe anything to any…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/24 12:25 AM
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I'm going to give you two different perspectives. I don't know whether women pick up on this behavior on their own, or they learn it somewhere but it really is a fantasy. Abusers and manipulators understand clearly that women who have low self esteem and base their worth on the validation, they will be easier to toy with by faking love and chasing even after they are rejected. That is why some women who are immature take back abusive exes that stalk them because they mistake this fighting for th…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/24 03:06 PM
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Hiding posts, blocking certain keywords, reporting or giving reasons why you should not see certain content in the future. Every social media has that.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/24 02:25 PM
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Kurac lol In Balkans every non dating social media is used to date other people. While apps such as Tinder or Bumblee that are specifically designed for that purpose are ignored. Back home I heard from a female friend that she was mocking a guy she knew, when she found out that he was on Tinder. "How much of a desperate loser you need to be to have Tinder." Funny enough she was dating a guy at the time who became her boyfriend. They first met on Linkedin... I'd say in Balkans it is much harder t…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/24 06:02 PM
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I'd say it is a shift in attention for both men and women. "The wall" happens when someone(usually used for women) stops recieving attention and validation as they once did. Usually, it happens after mid 20s. Most of the women who have hit the wall can be described as out of shape compared to their younger self and have an undesirable body count by most men. Also men earn experience with different kinds of women and detect red flags or are able to screen out women. They start to recieve attentio…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/24 05:46 PM
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If you see it in the doom perspective, where having an ugly face or being short means always unattractive, it sounds unrealistic. For example when the Europeans arrived in Americas, they knew exactly who the chief of the tribe was. That's because they had outstanding shiny clothes and the feather crowns. The explorers went straight to him to negotiate. That's called attraction. Popular belief is that attraction works only in romantic way and your genetics are the only thing you need to attract. …
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/24 05:19 PM
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Women don't understand this, but it is not a vendetta or revenge fantasy. In my experience and to other men who were the same, we don't know how to deal with sudden attention and being desired. People who become celebrities pay for a manager. Men who glow up after 25 have no one to deal with or teach them how to act. You go from being ignored or left for another guy, to messages "hey handsome wanna meet this weekend" from the same women that rejected you. Of course men would want to enjoy and ma…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/24 03:55 AM
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From my experience, yes I dated them. But only to have fun without being serious. The best part was that I didn't need to put much effort. After a couple of weeks I was dumping and going on to the next one. There's no second chance when it comes to being serious.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/24 03:41 AM
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From what I've seen the majority of women are conditioned to wait for the man to come. No matter how hot or rich. There are exceptions for very outstanding men to be approached, women in general would choose staying alone than talking first to the guy she finds attractive.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/24 02:59 AM
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Not at all. The only times I called a woman creep, was when I got stalked or if she was a drug addict and behaved in a weird way. Nothing to do with appearance but with behavior.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/24 12:40 AM
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because they feel pressure by society or just because they enjoy it. Passive agressive marketing that heavily targets women more than men by many brands. I mean look at Nike releases every season and there are the same boring colorways for men, while for women there's a huge variety to pick from. The other is recieving attention. Women compete with each other on who gets more attention and praises. There is a reason why there's a term "post break up dress" which is being revealing. Or dying thei…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/24 12:31 AM
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Being attractive doesn't always mean having a hot face and a muscular body. Attractive includes a variety of aspects in your appearance. If you dress nice keeping it simple or classy, have a nice haircut, have a masculine body language, you'll be percieved as attractive. So it is common sense that first step should be that you need to attract at first through your body, a non verbal presantation of yourself.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/24 10:41 PM
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Tell that to the scores of men on dating apps who are married Many men have cheated throughout history. Same for women. Not everyone of them is a cheater. Tell that to the scores of married men who hit on women at the grocery store, bars, gas stations, etc. Shooters gonna shot. Men are always pushed to try their luck on every chance they get. If you are attracted to someone why not. Don't see any issue. This has got nothing to do with my previous comment. Oh but never mind, men are noble saints …
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/24 06:06 PM
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It's a different thing, it's totally different recipe you know eeeh
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/24 01:29 PM
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No I don't do that I barely know this person beyond a surface level. My point was you do those things after awhile not on the first date or the second. No that seems disingenuous when contrasted again the proposed circumstance. If a girl you are dating is a person that works hard, you compliment on her hard working trait. If that girl is wise and it leaves you impressed you compliment her for being intelligent. You express things that you notice. Compliments are one of the things that makes peop…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/24 03:58 AM
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Who says this? Men want to start a relationship while the woman is young. And remain with her through marriage and old age.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/24 03:20 AM
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Let me guess, you're the classic blue pill who has no clue what blue pill means. The issue with everything you've said starts from you, because you have been conditioned. Thinking that respect means surpressing your needs, because sex is wrong, disrespectful and offensive. But what about your sexual needs? Sex doesn't happen passively by magic. A respectful man before respecting others, respects himself first. If you priotize only others to the point you neglect your needs, you'll be asshole to …
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/24 03:06 AM
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At least in Europe, I can see everywhere in different countries, from the locals to the tourists, endless of couples. The guy is rarely that attractive to pull a girlfriend by the online standarts imposed here on Reddit. Not a tall model bodybuilder. Just an average guy, dressed not to impress. And lots of them are either on foot, backpacking, doing frugal stuff. That eleminates too that you have to be super rich to have a relationship because every woman in the world dates only the 10.57% of th…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/24 11:51 PM
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It happens, but they don't last long.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/24 03:27 PM
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Well I did manipulate people on daily basis as part of my job. But nowhere near to being sophisticated. Just the basic psychological tricks most marketing teams use on people to suggest buying a product.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/24 10:37 AM
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Health reasons, loss of communications with lots of fights, old age and many other reasons. But a couple mutually agreeing they are not going to have sex anymore and remain with each other, that's definitely weird and very uncommon.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/24 10:34 AM
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I don't see it working in long term, two people with different sexuality.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/24 10:31 AM
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So an open asexual relationship where you are no longer asexual to other people. Sounds like...friendship.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/24 11:25 PM
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That's not the only difference, but it surely is tha main big difference. We have sex for 3 reasons. To satisfy each other needs/have fun, bond and make kids. Traditionally it has been to reproduce, but nowadays we have same sex marriages and couple who are unable to give birth. And they can always adopt. Or couples who don't want to have kids. To form a relationship you need to be commited to it, invest through time and sharing intimacy. You can be commited to a friendship but not intimate with…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/24 11:22 PM
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but you’re definitely not beating the sophisticated manipulator allegations now I said that I do it too by paying compliments on personality traits because they work. And most of the guys I've seen do it too. It's such a classic and not harmful. Hopefully I'm clear off the allegations now lol it’s not the worst thing that can happen. You shouldn't tolerate or negotiate anything less than what you need and require, even if it's not the worst thing, if you want to keep your self esteem. A man will…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/24 10:24 PM
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Using the perspective of those who do that, it is not wrong. And they won't accept it for being at fault even if you write a book explaining in full details why it is wrong.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/24 09:00 PM
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I'd say men pretending to understand and see through are most of the time harmless. No science needed to see when a man is doing that while having ulterior intentions. It works like horoscope where you put the other person in the center of the attention and give them the traits that they want to hear. Signs to be cautios of a manipulator are very subtle at first. They are beyond working like horoscope. They use lovebomb, pick up on what you really need, not just what you want to hear. This way t…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/24 08:57 PM
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If there are no consequences or you can get away with it, those mistakes are going to happen and be more frequent. Otherwise people wouldn't lie and manipulate if it didn't work and they faced serious consequences in most of those actions.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/24 08:33 PM
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long explanations of how amazing we are by a man who just met us. I do it lol That's because we know that women rarely get compliments about their personality compared to their appearance, so it stands out and it makes the man look as if he has the ability to understand and see through. Which women love that. Most of the time it is "you got a great smile, nice eyes, you're gorgeous, what a beautiful dress, etc". I can sense when a woman thinks of herself as smart and it is prentetious over being…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/24 06:57 PM
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In theory it is wrong. But irl we all lie and try to manipulate to get the things we want that normally we wouldn't have reached them through being honest. Not just sex, but anything that we really need desperately, such as getting a desired position at the expense of someone else. Normally we don't do that to those we trust and we care, so manipulating a person you barely knew and most likely you won't ever see them again no matter what you do, leads to people manipulating about intentions.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/24 12:31 AM
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I totally agree with you for the most part. But from what I've seen, most women available in dating market would choose an average guy who gives them attention, puts effort, flirts, is stable and secure, masculine behavior and chases them over a hot dude who doesn't put effort, is reserved, no flirting and no game. I've seen it with a friend of mine who is very attractive and gets constant attention(girls stare at him in public). But the ones who are approached by him or when he gets approached,…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/24 11:50 PM
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Sweating isn’t the same as being ugly. I agree, but it can be a turn off for some. While being ugly means you might be ignored or have a low or non existent successful rate because of the appearance, there are other traits to compensate. Being good with words, dressing well, getting in shape, acting masculine or in a seductive way. On the other hand I see couples on daily basis where I'm thinking to myself "damn he's ugly". Nevertheless they still got the girl. One odd example, is one of the gre…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/24 12:00 AM
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This is a very old mentality and it is weird that I'm seeing it being mentioned in a pill debate sub. If you care about history which is unrelated in here, read below. It was used by the Chinese and some other communist countries that were hit hard by WWII and had a high amount of human loss. They encouraged people to form families, gave medals titles and some money to mothers who had more than 3 children. The idea behind it was to marry "the next person" to you, make babies as a duty to your co…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/24 11:34 PM
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Missed my point. We as humans are gross in our own way. But your body functions are normal and average(if you are healthy), same way as your appearance. If you focus on the ugly part, such as farting or not being physically hot, you'll get the negative viewpoint. Some people sweat alot for example and they can't control it. It is not a disorder to do something about it. Now imagine if someone who sweats alot will have the viewpoint "I'm doomed, women will never want me because I'm a pool of swea…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/24 11:05 PM
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There is nothing shocking about this. It feels like that to men who have been delusional before. I think the issue is with men who think they are doomed or don't want to accept this. Most women are gross. They fart(shocking right), they snort, they burp, they have body hair and they don't shit roses. Does that make women feel doomed?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/24 09:31 PM
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The majority of men are not that universally attractive. But there are other effects, such as when there are lots of guys only the hottest ones will get approached, even though the others wouldn't be ugly, but less attractive.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/24 09:26 PM
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I'd disagree. Historically speaking, most of the people who rose to the top, excluding being born in a powerful and rich family, were not the strongest. But they were the full package of being smart, cunning, educated, motivated, willing to play dirty and to adapt. Using tools such as PR/ propaganda, knowledge, leadership skills, authority, influence, experience and discipline. There are physically stronger women than Hillary Clinton, but at a point in history she was in the top 10 most powerful…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/24 05:09 PM
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Patriarchy has been long gone. By law and civil rights men and women are equal. By the society standarts and system no one is equal or worth anything. Institutional power and wealth is achieved by personal effort or having a rich family, not because of the gender. If the traditional patriarchy existed, all men would be wealthy and powerful and every woman would be poor and powerless. From my understanding, the modern wave of fenimism want to achieve women being rich or holding high status positi…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/24 04:39 PM
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I think women first develop feelings when men chase them, make them feel special, or give attention and then bond through sex. This bonding ability can become less vague after having many partners. Men bond over time through being taken care of such as when they are sick, cooking for them, supporting them emotionally when things get tough and motivate them to do things. But men don't bond through sex and that is a main difference. This is general and doesn't mean that every men and women bond th…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/24 04:19 PM
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Women in general want attention and validation more than sex. Having a man chasing and doing things for her so she can prove her self worth and get the ego boost. Having relationship benefits from men but without thinking a future together. Men who pick up on this and understand that it is like a game, get laid. If it didn't work this way, this wouldn't be talked about. Women who are actually upfront about wanting casual sex are very rare.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/24 03:47 PM
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Have you ever seen a gold digger complain?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/24 05:28 AM
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I was told that males have feelings too. Empathy. Paternal instincts, feelings of responsibility, wanting to protect and provide, etc Yes it is true. But for their own kids, not someone else's. Where is the child's father? Shouldn't be his responsibility? If the father is dead or nowhere to be found, other relatives of friends can take care of the child. If even that is not possible for different reasons, then it is what it is and her problem. If you dated a man who was a single dad and told you…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/24 06:24 PM
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1 is very vague. These are first dates, or a single first one if it fails. What kind of activities is she talking? Sex, hiking, karaoke, dancing at the club, playing cardboard games, drinking, visiting sites or theme parks? First date is about getting to know each other. Of course plenty of fun things to do, but you have no clue who are dealing with. The basic is grabbing a coffee, a drink, dining. As a man I agree that it is his job to lead and pick what to do, where to go, and actually put eff…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/24 06:10 PM
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Are you sure? If this was true the world population would had crumbled to a few millions, not billions and raising concerns about overpopulation. Yes plenty of countries are experiencing low birth rates, but that is related to inflation, crisis and work-life ratio. I'd guarantee you that most women who would crush on some really hot dude, would still settle for an average guy who has game, is good in bed, is stable and gives her compliments, over that hot guy who has nothing to offer but his loo…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/24 05:44 PM
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He needs game too. To be manipulative to a certain degree, willing to play schemes and lie his way to bed. As they say words are for the poor men in dating. Money will bring him only women who live through transactions, or pay for escorts and hookers. Status is the one that will change the quality of the women he can get.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/24 09:04 AM
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I'd say the social media has made it easier to connect, but also created the illusion of having many options. High standarts are based nowadays on the past experiences and the amount of attention they get. Outside of the internet, it remains the same. The outgoing type of women will have it easier, while the introverted women will recieve less attention.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/24 08:58 AM
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Isn't the blue pill infamous for believing in what the world should be and not see it for what it really is
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/24 08:54 AM
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I don't know about men in general. Only a few friends have already kids. They secured their life and decided to become parents right away. Most of my friends don't have any plans to become parents. Personally yes I'll have kids in the future. But right now I can't. There is no right time, the previous generations including my parents sacreficed alot to raise m3 and didn't wait until the time was right(I was born and raised during an economy collapse and civil war). They got divorced so I had to …
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/24 08:30 PM
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There is a specific type of women who are like this, he's not shaming women in general. Anyone should be able to make what they want in life. But there are consequences as well. People can decide to be assholes and use other people for their own ego. They are free to do so as it is not illegal, but people should be aware of these traits, especially young adults. Every woman has the right to have male friends because other girls are too much drama. If this was true, then the majority of women wou…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/24 03:06 PM
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No one cares about pride month or any other group month. These are marketing campaigns disguised as movements to raise awarness, but what they do is actually targeting costumers by making them feel appreciated. Men's mental health is none's fault, rather a society issue. Inflation, life struggles and problems that persist too long are what break men down mentally. Money problems are the main factor that contributes both to mental illness(prolonged exposure to a life filled with financial insecur…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/24 02:52 PM
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What rights or conditions were granted or improved about men by feminism? Feminism has been about gender equality focusing the majority of the time about women reaching the same roles and rights as men in society and breaking free from traditional system. Equality in legal terms has been reached, and nowadays the new feminist movements push for equality in politics, stopping harassment and sexual abuse and often leaning towards woke mentality.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/24 02:43 PM
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Not at all. Everyone close to us from parents, relatives, older siblings, teachers, coaches and mentors in life taught us how to behave, separate the good from the bad, and be prepared for life. Once you turn 18 you are no longer allowed to get a pass when you act stupid or make mistakes. No one is perfect and everyone makes mistakes at any age. But this kind of mentality of justifying you adults is wrong and an issue that leads to lack of accountability.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/24 06:07 PM
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Everything you own, especially if you are that rich it is spread among other family members by blood. Close relatives or people you trust. Rich people are famous for tax evasion by using other people to own properties for them as legal owners. If you don't have anyone you just pay a professional from insurance, lawyer or banking to look after legal matters in case you pass away. There is enough money to hire the best private forensics team and investigators to rule the cause of death. A friend o…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/24 10:43 PM
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I think toys do help, but tongue and fingers do wonders and they are the real friends she can make along the way
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/24 10:42 PM
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What do you think about the current state of equality between men and women? Civil rights and laws are all for gender equality in most of the countries. Perhaps the abortion status might be the one last step in the legal system. But the goals of past feminist movements have been either fully accomplished or at least in a progressive stage. About the political and economic equality, what are the issues you see today? I've seen that it is true that there is a visible gap, even though women are as …
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/24 09:13 AM
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Yes, men gathered around a table under the shades of dark green pines on a hot August day, circa 1024 AD. They planned to treat women like shit for the upcoming centuries, deprive them from voting, education, not having a say about their bodies or who to marry, their rights to be cancelled, designed kitchen as their only place where they could be useful and so on. "Lads, I know you love your wives and it's hard for you to beat them when they don't prepare food on time. But you should do it for t…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/24 08:53 AM
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Yeah, no alpha man. What's next, Santa is not real? Earth is not flat? Alpha males exist, same way as omega or ypsilon males.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/24 02:56 AM
