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9	CMV: Men going Dutch via alternating is better than going Dutch via people paying 50% or for themselves, because it usually has plausible deniability that it's just trad if it's cut off at the first date Why are men incapable of having a normal conversation? Ime first dates are Man: I'll take care of the bil Me: that's sweet but I'll pay for myself Man: if you're sure we can split/ I insist Or if I wanted a second date me: if you get this one, I can pay for the next one if you want a second date Man: sounds good Look how easy and non-confrontational all this was! And no one demanded anything!	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/07/26 04:25 AM
2	What do you think about this quote from Bell Hooks? Look around you and point out what women invented. You’ll find the answer. If that is your answer then I would then say that you cannot make that conclusion until you have created a society with 0% sexism and proven 0% barriers to women inventing anything no female child in the entirety of the whole society was ever told that she was 1% worse at science or math than boys. Whether implied or explicit. Across her entire life When we reach that then you can claim men are "better at invention" based…	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/07/26 04:11 AM
4	Believing a 50/50 man will step up later isn’t just naive - it’s risky If men don't spend an equal amount of time working both paid and unpaid as me, and think being in a partnership is "punishment" for earning more I will be single. I am the higher earner in my relationship and I still contribute equal household labour because that's what it means to be a partner. If for some reason my husband starts earning more but refuses to do the same he knows I'm contacting the lawyers.	/r/PurplePillDebate	26/07/26 06:24 PM
–	What do you think of declining birthrates? At the moment excellent! I don't think we should be increasing exponentially. But in terms of replacement rates, if we really want it to happen we need to lessen the opportunity costs of having children. Most people who are late 20 - mid 30s who are partnered want at least one kid. But most people also are delaying children or having less kids than they want. This is because kids are a want not a need. And people prefer things like a particular lifestyle over children. So how do we get people to…	/r/PurplePillDebate	26/07/26 09:31 AM
3	The cost of living crisis is in a large part contributed to by the ability of women to pursue careers. The two income trap is a lifestyle choice that people make. The cost of living itself (the money needed to buy groceries, petrol, electricity) is caused by systems prioritising profits for corporations and landlords over the life style of the average earner Whereas the desire to maintain a particular lifestyle, such as the middle class, is a choice people make. Does that mean single income earners have a harder time getting that desired lifestyle than double income earners? Yes. But that in itse…	/r/PurplePillDebate	26/07/26 12:36 AM
9	The cost of living crisis is in a large part contributed to by the ability of women to pursue careers. But who cares if men don't partner up with women? It's the economy! Why can't you just sacrifice for it?	/r/PurplePillDebate	26/07/26 12:16 AM
7	The cost of living crisis is in a large part contributed to by the ability of women to pursue careers. For the thousandth time that is not the case https://onlinelibrary.wiley.com/doi/abs/10.1111/jors.12336 https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Lump_of_labour_fallacy Wealth inequality and cost of living increasing coincided with the world's increasing number of billionaires and trillionaires But men want their tradwives and bangmaids so they have to blame women somehow	/r/PurplePillDebate	25/07/26 10:37 PM
2	We pathologize male passivity in dating but reward female passivity and nobody can explain why without circular logic Either way the one who wants the relationship/sex/ casual more is going to have to be the one who puts in more effort to get one.	/r/PurplePillDebate	24/07/26 11:15 AM
11	We pathologize male passivity in dating but reward female passivity and nobody can explain why without circular logic Men who want a relationship need to do something to get a relationship Women who want a relationship need to do something to get a relationship. Often men seem to want relationships more than women so the advice to be active is directed to them more. Men also tend to be more willing to approach women than be single. Women not so much. That's it. That's the market. Is there some gender role stuff around? Yes. Some men don't like it when the woman doesn't let them chase. Some women specifically wa…	/r/PurplePillDebate	23/07/26 09:56 PM
1	Would you like to live in a post gender society? Social constructs are part of evolution but that doesn't mean that the current social constructs are always good You can call it nonsense if you want, but acknowledging that things are not set in stone means that gender roles aren't always biologically hard wired And it removes stigma and barriers from those who don't follow stereotypes	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/07/26 10:47 PM
1	How do you define a female friend? Honestly both the coworker or the friend/hobby group works It's not a red flag so as much as a way to check that the guy has generic social skills with women. The sexist and misogynistic will show up during the relationship regardless. Best way to filter that is to bail any time he says or acts sexist	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/07/26 10:35 PM
2	Would you like to live in a post gender society? It's not a waste of time and it's not necessarily impossible. At the very least weakening it and making people admit that it's a social construct and not this biologically hard wired thing would help.	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/07/26 10:09 PM
4	Would you like to live in a post gender society? Yes but socialisation in childhood probably plays a part in how we are later on in life. I just think we should abolish the concept of femininity and masculinity. Just let people be whatever they want however they want. I don't see why this is such a horrible thing.	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/07/26 09:51 AM
6	Would you like to live in a post gender society? Not really. People still raise girls to be feminine and boys to be masculine We still have "scripts" to adhere to in society. We still have the concept that femininity is nurturing instead of it being a gender neutral concept.	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/07/26 04:41 AM
–	The Red Pill Will Never Have Good Prescriptions Because Its Historical Claims About Gender Are Wrong. I think redpill being conflated with traditionalism and being taken to the extreme is the problem here I disagree with almost all of the way redpill sets it's beliefs. Generally because I think evo-psychology is full of utter crap. And because every redpill man I encounter are bitter, angry incels. But RP could calm down and talk in a way that's nuanced instead of wahmen evil, all women are like this no exceptions, last minute resistance type stuff they wouldn't get so much resistance And I'd th…	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/07/26 04:15 AM
1	When is it fair to say "you should have chosen better"? Often when we talk to each other it's with the hope that you can be reflective of behavior And exactly how does the redpill mantra of "choose better" show hope of "reflection" ? Because often they're aggressive, joyfull about a woman getting her just desserts or interrogating her about how she probably just had vagina tingles. So no. I do not believe that often we talk to each other in the hopes of reflection. It's often with glee about someone else's suffering.	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/07/26 04:03 AM
1	When is it fair to say "you should have chosen better"? It depends on the information Most women I know are not with abusive men. But there are asshole men or incompatible men Most of the ones prone to asshole men tend to be because they themselves are assholes. (I grew up in the bad neighborhood. In most cases they're all bad at relationships). And there are women in relationships who get hurt because of incompatible men And it's often disagreements over things like lifestyle choices or differences in how much effort or affection people want to give…	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/07/26 04:01 AM
1	When is it fair to say "you should have chosen better"? It depends on the objective, the phrasing and the information available. For example a woman find out a man cheated on his past partner and then gets cheated on. What are you aiming to do? Are you aiming to help her choose better next time? Then it might be "girl, this is why cheaters are bad news. Next time, don't give one the time of day" Are you aiming to hurt? "Your fault. Choose better" Let's say a woman gets pregnant and the man doesn't want any part of raising the child. Are you aiming to…	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/07/26 01:18 AM
7	Would you like to live in a post gender society? Yes to both Let people just do what they want, how the want.	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/07/26 12:26 AM
1	"Some men aren't given the opportunity to show off their personality" is a victim narrative myth and a red flag. I think it's a fair statement, though fairly defeatist. I think not everyone is good at first impressions, for a variety of reasons. And a lot less people are good at first impressions online. And a lot of people have attractions that don't respond well to online dating (like me. All my relationships ended up being through social circles. I never clicked with the apps) In an environment where many relationships are based on first impressions, some people are going to struggle. I do think that th…	/r/PurplePillDebate	20/07/26 01:32 AM
3	"Some men aren't given the opportunity to show off their personality" is a victim narrative myth and a red flag. That's not fully true. A lot of people click and find partners better when meeting organically. There's a reason one of the easiest ways to meet partners was during school or university. You just met a lot of people who were mostly around your age and could easily form bonds. It's a lot harder to do that online. Another is that first impressions do matter. And attractiveness helps in that respect. There are people who shine after you meet them two or three times. And there are people who general…	/r/PurplePillDebate	20/07/26 12:08 AM
2	Q4W: Do you think men were better at some point in the past? If so, when exactly? No. Men are better today But also women don't need men as much as they used to. And there's a lot more awareness of how shitty past men and systems were. No more excuses.	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/07/26 06:07 AM
–	I genuinely believe most women would be happier if they put more emphasis on trying to start a family. Maybe. Maybe not. The thing about kids isn't just "giving up a career". It's the fact that you give up things like free time, socializing with your friends, have to stress about money more and deal with 24/7 screaming, crying, vomitting and shitting. Not to mention the sleepless nights. Not to mention if you have even one issue or stress in your marriage/partnership a baby will exacerbate all those issues And that's if you have a partner who's an equal parent. That's not counting the whole "I'm …	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/07/26 04:48 AM
3	Are power imbalances in relationships really that bad? Because you'd still have a job after divorce. If you don't have a job you will have a harder time in getting back into the job market. Even if you do get back in you are at a disadvantage. And unless you married very rich (which is not likely) then alimony isn't much Athe average man can't pay enough alimony for it to compete with actual income	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/07/26 09:59 AM
13	how frequently you turned on about men you see in public ? PPD men: men and women are different! That's why men like barely adult virginal women and women like older experienced men! Also PPD men: women don't have same sexuality as men. Women must be broken and wrong!	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/07/26 09:57 AM
2	CMV: Women shouldn't complain that men don't pull their weight in cooking + cleaning + parenting based on dubious self-reported statistics when they are willing to pay men for it. Or they can leave and not stay with the man Not sure what the issue here is	/r/PurplePillDebate	15/07/26 11:29 PM
20	CMV: Women shouldn't complain that men don't pull their weight in cooking + cleaning + parenting based on dubious self-reported statistics when they are willing to pay men for it. Pay you for what? Not my fault you can't finish a sentence	/r/PurplePillDebate	14/07/26 08:01 AM
10	CMV: Women shouldn't complain that men don't pull their weight in cooking + cleaning + parenting based on dubious self-reported statistics when they are willing to pay men for it. How exactly is it a rip off?	/r/PurplePillDebate	14/07/26 07:19 AM
20	CMV: Women shouldn't complain that men don't pull their weight in cooking + cleaning + parenting based on dubious self-reported statistics when they are willing to pay men for it. Okay In that case men shouldn't complain if women choose to not date them, leave or divorce over it	/r/PurplePillDebate	14/07/26 07:09 AM
2	Women are emotionally more resilient and self-reliant as single women do not whine, cry, complain, and moan about being lonely nearly as much as single men do. I don't believe so Many single women are also lonely. However there are a few protective factors at play. It's generally accepted that on average women are better at keeping their social connections. And those social connections tend to be more emotional than men's. Which is to say women talk about their feelings and issues to their friends. What that means is that women who are single are having at least some of their emotional needs, met. Women also tend towards lower libido than men. So sex i…	/r/PurplePillDebate	14/07/26 02:55 AM
1	Women use the internet as proof to judge men but never themselves. Now do how many murders and killings men have done total vs women have done total. The specific scenario was femcels vs incels. Femcels can't murder their own children. Since by definition they aren't having enough sex to give birth to any	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/07/26 10:11 AM
–	I feel like men being the sole providers is an unrealistic expectation in 2026. Paid work is overall more burdensome on an individual. I disagree. I'd rather do my paid work than cook or clean. But some people have different tolerances for different types of work. My main issue with this arguement is that men (and society) value paid work more than unpaid work. While still insisting that women be happy with doing more unpaid work even if it's not as valuable. Just because that's the way it's always been. Just seems like a raw deal no matter how you look at it.	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/07/26 04:50 AM
4	People want for relationships is strongly tied to what they have been taught and culture Part of it is cultural I agree. But also a lot of people like the idea of coming home to someone they love. To have someone to talk to or chat. I've heard from a lot of older single people that it's generally nights when it gets harder. When you come home from an activity and then there's just sleep, chores and nothing else. The flip side of course is that it's peaceful. There's no responsibility and you don't have to deal with the other person. I think most people would be happier with a good r…	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/07/26 02:48 AM
2	Men are more ethical, we don't sell our bodies This guy: women made a decision to sell their bodies. They can choose not to. Also this guy: men can't control their horny. So it's not our choice to pay for sex work. I present to you the more ethical gender everyone!	/r/PurplePillDebate	12/07/26 11:45 PM
2	The disparity between good men and good women I think the problem isn't even with "good men" or "good women" I think the truth is that most people aren't compatible with most people. And good partners look different for everyone. I know someone who's definition of a good partner feels suffocating. Because they're the we do a lot of things together type. But they're happy. But I find the man suffocating as all hell. But she loves the fact that he always wants to be around and she reciprocates by going to his things. Meanwhile I want a man th…	/r/PurplePillDebate	11/07/26 11:08 PM
19	I feel like men being the sole providers is an unrealistic expectation in 2026. I have never met a woman who wanted a full provider. I think the idea is that if you want a woman to of more housework and all that stuff, you better be making full provider money. Otherwise no deal.	/r/PurplePillDebate	11/07/26 10:37 PM
2	Men who want women to do more housework and childcare should be pro-alimony, pro-child support, and support access to divorce. No one is saying that she gets to retire with now Just that it leaves her in a vulnerable position Then where are the women who are willing to accept the sacrifice when men want to be the primary caregiver? Lots of reasons. Male dominated fields then to earn more, so often if someone stays home it's the woman Women primarily need to take time off work after pregnancy. Easier to maintain the status quo Cultural and religious reasons why don't women agree to be workhorses and slave over a hot tax …	/r/PurplePillDebate	10/07/26 07:56 PM
5	Passport bros is the only real solution for average and below average men. And men and women should agree with it There are always the gold diggers and visa diggers among the population If transactional is your thing then go for it. I don't care	/r/PurplePillDebate	10/07/26 07:32 PM
12	Passport bros is the only real solution for average and below average men. And men and women should agree with it As a filipino woman no one cares. Most rich/middle class city dwellers don't like them. Some date foreigners but they're generally foreigners that would have partners in their own countries too. Not losers. The amount of complaints from passport bros that now you need to find some rural provincial woman to escape feminism is the funniest thing	/r/PurplePillDebate	10/07/26 07:13 PM
2	Men who want women to do more housework and childcare should be pro-alimony, pro-child support, and support access to divorce. I knew a woman who was a stahp and who's husband cheated on her. If she divorces she has barely any retirement, a 30 year gap in her resume in an economy where people making 6 figures are applying for admin roles. And getting denied. Oh and cooked and cleaned for 30 years The man has experience, a job and mandatory contributions to his retirement. But heu I guests the man was the one who took the risk here. Not her. And I've never heard of permanent maintenance in the country I've lived in eithe…	/r/PurplePillDebate	10/07/26 07:09 PM
4	Men who want women to do more housework and childcare should be pro-alimony, pro-child support, and support access to divorce. The problem isn't about the current state. It's what happens if the marriage ends. That just leaves the woman out in the cold. If she sits all day and you divorce early you won't be paying much in alimony. If she does her housework and childrearing for 20 years and gets divorced she leaves with almost nothing. And no career to fall back on. And no half marital assets isn't going to get her to retirement unless the man is a millionaire. You can say that it was her choice to make herself vulnerabl…	/r/PurplePillDebate	10/07/26 12:18 PM
10	Why do women so drastically change their mind about marriage? Personally my vows did not include for richer or for poorer My vows were about partnership. Because the person who stops acting like a partner first is the one who broke the spirit of the vows. Not the one who leaves. Not the one who files. The person who stops putting in the effort to be a partner.	/r/PurplePillDebate	09/07/26 09:59 PM
–	Most women don't consider themselves average, and that's a problem There's a difference between believing you are average and having standards. If a below average woman only wants a man who treats her a certain way that does not mean she thinks she's above average. She would just rather be single than have lesser standards. Yes there are women who are arrogant. There are also men who are arrogant.	/r/PurplePillDebate	09/07/26 04:42 AM
–	Why do women keep getting into situationships? Yeah see that's the thing. When I was younger I wasn't wanting anything serious in the sense of "I want to settle down, marry you and have babies with you" I wanted a relationship in which we are clear that we like each other, are a couple, expect couple things from each other and are generally "going steady". If we move in together we are "going steady" but splitting the room and the groceries. Maybe if we keep going we can think about marriage or more long term commitment. For some reason peop…	/r/PurplePillDebate	09/07/26 04:19 AM
2	Politics matter in dating, why the red pill is political,and why women generally reject the red pill. Redpill will say "women are shallow and care about status and income. Being a good guy doesn't matter" Which obviously isn't true. For most women being a good guy is important. It's being a good man with a combination of other attributes. The fact that you didn't realize that what l said was something redpill men say proves that the issue isn't "believing in blue pill lies" It's that they zero in on one or two things and then take it to the extreme. It's like "women listen to their gut and sense…	/r/PurplePillDebate	09/07/26 04:14 AM
8	Politics matter in dating, why the red pill is political,and why women generally reject the red pill. One of the things I find (IRL) is that most women would agree that income, looks and social status do influence dating. And they are part of attraction. The problem is that redpill is abrasive about it and thinks it's only income, looks and status. If I said social skills, charisma and competence are attractive to women would you agree? Because social skills, charisma and competence are all aspects that make up someone's "social status". Men like social status too. They're just in denial about i…	/r/PurplePillDebate	09/07/26 12:19 AM
2	If you don’t go to clubs/bars you can’t say you want to get women/being introverted is a choice I see your point but I think it's overblown. At least where I live There's a lot of meet up groups and sports groups still going around. Quite a few have free entry or $2-5 entry. A lot of them even have casual "social drinks" which if you buy one drink is $5USD (I think. I'm not in the US). A lot of people I know complain about not having a lot of friends. At work I always hear "oh I only have one or two" or "I'm jealous you're always have things to do with your friends" But everyone also knows…	/r/PurplePillDebate	08/07/26 04:50 AM
–	why does predatory behavior toward young girls continue to be such a persistent issue, with men Is it just men? Because I don't think men are inherently more predatory than women. More violent yes, not necessarily more predatory. Lost of cases of female school teachers having inappropriate relationships with their male students Look at the prime minister of France I also think that partially women have been socialized to look at older men than younger men. Particularly due to gender dynamics. Women's sexuality were also generally repressed. But now you also have cases of cougars looking at…	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/07/26 10:38 PM
0	Why do women keep getting into situationships? If I am wrong and there is more that you believe men expect from women as commitment, by all means do share, if I am wrong I would like to know it. My perspective is based on couples who live together, which often means women have a higher burden of chores and house management. I honestly don't care what men expect from women or vice versa Don't like what you're getting? They're not improving your life? Break up. I don't frame is as do women/ men "deserve" commitment because it puts a moral fram…	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/07/26 06:48 PM
0	Why do women keep getting into situationships? Commitment is almost universally a big price the guy has to pay in the form of time, money, investment, and effort, while she gives very little back in return, ant at any point she can take all he gave her in his commitment, and just up and leave him for another guy within the week. In return most of the price of commitment that women pay is to just not fuck other dudes The price of commitment that women pay is to not just fuck other dudes? I disagree with that but if that's your perspective the…	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/07/26 05:39 PM
10	Why do women keep getting into situationships? I find it happens every time a girl breaks up a situationship Even ones where they were explicitly casual. Girl wants more Boy does not want more. Girl breaks it off Boy acts like she dumped him My personal favourite was the guy who said that she was leading him on. He was the one who didn't want a label.	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/07/26 09:14 AM
13	Why do women keep getting into situationships? Then they can find someone else for easy sex. Way I see it if you want casual or situationship, you can't get angry at someone for treating you casually. That's sort of the point of casual. He owes her nothing. She owes him nothing. If the relationship didn't mean anything to a man, he can't really be angry about the loss of a relationship. Because there wasn't one	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/07/26 04:43 AM
12	Why do women keep getting into situationships? Maybe, but then I don't understand why they get so angry when people want commitment and leave the situationship.	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/07/26 04:38 AM
24	Why do women keep getting into situationships? Being honest? Most of women have been told that men hate commitment and that it's so uncool to want a label. I find that this has gotten much worse as both sides avoid the "what are we" conversation. Because they don't want to look uncool or they're scared of confrontation. The only solution is that we need to stop caring about what's cool and have the courage to have difficult conversations. If a man says he doesn't want to put a label on it? Take it as a no he doesn't want a relationship. Not …	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/07/26 04:19 AM
–	The "Don't Tell Me What to Do" Myth Once again redpill has arrived to the wrong conclusion based on the inability to look at nuance. Most women do not want to make all the decisions all the time. And most women do not want to be told what to do all the time and have no input. Sometimes I don't want to decide what's for dinner or where to go. I make enough decisions as it is. But I'd probably say "not pizza" or something. But if he assumes that's the case all or even most of the time? Hope he's got a divorce lawyer ready. Also the …	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/07/26 03:26 AM
2	if given two options, 99.9% of women would choose the shy guy over a serial killer Exhibit B	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/07/26 02:14 AM
2	if given two options, 99.9% of women would choose the shy guy over a serial killer I think the best way to explain it is: I love the idea of paragliding. It's the closest thing we will ever get to flying with our own wings. I have always fantasized of doing it I am also scared of heights. I can't walk on those transparent glass floors on high buildings. I couldn't walk up the Eiffel tower. Not because it was physically tiring. I regularly do 4 day hikes. But because I looked down and freaked out. Then had to walk back down and take the lift up. But it's a fantasy I'm not stupi…	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/07/26 09:38 PM
6	Weaponized Incompetence isn’t intentional. (In general) I agree that there needs to be communication. I also believe that men aren't stupid. If I say for the 5th time that cleaning involves mopping the floor, and the answer is still "I don't know" or "I forgot" then I'm going to give up I've personally managed this by being pretty straightforward with men. If you show genuine effort by action (I don't have to remind him as often. Things are cleaner) I won't get mad. I'm happy to ask or sit down with you to make a list, but he needs to sit down with m…	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/07/26 06:47 PM
14	For the most part, the idea of "unpaid domestic labor" either doesn't exist or isn't relevant I think that its less about a good marriage and more about what happens in a divorce or when things go sour. Like it or not, in this world not having an income leaves you vulnerable. You're at the mercy of a partner. Great if things work out. Catastrophic if they don't. No two ways around it. Also most couples I know all work 40 hours full time. Which means any unequal hourly split in chores and raising children should be seen as bad.	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/07/26 05:51 PM
3	if given two options, 99.9% of women would choose the shy guy over a serial killer Exhibit A	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/07/26 11:48 AM
6	if given two options, 99.9% of women would choose the shy guy over a serial killer It being consensual doesn't change the nature of the fantasies and desires behind it. This is not giving me any comfort that men can successfully seperate fantasy from reality And that they wouldn't use said sexual fantasies to justify abuse and manipulation.	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/07/26 11:44 AM
5	if given two options, 99.9% of women would choose the shy guy over a serial killer Because there's a difference between fantasy and reality. If a man want to dominate sexually I don't care. So as long as it's safe and consensual sex. The problem is that men would use women's sexuality to justify abuse. Enjoy rough sex? Well then you can't be raped and murdered (look up Grace Millane) If men want to have a nuanced conversation they need to never use that to justify pressuring women into sex acts they don't actually want to do in real life. So what if women read erotica. Even bd…	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/07/26 11:31 AM
13	if given two options, 99.9% of women would choose the shy guy over a serial killer I think the problem is how it's framed by redpill men. And with those guys you give an inch and they'll take a thousand miles Say a woman admits there's something sexy about a man being dominant in bed Watch how men use that to justify abusive behaviours, rape and how women all secretly want to be submissive.	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/07/26 09:22 AM
0	Unpopular opinion: I think asking for a live-in relationship before marriage is a red flag—for me As a woman I refuse to legally commit to anyone without being as sure as I possibly can be I want a test run first. Minimum 3 years of living together. You're right that women perform more domestic duties on average. I would prevent that by moving in with them and seeing how they do chores. And leaving when they don't. I want to see how they are when they go to bed angry Living together is a test run on how they handle day to day life. And whether I like that or not	/r/PurplePillDebate	05/07/26 06:49 PM
2	What should be the appropriate punishment for a paternity fraud? It's not about whether I like it or not I'm actually all for mandatory paternity and genetic testing at birth, if it weren't for privacy concerns. It's about the fact that proving fraud legally still require evidence of intent and evidence of knowledge. The burden of proof is fairly high. Not to mention lawyers are costly. Governments probably don't care enough about that to subsidize it, because they don't gain money from it. And unlike theft or assault the perpetrator wouldn't be a "danger to …	/r/PurplePillDebate	05/07/26 07:32 AM
6	Do most women feel they have to restrain their sexuality to find a compatible man? Yes and no. No I do not change my behaviours because it damages my chances of "future partners" In saying that, because I know I would be hurt if I had sex with a man and he left after, I do change my behaviour. I don't have sex until I'm reasonably sure this is progressing towards an actual relationship. That means I wait a while. Have men left because of it? Yes. Do men online get angry at it? Yes. Do I care? No Means I've never been pumped and dumped. And I generally always get the relationsh…	/r/PurplePillDebate	05/07/26 04:23 AM
–	Life as a woman in west is so much easier My problem is women whining and complaining about getting sexually assaulted when they can literally just choose to not engage in activities where sexual assault is likely to happen in the first place. Okay fine. I will do none of these activities. I will wear only clothes that cover my shoulders down to my knees If I get sexually harassed once in that time, then your statement is false and you have no right to have that problem I won't even go out to the "hood". Just the place in what we consid…	/r/PurplePillDebate	05/07/26 03:51 AM
-1	What should be the appropriate punishment for a paternity fraud? Yes, the law is used to enforce criminal accountability. You don't need to "prove intent" because the intent is already there. Yes you do. That's literally the point of court https://beresfordlaw.com/how-to-prove-fraud/ I'm not saying that paternity fraud should be legal. But I don't think it can be done wholesale the way you think it can be. Because intent to deceive is part of the burden of proof Remember the burden of proof is always with the accuser. Any lawyer could argue "the timing could …	/r/PurplePillDebate	05/07/26 03:41 AM
–	Why do female friends flake more than male friends and why do they want to hang out less? Maybe you just don't have the correct female friends for you I drop all friends that are flakey It's pretty easy	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/07/26 09:58 PM
–	Why do female friends flake more than male friends and why do they want to hang out less? Maybe you just don't have the correct female friends for you I drop all friends that are flakey It's pretty easy	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/07/26 09:58 PM
2	What should be the appropriate punishment for a paternity fraud? Again this isn't about "accountability" It's about legality Yes obviously we all know she is morally wrong in that case. Yes obviously she's a bad person Yes she should take accountability But that's not the argument here The argument is about fraud In which case there needs to be evidence of willfully and knowingly concealing paternity. Which is not always easy to prove. Men are supposed to be "rational" and "logical" gender. So use that logic. It's not about personal accountability. Say it wit…	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/07/26 09:56 PM
-2	What should be the appropriate punishment for a paternity fraud? Cheating doesn't mean fraud If I got overpaid, didn't notice, and spent the money. I didn't commit fraud. I just didn't pay attention. You need to be able to prove that the woman had intent to deceive. It's literally the same case as rape. You need to prove beyond doubt the lack of consent. In the same case you need to prove beyond doubt the intent to deceive. That's what fraud is. Otherwise you're just making having sex or cheating illegal. Which I'd then say if you do that, make cheating illeg…	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/07/26 08:31 PM
3	Bachelorette parties No wants to be embarrassed because their partner is a stingy loser at a club. All jokes aside, being an asshole and not compensating workers is unattractive and unacceptable in a partner.	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/07/26 07:34 PM
12	Honestly, to what degree do you want double standards? I don't want a double standard because I'm a woman I want to be treated according to my personality, strengths and weaknesses. Sometimes that's linked together, but often it is not. I am capable, reasonably intelligent and have my own opinions. That means I want to be treated as an equal in terms of decision making. I am the higher earner, so I do not need a provider. I am organized and slightly neurotic. As such my role in the household tends to be the manager of the budget, the payer of bills,…	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/07/26 10:00 AM
8	Passport broing is unfairly demonized That might be true, but that doesn't change that a lot of them do. And for many men it's better to at least try that way than other more harmful, like blackpill No, not really. Even passport bros tend to try and find a "rural" or "provincial" girl because they think women in the big centers are too feminist for them Turns out women who are educated don't like them. Filipino women in the main centers tend to go two ways. Either they're about as feminist as women in your average Western city, or t…	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/07/26 09:47 AM
10	Passport broing is unfairly demonized Oh my God. As another Filipino woman, everytime i hear about men coming to the Philippines for a girlfriend, wife or sex I physically cringe. And if you go to the ex-pat subs all they do is complain about our culture, language and food. I can generally tell the difference between a loser back home or a genuine ex-pat in about 5 seconds. As a Filipino woman who lives in a western country, when I was dating, I tended to drop the fact that I'm super feminist in the first 5 minutes of a conversation…	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/07/26 09:41 AM
1	What do you have to offer? I offer enough to get married. If you don't think a woman has anything to offer, don't date them. If the juice isn't worth the squeeze then don't squeeze.	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/07/26 09:35 AM
6	Bachelorette parties I've never been to one with a male stripper and I've been to a few. In saying that, they exist and I've heard about them too. I guess the key is communication and trust between couples. And figuring out your boundaries. Personally I don't care. He can see a stripper at a strip club for events. So as long as he's respectful and tips well he can do whatever he wants so as long as there's no actual sex involved. And we know this because it has come up. And when we had that discussion we agreed that…	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/07/26 04:14 AM
2	CMV: Many men are genuinely intimidated by successful women because it disrupts traditional relationship dynamics. I think it's largely due to how it's historically framed Often women have been taught to make themselves smaller so that men would like them. And that men liking you was more important than anything else That means that the knee jerk reaction can be rooted in that framing. The problem isn't me being too much, the problem is that men can't handle someone successful. If you mix in the manosphere framing of men wanting a nurturing woman or an "agreeable" women. Or how a woman's success doesn't matt…	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/07/26 04:12 AM
8	CMV: Many men are genuinely intimidated by successful women because it disrupts traditional relationship dynamics. I think some do, but not all. There are a lot of men who are intimidated yes But there are also men who don't jive with that. There are men who aren't into the careerism and the corporate world. These guys tend to be the guys who clock out at 5pm. They work to live not live to work They'll never be "successful" in the sense of being rich and they don't seek out women who are successful either. I'm on that level too as a woman. No more career advances for me. Anything more will eat into my peace,…	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/07/26 02:37 AM
10	If you are the type of feminist to call men paranoid or closeted creeps for not wanting to approach women, while also praising men for following the "cross the street rule," then you are clearly a hypocrite with an agenda. Yes and no. What is creepy anyway? A lot of the time is a behaviour that society deems to be inappropriate and conveys ill intent. Most of acceptable social behaviour is a result unwritten rules in society. People pick this up when they're young, even if you can't articulate it. There is no objective benchmark for "what is leering". It's just looking too long. But what is too long? What's the objective benchmark for standing too close to someone? Why am I allowed to directly ask to touch a stran…	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/07/26 01:30 AM
3	Men are told to open up more. The only thing they open up about is women not fucking them. And then wonder why it's backfiring 🤦‍♂️ I think it's about how close you are to the person obviously how good that person is with complex issues. Like both men and women can be bad at that. If a coworker said "how are you" and someone replied "horrible my son just died" well that's awkward and generally not polite Certainly casual friends and very early relationships are probably not people to talk about your issues with. The deeper the relationship, the more they actually care And of course there will be people who arent equipped for…	/r/PurplePillDebate	02/07/26 06:06 PM
4	Mongolia shows that traditional masculinity and relatively high gender equality can coexist. You're equating traditional masculinity with toxic masculinity. There's nothing wrong necessarily with "masculine" behaviours or hobbies. Football, wrestling, being physically strong etc. The problem tends to lie with how masculinity is expressed and how it's used to keep women and non-masculine men down. Alpha bro toxicity, demanding a submissive wife, bullying or demeaning gay men or "feminine men" For that matter we then question why many of the traits that are markers of just being an indepe…	/r/PurplePillDebate	02/07/26 01:23 AM
3	Passport broing should unironically be illegal There's a difference between financial abuse and human trafficking and a transactional relationship. If the man is being financially abusive (controlling her finances, refusing to let her work etc) then that's bad. Two people in a transactional relationship (sex and affection for money and a visa) then that's fine. As a woman from the developing world I find passport bros and their Asian/ submissive waifu fetish gross. But you know what? There are some women who manage to leverage that for a bet…	/r/PurplePillDebate	01/07/26 09:09 AM
16	As a man who struggled to orgasm with partners, I really think the discourse around orgasm gap is unfair. Well maybe that's true. Maybe it is something about how women are brought up that makes it harder to orgasm. I've never had issues myself, all issues did come down to someone not listening to me, not taking direction, or not into giving oral. And with new men my rule used to be you don't get yours until I get mine. Weeded out everyone who didn't take direction or who wasn't compatible. But let's say you're right. It's an internal thing. Fact is, I'm still not enjoying sex that much. If I don't e…	/r/PurplePillDebate	01/07/26 09:03 AM
–	Having low standards doesn't make you charitable, and it's not correlated with the ability ti love deeply I stand by the seemingly obvious idea that if people didn't select their partners with so much emphasis on finances to begin with, financial problems would be less destabilizing to marriages. I understand what you're saying, but I'm thinking it's a symptom not a cause. The cause is that this person values a particular kind of financial lifestyle. This desire leads them to include "finances" in their choosing, which will of course also increase the chances of finances putting stress on the marria…	/r/PurplePillDebate	01/07/26 08:08 AM
3	Men and women fail to take accountability fairly equally The problem is that men seem to think "acknowledgement" means "acknowledgement to the men of reddit by recounting all my issues publicly" Conversations can be "I had issues with men who treated me badly and I have decided to not let that happen anymore" And men are all like "but why did you end up with him! Bet with the tingles. Lol Chad. Why did you stay so long? Etc etc etc etc" None of which is a helpful. Putting up boundaries can be accountability (AKA when dating and a man does x I leave). …	/r/PurplePillDebate	30/06/26 10:31 PM
16	If you are looking for an obedient wife the red pill probably won’t get you there. Oh? Because from what I can see men conflate the needs of the family unit with "what I want" quite frequently. Things like "my job (and money) is more important than staying close to family and the wider support system" (and then when the wife is depressed in a new city/country it's her fault some how) Or "I get to spend $100 in the pub drinking after work, but you're wasting money on a haircut" Or "I know you want to go on a date and keep romance alive but I'm too tired for one $20 each dinner"…	/r/PurplePillDebate	29/06/26 11:23 PM
24	If you are looking for an obedient wife the red pill probably won’t get you there. Yeah one of the things my more religious cousins get taught is that if they want to be a sahm or be in a relationship where the man is the Captain The man has to be someone "Christ-like" That means people who don't demand or ask for obedience. He had to lead by walking the talk, being patient, kind, caring, loving and putting the needs of the family unit first He has to be be emotionally and mentally mature. Someone who won't resort to dominance, anger, whinging or guilt tripping to be followed.…	/r/PurplePillDebate	29/06/26 10:39 PM
–	Wives who don’t have regular sex with their husbands should never have married him Hmmm... Perhaps it's easier to then say: I can't be annoyed at a man. Because being annoyed at him doesn't make me want to have sex I can't have lingering resentment. That generally only happened once and it was because I got resentful about the cleaning. I told him I was never going to nag. But if it's not done I will do it myself. And if I find myself doing more than 50/50 I will be resentful and leave. I left. I don't want to do it when I'm stressed. Good for me I'm generally not stressed and…	/r/PurplePillDebate	29/06/26 07:43 AM
–	Wives who don’t have regular sex with their husbands should never have married him I do. In fact I'm fairly open about what I like and don't like. Most men tend to be on board with the whole "sex needs to make me happy too to want it." I've never had any issues at all.	/r/PurplePillDebate	29/06/26 06:01 AM
–	Wives who don’t have regular sex with their husbands should never have married him Well that's sort of how I feel when men bring up sex. If I'm stressed why would I want sex? Cue men whinging about their needs, feeling unloved, how women are "witholding sex" etc etc I'd rather sex be fun and mystical too. But I refuse to end up with a man who complains about his sexual needs when I'm going through some shit. If I have to de-mystify it, I will.	/r/PurplePillDebate	29/06/26 04:38 AM
–	Why can't women be funny? Nope If women can't bitch about any jokes men can't bitch about any jokes. Includes jokes about religions, cultures and countries. Sorry not sorry. If I'm not allowed to find anything offensive neither are you Why can't you take a joke?	/r/PurplePillDebate	29/06/26 04:03 AM
–	Wives who don’t have regular sex with their husbands should never have married him Sure. Either way. I don't want a man who complains about his "needs" when I'm hurting, stressed or uncomfortable. If they can't deal with a temporary hiatus when a kid is born then I want out. Also tbh I'd expect them to be pretty tired and touched out too because I am not being primary care giver. I told my husband that he had two choices if we have a child. He can parent 50/50. Or we can divorce and he gets 50/50 custody. If I am up feeding the baby, you get up and change the diaper. If I don'…	/r/PurplePillDebate	29/06/26 04:02 AM
–	Why can't women be funny? Okay. In that case men should stop bitching about jokes as well. I don't want anyone getting about their penis, when their masculinity is insulted etc etc Men need to be able to stop getting their panties in a twist when women make jokes about #male tears or choosing the bear. Take the jokes on the chin and move on.	/r/PurplePillDebate	29/06/26 03:50 AM
–	Wives who don’t have regular sex with their husbands should never have married him Put it this way I don't know how I would be either. So he has to be prepared for the possibility of no sex for a while. If he can't handle that, tell me now. So I can leave and have children with someone else.	/r/PurplePillDebate	29/06/26 02:17 AM
–	Wives who don’t have regular sex with their husbands should never have married him I don't know. I'm not a man. They have agency They can choose to not have that kind of relationship and leave if they're unhappy. Ask men why they choose to stay in relationships where they aren't happy with the sex. They're free to be single	/r/PurplePillDebate	29/06/26 02:16 AM
2	Women Love Objectification, When It Benefits Them Okay then. By that logic there is no sexualization or objectification of women in burqas. No woman in Afghanistan has suffered from objectification since their clothes are optimized to hide them from the male gaze. Which means if I Google search "sexual assault" or "sexualization" or "objectification" I will find zero results from Afghanistan. Correct?	/r/PurplePillDebate	29/06/26 12:59 AM
–	Wives who don’t have regular sex with their husbands should never have married him Honestly the way I see it when you decide on having kids everyone should be aware that children will cause stress and exhaustion. Women tend to react to stress and exhaustion with lower or no libido. I don't care if men care it's a stress reliever. That's not how it works for a lot of women. So when talking about kids, you also need to talk about what having children would look like Who takes time off work? Will this affect the division of labour? Are we aiming for 50/50 childcare? Is mum primar…	/r/PurplePillDebate	29/06/26 12:55 AM
–	Wives who don’t have regular sex with their husbands should never have married him Not really. Is more that said sarcastic comment came across with the implication of "wahmen bad because we don't love magic penis". If you'd been more neutral with your statement, maybe you'd have gotten a difference response Start out negative, don't complain when people get negative back.	/r/PurplePillDebate	29/06/26 12:50 AM
4	Why do women treat their male friends so differently? How different are we talking about here? If I went on a holiday I would be more comfortable sharing a room with a female friend than a male one. Would you consider that "unfair"? If it's just vulnerability and emotional chats I'll treat them the same. Previous experiences have led me to learn that men can mistake friendship for romantic interest. So before I allow a man vulnerability and emotional chats I tend to make it very clear that there's no interest there. Words like "well you're like a b…	/r/PurplePillDebate	29/06/26 12:47 AM
–	Wives who don’t have regular sex with their husbands should never have married him If that's how you see it. If I don't desire sex I will not have sex. I will only desire sex if sex is good for me. Sex has to feel better than video games, reading books or going out with my friends. Otherwise I'll just do those other things. And to feel good for me I need to be comfortable, not have any negative feelings, and yes have an orgasm. Pressure me into sex that I don't want, will make sex even more undesirable. Because now it's either a chore or something that makes me uncomfortable a…	/r/PurplePillDebate	29/06/26 12:16 AM
–	Wives who don’t have regular sex with their husbands should never have married him I actually kinda agree (within reason). Figure out if your libidos match early on. If they don't, better to break up. That said if you communicated this early on and the man agrees to stay, at that point he really can't complain about his "needs not being met" The issue from what I can tell tends to happen a lot when kids come in. Children are very stressful and for many women that stress drastically lowers their libidos. One of my friends told me it's like her body is on call to her baby - brea…	/r/PurplePillDebate	29/06/26 12:08 AM
1	Where is it ok to "cold approach" woman? If you have amazing social skills there are no rules. If you have no or low social skills. You shouldn't be cold approaching anyone	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/06/26 07:12 PM
12	Why do women on this sub seem to consider pregnancy to never be worth it. It's not just pregnancy it's motherhood. I've seen too many mothers lose themselves. No time for their own physical and mental well-being. No time for friends, etc. I don't see this as often in men. They still go to beers with their friends or leave the house. My take? Men wouldn't consider children worth it either if they had to do the exact same childcare and had the exact same environment as women do I can already see the "but I'd be happy as a house husband!" Crowd. Or the "I'm already poor …	/r/PurplePillDebate	26/06/26 08:24 PM
1	Why should men feel sympathy for women’s right to an abortion? You never answered my question If the entire point of being pro-life is to preserve life, then why is there no pro-life lobby for mandatory organ donation? If someone else will die without receiving blood, cells, kidneys or any other organs then we should be able to take those body parts from anyone. Living or dead. Regardless of any physical consequences. After all otherwise you are effectively killing someone. So if not allowing a baby to stay in your uterus is kiling a baby. Then not allowing…	/r/PurplePillDebate	26/06/26 08:15 PM
1	Why should men feel sympathy for women’s right to an abortion? Really feel sympathetic for men after they come around denying me human rights	/r/PurplePillDebate	25/06/26 08:03 PM
7	Why should men feel sympathy for women’s right to an abortion? Well I came from a developing country. I met a child abandoned at an orphanage because his family couldn't afford to feed him. His parents are alive and they've even shown up to visit. But hey can't feed him and there's nothing anyone else can do about it. I know a woman who sees her children once or twice a year. Her job couldn't feed and shelter them and pay for their schooling. So she left her rural village to work as a maid in a big city. You can walk outside and see the street children livi…	/r/PurplePillDebate	25/06/26 05:10 AM
6	Why should men feel sympathy for women’s right to an abortion? So what? Now we worry about the consequences of no bodily autonomy? I don't care. Women have been left with life long issues because of pregnancy. Not to mention recovery. If we're willing to force those consequences on them to "save a life" we need to be willing to force consequences on everyone. People need a kidney and they'll die without one? Well you've got two and it's to save a life. Why is it okay to violate bodily autonomy for save an unborn baby's life but not to violate bodily autonom…	/r/PurplePillDebate	25/06/26 05:04 AM
1	Why should men feel sympathy for women’s right to an abortion? skyrocketing suicides, the skyrocketing rates of depression, Well I support mental healthcare and therapy. I care about suicides and depression. I just don't believe men are entitled to someone else's body and life. the skyrocketing rates of cardiovascular disease I support universal healthcare. Lots of men don't. Muh taxes. and have proved easy to mobilise into a voting base. Oh I think they're a problem all right. They just don't like to hear solutions that involve working on their mental heal…	/r/PurplePillDebate	25/06/26 04:51 AM
9	Why should men feel sympathy for women’s right to an abortion? I'm not arguing that it's not a life. A dying child who needs a new heart is also a life. But I don't see anyone forcing organ donations to keep that child alive. An already child elsewhere could have their heart used to save this other child. But we think people are allowed to have bodily autonomy even when they're dead. Again by that logic, no one should have bodily autonomy. Who can't we mandate organ donation after death?	/r/PurplePillDebate	25/06/26 04:47 AM
3	Why should men feel sympathy for women’s right to an abortion? Funny how human rights is an issue but not getting a date isn't.	/r/PurplePillDebate	25/06/26 03:31 AM
8	Why should men feel sympathy for women’s right to an abortion? . I just wish it was seen as a tragic but necessary medical procedure not the Identitarian political movement it is today. And who turned it into an identitarian political movement? What it is, is the right to be able to have a procedure done to my body. No one should have the right to my body except me. I say we either agree that people have bodily autonomy or we don't. If we don't have bodily autonomy I want mandatory organ donation. All non essential and usable organs should be considered pro…	/r/PurplePillDebate	25/06/26 03:29 AM
