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You see what you want to see I guess
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/19 01:41 PM
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Giving them Depth, believable motives in relation to the story line, being an archetype instead of a sterotype, giving them a believable, relatable personality, agency, complexity, nuance etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/19 01:33 PM
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I really don't care if you agree. I don't know you.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/19 01:27 PM
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I never said they have to be realistic.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/19 01:25 PM
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Why? If you read all those books and you didn't find a good female character what am I going to say to change your mind?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/19 01:16 PM
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Yeh I'm not going to do that.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/19 01:13 PM
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True but if you can't find a good female character in those books it would leave me a little confused. ASOIF has like 5-10 in depth complicated female characters, the girl with the dragon tattoo has the main heroine is a woman, same with silence of the lambs.. What exactly do you look for in a good female character? Someone who shoots bullets out of her vagina and saves America from the communists?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/19 01:07 PM
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Pride and prejudice, Harry Potter series, ASOIF series, Lord of the rings, the girl with the dragon tattoo, silence of the lambs, to kill a Mockingbird, war and peace that's all I can think of right now, but I'm by no means an expert on literature.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/19 11:38 AM
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Mostly badly. I'm not sure whether that is intentional because mainstream movie makers have found out most viewers like interesting male characters and female characters being basic love interests or just accidental because they are bad writers. Mostly I think good writers write good female characters that's why you see so many really good female characters in books but bad writers (which sums up a lot of Hollywood) just can't write a female character that isn't a)reduced to being a love interes…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/19 09:52 AM
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Obviously feeding yourself or your dog isn't optional but take this cartoon for example, the wife has chosen to have a friend over and cook dinner and watch children which is 100% optional. No that's just you, as a woman doing mental gymnastics to make the woman's decision the correct one. I am a morning person, I wake up before my girlfriend and would do the dishes.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/19 09:44 AM
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Maybe some things the woman thinks are super important that she stresses over aren't important to the man? Example, my girlfriend refuses to go to bed with dishes in the sink, I don't care and will do them in the morning. Logically it doesn't matter but my girlfriend stresses over it and does the dishes every night, what makes her right and that task mental load?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/19 08:42 AM
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For me it started off like that, as a teenager I tried to date the hottest girls that would have me, it changes as you get older. These days I still value looks and fitness but also intelligence, fun, a sense of rational calmness and girls who relatively self assured and comfortable with themselves.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/19 07:11 AM
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Still, communication it's not hard. Why is the mum cooking dinner and not the dad if it's her friend that's coming over? Why wouldn't the friend be helping her friend instead of drinking wine with the husband?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/19 06:24 AM
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He should have known grab a seat and have a drink meant help me with the dinner and leave your house guest in the living room with no company.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/19 06:09 AM
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You need to communicate and establish boundaries early on in relationships to let each other know what is and isn't acceptable when it comes to domestic work load. Don't live with a man and do everything for him, never ask for help, never bring up his lack of helping then blow up one day in front of guests about it.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/19 06:08 AM
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That comic is pretty stupid. Why do women assume that they pretend everything is fine and if men don't read your mind correctly we're the problem? Just say "hey can you give me a hand with the kids for a minute" problem solved.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/19 05:34 AM
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I don't think they qualify as "token"
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/19 02:27 AM
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6-8 depending on the woman, women's taste is a lot more varying than men's. In high school I was dating the hottest girl in school, she was a part time model and actress but I also heard myself referred to as "gross" by a girl I would describe as a 4/10.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/19 11:06 PM
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This is really off topic to what I was talking about. Oprah is a celebrity who has become famous and wealthy from being a public figure. Warren Buffett is just a billionaire and is only publicly known because he is wealthy. Of course Oprah is going to be a bigger target for things like that Also weren't we talking about curing cancer? Warren Buffett and oprah haven't achieved anything except wealth.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/19 08:24 PM
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You have any actual examples to back that up? Marie Currie is a well known scientist and ugly woman who is widely recognised for her achievements in her field. She won two Nobel prizes and is a more well known name than her husband who was her research partner for the majority of her work.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/19 07:15 PM
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Or that you just assume you pick every transexual you see, but in reality don't.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/19 09:37 AM
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I've met a girl who was a non op trans woman who was 100% passable. Just saying.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/19 07:58 AM
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Yes they want kids, no they don't want a bunch of kids. People in western countries have birth control, education and options. Things a lot of developing countries don't have.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/19 04:04 AM
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Honestly if a male version was available I would never use it, messing with your hormones to that level is terrible for you. But those are the options. Condoms, pull out, female birth control, vasectomy.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/19 02:47 AM
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You know how much women of however many years ago fought for the right to be able to control whether they got pregnant or not? It was invented for women , to use if you wish, for your own benefit. Now you want free dinners because you choose to use it?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/19 12:01 AM
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It would have been utter nonsense anyway so thank you for sparing me
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/19 10:49 PM
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You're just mad you can't explain how going on a date with a man goes against any commonly accepted feminist principals.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/19 09:57 PM
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No using correct words to describe things is not an internet phenomenon. What is an internet phenomenon is people making up personal ideas and mislabeling it as a philosophy that it simply doesn't fit, then getting mad when people call them out on it. If I called myself a communist but thought it would be ok to personally own a coal mine that doesn't make it a special version of communism that you just don't get, it makes me full of shit.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/19 09:35 PM
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But your personal philosophy of "if it's good for me it's feminism" isn't feminism. Just because you don't understand a philosophy doesn't make it a different kind of feminism.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/19 09:18 PM
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Definition of feminism. 1 : the theory of the political, economic, and social equality of the sexes. 2 : organized activity on behalf of women's rights and interests. What part of meeting a man for a drink and splitting the bill goes against this philosophy?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/19 09:08 PM
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So you believe your personal grooming should be payed for?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/19 08:54 PM
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Do you understand the definition of feminism?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/19 08:53 PM
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So letting men take you out and buy you nice things is feminist and being independent is not? I think you're a bit confused
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/19 07:51 PM
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But you don't know who is genuinely happy and trying to give good advice and who is genuinely unhappy and trying to give good advice.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/19 07:23 PM
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The second point is easily solved by figuring out a standard model of back paying a certain percentage of child support in order to be involved in your kids life again. The first point is extremely difficult and the reason why I don't think financial abortion has come in.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/19 07:06 PM
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Oh no you didnt
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/19 07:01 PM
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Ummm everything? I'm a male and not a feminist but I have dated a girl who was pretty staunchly feminist and couldn't get her to accept a free dinner
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/19 06:58 PM
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If it's true that you're a virgin the overall sentiment of this post is surprisingly mature. Yes it's not all its cracked up to be, you only ever really remember the best ones or the ones you had deep feelings for and the rest is just a blur. I could divide my n count by 10 and It wouldn't matter one bit in terms of how content I am with my life.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/19 07:45 AM
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Yeh I think we just have an entirely different view on what constitutes being naturally FEM/masc. The role of a "daddy" is pretty much entirely masculine traits not feminine, it's important to know the difference between being a provider/protector (masc) and nurturing (fem).
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/19 07:22 AM
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Modern Masculinity and femininity are both natural with unnatural elements. Natural feminine traits would be things like empathy, sensitivity, gentleness, being nurturing etc