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How about just tap water date. But bring a ceramic or glass pitcher to make it look romantic lol
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/24 02:50 AM
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Is Evian that expensive in US lol
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/24 12:46 AM
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Depends on the shape lol a normal hat yes but a fedora? No it doesn't.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/24 12:14 AM
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Their skills combined with partnerships of course. But height plays a very important role in your appearance.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/24 10:47 PM
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Not superior but there are some interesting studies, that show children create a paradigm that anyone who is much taller than them is older. Being older means that they are matured adults, stronger and wiser. Of course when you grow up you no longer link age with height, but it still remains part of our mentality where the taller the person the better he is in mamy areas. People really percieve the taller candidates in elections as better leaders. One can ask, why the basketball players are not …
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/24 09:54 PM
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Men support men more than women, just not through expressing feelings, rants or emotional support. But men definitely help each other when things get really messed up. Women tend to go away when there is trouble.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/24 12:50 AM
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A social online experiment to raise empathy on men
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/24 04:06 AM
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It's the remake
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/24 03:54 AM
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Yes totally normal to want that. Now the next time you start dating someone and you are in the phase where ypu put boundaries or make your intentions clear, you should tell them exactly what you wrote in here. What you want and need in a partner. If you say that on the first date it will be a mood killer, so swallow up your ideas and pay for her drinks. Then have the talk. If you don't communicate that you'll never get that 50/50.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/24 03:50 AM
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I know way too many people who are not attractive, got nothing to offer and yet have sex. They are not the type of dudes that bang every girl in the room but they do get a girlfriend or casual hook ups once in a while. There are other new issues in modern dating, which are relevant to modern solutions. Internet has "ruined" dating, but also made it 1 million times easier than 20 years ago. All I see is people complaining online about minor issues which can be overcomed. But they refuse to do so …
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/24 03:43 AM
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Toxic abusive guys are good at hiding their toxic traits. But most importantly they can sense what their target wants and needs. Usually it's lovebombing and building up attraction. A woman would choose an average guy that makes her feel desired over an attractive guy that doesn't put effort or isn't flirty. No one goes around wearing a sign "hey i'm toxic i will abuse you". Guys who complain about this don't understand it. They think women are attracted to bad traits only. The thing is once the…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/24 01:10 AM
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Social conditioning. Women show interest and give hints, men take the "bait" and lead. Men are taught since an early age how to talk to women and how to make them form a relarionship. I doubt women are educated on how to approach men and lead the way. Equality begins after the initial stage were both parties have accepted to be together. Other equality aspects such as splitting the bill or giving gifts are arbitrary and not universal. It's the same for many male animals from mammals to insects. …
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/24 08:55 PM
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None for both unless they have plans to marry and commit to each other for a lifetime. In my experience, we need to go through things alone and not make others part of our struggle. If a guy has a chronic ED, he should figure it out on his own how to fix it. There are plenty of ways to get professional help. And if a girl gets raped she should seek for the same ways from other specific therapy groups and psychologists and not let her bf wait endlessly. Partners are disposable and replacable, men…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/24 06:59 PM
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I'd say he's the dumb one. Men should do the initiation and carry the conversation. It's to test waters, and make things fun. Men lead, men get the spoils in the end. Men put the effort on women on convos and they get rejected.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/24 06:52 PM
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The bar is not low for men. Men have little to no standarts when it comes to finding a woman for sex. But when picking a long term partner the bar is very, especially with the wifey material traits. Women on the other hand have very high standarts in dating and picking a sex partner. When they run out of attention and options their bar is way down and would settle for a guy that they wouldn't find attractive before. As the saying goes, men have sex with who they can and marry who they want. Wome…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/24 08:33 PM
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If you ever going to have a child, they need a father and a mother figure. Or at least two parents in same sex marriage where one provides guidelines on the masculine side on learning how to conquer fear in doing simple tasks, a set of skills, sports, how to act and talk. And the other parent to teach them how to be creative, be in touch with the emotions. Single parents are totally able to raise children. But those children would have a lot of problems because parenting will be one sided or fee…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/24 11:17 PM
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I have to disagree. On basic level we don't need anyone as adults. Life can throw you at the worst conditions and you still can make it on your own without a partner. But as social beings and to function properly we need each other on so many levels.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/24 10:19 PM
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Time to time yes. I enjoyed it when I shared a joint or went out for drinks on a date. I get drunk with cheap alcohol before going to a beach club. But that is around 10 times per year. I mean I don't have a limit, but drinking and doing drugs are not part of daily life. And I'd find it a dealbreaker if a date told me that they use drugs or have alcoholism in daily basis.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/24 10:39 PM
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Conditons. Being raised in a women dominated environment. This can lead men to create these ideas that being sexual is not good, you should respect women at all times by default, put them on pedestal, etc. Then there are tons of books, movies and songs which present a fantasy as realism. Boys begin to think that's how you treat girls and get them. Also the whole "i need to connect emotionally first before having sex" it's another thing that doesn't work great on men, given how men are able to ha…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/24 05:35 PM
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You forgot to mention how good they got fucked or his dick was so good Lol you make it sound like bad guys are born with gifted skills in bed and have a magical dick that penetrates in ways most men wouldn't. Which is untrue. Men who are abusive use mind games to create conditions because they are not that great as many people in here make them to be. Attractive women have a ton of sex, and often find when they settle of their fun years usually older they aren’t satisfied. I met women who many w…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/24 05:23 PM
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Woman are much more likely to be honest about it Honest? I wouldn't say so. Some women will tell details about their past relationships to suggest you something or to make you feel insecure. If a woman is very descriptive and opens alot about her exes, she is not interested in you in long term. That's because women would never tell anything to the guy they want anything about their past, especially when they are aware that it might be a dealbreaker. They can even lie about the body count because…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/24 02:24 PM
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There are no solutions that can guarantee you'd be successful. There are ways but they are never 100% sure thing. Most common one is becoming rich and having status. This won't guarantee you neither that you'll get the woman you want or have every woman fall for you. But it works and it can guarantee you that you won't be struggling.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/24 02:00 PM
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Would you say that these “bad guys” are sociopaths, who are very gifted at lying and manipulation? Here's the catch. Guys who are normal or actually nice, still get the girl through natural attraction ways(seducing, flirting, chasing) or they have money, status, appearance that add more options. Once they get the girl they stay with her and a build a future together. Niceness is a trait of them, but no one ever complains about them being too nice. The "bad guys" do the same thing. They hit on ev…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/24 05:28 PM
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It's interesting that no man would complain about his partner or lose interest because their date is too nice. In fact being around a nice woman it makes men to want her even more as a long term partner.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/24 04:43 PM
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Generally "too nice" means not making any moves, not building up sexual tension, not responding to flirts or flirting themselves. "Bad guys" contrary to popular belief are very nice, even more than nice guys. But they lovebomb hard and make their target desired because it works. Nice guys think that not flirting or having a nice personality will get women to fall for them. Also women have options, if this "nice guy" doesn't make any move, there are plenty of other guys who go after her or have g…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/24 04:32 PM
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Clinginess or a lot of investment like within a few weeks of knowing you. (Wanting exclusivity and just you) it's lovebombing. Within the first days sounds crazy and pure lovebombing. But within weeks? Every guy learns the truth that if they take things slow, take too long, the girl they are dating will lose interest. Also exclusivity or other stuff may not be talked on the first or second date, but by the end of the first week there should be one where both parties have a honest talk, an idea o…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/24 04:15 AM
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Having baggage and trauma from a past relationship. This is the biggest red flag and it would wave up high very soon no matter how much they hide it. It's no one's responsibility to put up with someone else's fallout. If you sense this, run or don't take her seriously. Either being too much into feminism or trying to talk bad about other women. The type of girl of that always talks about gender inequality but is all about wanting the privileges and not sharing the same struggle or being empathet…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/24 04:00 AM
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Learning from past experiences is usually a good thing. Indeed, but social media and current trends are pushing both men and women, especially those that were unlucky, to not learn and reflect on past experience. More than ever people are being encouraged to ignore the long term effects and disregard being held accountable of their choices. I see many people who laugh and smile like it is some kind of joke when they think about their past wrongdoings. "It is okay to ignore people and ghost them"…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/24 07:43 PM
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I find Angelina Jolie or Ana d'Armas hot. Any woman who looks like them I find them hot too. I find my neighbor extremely attractive. If given the oportunity to have sex, I would dive head first. Settling with them? I doubt. I value other things in a partner not just their appearance.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/24 01:33 AM
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Nope. The first vibrator was created in 1880. Since then we went from million to billon, in population numbers, 160x bigger. In the 1960s, the vibrator re emerged. Since then the world population doubled. And those babies are not being born by the holy spirit.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/24 06:03 AM
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That ain't going to happen. Androids, dolls, or whatever artificial product is great for disabled men, inmates, those who are unable to have sex due to a situation or are isolated from the society. Many leaders opted for prostitution to become a thing in helping soldiers who returned home and didn't have a wife or to prevent raping. "Weirdos" are not into such things. They want the human touch because it gives them validation and sense of control. Anything artificial and they will reject it. Pas…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/24 05:56 AM
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You are right. No one is perfect and we all have our own issues in life. But I said baggage or trauma from a past relationship or having bad experiences with men. For example being too jelaous, too cold, using mind games, not being as caring or not wanting to do the same things they did in the past to their former partner, because they got cheated, got dumped, got played or didn't heal. It's completely their own choice to do so, but at the same it is also my choice to avoid that and refuse to de…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/24 05:04 PM
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Absolutely. Even if you leave out being physically attractive and being just average looking. There are other factors such as compatibility, because if she doesn't get along with me, or I don't match with her it won't work in the long run and that won't be because of the age. It goes both ways and it is not only about what I find attractive or not. But I'm 28 and I haven't met any woman of my age who didn't have trauma or bad experiences with an ex or men in general. I'm not closed to only a spe…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/24 04:42 PM
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Inexperienced guys are the least desired by most women who have had at least one relationship. So they start and learn from someone who can show them how it is done. They don't go directly for the girls who are most desired. Same way when you learn how to drive or get your first car you start with a car that will give you the confindence behind the wheel. Driving a fancy/sports car requires lots of knowledge, experience. If you don't know what you are doing it will all go to waste.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/24 03:28 PM
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For me one of the top requirements in having a ltr is that my partner needs to have zero baggages from a past relationships or issues from a toxic ex. Women who get exposed to manipulation tactics most likely will use themselves to get revenge on men. Women of my age or older than 25 have had most certainly a bad experience and still have trauma from the past, and for me that is a dealbreaker. That's why I date and prefer more younger girls in the age group 21-24. They are fully grown adults, ha…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/24 03:11 PM
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Because men don't look out for each other and women do. Men don't give emotional support, but men give to each other better advices. If you see all of the advices that are out there for men ranges from bullying in an effort that a guy gets ashamed, reflects and changes his ways for good, to pushing each other to strive for career ambitions, money, workout, appearance, building a strong personality, etc. The advice that women give to each other irl seems more on how to manipulate men. On the inte…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/24 03:01 PM
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I know a few female friends who used to flex that they had dreams and career ambitions and would never have kids unless they were on top. All the time boasting how they were going to build yheir empire and be boss women and have their own brand. One is over 30 now, spent her 20s partying, gave up on education, multiple failed startups(I tried to advise her once but she is one of those persons that gets offended if you tell them that their way is wrong). Currently she is actively on dating apps, …
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/24 10:32 PM
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I'd say most redditors are average, but most of the average guys are not on Reddit at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/24 06:19 PM
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Where?? This sounds shocking. Maybe in the least developed countries. But no way in western countries rape has been illegal for the last 30 years. I know that rape wasn't even allowed since the Roman Empire and the punishment was severe if done to a Roman woman. So people in the 80s could rape anyone and get away just like that? (I got really curious and not arguing your comment)
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/24 05:51 AM
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I believe that dating experience is very personal. You can use what other people did to get laid, but it won't guarantee you anything. That's why people experiment in their teens and early 20s. Or late bloomers. To find what they attract, what works with different types of women and what not. Maybe the basic inteactions are universal, as mating fundamentals are the same as in the most populated areas of the world and in Amazon tribes. But there are alot of other things to consider such as backgr…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/24 04:31 PM
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I didn't mean as physically attracted only. I had sex with women I didn't find attractive at all and I enjoyed it because I was in the mood and also horny lol But when it comes to just more than sex or finding it more attractive that gets my full interest is when I date and meet younger girls. It's like saying if you didn't have a car and someone offered you an old Fiat Panda, would you refuse it? But if you had the opportunity or the option to pick between the Fiat and a new Audi RS7, I doubt y…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/24 04:24 PM
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Most of the dating concepts, and all these pills are quite foreign outside US. I've only been in NY and MA, and I can only assume that it is totally different in Florida, California or Texas. Same thing in Europe. Dating in Germany is totally different than that in Italy or Spain. And there are no pills or a list of things you have to follow to get laid.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/24 12:26 PM
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Don't take it personal. I'd say often times whenever I got rejected it has been because another guy was in between before me. An ex, another earlier date, a crush, etc. Others time I got rejected because she was playing mind games, or because it was my fault for doing something stupid. If you get constantly rejected, you should change something with yourself. Most commonly, change appearance and learn how to play. Learn from the rejections as well. Experiment with everyone you date. And in time …
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/24 11:41 AM
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If you can't be attracted to women in your own age you have a problem and should work on fixing it. Why is it a problem? I'm nearing my 30s and I'm able to date women of my age. I've met many pretty women who were in their 30s. But I find myself more attracted to girls in their early 20s. Most of the couples I know have an age gap. I disagree with OP, and there are many other men who would be happy with an older woman from the young age group, but once again why is that a problem to go for young…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/24 11:22 AM
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This is a very extreme take on dating. Yes personally, I go for the young girls 20-24 year old. More than that I consider too old to date. But that is a preference of mine and I feel naturally attracted to that age group, not because I have any anything against older women. I wouldn't push anyone to divorce their wives to marry younger girls, because that is stupid. Will you do the same thing to your young wife when she hits the wall? If yes, why marry in the first place? There are endless amoun…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/24 11:09 AM
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Very difficult. No one would refuse unlimited attention and validation, and not having chances of commitment won't ever be an issue. Unwanted attention is not the worst thing. Risk of violence is still low, I can defend myself in extreme cases and I would trade all of these for the struggles I had in the past and the new ones I face now. On the other hand I would be totally emasculated. I would have no status and be seen as some woman's bitch. So I'd trade 50 50.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/24 10:32 PM
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like you were blaming the women who had angered them for being the root of the entire situation, That's the perspective before cheating. As I said all they need is the motivation so they wouldn't feel guilty of their actions. "I cheated because it was entirely the fault of her, and she pushed me". Personally, I don't care because it is an individual issue, not a gender issue. People will cheat on their partner even if there's no one to blame and say it was alcohol's fault.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/24 09:51 PM
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You are completely right. But what about the times when guys are led on and in the end got rejected? It is one thing to not give any hints, and another different thing to give hints just toy with them. Boys are told that girls play hard to get so they can see their worth. I've stopped dating or talking to another girl the moment she didn't show any interest or reciprocrate. And they asked me later why I stopped chasing them. If people were direct and honest, such issues wouldn't exist.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/24 03:15 PM
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Give my dad a bottle of wine and he will turn into an ancient greek philosopher
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/24 02:49 PM
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So you can fuck her friends, not her
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/24 02:48 PM
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The thing is most dudes would have sex even with women they are not attracted to, if given the opportunity. I mean for many women they should connect first emotionally and be seduced and showered with attention or chased to a degree before they will have sex. That is why for men it is a very blurry line between friendship and getting romantic. There are rules that nothing is going to happen in the future, but the first moment the guy would find the chance to have sex, he would never reject, unle…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/24 01:13 PM
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Not justifying it. I mentioned that instead of talking their issues, they cheat out of anger. It's a faulty cooping mechanism and very unhealthy. Just wanted to say the other part of the story "women are attracted to men who are taken". Majority of the time they have no clue that they were taken.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/24 11:50 AM
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As a man who has seen all of my married friends or those in ltr, cheating on their partners, I can see the other part of the story. Yes they always hide their private life and keep away from social media, so there is no clue about them being taken. All I can say is that their behavior is what makes them get other girls, not their relationship status. Whenever they have issues or their partners drag them down with their attitude, it pushes them to find other women. They do everything they can to …
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/24 12:42 AM
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You know what I got told by my friends, and especially those two girls when I dated them again? "It's part of the dating experience", "most of the girls are immature in their 20s", "I was at a bad place a year ago that's why I treated you badly", "It's all in the past and we both moved on from it right". All with smiles and happy faces showing me full interest when I had improved in appearance and financially. I didn't tell anyone how it killed me inside with those experiences and my self esteem…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/24 08:19 PM
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Sorry if I'm venting, but I had kept this to myself for quite long now. I've seen some disturbing things about this. When I was 24, I broke up with my then gf who was one of the nicest person I've ever met. I thought every other girl in general was the same as her. How I was wrong! I dated two girls a year later after the break up and I moved on. The first girl was 26 and she had divorced some time ago. She claimed that she had fully healed, but didn't wanted to talk about her past and I didn't …
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/24 01:00 PM
