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Yes, the unequal treatment must really sting! It is so frustrating. However, remember that this might be an opportunity for you to chase bigger & better things, and to be free of a toxic supervisor. But document for yourself how you were treated differently than other individuals and just keep that file in your email, somewhere; it may be that she gets dinged for discrimination in the future and another bit of documentation is the nail in her coffin. Don't say anything to her about this document…
/r/RedPillWomen06/01/18 01:05 AM
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I don't mean to suggest there won't be toxic people, because you're certainly right that there will be people who give you a hard time for many illegitimate reasons. (And documenting everything is a very worthwhile technique too, OP, please take note of this for the future!) But, still, generally it is helpful to be accountable to yourself and ask, what CAN I do better?, when someone brings up a concern and not question their motives on the first go-round. If you have given it your best effort a…
/r/RedPillWomen06/01/18 12:56 AM
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Arguing about politics is pretty unprofessional. Stay away from those debates in the future, with all peers but especially with supervisors. Just don't go there. I would not assume all older women are jealous of your beauty and are after you due to it. Take their feedback and use it to improve your performance, and behave professionally. Does it matter if she dinged you for being slow because you are pretty? If you are truly slow at a task, think of ways to be faster. Thank them for the opportun…
/r/RedPillWomen05/01/18 09:09 PM
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No, feel free to hop in!
/r/RedPillWomen05/01/18 02:54 PM
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If a man ghosts you, please do not chase him. You don't want anyone that would do this to you. He nexted himself. The way we communicate online is often very different from the way we communicate verbally. It's possible that your awkwardness and off color jokes threw him off... but it's also possible there was no physical chemistry for him, or he built you up to be someone you aren't, or his ex came calling, or he felt the distance was too hard, or a meteor fell on him and crushed him like a bug…
/r/RedPillWomen05/01/18 03:22 AM
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You're an amazing woman who builds him up, and he naturally wants to be ever better for you. Don't try to put a damper on this for the sake of modesty. Your replies to statements like this should have a few components: 1) Express faith in his ability to grow/do better, 2) Express that you love being with him, 3) Express appreciation that he spoils you - witj a specific statement of what you liked "I want to earn more so I can take you to more fancy places!" "You know, are so good at X, I know yo…
/r/RedPillWomen05/01/18 03:02 AM
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I think you're conflating "ability to stay on topic" and "vapidity" a little erroneously on here. :- )
/r/RedPillWomen05/01/18 02:48 AM
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There are many facebook groups for tightlacing. I highly reccomend you join one. Different brands are better based on your height and desired shape. What katie did and mystic city corset are stellar for more slender builds. For slender builds I reccomend avoiding orchard corset... They are some of the most reasonable and made good corsets for bigger women, but the shape of their corsets presses down on the hips and can pinch nerves in those slender enough that they can see or feel their hipbones…
/r/RedPillWomen05/01/18 02:41 AM
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Hair: Deep condition 1x week with an argan oil conditioner left in for 1 hour. Face: I find an old fashioned routine of benzoyl peroxide after washing my face w water at night is all I need to keep my skin clear, so long as I drink 6 cups of water a day. I also apply sunscreen like a fiend. It is the only proven anti-aging serum and it WORKS! Another weird thing that helps here is flossing and mouthwash daily. Don't ask, I don't get it, either. Health: I am an endurance athlete so I won't talk y…
/r/RedPillWomen04/01/18 11:25 PM
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I think it is personally better to read and learn from this book before you make the mistakes! Obviously not everything will apply, but there is so much to learn. For example, in the first secret, it discusses how to build a man up and avoid making him feel emasculated - as so many of us are commenting here, we were unaware of our bad habits in this regard. My only caveat is that some of the advice is really only appropriate for husbands (a man who has been vetted) and NOT a man you are still ve…
/r/RedPillWomen04/01/18 11:14 PM
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That question, to me, rings with the implication that he isn't doing the self care he needs for himself/ attempting to guide him to that.
/r/RedPillWomen03/01/18 02:46 AM
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If you view raising children as a lesser task or one without value, it's hard to go anywhere from there. Raising and nurturing good people is literally creating society, not just "contributing" to it. A woman can still work and contribute to society in terms of labor/workforce, but think of it this way... masculinity contributes by growing the food, femininity contributes by turning that food into a delicious meal and into tradition. Both have deep value in living a rich and joyous life.
/r/RedPillWomen02/01/18 06:30 PM
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So happy for you!! Wishing you three the best.
