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That was a stat, not a study, did never publish methodology or sample size, and also showed that while 80% of men were labelled "unattractive", women still interacted and matched with them. The same stat also showed that men very consistently, no matter their own age, went for a very narrow age group of women in their early twenties. So even based on your own source, you can't really argue that women are picker than men. And this is ignoring the most important reason you shouldn't base your opin…
/r/seduction12/06/21 09:24 AM
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Birth control actually fails all the time because humans rarely do anything absolutely correctly. That's assuming you are medically able to use the options that are very safe (many aren't and have to stick to condoms which a lot of guys are manipulative about) and that you have access to them (religion, infrastructure, laws) and can afford them (many don't). I get that. Then again, this isn't really meant as a straightforward 'do this then sex' kind of advice. I personally rarely take those seri…
/r/seduction07/06/21 06:57 PM
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Glad to hear you're considering it. It's human and normal to see things from your perspective predominantly, but a lot of things, not just men and women, make a lot more sense when we try to put ourselves in the Others shoes. Always seemed like a no-brainer to me that in order to attract women you need to understand their perspective and reality, both collectively and individually. The problem is that you're obviously not gonna change a society all by yourself. You can be the change you want to …
/r/seduction07/06/21 12:11 PM
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I don't meant this as a personal attack on you. You seem fine and I get how you feel. I'm opposing you, simply because you made a claim that 1) the data doesn't support and 2) that is counterproductive to what we're trying to do here. We, like everybody, are prone to interpret data in a way that suits us and the narrative we feel most comfortable with. Your statement perpetuates an age-old myth that attributes to "nature" what pretty clearly is culture. That is a good thing, because it means it …
/r/seduction07/06/21 09:06 AM
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What I want has nothing to do with it. Scientific accuracy is not a preference. Of course it matters, because your claim results in a mindset that you have to work against women's biology to seduce them (counterproductive), while the actual data suggests you need to take your individual cultural context into consideration, plan accordingly, and then approach women as individuals with individual sex drives just like yourself. Big difference. False blanket statements like yours are popular because…
/r/seduction06/06/21 02:15 PM
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Your source describes current sexual behaviour, it does not comment on what determines that behaviour. Your implication that it's inherently biological is speculation and ignores that there's a great number of possible factors influencing sexuality, like cultural context, the impact of gendered socialisation of sexuality, infrastructure, economic access, religion etc. which all at least co-determine sexual behaviour and, most importantly, what a person might self-report as sexual behaviour. It's…
/r/seduction06/06/21 01:18 PM
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Honestly, cold approaching women and Tinder are the maybe hardest ways to meet women there are. So, yes, valuing yourself by those standards is unrealistic and would depress anyone. This pandemic sometimes makes us forget that there's a real world out there and you're certainly not the only one who got a bit caught up in this mess. However, if your motivation to self-reflect in these last two posts is any indication of your mindset in real life, then you got this, dude. Be good to yourself.
/r/seduction07/05/21 02:11 PM
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Ah, I see, that puts things in perspective. It sounds like you've identified some issues and are successfully working on them, which is honestly great. Keep at it. I do wonder, though, because this last comment made it sound like you're completely normal guy with a typical dating app experience, why this affects you quite so harshly? Most people, including women, are disappointed with their Tinder experience (if you want to do the app thing you might want to try an alternative that's more person…
/r/seduction06/05/21 08:30 PM
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It sounds to me, especially since you're struggling with suicidal thoughts, that you problem isn't one that would be solved by achieving whatever you are associating with having a beautiful girlfriend. It seems likely that that is something you're fixating on that you think will change your life, but that's not what a relationship is. It's also a deeply unattractive attitude and likely a factor in why you're not successful. I'm not saying this to be harsh or to get you down; you are definitely n…
/r/seduction06/05/21 02:25 PM
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I think it's great that you're reflecting on your situation, see that there's a problem, and want to change. That takes guts. I also think you're far from alone; it's not an uncommon story and most guys aren't half as self aware as you about it. So, thank you for sharing, I hope this helps others as well as yourself to rethink things. Happy unplugging!
/r/ExRedPill24/04/21 08:55 PM
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I struggle to understand how you got that from a post saying the exact opposite, that we shouldn't generalise our experiences.
/r/seduction12/04/21 04:05 PM
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Of course I have :)
/r/seduction12/04/21 03:58 PM
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I'm not trying to discredit your experience here, but it's seems unlikely to me that you're in a position to accurately judge what traits the majority or minority of women share. Unless you have some sort of representative data to share, your personal perspective will always be limited by your age, class, culture, circle, personality, mindset and, like, chance. So, while the women you have met might appear like that to you that's your very individual, non-objective perspective and somebody else …
/r/seduction12/04/21 03:30 PM
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So, generally, it's good to remember that there's nothing that will 'work', in the sense of 'if you do this, sex'. Anybody who tells you otherwise had something to sell you. People and situations are different and there is no formula that will guarantee you success and avoid hurt. Consequently, ask yourself, who am I trying to be successful with? What is she like? Is she someone who lives for the chase, who tests me, and wants to be entertained? Then build that, which probably includes getting h…
/r/seduction19/03/21 04:29 PM
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So, I'm not telling you how to live your life, but I'd take anything "pros" sell with a grain of salt. It's at best curated at worst fake, often has an agenda, and has the fundamental problem of trying to fit an individual experience into one size fits all advice. Honestly, do what you're comfortable with in the situation. I recommend offering your number, especially in short encounters, because it's less pressure on her to decide right that second whether she wants a complete stranger have her …
/r/seduction19/03/21 12:16 AM
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I recommend not asking any fake questions, because the second you switch people will know that they were fake and that colours their initial perception of you. Be honest and tell them, "Sorry to bother you, but I noticed insert thing that caught your eye and I wanted to introduce myself". Do that, if she seems receptive go on asking her about thing/what she's up to/how her day was, if she seems vary and/or in a hurry, just offer your number. If she says no, say "No problem, have a good day!" and…
/r/seduction18/03/21 11:16 PM
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Ask yourself WHY that upsets you. Are you someone who just likes to focus on one person and want a woman who does the same? Then search for women who are the same and politely reject those who are not. Preferences are fine. Or does the fact that she talks to other guys when you're not committed make you feel insecure? If so why? Really get in there and formulate what exactly your fears regarding this are. What are your worst case scenarioes? How realistic are they? Often these fears are related …
/r/seduction17/03/21 01:32 PM
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I don't think you're being mean to women out of a real believe in rp strategies, I think it's likely you're doing so because you're afraid of getting rejected and this way you feel in control of the situation. A sort of 'you're not firing me, I quit' thing. But honestly, if you've not been successful so far by being mean to women, it can't exactly hurt to try something different, can it? Especially if your current behaviour hurts yourself as well. I can guarantee you that being nice is not and w…
