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2	Anyone want to be friends ? You and my husband would probably be sympatico….he HATES snakes and loves cats and dogs. He also LOVES horror movies.	/r/ExRedPill	14/11/24 01:31 PM
2	Anyone want to be friends ? Can confirm as an ADHD-er married to an autist for 15 years. :)	/r/ExRedPill	14/11/24 01:29 PM
6	How to get over feeling inadequate because of height? That is 100% not true. I approached my ND husband because I found him fascinating. Did I have to pull him out of his shell? Of course! But I am that type of person, so it worked out great. Adults do not generally avoid friendship with people because they are ND, but they do avoid people who are rude, self-focused, not fun to talk to, complain a lot, speak poorly of others, are arrogant, needy, demanding, etc. Any of those things sound like personality traits that you could work on?	/r/ExRedPill	05/11/24 04:50 PM
0	Anyone here go from red pill to attachment theory? Unless you are someone who is knowledgeable in psychology, it's probably not helpful to armchair diagnose people or blame their problems on something that may or may not be involved. There are a lot of ways to help people that don't involve non-professionals claiming to "diagnose" people they have never met with things they don't fully understand. Not to mention, you can easily discuss the unhealthiness of how red pill guys approach relationships without appealing to expertise you don't have - t…	/r/ExRedPill	25/10/24 01:41 PM
3	Is there anything wrong with being traditional? No no no. Please don't try to change yourself to attract some woman that doesn't want you the way you are at your core. This doesn't mean you shouldn't self-improve and take good care of yourself and have a life of your own, because the package your core comes in is also important (just not as important as who you are). :) You sound exactly like my husband, except he is autistic w/o ADHD (I have ADHD). Thin, small, sensitive, socially awkward, most friends are women - check, check, CHECK. I appr…	/r/ExRedPill	09/10/24 09:48 PM
10	Ex redpill guys in particular, what was your relationship like with your father? Many of the guys I would consider the old school version of redpill (I am in my 40s and married so not a lot of contemporaneous interactions with self proclaimed red pill guys) had absent or nasty dads and over-indulgent moms. But that could be different now.	/r/ExRedPill	02/10/24 07:44 PM
7	Confessions. You just listed a bunch of examples of things red pill content makers say, but you didn't offer any proof of their "truth" in the slightest. Please cite some proof of those "truths". Not "I saw it on the internet", but actual proof that those things are the case out in the offline world. My husband is on the spectrum, so I definitely empathize with the constant struggle to fit in and understand social norms and behaviors. But he did not decide that women were all at fault for his struggles, he f…	/r/ExRedPill	26/09/24 04:20 PM
2	How do you deal with being "mogged"? My grandma told me when I was younger, "There will always be someone out there who is smarter than you, more talented than you, richer than you, and more beautiful than you. Comparing yourself to others is a fool's errand." I struggled as a kid with the chasm between my "potential" (gen x "gifted" kid who was really good at music) and my ability to make things happen as a minor without the support of my parents, who had kicked me out. I had to give up on going to the great out of state schools t…	/r/ExRedPill	06/09/24 07:48 PM
16	How can I stop seeing myself as post-wall? Have you seen a picture of Jennifer Connolly? Monica Bellucci? Salma Hayek? Halle Berry? Michelle Yeoh? Angela Bassett? All over 50. In fact, many of them have become more and more beautiful as they have gotten older. There is no wall. There are definitely crappy societal pressures regarding women aging, but it's within your generation's power to decide NOT to do that to yourselves or others, and reform the system as you see fit. Stop allowing a couple of angry guys on the internet who hate wome…	/r/ExRedPill	03/09/24 02:15 PM
5	How to help my boyfriend? No, ethical non-monogamy is a real thing that obviously this guy warped into some Alfa boy grift.	/r/ExRedPill	18/08/24 12:37 AM
2	Watching how dating works for my friends has been black pilling me If it’s the study I am thinking of, this interpretation just isn’t true. But I don’t know because the link is paywalled. The study I read was all self report, and I believe a lot of incels erroneously believe they are autistic because they only know the social symptoms, and they believe it gives them an excuse why it’s not their fault they can’t attract women.	/r/ExRedPill	03/08/24 04:17 PM
