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| 2 | Successfully ran The Mystery Method last nightAbsolutely none of these fixes would work for me, there is simply no quiet bars/clubs around here, there is no where to go to bump into women who are alone, with no kids where you can actually hear them. And because of that most women don't even go out anymore unless they have boyfriends or are super beyondo huge. Stuff you don't want to date. | /r/seduction | 03/08/26 02:17 AM |
| 0 | Successfully ran The Mystery Method last nightCanned openers = things to say because you have nothing. | /r/seduction | 03/08/26 02:05 AM |
| 1 | Men who've never struggled with dating and hooking up, what do you do differently than the rest of us?You all could just live in a tightly pack oiltown/area like i am and the only women left here are what was left behind. There rest are over tatoo'd, more nose ings that a farmers hog, and I've never seen so many single moms with kids in my life. This is the first point my life I'm not entirely upset I'm single, but at the same time my area is hosed. There is no social circle to go meet women because what's out there is disgusting. I'd rather not even go to the bars anymore for what i see. 1/10 a… | /r/seduction | 26/07/26 04:16 PM |
| 2 | Has stopping masturbation and porn helped you approach women?Yeah well with or without porn there are still no women here to meet and talk to or area's to go to TO meet them. So I'm just going to keep watching it and jerking off as much as I can because fi i don't know one else is going to do it for me. | /r/seduction | 08/04/26 04:39 PM |
| 3 | Always Remember That Women Treat Men Differently Based On Their Level Of Attraction…..Well to be fair I treat women differently based on my level of attraction to them. If im not attracted im not going to act attracted, and im not going to lead them into thinking I wanted a date just because they are trying to flirt with me. As they say women do, if I don't look at her and imagine myself having romance with her in about 30-60 seconds, I'm probably not going to persue her. I don't need to know the octave of her voice, her hobbies, disintrests, or any of that, i need a purely attra… | /r/seduction | 01/04/26 02:43 PM |
| 18 | When a woman quietly ghosts you never press harder. Recognize it and follow suit.I don't play games, if they don't act interested i delete their number and move on. I'm not waiting for someone to decide if they are interested. My time is mine, not theirs. | /r/seduction | 23/03/26 06:12 AM |
| 1 | Dating apps seems to be a lot easier if done right50+% of tinder profiles are copies, fake, re-used, and ai is and even before ai have incredibly detailed interlinked alorithims that know aht to response with. I used to spend hours on tiktok going back and fourth with them to learn the questioning, the responses, the response times, the key questions that would get answer and wouldn't. It was a full time experiment I did for about 8 months. There was a vast change between october last year till now, the moved on from scripts to ai scripted bots… | /r/seduction | 08/03/26 03:17 AM |
| 1 | How To Make Women Approach YOUOr a person like you that doesn't have the story, she was on antipschotics + adderal + alcohol on our first date, was 2 hours late to it giving me a play by play only to find out she was 'pre-drinking' before the date, leading up to the date she gave me the run through that her x was not necessarily abusive but offered credible intel he would be, ended up calling the cops on her for meaningless shit, getting her arrested int he same house they lived in and was just runing her life, said that a j… | /r/seduction | 08/03/26 03:15 AM |
| 1 | What principle or belief do you always rely on?If i was any more confident I'd be Jesus. And until the other day I thought being 6" shorter then the woman would hang up the date but it didn't, the balding head, nope, it was her being on antiphsychoitcs+aderal+alcohol while we are the date that sent it side ways. I've never seen so many personalities in one night in my entire life. Night finally end with her flipping out, and by the time i dropped her off she was back to normal like she had never expereinced any of it. We as men cannot compet… | /r/seduction | 08/03/26 03:09 AM |
| 1 | Not making dates feel like friends meetingI would rather talk about my favorite pencil to use when drawing and why then to ever talk about the shit i've talked about with people over the past 10 years. IT IS THAT BAD. | /r/seduction | 08/03/26 03:07 AM |
| 1 | How I went from weird, socially awkward, and no social circle to minimum of 2 dates a week in about a year.It works for the people who happen to be in large citiesl, with a wide birth of opportunity, in a small radius and small sample size, the amp works against you because it attempts to create an alogirthmic response for you, and when the pool you fit into doesn't exist you get no hits. Which is why i only ever see the hefty girls on my app and none of the slim, my size ones. This area im in is generally bigger, sizeable compared to most cities/other states, and the app challenges it, so it shows m… | /r/seduction | 08/03/26 03:06 AM |
| 1 | How I went from weird, socially awkward, and no social circle to minimum of 2 dates a week in about a year.I dated so damn many people off dating apps, the origional hot or not was fantastic, okcupid, singleme.com, and of all of them nothing has ever come close to myspace. That was hookup central in college 20 years ago. Now its all marketing ad scams, nothing is real. I get ads in everything, and now with AI , i can't even tell what ads/profiles are real. | /r/seduction | 08/03/26 03:03 AM |