/r/ExRedPill14/12/20 12:21 AM
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I think the important question you should be asking yourself here is what exactly you are desperate for? Sex? Companionship? Social approval? Being Loved? Feeling accomplished? Those are all different, and require different solutions. If you know what it is you want, you can think about why you want that and maybe even if you really want that or just feel like you should, or possibly actually want something else and just think it'll get you there. Like, are you really desperate to be sexually ac…
/r/seduction03/12/20 09:35 AM
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I'm aware how psychometrics measures intelligence. I'm also aware of the difference between that and a universal definition of a concept. Maybe you'd need to understand the methodology of some of the fields you baselesly dismissed as less challenging in order to so, though. What I seriously don't get is how you think even this measurement and your initial statement are compatible. Do you actually think every single person who works in programming fits that description? They're all above average …
/r/ExRedPill19/11/20 02:05 PM
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I'm describing the historical development of the industry as a whole. Your personal experience with it is of course valid, but anecdotal perspectives are restrictive and not necessarily indicative of a whole industry. The difference should be clear. If you've ever been in an environment that centers around intelligence based productivity you'll know that it's an inherently humbling experience. complex problem solving requires higher than average intelligencee You still need to be above a certain…
/r/ExRedPill18/11/20 11:47 AM
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Programming used to be women's work way back, resulting in the nerd stereotype for boys interested in it in the 80s and 90s, who where framed as unmanly. As soon as there was money in it, this changed into an underdog/genius narrative being pushed, which is likely what you're associating with it. Nowadays it absolutely is male dominated and especially the American culture surrounding it can be somewhat machismo. Silicon valley is definitely not counter culture anymore. The counter culture narrat…
/r/ExRedPill17/11/20 05:17 PM
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Exactly. If you're emotionally invested in someone you don't actually know, it's not that person you're actually invested in, it's an idealised idea. That's unusually noticeable and unappealing. Therefore, ditch the idea, go in pleasant but neutral and actually get to know the person you're meeting. Maybe she'll be what you imagined, maybe she won't, maybe she'll be even better. But take your time actually finding out.
/r/seduction07/11/20 09:20 PM
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So stop gaming women and try to meet them as yourself? I know this sub makes fun of this generic advice, but there's some truth to it. It gets exhausting to game all the time and not just being able to be with someone, without analysing and optimising the situation all the time. Sounds like you'd like an actual relationship where you can be human. No shame in that. Means she must be allowed to be human, too, though. Might be that your game attracted damaged women primarily, true, but it's also p…
/r/seduction28/10/20 03:52 PM
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You need to keep in mind that I know literally nothing about you beyond that you claim that nobody wants to talk to you and somebody called you hideous. I'm not assuming anything, I'm going through the most likely options. If that particular option doesn't apply, then fair enough, but how exactly do you expect people to give you personally tailored advice with that little information? Additionally, if that is how you react to some dude on the internet trying to help you, I would guess attitude i…
/r/seduction24/10/20 01:11 PM
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You're unlikely to be so gruesome looking that it's solely responsible for literally everyone rejecting you. Likelier contestants are: personal hygiene, vibe, personality. The other possibility is that it's not actually true that nobody likes to talk to you, you're just focusing on those who reject you and not counting the rest. How is your rapport with guys? Family? Women you're not romantically or sexually interested in? If literally everyone avoids you, it's likely one of the former three, if…
/r/seduction24/10/20 12:13 PM
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I'd like to point out that it seems like your decision to wait until marriage to experience sex seems to be born not out of any values you hold, but out of insecurity. In my opinion, you're not setting yourself up for a successful hypothetical relationship here. Not necessarily because of the decision itself, I don't have a horse in that race, but because of your motivation, which seems to me to be that you're trying not to get hurt and have chosen this rather extreme thing because you believe i…
/r/ExRedPill23/10/20 11:31 AM
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And it doesn't work.
/r/seduction03/10/20 04:40 PM
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Just as a pointer: whenever you find yourself watching YouTube videos about how awful insert any group of people are, chances are you're probably biased and don't judge them objectively. But I admire your willingness to think critically and call yourself out, well done.
/r/ExRedPill28/09/20 04:19 PM
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I do in fact and successfully, as have others. Not sure why you're so insistent that there can be only one particular way. Not everyone is the same, not everyone has the same preferences and attractions and not every situation is the same.
/r/seduction15/09/20 07:15 AM
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And that's fine for you, but that's subjective. Not everyone is that way or attracted to that. So why present it as fact in a situation where the guy is clearly not like you?
/r/seduction14/09/20 09:57 AM
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You're of course entitled to your opinion, I for one think this sort of power play is a little silly and not at all what I personally look for when connecting with people; I much prefer being genuine. Treating relationships or hook-ups like employer employee dynamics sounds Iike a recipe for disaster tbh, especially considering how many guys on here already have problems with dates feeling like interviews. Not to mention that hiring doesn't have the same implications and caution for women that d…
/r/seduction14/09/20 08:59 AM
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Yeah, agreed.
/r/seduction13/09/20 10:07 PM
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Not trying to confuse you further, but I'd like to second what your friend said. Giving your number puts less pressure on her to assess you, your motives, your likeliness to be an ass and her own interest right this second. It gives her time to think. If she texts she's definitely interested, which is good for you to know. All this leading stuff is extremely generalising and not really true half of the time, in my experience. You're allowed to be human.
/r/seduction13/09/20 06:00 PM
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If you're genuinely interested in her you are interested in it. It's not about the thing itself, it's about how she feels about it. It tells you about her and what makes her happy. You're also definitely interested in her talking about something she loves with you, since it's fun and you want her to associate you with fun, substantial conversations. Questions you might have asked in this particular situation: how the energy feels to her, how she experiences the synergy, how she channels the emot…
/r/seduction08/09/20 02:01 PM
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Nothing is over at 21, except puberty. You have time. What you don't seem to have, at the moment is sympathy for yourself and a positive mindset. Both of which are completely normal, especially these days, and very much solvable. I won't bore you with points about women not being a monolith, so girls unanimously not likeling guys like you is bullshit, because I suspect you're logically aware of that, but you still feel that way. What I will tell you is that you're not alone, a lot of people feel…
/r/ExRedPill09/08/20 04:27 PM
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Thank you for your post, I think a lot of people here needed to hear it. The conflict of interests here is somewhat normal, I think and solvable. Everybody should able to connect with people and everybody should also be able to go about their day in peace, when they're not in the mood. I think we all understand both these desires, that's common ground. The root of the problem, as it do often is, is being blind to anything but your own perspective in any given moment. Plus, we have to consider ho…