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/19 04:52 AM
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Even if you trust your partner, it is still inappropriate to hang out alone with ex boyfriends while in a relationship. I wouldn't hang out with my ex out of respect for my partner, not because I'm worried I'll fall dick first into her the minute we are alone together.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/19 05:41 PM
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Yeh no different to another friend except he has had his penis inside you, you both found each other sexually attractive and you both had romantic feelings of lust and possibly love toward each other But yeh you're just buds and can totally hang out together and those feelings have no possible way of resurfacing
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/19 11:06 AM
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Gee I wonder what inappropriate situations could come from hanging out alone with someone who I used to be physically, emotionally, romantically involved with?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/19 10:56 AM
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Letting your girlfriend hang out with ex boyfriends is omega behaviour.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/19 10:49 AM
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Is it just about trust though? Personally I think it's just odd and will possibly encourage awkward or inappropriate situations.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/19 10:46 AM
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As someone who is 5'10 no I don't think it's true. Sure you get really vapid chicks on tinder who will state anything less than 6' or 6'2 isn't good enough on their tinder bios even if theyre 5'2 but I think nearly all girls are cool with dating guys under 6' as long as you are noticeably taller than them. Obviously 6'4 version of me would be considered more attractive than 5'10 version of me but I don't think it's as big of a deal as the internet/OLD makes out.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/19 07:47 PM
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No offence but I wasn't asking for advice about my relationship. Just pointing out that some girls, if they think the real answer will make you think less of them but they don't consider N count important will lie and make it a number they think you will be ok with. You're buddy who asks on the second date likely just gets random made up answers and scares off all sane women.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/19 07:08 PM
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Depends on the person, how honest they are etc My partner's is low, like 3 or 4 I can't remember what she said but I know she never really did the casual sex thing and I believe her. On the other hand mine is unusually high and she doesn't know (hasn't asked) but I probably wouldn't tell her the real number anyway. I don't consider myself dishonest but I don't think it's info that is important to our current relationship so giving her a more tolerable number isn't a bad lie.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/19 06:18 PM
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muh soggy kneez?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/19 05:19 AM
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I get where you're coming from but when it comes to things that people lie about on dating profiles a guy adding an inch or two to their height is a bit of a first world problem. I once had a girl rock up to a date legit 40 lbs heavier than her photos suggested.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/19 04:12 AM
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I'm under 6 foot and used to put my real height in my bio to avoid any awkwardness. I've never really understood why people would want to add that amount of pressure to a first date that not looking like your photos or lying about you appearance would bring. I don't see other men's bios so I can't comment on that but what I have found personally is a lot of girls don't know their height very well and can be way off in their own estimations, I had one girl think she was 5'4 and we went on a date …
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/19 03:30 AM
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I'd be interested to hear your opinions on rich, white, trust fund backed frat dudes who get all kinds of special privilege and expects that privilege despite not doing anything to deserve it. Would you consider them entitled or no?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/19 01:05 AM
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I'm not great with the definitions of different pills and buzz words but dont mgtow and trp have a different set of principals?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/19 09:50 PM
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Huge asses are just a fad, like being skinny with big boobs was a thing in the 90s. Reality is though nice asses, nice boobs and narrow waists on attractive women are never out of Vogue, just different emphasis on different things in the media.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/19 09:18 PM
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So seen as your quoting me show me where I said women out earning their husbands never happens? I just said I've never met a couple where the woman earns noticeably ie significantly more than their husbands and I haven't though I never said it doesn't happen. I said a female neurosurgeon married to footlocker employee is unrealistic. My partner is actually an anesthesiologist on top of everything and I've never even met a female neurosurgeon.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/19 08:02 PM
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I can honestly say that is completely untrue. Women who pretend to be some kind of highly evolved sexually complicated being just because they went from liking guys who played the guitar to liking guys with money is extremely funny.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/19 07:27 PM
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Haha I am in a western country, I've also lived in London, New York and Vancouver and no I've never met a female neuroscientist who's married a footlocker employee, I never will and neither have any of you. Are you going delete this comment like every other time you get proved wrong?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/19 07:22 PM
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Ah yes anonymous person on the internet says it so it must be true.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/19 08:22 AM
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I'll let you know when I meet a female neuroscientist who's dating a guy who works at footlocker
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/19 12:47 AM
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I'd say I'm pretty glad for the fact I don't have to worry about being raped or murdered on a date. Being the vulnerable sex must be horrible. Mostly If you just stick with being a typical masculine guy, embrace that being manly is a good thing and date women who aren't insane or radically feminist dating as a man isn't so bad. You can relax, be yourself and think at the very least she can't overpower you and turn you into a lamp shade in her apartment.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/19 12:21 AM
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It's not supposed to. Obviously men understand this, that's why there are a bunch of pissed off incels who don't like how the system works.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/19 11:32 PM
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You mean like how dating currently works?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/19 11:25 PM
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I could get drafted to play special teams for the Eagles like the new kids on the block movie, though there is an extremely low likelihood of that happening.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/19 11:15 PM
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You also have to take into account how hard it is to smuggle things into/trafficking into New Zealand, it's an island in the middle of no where with strict border control and customs and very little import traffic.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/19 11:12 PM
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I'd imagine guy 2 is either at the far end of unattractive where lifting and confidence aren't going to help at all or is just one of those people who would rather blame things out of their control than concentrating on what they can control.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/19 10:26 PM
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You're right all these people are bad examples. You seem pretty keen to put a negative spin on everything so I don't know what to say, yes if a woman can do better than you she probably will and yes no matter how much you work out you won't be as hot as Thor. But you can either work out and be slightly more attractive or do nothing and be less attractive.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/19 08:57 PM
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You're just too far away from reality to argue with to be honest. You're right, women dont care about being alpha it's just 100% coincidence that hot girls all date confident, masculine, alpha type men. Also women are all super into fem androgynous Asian guys and regular Asian guys who can't get laid are just imagining this as western women love Asian guys. Just look at K pop!
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/19 07:45 PM
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Are you reading what you're writing?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/19 07:24 PM
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Sounds like just you. I suggested moving in with my ex, no she didn't start asking me for favours/gifts.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/19 07:10 PM
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I can't believe you brought up Asian dudes as a pro for women not caring about being alpha. There are entire subs devoted to how women aren't attracted to Asian guys because of perceived femininity. Even Asian girls who refuse to date Asian guys because of this.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/19 07:03 PM
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It's a nice hypothetical but it's a bit unrealistic. I've never met any couples where the woman makes noticeably more than the man and obviously not 10 times what he earns. But no I don't think I would like that, it would feel to me that I'm living beyond my means on someone else's money I haven't earned.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/19 06:58 PM
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I think if you surveyed women about what they think the ideal male body looked like it wouldn't be Mike Thurston. It would be Brad pitt in fight club or Ryan Reynolds or some other slightly muscular lean movie star that is totally achievable naturally. Even so why compare yourself to the most ripped 0.001% of the population? And think if you can't get that ripped why even try. What's the point of that thinking?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/19 06:47 PM
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Wow a whole year and a half hey? You must know everything. Yes a lot of what you are saying is true but none of that has any effect on what women find attractive. As far as I know simeon panda isn't an international sex symbol and women don't have posters of Frank Zane on their bedroom walls.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/19 11:07 AM
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If Jason Momoas or Chris Hemsworths physique isn't achievable naturally then you're probably in the bottom 10% from a genetic standpoint, lazy as fuck with training or have no idea what you're doing. Both of those dudes are well over 10% body fat without being unusually muscular.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/19 10:52 AM