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"You need to love yourself first, for others to love you." Just not the version of your current self.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/24 10:39 AM
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If women forgot their ex or were loyal, didn't have traumas from from past relationships, STDs didn't exist, people wouldn't care about dating history, I think men wouldn't mind the body count and would be happy with them. Men in general(there are exceptions of course) have more life experience in other areas and get more seasoned with age, especially in life struggles or career. And this is why for many men these might be the top reasons why the body count may be a turn off, not because of jela…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/24 07:08 PM
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Most guys are desperate to get laid. Even those who got a girlfirend. Only rich people can afford sex at any time of the day when they want it. The difference is that most men learn not show signs of being desperate. Even guys who show that they are desperate can get a girlfriend, but it will be used against them. The trick is to learn that also women are horny, but they are more needy of the attention than sex. Men can go hours or days with recieving attention, and wouldn't mind if they get sex…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/24 04:51 PM
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I used to believe the same years ago. I never opened any red pill discussion or see what they preach about, or any other pill. But from my experience, all of these traits in women were avoided when I started to date girls who were 5-7 years younger than me. No dishonesty, no trauma from an ex, full of life and energy, offered quite more than just sex, which started to make me question my own previous experience with women. Yes, I met with women of my age who were honest but still had something e…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/24 03:20 PM
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I wouldn't be with someone who doesn't prioritize their family, let alone children. But I wouldn't prioritize a single mom either so I don't care about long term.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/24 03:09 PM
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What they meant is who is dominant and who is submissive. The first is seen as masculine and the other as feminine. For example, I can tell in a lesbian couple who is the dominant one. You know from the tomboy haircut, body language, who is leading the way when holdings hands or giving an arm while the other rests the head on the shoulder. See Ellen Degeneres and her wife and you can tell who is the dominant one. In gay male couples, I have often seen that the dominant one is the guy that looks …
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/24 03:18 AM
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I wasn't talking about the preferences on size. That's totally normal and should be encouraged at women to not settle for less than they are comfortable with. But there are times when women specifically try to hurt a guy by mentioning his size, because they know it's the most common insecurity type among men. Same way a toxic guy can be perfectly happy with the size of his girlfriend's boobs. Instead he tries to emotionally abuse her by mentioning her size being small, with the sole intention to…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/24 05:14 PM
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I don't think a lot of men or women actively insult partners they're already naked with I mean in general. Men and women don't insult each other based on sexual organs. For men it is being broke something that gets them ashamed. But women to women is far more brutal and I get shocked how low many of my female friends can go when it comes to insulting other women. For women more common insults are fat, slut, whore, "you're gonna die alone with cats". Whore/bitch has lots its meaning, and can be a…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/24 05:09 PM
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This statement not only suggests a lack of utility but implies that men with a small penis are, in effect, "useless." This perception has a significant impact on men's self-esteem, exacerbating their insecurities. Are you sure about that? If anything below big dick size would be useless, the whole global population would be merely in a few millions. Men with small dicks would have gone extinct ages ago. Your dick has only one function in sex. To create friction while penetrating and stimulating …
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/24 05:02 PM
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Totally agree but seems that for a lot of men dick size is the most common self esteem issue, far more than being short. And a lot of women can use this insecurity against men to hurt their feelings. Men are less likely to say a bad word about women pussy being too tight or used and feeling it too loose, boobs and ass size. I see and hear that women bully other women on physical features. Man sees a woman naked, man happy.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/24 04:54 PM
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Nearing my 30s, and I gave up dating women of my age. I'm able to date women who are +25, but seems like my preferences have shifted a lot lately. But too much trauma from their past relationships and having all of their energies drained out from life with no goals or clear life directions. It's not just looks, because there are plenty of women who outshine the younger girls or those that get fine with age. In my experience, maturity and character never correlates with age. I used to believe tha…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/24 06:53 AM
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Well...
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/24 03:56 AM
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Please leave me alone. I'd be better off on my own without a woman, man, bear or shark.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/24 03:46 AM
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It's been so rare for me to find a woman who can cook. Or at least try to learn and do a basic cooking.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/24 03:43 AM
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The phase where you ask her how her day has been in hopes that it would lead to a deeper conversation, while she leaves you on delievered for hours because she is getting raw pipped by her ex
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/24 03:41 AM
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Put a 20 year old and a 30 year old in front of a man. Ask him who he wants to have sex with. You know what his real answer is gonna be? Both. Now ask a man, if he had to pick for ltr or marriage, who would he pick, the answer would be most of the time the young girl.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/24 03:38 AM
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Inexperienced in bed, yes it is true that most women from any age would not want someone who doesn't know how to cause sexual tension and satisfy her needs in bed. But as the other speaker said, she wouldn't want someone who is inexperienced in ltr. Some guys are lucky and they settle for a relationship quite early. They will be out of the dating pool for their rest of their lives. Unless they are born in a finacially stable and wealthy family, most of the guys spend their youth in education, ca…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/24 03:28 AM
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With any unspecific stranger? Absolutely no. With the guy you date and have a romantic interest? Yes you should want, like and care about what he wants, likes or needs. Same as he should for you. You might rephrase it that you don't owe anyone anything, but you do those things with your SO because you like it and care. Otherwise it proves the idea that many might women lack empathy towards men, because I see this comment being said IRL quite often.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/24 12:55 AM
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This is one of few reasons why men +28 date girls from the 20-25 age group.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/24 12:50 AM
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Fat women should accept that obesity is a serious condition and people have the right to not want to date a fat woman. Women past their youth should accept that aging is a normal condition and people have the right not to want to date older women. Same goes for many other conditions. Men and women have every right to reject each other for their own personal beliefs. And no one is entitled to hate the other gender about that. I don't mind at all. I've dated overweight women and it wasn't a dealbr…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/24 06:58 PM
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I've dated women of my age only to learn from them. But now nearing my 30s, I've suddenly feel attracted only to the 21-24 age group and see women of my age as grandmas and completely lose interest if they are near my age. Don't know why but I can't force my preferences.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/24 01:52 AM
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The trees are not known for leading men on only to end up saying things like "you are a nice person, but I can't be with you now. I need space. It's not you, it's me." to save face. A tree will stay in your garden and not hop in to your friends yard when you are not around. And a tree won't say "nothing it's fine" and stop producing oxygen for a day until you figure it out with psychic abilities what is wrong.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/24 02:18 PM
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This is true. Young men are lied by the social media that if they follow certain steps they will get every kind of woman they want. Having good looks, status or money can make you more desirable, chances are you are going to attract only a few women, not all of them. You need to be exceptional to recieve more desire and attention.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/24 05:18 PM
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Yes but in my experience when I treated the women the same way they did to me, they got really angry and mad. For me that's lack of empathy in the first place.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/24 05:34 PM
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It is cool. But you should be enthusiastic by default about everything in your life. She will notice very quickly that you may be enthusiastic only when you see her and are around her. And that is desperation.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/24 04:36 AM
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It's over even for men when they lose attraction. The difference is that men can have sex with a woman they don't like while being sober. A woman would sleep with a man she is not normally attracted to only if she is really drunk.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/24 08:30 PM
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Being a bad person and having an attractive personality is a scheme done through lovebombing and being exceptionally skilled at reading people to give them what they want. But as I said, personality is not that important. Someone with a boring personality or people in average still attract other people.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/24 07:12 PM
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Marriage is just a contract. Other than that it has been a historical and cultural part of our life. You sign the paper and make it official. There is a reason why you are considered single even if you're in a relationship, as there is no such thing as officially taken. For me, I have no clue what is like to be married. My parents got divorced before I began to talk. My whole understanding of what it is like is from the stories, other relatives and movies, which I assume are just the surface of …
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/24 06:53 PM
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I'd say women hate other women, not men. They despise men for their lifestyle, mindset or hate it when they can't control men, but not the entire gender. Between women it is really a shitshow and very rare for them to have same friendships as men that start from kindergarten and lasts for life.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/24 02:55 PM
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That's because we see everyday examples from our friends and their friends, that you can still date and be in a relationship even if you have a shitty personality. People get away with abusive behavior, if they have game, status or are wealthy. Basic social skills are important in every aspect of life, not only in dating. If someone is good at socialising with women, he is also good with other people whom he doesn't have any romantic interest, just daily situations. I think personality is overra…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/24 07:26 PM
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That's why I have always said that women who have personality disorders or those that belong to the streets are for a fun time, not to settle down. Yet many dudes keep falling for the I can fix her. If you know how to handle them without getting serious for while it lasts it's going to be fun. Otherwise you'll end up getting abused.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/24 07:19 PM
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Prior to the sexual revolution, married sex was about duty and function, not pleasure or love To a certain degree yes. Women had to give birth to as many children as possible because of the high mortality rate in newborns due to diseases, and because of many wars. And yes lot's of time was beacause of the duty to bring two families together. But people have used sex mostly as pleasure. We have the hedonism concept from Ancient Greece. Or the fact that prostitutes have always been around. Women h…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/24 04:03 PM
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My advice would be that you need to actually be direct, honest and communicate what you want and need. Men are not mind readers or toys you can play with for your own ego. The world would be a better place if women actually stopped with gaslighting and told what they want and how they feel without the need of lying or displaying narc behavior.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/24 06:16 AM
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Women are less horny, but need sex just as men. What you are saying is that every sexual act that has happened between a man and a woman has been a rape case. But irl, the most common example, women pick a guy who is flirty and good in bed over a guy who has wealth and is nice but doesn't initiate sex. If women didn't need sex, the whole human population would come to an end.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/24 06:10 AM
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Really looking forward to meet a woman who has empathy towards men and is not manipulative.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/24 05:16 AM
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The condition is sex as well for women. But add to that good looks, status, wealth, constant attention and validation. And even then it is not guaranteed that a woman will love a man who provides these things for a long time.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/24 05:14 AM
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That's why I leave first😂
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/24 05:06 AM
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If you do it first, be in control by not leaving room to be manipulated, you won't have any problems. These little things or shit tests are done for two reasons. To give women an ego boost that they are so smart and above the guy they are dating, and also to test you for how long can you endure the abuse. It starts as a joke, only to develope into full abuse and later she walks over you. It's a power struggle most of the time, so if you want to play you need to lead and not accept anything, even…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/24 04:57 AM
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I find it very hard too to believe that women in general don't have ulterior motives. Not that they have any bad intentions. Just oblivious by default. I've heard many girls tell me that not everything that they say has ulterior motives, but that just proved my idea that most of the time they do. Of course it is not all of the time, yet it is enough. I'm always open to find a woman who is straightforward and honest. But I'd rather be wrong and be it my fault, than being gaslighted and manipulate…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/24 04:51 AM
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I feel the same. I hate it that OF is not seen as predatory. A famous person can get cancelled or shamed for being labelled as a predator. For example Leo DiCaprio got ridiculed and shamed all over the social media and called a predator for dating women below the age of 25 because that's the age when the female brain is fully developed(before that girls don't even have a brain and function with Plankton from Spongebong commanding them from the inside of their skull). But many women have become f…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/24 03:05 PM
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Every rejection feels like an embarrasment for the first 5 seconds. Then it's not a big deal and move on to the next one. For me the issue was not the rejection itself, but being led on. I mean when I was in my early 20s and less experienced I fell a few times for that. Now I'm just direct from the start and put very little effort. It works.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/24 12:01 PM
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That's because it is the most effective way to get a girl. Being extra nice and showering her with affection, care and attention until she catches feelings and it becomes a daily condition. A woman would choose a normal average looking guy who makes her desired, is good at flirting and in bed, over a guy who's ticks all of the boxes such as being rich and stable, but is dismissive and doesn't initate desire or build up tension. Then bonding through sex. After that you can do whatever you want in…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/24 08:51 PM
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Depends on your partner. If the other party tells you or show signs they are uncomfortable with dirty talking, drop it. Don't be afraid to sound cringe or use cliche phrases. The point of dirty talking is to have fun, be playful and build up the tension. Without it, sex will be just a few shots or not happen at all. For example make situations sexual once in a while, "I'm eating dinner right now." - "I'm eating dinner too, but I'm not full, I want to eat you too." Or if being asked, "How do I lo…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/24 08:13 PM
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As a man, I really don't know but I play along each time. You should know that each woman is different and you have to communicate to find that out or make funny kinky games. First, you need to set the vibe and build tension. Then you should flirt in a dirty way. So when you see her, it won't be awkward with both of you saying "what now should we make out or undress directly?" But there are plenty of other women who don't prefer dirty and are into vanilla stuff. Foreplay is the most important pa…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/24 07:53 PM
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I'm incapable of finding love as well. I feel like I'm doomed. But I have accepted that and I enjoy dating and meeting new people, even though I know it's not going to work in the end because of me or the other person. But I've never thought that only a type of women deserve to marry. I root for every stranger couple that I see on the street if they are happy and enjoying each other company.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/24 02:02 AM
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The issue is that our generation of the 90s early 2000s kids is facing a new modern world. The previous generations had a default life, dating and marrying on sight before the age of 30. I'm nearing the 30s and I'm still unstable in my life, let alone thinking to create a family. All of my friends are not single but for them marriage is a distant future. I meet foreigners on daily basis, and they seem to be in the same position even though of the different culture and mentality. It is very uncer…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/24 01:37 AM
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I don't find myself in neither of those pills. What you want is personal and I hope you really find what you are looking for. What I meant is that you can't do all of these things you've mentioned with the wrong partner. And then complain why it didn't work out. And many people fail to see that. Red Pill teaches men that if they follow certain principles they will get laid with every woman they want. Which is untrue for that same reason, you can't get every kind of woman especially those that do…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/24 01:15 AM
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I think most men can remember a young girl or two from high school that always was in dangerous situations with dangerous people and wondered how they made it out. It isn't a mystery. I'd think more if how they made it out without being pregnant a few months later. I won't go to detail about the man or bear in the forest thing but they say that while breaking up relationships because they want to go to clubs when there's nothing but the horniest drunkest least control men there. That's what they…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/24 10:53 PM
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That is why it is best to not chase and settle for a relationship, but to focus on becoming successful and have casual flings. Dating should be fun not something stressful. Men really fall for women that belong to the streets instead of using them for fun. Then cry about it. Why give a relationship to someone that is not loyal and doesn't intent to? If they are going to cheat, cheat first, dump them and move on to the next one.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/24 09:56 PM
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They say women get attracted to a man that is taken. I'd say it may be true, but one of the main reasons is that plenty of women become such a pain in the ass and draining that drives men to go and cheat. The motivation is at all times high to find a new partner, and if the side chick proves to be better in everything, especially being his peace of mind, they dump their current partner. Women think that men cheat just out of the blue, when the conversation and the chasing has lasted at least for…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/24 09:46 PM
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I said a humble make up, meaning it is minimal, effortless and less attention seeking. Not that make up makes a person humble or that it is related to being humble. Oppsing the heavy make up. No one is gatekeeping how and what should women put on their face. Everyone is free to not put any at all or going to the extreme to look like a KISS member. Just discussing what looks more attractive to the perspective of the man.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/24 10:40 PM
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I agree, but in todays world everyone is on sale and offering themselves as a product. You go on a date and you have to do some marketing on yourself. You apply for a job and it is the same. You have your own business and you have to make the best to attract costumers. It's never ending and people fall for the facade of high values and avoid those they seem low value.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/24 10:35 PM
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I prefer every type of woman that says yes to me😂 jokes aside, long term no. Low self esteem women require much more effort and energy. Yes getting sex is easy, but the rest of the time would be 24h validation and it's very draining. As a partner I prefer the secure type. But it's been a couple of years that I'm only for casual flings and don't care about the types or how less likely they are to say no. I don't target a specific type of women. If they end up getting their feelings hurt not my re…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/24 07:03 PM
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I'm not a mind reader to figure out others internal issues. An adult is fully responsible on how they act and what they do. I take yes, no, or maybe as they are without thinking much.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/24 06:11 PM
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It was a bait to see how many men would react to show that they still care.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/24 04:01 PM
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Predatory behavior is when you go after certain vulnerable group only, with sole intention to enjoy yourself from exploiting. What I meant is that if you date someone you had no clue they had low self esteem and still go for easy sex, there is nothing wrong with it.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/24 03:22 PM
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Also easy sex. Nothing predatory or abusive about it for as long as both parties consent. Going after a relationship with the intention to abuse is something else.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/24 02:57 PM
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Only the inexperienced ones, especially guys in their early 20s. I've it had it better on finding another girl when I was the one who put the least effort.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/24 12:21 PM
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I agree. But that only happens through seduction and not by being passive. And the guy can leave anytime for another girl at that point.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/24 12:10 PM
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But it may be too late if they haven't done anything with their life. High value goes both ways.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/24 12:08 PM