/r/seduction27/06/20 07:05 AM
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Yeah, I agree. It's certainly nuanced and often very subjective. I do read what the guy wrote a bit different from you, but it's always good to get different perspectives. I also think that he doesn't mean any harm, for what it's worth. Which is exactly why I replied, because I thought he might be open to a reminder that women, too, suffer from anxieties and to claim that it's not about them is short sighted. Anyway, thanks for your thoughts.
/r/seduction26/06/20 06:36 PM
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I think you're reading the post I was answering more generously, which is fine of course, let's disagree, but I don't really get where you see the conflict between what you are suggesting and what I suggested. It seems to me we actually agree? I was talking about a way to cold approach, while also respecting what this post was about: that traditional cold approach is often off putting to women and for good reasons, as you said yourself. So read the room, if it's an okay situation approach respec…
/r/seduction26/06/20 05:22 PM
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Unfortunantely I think you are just going to have to accept that not everyone will get what they want. I actually think this is a part of self development. I completely agree. You need to accept that you can't always get what you want and need to back off sometimes, even if you want to do the opposite. As to your question, yes I absolutely would. I think it is possible, within reason, to consider everybody. That includes men, women I'm not interested in, your Mum and poor children in Yemen. Basi…
/r/seduction26/06/20 02:47 PM
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You're assuming I'm a woman who's arguing against cold approaching, which is not the case. I'm simply pointing out how op's thinking is short sighted and does not serve his ultimate goal, connecting to women. Pointing out their perspective might not seem helpful to you, because it's of course easier to just consider ourselves and our needs, but it is counterproductive. Considering the big picture is moving gender relations as a whole along, something everybody benefits from. In order to achieve …
/r/seduction26/06/20 02:07 PM
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I understand and empathise with your problem. Anxiety's a bitch and men are under a lot of pressure, socially. I would like to point out, however, that you're basically asking women as a whole to be guys' social guinea pigs and make their lifes available as a training ground, completely disregarding their reality, that you yourself admit is shaped by harassment and worse. Yet you're shrugging and saying that you're going to ignore that and focus on what you want. That is selfish; and I'm not try…
/r/seduction26/06/20 09:16 AM
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Is this how you are and you just can't imagine that not everybody else is the similarly fixated or why are you projecting so hard? Some of us can actually decide that we like somebody as a person and therefore be interested in being friends with them. It's not actually that hard if you're happy with yourself and your life. Just accept that this one isn't it and look elsewhere.
/r/seduction26/06/20 08:48 AM
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If you have basic respect for other people, including women you're potentially interested in, you have to consider their perspectives on things. If you can see that a situation would be uncomfortable, frightening or inconvenient for them, and don't want to be selfish and egocentric, you sometimes will have to miss an opportunity. That's just life. It's normal.
/r/seduction26/06/20 08:38 AM
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I see, that sounds challenging indeed. I admire that you're willing to work on yourself, especially in therapy; keep at it! If you ever have any questions or want to talk, you're welcome to write me. Hope everything turns out well for you.
/r/seduction26/06/20 06:41 AM
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Have you asked your friends for their honest opinions on why they think you're not successful with women? If they are good friends and they feel like you can take brutal honesty, maybe they have some insight better suited to you than generic online advice.
/r/seduction25/06/20 08:44 PM
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A couple of points that might help you: the friend zone is a stupid concept. If you don't want to be friends with someone, don't. Nobody is holding anybody hostage with platonic affection. The term you're looking for is 'unrequited love/lust'. Completely different, completely normal and something that happens to everybody. Not everyone you might be interested in sexually or romantically is going to be interested in return. You're not going to be interested in everyone who's interested in you. Th…
/r/ExRedPill07/06/20 04:12 PM
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You're arguing semantics and ignore the actual arguement you presumably can't refute. I assume it won't be particularly productive to debate this, though, so have a good night.
/r/seduction30/04/20 07:52 PM
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Your impression that psychology doesn't use data sets might have to do with the fact that the authors you studied are two psychoanalysts from the 40s and 50s and two current scholars who explicitly work with these very early stages of psychoanalysis. This is like claiming something about current methodology in chemistry on the basis of having read Agricola. You're obviously a fan of Peterson, have read his primary sources and now claim expertise about the field as a whole that you really don't h…
/r/seduction30/04/20 05:48 PM
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Dude, bei careful. I'm sure you're aware, but sometimes we need to be reminded that std and the risk of pregnancy exist. I don't know how well you know this girl, so it's on you obviously, but don't fuck up your life.
/r/seduction26/04/20 11:43 AM
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Women watch less porn, because most porn caters to the male perspective on sex, focusing on male pleasure. If porn focused on female pleasure and depicted men as a mere tools for it, men would watch it less and consume alternatives that cater to their perspective, just like women do now. Scientifically, there's no difference in visuality between the sexes.
/r/seduction25/03/20 10:13 AM
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Go for a walk with her. It's allowed, free and the atmosphere is more relaxed than a restaurant. If you want to make an impression bring make her something to sip/snack on and plan an interesting route. I had great success during winter with hot cider and a picturesque spot in the park.
/r/seduction21/03/20 12:16 PM
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The sad thing is that you could have had a pretty good point about how fucking is such an essential part of how we culturally understand masculinity that the actual reality of sex can easily fall short and leave us unsatisfied. There's an interesting conversation here about how this should be approached, but you had to go and be a bit of a prick about it, eh?
/r/seduction18/03/20 10:44 PM
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Getting defensive is human; I think we all do it when we feel challenged. It does hinder growth, though, so should be worked on.
/r/seduction05/03/20 06:18 PM
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A good partner will only help improve your life if you're willing and able to. I'm not telling you this to put you down, but to encourage you to get started on improving your life regardless of your romantic or sexual situation.
/r/seduction05/03/20 04:52 PM
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Alpha and beta are also deeply associated with pseudo-scientific views on social hierarchy and used by idiots who think they are enlightend but really are rather sadly trying to build themselves up by putting others down. If you're not using them that way, fair enough, but you shouldn't be surprised if their connotations are extended to you. And really none of this has any baring on you trying to tell somebody they don't belong on this sub for disagreeing on your views on seduction.
/r/seduction05/03/20 04:50 PM
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Don't let a guy who uses the terms alpha and beta unironically make you question your opinions. You're fine.
/r/seduction05/03/20 01:05 PM
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Nobody will come and bring out the best in you. That is your job. Don't wait for somebody to do it for you.
/r/seduction05/03/20 12:59 PM
