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Yes. So I'll just report what I am doing for me ..I guess it's an obvious start being angry and knowing that it's about your plan...and what I am progressing on for me. You are right..I have to let go of the "other" my expectations, my upset, my being a victim bitching 🤯
/r/MarriedRedPill11/09/19 06:00 PM
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I'll read it😁
/r/MarriedRedPill11/09/19 05:16 PM
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I would love to hear how your journey is going since your thinking I'm autistic? Just wondering what progress you have had...based on you coming from such a strong viewpoint ..it's nice to know what qualifies you from a RESULTS standpoint vs just noise which there seems to be a lot of these days. An opinions like an asshole everyone's got one... lol 😁.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/09/19 04:12 PM
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No I'm not. Why would you ask me that? I get how retarded all of it is...it's hard to fucking believe . It's hard to get your head around it ..it's a hard pill to definitely swallow. All these programs in our world..treat people the way you want to be treated. Do the right thing ..you get more bees with honey ..I hear this now it sounds good doesn't it ...
/r/MarriedRedPill11/09/19 04:02 PM
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SO what do you with that information, should I get a book and start logging all of the excuses she gives me and document in the name of work that she let all of the time, rules and conditions out the window. Is becoming successful and making money 10,000% Percent more important than having sex ?
/r/MarriedRedPill11/09/19 07:04 AM
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49yrs, 5'10", 210. lbs, 20% BF, Married 11 years, Wife 52, One Child 10 I did not past last week. I just feel like I am majorly in ANGRY mode, I feel like puking and I do not know what posting that on here would help much. When I am on here I am angry, I walk all over and see smoking hot women everywhere I look, and now I keep asking what fairy tale have I bought into? Physical - Judo, Twice per week. I am getting more aggressive on this and going to compete at the next tournament. I have been l…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/09/19 06:22 AM
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Thanks for the input. Well perhaps it's that she is 52 perhaps menopause , perhaps depression as she takes in the news she's angry about or not being rich in an expensive city, or maybe she has adrenal fatigue since she is tired in the morning and the evening ...she doesn't even masterbate or even have interest in anyone else ..but I've been down this road and it just seems it's excuse after excuse in her part....bottom line I have to accept is to do what's best for me...for me to take ownership…
/r/MarriedRedPill01/09/19 04:44 AM
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What is a Thot?
/r/MarriedRedPill30/08/19 07:49 AM
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fuck a pro. Like hire a hooker? I just started listening and reading rational male again. This is a hard pill to swallow, I do not know why I have let this go so long and been ok with this. What does that say about me? I am really at the point where I do not seem to give a fuck, lately it seems crazy how much of an ongoing pattern this is. Excuses constantly...I am really fed up.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/08/19 07:34 AM
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ok, the bullshit stops moving forward is what you are saying?
/r/MarriedRedPill30/08/19 07:22 AM
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Yes. You are way right.. that I care too much about it. That is the main issue, she has the power whether she is doing it intentionally or not.. as I read the Rationale Male again, the oneitis - the public norm of what a marriage and relationship is, good and bad and me thinking that because we signed an agreement and have something called "marriage" that she has me in that conditional place. In Rational Male, the fact that after you get married now the wife is manipulating you and bargaining us…
/r/MarriedRedPill29/08/19 10:34 PM
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Yes. I have read all of these books, but that is a great example of why knowing makes no difference unless you apply it. Perhaps reading the 100 books and all of the seminars is me still looking for what will change someone else when the person to change is me. I also do not feel I know how to operate when it comes to stating a boundary and also dealing with wife and her shit tests and crazy comments she uses to redirect me away from that which I need clarity on. She can say, you may have to fin…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/08/19 06:37 PM
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( CONT"D) PART 2: OYS #1/ Start Over Again! Call me the "Monkey Master" - Sure You Guys will Let Me Have It! The main question is why is that OK with me? Social Interactions: - Went Out Dancing on my own 3 times in the last few weeks, Danced for hours and danced with women. I am a great dancer and have no problem attracting them when I go dancing.. Its great exercise too. - Signed up for Bumble to experience the abundance of people online, it was an eye-opener. Perhaps the biggest challenge is t…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/08/19 06:22 PM
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OYS #1/ Start Over Again! Call me the "Monkey Master" - Sure You Guys will Let Me Have It! 49, 5'10 210lbs, Married 10 years, Together 23 years, Wife 52, 5'5 115lbs, Daughter 10 MRP Journey ~ On and off and on and off for the last few years. Books I have read: MMSLP (3x) , NMMNG (3-4x) , The Rational Male (3x) , WISNIFG (2), Book of Pook (2x), The way of the superior man 2x, 5 languages of love (2x), How to win friends and inlfuence people (3x), Hold onto your nuts, Saving a Low Sex Marriage (2x…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/08/19 06:12 PM
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Wow.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/08/19 12:34 AM
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I don't whine and moan to her at all...I do STFU and after she's asleep I work, watch TV, or go out for a walk or dancing for a few hours until I'm tired
/r/MarriedRedPill07/08/19 06:38 PM
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That's a thought. No problem babe I just get my needs fulfilled elsewhere . I just initiated tonight. Was touching wife and our daughter to bed . She put out lights and I got close she said your scruff is hurting my face...and started touching her and she said hey, I have to get up early in am...shortly after she's snoring ...I was thinking of going dancing and going out while she is sleeping ..
