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| 1 | Do people ask you when you tell them you are getting a divorce…Neither one could afford to buy each other out. We bought house in 2015 for 125k refinance for solar and pay her car off killer interest deal. But neither one of us had 70k to buy each other out so forced to sell it. If you can afford it than request to keep it. Just know lawyer fees will be over 10k a piece then buying her half house lots of money. Good luck with your decision | /r/Divorce_Men | 18/06/26 05:05 PM |
| 3 | Do people ask you when you tell them you are getting a divorce…The courts made us sell the house and both buy different house both in sons school district if we wanted 5050 custody and parenting time | /r/Divorce_Men | 09/06/26 02:57 AM |
| 4 | She keeps lying about me…https://www.amazon.com/Magnetic-Voice-Activated-Recorder-Device/dp/B0GC74STHD/ref=mp_s_a_1_8?crid=2Q3TS5CW8NRHW&dib=eyJ2IjoiMSJ9.DhZXYdBZXDFdvRUGCGQKeHkTYlI4SjiwQLDxDweBshQHV6W621EL-kzLkvt5vCLOlqJTdw1XfZJxDuuZln5-U_fg2_5sN00c8tVK-vu9ByfQbivXMtEpLv3KXjKJ1Osb_yWvmk0AdIY3wEKdsmFXD6F86M-FqHyHHoOlm9Tg35yeaU5FZBbHOgcq3o2KGy5jnd8Svw8vdZQCdC_7facywQ.PePBqfPrWno2NqWepfGNIfwXhTkxvkmNcUX1nufM5do&dib_tag=se&keywords=Listening+devices+discreet&qid=1779379416&sprefix=listening+devices+discreet%2Caps%2C167&sr=… | /r/Divorce_Men | 21/05/26 04:06 PM |
| 3 | When do you guys take off your ring?Same I took mine off had it on my pc for the whole process, soon a judge signed papers never to be see. Good thing it was titanium small only costed like 80 bucks | /r/Divorce_Men | 20/05/26 05:28 PM |
| 5 | Wife’s Having An Affair.What's the income situation. 50/50 or do you make alot more? Alimony can hit you. Also if divorce judge will order kids stay in same school district so look at place on district. I divorce November I bought a house I didn't want (fixer upper) but I'm a master electrician and can do other things as well have friends in other trades. She went with a lot value house money because recently flipped. I have more money to spend with our son so he actually likes to be here (think about quality time but … | /r/Divorce_Men | 17/05/26 08:32 PM |
| 1 | Conflicting signals and contemplating separation. Lost and mentally drained looking for guidanceSame but 16 yrs. As long as you don't make significant more money or move out of school district for kids you have a good chance. If opposite cheaper to keeper her and just separate. | /r/Divorce_Men | 16/05/26 02:27 PM |
| 3 | 38M high-earning professional in a long marriage with 2 young kids — planning to initiate divorce but drowning in guiltIf you make alot more than her it may be cheaper to keeper. Just separate. Alimony is going to hit you hard if you make a lot | /r/Divorce_Men | 12/05/26 08:08 PM |
| 1 | Living with hidden camerasIn Kentucky I was advised by my attorney to get audio recorder and treat her like a queen. As is I was on big brother 24/7. The one I bought was size of 2 pokerchips stacked. No lights just usb-c port and on and if switch. I got 5050, no child support kept my benefits she kept hers. Best outcome. Every state is different read laws. I know camera and listening devices are different in most states | /r/Divorce_Men | 11/05/26 10:47 AM |
| 1 | She Filed…Because she can have her attorney hit you for abandmemt, we both know it's in women's favor of divorce. Do you want to fight 1 more position? | /r/Divorce_Men | 10/05/26 11:30 PM |
| 7 | She Filed…Never move out before judge. Unless you have a prenup | /r/Divorce_Men | 09/05/26 11:03 PM |
| 1 | Don't know what to doI wouldn't move out if she was to divorce you her attorney going to say that's a form of abandmemt I lived 5 month as a roommate for divorce was final | /r/Divorce_Men | 09/05/26 03:28 AM |