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Soy in western cultures are associated with plant based diets which are seen as feminine, because meat is associated with masculinity. Because of this, vegetarian and vegan foods are often mocked, in the same way anything that's seen as feminine and/or questioning the status quo is. Now, soy contains phytoestrogens. Phytoestrogens have little to do with estrogen and certainly don't have the same effects on the human body, but the rumour got started anyways, because of the name and because people…
/r/ExRedPill29/02/20 11:36 AM
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I could appreciate your comment as self-depreciating humour if I could believe that most of the people reading and upvoting this read it as humourous. How do you think people on here are reading it? As a joke meant to make them feel better but isn't seriously claiming what you said? Or as confirmation of a notion they've heard before and that eases their insecurities?
/r/seduction13/02/20 12:15 AM
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Doesn't really matter, does it?
/r/seduction12/02/20 05:05 PM
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People don't peak. I get that you're trying to reassure yourself and others because you are feeling insecure, but there is really no need to put others down in order to lift yourself up. Men and women alike should strive to grow and improve themselves, no matter their age. Attractive people age attractively, both on the inside and the outside.
/r/seduction12/02/20 02:25 PM
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Putting women on pedestals is objectifying them. The whole point of why women find it off-putting is that idealising someone is dehumanising them into an unattainable version of themselves that nobody could possibly live up to. An object, if you will. And when they inevitably fail to embody the fantasy, everybody gets hurt.
/r/seduction06/02/20 11:48 AM
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Statistically, it's actually the opposite. In cases of illness, for example, men have been found to leave their female partners more frequently than the other way round.
/r/ExRedPill04/02/20 11:30 PM
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You're likely seeing bad people succeed romantically often, because of something called the Baader Meinhof Effect, or frequency illusion. It's a narrative you've convinced yourself of. You can't possibly accurately asses how worthy or not worthy someone is of a relationship as compared to you from the outside, so stop doing that. You are frustrated and project your feelings on people around you. That's human, okay, but certainly not productive. I'd suggest to stop comparing yourself and focus on…
/r/ExRedPill11/12/19 07:36 PM
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I feel like you might misunderstand self-improvement. It sounds like you made a list of things to change about yourself and expected love to just happen after you checked everything on there. It also sounds like you expected a relationship to solve your mental health issues. Neither will happen. When people recommend self-improvement, they recommend working on your relationship with yourself. Improve yourself for yourself. Learn to love yourself. Improving in order to appeal to others seems insi…
/r/ExRedPill11/12/19 06:47 PM
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Healthy relationships shouldn't be a power struggle where you have to be worried about your partner loosing interest in you at any given moment. Think about whether you would enjoy it if a woman played similar games with you and tried to manipulate you with the amount of attention and affection she gave you. No? Then you have your answer. And tbh, from the limited information you gave in your Dad... is that really someone you want to model yourself after?
/r/seduction29/11/19 08:27 PM
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If you're seeing a psychologist anyway (good for you for having the guts to take that step), this would be something to talk about there, no? As has been mentioned, you're young and it sounds like you're a likeable guy who's interesting and has chances with girls, so your problem is likely your anxiety and the fact that you stress yourself out. Therapy can help you to find coping mechanisms for that. It's likely that it'll get better once you've gained experience, but do that at your own pace (d…
/r/seduction12/11/19 06:42 PM
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A little jealousy and peer pressure are normal, especially at your age. Glad to hear it's getting a little better, don't let it get to your head (or your heart). You're okay as you are. I do think that confidence, in the sense of knowing who you are independently of others and being content with that, is an important skill. Society might push you towards certain things, like hook up culture or later the wive, career, house, child model, but really, it's vital to get to know yourself, who you rea…
/r/ExRedPill02/10/19 07:13 AM
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So, the pertinent question is probably going to be, why do you want to be a player? What do you associate with having sex with a lot of women that you seem to be so desperate for? I'd recommend reflecting on the question what 'player' really stands for, for you? Respect? Success? Social proof? Being a 'man'? I feel like it's probable that you, like many others, have conflated your worth as a person with your sexual prowess. If sexual success is seen as equal to success in life and worth as a man…
/r/ExRedPill01/10/19 01:44 PM
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Dude, I honestly mean no offence, but I can see from here that it's you're attitude that's a turn off. Probably more so than your face could ever be. If you don't like your appearance, do something about it. But it's definitely your mindset that needs working on.
/r/seduction21/09/19 09:03 AM
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To you, loosing your virginity is a socially affirming experience. For women it's more complicated. When girls talk about not usually being like that and similar phrases, they are looking for reassurance, because contrary to you, they are discouraged from enjoying casual sex and are often shamed for it... kinda like you're doing now. She is no more a "slut" than you are for liking sex. Yes, even anal stimulation. Don't shame people, especially for things that you've enjoyed with them. The kind t…
/r/seduction10/09/19 08:36 PM
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Lol
/r/seduction09/09/19 12:40 PM
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If she is one of "your main chicks", why would it be a problem if she is seeing other people, too? To expect monogamy from her if you're not interested in being exclusive yourself is a little hypocritical, don't you think?
/r/seduction09/09/19 10:03 AM
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If she does, be patient. Best of luck!
/r/ExRedPill13/08/19 08:29 PM
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She's not going to leave you over this. You said something stupid, it happens. The important part is: you apologised immediately, you seem to understand what you did wrong and are sincerely working on not saying stupid things anymore. You're okay. Keep at it.
/r/ExRedPill13/08/19 07:14 PM
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Ok, I think we're getting closer to the problem. So, if I'm getting this right, people don't respond to you in the way you want them to. If you're upfront you are coming across as creepy, if you're not you're either liked platonically or not at all. Since you say you don't have that many friends, this seems to be a problem that isn't specific to your interactions with women, but with people in general. You said you're in construction if I remember correctly, so I'll hazard a guess that you don't…
/r/seduction08/08/19 03:17 PM
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I hear you on the sexual frustration. It seems to me that that might be your main problem, because that of course shines through whenever you interact with women and turns them off, because most people want there to be some kind of interest or connection that doesn't purely relate to you getting your rocks off. You're probably outcome-focused when you talk to them (which is why it feels like an interview to you; you want something from them and feel pressure to do everything right in order to ge…
/r/seduction08/08/19 02:09 PM
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I'm kinda late to reply to this, but if I may... I read your comments here and I just thought I might tell you how you come across to a total stranger, first impression, because that is likely similar to what you come across to the women you approach. The dominant emotion you give off is frustration. You seem driven to the point that you try to force things and get very negative if you're not successful. You also seem somewhat resentful towards women, because getting laid is a concept to you tha…
/r/seduction08/08/19 11:33 AM
1

