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Often because of gender ratios and the single men left there don't want to settle down. The competition would also be tougher, the women dress better, more of a go getter attitude, etc. Sf and seattle are fine though because there are simply more men than women there. I'd stay this is felt a lot more closer to mid 30s though. Early 30s is probably still ok.
/r/RedPillWomen22/03/25 03:40 PM
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they're smarter, more mature,more experienced, more knowledgeable, make more money. traits that women prioritize they can also look better, are more fit, face shape matures, better styling, better fashion sense. of course this only applies to high quality men. women also prefer men that are older than them, so his pool widens. 20 year olds often don't mind 30 year olds. so he has at least 10 years of women to pick from. whereas once you're 30+, your pool shrinks because the number of men who are…
/r/RedPillWomen22/03/25 09:14 AM
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what about summer holidays and winter holidays? are you working over the summer? if it's grad school, you can probably get a research post or something in his city/country. and it doesn't have to be you visiting him every time, but he can come spend the summer or winter holidays with you too. if you don't have enough money, you can work part-time. either way, I'm not seeing a lot of commitment from either side except for the bare minimum. you can't really expect a proposal from just 10 weeks of …
/r/RedPillWomen22/03/25 09:06 AM
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well that's sort of the bare minimum, and hopefully you had that from him too. but why are you only seeing each other like 2 weeks out of the whole year? if you're both still in school, you have summer holidays, xmas and spring breaks? how far are you two? i think if you aren't willing to sacrifice and move over to his city for a few months, you can't expect him to sacrifice and propose and commit to a forever life with you. so pick your battles.
/r/RedPillWomen22/03/25 08:41 AM
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so you've spent approximately 10 weeks together... i think he's being reasonable, especially since you haven't seen each other very long. what do you guys do during the summer and xmas holidays? you should at least spend the whole 2 months together for the summer. it seems very low commitment from either side tbh. i just think a purely long distance relationship very rarely lead to marriage until you do at least 6 months in the same city together first...then maybe there's more data/evaluation t…
/r/RedPillWomen22/03/25 08:35 AM
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You've only seen each other 6-7 times? How long each time? I think one of you need to move and not be long distance to know. Another 3-4 years of long distance?! Idk if he will still know after then. If i were you, I'd take a one year break, at least a semester from school or try to transfer to his city. Otherwise better to end things and find a man who is local to you.
/r/RedPillWomen22/03/25 07:23 AM
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oh, it's super easy to restart a connection especially if you guys post on fb/ig/tiktok. but if he's wasn't single when he made the advance, that's a huge red flag, and it's best to stay away. he's probably just a really good looking guy (your type).
/r/RedPillWomen04/03/25 10:00 PM
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No, never. But if you regret it, you can easily make it happen again as long as you're both single
/r/RedPillWomen04/03/25 07:52 PM
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why is it a LDR? is it a visa issue, are you in different countries? So there is no way for you to go to his area without being an exchange student? Is he postponing the exchange student part or the marriage part? you can try to be an exchange student and live together first, but i don't think he will be serious unless he knows how a relationship with you will be in the same city. if it doesn't work out, you'll find out within 6 months/1 year (however long your exchange is).
/r/RedPillWomen20/01/25 11:12 AM
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He’s stingy. You can't change that
/r/RedPillWomen11/01/25 08:53 PM
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I see. Well, if it’s already happened, there’s no changing it now. If it made you cry, then I do agree you should change your approach and reaction. If I were in your shoes, I’d set a boundary and let him know it makes you uncomfortable when he shares too much about his ex, because it makes you unhappy/sad (which is completely valid). It’s okay if he brings her up occasionally in a more light-hearted way, but not when he’s supposed to be present and focused on you. there’s a fine line between be…
/r/RedPillWomen27/12/24 11:36 PM
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Maybe he doesn't have to pay you back but have him pay for things instead to reset the dynamic? i don't know how much you lent him. Assuming it's less than 3k...
