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/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/06/23 09:18 AM
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Ye’s attorney sounds insane. I’ve never heard that about pre-nups and it seems fabricated
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/22 09:36 PM
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I always ask what brings them to the website/app, and when they say they don’t know, I know by now to just say goodbye and dip out. Sometimes they’ll badger me with questions to try to say what they think I want to hear. Sometimes they won’t But every single time it means they don’t know how to communicate in a healthy way or give any kind of effort for what they want. Talking to them is usually a mistake because they place all their boredom, hopes, worries, fantasies, etc. on you and try to mak…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/22 07:59 PM
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Exactly. So much toxic and terrible behaviors or ways of communicating are so normalized
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/22 11:21 PM
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Thanks for that word! I never knew about it but that makes sense. That ex of mine had a lot of vulnerable narcissist qualities
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/22 08:08 AM
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An ex of mine once told me I had a lot more life than him and I’m inclined to think he was right about that. He had a couple interests but nothing he strongly felt about, not even himself. But he just loved that I would have a lot to say about about my passions. He was more empty so I think that was probably the appeal. After a while, he seemed to parrot things I had told him or acted like those were his passions all along too. I don’t fully understand him and his reasoning but it seems like he …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/22 06:02 AM
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He could’ve bought her a sugar free brand of chocolate, and then tempered it into little heart molds or something. Or go to a nice candy shop for sugar free options. Being single on Valentine’s Day is much better than having to suffer through that kind of date
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/22 12:42 PM
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I know pick me is AAVE from several years ago but I only first found the term here. I’ve seen it get traction on tik tok and then twitter recently. But it’s not used the same way as here all the time
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/22 08:37 AM
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I almost guarantee if you stay friendly with him but stop being interested, suddenly he’ll want to chase. From my experience, people often have their people they flirt with especially at school or work but that doesn’t mean they have any intentions. If he wanted to, he would. I would focus on pursuing someone who has more interest and who you know would be a better lifestyle match.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/22 07:58 AM
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He’s probably like “I’ll pay you a fair price since technically you were there” as though he brings anything to the table. Ick
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/22 07:43 PM
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“I try not to do date WOC anymore because I’m afraid of fetishizing them, but I’ll give you a chance.” (Especially if dating was off limits to them but sex wasn’t).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/22 05:24 AM
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Great sex is great but it doesn’t fix terrible flaws in a relationship or make you more compatible. It won’t make someone magically love you or stop cheating or commit to a relationship. It won’t fix jealousy or miscommunication or different ideologies/values. If anything, it might just distract you from what’s truly important or serve as a reward for pickup artists before they drop you. Everyone who has personally told me their relationship was founded on “stayed the night and never left” has m…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/22 02:56 AM
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Men are dessert
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/22 12:00 PM
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I feel like this man may have had narcissistic qualities. Aside from dangling what he needed to know to have sex with her, the first red flag I saw was when he would tell her he wasn’t seeing other people. It very much leaves a lot of room for obsession or love bombing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/22 11:55 AM
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Wow I can’t believe how terrible her father is. Thanks for pointing it out
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/22 09:41 AM
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I found FDS randomly. Someone crossposted a meme or something to talk about how funny or useful it was. The triggered men in the comments intrigued me enough to check it out and I’m so glad I did.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/22 01:09 AM
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Um what? Sperm expiring?? I’ve worked with children with special needs and it’s not always purely genetic. The same with mental illness
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/22 10:34 AM
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That makes sense. I’ve talked to a lot of people about addiction and sex addicts (including women) describe it that way. Like the arousal itself isn’t even sexy and you may not even feel attraction or even feel disgust.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/22 07:11 AM
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Men will literally play dumb and get you the ring but not actually propose marriage and say “well you asked for a ring on it… duh how was I supposed to know?”. Or they’ll buy you a ring, plan to eventually marry you after 7 years of dating but still remind you they don’t believe in marriage and just want to live together and not be legally tied to you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/22 03:42 AM
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Sometimes I think men don’t even know how to pleasure themselves. Some men don’t do the bare minimum of finding out what they like or that there are different ways to experience pleasure. For example most men have sensitive nipples similar to women but some wouldn’t consider it during sex. Or, they don’t want to even think about exploring a particular erogenous zone because they’re afraid people might think they’re gay. Especially when someone’s whole view on sex is viewed only through porn, I t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/22 03:19 AM
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I was just about to share that video before I saw your comment and deleted mine. I think this is also a good opportunity to have an in-depth conversation about children and abortion to get a sense of their true values and beliefs.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/22 03:03 AM
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Tbh men I’ve heard talk about getting children for tax benefits expect to do zero work and will cut corners wherever they can
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/22 02:54 AM
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Honestly the only occupation I can think of that would be a risk is anyone in the US Military. You are rewarded for getting married and having children, especially since the military relies on the wives for the unpaid labor. In my experience, men who don’t want children will suddenly want them if they feel it would make life easier for them for taxes or some other benefit. Also, you can love working with kids without actually wanting your own kids.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/22 12:02 PM
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Sometimes, it’s hard to detect which flavor of patriarchy they’re sporting unless you’re very familiar with the culture. So, first of all I think it’s important to identify your own values and what you think adds value to your life. At the same time, it’s important to understand the specific patriarchy of their culture to understand if they identify and practice those beliefs. WASP or Italian-American(or any other group of) white men can absolutely still be misogynists and those cultures are als…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/22 06:46 AM
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Yeah, he doesn’t want a date. If he wanted a date he could just do literally anything else if he was creative enough. He wants her to do all the stuff he feels too lazy to do, then perch and fulfill all of his sexual needs, and not even compensate her with a good time or at least dinner. Honestly so many men like him out there, I don’t even feel like this is trolling. It could be a true story. Also, coming from an experience of someone I went to high school with, it’s slightly worse when people …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/22 06:04 AM