0	Garnering female interest: being hard to get or aloof? No need to decide that your own hangups/discomfort with casual sex are a hard and fast rule for everyone. Casual sex is a “common thing” if you choose to do so, and no, the “vast majority” of people who have casual sex don’t regret it when they do. It is possible to have sex just for sex’s sake, to have a good time, and not get all self-flagellating about it later. Having sex does not change anything about a person, period. That’s part of what it’s important for incels and RP followers to realiz…	/r/ExRedPill	13/07/24 12:59 PM
6	What do you do if you've felt lonely your whole life? Those of us who grew up with shitty parents often find people like us and form our own chosen families. We learn how not to be from our parents, and use that information to figure out how we do want to be. I had awful parents, and I felt super lonely a lot of the time. So did my husband. We have a great chosen family of us, my son, my son’s dad, my trans nephew and his gf. All had awful parents (except my son, of course…lol). Now we have each other.	/r/ExRedPill	10/07/24 08:20 PM
3	I have realized that... I'm actually good-looking. I agree! You have a very distinct look that is memorable. Your hair is great, and you look like a chill person who is fun to hang out with.	/r/ExRedPill	15/06/24 10:22 PM
21	According to a software engineer working with dating apps, women are absolutely much more picky than men are That tells me that you are very young with limited real-life experience. Some people, like me, work their whole lives and suddenly fall ill and can’t do that anymore. My husband supports me because he loves me. If it was the other way around, I would be doing the same. Having two people with careers and incomes doesn’t make it less likely that bad things will happen, but it gives you a lot more ability to adapt. If you got sick and your wife and 3 kids rely on you for everything, now what? What …	/r/ExRedPill	07/06/24 05:47 PM
7	The hard truth about attempting to socialize. Eh, in the US, there is both a) a lack of social places that aren’t either inherently expensive/exclusive and b) a deeply divided country where some of the people who are out there aren’t safe to socialize with if you are not just like them/don’t play their game. Also, c) those worried about covid may suffer random harassment if their concern is obvious. For example, in my state, they just tried to make it illegal to wear a mask for health concerns (including covid), while leaving in exceptions …	/r/ExRedPill	03/06/24 01:34 PM
4	How to date as a 25 year old late bloomer? Regarding the “autistic mannerisms” (I am married to a man on the spectrum), ask a trusted friend or three which mannerisms you display regularly that regularly upset/offend/hurt other people, and work on eliminating or softening those. If you work on getting rid of 20 mannerisms because they “look autistic”, when only 5 of them are detrimental socially, you are going to absolutely overwhelm your brain (while you are already doing twice the mental work of a neurotypical for the same conversation…	/r/ExRedPill	02/06/24 11:29 PM
4	How to successfully date if I have autism, not funny, and have an overly logical and formal way of speaking? Oh hell no. I would never give my husband (has ASD) a psychedelic that wasn’t a super duper micro dose - he would get stuck in a WTF cycle.	/r/ExRedPill	22/05/24 08:12 PM
5	How to successfully date if I have autism, not funny, and have an overly logical and formal way of speaking? My husband is autistic, and he is one of the funniest people I know, and I know some hilarious MF-ers. His humor is subtle, though, unless he is comfortable enough to be goofy. Someone will start an off color joke, and he will add on to it in a way that ups the ante in an unexpected way. In fact, I was 100% sure I wanted to marry him when he told me a completely unexpected, really funny, beyond the pale joke early on in our relationship - I just about choked. This comes to a caveat - it has a lo…	/r/ExRedPill	22/05/24 08:09 PM
2	I (25M) have a weird voice, sounds like a cartoon character or teenager, and is not that deep, will it hold me back that much in dating? My husband has ASD and I have ADHD. Once we got on the same page with communication, we are like perfect counterparts.	/r/ExRedPill	16/05/24 08:15 PM
