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I absolutely hate to admit this because I feel so ashamed about it, but prior to finding FDS I was this girl. When I started college I wasn't a Pickmeisha, but under the "right" circumstances and with my ex I turned into one. A total fucking Pickmeisha to an embarrassing level. I gave up not one, but two grad school opportunities so I could be with my ex LVM to accommodate a career opportunity for him. He also was in law enforcement, but with the feds. Like an idiot, I thought he would return th…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/06/21 12:07 AM
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Boo fricken hoo. Let's not forget the fact that these are the type of dudes that quit putting in any effort once they end up in a committed relationship with a woman. Women are constantly expected to do all the emotional and mental labor in relationships while men usually put on 0 percent of effort in those relationships.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/21 06:03 PM
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It's nice to see accounts like hers where women have standards that are more than the bare minimum. ITS ABOUT FRICKEN TIME.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/21 12:36 AM
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Same! I tried to read Codependent No More and I couldn't even get past the first 50 pages. I am not responsible for the abuse I was dealt by my parents and my previous partners and neither are other women. How about we start blaming the abusers? Maybe make them take responsibility for their shit? I know it sounds crazy, but it's just an idea.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/21 01:53 AM
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Thank you for helping reframe the rejection! I appreciate you and the other FDS ladies
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/04/21 01:15 PM
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She needs to leave. I was right where she was with my last ex (minus the three some stuff) and it never got better. Ever. Anytime I tried to communicate about our lack of sex or initiate he would flip his shit on me and then not talk to me for days. We lived together so it was awful. It completely crushed my confidence and made me feel so ugly. I stayed for TWO YEARS. This was all pre FDS and I wish I would've found it sooner to help me gain the confidence to leave his ass. No man is worth losin…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/04/21 07:08 PM
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Ladies, I recently got a rejection email from a job I really wanted that would be my first career type job after graduating college three years ago. I could use some support. 😞
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/04/21 03:05 PM
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I think you're honestly right. Lol. It was just entertaining to see them screech about "high standards" lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/04/21 01:24 AM
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I might just have to send her a little message tbh
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/04/21 12:29 AM
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Literally how it is. She will want him to have a pulse and be clean and a man will find an excuse as to why that bar is too high
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/04/21 12:29 AM
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What a tool. That man should be avoided by all costs
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/04/21 12:28 AM
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The proper way to deal with it!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/04/21 12:27 AM
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I would happily die alone than date someone who couldn't meet those standards and I sincerely hope you told him to fuck off.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/04/21 10:20 PM
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Right? I want a space to talk about that stuff that isn't surrounded by male users because 2x doesn't cut it
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/04/21 08:37 PM
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Within the last couple of days I came across a post on another sub by a woman who was expressing her frustrations with the fact that she's allowed to have standards for the men she dates and that she would rather be single than compromise on those. Men in the comments were telling her to enjoy being a crazy cat lady because how dare she have "high" standards. The kicker though her standards were BELOW THE BARE MINIMUM. She wanted her man to be able to have interesting conversations, be as ambiti…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/04/21 08:15 PM
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Exactly my thoughts on the subject. A lot of women develop these strategies when they're in really terrible relationships so I'm really not a fan when anyone tries to say it is their fault. Getting real sick of women getting blamed for the shortcomings of men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/04/21 04:49 AM
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Honestly I hate the way codependency is approached with groups like that. While i totally think women need to leave in a lot of situations, it still sucks that they're gaslit into thinking that they're the problem instead of their incredibly shitty partner. I tried to read codependent no more and I couldn't finish it. It felt too victim blamey for me. The women in the book tried to make their relationships work with the worst of the worst scrotes. Like you I find FDS to be way more valuable espe…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/04/21 11:21 PM
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And they say they're the logical sex. It's like gtfo. Our genitals don't control us and we don't get so angry when we lose while playing video games that we punch holes in drywall.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/04/21 09:48 PM
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Your last paragraph is spot on. My ex brought out the most clingy and insecure behavior in me that it is beyond embarrassing to think about. He treated me so poorly and then would get confused as to why I was acting that way as if he had no hand in it. I am so very thankful that ended because you're right. A good partner will make you act your best and achieve your goals.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/04/21 09:41 PM
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It is so refreshing to hear these topics talked about in a way that I finally agree with. It is so frustrating to see people talk positively about these topics which actually harm women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/04/21 03:03 AM
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Is it a red flag if a man has had multiple years long relationships? Since finding FDS I've been doing a lot of thinking about the previous men I've dated and I've come to the conclusion that I think if a man has had numerous relationships that have lasted for years it is a major red flag. My ex had dated 4 girls before me and each of them for at least a minimum of 2 years, but most of them he dated for at least 3 years. Him and I dated for four years, but then obviously broke up. This doesn't i…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/04/21 06:02 PM
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This is kind of related, but not at the same time. I hate the idea that women JuSt NeEd To CoMmUnIcAtE. If I see this advice given to one more woman going through an issue with a man I am going to scream. Men know what they're doing. They're not stupid even though they like to weaponize their ignorance and incompetence. This advice also implies that the man in question actually cares enough to actually listen to her and make adjustments accordingly and guess what! They usually don't. I don't kno…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/04/21 03:58 PM
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So I'm a complete newbie here, but I found this sub after posting on a relationship advice sub. One of the users here sent me a DM and told me about this place. After doing some reading, I've wanted to discuss something with someone who might be more versed in FDS. So, we all know that men regularly avoid going to therapy or anything that involves working on their mental/emotional health. I've seen often that when they do go therapy often it can be weaponized. How can you tell if a man is discus…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/21 02:14 PM
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