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Honestly, I think they would just look the other way as those same men found any way to exploit vulnerable/desperate women/girls whether they be young, with limited prospects, poor, or all of the above
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/22 05:59 AM
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Half the time I wonder if some men even enjoy sex for the actual act of sex/pleasure/orgasms. Because their goals/assumptions are often not exactly aligned with this. Like copying things that “look hot” but don’t actually feel all that great to them or sometimes the unbalanced/fantasy of unbalanced power dynamics.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/22 05:29 AM
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A family member of mine who is only a few years younger has to literally bark at her forever boyfriend for him to do an inch of anything, as though he’s a dog. A lot of people assume she’s the abusive one(admittedly, their relationship is a bit toxic) but they don’t see how she has to be the one to keep track of their pets, groceries, load it for him, manage the budget, make his appointments, fill out his forms, do his college homework, enroll him in classes, wrap and label the gifts (he’s a boy…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/22 05:17 AM
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If her kid is raised in that environment, he will model that behavior as how men/father’s are supposed to act and the cycle will continue. I can tell you from watching women in similar situations endure that for years that it does weigh down on you and sometimes it gets passed down through the generations. Honestly, she’s halfway there because she’s already doing everything on her own. Might as well liberate the extra weight
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/22 09:41 PM
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One of my coworkers continued to sleep with her ex husband for 5+ years after he initiated a divorce when she caught him cheating. She stopped though she has to remain cordial because she had kids with him (ick). It really taught me that if a man doesn’t respect his marriage once he probably will never want to, even on the off chance he kept all his promises. Anyway, that’s why with any “monogamous” men, if I need something for work or the like, I’ll do everything through the wife/gf/partner sin…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/22 09:23 PM
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Yeah honestly bring your own condoms. Who knows what sick fetish these men have or their callousness when it comes to not even understanding basic birth control and anatomy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/22 09:10 PM
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Meghan just got out of a terrible marriage. I just hope the both of them are trolling and that Meghan isn’t getting into a terrible relationship again. Lord knows she knows how to beat a dead horse.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/22 09:08 PM
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Honestly what you say about a man’s love is really true. I feel like most men don’t really have a concept of moving on without at least an inkling of remaining romantic feelings when they’ve already fallen in love.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/22 09:02 PM
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One of the main things I noticed is that I cry way less now and I am much less miserable and on-edge. Sure, the pandemic has taken it’s toll and I’m struggling with imposter syndrome and issues in my family, but I don’t cry every night like I used to. I also realized that I deserve to stand up for myself when I’m being put down for no reason. It’s also really freeing to realize I don’t have to plan my whole life around a man and making sure that he advances and has the easiest life possible. I d…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/22 08:47 PM
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I knew a guy who would “vet” looking for the perfect vulnerable “match” for himself. Once he found that, since he could not fathom the most basic of communication skills, he would block all the other people he was vetting. Like an, “look at how I isolate myself for you, you should do it too!!”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/22 05:07 AM
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There needs to be a dating site or app where men pursuing women exclusively get reviews on their DMs
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/22 07:07 PM
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Yes. But also, I wouldn’t bother saying much besides “functioning adults who think they’re ready for a relationship should be ready for hygiene too.” You can leave him for the person who has low enough standards to put up with it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/21 03:21 PM
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Tell me how men can say in the same breath that I’m too into academics and science and not the “real world” yet I’m also not logical like a man yet I don’t know enough about biology/science/psychology etc to explain the great phenomenon that is a man. This is why I always tell these men to show me where the scientific basis is for “when women are promiscuous, it’s because they want to hurt you. When men are, it’s biology.” Like okay, bring up biology then and demonstrate it
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/21 03:18 PM
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Is it just me or are people who study/studied psychology (in college or recreationally) some of the worst people out there? My ex more or less admitted to me that he loved learning about himself and would use any case study or whathaveyou as an opportunity to apply himself to it or how he could use it to gain advantage. Also I’m so happy that you actually believed him when he showed you who he is.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/21 03:10 PM
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Can I just say I appreciate you making sure we’re all learnéd women up in this subreddit
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/21 03:05 PM
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Honestly I feel like some of these men(and some women) have had a shit relationship with their body and food long before dating. They then think they deserve a little trophy or they think acquiring a partner will fix all of their life issues. So they just work out, eat better, etc with that goal in mind. Then, once they think they’re safe they go back to their old ways because they never actually did any of the real work to get better. They just wanted the advantages of looking more physically a…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/21 03:03 PM
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Damn, at least he admitted he wants a successful career woman that does it all. He wants a second stream of income he can do what he wants with, sex slave, nanny, maid, car detailer, etc. I hope her pursuing education now that the kids are in college is a sign she’s off to bigger and better things
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/21 02:46 PM
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I feel like OLD is one of the worst environments conducive to long-term success… especially with how apps like Tinder are based on pictures and swiping. I feel like the people who do end up married/reaching their long-term goals just happen to be incredibly lucky.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/21 02:31 PM
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Tbh I wish I would’ve listened to my mom when she told me not to believe all the stories a man tells me. While we’re still trying to unlearn pickmeism together, there are definitely nuggets of wisdom she has given me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/21 02:25 PM
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Girl can I say I absolutely love your parenthetical and the source you included.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/09/21 09:19 PM
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I’ve met a lot of men who view sexual acts as inherently emotional and intimate, even casual ones. When they have a fight or want to patch things up, they’ll initiate sex because they think it’s the same as having communication about emotional issues. Personally, most women I know think of sex acts as about sexual satisfaction.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/09/21 04:15 PM
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This reminds me of someone I went to high school with who had a similar trauma with a girl(except her name was Jenny). Similar story where he met her at 14 and they had the same class until 16. Then, I think she moved school and he legit managed to follow her to the other school. I know all this because luckily another girl warned me he was only friendly with me because we seemed similar. Actually, while it’s not as dramatic, I know a lot of men in my life who do not know the concept of letting …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/09/21 03:37 PM