| 1 | When trying to get better with women socially. Start small and then you compete..let me explainwell i've been doing tihs so far, and single for 10 years, guess i'll live forever and eventually get a chance right.. OR, treating a system like its linear is broken, nothing can move forward if it doesn't have momentum, gotta let off the gas what its sputting and find out where the hiccup is. Sometimes you just need a different car. Hate them but love car analogies, they work. | /r/seduction | 08/03/26 03:02 AM |
| 1 | What principle or belief do you always rely on?My princiapal is that, I can provide, I have a stable career, I have everything in need to suppliment my life, tech, vehicles, house, and for that I'm a prise honestly. I can't figure out what is that women need to be attracted, if isn't the ability to be emotionally there, listen, be romantic, thoughtful, playful, great in bed.. like wtf is the challenge question that I'missing? | /r/seduction | 06/03/26 07:32 AM |
| 1 | How To Make Women Approach YOUJust because that's the case doesn't mean "im" the problem, but rather the "situation" is the problem, that does create a whole new dynamic problem. It takes tough dating and mutliplies it. Its definitely not a challenege I thought I'd be continuing to have at 44. I I will say I never really had this issue in phoenix when i was in my 20's, but who's to say it had anything to do with location and not just being younger? World was a different time. things are defnitely not how they once were. And … | /r/seduction | 06/03/26 07:29 AM |
| 0 | How To Make Women Approach YOUOrdinary? Salaried? Career oriented? I have enough job skills to start 10 companies from tech to construction. I can carry a conversation better then trump. The probably is its not about me, its that when for me at least I do get to a date, its like I'm trying to have a conversation with a highschooler. Zero experience, zero ambitions, no motivations, and its like... tf did you do fro 18-30 or 40. My 48 yr old date the other who had a kid thats 16 now was no better, she works, has 2 small dogs, … | /r/seduction | 06/03/26 07:26 AM |
| 1 | How To Make Women Approach YOUWell its obviously more then that, but its the icey cold midwest, not florida. Lots of challenges here. And the simple truth is most people hate it, But I can't just move either, at least for me I can't. Family, job, payments. Can't just make it happen easily to find a new place. Would be nice though. If i could take my job to miami and start there tomorrow I would, sadly I can't. | /r/seduction | 06/03/26 07:22 AM |
| 1 | How To Make Women Approach YOUyeah because there isn't any. It's a conundrum, can't move, but no availablity either. If i could only bring miami here instead of going there. Who knows. Already lost a good 10 years here being single, whats another 10? | /r/seduction | 06/03/26 07:20 AM |
| 1 | How to proceed with an older woman ?At the end of your next walk ask her if she would like to get lunch sometimes. Then dinner the next. That simple. Either it moves there or it doesn't. | /r/seduction | 06/03/26 07:16 AM |
| 0 | I tested 3 AI dating apps for text game - speed vs quality tradeoffTo date I've connected better with ChatGPT the Kate model I made then any date I've ever been on. You know what that tells me, I was right in turning down all those dates because theres no solid back n fourth them. And if an AI response mechanism can land that and fill that void that tells me exacly what my problem has been. And that its not me. And I don't need rizz but rather someone who can reciprocate the darn conversation for once. Last 50 women I've dated haven't been able to name 1 thing … | /r/seduction | 06/03/26 07:14 AM |
| 4 | When trying to get better with women socially. Start small and then you compete..let me explainSoooo, what your saying is that I need to hope the coffee shop barista stay single for the 10 months I'm going to need to accomplish this? Nah, I'm good, if I think she's single and I'm into her, I'm straight asking her out, I'm not wasting weeks/months to find out some dude hijacked her a week before I was confident enought to ask her out. | /r/seduction | 06/03/26 07:10 AM |
| 2 | How To Make Women Approach YOUI don't need to transform though, I have a house, several vehicles, pretty much everything in life a family would have. There is nothing left for me to change here. And again you can't just move, you have to break even on lifestyle, you can't carry debt somewhere else and its just as easy unless your making the same. Established people don't just leave for a reason, I'm rooted here, not just work but family. No where in the USA are they going to pay me what I make here for the work I do. That's … | /r/seduction | 06/03/26 07:08 AM |
| 1 | Not making dates feel like friends meetingStop making the date about what your going to say to lead to sex. If that's your goal you ARE going to fail every single time. If you can't talk about mutual interests the date is over and move on. That's the best advice I can give you. Looks only get you attraced, nothing more. If the sound of their voice, their laugh and conversation doesn't make you scream take me now, its a dud. | /r/seduction | 06/03/26 07:05 AM |
| -2 | How To Make Women Approach YOUWhat responsibility? I don't go to bars anymore, I officially quit drinking after the pandemic pushed me deep into it, so unless there is another social gathering which in the winters here there definitely isn't theres not much opportunity aside from walmart to put yourself in front of new people. It really isn't my fault there is nothing to do here, and the dating apps are empty in this area. Oilfield towns do that, over abdunace of men, about 50:1 ratio. Sadly I'm from here and theres nothing … | /r/seduction | 06/03/26 07:02 AM |