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I've heard of things like abuse leading to hypersexuality/nymphomania which is maybe where your boyfriend got the idea from?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/19 03:14 AM
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Personally I've always found that at the beginning of a relationship I have a higher sex drive than my partner but deep into a LTR it's always the woman who has a higher sex drive than me. I don't think that's a red flag or even out of the ordinary to have a higher sex drive than your boyfriend. I also doubt it has anything to do with childhood abuse.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/19 02:59 AM
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Lifting weights/working out does more for you than just looks, it can increase confidence, increase testosterone, improve sleep, improve health, mood etc all of which has a follow on effect that helps increase health, happiness and attractiveness. You are more attractive in shape than you are out of shape and there is just no argument against that fact. As to your other points, very few women are into that steroid level physique so I wouldn't worry about recreational steroid users raising the ba…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/19 02:43 AM
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Wouldn't care but what men find attractive is normally pretty uniform so I don't think the chances of you finding a girl you find attractive that no one else does are very high.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/19 10:14 PM
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They are already not dating them?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/19 09:59 PM
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Telling guys they need to be nice caring and compassionate to be more attractive to a woman is completely false. Telling guys that getting in good physical shape will improve their chances of attracting an attractive woman is completely true. I don't see how you can even compare the two? No body has ever claimed all women care about is a 6 pack and your dating problems will be magically solved by working out. Working out is just something reasonable and effective that will improve your dating li…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/19 09:48 PM
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I think there is a whole lot of people who would describe themselves as "average" that's where you're getting the mixed advice. A 7 calling himself average is different to a 4 calling themselves average. I had a girl once ask me about my new girlfriend and she said "is she super skinny? Or average like Kate and I?" fyi there was at least 35 pounds between her and Kate but she chose to refer to both of them as average.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/19 04:53 AM
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Normal people spend 90% of their dating life not exclusively looking for serious or not serious. Most people are just dating with the intention of being open to something more serious if they find the right person. All these comments about how you should be upfront about what you want in the first few dates are just idealistic nonsense that isn't how things work in the real world. Stating on a first date that you just want to fuck or that you want to eventually marry a person is social suicide.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/19 07:10 PM
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So many of these points you bring up are just you misinterpreting other people's opinions/feelings about femininity so it's hard to change your view.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/19 06:55 PM
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Nothing
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/19 10:52 AM
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I don't agree that society expects men to accept stuff like that at the beginning of a relationship. Avoiding long term relationships with people who have problems and will make your life more complicated is something pretty normal for both men and women and socially accepted. That's just personal experience though.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/19 10:51 AM
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I'm 31 and honestly I think I'm the most attractive I've been. But listening to the narrative on here that this phenomena will last until I'm mid 40s is a bit ridiculous.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/19 06:20 AM
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Being an asshole doesn't get you laid. Being confident, assertive, good looking, athletic etc gets you laid. Women will just over look slightly negative behaviour if they find you attractive.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/19 06:16 AM
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Gay
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/19 10:18 AM
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Well to think that men haven't been horrifically oppressed over the years is pretty ignorant. Slave labour, dieing in wars, prison camps, dieing down coal/gold mines. Obviously women have been subject to most of those things as well and have been oppressed and relatively recently didn't have the right to vote but if you weighed up which gender had the worst of it historically, you could reasonably argue it has been men.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/19 10:22 PM
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If you're a decent looking woman in a western country and you're ok with being dependant on a man then that's the about the peak of privilege. Equal rights, less dangerous jobs, less military service and combat deaths, less work place injuries and deaths, lower average jail sentences, winners of custody battles, women account for 85% of consumer spending despite only contributing 40% of GDP all while existing in the top 5% worldwide etc etc. Everyone has their own problems and there is a case to…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/19 05:52 PM
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Don't get me wrong too much porn fucks with people's sex drives and attraction levels, however I don't think it's responsible for the "everyone is having sex but me" feelings. Personally I think things like social media and internet dating are much more responsible for making people unhappy than porn.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/19 05:28 PM
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Let's say 90% of people still believe in marriage and 10% don't (I'd guess it's more like 80/20), 10% of the population isn't statistically an outlier. Secondly your CMV of "most people still want to get married despite the fact it has over 50% chance of being shitty" is hard to argue against. Yes people are still romantically inclined and very stupid. If your CMV was " I still believe in marriage is the ultimate form of commitment change my view" this would be more interesting.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/19 05:15 PM
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None of these scenarios degrade women to the status of an object.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/19 10:00 AM
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This idea comes from 18 year olds who think when they turn 30 they will look like their parents.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/19 09:56 AM
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I think it's pretty hard to argue against evolution being the main factor in our psychological make up.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/19 01:28 AM
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It's probably out of proportion on this sub because of the amount of people on hete who genuinely hate women but some blame for failing to take reasonable measures to protect yourself is fair. If I left my work laptop in my car every night with the door's unlocked and one night someone steals it, the person at fault is the scum bag who stole my lap top, however blame also needs to be directed at me for putting myself in that situation. "Victim blaming" is a buzz word right now but a certain amou…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/19 01:22 AM
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Ah ok, well on the flip side most girls tend to lose interest in clubbing some time around mid-late 20s so you have that to look forward to I guess
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/19 10:53 AM
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Positive, generally happy demeanor, willing to try new things and girls who can communicate properly.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/19 10:28 AM
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Marriage is obsolete, if she wanted to remain in a LTR without marriage of course I respect her. What does a ring and a certificate mean anyway?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/19 10:16 AM
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It's perfectly fine to not want your girlfriend to go to a club but what I've found with couples who go down this path is that they become very eye for an eye until they both can't go anywhere or do anything where there may be any chance of contact with the opposite sex. You can either trust each other and be happy or be distrustful and constantly worrying it's up to you.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/19 10:14 AM
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Why obese men are at greater risk for premature death than women isn't clear. "Our study was not able to address this question, but previous observations have suggested that obese men have greater insulin resistance, liver fat levels and diabetes risk than women," said study co-author Dr. Emanuele Di Angelantonio, a lecturer at the University of Cambridge in England
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/19 11:51 AM
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I think you should take a breath and read things properly instead of being so aggressively wrong all the time. The study was focused on premature death of people under 70.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/19 11:49 AM
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https://www.webmd.com/diet/obesity/news/20160713/obesity-more-deadly-for-men-than-women-study
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/19 11:32 AM
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I'm not going to get into because honestly I don't know the differences in effects of obesity based on a person's gender. I would imagine though a quick google search would show substantial increased risk of heart disease, cancer and diabetes in obese women.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/19 09:56 AM
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Men and women are getting a lot fatter in America I don't know why this sub seems to pretend like it's solely a female problem. Also women have success at getting tinder matches who are objectively more attractive than them, so what? Women don't want to be just some random who got used for sex, they are still in the same position when it comes to finding a LTR.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/19 08:53 AM
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Why would social hierarchy just disappear with a different system of government?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/19 05:42 AM
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I don't think it's that hard, I find it weird how you accociate something being non masculine with automatically being inferior? That's very sexist. No the literal definition of sexual discrimination is to discriminate against someone based on their sex. Stating my belief that most women would rather be at home raising kids/having a flexible job to spend more time raising children than working from sun up to sun down 6 days a week is just an observation. What is controversial about that statemen…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/19 05:37 AM
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I don't think you understand the ideology of socialism if you think that the literal definition of socialism doesn't define socialism.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/19 07:13 PM
3