| 1 | Found out todayLook the law of your state my lawyer told me to by a listening device. It's all black about the size of a poker chip. 6gb last days on charge can be easily hidden under a pc or somethings doesn't move much. It only records when here noise and makes each different instance in separate files. Judge heard everything she said about me to my son. In my stated we are permitted to record audio in our own house. Best idea ever. Then if you are in house together fits in you pocket easy and if she starts … | /r/Divorce_Men | 09/05/26 03:03 AM |
| 1 | Need advice . Wife agrees to go our separate ways and live apart for good , but still wants to fuck exclusively .It happens I had a couple travel g jobs 1 during covid. The I realized I missed out on lots of my sons school activities. Been back 2 yrs realized we changed enough we can't live together. But we still have sex few times week because she doesn't want to seek new guy probably with STDS and I'm don't want relationship just FWB. 16 years marriage why not stay with safety. It sounds weird but it works. Don't have to go to bars or clubs she just comes over and goes on her way. Most divorces don't wor… | /r/Divorce_Men | 07/05/26 01:00 PM |
| 2 | I’m doneLet's the courts decide that tell your lawyer. You may have to buy her out. Divorce sucks I went through in November already better. Have my son 5050 no child support because we make closer to the same per yr. She decided not touch my 401k and long as didn't touch her 401k | /r/Divorce_Men | 01/05/26 08:53 PM |
| 2 | 2 year trial finally over: ResultsBrother you are getting f*ck with no Vaseline. I got 5050 as long as I bought house in school district *judge ordered kid stay in same district * she get him to school on her days likewise. She kept her retire I kept my pension. No child support because we make like 4k difference on the yr. I would go back to court and file for adjustment. You must be on one of the messed up states. Doesn't pass the smell test. | /r/Divorce_Men | 26/04/26 10:25 PM |
| 2 | Divorce Finalized today, she already wants more Child SupportKill her with kindness because you know everything in her heart hates you. Follow the law dont talk bad about her in front if kids | /r/Divorce_Men | 02/04/26 01:38 AM |
| 2 | Help pleaseIf you want 5050 with kids most likely have to look for a house in the school district. That's what I did and got 5050 | /r/Divorce_Men | 13/03/26 04:22 PM |
| 2 | Any head drugs you got prescribed to help?Get beet root supplements very affordable. Lowers blood pressure by relaxing blood vessels to open up. I think I got 90 days supply for like 20-25 bucks Amazon. As far as anxiety. Night time 50 MG of benadryl will make you tired. Ashwanda gummies take edge off got daytime | /r/Divorce_Men | 02/03/26 12:19 AM |
| 1 | Wife Said We Are IncompatibleI was 100 percent good to do it. My attorney suggested me to do this. And warned me that she could be doing this to me. Because we both our on the loan. Property 50-50 by each. No difference than putting a nanny cam for a babysitter | /r/Divorce_Men | 14/02/26 02:42 AM |
| 1 | Wife Said We Are IncompatibleI live in Kentucky. My house is as much mine as hers I'm allowed to record, voice video, nanny cams or what ever. Legal here | /r/Divorce_Men | 13/02/26 10:51 AM |
| 1 | Wife Said We Are IncompatibleIn my state I'm allowed to record anything in my own house. I bought a voice recorder. Check your local laws. My lawyer told me to. I messed up she heard me on my pc say some damaging things but the judge dismissed bc wasn't violent, and irrelevant to divorce | /r/Divorce_Men | 13/02/26 03:48 AM |
| 2 | Wife Said We Are IncompatibleLet mediation determine what repairs who pays etc | /r/Divorce_Men | 11/02/26 09:11 PM |
