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If you are able to find one, I saw a somatic therapist, and it’s way less to do with talking than reconnecting in a way that any explanation will fall short of. But it saved my life from certain destruction and I’ve since sent multiple friends to the same. Each has been wildly successful in their own ways and credit the therapy experience. That said everyone is different and it can take trying a few different ones to find someone who is the right fit for you specifically.
/r/ExRedPill14/04/23 05:40 PM
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I’m glad it was helpful and I also wanted to note this really isn’t gendered. I think men need support systems too and abuse can happen to any gender. Just to be clear!
/r/ExRedPill08/04/23 09:54 PM
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I think the reason red pill takes a stance against girls night is because a lot girls’ best friends offer a support system. It’s a time where you might just be chatting about your life and if your friends hear something off they may talk to you about it. Example: I was dating a bad dude, but didn’t know it yet. While out with friends I just happened to mention something about making coffee for him and that I had forgotten because I was late to work. My friend kind of paused and was like … you we…
/r/ExRedPill08/04/23 08:06 PM
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You have to trust yourself. You can’t just go out and blanket trust strangers. People need to earn your trust. Over time. You do need to trust yourself however to know your boundaries and be willing to stand for your boundaries and exit any situation when your needs aren’t being met or your boundaries keep being crossed. So it’s perfectly fine not to trust people you’re getting to know. Let them in a little bit at a time. Trust yourself to handle the variety of experiences you may come across. L…
/r/ExRedPill24/03/23 11:45 PM
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Source?
/r/ExRedPill19/03/23 09:54 PM
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Not if you get raped or if your own life is put in danger by carrying the fetus to term or or or or
/r/ExRedPill19/03/23 12:26 AM
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Sure he could an you’re not stopping him from doing so but uh he’s here talking to YOU rn so 🤷
/r/ExRedPill17/03/23 09:51 PM
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I was considering that the fuckery that follows, but you’re absolutely correct, it’s so insidious it probably can’t be divorced like I did.
/r/ExRedPill04/03/23 02:09 AM
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That you should take care of yourself. Mentally, physically, and emotionally. How important that is. I feel like that idea is novel to some folks and it draws them in to be bagged by all the other fuckery that follows.
/r/ExRedPill04/03/23 12:24 AM
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I think you’re seeing this through the lens of masculinity whereas your mom may just be generally lazy? Or tired? Or you ask a lot of her? Or she’s sick. You’re deciding this a) has something to do with you personally and b) is tied to some vague idea of masculinity you saw on YouTube. Neither of which may be true but it is telling about how narrow your focus is. That you’re seeing not only yourself through this one tiny lens, but now viewing everyone else through the same tiny lens. Everyone ha…
/r/ExRedPill20/01/23 05:01 PM
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The business is the red pill pyramid scheme. You’ll start a business as an “influencer” espousing the benefits of red pill and spreading the message to those who will then be “influenced” to start a business who will reach for the easiest thing which is to shill their ideology. Eventually, when you have a enough “influence” you’ll be approached or seek out ways to monetize that “influence.” Everyone who buys into the pyramid scheme create their own economy where the person with the most influenc…
/r/ExRedPill20/01/23 02:08 AM
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No one is entitled to respect. Period.
/r/ExRedPill16/01/23 05:13 AM
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If you want to be with the kind of woman who thinks that way then by all means you keep thinking the way you do. Most people don’t quantify their partners in this zero sum way. But if you want to you can find a woman who does the same. There is a whole other reality that values connection and safety and humor and empathy and integrity. You’ll never attract or experience that because people who value those traits are repulsed by this mindset. Enjoy your reality, by all means, but understand it’s …
/r/ExRedPill16/01/23 05:00 AM
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Your misogyny is remarkable
/r/ExRedPill16/01/23 04:54 AM
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Right so a woman is less than a man because she is literally only allowed to do “less than a man” in order to be considered valuable. Like I said.
/r/ExRedPill16/01/23 04:53 AM
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Lol I’m sorry you’re so out of touch with reality or you’re playing a game. If you label a woman a hoe based on body count it necessarily indicates a mindset that is obvious to anyone in this sub, including yourself. Your attempt to deny to the obvious extrapolation is a sad attempt at gaslighting.