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My friends wanted a ring pop so that they could pick their own rings later… not so they could get a ring pop ring. Nice synthesized diamonds aren’t even very expensive and you can get them custom made on places like etsy. Next time I think I want to “settle” I might just buy my own engagement ring
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/08/21 02:02 AM
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The same men who preach “not every man” are the ones saying all men do their shitty behavior. They even try to say it’s in their biology when it is not, at all.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/07/21 05:37 PM
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I read the post before reading the title, so I was hoping this was a female/woman. I knew another man who shamed me for certain things, yet had an insanely large body count… of encounters that didn’t even really rile him up. He just kept a book of all the “bodies” he collected for the ego boost because his ex had cheated on him and he preferred that to dealing with his feelings. It was so weird to me that it wasn’t even about the orgasms, the pleasure, the sex, but it was about the body count. H…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/21 08:34 AM
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I actually had to google what “kys” was. I made a post on another subreddit and got a nice comment that was hijacked by this weird porn account. Turns out this account was cosplaying as a woman to try to lure more young women to get impregnated, entrapped, and probably forced to do OnlyFans. This account reminds me a lot of how that other account would attack people. Also, I can’t remember the last time I slid into some random guys DM’s? Like, why?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/07/21 05:35 PM
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I don’t know if I would describe this as an “FDS Success” post (separate flair, as you know) but these are all valid points and good constructive criticism. Thank you for being so specific and insightful
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/07/21 05:01 PM
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I really want this to be a story by some 15 year old who romanticizes the 90’s.(But going through her twitter it seems like it was really really real— GIRL IF YOU “DODGED A BULLET” WHY DO YOU KEEP TRYING TO CATCH IT) High school drama felt really intense in the moment but when I look back on it there was nothing real or significant about it. I learned and I grew and I wouldn’t seek out those people who mistreated me. She really sounds like she never grew out of that teenager mindset of “well, I’…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/07/21 04:56 PM
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You can still get out of this pretty easily. This kind of thing can only escalate. I knew someone who would borrow phones from his managers and supervisors to reach me. I would recommend you watch EmilyArtful’s videos on Creepshow art to get an idea of how bad things can get. It only gets worse with passivity. For your safety, block him everywhere and comb through your friend list to make sure it’s only people you’re close to and talk to regularly. Don’t accept any suspicious new friend requests…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/07/21 04:37 PM
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Men are strange in that they think they’re these hypersexual machismo machines but they can’t seem to separate sexual attraction with romantic feelings. He sees her nude and suddenly “I really like her”. I used to engage in really similar behaviors to her, so I can kind of relate. I think I was incapable of wanting to actually connect with people, so it was almost something I did impulsively out of boredom or for validation. Also, due to trauma, I associated my arousal with a lot of traumatic th…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/07/21 04:28 PM
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Even worse when “there’s a darkness inside me… that other people bring out” or other people put that “darkness” inside of them. They just want to blame other people for “provoking” their ire. They want to carry hate for people, sometimes from stupid high school things, and say it’s because of that “darkness”. Even in cases of mental illness or distress, that is a reason not an excuse. Plenty of people go through things and not hurt people. Plenty of people try to catch themselves or have systems…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/07/21 04:10 PM
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Also, LVM/NVM see you as their property that they’re entitled to use to “satisfy urges” but will hate you if they think you allowed another man to touch their property. They also don’t know what consent is They will gaslight you into thinking you are the problem and you need to figure out how to “work things out”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/07/21 04:06 PM
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In the wiki for this sub, the FDS Rescue Mission flair is for someone to “share either your story or a reddit post involving a woman looking for advice and in need of our support”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/07/21 04:03 PM
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I feel like men are allowed to age, but in general just age really terribly. I think this is especially true if they stay up late gaming or other things, put anything inside their bodies, or once they get home lay about and expect someone else to cook or clean for them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/07/21 09:11 AM
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I would probably never watch this since those messages are not my cup of tea. At my age, I also can’t suspend my disbelief when I hear or see things that are just not true(men are wild animals because bIOlOGYYY galaxy brain and it’s normal for women not to orgasm!) However, I know that at one point I only got with one of my exes because I thought those were the only two options for me. I basically was involved casually with many men I met online certain communities or fetish spaces online to get…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/06/21 09:43 AM
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Wanted to point out another thing about being attractive. Even if you were certifiably the most beautiful woman by your culture’s standards, it is still fleeting. In the US especially, certain looks and traits go in and out of style quick. If you have a big health emergency or sudden health condition, and gain or lose a lot of weight, that chips away at your “attractiveness”. The same is true if you get into an accident that causes damage to your face or other body. Even just naturally getting o…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/06/21 09:31 AM
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One of my (now ex) pickme friends tried to encourage me to do online dating (or worse, set me up with terrible men that I could “put in their place”). OLD is a terrible transactional environment and it is so hard to vet. The older websites kinda tried to help you vet, with questions to prevent you from interacting with people you don’t want to, but obviously most people didn’t really care or want to use them. I’d rather never go on a date then have to experience my inbox getting absolutely bomba…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/06/21 09:00 AM
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I feel bad for having enjoyed his work in the past, mostly in his acting roles.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/06/21 08:57 AM
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I agree I don’t think she’s ever been near the level of “crazy”, though I’d rather say high-needs, as the media has made her out to be. Even if she was very high needs at one point, it doesn’t mean her needs change or she can’t have some form of independence. I remember she would go on the news for stupid things too, like jumping into the water in her underwear… in an age where celebrities have literally gone skinny dipping in feces-infested water.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/06/21 06:38 PM
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I once thought a certain man couldn’t hurt me even if our relationship went south because he was so kind and generous even to people who treated him “terribly”. What I didn’t know is that all those people who hurt him deeply…actually didn’t. They just reacted like normal humans to bad situations. Their “crazy” went away after being physically away from him, both his friends and his exes. Anyway, turns out he was perfectly capable of hurting me and took a special relish in it because I had put up…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/06/21 06:32 PM