–	A woman's "bare minimum" is never just the bare minimum So if you were raised Catholic, you should be able to understand why people might be opposed to abortion besides "not believ[ing] [you] own [your] own body." If someone believes something is murder, they're obviously going to be opposed to it. I'm not saying I agree with the Catholic Church's teaching on abortion, but I'm saying I understand their perspective on the matter. Just because I understand a perspective doesn't mean I agree with it. And again why put myself in a position where our valu…	/r/PurplePillDebate	24/06/26 12:52 AM
–	A woman's "bare minimum" is never just the bare minimum would think most people wouldn't want their life partner to be someone they find obnoxious. Sure. But that's not your problem that's mine. Why should I care about what men in general find desirable? That's not what I'm looking for. If you and any future partner always go along with the prevailing opinions of the progressive Democratic activist base of the moment (or your country's equivalent), Who said I care about the progressive activist base? Again these are my values. If a man thinks that's …	/r/PurplePillDebate	24/06/26 12:49 AM
2	Excluding sons, do you have little to no sympathy for men? Because in that scenario they'd be a friend. Friends I tend to empathize with. But if course if they're being sexist then we aren't friends and I don't care	/r/PurplePillDebate	22/06/26 04:31 AM
2	Excluding sons, do you have little to no sympathy for men? Did I say it's not a big deal? I said they shouldn't say things that are sexist. If they're saying things that are sexist then why would I be friends with them?	/r/PurplePillDebate	22/06/26 03:42 AM
4	Excluding sons, do you have little to no sympathy for men? Have I said anything about venting frustrations? Have I said that they need to get over it? I said they shouldn't be saying incel shit. You know things like "feminism bad!" And "women need to date within their league" That's not voicing frustrations. That's being a sexist prick.	/r/PurplePillDebate	22/06/26 03:31 AM
2	A woman's "bare minimum" is never just the bare minimum To add, what does it matter if I'm obnoxious? I mean really what does it matter? This is about relationships. Dating for me isn't about finding a fling. It's about finding someone who has the potential to be a life partner. It's dating -> exclusivity -> relationship -> long term commitment -> life partner. every relationship is a potential life partner. Why choose a life partner with fundamentally different values? You said that different environments can lead to different beliefs I agree. Let's…	/r/PurplePillDebate	22/06/26 01:55 AM
7	Excluding sons, do you have little to no sympathy for men? Without "but wahmen unreasonable!" Or "feminism bad!" Or "sex is a need!" And certainly not "women are a net drain in taxes!" Or "wahmen need to date in their league!" It's fine to be lonely. It's fine to want someone in your life. It's fine to complain about not having dates or matches. It's not fine to be an incel/ manosphere	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/06/26 11:38 PM
14	Just pick someone else is silly. Okay then. Find one that will do that for your. Like I don't see the issue here. You don't like this behaviour or lifestyle. Either you find someone who will do that or find someone else. If you throw a tantrum and get angry because she won't change, that'll be in you.	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/06/26 10:51 PM
2	A woman's "bare minimum" is never just the bare minimum Sure. I actually don't care about that.	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/06/26 08:55 PM
9	Excluding sons, do you have little to no sympathy for men? I empathize with the problems and mental struggles of other people, regardless of gender. And yes mental illness and mental issues are hard to have. But also, it's that does not necessarily mean I, as an individual, owe men I don't like my time or body As for dating? Because men have poisoned the well on relationship problems. They turn into bitter neck beards or incense. And then talk about sex like it's food. They think that not getting relationships is oppression. I wouldn't be comfortable gi…	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/06/26 06:59 PM
2	A woman's "bare minimum" is never just the bare minimum Likewise, how much of your hatred is being fanned by people who'd rather use you as a pawn? Have you considered that, if you're being pushed to be strident and obnoxious, the goal may even be to push men away from Democratic politics and women's rights? Who said anything about my hatred? I'm Asian and grew up Catholic. Too many men have used that as a way to get their submissive asian fetish bullshit. You know how often I've heard the "I love your culture, you actually value family" shtick? And …	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/06/26 06:53 PM
1	Q4W: Are there any critiques of feminism that you believe are valid from a woman’s perspective? Feminists who exclude transwomen and feminists who exclude sex workers I critique. But also there are nuanced conversations about sex work that needs to happen. I absolutely do not believe sex work is in any way empowering and I do not believe it should be promoted. It's also a fairly dangerous line of work, and one that does not lend itself to longevity and stability. I just also believe that sex workers should have rights and be treated like everyone else. You shouldn't be demeaned for your li…	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/06/26 06:41 AM
3	A woman's "bare minimum" is never just the bare minimum And why is that a problem? Isn't it better if men who wouldn't handle a relationship with me.... Don't get a relationship with me? They're free to find another woman. That's the point of dating. Finding someone who you align with.	/r/PurplePillDebate	20/06/26 07:57 PM
7	A woman's "bare minimum" is never just the bare minimum Being single and having your arms torn off are widely different If being single makes you happier than being with a man who disagrees with you then I don't see the problem	/r/PurplePillDebate	20/06/26 07:43 PM
3	A woman's "bare minimum" is never just the bare minimum just think a relationship should still feel flexible and enjoyable, not like a contract with constant scorekeeping. This would be correct. However I have seen many men, especially on this sub, claim "constant score keeping" when they're just lazy Or they claim that their higher income means they get to do less chores. Their income probably isn't that much higher. Or that mowing the lawn once a month and doing a repair once every three months is the same effort as doing dishes every night. I can …	/r/PurplePillDebate	20/06/26 07:26 PM
10	CMV: women find male sexuality disgusting When men complain about women's sexuality (like you just did in your post). Many women need certain things to activate their sexuality, not just a man existing. When men complainin about this then they're finding women sexuality repulsive When men slut shame or degrade women who are sexual they are finding women's sexuality repulsive End alllllll of that and then we can talk	/r/PurplePillDebate	20/06/26 07:08 PM
3	A woman's "bare minimum" is never just the bare minimum In my relationship my husband has his chores and I have my chores. Those chores are about 50% of weekly or fortnightly house hold tasks (divided by hours). So as long as both sets of chores are being done, then things are roughly 50. While nothing will ever be exact, I'm tired of men splitting bills but not doing dishes.	/r/PurplePillDebate	20/06/26 07:06 PM
6	There's No Shame in a Man Wanting a Bangmaid Then maybe that should be a statement you tell a woman before you marry her so she knows what she's getting into	/r/PurplePillDebate	20/06/26 06:43 PM
11	CMV: women find male sexuality disgusting Tell you what. I will stop finding male sexuality repulsing when men stop finding women sexuality repulsing. No complaints about how women's attraction works (like responsive desire) No slut shaming No stigma No judgement on how women have sex ever Sounds good?	/r/PurplePillDebate	20/06/26 06:40 PM
3	A woman's "bare minimum" is never just the bare minimum If he got pregnant and breastfed I would. I'm not stupid. He's stronger than me, I can carry children. What dangerous repairs? That what we hire professionals for? What unpleasant tasks? Like plumbing? See above. But also if he doesn't 50/50 chores, childcare and believes he is 1% the man of the house he's getting divorced and he knows it.	/r/PurplePillDebate	20/06/26 06:36 PM
3	A woman's "bare minimum" is never just the bare minimum also believes people need to take sexual intercourse seriously and not sleep around recklessly? Not compatible with me but just doesn't want them pushing their ideologies onto him and forcing people to abide by their beliefs? Like what, giving them equal rights? Either you're okay with giving them equal rights or you don't. Full stop. End of story. not a communist belief of free healthcare for all? The fact that he thinks that's communist would make.it a red flag for me Not compatible with me. i…	/r/PurplePillDebate	20/06/26 06:33 PM
2	A woman's "bare minimum" is never just the bare minimum I don't care	/r/PurplePillDebate	20/06/26 06:29 PM
5	A woman's "bare minimum" is never just the bare minimum If the man made a decision in enough time for the woman to get an abortion if she wants to, signed away his rights, and never performs a takesies backsies then I don't care	/r/PurplePillDebate	20/06/26 06:29 PM
2	Do people have the right to prefer and seek out traditional gender dynamics, in your view? Because I believe that very few of those relationships are ethical. Some are. Those are the relationships where the man truly appreciates his wife's labour and ensures her financial well-being. Even if they divorce. My friend for example is a stay at home parent. But she has complete control of all finances, a pre-nup that details how much she's entitled to in the case of divorce, and he puts money in her pension that's equal to what he gets from work. It is as ethical as it can get because he i…	/r/PurplePillDebate	20/06/26 11:53 AM
–	If you had to assign a %, how much would you say your attraction to a guy is who he is and how much of it is what he does for you? This makes no sense. To me they are one and the same. If a man did not treat me or approach in a way that is attractive, nothing about him is attractive. There is 0% attraction. My entire attraction is based on how happy and comfortable I am	/r/PurplePillDebate	20/06/26 11:45 AM
16	A woman's "bare minimum" is never just the bare minimum Politics are a sign of core values My core values are equity and equality. So for instance if you believe in one iota of gender roles we will never be able to build a family together. The moment you tell me "because you're a woman" I'd file for a divorce. And the moment you tell my daughter to limit herself by 1% because of her gender, I will file for 100% custody and drag your name through the mud. Because I believe in equity and equality I would also 100% divorce any man who does not treat my …	/r/PurplePillDebate	20/06/26 11:41 AM
5	men DO care about a woman’s income Agree with you for the middle class and the rich. Yes for some of them they'd prefer a stay at home partner, particularly for the early years where day care eats up all your income. And it's not the dealbreaker that it would be for working professionals or middle classes. After all if you're already poor you don't have too much farther to fall. But it does depend on whether they're "hustle culture" poor or not. A lot of lower class immigrants for example expect working partners or degrees partne…	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/06/26 04:35 AM
–	Why obsess over women with terrible boyfriends? Okay then here's a different thing. A woman requires a morally good person. She also requires a man that is attractive. She says that being good is important to her Is this supposed to be something you should "call out?" Let's say she says "I want a good man who is also attractive and funny". And someone calls her out for wanting a man that is attractive, would you then "call out" that person? After all they're the reason women "lie" about what they want right?	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/06/26 06:29 AM
–	Why obsess over women with terrible boyfriends? I mean this is the nicest way possible. Are you autistic? Because most people know that women do appreciate kindness the most. With the caveat that the man is actually someone they're attracted to. And before you go around about "virtue signaling" then you also need to change society's cultural norms. If you get called rude and socially punished when you say "he's kind but not attractive" or "I want a kind man but he has to be attractive too" then obviously you're going to use context clues and …	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/06/26 05:40 AM
7	Would you truly enjoy and appreciate arelationship that goes against gender norms of men providing and protecting? I'm already in this relationship. Wtf even is a sidewalk rule? Men stand in front in lifts? I have never even heard of this But he does need to do acts of love like being affectionate and considerate.	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/06/26 05:33 AM
–	Why obsess over women with terrible boyfriends? Why can't women want both? I'd never date a man who I seen morally bad. But I also want someone who is fun to hang out with. I don't see how claiming that you want a good person* is virtue signaling if it's actually true. If you think most women actually don't want good people please show me stats. *Good person as in someone who I kind, decent and doesn't randomly kick puppies. Having tattoos, piercings, partying, or swearing does not make a man bad. Please make sure you mean actually morally ba…	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/06/26 04:20 AM
–	Why obsess over women with terrible boyfriends? Good can be morally good But in many cases a good personality also means "someone who makes me feel good when I am with them" For example someone who is funny and makes you laugh Or someone you just inherently vibe with Or someone who is confident Or someone who makes great conversation If you are morally good but I don't enjoy your personality then it won't work. This does not mean that I want an asshole or a douchebag. It means I want someone who is both morally good and who makes me feel good…	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/06/26 04:07 AM
–	Why obsess over women with terrible boyfriends? You can’t expect society to ignore your objectively flawed dating choices by saying that you can do whatever you want in dating. I didn't. Dating bad people and claiming you value moral goodness the most (which most women do) Source for this claim? One thing I also find on this sub is that men can't seem to find the difference between "morally bad" and "man I don't like" and "man they personally perceive to be morally bad." I'm 30 years old. I am a millennial women. Everyone around me has tattoo…	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/06/26 02:14 AM
–	Why obsess over women with terrible boyfriends? The entire nuance is even if are the kindest guy the girl might go for the drug dealer because that's what attracts her so you can't do anything about it. Red pill always filters such a partners at the start. Seems to me that that's the exact kind of girl they want to attract. The girl that wants a drug dealer. I think red pill usually talks from the privilege guys perspective and average man should copy them to have more chances. Again please refer to: - girls like assholes - AWALT - spin plate…	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/06/26 01:31 AM
–	Why obsess over women with terrible boyfriends? Is it? Because what I hear from redpill is: muh hypergamy women are the oldest teenager in the house everything is looks and income women love bad boys because vagina tingles. Redpill can come talk to me when they learn nuance.	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/06/26 01:21 AM
–	Why obsess over women with terrible boyfriends? I think the problem is we need to divorce "good guy" from "someone I want to be in a relationship with" One of the things that is great about modern society is that people can function as independent individuals. Relationships are voluntary. Relationships and long term relationships, is hard. It takes work to make something last. You have someone else to consider now. So what that means is that the goal isn't "good man" or "good woman" or even "good person" The goal is "someone who makes the wor…	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/06/26 12:23 AM
9	women choosing terrible men/ choices with full information is one of the oldest documented patterns in human history. And yet they aren't. Because boys will be boys	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/06/26 04:39 AM
8	women choosing terrible men/ choices with full information is one of the oldest documented patterns in human history. The 24 year old was a kid? Please. And he was convicted and found guilty. They just didn't want him to suffer jail time for the sake of his future The 16 year old "juvenile came from a good family and had good test scores.” so that's where the leniency was?	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/06/26 03:04 AM
9	women choosing terrible men/ choices with full information is one of the oldest documented patterns in human history. https://people.com/crime/nj-judge-says-teenager-rape-deserves-leniency/ https://edition.cnn.com/2026/05/26/uk/uk-rape-charges-teenagers-sentences-reviewed-intl https://www.bbc.com/news/world-europe-46207304 https://www.vrt.be/vrtnws/en/2025/04/01/medical-student-convicted-of-raping-another-student-escapes-sent/ However, he is still young and has no criminal record. He is also a talented and committed person both in his professional and private live. By finding him guilty but not punishing him, h…	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/06/26 02:55 AM
1	Is a man being nerdy a turn off? Indifferent I am a nerd. I enjoy nerd things But is he spending too much money on collectibles or tech? Is he spending so much time on his hobbies that it becomes more of a priority than things like chores? Do I feel like his hobby is more important than spending time with me? Being into nerd things doesn't tell me much. I've met nerdy guys who were great partners. I met nerdy guys who ended up divorced because he kept complaining that taking care of their newborn cut into their gaming time (ign…	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/06/26 02:39 AM
7	Independence is not as good as people make it out to be I don't think "being able to rely" on someone and "needing them" are the same thing. I can trust and rely on my husband knowing that he is fully capable of doing something or being someone. But while we can help each other and be relianikn each other I don't believe we should ever be dependent on each other to live. I don't need him to be happy But I am happier with him. If he becomes a person I can't rely on or who makes me miserable, then I can do without him. Like I want a life partner. If he…	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/06/26 02:11 AM
22	Why are there so many career driven woman that still expect a very wealthy man to provide for their lifestyle with no sacrifice whatsoever? But using the hypothetical instance of being a mother ONE day as a way to always have that situation in play rubs me the wrong way. Good for you. But here's the nub, as you approach your late 20s -late 30s women do need to start thinking about children. Because that's when they're likely to have it. Now if you're both commited to being child free, then sure whatever. But if a child is possible, why is it "bad" for a woman to make her expectations of what that would look like clear? Maternity lea…	/r/PurplePillDebate	15/06/26 03:06 AM
7	If Men Had Understood Hypergamy, Would They Have Supported Feminism? One - if a relationship is "fair and equitable" for all involved then by definition you need at least equal voting rights, equal work rights, and equal consequences. No relationship without the legal protections of feminism is fair or equitable full stop. Some men here will say that protecting women's right to work is unfair. I would agree. But only if the system in and of itself has zero bias towards men. That means that in the whole country, no man with equal stats will ever be chosen over a w…	/r/PurplePillDebate	15/06/26 02:59 AM
10	What’s the most controversial negative opinion you have about your own gender? Yeah. I have seen way too many women be "I don't want to be the crazy bitch that over reacted" or "I just want to give him another chance because things were going so well" And yeah sure they're not actual monsters or abusers of men. But they can be douchebags. Or self-centered or selfish. Lots of them feel inconsiderate. And guess who ended up breaking up with the men anyway after 2 - 5 years? Waste of time. You only live once is actually a motto that some of these women really need to internal…	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/06/26 06:41 AM
–	Woman, would you date a detrans man? Why or why not? The problem isn't questioning their gender identity The problem is if they might still be questioning and whether this issue affects their life now and in the future. This isn't PC to say, but I'm straight. Which means if they change their minds again its not worth it. And I'd never sign up for dealing with someone with a lot of damage and/or baggage	/r/PurplePillDebate	12/06/26 03:27 AM
–	Ladies, how do you justify shaming men for watching porn, while at the same time labeling men who don't want their girlfriends to watch porn as insecure? I don't care about porn use so as long as it's not affecting me. My only issue is the ethics involved in porn. But I'm sure there are ethical websites for that	/r/PurplePillDebate	12/06/26 03:10 AM
2	Do young women have their sexual partners vetted by family members in 2026? Oh my God why? Has anyone seen that oil show where the dad basically tells his daughter that they have a contract? The contract is that she lies to him and says she's a virgin (even though it's false) and he leaves it alone so as long as no one is getting hurt. Even if she gets pregnant she need to lie and say she's the virgin Mary. Absolutely no one should have the say in anyone's sex life as long as it's safe and consensual. And no one is underage. Relationships? Vetted isn't the right word fo…	/r/PurplePillDebate	12/06/26 03:08 AM
9	Are women really don't like male attention only because of safety issues? It's not just about safety it's about how it's presented. I have been hit on many times by lesbians and in general they aren't aggressive and back down very quickly. Men I associate with men screaming from cars, openly saying lewd things, being aggressive and touchy. Even online men will defend the concept of piercing out on someone. Looking isn't a crime! But women tend to be more subtle. I do feel flattered by men's attention sometimes but only when it's expressed in ways that make me comforta…	/r/PurplePillDebate	12/06/26 03:02 AM
10	If feminism and patriarchy didn’t exist, but you had to choose between marrying the love of your life and being a homebody all day and having no friends, or being a career women yet never meeting the love of your life or getting in any serious relationship, which would you choose? I think I enjoy having being married and having the love of my life. Life would be much lonelier and without him. But a life with no friends and being a homebody? That's just a life of misery and loneliness. I would never choose that option. At least as a career woman I can go out, have friends, and have hobbies. Even if I would be lonely at times, at least I'd enjoy my life. Get myself a house full of pets to keep me happy maybe.	/r/PurplePillDebate	12/06/26 02:58 AM
5	Discernment needs to be reworked. Its because of how you've phrased it What you've said is: Red flags don't work because people can just learn them and get around them and adding a sentence about how flas are just flaws What that implies is that red flags don't work so don't use them If you said "we need a system that strengthens the net so that it's easier to spot people hiding their red flags" then maybe you would have received a better response My view is that figure out your boundaries. Anything that is outside of that is a …	/r/PurplePillDebate	11/06/26 07:35 PM
4	Discernment needs to be reworked. Seatbelts don't prevent every death, so stop wearing them. Brushing your teeth doesn't prevent every cavity so don't bother doing it I refuse to date a man who believe in gender roles. Can someone lie about it? Yeah. But also if they do lie and it comes out, guess who's filing for divorce!	/r/PurplePillDebate	11/06/26 06:42 PM
1	If men benefit from marriage more, why do women pressure for it? I'd like to think it's a lot more egalitarian these days. But the OP was asking for why the "narrative is thaten benefit from marriage." Personally the real issue is generally tied to child rearing. However you slice and dice it, women tend to be the ones who take time off work for childcare. This leads to lower incomes and lower financial stability. And that leads to increased vulnerability. All I'm saying, is that when children happen, make damn well sure you're financially covered. If you are…	/r/PurplePillDebate	11/06/26 04:04 AM
6	Freedom in relationships Interesting. Genuinely why couldnt him or any hypothetical man you are with go to the bar with you? What changes of he went and why do you need to go without your hypothetical partner? he can if he wants to. But if he doesn't want to I'm not going to stop going out on his account. I'm a social person and I'm out of the house a lot. Many of those friend groups involve men. Either we both go out or I go out. Either way I'm not going to stop doing things I like because he's insecure. And if I'm hav…	/r/PurplePillDebate	10/06/26 02:51 AM
2	Freedom in relationships Relationships include compromise. Any compromise is less freedom. Whether that compromise is good, easy or worth it is up to you	/r/PurplePillDebate	09/06/26 05:10 PM
-5	If men benefit from marriage more, why do women pressure for it? Never said that. Not my problem if you project	/r/PurplePillDebate	09/06/26 08:45 AM
-3	If men benefit from marriage more, why do women pressure for it? Go ahead and feel sorry then	/r/PurplePillDebate	09/06/26 07:54 AM
–	the manosphere tries to hide behind a false veneer of the "us vs them" "bro code" & brotherhood but the most awful asocial people i've met were fellow men. I didn't dispute that. I even put that in there. Men due to testosterone have a higher propensity for physical violence. Women will abuse verbally or emotionally instead	/r/PurplePillDebate	08/06/26 09:38 PM
–	the manosphere tries to hide behind a false veneer of the "us vs them" "bro code" & brotherhood but the most awful asocial people i've met were fellow men. Weirdly I am now defending men on this sub. Lol. Men and women are both awful and probably have the same amount of shitty people. However statistically men with social issues are less likely to mask in order to fit into society. It's why autism diagnosis is easier to pick up in men than in women. That just means that you're likely to come across more men that exhibit obvious asocial behaviours than women. I would also note that due to testosterone (more aggression) and higher physical strength m…	/r/PurplePillDebate	08/06/26 09:34 PM
–	I just needed to put this out. Yea and this is generally accepted by leftist PC culture while men complaining about dating women isn't. That's the difference. That's because of the way men complain about women. Honestly the fact that you people have no tact isn't a misandry issue.	/r/PurplePillDebate	08/06/26 11:03 AM
25	If men benefit from marriage more, why do women pressure for it? I would argue that men don't necessarily benefit more from a marriage, so as much as they might benefit more from a longer term permanent relationship with no legal responsibilities. Assuming both partners working full time, but with a fairly "traditional" chore division. What that means is they'll both work 40 hours, but the woman likely does more around the house, will take more time off work to take care of children, and may also need to deal with a man talking about their "sexual needs being…	/r/PurplePillDebate	08/06/26 06:27 AM
–	I just needed to put this out. plenty of objectively terrible people are in relationships. As I said, low mental and emotional health people get into relationships with other low mental and emotional health people. What kind of person would accept a relationship with a "terrible person?" Either equally terrible people or someone with low mental and emotional health who get taken advantage of. People have choices. They can: change themselves to fit the standards to the people they want lower or change their standards stay sing…	/r/PurplePillDebate	08/06/26 05:42 AM
–	I just needed to put this out. This is true. If hanging out with you makes me feel worse than staying in bed, why should I be your friend?	/r/PurplePillDebate	08/06/26 02:23 AM
–	I just needed to put this out. I think that in general, both genders have bad actors. Both genders will have people incapable of sustaining or being in a healthy relationship. And both genders have their issues, strengths and weaknesses. At the end of the day a relationship is meant to be something that brings joy or contentment to your life. A good, healthy, long term relationship is generally predicted by compatibility, affection, and one where both people are in a positive cycle of reciprocation. Generally those who have p…	/r/PurplePillDebate	08/06/26 01:52 AM
6	What do abusive men bring to the table? A few things - mental illness for one Another one is that some women come with trauma and abusive upbringings or come from complicated family dynamics. Those women normalise abuse and have a hard time breaking the cycle. There's also a psychology to trauma bonding. If that up and down rollercoaster of emotions is what you associate with love, then that's what you will look for. It takes a lot of work to undo that damage. And for some women, they just don't.	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/06/26 09:41 AM
3	Weak males need protection like other minority groups That too	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/06/26 07:11 AM
7	Weak males need protection like other minority groups Would this government also offer women with the same support if they have no children and are similarly unemployed or in low income jobs? Remember that generally the arguement about women gaining more in taxes is generally women who take care of children and the elderly. And female dominated jobs tend to earn less than male ones. Women who have no children tend to have the same support by the government as men of their same ethnicity. Scholarships and supposed DEI target women who are already ac…	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/06/26 06:29 AM
7	Weak males need protection like other minority groups Okay so it's not necessarily about "advocating for weak men" it's about culturally encouraging women who are naturally dominant to be dominant. Which in theory means those dominant women would be more encouraged to partner with submissive men. But this will still lead to some "weak men" being excluded. There's likely two categories of dominant women the rich woman who wants a trophy husband. the provider women who wants a nurturing house husband A rich woman who wants a trophy husband probably w…	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/06/26 05:41 AM
–	If a woman hesitates on a dna test then you HAVE to assume she cheated. I would leave. I believe in trust. I trust him, he trusts me. If he stays overnight with another girl I won't even question it He questions my loyalty even once? He's divorced and out the door.	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/06/26 04:27 AM
3	Weak males need protection like other minority groups If other minority groups etc can have exclusive dating communities, so can we i believe. Please explain how this works? Minority communities with exclusive dating communities are there because they are attracted to each other. They just need to find each other. Gay people find other gay people Christians to find other Christians. Exactly how do you do this with "weak men" And what are we defining as weak? Keep in mind that a "weak and childlike" woman is favoured by some men because they want to…	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/06/26 04:25 AM
6	Weak males need protection like other minority groups Define support	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/06/26 04:18 AM
24	Women are being scammed by the empowerment industry harder than men are by red pill, and it's not even close Nugget of truth - consumerism is bad regardless of which gender it's marketed to The rest... Hyperbole Women can decenter men and be "liberated" without being consumerist. Men and Women should have the option to spend their own money on things they personally find fulfilling. Like traveling or hobbies. Or even going out with friends. I see nothing wrong with saving up and buying your own house, spending your money on books or yarn or baking, and seeing your friends. It's not about going clubbing…	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/06/26 04:17 AM
4	No one told men marriage was gonna be a nonstop fuck fest. Men don't expect to meet them in the middle though. They just get angry and annoyed if you deny them sex. half the dead bedroom stories are because of things like: we had kids and now I'm tired and stressed. You pressuring me for sex makes me more tired and stressed and now I hate the concept of sex Congratulations. You've created your own dead bedroom. And also, these days exclusivity is a talk people have. So yes actually you are owed exclusivity. You want to stipulate non-exclusivity if not e…	/r/PurplePillDebate	05/06/26 03:24 PM
1	Approaching random women is a waste of time I'm married so no. Did I used to? Yes.	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/06/26 10:58 AM
–	Most of the time men bring out serious complaints only to shut women up, which proves that they don't actually care At the moment men have control only up until sex happens (i.e. they have control over their own condoms) Then after that pregnancy happens inside a woman's body If we believe that people should have the right to bodily autonomy, then women should be allowed to terminate or not. Because it's her body. If she has the baby anyway, then the baby needs to be cared for. It's called the rights of the child after all. At the moment the solution for taking care of that baby's needs is to force fathers to…	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/06/26 09:14 AM
3	The Selectors Trying to Minimize the Privilege of Being the Selectors Yes. I like sex, I'm not asexual. And sex is important to me within a relationship But if a man value's sex more than they value my comfort they're not for me. And that's okay. And it's worked out for me.	/r/PurplePillDebate	01/06/26 07:13 PM
22	The Selectors Trying to Minimize the Privilege of Being the Selectors Well yes and no. I think most women could get sex if their standards were non-existent and they didn't care if sex would be painful or bad. Which I think is the key difference. Many men on PPD would be willing to have incredibly bad sex with an incredibly ugly woman. Because for them the sex itself is enough. They could hate the woman's guts, complain that she's extremely bad in bed and think she's incredibly ugly. And they'd still choose sex with her over no sex. This is why frat boys used to h…	/r/PurplePillDebate	01/06/26 07:39 AM
22	The Selectors Trying to Minimize the Privilege of Being the Selectors A lot of men on this sub struggle to understand women's sexuality and seem to think that women all seem to have men's sexuality and get angry if it isn't. For myself at least to even want to have sex I need: - physical attraction - emotional attraction - a feeling of safety - no stress and no discomfort - emotional safety. And part of emotional safety (for me) is knowing that a man likes me enough to have a relationship with me. Men seem to think that this is "having sex for the sake of a relati…	/r/PurplePillDebate	01/06/26 06:04 AM
19	The Selectors Trying to Minimize the Privilege of Being the Selectors I think a lot of this is skewed by the harmless but creepy or the discourse around men pumping and dumping. Or men just being around because they want sex. So for example if we are specifically just talking about pools, then yes women have more choices. I won't deny it. And on the surface, I would even also say that men having less choices does not guarantee those choices are good. On the other hand calling it a privilege or women have life on easy mode is a direct misunderstanding. First I need…	/r/PurplePillDebate	01/06/26 04:22 AM
–	Do You Lose Respect for Men Who Forgive Cheating? I have zero respect for cheaters. May they be lonely all their lives. Those who are cheated on? If they feel like they can't leave the marriage due to financial or custodial reasons, I don't lose any respect. If they stay because they believe the other person actually loves them, then yeah I lose some respect. In repeated cases, all respect.	/r/PurplePillDebate	01/06/26 02:47 AM
1	Do you believe that straight men and women can actually be fully platonic friends? I do. But boundaries tend to need to be established early. My group have never dated each other. Ever. People bring partners into the group, but no one dated within the group. One guy broke that rule once and that made everything so awkward. And we all hated it when they broke up. Legit after the breakup we all went to drinks together and talked about how this is why people shouldn't shit where they eat. 10 years this group has existed. People have come and gone and introduced partners or other …	/r/PurplePillDebate	01/06/26 12:29 AM
3	Do you think women are partnering with men less because they are being influenced/brainwashed my feminism now. Or do you think the reason women overwhelmingly partnered with men in the past was because they were influenced/brainwashed by traditional culture? is on the man and it's the woman's job to make the man's life easy for the benefit of the couple. The women who agree with this dynamic implicitly understand their role and put their ego aside, they will never challenge their husband's leadership role. Disagree. This is not always the implicit understanding of this role. In my culture for example many people take the stance that the man might be the head but the woman is the neck that tells the man where to look. My housewife grandmother would a…	/r/PurplePillDebate	01/06/26 12:13 AM
5	Sexism is bad, and “decentering” men and women leads to sexist echo chambers. Well yes. But decentering doesn't mean cancelling all sexual or romantic aspirations. It just doesn't put romance and sex at the center of your life. Literally the meaning of decentering. I'm a married woman. Lots of people around me are married or dating. It's just that none of us have ever centered dating in our lives. We did that before "decentering" was a word. And tbh I think this just a very succinct and easy way to say "I don't center Romance or sex. I center my own happiness. And if roma…	/r/PurplePillDebate	31/05/26 09:15 PM
2	Sexism is bad, and “decentering” men and women leads to sexist echo chambers. Disassociate and decentering are two very different things. But let's go with your logic. Decentering isn't good. Okay. What advice would you give that allows someone to prioritize their own life goals, refuse to care about any and all sexist opinions of the other gender, while also keeping in mind that they should try to love happy and full lives first. And while a relationship is good, you shouldn't make your self smaller and be someone you are not for the sake of a relationship	/r/PurplePillDebate	31/05/26 08:53 PM
2	Sexism is bad, and “decentering” men and women leads to sexist echo chambers. And all red pill men start of as wanting self improvement So self improvement is a pre-requisite to being redpiller.	/r/PurplePillDebate	31/05/26 08:46 PM
8	Sexism is bad, and “decentering” men and women leads to sexist echo chambers. But then decentering isn't the issue at all. The issue is sexism. Decentering is healthy. Self improvement is healthy. You should improve your self. If you fall into the redpill trap that's your own fault for being stupid	/r/PurplePillDebate	31/05/26 08:16 PM
8	Do you think women are partnering with men less because they are being influenced/brainwashed my feminism now. Or do you think the reason women overwhelmingly partnered with men in the past was because they were influenced/brainwashed by traditional culture? It's by definition not equal unless you are implying that doing housework with all modern conveniences has the same complexity as earning money for a full household in modern economy. If providing in money is inherently "more valuable" than being a housewife, why should a woman be a housewife? You can still respectfully treat your wife but both of you can acknowledge that earning money for a full household is way harder than taking care of household chores with all the modern technology that we …	/r/PurplePillDebate	31/05/26 08:14 PM
6	Do you think women are partnering with men less because they are being influenced/brainwashed my feminism now. Or do you think the reason women overwhelmingly partnered with men in the past was because they were influenced/brainwashed by traditional culture? So you're telling me that a SAHP dynamic can never be equal? Because that to me is a fallacy. I've seen SAHP dynamics where the provider treats his wife as an equal decision making partner and values her contributions to the household equally. He will, in fact, tell everyone that he thinks she workers harder than him and contributes more than him by creating a safe and peaceful home. He has ensured that she will always be financially secure by depositting money in an account only in her name. It…	/r/PurplePillDebate	31/05/26 08:03 PM
13	Sexism is bad, and “decentering” men and women leads to sexist echo chambers. Decentering in and of itself isn't sexist. Decentering just means living life the way you want to and not because the other gener wants that. If anything I think it leads to less sexism, because then it isn't someone going in and letting the other gender's sexist expectations run their lives. Like I don't care if men don't like my make up. So when men make side comments about what they like in women I just don't care and do what I want anyway. I don't care if men want a "nice agreeable woman". T…	/r/PurplePillDebate	31/05/26 07:57 PM
–	Does Saying “Women Don’t Need Men Anymore” Imply That Men Were Mainly Valued for Providing Resources? What in the actual lol. Mate it's very easy to look this up There's a percentage of women that will be high sex drive and bring up the stats. There's a percentage of women who don't and have either 0 or 1 sexual partners And then there's the middle ground who probably have 2-7 partners in their entire life. Assuming you live until you're 90 that's 1 partner every 22 years. Get a grip	/r/PurplePillDebate	31/05/26 07:26 PM
14	Do you think women are partnering with men less because they are being influenced/brainwashed my feminism now. Or do you think the reason women overwhelmingly partnered with men in the past was because they were influenced/brainwashed by traditional culture? No. Men die. Then what? What happens if his version of "take care" is provide money and nothing else? The version of taken care of that I want is a man who is emotionally intelligent, doesn't raise his voice, always values my contributions as equal to his no matter what, treats me as a fully equal decision making partner etc. The moment he even implies once about how hard he works to provide I'd be applying for jobs	/r/PurplePillDebate	31/05/26 07:21 PM
2	Paper abortion means giving all remaining advantage to men without leaving any to women Agreed. The only way paper abortions make sense is when women have equal agency. I think the problem with that is that people haven't thought through accessibility Let's say a 14 year old boy gets a 14 year old girl pregnant. For access to be equal to his default opt out then she has to be able to get to a clinic easy even at 14 That means she needs to be able to get to a clinic without a parent driving her there. She needs to be able to get to a clinic, in theory without having to tell her pare…	/r/PurplePillDebate	30/05/26 09:48 AM
6	Paper abortion means giving all remaining advantage to men without leaving any to women I'd agree, but only if actual abortion was free and it could be accessed super easily and with no barriers. Having men get the free, easy route seems ridiculous if women don't have the same free, easy route Literally every town would need to have a free, easy access to abortion. And men can't go and do a takesis backsies after the kid was born. I knew so many deadbeat dads who said they didn't want to have kids come back at 14+ years going "but I'm the dad! You can't keep my kids away from me!" …	/r/PurplePillDebate	29/05/26 06:39 PM
1	If you need to build or raise her interest she doesn’t like you I guess the question here is how do you use the term "settle?" For me "settling" implies that I'm with someone because the alternative is being alone or worse. I also think that in essence I wouldn't like to be settled for. No, I am not perfect. But the implications there is that if someone better had come along, I wouldn't be the person they were with. They'd choose someone else over me. I don't like that framework at all. When I date someone I'm not thinking of "the ways they could be better, …	/r/PurplePillDebate	29/05/26 04:52 AM
1	Women insist that femininity is unfairly seen as inferior while they refuse any ideas about having power over men. I personally don't care about the downsides. I'm a 30 years old man with no college education and no trades I learned. Further to my previous point. You're saying you personally don't care about the downsides because you're already in a low wage job. Which when we are talking about value you're essentially saying that a low wage job is about equal value to being a stay at home parent. Logically you've actually made the case for why it's not power and nor is it particularly valued Would your feel…	/r/PurplePillDebate	29/05/26 04:34 AM
2	Women insist that femininity is unfairly seen as inferior while they refuse any ideas about having power over men. And again, we could say that femininity IS already rewarded with this extra additional opportunity, which is widely speaking much more available to them than to men Again. Nothing to do with "additional opportunity" if they were not actively rewarded for it by society with some sort of power. Since she is not being awarded power, rather an "opportunity" to give up power then it does not count Are you sorry for my opressive conditioning too, or.. Yes I am. Even if you were not actively discrimina…	/r/PurplePillDebate	28/05/26 08:32 PM
4	Women insist that femininity is unfairly seen as inferior while they refuse any ideas about having power over men. If you chose to be essentially the support of an individual, that person is basically your "employer", it's between you and them. Like, who else should pay you? The government? Then they should pay my depressed uneployed brother too who lives with his parents whenever he washes the dishes. At least a little, right? I'm not saying it's right or wrong I'm saying that it's a traditionally feminine job that is not rewarded legally or economically by society. By definition being a stay at home parent…	/r/PurplePillDebate	28/05/26 07:32 PM
4	Women insist that femininity is unfairly seen as inferior while they refuse any ideas about having power over men. Put this way If i work a job and provide for my self (considered masculine) sure i could lose my job, but I can apply for a new one, I could use my savings to move countries etc. I also get to buy myself what I can within my purchasing power If I have no job and I am at home doing the stay at home mum thing (considered feminine), if my husband chooses to not give me money I can't do anything about it. If he raises his voice I can't do anything about it. If he cheats on me, I know that when we di…	/r/PurplePillDebate	28/05/26 07:10 PM
8	Women insist that femininity is unfairly seen as inferior while they refuse any ideas about having power over men. By having legal and economic systems giving traditionally feminine traits actual power Actual power is not power that is affected by someone else's whims. Money for example. If I had a lot of money I can buy a lot of things: good food, good housing The more money I have, the more powerful I am. For example Elon Musk. Soft power (men catering to the whims of women for example) is dependent on the feelings and wants of a man. It doesn't matter how good or nurturing or feminine you are if your husb…	/r/PurplePillDebate	28/05/26 03:13 PM
1	Approaching random women is a waste of time I never said it was efficient. Just saying that there aren't rules to it really. The "rules" people talk about "don't approach here, only approach when..." Only happens because people aren't socially capable. The more socially capable you are, the less rules apply.	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/05/26 11:57 PM
3	Approaching random women is a waste of time Regardless of your social skills is the biggest problem* here For example who decides what is respectful and honest? Respectful tends to mean backing off once discomfort has even shown. But if you can't sense the discomfort because its not overt it won't end well at all. And men can argue that women need to be more direct or women need to do this or that... But that's not going to help the man in that situation right there now is it? What's honest? What if what is honest for you is a whole scree…	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/05/26 02:23 AM
6	Approaching random women is a waste of time If you are socially capable and good at reading the room and adjusting you can ask people out almost anywhere except work. Because by definition you are able to make the conversation comfortable, easy and can easily pick up on signals that tells you she's not interested. If you are not socially capable, the answer is nowhere because then cold approaches are the equivalent of cold callers who won't let you hang up the phone. And it will range from making her uncomfortable, to annoying her, to mak…	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/05/26 01:28 AM
3	The lower birth rate in places like Sweden is good. Psychologically unhealthy individuals shouldn't have children. I actually think the conversation isn't necessarily about whether low or high birth rates are good or bad. I think that accessible and affordable contraception and abortion should be a right and enshrined as part of healthcare. But we should also be looking at the different reasons people are having children. Because those choices aren't made in a vaccum. Yes some people naturally just don't want children. I don't think that makes them psychologically unwell. Some people are just not up for that…	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/05/26 01:14 AM
29	Why do women on social media say that ghosting is safer? I'll be honest... Because everyone is a coward I'm not entirely sure why a text message saying no to a second/third/fourth date is so unsafe. They already have your details, so it's not like it's any less safe now. You can just say "sorry didn't feel the vibe" or something Likely it's two things: people are uncomfortable giving bad news people are afraid the man will pressure for more details that they don't want to give.	/r/PurplePillDebate	26/05/26 12:15 AM
–	Women supporting Isabel Rose proves that feminism is a cult and doesn't care about justice Okay. So how many people showed up to support her. Then I want you to count how many people voted for Donald Trump	/r/PurplePillDebate	25/05/26 10:01 AM
–	What would happen If science someday proved or suggested that housewives were healthier and lived longer than women who go to work and are finantially independent? that you can't imagine women being ungrateful for a man's economic contribution, which I find curious, given that you did recognize that "most human beings have a tendency to be ungrateful." Because in our current capitalist society money is power. If a woman is ungrateful to a husband who works hard that makes her a bad wife. But she still has less power than her husband. In the event of a divorce he has a stronger financial position. Sure it could hurt him, but he can certainly recover faster …	/r/PurplePillDebate	24/05/26 03:04 AM
–	What would happen If science someday proved or suggested that housewives were healthier and lived longer than women who go to work and are finantially independent? Women, and especially girls who express a desire to be a housewife, are treated as though there is something fundamentally wrong with them. I've found that very rarely gave I heard anyone treat it as fundamentally wrong Generally it depends on the conversations or how it was framed. A woman who might have expressed an opinion that women should stay at home or a belief about women's roles or whatever that might be will be met with disdain yes. For obvious reasons Women who express a desire to be …	/r/PurplePillDebate	24/05/26 02:06 AM
–	What would happen If science someday proved or suggested that housewives were healthier and lived longer than women who go to work and are finantially independent? If my choices are be financially dependent and less money vs a shorter life I'll take the shorter life. Seriously. The amount of stay at home mums who were left with nothing because their husbands died, cheated, or has to stay in absolutely miserable marriages before women gained financial independence is staggering. And you know what, unless you married a millionaire no amount of divorce or alimony money is going to be enough to live on and compensate for loss income. Not to mention not hanging…	/r/PurplePillDebate	24/05/26 12:46 AM
–	How important is sex? Either safety nets are rights or safety nets shouldn't exist for anyone That means that as a society we should be okay with children dying and starving in the street, elderly people dying in the street and if anyone is injured at work or is disabled they should also be thrown out on their own.	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/05/26 04:41 AM
–	How important is sex? in fact, they hurt more because they live longer than men But men seem to be okay with that because they don't value child rearing, education, social work and other roles. Way I see it either I'm belittled and told that I should be grateful for men's taxes (women are a net drain on taxes) or were both fucked. Why should I suffer and you not? Want children? Pay for them	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/05/26 02:06 AM
–	How important is sex? I agree with you about no one holding a gun to our heads about children I'm coming to realise that men and society really don't value child rearing and taking care of the elderly. If society doesn't value the sacrifice (being a net drain on taxes because of children or other support roles) I really wish women would come to their senses and stop applying for those roles and stop having children. Women should say that unless society counts their contribution as something as important as money then…	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/05/26 01:42 AM
14	Q4W: Is attraction fixed, or does it adapt to what’s available? I assume it can adapt because a lot of what is attractive is defined by culture. If your culture prioritizes lighter skin or an athletic frame those are what most people will be attracted to. In saying that, if the community around you doesn't reflect what is considered "attractive" then I'm not sure if what happens is the bar of attraction goes lower or if people just settle because those around them are "good enough"	/r/PurplePillDebate	20/05/26 02:37 AM
2	When responding to TRP discussions about how society IS, 🔵BPers constantly shift from “how society IS” to “how society OUGHT to be”, and it kills real discussion The problem you're having is equating the thought process of looking good as advertising for male attention. Like I want to look good, and yes generally that's following whateber society culturally says "looks good" But I absolutely do not care about men. It's not for them. I'd rather they ignore me and my outfit entirely. I want the attention of my girls and my gays. I genuinely do not want men to feel anything when looking at me. I am happy being an NPC in their lives.	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/05/26 11:42 PM
13	Women, that defend feminists as not hateful/misandrist/biassed, have you asked them any questions on reddit? Probably the same answer? This is literally a very mainstream response in just about every feminist subreddit	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/05/26 11:45 AM