| 6 | Wife Said We Are IncompatibleDon't leave the house. Treat her like a queen her lawyer probably told her to put listening devices in the house. Act like you are being watched and listened to be surprised how discreet some of these things are I bought it is about the size of a quarter thickness is about 4-5 quarters stack 6gb and 1 charge lasts almost a week. Make everything about the kids. Everything. Wait until court awards house or forces you to sell it before moving. And again treat her like a queen don't give her ammo to… | /r/Divorce_Men | 11/02/26 09:09 PM |
| 3 | Communication With ExIf it. Is 5050 don't worry about it she cannot tell you what to do on your parenting time. | /r/Divorce_Men | 09/02/26 09:39 PM |
| 3 | CrushedI also got divorced when she turned 40.but I dint ever think she cheated on me nor same here. I had a few traveling jobs pre and post covid. We kinda grew apart but bills paid and spending 2 days a week was great. Decided to come back home 2 yrs now. And living 7 days together she had her routine I had mine. Sex was still good she vlbecame extreme germaphobe. Her OCD. And nagging daily just eventually took its toll, a childhood friend of mine is an attorney. After an argument she kept putting me… | /r/Divorce_Men | 04/02/26 02:51 AM |
| 2 | How long does phone/video calls lasts with the mother when the kid is with you?My attorney said 10 minutes is about right. Remember your kids on your visitation time shouldn't be spending it all on other parent | /r/Divorce_Men | 26/01/26 05:52 PM |
| 2 | Staying in an unhappy marriage for my childChildren are resilient. May take a couple weeks but the rebound. I divorced in November, bought house in December got 5050 parenting time my son loves coming here now. You are just hurting yourself. You live once. You are draining energy from this time on earth. File papers. Don't move out of the house until final it can be used against you. Make it all about your kids. Do not bash her treat her like queen until it's over. Her lawyer will probably tell her to get a listening device. Act as if yo… | /r/Divorce_Men | 26/01/26 05:27 PM |
| 4 | Getting Divorce, scared it’s gonna get messyLook fit a place in your kids school huge deal, don't move out right away can hurt you she will make it seem like abandonment.. Mine was similar I work construction so she did most of the kids school things. Not that I couldn't but she had more convenient work schedule. Let the courts tell you to sell your house the go get a home in your kids school district. Judge will most likely say kids must stay with same school. Be prepared her attorney may advise her to record you to use it against you. T… | /r/Divorce_Men | 22/01/26 11:07 PM |
| 9 | Wife MonkeyBranched and I've become the needy ex PART2Stop putting so much of your energy into her actions. You can't change her. File papers. You only live once why waste time you will never get back. | /r/Divorce_Men | 22/01/26 12:33 AM |
| 1 | She's keeping the kids with no rightThat's called Alienation of a parent 💯 illegal need to catch this on camera or audio. | /r/Divorce_Men | 20/01/26 08:48 PM |
| 1 | She's keeping the kids with no rightGood luck | /r/Divorce_Men | 20/01/26 08:47 PM |
| 3 | Crushed worldWasted energy I finalized mine in November. It does get better. Loneliness still sets but get hobby or find something to fill your time. If kids involved make it all about them. I bought a house in my son school district, we both make about the same money so no child support and 5050 custody. | /r/Divorce_Men | 20/01/26 12:14 AM |
| 1 | 3 nights on a couch because she changed the locksYes that is why I kept minr in my pocket made sure it was always on me. Some states do have weird laws | /r/Divorce_Men | 16/01/26 01:42 AM |