/r/RedPillWomen27/12/24 07:33 PM
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I don't know if he's ready for a long term relationship and he's definitely not over his ex. Less than a year after a 15-year long relationship. I think you and him should take it slow, no sex for sure. I don't think you did anything wrong, he was being vulnerable but it was also kind of a poor choice of time for such a big reveal. Good luck.
/r/RedPillWomen27/12/24 12:33 AM
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Doesn't IG or YouTube have great recipes?
/r/RedPillWomen20/12/24 10:32 AM
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glad to hear you don't really fight. what exactly do you find tedious or labor intensive? where we're staying? as in his place or yours? crossing the line? with parenting? or just being a gf? i think you're overthinking it. just make sure he's happy, have a good time with him, make his life easier without being a doormat or being used. as a gf, i match energy, if I'm not living with him: I'll cook + do dishes i don't deep clean, but feel free to do simple cleaning like the kitchen, tables, toile…
/r/RedPillWomen14/12/24 03:55 AM
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Ok so he's been married and has kids already. That's good too. Men who was married once are statistically more likely to remarry. Have you met his kids? If i were to guess, he probably does want a wife who will play stepmother to his kids, if he's involved in their lives. As long as you've made it clear then just try to go with the flow. If you two don't fight much, and no glaring issues...it could happen soon.
/r/RedPillWomen11/12/24 04:27 PM
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Oh and re: no kids...does he want kids? I do think it changes things a bit because men who don't want kids have a higher tendency to not want to get married or think it's pointless. My friend did finally get a proposal out of her now fiance after dating for 14 years...and they're both 37 and don't want kids. I think she did end up having to give an ultimatum... Which isn't ideal...but 14 years is a long time! Good luck
/r/RedPillWomen11/12/24 12:02 PM
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It's not an ultimatum, but you communicate this earlier on. Like let's date for 2-3 years...and if by then there's no proposal we gotta evaluate and talk about why not...etc. just make intentions clear that marriage is sometimes you want. Honestly after 3 years if you're still unsure...and in your 30s... My guess is they're not really the one. But if you're early 20s then it's harder to gauge and many guys aren't ready to marry until 30. For you...i think you would know in 2 years... And if some…
/r/RedPillWomen11/12/24 11:59 AM
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How old are you? I think cooking is fine when you're staying over. Staying over often is fine too. Clean up after yourself but you don't have to do his cleaning. No to bills. He should also take you out on dates. I do believe in doing some things to provide your value as a gf. Things he would miss and he gets used to having you around and miss you if you're not. In turn i would throw out a timeline. That you expect to be engaged after a few years of dating, that is the goal. Otherwise you don't …
/r/RedPillWomen11/12/24 09:53 AM
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for everyday, i don't think you need that much make up! what you're doing sounds good. this is what i do: tinted moisturizer under-eye concealer eyeliner (important if you don't have eyelash extensions) eyebrow pencil lip tint, a korean one like periperi lasts throughout eating and drinking. this step is important but it's a step i don't do enough blush contour the jawline This all takes me like 5-10 mins i also do eyelash extensions sometimes so i don't need mascara/eyeliner. manicured nails he…
/r/RedPillWomen22/09/24 07:34 AM
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It seems op is vegan, no dairy and eggs
/r/RedPillWomen21/09/24 10:06 PM
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I ended a marriage mainly because I did not enjoy my time with my ex. What do you do with your husband for fun? Are the topics of conversation interesting or stimulating? What does he enjoy doing and consider fun? Unfortunately you two may simply be incompatible.
/r/RedPillWomen31/07/24 09:42 AM
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I'm sorry you've been dating fkboys youe whole life. I've been in a sorority in a party school and have drank and done drugs. I'm not conservative in any means. Plus the amount of cheating that happens at that age. It's definitely a red flag for him to go sleepover at the girl's house. Who knows who elsr is sleeping over. He does not need to sleepover. He should be leaving to come home to his gf. His gf should be invited anyway. I have tons of guy friends and i always invite their gfs to my even…
/r/RedPillWomen13/06/24 06:28 PM
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Look for a man who doesn't look as good but have better stats and less red flag. You can definitely find one. This guy sounds bad news so I'm sure you're just physically attracted to him
/r/RedPillWomen31/05/24 05:48 PM
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you can wear it when you're out with friends, or when he's not around?