11	Women, that defend feminists as not hateful/misandrist/biassed, have you asked them any questions on reddit? Is misandry a real issue? Yes, just not the way redpillers and manosphereans seem to believe. I believe that society does men a disservice because we raise them into believing that they can't have emotions, aren't able to form bonds with each other, and that their worth is in sex and money. I also think that we should think about how boys are struggling in school. But its not just about boys but so as much as looking into how we can make school better for those who don't fit into the mainstream …	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/05/26 11:35 AM
3	Women need to cook If they are your partner. You would want them beside you for their hand picked food and if you care about them bringing money If they were my partner they would treat me like an equal and we would be equal partners. They would not demand I cook and I would not demand that they hunt. Because we would be in a relationship where household labour is divided equally and equitably. It feels so selfish to feed myself i want to share with someone special So cook for them	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/05/26 11:16 AM
3	Women need to cook Why do I care if random dudes don't want to enjoy a meal with me? And if you have a stomach to feed go ahead and feed it yourself You can't like a man is physically incapable of cooking. If a man is unable to cook by following a recipe he shouldn't be allowed to work any job that involves following instructions.	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/05/26 10:55 AM
2	Women need to cook It's as ridiculous as you claiming women have to cook If you hold me to old traditional standards I will hold you to old traditional standards So many men want a tradwife but aren't willing to be a trad husband. If a man wants me to cook, he better go hunt.	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/05/26 10:51 AM
20	Woman of Reddit. What is your usual response or reaction when you hear guys say "Women are too much work"? You're making sound like that would make me disagree. Yes if men want to go their own way they are free to do so The problem is that they never seem to just go their own way.	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/05/26 06:11 AM
2	Women need to cook If it's not that hard you do it	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/05/26 05:51 AM
3	Women need to cook I would then say that all men need to physically go out and hunt me dinnee for free with a spear or a bow and arrow. If you want me to adhere to old traditional roles I will expect the same. I don't want no office job. I want whole damn house, food on the table, but from a man who farmers everything by hand, builds everything by hand and hunts via spear. Otherwise the argument is invalid. I'd also say that parents who didn't teach their sons to cook are failures at parenting	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/05/26 05:50 AM
55	Woman of Reddit. What is your usual response or reaction when you hear guys say "Women are too much work"? I don't care. Dating and relationships are voluntary. Find maintaining a relationship is too much work? That's fine, don't have a relationship.	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/05/26 11:08 PM
7	Women, have no right to get upset at their man talking to other women, if they themselves are posting their pics on social media, going to clubs/bars, and not dressing modestly in public, basically "advertising" themselves Talking to other women is not the same as posting pictures, going to clubs or whatever the heck this is And tbh if you didn't like those behaviours don't approach a woman who is single and does those behaviours Don't want your gf to go to the club? Don't date a girl who likes clubbing Don't want a gf that dresses a certain way? Don't date her. It is so incredibly simple	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/05/26 11:07 PM
2	Go bag and DNA tests are equivalent I think you are right in a sense. The to go bag was necessary in previous times. I don't think it's necessary now unless you're with someone who is abusive. I think if you're a stay at home parent with children there are ways you can protect yourself from being in poverty if you end up in a divorce or if your husband dies. Things like pre-nups, ensuring your name is on the title of the house, child support etc. and all those things should be out in the open. I'm sorry if you can't talk about tho…	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/05/26 04:43 AM
–	Does your husband get any special treatment (sexually) that your exes didn't have access to? Or do they all get treated equally? What the actual fuck is that logic	/r/PurplePillDebate	15/05/26 07:52 PM
–	Does your husband get any special treatment (sexually) that your exes didn't have access to? Or do they all get treated equally? Do you know what sneaky anal is? It's rape You just lauged at rape and found joy in it Congratulations you are such a nice guy /s (in case the people on here are too stupid get sarcasm).	/r/PurplePillDebate	15/05/26 07:51 PM
6	When men and women say they have “no options” it means two completely different things I will say what I always say, no matter how controversial. Whether or not you think they have options doesn't matter. Whether you want a friendship, a relationship, Fwb, situationship, casual, or polyamory, the question will always end up the same. Is the juice worth the squeeze? That's it. That's all that matters. Baseline, you need to make the person happier with you in their life than without you. Full stop. It doesn't matter if you think they're punching above their league. It doesn't matter…	/r/PurplePillDebate	15/05/26 02:36 AM
4	Women will inevitably change after kids, if you can't understand this just don't have kids I made clear very early on the importance of trust. Any breach of trust ends the relationship. If he wasn't upfront about "sex on tap" or "more than once a week" would lead to cheating that is on him for being avoidant Make it clear what will happen in the event of less than "x amount" of sex or you're a coward and an avoidant. Dealbreakers on the table baby!	/r/PurplePillDebate	14/05/26 08:07 AM
7	Women will inevitably change after kids, if you can't understand this just don't have kids It's not avoidance. It's having self respect. I will never allow any disrespect towards me. And cheating is disrespectful. Standing up for yourself is courage.	/r/PurplePillDebate	14/05/26 08:01 AM
6	Women will inevitably change after kids, if you can't understand this just don't have kids Nope. If anything I'm so secure that as a woman I would leave immediately. I will only do relationship with full trust. I don't care if you're with another woman because I will take you at your word that you're friends. Hell, spend a night in the same room with one. I'm okay with that even Why? Because I am 100% sure you won't cheat. And I expect the same trust vice versa. I have 99% trust instead of 100%? Well, we have a prenup for a reason. I've ended relationships for less	/r/PurplePillDebate	14/05/26 07:57 AM
4	Women will inevitably change after kids, if you can't understand this just don't have kids Yes I would protest. Because I find having lots of cuddles, kisses and hugs more important than sex. But I won't be entitled to them in the sense that I will pressure someone to give them to me. I will just be honest and leave them. Men are free to do the same with sex if they want.	/r/PurplePillDebate	14/05/26 07:52 AM
5	Women will inevitably change after kids, if you can't understand this just don't have kids Or you get a divorce.	/r/PurplePillDebate	14/05/26 07:47 AM
1	Women will inevitably change after kids, if you can't understand this just don't have kids Not me that said that. Try again	/r/PurplePillDebate	14/05/26 07:42 AM
9	Women will inevitably change after kids, if you can't understand this just don't have kids On that case, why doesn't he prioritize my needs over sex? If indeed your partner's needs come at the top. Or does this only apply to when men want sex?	/r/PurplePillDebate	14/05/26 07:32 AM
3	Women will inevitably change after kids, if you can't understand this just don't have kids And tbh I always feel wary about "his needs" or "my love language is touch" If you need affection and love why aren't your needs being met by cuddles, kisses and hugs? Those are all intimate fun couple things. But somehow it's always sex Like I believe sex is important. I like sex too. I wouldn't be in a fully sexless relationship. But if your love language or your needs basically boil down to sex I don't want it. We aren't compatible	/r/PurplePillDebate	14/05/26 07:28 AM
8	Women will inevitably change after kids, if you can't understand this just don't have kids Well I was very attracted and jumped into bed immediately But also if I'm not happy, relaxed and fulfilled sex is just at the bottom of my list. And feeling pressured or having to be convinced into it is annoying. Some of us just aren't super sexual in that way. You might be. Not everyone else might be. Ever thought that not everyone is you?	/r/PurplePillDebate	14/05/26 07:24 AM
10	Women will inevitably change after kids, if you can't understand this just don't have kids If I'm stressed, mad, pissed off, resentful or tired I do not want sex If someone tried to convince me because for them it relives stress what it will do is piss me off Actually attempting to convince me to have sex after I've said no is likely to annoy me and delay the next session. And if it keeps happening it will lead to a dead bedroom. Because congratulations it's now a chore that I get annoyed by 🎉🎉🎉 Sorry not sorry. I have responsive desire. I need to be happy, relaxed, and not stressed t…	/r/PurplePillDebate	14/05/26 07:18 AM
1	To what extent do your friendships influence your expectations in romantic relationships? I think it can probably be boiled down somewhere to the fact you’re also trying to build or rather maintain lust/desire but in my mind by keeping to that minimum you’re half way there. I actually think it's the opposite. Most people start at attraction and lust. And love. But it turns out aren't down for the hard yakka once the honeymoon period disappears and life happens. Or when one of you are working towards something and they aren't. And yes, part of that is how you and your partner experien…	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/05/26 11:55 PM
1	Heterosexuals: would you date your best friend if their personality was put into the body of an attractive member of the opposite sex? No I love her, but we have different life goals, different beliefs, different wants. And living with her would be so annoying I'd break up within a week. For one she doesn't want children and I want one. Immediate deal breaker. I also don't like her parents. That's not a problem in our friendship because I never have to see her parents. I've seen them in person 4 times in 8 years. But once you're in a relationship that's serious enough that's family dinners and Christmas and birthdays.... I'd le…	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/05/26 07:51 AM
2	To what extent do your friendships influence your expectations in romantic relationships? A lot. To be my friend we have to get along, do things together and enjoy each other's company We also visit each other when sick, cook food for each other when people are sick or struggling, help each other move houses, be emotional support, validate emotions, but also give advice and tell them they're being dumb, have initiative and reciprocate hang out invitations, go on trips together etc etc etc If a man can give me all of that at a minimum and also: - do his fair share of the chores - be s…	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/05/26 06:35 AM
0	Has Red Pill Advice Made You More Successful in Sexual/Romantic Relationships / Dating? That doesn't correlate with all the other RP talking points though. RP literally has things like dread game, women are the oldest teenager in the house, overcome her last minute resistance to sex, all women are like this etc That's just general mainstream self improvement that can be found everywhere. Like I'm asian too, but moving on and not chasing nos aren't revolutionary at all. Yeah maybe the be shallow part isn't a thing, but tbh there were still fuck boys around my school/ university in a…	/r/PurplePillDebate	11/05/26 07:29 PM
14	The "you are automatically siding with the oppressor argument" is a perfect argument to show feminist women will never be ok with male indifference towards women. Intresting idea, but you're conflating two different ideas. MGTOW or decentering women is different from keeping silent against oppression. For example, I can decenter men from my life in the sense that I dont care for male approval. I dont change myself or do things because of men. If a man cares about me and shows that, I will reciprocate. But i won't go out of my way otherwise. At the same time, I would also believe that the default custody (except in cares of abuse, neglect etc) should by 50…	/r/PurplePillDebate	11/05/26 06:02 AM
–	The "Choose Better" debate always seems to devolve into defensive and/or deflecting off-topic discussions bad boy red flag willing instead of them the undesirable nice guy. This makes me laugh because I think I know maybe one or two real life examples of bad boy red flag daters. And tbh their issues were either because they had an unstable house growing up or it was the opposite and they came from completely conservative homes where they weren't used to autonomy. Turns out when you grow up with a patriarchal traditional values home it's easy to mix up domineering/ controlling and traditional masculi…	/r/PurplePillDebate	11/05/26 01:24 AM
–	If you believe in metoo, you should believe Chirayu Rana from JP Morgan Chase case. I agree! But only if every man accused of rape have their career and reputation be destroyed. But you know, Trump is president of the USA and several athletes are still playing so.....	/r/PurplePillDebate	09/05/26 07:00 AM
–	Women's status in Afghanistan is result of geography and shows the fragility of feminism. Peter feminists could argue that true equality means women can rape men too? You know like me? But hey, can't expect everyone to have a brain	/r/PurplePillDebate	08/05/26 08:01 PM
–	Women's status in Afghanistan is result of geography and shows the fragility of feminism. Afghanistan wasn't always a full shit show. Ithere were a lot of factors that led to it becoming what it is now. Regardless it shows that men's natural state is oppressive against women. Despite what men here imply, a patriarchal society will not protect and be grateful for feminine motherly nurturing women. This is a great post because it should remind women that feminism and our rights is fragile and we need to always be on our guard.	/r/PurplePillDebate	08/05/26 07:43 PM
–	Women's status in Afghanistan is result of geography and shows the fragility of feminism. And sure that needs to be changed, it does not change the fact that feminism is needed in order for me to not end up oppressed like a woman in Afghanistan If anything your post had driven home exactly why feminism needs to be stronger and pushed more. It needs to be changed to be better, but it must always be fought for. Otherwise we end up like Afghanistan. It's proof that men are not benevolent as a natural state.	/r/PurplePillDebate	08/05/26 07:41 PM
–	Women's status in Afghanistan is result of geography and shows the fragility of feminism. Feminism is the reason I can vote, work, have marital rape be crime, and let's me be independent If men are alienated by that then they can't be trusted to be cooperative. They'll stop cooperating the moment the bangmaid service works. As you have nicely illustrated by your post, men's natural state is not benevolent. It's not to be gentle and it's not to be good. It's oppressive. The men angered and alienated by feminism will be alienated by female independence and freedom. They will not be coo…	/r/PurplePillDebate	08/05/26 07:34 PM
–	Women's status in Afghanistan is result of geography and shows the fragility of feminism. Agreed that the Taliban shows us that our rights are fragile. That's why feminism should always be on guard and is always needed. That's why we shouldn't let men convince us that we don't need feminism any more. We should always need feminism. Because places like Afghanistan shows us that men aren't to be trusted to be "benevolent" when push comes to shove. The natural state of men isn't "oh men would be grateful and treat women honorably" or whatever bullshit Never believe men when they say the…	/r/PurplePillDebate	08/05/26 07:03 PM
–	I think I was mistaken on what the blue pill is - could you clarify something for me: do you see the blue and pink pills as diametrically opposed to each other? Blue pill is "mainstream beliefs" This comes from the matrix aka do you believe what everyone does or do you take the red pill and learn the "truth" Now from what I understand pink pill is just redpill for women. So both red and pink believe in biological truths and prescriptive strategies to generalize women (redpill) or men (pink pill) and use these to try and get what they want. My issue with both is that they're both fairly prescriptive. And redpill is full of eco psych bullshit. I know at l…	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/05/26 03:57 AM
–	Can you guys stop bringing up sexual assault to men? And I'm one of those people within it and I choose to talk about it Also imagine not wanting to be part of a solution to help reduce and prevent rape Bruh	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/05/26 04:31 AM
–	Can you guys stop bringing up sexual assault to men? Nope Rape prevention is a societal issue. It is the issue of every person who lives in a society That includes men and women who are part of the general population. Going to the police for help happens after the fact. Making a cultural force that ensures it is drilled into everyone that rape happens and that rape isn't just "back alley rape" it's family members, it's friends, it's trusted people helps prevention If men are so uncomfortable about rape that they refuse to be part of the solution, …	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/05/26 03:55 AM
–	Can you guys stop bringing up sexual assault to men? Nope. It's too serious an issue to sweep under the rug just because men feel uncomfortable with it You are of course free in a personal level to disengage with people you aren't comfortable with.	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/05/26 03:50 AM
1	Do you think BDSM is healthy/fair, either in the context of the bedroom or as a lifestyle, why or why not? In bed and everyone consenting? Fine I don't care about what other people do in bed As a lifestyle? I don't think it's healthy and fair necessarily because it depends on the people, the circumstances, or the attitude behind it. Same with religion. You can have a healthy and non toxic religion and you can have a unhealthy and a bad one. If this is something everyone consents to whole heatedly yes, that seems healthy to me. If someone in the space looks down on people who aren't into bdsm then no …	/r/PurplePillDebate	05/05/26 04:05 AM
3	It's okay, to want a "bang maid" Okay If that's the case then there should be zero domestic violence, zero men abusing their ability to make money over their partners, zero men going "you're spending my money, zero men ever holding any power over the heads of any women, zero men taking advantage Zero Because the only way that system works is if the people with lesser capital (aka the people who work without pay or lesser pay) are never taken advantage of in any way shape or form Like it or not we live in a capillary society and…	/r/PurplePillDebate	02/05/26 09:17 PM
–	What do you believe is the effort you make in your relationship(s). What value do you think you add to the man in your life? Is it comparable to what your spouse brings to the relationship? That's you to him to decide now isn't it? I suppose on paper we contribute the same things, we both work 40 hours and we both split the chores. We're both social etc. Unlike men in ppd, I don't hold the fact that I make more than him over his head. I also do run around screaming that me making almost twice him means he has to make up for it with housework. It's called equity, even if PPD men aren't able to understand the word. Intangible things would be something he'd have to articulate himself.…	/r/PurplePillDebate	02/05/26 09:08 PM
0	Red pill men: what turned you red pill? I personally would hate knowing I am having sex with someone who doesn't 100% want to have sex with me. It defeats the purpose. It turns me off and makes me feel bad. On the other hand, I refuse to have penetrative sex if I don't orgasm regularly. I don't orgasm vaginally. Never have. I have found that most of what I like is oral. So in that case, we will be a celibate couple. But I also enjoy sex. Either the man fakes 100% enjoyment of oral to the point I am not aware of any issues whatsoever o…	/r/PurplePillDebate	30/04/26 05:31 PM
1	Red pill men: what turned you red pill? Depends on the them. I'd say it's more ethical to break up than have sex you know the other doesn't want. Personally I think it's cringe to have any sex act done that I know the other person doesn't enjoy. It feels off and rape adjacent. But I also won't stay in a less than satisfactory relationship. So I'd probably just break up	/r/PurplePillDebate	30/04/26 04:46 PM
9	[Repost - Discussion] What system is most likely to replace traditional monogamy in the long term? Open to all perspectives None of the above. Most people want companionship and a partner. Most people ( at least in the West) prefer monogamy. Successful polygamous relationships need a lot of communication and compromise and emotional maturity to work. Or they need oppressive patriarchal structures. You either have a lot of maturity to navigate the emotions and lives of multiple people or you're an oppressive fucker. What will happen is that there will be a lot more of non-traditional monogamy in additional to traditio…	/r/PurplePillDebate	30/04/26 01:46 AM
2	I don’t agree with any of the pills but blue pill advice is far worse than red pill Again, what is blue pill advice specifically? Blue pill is just "mainstream" aka, what the majority of people in mainstream society believe. Red pill likes to say that blue pill is just "be nice!" Or "work hard!" And those are not mainstream advice anywhere except the school yard. Most mainstream advice is about being the best version of yourself. Not just "be nice." Like yes look at your weight and be healthy. But also doing that is good for yourself anyway. Its about not forcing yourself to be…	/r/PurplePillDebate	29/04/26 10:56 PM
1	Modern women overrate their value way more than men My argument boils down to "women who demand men care endlessly about any and all of women's issues no matter how small, while refusing to give men back even an ounce of empathy or sympathy, are massive hypocrites who need to be called out as such". Okay What ounce of empathy or sympathy in specific are you asking for? One that isn't "date us" or " be okay with men making you uncomfortable" and all that.	/r/PurplePillDebate	28/04/26 01:08 AM
5	Modern women overrate their value way more than men Remember what issues exactly? Remember what issues the next time I want men to care about my actual human right to work, vote, be free from violence, education and health care? You can't just keep saying misandry and women nothaveing sympathy for men's issues if you don't tell is what issues we're supposed to care about	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/04/26 08:24 PM
12	Modern women overrate their value way more than men And it's funny how men are conatenrly told to take women seriously, to believe women, to listen to women's lived experiences, and yet most women seem utterly unwilling to do for men the very thing they demand from men. Not really. Women want safety and to have equal human rights. Like the right to work Men want relationships and sex. One of those things is not like the other. And your arguments boil down to "women who don't date men are just as oppressive and evil as people who make Jim crow law…	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/04/26 07:09 PM
12	Modern women overrate their value way more than men Maybe make better arguments then?	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/04/26 06:56 PM
–	Q4W: Would you rather date a man that is the same age as you but 5 inches shorter or a man that is the same height as you but 10 years younger? I'm short enough that 5 inches shorter would be someone medically considered a dwarf. But also 10 years younger is icky because my age also means that going that young violates the half my age and add 7 rule. And just few years shy of being a minor. I mean I guess younger if I absolutely had to choose? And only because they'd still be above 21. Barley above, but above.	/r/PurplePillDebate	24/04/26 01:43 AM
5	QFW: Honestly, do you see a path for redemption from former followers of guys like Andrew Tate, Nick Fuentes, Clavicular, fresh and fit, etc? Yes I do But, and this is a but, redemption isn't deserved. It's something people seek without expectation If I hurt someone, I have no right to expect forgiveness. But I work towards making up for my mistakes without the expectation of forgiveness or closure from the people I hurt. I find that too many people expect that because they changed or apologized or went to therapy or found God people should forgive them. That's not how redemption works. If you expect it, then I don't think they've rea…	/r/PurplePillDebate	20/04/26 10:08 PM
2	Do you think women's aversion of helping men in the dating/sexual context is biological or societal? Because I don't want to Why would I need a 10 commandments for that? My body is mine and I don't see why someone else being sad makes them entitled to use my body for themselves especially when the act of doing so can be painful or uncomfortable And yes for the record any and all sex acts are uncomfortable and painful for me if I do it with someone I am not in a committed relationship with. So again, why should I?	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/04/26 11:12 PM
1	What defines woman's immediate decision, if she wants to get to know the guy better and invest time and effort into learning his personality? Oh yeah hate it when it happens with friends too I'll be honest. There's this sweet spot for me where I know someone enough to be attracted to them and also don't know them enough to put them in the friendzone so to speak. You can hate it all you want, but dating is voluntary and people have the right to only want to date on their terms. I'm was never looking for a lot of dates. I want something with someone who fits me. So I didn't care about anything that made me a smidgen uncomfortable	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/04/26 08:29 PM
14	Draft should be accompanied by more rights for men Choose better.	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/04/26 06:49 PM
34	Do you think women's aversion of helping men in the dating/sexual context is biological or societal? Why would I want to let a man use my body in any way for pity? I'm a human being, not a thing to give away because someone is sad	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/04/26 09:22 AM
26	Do you think women's aversion of helping men in the dating/sexual context is biological or societal? Define help? Help as in give advice? Help as in tolerate woe is me? Help as in be okay with misogynistic attitudes? Help as in have sex with? Define help	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/04/26 08:39 AM
3	What defines woman's immediate decision, if she wants to get to know the guy better and invest time and effort into learning his personality? Eh my personal theory is that people are on the apps when they want to be on the apps. So they're in the frame of mind where they want to meet someone. Things are happening on their terms essentially. On the other hand a cold approach while on public transport or in the grocery might not be in that frame of mind. They might be annoyed or just want to finish their task or get somewhere. And personally I find cold approaches to quick and pressuring. Like I have to give an answer quickly in a situa…	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/04/26 06:28 AM
13	What defines woman's immediate decision, if she wants to get to know the guy better and invest time and effort into learning his personality? Honestly.... It depends on how she even wants to be approached While I found cold approaches flattering l have never once given them a chance. I'd say it's because I just never found the appeal in getting to know or date a stranger in that way. I find in real life I met enough people organically that I've never really needed it. Approaching me as an acquaintance first made me feel more comfortable and made me more open to connection. Many of my friends tend to either meet organically or through …	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/04/26 04:42 PM
7	Would you choose your father over your husband? Following direction, being told what to do and asking for advice are very different things Is it a work thing? Obviously I get told what to do by my boss. My husband would also be told what to do by his boss. Because that's how we get paid For advice? Well it depends on the advice. For example my dad is a lot more handy than my husband. My husband grew up in a family that could afford a plumber. My dad did not. If something breaks, for sure I'd call my dad. On the other hand is it something abou…	/r/PurplePillDebate	14/04/26 02:41 AM
1	Having hobbies is essential for having individualality and being intersting You still learn something new from it. Maybe socializing, some new tips and tricks to survive and create basic tools etc. No you really don't I camp a lot. Both for fun and because I like to hike. It's literally stick peg in ground. Set up tent. Cook with camp stove. Or if you have a campfire stick potatoes in tin foil and stick it in fire. Most campsites have water you can boil in a pot. If you know how to boil water and use a hammer like a 7 year old you can camp. I didn't even need to know ho…	/r/PurplePillDebate	14/04/26 01:09 AM
1	Having hobbies is essential for having individualality and being intersting I agree! Sometimes getting better at something is part of the fun But this is not for everyone People have fun differently. I don't see why hobbies necessarily need to be something skilled or hard or whatever Just people who want to do what they want to do	/r/PurplePillDebate	14/04/26 12:53 AM
2	Having hobbies is essential for having individualality and being intersting It's fun, but it also requires you to be better and you learn from experience. Not necessarily My friend is a lawyer. Her days involve a lot of thinking She reads a lot of trashy romance books. She knows these romance books are trashy But she enjoys them. It makes her day brighter. It's not hard. It doesn't expand the horizons. Who cares? She enjoys them and it's fun. Camping in a camp ground requires barely any skill. Trust me. Anyone can do it. But some people like it Again, a hobby doesn't ne…	/r/PurplePillDebate	14/04/26 12:41 AM
7	Having hobbies is essential for having individualality and being intersting Why does it require hard work or expertise? Why can't a hobby just be fun? Like I agree that you should be doing something other than doom scrolling or video games Some people just like reading books or they just like fishing or whatever. There's no need to make something hard or be good or at something Why can't someone who does a lot of weekend camping not have a hobby? It's fun, it can be social and it requires no expertise.	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/04/26 09:09 PM
–	You’re approached by a man at the grocery store. How does this make you feel? It's happened to me before and I felt pretty flattered, but I generally don't entertain cold approaches so I turned them down.	/r/PurplePillDebate	12/04/26 10:37 PM
–	Does the female PPD community actually represent mainstream women? In the same way your average PPD man is representative of mainstream men I don't know about you, but the men I work with are for the most part partnered and/or married. A lot of people around me are partnered/married (and I'm in my early 30s) Are there people around me who are chronically single? Yes, but it's not the dire crisis that it's being made out to be. And honestly a lot of those who are, seem to have their own reasons for being chronically single. Like having the social skills of the r…	/r/PurplePillDebate	12/04/26 09:53 PM
3	Age gap relationships: Most people against them are being disingenuous Because lots of people generally get together at 15/16? So as long as we kept the bedroom door open and we came home before curfew everything was good. Besides my grandparents and my parents aren't stupid. They know what teens do. They'd rather I be honest than hjde. Because hiding is how girls get taken advantage of or raped. They basically made sure I knew that no matter what they'd rather I call them for help than try to hide from them and make things worse. And absolutely they'd rather I don…	/r/PurplePillDebate	08/04/26 04:44 AM
8	Age gap relationships: Most people against them are being disingenuous I mean, a man is going to frown at every relationship when it involves his young daughter. Then why was my grandpa okay with my same age boyfriend but turned into a rage after my cousin brought home a guy 5 years older when she was 15? Let's be honest here, many parents/grandparents/brothers know that age gap relationships are a big don't red flags.	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/04/26 06:09 PM
1	Could it be that the manosphere and the Red Pill fuel MISANDRY? You attacking or trying to talk men out of a movement because for what past men did But it's not past men that's the point Your point was that red pill is a reaction and that the fault lies with feminism as feminism is the root cause of the red pill. My point was that feminism was reactionary and the root cause was that past and present systems were put in place that oppressed women and gave power (hard power and systematic power) to men and men abuse it. You then argued that I put the blame on …	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/04/26 08:10 PM
-1	Could it be that the manosphere and the Red Pill fuel MISANDRY? Ah I see, you think I never experienced sexism and that it doesn't influence modern society. Well let me disabuse you of that notion. Men have been sexist to me before I learnt feminism. I got catcalled by grown men in my school uniform at 13 I was harassed and a boy ran after me in the playground wanting to be my boyfriend but all the adults thought it was funny and cute because we were 9. Somehow though me physically crying not wanting to be around him was me over reacting and it was just funn…	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/04/26 07:10 PM
2	Could it be that the manosphere and the Red Pill fuel MISANDRY? they did it first" Points to all of religion, history and culture.	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/04/26 06:37 PM
10	A woman is never "not ready for a relationship" When I just broke up with an ex and wanted time single and alone to remember the person I was without a partner. Not to mention figure out what went wrong, and how to avoid it next time. And no I wouldn't hit them up again. That's just weird. I just did my thing and lived life until I meet someone again	/r/PurplePillDebate	05/04/26 07:36 PM
1	People agree that women arent primarily visual like men, yet still fall for the idea that majority of men are unattractive, just because women dont get wet from men's profile pic and age Same	/r/PurplePillDebate	31/03/26 08:55 PM
1	Men dont being anything to the table That's ridiculous The entire point of being hired for a job is what you bring to the table, not for who the employee is. I'd argue that in relationships, who you are is inherently tied to what you bring to the table. If being with you means I'm more stressed or annoyed than I am without you, then you don't bring much to the table. And that's probably also tied to who you are.	/r/PurplePillDebate	31/03/26 05:24 PM
4	To the women who think men only want sex. Did you ever think to just let us fuck🤔?? Exactly what I expected. Bad faith and trolling. Okay	/r/PurplePillDebate	30/03/26 03:42 AM
10	To the women who think men only want sex. Did you ever think to just let us fuck🤔?? Again, not a response in good faith. Ever heard of having a nuanced discussion? Why ask for honest answers if all your replies are just snarky trolling? Genuinely, what were you looking for here?	/r/PurplePillDebate	30/03/26 03:40 AM
12	To the women who think men only want sex. Did you ever think to just let us fuck🤔?? I seriously don't see how this is an honest question considering your replies. Pretty obviously not in good faith	/r/PurplePillDebate	30/03/26 03:20 AM
2	Q4W: Why when you are in a relationship do you still wear sexy clothes and makeup etc.? Who are you advertising yourself to if you are already taken? If he's mad I break up with him. No Easy I dress exist for my girls and my gays than I ever do for straight men. It's about me and how I feel. Men just need to learn how to mind their own business	/r/PurplePillDebate	29/03/26 11:01 PM
11	Q4women why do women enjoy gale male romance so much? Two hot men Gay men are safer to project fantasies onto. Lots of us still grow up with feminine or crappy gender expectations. There's a bit more room to explore sexuality and situations when this pesky feminine gender roles aren't there. For the most part media restricts what female protagonists can do and the drama associated with it. Much more interesting to explore sex and sexuality when there's more interesting things going on. The amount of grey morality and situations you can put men into…	/r/PurplePillDebate	29/03/26 07:49 PM
3	Q4women would you date a trans guy? 1- only if they fully pass as a man and have all the corresponding equipment. I'm hetero I'm afraid. I want the male form exclusively 2- sure I don't care What matters is that my life is better with them than without them. Not their past	/r/PurplePillDebate	26/03/26 05:21 PM
19	Women don't like when men have healthy boundaries I think there's a difference between setting boundaries and people not being allowed to react to them. Lets say for example that you don't want to go and visit your in-laws. Now let's say for the same of this argument that the in-laws are reasonably likable, not pushy and essentially just want to see you and your partner reasonably regularly Let's say reasonably regularly is once every month. You are allowed to say "I have a boundary and I don't want to see the in-laws" But if it causes hurt or …	/r/PurplePillDebate	24/03/26 11:57 PM
1	Genuinely, if a good portion of women fear and dislike men as a whole, why should men interact with women? There is no reason if you don't want there to be a reason. I don't really base friendship or interaction based on gender. I have male and female friends and a partner. I just vibe or don't vibe. If I'm not picking up my vibe from you, you're welcome to not pick up any vibes from me.	/r/PurplePillDebate	23/03/26 11:23 PM
20	Would you be fine with not getting the "full Girlfriend treatment"? As long as I'm getting the treatment that I personally want, he's not failing in any areas, and is making me happier then I don't particularly care about other girls in the past	/r/PurplePillDebate	23/03/26 11:18 PM
7	Would you support your boyfriend/husband for the rest of your relationship? No. I don't have a salary that would enable us to live the lifestyle we want If I pulled 200k plus sure, so as long as the house is always clean and he does the cooking and all that. But I'm not going to earn 200k. Barely anyone does. So it's not going to happen unless we win the lottery	/r/PurplePillDebate	23/03/26 07:23 PM
1	Sisters, can you tell us how your brothers are doing in the relationship realm? Disagree with what exactly?	/r/PurplePillDebate	20/03/26 08:59 PM
3	Do you think a woman deserves a good forever Men? Epside 2: Return of the Sith I don't understand what this reply is implying. An asshole is an asshole. I don't believe anyone deserves to be with an asshole. The asshole is always at fault. The asshole is a bad person. The asshole will always have 100% of the fault and the blame. You aren't entitled to anyone in particular. You are entitled to decency.	/r/PurplePillDebate	20/03/26 08:58 PM
6	Do you think a woman deserves a good forever Men? Epside 2: Return of the Sith No one is entitled to anyone But also no one is entitled to be an asshole. So are women entitled to a "good forever man?" Well no one is entitled to a good forever anyone. No one is entitled to a person. But if you are dating someone and the man cheats or lies, he's still a bad person and an asshole and you are entitled to someone who is not that person There is no excuse for being an asshole.	/r/PurplePillDebate	20/03/26 07:26 PM
1	Sisters, can you tell us how your brothers are doing in the relationship realm? No, he's renting a one bedroom. I don't believe he was a lost cause. But I think he chose to be. It's more comfortable in your comfort zone where your inability to have friends or get a gf is the fault of others and not yourself. Sorry mate. It's not just about money. You have to be someone people want to be around.	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/03/26 10:46 PM
1	Sisters, can you tell us how your brothers are doing in the relationship realm? gotten his friends What friends? His online friends who all speak in the same online lingo? your friends Why would my friends want to hang out with somebody who is rude and negative? I was in school when all this started. It's not the responsibility of a bunch of 14 year old girls to take care of the feelings of a 17 year old boy. And they shouldn't be obligated and shamed for not doing so either. and hung out together at your house routinely. We hung out at my house routinely. He chose to stay …	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/03/26 05:23 PM
1	Sisters, can you tell us how your brothers are doing in the relationship realm? How? Genuinely how? I tried when I was younger. Encouraged him out of the house, invited him to big parties at college, offered to go to the gym with him. Nothing I'm a woman. Anything I say doesn't matter because "you don't know how it feels to be a man" When my other brother tried it was "because you are Chad" even though he's basically the same height and ethnicity He's very negative and it's very hard to hang out with him. These days I limit my contact to happy birthdays, Christmas and New Y…	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/03/26 10:45 PM
1	Men are entitled to sex. Why? A marriage by definition is a contract. If part of that contract was the expectation of monogamy, then doing otherwise is blatantly wrong and immoral	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/03/26 10:19 PM
4	Men are entitled to sex. Not really. Not any more than the whole "be frigid so I'll cheat" thing In both scenarios it's "I'll do something you don't like because of x or I'll do something I know will hurt you because of x" If anything I'd say cheating is immoral because it's less honest, everything I listed is honest	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/03/26 09:46 PM
4	Men are entitled to sex. Okay But if the wife divorces because she finds out I don't want any man whinging over it because well he also chose to cheat And if she tells everyone he cheated on her and he gets social blowback that's also his own fault. If the kids end up with issues, we all know who to blame Like you can't say things like "well she was frigid so I cheated" and then complain about "divorce rape" and "women start divorces more" or women poisoned their kids against me because they were open about my cheating …	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/03/26 09:14 PM
2	The pro-choice argument and the forced paternity argument are the same argument Problem there is what if "I don't want children and won't have sex until you do" And then a man promises they'll sign the waiver post conception and then doesn't. Nah I want an option for a man to sign that waiver pre-conception that way I will have zero chances of any surgery or abortion on my body unnecessarily.	/r/PurplePillDebate	14/03/26 07:10 AM
5	Q4W: Who should be taught how to treat their partners? And why? Then agree on a schedule. I've just said that the dishes need to be done every night before bed. If a man hasn't done it by then, then he's the one who shouldn't have agreed in the first place And tbh if your cleaning standards are so different to mine that we end up arguing over it, I'd just give up on the relationship anyway.	/r/PurplePillDebate	11/03/26 02:29 AM
6	Q4W: Who should be taught how to treat their partners? And why? This is true. When I say respect I mean "treat with basic human decency and being reasonably considerate of someone's feelings" It also means "respect the fact that I am a fully formed human being and don't exist for you" and yes that goes both ways. Being respectful to your partner means not pushing their boundaries and accepting that they have different wants and needs from you. Being reasonably considerate means, if I can accomodate those wants and needs without them clashing with my own valu…	/r/PurplePillDebate	10/03/26 11:02 PM
5	Q4W: Who should be taught how to treat their partners? And why? I think both, but also in conjunction with lessons on giving/respecting boundaries and prioritizing your well being I see two aspects of this. One is that we should all learn to respect our partners (in such a way as to respect their boundaries, to not be violent, to not scream and shout immediately etc etc) But we should also learn to not tolerate disrespect If your partner is controlling what you wear and who you should hang out with, you should leave You shouldn't tolerate people who break yo…	/r/PurplePillDebate	10/03/26 08:18 PM
1	Why do men “neg” women? Ime if a man "negs" it only works if either he does it so well that nobody ( even someone who isnt attracted to him) can tell the difference. Like if I repeat what that man says verbatim everyone would agree that it's banter, even my parents Or the woman has some sort of attachment issue that gets them hyped for men who are manipulative. They exist, I've met them. Good luck getting that to work if the woman is confident or self assured though	/r/PurplePillDebate	10/03/26 06:36 PM
11	Why do men “neg” women? Negging is PUA term for trying to find someone's insecurity and laughing it off. It's a backhanded compliment that's aimed at subtly undermining someone's confidence. Bantering is two equals making fun of each other, with no end goal other than to make both of you laugh If one person feels bad or gets hurt during a banter it is no longer banter.	/r/PurplePillDebate	09/03/26 06:14 PM
18	Why do men “neg” women? Negging and banter are two different things. If you have to deliberately neg instead of banter then by definition you aren't socially aware	/r/PurplePillDebate	09/03/26 05:45 PM
5	Women Aren't the great Communicators They Think They Are I once told a man that "I feel like I'm living with a roommate. I would like to get affection and keep the romance alive. And not just affection that leads to sex, but cuddling, kissing and going out on dates every so often. Every time we do something, I'm the one planning it. I would really appreciate it if you planned us a date some time in the next month" Him when we broke up: why didn't you say anything? Me: I did. Him: I didn't think it was that serious! Like I've told you once, I've told y…	/r/PurplePillDebate	05/03/26 01:01 AM
–	Why do you think Studys about dating are only wrong in the Red Pill direction? Why are we still assuming that blue pill is anything? Blue pill is literally just not red pill The concept of the pills is from the matrix. Blue pill is an illusion, red pill a reality. Since the allegations is "mainstream society lies to you, red pill is the truth" then it's up to redpill to prove themselves. Because it's their hypothesis so they need to provide the evidence for it Blue pill is just "whatever red pill is against" It's like the theory of gravity. If I believe in gravity, I have …	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/03/26 02:36 AM
2	Sisters, can you tell us how your brothers are doing in the relationship realm? Depends on the brother My brother who is closest to me in age is engaged. He's generally had a couple of LTRs in his life We're fairly similar. We're Southeast Asian immigrants but we're both nerds who are fairly social and extroverted. I think he joined casual sports clubs to meet new people and stay in shape and it's worked out well for him. Running clubs etc. His partner and I get along and we're doing a girl's trip together this Easter. Might do a hike or something. My other brother is basic…	/r/PurplePillDebate	01/03/26 11:18 PM
1	How women can find men that prioritize connection above sex But the question was around sex Which has nothing to do with men who ask you out vs men who you ask out. I can ask men out all I want, but the filter is still not having sex early	/r/PurplePillDebate	28/02/26 08:57 PM
4	How women can find men that prioritize connection above sex Well, I think years is a bit much but waiting a few months tends to be good.	/r/PurplePillDebate	28/02/26 06:38 AM
37	How women can find men that prioritize connection above sex Not really. That doesn't filter out men who want sex, it filters out men who don't want to ask you out. The best way to filter out men who only want sex is to not have sex This will remove both the men who only want sex and men who want a connection but aren't willing to wait to have sex. If you're willing to remove the second kind of guy at the same time as the first then just don't have sex. If you end up filtering out men who will go "well you had sex with them early so you should have sex wi…	/r/PurplePillDebate	28/02/26 03:20 AM
6	Men say they want “good girls” but they reward hoes Honestly stop caring about what guys want If you want casual sex, not because of guys, but for its own sex then hell yeah more power to you If you don't want casual sex for its own sex and you're doing it because you want the investment or if you're bitter at men, I think you're doing yourself a disservice Just live your life the way you want it to. Who cares about men and what they think. Just do you. And if someone comes along then see if the vibe checks out. Sex or no sex that's up to you. If…	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/02/26 08:21 PM
1	Marriage is a substitute for love. Because that's the only way someone's word is enforceable. You must have lived such a good and privileged life, if you've never seen what happens to a woman who gave up their careers or took time off work only to be left with nothing. Call me unromantic, but I've seen what that does to a person. And I believe that if a man even hesitates when it comes to equal division of marriage assets if children happens, then I know that truly he doesn't have any love for me. Because if he did, he would put …	/r/PurplePillDebate	25/02/26 09:54 AM
1	Marriage is a substitute for love. It's so romantic if you have kids and get left screwed over. To be clear I don't believe marriage is necessary unless you have children If you have children and you give no shits about the financial sacrifice and physical sacrifice of whoever has to take time off work and career to take care of them then you're uncaring and have no love for their partner. If you don't have children, then do whatever	/r/PurplePillDebate	25/02/26 09:42 AM
6	“Men will treat you as well or as poor as you let them” is a mindset that absolves men of accountability. It doesn't matter though Nothing I do is going to change the behaviour of other people. I can only control myself. So either I let them treat me poorly or I set boundaries like a pro and leave at any sign of a red flag	/r/PurplePillDebate	25/02/26 01:30 AM
–	Most women are NOT happy being single I think you're leaving out the nuance that lots of women would like a family.... Assuming it's with a man that makes their life better It's not about #girlbozz It's that loneliness when you're single is preferable to a partner that makes you unhappy or stresses you out. I know women who are lonely and who do want a partner but they're not going for a man that will make their life worse. Why should they? They want a man who has a full time job, who's in the same stage of life, who won't stress th…	/r/PurplePillDebate	24/02/26 03:26 PM
–	Regarding "good shy guys", when you think about the world, do you feel like people are generally good or generally bad? Why are good guys shy? Why are outsiders "good?" I think that human beings are people and reflections of their environment I find that environments that encourages or rewards decency will have more "good" people. For example in countries where being a wife beater is regarded as a bad thing, most men won't beat their wives. If you're from a place that rewards it, well I've seen those videos from oppressive countries where it's suddenly the wife's fault if you beat her. I think if people have powe…	/r/PurplePillDebate	24/02/26 02:11 PM
9	Men need to take charge and make most of the decisions in a relationship If you take the lead and expect me to follow it, you better 100% make every right decision, never treat me wrong ever, ever, ever. If you make one mistake. Raise your voice once. Expect me to do something that takes me even 1% unhappy, makes me feel devalued even 1% of the time, make 0.0001 mistake I will lose every ounce of respect from you Because I've seen what happens when men take a woman for granted and I am very sensitive to it. If I feel like an equal, I'm more willing to stick around an…	/r/PurplePillDebate	24/02/26 02:03 PM
4	People happily in relationships: how did you "pick better"? I get that, but, and I say this with kindness, meeting men means meeting people You can try and just stick to apps, but it comes with it's own pitfalls and challenges. You still have to go out with a lot of men and you have to make sure you don't end up with a dud. And it's better to be alone than with a dud.	/r/PurplePillDebate	20/02/26 04:14 AM
2	People happily in relationships: how did you "pick better"? I'd say get out there and make some new friends. Find a hobby you enjoy that involves other people and show up frequently. Bonus it means that you can make friends and have a hobby you can enjoy. Sometimes you can meet a man there, but don't make that your primary reason for going.	/r/PurplePillDebate	20/02/26 04:04 AM
6	People happily in relationships: how did you "pick better"? I find people get nervous on a date. Or alternatively it can feel like a job interview The casual getting to know stage without it being a date means that I can chat, hang out, see chemistry, personality and basic compatibility without it being too serious or a job interview Much less pressure that way. You can disagree, but I think a natural getting to know people is easier and low pressure	/r/PurplePillDebate	20/02/26 04:03 AM
3	How promiscuous do you consider yourself to be? I count myself as someone who needs a lot of emotional connection and safety to feel comfortable having sex. Unfortunately a lot of that connection and safety also comes from the sense that the man wants to be in a relationship with me and not just playing around. That means a lot of men, some who might have wanted a relationship with me but who wanted early sex, would say no to me. That's okay too. I wasn't hurt by it. They're allowed their standards but I'm allowed to have mine. I have noticed…	/r/PurplePillDebate	20/02/26 12:55 AM
13	People happily in relationships: how did you "pick better"? One- admittedly not using apps and only dating people in my wider social circle Why? Easier to form a connection without pressure. You could hang in a group setting, see chemistry without the pressure of "it's a date" So low pressure and easier to get to know someone. Two - I put my deal breakers early. First date if I can manage it. I try to be smooth with it, but I might bring it up as a joke or something. But I remember making a couple Asian jokes (as I'm an Asian woman) and complaining about…	/r/PurplePillDebate	20/02/26 12:22 AM
9	BP/Feminist society dishonestly pushes covert contracts on men when it benefits women and stigmatizes it when it benefits men. Whereas RP says to remove covert contracts entirely yet they are condemned for it. He thinks a feminist position is whatever he thinks a feminist position is, and if he's wrong well that's not reaaaaaalllllyyy feminist	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/02/26 03:18 AM
9	Motherhood is a bad deal (and it's reasonable to opt out) My taxes are still paying for those kids' schooling, roads, transport and hospitals So yeah they still owe me Unless you're a one of those "taxes are theeeeeeeftttt morons"	/r/PurplePillDebate	15/02/26 11:06 PM
4	Most People Are Not Compatible With Most People - That’s Why Dating Is Hard Many people are like "divorce is fine. Whatevz. It happens." You're being a reductionist there We've been through depression, unemployment and chronic illness It's certainly not "divorce is fine, whatevz" It's the awareness that everyone has deal breakers. Cheating is a reasonable deal breaker no? And so is someone deciding to have completely different core values? And Like why would I stay in a marriage with someone who believes women should be home makers? I hate trad cons with a passion of a …	/r/PurplePillDebate	15/02/26 09:22 PM