| 1 | Divorce court tommrrowI ran my situation through chagpt many times then if what happens, keep putting more information to AI they pull up laws. It told me I'm in great shape the whole time even I thought I was only every other weekend. Chat GPT is alot smarter than I thought. For the rest of the night go and keep putting different scenarios in it. It remembers you train of thought. | /r/Divorce_Men | 15/01/26 02:49 AM |
| 1 | Divorce court tommrrowTreat her like a queen. Make court all about the kids. If you have to sell house or she buys you out make sure you are in the kids school district. If courts haven't set that up make sure you ask judge kids stay in same district. Then you find a place on bus line or in district. Make it all about raising your kids. She bad talked me. Only thing she had was alcohol. I agreed not to drink when I have my son. I bought a fixer upper house on bus line since I'm in construction. And can do alot repair… | /r/Divorce_Men | 15/01/26 01:57 AM |
| 2 | Divorce court tommrrowIf you got kids make it all about them. Don't bad mouth her as bad as you want to. Tell the judge you love her and don't want to divorce. Still probably going to happen. But act professional as can be. If you have disabilities and she makes more she may have to pay you alimony or child support. Sorry this happening. I did it in November. Good luck | /r/Divorce_Men | 15/01/26 01:10 AM |
| 6 | 3 nights on a couch because she changed the locksBuy something like this. https://www.amazon.com/Recorders-AI-Intelligent-Cancellation-Activated-9500Hours/dp/B0F21FC7MN/ref=sxin_28_pa_sp_phone_search_thematic_sspa?content-id=amzn1.sym.d079d968-e626-497e-a316-b9e900d99281%3Aamzn1.sym.d079d968-e626-497e-a316-b9e900d99281&crid=AW6YKNVY9WSJ&cv_ct_cx=Secret+listening+device&keywords=Secret+listening+device&pd_rd_i=B0F21FC7MN&pd_rd_r=9fe4b151-4001-4d8a-8139-0e702e364a0b&pd_rd_w=NDjFj&pd_rd_wg=nCoNl&pf_rd_p=d079d968-e626-497e-a316-b9e900d99281&pf_rd_… | /r/Divorce_Men | 14/01/26 10:14 PM |
| 8 | 3 nights on a couch because she changed the locks1 if she is lying about you that is called Alienation of a parent illegal. 2 if you are married joint house she can't lock you out call the police that is your house as much as hers | /r/Divorce_Men | 14/01/26 09:42 PM |
| 2 | Living in limboWhen the wax runs out the candle is done. Just go. After a few months your mind will be rewired | /r/Divorce_Men | 12/01/26 12:22 AM |
| 1 | My wife is leaving me again.I'm in ky I had to stay in same school district as child is in. She already had a home pending in school district.. So I hade slim picking. I bought a fixer upper being in construction for all my my to make equity.. While going through it treat her like a queen as much as it hurts and no legal talk infront or to children. | /r/Divorce_Men | 11/01/26 05:26 PM |
| 4 | My wife is leaving me again.File divorce DO NOT leave the house. Especially if you have kids. Wait it out make you a place you can keep to yourself. In the long run I got 5050 custody no child support. Good luck | /r/Divorce_Men | 09/01/26 08:54 PM |
| 1 | Telling HerBut check your state to see if allowed. No different than a nanny cam | /r/Divorce_Men | 09/01/26 03:29 PM |
| 1 | Telling HerI'm your own home in my state. That was my attorney's advice. And told me to act as if I was being recorded too. Even your ring door bell can pick up on argument if close enough | /r/Divorce_Men | 09/01/26 03:28 PM |
| 1 | Telling HerAct like you are being recorded or listened to at all times treat her with respect. I bought this. https://www.amazon.com/132G-9800-Voice-Activated-Recorder/dp/B0DBVNMV6M/ref=mp_s_a_1_8?crid=24NK3A5S4A729&dib=eyJ2IjoiMSJ9.ILhD3tEAWqnw-LmbGOCcrAreFR9qlwNJY2KCW_4dNSS6k4lIMJriElUoceqID2dwBl-wpolLtJcI9YRGOjBm4jMnEtpfsmQYfBPOL0bKBrIISUJtWjel2ahlukJQZkcJ8Cr2zCiVuiow8mBbB_nzlAshImW1qV_nVpecYlRc7eeAJAA7NweKLVz-FAXLH4JxdXeAhFSs33aSWkAlhjQcqg.CfYw6F9YdzJTn8vLx8pKe2HCQN-827q0PAqBpkd-sk0&dib_tag=se&keywords… | /r/Divorce_Men | 08/01/26 11:41 PM |