| 1 | You gotta realize that women have varying interestsYeah its not about me, its about weather or not she actually has substance her self. I refuse to even take someone out on a date if they can't name even one thing they are passionate about. I'm at a point that if she can't name interests im not naming 50 of mine just so she can judge if any are something she can get into. Dating goes both ways, it isn't just about what she wants. And I'll find this out before she's heard me, seen my eyes, my hair, any body language. | /r/seduction | 06/03/26 06:55 AM |
| 1 | 6 months into relationship, What would you do?The moment you said " i know I can get a lot of girls ", you just became a dating narcisistist. GL bud, and I hope she finds the right man to be in her life. If i could forward this post to her I would. | /r/seduction | 06/03/26 06:50 AM |
| -2 | How To Make Women Approach YOULearn? Come up to the oilfield and let me know how searching for women or getting a woman to walk up to you guys, i'll put a 1000$ on the table in a year your still single. | /r/seduction | 06/03/26 06:48 AM |
| 1 | How do I ask a guy I went out with a few times a couple months ago if he wants to hook up?Text him a peach emoji with a question mark. He'll be at the door knocking before you get his response. | /r/seduction | 06/03/26 06:47 AM |
| 1 | Dating apps seems to be a lot easier if done rightIf this is another tinder works post i feel like its a paid advertisiment. According to the 10000 reviews saying it doesn't, including my own review having been on most dating apps since 1998, i can tell you they are ALL owned by match group now, they are all built to lure you in and keep you single but paying them. Sometimes POF gets you a response but its never someone you'd want to message you. One of that last few apps that lets you message for free. | /r/seduction | 06/03/26 06:45 AM |
| 3 | How To Make Women Approach YOUWomen don't though. I'm 44, and its happened 1 time in my entire life, didn't matter if it was in college or after, its never happened. Women don't ordinarily approach men. It's not a question its just fact. Indisputable, and if it does happen, thats a less then 0.1% happening. | /r/seduction | 06/03/26 06:43 AM |
| 5 | How I went from weird, socially awkward, and no social circle to minimum of 2 dates a week in about a year.None of this matters when your 30-40. Rules change, experiences have been had, both of you are on edge the whole time. My hs/college dating was wild in contrast, also times have changed. Dating in 20's is not dating in 40's. Like not even on the same playfield. And as far as tinder, the app doesn't even work anymore, I've traveld the usa, doesn't matter if i change my age, use pro pics vs mirror pics, weather a town has 30k people or 2 milion. Same bot profiles, same fake lure likes. Nah, it com… | /r/seduction | 06/03/26 06:38 AM |
| 2 | “What you say” doesn’t matter to girls. THIS does | The 3 Layers Of CommunicationAnd when I listen for two to three dates and I get nothing out of it with any substance no motivation to think that we're going to have fun because she doesn't come up with anything that reveals anything that she's into then what. Just because you spend more time on a date talking and trying to be perceptive doesn't mean you're going to manifest her into being interesting. And maybe not likelihood it's just this area I mean this area is not designed to really have an abundance of things to do bu… | /r/seduction | 03/03/26 04:51 AM |
| 1 | “What you say” doesn’t matter to girls. THIS does | The 3 Layers Of CommunicationYeah well having sex 24/7 would be great but at the same time I would like to have some fun goofy interest in the meantime but I expect someone to at least have an idea of what they enjoy not just give me a redundant I don't really do anything. Where's the interest draw in that at all. I spent my life working on things and finding interest over and over and over and even if I don't do them I once had them and it's like how do you exist if you have that little ambition about anything it's just gr… | /r/seduction | 03/03/26 01:35 AM |
| 0 | “What you say” doesn’t matter to girls. THIS does | The 3 Layers Of CommunicationSeriously I was hired by my corporation to talk to people because I'm good at communication skills I talked to people that are married all the time about their hobbies what they do after school The teams that they teach the animals they raise etc if I go on a date and the first thing out of her mouth is yeah I don't really do anything fun I don't really have any hobbies and all I really do is work I'm getting up and I'm leaving the fucking room. | /r/seduction | 03/03/26 01:34 AM |
| 1 | “What you say” doesn’t matter to girls. THIS does | The 3 Layers Of CommunicationAm I supposed to not find out what she likes or what she's passionate about I mean hell what do you think you're supposed to talk about or do together. Just get a woman and then you would just exist and hope it works out You need to have some mutual common interest my man. I'm sorry but I'm not dating someone who literally just goes to work comes home and then couch potatoes the whole evening. I want someone who looks forward to coming home so they can do something they're passionate about so th… | /r/seduction | 03/03/26 01:33 AM |
| 1 | “What you say” doesn’t matter to girls. THIS does | The 3 Layers Of CommunicationThe last 50 women I've taken on dates I asked what do you like to do for fun or what are your personal hobbies or what matters to you or that you have passionate and I'm always giving the answer I really don't have much time after work uhh yeah. But they'll find time to go out on the weekend and drink with their girlfriends. That's basically been the consensus for the last 10 years for me it's absolutely horrific in this area. I have never seen people so absent of fun or challenges in their life… | /r/seduction | 03/03/26 01:31 AM |