/r/RedPillWomen07/03/24 06:48 AM
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I do lsd and shrooms. I also have adhd. How did shrooms help you with your adhd?
/r/RedPillWomen02/02/24 09:28 PM
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You're in denial. If you truly have low expectations then you'd be willing to go with the flow and not set your expectations. This is going to end, period.
/r/RedPillWomen24/01/24 09:26 PM
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Have you talked to any girl friends about this? I found the jealousy of the interaction between your mom and the old man to be strange. He didn't really seem like he was hitting on your mom. It seems like you have a twisted perspective which would reflect on how you portray yourself. Which can benefit from therapy. There's also hypnotherapy where a lot of the trainees are looking for clients to train on. You can look into that in your area if that's available You talk to a therapist and it is th…
/r/RedPillWomen11/03/23 11:55 AM
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Something sounds off. Do you have social anxiety or you give out extreme insecurity or negative vibes. Men usually look at any girl wearing a shorter skirt or whatever. Maybe you are located in an ultra conservative country idk. But you may need to see a therapist for this. It's unlikely your looks/appearance Do you smile often?
/r/RedPillWomen11/03/23 11:34 AM
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Oh I agree about men not getting the subtext all the time, but the problem is more about getting spun up when men don't "get the hint". The key is to be more direct after. My method is more that you don't go in as confrontation/attack mode and jump into any assumptions starting the convo. Maybe the guy thought he already invited you or assumed you wouldn't want to go. I prefer to open up the conversation by being nice and feminine about it, because a guy who genuinely likes you will soften up wh…
/r/RedPillWomen29/09/22 08:41 AM
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I personally would not go straight to a direct approach right away, why go straight to confronting when without opening up the opportunity for an invite by reminding him about it? But if the bf doesn't invite me after, THEN I would more direct about my feelings.
/r/RedPillWomen29/09/22 08:23 AM
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Could you find a less adult way to handle this? That's just borderline manipulative. How is it manipulative when you are simply stating facts: You will miss him You do want to go (if he is adamant about going) And saying it nicely/sweetly is just so you don't jump straight into attack mode.
/r/RedPillWomen29/09/22 08:15 AM
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well, his response would be "aww i wish you could go too" and then OP can respond, "you didn't invite me though"
/r/RedPillWomen29/09/22 08:14 AM
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It's not clingy if you say it nicely. If you say it annoying and naggy, THAT would be clingy and a turn off. I personally would not go straight to your method, why go straight to confronting when you don't even open up the opportunity for him to invite you by reminding him about it? But if the bf doesn't invite me after, THEN I would more direct about my feelings. And isn't Surrendered Wife kind of a resource here? Has something changed? I thought RPW is more about being feminine first and trust…
/r/RedPillWomen29/09/22 08:13 AM
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Tell him sweetly and nicely that you will miss him a lot and you wish you could go too. If he doesn't invite you after you expressed concerns, it's a pretty big red flag....
/r/RedPillWomen28/09/22 11:52 PM
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People are just different. Some people are pickier than other. Some people don't mind different types of cuisines where as others only like one or two types and have a lot of deal breakers. Also depends on age, and what qualities you prioritise. I used to like guys easily because I was so desperate to get in relationships. I only learned to be pickier after I wasted time in relationships and matured, it was then I realized I was looking for a lifelong partner. On the other hand, if you never lik…
/r/RedPillWomen02/02/19 06:45 AM
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I skip breakfast and live close to work. Dresses are easiest and quickest to put on. It takes me 10 minutes to draw eyeliner and put on foundation. I just got my eyebrows microbladed so i don't even need go draw my brows anymore. I also get eyelash extensions and i can even skip the eyeliner. It takes me 20 minutes to get ready. I shower before going to sleep. My goal is to curl my hair. But sometimes I braid it overnight for some waves. Also if i need to meet friends for lunch or dinner, i will…
/r/RedPillWomen11/09/18 02:10 PM
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It seems you are too focused on looks and from what you claim, there's no issue. I'm a 6-6.5 and I have no issues tying guys down. I have a close friend that is a 7-7.5 and she's never had a good relationship and always has problem tying guys down Mostly because she's not interested in the type of guys who pursue her and do want to commit But also she's not a very positive person. Complains a lot. She's fun to be around but she has issues and anger management. So nearly all guys who get to know …
/r/RedPillWomen03/04/17 08:13 PM
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It's not just about looks and skills....