I actually just googled "socialism definition" I don't own a dictionary.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/19 06:55 PM
4

If you live in any kind of society you are going to be conforming to social hierarchy in some form.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/19 06:40 PM
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Socialism - a political and economic theory of social organization which advocates that the means of production, distribution, and exchange should be owned or regulated by the community as a whole. Why would a socialist specifically not endorse social hierarchy?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/19 06:29 PM
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Pretty vague study to be honest. What qualifies as "endorsing social hierarchy" pretty much every human being who lives in modern society endorses different social hierarchies. Also the use of "gazing" as a measure of sexual objectification is out and out useless.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/19 06:21 PM
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He exists only in the nightmares of betas on reddit
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/19 05:57 PM
1

Yeh except with the added bonus of getting paid and being something you can't do at home in your pyjamas
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/19 10:23 AM
2

Because I don't inherently believe that traditionally feminine chores are inferior to masculine chores?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/19 03:32 AM
1

"beneath us" isnt fair, we don't consider ourselves to be too good to do those things, they are just things that are considered as feminine chores/pursuits. A lot of men find that kind of thing emasculating. Also even though a lot of women wouldn't admit it, most would rather be at home with kids, family and friends rather than the long hour, 6 day a week work grind that men have to do.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/19 03:09 AM
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When you're scrolling through you see some posts about some epic hike, motorbike ride, hobby cars etc. and you think this is actually pretty cool, men just doing their own thing not defining their success by how hot of a wife they can get. Then you get every 3rd post being about how all single mothers are trash, young girls are all just cum dumpsters and every woman is vein, hollow and shallow and you think nah these are just some dudes who need counseling. If you're a straight person who legiti…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/19 07:07 PM
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I am but I'm not sure whether that's real or it's just me rationalising the fact a 9-10/10 wouldn't be attracted to me anyway to avoid feelings of rejection.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/19 06:24 AM
1

If you have no self esteem everyone is settling for you
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/19 03:01 AM
1

Why look for a perfect match when you can settle for the no hoper from your home town?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/19 09:27 AM
3

As an Australian I'm not surprised we are winning the race to a 1984 style future, we knee jerk ban everything here and everyone is way too cool with giving away all their freedoms to the government.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/19 06:52 PM
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And people doing voice overs for a documentary about wolves.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/19 09:02 AM
1

Cheers, met on hinge. Don't want to sound like I'm plugging a dating app but in my experience it was overall better than bumble and tinder by a long way.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/19 12:29 AM
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More women like cheerful, happy, fun, confident guys then mysterious weirdos though. If you're pretty average looking, being fun makes you more attractive, if you're average looking and mysterious you're just a creep.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/19 06:17 PM
2

Don't mean to pick at the world class theory but isn't it women's inherent nature to be monogamous and men's to be slutty?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/19 06:14 PM
1

Skills like art or music are actually extremely difficult to learn at a late age if you're not naturally artistic or musically gifted. Lifting things up and down is something anyone can do and is going to make you more attractive to a higher percentage of girls than being a musician. So it's probably just a numbers thing RP is more about making yourself appear attractive to get laid not genuinely becoming talented at things that may or may not attract girls.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/19 05:55 PM
1

Have you come out as demisexual to your folks yet?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/19 05:45 PM
1

Mixed bag really, social media and dating apps have made everyone a bit more shallow and less sincere but on the flip side the ability to meet people outside of work and social circles is a huge plus. I met my girlfriend on a dating app and we are extremely well matched, if dating apps didn't exist I'd probably be married to one of my high school girlfriends or something.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/19 05:41 PM
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I don't think that's them being insecure tbh. It's more them being shallow and making you insecure.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/19 05:28 PM
1

As long as they are on your pinky and you use it to point like Paulie from the sopranos
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/19 05:15 PM
1

Welcome
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/19 05:14 PM
2

If you're a 3/10 and don't find a 5/10 attractive but marry them anyway you are still dating up doofus.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/19 05:11 PM
1

Women want guys who show emotion, women want a sensitive new age man, someone nice, kind etc etc are all literally comments about sexual attraction which is what OP is probably referring to.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/19 05:09 PM
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Personally the only reason I want to get married is because my girlfriend wants to and I'm open to it. If she said she didn't need to get married and would rather spend the money on a holiday or a house she would go up a notch in my book.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/19 09:29 AM
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Yes because really human beings as a general rule have more mental problems the better off we are.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/19 07:20 AM
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I have no argument with any of this. Your post headline says women prefer being objectified rather than the alternative. Then in the body of your argument you go on to talk about how women prefer being pursued all while referring to the act of being pursued as being "objectified" which it isn't. Objectified is not the same as being pursued romantically.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/19 01:59 AM
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Yeh sure less of a pursuit culture you're going to get less objectification but that doesn't mean they are intrinsically linked. Driving cars everywhere encourages more car accidents but you don't have to crash your car everytime you drive it
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/19 12:27 AM
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Testosterone is essential to building muscle mass, men have it and women don't therefore men will have a greater ability to add lean muscle mass through exercise. As to steroids, yes women can take steroids to increase testosterone and by doing so increase their ability to add lean muscle but men can also do that, then combine that with the fact men are also much larger framed, they just have more area to add lean muscle than a female would. Mr Olympia contestants would outweigh Mrs Olympia cont…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/19 10:38 PM
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Pursuing women isn't objectification. What you're describing is pursuing, women like being pursued romantically but not sexually objectified.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/19 10:26 PM
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You guys talk about things in a very strange way. Like getting into sports is some kind of strange unnatural thing to do. I liked sports as a kid, I played sports at an amateur/semi professional level until my mid 20s, I enjoyed it, The end. Sports are fun and give you skills you can use for the rest of your life.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/19 09:18 PM
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I know this is CMV but I agree, women should treat their 20s more like men do. Enjoy life, sleep around, travel, focus on your career do whatever makes you happy and then settle down in your late 20s early 30s. That's going to be an unpopular statement on here but there's no reason women shouldn't enjoy being single while they are young. People with life experience make better husbands and wives anyway.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/19 10:47 AM
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So your observation is that women gain muscle more easily than men? Because that's the only way there would be a closer gap between professional athletes than there is between untrained individuals
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/19 08:31 AM
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I don't think that is as correct of an equation as you think
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/19 05:44 AM
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Men have a greater capacity to gain muscle compared to women. So there would be a greater difference between a trained male and trained female than untrained male and untrained female.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/19 01:59 AM
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Are they though? I would think Athletes built for power like American football players, weight lifters and rugby players would have an even greater muscle mass discrepancy over their female equivalents.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/19 01:33 AM
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Men as a general rule don't but at a certain point the logistics of dating someone too much shorter becomes a hassle.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/19 01:29 AM
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I'm a little curious why you think women date down? Women generally always date up in socioeconomic terms. Are you just talking about physical attractiveness?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/19 12:23 AM
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Feminism moved away from equality and equal rights a long time ago though. These days it seems to revolve around at what at best can be described as gender based equity and at worst misandristic and anti equal rights. At least thats what a large portion of feminists could be described as. Do agree about MGTOW, its a nice theory not defining your value by getting girls and doing your own thing but obviously attracts a lot of woman hating men who have a lot of resentment and hate towards women.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/19 10:52 PM
2