| 1 | Finances after divorce1st don't move out. Sign of abandonment of kids gives her advantage in a system already favored by mothers. There are discrete listening devices on Amazon I got one. Act as if you are being recorded at all times, like Truman Show. Record her give anything to attorney. I filed divorce my wife summer. Ended in November. Walked away with 5050 of my son, no child support and she kept her 401k I kept my pension.. There are many lawyers on YouTube for men. Watch them. This is chess not checkers! Good … | /r/Divorce_Men | 04/01/26 01:08 AM |
| 1 | Should you sell the house before or after divorceI'm selling mine after divorce. That way judge picks a realtor and written 50/50 in any profits so she can't take all the money | /r/Divorce_Men | 03/01/26 11:57 PM |
| 3 | State requires 1 year separation but she won’t move outI just was released 3rd week November. I'm free, have my own place! Feels great. It is rough going through it. But believe me it gets better. The biggest hurt I have is my 13yr old son will never go on vacation with both parents again. Even though me and her still talk and on good terms. It's not just your divorce kids go through it too. I just spoil my son when he's with me. I grew up not knowing my dad until I was grown I resent it. Take care of yourself and kids! She will do fine it's set up … | /r/Divorce_Men | 03/01/26 05:24 PM |
| 1 | I need some advice. I need to leave the houseRecord her when she is in a bad abusive state. File epo she will have to leave and don't release epo until she is clean. Tough love | /r/Divorce_Men | 03/01/26 02:06 PM |
| 5 | State requires 1 year separation but she won’t move outRecord an episode while she drunk abusive for EPO she has to leave | /r/Divorce_Men | 03/01/26 01:41 PM |
| 1 | Help me out fellasI just came out of divorce my wife didn't my needs. I sometimes regret because now I only get my son 50% of time and me and her still friends. Precovid I had traveling job, came back shortly then went back to traveling job. We grew apart with her home and me staying in hotels. Last 2 yrs done traveling running work for local contractor. Now that I been home every day slowly drifted apart even though still having sex. Well I didn't feel respected in my house I wasn't king. She tried taking that r… | /r/Divorce_Men | 02/01/26 08:00 PM |
| 2 | Roller CoasterWorked out good for me too! Since our income is close and we got 5050 of our son no child support spousal she agreed to keep her retirement and not touch my pension! Good luck to you! | /r/Divorce_Men | 27/12/25 03:31 PM |
| 1 | Going through my divorceNewly divorced last month it is hard. Don't leave the house if you own that hurts you. Find a hobby don't talk to her. I built a pc set and always had earphones on when she was home. If you have kids spoil them! And no talking to kids about legal things. Just say mommy daddy splitting. Act like she has a recording device. https://www.amazon.com/Magnetic-Voice-Activated-Recorder-Device/dp/B0FC5W9DYB/ref=mp_s_a_1_4?crid=165S5U4RS9Y7H&dib=eyJ2IjoiMSJ9.fEH8irOyFG8Qm-lTjod0icF8IiimI65IRvAYGkKWvYyNSfJ… | /r/Divorce_Men | 25/12/25 12:38 AM |
| 3 | Wife asked for divorce but it’s very confusedMy ex disrespected me 1 too many times and I broke served her a divorce. It's a painful process but once all done you will feel much better | /r/Divorce_Men | 24/12/25 12:02 AM |
| 5 | Please Help, I am BrokenDivorce her no saving it.. She going to do what she wants. I just came through this process just closed on my house December 1st! Donnt leave house judge will sell that as you abandon your kids. Set up a safeplace. I make a corner of my living room where I put my pc, listen to podcasts and what not. Because when she gets served it will be hell for at least a month. Don't argue smile and treat her well. But something like this https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0FC5W9DYB?ref_=ppx_hzod_title_mob_b_fed_asi… | /r/Divorce_Men | 19/12/25 12:15 AM |