/r/ExRedPill16/01/23 04:48 AM
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So a woman being referred to as a hoe based on body count and shouldn’t be married based on that fact with no mention of the male body count or whether he should be married based on that…. Means what to you? In the context of a red pill forum?
/r/ExRedPill16/01/23 04:38 AM
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Ya who cares if what he really feels is immature misogynistic incel bullshit!? His wife, who is a woman, should be open to those feelings that a woman is less than a man and should be used as such?! Gawwwwd! A woman should be open and receptive at all times even if it means accepting her own devaluation by someone she loves and trusts!!! OBVIOUSLY!!!
/r/ExRedPill16/01/23 04:17 AM
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Ty! And together we offer some kind of evidence to OP that this is a perspective and that there are people out there who don’t operate with it. Some of us want to build each other up and share love. I would say most of us do, though some of us are still learning how. Look, OP, we out here. Our experiences can help you learn the tools to do it too!
/r/ExRedPill08/01/23 02:25 AM
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Cycle breakers unite! And your kid is so so so lucky to have had you of all people to look out for them. I know we both wish we had had the same.
/r/ExRedPill08/01/23 02:16 AM
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Much love to you, the journey is hard, but the reward is indescribable. Congrats on making it out!
/r/ExRedPill08/01/23 01:57 AM
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They try to sell you on the idea that “everyone else” thinks exactly like they do, but truly most people do not view the world that way. After escaping abusive relationships that were modeled for me in my family home since childhood, and having to do the work to deprogram myself from that worldview, I took on the work of trying to understand why it happened to me. What kind of people do these things, how do they think and why, etc? In that process I literally had to learn that some people have t…
/r/ExRedPill08/01/23 01:22 AM
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“Which can be disproven if you go outside and look….” Exactly! Which can be disproven if you’re willing to engage in reality and actually look around at what is happening in reality, not YouTube or reddit or 4chan, or w/e.
/r/ExRedPill08/01/23 01:17 AM
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This is the key. It’s just another way to externalize bad feelings into some “system” that allows your externalized bad feelings to be blamed on others. The only way out is through and this offers the false promise that there is another way out. There isn’t. And every attempt to find one leads to more bad feelings. Some people drink or use drugs in this endeavor. Others work too much or work out too much or shop too much or fall into culty world views that allow you to, briefly, escape yourself.…
/r/ExRedPill08/01/23 01:11 AM
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Sure. It exists for people that see relationships as transactions. And if you want a partner who tallies your worth based on a superficial capitalistic value then you should buy into it too. If you don’t want a a partner like that I’d suggest not buying into it yourself. The big secret is that you can design your own reality and once you do you will attract like minded individuals. But if you have a “goal” in mind that exists outside the specificity of an individual connection, ie: goal: get lai…
/r/ExRedPill29/12/22 03:07 AM
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Nah. To answer your question no one can stop you from falling into red pill. You’re reaching out though, asking the question, so it means you have the choice. Right now, you’re thinking about making a choice. Preeeemeditation they call it. You get extra time for that so try to see this moment as a gift. You’re reaching out because you’re hitting a dark place and you’re thinking there’s nothing to hold onto here and you may just let go and get sucked into it because it sounds goooood. Better. Bec…
/r/ExRedPill03/12/22 08:39 AM
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Don’t listen to ANYTHING an abuser tells you.
/r/ExRedPill29/11/22 10:37 PM
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The answer is to leave. Hitting is abuse. Oh can’t change people like this. The answer is to leave.
/r/ExRedPill29/11/22 10:37 PM
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Sure but that’s partially because so many men swipe yes on everyone. She’s not in control of who actually likes her and wants to date her or who is looking for what she is. So all the people who swiped yes for the numbers game don’t even actually like her. She had to figure that out, which is an arduous task in itself. You’re also assuming she only picks men for looks and not because they are both obsessed with Harry Potter or whatever. And you’re applying all of your assumptions to every woman …
/r/ExRedPill27/09/22 02:55 PM
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I’m always curious what men think happens when women get all those matches. A lot of the time, as a woman, you understand that a lot of men swipe yes for pretty much everyone. It’s not like they chose you because they think you will really connect and have a lot in common. They are playing a numbers game. The match isn’t about me. So you have to kind of dig through the stats guys, and the jerks, and the incompatible to maybe, if you’re lucky, getting one actual viable match. It’s not like most w…
/r/ExRedPill26/09/22 04:29 PM
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Try to find a somatic therapist. I swear by them up and down, they changed my life. And honey they have seen it all.