2	I (25M) have a weird voice, sounds like a cartoon character or teenager, and is not that deep, will it hold me back that much in dating? Have you tried taking voice lessons? Even if you aren’t a great singer, it can teach you vocal control. There are also voice coaches that work with people to get rid of accents/deepen or heighten voices for trans individuals, etc.	/r/ExRedPill	16/05/24 08:13 PM
6	I'm not really wrapping my head around how having a good personality makes someone sexually attractive to another person This is so true. I once met a really hot guy. Saw him across the room and was like, “wow, what’s his deal?” When he was done with work, I met him through a friend, and ended up going over to his house with a group to watch movies and hang. What I found out that night was that this guy was not very smart, he had not a wit to spare, and had the most annoying laugh I have ever heard. HOLY MOLY. I had fun with the movie, but wasn’t into the guy, despite how hot he was on the outside. He didn’t seem …	/r/ExRedPill	15/05/24 02:44 PM
2	I would caution people here against saying that men here are unable to get laid or dates because they're misogynistic No, the just world fallacy would be a man saying “I was nice! Where’s my sex?” thinking that being x gets you y. The world doesn’t work that way. Assuming that a man who came to a subreddit complaining about not “getting women” has potential shortcomings that might be causing issues for him in that arena is just…deduction.	/r/ExRedPill	17/04/24 06:31 PM
27	I keep seeing the sentiment on this subreddit that "women are taught they have inherent value, men are taught they must earn their value." This is bullshit. Unfortunately, family isn’t always a sure bet either. I am NC with mine. Otherwise, I agree 100%. As women, we were taught by society generally that our only value is in some relation to a man - his wife, his daughter, his kids’ mom. I grew up in a more progressive family (that has now gone far right, ugh), but I was pushed academically - I got punished with grounding for anything less than a B - and assigned value based on grades and comparison to other kids. It was tough, and I unlearned that …	/r/ExRedPill	12/04/24 05:20 PM
9	I don't think I've seen any proof of physical attraction being subjective in any way that's meaningful to me This. 100%. When I was single I dated lots of very tall, conventionally attractive guys, as well as guys/girls of all different looks and heights. I might see someone and say, “woo, that person is hot!” but later decide that something about them (being a jerk, not intellectually curious, being a hot mess, etc.) made their looks meaningless in the grand scheme of things. I married a 5’8” guy who is on the autism spectrum 15 years ago. Our marriage was challenging at first, but once we learned to …	/r/ExRedPill	07/04/24 03:37 PM
8	I get depressed when I see pretty women I don’t think you red pill guys understand this, so I am going to throw it out there: People who are beautiful can get sick, gain weight, get in accidents that change their appearance, have children, become too busy to keep up appearance-related labor, realize that superficial stuff doesn’t really mean much, etc. Just because someone is “good looking” now, doesn’t mean that she is dipped in amber the minute you “get” her and stays the same forever. If your whole stance on dating is based on look…	/r/ExRedPill	05/04/24 04:12 PM
10	How do I make women friends again especially after me losing the majority of them? Step 1: Open search engine of choice. Step 2: Type in “<city of residence/closest decent sized city> group activity <add any other relevant stuff - “rock climbing”, “music”, “TTRPGs”, “night”, “weekend”, “volunteer”, etc>. Voila!	/r/ExRedPill	01/04/24 09:50 PM
35	Any reason to trust this graph? Any time you see something like this with no citations or information regarding where the data came from, you should disregard.	/r/ExRedPill	29/03/24 09:29 PM
10	Just wondering have any of you watched The Red Pill documentary? It’s very red-pill positive and I would not suggest this.	/r/ExRedPill	17/01/24 08:39 PM
0	I feel like there’s such a common characterization of relationships as meritocractic on anti redpill/incel subs that’s so frustrating That’s BS. I have met some really gorgeous guys that I couldn’t stand being around because they lacked traits that are way more important - intelligence, a sense of humor, decency, independence, empathy.	/r/ExRedPill	15/01/24 09:41 PM