If you're interested and comfortable with that you could pm me a picture and I could give you more targeted advice.
/r/ExRedPill07/08/19 02:28 PM
9

You don't sound ridiculous, it can absolutely be uncomfortable.
/r/seduction26/06/19 08:30 AM
8

Someday you will be in the situation of having to reject someone romantically and you'll probably understand why people say weird, vague shit in situations like these. People just dislike conflict and platitudes like these help avoid saying things that are either hurtful (I find you unattractive as a person and/or body) or just unhelpful (I'm just not attracted to you for no particular reason). A lot of people are awful with rejection and even those who are not are not usually helped by specifyi…
/r/ExRedPill21/06/19 09:55 PM
10

So, realistically, there are several possibilities why you were unsuccessful with the one out of 3.8 billion women you asked out, not the least likely of which is that she is a coworker and might not want to date at work. If you never have asked out anybody before, might it be that you're shy or socially awkward as well? What kind of personality are you, interesting and engaging? Any polarising opinions/character traits? My point is, there are a lot of possible reasons for rejection and simple m…
/r/ExRedPill21/06/19 08:53 PM
8

Honestly, if you can enjoy being single without hating women on principle then you are what MGTOW wishes it was about, but isn't. It's fine to be content alone. You do you. The only thing you should probably keep an eye on is the subtle feeling that men and women are opposing entities in a battle against each other's interests that I seem to be sensing in some of you're post. I don't know what kind of situation you grew up in but no matter what kind of person your Mum was, she isn't representati…
/r/ExRedPill18/06/19 08:24 AM
2

It should not be shocking that the attractive women you are attracted to solely because they are attractive are themselves attracted to attractive people. You sound like you find this unfair, which is hypocritical of you. The obvious solution is to become attractive yourself. Physically, work with what you have and improve as far as possible. If the girls you desire put work into their diet and exercise, their hair and outfits, then you should, too. Beyond the physical: be an attractive person. …
/r/seduction02/05/19 01:20 PM
5

What was her response when you told her in a constructive and non-accusatory manner that this behaviour makes you uncomfortable?
/r/seduction17/04/19 06:55 PM
3

If I remember correctly, she said that one was poly without mentioning it beforehand and the other was planning on moving by the end of the month.
/r/seduction07/04/19 10:36 PM
3

Might be that you give off a vibe of 'I want to have sex' instead of 'I want to have sex with you', while talking to girls. Most people kind of want to be wanted as an individual (be it as a person or at least a body) and if you seem like they are just an abstract hole to you that helps you achieve the player status you want, that can be unattractive. Maybe try and work on focusing on the moment and person you're with, instead of your situation as a whole, because people can usually tell if you'…
/r/seduction07/04/19 02:42 PM
1

Gotcha. So, I'm sorry to hear that you're not doing well. I think you're aware that what you're feeling isn't exactly rational. Now, none of us is completely rational, we all can be a bit hypocritical (the way you want her to want you exclusively without providing the same and being angry at her for pursuing other options without wanting to commit emotionally to her is hypocritical.), so that's normal, but it seems to affect you negatively emotionally, which isn't good. You seem to feel a lot of…
/r/seduction11/03/19 06:14 PM
1

Did my reddit glitch, or have you really replied just now? Does the situation still bother you?
/r/seduction10/03/19 01:43 PM
1

I see the connection, but how is that relevant to the original comment you replied to at all?
/r/ExRedPill06/03/19 05:58 PM
1

I'm familiar with neither work, so can't comment on their argument. How are these two universal gospel and influence on intergender relationship-dynanimics, though?
/r/ExRedPill06/03/19 05:15 PM
1

Women being subject to negative social consequences for being overtly sexual is sexism not manipulation.
/r/ExRedPill06/03/19 01:02 PM
4

It's like... 40% guys trying to push their PUA stragedy/book/channel/site whatever, 10% redpill recruiting, and 50% socially awkward/insecure guys of various degrees just trying to get advice. I think there is merit in having a place for young men who are unsure about how to connect with women and/or have selfesteem issues to talk about this and get advice, I just wish it would lean more towards genuinely working on your self-perception while humanising women, and less on treating interpersonal …
/r/ExRedPill06/03/19 09:51 AM
4