/r/ExRedPill01/08/22 03:12 PM
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No, exact opposite in fact, from a woman’s point of view. If you’re thinking of impressing men, maybe it does, but I think more mature, healthier men would feel similar to me? Ultimately the only person you should be worried about impressing is yourself, though. At the end of the day it’s just you.
/r/ExRedPill20/07/22 03:22 PM
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Ooooh that’s good. I’ve spent a lot of time thinking about this dichotomy (Madonna/whore) and I’ve considered this from so many angles but this never occurred to me. I think you’re on to something. Damn just goes to show there is always balance in the force.
/r/ExRedPill25/09/21 02:29 AM
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you’re pretending to be someone you’re not to chase women who laugh at you for valuing real things? Look at that picture man. You are creating a giant farce to lure in the worst kinds of people and wondering why you aren’t happy.
/r/ExRedPill23/05/21 10:03 PM
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Your hobbies are not who you are. Maybe you need to spend some time figuring out who you are. What are your values? What do you believe in? Etc etc. start there.
/r/ExRedPill23/05/21 09:08 PM
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If you’re pretending to be someone else to get attention the attention you’re getting isn’t real. It makes both participants bit players in a play and is destined to fail.
/r/ExRedPill23/05/21 07:16 PM
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You can’t avoid getting hurt. You are going to get hurt in life. Do what is right for you. Follow the path that makes you feel the most whole within yourself. You will still get hurt, but at least you won’t have abandoned yourself in the process. That hurts far worse.
/r/ExRedPill23/05/21 06:12 PM
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I wish we could bottle your growth trajectory and sell it everywhere. Or pour it down on folks from a plane. Thanks for sharing your story.
/r/ExRedPill16/01/21 07:30 PM
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Spend some time actively looking for information to dispute what you believe. Look for studies and information to dispute what you think to be true now. See what you find.
/r/ExRedPill01/11/20 05:11 PM
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If you want to talk about movies! Let’s talk about the nerd who no one will date and everyone mocks until she gets a makeover!
/r/ExRedPill08/10/20 03:27 PM
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You can’t be mad at everyone who is mean. You’ll spend your whole life mad and how could you be on reddit? That and no one is entitled to a date so I’m not sure what else to do but let it go? If someone is mean and/or doesn’t want to date you there are two options: let it go or turn into a bitter, miserable person who no one will ever date. Does complaining about it somehow make a mean person want to date you? Why do you want to date a mean person?
/r/ExRedPill08/10/20 03:25 PM
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I think a lot of it come from the parental relationship. I dated an incel for a short time, and he described to me a time he “lost it” on his mom and when I looked at him like wow, in your 30s? He explained that it was ok because his dad agreed with him. It was over the dinner she cooked for them. So. He definitely learned from his dad that women are shit. And then p. Much everything in media supports the idea.
/r/ExRedPill08/10/20 03:18 PM
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You are focusing on the wrong things imo. You’re focusing on which of you has better game and I’m not sure why that is relevant here at all. The issue is your needs are not getting met. You need to take charge of that. Sit your wife down and tell her that your needs are not getting met. Explain what needs those are and how it makes you feel. If it doesn’t go well suggest couples counseling. If she won’t do that then you should go and talk with someone yourself to figure out your next steps. Focu…
/r/ExRedPill20/08/20 04:18 PM
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Right so both players are responsible for the biological possibility of a child created from playing the game.
/r/ExRedPill15/08/20 11:24 PM
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If you engage in sex you are knowingly taking the risk of getting someone pregnant. Period. The risk comes with the reward. With great power comes great responsibility.
/r/ExRedPill15/08/20 05:37 PM
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