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eyewasonceme/r/Divorce_Men21/08/23 02:23 PM
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If you're paying more than you need to, and funding her holidays (not the upbringing of your children) then knock that on the head, and pay your dues. There seems a financial imbalance from this scant information, and it would be wise to get that balanced properly and legally, so that you both know where you stand better, and you're not funding a lifestyle for your ex that you can't provide to your kids.
/r/Divorce_Men03/02/25 01:15 AM
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Is the staying with you part of the regular arrangements, or are you doing more to facilitate the holidays? Appreciate more time with the kids is a blessing, but if you're continuing to do favours for the ex outside of the agreement, just so she can go on holiday, then I think you need to reassess this decision. Ultimately, it doesn't matter what the ex does, if you can't afford to take them on holiday then that's all your concern should be, they will eventually question why mum can take so many…
/r/Divorce_Men03/02/25 12:53 AM
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Why did you start a new family in such a perilous situation?
/r/Divorce_Men07/08/24 02:57 PM
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You have to come to an agreement with the ex to make 50/50 work, some people split the weeks up, some do blocks week on week off, it all depends how agreeable things are between you. Here in Scotland residency is dictated by having 3 nights per week in the house, so doing a Monday to Monday wouldn't have worked for me as one week I'd have 0 nights and would be at risk of default going to the ex. To do a block week on week off you have to cover the weekends Fri, Sat, Sun, bonkers setup but you're…
/r/Divorce_Men18/06/24 12:17 PM
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It's the kids element, she's far too aware I'll do anything for them, so when she's at it, she'll use them as a front, or when she's being a dick, she'll hide behind them or use them as a crutch against me Having not bent over backwards recently for once recently I'm now at the receiving end of the full backlash of bullshit, but just hitting my tongue and making sure the kids are good Just blows my mind that you spend so long with someone, and they still turn out to be a total stranger in such a…
/r/Divorce_Men08/06/24 08:58 PM
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Going through this too just now, and setting boundaries that weren't there when we were together seems to be the best way forward but it's definitely tough going
/r/Divorce_Men08/06/24 07:33 PM
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The pain and discomfort I suffered afterwards are nothing compared to an unplanned child looming, go get snipped
/r/Divorce_Men13/05/24 07:05 AM
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Am no being funny mate, between my 5050 and work I don't have time to worry about dipping my wick and starting a new family, not without having to compromise something, and my work isn't going to let up, so I'll make a conscious decision to not be selfish and put my kids before my dick, you do you though chief
/r/Divorce_Men11/04/24 03:00 PM
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The issue is that you decided to put yourself before your existing kids buddy, you were selfish, and you're living with the consequences of your decision Nobody is saying become a monk, but you made and reneged on a lifelong commitment to your kids before they were born, and I'll give you no sympathy for deciding a quick lay with some new tail was worth it more than them. There are millions of dads out there desperate to get what you had, and you've decided to throw that away. And for what?
/r/Divorce_Men11/04/24 02:51 PM
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5050 Can't believe you didn't think with the big head before taking on more responsibility while you already had responsibility to the 3 previous kids
/r/Divorce_Men11/04/24 02:45 PM
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Guess the biggest way I'd deal with this is compliment the kids, and totally ignore everything and anything to do with her Kids look like they've had a ball at x, Aw nice to see junior wearing such and such Saves anything being twisted to the kids about you not caring, and signals subtly that they are the only thing you have care for
/r/Divorce_Men02/04/24 09:48 PM
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He's 6, anything you do together counts, be it going to swimming or not, I know it's a pain in the arse, but honestly, being a dad who does with and for his weans outweighs all the bullshit she might try to throw your way and will pay dividends. I know it's frustrating fella, but out the wean first and foremost and often you'll find the anger at her interfering dwindles away to nought
/r/Divorce_Men21/03/24 01:11 PM
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You sound delightful
/r/Divorce_Men27/02/24 08:57 AM
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Long game the only way now for me, with a protection of my assets, both in things and, more importantly, my time and freedom Someone has to add real value to my life to become a full part of this, this rebuild costs me a fortune, and I'm damn sure I'm making it for me and my weans
/r/Divorce_Men21/02/24 11:51 PM
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Entitlement I'm not sure I understand where people have suddenly come to think they deserve something with no effort, purely because they exist Put in time and effort
/r/Divorce_Men21/02/24 11:04 PM
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What made you jump to that conclusion, out of interest?
/r/Divorce_Men09/02/24 08:07 PM
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Sounds like the issues were there before your split, and he has less reason to try now, counselling might help him, but ultimately any change has to come from within, so he has to find a reason to help him get that drive to become better Unfortunately
/r/Divorce_Men09/02/24 08:06 PM
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Sorry mate, it's horrible, but reconcile yourself with the knowledge that you are in fact the side guy now and try to move on quickly
/r/Divorce_Men24/09/23 11:27 AM
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The earring is a killer move, one earring and a little spray of perfume, no more, found somewhere like down the back of the couch where it might have been missed in a search The more subtle, the more believable Also, she's a fucking crackpot, but I think you already knew that OP
/r/Divorce_Men19/09/23 11:01 PM
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Not enough to regularly travel 1.5 hours to see them it seems
/r/Divorce_Men17/09/23 09:37 AM
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I guess if you wanted to just live your life, you should have used protection Do you not feel any sort of compulsion to be in your kids lives? I can't begin to imagine putting my 'kind of popularity here' over the well being of my kids Your mum is 66, it's hardly old, unless she's in ill health go pass it forward to your kids
/r/Divorce_Men16/09/23 09:54 PM
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My ex wanted a 45/55 split which I verbally agreed to, but when it came to the crunch I told her I'd port the favourable rate mortgage and she kicked off, apparently more lump sum now also means more savings down the line too hahaha Just waiting on the letter from the solicitor to see what bullshit she's concocted for our split
/r/Divorce_Men09/09/23 08:55 PM
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I know people are rich, but how the fuck does anyone justify 65k a fucking MONTH for raising kids?! It blows my mind seeing some of these figures bandied about, how is any of it affordable, even to rich people? Not sure what wealth Costner has, but imagine losing 700k+ each year, presumably until he's dead or is there a cut off?
/r/Divorce_Men03/09/23 10:16 PM
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Thanks EA, assuming we can come to an agreement regarding their custody (might be an issue as she's inferred she's moving away from this area) would it be fair to say potentially no solicitor needed at all? Think she's finally surpassed my earnings, so not sure I'd be on the hook for support per se, especially if we split custody (or residence as it is here at least)
/r/Divorce_Men21/08/23 02:57 PM
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