/r/RedPillWomen02/01/18 06:10 PM
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I had SUCH an experience this week. In many ways, this chapter really opened my eyes that I was maybe not as good of a partner as I liked to think I was. I had not considered how much the world tears a man down, day in and day out - that a man's partner should not feel the need to ever humble him or remind him of the scale of things, because literally everyone else already does this. I made a promise to myself to always be his refuge and support from now on. I listen to his words more carefully.…
/r/RedPillWomen02/01/18 06:09 PM
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Oh wow, I didn't realize! I completely thought this was THE book "Fascinsting Secrets of Womanhood"! I will ammend my two posts that this is not the actual Fascinating Secrets.
/r/RedPillWomen27/12/17 05:26 AM
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On page 2 of my pdf copy, the book is dedicated to Helen Amdelin but a photo of David Coory identifies him as the author of the book. Was Helen a co-author?
/r/RedPillWomen27/12/17 05:15 AM
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Here is the link for this week's book club post! https://www.reddit.com/r/RedPillWomen/comments/7mcluv/week_1_secrets_of_fascinating_womanhood_book_club/
/r/RedPillWomen27/12/17 04:27 AM
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Here is the link for this week's book club post! https://www.reddit.com/r/RedPillWomen/comments/7mcluv/week_1_secrets_of_fascinating_womanhood_book_club/
/r/RedPillWomen27/12/17 04:27 AM
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Here is the link for this week's book club post! https://www.reddit.com/r/RedPillWomen/comments/7mcluv/week_1_secrets_of_fascinating_womanhood_book_club/
/r/RedPillWomen27/12/17 04:27 AM
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Here is the link for this week's book club post! https://www.reddit.com/r/RedPillWomen/comments/7mcluv/week_1_secrets_of_fascinating_womanhood_book_club/
/r/RedPillWomen27/12/17 04:27 AM
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Here is the link for this week's book club post! https://www.reddit.com/r/RedPillWomen/comments/7mcluv/week_1_secrets_of_fascinating_womanhood_book_club/
/r/RedPillWomen27/12/17 04:26 AM
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Here is the link for this week's book club post! https://www.reddit.com/r/RedPillWomen/comments/7mcluv/week_1_secrets_of_fascinating_womanhood_book_club/
/r/RedPillWomen27/12/17 04:26 AM
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Here is the link for this week's book club post! https://www.reddit.com/r/RedPillWomen/comments/7mcluv/week_1_secrets_of_fascinating_womanhood_book_club/
/r/RedPillWomen27/12/17 04:26 AM
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Here is the link for this week's book club post! https://www.reddit.com/r/RedPillWomen/comments/7mcluv/week_1_secrets_of_fascinating_womanhood_book_club/
/r/RedPillWomen27/12/17 04:26 AM
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Here is the link for this week's book club post! https://www.reddit.com/r/RedPillWomen/comments/7mcluv/week_1_secrets_of_fascinating_womanhood_book_club/
/r/RedPillWomen27/12/17 04:26 AM
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Here is the link for this week's book club post! https://www.reddit.com/r/RedPillWomen/comments/7mcluv/week_1_secrets_of_fascinating_womanhood_book_club/
/r/RedPillWomen27/12/17 04:26 AM
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Here is the link for this week's book club post! https://www.reddit.com/r/RedPillWomen/comments/7mcluv/week_1_secrets_of_fascinating_womanhood_book_club/
/r/RedPillWomen27/12/17 04:26 AM
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Here is the link for this week's book club post! https://www.reddit.com/r/RedPillWomen/comments/7mcluv/week_1_secrets_of_fascinating_womanhood_book_club/
/r/RedPillWomen27/12/17 04:25 AM
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Here is the link for this week's book club post! https://www.reddit.com/r/RedPillWomen/comments/7mcluv/week_1_secrets_of_fascinating_womanhood_book_club/
/r/RedPillWomen27/12/17 04:25 AM
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Here is the link for this week's book club post! https://www.reddit.com/r/RedPillWomen/comments/7mcluv/week_1_secrets_of_fascinating_womanhood_book_club/
/r/RedPillWomen27/12/17 04:25 AM
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Here is the link for this week's book club post! https://www.reddit.com/r/RedPillWomen/comments/7mcluv/week_1_secrets_of_fascinating_womanhood_book_club/
/r/RedPillWomen27/12/17 04:25 AM
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Personally, the first three chapters of this book were fluffy to me. The book was written by a man, but based on a very successful course run by a woman. This makes me wonder about some of the content to come, but I've skimmed the book once and so much of the advice seems solid. I have started on the list of masculine virtues and just reminding myself to look at my partner's best side has lade us more agreeable to each other. When I expect his best, not out of entitlement but because that's who …
/r/RedPillWomen27/12/17 04:08 AM
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I understand that you're panicking but we can't do anything with this post. You have given us absolutely no information whatsoever, so nothing we say in terms of "yes" or "no" has ANY value. Take a deep breath, compose a post with details that follows the sidebar rules, and you will have access to the support of a community of fierce and loving women.