6	Most People Are Not Compatible With Most People - That’s Why Dating Is Hard Depends on the friction. There are deal breakers and there are things I'm willing to compromise on Let's say he decided that our discussion about raising a child no longer applies and felt like he would prefer I stay at home. The answer is divorce. If he started becoming insecure and started looking at my phone or criticising the way I dress? He gets one warning to not do it again. Otherwise it's divorce city. Same with suddenly gaining religion or becoming part of any society or community that'…	/r/PurplePillDebate	15/02/26 06:41 PM
5	Most People Are Not Compatible With Most People - That’s Why Dating Is Hard Im married and we've been together over a decade. But all our core values are the same We have the same goal in life (i.e. enough money to live comfortably but not enough to stress us out) Work life balance as a goal. If we have kids we only want one. We have a few hobbies that are similar. We have some that are different. We both have independent social circles. I don't tolerate men without their own friends and who don't have female friends. We both have agreed to stay in our current city unle…	/r/PurplePillDebate	15/02/26 06:18 PM
14	Most People Are Not Compatible With Most People - That’s Why Dating Is Hard I disagree In those days you have a very strict way of life and not much variation. Everyone had the same religion for example. If society valued gender roles most people adhered to it People generally didn't travel. A more open society means more variation amongst people Not to mention life was harder for those without partners then. For example I don't jive with anyone religious. I don't want to date anyone with a religion regardless of what it is unless they exclusively practice the most libe…	/r/PurplePillDebate	15/02/26 06:08 PM
–	Young Men's Perception Of What Responsible Masculinity Looks Like, And Women's Perception Of Men In General Are Distorted. and things like job searching are extremely difficult for those people, don't you depend on your husband for fixing things,home mainenence, I never said anything about men making women do everything No, home maintenance we do together or hire someone out minor car repairs, No because he knows Jack shit about cars. We go to a mechanic if you have kids then maybe he takes over to give you a break? He will be doing equal child rearing. Because if they are our kids then he will do equal responsibili…	/r/PurplePillDebate	14/02/26 12:55 AM
3	Young Men's Perception Of What Responsible Masculinity Looks Like, And Women's Perception Of Men In General Are Distorted. soft power women have, Soft power can be taken away by hard power and therefore is practically no power at all. Oh if a queen is pretty and beautiful and nurturing and feminine her king will follow her words! And if the king is angry? If she isn't pretty enough or nurturing enough she deserves nothing? But the king doesn't have to be soft or nurturing or anything. He can do what he wants. A man must take care of his wife! But what if he doesn't? He cheats on her, shows no affection, regards sex …	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/02/26 09:22 PM
2	Young Men's Perception Of What Responsible Masculinity Looks Like, And Women's Perception Of Men In General Are Distorted. I mean I can generally agree to this, but if we are going to be fair we also have to flip this. Are men required to be around women too? Because apparently trying to avoid women is misogyny. Do men have to be friendly to women? Because apparently men being distant and cold to women is misogyny. No men are not required to be around women. Men are not required to be friendly to women. You can go through your commute and your day and not communicate with a single woman unless you have to in a work …	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/02/26 09:10 PM
1	Young Men's Perception Of What Responsible Masculinity Looks Like, And Women's Perception Of Men In General Are Distorted. And your stats are?	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/02/26 05:31 PM
5	Young Men's Perception Of What Responsible Masculinity Looks Like, And Women's Perception Of Men In General Are Distorted. Time to migrate to a Muslim country perhaps I hate all religions, don't see what that has to do with it.	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/02/26 08:41 AM
31	Can women truly love? Can men truly love? I don't believe in unconditional love. All love is conditional by the fact that the condition is: make me happy Or even the condition being: when I am with you life is better than when I am without you I don't want to be friends with someone if they don't make me happy when I hang out with them. Otherwise why would I be friends with them I don't see why men would want to me with a woman unless she's making his life better somehow otherwise why be with her than without her. Do…	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/02/26 06:18 AM
3	Young Men's Perception Of What Responsible Masculinity Looks Like, And Women's Perception Of Men In General Are Distorted. Oh yes I agree! Let's look at the issues and put solutions in about raising children better and improving life for everyone But leading men in media being simps is not the issue that op said it is. That's not the reason for this issue The issue is more structural and economical.	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/02/26 05:27 AM
3	Young Men's Perception Of What Responsible Masculinity Looks Like, And Women's Perception Of Men In General Are Distorted. Let's look at crime stats and who causes the most homicides and murder? I mean I was going to add sexual assault and violent sexual assault but realized that that might be affected by reporting. Rates. Can't really not report murder...	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/02/26 05:17 AM
10	Young Men's Perception Of What Responsible Masculinity Looks Like, And Women's Perception Of Men In General Are Distorted. You seem to have missed the part where that is exactly what husbands have been told. No I haven't missed that. I'm saying I'd rather be on the powerful end of the conversation than the weaker end Duh could just as easily slide back to a matriarchal women-have-the-power system where they oppress men. In which point of the west has this happened where structural power was with women and not just soft power? So you don't get to talk about any of women's issues unless they are personally and directl…	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/02/26 05:11 AM
5	Young Men's Perception Of What Responsible Masculinity Looks Like, And Women's Perception Of Men In General Are Distorted. We can try again if you want, bring up any specific issue, you don't say "but men don't wanna" and I won't say "but women don't wanna" and let's see where the discussion goes yeah? How about this: let's discuss the issue of male loneliness, male suicide, male homelessness and the whole dating dynamics right here and right now However the solution cannot be: women have to be around, be friendly, or date men they don't want to be around, be friendly with or date. The solution cannot be infringemen…	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/02/26 05:03 AM
2	Young Men's Perception Of What Responsible Masculinity Looks Like, And Women's Perception Of Men In General Are Distorted. , I do believe that the difference in r*cial crime is likely due socioeconomic factors Which is my point The difference between violent crime has nothing to do with race and everything to do with class The difference between violent crime such as homicide between men and women however??	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/02/26 04:56 AM
3	Young Men's Perception Of What Responsible Masculinity Looks Like, And Women's Perception Of Men In General Are Distorted. It's not https://royalsocietypublishing.org/rspb/article/290/1993/20222095/79615/Why-is-violence-high-and-persistent-in-deprived	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/02/26 04:54 AM
4	Young Men's Perception Of What Responsible Masculinity Looks Like, And Women's Perception Of Men In General Are Distorted. They also say men should love and cherish their wives. I'd rather love and cherish than be submissive and have no structural power knowing that the reality is that having no structural power means I'd be easy to abuse I'd rather be told "have power over your spouse but don't abuse it" than be told "your spouse has power over you, and you better hope he doesn't abuse it or die" Especially if the context of that means there's very little means for me to choose "be independent and equal on my own a…	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/02/26 04:47 AM
3	Young Men's Perception Of What Responsible Masculinity Looks Like, And Women's Perception Of Men In General Are Distorted. Did that study take into account intergenerational cycles of violence from before that family gained wealth? Again there is no "violence gene" in black people. On the other hand it seems men are much much more likely to be violent than women regardless of culture, class or race. because even if it is true that the socioeconomic status is what is causing the issues in those countries, a simple response is that the very fact that the socioeconomic status of those countries is so bad is enough reas…	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/02/26 03:59 AM
19	Young Men's Perception Of What Responsible Masculinity Looks Like, And Women's Perception Of Men In General Are Distorted. When women collectively try to legislate away your ability to vote, have church leaders say that you should be submissive to women, and communities refuse to let you study, go to work or be independent because of your gender we can talk	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/02/26 02:49 AM
2	Young Men's Perception Of What Responsible Masculinity Looks Like, And Women's Perception Of Men In General Are Distorted. The issue here is that your study isn't linked to a study at all. It's linked to a imgur picture link And your second link about international country comparison isn't taking into account the political and economic situation in those countries as compared to others. Try again	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/02/26 02:18 AM
5	Young Men's Perception Of What Responsible Masculinity Looks Like, And Women's Perception Of Men In General Are Distorted. And yet men here insist that being wary is the same as being prejudiced I don't hate men, I just refuse to engage with men who make me uncomfortable. And you know what? I also refuse to engage with women who make me uncomfortable. That means if you're off putting to me I will not be your friend. I certainly will not be dating you. For that matter, I'm not friends with people who make my life worse when I'm with them. At minimum i want to make friends with someone that I have fun with when I'm ar…	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/02/26 02:12 AM
8	Young Men's Perception Of What Responsible Masculinity Looks Like, And Women's Perception Of Men In General Are Distorted. And I'm saying that racists are wrong for saying that because the stats prove their prejudices wrong. On the other hand stats do prove me right when I am wary around unknown men.	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/02/26 01:54 AM
–	If the red pill would be right, what would change? I can't take this post seriously when op starts with blue pill means everything is men's fault Once again the blue pill doesn't exist. The blue pill is some dumb matrix analogy about how taking the blue pill is delusional and the red pill is reality. It's so stupid. The blue pill would literally just mean "the mainstream" The mainstream view is not everything is men's fault.	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/02/26 01:11 AM
16	Young Men's Perception Of What Responsible Masculinity Looks Like, And Women's Perception Of Men In General Are Distorted. The stats don't show that black people are inherently more violent that any other ethnic group. A lot of violence is mostly correlated with social economic class, which is a trend that crosses countries. But also as the epstein files show us, rich white people should be treated as even more sus. On the other hand male violence and male oppression seems to be pretty statistically easy to chart in every country and culture. And time period	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/02/26 12:46 AM
63	Young Men's Perception Of What Responsible Masculinity Looks Like, And Women's Perception Of Men In General Are Distorted. I promise me you movies did not make me wary of men. It started when grown men shouted at me from their cars when I was wearing my school uniform. It continued with evet "get me a sandwich joke" It was radicalized by every "god fearing man" who said something about a "woman's duty". It was every person who even made snide comments about sluts while men slept around. It's how in every religion men go on and on about the importance of women in the home. While simultaneously crying about alimony, d…	/r/PurplePillDebate	12/02/26 11:05 PM
–	What if Dating had a "Standard Protocol"? (An end to the "Vibe" guessing games) Preferences is literally how dating works. Newsflash, people aren't robots. We've got these things called personalities. And dating is how we figure out if those personalities work together. Some people want more texting, more physical stuff, more time together Some people want less and find that suffocating Some people are comfortable with early sex but are uncomfortable with commitment. Some people move fast with commitment but slow with the sex Some people want certain types of communication …	/r/PurplePillDebate	11/02/26 06:18 AM
–	What if Dating had a "Standard Protocol"? (An end to the "Vibe" guessing games) Because that's how humans work. You don't get punished socially for not interacting perfectly. You get punished socially for not interacting in a group or society's social norms. And those social norms are different in every group of friends, in every city, and in every country. For example, I have friend groups where when we say: meet at one pm, the latest you can be is 1.10 before you start getting flack. And details of a trip can be planned pretty well. Deviating from that too much is a probl…	/r/PurplePillDebate	11/02/26 03:04 AM
–	What if Dating had a "Standard Protocol"? (An end to the "Vibe" guessing games) Everyone has different wants, needs and vibes. What you're proposing would just end up trying to force people into square holes when they're triangles. The point of dating is to find your match. If you exude say directness, you'll get rejected by people who don't like directness. But you'll be chosen by people who do Part of dating is the human element and yes that can be chaotic and challenging. But that's how humans work. We aren't a video game where there's a perfect strat.	/r/PurplePillDebate	11/02/26 02:51 AM
7	"Choose better" until men also have to choose better. Then that's just "female nature". Men shouldn't be heads of the family because they were born with a blessed penis. If you think they should be that says enough about you	/r/PurplePillDebate	09/02/26 02:37 PM
7	"Choose better" until men also have to choose better. Then that's just "female nature". Yes No dad is better than a dad that shows you that it's okay to accept bad behaviour for the sake of the family Mothers should model the life they want their daughter to have. And shows her son what behaviours are acceptable to do. If she accepts bad behaviour that is what her daughter will accept	/r/PurplePillDebate	09/02/26 01:50 PM
4	The future of dating is casual and sugar , that she didn't help build. This is why women should never agree to stay home to take care of the children. No career breaks. If in order to have a child you need to stay home and take even a few months career break have it in writing that this counts as helping build wealth because otherwise he would have to pay for daycare and a surrogate. And if he even says once this is my money that I provide, get a job. Tell him that he needs to start paying you surrogacy and nanny and cleaner rates. All…	/r/PurplePillDebate	09/02/26 06:54 AM
10	"Choose better" until men also have to choose better. Then that's just "female nature". Literally me to a friend a few weeks ago No offense, but you seem to be attracted to men that treat you badly. It might be a good idea to go to therapy and work on yourself to figure out what's going on before jumping back into the dating pool. (We all know what's wrong with her. Traditional asian family where while there's no physical/ sexual abuse the father makes all the decisions. And the women are told that that's just how men are. They cheat and they dominate and are arrogant. You just hav…	/r/PurplePillDebate	08/02/26 11:15 PM
16	"Choose better" until men also have to choose better. Then that's just "female nature". Hot take, a lot of this is because of phrasing and context and this sub is too rigid to understand If you told a man, if you want commitment it might be best to look for women with a history of commitment instead of many one night stands No one would call you misogynistic Instead red pill goes: wahmen sluts! Cock carousel! Sluts sluts sluts! If you told a man who just got out of an abusive relationship and is now struggling with being a poor single dad " choose better!" Would be seen as a shitty…	/r/PurplePillDebate	08/02/26 08:24 PM
2	Average men should get a free pass to cheat This is why women should never allow themselves to be the starter girlfriend. Don't let men get away with it. Expect their best. Demand their best. Do not support men unless they give you equal support Don't give wifey treatment without a ring.	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/02/26 11:00 PM
7	If men prefer women under 25, what women expected to do about it? How many 18 year olds date significantly older? When I was that age most older men were perceived as creeps. Maybe two people were willing to date 7 or more years older. And age gaps are seen as much more problematic now (and rightfully so!) Seems like most men are going to end up single too if they attempt to go too much younger, which puts them in the same bracket as the woman their age	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/02/26 05:34 PM
7	If men prefer women under 25, what women expected to do about it? And all stats show that settling down early increases the rate of divorce If anything Id say settling down young and ending up with a dud is a leopard's eat my face situation.	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/02/26 05:29 PM
7	Why do so many women associate “traditional values” with safety? Funny because lots of women do romanticize about nurturing men who does his fair share of the chores and makes a good dad.	/r/PurplePillDebate	02/02/26 10:39 PM
2	Ladies, be honest: is a guy wearing apple watch/smart watch a turn off on a first dates? I have never cared about what watch a man wore. In saying that, like anything else, if taken to the extreme would be a turn off.(Needing to always have the latest watch or having a collection of expensive watches)	/r/PurplePillDebate	02/02/26 10:13 AM
–	Progressives opposed to polygamy despite being vocally supportive of polyamory and silent on polyandry are not being logically consistent. If she wants to be a stahp and he didn't agree to it and was reluctant and she did it anyway yes she is the asshole. *Provided she didn't just lose her job and was forced to not have a job The woman can choose to go be in a monogamous relationship as well right? As soon as he brings it up she can make the choice to be free of him. Only if there is no sexism involved in the society about that decision and the entire culture and religion agree that the man was the reason because he took a second w…	/r/PurplePillDebate	30/01/26 09:50 PM
–	Progressives opposed to polygamy despite being vocally supportive of polyamory and silent on polyandry are not being logically consistent. He can leave the relationship if he wants to Don't pretend that a woman in a patriarchal society and religion has the same power dynamics as men in the western world. And he can choose ethical non monogamy if has a 20% reluctance to be monogamous in most free Western societies. Don't pretend that the UK is just as bad to men as Saudi Arabia is women	/r/PurplePillDebate	30/01/26 07:03 PM
–	Progressives opposed to polygamy despite being vocally supportive of polyamory and silent on polyandry are not being logically consistent. The idea being that morally, it should be something that everyone is on board with. Like if your first wife doesn't like the idea of having a second wife but someone goes "well you're going to hell if you don't agree" or "yeah but he wants it so you just have to endure it" or "submission!!!!!!!!!!" Then really even if she says "okay I consent" then it's not really consent. It's coerced. Point blank, if the first wife has 1% reluctance then you shouldn't have a second. And if a man goes ahead kno…	/r/PurplePillDebate	30/01/26 06:39 PM
1	Q4W: In light of recent trending "men don't approach women anymore" content - do you have a problem with men approaching you? Do you want to be approached? Or to be left alone? Why? Assuming all conditions are met i've always found it a bit flattering. It's just that generally the approaches are... Not that.	/r/PurplePillDebate	30/01/26 02:36 AM
28	We need to go back to our roots, especially women What if I don't want to reward incompetence? Its not like I want to cook. It's not like I'm naturally better at cooking It's a skill. That I learned. Because I'm an adult. Are men stupid? Are they unable to learn a skill?	/r/PurplePillDebate	30/01/26 12:44 AM
26	We need to go back to our roots, especially women Why can't the man go and do the cooking and cleaning then? And you can refuse to go out with women who want a provider if you so desire	/r/PurplePillDebate	30/01/26 12:34 AM
8	Progressives opposed to polygamy despite being vocally supportive of polyamory and silent on polyandry are not being logically consistent. You are confusing morally opposed, not for me, and legally opposed I believe that people should marry consenting adults. If everyone consents they should be able to do that. So I don't believe any form of polygamy/polyamory/polyandry should be illegal Just because I personally am monogamous and will stay that way, does not mean other people should also have to be monogamous. They are free to have whatever relationship structure suits them so as long as everyone is free, consenting, and adults Th…	/r/PurplePillDebate	30/01/26 12:25 AM
2	When is a woman too picky or superficial? It's not my place or my problem Even if it's something I disagree with, I'm not going to tell you who should have access to you, your life, or to your body I think if a woman or a man is happy and at peace with being single or would rather be single than be with someone that doesn't meet her standards then that's fine.	/r/PurplePillDebate	29/01/26 06:21 PM
1	Are women who live in rich countries wiser and more careful about the men whom they date compared to women who live in poorer countries with higher birth rates? From what I can see most guys aren't better than her peace, ymmv	/r/PurplePillDebate	25/01/26 05:13 PM
4	Are women who live in rich countries wiser and more careful about the men whom they date compared to women who live in poorer countries with higher birth rates? If you have a fairly stable life, with access to good resources and a good way of life, then you will be pickier. Because you don't need another person to survive. You can choose based on wants instead of get with anyone The less resources you have, the more likely you are to get with someone for survival. If you're poor or dependent any person who isn't outright abusive is better because it splits the bills. If you live a fairly good life, well you can't just be anyone. You have to not make my …	/r/PurplePillDebate	25/01/26 09:35 AM
5	Why lesbians sexuality seems less fluid than straight women's? Lesbian porn actually takes into account female pleasure, unlike straight porn And no women do find attractive men's bodies hot. Just what men think is an attractive man might not be what women think is an attractive man	/r/PurplePillDebate	23/01/26 10:17 PM
1	Do you think male dominated hobbies and spaces should stay male dominated? In that case, men should also stop complaining about women doing our own hobby stuff and not wanting to interact with men. Like go ahead and do your own vibe comic cons. But if we create our own cons and establish safe rules, then don't show up and complain about it. Go have your own thing If I get pissy about you being gate keepy or however you want to interact with other fans, I'll go off and not talk to you Me and the girls and anyone who wants to join our space will go ahead and do that. If …	/r/PurplePillDebate	23/01/26 08:59 AM
5	What advice would you give a Men early 20- very early 30 Red pill is literally just "I am not mainstream" and "I need edgy misogynistic packaging in order to feel good about myself" Not to mention "I want to make my partner feel insecure so that I have the upper hand all the time" (aka dread game) Mainstream advice has always been "be the best you that you can be" It's just that red pillers apparently can't figure that out without a cheat code. Newsflash. Human beings aren't robots.	/r/PurplePillDebate	23/01/26 08:44 AM
7	Women being interested in friends with benefits prevalent or no? Not the answer you want but: it reaaaaaalllllyyy depends on the woman. I know some who would love a FWB (heavy on the friends part too btw. Not just a booty call. But actually platonically hanging out and going to movies and stuff). Usually it's because they have commitment issues themselves, or they don't think they're in a spot where they want a relationship for various reasons. But also lots of women hate the idea and want an actual relationship. I do think they're a minority but it's not a u…	/r/PurplePillDebate	22/01/26 03:24 AM
2	Would you date a man who makes less than you? I did and I married him	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/01/26 10:43 PM
–	Why be a single mom? Most single parents I knew had children within a long term relationship. Then the relationship broke down. Not every father wants 50/50 custody. So instead the women become single mothers while the father pays child support. It's not like they chose to be a single mother.	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/01/26 12:54 AM
28	Women wouldn't hate men so much if they were attracted to them Don't dress it up saying "oh but misconceptions" or gender roles. Be honest with yourself If men are willing to remove women's rights and/or claim that women should be happy about not having said rights then they hate women. They are attracted to women and want to use them as mommy mcbang maid. That is still a form of hate. Also note that any man who encourages economic coercion (i.e. make it so that women economically have to be with men to live a good life) are people who are okay with sexual …	/r/PurplePillDebate	15/01/26 10:58 AM
12	Gen Z online dating profiles have lost their purity because of Social Media This feels like a #notlikeothergirls Better angles and lighting had nothing to do with "purity" It's literally just better photos	/r/PurplePillDebate	12/01/26 03:58 PM
8	How would you live if you decided not to ever use contraception, birth control, sex toys or any synthetic/human-made sex-related technology? Just you, no other products at all. Celicacy here I come!	/r/PurplePillDebate	11/01/26 05:39 PM
0	Feminism is undermining its own credibility by repeating bad science You are aware that systems can mostly benefit someone while still keeping them down in other ways right?	/r/PurplePillDebate	09/01/26 08:59 PM
1	Feminism is undermining its own credibility by repeating bad science Patriarchy harms men too so yes	/r/PurplePillDebate	09/01/26 06:48 PM
-2	Feminism is undermining its own credibility by repeating bad science I'll believe that when the rate of sexual harassment and assault is 0%, women have full bodily autonomy, no woman ever dies because she was denied an abortion, 0% of women are murdered by their partner, 0% of women are wed underaged, 0% of religious pastors/priests/imams say anything about women being submissive and 0% of courts ask women what they're wearing and what their underwear looks like and 0% of women are denied affordable contraception because of a practitioners religious beliefs, 0% o…	/r/PurplePillDebate	09/01/26 04:58 PM
8	Getting/ finding "better/ new hobbies" is advice for rich men, deadbeats or older men with stable careers. I love like he's the only one or even that men are people without disposable income or time. Lots of people are broke. That's kind of part of the social landscape at the moment. You can choose to stay home and do nothing though. But let's also admit that if you're not putting time into meeting new people you also... Won't meet new people	/r/PurplePillDebate	08/01/26 12:40 AM
6	Who deserves love and chad treatment? Are they mutually exclusive? So divorce then. I don't understand the issue. See when I'm in a relationship my benchmark is me Am I happy. And I being treated the way I want to be. If a man wants to benchmark this on Chad or sex then that's on him. But from my point of view if their sulking about this imaginary AFBB affects my peace and enjoyment of my life I'm walking. Life is too short to put up with that shit.	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/01/26 07:05 PM
7	Who deserves love and chad treatment? Are they mutually exclusive? Per your OP "AFBB" and getting "worse treatment" Stop moving your goal posts. It's not about being "happy and enthusiastic to have sex" it's "worse treatment" Define worse treatment.	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/01/26 06:59 PM
4	Who deserves love and chad treatment? Are they mutually exclusive? I like how you have once again managed to misinterpret lust with "must have kinky sex with me"	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/01/26 06:51 PM
3	Who deserves love and chad treatment? Are they mutually exclusive? You conflate love with "kinky sex" I don't want that definition of love so I'd rather leave You conflate "attraction" with a certain type of sex. I don't want that definition of attraction so I'd rather leave Entitlement refers to feeling like you need x,y,z from someone else's body. I don't care what your reasons are it's entitlement. You are conflating "enthusiasm" with "x kind of sex" I can't be bothered having that in my life Bottom line, if your values (aka you value kinky sex) are differen…	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/01/26 06:31 PM
4	Who deserves love and chad treatment? Are they mutually exclusive? So let's say somehow that it's true that this woman gives out "less" in terms of sex to her partner than she did to some fling 30 years ago You are not entitled to the same thing. No one is. Sex is a mutual act. You start acting entitled that's on you. You're allowed to have feelings about it, but personally if you think "better treatment" is about sex id rather get a divorce. I ain't got time for this stuff.	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/01/26 06:01 PM
1	People who claim women are "happier single" have never spoken to a truly undesirable woman You know the guy has to like me too right? Like I'm not saying the pool is small it's impossible. I mean that he needs to meet my requirements and I have to meet his. I'm not perfect, I've got flaws. That eliminates me from a good part of the dating pool from that side too. Do we have the same lifestyle? Do we want the same things in life?	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/01/26 05:16 AM
7	Ladies, "Formal connection" is just code for using sex as a bargaining chip, and it's a total passion killer. Sounds like someone hurt you there lol	/r/PurplePillDebate	05/01/26 03:55 AM
32	Ladies, "Formal connection" is just code for using sex as a bargaining chip, and it's a total passion killer. Which is it? Wahmen cock carousel or "stop waiting too long!" And also I only have sex when I feel like it and have an emotional connection. Guess what, generally the emotional connection happens when I have figured out what we are. If that doesn't work for you the door is there	/r/PurplePillDebate	05/01/26 03:17 AM
1	CMV: The concept of "financial celibacy" is petty and unfair No it isn't. You aren't entitled to someone paying for your dinner And don't wear make up if you're going to hold it over their heads. Make up isn't even that expensive unless you want it to be.	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/01/26 11:50 PM
–	What are some hobbies that are an immediate turn-off for you and where do you draw the line between a hobby being acceptable or unattractive? Again, who hurt you? Lol	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/01/26 08:16 PM
–	What are some hobbies that are an immediate turn-off for you and where do you draw the line between a hobby being acceptable or unattractive? Sure. But isn't dating about compatibility? It can be an expensive hobby yes, but like I travel once or twice a year I don't think that's frequent enough to be a hobby	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/01/26 08:05 PM
–	What are some hobbies that are an immediate turn-off for you and where do you draw the line between a hobby being acceptable or unattractive? PPD men are funny 🤣. Who hurt you? My money is our money, seeing as I outearn him but go ahead and have your fantasy. I like things like a house and travelling together. I ain't got time for expensive hobbies too. But go spend your money however you want, ain't got anything to do with me	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/01/26 07:10 PM
–	What are some hobbies that are an immediate turn-off for you and where do you draw the line between a hobby being acceptable or unattractive? I'm not a date just to date kind of girl. When i was dating I was looking for a long term relationship that ends either in marriage or common law marriage And once income is combined then I'd have a problem with their expensive hobby. Why should I start something I know won't go anywhere?	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/01/26 06:04 PM
–	What are some hobbies that are an immediate turn-off for you and where do you draw the line between a hobby being acceptable or unattractive? I assume they are into their hobbies a normal amount and don't make it their identity. Don't care what your hobby is, once you make it your personality it's a turn off. I like to play games but I hate people who self identify as "gamers" for example. Deal breakers: Weird pets like insects. Collecting dead things. Again like insects. Taxidermy Nothing aggressive like boxing. I don't mind stuff like jijuitsu or karate though. Or fencing. Just not the ones where people actually get injured. Gamblin…	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/01/26 06:36 AM
4	People who claim women are "happier single" have never spoken to a truly undesirable woman Average is great but only if it's compatible with the people in question. I'm average woman by statistics. But also I'm an average woman who will walk away from any man who even insinuates gender roles. I'm an average woman who will walk away from a man who doesn't do his fair share around the house. I'm an average woman who has a big circle of friends and who wants to be able to continue having one. That means any man must be perfectly able to match my energy or be happy with me going out witho…	/r/PurplePillDebate	02/01/26 02:47 PM
13	People who claim women are "happier single" have never spoken to a truly undesirable woman In which case, happier single still holds true. Because the juice has to be worth the squeeze. You can be happy and single, even if you could be happier with a man who fits all your requirements.	/r/PurplePillDebate	02/01/26 10:46 AM
11	People who claim women are "happier single" have never spoken to a truly undesirable woman If all the good men are taken, then logically there's a limited supply of men who are "good" In which case there will always be a proportion of women who won't be able to get with "good" men. After all there's a limited supply of them right? Would it then logically follow then that being single is a good thing? After all a proportion of women won't be able to bag commitment from the limited supply of good men. Which means that a proportion of women face either singlehood or "not good men" no mat…	/r/PurplePillDebate	02/01/26 10:32 AM
9	Should couples who don't have kids and don't want to ever have them do 50/50 by default? Depends on the couple and whether to merge money. I did 50/50 the first year or so. Then we divided based on income. If earned 60% of the income so it became 60/40 I don't think true 50/50 payment is realistic unless both parties are happy with the living the lifestyle of the lowest income partner. I also think that complete 50/50 feels a bit less like a partnership because the person who earns more is basically always going to have more money. Equitable splitting to me is the nice middle ground…	/r/PurplePillDebate	31/12/25 12:34 AM
–	What do women think when men say "women don't take accountability"? What does "actionable responsibility" mean to you? Because that has nothing to do with tears or raising your voice. That's more to do with "if you're told x is a problem, acting to solve the problem" and I've seen men and women be both really bad at that. What you're talking about seems to be more about communication styles and conflict resolution. Which is not necessarily about accountability. Part of that is the difference between "escalation" and "de-escalation". That is to say, you cannot re…	/r/PurplePillDebate	15/12/25 04:26 AM
–	What do women think when men say "women don't take accountability"? Projection and confirmation bias. In a professional capacity I've seen both men and women daily to take accountability. I've seen both men and women fail to take accountability in real life too. What this is is that there are a lot of men who are already bitter at women and will be finding negative shit and will be generalizing that. It's like how when I'm playing an MMO if a man made a mistake it was "x can't play" but if I made a mistake it was "this is why women aren't real gamers" It's why I…	/r/PurplePillDebate	15/12/25 03:56 AM
3	Men are lonely because women are changed. I'm not sure if it's the same kind of equality as you're thinking though Women my grandmother's age (I'm 30) were entering the workforce but it was still sort of expected that they would stop working when kids happened, or that their pathways were essentially teacher, nurse, or administration. When I was young I remember there was a lot of talk about having it all and how to juggle being a mother, a good wife and having a career. Yes women can have it all! My mother had magazines about how to wa…	/r/PurplePillDebate	09/12/25 08:29 PM
–	What are your thoughts on promoting arranged marriages in the west? Wouldn't know, was too young for that era I think the fact that you probably had to pay was probably a turn off for a lot of people.	/r/PurplePillDebate	08/12/25 09:09 PM
3	The patriarchal agenda: setting up men and women up to fail and be unhappy. you shouldn't get married or have children has also played a role. Feminism says that women should aspire to things that aren't just marriage or children That they are allowed and are empowered to find fullillment in things outside the home How terrible! How dare?! Feminists also say not to settle for a man that doesn't pull his weight and doesn't support your life dreams How dare! Women should make men the center of their lives obviously Like seriously women should only be in a relationship if …	/r/PurplePillDebate	08/12/25 04:33 AM
8	The patriarchal agenda: setting up men and women up to fail and be unhappy. Ah yes. It's feminism that's making people lonely Not the rising costs of living, unbridled capitalism, moving of manufacturing and other sectors overseas, social atomization, the fact that people are spending more time indoors, technocracy, not to mention global warming and the increasing tensions around the world . Nooooo women have rights now! Women can work and be independent! It's their fault! Women compete with men! That's why economics are going down (despite multiple studies showing that…	/r/PurplePillDebate	08/12/25 03:37 AM
24	What are your thoughts on promoting arranged marriages in the west? I absolutely do not want an arranged marriage I might agree to arranged dating where it might help like minded people of the same values etc meet each other easier. But I would like to have a long relationship first before I commit to a marriage I don't do the whole fall in love after marriage bull. I want to know if I love you and will keep loving before anything permanent happens.	/r/PurplePillDebate	08/12/25 03:21 AM
6	Even if a research proved tomorrow that women's standards are 110% delusional they are still entitled to it Why would I address "women only want to jump on the cock carousel and jump on chads dick?" Lol Id tell you what would happen. I'd make a comment about how that is not what happens and how while there are certainly hypersexual women there's also the other extreme of celibate women, Witt most women in the middle of the spectrum And then you'll tell me that I'm lying and am actually just covering up for being a whore. It's useless	/r/PurplePillDebate	08/12/25 12:15 AM
2	Even if a research proved tomorrow that women's standards are 110% delusional they are still entitled to it Why is It always "cock carousel and chads dick?" Like men on this forum seem to think women have sex on the brain the way they do. Newsflash women aren't exactly having that much sex either. I swear men on this sub think every woman is having sex every week with a different man who is always super hot. Touch grass	/r/PurplePillDebate	08/12/25 12:08 AM
9	Even if a research proved tomorrow that women's standards are 110% delusional they are still entitled to it Oppression is better because men got wet dicks I actually don't think humanity deserves to exist if it continuing relies on oppressing 50% of it	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/12/25 11:02 PM
5	Women don't respect or desire actual freedom outside the domain of "sexual liberation". Again, why is my freedom to choose and make sure that I don't have one point of failure in my life less free than being a sahp with one point of failure?	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/12/25 05:25 PM
4	Women don't respect or desire actual freedom outside the domain of "sexual liberation". Again So if we choose to not by sahp and choose to work instead, knowing the reality, why again is that not freedom?	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/12/25 05:22 PM
–	What's something you wish the opposite sex understood more about your experiences? Yes forcing people to hire people based on qualifications and merit instead of discrimination is the same as forcing sex and relationships Aka "you made me hire women, so I should be allowed to rape"	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/12/25 05:06 PM
–	What's something you wish the opposite sex understood more about your experiences? Somehow men always seem to think that the right to work and the right to be financially independent is somehow equivalent to being forced to and coerced into sex Okay, let's say we stop making laws that means women who be one mothers get hired. I want zero whinging about birthrates and population decline. Women: man I really want to be able to live life to the best of abilities and merits Men: yeah well I want sex	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/12/25 04:43 PM
5	Women don't respect or desire actual freedom outside the domain of "sexual liberation". In what world? Is the economy amazing where you live that people just get jobs? How old are you? 10? No one is going to hire someone with gaps in their resume if the other person doesn't. People will hire the best fit for the role, not who has a sob story. In this economy there are people who have worked 30 years and they can't get hired. What plant are you smoking?	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/12/25 04:40 PM
–	What's something you wish the opposite sex understood more about your experiences? But men seem to think that removing women's rights is the way to go. Of course it looses my sympathy. I just want to be able to live my life. They actively want to hurt me. Somehow that makes me evil. They want to have a chance at having a romantic and sex life. No woman will ever give them that chance and yet there’s an expectation that these men have to be ok with never having a chance. Don’t do things that hurt women in anyway but be ok with being hurt by women of never giving a chance of hav…	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/12/25 07:03 AM
–	What's something you wish the opposite sex understood more about your experiences? They rather pull the plug on life than give sympathy or empathy to us. We would rather commit suicide than have empathy? What does empathy look like to you? Really what does it look like? Is it understanding? Is it pity? Or is fucking you? Because if its the second, then you're not looking for empathy or sympathy. It's about sex. And being entitled to women's bodies. They want to have a chance at having a romantic and sex life. No woman will ever give them that chance and yet there’s an expectat…	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/12/25 05:39 AM
10	Women don't respect or desire actual freedom outside the domain of "sexual liberation". But but but FREEEDOM is relying on your husband dont you know?	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/12/25 03:38 AM
15	Women don't respect or desire actual freedom outside the domain of "sexual liberation". I have realised that men here are incapable of nuance. Like some people prefer having money over no money. People would prefer to have an independent source of income that isn't reliant on their husband. Somehow that means well "see women don't actually want work!!!' Like most people would want to be able to not have to work? Assuming they have another source of income that's not reliant on the good graces of another person? And people even then might want to so some sort of thing that gives the…	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/12/25 03:38 AM
15	Women don't respect or desire actual freedom outside the domain of "sexual liberation". Because I'd rather not have one point of failure in my life? Marriage fails? I'm fucked. I have no resume and no back up plan to speak off. Contrary to red pill screaming, alimony is almost never awarded and even if it is unless I'm married to some billionaire it won't be enough. Job fails? There's a restructure? Well it's easier to find a new job than to find a new life partner. And some people like having a purpose outside the home. And some people enjoy the intellectual stimulation of some of…	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/12/25 03:33 AM
0	The red pill is driving women away from men and is central to why modern dating sucks I mean where's the line though? Lots of people claim "doing nice things like giving you rides and helping you move" But I've done both for male and female friends. And they've done the same to me. And if you get told "I'm not interested" then why is it on them to cut it off. People are responsible for their own actions and feelings. If you get told "not interested, want to stay friends" isn't it on you to make the decision to stay friends or not?	/r/PurplePillDebate	05/12/25 11:44 PM
22	What's something you wish the opposite sex understood more about your experiences? I think women understand that everyone wants to be part of something and that everyone wants to be loved. We do actually get that. It's just that when we give out that understanding, often we get hit by "but you still won't fuck us" So then we end up being careful with said understanding. I know men and women both who have enough issues (and probably mental issues) that make it hard for them to have a relationship. I understand that it causes them pain or make them lonely. I also think that you …	/r/PurplePillDebate	05/12/25 11:39 PM
-1	Women cannot detect the "toxic" thoughts of lonely men Look, if you can't figure out the nuances of social interaction and that you have never met someone who is charismatic that's not my problem Some people are great and working the room or making themselves likeable. Be angry and pedantic all you want. Not my problem. Doesn't change the fact that some people have Rizz	/r/PurplePillDebate	05/12/25 04:57 PM
0	Women cannot detect the "toxic" thoughts of lonely men Charismatic people are people who make others want to be near them or interact with them. Generally the more charismatic a person the more magnetic they are. If this is a gotcha of "what specifically would that entail" I wouldn't know. I'm not charismatic myself, if I knew the answer to that I'd have gotten a job in marketing and made a killing	/r/PurplePillDebate	05/12/25 10:21 AM
1	Do women not give young women enough credit in who they choose to date? Lots of stuff here. Again age gaps are what falls into (depending on age) amber flags. And if really young... Red flags Why? Because it presents a power dynamic that can be damaging. Also despite all the accusations of jealousy by men, I've seen so many women taken advantage of and damaged by older men when they were teens. Sorry not sorry if you can't see why that's a trigger. So first of all, if the older partner ever pulls that "but you're so mature!" Card they're likely predators If the olde…	/r/PurplePillDebate	05/12/25 03:31 AM
1	Women cannot detect the "toxic" thoughts of lonely men My God. Is everyone here aliens that need to be couched to understand how people socialise? Socialisation involves social cues that can be read or misread by people. There are four outcomes during socialisation: true positive (good vibes, good person) true negative (bad vibes, bad person) false positive (good vibes, bad person) false negatives (bad vibes, bad person) When people "detect" toxicity they are referring to two scenarios: true negative false negative These are when the person you are …	/r/PurplePillDebate	05/12/25 02:54 AM
–	At Average, a Man that is a degenerate will get more Passion and Love from his Girl/Wife then the normal Guy, i can confirm this. But most men who are struggling to get dates aren't meeting the criteria of "getting dates" in the first place. Being an asshole isn't going to work for them either. It's just going to repel women who might have gone for it if they weren't assholes. Like you're imagining a pie and in that pie let's say half of the women (being generous) have high tolerance to assholishness and the other half with low Tolerance. Your other attributes might make you appeal to maybe a quarter of the pie. Except tha…	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/12/25 12:03 AM
–	At Average, a Man that is a degenerate will get more Passion and Love from his Girl/Wife then the normal Guy, i can confirm this. People are not rational beings and have different temperaments. Lots of women and men are educated and come from good families and aren't partiers or whatever. But they'll all have different temperaments and approaches to life. Some women want stability, some women want to "Fix men", some women have anxious attachment and have no boundaries. I know educated women from stable families and have a good job. Some of them are people pleasers, super anxious, and will end up with crap men. Why? Because…	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/12/25 11:42 PM
–	At Average, a Man that is a degenerate will get more Passion and Love from his Girl/Wife then the normal Guy, i can confirm this. Okay. Let's see how well that works out for most men This is the thing I don't get. If men here believe being an asshole gets relationships, why can't they just be assholes and see what that brings them?	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/12/25 11:27 PM
13	Women suffer from Romantic Neuroticism and Weaponized Competence. Let me put it this way: If I say the first few times "I like light milk" and they haven't figured out by time 5 that I like light milk, isn't that their fault? If you haven't figured out that you should put some effort into her birthday, then maybe that's a you problem? Communication is great and good and direct communication is important. But if you're just too incompetent to think for yourself and remember things, then that's not a problem of communication. That's the problem of not giving a s…	/r/PurplePillDebate	29/11/25 03:21 AM
1	“Nice Guys Finish Last” comes from not evolving one’s understanding of people and morals from childhood. And what kind of women are these? Like the women with 5 baby daddies or hook up with prisoners or whatever are generally not moral or stable themselves Honestly it's like this entire sub bases it's "nice guy finishes last" theory on the worst masses or women with mental illnesses. How do I know this? Because I've seen both happen. Maladjusted people get together and hang out together. Well adjusted people get together and hangout together.	/r/PurplePillDebate	28/11/25 11:20 PM
4	More men aren't single because they have "bad personalities" Only if it's enforced equally, men are shamed for sex to the equivalent of women and women aren't blamed for being harassed and assaulted for what they were wearing Because in my view purity culture disproportionately puts the bonus of honor and behavior and modesty on women If slut shaming happens I want men to be just as screwed over, just as ashamed. If nudes are spread I want the man who actually spread them to be soooo lambasted their shame is carried like a weight on their shoulders as muc…	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/11/25 04:08 PM
2	Women need to drop their screen addiction and go outside. That's so strange I swear almost every woman I know are in fitness classes, going yoga, learning a craft of some sort, in stitch and bitch or is taking some sort of cooking class like baking sourdough or cheese making. The exceptions tend to be the ones who are partnered and married	/r/PurplePillDebate	24/11/25 07:25 AM
2	Women need to drop their screen addiction and go outside. Someone has not tried to play online games as a woman and it shows Inb4 we shit on boys online too! You don't rape threats because you got hit in a dungeon.	/r/PurplePillDebate	24/11/25 07:20 AM
23	How polarized you are in gender wars? How often do you support "male side" in arguments? In anything that isn't "women need to date men" or "women need to be okay with men making them uncomfortable" and anything that isn't "muh divorce rape" Personally I believe women should pay half on a date I believe that you should have prenups so that everyone is on the same page about finances But also, if someone is taking time off work to raise a child, you really can't complain about "muh money" because that becomes shared money. You can't go around screening about the evils of gold digging…	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/11/25 08:43 PM
2	Men being the ones to initiate is not a failure of feminism Not according to some other people on this sub Apparently I'm part of men's oppression and just as bad as those who segregate black people from white people if women just want to be left alone.	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/11/25 08:21 PM
–	What particular thing do you think would make the dating world a lot easier if men understood better? So what if it doesn't work? Does that mean you're an asshole who will lie to get sex? I mean that's really your choices You can choose to be truthful or you can choose to be a lying asshole. If you decide sex is more important, then be honest with yourself and know that you're an asshole	/r/PurplePillDebate	20/11/25 11:18 PM
–	What particular thing do you think would make the dating world a lot easier if men understood better? Because in a lot of other countries, they're patriarchal and already use their magic penis to have authority They dress it up in pretty words like "protection" and "respect your mothers" but the moment you get there they're all just using patriarchal authority Inb4 you're a privileged western feminist! I'm an Asian immigrant.	/r/PurplePillDebate	20/11/25 11:17 PM
1	How often woman tell other woman that they have unrealistic expectations in Dating? Depends on whether she wants a relationship or not I know a girl who knows that she has unrealistic dating expectations She also isn't actively looking anymore. So what's the point?	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/11/25 04:47 AM
–	Men’s Dating Struggles Dont Get Taken As Seriously Because Many People Are Simply Uncomfortable With Criticism of Women Why is it that men wanting to have relatives is the equivalent to women literally just wanting the right to live and be independent The fashion industry wants to make money. It's not a moral stance. They just want to sell clothes. Women want to be treated as equals in the work place Society wants children but clearly doesn't value motherhood. Now that's hypocritical.	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/11/25 09:46 AM