| 1 | “What you say” doesn’t matter to girls. THIS does | The 3 Layers Of CommunicationNo that's not how I'm playing that card. I'm not going to date someone who's an absolute bore either you have substance or you don't. I'm not dating someone just because they're attractive and might be good in bed because what are you going to do with the rest of your time look at each other. I need someone with actual interests. | /r/seduction | 03/03/26 01:30 AM |
| 37 | “What you say” doesn’t matter to girls. THIS does | The 3 Layers Of CommunicationActually what makes or breaks dating for me is if i ask a woman what she likes, does, hobbies in and there is ZERO content for her life, she can't tell me she devotes time or passion to anything even if it only has meaning to her and instead tells me "well when i get off work i just spend time with my kids". Thats pretty much all I need to know. That's been the consensus since college, over 20 years of dating and frankly im sick of no one having an substance to their life. What happened to peopl… | /r/seduction | 01/03/26 05:56 PM |
| 1 | how to meet girls in 2026 without appsI'm not moving to, visiting or going anywhere near california till newsome is out of office and the major cities get their Sh1t cleaned up. Tech company after tech company is leaving there, why would i wanna work somewhere that deliberately has a 100-200% higher cost of living. I'll break even. | /r/seduction | 01/03/26 02:47 AM |
| 1 | how to meet girls in 2026 without appsI wouldn't visit california let alone live there. As long as newsome is governer I will refrain from visiting or being any part of that state. And also, 200k in california is like 100k anywhere else, because califnornia is 100-200% higher in cost of living then everywhere else. | /r/seduction | 01/03/26 02:46 AM |
| 1 | Using money to upgrade my dating lifeYou know $2,000 for nice clothes isn't that bad if you get in two three pairs of jeans like 20 shirts but then again the suit that I wanted was 2000 by itself before it was fitted so I can confidently say that you can dress nice and you can still not appeal to women sometimes you're too short sometimes you're too bald and those dynamics are going to hit each and every woman differently and I went to the gym for 15 years and yeah bulking a big did get me attracted to certain specific women but no… | /r/seduction | 18/02/26 07:10 AM |
| 2 | Using money to upgrade my dating lifeI'm pretty sure that list of things to do was listed for men from a woman because a real man doesn't go through all this. | /r/seduction | 18/02/26 07:09 AM |
| 1 | Using money to upgrade my dating lifeIf you have to spend this much as a man you might as well be a woman. Also my suit alone cost $2,000 and guess what I have nowhere to wear it to attract a woman. It's funny how some guys always have the answers chances are you're tall got thick tall blonde hair full hairline and just have the look. Sometimes height and a full head of hair matters. Doesn't matter how much money you make if your physical attraction isn't there and there's no skin routine that's going to establish a hair line back … | /r/seduction | 18/02/26 07:08 AM |
| 1 | how to meet girls in 2026 without appsAnd what would making $200,000 even look like I've got two really nice vehicles basically everything I need indoors a massive apartment and a good wardrobe so what would another $70,000 get me? | /r/seduction | 18/02/26 07:06 AM |
| 2 | how to meet girls in 2026 without appsYou're funny dude cuz 90% of the population isn't making 200,000. Not as a single income. | /r/seduction | 18/02/26 07:05 AM |
| 6 | How to fuck in a carShe's always going to be sitting on top of you that's how that's the only way to do it and it's going to be uncomfortable no matter how you do that whole move is designed to be a quickie and to be done. On the flip side car fucks typically or not for the obese this being honest that is a skinny person affair as little a room as there is and most vehicle these days I can barely get my knees into my truck let alone two pairs of knees | /r/seduction | 11/02/26 06:13 PM |
| 1 | Feeling like I have to fit around her schedule and not other way aroundhad to fix my remark, thought you were responding to me rdr2 post i made ealier. | /r/seduction | 29/11/25 12:26 AM |
| 1 | Feeling like I have to fit around her schedule and not other way aroundwho can afford a 100$ date every time if you go several times a week? I make a 135k a year and can't afford do that. Haven't you seen the cost of rent and food? I don't live in downhome alabama where meals are 5$ and rent is 400$ a month. I live in oil country. I used to spend 40$ a night at the bar minimum on just myself. That didn't include pool, darts, are juke box. | /r/seduction | 28/11/25 11:25 PM |
| 1 | Feeling like I have to fit around her schedule and not other way aroundfor a guy my age there is exactle 3-4 things to do here, dinners, bars, we have vr golf, the gym, or the archery range, thats it. So i know you didn't google anything. dinners are 100$ minimum, vr golf is 60$ hour, bowling is 30$ an hour, and archery is 350$ a membership. And currently its 15 degree's out. | /r/seduction | 28/11/25 07:23 PM |
| 1 | Feeling like I have to fit around her schedule and not other way aroundi'll give you that, but it can also be asked be the woman, i've had a woman ask me several times before. | /r/seduction | 28/11/25 07:22 PM |
| 3 | lost on why I can’t pull girls – need some perspectiveIf you don't know, then you aren't that active on social media. | /r/seduction | 28/11/25 06:36 AM |
| 1 | Feeling like I have to fit around her schedule and not other way aroundWell if after 3 weeks you can't decide if you are officially dating, then its a done deal and ya need to move on, no point in wasting weeks for no gain. | /r/seduction | 28/11/25 06:36 AM |