That doesn't make sense
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/19 10:31 PM
2

Single mothers? Ie women who don't have any man in their life are responsible for feminizing men?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/19 10:19 PM
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I've read female dating strategy and not many posters on there are similar to women I've met in real life. You have to ask yourself how many girls you know go on Reddit and turn dating into a strategy? How many posters on there are actually women and not male trolls pretending to be women (more common than you would think) and how many of them would be girls you would even want to date in real life? A better method would be to just pay attention to what's going on IRL.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/19 10:16 PM
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Nah, she doesn't care about thinking too much about the way things are and why, and in a way I envy the fact she doesn't need to over analyse everything like me.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/19 07:23 PM
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Mines the exact same although I haven't found girls to be "flakey" exactly, to get a first dates its a bit hard. They always have excuses or other plans that make them seem like the most popular people in the world but once I get a commitment they generally don't cancel.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/19 07:20 PM
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Ah I see
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/19 11:48 PM
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Isn't all the hate directed at men who leave their families? I don't think anyone in real life hates single mums just for being a single parent. Outside of Bible thumpers.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/19 08:36 PM
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I don't even know where to begin with this
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/19 06:01 AM
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I always pay for a first date, but if we get to like the third date and she's suggesting expensive places with no attempt to pay or split the bill I'd activate ghost mode.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/19 02:12 AM
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I wouldn't worry so much man, at 26 you're not going to look like an old creepy guy whoever you date as long as you don't start dating high school girls. Girls generally seem to mature a bit faster and prefer slightly older guys anyway so I don't think anyone will look at you in that way if you start dating a 20 year old.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/19 02:07 AM
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Well then there is a whole thing about how she met him online, is she on a dating site? And if she isn't paying a sex worker then how is it a similar scenario to watching a cam girl? Why try to come up with slightly similar but non accurate hypotheticals when you could quite literally reverse the original scenario?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/19 02:00 AM
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sorry we agree with each other i just misread what you wrote
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/19 01:09 AM
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Camming to hundreds of strangers does absolutely not fit that definition of intimacy
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/19 01:08 AM
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So shes calling up a phone sex hotline? No thats weird and something I wouldnt be ok with. Its not cheating though
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/19 12:51 AM
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I agree I was responding to referring using cam girls as emotional intimacy. Fact is its weird, its even weirder to do in a relationship because most people think that level of interactive porn is reserved to forever alone types. If you caught your SO doing it its totally grounds to consider breaking up, but don't mislabel it as akin to literally physically and emotionally being with another person while in a relationship because it isn't the same thing
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/19 11:17 PM
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Its basically porn with the added option of typing something the actress can read while fingering herself. Maybe we have different definitions of emotional intimacy.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/19 10:53 PM
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I know what you're asking but it's not up to me to explain why I think an act of not cheating on your partner is considered not cheating. If you want to explain why you would consider a non physical, non emotional act as cheating go right ahead.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/19 10:29 PM
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Because it isn't
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/19 10:21 PM
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I don't think hypergamy ie marrying or having kids with someone out of your league is any different today than in bygone eras. Really what I think is happening is through online dating women have had a greater access to casual sex with men who are out of their league. So men who are average looking are being rejected for casual dating and sex by women of a similarly average appearance. Sure they end up marrying said average guys, but only after they have spent their 20s chasing more attractive m…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/19 10:19 PM
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It's not cheating but it's a whole lot sadder and weirder than just watching porn
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/19 10:02 PM
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People lie about how many people they have slept with all the time, I have before either implying higher or lower depending on who is asking the question. I don't understand why you're so worked up about it though? Are you constantly comparing your 23 against other dudes counts?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/19 03:39 PM
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No it isn't the same thing which is why I said getting laid OR working towards getting laid.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/19 01:01 PM
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Every dude is unsecure about how many girls they have slept with? Sounds like you're projecting your own insecurities onto "every dude" but that's none of my business.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/19 06:23 AM
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Anyone can get laid at will if your standards are low enough.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/19 05:55 AM
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This is so dumb. No one can get laid by attractive people at will, however if you are single, live in a large city, have internet dating and are reasonably attractive you have 365 days a year where you could conceivably be getting laid or working towards getting laid. That's a lot of opportunities to be sleeping with people, all the math you posted is absolute nonsense
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/19 05:50 AM
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I don't have any opinions about women's treatment of men but feminism or more accurately the current societal norm of celebrating feminism at the expense of marginalysing men (especially young boys) is something I have a problem with.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/19 02:19 AM
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What a terrible hypothetical question
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/19 02:08 AM
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Not really though, yeh the official average is 5'10 but guys my race, age and in my country the average is probably closer to 6 foot. That's what I was saying though?
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/19 10:34 PM
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Depends on the shortness, if you're life altering-ly short it's probably not cool but if you're a regular shorter than average guy it's 100% fair game. I'm 5'9 and can confirm its the go to for my mates taking the piss out of me
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/19 08:03 PM
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I see a lot of posts about over weight women being more prevalent these days but aren't men becoming fatter at the same rate?
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/19 07:07 PM
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Women don't like that level of banter because they aren't used to having their flaws thrown back at them and used as a source of ammusment. Men tease each other for being short, fat, lanky, skinny, bald, in love with themselves, a pretty boy, ugly, bad dress sense pretty much everything. Girls don't do that.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/19 07:01 PM
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I find it weird to refer to the differences between men and women as something that can be "believed" by an individual.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/19 01:10 AM
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Naked isn't sexual though, naked is just us in our natural form. People who fuck or masturbate in front of pets and babies freak me out though, my German Shepherd scratches at the door if she hears sex in the bedroom and I'll completely lose my boner
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/19 09:45 AM
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Is this the norm though? Most people I know who complain about not getting any from their wives have completely let themselves go and so have their wives. Then wonder why they aren't fucking as much as they did when they were both fit and healthy. News flash you are both less sexually attractive
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/19 08:54 AM
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It's all pipes!!!
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/19 09:31 PM
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I'm not red pill or anything but I don't think they're that similar. The red pill at the very least has some good advice about making yourself more attractive and desirable to women. Even if it has some pretty toxic ideas about women and relationships in general. FDS is weird as fuck, if it was the female version of TRP it would be more geared toward being more attractive to men to get the highest smv man you can get rather than giving out horrible dating advice that makes you less desirable to …
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/19 06:09 PM
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My girlfriend tried to eat some kind of menthol before giving me a bj because she read it in Cosmo. Had to go wash my dick in the sink.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/19 06:02 PM
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That's life, as a man you're going to get the blame anyway so just tell your friends what actually happened and care less about what they think. On the bright side the whole situation has probably made you more attractive to girls who heard about what happened.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/19 05:56 PM
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Personal experience is that they can and do, I had a fling with a girl in the months before I moved overseas. Sex was good but I would imagine she totally regretted having sex with me even though the sex was good at the time as I didn't change my mind about moving afterwards.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/19 10:43 AM
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Sorry I kind of misread the post, but honestly don't people feel a combination of all those points to different degrees plus possibly more?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/19 05:53 PM
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Seriously where did this myth come from that it's better to be friends with a girl first before asking her out? I feel like it's still getting spouted as solid advice in some circles and it's fucking stupid.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/19 05:47 PM
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It's manipulative, but yeh 20 years old, be an adult and say no thanks.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/19 05:42 PM
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I feel like on this sub people talk about casual sex like it's this conscious, serious decision that defines your personality. I was single for years, travelled overseas, lived in a big city where there is a lot of good looking girls and I've been looking for a LTR. Why not have sex with people casually? I'm not just going to wife the first or second girl I sleep with out of fear that more sexual partners makes me a bad person.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/19 05:32 PM
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Everyone has different experiences so I'd really like to hear men talk about examples of this occuring? I'm 31 and male and honestly never felt like my sexuality was/is repressed at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/19 06:49 PM
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Confidence - self assured comfortable in their own skins, won't project insecurities on you Works out - enjoys physical fitness, will be healthier to live a longer fun filled life Stoicism - deep thinker, doesn't let their emotions cause them to make stupid decisions. Money - privileged, hard worker or lucky or could be a combination of any of those.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/19 06:45 PM
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My comment was more directed at people who complain about "Chad" but will gladly become Chad when he is considered more attractive by Asian girls. The female equivalent would be women complaining about other attractive women using their looks to flirt and get attention but then would do the exact same thing if they were suddenly considered more attractive. Both are incredibly hypocritical.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/19 06:33 PM
2