/r/MarriedRedPill02/08/19 05:43 AM
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Clear and concise response to each point
/r/MarriedRedPill02/08/19 12:46 AM
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ok. thanks
/r/MarriedRedPill01/08/19 10:08 PM
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If I wasn't married I just be dating other people I wouldn't the attached perhaps it's the word and the expectations that go with the word marriage... And holding on to what was versus what is
/r/MarriedRedPill01/08/19 07:25 PM
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Change the way I'm thinking... Because if I put my attention on someone else I have absolutely no control whether or not somebody else to change it so the only thing I can do is work on me and what's best for my life... The fact that I'm married and I give that significance even though my wife not connecting with me on the sexual level 4 years probably messing with my thinking
/r/MarriedRedPill01/08/19 07:25 PM
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I communicated what I needed from marriage in the relationship before.. wife still comes up with excuses but that's me redirecting my attention over to her instead of what I'm going to do for me.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/08/19 06:10 PM
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probably because I've been used to thinking the way that I've been thinking for years now hoping that things were going to change and I thought the way to change things was to communicate how I felt and all I'm seeing is excuses
/r/MarriedRedPill01/08/19 04:32 PM
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Perhaps because others have been through this before and this is all new to me I'm also trying to gain a different perspective versus the mindset that I've been in for the last 10 or 15 years
/r/MarriedRedPill01/08/19 04:13 PM
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I'm posting here to share the process that I'm going through following the sidebar I've read many of these books over and over however I have been guilty I'm looking for results from what I've been spending and investing my time into in my relationship and my life. I am a leader I create results in my life yet when it comes to my relationship I have no idea what happened.. my frustration impatience and expectations have definitely all been proved as a fairytale that I believed in based on the ou…
/r/MarriedRedPill01/08/19 03:37 PM
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What's best for me. Important meeting today
/r/MarriedRedPill01/08/19 02:31 PM
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Makes sense . Get out of my circles and be focused for me.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/08/19 12:15 AM
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Spinning in circles like a monkey ?
/r/MarriedRedPill31/07/19 11:59 PM
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It's easy to call someone a name. I'm going to read your posts . I've been fucking wasting lots of time for years ..guess it takes a pussy to know one
/r/MarriedRedPill31/07/19 03:07 PM
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Seriously. Its not like I never communicated it I guess.
/r/MarriedRedPill31/07/19 05:54 AM
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I would say dread 4. I am not beta, lately I have been very mission focused on my things and not bending over backwards to do things that I used to do..I did Map and also dancing monkey doing things on here. However I keep looking for some kind of response. Perhaps I will not get it and I need to really get that loud and clear that I am making my marriage to signifiant
/r/MarriedRedPill31/07/19 05:51 AM
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Sounds like me
/r/MarriedRedPill31/07/19 12:41 AM
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Guess there is NO advice for me except keep reading , lifting , framing and dreading
/r/MarriedRedPill31/07/19 12:40 AM
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Stats: Age: 49; Height: 5'10; Weight: 195.5; BF: 15% / Wife: 52, (together 22, married 10); Children: 1 child , Age 9 Readings: WISNIFG (1), NMMNG (x3), Rational Male (2), Book of Pook (x2), MMSLP (x2), MAP (1) Meditations (1), Way of the Superior Man (2), How to Win Friends and Influence People (3), Subtle Art of Not Giving a Fuck (1), Saving a Low Sex Marriage (x3); 48 Laws of Power (1), 5 Languages of Love (2) Open Her (1) and many more, but re-reading because my Dancing Monkey needs to be pu…
/r/MarriedRedPill30/07/19 04:15 PM
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Well.. thank you. It's just I have been used to relating to my relationship a certain way for the last 20 years. I do not anyone can switch on a dime after behaving a certain way for 20 years..
/r/MarriedRedPill13/07/19 04:35 PM
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Ok. You got it 😁
/r/MarriedRedPill11/07/19 01:43 AM
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Well when for 30 years of your life you get sold on the fairytale and have to switch modes it challenges the formed patterns . So you have to break these bad habits .🤪
/r/MarriedRedPill11/07/19 12:08 AM
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Seems I need to really build my mental muscles around what I want first here ..hate my wife - what's that mean ?