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The propaganda campaign against Britney has been so powerful for years. I believed it for a while despite not knowing all the details, just kind of a detached way. My mom still believed it even up to recently until I showed her the unofficial documentary. It’s so disgustingly eugenist as way, that she has an IUD she can’t take out and isn’t allowed to marry or have more children. They’ve worked her like a slave and hardly let her take any breaks. I feel so much for her and just want to see her f…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/06/21 06:23 PM
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My aunt was the same, she would get mad if the police were involved even in issues that required them because of embarrassment
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/06/21 05:59 PM
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My aunt was just an apologist for male violence
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/06/21 05:58 PM
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This is so true for me. One of my aunts in response to shitty LVM/NVM behavior was just “Stay Strong, God will reward you”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/06/21 09:14 AM
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Before I started recovering from my pickmeism, I keenly felt my sense of worth was tied to my ability to attract and keep a man. When one of my exes first dumped me, I felt so humiliated it seemed like he had gotten over me so quickly. Other men who were swooping in(not quite a week after the breakup even) were telling me “Just cry over some ice cream and forget about him.” I felt bad for still wanting him back for a few days and I felt bad that it took me a whole month or so to process most of …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/06/21 09:08 AM
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To truly know a man, look at how he maintains his bathroom, especially if nobody else like a mom or paid housekeeper does it for them. One man in my family leaves fast food wrappers, incense, bongs, and… excrements mess everywhere in his bathroom. If he believed in doctors or therapy, I would take him to one since I never before knew that Freud could be taken so literally.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/06/21 09:00 AM
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Bieber was caught speeding but tons of celebrities have actually been involved in vehicular deaths and simply paid to make it go away
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/06/21 04:55 AM
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I feel like for a lot of men, a part of them thought they deserved to be worshipped and popular in high school and especially their whole life. If they’re not revered as Adonis, they cry about how they wish they were actually hot so people will worship them. It’s not enough to have a fulfilling life with a partner, family, traveling, adventures, and hobbies if they are not also worshipped for their beauty. Never mind that commodification of a body usually peaks when you’re young then goes downhi…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/06/21 05:26 PM
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I’m a short person myself but I think there is definitely something messed up with how men treat the height of women. I think a lot of men, consciously, usually prefer shorter women. Our culture, especially in recent years has been romanticizing the “adult baby girl” kind of look. For men, a tall grown woman is antithetical because she doesn’t look as much like a barely legal child. That’s really why they want very petite women to “throw around”, in my opinion, and why they prefer women to not h…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/06/21 05:23 PM
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For some men, pregnancy is a tool they use to create vulnerability. They have a breeding kink, mostly because it makes women helpless, but they have no interest in actually rearing a child or driving a woman to an appointment. I have also heard from some women(never had kids myself) that having a child is incredibly empowering. It teaches you what you can do with your body, and how much you are capable of. It makes you not want to deal with so much BS and prioritize your child’s life. Of course …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/06/21 05:16 PM
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This resonates so much for me. My dad’s family also treats women like slaves though luckily us younger generations are somewhat allowed/encouraged to aspire for more. Unfortunately, there is also a lot of financial abuse. A lot of women don’t know much about the real world and how to handle money. When they tried to make it on their own, they often striked out and had to return to their husbands with their tails between their legs. They never made enough money on their own to get away. Such a to…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/06/21 04:54 PM
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I don’t really care if it’s legally binding but the next man I get into a relationship with will have to sign a piece of paper that says basic facts about what rape is(stealthing, while asleep) and how it is both illegal and morally reprehensible
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/06/21 04:51 PM
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I can’t speak for all women, but I have sometimes felt a slight pull towards more dangerous types. I think it is mainly to do with feeling flawed/broken and thinking you “need” or “deserve” someone who is also flawed/broken. Some people romanticize someone who can “see the world differently.” It can make you feel like you’re in your own special club. Some people are attracted to narcissists because it can make you feel special that of all the people in the world, they choose to obsess over you w…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/06/21 04:49 PM
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Sex work and porn is not as glamorous as some people try to make it seem. Recently, I made a comment somewhere and someone else commented something positive back. Then, a weirdo who seemed to have an OF came to attack the person who said something positive to me and me. I did some digging and it doesn’t really seem like the person in the pictures is actually the one running the account. She was pregnant and trapped, with her “partner” trying to use her to recruit another very young barely person…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/06/21 09:50 PM
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Well i just mean on other platforms blocking means they can’t see you. On Reddit, it means they can still follow you but you can’t see or hear from them
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/06/21 07:09 PM
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As someone who was involved with older men, you’re “mature for your age” until you point out their immaturity or flaws. Many older men seem to have incel/nice guy tendencies. They think they won’t have happiness if they don’t push all their sexual, emotional, and physical desires onto one perfect(ly groomed) girl. They think having male friends you share things with is gay or some other stupid thing. And sharing things female friends means you want to start a relationship with them. You’re “matu…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/06/21 04:20 PM
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And cue another creep following me
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/06/21 12:00 PM
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I wish Reddit’s blocking option actually blocked. It is so disturbing to have blank accounts randomly following and unfollowing me, like they’re waiting for an opening.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/06/21 03:47 AM
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Honestly I think women are more visual but men are used to feeling entitled and having control. They’re also the first to confuse sexual arousal for deeper feelings too. That is, until they bored
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/21 08:59 AM
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Exactly! I was teased in school for my butt growing up but I still wanted to get one after my ex would make comments on my body or seeing how instagram influencers would edit their pictures. I can only imagine the regret once that body type/shape loses popularity again
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/21 08:58 AM
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And defile showers and other surfaces 😷
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/21 08:54 AM
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Yeah sadly certain shapes and silhouettes get trendy then they go “out of style”. My mom grew up in an area where having big breasts was seen as unseemly and fat, so she always tries to downplay them or hide them. I feel like every day, especially with social media, we’re getting to a place where beauty standards are more and more unattainable.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/06/21 09:36 PM
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Yeah and if she knows what he porn he watches, he even goes out of her way to tell her that. It has all the hallmarks that he’s purposely making her insecure about her body
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/06/21 08:13 PM
32

