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Im trying to get both into therapy now but the wait is nuts. Ive been on the wait list since Dec. They said it should only be another week or so, so fingers crossed.
/r/Divorce_Men29/04/20 02:11 PM
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I hope so but for now it hurts like hell. They just came and both very rude to me. Im trying to spend time with them but they just want to ignore me.
/r/Divorce_Men29/04/20 02:09 PM
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They just came over and both have major attitudes and they just sent to their rooms. It doesn't have to be like this and I wish my STBXW would get with the program and stop strewing up the kids.
/r/Divorce_Men29/04/20 02:08 PM
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That's what I'm trying to do but its hard. All I get in return is hate. Even my little girl that was 100% a daddies girl just 6 months ago is really mouthing off. And I left out the ages because, well its the internet but I did say the girl was a tween and the boy in his mid teens. He's the one causing the most problem right now.
/r/Divorce_Men28/04/20 09:06 PM
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My STBEW is making it almost impossible for me to spend time with my kids by constantly taking them out before I get home. Ive tried everything and its come down to installing video cameras and trying to set a schedule that she just ignores. I have about 4 months of day to day recordings and well as a full calendar of each time she's interfered with my time with the kids. I absolutely hate having to do this because all I really want to do is be with my children but its what has to be done. I kno…
/r/Divorce_Men27/02/20 09:11 PM
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Because everything Ive done, every piece of paper, every statement, every recorded conversation has been 100% true and verifiable. She has dont nothing but lie and I will not stoop to her level but in all honestly I do think about it.
/r/Divorce_Men05/02/20 06:34 PM
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I know I'm just frustrated with the entire process. So what did you do? Did you just go to the court or was your lawyer still involved? There is no way in hell Im waiting 12 months.
/r/Divorce_Men05/02/20 06:32 PM
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She's been ramping up her annoyance factor to an extreme so maybe that's what's going on. And my lawyer has sent 3 letters now. She cleans up her act for a few days then its right back to the BS.
/r/Divorce_Men05/02/20 06:30 PM
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I actually did this a few months ago. 100% clean. Its that she's telling the kids this that pisses me off to no end. She claims to be a good Christian and cant tell a lie and because I'm an Atheist that makes me the bad one. All this may be why I jumped ship.
/r/Divorce_Men05/02/20 06:27 PM
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I found a vodka bottle in her desk when I was getting the taxes. Picture taken. But get this Ive been sober for almost 2 decades and she's telling the kids I spend my extra money on booze and the bought it. What the fuck Ive never once been drunk in from of my kids, I dont even drink. How the fuck is she convincing them that I do??? And I never cheated, Never did drugs, (she did but that was long ago). I always provided a good home and paid all the bills and this is what I get.
/r/Divorce_Men04/02/20 12:55 AM
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I dont want to lower myself to her level but this is crazy. I have the physical proof and the kids, her mom and of course her lawyer all believe her. Im the one that tried to save the marriage, Im the one that has always been there for the kids and done nothing but love them but her lies and spoiling them is really working and they are buying it fully. It just makes me sick what she's doing to my children and I feel powerless to do anything about it.
/r/Divorce_Men04/02/20 12:33 AM
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Huge hug buddy. Your doing the right thing reaching out. If you haven't already try a therapist. I found one at the local university that was very cheap. I can only say it helped me out tremendously.
/r/Divorce_Men30/01/20 04:51 PM
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Ive been keeping a daily record for the last 3 months minus a few days. I just updated it and reading back over the last few weeks I wounder how Im getting through this with so much BS almost every day. This is not the woman I married.
/r/Divorce_Men30/01/20 04:28 PM
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Yep this sounds very familiar. Why do people do crap like this is beyond me. Cant they see the damage it does?
/r/Divorce_Men30/01/20 04:26 PM
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I know it just hurts. All Ive done is love them completely and it hurts to see them like this.
/r/Divorce_Men29/01/20 12:44 AM
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She already ruined our oldest, he's the most entitled person Ive met next to my wife. My middle son is quickly on his was and because I try to give him and the little one structure they resent me for it. I dont bow to their every wish and its making things difficult. But I hear you and will persevere.