/r/RedPillWomen21/12/17 05:44 PM
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The moving/graduation thing was on your partner. It is important for him to have boundaries about these things. For example, he can say, "this is an important event for my girlfriend. I can't help with any last minute requests today." If they wanted moving help, they could have contacted him in advance or, like grown ass adults, paid for movers. Hell, if money is no issue, he can even offer them sixty bucks toward paying for a few hours of a mover's time and leave coordinating that to them. He i…
/r/RedPillWomen21/12/17 05:39 PM
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You're welcome, and I'm glad to have you joining us. :)
/r/RedPillWomen21/12/17 03:34 PM
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Welcome, glad to have you joining us!
/r/RedPillWomen21/12/17 03:33 PM
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Welcome!
/r/RedPillWomen21/12/17 03:33 PM
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I completely agree! I am looking forward to the journey together. Welcome!
/r/RedPillWomen21/12/17 03:32 PM
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Welcome!
/r/RedPillWomen21/12/17 03:31 PM
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Welcome! Happy to have you for the discussion.
/r/RedPillWomen21/12/17 03:31 PM
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It'll be great to have you if you can find time. I know we are all so busy!
/r/RedPillWomen21/12/17 03:30 PM
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Welcome!
/r/RedPillWomen21/12/17 03:27 PM
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Some require some communication, sime are solo. You can do the communication ones via letter or phone or wait til vacation is over - either way we are happy to have you!
/r/RedPillWomen21/12/17 03:26 PM
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Oops, thank you for catching that! I have updated the link. It's great to meet you! Thanks for joining. I look forward to hearing your thoughts on the book! :)
/r/RedPillWomen19/12/17 08:23 PM
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On your end, you need to drop the subbornness and defensiveness. Control your temper. As you're witnessing, you can use anger and violence to end an argument but it is not any "win" for you- and you can lose your relationship over it. And yes, what you did- throwing soda- is a violent act, even if it might not register that way. If the roles were reversed, we would counsel you to look for other signs of violent behavior as it's a red flag for future abuse. For your apology feel sincere, you need…
/r/RedPillWomen18/12/17 12:53 AM
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I might suggest secular or faith based grief counseling, as a couple. Sometimes a session can help you work out how to communicate your grief needs with each other. If he is deep in grief and has to be your sole support, it can cause resentment and vice versa, so make sure that you each have an external network of love and support. I am so, so sorry for your loss.
/r/RedPillWomen17/12/17 10:35 PM
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Your boyfriend, as a father-approved, extraordinarily decent man, wants to provide you with a good life and the things you need. This makes him feel masculine. You didn't quite mean to, but you made him feel like a bad provider because he didn't live up to expectations to provide for you. By saying "X's mother thinks you should be providing a house for me by now, but I am comfortable" you did two things that really hurt him: You hinted he wasn't providing, by telling what the mother said... You …
/r/RedPillWomen17/12/17 10:29 PM
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Make sure you aren't actually coming off as holier-than-thou or snobby to your friends before you write them off. If you loved these women, and they you, they must have been solid people at one point. Ofcourse, time changes almost all of us, and sometimes it is necessary to prune the tree- but in interpersonal strife with people you do care about, it helps to look inward first. The other benefit of this practice is that it will reassure you that you are right to cut them off, or set boundaries, …
/r/RedPillWomen17/12/17 10:12 PM
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May I PM you a pdf link to a book called "Secrets of Fascinating Womanhood "? It has an entire chapter devoted to the topic, and she is more articulate about it than I could hope to be.
/r/RedPillWomen15/12/17 06:14 AM
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Make sure they test Free T, too, not just T.