Based on?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/19 05:13 AM
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Could mean anything but if a girl is calling you dude, bro, buddy or mate I wouldn't be too optimistic about the prospect of her thinking you're attractive.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/19 04:05 AM
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No you just don't need intimacy or emotional support the same way most people do
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/19 04:03 AM
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I'm not being a douche or anything but how old are you? I only ask because from what I've noticed girls change a lot in that regard from high school to adult hood
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/19 03:32 AM
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I don't care enough either way enough to get on my soap box about it but my personal opinion of both the young girl and older man would go down. People basing intimate relationships entirely around money is just something that pisses me off even if it doesn't effect me personally.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/19 03:30 AM
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Most women don't put any effort into initiating anything but once a girl has feelings for you they will do most of the maintaining in my personal experience
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/19 11:25 PM
0

Traditional 10 year age gap?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/19 05:15 PM
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I don't think that's a "duh" worthy comment, submission is in itself an act
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/19 09:33 AM
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Again I'm only commenting on my own personal experiences between Asian and western women, not making blanket statements on everyone. If being submissive is an act and not a genuine desire does that make said submission not real submission?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/19 09:30 AM
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We aren't talking about resisting a foreign invader though, we are talking about Asian women wanting to be accepted into a predominantly white western culture. In my personal experience Asian women are much more likely to take a secondary feminine role to a man than western women. Feminine/submissive isn't synonymous with weakness.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/19 09:12 AM
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This isn't directed at OP but I do find it weird when guys who feel marginalised by western dating turn to dating Asian girls where they fulfill the roll of "Chad" ie someone with high smv who a female is only dating for superficial reasons
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/19 08:59 AM
1

So your argument is why should a girl want someone of high value when she could have the equivalent of a human barnacle attached to her life until she dies?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/19 07:31 AM
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Surely you can't be that detached from the human psyche?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/19 12:52 AM
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Yeh sorry I'm saying women date guys up to 10 years older and anything over 5 is what I would consider an age gap
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/19 10:53 PM
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I agree, I'm 31 and I don't think I look much different to when I was 25 also my girlfriend is 28 and I think she is objectively more attractive than she was in her early 20s. I feel like these people who claim women hit a wall at 24 and that men are unfuckable after 30 must live in small shit hole towns where people hit their peak in high school and just slowly let themselves go from there. All my friends I went to high school with both male and female 80% are still objectively as attractive as…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/19 10:20 PM
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I understand what you're saying and I'm not talking in a literal sense, but a man 8 years older than you is in a different age bracket than you and is what would be socially considered an older man. The beginning of this discussion you started out saying that 4-5 years isn't socially considered older, then changed it to 10 years when I suggested that women still date men up to 10 years older than them.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/19 10:11 PM
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I don't think it's an extreme age gap either unless you are under 18, all I'm saying is it is socially considered dating an older man.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/19 10:01 PM
1

Haha well that's a convenient number for you, but it's just not true if I was legally buying beer before you were in high school we aren't the same age. Personally 4-5 years would be the cut off for what I would consider close enough in age that the gap itself isn't worth mentioning.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/19 09:54 PM
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It's more like 2-10 years depending on how old the girl is and yes that all counts as older men
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/19 09:35 PM
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Women spend their entire lives dating older men just not that big of a gap
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/19 09:25 PM
1

Tinder sucks even for a slightly above average guy, I get a lot of matches but mostly disinterested, boring responses or no response at all. Seems like tinder is full of girls looking for a self esteem boots, IG followers or just a way to pass the time with no real intent to date someone seriously. Girls match with 9/10 guys they swipe right and have so much interest they don't have to put in any effort. That said I've had some success with it, but more success with other (imo better) dating app…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/19 06:45 PM
2

I do a lot of things in the bed room with sexual partners that I don't do to women I barely know.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/19 06:39 PM
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What makes you think they don't? You think a 9/10 man is just going to marry a 6/10 woman because he just takes what he can get?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/19 07:54 AM
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So how do people generally end up with attractive equivalent partners if men have no standards? 99% of my male friends including myself would have higher standards than "not fat, nice and not ugly"
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/19 07:16 AM
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This is complete nonsense, benefits of diet and exercise are scientifically proven to be able to lower body fat % and increase muscle mass. There is no scientific evidence to support any type of these "morphs"
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/19 07:02 AM
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This isn't reflective of society at all. I'm pretty sure men on here are saying that to reinforce the argument that women are super picky and if they were in that position of power they wouldn't be. Men in the real world who can get laid by girls who qualify for those basic requirements have higher standards than that, and the guys on here would be as well if they could be. More options = higher standards, for both sexes.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/19 10:40 PM
2