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She may be forced to be honest by the dark magic powers, but if the answers is yes, it will be a "not anymore" 2 minutes after asking this question. This is the the universal rule told at every man to never ask these kind of questions.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/24 07:16 PM
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Women in here do give honest answers. But irl and in general not so much.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/24 07:12 PM
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I think most men prefer light make up keeping it humble and moderate against heavy daily use of make up. The thing I've learned ages ago is that women don't put make up to attract men. Yes there are certain cases when they want to attract a specific type of guy, by putting a strong red lipstick to appear more sensual and classy, but in general it's not. Make up has been around since the ancient times. The social pressure about appearance comes from other women. I would tell my ex every day how g…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/24 02:22 PM
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I've never heard any of my female friends being threaten. They took pride in rejecting guys. All I've heard from my male friends is that when they got rejected they moved on to the next girl. I've had an ex who told me to break up and I said okay and she went nuts. She went as low as proposing me to stay friends which I told her no it ends here, "I'm the one suppossed to reject you, not you to me, how dare you." She was so hurt and tried to sabotage my next dates and talk shit about me. All beca…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/24 02:05 PM
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This is true only in the early 20s. Men are picky at dating because we can have sex with a woman we don't feel attracted. That's for fun only or to build experience. But when it comes to finding a long term partner with the intent to marry, men are more picky than women. Young, naturally beautiful, elegant, thick, tall, blonde, brunette, less experienced, family oriented, loyal. These are top traits that men get picky about when finding a potential partner. And yes after the 20s men can afford b…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/24 01:05 PM
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Nowadays getting pregnant is no longer something to worry about. Being reserved and selective, yet they still fall the wrong man. Women are passive at the beginning because they hold the upper hand and the power. It's men going to them, not vice versa. A man may not like a woman, but he still initiates everything. A woman may be all over a guy and still won't even talk to him first. Women hold this position until sex happens. After that there is nothing else to offer, unless things get serious. …
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/24 11:17 AM
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All of this freedom and having it easier to find a man, and they still pick the wrong guy. Also boats have been around for more than 2000 years. It is the first time that women choose a partner on wether he owns a boat or not😂
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/24 08:23 PM
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Men would find an average girl very attractive. Women would skip on an average guy if there's someone better looking. Same goes for girls dating guys older than them.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/24 08:16 PM
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Not because of being clingy or needy. Clingy and needy are one of the most common traits in women that have been normalized and are scoially acceptable to a degree. For most guys, dating a girl who displays "normal" clingy behavior is not a dealbreaker or a turn off. It is an expected behavior. The real reason is that women pick up on dating strategies at an early age from their female friends, a family member or other women. They share the "secrets" on how to deal with men. Some give lessons on…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/24 07:33 PM
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I love it when people throw around the argument, "It's evolution. Men were always hunters and that's why they chase." Yes it is true, but men hunted and chased animals, not women. If we stick to these primal ideas, then we should normalize kidnapping women from the rival tribe, rape them and kill them as an offering to gods for a better weather. Having this kind of mentality that men should chase a woman so she will be his partner, it is accepting predatory behavior. They are accepting being a t…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/24 07:19 PM
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This is funny because I know plenty of guys who learn everything from the internet, including how to be a man and act as RP in dating women. I've been in many simple situations with them from opening the beer with a lighter, pouring the beer from the bottle to the glass, to going for a hike in remote places, running, swimming, riding horses or dealing with snowy weather. I swear they had some crazy techniques they learned from YT and TikTok, and they failed ridiculously. One of them told I was n…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/24 01:00 AM
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Of all the people I've known or heard stories from mutual friends, I've only know about two dudes being beta buxes. One is the son of a small airline company CEO, and the other is the son of an automobile factory vice president. They both have married and have children with two of my friends from school and have a noticeable age gap(28 and 35). Both two of these women had an extensive list of boyfriends because they were very hot, but hit the bottom due to poor life choices. And they treat their…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/24 01:18 AM
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Let's make a reverse of roles. If a guy behaves nicely, isn't agressive, takes care of his appearance alot and acts soft or opens up about his feelings is seen as feminine. All of these are percieved as positive traits if not assigned to any gender, and none of these equal a negative image. A masculine women, can be described as being too dominant, focused on a career or money, acts and talks in a rude or rough manner and has an attitude. While none of these traits are percieved as very bad, the…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/24 02:27 AM
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Tl;dr 80/20 rule is bs in dating and only pumped by the blogs discussing romance in early 2010s. Stats can prove that it is false. Economics and mostly how a country is ruled. 20% of the population has power over the rest 80% or owns the land. That's the middle and average point because that principle also states that there are cases of 70:30 and 90:10. In dating that's much untrue. You also have the top 1% of alpha males in many blogs. Those were very popular dating topics in early 2010s but se…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/24 12:21 AM
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I've seen people justify women immature behavior even at 25. "It's normal in the 20s to act like that". Nope, you may lack experience and knowledge, but everyone is a full grown ass adult by the of 18/21 and it's not reasonable to normalize shitty behavior of legally adults. Everyone gets the same educational level and taught the social norms and manners in school. Otherwise everyone would be a shitty person with no exceptions until they reached the age of 25.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/24 11:09 PM
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I'd agree partially and diasgree with other points. Yes you can have babies at the age of 40 but it can increase the risks of having multiple diseases later, such as breast cancer. Also at the age of 40 you may be in great shape and more beautiful than ever aging like fine wine. But life can drag us all down mentally and many won't have the energy to raise kid in the proper way, same as another woman in her 20s or 30s do. Most of the people are done with school and have found a job by the age of…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/24 11:03 PM
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And many other things, someone with a low body count that is emotionally unstable is valued the same as someone with a high body count but emotionally stable. There are a lot of things that make a partner worthy of of a lomg term relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/24 10:08 PM
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Okay but most men really miss the point of status, looks and money. Many of here seem to have the same general idea, that if you have one of those or all of them you can get any woman that you want in the planet. Which is false. Yeah it makes life easier and you won't suffer from dry spells. But it won't guarantee to get the woman of your dreams. And even if you do, you may or may not hold on to the same woman for too long. On the other hand, having game, extraordinary personality and social ski…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/24 05:47 PM
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The main issues men face in LTRs such as being shit tested, having their boundaries stepped over and being gaslight/disrespected is almost always correlated with a vanilla bedroom This is one of the many reasons, but not the main one. Women shit test and put boundaries because they can. If you allow them to do so, they will. But they will never stand by their boundaries or shit test their partner if you take the lead and be in control. Your partner needs to love you more than you to her and need…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/24 02:07 AM
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If you seek this, there are already escorts available in the market. Not everyone can afford escorts or hookers in daily basis, especially guys in their 20s. That's why you see older guys or rich men with them. Also the ego satisfaction for chasing a woman and clapping her is much more fulfilling than being desired. It is part of the game. Pump and dump has the same effect as getting achievements or XPs in a videogame. However, this is not the case. While you may manage to have sex with her, you…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/24 09:02 PM
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I've been in a situation where I saw a couple walking together and then they began to argue. Then out of the blue the woman started to punch the man but he was taller than her and her hands couldn't reach her. Dude got angry and he punched her in the face, kicked her multiple times until she fell to the ground. I saw a police car coming by, stopped and then left. They seemed like regural folks, dressed normally not like drug addicts or pimp and hooker. I mean when the guy fought back I thought w…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/24 08:54 PM
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No not at all. French people are too conservative when it comes to marriages and sharing the life together. I can say the Germans are notorious for being too "extreme" or tolerating when it comes to sexual opinions. I've heard stories from my friends, that their girlfriends would rather accept the cheating part than arguing about them having tattoos or smoking.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/24 01:59 PM
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What do you mean French dating scene? I've lived in France for a few years and I can say that it really depends on where you live. French people are in general the same with each other, if you compare them to Germans, British or Americans. But if you compare the dating scene in Marseille to that in Paris, they are not similiar at all. I lived in Nancy and Dijon and I can say that the modern dating is not a thing even in one of the most open minded society in Europe. While in Paris, the locals ha…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/24 01:54 PM
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Yes, but we all decline. Some women look fabolous at 40, and some like ogres after 25. Some men are in superb shape at 50 and some look like remote island prisoners at 30.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/24 01:23 PM
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How about kebab first. They say loves come from the stomach.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/24 01:13 PM
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I know plenty of women who have never been single for many years but also never commited into a serious relationship. Plenty of them have told me that they need someone to hang out and go on dates because they can't stay alone. Monkey branching is quite common from what I've seen. I don't care for the reasons. When I pumped and dumped, I faced a huge angry reaction on multiple times, even though it was clear that there were was no relationship in sight. I know that the majority of women are not …
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/24 04:54 AM
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Thst's because many women are superficial and want a relationship out of a man to take the benefits from it and get attention and validation. Not to actually be in love with the man they are dating. Pump and dump it's a hit in their fragile ego that they are not relationship material. It's a reality check, but it's easier to blame men than accept it.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/24 04:32 PM
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Read my comment. I respect and have empathy about a few rare people not the gender or every woman I met. I lack empathy bu default and that's why am an asshole. Btw who hurt you?😂
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/24 02:39 PM
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Not necessary. The key is to seduce someone and make them attached at you. During this time you should play your facade and never reveal your flaws. If people can see through, the magic is gone. Once they get hooked, you can show as many as bad traits you want. It will be ignored, unless it is really bad or bizarre.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/24 08:52 AM
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Not for the most part. I have outmost respect and empathy on individual level not the whole gender. For the average woman that I met, they had life on easy mode, described the break up with her ex as the worst part in their life, and some tolerated a lot of bad things from men leaving me wondering and see the truth of who they really are not the facade they try to put with social gaslighting. For these reasons I don't have much of empathy on women as a gender. Anyway this is what I expect from a…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/24 07:33 AM
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There are 3 groups of nice guys. The first are just regural nice guys. They eventually end up with a nice girl. The second are men who are young and inexperienced and don't know how to play the game of dating. Eventually they will get played and change. And there's the infamous group of nice guys who are extremely conditioned men. They have a pathological tendency to remain the same. They think sex happen by having a nice personality and ignore every other possible basic step such as flirting, b…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/24 07:18 AM
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Scumbag, cancer, you're the worse, are you done? As I said I know I'm an asshole and I don't hide it. But I'm not offending anyone. I don't take pride of my actions. And I'm pretty sure I'm not the reason why women are cautious or why they have trust issues. There are far worse people than me who rape, beat, kill and mentally downgrade women just for fun and get away with it. Hope one day you realize that the world is not a fair place and everyone holds a responsibility for themselves not for th…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/24 06:56 AM
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Yet all these screenings and tests that women supposedly make to pick the right partner, fail exactly at the same type of guy they would want to avoid. No wonder why it's so easy to play around with women once you get to see them for who they really are and not what they say they are
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/24 06:39 AM
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Nah this is a woman thing. Years ago when I was broke, no status and fat. I dated a girl who told me she didn't wanted to be seen with me in public because of what other people would say and her reputation. Then when I changed she came back and I told her the same thing to her. I transformed my body into a good physical shape and ditched her for a friend of mine who was shorter and well she was fat. The previous girl went mental when she found out for who I had dumped her. I loved holding hands …
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/24 06:33 AM
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I saw some of the comments, and I can picture the "shit test" angle, but I don't understand how it makes sense here since it doesn't seem the typical testing some women might do before getting into physical intimacy. Shit test or testing a guy has been debunked a long time ago as gaslight. Women telling men that they do these tests to find the perfect partner and not make mistakes. Which is untrue. Shit tests are only reserved for guys that women sense they can toy with them and they start bit b…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/24 11:10 PM
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We're talking about when you know she wants more and you keep it vague for as long as possible to exploit her feelings as much as you can. Is that illegal? Or uncommon? It is part of the dating experience. Yeah yeah I know I'm an asshole. Plenty of other guys that are nice and want a relationship to pick from.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/24 04:51 PM
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Not my responsibility if grown ups don't communicate their needs or feelings. I'm not here to teach other people how to do that. I always ask before and after if what we are doing is okay. If not, then I respect the rejection and walk away. If yes I proceed. It is simple as that. But I don't care if it is casual and then later I find out that the partner caught feelings and wanted a relationship not just sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/24 04:41 PM
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Where I live Tinder or other dating apps are not a thing. Amazing right? Yet people still connect through social media. Plenty on Instagram or Snapchat. Some use TikTok as a dating app where they post themselves to attract others, not as content creators.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/24 09:04 AM
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From my experience, I didn't care for her feelings as long as it was consentual and she said yes. The moment she told me that she didn't want it to be just sex, I didn't push or play games and parted ways. Adults take full responsibility for allowing things that they are in control to say yes or no. As I said I went just for easy sex. Nothing to be proud of or make me harder or less. Just had my share of fun. As a man, would you say no to a woman flirting with just because she is desperate? It's…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/24 08:58 AM
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Easy sex lol
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/24 04:18 AM
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The new generation in Western Europe have gone soft and buying more into that woke bs. In Eastern Europe people have moved on from post communist poverty and it will be a matter of time when they'll become a woke society too because it is cool.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/24 02:11 PM
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Europe is going downhill too in many cities. The Western Europe is riddled with other insane problems and Eastern Europe is catching up to that.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/24 03:45 PM
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When I was younger in my early 20s I talked, befriended and dated girls and women who were older than me. I learned alot from them, but now that I'm nearing my 30s, women of my age or those older than 24 are no longer in my preferences. The women of my age that I dated or that I'm friends with and who are single are pretty boring, have very negative opinions, lots of untreated trauma, becoming ugly and they seem so drained out of life. There's nothing that attracts me in them if I was going to h…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/24 03:21 PM
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Dude you're making such a big deal out of something which is irrelevant in our society. Nothing is fair in this life. You can live your whole life without smoking and doing sports and then end up with lung cancer. You can smoke your whole life and be healthier than someone who doesn't. Same rule goes for dating. No one owes you fairness. Especially in today's age where most of the people are becoming more and more self centered and lack accountability. You should do everything you can to achieve…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/24 12:48 PM
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This. Emotional manipulation or lying is not illegal. In some legal cases it can be used against you but the evidence to prove it is very hard to get. But one person has full responsibility to their actions and there are consequences to that by the social norms.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/24 12:38 PM
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No, because you do it to have fun or please the ego while you're dating someone. Putting effort in basic things is called low effort nowadays because the society has pushed both genders to demand more and have delusional expectations. But if you know how to play,accept that you'll fail because it is part of the dating experience and there's nothing wrong or personal with that, it is worth the effort.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/24 12:32 PM
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Dating is easy if you have money or outstanding good looks. Or both. But yeah if there's one thing universal for men, is that we are simple and we don't pick things based on their difficulties or be happy only if things are hard. Life is difficult itself, why add more to it.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/24 01:08 AM
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Not horrible. Just had to learn the hard way.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/24 11:13 PM
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For me it was simply lack of experience in dating. I was not doing well and my ex exploited that. It was my first time with a toxic relationship and I was unfamiliar with how that kind of women behave as I was too young. I stayed in that relationship because I was in denial. Questioning myself that if I lost her I wouldn't be able to find another girlfriend. I mean no more sex and no more someone to be intimate with even though I wasn't in love with her. Then I was having a rough day and she tri…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/24 02:35 AM
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This is personal I guess. But I have heard from my female friends that they cried daily, were depressed and it was one of the worst times in their life when they went for a couple of months alone without socializing, such as when they had to move out to a different country or go to university in an another city. I was laughing inside because going alone for 2-3 months and calling it one of the worst periods in your life because you lack the attention from other people is truly ridiculous, like a…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/24 05:06 PM
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Girls can be mean but most girls grow out of that Girls can be kind and sweet at any age even when they are too immature or inexperienced. People like that never grow up mentally and emotionally.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/24 03:43 AM
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I've met a few men who had their hand cut in an accident and they were all married and living a normal simple life. Some of them had adopted to the modern support tools and prosthesis, while the other didn't care. Everyone would notice it when they meet you and feel pitty at first, but they'll get used to it. The truth is, even if you had your hand, they would have found another way to bring you down and hurt your feelings so don't take it personal. Men who are in their best shape stilk complain…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/24 03:40 AM
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They got played and are avenging their ex on someone who's vulnerable. Many women are cruel at each other for the slightest physical flaw, they wouldn't care less on men.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/24 03:32 AM
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This is the same for ugly or hot women. Got nothing to do with their appearance on how they treat other people. Delusions, wrong mentality and a fragile ego make most of the issues for both genders.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/24 06:13 PM
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There are two issues with that in recent times. Nothing new about it. It's been like this for ages. some woman in a cave in year 40000 BC "Man weak, man no muscles, man no attractive. He no babies me. Man strong, man muscles, he food, he protection, man attractive. Me mate him, many babies." First issue, people wanting to be loved in an unatural way which is forced. From history, there are millions of examples where both men and women who were of a low status and were not that attractive seduced…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/24 02:34 PM
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As a man I don't care about the lives of the celebrities. But I follow quite alot athletes from my favorite team, transfer rumours, journalists, youtubers, chefs, actors. I have a weak spot for interviews or host shows and I get entertained from funny celebrities telling personal life stories. I completely avoid the part when they try to influence people on a subject which is outside their job.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/24 02:08 PM