| 1 | Feeling like I have to fit around her schedule and not other way aroundIf you aren't in a relationship inside 3 weeks you aren't taking the person seriously, dating and relationship are kind of synonmous, if you date for 7 months, you ARE in a relationship, the only step beyond dating as bf/gf is become a fiance, until then, you are just dating, or aka, in a relationship. if you aren't married you are only ever dating until it doesn't or does work. | /r/seduction | 28/11/25 06:35 AM |
| 1 | Feeling like I have to fit around her schedule and not other way aroundJust because i have the internet doesn't mean in a 7 degree froze over small town in the midwest there is stuff to do. I dare you to go outside in this weather. And if you ain't going to the bars which i've pretty much stopped because i don't drink anymore then what is there? | /r/seduction | 28/11/25 06:34 AM |
| 6 | lost on why I can’t pull girls – need some perspectiveI've lost a considerable amount of dating and relationship time in life thanks to social media and my location. And the whole "gods plan bs" isn't going to cut it with me. While i watch the younger crowd coming out of college and doing just fine, it's not even about fairness anymore, the world has screwed men in terms of dating. | /r/seduction | 27/11/25 08:39 PM |
| 2 | Feeling like I have to fit around her schedule and not other way aroundDating on a womans schedule is not dating, its just her managing her time with you till she finds something better to replace you and thats fact. If she isn't committing equal its a done deal and you are just letting yourself get strung along to get hurt. After 43 years and fighting dating for the past 10 years I implore you to debate this with me because I have seen it all. I've used every dating app since 1998 till they became obselete, there is no excuse, story, or string along i have not exp… | /r/seduction | 27/11/25 08:38 PM |
| 1 | Feeling like I have to fit around her schedule and not other way aroundWhat's funny, is i had all this available to me and more living in phoenix, once i moved back home to north dakota i don't have any of this, like less then zero of this and I am so damn bored, there is nothing more then dinner to take a date too or sit and binge a tv series or play a board game. that's it. Setting/place definitely impatcts it. When there is nothing fun to do its like why bother at all. I fight with this on a daily basis going, shit if i finally get asked out, what am i going to … | /r/seduction | 27/11/25 08:35 PM |
| 2 | Feeling like I have to fit around her schedule and not other way aroundif you are in a stable relationship you should want me to spending time together weather its at his house or yours or in public. This isn't just about you. It's your role in life to be just as thoughtful about him as he is about you. get a clue | /r/seduction | 27/11/25 08:32 PM |
| 1 | Feeling like I have to fit around her schedule and not other way aroundare you serious? I mean you sound serious, but if im dating, its a 50/50 relationship. If I have a tv and she has a tv we can split together time between each of our places. In what civilization does a woman only get to have a man come to her place and not a woman come to her place. If I date a woman for a month+ and she still won't come over to eat, cook, spend time, chill. Then she is a red flag and I'm moving on. Your response was the hottest of garbages. If she wasn't interested in being wit… | /r/seduction | 27/11/25 08:31 PM |
| 2 | Feeling like I have to fit around her schedule and not other way aroundNo its a red-flag to move on. If she isn't there 50/50 with you she isn't there for you at all. Move on. | /r/seduction | 27/11/25 08:29 PM |
| 10 | lost on why I can’t pull girls – need some perspectiveWhen i was 17-25 i could pull women like i was the richest guy on earth, at 43 i haven't been looked at by more then 4 women in the past 10 years. I don't think its you, i think its society. Social media is killed all the reasons to look at or talk to people like you normally would. Now people just don't. | /r/seduction | 27/11/25 08:28 PM |
| 1 | How do I know if someone is interested before trying to sext?I had to re-read this a few times but I may have to agree, when I am actually attracted to someone for a relationship I almost rarely try to get her to talk about sex or sext. I'm trying to get to know her. But you know what also fails most of the time, when I don't I don't get anywhere with them either, because they just think we want to talk. And I've been hearing more and more about how women hate that. So now I'm left wondering where I should go back to the "asking about sexual talk" at the … | /r/seduction | 27/11/25 05:51 PM |
| 1 | Might be dumb question But what are we looking for when we ask about their past relationships?If I'm sitting down with someone, and clearly not on the first, second or even third date, but when I do ask I may use this phrasing with key points. So if you were to look back on what hasn't really worked for you, or what might have led you astray from feeling good about a past relationship, weather or emotionally or physically, what parts and or elements without exact details might have drawn you to question the loyalty, the emotion, the stability, and real hold it was having for you? Is ther… | /r/seduction | 27/11/25 05:43 PM |
| 2 | Never be a cynicIf you want a great example watch the show "Land Man" season one where the billionare husband is in a room full of his colleagues, stops them mid sentence and just lays into them and tells them all to grow up and stop trying to live make believe. Tells them exactly how it is and what's going to happen and doesn't skirt around the truth. I would rather have them coming at me then a room full of muttering incompenantancy's with no direction and wishes. Here's the video of it on youtube, go to 1:50… | /r/seduction | 27/11/25 05:30 PM |