/r/RedPillWomen15/12/17 04:50 AM
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He sounds bitter, jaded, and afraid. At 3 months in, you are still vetting HIM - remember that. Is he showing you that he is a marriage minded partner, or is he just using it as a carrot to keep you dangling because he knows it's the only way to keep the benefits you provide? It may be too early to tell... but I have heard a handful of tales of women who waited years for their boyfriends to tackle their fear of commitment, only for them to be left by that man for a woman he marries shortly there…
/r/RedPillWomen15/12/17 04:42 AM
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Almost all men look and fantasize about other women. It's something you'll have to make peace with if you want to date one. Men aren't as hypergamous, so him finding another woman attractive doesn't alter or detract from his attraction to you. This is not the case for many women, I suspect; my own attraction tends to be a zero sum game. I don't mean attraction as in looking at or thinking someone is aesthetically pleasing, but attraction on the level where you have a physiological response, thei…
/r/RedPillWomen04/10/17 10:12 PM
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From the sounds of it, he is very impatient with you now. He blows up over trivial things, and he has left you/threatens to leave you often. The way he is feeling about your situation is "frustrated", but the reason you are seeing his feelings via explosions is because he doesn't respect you enough to feel motivated to reign it in anymore. He's got some resentment and contempt for your unwillingness to humble up and work, so he feels okay just blowing off steam at your expense. Not saying it's O…
/r/RedPillWomen01/10/17 04:20 PM
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He doesn't respect you. If you're jobless for over a year, you SHOULD just take some job, any job, then keep aggressively looking for work. You need to swallow your pride, go to that burger joint and drop a resume. Feel free to leave your degrees off. Get a minimum wage job, meanwhile also apply for secretary jobs, entry level admin, au pair, etc work. Spend 1-2h/day on these apps, in addition to the hour I imagine you devote daily to your industry job search. (If you aren't doing the latter, ST…
/r/RedPillWomen01/10/17 04:09 PM
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You are slacking on your self care. Just because you can't do anything fun outside with him does NOT mean you need to spend every free moment with him, indoors amd gaming. Make plans with your friends to go out. Make sure you're giving yourself space to decompress and take care of you. Don't hesitate to take care of yourself re: the bedroom.
/r/RedPillWomen30/09/17 01:26 AM
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In general, I think there are a lot of different dynamics that can lead to this same, miserable outcome. It could certainly be a woman being domineering and not giving her husband space to be masculine, but it could be a captain absolutely drunk at the helm and not leading his household. In the case of this particular article, it sounds like her husband is a caring partner but that his leadership is lacking. The impression I got was that the division of labor wasn't decided deliberately but that…
/r/RedPillWomen29/09/17 11:43 PM
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No, I wouldn't want a cent of his money if we split. I don't need it; he makes more but I'm comfortable on my money.
/r/RedPillWomen29/09/17 09:56 PM
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You're responding to the least important part of my comment; I hope that means you're taking the rest to heart. Hang in there for the next few weeks and don't forget your own self care.
/r/RedPillWomen29/09/17 07:55 PM
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I agree with u/capngrind, 100%. When I hear a woman decry "emotional labor", she is saying thst she's frustrated by having to be Captain and First Mate at the same time. Meanwhile, her husband is acting like a deckhand at best. The pressure to be decision maker AND leader/delegator AND domestic caretaker AND sexy vixen.... that's two people's worth of roles, and she's filling them for a man whose behavior means he barely deserves one. Exhausting and unfulfilling.
/r/RedPillWomen29/09/17 06:57 PM
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The golden rule is to treat others as you'd like to be treated. The platinum rule is to treat others the way they would like to be treated (within reason). Provide your partner what he needs, not what you think you would need if you were in his shoes. One, he isn't you. Two, you have no idea what you'll really feel or need in those situations unless you've been exactly there, so projecting and imagining just isn't useful here - even though the sentiment is comendable.
/r/RedPillWomen29/09/17 06:34 PM
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"There's not a problem yet" You're 100% correct. Thank you for that. This is all really good advice. My hope in focusing on the student loans is that he hates them and feels the company was predatory, so my instinct was to frame it as protecting me from a loan he felt already preyed on him. I didn't even think that focusing on it could make it sound like I don't want him, so I'm glad you brought that up.
/r/RedPillWomen29/09/17 06:30 PM
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There's a difference between a man feeling hurt and a man acting badly based on his hurt feelings. I know my boyfriend would not do the latter, and the respect I have for him because of it makes me want to take extra care not hurt him. But I can see your point. I shouldn't tiptoe around important matters as if his ego is fragile. I know it isn't fragile, so I should bring him the issue with the trust that he'll square away his feelings and use his good judgement.
/r/RedPillWomen29/09/17 06:14 PM
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Thank you so much for this detailed reply. It gave me a lot to consider and I really appreciate it! I live in CA, which I believe is a community property state. In addition to divorce, I'd want the prenup so that if, for whatever reason, he stopped making payments on his loan, the companies couldn't come after my retirement money or something like that. I'm not going to let my husband just drown under his finances but I can imagine a few unfortunate scenarios that could cause this even when ever…
/r/RedPillWomen29/09/17 06:07 PM
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