/r/MarriedRedPill10/07/19 10:39 PM
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What a happy platitude ?
/r/MarriedRedPill10/07/19 10:29 PM
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That is a great question . Your married for 10 years and together for 22 and you think ..wait what happened ? I know I want to have a physical relationship and pleasure as well as working hard fun and play is important 😁
/r/MarriedRedPill10/07/19 09:49 PM
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So from a married man on here what would be the play with the model ? Do I disclose info ? Lately when I meet people I don't fill them in on what's happening in personal life ...
/r/MarriedRedPill10/07/19 08:24 PM
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Ok. Thanks . I just for a text from her asking if I want to be an accountability partner because everyone else she knows in her life is flake an lacks follow through ...and meet regularly ..hmmm?
/r/MarriedRedPill10/07/19 03:49 PM
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Yes. that was on me. I should have set boundaries vs creating such a family unit most of the time. Honestly, I think mainly over the last while she is so attached to her business and the negative things in the news that it tends to wear her down. Last night at 10 pm she was telling me everyone goes to bed at 10 am and gets quiet. I said who said at 10 pm its time to go to bed everyone? She seems to be sold on some story that she needs to go to bed at 10 PM to wake up at 8 am that is 10 hours of …
/r/MarriedRedPill10/07/19 03:03 PM
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No. You have some points and perhaps that's on me too how I set up our family / dynamic ...
/r/MarriedRedPill10/07/19 02:52 PM
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How do you do that with your nine-year-old around. Well it sounds like a great answer.. that seems so far-fetched from what would happen..
/r/MarriedRedPill10/07/19 02:37 PM
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From one of the MORE EXPERIENCED MEN on here with OWN YOUR SHIT. It would be good to see how you would have played this vs how I did. With the wife, I felt more abundant so I did not care that is why I grabbed her playfully and straddled her. I then thought ok, I am not letting you up and I will be sexual. I pressed myself against her and kind of held her arms playfully. After starting at her, and she said what are you looking at and I said your nipples, I also went down and kissed them and teas…
/r/MarriedRedPill10/07/19 01:55 PM
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49, Married to 52-year-old wife with 9-year-old daughter. Married 10 years and together 22 years. Reading sidebar again and observing my frame and where I live and in who's frame. ​ Sex: None in the last 2 years, I did straddle my wife this morning and told her I was staring at her nipples. I made it playful and was shocked that it seems to open things up for a few moments. The interesting reaction this evening when I get home from Judo, the wife is now telling me to clean bathroom and toilet. I…
/r/MarriedRedPill10/07/19 06:59 AM
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Yes. right . I'm thinking about others more than myself ..
/r/MarriedRedPill03/07/19 06:47 PM
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Thanks. Yes, I have to stop believing that all this will change or hoping at look at the cold har facts. Hell, she makes time for her work even when she is tired because she is committed to that. Blatantly, she has all excuses and redirections when it comes to me... no matter what I think.. I need to take back ownership in my own life and what is best for me, or how can i be a captain in my own life. It is like the oxygen mask example, if I do not put on oxygen for myself how can I even help any…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/07/19 05:30 PM
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I'm on my way to take a trip with the family for July 4th for 5 days my thought is that the following week that I go away by for 2 or 3 days by myself and I start implementing going out two nights a week for myself because I think I would feel better... It all it would also give me the opportunity to socialize more...maybe that would give me some openings for me to satisfy my own needs
/r/MarriedRedPill03/07/19 03:55 PM
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The other mental hurdle I seem to have is initiating and following through with somebody when you are married and have a child is that something that you lay out what are you just not bring anything up and go with the flow..lately I feel why bring up any stories with what is happening with myself ..just stay open..after 20+ years I've never really taken anything past friendship towards sexual connection past talking ..so my mind and mentality needs to open to that ....
/r/MarriedRedPill03/07/19 03:40 PM
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That is a valid point... My approach with this girl is the kind of stand back and watch and not be too interested in her.. the private beach comments definitely intrigued me... But you do have a point my mind is like wow this is totally available for me and I do get approached by many different women all the time but if you're stuck in one itis you don't open up any other possibilities for yourself... I've been trying to rationalize what I need to do based on the fact that I've had pointless con…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/07/19 03:29 PM
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Yep, then what ?
