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I really think it depends on what you have at stake. For me, I’m older and have a small income that I rely on to get by. I’d never leave it if I wasn’t married. Also, I don’t feel any sense of loyalty to someone who can’t make a public declaration about me to friends and family. And they should feel the same about me, if I didn’t want to marry. I tried dating a guy recently and as much as I loved spending time with him, I felt no loyalty or long term commitment to him. I believe in tradition and…
/r/RedPillWomen06/05/19 11:07 AM
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I think that you can get there and get over him with consistent effort. Take care of yourself and your finances. Spend time with friends and go on dates, even if you don’t feel like it. Do not look him up on social media. If you’re a red pill woman, that’s still great, just make sure you give yourself to someone who isn’t going to take advantage of you. Being red pill doesn’t mean we can’t take care of ourselves and our emotions. It means we let a certain kind of man in our lives and let them ma…
/r/RedPillWomen28/04/19 06:05 PM
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I’ve never orgasmed during sex and gave up on it a long time ago. It doesn’t mean I don’t get minor earthquakes and come close, but they reach the summit and sort of fizzle out. I get the tremors and everything, they just dissipate! I’ve simply given up. It’s not his fault, seriously... I’ve been masturbating since I was 8 (early bloomer I know). So it’s safe to say I know my body best. I know how to make it orgasm. When I got my vibrator, it didn’t mean it replaces my sex life. I just haven’t h…
/r/RedPillWomen25/04/19 05:49 PM
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Okay. I see what your saying... In all, honesty I can’t see myself asking if my behaviour is bothersome. It’s not that I don’t care, it’s that I don’t know. What bothers one person doesn’t bother another. So I always hope people can address when something is truly bothering them. For example my sister can’t stand people who are awkward and too contemplative in conversation, she talks to fill space. But for me, I don’t mind those people. Often times they have some fascinating things to say and I’…
/r/RedPillWomen14/04/19 06:18 PM
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How can you tell if someone is angry with you though? If a person is serene and hard working, how do you know?
/r/RedPillWomen14/04/19 06:05 PM
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Good point, I have seen anger manifested this way before. It’s inspiring and it’s healthy. I also have an ex husband who never got angry because a young age, he was told to always keep quiet and go to his room to placate an alcoholic father. It really hurt our communication, because he never felt he could challenge me if I was angry about something. We both had things we needed to change. Some might not believe it but I am 100x better at dealing with my anger though there’s still room to grow.
/r/RedPillWomen14/04/19 06:02 PM
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These are very wise words.
/r/RedPillWomen14/04/19 05:58 PM
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I was recently in a conversation with someone who is always serene. I enjoy his company very much but part of me wonders if he is capable of anger. Anger (not excessive) is an important emotion. Anger represents conviction, boundaries, action and a few other things. When I was a child I cried all the time. I had a friend in the 7th grade who called me cry baby in front of other girls and they all laughed. It was because I had a hard time expressing what I felt inside and sometimes it was frustra…
/r/RedPillWomen14/04/19 05:03 PM
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Rock climbing, cooking class, yoga, dance class are all at the top of my list. I’m in Ontario and we have the LCBO which has great cooking classes.
/r/RedPillWomen12/04/19 11:57 AM
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I think it takes time. Time to trust your place and your surroundings. Time to minimize or eliminate the pressures that force us to be grown ups. If your intent is there it can happen. But some of us get so tired of life and all its ups and downs🎶
/r/RedPillWomen09/04/19 08:21 PM
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As much as I regard my partnered encouragement, it really isn’t his responsibility and some cases his business to tell you how to spend your extracurricular time. Where he’s probably most concerned is you falling into some sort of depression when they’re not available. It’s also important to make sure you have someone at home for the kids or dog if you have them and if your partner travels this could mean an investment in sitters. Also, I’m one to take classes, but again it hard to take up new h…
/r/RedPillWomen04/04/19 10:29 AM
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It’s important to share with him the positive impact he has on your life and be specific. Tell him the deeper things, as well as aesthetic things. Tell him how you see him making progress towards his goals and how amazed you are. Tell him how you are amazed by the way he handles conflicts or tough interactions with others. And finally share with him something positive he may not recognize in himself. The key is to always tell him how he appears in the moment though and never draw comparisons to …
/r/RedPillWomen03/04/19 08:09 PM
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There are moments I need to run hard on a treadmill to release my anxious energy, but releasing that energy allows me to make room to receive an intimate energy. Having said that, I more often need my downtime and space to renew myself to also receive. I think every couple is different. I think the perfect balance, is a couple who acknowledges these different energy systems and embraces the yin and yang of the relationship.
/r/RedPillWomen02/04/19 02:56 PM
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Thank you.