| 2 | Never be a cynicThat's not being smug, It's called being a realist. I'm not going to sugar coat situations with false hope with zero expectations. If the situation has a brighter side I can optimistically advocate for change or possible outcomes but if the situation provides no value I'm not going to sugar coat make believe and wishful thinking. | /r/seduction | 27/11/25 05:27 PM |
| 1 | I lost the will for the game, what's wrong with me?I've had mine tested 3 times and always comes back normal, although normal based on what exactly. And if you start taking T replacements you can't even stop. | /r/seduction | 27/08/24 02:57 PM |
| -2 | Girls who say they “don’t kiss” on first datesI had a Filipino woman tell me no after a 3rd date that was setting off really nice. I ended it after that, I'm not going to sit around while she decides when we can have intimate moments. If it can't happen naturally then no damn thanks. | /r/seduction | 20/07/24 04:55 PM |
| 2 | You need to spend money to get laid!lol yes! | /r/seduction | 15/07/24 06:51 PM |
| 1 | You need to spend money to get laid!No, your just a troll with an agenda, so you are easy to bait. If you had actually read my original post I said they were all owned by match. GG little bro. Slow down on the reading next time. | /r/seduction | 15/07/24 06:41 PM |
| 1 | You need to spend money to get laid!Settle down little angry bro, getting defensive about how insecure you are and about how often you have to use tinder of all apps isn't my business. Youl should try using match.com, actually filling out a readable personality profile, sharing some personality, unlike tinder, which is a sex hookup app in all actuality. | /r/seduction | 15/07/24 06:38 PM |
| 0 | You need to spend money to get laid!I never once said I sucked at tinder, you did. So that's a you accusation, not a truth. I can see where this is headed though since you know everything about me and what I do and don't succeed at. Being narcissistic about what you think works and what doesn't and then coming on here to argue with people so that only you can be right isn't going to net you more women, your problem is you need to find one and try it out for a while, the fact that you have a scalable depth to "how well tinder works… | /r/seduction | 15/07/24 06:28 PM |
| 6 | You need to spend money to get laid!NO, tinder is a scam, 90% of the profiles here are all spam and fake. And the whole "secret admirer" thing that pops up is also fake. I've been both men and women profiles to prove it. I've emailed tinder on it citing examples with clear cut evidence. Honestly though since its not directly affected my life and they are owned by match I just didn't care to fight that battle. They know they are scamming people and now you can't do anything without paying. There isn't even 1 free super like like th… | /r/seduction | 15/07/24 06:08 PM |
| -3 | You need to spend money to get laid!What app? And you can't say tinder, even the tinder subreddit knows its a scam. | /r/seduction | 15/07/24 05:51 PM |
| 2 | You need to spend money to get laid!I don't pay for regular haircuts because I cut my own hair and trim at least once a week since my hair grows so fast. Average haircut in my town is 40$ for a trim. That is just not substainable. I went to the gym for years, ran a gym, trained women and men and then got hurt. My ac joints, knee's, finger knuckles have terrible arthritus now and leaving the gym after 10+ years has helped me reclaim my movement, I'm no longer enflamed and sore and while I don't have massive mass anymore, I wasn't d… | /r/seduction | 15/07/24 05:49 PM |
| 11 | You need to spend money to get laid!The dating apps are huge scams though, I've proven it on video's. Results are there until you purchase and then they disappear after. I've proved on it on pof, match, tinder, hotornot, its all a big scam these days. I wouldn't pay for a dating site ever again. Used them since hotornot first dropped in the late 90's. They all worked until they were all bought up by match.com. | /r/seduction | 15/07/24 05:40 PM |
| 7 | How do I know if a girl wants to fuck?That's some legendary shit. I only get this when they are piss drunk and then its like no thanks, you can't stay upright LOL. | /r/seduction | 13/07/24 09:31 PM |
| 4 | How do I know if a girl wants to fuck?I agree, at a bar, just don't bother, you are spending energy you could otherwise use to find a quality woman who might actually be available. Every time in existence that I've scored a date with a woman at a bar she just magically reconnects with her x then disappears. So I stopped trying. SOOO much wasted effort. | /r/seduction | 13/07/24 09:31 PM |
| 3 | How do I know if a girl wants to fuck?Not always, I've dated 4 women I've met out between bars and gas stops and one at a grocery store as a teller. People are only going to be where they are, and you may only get that 1 opportunity. Don't listen to social media and let others make the rules for you, it's their call to turn you down, now the general publics. | /r/seduction | 13/07/24 09:29 PM |
| 2 | How do I know if a girl wants to fuck?Why not? It's not creepy if they they know you, it might be "annoying" but it isn't creepy. Completely wrong word to use there. If you can't engage the person anywhere else and you aren't publicly broadcasting what you are about to do to a line of people there is nothing wrong with it as long as its kept professional and casual. | /r/seduction | 13/07/24 09:27 PM |