What's wrong with saying "I'm really sorry, I'm just not feeling up to it" though?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/19 10:30 PM
6

Having a dick in your mouth isn't investing much?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/19 02:39 PM
2

Direct communication is something that's pretty underrated. All my previous girlfriends were the type who would never say what they wanted, dropped hints and got all pissy when I didn't magically read their mind. Current girlfriend actually has the ability to say things, choose and organise which is an absolute treat.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/19 06:45 AM
2

Traditional marriage can and currently does exist in nations without any immediate threats of conscription.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/19 06:37 AM
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God no, the feeling of being the more vulnerable submissive sex would scare the life out of me. Periods, getting penetrated, child birth, menopause etc... Hell no, the only dudes who would want to be a woman are the ones who aren't getting laid and believe that just obtaining sex and intimacy would solve all their problems.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/19 06:32 AM
2

I think you're misinterpreting it, it's not implying you should become super comfortable with being alone and closed off so that it's harder to eventually be with someone. It's encouraging people to be happy a fulfilled with their lives outside of a relationship so you're not desperately relying on a partner to improve you're boring life and so that in turn you create a rich fulfilling life that would interest a possible future partner to join you in. At the end of the day, people who are attrac…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/19 10:48 PM
5

A quick google search tells me it's caused by genetic factors, alcohol, nasal structure, pregnancy, ageing, medications, illness, allergies and obesity.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/19 11:56 PM
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Commenting on general sentiment rather than specific posts
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/19 10:56 PM
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You're going to get a lot of shit for this but it's understandable, sleep is extremely important and snoring can be an absolute nightmare for couples. I used to have enlarged tonsils and used to snore a bit, used to drive my partner mad and used to stress me out to the point I would have a shitty night sleep knowing I was keeping her up all night. I got my tonsils taken out and I've really eliminated most of my snoring (unless drunk or sick) If you're expecting to find a guy who snores as little…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/19 10:54 PM
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Really group "leaders" tend to disappear after you leave school and stop playing team sports. Generally as an adult you have your own life and can't just be an alpha male as we all have bosses, co workers, clients etc that we have to deal with on a daily basis. It's really just the misuse of the word that bugs me.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/19 10:41 PM
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But this is the problem, the literal definition of alpha male is the dominant male or the leader of a group. People on here use alpha to describe masculine men in general.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/19 08:48 PM
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I feel like these pages don't use the term alpha properly. When they refer to alpha it seems to be a term used to describe masculine, confident, slightly dominant men in general rather than the actual definition of a true alpha male.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/19 08:43 PM
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I wouldn't say that I'm completely unconcerned with sexual history, I mean no guy wants to marry the town bicycle or anything. Most reasonable people however accept the fact that if you meet someone in their 20s who is attractive that they have more than likely had sex with more than one guy. With most having some kind of casual sex previously as well.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/19 03:49 PM
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Nothing will change, women aren't going to stop taking the pill and let guys they are dating bust nuts in them because he told her he is on the pill. Also if you're a dude who is dumb enough to take a pill everyday that lowers your natural test to castrate levels while simultaneously using an artificial steroid to boost your test levels back up you're an absolute moron.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/19 03:32 PM
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You have to have some self respect
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/19 09:24 AM
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You're just coming on the internet to complain about all the issues that effect only you and can't possibly comprehend that there are other problems in the world that you don't understand because they aren't happening to you.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/19 08:28 AM
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It's the same as women pointing to male CEOs and rich guys and saying "how can men be unhappy? They control everything!" When the reality is most men are working thank less jobs for long hours for money that their wife gets to spend. You're looking at attractive privileged women and asking how could any woman be unhappy? When the really the majority of women have real everyday problems and various different societal pressures that we mostly don't have to deal with.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/19 08:15 AM
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This is the the same kind of thinking that I dislike about feminism.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/19 07:48 AM
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If you get married without living with someone first you are a moron, regardless of gender.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/19 03:33 AM
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Its weird how many dudes on here are on board with dating a stripper but a girl who has had casual sex more than once is a slut and not suitable for a ltr. Also I'd guarantee that 99% of strippers have some kind of emotional/psychological issue that would effect a LTR.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/19 03:32 AM
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True but I don't think interchanging sahm/sahd after breastfeeding age would have a negative effect on a child's development.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/19 02:33 AM
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I dated a psychiatrist once who did a whole thing on how different genders create and nurture bonds and she used to say men create friendships over shared experiences, intense emotional experiences like military service, playing sports etc. Where the idea is that shared experience is bonding enough that that relationship doesnt need any maintaining because that shared experience is enough to keep you close. Where as because women are less likely to engage in those kinds of activities so they hav…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/19 08:18 PM
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Gay guys do have a thing for straight acting dudes though
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/19 07:49 AM
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Well yes, but your original comment made it sound like kids should just emulate men who they see who are manly. I grew up with strong male role models around who were close to me, who taught me skills, how to shoot, fish, drive, talk to people, respect people, how to carry yourself. Not everyone has that, some didn't have fathers or close male relatives and maybe some did but they just weren't capable of filling that role.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/19 04:03 AM
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I work in a job that is traditionally considered masculine, you're saying kids that see me at work are supposed to see me for 15 minutes and automatically absorb what it takes to be a man? Did the checkout lady teach you how to become a woman?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/19 02:50 AM
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Increase in porn is my guess
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/19 02:41 AM
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Smh
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/19 04:55 PM
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I never said no one has never done it ever. I have never seen it, I've been around, lived in multiple countries and I've personally never seen it. Also 8th grade you're like what 14?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/19 09:57 AM
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Im not talking about commenting in general or in the positive. Women's appearance gets commented on by both genders more than men's but the fact remains unattractive women get mostly ignored in the same way unattractive men do. I've never my life seen a man hanging out of a car window to tell a woman she is unattractive btw.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/19 08:46 AM
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Men also ignore women they find unattractive. I don't know where you get the idea we just lash out and abuse women for being unattractive.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/19 05:47 AM
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Personally I don't and would guess it's much more common for men to like gentle submissive types to make them feel stronger rather than a super bitchy aggressive women who might intimidate them. Also nurses and mother's aren't something I would accociate with positions of power or control. More of the role of care giver or nurturer.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/19 05:39 AM
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"married men are more likely to have affairs" yeh and people who go swimming are more likely to drown than people who don't go in the water
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/19 07:57 AM
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That's gay
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/19 07:54 AM
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Pro choice because there are far too many idiots, cucks and losers clogging up the freeways and using plastic
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/19 07:16 AM
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Women who plan dates are automatically more attractive. I don't care about where we go, I eat and drink any type of cuisine, I have no food allergies, I'm 100% down for whatever you pick. You have places you want to check out because you're more into that scene than me, pick something and let's do it.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/19 06:57 AM
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If you're a guy taking selfies and you're a 10/10 you still look like a bell end taking selfies. Caring so much about how you look and then taking a photo of it to show people is feminine as fuck
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/19 06:51 AM
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You mean we treat men and women differently in society? I'm fucking shocked I know the phrase "man up" is considered socially inappropriate but fuck me, so many of dudes on here need to hear it