She likes you, you're both having a good time. Stop getting hung up on words, that just makes you vibe weird and sabotage yourself. Do not talk yourself into believing that there is a problem here. When you meet her for drinks, you go to have a good time, that's it. Go ahead and tell her you like her/get physical. Kiss her after. If she doesn't see you that way, she'll let you know then, but from what you've written I don't see a problem. Life is not a club, not everything has to be immediately …
/r/seduction14/02/19 05:55 PM
2

I don't think I'm missing your point, I'm just disagreeing with it. I don't assume a rejection, I listen when I'm given one. I listen, because I'm interested in women who are open to interact with me, they make for better company than any that are defensive from the get go, because there's usually a reason for that. They could be in a relationship, having a bad day, be lesbians, not interested in you personally, having bad diarrhea at the moment, who knows. You ignoring all those possible scenar…
/r/seduction11/02/19 09:11 PM
5

That ignores the fact that some women don't want to filter, they actually want to be left alone and even for those who do, how exactly does it work, if every guy thinks that he's the exception?
/r/seduction11/02/19 07:13 PM
1

Rejection isn't (necessarily) rude, a No is not acting in a foul manner and a lady is certainly not someone who has never refused anyone's advances.
/r/seduction11/02/19 02:34 PM
14

People persisting and ignoring a No are the reason for the shields being up in the first place.
/r/seduction11/02/19 02:29 PM
2

Anytime, if you want to talk.
/r/seduction25/01/19 11:21 PM
3

If you dislike women so much, why exactly are you trying to be with them? If you're convinced that a vagina makes someone an unkind person who won't add value to your like, wouldn't you rather stay away from them? I'll be frank, if you're not trolling, you have a hell of a confirmation bias going on in your life. You likely convolute your value as a man and self-esteem with your success with women, and the resulting frustration made you dehumanise women. You don't see them for anything but their…
/r/seduction25/01/19 10:10 PM
4

Not really sure where to start, but l'll try. We generally, men and women alike, have relationships of whatever kind because, aside from sex, which is great, we value company and affection. We socialise with people we enjoy spending time with, because their company somehow adds value to our life. So, no men do not only see women for sex and fun. Yes, you can have only sex and fun with women, but not being able to recognise that they are inherently capable of being funny, or interesting, or kind …
/r/seduction25/01/19 09:34 PM
1

If you can't fathom what a woman might add to a fulfilled man's life and are seeking a relationship/sex/female attention to relieve your own sense of unfulfillment then there's your reason women don't respond to you. They sense that you see them as some abstract concept of 'girl', instead of a person, that you, guy who sees himself as "lacking", would like to utilise. Try and get out of that mindset.
/r/seduction25/01/19 08:52 PM
15

They likely mean first and foremost a confident man. Someone who is confident in who he is and what he wants. Someone with a plan and leadership qualities. Some might also mean it in a sexual sense, either describing someone who is confident and in the lead in bed, or referring to something on the bdsm spectrum (anything from a bit rough and manhandling to actual dominance). Keep in mind that there is a difference between an assertive leader who knows who he is and what he wants and an arrogant …
/r/seduction23/01/19 02:18 PM
2

Good for you, the changes you made are not easily achieved.
/r/seduction11/01/19 01:03 PM
2

And another long-ish list of behaviours, implying to those at a loss that there's a cheat sheet for guaranteed success with people, because that's what you want to hear. Guys, some of this will work on a certain number and kind of women, on others it won't. More importantly, it will work, as in make happy, a certain number and kind of men. No matter how much you want it to be true, there is no one size fits all guideline that makes you successful with all women, because not all women are the sam…
/r/seduction04/01/19 11:55 AM
8

You cannot make people attracted to you. You can make yourself attractive, both physically and mentally. Look your best, be an interesting and good person and behave in a way that is engaging and open to be engaged with. That is everything you have influence over and if someone isn't attracted to that, that's okay, others will be.
/r/seduction31/12/18 08:03 PM
3

It's of course convenient that you can dismiss all observable data with your argument. I'm not going to argue with you whether it's true or not, I'm just curious how you expect to have a objective discussion about a premise that is entirely built on an assumption (women lie) that is neither provable, nor disprovable, the only source being that it makes sense to you.
/r/ExRedPill23/12/18 10:45 AM
2

The conclusion that promiscuity increasing chance of divorce is an simplification of the data that does not account for influences like religiousness in those that stay married. Religious people tend to have fewer or no partners before marriage and also to stay married, regardless of how happy the marriage is, while non-religious people are more likely to divorce if unhappy. This skews the data; promiscuity is likely a correlation not a causation of divorce.
/r/ExRedPill23/12/18 10:33 AM
2

I think you should think about why it is that the amount of attention and/or sex someone else is getting affects you emotionally. Answering that question should help to be rational about that feeling and getting into a better place emotionally. First of all, are feeling insecure, envious or jealous? Is it that you feel you get less attention from other people than her, and the discrepancy makes you question your self worth? Is it that you have feelings for her and want her for yourself? Or is it…
/r/seduction13/12/18 01:32 PM
2

Because people are generally more often awful with rejection than not. In a perfect world, being able to honestly tell people No, thanks would work to everybody's benefits, but the truth is the chance that you get a polite response back are very slim and the chances of the other person either getting insulting to save face or trying to convince you otherwise are much bigger. So, most people try it a few times, get the aforementioned results and consequently ghost instead of rejecting directly. I…
/r/seduction19/11/18 03:07 PM
2

Then I'd honestly just talk to her, tell her that's not how you see yourself, that you're into in her as a person and ask how she got that impression. Best of luck.
/r/seduction18/11/18 06:18 PM
1

Are you just there for the sex?
/r/seduction18/11/18 05:38 PM
14

It isn't mandatory to seduce lots of women if you don't really feel the need to. There is nothing wrong with waiting until someone catches your eye as a person and then pursuing them specifically. Take your time, it doesn't make you less of a man.
/r/seduction11/11/18 10:16 AM
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Self-improvement that puts you up, not women as a gender down. Working on yourself, getting that degree, starting that business, meditation: be good to yourself. I'd also argue that not putting women on a pedestal has its merits, but in the sense of humanising women, accepting them for the normal individuals with strengths and faults that they are, not demonising them.
/r/ExRedPill16/10/18 08:39 PM
1