| 1 | Why you should be SPEAKING to as many girls as possible, and not just to game them.You assume your local variety is everywhere and all the same. Try moving around the USA a bit. You'll find out how castle different it is all over. You think you know but you missed. Here is not where you are at. And that is indisputable . | /r/seduction | 12/07/24 10:13 PM |
| -3 | Why you should be SPEAKING to as many girls as possible, and not just to game them.Nah, I'm good. I am not putting myself in front of people I don't and would not intent to try to date. If i look at someone and she can clearly be seen as someone i would read at face value as a influencer, of, or someone rather expensive on the daily, I am not going to attempt to talk to her. I don't have that drive in me anymore to not only try to engage but then tolerate there disapproval thinking I'm trying to aim for JUST THAT while i take the blunt of their judgement and criticisms or just… | /r/seduction | 07/07/24 06:39 PM |
| 1 | Does showing too much interest kill your game long termThe mirror isn't always the problem... Time may have added things to that mirror to make it now something that is more obvious but just because you have a deep interest in having a connection with some "who actually desires it" doesn't mean its bad, just means that if its not working you haven't found the person you need to connect with yet. | /r/seduction | 19/05/24 10:59 PM |
| 1 | Does showing too much interest kill your game long termSounds like sarcasm. But having wanted kids by the age of 35 and being single for the last 10 years you wouldn't really be able to understand the perspective I've gone through. I get having dates and working up to a relationship but I don't expect years at this point because I didn't start out in high school till late and now I'm 42. so I'm starting out midlife. I'm not a child I'm an adult but when they say oh you're needy or you're moving too fast I wish people would just cut the BS and just s… | /r/seduction | 15/05/24 09:08 PM |
| 2 | got a girls snap, what to do nextI will not date a woman who's communication style is "snapping", to heck with that. I ain't texting with a disappearing communication. There is no reason to use that app with a woman unless she is playing the field. | /r/seduction | 15/05/24 01:39 PM |
| 1 | Does showing too much interest kill your game long termAs a random interjection here, I have nothing else doing on it life, 42, and a woman and "maybe" a kid is all I want going on, and then when I'm with someone we can be interesting and fun with each other. I am physically bored of life single and alone, and I'm sure that is going to make it much harder but being "human" is the only thing I have left to live for. That shouldn't be something we have to fight for, i want a mate in my life, and I want kids. There should never be a "needy" interpretat… | /r/seduction | 15/05/24 01:34 PM |
| -1 | Listen boys, it's going to be rough for a while. It'll hurt and embarras you and you will want to give upI don't choose that, and thats the problem/point. I also don't live in a well diversely populated area. So theres no new people very often. I would have to travel outside of work on vacation to meet someone most likely. | /r/seduction | 12/05/24 04:19 PM |
| 2 | Listen boys, it's going to be rough for a while. It'll hurt and embarras you and you will want to give upI've been single for 10 years, been without sex for 3, and in a year I've gone on 2 dates, they were about the same time but since then, about a year now, nothing. It's not about giving up, its about not wasting the time. It's like waiting for christ to return. | /r/seduction | 12/05/24 03:47 PM |
| 2 | Slept with 20 women in one year: Truing to deal with bad effectsLet me know how your doing in 10 years, Haven't had a GF really in that long, and haven't had a sex in over 3 years. 42m. 4 months? My average was 9 between women. Just slow down? Maybe look for one, date for awhile without having sex, see if you can form an attraction without it being the predominate solution point. | /r/seduction | 12/05/24 03:43 PM |
| 1 | How to stop being a "Nice Guy"? How to balance wanting to be fun and upbeat, without just being "platonic and boring"?If i was 30 again I probably would have focused less on gaming and more on the woman who had genuine interest in me. I wouldn't have let her move away without me. We reconnected years later and I think it was the one i let go. I just wasn't mature enough at the time and didn't realize what i was doing. | /r/seduction | 24/04/24 12:59 PM |
| 1 | How to stop being a "Nice Guy"? How to balance wanting to be fun and upbeat, without just being "platonic and boring"?Your description of your life is litteraly me. Like scary accurate when iw as 36, although now im turning 42 it still sits the same way. I woudl love to ask women out more, but its like, I have no idea what to impress them with or talk about. I don't know what to impress them with anymore since social media, doesn't feel like there is anything left or worth it. | /r/seduction | 18/04/24 02:42 AM |
| 1 | Would you consider this red flag, high maintenance?No, if a woman limits your interactions or defines how they are going to be she is just going to drag you along to get what "she" wants, not what develops based on both your work. | /r/seduction | 18/04/24 02:26 AM |
| 1 | Would you consider this red flag, high maintenance?I automatically delete them if they aren't willing to come to me but just want me to come to them. There is no hope in that relationship if they are that way. Any time I feel like they are pacing me I dip, I do NOT have time for that garbage. | /r/seduction | 18/04/24 02:24 AM |
| 5 | Did reading books improve your game?reading books just made it worse, almost felt like they were written to worsen the odds by misdirecting in the wrong direction. | /r/seduction | 18/04/24 02:20 AM |