/r/RedPillWomen29/03/19 02:36 PM
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But what if you’re just not that interested? I mean what if you get there and In The first 30 seconds you’re not attracted to them? I never ever promise more than one drink, ever. Too many slime balls
/r/RedPillWomen29/03/19 11:43 AM
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I like being married because I don’t love being a free agent flapping in the wind. I like knowing someone has stamped my heart officially, that I wear their signature, on my finger. I tend to enjoy the kink community too, but in the vanilla world, a wedding ring signifies what a collar would be in the kink world. At least for me, because I wouldn’t let just anyone collar me. I am committed to ONE, no matter the realm we play in.
/r/RedPillWomen27/03/19 12:01 PM
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If we’re taking very good care of ourselves, chances are we’re just as desirable, if not more so. I’d let it go and see if you can focus on yourself instead of being angry at him. I think happiness lies there.
/r/RedPillWomen22/03/19 06:20 PM
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I guess no one likes my answer. I think balancing both their needs is important. I’m sorry you’re going through this. It would be nice if your boyfriend was more supportive of you.
/r/RedPillWomen22/03/19 01:44 AM
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Is it possible to take care of her with him? When she sleeps you can have your intimate time. Also, make plans for play dates or pay for her to go to movies with friends so you can spend time some with him
/r/RedPillWomen22/03/19 12:44 AM
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I feel for you. There comes a time when we have to make tough decisions and not let people hold us back from happiness anymore. We are the only thing that stands in the way of progress.
/r/RedPillWomen20/03/19 03:12 PM
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I am very happy for you. It takes so much courage to move on. I’m moving on too. Let’s hold each other accountable to staying with the good guys because love and new habits grow in time.
/r/RedPillWomen20/03/19 02:55 PM
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Amen!
/r/RedPillWomen17/03/19 09:47 PM
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I know you love him and have no control over his behaviour. Are the two of you engaged? He’s wise to want to invest in a house versus pay rent. Personally, I wouldn’t have a problem renting in the short term. I’d be more concerned in being engaged before we move in together. It’s okay to live separately until you’re both ready. For me, and I’m a bit older, I’m really not interested in limiting myself, especially if my partner isn’t sure he has the same dreams as me. His delays make me question h…
/r/RedPillWomen17/03/19 07:44 PM
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Personally, I prefer not moving in together unless engaged. It’s just a preference. Moving in together is a big step and I am sort of old fashion and if I’m going to give myself to my Captain completely, I want to know he’s “all-in” too.
/r/RedPillWomen16/03/19 04:12 PM
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These videos are great!
/r/RedPillWomen16/03/19 04:09 PM
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I think introverts think they have to solve their own problems and that’s why they don’t want to bother the extrovert. I’m seeing many extroverts want to help in the peace making system, not be shut out from it.
/r/RedPillWomen14/03/19 07:01 PM
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Lovely post
/r/RedPillWomen14/03/19 06:48 PM
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Couples always need to get away alone. It doesn’t matter if you’re on your first marriage or fifth. It’s important to have that time away and reconnect, tether and love one another. It’s not about the kids, it’s about you as a couple. Kids grow up and move out and start their own families. Enjoy each other as a couple now.
/r/RedPillWomen13/03/19 12:44 AM
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I have studied and watched very feminine women. Feminine women don’t eat like men at a sports bar. They eat slowly, they chew their food, take half of it home, they eat salad before anything else and keep the dressing on the side. Feminine women have taught me so much through their table habits.
/r/RedPillWomen11/03/19 03:59 AM
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I see. Okay I know you love him and have his best interest at heart. I just wonder if (and if I were in your shoes), if he can’t concentrate on anyone but himself and the person he is speaking to in the moment. I have that problem sometimes. I don’t mean to forget my partner, but I am independent and can hold my own in a room of strangers. Because of that, I sometimes prefer going to certain things alone. On the other hand, tons of groups of people can exhaust me. I need breaks and breathers. I …
/r/RedPillWomen10/03/19 07:25 PM
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Maybe just don’t go to things if he’s too distracted. What if you do the same to him and not realize it?
/r/RedPillWomen10/03/19 10:43 AM
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For sure. Sometimes men having a chance to talk with other men is good. If he needs to talk to a professional, perhaps give him his space and dignity to do what he needs there.
/r/RedPillWomen09/03/19 10:56 PM
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Time passes. Children grow fast... very fast. My kids are 11 & 12 and they’re so independent and require so much less of me and their dad. Thing was, it happened in a blink. I think men need to see what they’re missing to appreciate what they have. They do need variety and unfortunately that leaves us holding what could be the monotony and obligation. I don’t have an easy answer for you. Just be open to listening to him and what he feels he needs to sustain a happy life with you. Try not to hold…
/r/RedPillWomen09/03/19 10:10 PM
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I think that the choice is his. What about being married and a father feels stifling to him? And more importantly, what does he feel he needs that he’s not getting? I’m assuming he wanted to be married and have children. It’s not that the world revolves around women, but it does revolve around the extra responsibilities we create for ourselves.
/r/RedPillWomen09/03/19 09:54 PM
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