/r/MarriedRedPill03/07/19 12:16 PM
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OWS #3 49 yrs, 5-10 199 LBS, Married to 52 yrs, One 9-Year-Old Child ​ Socializing: This week I decided to start meditating at least minimum 1 time -2 times per day. A funny thing happened in at the group meditation I did bump into a girl (9.5 out of 10)and had a convo. Gave her my card and she texted me the next day asking if I was going to next meditation? I said maybe hours later, but the funny part she was talking about men hitting on her, I said well you are pretty so that is expected. But …
/r/MarriedRedPill03/07/19 05:10 AM
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No. I did not, last I tried to make out with wife she turned over after a few kisses and went to sleep. I went to meditation Saturday, on a scale from 1-10 this girl I met was about 30 years old and a 10 .. I gave her my card and chatted with her and she texted me on Saturday to see if I would be coming to Sunday's group. Perhaps the point of doing what you said, I have done other things and got shot down. If I send my wife a flirty text, she does not respond and then brings up how we have awkwa…
/r/MarriedRedPill01/07/19 02:44 PM
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Ok ..
/r/MarriedRedPill28/06/19 03:21 AM
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Thanks !
/r/MarriedRedPill27/06/19 07:36 PM
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You need a plan with some balls. Because you're meant to fix you and the only thing to fix is low standards and lack of individual frame. Thoughts: Focus on dread level 1: shit tests. Are you an emotional tampon? Do you get "fuzzy" shit tests: being asked to play along with tiredness, depression, anxiety? Are you "caretaking" in reaction to these? RESPONSE: I used to pick up her slack when she was tired. Now I am off to my office and getting shit done for myself. She does not even state that she…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/06/19 04:44 PM
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It's becoming clearer as I read comments. Perhaps I have been adding more value to things I should be doing anyway. I probably have collapsed things together in life with expectations. I do realize that I bought into this nice guy mode when I started on this MRP years back in order to please others thinking they would take care of my needs if I helped them.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/06/19 03:05 PM
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/r/MarriedRedPill27/06/19 02:44 PM
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You have wrong guy. I have 32-33 inch waist . You stupid ass 😁
/r/MarriedRedPill27/06/19 02:29 PM
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I am muscular. Who said I'm fat you ?
/r/MarriedRedPill27/06/19 01:49 PM
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Definitely loud and clear that providing making money and doing things for your family has little weight when it comes to sexual attraction
/r/MarriedRedPill26/06/19 10:33 PM
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Yes, that is correct. I have realized that no one cares how great I am, mostly they ask themselves how can I help them..I did not mean to come from the ivory tower, its jut some of the comments I get seem to come from this loser, work on yourself, develop your leadership.. Which I get people try and help. I did not consider myself a faggot or in line with a loser that some people voice on here. Perhaps I am being reactionary and trying to defend what I do, do.. I will read the post. I have reali…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/06/19 10:12 PM
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Perhaps my question is where do you get the insights that I don't have ownership perhaps you're saying I need to own my life for myself and not focus on anybody else..
/r/MarriedRedPill26/06/19 01:38 AM
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Thanks for the insights ...perhaps I'm one that complains about complainers . I tend to be more of a doer and solver in life...perhaps the largest lesson is the expectation and myths I had around marriage ...also living lots of life from nice guy mentality in where I am a great connector I did displace lots of energy and focus on helping others thinking they'd think of my needs ...I've been learning lots of new perspective over the last few years ...
/r/MarriedRedPill26/06/19 12:09 AM
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As I read this extreme ownership again it's all about leadership . Navy Seals...I was in the us Marines and was #1 on shooting team. Also I was part of a business wher I went to another country for two weeks and stayed for 4 years within 90 days being top in the world around team's and leadership . While I'm not trying to brag I am just stating that I have been around the block when it comes to accomplishments and doing extra ordinary feats in business and life ...I will read this for the second…
/r/MarriedRedPill25/06/19 11:27 PM
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Well. I do have women connect with me and reach out however I never act on any of it. I have women get my number but within my energy I'm not entertaining that because I am married but I do have women flirt all of the time. Your saying it's not necessarily looks and my fitness level but how I act around women. Actually when I have gone dancing I have many women approach me and even get physical
/r/MarriedRedPill25/06/19 11:17 PM