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I haven't seen any videos about them on social media because I don't use TikTok but I see what you mean. Single moms at 30 it's rare irl from what I've seen. But I know plenty of women from my female friends to exes who are in their 30s or late 20s, exhibiting this behavior. They use it as a trap because they are not recieving same attention from men as they were and think they can still pull someone who's looking for a serious relationship. I had friend crying in front of everyone because she h…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/24 04:54 PM
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Nothing wrong with being nice. Actually people who are percieved as bad boys or assholes have a soft side and act very nice at the initial stage when dating someone. This is something that gets hidden to not ruin their reputation. The difference between nice guys and bad boys is that the first are conditioned. They never initiate sex, flirt or build up tension. They believe in the fantasy that women would be physically attracted to them based on their nice personality. When that doesn't happen a…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/24 11:00 AM
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Depends. Everybody loves to chase because it is thrilling and gives you boost. But women's currency is recieving attention. They get a high when multiple men chase one and it is easier than doing the chasing. The times when women would chase a guy is when another woman enters the competition to get their guy. Or when a man is rich and has everything. But even then, women do the chasing part in a passive way, a seductive game.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/24 10:52 AM
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As I said this is true for inexperienced men, it doesn't matter the age. That's why toxic women pick on these guys because they know they don't know how to play and can be easily manipulated. Sugar daddies are aware that money is the only thing that the women are attracted to them but they are in control of everything for as long as they pay. "Love" comes next and then they marry.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/24 05:12 PM
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I'd say if you wait 3 days, chances are she might find another guy who won't wait and ghost you while you were waiting. If you want to have sex, just do everything you can because of your needs, please the ego and to have a fun time, whatever your reasons. Rules are simply conditions to make you stop and there are no consequences if you break them, only gains.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/24 03:21 PM
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Inexperienced men who are new to the game, especially guys younger than 25 allow themselves to be used by women just to get sex. Then they learn how to use women and pick up on how to be manipulative or get rich enough to have any woman they want without doing anything. Age which is often related with the experience has a huge impact on this.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/24 03:07 PM
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B I guess. For A, expecting me to move with her far away for her career but not doing the same thing for me is a huge dealbreaker. Getting offended if I pay is another minus. But I'd say both are unrealistic types of women.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/24 11:49 AM
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He was not in the military at the time and was already retired when I met him. He didn't come into my country with the intention to marry but he had already a deal with his girlfriend 40 years younger than him to give her an American passport in exchange of a nice time and her taking care of him since he had no relatives. I'd say it was a honest deal without exploiting each other.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/24 10:48 PM
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Not horrible in amy sense. Perhaps they may be desperate in their own country. And the demand for passport bros is high, it's not like they are luring foreign women and smuggling them into the West. There are rapists, pedos, human traffickers, organizers of ring prostitution for the rich people which are horrible people even beyond their crimes. Many years ago I met a Vietnam veteran marine back in my country in Eastern Europe. He was on a diplomatic mission for two years. He was 70 years old an…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/24 02:46 AM
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Depends on the woman though. Would you reject Jennifer Aniston even though she is 55, beyond her prime(she has aged like a fine wine but still her youthful look is long gone) and you know she dated a married lots of guys? I understand that this true for a lot of women that they have nothing to offer in the long term, but plenty of them who can give you much more than youth.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/24 11:59 AM
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The same goes for men. If you're in the top 20% you have more access to other women, and even when they get married they would cheat. Not all men but it is quite common. The wall is something I've learned from the other women. There are exceptions, but I've seen a lot of women from my social circle that worry alot about not finding a man to marry in their late 20s because the attention they would get in daily basis dropped to only a few men they didn't like as partners. Some settled and some bel…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/24 11:52 AM
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Make it age gap per capita then
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/24 02:57 AM
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There's no slowly or too fast. You need to show that you truly want her. Flirt. Dirty talking. Build up tension. Show that you care. Stuff like that. Rushing things without building any connection, not showing affection or waiting for things to work out on themselves is what will make you lose someone. After sex is where the bonding part comes.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/24 02:54 AM
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Attention. During prime years plenty of women will recieve attention from countless of men. And they would pick the best options. The top options of men are generally into pump and dump. Some are lucky to find the "true love" and have a future. Those who don't will continue to have fun. Once they hit the wall, they will lose the number of men chasing them and that's when they will settle with whoever from the bottom 80%.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/24 02:49 AM
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Paying the bill is like leaving a tip for sex. But you actually have to put a game or pay a few more like driving her around, trips, gifts or dinners. If she doesn't reciprocrate you habe been scammed. If the relationship is less materislistic and more about vibes and sentimental, you'll just have to pay less. But still you have to leave a tip. And that is paying the coffee. It's symbolic and nothing harmful. Don't know why people are making such a big deal for splitting the money, like you are …
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/24 09:41 PM
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Who says men are forced or expected to do these things. Most of the time these are shit test to condition men, while those who don't care and go to fulfill their desires get a pass. Of course there are few unwritten rules we have to follow, but I put myself first and never make a priority what she expects from me. Rejection is part of the game and it shouldn't worry any men if it it is 99% chance of failure. Plenty of other women around to try your luck. I've never had in my life a moment where …
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/24 09:32 PM
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Depends. In general, women standarts are totally related to the attention they get from men, the lifestyle her ex introduced into and traumas from cheating or being dumped. The more she gets attention from men, the more her mind is in the streets and won't settle and make up unrealistic standarts to save face and not look in a negative way when she rejects someone. But when she hits the wall and the attention drops, suddenly she becomes available, ready for a relationship and forgets about the s…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/24 09:14 PM
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I can say that when I dumped other women, their reaction was quite poor and it took me months to finally never hear from them. When I got dumped I felt sad for a day or a week than I moved on. Again their reaction was quite "interesting" after they dumped. They went mad and couldn't leave me alone when I completely ignored them after the break up. Most recently I dated a girl for two months. She ghosted me unexpectedly without a warning. I didn't feel anything and quickly started dating another …
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/24 02:31 AM
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I meant about the narcissism that has spread on both genders in modern times. Women who offer sex for luxury or men who pay for sugar babies know what they are doing and don't need to manipulate each other because it's just a transaction just like the rest.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/24 09:56 AM
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It's as old as time, and plenty of them have their names on history books. From Cleopatra to Josephine. But it was less widespread due to the lack of widespread information and influence of social media. Nowadays most of the toxic traits are enhanced by the internet, even though the root of a toxic personality are the same as they were for centuries. I'd say the real issue between the past and today, is that now people have an option to change and recover from their trauma. Yet they willingly re…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/24 02:17 AM
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The typical, lovebombing one person until they get the bait and from then on, only their target has feelings and gets attached. Very common nowadays.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/24 12:49 AM
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The woman in front of you gets offended if you offer her a solution. In her mind you are suggesting that she is worthless of dealing herself with the problem and you are trying to be better than her by offering the solution on how to fix things. Often times the solution to your partner would be to have a romantic time and release her stress(yes I know this sounds like something out of porn but still works irl), than let her fix her problem, rather than finding the actual solution. As one other c…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/24 09:55 PM
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Or are confused on how to play.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/24 09:44 PM
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Plenty of modern prostitution models, from OF models to women who date for money/materials and rich men in exchange of sex. Not everyone is like this but the society has moved on from connection for intimacy in general. And the rise of narcissism which makes emotional connection only one sided.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/24 09:43 PM
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From what I've seen even the women who are not emotionally available still seek a relationship or at least the benefits of it. It's an ego thing and that's why a man needs to lie his way to bed. Or the women who have past traumas from their ex and want to avenge on men. So it is better to manipulate than being manipulated. Nowadays sharing the same interests and intentions is rare.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/24 12:51 PM
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Expressing not being comfortable with something is healthy and being assertive. Doing it in a proper correct way and not becoming angry about it. That's the opposite of insecurity. Insecurity would be if people throw tantrums or react in a negative way.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/24 10:55 AM
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Actually no. Bad boys are better at seducing. They chase their target and lovebomb her until she gets the bait. But they also flirt and build up sexual tension. Then the games begin and do whatever they want. People often ignore the first part and love to glorify the other part where women have a soft spot for bad guys. What the modern nice guys lack is that they never build tension, make sex happen, cross boundaries to chase the girl because those are seen as bad and disrespectful. They think l…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/24 09:24 AM
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The number of women who stay with abusive men because they don't believe they can do better suggests otherwise When they get the bait or it's their first true relationship. After that suddenly there are "standarts".
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/24 02:02 PM
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I'd say women are better at this. No matter how hot you are, how rich, how nice or how much you satisfy her. If you don't give her what she wants(mostly attention and validation) she'll quickly get over you and find another dude. Men in general would stay with a woman they find attractive if she does things they don't like. And this leads the way for manipulation and abuse.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/24 08:55 AM
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If they are in a high position they have enough power to keep their private life a secret. Depends on their influence.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/24 03:29 AM
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Not taking care of yourself is not seen as a manly thing or that common. I'd say people outside of the internet who don't maintain their appearance are not socially accepted anywhere. Today most of the workplace are filled with lots of people and many of them are in closed spaces, so the proper hygiene is a must. Even in jobs that are seen as associated with men such as military, construction, security, the workers should go through the hygiene routine on daily basis.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/24 03:27 AM
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Many actors have admitted that they cheated with other colleagues. Plenty of politicians have been caught in affairs with their secretary. Or CEOs with other people from common ground. I'd say that the only time really high status men that would mess with women they don't have anything in common would be in parties with escorts and hookers.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/24 03:17 AM
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Taking accountability when being wrong, having a stable emotional level and not being driven by random emotions, patience, loyalty when things go rough, appreciative, not holding grudges, having a strong mind and not changing opinions every minute, being direct and not playing games or manipulative. Many of these traits are seen as masculine or desired in men but it goes both ways and they make a woman very attractive for having them. Sadly nowadays you'll be delusional if you seek these traits …
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/24 03:10 AM
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Beauty care routines are a a marketing thing adressed exclusively at women. But as a man and from what I've seen from the others we really take care of our hygiene. Showering every morning or twice a day during hot summer days, cleaning the face and the body with soap, creme for the hands and the face when it gets too cold, using deodorant sticks. I'd say in the last 10 years it has also been added the products to care about beards while keeping it trimmed. That's all a man needs.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/24 11:16 PM
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This. Some people take it personally and make it look like they are the victims of rejection. It screams immaturity. There are rejections which are really painful, especially if there is something ashaming about it. If they knew how plenty of times the dudes who get the chick have failed in their life for the most stupid reasons trying to date a girl, they would become better at reflecting on themselves.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/24 12:48 AM
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That's good for you. It's best to avoid having anything romantic with someone you do business with. But it's a general thing, most people have sex with other people in common enviroment. For example in college, students will have sex with other students. Nurses who are infamous for cheating, do so with other hospital members. You can find someone from another background which is unrelated to your workplace or lifestyle. But in daily basis, people are brought together by common things.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/24 11:32 PM
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High status men are not into the general hookup culture. They go into hookups but not in the same way another avarage men does. For example, someone who has achieved a high status is not around dating apps, hitting random girls in public or clubbing. Let's say a man is the director/manager/CEO of a successful company. He is always in meetings, dinners and events. His reach is within his environment. He will bang the lady from the front office dealing with the funds, his assistant, sometimes busi…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/24 03:35 AM
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Men who actually want and are into casual sex only, get it, with or without changes in the society.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/24 03:26 AM
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Which gender treats the other worse is not a gender issue ironically. People who treat the other gender in a bad way, have internal issues. Some because of parental issues, some have unresolved traumas from an ex and try to take revenge or create the idea all men/women are the same. So it is on the same level. Men get a bad reputation for being abusive partners through physical violence and being controlling. Women get a bad reputation for manipulating men and using psychological violence. But I…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/24 03:17 AM
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Not even the slightest. Wealth, status, career achievements and records are what gives a man self worth and being called successful. A rich man who has sex with different women every day may be on the same sexual level as someone who is poor and pays for cheap hookers in Southeastern Asia. Who would you call successful? Most average dudes who work random low pay jobs have more bodies than Elon Musk or Jeff Bezos combined. Lots of great historical figures that will be remembered for ages but were…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/24 04:25 PM
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Yes but this should much later. At the initial phase it's the guy who should lovebomb her and show the interest, build up tension and chase her until she falls for it. Not a trick or how to manipulate women. This is universal for the most animals, where the male has to chase and show off their mating skills or colors. It's different for all of the species but the basis and the goal is the same, to produce offsprings and provide for them. So yeah she has to like you more, but after you seduced he…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/24 11:12 AM
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I think the main reason why there is a stigma is because of ego. As a young man you get a personal fulfillment and ego boost when you score on women by just playing games. Then there are sugar daddys who want to marry virgin women because of ego as well. There'sno free sex but our brain gets a high by playing, chasing and seducing. If ypu pay for sex it is just physical.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/24 05:03 PM
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I've been without a job for the past year, managing to make money on random gigs and daily works(still registered as unemployed). Enough to get me by, but not enough to support a relationship, stay at a place where I can live alone, own a car, etc. I'm average at best. Yet I've been on lots of dates and situationships in the last months which didn't work because I'm a mess and not because of my financial status. The only downside is that I can't date supermodels like Kate Upton or support Easter…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/24 01:14 AM
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Yes. Porn actually helps alot. Especially if you're having trouble to find new things or with foreplay.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/24 01:07 AM
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Everyone got their own type of how to attract people. Attraction happens on many levels, not just in dating. You apply for a job interview and your first thought is about making everything right and how to attract your possible future employer. Or you need costumers for your startup so ypu have to attract lots of them. People think thst attraction is just some invisible force or a combination of charisma, status, appearance and money to seduce partners into sex. But that is a very limited mindse…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/24 03:11 AM
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There are plenty of times when both parties make their intentions clear, but lie and do the opposite behind the back. And other times, when men and women prey on inexperienced people to lure them into a promising relationship through lovebombs and mind games. That's how situationships happen. Quite common in early 20s.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/24 03:04 AM
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Depends on the person. A woman who's into monogamy and LTR would back away and leave him for good as soon as she sees that. A woman who's for the streets, would go on dating multiple of other men behind his back even if she agrees to explicit dating.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/24 03:00 AM
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It matters but not at the level it is percieved. People who have micropenis in the Western countries are very few and it is an uncommon condition. Men from mongoloid race are notorious for being the smallest, but they fall within their meets with women from their same group. Otherwise China wouldn't have more than a billion ofpopulation if "all women like it big". Now actual men with micropenis can always resort to other means of penetration using toys, penis sheath, etc and yes there are women …
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/24 04:02 AM
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I doubt it has anything to do with standarts. I think the "ick" is a modern creative way to reject another person. Women have been criticized for being vague when calling it quits and they found the "ick" to save face and give a specific reason. The ick is not the real reason, it's just the final argument. People still hate it though, because it is immature and dishonest way. For example general dealbreakers are lack of hygiene, lack of skills, no life goals, unkept appearance etc. These things …
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/24 12:41 AM
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My conspiracy theory is that everything is done in purpose to halt further growth in global population. The trends in the West are catching up on the other countries. It's not just America. See for example how people like Amdrew Tate and the others are pushing to abandon the West and go and marry in East Asia or East Europe. Like a cancer spreading out. All of these online posts pushing both genders to stray away from each other. Social media is accessible the same as in US to Africa and Asia. I…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/24 09:11 PM
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I've never heard in my life girlfriend zone, but I assume it is just fwbs with few extra steps. I've never heard other men use it as a term or a concept. But something I've done myself, was just for sex but had to fake a relationship because she didn't do any casual hookups or booty calls. She wasn't serious about me either, and used me as a rebound or whatever but I didn't care. For as long as we had sex I was there to chase her and fake my whole personality. Obviously it didn't last long. Mayb…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/24 09:03 PM
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Not quite. There is a scientific explanation to this, known as Coolidge Effect. Observed in many male animals including humans, they get a sexual renewal when they are introduced to another female. That is why some couples watch porn in between the rounds, to hijack erection post nut. Actual feelings happen from the start. We all have a map in the back of our minds on what we find attractive or not. If it's a match, feelings are devoloped quite fast. But bomding happens over time.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/24 02:41 PM
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Yes - Being a "nice guy" doesn't automatically entitle you to sex. Being truly a nice person means not having to say "but I'm a nice person!!!" The internet loves to defend the fantasy that "nice guys are people with a very nice personality and a nice life. The only thing that is missing is finding a partner. But that it is impossible because women love assholes and being abused." But everyone knows someone who is like this, the typical nice guy. And we all know that they are not that nice at al…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/24 07:22 AM
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The main issue is with men who believe that being nice to the others would get them what they want, or that makes them good people. Actual nice guys are nice to themselves before being to the others. They balance the treatment for their own good and the others. Bad guys are only nice to themselves, and well asshole to the others. "Nice guys" are conditioned to be nice only to the others and put themselves last. If you scratch beneath the surface, nice guys struggle not only with women but basica…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/24 06:41 AM
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5 year gap is normal, but still a gap. A 25 year old guy is more experienced than a girl who's 20. Or a man in his early 30s is far more desired than a 25 year old guy by women in their mid 20s(presumably they have matured by then).