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/19 07:42 AM
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So the argument of "she should have kept her legs closed" to argue against abortion is something you agree with also?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/19 02:52 AM
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In everyday society (not Reddit) women's aging is almost exclusively discussed or attacked by other women and not men.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/19 09:32 AM
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I understand but at a certain point you have to look at what is happening is not what you're being told. You're a man, nobody cares about your feelings and they aren't going to go out of their way to look after you, you need to figure these things out to survive.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/19 08:14 AM
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I was probably raised the same way but when you're a teenager don't you look at older teens who girls think are attractive and automatically know that's what is considered attractive? I feel like it takes a fair bit of ignorance to completely not notice what women find attractive seen as its constantly in your face everyday though high school, social interactions, media, sports etc
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/19 03:29 AM
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I don't understand the OP is this rage at TRP or TBP or both or satire? It's really hard to understand.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/19 08:13 AM
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Not school smarts or what kind of degree they have but actual intelligence is a non negotiable.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/19 08:00 AM
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If you're in a traditional relationship where your wife stops working it's easily the woman. She gets a roof over her head, clothes, food, ability to raise children in a comfortable environment etc without actually having to earn any money. Meanwhile you get the pleasure of working long stressful hours to provide, all at the expense of your health, social life, family life etc. If on the other hand your wife both works and still does the majority of household chores I think it's easily men. My p…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/19 04:51 PM
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Women and men shouldn't go through lists of things they don't think are deal breakers on a dating profile. Imagine how ridiculous that would be.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/19 07:19 PM
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Talk to him about it, don't threaten to break up with him but leave a clear message that you want to be with someone responsible and won't continue to look after him like you're his mother. Be clear and say what you mean, men can't stand gentle nagging, we mostly ignore it and then start to resent you for constantly doing it. If he doesn't change after that just ask him to move out. Not sure this place is the best place to look for dating advice as it seems to be filled with a lot of virgins/guy…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/19 07:09 PM
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Are you a virgin?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/19 02:29 PM
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I'll take things that never happened for $500
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/19 02:11 PM
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Too many of those generic posing, sexy Instagram photos, if your hobbies are taking photos of yourself you're probably boring as fuck.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/19 04:23 AM
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I remember being 17 and thinking 30 was old as fuck, now I'm 31 and I'm pretty much the same as in my mid 20s except with more money, earlier bed time and can't eat as much fried chicken
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/19 11:10 PM
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I've noticed the same in another post where a girl refered to guys in their "30s and 40s" you could literally have a father and his son in that demographic.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/19 09:04 PM
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Engineer?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/19 09:00 PM
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No that's just you spending too much time on Reddit playing the victim and over thinking everything, everyone who has ever lived has been subject to evolutionary or societal based influences that doesn't mean you're right to choose has been taken away it just means you're a normal human being. No I'm not, my girlfriend has a morals, an education, good job and a decent salary. If we decide to start a family we will decide when and to what level she is going to be needed to rejoin the workforce.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/19 08:01 PM
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In my experience Men prefer younger women and women slightly older men, but this idea that a woman should just settle before she gets to 25 because she's going to drop off a cliff attractiveness wise is rubbish.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/19 07:09 PM
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Where does this 25 year old wall come into it? Guys and Girls I went to school who with are 29-32 and are still in shape, attractive, educated and single.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/19 07:06 PM
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No one's forcing you to buy it bro
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/19 06:26 PM
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No, I'm a typical man and being the main bread winner helps me feel in control and I couldn't imagine relying on a spouse to support me. Also being a stay at home parent would feel emasculating to me and wouldn't suit my social life as a large portion of my social life is through work. Traditional gender roles in our society condition men into thinking that our importance is wrapped up in our ability to provide and my attitudes are just a product of that. Women face similar conditioning but to b…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/19 05:34 PM
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So what's wrong with men or women enjoying their youth, gaining experience in life then looking to settle down before getting old and possibly starting a family?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/19 05:07 PM
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I've dated two single mothers, both were easy going, nice, loving people but for one reason or another it didn't work out. Obviously they are looking to settle down with a decent guy, it's only human nature to want a relationship and to raise kids with someone rather than alone. That fact leads them to be demonised by guys who feel they are just seeking suckers to help them raise another man's child.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/19 07:45 AM
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True but the courts have been dealing with this kind of distinction for a long time.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/19 11:02 AM
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There's a difference between mentally incapable of understanding something and ignorant/stupid. The law makes this kind of distinction all the time.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/19 10:55 AM
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Why are you putting "men in their 30s and 40s" into the same category? That's a huge age differential to be lumping together and comparing. You could theoretically have a 31 year old guy and his 49 year old father in the same category.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/19 05:10 PM
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It's an insult because of the attached "boy" implying that the fuck boy is not a real man. That's what I've always thought of it anyway, really though I don't think it's actually insulting to those people who it's aimed at.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/19 08:46 AM
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From my experience of being a 31 year old from a large city with a lot of friends my age. I would say most of my male friends would be considered more attractive than we were in their 20s. Obviously not everyone ages well and if you're still working a dead end job that is a lot more pathetic than it was 10 years ago but still, if you've made it to 30 and are still in shape, have your hair and have a good career you are miles more attractive in my opinion. More money, better sense of style, bette…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/19 05:36 AM
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I don't really think you should just automatically "get respect" based on the fact you impregnated someone.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/19 06:02 AM
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I have no idea what you're like and what the women you are pursuing are like so take this with a grain of salt. I'm 31 and have been single for most of that, leading to me having a much higher number of sexual partners than the average guy my age. I think you will find you get a better standard of women if you wait a couple of dates and personally never push for sex on the first date. Appear desperate and creepy and you will either get nothing or get laid by someone with zero self esteem.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/19 09:30 AM
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Yes the feminists who say they believe men should be free of restrictive traditional gender roles but then wouldn't date that kind of guy and the men who preach to women about accepting traditional gender roles but telling their daughters the opposite are both obviously hypocritical scenarios. I'm just a bit confused about how pointing out feminist hypocrisy then relates to asking men if they had a daughter would they want her to be in a 1950s style relationship where she will get abused. You ca…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/19 07:54 AM
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I agree with the overall sentiment that if you're a stay at home parent your job is to do the housework and the bread winner shouldn't be expected to do too much of the domestic stuff. But it's not just if she can earn more money than childcare costs she goes back to work, plenty of studies show how much better kids develop when raised by a stay at home parent as opposed to childcare so even if it hurts your income a bit it's still much more beneficial to have a parent staying at home 24/7.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/19 03:45 AM
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I'm not a lawyer but doesn't a prenup just relate to keeping your existing wealth you had before your relationship? Not what you have built while you're together regardless of who actually earned the money to buy the house and car.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/19 03:26 AM
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Everyone is different but I don't think this is true for most people. Doing traditionally masculine things increases testosterone production and improves men's moods, libido and energy levels. There's a reason what we think of as masculine is masculine in the first place.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/19 03:07 AM
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