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So what would my behavior dude be if I wasn't a victim and I got even though I'm complaining about someone complaining I'm being a victim within the thing that look at all that I do and all the support and all the things that I create how come I'm not getting what I want is being a victim at the mercy of my wife not giving it to me so then what would be another way to react or what would be another way to be.... Like if you you were in my shoes how would you think differently then I am I'm tryin…
/r/MarriedRedPill25/06/19 08:06 PM
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I have done all the reading I've even gotten coaching from coaches on relationships I have did that all before in the mindset of a dancing monkey hoping that one of those things is actually going to make an impact I've even detach myself from having any expectations with my wife and focused only on business which actually my business is growing and things are going very well for me in many different aspects financially career-wise and fitness-wise I feel like I've given up a lot of the convert c…
/r/MarriedRedPill25/06/19 08:04 PM
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Yes. Well I work lots on myself and being a leader business owner and entrepreneur. It's just when you play dancing monkey. I don't play victim around home . I am always busy with my career and mission and improving myself
/r/MarriedRedPill25/06/19 07:36 PM
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OYS#3 49 Years, 5'10 199 LBS, Married 10 years, Wife is now 52.. together 22 years, Daughter 9 years old. I have read lots of the sidebar multiple times, even did a call with Athol Kay and have just been in "DANCING MONKEY MODE" ​ I feel frustrated by reading these posts. Seems many of you seem to have at least sex going on in your relationship. I have read these books over and over but been doing the Dancing Monkey. ​ Fitness: ​ Started Judo, hurt my shoulder with rotator cup being hurt, still …
/r/MarriedRedPill25/06/19 05:59 PM
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I hire coaches . I know what you mean 😉
/r/MarriedRedPill23/06/19 04:04 AM
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yes. sure. Mindset is big in life, I know. it means much more than all else.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/06/19 08:01 AM
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I will think about what you just said.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/06/19 07:54 AM
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I do not chase my wife. Perhaps I am verbalizing things on here, I am much stronger than that. 4 hours per month for 10K, that is good. You get $2500 per hour? We run businesses and I do not chase her, I have been super focused on my business, career #2 , career #3 and some other projects.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/06/19 07:48 AM
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No. That is my next goal!, working on multiple businesses and investment ideas at the moment. I can get there just need partners:-)
/r/MarriedRedPill21/06/19 07:40 AM
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What do you mean countless plans out there. I mean I plan a lot and get more done than 10 people combined all of the time !
/r/MarriedRedPill21/06/19 06:47 AM
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All I am saying is to work my plan. You have some truth - that i can pick up a woman but I am married with child. My wife seems burned out, yet its not my job to solve and be everyone's saviour in the world. A Plan from the Sidebar ? You mean for going through the information ?
/r/MarriedRedPill21/06/19 06:46 AM
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That sounds good. I do not know what else to do. One time I attempted something like this and my wife said I said No.. What are you doing. I think women get fucked up when they hit meno-pause and loose their parents. When someone says, I was into sex when we first met, then I was into sex because I wanted to have a child, now I am trying to figure out what sex means now and where to go with it ? Over the last 6 years, besides all of the reading and work on myself - every conversation I have had …
/r/MarriedRedPill20/06/19 08:30 PM
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When I say MASTER PLAN, I mean for myself. My own MISSION. I have read "Saving a Low Sex Marriage" like 3 times, but will read it again. Organize my self improvement around the DLs ( will look at that again) I feel I have my shit together and could pull them in too. In the last 3 days I have had women approach me, one in her 20's, 2 in 30's, one asked for my number and if I wanted to come to seminar with her .. It is not so much about the ability to have a young girl. Its more ALL seems just pea…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/06/19 04:22 AM
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I feel VERY VERY ANGRY these days. My level of frustration is fucking hi. it just seems like my WIFE picks and complains about everything. If I change my mind mid sentence, or am not 100% clear with her - I am lying or confusing her .. That I am causing her confusion, what is funny is she tells me I live in the GRAY area, here I am married for the last 10 years plus 12 together faithful to her and always there, and she is the one who feels disconnected and has withdrawn sex from our realtionship…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/06/19 10:45 PM
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Yes. I have to keep going through the levels. It may or may not. We will see but I should be doing for me ...