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/24 05:39 AM
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It's funny because men in general wouldn't lose interest if the girl they started dating was being just nice, friendly and waiting for sex after a month or if their SO wouldn't be in the mood for a period of time. But women would lose interest in an instant if a guy they are dating takes too long(a few days) to make the moves and mention sex or build up tension. If you as a man go through a month not being in the mood for sex, she may resort to other guys to fulfil her needs. We are both equally…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/24 05:30 AM
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Could you argue that both M and P are equally attractive to any given woman because their N-count is identical? M would be successful with women from his business meetings, workplace and other businesswomen from his circle. P would be seen as an outcast from women who are attracted to a businesman, but the skills are there forever and he could pull many women from other aspects of life, such as waitresses, college students with multiple failed exams or low life women. I've seen more single men o…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/24 05:02 AM
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Just curious, why don't people from this sub date each other? It would be a great idea to use it as a tinder but based on personality traits, every color pills mindsets, or the lost souls who are clueless about modern dating. Most of you live in the US and maybe in nearby cities. And most of the women or men in this sub are more interested in LTR. All the people who are promiscuous don't use Reddit, because they are too busy with their lives and activities.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/24 04:54 AM
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Totally agree when it is mutual, fully and clearly communicated and both of you respect the boundaries of what is accepted and what not. But most of the issues happen when relationships are one sided. Controlling and abusive partners that are fine doing it themselves, but not okay when the other partner does it. Or when it is blindsided, when both of them agree about boundaries, but one will break the rules behind the back in full secrecy. Which is very common nowadays and people are pushing to …
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/24 05:33 PM
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I agree. But the issue with this is that you'll be more likely to meet a girl with lots of issues and a broken personality, especially in your 20s. Men really need to learn to stop playing captain save the hoes and think of them as serious partners. Reserve the niceness after you'll marry.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/24 05:16 PM
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Where did I say it is okay for men but not women. My point is within the relationship, men tend to be straightforward while women little to not at all. Cold treatment and saying "it's fine" when asked what is wrong, it is done by both genders, but it is also what women are notorious for.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/24 05:11 PM
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There are no negatives. Worst thing to happen she would end the friendship. Nothing lost but a good opportunity
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/24 04:55 PM
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No, but that is something I witnessed from my friends being in a relationship, and myself.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/24 04:51 PM
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Men use "it's fine" when they are struggling at work, past traumas, or fear the future in general. But if there is an issue within the relationship or something that it is really bothering, men tend to be straightforward. With the women in general it is the opposite. Trauma dumps, endlessly talking about the smallest issues at work, how they got their heart broken that one time her friends made plans without her. But if something bothers them in the relationship, they start to act distant and co…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/24 04:50 PM
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But wandering around the house huffing and puffing about whatever it is then saying you're "fine" obviously isn't working to make anyone feel better. And at worst, it's going to make everyone in the house miserable. This is something women are notorious for, not men. Men are expected to say it's fine when things are not that well because we are suppossed to fix it in silence. But men in general are straightforward about a serious issue or when something is off. While women on the other hand beli…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/24 03:05 PM
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Sometimes it is either a shit test or trying to see your weakness so it can be abused and used against you. These are the possibilities. But in a healthy relationship, both sides would be vulnerable to each other and be open. But even then, as a general rule and by society norms, men should open and be vulnerable at a very much later stage when they are fully convinced with time that their SO has totally bonded with them. Until then you need to mask any kind of insecurities, fears or moments of …
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/24 02:57 PM
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Rami Malek has a funny story about him being called that Arab guy before becoming famous, and after that when people learned about his heritage he was this exotic man.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/24 05:59 AM
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Where I come from people jog alot. But when it is set as a meet up, or a date with someone you just met, it is called "jogging"(and chill.)
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/24 05:56 AM
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Would you be okay if your boyfriend told you he hangs out often with girls he slept in the past?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/24 05:50 AM
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"If he does this dump his ass, you deserve better queen. You'll find someone else who knows your worth." But if she does it and you're not okay with it, you're the insecure and controlling abusive boyfriend.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/24 05:42 AM
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Men who are brainwashed and easily manipulated would accept it. "You're just insecure, it was a one time thing, nothing serious etc" is gaslighting 1on1. It's a huge dealbreaker for many women if you have close female friends let alone being still friends with someone you slept with. Same thing about men not wanting the past to be present.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/24 05:38 AM
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Because each generation goes back to its roots after experimenting with new ideas and movements. Turns out life is not all flowers and great if you follow some rules made up by people who are not experts. The hippies were great in making new changes to the society, but it didn't last because taking LSD and hedonism are not going to make the world a better place. And people start to abuse. Same as with modern feminism, BLM or the recent cancel culture. Women and men are both understanding that it…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/24 05:14 AM
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At this point, they are being passed around
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/24 11:22 PM
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Well most men are not raised in brothels and learn all of the crazy stuff as one comedian said, so for the most they will suck in bed in their early 20s until they create experience.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/24 12:47 AM
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I mean you're not wrong, but I'm not talking about bad sex. You can be the best to someone, and at the bottom of the list for someone else. Personally, I think sex becomes better and the best with time, communication and with someone you can bond. Like an old radio that you need to rotate the buttons a few times until you hit the right frequency. But for some people they wamt their partner to come with a pre installed sexual experience and know how to satisfy the needs without communicating much…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/24 10:51 PM
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For me and from what I've heard from other men sex is sex. If we perform bad or the partner just plays the starfish we are okay with it and say "i still clapped". So it's not an issue at first. If you're her first and her last, there's no one else to be compared with. But with experienced women, it may become a chore or a dealbreaker if you're not in her top 3 at least. I mean in a LTR or marriage a few bad nights in bed are okay, but what if sex is nowhere near her best she ever got and it does…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/24 10:14 PM
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I'd say it is not what it used to be like 10-20 years ago. I lived in the US for a year and I can say that most of the dating culture is quite similiar in Albania because of the mainstream media. The main differencies are that Tinder is not a thing at all, people don't show much of affection in open public, dating is still kept secret until things become serious and casual hookups are not accepted. But with the younger generations born after 2000 I think it will be much more "westernized".
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/24 06:24 PM
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Women who go clubbing usually want to find a partner that is much wealthier than them. Casual dating is not largely accepted. But men who actually are rich and want to settle down are rare.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/24 05:19 PM
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Albania
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/24 05:12 PM
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People have each their own flaws and fully matured people are rare. It's not about emotional maturity, but stability. A guy in his early 20s wants to play video games, hang out with friends, grind on different jobs, follow higher education. On the other hand he lacks both life experience and a stable life.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/24 05:04 PM
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In my country it is the opposite. A huge number of men from the age group 18-30 have immigrated, leaving behind a population full of women and and older generations. Yet there is still a problem in violence and society as a whole. During my university, we were 4 boys and 20 girls in our class. In other departments there were classes with no boys at all. In most places such as restaurants, coffee shops or retail stores the staff is made up by women. Even in IT services, which used to be totally d…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/24 02:54 PM
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I'd like to joke with my female friends that they are lucky that men only want sex, compared to them that they want sex, a castle for a home, personal jet aircraft, a yacht, unlimited shopping money, eating on fancy restaurants and many more. See it this way. Women want sex too same as men. It is one of the most important things that makes us bond in a relationship, or at least fulfil our needs and have a good time. When they talk and date a guy and see that they don't advance, make them feel va…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/24 07:51 PM
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You've acknowledged that "nice guys" aren't nicer than "Chads". They're just uglier, that's the only difference. Got nothing to do with appearance, although appearance itself is important. "Nice guys" love to rant about bad boys and how women love them because they treat them like shit. Which is far from the truth and they like to ignore the fact that "bad boys" are actually extremely nice to women in the talking phase. What sets the two apart, is that "bad boys" or anyone who goes along well wi…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/24 07:31 PM
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I don't do shit tests on my own. I just make a short form of interrogation disguised as simple questions early on when I meet someone. Topics such as the relationship with their parents, how they treat other people of non interest to them, their friendships especially with male friends, are they moody or emotionally stable, etc. Then compare the answers with her real actions. I'm just curious as it is my job to interview people and investigate. The women I've met who never shit tested me have be…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/24 07:08 PM
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I don't have tiktok so I have no clue about the viral trends, but IRL the majority of women I dated at some point tried to shit test me. When I did the same to them, they got really mad. They all were unique and had different personalities, but they all had in common doing tests to see a reaction out of me. And it is just not me, but with everyone else around me. It's just a game women play.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/24 04:29 PM
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It's not about creating fake scenarios to see a reaction. It's just simple questions, but in interrogation style that help to build a profile. These are done early on to get a sense of a woman you're dealing with. These questions involve knowing about the relationship with parents, friendships, hobbies, life goals, availability. Once we have the answers we start to compare with he real life situations. For example if she said that she has a great relationship with her family, but she never conta…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/24 04:24 PM
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I don't mind doing this. In fact it is an urge in me to handle housework from peeling things, to fixing appliances. But it leaves a bitter taste, when I see through the innocent request being a test. The first few times, I get it it is to build trust. But where do you draw the line? In my experience, these kind of tests start small and later they get too uncomfortable.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/24 04:16 PM
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I've never came across a woman who would remember the good men in her life. It has always been about mentioning that one guy who played or cheated on her and dumped her.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/24 04:09 AM
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This! You need to raise your voice and repeat that for those in the back who didn't listen. Obviously, human beings are not all equally strong, equally intelligent, or equally virtuous. I've seen a lot of times recently men complaining that women have it easier and can get away in most of the situations. And many women still ranting about being oppressed and living in a society where they have limited options. Which is completely false in every perspective. By law everyone is equal. But in pract…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/24 05:36 PM
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I swear the amount of dudes who are focused on things that are irrelevant to the actual dating/relationship is too damn high. If you can afford the plumber/mechanic then no one would notice that you don't know. You learn how to fix things as your own life choice, not to be more desired by women. On the other hand, you need to maintain the "holes" of your woman for her to see you as manly and attractive. Lay the pipeline and do the service often. That's all.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/24 04:46 AM
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Cmon we all know that is very manipulative thing to say, into tricking you that it's not their fault. People who are exclusive, tend to be so since the start. Most men and women already have an idea on how things will turn out, at least on their side. People who aren't exclusive, will say excuses about their behavior, and will cheat even after you have the talk to be exclusive. These are things you talk about from the start. If there are lies or dealbreakers, you simply walk away and not force t…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/24 02:14 PM
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Until they take the bait. Have them emotionally invested in you. Lovebomb them and act like you're madly in love but never reveal it. Why? They'll crave your attention once you're not with them and put effort to find out about your true intentions. The bait is often after having sex and bonding. Just watch Tinder Swindler. He didn't mention his "troubles" until very much later in the relationship. They fell for that fantasy and they were grown ass adults. From then on you can reveal yourself bit…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/24 01:58 PM
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Confidence is not an aphrodisiac, but very basic. Some people have the "aura" to display it. By that I mean they have a smile on their face even when being confronted, are not easily intimidated by challenges and most of all demonstrate that they know what they are doing. See it this way. You have 10 minutes to take a coffee and go to work. You hit the nearest place and see two baristas. One welcomes you with a warm smile and offers you to drink a few types of coffees to make your day. He even s…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/24 11:47 PM
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For sex and casual flings yes, why wouldn't I tolerate the flaws? But when it comes to being serious, I'm actually way more picly than my female friends. They are all slowly finding someone to settle because of their age even if that means they have to tolerate alot of their partners flaws. While I'm out here having fun but at the same time not considering a relationship as soon as I get even the smallest ick.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/24 03:48 AM
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You are excluding a lot of factors out. It got nothing to do with the ideal replacement. People have cheated with much worse people than their partner. I mean look at Vincent Cassel. He had the most beautiful woman on the planet. If he was unhappy he would had just called it quits. Look at Tim Burton body language how excited he is to display to the public that he managed to be with Monica Bellucci. Yet, Vincent cheated on his former wife. People will cheat. It is 50 50. With your perfect replac…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/24 03:00 AM
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The Western society has pushed for sexual freedom and spirituality. But that is slowly taking over the East as well. Divorce rates, promiscuity and casual relationships are becoming quite common. The difference is that in the West it has been widely accepted as a norm to "live wild and young and experiment in your youth", while in the East although it happens frequently, it is frowned upon and no one likes to admit it. Just like the US in the 60s.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/24 02:44 AM
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Very common and I can say it is equal on both genders from all the people I know. Men do it carelessly and rush into it. Women do it in full secrecy like it is some kind of OPSEC. I'd say I hear male friends bragging about it every week. While my female friends would complain the whole month for having a boring life doing nothing but work, meeting with their boyfriend and staying home. Then after a few drinks on the last day of the month, they'll confess about having tons of guys in line in thei…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/24 02:46 PM
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So me and other people have to pay for a man who got lied about the paternity? If yes, then I should feel entitled that the state should pay me for being lied all of my life from the commercials and the media. I feel equally hurt as the guy who got cheated on. Then the government would run out of money supporting people for being naive and easily manipulated.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/24 02:26 PM
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Depends also on the age. 15 years gap can be normal if both are well grown up adults. A 45 year old guy can date and marry a 30 year old woman and it is accepted. A 33 year old man dating an 18 year old girl, is legal, but creepy. For me the age itself is not an issue, because I've met girls in their early 20s who were more emotionally stable and matured than women of my age. But the generational gap. 3-5 years younger than me is perfect. No noticeable differencies and it fits with experience an…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/24 02:19 PM
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Cool then, reject more girls based on their weight please. So we'll have more available plus sized queens and doing us a favor.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/24 06:04 PM
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From personal experience yeah. I went through lots of months alone. I'm at an age where I see most of my friends are either in a long term relationship or married, while I feel perfect single and alone. And I've accepted that I may never end up in a serious relationship or married. Some of us are not husband/wifey/full package material and it's better to accept yourself for that than give in to fantasies. But there are times when I want to date and get to know other people and I don't limit myse…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/24 02:31 PM
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Don't see anything wrong with what I've said lol
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/24 03:44 PM
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When I first met my ex I was open and honest with her, and that kind of information was used against me. She played with me and dumped me in a short time. A few months later she came back. I lied about everything, and for the most part I played her like a fiddle. I don't know why, but it works most of the time.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/24 03:42 PM
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Men usually pick up a toxic behavior after they get heartbroken by their ex girlfriend. Women learn how to be toxic from their female friends.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/24 03:34 PM
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Why not
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/24 01:25 PM
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Men should lie their way to bed. From then they have to decide it will be a one time thing or continue. Opening up and revealing the truth about yourself should come at a very much later stage.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/24 03:18 AM
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Depends on what "these things" are. If it is a weird kink, or avoiding some songs, places, or any kind of activity that doesn't affect the relationship on any level, then I don't mind at all. For example I used to hang out with my ex at a hidden spot on the rooftop of some building. And I don't want to go in there with another girl in that same location. But if it is general and important stuff, like not opening up because of some unresolved trauma with her ex, not being emotionally invested, no…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/24 05:26 PM
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Depends on the age. If a guy is single in his 20s it is seen as he is socially awkward, inexperienced, poor, unattractive. If a man is single in his 30s it will be a catch, because not too many people are available in that age compared to younger ones. If a woman is single in her 20s, as you said the whole world will try to either be her man or find her one. The attention she recieves is at its peak. She is seen in a high value position because she is able to pick from multiple options. If she i…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/24 04:08 PM