Second this! A paper trail of emails is the best way to bring this issue up to HR
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/06/21 07:42 PM
54

I think definitely a lot of men fetishize a certain body type because of porn and media. When you develop a fetish, it can get worse and spiral. Some people even base an identity around their fetish. Interesting how these fetishes are always pretty young looking women with whatever body type is trending. Even “MILF”s have a particular body type they’re supposed to be. After that, an aging woman is just a specialty fetish.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/06/21 07:32 PM
53

When I was a pickmeisha, I let my boyfriend drastically trigger me and compare me to his exes. He said I was “2nd best” but that I wasn’t in my “prime” yet but “first best” when he doesn’t compare his exes in their “prime”. I drastically tried to alter my body shape and just seeing other women would trigger me. After we broke up and I went to a beach party with some friends, I got really triggered. I still can’t quite see my own body properly, worse than when my dysmorphia and ED was at its heig…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/06/21 07:29 PM
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This just triggered a very intense flashback of a male family member who as supposed to give me a ride to school. He got angry at me probably for some childish thing(since I was a literal child) and told me to walk to school and that he hoped I got raped so I would learn to respect him. Basically, I think this scum of the earth just wants a broken, dependent woman who will treat him as the absolute authority in her life.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/21 11:45 AM
21

The same men who complain that tinder is now used for dating and not hooking and it makes it “weird” are also the same ones who expect every woman who is the object of their sexual attention to cook, clean, and nurture their fragile fragile male feelings
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/21 11:33 AM
32