8	Sex and selfworth That’s pretty gross, dude. She needs to know that about you before she wastes any more time thinking that you love her and would stick by her if something bad happened. As someone who experienced getting super sick and ending up disabled 3 years into my marriage, I am so glad my husband is a stand-up guy who doesn’t prioritize getting his dick wet over my life.	/r/ExRedPill	11/01/24 05:49 PM
6	Lonely Single Men It doesn’t matter whether women generally are happier single - the women that are happier single aren’t going to be on your radar if they don’t want to be. There isn’t a cheat code for how to be the guy that every woman wants because that guy doesn’t exist. Women are fully capable of making themselves happy now, as opposed to being forced to rely on men - they have careers, travel, social lives that don’t focus on being “Mrs. Whateverface” - so guys have to actually offer something that is bette…	/r/ExRedPill	01/11/23 01:48 PM
39	Lonely Single Men If a man sees being in a relationship as a “chance to be abusive”, I can’t imagine why women aren’t really excited to get started. 🙄	/r/ExRedPill	01/11/23 01:36 PM
10	How to deal with insecurity Have other things going on in your life. If you are happy and busy and have other things you enjoy, you won’t be so hung up on when/how/if she responds to you. Also… Expectations are a one way ticket to misery. No one ever reacts exactly how you imagine. The sooner you can stop having expectations for how fast she should answer and what that means about xyz, the better off you will be.	/r/ExRedPill	07/10/23 06:55 PM
7	Is there any couples here who see eachother everyday? I live with him - it would be hard not to see him every day. And “sex every day” becomes less of a thing over time, not because you don’t wanna, but because you have other, more important, more exciting things to do.	/r/ExRedPill	04/10/23 03:00 PM
2	Olivia Fane: Intimacy is seriously unsexy. That’s ridiculous. We are not.	/r/ExRedPill	03/10/23 04:11 PM
3	Olivia Fane: Intimacy is seriously unsexy. Same! 14 years and I sent him off to work promising a good time when he got home. If that’s not attraction, what is? Ugh.	/r/ExRedPill	03/10/23 04:03 PM
2	Olivia Fane: Intimacy is seriously unsexy. That is idiocy. I know my SO very well. We have been through a lot - health catastrophes, immigration, his dx with ASD, and so on. 14 YEARS of knowing him. I am also more attracted to him now than I was before, and I was pretty damn attracted to him to start with. Our sex is amazing, although it isn’t the center of our existence (same as most long-term, romantically successful couples). Plenty of people have this same feeling/experience.	/r/ExRedPill	03/10/23 03:58 PM
7	This is my list of Redpill/MGTOW beliefs. I need help with challenging them- the world right now seems to confirm them. Woman who loves me a thin, low-key, brainy type here. 🖐🏻	/r/ExRedPill	27/09/23 07:31 PM
3	This is my list of Redpill/MGTOW beliefs. I need help with challenging them- the world right now seems to confirm them. People meet in person all the time, you are just not there because you are online reading redpill stuff and convincing yourself it is hopeless. There are plenty of examples of this being patently false, but again, you wouldn’t know because you are getting your info from redpill stuff. Modern men are adapted to modern times. What should they be that they are not, exactly? How do you think fetishizing men of the past helps you now? Gross. SO. FUCKING. GROSS. “Letting other people sleep with their …	/r/ExRedPill	27/09/23 06:55 PM
4	I crawled out of a dark place and was forced back in No. You dumping your past experiences on her does not “comfort her”. That is turning it into something about you, which is not helpful or comforting. It’s exhausting. You don’t want to make anyone else happy. You want to use other people - women, specifically - to make yourself feel “good enough”. If you cared about making her happy, it would not have been so easy to assume all of those terrible things about her just because she decided she doesn’t want to date you.	/r/ExRedPill	24/03/23 04:06 PM
4	I crawled out of a dark place and was forced back in My guess is that there was some trauma dumping going on on his end, and he maybe turned her off. That doesn’t mean that women “don’t like vulnerability”, but if I am a woman who is in a rough spot mentally, and I meet a guy that I am comfy with, and then he starts going on with the whole “you are the only person who understands me, let me tell you about my anxiety, I would be miserable without you,” stuff within one week of knowing each other, that would majorly turn me off. If I am given the “j…	/r/ExRedPill	24/03/23 03:57 PM