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You get used to it and accept yourself. Sometimes not all of us end up with someone else. There are lots of other activities that can compensate for it and be a less sucker for catching feelings.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/24 03:44 PM
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This slighlty proves that boring vs exciting is just another preference and not the main part of why people settle down. There are other main things such as compability, chemistry(romantic or non romantic both), common interests and life goals, bonding, communication, shared values, effort, trust, safety, etc that ultimately make two people become partners.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/23 01:18 AM
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When I was much younger, I thought that they were really emotionally strong women who were after "real men" and had high standarts. Now that I'm older and dated or befriended such women, I can see through it and realize it is just a mask. There is a reason why they are single and why they are always complaining about all men.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/23 05:49 AM
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Yes 30,40 it doesn't matter. Some women are better in their mid 30s than in their 20s. One day you may be the hottest woman in the planet and the next day end up in freak accident leaving you with lots of damages. I said I no longer feel attracted to women of my age, and that's because of other things beyond looks. The ones who are available are in for a quick life and settling down in matter of weeks or months. Or lots of baggages from past relationships. There are plenty of dudes who would be …
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/23 04:39 AM
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No clue what red pill says about age. I said that my attraction has changed and I no longer want to date women who are my age or near my age.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/23 04:23 AM
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I'm 28. I dated two girls who were 20 and 21. Never dated anyone before born after 2001. And I couldn't relate to them or feel connected. From the mentality to dating behavior. Noticeable generational gap. It felt deeply weird. Dated a few women of my age who used to be my friends from the past and gave it a try and nope. One wanted a serious relationship and marriage since the first date. And the other who used to be a "heartbreaker" during university was just running low on options and was see…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/23 04:20 AM
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Not into any red/blue/whatever pill. I said I no longer feel attracted to women who are 26-28. And that's personal, not because any kind of reddit community told me to feel this way.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/23 03:54 AM
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maybe you should try being friends with a women first Nope that's gaslighting into tricking you believing that's how it works so men who fall for it can orbit her in hopes of having a relationship with her in the future while she gets validation, gifts and attention. I think it is wrong to be friends with a woman first if you like her. You're basically friendzoning her from the start. What might be different, is that after being friends with a girl, I suddenly began to feel attracted to her. I h…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/23 08:17 PM
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I agree with the comments, but I'd like to point out my personal experience. Whenever a girl approached me first in the past it didn't end well for me. They turned out to be manipulators at best. They had this belief that men rarely get approached so it would be a fantasy come true and feel more valued if they did it first and tried to play with that.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/23 07:46 PM
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I'm nearing my 30s and began to lose attraction to women who are my age. It's not about looks only. Most of the conversations are boring and it is quite off putting to see that the older they get the more available they become because they run out of options and attention. I don't want someone else leftovers. But this is my personal take. There is a reason why lots of young girls prefer a partner older than them and it goes both ways.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/23 07:12 PM
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Yeah, 200mg of Ana d'Armas and 50mg of Jessica Alba
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/23 06:41 PM
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How dare you?! I'm a straight man, but if Henry Cavill showed up at my door I would lose my shit and invite him over for beers, weight lifting and playing Witcher.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/23 10:31 PM
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If you deal with them, you need to act in such way. You can't change them or force to settle down.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/23 02:43 PM
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they can also bail anytime they want. That's why you lovebomb and play mind games with such women. You won't ever worry if they bail out or not.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/23 02:37 PM
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Being daddy's princess. A man who does whatever of job to not only provide but also tolerate her tantrums and behavior and spoil her. While she can do whatever she wants without any responsibility. Same way a father does with his daughter. It's a personal choice. Lots of women like that, and lots of men who are willing to take them.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/23 02:35 PM
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I did this more than often. I knew by the first time I dated them that they were not the type of women to be taken seriously. So I had to fake a relationship just for the sex. I knew it was a temporary thing, so when the "break up" was there, I didn't feel sad or anything.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/23 01:50 PM
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I am interested in a LTR. This is personal choice. I disagree with this statement Lying, manipulating and mind games in a relationship are perfectly legal everywhere. Even in marriage, unless there is evidence of a fraud or money involved, narc abuse is not against the rules or illegal. You don't think it's wrong it seems. I know it's wrong, but it happens on daily basis. So it doesn't matter if it's wrong. Narc abuse is tolerated.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/23 04:25 AM
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Of course the outcome in the long run is not great, but it is better than whining "why women are so mean" or "why the bad guys take the girl". People need to understand how things work, and use them in their advantage, not cry about it. It works and it has become widespread. In a matter of few years it may become socially accepted to form a relationship in such way. If it was that bad, it would had become illegal.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/23 03:25 AM
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Lovebomb her since the first time. Act obsessed in indirect way. Always reply fast at any time. Day two or three you should be open about wanting her. But also keep it ambiguos, and never reveal your intentions or your feelings. If asked or confronted, skip the questions. Lovebomb her more. Lots of compliments, especially about her intelligence. Make her feel special with attention. Make sexy chat games and flirt alot. Keep yourself busy and never tell about your whereabouts or personal informat…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/23 12:02 AM
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It gets better. You no longer see the women you date as crushes, or get obsessed with them. You start to see them as any other human and look beyond their games. You have much better view of life and things that make you have a happier life. And you have a say in wether to settle or just have some fun, unlike in your 20s when you do stuff for women so they can choose you. Believe me but it gets better for you.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/23 04:47 PM
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It gets better. You no longer see the women you date as crushes, or get obsessed with them. You start to see them as any other human and look beyond their games. You have much better view of life and things that make you have a happier life. And you have a say in wether to settle or just have some fun, unlike in your 20s when you do stuff for women so they can choose you. Believe me but it gets better for you.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/23 04:47 PM
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I don't want to settle for a woman who's been ran thru or has traumas from the past. These type of women offer only good sex but nothing more. Realistically, the chances of finding a non used woman without issues is below 25. For the same reason, lots of girls go for men who are older, because they are mature, stable, financially much better, have experience and are safe, compared to other guys of same age. Nothing wrong with that. One can settle for whoever they want and their choice is persona…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/23 04:31 PM
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OP said that he went on a date. You date with clear intentions to get to know someone for romantic purposes. Be it ons, fling, relationship, whatever. But you don't date for friendship or just because you find other people amazing and interesting without any romantic interest. That's just socializing lol
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/23 01:50 AM
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Because it is selfish, lacking in empathy and dishonest for the two main options: A. She wants to save face and not be the bad guy. It's a poor attempt that even if she is calling it quits, she is still not quitting games. B. She doesn't want to lose you as a friend. That is worse, she wants to get the emotional support from you, attention and validation without reciprocating feelings. How would you feel if you dated a guy and he told you to stay friends? Did you dated your friends before being …
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/23 01:42 AM
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Yes but it is not okay to date friends
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/23 01:22 AM
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No, I didn't say active friendship leads people on. Mixed signlas do. When I met my female friends, I didn't talk with them for hours until midnight, meet them every other day, tease them or talk about things together. And then tell them I see them as a friend. It's obvious that it is a friendship.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/23 12:22 AM
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It's leading on. I don't chat with my female friends that often. Even when I first met them. It's mostly, setting up a meeting once in a while, sending memes, jokes, job opportunities, help with something, etc. The same is with my male friends. And they do the same things. I mostly talk with them in person. By spending time, I mean hanging out. I don't hangout with my female friends on daily basis. I don't do things which can put us on a situation where it could lead to other things. This is not…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/23 11:31 PM
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It's not the problem with that. It is with giving mixed signals. Seen alot of times that girl play games to boost their ego. Always chatting, saying things and spending time, which you would never do with your actual friends. Then hit you with "i like you as a friend". Then try to suck you in if you walk away. Many young men need to understand this sooner otherwise they will be led on, hurt their feelings and worse hate on women.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/23 06:53 PM
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This is going to be a bit long. I hear often how men are pigs and we don't see women as human beings that we can be friends with. I had a really beautiful relationship with my first girlfriend. We were also close friends before that. But the feelings devolped over time because she was special to me and was lucky enough for her to feel the same. Unlikely with other female friends. But I don't chat everyday with a female friend. I never text them or call them after 12. They never led me on. And th…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/23 06:20 PM
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Because men in general have better options on who to marry. Most of the 20s for many is just going through education, doing shit jobs, building up a career and a future. After reaching financal stability men can go pick from any age and their options. On the other hand, women not so much, even in our modern times. Most women have adapted to new lifestyles. Spending their 20s in creating experiences with many men(staying alone is a nightmare for the majority), going through education but without …
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/23 05:33 PM
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What I've seen is that most of these kind of women have standarts only about finding a partner. While most of men have standarts about themselves, career, goals and only a few important values about finding a partner.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/23 04:13 PM
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I think it's great that the people who are stuck with "chad vs nice guy" haven't discovered lovebombing. They see only the end result when the "asshole" gets the girl and he doesn't. From Ted Bundy, Casanova to your local hood thug who seem that he gets all of the women. All of them without exeption were the nicest guys on Earth in the initial phase. They understood how to express themselves and shower their targets with attention and affection. Millions of women are left with baggage and trauma…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/23 02:35 AM
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There's nothing wrong with being nice and a gentleman. It doesn't cost anything. Just don't lick ass, do over the top gestures that would put you down so you can put someone on a pedestal. See it this way, if a girl is nice to you would you feel happier too? Would that make her instantly your ideal partner just because she is nice to you? What if the local salesman is nice to you, would that bring you positivity? Now, if someone is nice to you all of the time, often doing things quite pathetic j…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/23 01:11 AM
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You got me😂
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/23 10:59 PM
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One of the reasons of a break up and a few failed dates, was exactly this. I knew too much and understood them crystal clear. They all confessed after a long time that they wanted someone they could control and didn't understood their actions. One even told me that she got paranoid that I had stolen her password or spied her phone because I knew everything that was on her mind or why she did something. It was off putting to read her like that in her words.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/23 08:55 PM
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Disagree. Most of the time it is because men raised by single mothers see through words and understand behaviors. Had lots of girls tell me after calling it quits that they wanted a man to be under their control and not someone who completely understands them. In other words someone they can run shit tests and mind games to get a reaction. I had an ex who got so freaked out and thought I was stalking her or stolen her password because I knew exactly what she was doing, what she meant or finishin…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/23 08:07 PM
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I agree only with the part that lots of women have fallen for the "you don't owe a man anything", but OP is mainly taking about sex. I don't owe anything to my parents. They raised me to be who I am, and I support them now that they got old. I do that because it comes normally to me and not like something that I owe them. Except of the duties and debts, no one owes anything to anyone. That's the missing part that it is not being taught towards lots of women and men alike. Taking responsibility, …
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/23 03:26 AM
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/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/23 03:14 AM
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No matter the age, if you suit up and dress classy you'll be far more attractive to anyone. It is proven. Just not nerdy. Bad boys get women because their attitude and know how to play. Believe me, they are the nicest guys on the planet and lovebomb the shit out of their targets in the first week. After the women take the bait they reveal themselves. The reason why rappers dress that way is to appeal to younger generations. Look at 50 cent during his breakthrough era dressing up as a gangsta, an…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/23 03:05 AM
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Totally agree. I've never dated or had sex without approaching, talking and lots flirting beforehand. If you see all of the abusers or the previous serial killers deemed as charismatic, have gone for lovebombing in the begining and paying alot of the attention. And many men overlook it, falling for the "he's a jerk, attractive and an asshole that's why women want him". Nope in the first weeks he was the sweetest guy on the planet, until his target took the bait. There is only one thing that wome…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/23 04:05 AM
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If a man can't wash his arse properly, he has bigger issues than trying to find a date. What do you mean by that? Basic hygiene is basic, cleaning yourself after you go to the toilet is a very simple thing we all do. It's not like there are different methods to do it or you are required to bath yourself with preselected roses and expensive shampoos. There is no proper way, you either clean yourself or you have some troubling issues. You piss/shit, flush, wash it, rub the toilet paper until it's …
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/23 03:32 AM
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Not at all. It is just how life is everywhere in most of the animals, where the male has to woo the female, be it a wolf, a peacock or a human. There isn't a one sole reason for that. I think it is beautiful where both sides come in for a game, a dance, a verbal and body language just to have sex and make kids if there is a match. It got nothing to do with being horny, but the way we have built our social structure. I don't find it enterily true and there are lots of examples that prove the othe…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/23 03:29 AM
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Nice guy is a conditioned man. This conditions roots from childhood and abusive parents. So they will harbor lots of anger that will blow up in a passive agressive form. It's not their fault, but at the same time they are their own enemy and the one that cockblocks them in every dating situation.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/23 04:37 AM
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Yes this. Women and men alike will tolerate any kind of behavior, especially those who are inexperienced, after they took the bait. They will almost break their own rules for someone they think they can bond or have already bonded. But there is also a small fraction of women with an abusive past that respond "well" to the abusive relationships, because it is very familiar and they know how to handle them and the normal life is something they don't know nothing about.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/23 10:53 PM
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Women don’t usually say out loud that they have high standards, I think it’s mostly men that tell women that they have high standards. By high standarts I mean requriements to have a relationship with someone such as height, status, job, appearance. These are normal requirements for everyone and some people can be more picky. When someone who doesn't meet these conditions, will start to manipulate and play mind games to get what they want. And this is not limited to only get someone fall for you…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/23 08:01 PM
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I see it as a mentality issue. Lots of women have been lurred into this backward thinking in the past decades that they were opressed, seen as objects by every man on the planet and never had the same rights as men. Now it is happening the same thing, where young men are targetted and are being told that they are being opressed, treated unfairly, women only pick the 1% of men(the alpha or chads being heavily used for this) and they need to unleash their anger on women. Truth be told we are not b…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/23 07:37 PM
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Fully agree. Lots of men who don't make enough money, achieve a status, at least compensate it by having game. Manipulating and playing mind games are nowhere openly accepted, but if you really want something or to be with someone you have to play dirty too and manipulate the others. Lots of women will tell that they have high standarts, but still fall for low life guys who know how to say the right words and toy with their feelings over and over again. It is what it is.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/23 07:17 PM
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Nope, it's an act. Women who actually want to be loved only without giving anything back will give a chance to the guy/supply that provides for them. They will reject the hottest guy for someone who they think is below her so they will have it easier to toy with him. People like that stay away from the ones who have self respect. And believe me, this game of her wouldn't go on for too long.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/23 06:19 AM
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I'd say a partner is someone you share your life with. Romantically and through problems. Someone you spend time almost daily and see a future together. Like a teammate.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/23 06:10 AM
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What most men want is a big titty goth gf not to fuck, but really to just lay on her breasts and hear she telling you it's gonna be okay, but this is impossible to get fr. Most men that I know want a stable life and a lifelong partner, not a goth type. Taking pride in providing and being useful in building a life together, not just to lay around her breast. That sounds childish and it is cute when you're a teen or early 20s. No grown up woman would want her man to just lay around and not to fuck…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/23 01:33 PM
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Yes and yes. I dated a girl 2 weeks ago who was very attractive and had lots of options. I lied and tried to manipulate between the conversation. I dated an average girl a few days ago and I was totally honest with her and never tried to play any game. Guess who ghosted me and with who I had sex? The key is not to be a miserable liar. It is important to say the right things. People who say honesty is important are too naive to understand that everyone lies to their partner. And they call it a wh…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/23 12:51 PM
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They think society bends to women’s issues, provide them with endless support and that being a woman is “living life in easy mode” this consistent griping comes off as jealousy and that many men wish they could be women Not quite. I take pride in finding solutions during difficult times and take matters into my hands. I don't want things in easy mode, although an easy and peaceful life is the end goal. I don't envy women at all because there is nothing to be jelaous about. In fact none of us hav…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/23 06:10 PM
