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6	Tips to approach women way older than me? If the mother ever accepts to snatch a lover from her daughter, then she's a pretty awful mother, and probably a pretty awful person. The fact that you're willing to do that to the daughter doesn't speak highly of yourself either...	/r/seduction	27/06/10 09:27 AM
4	What are the gal equivalents of nice guys? I find amusing that with some respects, men and women are total opposites, while with some others they are equivalents. More specifically, stereotypical male/female roles in a couple are complementary, which often (not always) means opposite. On points which fall down to "he won't hold up to the stereotypical male behavior the girl expects from him", the equivalent is "she won't holp up the the stereotypical female behavior that some men expect from her", and it might seem opposite at first sigh…	/r/seduction	18/05/10 04:40 PM
0	What are the gal equivalents of nice guys? I didn't imply that beauty is everything. You'll find plenty of non-beautiful girls in fulfilling relationship, just as you'll find many nice guys happily dating fantastic women. Yet both of them fail at the first mate assessment test (in chronological order). In both cases, the failed test is the one that is most directly linked to the prospective mate's instinct. They can and often do overcome this initial issue, they can learn to disguise/mitigate it, but they start with a disadvantage. And j…	/r/seduction	18/05/10 03:34 PM
2	What are the gal equivalents of nice guys? I might do her a favor (although I doubt it), but I won't have a pleasurable time doing so. To each his own, but I find libidinally messed up girls boring; the amount of convincing / deresponsibilising it takes to have lousy sex with them feels just wrong; said lousy sex itself feels just as wrong (have you ever had this "WTF I'm being bored to death while fucking a chick for the first time" moment? Awkward); and once you've known a couple of them, you spot them before any relationship starts: i…	/r/seduction	18/05/10 03:25 PM
2	What are the gal equivalents of nice guys? No; most men would totally fuck a dumb slut, if she's not physically repulsive. It's even totally OK to be seen by your popular fratboy friends with a sexy dumb slut. Conversely, girls wouldn't be caught dead fucking a "nice guy" by their female friends: there's a social stigma attached to fucking a nice guy, whereas there isn't one attached to fuck a silly promiscuous bimbo. Or at least, this stigma is much weaker, and not nearly as widespread. The "clingy fatty" (as tactfully expressed in a ne…	/r/seduction	18/05/10 02:38 PM
1	What are the gal equivalents of nice guys? I once dated a girl who was agnostic, but could compete with the best of the puritan catholic girls. While I agree that you can be sexually fucked-up without being religious, it seems difficult to be a young devout in a judeo-islamo-christian religion without carrying a terrible bagage in terms of sexuality. Especially for a partner who expects, as is implied here, sex before marriage. Do you think women can grow out of their patterns and problems Sounds like a limiting belief if you think you c…	/r/seduction	18/05/10 02:07 PM
3	What are the gal equivalents of nice guys? Now let's try to match your list of female deadly sins with their male counterparts: Overly logical and ambitious girl: she plays the stereotypical male part, she won't let you play your "male role" easily, because you'll always feel competitive pressure, and if you get committed you'll have to share professional concessions, whereas you expect the girl to sacrifice her career for her man. The equivalent would be a man who doesn't care about earning a third of his wife's salary, who wouldn't pro…	/r/seduction	18/05/10 02:00 PM
38	What are the gal equivalents of nice guys? The equivalent of the "nice guy" is the ugly chick. Nice guys are supposedly appreciable as people, but miss some key instinctive markers of a valuable male mate (consciousness of their value as a mate; virility, strength, potential as a provider; ability to understand what a woman wants even when she won't say it, even when she sends deceptive messages about it). To add insult to injury, such serial nice guys are usually bitter about their lack of success, and nobody wants to date a bitter pers…	/r/seduction	18/05/10 01:43 PM
8	I'm now dating a shy asian girl. I know she's into me, or at least it appears so, but I have to be the one to initiate everything. Kisses, physical contact, everything. How do I get her to initiate? Should I just stop initiating for a while? Praise her when she initiates? If it's a core part of her personality, which might well be the case, it won't change: you'll manage to make her feel inadequate, but not to change her. If you dislike dating shy girls, it's OK, but then date a non-shy girl: you'll do both of you a service. OTOH: is it her shyness that bothers you, or the way you interpret it with your occidental references? She is probably able to feel savage love, lust etc., she simply expresses it in a way that seems contrived to both men and Westerners. You …	/r/seduction	04/05/10 08:44 AM
3	"I don't want to be a slut!" My understanding is that she wants you to take whole responsibility for what will ensue. Or, if you prefer, she demands that you give her plausible deniability: "I'm not an easy girl, but that guy was so charming and confident and whatever blah blah (...) I've just been swept off my feet". Chances are that, after you went in the sack together, she'll explain you that she never fucks the first night, and you're expected to show that you really really believe her. You're expected to overcome her r…	/r/seduction	18/03/10 05:17 PM
2	Listen up, women: why you should settle. I'm curious: do men want to be "settled" for? This is theoretical, as Miss Right happened to fall in love with me for reasons I don't fully understand, but: Getting Miss Right is way more important than getting her for the good reasons (pragmatism over romanticism), let alone getting miss Not-That-Bad for the allegedly "good" reasons. As a man, I had to learn and rehearse technics to approach women. Hence, I expect the part about getting her interested in me to be staged anyway: the seduction ro…	/r/seduction	08/02/10 12:02 AM
1	Tips for picking up Asian women at the library. I appreciate the political correctness of your answer. Mind you, I'd have been disappointed if nobody had written a similar contribution. However, there are significant correlations between ethnicity, the values which have been transmitted by one's family, and the kind of seduction stimuli one most efficiently responds to. I don't know exactly what works best for black, white, asian, latino, native, whatever women. However, it's wishful thinking to believe that all approach technics have the sam…	/r/seduction	10/12/09 05:30 PM