Wtf how does someone type “loyal fuck buddy” with a straight face and not realize it’s an oxymoron
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/21 11:32 AM
40

“Think of the children” is a really interesting phrase when most of the sex workers they recruit are meant to fulfill pseudo-child fantasies of barely legal, stepfamily, cheerleader, etc. Their prime is 18-25, if that. Where was she when literal children uploaded to the site and gained quite a following(of men reuploading and guiding others to it when it was taken down. Smh I have no sympathy for her and her “amazing sexy photos”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/06/21 03:16 PM
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Let’s say looking at him would’ve saved his life, would he have even been grateful? The Rabbis in those times had the right idea
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/06/21 06:32 AM
11

I’ve read a few sources and most male workers have male clients. There are some rare exceptions, especially when a married man pays to satisfy a kink with his wife. I don’t think men were born without empathy, I think they were just socialized to feel entitled to do whatever the fuck they want, literally, and see everyone as transactional objects for gain.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/06/21 02:57 PM
6

I used to feel bad about having plenty of photos of my exes, me by myself, but not many(or any depending on how bad the relationship was) of me with a significant other. Now I feel so much better.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/06/21 02:00 PM
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An easy way that I would frame it is talking about a few related life experiences. First I talked about how I’ve taken pole classes before for fitness and fun, not really to go strip. Then I would say how some coworkers of mine like to go to certain strip clubs for the food and to make life easier on the girls, since they’re not creepy men. Usually, this makes people seem more open to talking about their honest experiences there, rather than trying to give me the answer I want to hear. Side note…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/06/21 12:16 PM
2

For me, when I deal with that kind of misogyny, I just have to change my mindset of how I view people. Sometimes you have to pick your battles. Support your cousin yourself if you see she’s not getting the praise she deserves. If people are open-minded, I share small bits of feminist or egalitarian perspectives. If I know it’ll get shut down or start a fight, I won’t even try. You parents and your family does not define your own personal ideals. They’re your own decision and everyone has to deal…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/06/21 10:39 AM
6

If it makes you feel any better, he was accidentally setting you up for success! Developmentally, a few months or a year make such a big difference with kids. Nowadays people put their kids in school later rather than earlier
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/06/21 10:33 AM
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And we have to remember women in conservative areas don’t really get gun rights, especially WOC. You could have a restraining order, get charged at with a knife, in your own property in a “stand your ground” state and you’ll still get villainized by the press and charged for manslaughter. If a man kills a woman over rage and selfishness, not self defense, they get out in 6 months
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/06/21 08:32 AM
7

I don’t care if a man tells me he’s a virgin, if he wants to be intimate with me, he can get tested
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/06/21 10:22 AM
6

I made the mistake of contacting an ex once because I accidentally left something in his possession that I owned since I was a young teenager. He knew how much it was worth to me . Anyway, so I waited until I got my grades for that semester so that my life wouldn’t fall apart over a piece of shit. Since my number and other avenues of talking to him were blocked(then later unblocked but that’s another story), I called him on a number in his area code. Most of the phone call is him telling me he c…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/06/21 01:54 AM
34

Yes, there’s all sorts of slave labor used in a lot of things, even if it’s “Made in London” or some other first world place. Does he shop at places where things are made in China? Does he carefully monitor his plastic use and petition companies/government to improve labor conditions? Does he smoke? Does he watch anime or read manga, where the animators and mangaka work long hours for very little pay? Has he ever helped his partner or his mother with making meals or cleaning?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/05/21 07:16 AM
2

This helped me. But what I did first was made first a more general list of qualities or things I liked. I purposely kept the phrasing general so it would be easy to find in other people or heavily analyze it. Then, I made my shit list second and it really did it really outnumber the first list and it was much more personal and specific. I have a good memory so I ritually burned the lists to symbolize the end, forever
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/05/21 07:11 AM
32

Dolly Parton once talked about how she would go to sleep with her makeup on, just in case she was roused in the middle of the night and someone would see her. Very common in the past for women to not be allowed to be caught looking anything less than done up
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/05/21 10:46 PM
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I just wanna say, I know a woman who gave away her mom’s money in the form of an expensive new gaming station, a car, gas money, free meals, etc. And no one called the men gold-diggers
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/05/21 12:59 PM
3