/r/Divorce_Men28/01/20 01:05 PM
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Pretty easy really it comes down to a few things. 1 she watches a ton of media and was convinced the grass was greener on the other side. Mind you we live in an almost paid off 300K home and need for nothing but she wants trips every year and I cant afford it. Next I'm currently going back to school to get my degree so to make things worse my income went down. Again I paid for everything but it wasn't enough. Lastly Ive always struggled with my weight and it finally got to her. She wants one of …
/r/Divorce_Men28/01/20 01:02 PM
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Ill never give up on them but Im not going to force them to be with me if they are going to resent me for it.
/r/Divorce_Men28/01/20 01:59 AM
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Thanks for the kind words of encouragement. This past week has been a nightmare with her constant BS. She twists everything and lies constantly all while proclaiming what a good Christian she is. This may be one of the main reasons I left the church, Ive never seen such hypocrisy in my life. Anyways not the place for a rant I really did just want to say thanks.
/r/Divorce_Men30/11/19 05:56 PM
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No shit you need to write a book on this. "The fathers guide to servicing divorce". I'm going to start a list of what to do when the time comes. Thanks again.
/r/Divorce_Men21/10/19 05:24 PM
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You have me excited to finally have my own space for me and the kids. No more gray painted walls and white everything in a minimalist house. I needed this.
/r/Divorce_Men21/10/19 03:41 PM
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Shit I married the wrong woman, I would have married your wife just to lose 100lbs. When your divorced send me her number.
/r/Divorce_Men21/10/19 03:35 PM
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Thanks man Ill read this tonight.
/r/Divorce_Men21/10/19 03:14 PM
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Thanks man. And yeah get a therapist. If money is an issue then message me. I found mine at the local University for only $10 a visit. You don't need to be a student (but its cheaper is you are) and many large campuses have one.
/r/Divorce_Men21/10/19 03:13 PM
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Unfortunately I think 99% of all STBXW's have man-hating bitch. Mine has the wife of one of the leaders at church. And people wounder why I'm an atheist. Hang in there. If you ever need someone to talk to just message me. This is a disposable account but Ill have it until the divorce is final.
/r/Divorce_Men21/10/19 03:10 PM
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I want to say 18 months or 2 years. I think if its before that then your good but you need to check with your state. This is one of the killers when it comes to 50/50 custody. This came up during my consultation with my layer but for me its been 16 years sober and 4 or 5 years off an over the counter pain medication I was honestly abusing. She told me I had nothing to worry about and the courts are just concerned about recent activity. As for you wife... I thought the same thing. Shes an amazing…
/r/Divorce_Men21/10/19 02:53 AM
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When you find the answer to this let me know. Sometimes I feel absolutely out of my mind for all the BS Ive put up with.
/r/Divorce_Men19/10/19 10:48 PM
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Yep I read that, I might be an Atheist but I paid attention in church when I went for like 20 years. Check this out. It was the wife of one of the head members of her church that put the entire ideal in her head. She goes around as the perfect Christian wife with the perfect Christian family and pulls crap like this all the time. What really pisses me off is the husband is actually a solid Christian and well respected. I would even venture to call him a good friend. Anyways I'm rambling. I need …
/r/Divorce_Men19/10/19 10:04 PM
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It really is screwing with my head. Ive known it was coming for some time but like I said before it got very real this week when layers were retained. At least I have an outlet with friend, therapist and good old reddit to unload some of this burden. And thanks for the advice.
/r/Divorce_Men19/10/19 07:42 PM
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She keeps saying she doesn't want to hurt me because shes a good Christian and cant lie or cheat. I call bullshit on that one. Shes constantly putting the kids in the middle and I don't think that's a very Christian thing to do. Thanks for the encouragement.
/r/Divorce_Men19/10/19 05:07 PM
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Got a layer yesterday after she informed me she had done the same. I'm not honestly sure she did or not and based off the proverbial shit hitting the fan yesterday I'm starting to think she lied. My daughter (9) is pissed off at me because she thinks I'm taking her away from her mother but that's not the case. I just want a 50/50 split. Anyway I told her (daughter) last night that no matter what I loved her and will always be there for her. I'm sure it will work out in the end. Anyway, thanks fo…
/r/Divorce_Men19/10/19 03:02 PM
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Ok thanks for the reply. And I hear you, I cant wait for this to be over with.
/r/Divorce_Men17/10/19 12:12 AM
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Thanks I have an appointment with a layer next week. Its time to get this over with.
/r/Divorce_Men17/10/19 12:11 AM
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