Ok, you certainly don't have to take my word for it, and I doubt you will, but please consider this: Confirmation Bias exists, the Baader Meinhof phenomenon exists and even if you were the most neutral person in the world, your personal experience is not representative of everyone's. To me it sounds like you personally associate the term with that particular scenario and you feel a tad attacked by it, which is fine. But fact is, the term, in its definition and usage, is not as specific as you ha…
/r/seduction09/10/18 04:27 PM
1

I'm confused. Do you honestly think there exist no other possible scenarios in which people are called creepy? A stranger staring at you in public transport? A superior asking you inappropriate questions? An acquaintance always managing to brush up against you 'accidently'? A socially awkward person not knowing when to quit an approach? Why ignore those possiblities?
/r/seduction08/10/18 11:50 PM
1

And you feel confident in judging other people's social situations that you know nothing about because...?
/r/seduction08/10/18 11:05 PM
2

You're creepy when you're making someone uncomfortable and lack the social calibration and/or willingness to adjust accordingly.
/r/seduction08/10/18 09:28 PM
5

It sounds like you should start with working on yourself, because the way you see yourself translates to how others, especially girls, will see you. So your problem starts with your mentality. Built a good and interesting life, love yourself, others will follow. The step after that is how you perceive girls as an Other that you have dehumanised in your head, are afraid of and resent for rejecting you, because you have tied a lot of your selfworth as a man to sex. Realise that you are more than y…
/r/seduction07/10/18 08:36 PM
2

I'm not ignoring you, I just don't understand what you're getting at. What is your point here?
/r/seduction02/10/18 06:25 PM
1

I think it's called disagreeing with each other.
/r/seduction02/10/18 05:21 PM
2

A fake boyfriend is like a fake number. It doesn't benefit you to find out whether it's fake or not, because the intent stays the same: she's not interested.
/r/seduction02/10/18 02:23 PM
2

I don't really get why you'd think what I assume about you as a person is relevant here? I don't know you and I don't know anything about the women in your life. I think we're probably missing each others points. To reiterate: You stated that I'm ignoring women's nature to lie in order to test your reaction to rejection. I stated that you're ignoring women who tell you the truth, when they reject you. Both exist. My point is to learn the difference between the two, because guys being persistent …
/r/seduction02/10/18 02:20 PM
1

I'd say that depends on the situation, you probably can feel out whether it's gonna go well or not. My original point was simply, that calling I'm in a relationship and I'm a lesbian a shit test is not very productive, that was all I was after.
/r/seduction02/10/18 01:14 PM
2

Except it's not biological, it's a response built from experience of guys not leaving them alone, which is made worse if we are not leave them be after a polite rejection. Women can usually differentiate between normal human contact and an approach. I see your point, I do, but a lot of women are just not interested and it's important to understand that that's okay. I think that oftentimes all we have in mind is our own success and forget that they have a perspective, too (and boyfriends and girl…
/r/seduction02/10/18 12:15 PM
1

I agree that it's ridiculous not to acknowledge what you see. So you have never seen women who actually want to be left alone, no women who are in a relationship and therefore are not interested in you and no women who are lesbians that don't want to sleep with you? I get that you have met exceptions. I'm willing to bet you have also met a lot of women who were annoyed by your persistence. I'd suggest including the last group in your cohesive interactions with society.
/r/seduction02/10/18 11:27 AM
3

I get that. The thing is, you turned away from that girl, no? Not followed up with a response? That is exactly what I'm suggesting, isn't it? If she changes her mind afterwards, Congratulations, but it's really not productive to extrapolate some sort of lesson about all women from that, because for everyone that behaves like in your anecdote, there are ten that actually want you to leave her alone. I mean there are no numbers to confirm a majority either way, but I'd bet that most girls who tell…
/r/seduction02/10/18 10:32 AM
5

Or it's not a test and they have a reason not to be interested in you, for example they are a lesbian/in a relationship/ had a bad day and don't want to flirt. Learn the difference and leave them be. Do not forget the humanity and wellbeing of others in your quest for success.
/r/seduction02/10/18 07:43 AM
15

How are being in a relationship and being a lesbian shit tests? Just leave them be.
/r/seduction01/10/18 09:58 PM
10

Life is not porn. The chances of at least some of them ending it when you establish that you are seeing others at the same time are definitely higher than you managing to create a positive situation for them to meet, them being magically attracted to each other and them both being interested in a threesome with each other and you. I mean, everything's possible, but what except for your own fantasies has indicated to you that these girls would want that?
/r/seduction08/08/18 07:09 AM
12

It's sad that you don't think your wife loves who you are.
/r/ExRedPill25/07/18 07:54 AM
2

Dude, chill. Have sex when you both want to, not when Reddit says you should.
/r/seduction25/03/18 07:07 PM
1

I can't really comment on your situation regarding the loan, but why shouldn't you go Dutch on birth control that you both benefit from?
/r/seduction18/01/18 10:22 AM
1

So go for it. What's stopping you?
/r/seduction10/09/17 07:50 AM
3

That could either mean she likes you and is being sort of coquettish about it or that she's uncomfortable around you. You're gonna have to ask her. Ask her out!
/r/seduction09/09/17 09:38 PM
1

But can't stop? Just like during your lifetime. Your nose-picking always was concerning. But I believe in you. You can let go. Just stop eating those boggers, Dad.
/r/seduction27/01/17 08:42 PM
1

I think you have a problem if you watch me masturbating that regularly.
/r/seduction27/01/17 04:43 PM
1

Dad, you've been dead for three years. Let go.
/r/seduction27/01/17 04:01 PM
0

Dad?
/r/seduction25/01/17 05:53 PM
1

Well, at least I got an interesting read or of this, thank you. Though, the article I read specified that intrasexual selection and the sexual dimorphisms that go along with it (antlers for example) occurs in polygamous animals. Not sure how unreservedly you can apply that to human sexuality. Interesting nevertheless.
/r/seduction25/01/17 05:53 PM
2