/r/MarriedRedPill18/06/19 11:34 PM
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OYS #2, Take 3! I am 49 5'10, 15% BF, 199 Lbs, Wife 52, Daughter 9, Married 10 years, Together 22 years. I played Dancing Monkey over the last 4-5 years of my life. Huge Realization that I am not owning my kingship here. ​ So I have realized that I am very angry every time I read materials, this forum and hear about things I am not getting. ​ Blow Jobs, Sex Every Other Day with their wife and here I am hitting my record of no sex for 2 years and 4 times over the 2 years prior. I am re-reading ev…
/r/MarriedRedPill18/06/19 07:11 PM
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I wish I was getting a full body work out .. Lately I think perhaps maybe its best to schedule a massage every week to get some of my needs met to get revitalized :-)
/r/MarriedRedPill12/06/19 08:19 PM
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I connect people. Well we have a connection to when it comes to responsibilities, life and work.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/06/19 07:30 PM
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It's a female trainer who I referred to her.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/06/19 06:54 PM
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Yes. The "ME" Plan is important. Part of me is curious about the dating scene as I see some many 9-10's at my work and many these days with guys whom are 1/5 as good looking as myself. Do people do Tinder and all of these apps for sex? Is that a bit like putting your name out there on the web? I am curious who is on these apps, I have even heard of married couples being on there just to meet friends and see whats happening in the dating world. I bet there is people these days that cut through al…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/06/19 03:21 PM
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Yes. that is the focus at the moment is making time for ME, Creating the MY Plan and Guarding that so that I do not get sucked into others frame. I have so many things happening within business and my passion career that I need time for. One thing at a time..I can think of a million different things I can be doing for me - how do you get to them all. I have to start re-reading the sidebar, I have read these materials like 2x-3x over over the last 5 years except the MAIN dllusion I have had is th…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/06/19 03:16 PM
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So are you sleeping with other women. DO you not feel a woman can sense if you are or not..Hey, one time I had a talk about our relationship she asked me very casually if I wanted to date other people.. One time reactively she said she does not feel she can meet my needs and said maybe i need to find someone else I can have sex with .. I know many of these comments have not been serious , but at the time - I was like - just like that its that easy ... on some subconscious level I almost feel thi…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/06/19 06:57 AM
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Have you had sex with other women behind your wife's back? Did you tell them you were married? The thing with my wife is she swears that she is fine. What is funny for me , is how long my wife always takes in the bathroom and her workout schedule. Its hilarious because when I was working out 6-7 times per week, she said why do you work out so much. There was even a time where she was upset at me for checking out my muscles all of the time and even mentioned to me that I seemed like I was 19 year…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/06/19 06:53 AM
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I am certain she is not. Years back like 4-5 she said that she lost her libido and that she does not want to have sex with me and that she does not even think about having sex with anyone else. In fact at times I wondered if perhaps she was into women , just because she always seems so much infatuated with them at times..
/r/MarriedRedPill12/06/19 06:45 AM
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right. the whole world these days baffles me. Its so weird. I have no idea if she is just mentally unplugged, depressed, non sexual or just in old mode, yet none of that is an excuse. Its so weird, like tonight...I turned around and the bedroom light is off and she went to bed. She does not even say good night, today I went to get dinner and met up and I got there and she was sending text to her trainer... I said hello and she was so into her phone like I was not even there.. I said what is goin…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/06/19 05:55 AM
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Let me ask you ,, because I am experiencing some weird behavior with wife these days ... Man. It's nuts. I am on computer here. Wife has a habit now of just going into bedroom shutting off the lights and going to sleep without even saying good night. Its amazing, I do not get it...
/r/MarriedRedPill12/06/19 05:44 AM
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Seek an affair. Learn something from trying to have an affair ? Like not having oneitis or not being in my wife's frame?
/r/MarriedRedPill12/06/19 05:22 AM
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Perhaps I have been in her frame so long, that getting in my own frame feels uncomfortable. I guess I had some illusion/belief that in marriage two people work together as a team to source each other and listen and grow. Perhaps its the attachment that I expected things to be much different than some tug of war between two people around something that is supposed to be fun and pleasurable .. There are so many possibilities, its confusing to know where and how far to go within my frame when your …
/r/MarriedRedPill11/06/19 11:30 PM
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I do not know. That is where I get confused.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/06/19 10:44 PM
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The delusion and crazy thoughts are within me. I keep looking and hoping for a change - after you do so many things for someone else and realize that nothing seems to make a different that you do or say.. Its a harsh awakening ...vs the fun we used to have :-(
/r/MarriedRedPill11/06/19 09:36 PM
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QUESTION: How does this involve her anymore? I would say NO, I have tried to get her involved and she is worried about her own issues in life and what is her priority. I would say that any attention I give her and her situation is me leaving my frame and distracting me from MY MISSION and my frame. I have definitely learned this, Easier said then done many times. QUESTION: Have you not already talked with her about this enough? Yes. Way enough I have. It's pretty apparent at this point that I wa…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/06/19 09:31 PM