One of my recent dumbass moments(before FDS) was when I used a rebound to help comfort me(well a few but that’s another story). Lots of the typical trash you can expect from NVM/LVM but the breaking was when he tried to manipulate me by accusing me of being manipulative because I shared something really personal about myself. He wanted to talk it out or at least talk to me again but I was revulsed by him and kept flaking on him(plus that personal thing I was dealing with really did occupy my tim…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/05/21 11:20 AM
3

Ah yes the old vulnerable narcissistic schtick
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/21 03:21 AM
22

Men who manage multiple households(poly) tend to have higher rates of stress and heart disease. Somehow I doubt he’ll try very hard to parent all of his children. It’s disgusting how culture has let men believe they’re entitled to everything
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/21 10:51 AM
33

The citations you have here give me life. Next time a man calls me illogical or how women love so much deeper than men, I’ll just assign some logical reading
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/21 10:49 AM
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I’m so glad you trusted your instinct and got away! And now you know a bit more about the female company you keep, at least in their taste for men/knowledge of warning signs. I swear the kissing hand thing has got to be in some sort of pickup artist handbook or something, like right up there with painting their nails and rubbing lipstick and perfume on themselves(I imagine a group of no homo bros doing this to each other on their way to a club). I was on friendly terms with 3 guys and when they …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/21 10:42 AM
18

Thank you so much! I absolutely hate it when the usual “logical” anti-science man will try to talk about biology like they know wtf they’re talking about
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/05/21 09:31 PM
5

Really wish I could send this to my female family member without making her defensive of her forever bf(that she thinks marrying will somehow fix🤢) but at least I have found my new motto
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/05/21 11:32 AM
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I was pro-choice but pro-life personally but after seeing Gabrielle Blair’s twitter thread on how pregnancy is 100% a man’s fault, I’m way more comfortable being choice now. Reading the book Zikora, where the main character is giving birth and at one point thinking back on an abortion she had also reinforced this point to me. Whatever soul you may think babies may or may not have, I really don’t think it would be present until you gave birth, especially with treatments we have nowadays like IVF …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/05/21 04:11 AM
45

I’m so happy you were able to walk away from that mess and learn something. This is why I wait a bit before telling men what I’m looking for. Sometimes, a man’s actions will contradict his actual words. I’ve had a very similar situation many times where men will try to commit way to soon. I’m taking a break from dating now but even in my pickme days, I would always point out how if they really wanted something long-term, they wouldn’t commit too quickly. There’s such a fine line between lovebomb…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/05/21 06:31 AM
41

Or so many of them have trust issues with women and relationships because they married the first person they saw, for the benefits, without looking at much past sex. Then they blame this toxic trait of theirs on everyone else. They blame you and other women for their trust issues and think great sex/chemistry is enough to change things. They’re the first ones afraid of real commitment (because of how prone to fucking up they are). If they’re in the military and not married, there’s something wro…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/05/21 06:24 AM
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You probably did the best thing you could at the time by actually pointing out his problematic attitudes and behaviors
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/05/21 09:18 AM
4

Yes he can
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/05/21 08:49 AM
1

Not anyone serious but honestly a very trashy man. Over 10 years older, but tried to act younger and play dumb like he didn’t know my age. Has been using drugs since high school and therefore a shit memory, so he prolly doesn’t even remember me. First question he asked on the phone was how old I was when I lost my virginity. He always had shit to say about his ex and how she immediately moved in and didn’t work or get a job or coMmuniCAte that she wanted to be a housewife. Anyway then, not too l…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/05/21 08:49 AM
46

So his ideal relationship is with a vulnerable woman who retraumatizes herself while having sex. While watching a therapy video, he pervs on her to get her to do what he wants and is upset she doesn’t want him in the room. Sis, throw the whole man out and let yourself heal. He is garbage stinking up her space which is probably why she doesn’t want him anywhere near.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/05/21 08:25 AM
8

The best that can happen is that it teaches you something.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/05/21 08:20 AM
42

The way cops handle rape cases, I don’t blame her at all. It’s so disappointing we will victim blame a woman for what others have done to her. Comparing her to a bored bank robber is not fair at all. I think though on a sociological level, there is something of a vicious cycle that happens when people treat you unfairly from birth. I hope she ends up okay…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/05/21 08:18 AM
29

People forget that the humanities was the brocial field of the elite… until POC and women started to be in humanities fields. Suddenly, we shun the humanities and embrace STEM. In my opinion, subjects in the humanities makes life worth living. I love the humanities, but unfortunately, especially if I want my family to get to a better place, I have to consider the economic feasibility of my work. Though, I do still participate a lot in humanities fields, even outside of school. I also wish people…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/05/21 08:15 AM
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That’s a great way to look at it actually. A lot of men seem to understand certain women with certain vulnerabilities are easier to manipulate. If only I ran when one of my exes told me he only liked crazy girls…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/05/21 08:11 AM
55

