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If you are like 99.99% of everyone else, what you want is to experience a deep connection with other people/another person. It's called being human. However, you never stop to actually look at other people. What do they want, who are they? What do they dream for and aspire to? What do they need now? You don't understand people, including yourself. You are only focusing on what you want, to the exclusion of all else. So you don't even know why you feel or how to fix it. Without understanding thos…
/r/RedPillWomen06/01/15 10:44 PM
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Thank you, that's really good advice. I am seeing her on Thursday and told her I want to speak to her about this. We've never talked about my selfishness or horrible behaviour to my husband, partly because I didn't see it myself and she seemed to think of me as a blameless victim. It's been eye-opening talking with you all, so thank you for that.
/r/RedPillWomen06/01/15 07:54 PM
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Nope, I genuinely wanted help. I don't need an armchair diagnosis, I am aware I am selfish and had asked for help to save the marriage with the man I've been in love with since I was 18. The others were helpful, you just sound like you fancy having a dig at me and telling me something obvious which I already knew.
/r/RedPillWomen04/01/15 09:52 PM
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I'm not sure what the point of your post is as it doesn't seem to have any constructive criticism.... So, what then?
/r/RedPillWomen04/01/15 09:26 PM
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Thanks for the suggestions. I eat a primal/paleo-ish diet (most of the time). Lots of free range meat and vegetables and I almost always avoid wheat and sugar. I'll keep an eye out for chelated minerals!
/r/RedPillWomen04/01/15 07:33 PM
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Thank you Bea - I want to try. I'm relieved you guys are not saying it's impossible.
/r/RedPillWomen04/01/15 07:29 PM
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Yep, you're right it does make me selfish as hell, immature, self obsessed, etc. I recognise that (that's why I asked for help) but right now it's like I'm watching my reactions in horror and am able to do very little to control them except try and pick up the pieces afterwards. I think you've suggested some good material to read. I'll try the duct tape too, my bloody mouth gets me in sooooo much trouble! It's very hard to just shut it.
/r/RedPillWomen04/01/15 07:28 PM
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At the end of the day, try to view your day as if you were an outsider - imagine what your actions would look like to a random person watching you on a TV screen. This is an interesting idea. I think if I was watching myself on screen I would want to throw things at the TV. It's an interesting way to evaluate things. I noticed that you only noticed how tired out your husband was when he stopped caring for you. that is a selfish thing to think. You need to care for him too. This is also true. I c…
/r/RedPillWomen04/01/15 07:25 PM
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Not at all, you have all been so understanding and encouraging. Thank you!
/r/RedPillWomen04/01/15 07:21 PM
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That's so true. That can act like a sort of compass for my own behaviour - I love the suggestion. I can basically do the opposite of what my mum would have done. It is so hard when you don't have good role models huh - which is why forums like this are so helpful.
/r/RedPillWomen04/01/15 07:20 PM
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Yes! I believe your posting here is proof of that! Thank you that is really sweet! :) Your ideas are really helpful, especially being thankful. I didn't realise that unloading problems onto him that he can't fix will cause tension and anxiety but that explains a lot. I also love your suggestion of giving love - these feel like manageable steps I can take. Thank you.
/r/RedPillWomen04/01/15 07:18 PM
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I've been on a lot of medication in the past but stopped for various reasons - weird side effects, mainly. I've been through the gamut of things - antipsychotics, mood stabilisers, antidepressants, anti-anxiety tablets, etc etc. Some of them helped some of the time but there was always a relapse and the side effects would get to me. It's been bad enough lately that I've considered asking to be put back on them, but part of the reason I came off them is because I want to have kids one day (catch …
/r/RedPillWomen04/01/15 07:15 PM
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Stay there, get used to that feeling, and desensitize yourself to it. Do not despair and try to change it. It's like being stuck in quicksand. The more you struggle, the more deeply you sink. Thank you for this. I'd never thought of that - I'd always fought against that feeling but never thought to accept it rather than demanding that someone or something come to my rescue. I think a lot of my own pain is caused by thinking about 'shoulds' i.e. 'I shouldn't be feeling this way', 'in normal relat…
/r/RedPillWomen04/01/15 07:08 PM
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Thank you for your recommendations, 7cupsoftea looks great. I am reluctant to lean on friends (I'm not that open with people) maybe that's part of the problem, that I'm too isolated and therefore too much of the pressure is on him. Appreciation would definitely go a mile too, he is always saying he feels taken for granted, the last priority, ignored, etc. Obviously I have a long way to go :(
/r/RedPillWomen04/01/15 06:57 PM
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Thank you for your encouragement. It's good to hear that your husband is able to support you in that way and that you are able to distance yourself enough from your issues to act rationally. I've been working on this since August of 2013. I guess I've been slacking lately since I've had a lapse for the last 3 months or so. I think I got complacent thinking that I was better or normal. I'd been in a great place for a while over the summer, took my eye of the ball and lapsed back into crazy-land. …
/r/RedPillWomen04/01/15 06:55 PM
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Yes it's possible for you to be a good wife, but you got dealt a shit hand in life, and you're playing this game on hard mode. I love this quote. Thank you. Playing it on hard mode is a much more helpful way of looking at it than what it's been feeling lately (i.e. futile, why play at all, why not have another tantrum, etc). My therapist specialises in treating borderline patients and the type of therapy is a combination of Dialectical Behaviour Therapy and Schema Therapy. She has been super hel…
/r/RedPillWomen04/01/15 06:50 PM
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Thank you for your constructive comments. I can really relate, my mum also acts very much like she had BPD (also undiagnosed). Very manipulative, guilt tripping, would cry at us that we wouldn't care if she died. Unsurprisingly, my dad left. She gave him a brick of charcoal for Christmas one time and made him cry. She could be unbelievably cruel and it scares me that I appear to be repeating that cycle.