/r/RedPillWomen03/04/17 08:06 PM
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It's not just smv and mmv. Do these guys like spending time with you? How are your conversations, do you only talk about yourself? Are you fun to be around? Do you seem genuine? Do you two have a connection? You've listed things that are quite superficial.
/r/RedPillWomen03/04/17 08:03 PM
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I think a lot of people here really don't know how LA is like First of all, how old are you? From my LA experience, most eligible bachelors don't want to settle down until at least their earlier thirties. Unless you locked him down in uni. Otherwise your best bet is to date someone in their mid thirties. If you are willing to date nerdier guys though, you won't have as much of a problem. Also LA guys love fun upbeat girls, are you positive and down? Have a life of your own?
/r/RedPillWomen03/04/17 12:07 PM
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Not true for los angeles where there are more men than women. Go join yelp events? I also know people who met significant others through crossfit. There's also a lot of networking events and meetup.com events.
/r/RedPillWomen28/01/17 01:15 PM
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My 2 ex bfs (in the US) have both waited 3 months before we had sex. After 3 months, I knew they were serious. I think after 3 months, if you're still not ready to have sex, you should at least be giving him head and satisfying him. If you want a guy who is willing to wait months for any form of sex, then you should start looking at a church because most guys with options will not wait around any longer especially since he's not sure if you're ever going to give him any. Although I do know some …
/r/RedPillWomen26/11/16 03:30 PM
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There are tons of guys who simply don't want commitment even with a high quality woman. Also, often times men push the exam when a women has not even had the time to study. There's a high chance to fail. At that point, she needs to tell him, she's not ready, and he needs to give her more time. And it takes time to evaluate if the guy is captain material. Both genders have goggles in the beginning and we both need time to evaluate.
/r/RedPillWomen26/04/16 02:39 PM
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3 months isn't soon at all. i would think the guy isn't taking me seriously if i haven't met them around that time! i've met all my exes' parents within 3 months. met my current one in 1.5 months! bringing a small gift would be nice. dress nicely. it's always nerve wrecking though! good luck! it's always significant i think, but mainly depends on how close he is to his family. it's different for everyone i think.
/r/RedPillWomen06/01/16 07:57 AM
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To ride off of this topic, what if it's something habitual? I want my SO to stop smoking in the living room? because when he opens the window, bugs fly in and it's just more second hand smoke in the living room. How should I go around with this?
/r/RedPillWomen07/07/15 05:51 AM
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Yes I am on RPW. I'm usually posting there and I have also seen men posting there from time to time. I don't actually post in TRP, this might have been my first. I lurk here occasionally.
/r/TheRedPill30/06/15 07:28 AM
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are you working? how do you get dinner on the table by 7. any tips?
/r/RedPillWomen03/06/15 05:03 AM
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I find the red flag is where they "Extended" the stay to 3 days. Like they enjoyed each others company too much and decided extended the stay. And chose to tell you after the fact. Why were you not informed of this? Don't you talk to him daily? So he only mentioned it was for 3 days after the fact? Why didn't you two webcam/skype while she's over? I think you need to be more wary of the generous trust you blindly gave him. A relationship should be based on trust but trust is to be earned. not gi…
/r/RedPillWomen01/06/15 08:11 AM
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This. if you're really that great at your job, you will find another job. If you want to save the relationship, just pack your bags and move. find a job later. if he's successful in his career, he'll be able to spot you financially for a while until you find a job. His friend Jess is unemployed. and Unknown friend? that's a also possibly a lie to help you feel more secure. there may have been no unknown friend.
/r/RedPillWomen31/05/15 06:46 PM
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