No need to apologise. Maybe we just have a different connotation with the word competition? I mean, I've had sexual chemistry with a girls but also met another who I had an emotional connection with. So I chose. I wouldn't call those girls competing for me though.
/r/seduction24/01/17 09:22 PM
1

I don't. But if we're making assumptions, what are you strictly dating? Barbie?
/r/seduction24/01/17 08:58 PM
4

What facts and evidence are you referring to? You posted a piece on your perception of seduction. I disagree. Both of our opinions are just that: opinions. Our facts and evidence are our experiences. Neither being more valid than the other. Do you want a peer-reviewed study on mine? Do you have one for yours? I'm not inclined to be convinced of your point of view, if your reaction to me opposing it is to call me a troll and feminist (Really? What's next? Cuck?). Look, you and I obviously have a …
/r/seduction24/01/17 07:31 PM
1

You and I obviously have a vastly different understanding of relationships and sex. I'll pursue a woman, if I am interested. If she is interested she'll pursue (back). If she's interested in four other guys at the same time (really?), I'll decide if that's okay with me or not. Doesn't seem like a competition to me. No real use in arguing, though. We don't have to agree.
/r/seduction24/01/17 07:14 PM
2

Well, if that is your experience of dating, that is unfortunate. It isn't universal though. The women I've been with have without exception brought value to the exchange. If yours didn't, you could maybe ask yourself why that is? I also disagree with your notion of what a guy has to do and what a girl has to do in a relationship. If you don't want that dynamic, don't go for that dynamic. I feel like you have a lot of preconceived notions about how things absolutely have to be. I just don't see i…
/r/seduction24/01/17 06:52 PM
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I hope you realise that not everyone who disagrees with you is either a troll or has not read what you wrote. I simply think you're wrong. I furthermore think that what you wrote will not help anyone seducing women. To me, you seem to unnecessarily and artificially create hostility. Do with that opinion what you will.
/r/seduction24/01/17 06:40 PM
2

I read the post and I disagree with it. There is no upper hand, because this is not a competition. Some people just don't want to fuck you and you can't make them.
/r/seduction24/01/17 06:14 PM
3

Women are not your enemy. They are people. Maybe meditate on that sometime.
/r/seduction24/01/17 06:00 PM
1

I hope that it doesn't, because it should not. Might be possible that girls unconciously associate you with negative stuff. That would be shitty, but could be something you subtly have to work against when you approach? Btw, I'm impressed by your self improvement so far, good work. And the accent can't hurt, especially abroad ;)
/r/seduction05/06/16 10:05 PM
1

You're Indian, aren't you (Apologies if I got it wrong)? It sucks, but that might add to your difficulties. Lots of stereotypes out there. Do we have a fellow guy with an Indian backgroud who would be willing to give specific advice?
/r/seduction05/06/16 06:43 PM
2

Good for you.
/r/seduction03/06/16 04:27 PM
4

Well, how many of these criteria do you fulfill?
/r/seduction03/06/16 02:25 PM
3

Exactly. If you're really attracted to intelligent women, chances are they don't enjoy the idea of being your value raiser. Smart girls usually want to be loved for their personality etc. So... if you're looking for a real connection/relationship with a girl you actually like, you need to take that into account.
/r/seduction03/06/16 02:20 PM
5

I think the rule of thumb is three pics: one that introduces you a good guy with kind thoughts (Portrait in a quiet/natural setting. Bonus points for cuddling with animals, maybe even go for a black and white thing); one that demonstrates how exciting your life is (Shot of you rock climbing/driving your motorcycle/travelling); one that shows you in a social situation in order to proof that you're not a recluse without social skills (dressed up and partying with a group of male and female friends…
/r/seduction30/05/16 09:57 AM
6

So, you want a faithful wife who bears you children, a happy family, sex with your wife whenever you want and be able to cheat whenever you please without any consequences. But your wife is the entiltled one?
/r/MarriedRedPill15/05/16 03:06 PM
2

Seems to me like she might be interested, but you took a little too long to seal the deal. My advise would be to try and save this by telling her very directly that you are attracted to her, thus moving your interactions into another (romantic or sexual) context. If she (still) wants to, fine. If not, you can at least stop asking yourself what if. Do NOT ask her if she wants to be friends with benefits directly, that's for later, when you established that she is indeed interested in sex with you…
/r/seduction18/03/16 01:42 PM
3

Sounds to me like both of you do not enjoy the conversation but none of you wants to be the one to cut it off. Be the one. If you do not enjoy talking to someone, do not continue to talk to them. Life is short. I guess you could just ghost; However, I, personally, would say something along the lines of 'Hey, I don't really see this going anywhere, so thank you for your time, goodbye, have a good one.' Doesn't sound bitter, is polite and gets rid of her. Tada, next one.
/r/seduction25/01/16 11:09 AM
1

If you say so, then it must be so. Though I must say, only judging from this brief conversation of course, you give the impression of being your own worst enemy. Maybe it would help if you didn't seem so angry all the time? Taking things less serious usually helps. We're all just people, nothing to get bitter about. And really: if you want the type of girl who does spaghetti, why shouldn't you be able to ask a girl about spaghetti? Not everything is about you being not tall or hot enough.
/r/seduction08/01/16 05:00 PM
1

Yes you can.
/r/seduction08/01/16 12:51 AM
1

What do spaghetti and women have in common? They both wiggle when I eat them.
/r/seduction08/01/16 12:36 AM
1

How on earth did you get that from what I just wrote...? If I recommended anything, then its going after people who are good at pasta dishes.
/r/seduction08/01/16 12:35 AM
2

I don't think douchebaggery is connected to a certain degree of attractiveness. Comes in all shapes and sizes, really unpredictable. Now, spaghetti skills: that's a solid asset in a relationship. Useful in good and bad times. Kinda like actually getting along with each other and not feeling bitter because Hollywood tells lies (to, like, everybody about everything). But if someone wants to feel bitter and disadvantaged, they are going to feel bitter and disadvantaged and they are going to be bitt…
/r/seduction08/01/16 12:09 AM
2

OR... or she likes this average guy. Because they are good together. And he makes awesome spaghetti. And has hobbies that she enjoys as well. But whatever, a drug habbit seems so much more likely, you're right.
/r/seduction07/01/16 03:38 PM
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