–	Men’s Dating Struggles Dont Get Taken As Seriously Because Many People Are Simply Uncomfortable With Criticism of Women Also agree that not all NDs get along, there's a lot of ADD/ADHD in my family and I've found some nerdy circles filled with ND people, and yeah it's an interesting mix of people haha. I do a lot of nerd hobbies. Lots of people around me are ND. There's a couple of autistics and lots of ADHD and ADD. There were so many of them they convinced me to check because if everyone around me was ND, I must be too! I went to a clinician and everything. Nope, still NT. it's just I'm That also am willing to …	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/11/25 06:22 AM
4	Is it true that men want monogamy and family more than women, or is that a false narrative here? It's a fact that in many cases a family would benefit more from having one person work less and focus on domestic issues than two people working. In my family, my dad didn't work. In my sister's family, my brother-in-law doesn't work. That isn't very normal, but it works for us. And it might! But it doesn't change the fact that it's a really big financial risk. A relationship breakdown, even without abuse, will leave one partner poorer and hurting but able to recover. And one will be less likely…	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/11/25 03:59 AM
–	Men’s Dating Struggles Dont Get Taken As Seriously Because Many People Are Simply Uncomfortable With Criticism of Women I'd like to add that I do advocate for ND spaces I would like to say that not all NDs get along with other NDs. That's like saying all NTs get along with all NTs. Lots of people with autism can be off putting to other people with autism. And so on and so forth. I agree that a focus on helping people and encouraging people to practice socialisation is great! But we do also need to teach people boundaries and how if you violate those boundaries people are free to disengage and not deal with you. T…	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/11/25 02:21 AM
–	Men’s Dating Struggles Dont Get Taken As Seriously Because Many People Are Simply Uncomfortable With Criticism of Women Men's problem is kinda the mirror image of women's problems. You were not allowed to leave, and that is a problem. Men's problem is that they are constantly expected to leave and never welcomed in, and that women being uncomfortable near them is men's fault even if they haven't done anything. But isn't your solution to make it so that women still can't leave? Because if a man is too boisterous or aggressive or rude or whatever and I just don't interact with them .. It's Jim Crow level racist So …	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/11/25 02:17 AM
5	Is it true that men want monogamy and family more than women, or is that a false narrative here? What I am suggesting is that people change how they view intimate relationships. It use to be necessary to have two people working together just to have hot meals So why then is it that your comments keep bringing up how women being independent earners is such a bad thing for families and oh no how dare women compete with men for jobs? Yes of course we should view relationships in a way that brings stability and foundation to your life. But if the specter of "well it's women's fault for wanting …	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/11/25 01:33 AM
–	Men’s Dating Struggles Dont Get Taken As Seriously Because Many People Are Simply Uncomfortable With Criticism of Women Define making women uncomfortable please Because for me being uncomfortable with men is also often equated with "this man has been staring at me non stop and I am very weirded out" and "this man has invaded my social space and I am trying to back away but he's so close and I don't know what to do" and also "this man has been aggressively locking me in conversation and when I leave he gets even more in my face" And somehow that's an okay thing to suffer from for male comfort? Whereas when we aske…	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/11/25 01:18 AM
–	Men’s Dating Struggles Dont Get Taken As Seriously Because Many People Are Simply Uncomfortable With Criticism of Women Why do you think they don't have anything to do with dating? Here I thought meeting new people, gaining social skills and having mental health and well-being support to help you in your journey to well being generally made people happier and less lonely You know like how it's a loneliness problem? Not a "men want sex" problem?	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/11/25 01:04 AM
–	Men’s Dating Struggles Dont Get Taken As Seriously Because Many People Are Simply Uncomfortable With Criticism of Women Me: I propose third spaces, mental health support and men supporting each other. I just don't see why it has to be women's boundaries being pushed back for the sake of men's comfort Men: so you want men to rot? These things write themselves Please, tell me what is your solution?	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/11/25 12:48 AM
–	Men’s Dating Struggles Dont Get Taken As Seriously Because Many People Are Simply Uncomfortable With Criticism of Women Even if you make new third spaces that are affordable, most people tend to stay home way more, we're just way more insular. This is true. The problem is that I think a lot of people want to be part of a community but aren't willing to do the work and social obligations of being in a community Sorry, but you have to choose your poison. Community comes with downsides. It means yes you are socially obligated to attend things like people's birthdays and weddings and whatever. The amount of oh noes I…	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/11/25 11:26 PM
6	Is it true that men want monogamy and family more than women, or is that a false narrative here? And having both genders compete for the same top jobs, reduces negotiating power in the labor force. This could be solved by the labour force collectively going against the upper class Don't see how women being allowed to work is the problem here I'd be willing to give up my rights to a career if a woman would adopt me, but that's unlikely to be a future outcome. You're willing to give up a career , but should you be allowed to decide that it's okay to remove rights from other men? Remember it's…	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/11/25 11:13 PM
–	Men’s Dating Struggles Dont Get Taken As Seriously Because Many People Are Simply Uncomfortable With Criticism of Women I constantly see the reply of "you just want women to fuck you and we won't" even to the most well explained and articulate arguments. I find often that it's because there's still nothing really I can do about it. Put this is way, I know a man who is not a bad person but is socially awkward. He's also likely on the spectrum, which means he has a hard time reading the room. I personally find him very grating and a lot to deal with. He's the son of a family friend so I am socially obligated to see…	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/11/25 10:07 PM
13	Men’s Dating Struggles Dont Get Taken As Seriously Because Many People Are Simply Uncomfortable With Criticism of Women But who cares? Lol So her standards are too high. She won't get a man. Do what? That's her problem. If a woman's standards are too high she will be single. That's her choices. Maybe its high because she's so happy single that it doesn't matter. Maybe she's unhappy single and miserable. In which case it doesn't matter either way. It's her life and her consequences	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/11/25 05:48 PM
12	Men’s Dating Struggles Dont Get Taken As Seriously Because Many People Are Simply Uncomfortable With Criticism of Women I mean they are... The problem is the way they frame it as "it's women's fault for not dating/having sex with these men" If they framed it in literally any other way that doesn't imply that the reason was evil feminism making women not want to date me, I'd be more game to fix it Affordable third spaces, better social connections, more robust mental health support And yes, I am aware that some feminists are against men gathering or whatever. I am not one of those. If it's not an old boys club tha…	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/11/25 05:43 PM
16	Is it true that men want monogamy and family more than women, or is that a false narrative here? I feel like being less happy has less to do with "not being allowed to stay home" and more to do with the general economic system that over works everyone Feminism isn't the bogey man here, capitalism is Further my problem with this narrative is that while some women would be happier with a traditional lifestyle, there's no protection for them economically. It puts them at the mercy of a man. That's one point of failure Yeah yah accountability choose better! Well if I had a choice between "choos…	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/11/25 05:31 PM
12	Andrew Wilson's Force Doctrine: Men have a monopoly on force. Thus, the patriarchy will always exist, because women must ALWAYS appeal to men for their rights. This sub makes me laugh so much. It's so entertaining Men: wahmen bad! They claim they're afraid but they're not! They evil feminists! Also men: women depend on us for rights! We could hurt and kill them at any point! Also men: feminism bad modern wahmen hate men for no reason how dare? Also men: wahmen shouldn't have rights and should stay at home! Also men: feminism brainwash women into hating men and not wanting to be at home! If they don't want to be stay at home they are modern and brainwas…	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/11/25 01:51 AM
3	The male loneliness epidemic is a good thing. Lmao Women want to date men the like and not be forced into marriage to men they don't like = oppression, Nazis, eugenics	/r/PurplePillDebate	15/11/25 04:09 AM
2	What do you mean by respect ? I've always believed in 50/50 effort, or a better phrase would be 100/100 In that we should both be putting in the same effort into the relationship. If we're both working 40 hours each, why should one person be doing more at home? I outearn my husband, but that doesn't give me a reason to just put my feet up and make him do more because "Nyeh Nyeh I earn more" which is what men on this sub believe. On the other hand he's good with routine but really bad with noticing mess and dust. So he takes …	/r/PurplePillDebate	12/11/25 01:34 AM
3	What do you mean by respect ? I disagree. A relationship can be equal and between equal partnerships, with each taking the lead according to their strengths. But also with each decision with equal partnership. I don't believe in gender roles, just individual strengths. Yes that can be informed by biology (pregnancy and physical strength) but not the rest. Either I have equal authority in the household or the man is 100% a perfect human being with zero flaws or I am single Those are my three options and I'm okay with that	/r/PurplePillDebate	12/11/25 01:22 AM
0	Do you believe asymmetry in online dating is a big contributor to the 'Male loneliness crisis'? I mean I ask men here what would help that doesn't involve sex and it's the men who get angry about it	/r/PurplePillDebate	11/11/25 10:50 PM
5	What do you mean by respect ? Because that's what it means for me to be submissive. To give up authority and be dependent is I think an unreasonable ask without having a perfect authority figure. So a man must be as perfect as Jesus Christ himself. The trade off for having all the authority is to never misuse it ever. And to me raising your voice, having even one iota of selfishness, and putting me even 0.000001 below you in anything is a misuse of authority. Or.... Have an equal partnership with 50/50 decision making. And y…	/r/PurplePillDebate	11/11/25 10:08 PM
6	What do you mean by respect ? They wouldn't that's sort of the point of why I would never submit. Because it's unreasonable and insane to me	/r/PurplePillDebate	11/11/25 08:30 PM
2	What do you mean by respect ? No, because for me a relationship has to be good and happy and healthy for both people See if he's always getting 1 extra point of happiness at the cost of my unhappiness he is excercising selfishness My idea of a relationship is one of equals. Where we would have to make sure we are compatible and all our desires and needs have equal importance. Yes it does mean that you need to find your fit, but by definition one partner is not allowed to be too selfish or take advantage, because the other on…	/r/PurplePillDebate	11/11/25 07:59 PM
5	What do you mean by respect ? But if you lose 5 and he gains 6, then he didn’t necessarily make a selfish choice — he made a collective one. In the same way, why would a respectable person never get angry? Maybe you just never do anything that deserves anger? Because that's what it means to use your power and authority responsibility. It doesn't matter if I do anything that deserves anger. I have no authority. He as the person with all the power and all the authority cannot take advantage of that power or authority in any wa…	/r/PurplePillDebate	11/11/25 07:38 PM
8	What do you mean by respect ? To me respect is to treat someone decently and courteously. You respect their boundaries and that they have rich inner lives. To respect your partner is to acknowledge that you are a partnership and that you need both of you to make this relationship work. That also means respecting that your partner is a human being with their own desires and aspirations, not just an extension of yourself. I personally and many other women do not find empowerment or pride in submission. I find pride in my capab…	/r/PurplePillDebate	11/11/25 02:06 AM
6	Do women realize that many adult men just don't have people they consider friends? If men and women experience loneliness at the same rate, then why do we call it a men's loneliness epidemic? At that stage then men need to STFU about how women have it so easy and live life on easy mode. Which is it? Is it a general loneliness epidemic, which means women don't have it easy finding relationships, platonic or romantic? Or is it a male issue where men specifically have issues forming bonds?	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/11/25 11:55 PM
14	Do women realize that many adult men just don't have people they consider friends? Sure I do. It's why I refuse to consider that the male loneliness epidemic is supposed to be solved by women dating men. Loneliness can be alleviated by friendships and other things not related to sex, sex, sex, sex. My advice to everyone is build a social circle. Live a fulfilling life. It increases your emotional and mental health and consequently can make you a more attractive option for a relationship But I know men here don't touch grass and won't listen, because I didn't give them a way to…	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/11/25 08:56 PM
1	Men should embrace “She’s not yours, it’s just your turn” I did watch it in the end, and I feel like it doesn't invalidate my point that people just walk away from people they aren't compatible with Women won't pay? Walk away and insist on splitting. Don't go on a second date. I have male friends who refuse to bother a second date if she doesn't offer to split Woman not putting in equal effort? Walk away Woman make weird comments on the first or second date that you don't jive with? Walk away That doesn't seem to be a problem	/r/PurplePillDebate	05/11/25 06:11 AM
1	Men should embrace “She’s not yours, it’s just your turn” I don't really go for videos like that because it's usually some person on their soap box. And also because I red faster than they talk. I'd rather read a peer reviewed piece of statistics that actually have some sort of evidence.	/r/PurplePillDebate	05/11/25 05:48 AM
1	Men should embrace “She’s not yours, it’s just your turn” Relationships being voluntary doesn't justify maximizing the benefits for the woman at the expense of the man, and it's especially galling after feminism seeks out any hint of inequality against women, but actively promoted blatant inequality against men. Not sure where this comes from? Relationships are voluntary, meaning men and women need to want to be with you to have a relationship By definition it addresses the cause, assuming we are all able to work and able to live our lives independentl…	/r/PurplePillDebate	05/11/25 05:29 AM
0	Men should embrace “She’s not yours, it’s just your turn” Well yes, that is precisely what feminists do to justify whatever they want. The difference is that generally men are reacting to changes in the last 20-50 years, not reacting to things that happened 100+ years ago. Considering the current roll back of women's rights and the amount of conservative right wing men in government I'm going to say that I've become even more radicalized in recent years against men. I went from "most men aren't right wing sexists" to "any men who is even vaguely not pr…	/r/PurplePillDebate	05/11/25 02:58 AM
-1	Men should embrace “She’s not yours, it’s just your turn” And again, it's not men who started this, the red pill is a response to women's modern attitudes. By that logic women's attitudes are a response to historically being oppressed and forced to be dependent on men. I don't see how that's a talking point at all I agree. The problem is that most modern women don't seem to agree, and seem almost pathologically allergic to doing anything that could ever benefit men. Almost everyone in a relationship or is looking for one that I know basically requires …	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/11/25 10:02 PM
1	Men should embrace “She’s not yours, it’s just your turn” Not necessarily. Yes, family comes with responsibility, but that does not mean you subsume your identity. That's how you get toxic relationships. A father is responsible for the safety and well-being of his children above all. A mother is responsible for the safety and well-being of her children above all. But also, you can be someone who is not just a mother. My own mother had a job and a job title. She was also a friend. She was also other things other than just "mother". You can be a good mot…	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/11/25 01:54 AM
7	Men should embrace “She’s not yours, it’s just your turn” I dont understand why women being independent humans equated to "its just your turn" It means you and her have to always work to keep each other happy and compromise to keep a relationship going. I dont understand why this is seen to be such a bogeyman to redpillers. The redpill itself speaks of keeping a frame that a woman needs to fit in, instead of bending over backwards. Why is it such a hard concept to feel like women would also have a frame that you have to fit in? Independence doesn't hav…	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/11/25 10:34 PM
5	CMV: There's nothing for women in traditionalism And yet in almost all traditional churches they preach staying. Forgive your man for his cheating. What did you do to make home angry? Etc etc there's been so many times that this has been shown, even in the so called free western countries. You can say it's just individuals beating up their wives, but so as long as there's churches out there that give marriage counseling and advice where the advice is to stay despite cheating, mistreatment or abuse then its part of the social fabric of what it …	/r/PurplePillDebate	01/11/25 06:48 PM
9	The individualistic culture in the west is why dating is very bad. I disagree, sure it's true that there's such a thing as "you can't expect perfection" but I don't think the answer is "date someone you know isn't right for you because society" I've seen collectivist societies too, and it's pretty crappy too. Is crazy misogynistic and it's "put up with a dude you don't like because of family" and tbh seeing those marriages is why i almost refused to get married at all. I'd rather be alone than stuck. However there is a decent middle ground here. Most people do …	/r/PurplePillDebate	29/10/25 08:55 AM
3	Where do autistic and adhd men fit in? What part of official diagnosis did you not understand	/r/PurplePillDebate	28/10/25 07:30 AM
1	Where do autistic and adhd men fit in? They have official diagnosis so yes actually it is possible. Yes there are caveats that they're mostly high functioning and have essentially learned social skills. But they're great conversationalists and generally just need to be given direct communication	/r/PurplePillDebate	26/10/25 10:42 PM
–	The avêrage man has no reason to promote womên’s rights But that's women's rights? The ability to own wealth, to not have barriers to the workforce, to be treated equally is human rights. If you remove women's rights (i.e. The right to work, the ability to work without barriers and discrimination due to gender All you're doing is being a slave master forcing women to be in marriages (and effectively coercing sex, which is rape) for the sake of survival because .... Men want to get their dick wet.	/r/PurplePillDebate	26/10/25 09:52 AM
13	Society often tries to change men's behaviour regarding intersexual dynamics to fit a feminist paradigm, but doesn't attempt to change female behaviour to fit the same feminist paradigm Im going to try and debate in good faith here I think women and men should both be liberated from gender roles. I do think that society in general encourages making money regardless of gender. You won't find people advocating for men to stop working and only conservatives argue that women stop working. And conservatives believe in gender roles. Generally men and women have relationships with people of their own economic class. Yes there is a tendency for men to be the higher earner in a relation…	/r/PurplePillDebate	25/10/25 11:28 PM
2	Do every woman go through a hoe phase? So 1 instance of casual sex? 2?	/r/PurplePillDebate	25/10/25 07:49 PM
1	Do every woman go through a hoe phase? Lots of differences. Lots of women have a hoe phase Lots don't Depends on what you consider hoe phase to be Does clubbing a lot and making out but no sex count? To some men yes. Does 1 instance of casual sex? Does 2?	/r/PurplePillDebate	25/10/25 07:41 PM
17	Where do autistic and adhd men fit in? People are forgetting that autism and ADHD are a spectrum. There are lots of autistic men who would realllllly struggle to date. And there are lots of autistic men who actually do fit in. They're sociable. They're kind. They might just be a bit inflexible and they might have a routine. But I've seen autistic men function just fine in relationships. And same with ADHD. Lots of them aren't full never clean the house and never finish anything. A lot of treated ADHD people around me function fine. M…	/r/PurplePillDebate	25/10/25 06:45 PM
0	90% of all women want to be dominated. Period. Man tries kinky casual sex app Finds women down for kinky casual sex All women must like kinky casual sex! You can't make this up	/r/PurplePillDebate	24/10/25 10:15 PM
3	Women, how do you feel about normalizing male nudity, or men wearing revealing clothing? Its more that the principle of not being a controlling partner and knowing who you are with. If I'm uncomfortable with nudity, why would I be in a relationship with someone who dresses in a way I'm uncomfortable with (or to be with someone who wants to be nude)? Being controlling about it is wrong. They're allowed to do what they want. I'm allowed to not date someone I don't want. It's pretty simple.	/r/PurplePillDebate	22/10/25 10:41 PM
3	Women, how do you feel about normalizing male nudity, or men wearing revealing clothing? Nah. My husband and I have been through ups and downs after 10 years But we also don't compromise on bodily autonomy. Because that's fundamentally against our values. So as long as what you're wearing is socially appropriate for the venue then it's okay. What that means is in a nude beach where it is normal (and expected!) to be naked. Nakedness is okay. In a party where people don't flash tits because that's not the crowd then that is not okay. If at a wedding where formal wear is required, no …	/r/PurplePillDebate	22/10/25 07:31 PM
–	Why Are Consensual Orgasms Seen As Rare To Women, But Non-Consensual Orgasms As “A Normal Process?” Oh my god. The reasons they try to emphasise sexual arousal firing assault is to show victims that they arent broken and to stop people from using she orgasamed as a defence Women get blamed for their own rape just because they were out late, didn't scream and fight, wore matching underwear, or whatever. It is also possible that a lot of sex doesn't lead to orgasm for many different reasons Those are two distinct differences. They do not contradict. Men on this sub need to touch grass	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/10/25 10:08 AM
0	Question for women: How can a man who's not able to get casual sex, pursue a serious relationship with a woman who did have casual sex with other men? You have two choices You wither accept her and love her regardless of her sexual history Or you don't and you leave. That's up to you.	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/10/25 09:57 AM
–	What's the difference between red flags and flaws in your opinion? For me a red flag doesn't need to be a flaw. It's just a flag that says STOP. Not for me. And flaw doesn't have to be a red flag. So for example religion is a red flag for me. It says STOP. why? Because I'm not religious and don't want to be in a relationship with someone who is Conservatism, belief in gender roles, and being pro-life are all red flags for me. Conversely a flaw can be stubborness or anxious etc And neither of those are red flags for me, unless it impacts me to a great extent. E.…	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/10/25 02:15 AM
0	Why is sex a nontradeable ? I mean I don't think it is. I'm all for ethical prostitution and all the jazz I just personally don't want to engage in it	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/10/25 02:10 AM
0	"Choosing better" arguments should also apply to men who get falsely accused, get cheated on, get rejected, if we're going to apply to female victims of violence and SA Therapy only helps you understand why you feel like the way you do and give you the tools to help you process those emotions It's still up to you to be honest, introspective and to use those tools when needed. It's also a work in progress not something that gives you immediate results. I've seen people fail therapy and it's generally that people don't want to change or acknowledge where the problem is. Often it's because doing so admits that maybe there's something that needs to change in their …	/r/PurplePillDebate	14/10/25 08:49 PM
-7	"Choosing better" arguments should also apply to men who get falsely accused, get cheated on, get rejected, if we're going to apply to female victims of violence and SA You need therapy	/r/PurplePillDebate	14/10/25 07:45 PM
1	"Choosing better" arguments should also apply to men who get falsely accused, get cheated on, get rejected, if we're going to apply to female victims of violence and SA Yeah communicating unambiguously has actually helped me a lot in relationships. I'm sure that saying things and then backpedaling and going "well of course I didn't mean the words I said, obviously I meant this other thing" is super enjoyable to the people around you Sure. But I do also expect that in a relationship people have nuance and emotional intelligence to know that not everything is 100% literal I also expect that in a relationship most "ambiguous" statements can be clarified without so…	/r/PurplePillDebate	14/10/25 07:06 PM
0	"Choosing better" arguments should also apply to men who get falsely accused, get cheated on, get rejected, if we're going to apply to female victims of violence and SA If you see someone say misogynist things online and you assume with 100% certainty that if you met them in real life that you would be able to tell they're a misogynist then you are in fact claiming that you have a supernatural ability to read minds/smell misogyny. That is.. not how that works. If you behave badly online, I'm assuming that you're likely not going to be able to keep up not being misogynistic irl. You're likely slipping up at some point. But sure. Take everything 100% literally. T…	/r/PurplePillDebate	14/10/25 06:55 PM
-4	"Choosing better" arguments should also apply to men who get falsely accused, get cheated on, get rejected, if we're going to apply to female victims of violence and SA Men take the words "I have a gut feeling/ Im feeling creeped out" and some how extrapolate that to "women smell misogyny and are super natural mind readers! Nyeeeeeeeh" If I can see and reel that you're a misogynist because of the way you act, talk, etc even online then yes obviously you're a walking red flag Hey hey hey I could tell that the 5 year old with crumbs on his face lied about eating the cookie. I guess that means I'm a human lie detector now	/r/PurplePillDebate	14/10/25 06:46 PM
13	How Much of Your Needs Should Be Communicated Directly - and How Much Should Be Understood? I think for the most part everyone and everything would be better with direct communication However there is also a degree of emotional intelligence that is needed in a relationship. If I am cleaning around you and you have your feet up watching TV, I shouldn't need to communicate to you that I would like you to pitch in. Because you aren't a child. The exemption obviously is if we have a prior agreement (I do this room, you do the other room) or have already got a chore system that we are both …	/r/PurplePillDebate	14/10/25 12:22 AM
14	If society continues to act silly when it comes to gender dynamics between men and women. Then online dating apps should be the only valid place to form relationships. Look, it's up to you. I know people who prefer dating apps, men and women both, for the same reasons you do. It's unambiguous and you make sure you aren't "shitting where you eat" per say Some people do find it better to meet organically, but it does require more social skills and the ability to navigate situations. Often it also means joining hobbies you enjoy where you would like to meet people and not specifically for dating. But at the end of the day you do you. That's all that matters	/r/PurplePillDebate	12/10/25 03:35 AM
4	We need more two-way empathy, not sympathy I would suggest that you didn't, and speak to the ones who don't. Speak to the ones that you can find some common cause with, who aren't insulting you to your face or saying you're worthless. This sub is about 80% damaged men and women moaning. It's just that damaged men blame women's rights and advocate for taking it away and damaged women are like "I just don't like talking or dealing with men anymore. They suck" One of these I think is not like the other.	/r/PurplePillDebate	11/10/25 10:38 AM
3	We need more two-way empathy, not sympathy Funny because from what I can see most women here talk about things like community, making friends, being happy while you're single but looking to improve your life, finding fulfillment with hobbies And men go "your career doesn't matter, ball empty stomach full, single wahmen bad!, stay at home mother good unless she divorces in which case how dare she claim my money???? Sex sex, n count, promiscuous women, agreeable women, submissive women, feminism bad". Like I can do a casual search of this …	/r/PurplePillDebate	11/10/25 10:27 AM
12	We need more two-way empathy, not sympathy And constantly taking men in bad faith, reducing everything to sex, isn't helping. To be fair, I think men here reduce everything to sex. Like I'm happy to have a conversation about things like men's suicide, mental health issues, and even yes the fact that women get custody more. But almost any time all men here want to talk about is sex. Sex. Sex. Sex. Like we couldn't talk about getting more social skills and getting more community and it beckoned "but women still won't date me"	/r/PurplePillDebate	11/10/25 10:13 AM
5	Dating is insanely inequal and unfair for men, yet no one’s adressing it even though it affects fundamental human I'd switch with you in a heartbeat. And as long as you don't care about my, why should I care about yours I'd happily switch social positions with a man. Lol this is peak "women are afraid men will oppress and hurt them, men are afraid of getting their feelings hurt"	/r/PurplePillDebate	09/10/25 09:01 PM
4	Is there a double standard where women say they find men going to therapy attractive, but then treat it as a red flag later? I think that therapy is great and I like it when people are actively working on themselves. But also it depends on what it is and people have very different tolerances to things. For example I can tolerate argumentative people (to a degree) and I can tolerate competitiveness. I can't tolerate passive aggressiveness or tantrum I have cut contact off a friend who was actively working on themself, but even when she was getting better I just can't deal with her passive aggressiveness and general pas…	/r/PurplePillDebate	09/10/25 08:24 PM
5	Dating is insanely inequal and unfair for men, yet no one’s adressing it even though it affects fundamental human Because last I checked there isn't a political agenda to remove the rights of short men and kill men who don't touch grass How many women are raped, assaulted, denied abortion, have contraception denied to them because of religion, have speakers and politicians talk about how women's place are in the home etc? One of those is a legitimate political and legal concern. The other is getting your feelings hurt. And when it comes to what people vote for, it's their right in democracies, you are free …	/r/PurplePillDebate	09/10/25 06:29 PM
9	Dating is insanely inequal and unfair for men, yet no one’s adressing it even though it affects fundamental human I can't imagine being scared comments on internet, sorry. And rich people are not scared when poor scream "eat the rich". People in privileged position feel no fear nore empathy towards those who envy them. When abortion rights are being stripped away, and the current right wing governments being voted in... I take everything people put on the Internet seriously Because these people vote. It's such a position of privilege to think that public opinions don't matter. I'm an immigrant. Racism and a…	/r/PurplePillDebate	09/10/25 06:13 PM
5	Do you know what makes a good gf /wife? Don't care	/r/PurplePillDebate	09/10/25 05:12 PM
23	Do you know what makes a good gf /wife? I don't believe in being a good gf or wife. I believe in being a good partner, gender neutral. If a man wants a woman who adheres to gender roles then they know where the door is.	/r/PurplePillDebate	09/10/25 09:02 AM
7	Why do women take offense from men asking about their past? Well I'm married so I've got nothing to be ashamed of Personally I think men who screech hoe when they themselves have high counts are the men who are gross and not worth my time.	/r/PurplePillDebate	08/10/25 04:21 AM
7	Why do women take offense from men asking about their past? But it's not about adapting and steering social situations, it's if the person is making you uncomfortable why would I want to see them again in a romantic context? Like, generally I'm a pretty open book anyways, but if someone went "what's your number?" Then the question becomes, why are you asking that? If they've got strict body count rules then perhaps even if I do fit their criteria they're not for me. If they're religious in any way shape or form they're not for me If they're just genuinel…	/r/PurplePillDebate	08/10/25 01:34 AM
-2	Why do women take offense from men asking about their past? Lol troll better	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/10/25 10:49 PM
0	Why do women take offense from men asking about their past? Obsessed with numbers? Bye!	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/10/25 10:24 PM
17	Why do women take offense from men asking about their past? You're allowed to break it off regardless of anything. That's fine. As I said it naturally comes up in conversation then people don't get offended. But also, most men who ask for "a number" generally also end up being people with really bad social skills so it comes off as kinda off. No judgement or shaming, she can do what she wants but I'm not about that life lol Well I would judge very silently so you're doing better than me	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/10/25 08:49 PM
27	Why do women take offense from men asking about their past? It's not really "asking about your past" that's offensive imo. It's how they ask about it. Like I've had cool discussions about past exes, or flings, or whatever. But then there are men obsessed with a number and almost all of them give off vibes that are like "women shouldn't sleep around but it's okay if men do it" And it immediately puts my hackles up. I had a guy tell me once that he was saving himself and was looking for someone who wanted to do the same thing. And I was not offended at all…	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/10/25 08:10 PM
4	I think that MGTOW and 4B types are deluding themselves when they say people are dating less because they realized the evils of the other gender. I think that animosity is largely unfounded and a result of feminist brainwashing, but they feel it nonetheless and that will have consequences. Ngl my brainwashing to hate men didn't come from feminist, it came from men who: say things like your body my choice Complain about how women aren't women anymore because we don't want to clean, cook and do all the house chores for them seeing men complain about divorce rape...and then also want women who want to be housewives. say women should want to …	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/10/25 02:27 AM
–	Modern feminism in the US has impeded equality in more patriarchal societies Seems like the problem there is still squarely at the feet of men in power. I'm so done with the idea that "bad women make equality look bad". If equality looks bad to you, you're the problem. NB4: no not getting sex or relationships will never be as bad as not being able to have freedom and independence. End of.	/r/PurplePillDebate	05/10/25 11:56 PM
1	Should we have No Divorce groups? I think people need to give marriage their best shot. You choose to make it work. But at the end of the day if you are miserable, you should divorce and prioritize your personal happiness A relationship only works if you're both putting the same 100/100 effort and have agreed to the same path in life without resentment. Like have they become lazy? Do they take you for granted and you have communicated that? Do they pick fights for no reason? Have anger issues? Picked up a drinking habits? You co…	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/10/25 10:15 AM
–	Men think they are more attractive than they really are I disagree. I don't think it's just attractiveness (physically) that's the issue. In fact, quite often I see people describe themselves "unattractive and subhuman I have no hope" and they're at worst average looking. I think there are fringe cases for "I'm so unattractive I'll never date", but commonly there is generally something else that's the issue. A lot of it is things like black and white thinking, rigidity, confidence or not understanding social norms. For example dating apps can be very…	/r/PurplePillDebate	02/10/25 12:55 AM
1	If women don’t dress provocatively for men, what do they do it for? Honestly I think the entirely of psychology is just vibes, including the Evo psych bit. They think they're biology but they aren't. Evo psych is basically astrology for men. But but but my bioessentialism means everything you do is about mate selection!!! It gives the same vibes as "you're a Capricorn! That's why you do this!!!"	/r/PurplePillDebate	01/10/25 04:39 AM
1	If women don’t dress provocatively for men, what do they do it for? again; first attractive, then hot, now beautiful. These all have significantly different Ever thought that for a lot of people they're all basically the same thing? Finally, making the claim that evolutionary psychology is anti-science is ignorant. Evolutionary psychology investigates theories like any other domain of science, and the premise that evolution has selected for traits that preference survival is a rationale argument. In fact, it is more scientific to hold that women use makeup due t…	/r/PurplePillDebate	01/10/25 04:21 AM
5	If women don’t dress provocatively for men, what do they do it for? How can your female friends find you "hot" if they're straight? They obviously can't be reflecting their own personal perceptions of attraction, I have found beauty in people I wouldn't want to fuck If you can't, I think you're projecting a bit. social perception Yes culture affected what everyone finds attractive. Still don't care about men. appealing to your own sex would be beneficial biologically because competing successfully against them increases your access to mates anyway I don't do eco…	/r/PurplePillDebate	30/09/25 10:25 PM
17	If women don’t dress provocatively for men, what do they do it for? In this case it's attractive as in "I think I look great" Like I don't care if men find it hot. I'm more likely to give a shit if my girls find me hot. I like sparkly makeup for example. The amount of men who told me "they like a natural look" and I've gone "why do I care what you think?" On the other hand if a girl told me that my make up was "too much" I'd be an insecure ball for a few days. I'm not chasing the validation of men. I've gone to slumber parties where there were no (straight) men …	/r/PurplePillDebate	30/09/25 06:26 PM
23	If women don’t dress provocatively for men, what do they do it for? I like looking at myself in the mirror and feeling attractive. If men are around, I actually dress less attractive because I know that some of them are dicks/get the wrong idea. When I'm with my girls I get high on the validation my girls give me and I put in extra effort. If a man could give me a compliment without it being sexual that would be great too. But I know that's likely not going to happen unless they're gay. So I dress down when straight men are around and dress up when it's girls or…	/r/PurplePillDebate	30/09/25 06:10 PM
1	Progressives or blue pill people ironically blame the male loneliness epidemic women when it comes to shaming single men. Men: you shouldn't want equal power, especially if that power imbalance were originally shapes by an unfair and sexist system! How dare women want more! And yes money = power.	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/09/25 01:31 AM
0	Progressives or blue pill people ironically blame the male loneliness epidemic women when it comes to shaming single men. Economics and earning money are the barometers of power in life. Actual power. Power that's not dependent on other people. Money buys you shelter, food, and independence. Not having money forces you to depend on someone and be dependent on their whims. If you have money you can live on your own. If your home life is bad you can afford to leave. If your community is a bad fit you can leave. You can, with sufficient money, leave countries. Money determines if I have a place to sleep. If I can affo…	/r/PurplePillDebate	26/09/25 07:43 PM
2	Progressives or blue pill people ironically blame the male loneliness epidemic women when it comes to shaming single men. Sigh. Once again PPD men are unable to understand the difference between removing economic / systemic structures of power versus being owed dating, sex or relationships	/r/PurplePillDebate	26/09/25 09:09 AM
5	Progressives or blue pill people ironically blame the male loneliness epidemic women when it comes to shaming single men. It depends on what you mean by interact. For example, I don't care if men don't want to be friends with me but like if you're a manager or a CEO and you only interact with men, you are also more likely to give men better projects or work, which makes it easier to promote men. And that is sexist because you're denying women opportunities in the work place.	/r/PurplePillDebate	26/09/25 01:40 AM
2	Who do you think carries more invisible labor — men or women? It really depends on the couple and the situation. For example I admit that in my relationship we tend to outsource our manual labour. We bring in mechanics. We bring in plumbers. The only time "heavy lifting" was ever needed was when we moved furniture in. And that was a long time ago. We have an electric mower that's easy to use and doesn't need strength, so I don't mind doing it. I'm a weird person who enjoys mowing and vacuuming. So there's very little manual labour happening here Same with …	/r/PurplePillDebate	25/09/25 04:22 AM
9	I constantly hear from women about ‘r@pe’ but every girl I have met has that fantasy and more. Perhaps I don't know your actual circumstances. I just find it weird that you very obviously are looking for kinky people only to gasp and be surprised that some of those people are aggressively kinky And then generalise out?	/r/PurplePillDebate	24/09/25 05:52 AM
14	I constantly hear from women about ‘r@pe’ but every girl I have met has that fantasy and more. Yes, but you are specifically looking for kinky women. This means that regardless that means that the statistics for people into even more aggressive stuff will be much higher in that community than the general population. It's like where are you going to find men who take steroids to build muscle? The general population? Or the gym specifically catering to muscle bro culture? If the gym has a 50% steroid use and you can't then say "literally 50% of men take steroids!" And that's if you meet eve…	/r/PurplePillDebate	24/09/25 05:26 AM
22	I constantly hear from women about ‘r@pe’ but every girl I have met has that fantasy and more. Wait, you specifically look for kinky women ... And are disappointed that lots of women you know are kinky? And somehow generalise that to all women?	/r/PurplePillDebate	24/09/25 04:46 AM
10	Why do women go to bar to pick up men for sex when they can easily meet from online dating? Some people don't want the clinical booty call of apps. When women go to a club it's because they want to dance, they want to hang out with their friends etc etc. Alcohol lowers inhibitions too. Then if you're open to a hook up, you can scout a guy, see if you vibe and go from there. It feels much more organic and fun than an app.	/r/PurplePillDebate	22/09/25 09:04 PM
–	Women: Why are you unable / unwilling to understand why most men consider "hookup/FWB material" more validating than "husband material" given that you put the FWB/hookup guys in a way more exclusive, privileged, elite club? Relevance? I just don't care what men want in a woman general. I don't care if they want casual sex or not. What matters to me is whether they meet my standards and make me happy. If they feel like they don't value me as a person because sex/no sex/casual sex/ past numbers whatever then they can leave	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/09/25 08:34 AM
–	Women: Why are you unable / unwilling to understand why most men consider "hookup/FWB material" more validating than "husband material" given that you put the FWB/hookup guys in a way more exclusive, privileged, elite club? But I don't care what they think is more validating I just care about me and my relationship. If men don't like it, there's the door.	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/09/25 09:28 PM
0	Conservative men don't need to pretend to be liberal in order to get relationships. That's a ridiculous conspiracy theory. If a woman was really insistent on paying her half of the bill, it’d leave me thinking she wasn’t into me and wanted to be damned sure I didn’t feel like she “owed” me anything. That's interesting. Going Dutch is so normal where I am Generally etiquette (unspoken though) is the guy to offer to pay, the girl to offer to split, and then the bill is split. I've only had a couple of dudes insist on paying and that was when I was really young Maybe it's my bubble but a lot of guys I know consider it …	/r/PurplePillDebate	15/09/25 03:35 AM
–	Why do you assume a person who is sexual unsuccessful is automatically not "nice"? I don't But I look at how they talk about women on this sub and make the inference that they aren't nice	/r/PurplePillDebate	14/09/25 08:59 PM
2	How many are looking for a financially equal relationship? I believe in financial equity. That means that while dating we go 50/50. Once we're in a relationship (e.g. living together) things should be split equitably What does this mean? We each pay a percentage of our income on shared expenses depending on what we earn. We share chores equitably between us depending on who is working more hours. If married or long term all money is pooled in one account. We each get the same set budget to spend on fun money. All chores and childcare shared equitably de…	/r/PurplePillDebate	10/09/25 11:47 PM
–	The gender war epidemic Sorry oppression isn't always lashes on the back A white woman was raped in Britain and had her underwear paraded in court, because rape isn't rape if you wore pretty underwear. If a woman is told by her church that she must serve her husband, she is still inferior and therefore oppressed. I don't care what her skin colour is. (Men claim that they're also told to serve their wives but I haven't seen a form of religion that means men should submit to their wives but I've seen many the other way a…	/r/PurplePillDebate	10/09/25 03:53 AM
2	Women, when you say an “unattractive” woman is attractive — do you actually mean it? Sure, but also... Why should other people care what I think of them? Some people on this sub run around going around thinking that people need to be attractive to them. Why should they?	/r/PurplePillDebate	09/09/25 06:22 PM
11	Why are modern women against the idea of submitting to their man, but all for the idea of submitting to their boss? You wouldn't need to replace a man because you picked him properly and he cares about you. Weren't you the one talking about points of failure? In this case you make one point of failure (a husband) and because you are financially dependent on him you're screwed. It means if make a mistake in your pick a man you are now doomed to a life of misery. That's one single point of failure. Whereas having a boss means that you have less points of failure as if you don't like your boss you can use your c…	/r/PurplePillDebate	09/09/25 04:03 AM
1	If women like different men, why are there so many men not liked by anyone? I get the part that you want, but baked in there is the assumption that he sexually desires you right? If you met a guy who fully met your list, and would be willing to be your partner, but for whatever reason, didn't 'like' you. (Maybe gay and needs a green card) Would you really WANT that? I think the lack of sexual attraction would be a deal breaker, more-so for women then men even. Sure, but again. This is in the context of I bet you I could find a man who'd take even the most undesirable wo…	/r/PurplePillDebate	09/09/25 03:51 AM
6	If women like different men, why are there so many men not liked by anyone? This isn't to say that the absence of sexual attraction was good thing, I said it in the context of women being liked by men If there is one thing women are aware of is that men would be happy to fuck us but not like us as a person. The bar for "find one man who would fuck me" is incredibly low. A man who likes me as a person, cares about my wants and needs, treats me how I want to be treated, and isn't going to expect "submissive woman" is a much higher bar.	/r/PurplePillDebate	09/09/25 02:48 AM
4	Women, when you say an “unattractive” woman is attractive — do you actually mean it? Lmao a combination of extrovertion, actual attractiveness and self esteem. Legit my and my BFF once had a conversation and we had very different opinions. Like the girl I thought was the prettiest was not her pick. Her pick I thought was objectively the most unattractive. So who would win out would just be who had the loudest supporters, and those at the bottom will be the ones with the least self esteem because they'd put themselves there while the rest of us argued it out. Tbh experiments like…	/r/PurplePillDebate	08/09/25 09:42 PM
9	If women like different men, why are there so many men not liked by anyone? Like them as a person. Like, I want to hangout with you and enjoy your company for extended periods of time without sex, cooking, cleaning etc.	/r/PurplePillDebate	08/09/25 09:32 PM
17	Women, when you say an “unattractive” woman is attractive — do you actually mean it? Depends I usually compliment other women as a whole. Like their outfit is on point and compliments their body shape, their make up etc. if I'm in a store and we're buying clothes, I'm a lot more straight up. I don't want people buying bad clothes. But also, I don't go around believing my opinions are worth jack. Who cares if I find someone attractive? I know what video people are thinking about and I actually think that's more of an extrovert/introvert dynamic than anything else Those who were l…	/r/PurplePillDebate	08/09/25 09:31 PM
16	Why are modern women against the idea of submitting to their man, but all for the idea of submitting to their boss? Well your man is dependent on his boss So seems to me I'm just removing a middle man who also expects me to submit 24/7	/r/PurplePillDebate	08/09/25 09:14 PM
14	Why are modern women against the idea of submitting to their man, but all for the idea of submitting to their boss? Hmmm... Let's see managers need to exhibit professional standards for the most part and also have to submit to their boss. This means that at least in most places there is a check and balance Also submitting for a particular period of time (9-5) which then allows me to do whatever the fuck I want with the money paid to me in my off hours is different to submitting to man 24/7 for no other reason than the magical penis Also working for a boss means that I have the money to leave relationships tha…	/r/PurplePillDebate	08/09/25 08:46 PM
2	The gender war epidemic Less than 5% of men on this sub can have a nuanced conversation. I lose empathy not for issues but for individuals. If the poster is a man who complains about women who aren't submissive (or "agreeable" which this sub likes to substitute for it) then no I don't have empathy If the poster claims women would be happier without independence (and refuses to acknowledge all the downsides to this with anything more than "choose better") then I have no empathy. Id tell them to just be honest, they're o…	/r/PurplePillDebate	08/09/25 06:30 AM
1	The gender war epidemic I'm not necessarily no longer empathetic to men. Im just no longer empathetic to the portion of men who you can't have a nuanced and rational conversation with. And the moment they spout any of that rhetoric, then you know you can't have a rational conversation with them. And I have zero empathy for men who think I shouldn't have rights at all.	/r/PurplePillDebate	08/09/25 05:42 AM
1	The gender war epidemic "if women worked less, they'd be forced to marry for money and that's what we want" a lot? Even the redpill podcast bros don't usually frame it that way. They usually frame it as, "women were happier when they had less independence". I think these guys are foolish regardless. For me they're functionally the same thing. The second is just a lot less honest. Because regardless they know that there will be a lot of women who would be unhappy about it. They also ignore the reality of the very big po…	/r/PurplePillDebate	08/09/25 05:33 AM
3	The gender war epidemic Women aren't enforcing an informal gender segregation. Women aren't going around saying they will never talk to men again. But I don't make a habit of making small talk on the bus with strangers. I'm just uninterested in it Most women are happy to talk to men in environments that are conductive to a conversation such as at work or in hobby groups or what not. But it comes with the caveat that you are someone that they enjoy talking to I'm a nerd. I exist in nerd spaces. I don't hate men in them.…	/r/PurplePillDebate	08/09/25 04:58 AM
1	The gender war epidemic I think for me the biggest issue is that it's incredibly difficult to discuss gender relations when having sex and getting a relationship is frequently compared to money. Yes, affection is different to having the means to eat, sleep and be independent. Every other thread is how women were better off as housewives, how dare we not want that anymore, etc etc. there are comments on this very thread arguing about well at time women didn't want to vote so men should get a Cookie for giving women a vo…	/r/PurplePillDebate	08/09/25 04:28 AM
1	If it was down to just the two of them, who would you pick and Why? The bounce of probabilities is that on average the majority of men exist in the middle of the spectrum and the majority of women exist in the middle of the spectrum. The issue is that one extreme of the section(which is a minority of men) still gets girls who are also on one extreme of their spectrum because they all have very high impulsive traits. And the other extreme of the spectrum get nothing because the girls on the other extreme of the section are also not dating anyone	/r/PurplePillDebate	05/09/25 10:15 PM