/r/RedPillWomen04/01/15 06:43 PM
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Thanks for the reading suggestions, I appreciate it and will check them out. It's hard to feel that I'm in control but it's encouraging to hear that there's something I can do. I guess I really haven't been trying enough and have been wallowing. Everyone here seems to be saying the same thing - it takes hard work. Guess it's time to face reality.
/r/RedPillWomen04/01/15 06:41 PM
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SHOCKER - cheating girl is not a unicorn! Duh doi!
/r/TheRedPill15/07/14 07:46 AM
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Oh dear, by this diagnosis I am both dirty and messy. Messiness is probably the worst though because it obstructs me from being able to clean... That is really insightful though, thank you!
/r/RedPillWomen09/07/14 08:36 PM
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Cool, I've had a peek and they look really helpful! I've struggled to find a cleaning blog for people who aren't SAHM so this looks perfect (nothing at all against them but my lifestyle is the extreme opposite). Thanks!
/r/RedPillWomen09/07/14 08:35 PM
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Haha thanks... I don't need to burn more calories, I'm a marathon runner and already struggle to find clothes small enough. So weight isn't much of a motivation for me.... back to the drawing board!
/r/RedPillWomen06/07/14 09:39 AM
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How do you get past it wingnut? I find it so hard to get around to cleaning because my mind can find about 1,000 things that 'must' be done first - but yet when it is done, it feels so nice! I can tell having a spacious and clean house would improve our quality of life, yet I keep spinning my wheels. Maybe part of the problem is that I'm waiting for cleaning inspiration to strike - it's probably one of those things that I just need to knuckle down and do every day whether I want to or not... I'm…
/r/RedPillWomen06/07/14 06:34 AM
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This is such a great idea, I'll definitely be trying it. I get completely overwhelmed with housework and don't know where to start - and most of the time I don't, which is why our place looks like a rubbish tip. It's hard to get past the AGHHHHHH too much stuff to do paralysis, this might help....
/r/RedPillWomen05/07/14 09:19 PM
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This is very insightful. A beautifully put way of saying we need to own our own feelings, not blame them on someone else.
/r/RedPillWomen05/07/14 09:15 PM
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Housework is my biggest stumbling block. Despite our amazing marriage I sometimes feel like a failure as a wife because I've been unable to keep a tidy home. We're both really messy, and I was poisoned by feminism for so long that I refused to do anything about it for ages in some sort of horrible stalemate. Now I'm trying to recover it but old habits die hard - we've been together 11 years, so that's nearly 11 years of practicing NOT doing housework. I really wish I was more domesticated - I fi…
/r/RedPillWomen05/07/14 09:13 PM
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Great resources, thank you so much. I am married, to a very alpha male. I've spent the best part of a decade fighting / resisting his natural dominance and have found harmony and fulfillment recently in thinking " how can I help him" rather than the usual feminist thinking of " how is this evil man trying to screw me over". I have no doubt this will make our already loving and long lasting relationship even stronger and deeper.
/r/RedPillWomen29/06/14 12:32 AM
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Thanks for the tip!
/r/RedPillWomen29/06/14 12:28 AM
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Absolutely! Agree 100%
/r/RedPillWomen29/06/14 12:26 AM
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To me it sounded like she wanted to be waited on hand and foot, the attitude of entitlement is what I have the issue with. I don't see the red pill lifestyle being quite that lazy, frankly.
/r/RedPillWomen29/06/14 12:25 AM
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