Hell yeah! Imm so glad divorce exists
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/05/21 08:10 AM
4

Wow she literally assures your genetic material lives on and this is how you treat her? What amount of coMmUNiCaTiOn is going to fix this
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/05/21 08:09 AM
14

Being attached to a man like that is so embarrassing. It’s so easy to feel trapped and isolated because of that shame. What an awful human being
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/05/21 10:25 PM
3

I really wish I knew what lovebombing was before it happened to me. There was a saying I learned from a domestic abuse counselor, something like “You are not to blame for what happened to you. You cannot control other people’s actions. But there are things you can control to get out and protect yourself”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/05/21 10:21 PM
3

Exactly! Also how many wives of famous authors were their secretaries, note takers, heck sometimes their diaries were passed off as the writer’s own work.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/05/21 04:19 PM
9

Yes exactly! Like they have “man caves” to hide from their wives and responsibilities and they except dinner hot and ready. Also a lot of the typical responsibilities men have are like, weekly, once in a while type obligations. Work on cars every now and then, take out trash once a week, barbecue every now and then, mowing the lawn once a week, pick up something at the door every now and then, etc. Like how many men are proud to say they’ve never changed a diaper or wipe a baby’s butt? You even …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/05/21 05:15 PM
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If men had to pay for someone to babysit, deliver groceries, clean, organize, etc. that everything women are expected to do for free, they would simply not be able to afford it. Men like Einstein and other mousy “geniuses” and tortured “artists” only had the leisure to be bored and pursue their work because of the unpaid labor of women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/05/21 09:51 AM
3

I reported her tik tok account and her parents know but she keeps popping back up again
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/05/21 06:14 PM
9

“Logical” men are hilarious. One tried to rage at me like “WHAT DO YOU MEAN MY MALE EMOTIONS AREN’T LOGIC?” “YOU MEAN MATH IS LOGICAL BUT NOT MEEEEE” Totally need to use the 50 times sex whittling one
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/05/21 12:14 PM
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I have a 9 year old cousin. She’s friends with a 12 year old who is nicknamed something like Thicccy Nicky (her name is not Nicky or Nicole or anything close). She has a lot of (adult) male followers on tik tok. My 9 year old cousin tells me how she wears semi revealing clothing and will pretend her shirt is riding up and post similar things. My cousin doesn’t quite understand it but she understands that she gets lots of male attention and followers that way. She’s already concerned with trying …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/05/21 11:51 AM
18

Excellent grades. I talked to someone about how my grades are the one thing I can objectively say, yes I’m doing this right(I was younger and more self deprecating then). He couldn’t trip over himself fast enough to say “Well actually, you wahmen, it just means you mindlessly know how to work and that’s why companies prefer C’s get degrees type people” blah blah blah. I almost let it get me down but then I was like, no, like I’ve studied these aspects to education(not for school, for a job I had…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/05/21 02:09 PM
32

There is definitely a “pretty” privilege but it’s mainly borrowed power I think. A lot of men will still treat women they find incredibly desirably poorly the first chance they can, whether to control or manipulate or just for fun. In their eyes, women being attractive is just an invitation to be more creepy. Also, with how trends change(big boobs being popular vs big butts, big lips, etc.) and with how most people can’t seem to handle natural aging on a women(for many men 25 is when they start …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/05/21 02:11 AM
34

I don’t think you “boiled over” at all. You had a natural reaction to pretty repugnant behavior. You also didn’t do anything terrible(throw a fit, scream, break things, etc.). You handled things so well and at the very least those people know not to waste your valuable motherfucking time
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/05/21 02:05 AM
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I feel like sometimes when you get to know people, they do seem to get more attractive and interesting. On the other hand, it’s totally possible for a decent or even very attractive person to start to seem uglier and uglier the more they talk and you get to know them. An ex I had, before he did something really horrible to me, started to look extremely ugly and false when things were getting a bit hot and heavy on our last date. I wish I would’ve listened to my gut(and my feelings of attraction …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/05/21 08:46 AM
2

Another one would be. “Don’t worry about therapy, any male figure in your life would do. Don’t worry about self improvement they’ll probably just tell you to be more confident and be your fat, ugly but kind of funny self. Just like the movies!” I read somewhere that men are much less likely to seek therapy than women, even controlling for income. I wondered why and I think it’s because all the women in their life are basically their unpaid therapists, their mothers, aunties, all their personal f…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/04/21 10:08 PM
10

Thank you! Men have to be culturally trained to try to be visual people and it doesn’t work all the way. Most of their arousal comes from faces, eye tracking shows them focusing on faces. It’s cultural training, not innate biology they try to hide under! I swear, this is why I keep a list of DOIs for the next man to try to mansplain “biology” and “logic” to me
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/04/21 09:29 PM
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