| 2 | 37M Phoenix, Divorce dragging on forever, need lawyer who actually gets shit doneThey want to drag it out. More court, more emails more time they get paid more. Ask for your quick and speedy trial | /r/Divorce_Men | 18/12/25 11:57 PM |
| 7 | Not even worth itI found get you a good toy & lube, 1 night hook ups, or find your local massage with HE. I believe hot.com will tell you were to look. Yeah it sucks paying but remember the massage feels great too. | /r/Divorce_Men | 18/12/25 11:53 PM |
| 3 | How did your stbxw react to getting served?Gets bad at first. I filed on her to. Don't leave the house gives her advantage. Set up a pc IR a vornwr if a room put TV. Something miminmize talking. Absolutely nothing in front of kids they may testify. But this or similar like almost 6 days per charge. https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0FC5W9DYB?ref_=ppx_hzod_title_mob_b_fed_asin_title_0_0 Always act as you are bring recorded. Pretend big brother show cameras and microphones anywhere. The reason I like the one I showed you it about the size of a 4 … | /r/Divorce_Men | 18/12/25 11:08 PM |
| 3 | I don’t even know what title to give this postBrother I just got out 16 yrs. With a 13yr old son. Our joint house is on market. We are close except bread winner. Me and her both made close enough to where 5050 no child support. As both of us made arrangements to buy new houses in same school route. It is lonely at first. Find a good massuese that may finally give HE. It sucks but helps Treant her as if she is your best friend. If she is negative document you can always go bace to court. I have a device that records almost 6 days that is the… | /r/Divorce_Men | 17/12/25 05:51 AM |
| 1 | Falsely a charged for assaultThey have listening device on amazon.com that record up ton5-6 days. Get it. I was ankentonkeepnslllnmybguns snndndiborcvr on good terms | /r/Divorce_Men | 16/12/25 08:08 AM |
| 27 | Accused by (ex?) girlfriend, I’m scared and don’t know what to do (NSFW)Did at anytime did she say stop? Because if worst case scenario court - rape scenario she will have to testify under oath so would you. | /r/MensRights | 12/12/25 02:58 AM |
| 5 | Should I Do It?Do it. I just did it seems like eternity. Now I have my own house 5050 with my son. Things are great! | /r/Divorce_Men | 06/12/25 05:59 AM |
| 1 | 18 year break upRecord her Alienation your kids they make small listening devices. Get evidence put it in front of a judge. That's illegal. Google Alienation during divorce. I just went through mine. 8 days ago. Lucky for me she Closes on her house Monday I close on my new house Tuesday. After Thanksgiving we should be completely separated | /r/Divorce_Men | 23/11/25 12:12 AM |
| 2 | What would you do?Don't move out file divorced. The court will make you sell home put the earning in escrow then they will divide the profits between you. Document everything. Amazon sellshttps://www.amazon.com/gp/aw/d/B0FC5W9DYB?psc=1&ref=ppx_pop_mob_b_asin_title Get one record all the arguments. Act as if she has one too. Kill her with kindness my divorce is final Thursday and while have over 60k in my pocket and close on my new house before Thanksgiving. Good luck | /r/Divorce_Men | 11/11/25 08:48 PM |
| 1 | I hate this shit.Did She move out of school district? If so you are in better shape talk to lawyer about obandment and fleeing without permission. You as a father has same rights she does.. TV shows just make people think this is normal | /r/Divorce_Men | 30/08/25 10:24 PM |
| 8 | I hate this shit.16 years with a 13yr old son going through it now. Really sucks! | /r/Divorce_Men | 30/08/25 10:21 PM |
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