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As someone with ADHD all I know is that the world doesn't have a special place for people with the lack of social skills. Not in US, not in the friendliests places in Europe, not in the hospital mediterrean countries, not in some tropical paradise in Africa or Southeastern Asia and not in South Pole. We have to adapt. To make ourselves a part of the society even if other people finds us as unreliable people. Lear and mimic from the others.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/23 12:13 AM
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That's because stoicism is not to help you get laid. Zeno created it as a philosophy to help the society to have endurance to many wars, plagues, political unrests, and discipline to make a brave fearless civillians, warriors and leaders. Libertinism is the extreme form of hedonism which is the opposite of stoicism and it is relevant in societies with long peacetime and secured life. In fact hedonism is the the actual school of thought that encourages you to get laid as much as possible. But eve…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/23 11:01 PM
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It's not only in the dating apps. When I met my ex, she went regurarly to latin dancing nightclubs. She did so even when we started the relationship after dating and calling it being exclusive. But she still went on with going to dancing. It was noticeable that she had been single for a long time before I met her. And that's when I understood why. I asked her that I didn't liked it that she went out to dancing(in my country nightclubs are where most people hang out wether being single or taken, …
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/23 10:40 PM
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I have lots of friends who I have travelled. But I love more to go solo. It is really a pain in the ass to waste time in trying where to go. There will always be someone in a group that would try to argue. When I travelled with my ex partner I was very limited too. Travelling alone sounds challenging but it is quite fun if you're not the type of big groups. You can meet and talk to anyone you want. You can visit any place without an agenda. I travelled by bus and train in Italy and Germany throu…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/23 10:20 PM
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A 3 lane to be specific
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen24/10/23 05:59 PM
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But how do you achieve that? The world and our body is not in constant levels. Nor is black and white. For example, during the summer I would become very horny with my ex that she told me I wanted her only for sex. Then during the autumn or mid winter, she would complain that I didn't love her at all because I wasn't that horny like in the summer and would go days without thinking about sex. Turns out everyone from the group of my friends experienced the same thing to me. It is not like you open…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/23 02:35 PM
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I am sttracted to fat girls more. But depends what kind of fat. Is your weigh noticable to an extreme way? Does it affect your health? If yes, most guys in general won't find it attractive.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/23 03:35 AM
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She is going to struggle big time to even get a low value man interested in a real relationship. I doubt that there are low value men near her age. I can only think of junkies or people who lost everything because of an addiction and now they are still recovering. Apart of that, the only time when a man is low valued, is when they are in their early 20s. Studying, no real job, no financial stability and no experiences. Even then, I doubt any young man would have the means to provide for her or c…
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen21/10/23 02:34 AM
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Appearance is much more than about having sex. For example, when the Europeans arrived in America, they could tell before reaching the shore who was the leader of the tribe based on the appearance and dress. There is a reason why many people accused of a crime wear glasses to look more attractive while standing in front of the judge in court. There is also a reason why highly maintained people have more chances to be succesful in life, even if they are physically average and far from being model…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/23 12:46 AM
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I'd say game, flirting and social skills make sex happen. You have to be extremely attractive to make people look past any personality issue or lack of skills. Attraction happens on many levels for an ongoing period. It's not like once you are physically attracted to each other sex will happen in a few seconds afterwards.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/23 12:37 AM
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People are free to do as they please. Eat junk food and spend their lives as obese people. But it's very concerning that women are a group target of body positivity where they indirectly promote that it is okay and should be acceptable that in 20-30 years you will most likely have health issues caused by obesity.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/23 12:33 AM
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Yes it is true. Although I can disagree with that. You can be in a difficult time right now and have no time to maintain yourself so obviously you won't attract the girl that you like. Later you can become a better version and attract the same girl that didn't find you attractive before. But the only solution is for women to stop the whole toying around with men just to get attention. I mean there are plenty of women who do this. Dating or talking to other guys who are not attracted so they can …
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/23 12:07 AM
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I'd say it is very sad. Men are given one of the best advices, to keep in shape, promote work out and being bullied for being fat. Pushing every man to be healthy may sound toxic, but if you see through it, that's very profitable in the long run. Why women are told about pody positivity, raise awarness against body shaming and being okay in their own skin. I mean you're promoting to an entire group of people of same gender to be okay for being unhealthy. My grandma who has always been in normal …
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/23 11:48 PM
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You've got no idea how women bully each other for the weight. I believe that the sole reason why they ask men to mention weight is that because they are already tired of the bs other women give them. The problem is that this whole body positivity is promoted by groups of people who have no specialized knowledge or education in health or diets. "It's okay to be overweight. If someone really loves he would accept you as you are". But they never ask if these women are okay and accept themselves tha…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/23 11:37 PM
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Long version: We've all heard how Italians(people born and raised in Italy, not the Italiam community in the US) are notorious for being the best dressed in the world. And after them are the French. After all both countries are synonyms of fashion with Milano and Paris being the capital of the high end historical brands. Hollywood has always had the latin lover character since the Silent Era. And it is true. They dress in suits and open shirts and every color that fits with the image. Never with…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/23 11:20 PM
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Believe me one wants an asshole. It may come off as blunt or charismatic at first but after awhile that confident vibe fades away and women will get bored. The truth is every woman has in her mind the ideal partner. It could vary from being overly nice, to being an absolute juicehead. Some like skinny dudes, some like dad bod guys, and some want a nerd. What is universal for both women and men, we tend to find more attractive people who maintain themselves. Not just healthy, but people who dress…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/23 02:25 PM
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I can have sex with women I don't find physically attractive. Or women who I don't match in personality. I'm in for a good time and make it enjoyable for both us. For me chemistry and building up the tension is more important than physical attraction. I think guys who only go for women who they find physically attractive are conditioned and would have a hard time being caught up in the "women only want the players, not guys like me". While for women is the opposite I guess. They need to find the…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/23 11:53 AM
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It is quite ironic to say this. The beta in the real experiment of the wolves held in captivity, was the one right after the alpha. The second in command and in line to lead the pack in case the alpha wolf died while hunting or another cause. A better way to put it is that she would make rules for the rebound guys and break the rules for her ex.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen06/10/23 12:17 AM
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She is not a gold digger. Ironically most gold diggers want a guy with a Nokia 3310 or Vertu and without a social media which screams I make six or seven figures from coke and crack business. If they see you having an iPhone or Android they think you are stupid. Gold diggers get a bad rep because they want a material life in exchange of sex and being a partner. Which is honest. And most of the gold diggers have invested on themselves and are usually into modelling industry. But they don't care a…
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen06/10/23 12:12 AM
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Women with high body count can be a better couple with men with high body count. But men with high body count can also form great relationship with women with low body count. Women with high body count would never go around men with low body count. There are exceptions but it is the general truth
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/23 08:21 AM
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That's one generation lost. In 6-7 years most first grade teachers would be in empty classes or with a much lower attendance and it will be like that for each year in the future for every continous class up to college. In 25-28 years there would be a huge shortage of doctors, cops, professors and many jobs who have a fixed retirment age. That can only be fixed if they raised the retirement age to a year. To prevent chaotic scenarios, the governments around the world wpuld start a program to enco…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/23 05:40 AM
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True. Men are not going straight into sex because of this, no matter how much they want it or how attractive they are. People think that people above average have sex just like that in a blink of an eye, when even a ONS takes a bit of talking and flirting for a few hours. Most of the time it goes for a few days up to weeks for two people to have sex. At least to those who are not in a jungle.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/23 05:13 AM
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Bonding*
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/23 05:07 AM
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Because for women, getting a partner is not a competition. It's not about who finish last, but who comes at them. While for men it is a competition. Anyway, the pick me, emotionally unstable and the immature women are the female nice guys. They go by the famous line "where are all the good men?", with a few seconds later going on a rant "all men are pigs". If nice guys finish last, these kind of women have no one in their finish line. Not even the nice guys would ever go to them.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/23 07:41 AM
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Women buy more products. If you ever been on a trip with your girlfriend/wife/female friend you can fit everything you need inside of a normal size backpack. And she would need an extra luggage or carry on bag besides the backpack. While men spend more. House, car, maintainance, electronic devices, video games, sneakers(a girl would have 100 types of shoes, but men spend more for a single one), gym, and hobbies such as mtb or offroad driving and going hiking.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/23 08:55 PM
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Balkans and some other countries like Poland, Czechia or Ukraine. Every one of them, apart of Greece or Croatia who are more "westernized" in mentality. As I said earlier, it is very easy to date but most of the time not for a long term relationship. People, both men and women are more open to foreigners because some of them want to score the foreign passport, and some want a new experience. It's like "what happens in Vegas, stays in Vegas" thing and no one will know about it. While dating betwe…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/23 02:35 AM
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Not that big though. You need to be in a big group of friends or a common workplace. You meet other people through mutual friends in social gatherings. In most of Western countries groups of people are very restricted to their own and are not open to strangers out of their group. And you need to be very social. Pick up dating through cold approach is not a norm and dating is not a general thing. But this can vary from place to place. This is typical in some places in France, Germany, Scandinavia…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/23 02:06 PM
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Nah. But there is a huge gap between culture and mentality and it is hard to find a common ground. I was in the US for a full year on an exchange program and met wonderful interesting women. Don't know why Americans complain alot about dating. But people were very hustle minded and more into the fast life than in most of Europe. Still I had no trouble with meeting and dating others.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/23 11:12 AM
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I'm from Eastern Europe and I've seen more and more women and men settling for a foreigner. The dating possibilities are quite great in my country, but there is a scarcity in finding a long term partner because the "husband/wife material" are leaving the country for another partner. Women tend to trash talk more about western women being masculine, and men being feminine. Personally I gave up a long time ago dating women from my country. I found Western women to be better and don't know why Amer…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/23 11:00 AM
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Let me guess, he goes to public social gatherings, such as pubs, night events, concerts or parties to find a woman who puts religion first, and then is dissappointed of not finding one in such places that are known to be "antireligion" by religious groups
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/23 12:44 AM
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Yes. Shitty/boring personality. When there was an attractive girl trying to flirt with them, they blew it off and ruined any chances of having something with that girl. The thing is that most women want from men two things, attention and validation. Even if they don't want anything serious, they will always want these two things more than men. No matter how extremely handsome you are, they won't fall at your feet. Which is great. An average looking guy who knows how to use attention and validati…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/23 12:40 AM
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No. I'm an asshole. I would act mean to anyone who annoys me or I find having a shitty attitude. I treat unattractive women the same way as the attractive ones. If they have a great personality I'll stop being an asshole and force myself to act normal.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/23 04:15 PM
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The woman in the video pulled a hoax on people to scam them on her GoFundMe and she's even been exposed as an abuser herself. I was thinking how fucked you need to be to use a brick and hit a woman just because she rejected you. It was shocking. That's because the worst I've seen from guys to react to rejection is calling another girl a slut and go on ranting for a few days, but that's all.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/23 02:03 AM
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Again, if your body count was 1 and after a painful breakup it goes 20 to over a year, that's really a big problem. If you have a body count of 20 over the course of years with ONS and fwbs that's totally okay.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/23 12:27 AM
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This is cultural I guess. In places like Miami, LA, Paris, Berlin, having a body count of +20 is considered okay. In more closed communities anything above 10 is too high. And in lots of places more than 1 or 2 sexual partners is a dealbreaker even for men. It's not about the numbers more than it is about the issues in personality. Some people have fun and want to enjoy life and some just want to fill the void using other people.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/23 12:18 AM
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From my experience the higher the body count, the more likely she will have trauma and be less emotionally invested and low desire to bond. Especially the ones who turned into revenge sex in a campaign against men after their ex broke their heart. I also don't have a high body count, so I want my partner to be on the same level as me. Other men with higher body count might prefer women with a high body count and have a perfect relationship with each other.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/23 02:45 PM
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I'd say the opposite and sometimes the same goes to women, but many guys prefer to overlook that. For example, a guy would be happy to be in a relationship with a girl who has had multiple experience in the past or has never been in a relationship. These are not neccessary red flags, but there is a reason why she is still single. And lot's of boys will be in for a painful experience to find out the truth. I've dated a few girls who were above 25 and incredibely attractive. I wondered at the time…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/23 03:02 PM
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Looking too often or staring in the club, it is a form of a signal. Nope I didn't ask them out, I asked them general questions and invited her and her group of her friends for a dance with my friends and got rejected. That's all and I went my own way. But it felt weird.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/23 02:11 AM
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Being a good genuine person helps you in the long run with every other person you know. You are good person to yourself before being to the others. If you're a good person only to the others to prove your worth all the time, you're no good at all. In dating life you need to have dating skills, such as flirting and being confident in yourself. What is all about with confidence? You don't care about rejection or negative aspects. You make your intentions clear and stick to your principles. You kno…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/23 03:21 PM
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To be honest I've never dated or had a relationship with any women I approached in public. I've never heard of anyone meeting their girlfriends, wives from a bar or at a party. It is usually a ONS or just getting rejected or a 1 hour conversation. Everyone I know including myself, have met the SO from mutual friends or the same group. Or by accident in a place of common interest or at work.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/23 03:09 PM
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This is my issue. I don't mind getting rejected. I failed lots of times and successfully approached women on other times. I know that the only times when things worked, was when I approached them. But I've met countless of women who used me to feed their ego. Or rejected me just because even though they were looking at me and giving "signals". Some of them told me that they were not ordinary girls and could do whatever they want without any consuqences. Or it took me alot of one sided conversati…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/23 03:03 PM
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You've noticed maybe that women are gain social control and ground not just equal to but also over men in recent years? Yes but it is very superficial. Lots of women are being prefered over men to fill in for an administration job or as a director. More women are being used as ambassadors for lots of causes like political and enviromnet, or promoting brands. The propaganda is full on women empowerment. But behind that facade, I'd say the women are still lacking behind men in social control. A wo…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/23 03:28 AM
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I find this question really confusing because it depends. You said to not consider giving birth to a child and raising them, which is a huge part not to say the most important thing in a family. Given how many single moms are out there just because their partners didn't want to be a father, or because of death. Or how a woman can be behind you when you are sick, have an injury, have the worst day in your life, etc. But let's say in a couple which have the intention of a long term serious relatio…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/23 03:22 AM
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Yes, it is up there with autism, asperger, dyslexia, bipolar disorder and down syndrome. Even though neurodivergent is not a medical term and sounds scary to be included with other forms of syndromes and disorders, it is on its own spectrum and unique in its symptoms. It always made me curious why I was better at painting and arts in general when I was a kid. I thought the other kids in my class were really dumb for drawing a 2D car, v-shapped birds, the half sun at the corner of the sheet and u…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/23 02:19 AM
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Also being assertive. It simply means holding yourself accountable and what you can do to find a solution or fix situations without being agressive or pushover.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/23 02:24 AM
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/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/23 10:05 PM
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From what I've seen in general and from my friends, I've heard the same old story. They've lowered their physical standarts for an unattractive guy thinking they would get a better treatment than attractive assholes after a bad experience with dating. Only to end up complaining and considering it a mistake because the unnattractive guys treated them worse. And from the things I heard this supposedly worse treatment was no different than that they recieved in the past. Not to say they treated the…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/23 04:22 PM
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Depends on the person. If she got dumped and want to avenge men by having sex she will go for the fuckboys and rebound with an innocent guy to have the sentimental benefits and boost her ego. Women who have had experience or got cheated and have gone a long time since the break up will avoid fuckboys at all costs. Or Bob the builder type of women who say I can fix him. Also a fuckboy looks good on the surface, but besides the high body count they are miserable at the end of the day. And they can…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/23 03:54 PM
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