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Right. But the main question is what do I want. What is my plan, and when do I choose to honor my own pleasure and feeling good for me. If I am inspired that helps the whole ship that I am steering. The main realizations I have had over this past year are: What does a word mean? Marriage? Wife? Etc .. it's not about what you make the word mean for you - it's about the energy and experience .. I think we get attached to words with expectations and making everything so significant , when there is …
/r/MarriedRedPill11/06/19 07:44 PM
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I guess the question is how do you communicate this to someone. I feel like all else seems to be in line and this topic is just constantly avoided. It also does not feel good any more to have a discussion that has not changed. The response from her is always: if you just work on yourself and what you need and I worry about myself : It all will work it self out... There is never any responsibility on her side.. Its always what I did or did not do, when I suggested counselor, the answer was : Why …
/r/MarriedRedPill11/06/19 07:25 PM
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This has been no sex for 2 years. Not even a sexual massage. The 2 years before that it was sex once every 4-6 months. I feel a bit nutty and I want to be sexual... Talk about driving you nutty :-)
/r/MarriedRedPill11/06/19 06:38 PM
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How do you know she's not in the mood with anyone else? Do you know whether she masturbates? Any suspicion of cheating? Assuming you are certain she's not getting her sexual needs met elsewhere, I wonder if your wife's age has something to do with it. If she is post-menopausal it's possible that some medical issue is tanking her libido. Have you ruled that out? - She does not masturbate. No cheating, she is running her new business, she does not hang out with anyone else just works stuff. Probab…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/06/19 06:25 PM
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Where I AM: 49, 5'10", 195, 15% BF. Wife, (52) 1 child (9). NMMNG x 4, WISNIFG x 1, RM x 2, (Passionate Marriage) X 1, Saving Low Sex Marriage x2, Book of Pook (2) MMSLP x 2, The sidebar a few times. The Art of Not Giving a Fuck, many more books many times. But I keep circling around doing things, looking for results that I want and then getting discouraged. ​ I am starting now all over again and I need to have a plan for me to be the best vs. doing all of this to get my wife to behave a certain…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/06/19 05:53 PM
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I think the hardest issue is patience especially when you have been married for so long and as a man its kind of understood that you handle all of these responsibilities for your family whether you feel like it or not because you are a leader. Its very interesting how women can be entitled to only feel something no matter what ..
/r/MarriedRedPill29/05/19 08:36 PM
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Yes. Right .. Perhaps its doing it when there is no expected outcome all of the time even past when you think you should - just keep going. When you first approach this information its like wait, but what about what I was sold - be nice, supportive, do all of this because... Then when you read this material it opens up your eyes to WAIT, that is possible ? What ? OMG, that sounds fun, wait - why am I in this place now, but I am in a committed, responsible relationship and that means ... nothing …
/r/MarriedRedPill22/05/19 08:42 PM
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Its crazy, people on here say you must not be in shape or your probably lying. I have been in the best shape ever but that has not even helped one bit :-) funny I used to have more sex when I was overweight :-) https://ibb.co/dMbXWG8
/r/MarriedRedPill22/05/19 04:13 AM
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It was a few years back on the rational male. 1 + years ago. This is me :-) https://ibb.co/dMbXWG8
/r/MarriedRedPill22/05/19 03:37 AM
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ok. Will do, I guess if I do not get it - I should just keep reading over and over until it sinks in. What books do you feel are best for me to severely get? Did you have issues in your marriage when you started and what has been the outcome and progress for you?
/r/MarriedRedPill21/05/19 06:52 PM
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Monkey does not work, especially when your just swinging back and forth between doing it and checking to see if any of that stuff works on your attached outcome which again is just a covert contract.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/05/19 06:48 PM
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Whats an AFC? Ok, I will work on thoroughness of my stats on lifts. I was in the marines, did half marathon last year and worked out with trainers 3x per week for the last 5 years in addition to lifting on my own and cardio. Outside of marriage in classes and interactions, I do get women approaching me, touching me and flirting too.. LOL..but that does not mean much and perhaps you hit the head on the nail. I need to get AGGRESSIVE on the stats and PUNCH through the wall of bad-ass...and keep go…
/r/MarriedRedPill21/05/19 06:47 PM
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OYS Week 1 ( restart): Back after monkey brain attempts... Stats: Age: 49: Height 5'10, Weight 195: BF 13%, Wife 52, (together 22 years, married 10) Child = 9 year old ​ Readings: WISNIFG, NMMNG (x3), Rational Male (x2), Book of Pook, MMSLP (x2) MAP, Meditations, Way of the Superior Man (x2), How to Win Friends (x3), Subtle Art of Not Giving a Fuck, Saving a Low Sex Marriage (x2) and many many more... Current Reading: Re-reading sidebar, NMMNG again, Saving Low Sex Marriage Again ​ Physical/Heal…
/r/MarriedRedPill21/05/19 06:03 PM
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Whats better in relationship, what was your journey like and how long did it take. Did you ever go outside your relationship to get your needs met ?
/r/MarriedRedPill21/05/19 01:13 AM
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Did all of this make a big difference in your relationship ? What was you favorite book. I think i've read each about two times but when I read them I get either jealous, angry or feel cheated with missing out on the juicy stuff ...LOL
/r/MarriedRedPill20/05/19 10:21 PM
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Yep. Angry. How long to get over it ?