1	If it was down to just the two of them, who would you pick and Why? My man when I was 17 I got good grades, was top of some of my classes, and also was drinking underage. I also wanted to travel, see the world, and do shit when I was young. Tbh I'd hate both of them. One for being too stupid and reckless and one for being straight laced and unfun. I'd probably choose twin A because I'd have a fun time and then fuck off to college anyway. Hilariously my bf at the time was a man who enjoyed random road trips and partied with me a lot. He's also a good guy, a great…	/r/PurplePillDebate	05/09/25 09:49 PM
7	Threatening that you aren't going to marry isn't as scary as you think to women We are yes. If I had an employer who didn't treat me well (assuming a relatively okay job market) I can change jobs until I find someone who treats me well. Hell, I changed jobs so I can just get better pay. I also only have to deal with my employer during business hours, and I get compensated for this. If my husband didn't treat me right, didn't share my values, or made me miserable that's impacting my home life, I have more of an obligation to try and fix him as a person. I don't have to fix m…	/r/PurplePillDebate	05/09/25 02:04 AM
1	The overturning of Roe v Wade should have made women (particularly American women) more empathetic towards their male counterparts, not less As a woman who also supports paper abortions, I think it has to be something that men have to do in writing (i.e. so many men lie and say they're serious or want to start a family and then bail), they also have to make the decision early enough that I am able to get a medical abortion if I decide I don't want to raise the child alone. They also have to have zero contact with the child I've seen so many stories of "my dad didn't want me so he left the country/ was a deadbeat/ didn't want to pay c…	/r/PurplePillDebate	30/08/25 11:13 AM
37	Women using antidepressants more often than men doesn't mean they secretly want to be tradwives. Yes. Some threads have been: if feminism and equality made women happy why are they so depressed?! Because there is no other reason women can be depressed	/r/PurplePillDebate	30/08/25 11:03 AM
4	Shifting preferences is the root cause of bitterness and trp Never said it was sustainable? Just said that it was fun and not necessarily conflicting to being productive.	/r/PurplePillDebate	29/08/25 02:09 AM
9	Shifting preferences is the root cause of bitterness and trp Okay here's a question: If you're a spontaneous person, who enjoys going out and partying, travelling spontaneously, and being a bit of a free Spirit, would it then be natural that you would want someone who did the same thing? if you were a person who didn't enjoy that and preferred quiet nights in, conversations over tea instead of alcohol, would it be natural that you would enjoy someone who did the same thing? Newsflash, like attracts like. Birds of a feather flock together. So yes spontaneo…	/r/PurplePillDebate	29/08/25 02:09 AM
5	Shifting preferences is the root cause of bitterness and trp You don't have to sure But if you did and had fun, what was the harm? Plenty of young people build themselves, work, travel and party I don't understand why it has to be one or the other I worked full time. I studied. I got great grades. I climbed the career ladder. I had hobbies. I went to the gym. I went on hikes. And I also partied every few weeks, had some great nights out in Bali etc. I got drunk. It's not character building. I just had fun. If it wasn't fun for you that's fine. It was for …	/r/PurplePillDebate	29/08/25 01:24 AM
3	Shifting preferences is the root cause of bitterness and trp Hmm, spontaneously travelling places, having parties and doing my big OE when I had no responsibilities such as a mortgage and I had more energy. Nothing wrong with that. Now I have a mortgage, saving up for retirement and have less energy so I've transitioned to less spontaneous stuff. Don't see why either is a negative	/r/PurplePillDebate	29/08/25 01:15 AM
3	What opinion do you see other women commonly openly share, that you don’t agree with? Oh so you're trad wife looking for trad husband, but I'm the one desperate for male approval? Please. I just believe in men doing 50/50 around the house and drop kicking men who believe I should do more chores, emotional and nurturing around the house. But yeah sure I'm the one who needs male approval. Again, you do you but if the statement "all genders should be equal" is triggering to you that's more about your values.	/r/PurplePillDebate	28/08/25 07:34 PM
9	What opinion do you see other women commonly openly share, that you don’t agree with? If I’m expected to take career hits and sacrifice my health to be a mother and a wife, It's a date, it's not that deep. You're not even sure if it's a relationship yet, and yes paying "upfront" for being a "mother and wife" get real Who says I don’t show that I’m a kind generous person? I do and it’s not monetary on my end. More like acts of service. No no no. It has to be he equivalent act that a guy can suss out on the first date. What is the "generous" equivalent of doing something for the ma…	/r/PurplePillDebate	28/08/25 07:24 PM
11	What opinion do you see other women commonly openly share, that you don’t agree with? Nah. If it's just $20 why aren't you paying for it? Why aren't you showing that you're a kind and generous person? Seems like a strange double standard that we expect men to be "generous" but not women. It is the year of our Lord 2025. Pay for yourself	/r/PurplePillDebate	28/08/25 07:17 PM
7	What opinion do you see other women commonly openly share, that you don’t agree with? If the only reason you didn't go out for a second date is because he didn't pay (as opposed to him being rude) then she's shallow and using men as an ATM. Same as the dude who expects sex after 3 dates. You can break up and not dare someone for whatever reason. That is your right. But let's be honest with ourselves	/r/PurplePillDebate	28/08/25 06:25 PM
67	What opinion do you see other women commonly openly share, that you don’t agree with? Women aren't better emotionally than men. Or even better at empathy or whatever. I've met just as many emotionally crippled women as I have men. Their crash outs are just as bad. They just look different. lots of women are screwed in the head and go for bad boys and emotionally unstable men. Often these girls either have bad role models (i.e. one of their parents is controlling or abusive) or they're super sheltered and so seek partners that "take care of them" (tell them what to do) stop asking…	/r/PurplePillDebate	28/08/25 09:01 AM
3	Men offer nothing to women but still expect women to want them Personally my experience is that average people date average people But sure. Wahmen bad	/r/PurplePillDebate	28/08/25 08:14 AM
2	Men offer nothing to women but still expect women to want them Nope. The post I was replying to asked why we take finances into account and we shouldn't take finances or chores or whatever into account at all. Man, woman, nonbinary, attack helicopter whatever. We all need to bring something to the table that helps the other. Because once your lives start to intertwine you now have to be in each other's space a lot. Your finances impact each other. Your flaws impact each other. Your strengths help each other. So finances and chores or whatever. You do need t…	/r/PurplePillDebate	28/08/25 07:54 AM
1	Men offer nothing to women but still expect women to want them You're either misunderstanding me or you just want to argue over nothing. I'm saying that there is more than just "initial attraction" to a relationship. The best way to keep your "attraction alive" and "stoke the flame" to do your best for each other and have both partners doing their best for each other. That means taking into account Lifestyles, finances and chores. That means being consistent and putting in the effort each day. If you're still deliberately misunderstanding me and thinking th…	/r/PurplePillDebate	28/08/25 07:44 AM
5	Male sexuality is a net harm to women and women are better off decentering men or entering relationships with each other. They don’t lie to themselves that masturbation during sex is as good as what the other partner gets. Sex is for men. If you are straight then I feel very bad that you have never had a good and satisfying sexual encounter	/r/PurplePillDebate	28/08/25 07:40 AM
4	Men offer nothing to women but still expect women to want them Okay. Sure. The post I made was genderless If you don't want to, don't be in a relationship with a woman with too much debt or doesn't make enough money	/r/PurplePillDebate	28/08/25 07:38 AM
6	Male sexuality is a net harm to women and women are better off decentering men or entering relationships with each other. Easier? Yeah I wouldn't say better if you find the right partner. And for another, that doesn't equate to sex being "socialized for women to have no issue with". Sure it takes more for women, but it's still fun if done right	/r/PurplePillDebate	28/08/25 05:41 AM
8	Male sexuality is a net harm to women and women are better off decentering men or entering relationships with each other. I understand that you are sex repulsed or anti-sex. I understand that it may colour your perception of sex. Most women are not sex repulsed and there is more to sex than just "being socialized to find no issue in objectifying positions" And again foreplay exists If a hetero woman wants to have good sex, they just have to kick out men who don't put in the effort to do good foreplay	/r/PurplePillDebate	28/08/25 05:23 AM
16	Male sexuality is a net harm to women and women are better off decentering men or entering relationships with each other. Fun fact... Sex can be fun for women too. Fun fact, foreplay exists. Like if you're viewing hetero sex as just penis goes in and out then maybe your brain is porn washed Source: heterosexual woman. Who likes sex. And sex with men at that.	/r/PurplePillDebate	28/08/25 04:40 AM
19	Male sexuality is a net harm to women and women are better off decentering men or entering relationships with each other. What in the femcel? While I agree about "decentering men" (and I believe men should also "decenter women") This is my obligatory "not all men" Lots of men are broken and not good partners. Lots of women are broken and not good partners. Often hurt people find someone to hurt... Perpetuating a cycle of hurt. But while both men and women are trash. There are also people who aren't. You have to put in the effort to find them, but it can happen.	/r/PurplePillDebate	28/08/25 04:25 AM
1	Men offer nothing to women but still expect women to want them Exactly that. Very very rarely (except in cases with an abuser or a cheater) have I ever seen a relationship implode due to one big event. It's almost always tiny little ones. That add up to big things. It's funny but most relationships I found I knew the break up was coming because one partner was unhappy for a while. But it's small things that turn into big things and then suddenly something breaks the Camel's back. I've had both women and men confide in me and it's always things like "they do…	/r/PurplePillDebate	28/08/25 03:48 AM
2	Men offer nothing to women but still expect women to want them Id say it means love, affection, and kindness. Someone who's company you enjoy	/r/PurplePillDebate	28/08/25 03:42 AM
1	Men offer nothing to women but still expect women to want them Okay then. Do you agree with me that relationships are based on more than just "attraction and companionship"	/r/PurplePillDebate	28/08/25 03:16 AM
2	Men offer nothing to women but still expect women to want them You're being incredibly literal over there. No you're right attraction doesn't die immediately like a big bang theory. But imo most relationships die with a whimper not a bang (unless in certain circumstances like cheating). It's when resentment quietly takes over, arguments get more frequent or escalated, the slow death of romance etc. Daily life takes its toll. Bills, stress, kids if applicable, different expectations, in laws, social commitments or obligations, lifestyle differences. That's t…	/r/PurplePillDebate	28/08/25 03:10 AM
2	Men offer nothing to women but still expect women to want them And men are free to leave that woman. This wasn't meant to be a gendered thing. At the end of the day men, women, nonbinary whatever. Juice needs to be worth the squeeze	/r/PurplePillDebate	28/08/25 02:39 AM
1	Men offer nothing to women but still expect women to want them Because the honeymoon period ends. When they don't work and put in the effort often resentment starts to leech in. If you're frustrated at someone because they keep quitting jobs or getting fired for preventable reasons (not tied to the economy, just I know some people who can't keep a stable job) or because they spend frivolously or they're too stingy or whatever resentment inevitably comes up. To keep that spark alive both parties need to put the work in. To keep each other afloat, to keep eac…	/r/PurplePillDebate	28/08/25 02:38 AM
5	Men offer nothing to women but still expect women to want them Because committing to someone means that their problems are now your problems and your problems are their problems. Not to mention if you start living together and sharing expenses then yes how well that other person cleans, cooks and their finances start impacting your life. If you're adding to the mess but not helping me clean up, I wouldn't want to live with you. And yes, most people (though not all) want to cohabitate with their long term partners. If they're constantly in debt or have bad f…	/r/PurplePillDebate	28/08/25 01:54 AM
3	It’s a women job to cook for her man Why do men need to learn how to fight? And I don't think getting into one or two fights equals me cooking every day. One of those is way more effort over time than the other. I have three brothers, a husband and a dad and none of them have ever been in a fight beyond one or two school yard fights when they were in school. It's certainly not equal to me putting in extra time to cook	/r/PurplePillDebate	25/08/25 01:20 AM
5	It’s a women job to cook for her man It's no one's job to cook or clean. Or buy a ring. You can't demand either. But also, don't be surprised if people don't want to be with you because of it. I would rather be single and celibate than be with a man who thinks it's my job to cook. And if a man would rather not be with me than spend money on a ring that's fine too. But be honest and upfront about it.	/r/PurplePillDebate	25/08/25 01:14 AM
7	How can men be desirable to women under late-stage capitalism? Seems like that is his fault for not demanding better. It's not that hard. Relationships are voluntary. If you're a net drain on someone's life, then they should not need to be with you. Friendship is the same in many aspects. If hanging around you makes me feel worse than better, then why should I want to hang out? Relationships are just more intense because we have to live with each other for a long time and in close quarters. Relationships required compromise. It means work. It means sharing …	/r/PurplePillDebate	22/08/25 05:22 PM
9	How can men be desirable to women under late-stage capitalism? ...you know men can also demand the same and leave if she's not being a net benefit to his life right? Like the idea goals of a relationship is that you're both making each other's life better. But only she can judge if he's a benefit to her and only he can judge if she's a benefit to him. If the juice ain't worth the squeeze, why are they together?	/r/PurplePillDebate	22/08/25 05:07 PM
0	Why is ‘geomaxxing’ frowned upon? Hey man, you asked a question,I answered. If you don't want to actually engage with it that's fine. And you asked why people shame people who passport bro and I listed the many reasons they are. All you have to do is visit their subreddits and you can see it.	/r/PurplePillDebate	22/08/25 08:06 AM
2	Why is ‘geomaxxing’ frowned upon? It seems like it’s more directed at sex tourism, not geomaxxing. Essentially the same thing I believe there is a pretty convincing argument that all relationships are transactional in one sense or another. I guess the question is what is being transacted. There is a difference between a relationship that's built on mutual affection and one where it's explicitly money for sex or mail order bride situations. If you can't tell the difference that's just part of the issue. nothing against sugar baby…	/r/PurplePillDebate	22/08/25 05:18 AM
4	Why is ‘geomaxxing’ frowned upon? It has a bad rep because of how the people talk about it. They base their moves on stereotypes (aka submissive Asian waifu) or complain about "degenerate western wahmen." The passport bros subreddit love to even rank countries based on women's sexual availability and perceived submissiveness. The way they talk about women often lowers then to objects to take advantage off, have sex with, and then leave. They also often ignore the real life realities and inequalities those countries face. Poverty…	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/08/25 11:27 PM
4	Most modern men lack the emotional maturity needed to raise a healthy and successful child in today's world I don't think women are emotionally mature enough to raise children either	/r/PurplePillDebate	20/08/25 11:11 PM
–	If women "hit a wall" then why should we bother with marriage? If actually argue if he calls her old and unattractive, that she should either have a serious talk with him to address the issues and find out where this is coming from, and if he's just being mean to divorce him. By the same standard if tell men to divorce or break up with women if they don't care about his emotions, don't care about his needs, nag him, micromanage him, or try and change him to suit her preferences without herself putting as much efforts to change herself to suit his preference…	/r/PurplePillDebate	20/08/25 07:00 PM
-2	Is sex a need? Depends on how you define need The argument there isn't that it's a need. It's people will have sex, whether we want them to or not. People will have unprotected sex whether we want them to or not. Forcing everyone to be abstinent obviously does not work as all of history has shown us. But leave it to the rational gender to be unable to understand nuance	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/08/25 01:54 AM
3	Women cant complain when men dont care for them Id take mens activism more seriously if they actually actively campaigned for more CARE scholarships or more men's homeless shelters or changing legislation or whatever. But except for a few select internet spaces most of men's spaces are "wahmennnn don't daaaate meeee" "wahmen cock carousel!!!" "Wahmen seeex" And then "men are the rational gender!, why can't wahmen just be happy being baaangmaaaiids! Single mothers baaaad!" But men are the rational gender. Lol.	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/08/25 09:20 PM
2	Don’t Underestimate Good Hygiene. I don't get it. As a woman most men around me have good hygiene. There were exceptions of course. Some people who were crap to sit next to in public but for the most part it's been fine. The exception is when I go to nerd spaces, but even that depends on the space. Anecdotally mtg has the worst smell, some card games are better (for some reason ygo gamers seem to dress and smell better). Dungeons and dragons I only play with friends or friends of friends because I don't want to accidentally get …	/r/PurplePillDebate	15/08/25 09:55 PM
3	Extreme redpillers do indeed misrepresent pre-Millennial marriage, but bluepillers do it just as much, if not more so, albeit in different ways I don't think it's at all: men descend into horrible brutes. I think that in general people with power abuse or hurt people without . Queens were as bad as kings. There are probably just as many abusive women as there are men. But historically men had power over women. Does it mean that every man was bad? No. I don't even think most men are bad. I do think that when we raise people to believe that they are superior (aka heads of the household due to magic penis. Or you must guide your wife. Or a…	/r/PurplePillDebate	15/08/25 10:04 AM
14	Men should take up their issues with the women that caused them Not really. That's just the same argument as "not all men" Some issues are systemic - there is a preference for taller men, there is a stronger female preference for men to be "generous" (aka pay for stuff) etc. And there are male gender roles that are unfair and are perpetuated by women as well as men. Yes some men get unusually bitter over one crap gf. But then so do women so...	/r/PurplePillDebate	15/08/25 03:38 AM
10	Are victims always blameless? That depends on what we are saying or meaning when we say "blame" I don't blame people for their own abuse or assault, regardless of whether they did something dumb. Blame means fault and accountability. And fault and accountability only rests on the perpetrator. On the other hand there is such a thing as "personal responsibility" in that I think we as people can take responsibility for ourselves as best we can and minimize harm. With the caveat that regardless of responsibility, victims are not…	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/08/25 09:20 PM
1	Why do men here cry about Casual sex? I think a lot of it is the manosphere and incels poisoning the well. You hear enough of that rhetoric online (how dare wahmen dont date me, they should be happy being tradwives and pleasing a man, single mother baaaaaaad!!!) And then you get that in real life (your body, my choice) and the current abortion bans And we'll, is it such a stretch to think that men who complain about their lack of gf become people who start to threaten your rights? That the implication is "fuck me or else?"	/r/PurplePillDebate	11/08/25 01:22 AM
9	Liberal/leftist women are the biggest hypocrites Men: if I have to pay taxes I should get to violate women's bodily autonomy! They should be happy with that!! Also men: men are the rational gender! We so logical! Wahmen have emotions reeeeeee!	/r/PurplePillDebate	09/08/25 12:10 PM
1	Introverted nerds still can't also be assholes like attractive bad boys Dude, long sleeves exists.	/r/PurplePillDebate	08/08/25 07:35 AM
7	CMV: Women choose to moralize men's dating success So... a woman who has 4 different baby daddy's isn't the issue in your eyes? I'm confused, is she an innocent angel? You're offloading a lot of choices there on her end. She's an issue sure, but monetarily supporting those children is part of being a baby daddy That's the point. This while sub frames things as "single mothers blah" or "single mothers take my taxes" when as far as I'm concerned at least a single mother is taking responsibility by actually doing the raising. What's the other guy d…	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/08/25 08:24 PM
9	CMV: Women choose to moralize men's dating success Seems strange that the person stepping up to take responsibility takes equal blame with the person running away from responsibility. You wouldn't have to pay so much taxes if the man actually was a parent right? I know separated parents who don't get benefits because both parents are involved in their kids life. The men have equal custody and everyone pays their share. I'm cases where the mother has primary custody the man pays enough child support that no one is getting benefits or at getting m…	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/08/25 08:11 PM
12	CMV: Women choose to moralize men's dating success Why are framing this as woman's terrible decision making? Did she give birth to Jesus Christ as a virgin? How about we blame the men for not taking accountability and paying for their own kids?	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/08/25 07:17 PM
3	Why do women expect empathy and a good guy behavior from "undesirable" guys? Yes it is. When I was 18 a part of why I studied what I did and a part of why I continued despite the pain and difficulty of getting my degree and a part of why I forced myself to go to work every day even when I was completely miserable. The whole pay off here was to provide for a wife and family Then that seems to be a you problem. You made choices in which your entire path is about "winning a woman" at the end. If a woman went out specifically to just get a man to exclusion of her own happine…	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/08/25 01:48 AM
13	Why do women expect empathy and a good guy behavior from "undesirable" guys? The fact that men earn more on average is a sign of yet another sacrifice that men make for the sake of women or at least of pleasing women So pick another job. Be a teacher or a social worker. I'm sorry but your career path, whichever it is that you chose, isn't a sacrifice you make for a woman. That's a choice you made for yourself, probably when you were 18. It's not just income here though, is is it. Look at bias towards the primary caregiver in terms of how physical custody is handled in a …	/r/PurplePillDebate	05/08/25 04:49 PM
35	Why do women expect empathy and a good guy behavior from "undesirable" guys? The question is what people expect by "reciprocity" I don't expect abject selflessness at all. We should pay taxes. We all should all follow the law. We should all treat each other with respect and decency. We should all contribute to society (if able bodied) either through through income or through caring for the sick, elderly or children. Except in online spaces men don't want this reciprocity at all. Men want women's bodies. Men online claim that the social contract is "men taxes and work, wo…	/r/PurplePillDebate	05/08/25 05:52 AM
49	Why do women expect empathy and a good guy behavior from "undesirable" guys? Define good guy behavior? I expect common decency from everyone, including myself regardless of whether they're attracted to me or not. I'm not going to take away the rights of people regardless of whether they're nice to me or not. Because I believe human rights are human rights. Like I've never met a Palestinian, I still think they deserve human rights and to not be genocided. Way I see it either men are human beings and should be held to the standards of common decency or men are inherently b…	/r/PurplePillDebate	05/08/25 05:17 AM
8	AWDTSG is RedPill for women In my country it's harder to find a millennial without a tattoo than with. And we're still always in the top 10 lists of safest countries in the world.	/r/PurplePillDebate	31/07/25 07:40 PM
3	Do (some) women realize what going after masculine men means? High masculinity is high energy? What? Low anxiety and fear correlates to low empathy? I'm very confused? Some of the most low fear, low anxiety, I'm going to go jump of a plane people are also very kind and very empathetic. You just make sure while dating someone that if they show you or others low empathy, that you remove them from your life.	/r/PurplePillDebate	30/07/25 10:42 PM
5	Men who only know dysfunctional women are also dysfunctional. I mean, I'm a nerdy woman with a nerdy man so don't disagree But man a lot of those mtg and d&d men aren't all that either. Deodorant exists! And stop looking at me like I'm a unicorn. So many nerd men need to learn social skills and to stop thinking that I'm here spending so much of my time faking my hobbies for one of their crusty asses. Just because you choose to engage in media by memorizing episodes and facts doesn't mean everyone else isn't "a true fan"	/r/PurplePillDebate	30/07/25 05:41 PM
5	What makes a guy boring? You're missing the point. The point is to make the girl "feel" you are interesting by ensuring a good flow of conversation. Travel is easy to make interesting, but if you're a shit conversationalist and don't know how to incorporate her into the conversation then it ends up being a boring date ya feel?	/r/PurplePillDebate	28/07/25 08:36 PM
11	What makes a guy boring? Okay I'm going to differ here and say that "boring" isn't tied to what you do necessarily. Because I've met "boring" travellers and "interesting" homebodies. A lot of the time, the problem people run into, is sparking enough interest to turn date 1 into date 2. There have been lots of times a girl has told me "he was fine, just boring" and what she actually means is "I didn't really have fun and conversation was hard and didn't flow" So when a guy is boring, it's more "he didn't spark my interes…	/r/PurplePillDebate	28/07/25 06:07 PM
15	Women expect men to deconstruct male gender norms, but aren't willing to break away from normative femininity themselves Gender nonconforming women are being pushed out of women's bathrooms for appearing too masculine, This is nowhere close to a mainstream feminist position. They're called TERFs and are banned from almost all mainstream feminist subreddits or movements. So yes, it's feminists who are most strongly pushing for women to be feminine Nope. Very few feminists believe this at all. Go to literally any feminist sub. If anything the biggest issue about gender roles is whether choice feminism is valid. It i…	/r/PurplePillDebate	28/07/25 04:55 AM
–	Commitment from a man with no other options means nothing realistically. Oh my god. This sub makes me think everyone is an alien who needs step by step instructions for human interaction. No, you should not settle for someone just because they're "your looks match" or "they have no options". You should find someone who enriches your life and makes you happier than you were when you were single. This means looking at compatibility and affection and whether they can compromise and be emotionally intelligent and yes who you are sexually attracted to You also shouldn't j…	/r/PurplePillDebate	28/07/25 01:42 AM
2	You can’t expect women to take men’s issues seriously, when you point out inequities but never go into the context of it Key point: reasonable and respectful Most men who are already in the RP or incel trap are neither reasonable nor respectful. Again, if they are men who want to discuss say, make suicide rates, by all means! Or male homelessness! Or male sexual assault victims! But men on the internet generally want to have a conversation on "why wahmen won't have sex with me!!!" And "feminism made wahmen not want to serve men and be housewives"!! But also they want housewives who won't demand alimony. 💁 Men like…	/r/PurplePillDebate	26/07/25 12:31 AM
1	You can’t expect women to take men’s issues seriously, when you point out inequities but never go into the context of it Honestly, I think if a man becomes a person who wants to remove women's rights because we don't want to engage with someone who wants to take my rights away... He was already a misogynist from the start. A white man who would turn KKK just because a black dude called him a "cracker" was already racist. He's already dangerous.	/r/PurplePillDebate	25/07/25 11:55 PM
0	You can’t expect women to take men’s issues seriously, when you point out inequities but never go into the context of it The problem is that it's very hard to start dialogue with men when almost all them focus on: sex, sex, sex, women shouldn't have bodily autonomy, sex, sex, sex, women should stay in the kitchen because x,y,z, sex, sex, sex, women brainwashed by feminism to not want to be submissive to men (ignoring all the vulnerabilities and consequences that come with it), sex, sex, sex, women should want to serve men and have them be led by men, sex, sex, sex. For a understanding and dialogue, men also need t…	/r/PurplePillDebate	25/07/25 10:44 PM
–	Misandry creates MORE misogynists. Men: abuse women, commit more violent crimes against women than vice versa, chant your body my choice gleefully, make rape jokes, actually rape women, parade underwear in courtrooms etc etc Women: wow men can be horrible Men: waaaah wahmen bad But men are the rational gender Lmao	/r/PurplePillDebate	22/07/25 11:51 PM
2	Female-only spaces shouldn’t exist (except bathrooms and locker rooms) That’s misandrist. I generally like Japan, but I disagree with that. I’ve been groped by women in bars. Wasn’t a big deal. Yes, I prioritize men over women, because, in my experience, women prioritize women over men. I am soooo saving this comment for future ammo against men here. How would you feel if I talked about women the way you are talking about men? Men already do and they do much worse. To be honest if all men did was talk bad, it would be a massive step up Why do women want women only …	/r/PurplePillDebate	22/07/25 06:53 AM
1	Female-only spaces shouldn’t exist (except bathrooms and locker rooms) There never was a need for it. In Japan they have women only trains to stop male gropers They have done as campaigns and all that but you can't catch gropers in a packed subway a lot of times. Are you saying you'd rather on balance women get attacked and molested so that men's fee fees don't get hurt? If so, lol to the rational gender. Sororities are way worse than frats. You’re lucky you don’t live in a place with them. When was the last time a sorority was in a rape scandal? Men aren’t praised…	/r/PurplePillDebate	22/07/25 01:13 AM
1	Women would you date a man who was unemployed but wealthy? If they're doing something to preserve the money and also do something with their lives that isn't just hedonism sure. Like I don't know I love hobbies and things, but let's face it you can't spend all day, 24/7 just on a hobby Volunteer or something	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/07/25 07:15 PM
2	Female-only spaces shouldn’t exist (except bathrooms and locker rooms) No more women-only space Sure, if men remove the need for it. No more circumcision I'm against circumcision anyway No more false rape allegations No more rape! No more sororities No more frats Don't live in a place with them anyway No more double standards (women can say penis but men get called out for saying saints, women can flirt more aggressively than men and get away with it, etc…) No more double standards! Men shouldn't be praised for sex while women are called sluts Women should be able …	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/07/25 07:10 PM
3	Female-only spaces shouldn’t exist (except bathrooms and locker rooms) I will learn to feel safe around men if men get over their misogyny and all places are safe for women. That means: I experience zero catcalling all men I encounter learn to stop at a no no domestic violence rates no sexual assaults no rapes no harassment anywhere, even online	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/07/25 06:57 PM
10	The “Nice guy” is a loser to most men. I am 30+ years old and have never been, nor do I want to be, in a fight	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/07/25 04:52 AM
30	The “Nice guy” is a loser to most men. That sounds like such an insecure man omg.	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/07/25 04:33 AM
3	Why do women usually get offended when you approach/dm their friend and them also? You are allowed to find more than one person attractive. But most people want to feel like there was something particular about them that drew you in. They don't want to be asked out because they're vaguely womanly shaped. Asking people who know each other in quick succession tells them you rent looking for her to be your girlfriend. You're wanting a girlfriend.	/r/PurplePillDebate	20/07/25 10:21 AM
7	Why do women usually get offended when you approach/dm their friend and them also? I'm the main character of my life though. I don't want to be with someone because I'm "just someone else." At that stage I might as well get myself more dogs for affection. I want to be loved and wanted for who I am. If I'm interchangeable with everyone else, then why bother investing time and effort into a relationship?	/r/PurplePillDebate	20/07/25 10:17 AM
–	Modern open marriages debate What's the debate? I think open marriage works for some people, but not others. I want everyone to think what makes a marriage work. The amount of communication, compromise, and effort that has to come from both parties. An open marriage will add an extra layer of communication, compromise and effort... And that's if both people are mutually happy with the decision to open. If one of those people is even slightly doubtful or forced into it.... It becomes a big minefield. All those swinger couple…	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/07/25 12:06 AM
2	Men are discouraged from approaching women they don’t know as well as discouraged from asking out women they do know. Also yes, but when women do it they're justified in hyping up each other's paranoia, and when men do it clearly they're just misogynistic woman-hating incels. There's a huge double standard on who is "allowed" to be seen as victims and who is allowed to use their victimization as a cudgel to beat the others with. And it's not men. I think a lot of this tends to be the systematic impacts of misogyny vs misandry in society. There is a perception that a man who hates women can do a lot more harm - …	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/07/25 05:18 AM
0	Men are discouraged from approaching women they don’t know as well as discouraged from asking out women they do know. I think one of the biggest issues we've had, is that so much discourse happens online, which allows for the least amount of nuance to happen. I also think that what tends to happen is that, inevitably, bad experiences with one gender, makes you more on guard and more aggressive for the next time. For example, a man who's gf cheated on him and was emotionally abusive might end up with big trust issues. Unfortunately, that might translate to being bitter about all women. And unfortunately being bi…	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/07/25 03:48 AM
-1	Men are discouraged from approaching women they don’t know as well as discouraged from asking out women they do know. I don't think non-contradictory advice exists without a hive mind. There is a large section of the female population that won't mind going on a date with a stranger from a club or bar. There's also a large section of the female population that would only date a man who they're already slightly familiar with or through social groups. There's a large section of the female population who only swipe on very handsome men on apps but would happily date a less handsome man that she's met in real life b…	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/07/25 12:42 AM
1	Doesn't practicing true self-love make any self-improvement impossible? Because this sub is infested by people with no social skills and is obsessed with iron clad definitions. They're all people who want the world to be a video game with obvious iron clad rules	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/07/25 12:00 AM
3	Doesn't practicing true self-love make any self-improvement impossible? I'm in my 30s and I'm still saying this 💁	/r/PurplePillDebate	15/07/25 11:45 PM
6	Doesn't practicing true self-love make any self-improvement impossible? Exactly! I love myself and I would like to live longer and healthier, so I need to work on being healthier. I love myself and I don't want to be paying rent and moving houses all the time when I'm 60, so I work on getting a good job I love myself and want to enjoy my life, this means I should get myself some hobbies and give myself some friends! The amount of people who say "im so lonely and I'm so sad I don't have friends/hobbies and how they hate their bodies etc" but then don't do anything ab…	/r/PurplePillDebate	15/07/25 11:43 PM
7	When times are hard financially for women, Why do they choose to be sex workers instead of moving in with one single wealthy man? It's called autonomy and freedom If I am with a man, I am compromising certain freedoms that I have when I'm single. That's okay, because in theory we should love our partners and they are compromising back. Also, this is why you make sure your partner is someone who aligns and is compatible with your deal breakers On the other hand, relying on one man and compromising your own autonomy for someone who might not be compatible long term and who you will be stuck with because you don't have the fi…	/r/PurplePillDebate	15/07/25 10:02 PM
–	Women getting “compensated” for “duty sex” is totally fair. Why does saying no make me a resentful bitch? And if a man viewed my marriage as "monopolize sexuality" then he should get the fuck out of my life. There are times when people are in the mood, there are times when people's mood can shift, and there are times when that mood is a "no". If that person can't accept that the third happens then they aren't mature enough for a marriage. Personally if someone felt being told no makes me a resentful bitch, then a divorce will be imminent anyway	/r/PurplePillDebate	15/07/25 12:46 AM
–	Women getting “compensated” for “duty sex” is totally fair. If not having sex on tap is supposed to be cruel then you have never seen any hardship in life. Cheating on someone is far crueler than being told "no" If you have incompatible libidos you probably should have figured that your before marriage. If you are in a full dead bedroom you should divorce and break up before you shear. There is only one time cheating is okay... Physical abuse, rape, and human trafficking. Everything else, be up front, be an adult and divorce first.	/r/PurplePillDebate	14/07/25 10:39 PM
–	Women getting “compensated” for “duty sex” is totally fair. I care about my husband, but sex should be something we both want to do. If I'm not in the mood I am not in then mood and vice versa If he cheats it's divorce.	/r/PurplePillDebate	14/07/25 07:39 PM
1	Conservatives and Redpillers have come up with fantasies about what masculinity is like. Sure it's usually a mix of the two, but I would never call AI uncorrupted or unbiased. It truly isn't. https://www.cigionline.org/articles/generative-ai-tools-are-perpetuating-harmful-gender-stereotypes/	/r/PurplePillDebate	14/07/25 05:56 AM
–	Women getting “compensated” for “duty sex” is totally fair. Because if I don't want sex pressuring me into it makes me dryer than the Sahara and makes me resentful That's a one way ticket to breaking up	/r/PurplePillDebate	14/07/25 05:49 AM
2	Conservatives and Redpillers have come up with fantasies about what masculinity is like. You know that AI also gets trained by what is fed to it right? Like if it's fed on just the entirety of the internet, which includes incel bullshit they'll spout that too And guess who's more likely to be chronically online and writing articles?	/r/PurplePillDebate	14/07/25 05:44 AM
5	Why do women seem to dislike men who like fishing? Yeah. I'm a woman who have a lot of family members who enjoy fishing. Legit the joke is that for everybody's "what we did this summer essay" like half of them are about fishing. But almost zero of them fish in their dating apps. The ones who do? Kinda the conservative who's personality revolves around red neck. It's not about fishing as a hobby. It's what you're unintentionally broadcasting to the world. Lots people go to the gym. I love a man that exercises and is fit. But I'd never swipe on a …	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/07/25 12:19 AM
5	How Can Women Complain When They're So Privileged By Default? Nope, I don't disagree. I have always maintained that there are social privileges that women enjoy. But like also you think sexual harassment and assault are "men being mean?" Lol my friend got sexually harassed out a job and it's "men being mean?"	/r/PurplePillDebate	05/07/25 08:03 PM
2	How Can Women Complain When They're So Privileged By Default? Probably because op says "women have a head start in life!" And at some point in the comment thread that women have the moral guts to complain like masters comparing themselves to slaves. "Being desired" is not a privilege	/r/PurplePillDebate	05/07/25 07:20 PM
13	How Can Women Complain When They're So Privileged By Default? No man in my life has ever been to war so no, I don't particularly compare it. I might as well compare the average man to oppressed women in Afghanistan who aren't even allowed to see with two eyes.	/r/PurplePillDebate	05/07/25 08:08 AM
23	How Can Women Complain When They're So Privileged By Default? Men feel oppressed because of the social injustice of women not dating them.	/r/PurplePillDebate	05/07/25 02:16 AM
46	How Can Women Complain When They're So Privileged By Default? Was it a privilege when grown men screamed at me to show my tits from a car when I was 12? Was it a privilege to be harassed and groped if I want to party when I just want to dance with my female friends? Like would it kill men to ask first? Was it a privilege when I tried to do a metal working class and all the boys jeered at me any time I made a mistake? Was it a privilege when seatbelts and safety standards and medicine are designed and tested for men first? Was it a privilege when the signs …	/r/PurplePillDebate	05/07/25 01:55 AM
8	Men being alone can be cured without enslaving women Source?	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/07/25 08:28 AM
2	(Some**) Women have a hard time understanding analogies In that case then either: A) she's just a dramatic person B) the issue is the delivery and the context If you're already having an argument then it does sound like you're calling her stupid, at least at that point in time. So she's reacting to the implied insult, not the analogy	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/07/25 07:01 AM
3	(Some**) Women have a hard time understanding analogies Depends on the context and the circumstance. Every man who has ever used " a master key" analogy to me has been sexist. I will almost immediately take offence to that analogy and will take it as an insult immediately. In fact certain analogies I just associate with sexist or conservative men almost immediately. And if a male friend of mine said them they would have to either take that analogy back and apologize or stop being my friend.	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/07/25 01:24 AM
6	(Some**) Women have a hard time understanding analogies It depends on the analogy and the context. No, the pot calling the kettle black isn't necessarily wrong because we all know what this is referring to. And also it's an equal analogy. The problem is that not everyone agrees in the premise of an analogy. For example I have heard of women described as a "treasure" to be hidden and kept away from "thieves" (aka men). And that's why women should stay modest and quiet. (I grew up religious) The problem here obviously is that "treasure" is an object wi…	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/07/25 12:55 AM
4	What do you want from a marriage? I want a partner in life, someone who makes me happier to be with him than without I can list traits all I want, but that's what it boils down to Do you make me happy when I come home? Are you someone who makes me happy when you come home? When I think of the future with you, does it make me happy? That's it. That's the end game. If you're a bad partner or someone who causes me anxiety and stress then I'm not happy to come home to you. If you're a bad partner or someone who causes me anxiety and…	/r/PurplePillDebate	02/07/25 11:26 PM
3	You can't demand femininity without gender roles Your first link has no causes stated, just that suicide rates among white people have soared. Our results indicate that low-SDI (Socio-demographic Index) regions have experienced the greatest absolute increase in depressive disorder cases [25], likely due to limited mental health services [8, 26], economic instability, and high social stress. Not showing a link to gender equality and women being depressed 3rd link - Nothing here links birth rate and depression (and doesn't account for confunding…	/r/PurplePillDebate	01/07/25 08:22 AM
5	QFW When you hear people make jokes or belittle men for "compensating", having "small dick energy", or otherwise belittle people with smaller dicks, do you speak up? And men hating women create women who insult penises. So really who's at fault here	/r/PurplePillDebate	01/07/25 06:04 AM
1	QFW When you hear people make jokes or belittle men for "compensating", having "small dick energy", or otherwise belittle people with smaller dicks, do you speak up? Eh. Doesn't insult his masculinity enough. I'm not defending myself here for the record, as I said I don't think what I did was right. I'm open to alternatives. I want to actually insult his actual alpha bro energy.	/r/PurplePillDebate	01/07/25 04:36 AM
0	QFW When you hear people make jokes or belittle men for "compensating", having "small dick energy", or otherwise belittle people with smaller dicks, do you speak up? Lmao. I've called politicians rusty cunts... So no that's not a term of endearment at all. First, I don't know why you feel the need to insult Andrew Tate or other male influencers. They are random men who don't even know about your existence. Maybe seek therapy for that. Eh if im talking about them IRL in any capacity, they're getting insulted. Second, there's a bunch of things you can insult Andrew Tate for. He's an egotistical narcissist. He prides himself on honor but has no qualms scamming …	/r/PurplePillDebate	01/07/25 04:16 AM
-1	QFW When you hear people make jokes or belittle men for "compensating", having "small dick energy", or otherwise belittle people with smaller dicks, do you speak up? As I said, I acknowledge that it wasn't the best thing to do and that im open to learning better ways of insulting men. But then, I'm from a place where we call people cunts so SDE seems really mild as an insult.	/r/PurplePillDebate	01/07/25 03:38 AM
17	Are there two different groups ? I think everything depends on the woman and the man involved. Some women have "high standards" until they "catch feelings" Some women are people pleasers who have a hard time standing up for themselves. Some women are head strong and refuse to settle Some women care for looks and casual sex. Some don't Some women have low self worth. Some women have high self worth Some women are arrogant Some women need men Some women don't need men at all Some women want a man who is a leader Some women would …	/r/PurplePillDebate	30/06/25 11:39 PM
-3	QFW When you hear people make jokes or belittle men for "compensating", having "small dick energy", or otherwise belittle people with smaller dicks, do you speak up? ... I don't know the last time anyone talked about genital size anywhere near me. I have said small dick energy in reference to Andrew Tate and other specifically macho macho alpha males morons because I want to make them look as lame as possible to anyone in earshot. I acknowledge that that might not be the best wording, so I'm open to alternatives to call them something else that's specifically attacking their stupid masculinity	/r/PurplePillDebate	30/06/25 10:57 PM
3	You can't demand femininity without gender roles Things can always go wrong in life, when we drive to work things can go wrong, it's up to the both the people invovle to ensure they try their best to make it work, and up to the woman to vet that the man she's with isn't a psycho. So as always men get the work that pays and gives them a safety net and women don't because "CooSE BeTTER" Sounds like a bad deal Women absolutely have a safety net, look at divorce court ✓ Not enough to justify lost wages They're depressed more than ever ✓ They're co…	/r/PurplePillDebate	30/06/25 07:03 PM
2	You can't demand femininity without gender roles Source?	/r/PurplePillDebate	30/06/25 03:42 AM
6	You can't demand femininity without gender roles No as as much as staying at home. The "provider" gets to have a financial safety net. If something goes wrong, like someone died, someone leaves, your spouse cheats, your spouse doesn't make you happy, your spouse has anger issues, your spouse is emotionally or physically abusive etc then the provider is relatively safer. They have a pension, they have a job, they have a work history etc. They can still leave and have a life after a relationship fails. The person at home gets none of this. Their…	/r/PurplePillDebate	30/06/25 03:39 AM
2	Those of you in relationships, were you "whole" or "healed" when you met your partner? Do you think we unconsciously see love as a prize/reward? I think it depends on the state you are both at. Sometimes a great relationship is when two people "grow up together" or essentially heal together, with the caveat that their issues don't conflict (i.e. someone who gets triggered by yelling and shouting probably won't do well with someone who has anger issues. But two stubborn yellers might be able to overcome together) But if someone in the relationship is "more" healed than the other, it could easily lead to resentment and eventually a breakdo…	/r/PurplePillDebate	29/06/25 05:20 AM
1	Q4W: What is on your list of requirements for a husband? In order of priority: Compatibility of beliefs no homophobes, must be pro-choice, generally progressive, not religious, doesn't believe in gender roles, egalitarian, believes in equal partnership. I will kick out any hint of "I am the man of the house" mentality. In fact if my husband suddenly decided to go even slightly trad, he better be ready to sign divorce papers within the day. But he knows this and threatened to divorce me if I even thought of voting for our country's conservative party s…	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/06/25 04:53 AM
5	What complaint COULD a man state about being a man, that you would FULLY agree, and sympathize with? And you your first thought IS NOT: "But it's because of other men and the patriarchy..." mental health and suicide rates is a societal issue we need to deal with (which is why we need better mental health care in general) 50/50 custody. Custody should always default to 50/50 unless otherwise desired by the parents or in cases of abuse. NEETs. I think there's a wider issue due to the internet and video games that leads people to stay indoors and not interact with society. I do think this affects men more than women. I think we need to encourage outside socialisation when young. I thi…	/r/PurplePillDebate	26/06/25 03:06 AM
2	If you expect men to be: confident, dominant, approach you first, ask you out first, plan the date, drive you there, pay the bill, initiate sex even when married (to you), and give you presents (valentines, flowers): Then you support and prefer gender roles. I'm still confused on what exactly you're arguing the difference is. Let's say woman A is outspoken and believes that gender roles are bad and that they shouldn't be enforced. She herself is willing to pay for dates and is contributing to the household expenses proportionally. But also she enjoys dressing in a stereotypically feminine manner and so is after a man who dresses in a stereotypically male manner. Is she supposed to be a hypocrite? Woman B is against gender roles and is radically femi…	/r/PurplePillDebate	24/06/25 05:30 AM
13	If you expect men to be: confident, dominant, approach you first, ask you out first, plan the date, drive you there, pay the bill, initiate sex even when married (to you), and give you presents (valentines, flowers): Then you support and prefer gender roles. I don't disagree, but I also think that there's a difference between "women and men shouldn't be confined by gender roles expectations" and "I am good at x so I am seeking a y" For example I don't believe in gender roles and I believe that we should both give each other Valentine's gifts But also I'm good with numbers and in my culture (Asian) the household budget is controlled by the woman. So I do the household budget. Is this gender roles? Conversely men tend to be stronger ... Is it gender r…	/r/PurplePillDebate	23/06/25 10:57 PM
8	How does it feel like to be hit on/approached by a creepy guy? Because you ignoring the first no, signals that you may likely also ignore the second, third and fourth no. The next 10 seconds isn't mild discomfort. It's me trying to figure out if saying no a second time is going to be safe and hoping that it is while trying to figure out my exit strategy. I'm generally not bothered about being approached or asked out. I find it flattering unless I'm actively doing something (reading a book). But the moment the first no is ignored, I start feeling fear	/r/PurplePillDebate	23/06/25 02:13 AM
1	What's opinion on women's getting a man's last name nowadays? I don't care about other people. I chose to keep mine because I like my immigrant last name and I don't want to think about all the paperwork	/r/PurplePillDebate	20/06/25 11:27 PM
15	What is your honest opinion on an emotional man? I think people need to define emotional. Like, I don't think men (or women) enjoy overly emotional women either. Like the ones who cry at the drop of a hat or something. Angry men are emotional too. And grumpy men and sulking men. If you're a normal person with normal emotional regulation that is fine. I will concede that men are more tolerant of overtly emotional women than vice versa, but honestly it's just not attractive for someone of either gender to cry, sulk or get angry over small things…	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/06/25 11:26 PM
3	Straight women in relationships, how do you act around men who are a lot more attractive than your partner? I'm not blind, so I'll check them out but I wouldn't flirt or anything. That's just wrong.	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/06/25 09:36 PM
1	If women claim to hate guys who pay for sex workers then why do they buy male hookers for bachelorette parties? He's also allowed a one off lap dance at bachelors	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/06/25 07:07 PM
8	The belief that femininity is inherently submissive simply doesn’t align with reality (or even history), and is bad for society as a whole Just because small gender variations exist doesn't mean female submission should be expected or enforced.	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/06/25 01:46 AM