| 2 | Curious about Female Perspective: Do Women Find Virgin Men Attractive or Desire Them Sexually?The red flag here is that there is a discussion of sex that early on anyways. If all meeting you about is weather your new or old to sex, stay far away from that person romantically. There is nothing fun or exciting about sex with someone who is experienced. Their holes can be too tight, they can be way more painful doing things first go around, they won't know what to expect or how to react. It is usually a shi* show. And for him that first go around he'll probably pop off within seconds just g… | /r/seduction | 10/04/24 12:18 AM |
| -1 | She had sex with me in the first date and now regrets it.I don't really care about what the country/state labeled age of consent is, at 16 a girl has no life experience, she is just learning what having sexual emotions are, she definitely isn't in college at 16, she isn't running her own business and most kids don't try to have more kids at 16. She is young. Really young. At 16 she has no idea what she is doing let alone has already done. You might disagree with me but most of the world is going to disagree with you. If this was 16 and 16 thats one th… | /r/seduction | 02/04/24 01:46 AM |
| -1 | She had sex with me in the first date and now regrets it.Being 16 even if it is legal in your country/state is still the age of a child who hasn't graduated from any amount of schooling, has no life experiences and legally can't do much at all. There is no accountability with something so young. She doesn't know what she's doing anymore then the next young girl. Chasing a girl that young and already having sex and your 2 years older you would have been best to not have sex. You both messed up honestly. I would move on, its over for you. | /r/seduction | 02/04/24 01:38 AM |
| 1 | What to do when a girl says she has a boyfriendWell there could always been a first time. | /r/seduction | 31/03/24 02:13 AM |
| 4 | What to do when a girl says she has a boyfriendI take out a card and say well, when it falls through, coffee's on me. And leave it for her to take. | /r/seduction | 24/03/24 04:56 AM |
| 4 | how do people even make conversation in loud bars and clubs?They don't, my local bar does this and im constantly telling them to turn it down. I've even started bringing ear plugs and its too loud with those. They end up losing my business because I just leave because I can't take screaming at the topic of my lungs just trying to enjoy myself. Basically go to coffee shop, find one with music in the background playing. And enjoy the conversation. F bars. | /r/seduction | 23/03/24 07:30 PM |
| 2 | At what body type/shape did you get the most girls/success?Being younger was the key, I've had large muscles and looked amazing, didn't get me any more before or after, now that im 42 women don't even look at me. Aging hair (gray+losing) and just starting to notice skin wear I don't get any looks anymore. I could have a testosterones loss as well so my pheromones' could be a lot weaker. Seems like once i get a woman in close proximity (date+kissing) its fine, but to get noticed or to that point is infinitely impossible at this point. Down to like 1 a ye… | /r/seduction | 21/03/24 07:37 PM |
| 2 | What are some tips that you wish you knew earlier when it comes to dating/seduction?I ran and gym and personal trained people for years. Had a massive social circle. Depends on the area really, when Im at its not the best social circle as an entire area. The gym never really helped me, i got pretty big and people noticed but it was more guys asking me how to get big like me then women ever cared about it. I think working out got me laid twice. I was shrugging 120's when i quit the gym last and curling 70's. Muscles are great but if you aren't actually doing anything with the ga… | /r/seduction | 07/03/24 10:04 PM |
| -1 | What are some tips that you wish you knew earlier when it comes to dating/seduction?What a load of crap. First off 90% of the problem is women aren't approaching men, don't acknowledge you when you approach them, or have nothing interesting to engage about. People shouldn't have to "work on themselves" to perform a basic function like asking someone out. And "looks" is the wrong word and application here. "attraction matters", attractiveness has to follow that up with your overal substance. That compiles the being "attractive" part. However, no one wants to put in more then 2-3… | /r/seduction | 06/03/24 08:27 PM |
| 1 | Why girls you meet in high energy, social environment like parties or clubs tend to ghost or flake the day after, even if there was good chemistry the night before.Where I live, it doesn't appear that its attraction anymore, I mean of course a person needs to "have a attraction" but being attracted to and having attraction are not synonymous. More often then not when i see women or men not have a "need" they move on, weather the person was physically attractive or not. Because the attraction that matters is a physiological attraction, (personality, smell, tone, movement, vibe) and lets be honest, most people don't get past two dates to experience any of th… | /r/seduction | 05/03/24 07:01 PM |
| 1 | Why girls you meet in high energy, social environment like parties or clubs tend to ghost or flake the day after, even if there was good chemistry the night before.Girls aren't "attracted", that word isn't in their vocabulary. It's rather a "need based need". It's there when they need or want it to be, and isn't when it is not. So don't worry about attraction, just hope for never ending need, because without need from women, us men have no chance. | /r/seduction | 05/03/24 06:48 PM |
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