/r/MarriedRedPill20/05/19 09:59 PM
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I went boxing over the weekend and my stomach feels like its been cut with razor blade and someone beat me up. Today I feel so sore. Perhaps I lost faith that going through all this makes an impact, yet.. Instead of being attached to my partner changing, I should be attached to me changing for me.. That is the hard part when you are the bread winner, work your ass of and make things happen and you are thinking about what your missing in life because of that convert contract you bought into, if I…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/05/19 05:01 PM
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Yes. I do. I do not know, I read all of these before and applied. Perhaps I am not trusting that anything works and perhaps the main reason is I have an expected outcome from doing these things... Perhaps I am putting way too much importance on the fairytale of marriage, relationships and what it was supposed to be. That part hurts.. But its what we have been sold along the way. Be supportive, nice, caring, sensitive and if you do the right things and focus on important things in life all works …
/r/MarriedRedPill20/05/19 02:44 PM
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Yes, it is. When fellow MRP posters started on here, did this stuff hit you hard? It always hits me hard. I would imagine there are covert contracts going the other way too. Like wives have expectations of husbands to do a,b,c,d, e, f, g, h, i , j, k , l and more in order for them to feel like doing something in the relationship. It could be pay my bills, provide safe home, own a home, get me a car, get me this, do 10 different things on top of that, and then they will feel like doing something …
/r/MarriedRedPill20/05/19 02:42 PM
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I think when so much time goes by, you have expectations because of what is not happening and then on top of that look for proof for things to shift in your life especially when you are so committed and responsible as husband/father... When your doing all the things you think make a difference. As you read these books on the sidebar, and come to realizations through NMMNG and other books - you start to get awakened to say, crap - what have I been buying into - what story am I telling myself and …
/r/MarriedRedPill20/05/19 07:12 AM
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I see what you are saying. Covert Contract, what would ideal look like based on shift from above. Like scenario of how I should be thinking. As you spell it out seems, I should not have any covert contract, nor expect anything in return for who I am. Perhaps the most confusing part is being married and what that actually means within the responsibilities and commitment and perhaps that is where all of this gets distorted, is having no expectations in return for anything I do. Doing things becaus…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/05/19 06:35 AM
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So disregard that marriage means ...blah, blah, blah? I am always walking away, seriously I am busy with company, activities, classes. Is it possible if I am in my frame, on my mission that someone could not be impacted at all.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/05/19 01:18 AM
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ok. Listening ..
/r/MarriedRedPill20/05/19 01:16 AM
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Yes. How do you do all this for yourself. I know that when people get "married" there can be lots of expectations and focus on your partner. We can make that word so significant which causes resistance to what you want... That is where it can get tricky .. Perhaps the idea is to always act as if your single ..
/r/MarriedRedPill20/05/19 12:51 AM
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ok. well, perhaps lots of my attention is over there because its been like two years, no sex...and I am like "what is happening here". However I know this is about more than sex... What could be another option from your perspective that I can look at this. I work out a lot and run companies, I have lots of energy and I am like, what do I do if I am excited and feeling sexual ? Like how long can you go, it can drive you a bit crazy, because when your not having it - you think about more ... I do …
/r/MarriedRedPill20/05/19 12:48 AM
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Thanks. It's hard, to be honest...I think this issue of her being 52 she is probably in menopause or perio-menopause, If I had $1 for every time she felt tired Id be a millionaire. There has not been a day in the last few years that she has ever gotten up before me and our daughter. The yawns start at 8:45 Pm at night. I feel from a common sense perspective, that if someone is always tired or in this state, when would they think of sex or have any libido? Its amazing how as people get older they…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/05/19 11:43 PM
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I am not enervating. I give her energy, I generate myself and lots of positive ideas for her and my household. I am a leader and doer. This seems like someone who is always weak, complaining and draining. Not me..
/r/MarriedRedPill18/05/19 10:54 PM
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I know it's ALL for ME. But it's hard to not observe and try and see evidence of shifts with your partner...
/r/MarriedRedPill18/05/19 10:25 PM
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Well, I have women interested in me all of the time. In fact I have gotten numbers from many. I am a connector, no problem socializing. Perhaps it's the frame that needs work. I have been pretty firm in myself over the last few years. I used to be more of a pleasure and always ask for approval, I have turned my business around income increase 400% and expanding and more clients all of the time. Dread level, I will need to review. The thing is my wife is in a new start up business and we own comp…
/r/MarriedRedPill18/05/19 10:24 PM
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49 years old, wife 52. ​ I have been off and on here for the last few years. To sum it up, sexless marriage patterns and its been getting to me. Seems like I need to get back to reading MMSLP and also MY PLAN. Has anyone ever had a partner who just is tired all of the time? Like, there is no real sign or libido for you or anyone, they have gone into old people's phase. Sleeping, working, watching tv...and retirement mode? ​ The wife explained that she feels alone, yet I gauge this feeling is her…
/r/MarriedRedPill18/05/19 03:11 PM
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