15	The belief that femininity is inherently submissive simply doesn’t align with reality (or even history), and is bad for society as a whole And parents are shown to coddle and talk to baby girls more than baby boys 💁 Not to mention gender differences do not equal "women like to be submissive and controlled" Let's say Men like to be more impulsive. Okay, does that mean they're allowed to be oppressors? Women like humanities more. Okay does that mean we should restrict women's rights and set barriers that make it harder to work in science and math?	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/06/25 01:41 AM
13	The belief that femininity is inherently submissive simply doesn’t align with reality (or even history), and is bad for society as a whole Have you controlled for factors like... Women were told they weren't allowed to be outside and doing creative things, being knowledgeable, and strong? No such thing as a proper conclusion if you don't account for controlling any and all confunding variables. Any elementary science class could tell you that	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/06/25 01:28 AM
25	If women claim to hate guys who pay for sex workers then why do they buy male hookers for bachelorette parties? ... Ever thought that for some people full on paying for sex is different from a one off lap dance?	/r/PurplePillDebate	14/06/25 10:51 AM
3	Why dominant man are such a magnet for women, what's the cause for attraction? If you're after a woman who is a follower then yes you do. I've never been against the whole "be the best version of yourself" and "self improvement" shit. It's all the sexist AWALT and women are oldest children in the house" It's when the red pill forgets nuance that it goes awry	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/06/25 11:52 AM
3	Why dominant man are such a magnet for women, what's the cause for attraction? Remember how I said it's a spectrum? Not every woman is a follower. Some, like myself, just want general life competence as opposed to leadership. Don't be a doormat we have to drag around, but you don't need to be a leader either	/r/PurplePillDebate	12/06/25 06:54 PM
41	Sabrina Carpenter’s new song “Manchild” is misandrist and hateful Have you ever listened to any rap music ever?	/r/PurplePillDebate	12/06/25 10:46 AM
7	Only Women, Children and Pets Are Loved Unconditionally. And I can give you multitudes of examples about a not conventionally attractive (obese), not a very good provider (basically unemployed), with bad hygiene, and had a gf. All of which is this one guy I knew from university.	/r/PurplePillDebate	11/06/25 11:21 PM
4	Why dominant man are such a magnet for women, what's the cause for attraction? For once, I agree with you. Most women do not want a full dominant "you should submit to me" man, most women also don't want a doormat. It's a spectrum and most people fall in the middle. I personally don't enjoy rigid or authoritative men. Truly I don't. Some women do, that's okay too. But I still want someone with overall life competence, who knows what they want and are able to see things through. I still want someone who can look at the trials and tribulations of life and not break down over…	/r/PurplePillDebate	11/06/25 10:46 PM
13	Only Women, Children and Pets Are Loved Unconditionally. One - women are not loved unconditionally. It's still reliant on her either being a nurturing person in your life, her willingness to have sex with a man or her cleaning. Or her contribution to the household. Men generally do not (and never have) been willing to love an unattractive, non sexual, not cooking, not cleaning, no job, no contribution woman. Adults should not love unconditionally. I'm sorry but that's ridiculous. If you're a terrible person or someone who makes other people's life wor…	/r/PurplePillDebate	11/06/25 09:52 PM
8	If we remove finances men have nothing to give Eh I think this is the same as "women don't give me anything but sex" There are many men who are emotionally mature, willing to do 50/50 housework and even childcare out there. But you have to find them, filter for them and see if the rest of their values/lifestyles fit yours. Perhaps that means there's less of them to go around than women hope, but in my experience lots of women are also emotionally immature and not perfect partners either. Just means the dramatic low emotional intelligence cou…	/r/PurplePillDebate	11/06/25 12:20 AM
5	Mans Imperative I understand, but I don't care. Some people have a biological urge to be pdfiles, we don't have to accept that at all.	/r/PurplePillDebate	10/06/25 10:26 PM
3	How do you screen for political compatibility, and how important is that for you when dating? All the men I've ever dated have been part of my extended social circle. By definition my social circle is all leftists, pro-choice, pro-civil rights movements and are almost by default against sexists, homophobia, transphobia etc We had one "love the sinner, hate the sin" type Christian and she stopped getting invited within weeks. So if almost all political vetting has been done by being part of that circle. Last election (not in America btw) we had an election watch party and almost everyone …	/r/PurplePillDebate	10/06/25 10:13 PM
23	Women, would you be okay with your man getting eggs from another woman and having a baby in your womb? And op is free to find a woman who supports it 💁	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/06/25 05:57 AM
10	Women, would you be okay with your man getting eggs from another woman and having a baby in your womb? I don't see why you can't decouple love from genetic transmission	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/06/25 05:50 AM
24	Women, would you be okay with your man getting eggs from another woman and having a baby in your womb? Do I get choose designer sperm too?	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/06/25 05:45 AM
53	Women, would you be okay with your man getting eggs from another woman and having a baby in your womb? I find the concept of designer babies strange and bordering on eugenics. If you're so turned off by the concept of my (non-medical issue) genes you really shouldn't be dating me at all.	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/06/25 05:37 AM
56	Women, would you be okay with your man getting eggs from another woman and having a baby in your womb? Depends on the genes. If it's a medical gene that leads to a disability and it's something we both want then sure. If it's just "height, "face", "body type" or anything not an actual disability he can gtfo. I'm not a walking womb for designer babies. This isn't build a bitch	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/06/25 05:21 AM
–	I think men act and feel more entitled to romantic success than they realise Because this is PPD and women need to take accountability for their choices and men are angels who never have to take accountability because they're men	/r/PurplePillDebate	05/06/25 10:08 PM
2	Why wouldn't you date a police officer/cop? With their abuse stats? No thank you. It wouldn't be so bad if the thin blue line didn't protect each other, but as it is a cop could show up to a house of another cop for a DV call and probably still cover up for the other cop.	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/06/25 07:32 PM
1	Why do some women wear full-zip hoodies off the shoulder? Fashion. Like honestly that's like asking why flared jeans are back.	/r/PurplePillDebate	25/05/25 11:44 PM
6	How would you react if your boyfriend admitted you weren't exactly his type looks wise but he values you for your personality? "not his type" and "bare minimum" are two different things. No his usual type? That's fine. Putting his bare minimum? I'm out.	/r/PurplePillDebate	24/05/25 06:28 PM
2	Women here give wildly contradictory answers depending on who they want to defeat in a argument You could also see that both could be true at the same time. Lots of 19 year olds were dating 20-22 year olds That's a full age bracket up. But also not huge age gaps at all. So a 28 year old married to a 31 year old is pretty common. And also skewing statistics	/r/PurplePillDebate	22/05/25 11:53 PM
1	Women don't care if men can get sex, Men don't care if women can abortions Yes. No one is entitled to the use of my body if I don't want it to be used. Pregnancy and childbirth plus it's associated physical and financial and mental costs shouldn't be something that is forced on someone	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/05/25 08:56 AM
9	Women don't care if men can get sex, Men don't care if women can abortions It's rational to fight for access to my peeper getting wet but not for healthcare because i don't actually care about other people. But women never date good men, only bad boys! Psst. If you hinge your support of someone's human rights on getting sex you're probably not a good guy	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/05/25 06:00 AM
11	Women don't care if men can get sex, Men don't care if women can abortions Men are the rational gendeeeeeer!!!! But also if you don't make women have sex with them we're going to start destroying everything and/or take away your rights! But men are the rational gender and should be the head of the Household 😇	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/05/25 03:00 AM
1	Women don't care if men can get sex, Men don't care if women can abortions Not really. No one is entitled to the use of another's body part. If I say I don't want to have someone use my organs to live that's my right. It just so happens that doing so means that the fetus is not viable. And honestly I love how people screech about "what about the murdered baby???! Are probably the same people who wouldn't care if that baby had a bad home life or childhood or lives in poverty because hurrdurrr wahmen single mothers wahmen no take my taxes	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/05/25 02:30 AM
2	It's not mysogynist for guys to tell their gf not to wear revealing clothes or not being comfortable with her going to clubs with her girlfriends. Why would I date a man who loves going to strip clubs and getting lap dances? I wouldn't date him anyway	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/05/25 01:26 AM
12	Women don't care if men can get sex, Men don't care if women can abortions PPD men: not getting sex is equal to you not getting healthcare!	/r/PurplePillDebate	20/05/25 09:37 PM
7	It's not mysogynist for guys to tell their gf not to wear revealing clothes or not being comfortable with her going to clubs with her girlfriends. It is controlling and insecure to tell your partner to not wear revealing clothing or to not do an activity How about if you don't like girls who dress in sexy clothes or who clubs.... Don't date girls who do that?	/r/PurplePillDebate	20/05/25 07:04 PM
5	It's not mysogynist for guys to tell their gf not to wear revealing clothes or not being comfortable with her going to clubs with her girlfriends. Or you pick someone you're secure with and isn't a drama queen? Gosh it's like.... Nuance exists!	/r/PurplePillDebate	20/05/25 07:03 PM
9	Why don't women look down on or criticize femcels as much as incels? Incels or other manosphere adjacent men are an actually threat to women either physically or by getting into politics and taking away abortion rights. Men who don't like women having independence and not being submissive can be in an actual position of power. Men who hate that women don't date them have shit people and rammed their cars into people. Femcels.... Complain on the internet and are incredibly annoying. Let's have a look at the fact that when women on this sub complain about societal …	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/05/25 12:48 AM
–	Women only care about men's issues when the ramifications of it starts affecting them directly. Men at the same time are expected to acknowledge female struggles and if men show an indifference towards plights of women, they ae shamed and guilted into conforming Some of them are conflicting issues though. Like I care about women having human rights and being able to be independent. Whereas "me have no submissive wifu" and "It was better when women weren't in the workforce" are counter to that	/r/PurplePillDebate	15/05/25 08:46 PM
–	Women only care about men's issues when the ramifications of it starts affecting them directly. Men at the same time are expected to acknowledge female struggles and if men show an indifference towards plights of women, they ae shamed and guilted into conforming I don't particularly think it's a serious issue. I think hypocritical and sexist standards as an issue (i.e. short skirts make you a slut!) but every country and culture in the world has a beauty standard Like body positivity is great for both genders! But also it's about number 100000 of things I care about. Between the economy, Gaza, actual abortion rights, Ukraine, rising poverty, homelessness, shitty education in schools, shitty health care....	/r/PurplePillDebate	15/05/25 09:22 AM
1	Women only care about men's issues when the ramifications of it starts affecting them directly. Men at the same time are expected to acknowledge female struggles and if men show an indifference towards plights of women, they ae shamed and guilted into conforming Because the OP claims that men have to care about women's issues but not vice versa Id say id care about men's issues too that aren't "wahmen bad!" And "feminism bad"!	/r/PurplePillDebate	15/05/25 06:35 AM
1	Most Marriages Need Systematic Cultural, Societal and Economic Constraints to Survive Okay. Then we don't procreate. That's kind of the point Men should stop whining about it then	/r/PurplePillDebate	14/05/25 10:59 PM
8	Women only care about men's issues when the ramifications of it starts affecting them directly. Men at the same time are expected to acknowledge female struggles and if men show an indifference towards plights of women, they ae shamed and guilted into conforming its because women expect men to be dominant and traditional while not olding themsrlves to the standards that men set on them Are you aware of this thing called.... Just don't date women who expect a traditional man? Like dating is voluntary. You don't have to date people that don't meet your standards	/r/PurplePillDebate	14/05/25 10:59 PM
9	Women only care about men's issues when the ramifications of it starts affecting them directly. Men at the same time are expected to acknowledge female struggles and if men show an indifference towards plights of women, they ae shamed and guilted into conforming Which issues? Because it feels like the only issue women dgaf about is men not being able to have sex and date. Women care about homeless men and men's suicide, which are you know actual issues. There are feminists against the draft and a lot of teachers actually care about boys educational performances. But inevitably men complain about "western women" and "feminists" not wanting to be submissive stay at home wifey or girls not wanting to have sex with them. Like I give those men the same time …	/r/PurplePillDebate	14/05/25 10:04 PM
5	Both Genders need to realize that Dating is Amoral and Unfair and that no-one is entitled to anything on both sides. In that case you are also hypocritical for being okay with some taxes but not others. You need to either advocate for full stateless and no taxation and government or advocate for governments to have government mandated girlfriends and state sanctioned rape. Because it's all or nothing right?	/r/PurplePillDebate	14/05/25 03:45 AM
4	Both Genders need to realize that Dating is Amoral and Unfair and that no-one is entitled to anything on both sides. Hope this helps you understand my position. And yet many things that don't directly benefit us right now indirectly benefit all of us. Sure I may pay for someone's cancer treatment today, but that means I'll get my broken hip looked at in a few years. We all need police officers even if I have personally never had an interaction with a police officer except for breath tests while driving. We all need public transport to reduce congestion even if we primarily drive. In order to have a more prospe…	/r/PurplePillDebate	14/05/25 03:31 AM
6	Both Genders need to realize that Dating is Amoral and Unfair and that no-one is entitled to anything on both sides. "Muh schools" is ridiculous. The vast majority of public schools are a net Evil on community and their destruction would be a net benefit for the moral progress of our civilization. Preferably with the jailing of nearly all teachers too. And I have lost all faith in having a conversation. No point	/r/PurplePillDebate	14/05/25 03:18 AM
4	Both Genders need to realize that Dating is Amoral and Unfair and that no-one is entitled to anything on both sides. Why is taxation good if it benefits you but bad if it does not? I don't have children but believe that it should fund schools. Because you know, the more educated and prosperous the society I live in the less violence there is. For that matter I have never been unemployed but support an unemployment benefit because: I believe everyone deserves to have their basic needs met having an income that meets your basic needs means people are less likely to commit violent crime. No it doesn't eliminate i…	/r/PurplePillDebate	14/05/25 03:14 AM
6	Both Genders need to realize that Dating is Amoral and Unfair and that no-one is entitled to anything on both sides. Why is it redistribution of wealth from men to women? Do men not use roads? Schools? Hospitals? Do men all want to live like Rambo with no police force or fire trucks? And before "women take out more than men on average!" Are the recipients of this more likely to be single mothers? In which case, wouldn't the responsibility for the increase tax likely be on the men who did not take custody?	/r/PurplePillDebate	14/05/25 03:11 AM
3	Both Genders need to realize that Dating is Amoral and Unfair and that no-one is entitled to anything on both sides. So you believe in a fully tax free state?	/r/PurplePillDebate	14/05/25 03:08 AM
2	Both Genders need to realize that Dating is Amoral and Unfair and that no-one is entitled to anything on both sides. You think taxation and labour laws equal to.... Legislating sex and romance?	/r/PurplePillDebate	14/05/25 02:56 AM
4	Most Marriages Need Systematic Cultural, Societal and Economic Constraints to Survive Men: women need to help birthrates! But also shouldn't have safety nets! I'm considering children. If I have no safety nets I'm getting a hysterectomy.	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/05/25 11:58 PM
1	"It's not your job to fix people" has been a disaster for dating These are two different statements that are not mutually exclusive. No it's not your job to fix people. And also you can't expect perfection. Everyone makes mistakes. No one is perfect. Grace should be given and received. Especially when you're young and dumb. But there are also boundaries that should be upheld. It also really depends on where you are in life and how much it affects the other person Relationships should be reciprocal and that means that if one person is picking up all the emotio…	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/05/25 11:48 PM
2	Is there a shortage of relationship material men as compared to women? Sure. Such a mindset is ok. Though I would argue from a purely personal opinion: how can you only want smth serious? Like in general? And that's a perfectly valid position. But also from my personal opinion, I'm not a person who enjoys casual dating. Either I like someone well enough to be in a relationship with them, which is at minimum exclusive and while not necessarily committed, must be on the route to be something committed. So essentially I date to find a long term relationship. No it's t…	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/05/25 09:32 AM
1	Is there a shortage of relationship material men as compared to women? I mean if you're only interested in a serious relationship right now you might want to only date a man who also only wants a serious relationship. Like you aren't judging him for being open to casual, you're saying "I only want a serious relationship. In order to have the best chance of that I'll filter out men who might want something casual" Again, no value judgement at all, just doing what you can to get what you want in particular.	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/05/25 04:30 AM
2	The reactions to the COVID pandemic prove that women are fragile hypocrites. My dude that's not how that works. People who were used to having a bustling and busy social life struggled with the pandemic. I struggled socially because I'm an extrovert. My female friend who was an introvert fucking loved it. Men with social circles struggled too So did families with children struggled because they got cut off from support networks. old people of both genders who were used to children and grandchildren that visited struggled.	/r/PurplePillDebate	09/04/25 02:35 AM
1	There's a narrative out there that someone who has never been in a relationship is undateable because they "don't know how to be in a relationship". What are some examples of this? I don't think it's undatable, but I do think there's a case to be made about a compounding effect. For example, manipulative and abusive people exist in all ages and social strata. However we could say that the effects of manipulation and abuse can be heightened in certain circumstances such as a relationship with a Superior or manager at work (power imbalance) or for example in age gap relationships where one partner is very young (half your age + 7) That is not to say that all office relations…	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/04/25 09:13 PM
1	Men are men Okay one - not all men are pedos And yes, if they start looking at girls who are friends of any children and therefore in our care that is a deal breaker However, for generic looking at hot, younger women? Why not? He has eyes. I have eyes. Just don't don't act on it or be creepy and stare	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/04/25 09:54 AM
–	Young men are radicalized into the manosphere by what WOMEN say in progressive spaces. The emotionality of whose response? Because it seems to me that it's another example of saying women are being emotional and we should do something about that and ignoring the overwhelming emotionality of the said radicalized men Like male anger and male resentment and male disdain are all very big emotions	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/04/25 03:29 AM
–	Young men are radicalized into the manosphere by what WOMEN say in progressive spaces. Uh huh My logic: Society: oppress women Women: I don't like that. I'm kinda angry about that. Men: treats women badly Women: gets angry about being treated badly Men: gets angry at women for being angry Your logic: Society: oppress women Women: I don't like that. I'm kinda angry about that. Men: treats women badly Women: gets angry about being treated badly Men: well it's women's fault for being treated badly! And they're even complaining about it! That's why them being angry is their own fault …	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/04/25 01:56 AM
–	Young men are radicalized into the manosphere by what WOMEN say in progressive spaces. So...... Men did radicalize women then? Men: yells incoherently about things that were not the question Also men: men are rational gender!	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/04/25 01:40 AM
–	Young men are radicalized into the manosphere by what WOMEN say in progressive spaces. Supposedly? Okay I want you to give me a very simple answer. Is it okay for women to be excluded from the work force? Is it okay for women to be excluded from high paying careers? Is it okay for women to have no choice but to get married, even if they may not love the man but because it's better than being on the street? Is it okay for all the power in society? Do you think it's okay for women to have to live what their grandmother's lived through? That's a yes or no answer	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/04/25 01:27 AM
–	Young men are radicalized into the manosphere by what WOMEN say in progressive spaces. The manosphere is just a response to that. BULLSHIT men radicalized women first. Points to all of history	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/04/25 01:02 AM
–	Young men are radicalized into the manosphere by what WOMEN say in progressive spaces. Do about what?	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/04/25 12:17 AM
–	Young men are radicalized into the manosphere by what WOMEN say in progressive spaces. My favourite thing are men who are like "but they've never done creepy things when I'm around!" Like yes... You are not the person they are being creepy to. Amazing. Well done. A+.	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/04/25 09:53 PM
69	Young men are radicalized into the manosphere by what WOMEN say in progressive spaces. If we go with the idea that men are radicalized by women then it then follows that women are radicalized by men Imagine this. You're a girl, you're 12 years old in your school uniform and men (some of whom are adults) scream at you about your tits from their cars. Maybe you're attractive and men let you know exactly what they want to do to your body. Mind you, they don't care about how you feel about it. And you're a bitch if you walk away or they enjoy how uncomfortable it makes you. Maybe you'…	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/04/25 08:19 PM
12	Why do women specifically seek platonic friendships with men, but men do not seek platonic friendships with women? I mean lots of things are different between friends and a relationship for me. Like I have male friends who live in what I would consider to be a messy environment. But that's okay, because I don't also live in a messy environment. I'm there for a few hours, maybe a whole day maximum. If I had to live with that, it's not going to go well. I have male friends who spend more than I'm comfortable with. I'm a saver by default. I wouldn't want to have that in my life I have male friends who I love pl…	/r/PurplePillDebate	02/04/25 02:25 AM
1	In the long run, there's nothing that fulfills most women better than having kids Lmao if having kids means having a man treat me as his caretaker as he gets older, I'll take my chances.	/r/PurplePillDebate	01/04/25 08:54 PM
4	The way this subreddit talks about compatibility focuses on the wrong aspects of relationships, and needs a new framework for talking about the concept. Oh I think you can both be ambitious but also have wildly different spending habits Like I have high baller friends who spend a lot. And equally high baller friends who live like they're students and spend very little. And obviously there's a spectrum in between but spenders and savers being in a relationship can lead to so many problems	/r/PurplePillDebate	31/03/25 10:50 PM
1	The break up didnt come out of nowhere. There are guys who ignore signs their relationship is in trouble. Personally I think if someone is complaining about something, if you actually care about that someone you'd find out why. If someone said over and over again "put your socks in the laundry hamper" or "ugh I have a pile of dishes to do again" and you can't fathom that hey someone being annoyed at always being the person to do the dishes can be a problem then honestly you just don't really care enough Like "nagging" itself as a word means someone knows that the other person doesn't like something …	/r/PurplePillDebate	31/03/25 10:33 PM
8	If most women who claim to be afraid of the potential threat men pose to their lives were sincere, they wouldn’t feel emboldened to mock, berate, or taunt men online, especially men who express sentiment from a socially/romantically unsuccessful perspective I would say that the biggest contributing factor to women's vitriol online would be men's actions. So since it's men causing it in the first place, which makes all men's violence to be men's fault. Not to mention what men call vitriol can range from "women say they want men who do chores!" So apparently the only way women are able to be safe is if we follow the demands of men. Except.... The Internet didn't always exist and men were still terrible to women in the past.	/r/PurplePillDebate	31/03/25 04:47 AM
7	If most women who claim to be afraid of the potential threat men pose to their lives were sincere, they wouldn’t feel emboldened to mock, berate, or taunt men online, especially men who express sentiment from a socially/romantically unsuccessful perspective I have been insulted and degraded all the time online, because I was a woman who liked to play mmorpgs Somehow i still haven't been violent to a man in my life. Because you know, I'm not a complete lunatic If a man is going into a violent rage over tiktok insults then he was already a bad person	/r/PurplePillDebate	31/03/25 04:32 AM
24	Men’s sexual desire has been socially castrated Oh my god. One tiktok trend vs.... How many songs do we have about women's asses? Tits? Performing oral on a man? And women are supposed to be the sensitive irrational gender? Lol	/r/PurplePillDebate	26/03/25 10:46 PM
2	CMV: "women are less likely to date bisexual men" is just an attempt to frame us as homophobic However I, and many others draw the line when it comes to personal and private matters of individuals dating/marrying choices. Can you please point out where exactly in my statement I said that people should be dating or marrying people they are not attracted to? Pretty please? Like a direct quote?	/r/PurplePillDebate	26/03/25 02:26 AM
2	CMV: "women are less likely to date bisexual men" is just an attempt to frame us as homophobic Sigh. No one is judging anyone's dating choices. I do judge people for not being honest with themselves about them I have problematic dating choices too. I refuse to date people from stereotypically conservative cultures. I find certain ethnic groups not as attractive because they don't fit the beauty standards I grew up in. I am also honest with myself about it. Yes you can find some parts of masculinity attractive and some parts of masculinity less attractive. You should also be honest that yo…	/r/PurplePillDebate	25/03/25 09:52 AM
6	What responsibility should men and women have respectively? The responsibilities men and women have to each other in a relationship is dependent on what the couple agrees and aspires to. Everyone is different and we shouldn't force circular pegs into square holes. That just leaves people miserable. If you want to have an egalitarian relationship say so. If you want one with more traditional norms then say so. Want a partner with no opposite gender friends? Be upfront about it.	/r/PurplePillDebate	25/03/25 05:30 AM
1	CMV: "women are less likely to date bisexual men" is just an attempt to frame us as homophobic Just because a woman decides not to date bi men doesn’t mean she hasn’t put in the mental work. It’s only means she came to a different conclusion than some people. I repeat, no one is asking a women to date bi men. I repeat, I do not claim that a woman who adheres to a preference hasn't put in the mental work. I am so only saying that it is worth examining why you in particular have a preference. That is not a moral judgement. It's okay for example to be a more traditionally feminine woman look…	/r/PurplePillDebate	24/03/25 08:15 PM
5	Women, Do You Always Need an Emotional Connection to Sleep with a Man You're Seeing? So much effort, so little return At that point I'd rather read a book or play a video game	/r/PurplePillDebate	24/03/25 06:21 PM
3	CMV: "women are less likely to date bisexual men" is just an attempt to frame us as homophobic The LGBTQ built their tenet on the basis that no one should be negatively judged (condemned) for their sexual/romantic choices. Let’s keep that same energy across the board. I'm not asking people to be condemned for their choices, just saying it pays to think about why you are attracted to what you're attracted to. Here's a less contested example. In my culture lighter skin is considered prettier. To the point of skin bleaching agents being included in just about everything. Deodorant. Soap. Fac…	/r/PurplePillDebate	24/03/25 02:53 AM
9	CMV: "women are less likely to date bisexual men" is just an attempt to frame us as homophobic It's true though. And it's called biphobic No, obviously no one owes bi men a date, but it is worth examining why women have that preference. Is it that women feel threatened by having double the amount of competition? (E.g. jealous women who don't like a man hanging out with female friends suddenly have to deal with male friends as well?) Is It that women feel like a man's masculinity is threatened and therefore undesirable? For example I have dated a man who was bisexual and openly so. But I d…	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/03/25 08:33 PM
5	If feminism is targeted at true equality between men and women, why aren’t more western women targeting regressive societies? You will find very few Western feminists believe that the hijab should be mandatory for cultural reasons What it is that maybe hijab isn't the biggest thing that a feminist from that region might want to battle. I am not Muslim nor from a Muslim country but anecdotally from what I have heard from Muslim women, the hijab isn't a priority battle ground for them for the most part. Sure they believe it shouldn't be mandatory and all that. But that's not what their focus is on. They tend to focus on …	/r/PurplePillDebate	12/03/25 07:50 AM
0	Why do seemingly wholesome women consume so much toxic anti-male content on social media? Half your age + 7	/r/PurplePillDebate	10/03/25 04:14 PM
1	Modern dating and IRL approaches No I don't want strangers randomly approaching. Some of us do just want to hang out with our friends or not be bothered while walking or taking public transport Sure there should be more spaces specifically for people to socialise and meet each other I agree! The problem is that some times these spaces turn from "I'm here to meet friends and do hobby" to "it's just guys hitting on me and I just want to hobby and this is getting annoying now". Soft approaches where there's already a context for s…	/r/PurplePillDebate	08/03/25 05:35 PM
33	Why do you view male sexuality as inherently objectifying and degrading? It isn't but it is usually expressed in a way that is inherently objectifying and degrading Put this way, my first experience of male sexual attraction was being 13 walking in my school uniform and having older men in cars screaming "nice tits!" That's degrading and objectifying You go online and see posts (like in ppd!) where women are referred to as "foids" and "holes" etc. and how your achievements are secondary to a woman who has sex (and who cooks and cleans I guess) That's degrading and ob…	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/03/25 06:18 PM
2	Q4W who identify with feminism. Are there any priveleges that mostly benefit women you’re advocating to give up in the name of equality. 2 adults, one instigator and one who defended themselves. No, it was that man is using disproportionate force cause he’s too powerful. The act of self defense and disproportionate response has always been a contentious area of the law in most places. If a thief stole my stuff and I killed him, isn't that disproportionate? Why is my stuff more important than a human life? When is the line of self defense when one is being attacked? What if it happened in your own home? Stand your ground laws etc.…	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/03/25 06:00 PM
–	Toxic Women Push The Sexual Culture That's Ruining Things For Other Women Please point out your evidence that women get bullied out of dating guys they like? Because the only women I've told to break up with their bfs are ones who were dating: men with big egos who get petty when those egos get bruised men who were being all "but I'll change!!! And never do" men who can't or won't clean or cook	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/03/25 08:30 AM
4	It’s not romantic or altruistic to desire people who simply have the most objectively good personality traits. It’s romantic when you like people with MATCHING personality traits. Dying like a rat in the street is romantic to you? Because to me the idea that I'd drag someone down with me like that is selfish, unromantic and cruel. If you love someone you want them to be as happy as they can be. That generally involves.... Not being in the streets? It's one thing if you were both already in that situation but to drag someone down with you is selfish, cruel and unromantic. Love can be based over a shared connection. But life is a thing and it is not romantic to get into a r…	/r/PurplePillDebate	26/02/25 03:42 AM
4	It’s not romantic or altruistic to desire people who simply have the most objectively good personality traits. It’s romantic when you like people with MATCHING personality traits. You've put a line down between practicality and romantic, when I think for many reasons practicality is romantic. Consider this, isn't it romantic to stay together and have a good, happy and ideally long lasting relationship? Isn't it romantic to wake up every day and say "I choose to love you?" On the flipside, is it romantic to fight? Is it romantic to fight over money? Is it romantic to fight because of children? Is it romantic to fight over cleaning? By being practical and looking at a perso…	/r/PurplePillDebate	26/02/25 02:59 AM
32	Why are so many attractive women on dating apps when they pretty much have unlimited options in real life already? Not all attractive women are extroverts who have busy social lives. A lot probably are introverts Women have the same issues that men can have, like for example a predominantly female friend group and women oriented hobbies. Some don't want to date within their social circle because they don't want to make things awkward with a friend or a friend group. And just because you don't like dating apps doesn't mean you're fully not open to them at all. Believe it or not women can have the same issues …	/r/PurplePillDebate	24/02/25 03:17 AM
0	Even if the "nice guys" have hidden selfish motives, they are still infinitely better than the honest “bad boys”. Nah his choices are as per quoting the op "nice guys with ulterior motives" vs "honest bad boys" The difference is that if you are "honest" then by definition we know what we're in for. It's an informed decision. Ulterior motives means you thought he was a friend and it turns out...he isn't. That's worse. Because it's not an informed decision A betrayal from a friend is worse than someone you know was an asshole at the start	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/02/25 10:29 PM
3	Even if the "nice guys" have hidden selfish motives, they are still infinitely better than the honest “bad boys”. Because if one of them is honest you're making an informed choice? Also, I find on this sub men think"bad boys" is just "anyone with a personality that's not squeaky clean" Like almost 90% of the people I know have tattoos and go out to drink. They're also well adjusted human beings. The best choice is the choice you know you're making. If someone is a genuine asshole and you know he's an asshole then you know what you're getting into. A well adjusted woman can easily go "nope not for me" and mo…	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/02/25 06:40 PM
9	women are screwing themselves over by supporting feminism I want an actual scientific source that says men are better leaders. As in better decision makers. This source has to be from a peer reviewed scientific journal. Also you know what's great? Making sure your partner does 50% of the housework or gtfo. they wanted to work, vote etc the problem is that wouldn’t thus mean that they thought being a man was… better? What really? Being allowed to have a choice in relationships l, being allowed to have a say in how your country is run? Having actual abil…	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/02/25 08:54 AM
18	women are screwing themselves over by supporting feminism i really suggest you do some research on how awful it for women to work on top of having kids, Seems like the problem is that they had kids with men who don't do their share Feminism would advocate that you shouldn't be with men who don't do equal child raising. i don’t know how you think working a 9-5 is a flex , i feel as if it screws over both men and women , but for women it was more of a choice It's called having financial independence and working part time does not give you the same indepe…	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/02/25 08:49 AM
4	What type of feminist are you? Marxist/Socialist Feminist, Liberal Feminist, Radical Feminist, or something else? I've got shades of all of them haha I think most of our issues is part of capitalism, but I'm not Marxist because I think communism and full socialism doesn't work. I'd like a mix of socialism for things like basic food, shelter, healthcare and education but capitalism for most everything else. Just not unbridled capitalism that we have today. But I have shades of libfem and radfem as well. At the end of the day I think gender roles should be abolished and gender shouldnt impact our ability to g…	/r/PurplePillDebate	14/02/25 08:08 PM
3	Women sometimes contribute to themselves being ghosted, cheated on, & dumped... Cheating can be personally insightful.😃 It gives the insight that that person is an untrustworthy and terrible person. It fostered learning that the person is a cheater And the only empathy I have is with the person cheated on. Unless they were also a cheater and it's revenge cheating anyway. It's very easy to not have sex with someone. If the person you are with is someone who is so terrible that they don't add anything to your life you break up with them. The only time I would take the side of…	/r/PurplePillDebate	14/02/25 12:25 AM
3	Women sometimes contribute to themselves being ghosted, cheated on, & dumped... Men and women are both responsible and accountable for their own decisions. Cheating is an action a person chooses to take. If you are a weak person who chooses to cheat instead of break up then you're just a terrible person. If you agree to a monogamous relationship you made a commitment and if you renege that's on you. Otherwise people who are broken up with or hosted because they don't make the other person happier with them than they were single sounds fine. That's just called life	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/02/25 08:30 PM
–	Would the next generation of women be ok with a 60/40 split marriage? I'm 60/40 right now, but I'm the 60 I think the 60 works only if the higher earning partner doesn't hold it over the head of the lower earning one. Ever. And we'll, considering men here think that out earning women by literally any degree means they're the head of the household, I highly highly highly doubt it would work	/r/PurplePillDebate	08/02/25 03:17 AM
4	You can't have "true equality" if you hate caring at men's feelings. I mean.... I've never said that? But okay, keep that chip on your shoulder	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/02/25 04:58 AM
2	You can't have "true equality" if you hate caring at men's feelings. There's a difference between emotional support and being someone's only emotional outlet. But you know, nuance. It ain't a thing around here	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/02/25 04:48 AM
2	Women , would you hook up with/date someone who doesn't share your political beliefs? Left leaning yes	/r/PurplePillDebate	05/02/25 06:21 PM
6	Women , would you hook up with/date someone who doesn't share your political beliefs? Nope. Never. Share my core values or gtfo.	/r/PurplePillDebate	05/02/25 06:13 PM
50	You can't have "true equality" if you hate caring at men's feelings. On the surface I agree that women need to be more receptive to their partner's emotional needs. I do however see that many men don't have any emotional outlets outside of their romantic partner and that's not healthy either. One person shouldn't be someone's sole emotional support. It's incredibly taxing and incredibly draining and a lot. So i think on balance yes women need to be more open to men showing vulnerability. But men need to find wider support systems too.	/r/PurplePillDebate	05/02/25 02:35 AM
1	For people who are coupled: how many of these posts seem to be from people who just need better parents, aunties, uncles? Nah I think the biggest difference between dating currently and even dating a few years ago is down to two things: the lack of socialisation the over reliance on online modes of communication the takeover of social media and the glorification of rage. There have always been people who struggle socially and with relationships But lots of people now spend their free time, even teenagers who should be out at the mall or at the beach or whatever, are spending all their time online at home This cause…	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/02/25 09:21 PM
–	In relationships where couples choose not to have children, explain why spousal support exists? Actual stats please? All I can find is that alimony is granted to 10% of marriages. That includes incredibly old people and people with children. So how many, specifically are couples divorcing without children who are granted alimony?	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/02/25 05:58 PM
26	In relationships where couples choose not to have children, explain why spousal support exists? It's barely awarded, so please tell me how it's ruining relationships?	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/02/25 06:23 AM
–	The majority of women will never change for a man No one should be changing themselves for someone. Man or woman. If self improvement happens, you should do it for yourself and because you want your life to improve	/r/PurplePillDebate	02/02/25 10:53 PM
4	CMV: It's ok to break up or divorce, even if nothing is going wrong I don't know about what "nothing is wrong" means. I think fundamentally marriage is a commitment and you should work to make it work. However, if someone in the marriage is miserable then something is wrong. I think there's a middle ground between "stick around even when your spouse makes you miserable" and "leave whenever" You do need to try to make your marriage work because that's what commitment means. Obviously discounting the obvious (if your partner hits you once, leave immediately. If yo…	/r/PurplePillDebate	01/02/25 10:12 PM
–	Women have no excuses to struggle dating but men have some excuses I care more about my happiness and peace of mind than a man. If I do things I do them for myself and Id only be with a man that helps with my happiness than a man who demands me to do things I don't want. I don't care if it's "achievable" if I don't want to achieve it	/r/PurplePillDebate	30/01/25 11:19 PM
7	The male loneliness epidemic is worse than you think. If you read his comments he advocates for things women can do to me nicer to men: dress feminine always say yes to at least three dates if you are single. And then you should set him up with your friends always talk pleasant to men	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/01/25 06:14 AM
4	The male loneliness epidemic is worse than you think. https://np.reddit.com/r/PurplePillDebate/s/vU8jlVGcIM https://np.reddit.com/r/PurplePillDebate/s/yAfbSjCF3z In this one by "mean to men" he means "rejecting them for dates" For the record I don't believe that most men think like this at all! It's just a common enough manosphere chronically online talking point that people start making assumptions	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/01/25 05:55 AM
0	The male loneliness epidemic is worse than you think. Apparently I need to put in a no participation link as it's against terms and I don't know how to do that. ..	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/01/25 05:53 AM
43	The male loneliness epidemic is worse than you think. That's because of how a lot of these things are framed online. Ppd men: Oh woe is me I have no gf Women: well that sucks Ppd men: well? Why don't women want me? Women: well I wish you weren't lonely but I'm an internet stranger. Maybe expand your social circles? Ppd men: that's just women have high standards! They won't date me! Women: okay and? I'm sorry but it's not like you can make people date you PPD men: women go for 666 Chad and eventually men get angry and that's why you have no abortion…	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/01/25 04:01 AM
2	Are women in (current year) forced to wage slave? And this has nothing to do with the overall op? Op is saying did feminism give women the freedom to choose to stay at home or work? I am saying that women have always worked and yes, if it bothers you so much men also worked hard thankless jobs. That's my point. Both men and women worked for economic reasons because you need money and food to live. Amazing concept I know. I don't make the argument here that SAHM should be paid to stay home. I make the argument that the freedom to not work has ne…	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/01/25 01:07 AM
2	Are women in (current year) forced to wage slave? Neither men or women have ever had a easy comfortable life. A very few wealthy people have had comfortable lives throughout humans existance. Oh I agree! The point I was making was that for the most part women partook in economic labour. Farm work is economic labour. Weaving and spinning thread is economic labour. Cooking in a kitchen at your family inn is economic labour. Selling at a marketplace is economic labour. Just because your labour was part of the family trade does not mean that it isn…	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/01/25 12:30 AM
36	What are some negative habits/ traits that are commonly attributed to women that you actually feel is valid ? Being indirect, giving hints and expecting people to pick up on it. Communication also means communicating clearly and directly that means if he does something that bothers you tell him directly There are some women who expect men to make more than them or do provider stuff. This is fine If you are doing traditionally feminine gender roles if this isn't you, you also don't really get to demand this. There is some truth to women spending on frivolous things more than men. Of course men spend as m…	/r/PurplePillDebate	26/01/25 10:55 PM
7	Are women in (current year) forced to wage slave? How is it beside the point? Women worked in fields and farms for economic reasons and earned money right next to the men. Do you value women's labour less? Only rich women ever had the privileges of being housewives, the same as today. The vast majority of female peasants had to do some form of economic labour or as you put it "wage slaving" Spinning thread, milking cows, planting rice, weaving textiles, selling goods (ever heard of a fishwife?) is labour and counts as wage slaving.	/r/PurplePillDebate	26/01/25 06:26 AM
7	There are lots of women who will counterintuitively RAISE their standards in the face of nonsuccess in dating Do they? Really I do not see that happening a lot. Most women end up with average men 🤷 And I have met many 6 fig men who are relatively attractive and have social circles etc and... They do not use women like living flesh lights. If that's all you see around you, you need better social circles.	/r/PurplePillDebate	24/01/25 11:49 PM
13	There are lots of women who will counterintuitively RAISE their standards in the face of nonsuccess in dating Women are not entitled to a relationship with a man either. Their choices are stay single, find a man that meets their standards or lower their standards. Choosing the first of those two options are not being entitled. If they cannot find a man that they are happy with that meets their standards and choose to remain single instead of being unhappy they are not being entitled. They're entitled if they demand a particular man. They're entitled if they demand the time of a man get violent etc. But …	/r/PurplePillDebate	24/01/25 11:48 PM
8	There are lots of women who will counterintuitively RAISE their standards in the face of nonsuccess in dating It's funny how women seem to not have that part of their brain that shames them for being entitled. Like does she deserve such a man that makes her happy, does she have what it takes and what needs to be given to have such a man, no, than how isn't she ashamed. Why would we be ashamed of wanting to be happy? Like if we're happier single than being in a relationship with a man that makes us happy why would that be entitled? If a woman isn't being a femcel bitch about it and doesn't hate men then …	/r/PurplePillDebate	24/01/25 10:42 PM
15	There are lots of women who will counterintuitively RAISE their standards in the face of nonsuccess in dating Because again, in the end, it's not about "finding a man" It's "finding a man that makes you happy" If the men who don't meet those standards don't make you happier than you were when you were single. Then no, those men aren't worth the time and effort anyways If the men they want don't want them then they can either stop dating and be single, or just try and see if something shows up anyways	/r/PurplePillDebate	24/01/25 08:53 PM
13	There are lots of women who will counterintuitively RAISE their standards in the face of nonsuccess in dating Yes, because in the end your goal should be to be happy and fulfilled. If lowering your standards gets you someone you wouldn't be happy with, then there is no point to lowering your standards. If you're happier single than being with someone that doesn't meet those standards then why lower? You put your toes into dating, realise that you aren't attracting men you are wanting or are not compatible with then you adjust your standards to eliminate those men from the dating pool. Does that make you…	/r/PurplePillDebate	24/01/25 08:48 PM
1	DISCUSSION🗨️ ABOUT MAIN PPD POSTS📮, LOOKS👀, AND N-COUNT🔢 ARE RESTRICTED🚫 FROM THE DAILY🌞 MEGATHREAD🧵 Stocks	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/01/25 01:36 AM
9	Some men will always be unappealing to all women in a romantic sense. Tbh I think a mix but it is likely to be personality/ looks combo that will be affected the most. The reason I think is that a bad character (e.g. being a bad person) can generally find a partner with another person with. Bad character (lots of couples who for example are part of the same gang or who all commit tax fraud or whatever) or can, if charismatic or manipulative enough, find someone to prey on (people who are doormats or people pleasers. People who want to "fix others" ) I think the bi…	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/01/25 12:55 AM
10	The big problem with telling survivors of abuse to “pick better”. Lmao this is so dumb So much abuse happens by shitty shitty dudes from all social strata. And soooo many talk, muscular tatted dudes are the biggest sweethearts you could ever meet. The shittiest dudes I've ever met were nice clean cut bring home to your mama types, who were all kinda misogynistic and "submissive Wifey" types. If anything the type most likely to be a shitty dude is a priest, the complete opposite of your stereotype. The shittiest dudes I've met are under dressed nerd slobs who c…	/r/PurplePillDebate	15/01/25 03:55 AM
–	There are 2 harsh truths that men and women have accept sooner or later. I think that they do help someone date, just not directly. And obviously it's hobby dependent as well. But generally men who have a hobby that also increases socialisation (like say going to a woodworking shop each week) generally means they're more socialised, have better socialisation skills and are generally happier that someone who doesn't have a hobby And generally people who are better at socialisation and are happier are better at dating and relationships This goes for women too. Bonus if…	/r/PurplePillDebate	12/01/25 08:26 PM
3	Q4W: Do you want a submissive man, or do you want to submit to your man? It doesn't matter if they're "truly transcendent" or not. And yes any lack of freedom to choose will lead to "resentment" Sorry not sorry. And tbh this is why compatibility is one of the most important aspects of a relationship. Have the same values and life paths.	/r/PurplePillDebate	11/01/25 07:33 PM
2	Q4W: Do you want a submissive man, or do you want to submit to your man? I've got more complicated thoughts, desires and dreams than a gibbon. I refuse to stay in a relationship that makes me feel resentment or makes me less happy than I am when I am single.	/r/PurplePillDebate	11/01/25 09:02 AM
16	Q4W: Do you want a submissive man, or do you want to submit to your man? We can't agree about having a baby? Moving countries? The only options are submit or lead? And the answer of equality and compromise isn't on the table? Break up. I will rather break up that have a baby I don't want. I will rather break up that not have a baby if it I want one. I will rather break up than be forced to move.	/r/PurplePillDebate	09/01/25 09:47 PM
1	Do you actually think life would be easier if you were a man in this age ? No one is blaming men for not dating women?????	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/01/25 06:14 PM