3	red pill claims that women should give sex to men in a marriage as a trade off You do realize that people change, circumstances change, health changes, mental health changes…? People do not remain static, unaltered beings who are exact copies of the people they were at 21 years old. You can’t “figure it out in the dating process” whether there will be future job loss, sudden illness/disability, children and the challenges that come with them…things change. Change is the only thing that’s constant. If everyone whose relationship changed in some substantial way over time got…	/r/ExRedPill	08/03/23 02:34 PM
33	Here is why the RedPill and Manosphere are BS: My Experience as a 19M My husband is a 5’8”, thin Aspie. He is an AMAZING partner. I can always count on him. He isn’t manipulative. He is a straight-shooter, but rarely a jerk about it. He has an encyclopedic memory of a few subjects that I find fascinating. The floofy romance stuff lasts about a year, and then you are left with the practical stuff - is this person on my side? Can we talk about anything? Do I feel like I can be myself? Does my partner feel that way too? If something bad happens to me, will this perso…	/r/ExRedPill	28/02/23 04:28 PM
5	After leaving redpill and fully recovering do you think that it’s possible for them to convince you to be redpill again? That would not be an experience driving you back to red pill thinking, that would be you choosing to go back to something that you know is toxic (for YOU) because you still believe that women owe you their time, attention, and sex. They do not. Even if you are dating. You are assuming that any breakup you experience would be the “fault” of the other person, and that you would always be the “victim” (breakups are not always bad/not always traumatic, and everyone goes through them - it’s a normal …	/r/ExRedPill	23/02/23 04:58 PM
1	what advice would you give me? You need to learn to trust yourself. You will not be “crippled long-term” by hiccups in personal relationships. It only seems that way right now because it reinforces your current beliefs about yourself. Trust that you can make it through some really horrific stuff and come out the other side in one piece emotionally. Use every conflict or problem to learn more about yourself and what you want/don’t want, rather than using it to prove your current narrative. I promise, the world is not against y…	/r/ExRedPill	21/02/23 12:53 PM
1	Why are people so scared of being single? What you are describing is giving any potential partner a job: “Fulfill all of my partner’s social needs”. That is a terrible way to go into a relationship, totally unfair. Nobody wants to be their SO’s entire support system, their whole friend group, lover, therapist, family, etc. Thats a good way to make sure it’s a short relationship with an ugly breakup at some point.	/r/ExRedPill	21/02/23 03:55 AM
5	Alternatives to redpill? I want to learn how to approach women. I also get told when I stop looking it happens but what’s that mean, stop talking to women? This isn’t about you being “cured”. Not being able to pick up women is not a disease or disorder. Neither is hanging around with assholes. Nobody owes you their time and attention, even if you really want it.	/r/ExRedPill	21/12/22 02:06 PM
1	Honestly i give up on all this dating stuff i accept imma be alone forever Do you realize that you also come with baggage from the past? “I have decided that I want a girl with zero baggage (which is impossible because, life) even though that person literally doesn’t exist, so the hell with dating.” That’s a massive matching luggage set with all the accessories you are carting around there. So why should a woman want to deal with that baggage? In reality, everyone has baggage. If you are trying to hit up girls right after they get out of a serious relationship that end…	/r/ExRedPill	04/10/22 03:15 PM
5	It's hard for me not to fall to the redpill Psych meds are not supposed to be there to “mitigate the effects of social isolation”. They are meant to treat actual mental health disorders. Taking them is okay, and it is okay to say “I have a mental health challenge that requires medical intervention”. It is also okay to need them at some points and not need them at other points. It sounds like possibly your social isolation is a product of your mental health issues. You mention ASD, which can be very challenging socially. I mean, it’s half …	/r/ExRedPill	03/10/22 09:13 PM