1	Do you actually think life would be easier if you were a man in this age ? Men are still accountable for choosing to let women be miserable alone, but big whoop. No one owes women any company, so the accountability there is very painless. Dude be alone if you want. That's not being accountable thats just living your life Like no one owes people their company	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/01/25 09:55 AM
1	Do you actually think life would be easier if you were a man in this age ? Ok, I can see all you want to do is avoid honestly discussing the issue by painting all men in the colors of the very worst percentile. The overwhelmingly vast majority of men, espescially younger men, aren't doing this. In fact they are removing themselves from co-ed environments in historically unprecedented numbers. Nah I'm just using your own logic against you Either men are accountable for their own actions and women are also accountable for their own actions. And therefore women are not ac…	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/01/25 01:13 AM
2	Would you support men having the right to “abdicate” a pregnancy? The keyword is child You also need to take into account that some adults do want to reconnect with a bio parent and that's also within their right	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/01/25 09:05 PM
3	Would you support men having the right to “abdicate” a pregnancy? That's unrealistic unfortunately. Adults are allowed to meet and talk to other adults. If you don't want to reconnect with a bio parent that is your right and if they keep harassing you then it's part of harassment law but at the end of the day you can't forbid adults from reaching out like that unless an actual crime has happened.	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/01/25 08:49 PM
1	Do you actually think life would be easier if you were a man in this age ? Men's behavior towards love and relationships does not occur in a vacuum, it is a reaction to how women treat us. Taking accountability for that would have made this a 10/10 comment. By your logic then women's behaviour towards love and relationships does not occur in a vacuum and it is a reaction to how men treat us. Men should take accountability for women's actions Men should learn that the reason women don't want to emotionally invest in relationships is because men lead us on and make us th…	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/01/25 08:35 PM
0	Do you actually think life would be easier if you were a man in this age ? I'm talking about the general perception of people. If that's how a lot of men present themselves then it's going to have an affect on discourse. Same as how bad feminists or corporation hijacked feminism have been the focus of the discourse instead of "good feminists"	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/01/25 08:08 PM
1	Would you support men having the right to “abdicate” a pregnancy? Sure. I believe in paperwork abortions so as long as there were legal rules about it. You have to live in a place with a very long abortion time frame and the decision has to be made early enough that a woman can make a choice to abort. This is because if you made the decision at month 9 that's a bit unfair as she has made the assumption of having a partner to raise or co-parent with and is now stuck being a fully single parent The man shouldn't be allowed to contact the child until that child i…	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/01/25 07:49 PM
–	How can a man not feel worse when he realizes that his girlfriend/wife behaves more restrictedly and less passionately with him than with her past partners? Who is sex she does not want to have the barometer for love? Also it's his fault for settling. He should have never dated someone who didn't make him happy. That's his fault	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/01/25 07:24 PM
3	Do you actually think life would be easier if you were a man in this age ? Have you been on this sub? Yes I am aware that many men are good people who want love That is not how they present themselves online very frequently.	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/01/25 06:54 AM
-3	Do you actually think life would be easier if you were a man in this age ? How am I delusional exactly?	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/01/25 06:46 AM
20	Do you actually think life would be easier if you were a man in this age ? I think life is not easy regardless of gender. What is different is the types of challenges we face. Women by and large have challenges that are either economic or physical - which is to say there is still a lot of sexism in many areas in society. I've heard of some pretty horrifying stuff to come out of law and IT for example. Women are also generally thought of as less intelligent or capable than men. We also have to accept that men are physically stronger and could by force remove much of our…	/r/PurplePillDebate	05/01/25 10:44 PM
8	Do you support "old school" feminism? That means men should also prove that they must be able to vote logically and not emotionally. Emotion includes anger btw. So all angry men who vote for politicians as a "take that to the libs" or the "wokesters" should not be allowed at a polling booth.	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/01/25 12:11 AM
6	Why are so many women in their 30s and 40s single, childless, and dissatisfied with their dating prospects? So are men? Lol why is it always a gender thing? Low prioritisation of communities Bad economy High cost of living Generally negative outlook for the future People are more likey to stay home and video game / watch Netflix Less social obligations end up making people less social I mean we're at a point where a CEO gets murdered and we all collectively "lol" It ain't feminism that's the problem. It's unbridled capitalism.	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/12/24 11:37 PM
13	Women, do you want liberty or security? There's a difference between "illegal" and "unsavoury" And "illegal" and "shouldn't" Like I think getting a tattoo while drunk is very stupid. I think getting married at 18 is colossally stupid. I think having sex without birth control unless you're over 23 and at least one of you has a full time job is something you really shouldn't do I don't think any of those should be illegal. Like a 40 year old having sex with an 18 year old shouldn't happen because that 40 year old is doing something many…	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/12/24 09:31 PM
3	Women, do you want liberty or security? Fair. I've taken it off. This is what I get for reading shit in a hurry	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/12/24 08:26 PM
25	Women, do you want liberty or security? The thing about choices is that we're free to disapprove of other people's choices too! I disapprove of one of my friends having commitment issues. But it's not my life so it's their problem and not mine. Why is everything so extreme for you people? Honestly. No I don't want arranged marriages or parental veto. Yes, I want my parents to approve of my partner because I have a good relationship with my parents and we mostly share the same values. By law we should have some sort of age of consent t…	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/12/24 07:54 PM
17	CMV: Males should stop dropping out of the dating market It's windmill what did you expect?	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/12/24 07:01 AM
7	CMV: Males should stop dropping out of the dating market Nope. No one is entitled to sex or relationships People should date who they want.	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/12/24 07:01 AM
9	Women are indifferent to Most men Sigh I'm not asking you to prevent rape wholesale But there's a reason those two things are not equivalent. One of those is a horrific act that someone else inflicts The other is just people existing and living their lives without putting you in the centre.	/r/PurplePillDebate	10/12/24 08:18 PM
16	Women are indifferent to Most men I mean rape and domestic violence and assault are something that someone else does to you. It is resolved by stopping violence and locking violent people up Not wanting to date you is the same as not wanting to be friends with you. You can't force people to like you. That's just fucked	/r/PurplePillDebate	10/12/24 08:03 PM
2	Feminists promote unhygienic behaviour to "stick it to men" Where are all the men without armpit hair? Cause if you look around on the beach at summer pretty much the answer is almost zero Oh wait no that's a lie, I've met like 2. In three decades.	/r/PurplePillDebate	05/12/24 01:43 AM
6	Men want a woman that can be both a mother and a wh..., and whats wrong with that? Why would I want an authoritative figure in a relationship? My parents have a relationship of equals. And I strive to have the same. I ain't mothering no man. And no man will have authority over me. Be an equal partner or gtfo	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/12/24 02:44 AM
3	How do you feel about the average person? Hmm, I think that the average person ends up with an average person And that above average people will end up with above average people Personally some of the stats here concern me in a person, but not to the extent that we won't want to associate with them. Mostly I don't know if we'd vibe. For example I and most of my friends: - like being outdoors and do thinks like hiking, cycling and other outdoor trips. Even if it's just a weekend hike. - I enjoy going out for food and hate picky eaters. -…	/r/PurplePillDebate	02/12/24 11:05 PM
1	CMV: Husbands should not feel entitled to touch their wives And you are deviating from your own premise Assuming a married couple where one of you initiates sex, and the other does not want sex then the answer isn't just "learn body language" It is also: "I do not want sex" Which solves the problem. If he persists then it's not about communication at all, he's just an asshole you should break up with.	/r/PurplePillDebate	02/12/24 01:32 AM
2	CMV: Husbands should not feel entitled to touch their wives If anything that proves my point If a woman believes her partner is just "bad with social cues" then they should verbalise it. And if that person keeps going then you know that they're a bad person to break up with. Like this whole post is built on the premise that your relationship is toxic and unhealthy by default. While yes, humans should be able to read social cues, if you're in a relationship then being able to talk about sex and romance is sort of a necessary part of it. If you can't have …	/r/PurplePillDebate	02/12/24 01:01 AM
1	CMV: Husbands should not feel entitled to touch their wives Yes. If you do not get the hint you are creepy. But dude if you're in a relationship enough to get married You really need to be able to fucking work on this shit. And no if you can't tell if your partner is receptive you shouldn't be together That's sort of the point. A creepy man being creepy at strangers is creepy. Absolutely yes. A creepy man trying to initiate a relationship with a friend or acquaintance who is trying to turn them down is creepy. Especially if they persist. Absolutely yes. …	/r/PurplePillDebate	02/12/24 12:31 AM
2	CMV: Husbands should not feel entitled to touch their wives I'm sorry but if you're in a relationship with a man and you can't verbalise "no" "not now" then you shouldn't be in a relationship with that man Either you don't feel safe enough with him, which is a bigger problem Or you are a bad communicator	/r/PurplePillDebate	01/12/24 11:50 PM
1	CMV: Husbands should not feel entitled to touch their wives Why do you think a married couple is unable to say "not now?" If the man is a rapist and forces himself on her that's one thing but you're supposed to be together. If you feel unsafe in a relationship to say "no" then the relationship is abusive and shouldnt be a thing If it's just a man initiating and not forcing and she is unable to say "no not now"......	/r/PurplePillDebate	01/12/24 11:47 PM
1	CMV: Husbands should not feel entitled to touch their wives Dude where in the world did you get sexual assault from?	/r/PurplePillDebate	01/12/24 11:43 PM
1	CMV: Husbands should not feel entitled to touch their wives If in private she can't verbalise "I don't appreciate it when you interrupt me / I'm busy at the moment / it bothers me when " She is also a bad communicator	/r/PurplePillDebate	01/12/24 11:31 PM
1	CMV: Husbands should not feel entitled to touch their wives Ooorrrrrr it's up to the couple to communicate what they are comfortable and not comfortable with?	/r/PurplePillDebate	01/12/24 10:39 PM
1	Blue Pill Means You Pull the Wool Over Your Eyes About Women to Protect Your Own Ego I think it's very telling that you sides with a guy who thinks you should give your abusers another chance	/r/PurplePillDebate	28/11/24 10:01 PM
17	Blue Pill Means You Pull the Wool Over Your Eyes About Women to Protect Your Own Ego You didn't state the extent of the assault. I can understand why you wouldn't want him, but part of me wishes you would get past that. Why don't women leave their abusers?! Wahmen bad! Wahmen choose bad men! Lmao no. Anyone who cheats deserves the streets. And anyone who hits, even once, deserves jail.	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/11/24 02:41 AM
6	q4w: Who do you think men typically give higher value to: 'Sara' who he used to fuck or a woman he contractually agreed to spend the rest of his life with by being his wife? He values his unnamed wife because she performs the functions that make his life better. note that in this case I use value in the same way I value my PS5 which ill throw out the moment a PS6 is created and becomes affordable. As opposed to say, me loving my favourite book, which I've had for 15 years...	/r/PurplePillDebate	26/11/24 11:06 PM
10	Why are women so paranoid about men's behaviour? Because it doesn't stop the fact that we don't like it? For example I don't think most men think women should be the house keeper. I do actually think that men have higher mess tolerance than women on average. It doesn't matter if you don't "mean" it that way, it still makes women resentful if they're having to pick up after the mess more often than the other person. It doesn't matter if men don't mean to objectify. If they keep pressing for sex or acting in a sexual manner, and the woman doesn'…	/r/PurplePillDebate	26/11/24 04:45 AM
6	Why is it fair for married men to go 50/50 on chores when their wives are SAHMs and the kids are in school? No, men should not go 50/50 on chores if their partner is SAHM He should however, still be a father. That means that if kids are messy you should probably help out picking up after the kids on the weekends. And honestly some of it is also recognizing that you get tow "clock off work" but she's technically on "mum mode" 24/7. Maybe you get a day off from all work and chores and she also gets a day off from all the work and chores?	/r/PurplePillDebate	25/11/24 10:45 PM
4	If in today's society, sex is not expected in a relationship, then faithfulness should not be expected A monogamous relationship is owed faithfulness, because it's monogamous. If you have decided to stop being monogamous, that is your right. You then either talk to each other and either change the terms of the relationship together or break up. Not having sex with you isn't dishonest because they are obviously telling you that they do not want to have sex It is also not dishonest to have sex outside of the relationship if you are obviously telling them that you are having sex outside the relation…	/r/PurplePillDebate	25/11/24 10:40 PM
–	The conversation has been hijacked by undesirable men, the REAL issue is that actual DESIRABLE men are being viewed as beneath average-below average women Because there are many factors for that. I'm a woman with nerd hobbies. I've met a lot of STEM guys who make 6 figures. Some might even be called attractive. They're also socially lacking. Perhaps that social aspect is what is keeping them from getting a partner. After all dating is entirely a social interaction. Some people are perfectly fine partners, but have very little avenue to meet new people of the opposite gender. Like if you have a male dominated work force and a male dominated hobby S…	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/11/24 10:34 AM
–	The conversation has been hijacked by undesirable men, the REAL issue is that actual DESIRABLE men are being viewed as beneath average-below average women You also have to remember that people have their own issues that informs their decision making. For example, someone who is anxious and is bad at confrontation might end up with someone who's strong willed and stubborn. Neither of them are bad people. Neither of them want drama or excitement. But those two people can be bad for each other. Because someone stubborn and hard headed might just take the reigns of the relationship. And not be able to realise that they're stepping all over the other p…	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/11/24 06:23 AM
–	The conversation has been hijacked by undesirable men, the REAL issue is that actual DESIRABLE men are being viewed as beneath average-below average women I will not deny that initial attraction or vibes or "the spark" is generally a big part of the initial stages of dating. But also you need to understand that people have neuroses and issues. I have never met an adult who didn't have issues. Lots of issues in dating is based on these neuroses feeding into each other. Anxious attachment people getting together with insecure attachment people are pretty bad mix who seem to keep attracting each other for example Again these relationships tend to be …	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/11/24 04:25 AM
–	The conversation has been hijacked by undesirable men, the REAL issue is that actual DESIRABLE men are being viewed as beneath average-below average women Okay so is the point here that due to men being bigger, women have to be more careful in their vetting? Because on average men are larger?	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/11/24 04:17 AM
–	The conversation has been hijacked by undesirable men, the REAL issue is that actual DESIRABLE men are being viewed as beneath average-below average women Im sorry that happened to you But I'm not sure...what that has to do with my comment?	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/11/24 03:41 AM
–	The conversation has been hijacked by undesirable men, the REAL issue is that actual DESIRABLE men are being viewed as beneath average-below average women Fully disagree. "Changing expectations" and "unrealistic expectations" are different things Using your logic, a couple generations ago, a sexist man who believes he is the head of the household and I should do all the household chores and be a submissive wifey and I should be happy with that. And my refusal to be happy with that makes me ungrateful and spoiled. No. I have values and lifestyles. One of them is that gender roles don't matter. And that I don't care what our relative incomes are, we…	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/11/24 03:24 AM
–	The conversation has been hijacked by undesirable men, the REAL issue is that actual DESIRABLE men are being viewed as beneath average-below average women I only respond badly when the op is an obvious gotcha or when someone goes "wahmen have no hobbies" (read: women don't like what I like) and the like. It's just that most people on this sub either argue in bad faith or like to nyah nyah when the revolution comes you're all gonna get raped / forced into marriages and it will be your fault for not dating me	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/11/24 02:34 AM
–	The conversation has been hijacked by undesirable men, the REAL issue is that actual DESIRABLE men are being viewed as beneath average-below average women One of the biggest things I found is that people need to understand that there are things that make them bad partners for certain people. That doesn't make them bad. It makes them bad for that person. Like...I'm a planner right? I'm a flexible planner, like if things go differently or we find something better when we get there that's great. But I have been with a man who was not flexible at all. He didn't like it if plans changed that day. He would insist that we stick to the schedule. Alternati…	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/11/24 01:56 AM
–	The conversation has been hijacked by undesirable men, the REAL issue is that actual DESIRABLE men are being viewed as beneath average-below average women But you have to find that "right mature person" who also shares your values and lifestyle. Do you see? It's not about whether women think "average" men are below them. It's that average is still a very large spectrum and encompasses men who might just not make them happy. And not being happy in a relationship is way worse than being single	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/11/24 01:07 AM
6	Male value must not be measured in women Yes, they should. Why is this controversial?	/r/PurplePillDebate	20/11/24 11:38 PM
–	The conversation has been hijacked by undesirable men, the REAL issue is that actual DESIRABLE men are being viewed as beneath average-below average women I feel like I have said this a thousand times but I will say it again. Is the juice worth the squeeze? That's the one and only metric we should care about. Male, female, attack helicopter. People talk about people being beneath other people. Or looks match. Or staying within your league or shooting up or down or whatever. In the end none of these matter. What does, is whether a relationship is worth it. Relationships are hard. I'm sorry but it is. Your life is beholden to another person, male or…	/r/PurplePillDebate	20/11/24 11:26 PM
1	The Dating Curve With All Things Equal is Just Harder for Men Women: I want to be happy and not be in relationships that make me less happy that I was when I was single Men: I'm so haaaapppyyy that wahmen won't have jobs and will have nooooo choice but to live with men who will dangle his financial authority over them. Hahahahahaha!!!!!! Men: why women so misandrist? Why don't they like men?	/r/PurplePillDebate	20/11/24 10:14 PM
1	The Dating Curve With All Things Equal is Just Harder for Men Women: I want to be happy and not be in relationships that make me less happy that I was when I was single Men: I'm so haaaapppyyy that wahmen won't have jobs and will have nooooo choice but to live with men who will dangle his financial authority over them. Hahahahahaha!!!!!! Men: why women so misandrist? Why don't they like men?	/r/PurplePillDebate	20/11/24 10:14 PM
12	Men should (and are) show less sympathy towards women's issues in dating and in general You don't get to be proud that you decided to no longer treat people like property	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/11/24 01:50 AM
1	US Women Avoiding Sex With Men (likely) Has Nothing To Do With Pregnancy Okay you do realise 4B isn't a movement that's actually mainstream right? This is a very terminally online thing. Most women won't stop having sex with their boyfriends or partners. What might happen is that women might be more careful about wanting children. If for example I know that in the event of a miscarriage or a health issue I won't get care because of abortion laws I might decide to never risk children. Maybe I was thinking of having one, and now I don't want one. Or maybe I am terrifie…	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/11/24 10:22 PM
4	Women should be more nice to men or else men will democratically vote away their rights. Okay so if he forces a kiss or a blow job that's okay? Listen. Why is my time, my body and my entire being beholden to pleasing men in order to avoid being raped with no rights? Logically speaking of men respond to women not living their entire lives for the sake of pleasing men (never rejecting them, always dressing to please them, always acting to be submissive) by implementing the handmaids tale, then by default all men are rapists. Because their response to "no thank you" is fuck you get rap…	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/11/24 08:28 PM
5	Women should be more nice to men or else men will democratically vote away their rights. What if your single friend doesn't like him? Oh wait she has to otherwise men get rapey! What if you're not attracted to him at all? Oh wait, too bad you have to pretend otherwise he's rapey! He's a nice guy really, but not really. Because a nice guy doesn't get rapey because he got turned down. Actually wait., he asks you out. You get a bad feeling in your gut. But look, who cares, you don't want to get raped so you go anyway. He drugs you and raped you on the date. Oh well why did you go with …	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/11/24 08:17 PM
3	Women should be more nice to men or else men will democratically vote away their rights. you recommended be raped instead. Never turn a man down unless you're wearing a ring? That's literally: give me what I want or I'll take it by force. In both scenarios your body is not your own and is rape That isn't shame. That's rape.	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/11/24 08:11 PM
3	Women should be more nice to men or else men will democratically vote away their rights. So to avoid being raped, just let yourself be raped. Easy!	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/11/24 08:03 PM
3	Women should be more nice to men or else men will democratically vote away their rights. So being nice to men involves.... Never rejecting them, always dressing to please them and never being yourself? Otherwise men turn into raping beasts?	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/11/24 08:01 PM
11	WTF is "Emotional Intelligence" Being able to manage your own emotions and also understand other people's emotions and act accordingly. Like if you're always angry or don't show emotions except happy and angry you aren't emotionally intelligent. But also let's say she gives you thoughtful birthday gifts and is disappointed when for her birthday she gets a gift card then emotional intelligence would be to understand why she's upset and why next year you should put more thought into the gift.	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/11/24 03:49 AM
6	Women should be more nice to men or else men will democratically vote away their rights. So women aren't allowed to reject men, aren't allowed to dress how they want and must always be "on men pleasing mode" or else men will be abusive, raping cuntbags Great. Next time someone asks me about misandry and why women always assume that men are raping cuntbags I will refer them to you.	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/11/24 12:33 AM
3	CMV: Passport Bros should not be allowed to marry foreign There should be no laws governing who consenting adults can marry what the actual heck? For another how would you enforce it? We going back to making interracial marriages illegal? You know some people just go overseas on work visas and find someone right? How about women who want to marry a passport bro for the sake of a visa? Like they're allowed to do that too	/r/PurplePillDebate	08/11/24 09:30 PM
4	Would you want to go back to life before the Sexual Revolution? No Before the sexual revolution women were shamed into purity culture but men weren't. Before birth control, condoms and abortion the burden of most of the consequences fell on women disproportionately. And honestly the biggest issue isn't the sexual revolution at all, it's the advent of online dating. People have a harder time finding people because of how unnatural the online transaction is. Not to mention people have become more introverted over time, using the excuse of being home bodies and…	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/11/24 01:35 AM
6	Women are fucking paranoid My dude, if a random messages me on social media, regardless of If they're a man or a woman I block them and move on. I use social media to interact with the friends I made offline Lots of women aren't scared of you, they're just human beings with their own lives who probably went "who's that? Oh not someone I know. Block anyway I should go figure out dinner..."	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/11/24 05:39 PM
11	Is it wrong for men to only love based on the condition of celibacy? And that's your choice. Not my problem. Just don't be surprised if that means women who don't do casual sex won't be going after you either	/r/PurplePillDebate	01/11/24 02:05 AM
2	Q4W: Is a man lying to get sex tantamount to sexual violence and abuse Depends on the lie. I think lying about age is abuse on both sides Like if he's 25 and lying to look younger because he's flirting with someone who's 18-20. And if you're going you get than that its basically a crime. If you're someone who you know is too young for your partner it is also abuse because you could be violating a personal moral or be trapping them Into committing a crime. Like someone who is 17 pretending to be 20. If you're lying about STDs or AIDS it should be abuse And if you're…	/r/PurplePillDebate	01/11/24 01:50 AM
19	Is it wrong for men to only love based on the condition of celibacy? Nothing wrong about it....so as long as they aren't hypocritical about it. You want someone who doesn't do casual...never have had casual sex yourself. Want someone not promiscuous? Don't be promiscuous. Once men start going on their stupid master lock and key analogy they lose all their credibility as far as I'm concerned.	/r/PurplePillDebate	01/11/24 01:43 AM
2	One is either victim, OR they are not. There is no middle ground. I'm not entirely sure of that. You can identify as someone something has happened to, without making it your entire life. Here's an example. What country are you from? You could for example identify as "American" without having to have your whole identity and life be taken over by "American-ness" Being American doesn't stop someone from having their favourite food be Ramen. You can even identify as "American" and also "Chinese" and neither of those two identities have to conflict. On the other h…	/r/PurplePillDebate	23/10/24 11:45 PM
2	One is either victim, OR they are not. There is no middle ground. I'm not a psychologist, but I'm pretty sure that would be different for every person. I'd imagine for a lot of people it would mean trying to take back some agency of their lives (hence why some people prefer "survivor" or "victim" )	/r/PurplePillDebate	23/10/24 09:44 PM
2	One is either victim, OR they are not. There is no middle ground. "define" is a very strong word. I think everyone, victim or not, are impacted and is the sum result of all their life experiences. Take a baby and raise it in a completely different family and culture and they'll come out pretty different. Even if the base qualities remain the same. Again, that doesn't mean someone can't find healthy coping mechanisms and be a well-adjusted person. That does not mean that a person will never "move past" so to speak. It just means that something happened that aff…	/r/PurplePillDebate	23/10/24 07:30 PM
2	One is either victim, OR they are not. There is no middle ground. I think the problem here is an issue of perception One can be "victimised" e.g. someone who had something bad done or happen to them. And one can have "victimhood" as in someone who strongly acts and perceives themselves as someone who was strongly traumatized by something bad. We have made it so that "victim" goes without agency. Which is why some people prefer the word "survivor" which denotes that they had the agency and the work to help themselves move past the trauma of victimhood. But I wo…	/r/PurplePillDebate	23/10/24 11:54 AM
6	Women generally don't want us men to try to be friends with them, so it's up to us to act accordingly and listen to them. Apparently men only don't don't anything for their friends except drink beer together. Unless their male friends give them sex too? Lmao honestly, I've moved shit for friends. I've cooked for friends who are sick. I've driven friends. Etc etc etc Men just think any hint of kindness is something you only do for sex Ig	/r/PurplePillDebate	20/10/24 10:22 AM
0	Who you associate with reflects on you. In general there are less violent female serial killers by a huge margin Men also choose to date shitty women. The amount of pull a woman with BPD has for example. People are not rational beings. And often people are damaged because of many things. And those people tend to hold onto other damaged people. People who have low self esteem or are extreme door mats due either to a natural personality are easily taken advantage of by people who are damaged because they are violent or manipulative. It'…	/r/PurplePillDebate	15/10/24 01:25 AM
2	Why feminist and people see the "gender gap" as an "advantage" but not the spending or dating up gap? Okay so the ability to earn money aka economic power, trumps all yes or no?	/r/PurplePillDebate	14/10/24 05:48 PM
4	Why feminist and people see the "gender gap" as an "advantage" but not the spending or dating up gap? So the tiny percent of OF models earning money means that women are just as priveleged (or more) than men who on average make more money than the average woman? That this 2% of sex workers mean that housewives who are dependent on their husbands have more privilege than the husbands themselves who have the money Looks like what you're saying is the ability to earn cash is the privilege. Which of anything proves my point that the hard power of cash will always win over the soft power of "pretty p…	/r/PurplePillDebate	14/10/24 05:09 PM
4	Women Discriminate Against Single Dads Much More Than Guys Do with Single Moms Op claims that women are worse about hating single dads than the other way around. Do a Google search. That is clearly not the case	/r/PurplePillDebate	14/10/24 05:04 PM
3	Why feminist and people see the "gender gap" as an "advantage" but not the spending or dating up gap? Lmao and the women who do sex work because the alternative is starving is soooo privileged compared to the fact that in general men make more money? I think the ability to earn money is by and large the biggest privelage in the world. Money is will always win. Money always talks. The ability to have cold hard cash will always and forever be a higher privilege that becoming a housewife or a sugar baby dependent on others for cash	/r/PurplePillDebate	14/10/24 05:03 PM
9	Women Discriminate Against Single Dads Much More Than Guys Do with Single Moms The op literally says women hate single fathers more than men hate single mothers. Unequivocally false. And frankly hating single mothers for existing vs clowning on passport bros who's goal is to literally take advantage of economic disparity is... Very very different No one is against interracial relationships in and of itself. It's the "Asian women submissive western woman bad" attitude that we make fun of. And as an Asian woman "Asian woman submissive waifu" is a fucking fetish and a racist …	/r/PurplePillDebate	14/10/24 05:00 PM
14	Women Discriminate Against Single Dads Much More Than Guys Do with Single Moms A deadbeat dad is not a single father. It's a man who refuses to be a father. Either because they don't want to raise the baby, or they only want the fun parent parts (see: weekend parent) or they try to wiggle out of child support and don't clean up after themselves.	/r/PurplePillDebate	14/10/24 10:38 AM
13	Why feminist and people see the "gender gap" as an "advantage" but not the spending or dating up gap? Most men don't make enough that 50/50 of current assets will last. Child support isn't always enough. And said tradwife would have been out of the market. The man will continue to earn at the same level as he was during the marriage. And if the kids are in school, his expenses have not changed. In fact he's have more money The woman on the other hand would be playing catch up, being behind in the work force. Almost all studies show that post divorce women have less money and do financially worse…	/r/PurplePillDebate	14/10/24 09:56 AM
16	Women Discriminate Against Single Dads Much More Than Guys Do with Single Moms I have just gone on twox and searched "single father" I got a couple posts from single fathers asking for advice and some posts complaining about how much society seems to hate single mothers more than the other way around.	/r/PurplePillDebate	14/10/24 09:35 AM
2	How would you feel if your bf/husband said he wasn’t initially attracted to you? I'd be okay with it. Attraction developing over time is perfectly fine with me. I'd like him to find me attractive, but it didn't have to be immediate. And tbh let's be honest I'm no 10/10.	/r/PurplePillDebate	14/10/24 03:53 AM
40	Why feminist and people see the "gender gap" as an "advantage" but not the spending or dating up gap? If you see sex work as a privilege go ahead and be a sex worker? Money is hard power. You can do things with money. A tradwife having influence on their husband is a soft power, because it still leaves you at the mercy of the man's whims. And therefore the two are not comparable. Hard power is always better	/r/PurplePillDebate	14/10/24 02:57 AM
1	Rejecting anyone for any reason is fine, the end, dating is inherently selfish, discriminatory and judgemental. I think that lots of average and mentally healthy people already don't date people they believe are immoral However, I don't think people really want to be live their lives with someone who isn't compatible with them regardless of good moral character. You could be a very good person in that you donate to charity and volunteer and all of that shit. But if I just plan don't enjoy your company then I'm still not dating you. For example you use the example of social skills. Like no matter how good …	/r/PurplePillDebate	14/10/24 01:50 AM
40	Women Discriminate Against Single Dads Much More Than Guys Do with Single Moms And that's pretty normal. Not everyone wants to be a step parent. Male, female, attack helicopter But women don't wholesale hate single fathers and create threads about how it's their own fault their sad and miserable and how they should just stay poor for breeding. Men do.	/r/PurplePillDebate	14/10/24 12:41 AM
64	Women Discriminate Against Single Dads Much More Than Guys Do with Single Moms ...men and women who don't want to raise other people's kids are valid in their preferences. They don't hate you. They just don't want to date you. In general most women don't hate men who don't want to date single mums. We hate the rhetoric of hate that gets levelled at them. Like most women aren't going "single dads are stupid people who should vett people. They're shit stains on society" On the other hand I can show a thousand threads on this sub from men complaining about the very existence …	/r/PurplePillDebate	14/10/24 12:33 AM
7	CMV: women should not sign prenups Disagree. Prenups are great. You get to lay down terms of fairness at a time when you're in love and so want the best for each other instead of when divorce is on the table. I also think it keeps things fair all around if you do have pre-marital assets, especially if you're like most people now and get married at 30 instead of 20. If you worked for 8 years and own a house, it seems unfair that you lose half that house to someone who wasn't part of that 8 years. Or if you inherited something. Lik…	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/10/24 09:36 PM
2	Q4W: Which of these dating preferences is acceptable? All dating preferences is acceptable I'm allowed to judge your saying preferences and look down on you for it You're allowed to ignore me	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/10/24 07:35 PM
2	Men being stay at home dads I don't think we can afford having a parent stay at home. Like I wouldn't mind if I was making the income but I'm not. I want to afford extra curriculars for my kid. I want to be able to spend money on myself and my husband's hobbies. Just no	/r/PurplePillDebate	09/10/24 10:44 PM
1	If you believe that humans are children until 25 years old, why are you ok with them doing s*x work at 18? Nothing It's not my fault people in this sub cant understand nuance	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/10/24 07:11 PM
1	If you believe that humans are children until 25 years old, why are you ok with them doing s*x work at 18? Who said we believed that they were children? It's just that on average people under the age of 25 are much much less mature and more impulsive than over the age of 25. Are there exceptions to the rule? Yes. There are incredibly mature under 25s. And incredibly immature over 25s. And in general that means that on average there is an emotional and mental imbalance in huge age gap relationships where one party is under the age of 25. In the same way that there are huge gaps between the ages of 18 …	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/10/24 09:07 AM
-1	CMV: In the wake of finding out he’s not the father, anything a paternity fraud victim does (short of physical violence towards others) is the fault of the mother. On ops own claim I believe that men should be allowed to get redress such as child support back pay, the woman has to fess up and get the actual biological father on the stand. And yes men shouldn't be judged for leaving the child or the relationship. And women's intuition is a thing only because frankly women are disparaged and our feelings are considered irrational because men are the rational gender. Find a man to be creepy? Find a man unsettling? Or you know what? Maybe you just plain aren't…	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/10/24 08:25 AM
4	CMV: In the wake of finding out he’s not the father, anything a paternity fraud victim does (short of physical violence towards others) is the fault of the mother. See replies below. See previous threads filled with men saying "she should have filtered better" Shall I pull them out for you? Men are the rational gender my ass.	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/10/24 02:34 AM
2	CMV: In the wake of finding out he’s not the father, anything a paternity fraud victim does (short of physical violence towards others) is the fault of the mother. Sure. They have a right to their body. They don't have the right to mine. Put in a different way I am not killing them. I am simply removing them from me. If a person (another body) is dying in front of me and I have the type of organ needed to keep them alive. Even if it's an organ I can live with out, it's still my choice whether to give them that organ. If they die without it, that's very sad and unfortunate. But it's still my body. Which is a separate entity from their body Similarly an abor…	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/10/24 02:19 AM
1	CMV: In the wake of finding out he’s not the father, anything a paternity fraud victim does (short of physical violence towards others) is the fault of the mother. I'll accept this argument assuming we lived in a society where there is: ZERO ABSOLUTELY ZERO societal stigma and pressure regarding abortion easily accessible and affordable NO RESTRICTIONS abortion rights The man wrote a legal document that he wants no parental rights , the deadline being at the very start of the pregnancy. And well before the first trimester ends. Is that the case where you live?	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/10/24 02:03 AM
-2	CMV: In the wake of finding out he’s not the father, anything a paternity fraud victim does (short of physical violence towards others) is the fault of the mother. Oh so the man was raped then? Listen my body my choice means you have complete control of your body. No one made that guy ejaculate without a condom. Oh I forgot. Wahmem bad.	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/10/24 01:44 AM
2	CMV: In the wake of finding out he’s not the father, anything a paternity fraud victim does (short of physical violence towards others) is the fault of the mother. Hey if you want proof that this is literally male logic, look at the comments under me It's all wahmem should pick better. Single mothers bad. So you know...	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/10/24 01:32 AM
2	CMV: In the wake of finding out he’s not the father, anything a paternity fraud victim does (short of physical violence towards others) is the fault of the mother. Thank you for proving my point.	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/10/24 01:31 AM
1	CMV: In the wake of finding out he’s not the father, anything a paternity fraud victim does (short of physical violence towards others) is the fault of the mother. If having kids outside of marriages is a terrible idea, equally criticize the fathers But noooo. Wahmem bad. For that matter if one of you steps up to take care of the baby and the other one does not the person who does not should take 90% of the criticism. Not the person who stayed. But noooo. Whamen bad. Whamen Choose better. Whamen should be punished	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/10/24 11:10 PM
8	CMV: In the wake of finding out he’s not the father, anything a paternity fraud victim does (short of physical violence towards others) is the fault of the mother. That's what men on this sub already do Single mothers are at fault for everything because they should have picked better Divorced? Should have picked better Struggling to raise kids with a deadbeat? Should have picked better Man abandoned you? Should have picked better Abusive? Should have picked better.	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/10/24 08:13 PM
7	Do most men really want “traditional women” or to receive treatment they imagine top tier Chads receive from women? The culture in general is religious, leading to a in general conservative culture. And while there are religious progressives, there's very little conservative nonreligious. Yes, even in countries in southeast Asia And passport bros like SEA because: the beauty standards lean whiter they have more buying power and so can attract girls with poorer backgrounds greencards and visas	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/10/24 12:56 AM
9	Feminists talk about a glass ceiling preventing women from being President. I think that's BS Ah yes because men never exaggerate or lie. Therefore we should never believe men. Like there's so many studies about how discrimination and sexism exist and how its insidious but men would rather believe that it doesn't to make themselves feel better. I'm not black so I don't believe black people suffer discrimination. I never see it happen in front of me. Therefore it doesn't exist. Nyeh nyeh.	/r/PurplePillDebate	29/09/24 10:12 PM
25	Feminists talk about a glass ceiling preventing women from being President. I think that's BS Lmao Men: I listen to women! Women: this exists Men: I don't believe you. I'm not listening to you. Women: uhhh. Men: women exaggerate and lie anyways. But don't worry I listen to women!	/r/PurplePillDebate	29/09/24 10:01 PM
0	Why do girls make the biggest deal about getting approached/hit on, even when done respectfully by a guy they find attractive? It's not traumatizing at all. As long as they aren't groping me I just turn them down and move on I'm just saying that lots of women don't go out to be approached. Lots of us just want to dance and vibe.	/r/PurplePillDebate	29/09/24 01:27 AM
1	The problem with the paternity test debate Oh I went on holiday with my sister overseas to a relatively developing country. Just as an extra safety precaution I put google tracking on and shared it with my husband so that he always had access to where my phone was at all times. I forgot to turn it off. So now he he just uses it to figure out the approximate time Id come home so he could start dinner	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/09/24 01:18 AM
8	Why do girls make the biggest deal about getting approached/hit on, even when done respectfully by a guy they find attractive? For women, again why put yourself in an environment where it’s geared towards adults letting loose and urging you to socialize with new people (the opposite sex generally) if that’s not what you’re open to right now? Because me wanting to be in a crowd, dancing to pumping music, feeling the vibe of club is very very very different to wanting to be approached. Like some women absolutely want to go clubbing and get male attention but tbh if you stick me in a place that was basically a "don't talk …	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/09/24 01:05 AM
4	If they love you, they don't need a ring on it. Which also invalidates your op's premise	/r/PurplePillDebate	26/09/24 04:09 AM
3	If they love you, they don't need a ring on it. Who says they need to be a housewife? They can also work. And again. That's not the point. For example, do you want kids? If not maybe marriage isn't a big deal. I didn't want marriage until I wanted kids. My husband wanted the wedding more than I did. But if I have kids then logically someone is going to have to sacrifice financially for it. So I wanted a legal contract stating that if we had kids (aka built a family unit) Then that includes a financial family unit as well. So a man who wants t…	/r/PurplePillDebate	26/09/24 03:28 AM
4	If they love you, they don't need a ring on it. So not love then.	/r/PurplePillDebate	26/09/24 03:19 AM
4	If they love you, they don't need a ring on it. So they don't love her because of her past. Okay then. Break up with her.	/r/PurplePillDebate	26/09/24 03:00 AM
2	If they love you, they don't need a ring on it. Counterpoint Some people don't want to be having children and sacrificing financially without any legal recourse You know you don't have to get married right? Just be upfront about it	/r/PurplePillDebate	26/09/24 01:45 AM
7	If they love you, they don't need a ring on it. People shouldn't put a ring on it until they are very sure yes. But again if you say "if you loved me you wouldnt need a ring" has the exact same weight to it as "if you loved me you would put a ring on it"	/r/PurplePillDebate	25/09/24 11:10 PM
6	If they love you, they don't need a ring on it. Counterpoint If they love you, they'll put a ring on it	/r/PurplePillDebate	25/09/24 07:14 PM
–	Women liking social skills and confidence is not a "gotcha" against men having complaints about female nature. Omg. I can't believe I have managed to contribute to the overall consciousness of this sub. But yes. That was likely me	/r/PurplePillDebate	22/09/24 10:37 AM
2	What is the appropriate response for a gamer bf/husband to his woman that protests his hobby? It's like a form of spending time together. Like you could play a co-op game like baldur's gate and go through the story together. Or play MMOs together as a party	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/09/24 09:49 AM
15	What is the appropriate response for a gamer bf/husband to his woman that protests his hobby? I'm a gamer myself Basically if a guy: doesn't scream toxic shit at people in lobbies responsibilities come first he has friends that isn't just from video games (basically he goes out of the house and meets people in person) and does things other than just video games Then we all good	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/09/24 09:47 AM
3	Q4W: Do you hold your female friends accountable for how they treat good men in a relationship? Depends on what you mean by "treat" Yeah I'd hold a female friend who was a cheater accountable. Why would I want to be friends with a cheater? If they're abusive (physically, sexually etc ) then yeah. Why would o want to be friends with someone like that. If it's just people who argue or don't agree with each other or whatever. That's their business. Like I'm friends with a dude who's stringing a girl along because he hasn't admitted that he doesn't see her as long term relationship material Do…	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/09/24 01:52 AM
1	Why Do Women Think Their Feelings Matter More Than The Truth? I think a universal standard paternity test is fine. It removed the feelings of accusation. But if I felt like he was accusing me of infidelity (e.g. doing it on an individual basis) I'd leave.	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/09/24 01:48 AM
–	Debate : Without legal intervention or social shaming, older men would usually choose very, very young women; older women would be largely ignored. The starter girlfriend stereotype begs to differ	/r/PurplePillDebate	20/09/24 12:00 PM
1	Lack of ‘Enthusiastic Consent’ is not Sufficient for Sexual Assault In theory, in a committed relationship, body language (as in leaning towards your touch instead of lying like a starfish). Or other displays of obvious enthusiasm counts the point is that "an absence of a no" doesn't count as consent. And a "yes" that is not enthusiastic (e.g. yes because you might drop me off in the middle of the road or yes because you're blocking off the exit or yes because you forced me to drink) are all examples of sexual assault. The reason this paradigm exists is because …	/r/PurplePillDebate	20/09/24 02:38 AM
3	Lack of ‘Enthusiastic Consent’ is not Sufficient for Sexual Assault What this is, is essentially the best and most efficient way of understanding consent when in unknown or grey areas. No one is mistaking "duty sex ugh" to sexual assault. What it means is that "an absence of a no is not enough". Drunk as shit? Didn't say no? Don't do it. Incapable of saying no? Don't do it. You're not sure if they want it because they're hesitant or quiet or anything that isn't a a big yes? Don't do it. Unenthusiastic "yes" because you threatened their job? Don't do it Unenthusi…	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/09/24 11:14 PM
1	As a woman I don't understand woman who can't separate sex and emotion Yes but the thread wasn't about op being relationship material. The point is that in a scenario that op presented to me, of what would essentially be someone's dream casual partner (attractive, funny, easy to be around, willing to pay for dates, good I'm bed etc) would I take it? It's just that the guy doesn't want commitment The problem there isn't that the woman in that scenario wasn't relationship material. The problem is that the two wants don't connect.	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/09/24 03:28 AM
1	As a woman I don't understand woman who can't separate sex and emotion Not necessarily. Some people just aren't wired for commitment or have other stuff going on. I know men who don't want to commit because they don't even know if they'll still be in the country after two years, let alone the city. Why commit? They're pretty upfront about it so it's not like they're leading anyone on. But that's not because you aren't relationship material. It's because commiting to someone and then leaving isn't really commitment is it? I know men who don't want to commit because …	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/09/24 03:22 AM
5	As a woman I don't understand woman who can't separate sex and emotion I have very good friends who are men. But they are friends because I am willing to hangout and have fun with friends. I have relationships. I am married. Clearly I found some men worth my time. I just don't find casual encounters worth my time and energy. Or any men who I don't vibe with or aren't compatible with me or whatever	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/09/24 12:52 AM
5	Modern men appear interested in having kids or having a large family more so than modern women That's because it is. It is work and it is not paid for. And sure okay if the man pays for it. But then that gives men allllll the power. Because it his money. And if divorce happens it's "muh divorce rape" and "wahmem don't deserve my assets that I worked for" So yeah, why quit my job? At least this way I have my own money, financially contribute to the assets so that men can't go "but muh work muh money muh assets divorce raaaaaaaaape"	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/09/24 12:21 AM
8	As a woman I don't understand woman who can't separate sex and emotion Is it because for you even hanging out with a man without intention of serious relationship is too much hassle and mental draining in the first place for you? Got it in one. Why would I bother on this date with a stranger when I could go out and hang out with my already existing friends? I wouldn't seize it because there's nothing there I want. Why do I care about free dates? Again, I don't like people just giving me money like that. Not my thing. I don't care about free gifts either. Everything…	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/09/24 10:10 PM
7	As a woman I don't understand woman who can't separate sex and emotion You realise that sexuality is a spectrum yes? I know lots of women who can separate it just fine. And lots who can't. And most people who are in the middle. So from my perspective I just don't see the point of sex when it's casual. Like I tried it once. It's just meh. Like on a physical level I would honestly prefer to play games, watch a movie or read a book than have casual sex. It's just of the list of things I would enjoy it's so far down the bottom. A nap would be more appealing. It's not l…	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/09/24 09:53 PM
3	Women need to learn to be happy being used for sex In that case men need to learn to be happy to be used for money and free dinners.	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/09/24 09:57 AM
7	Balancing Reproductive Rights: Sentience, Emotional Connection, and Equality I don't care about sentience at all. If a full grown sentient person got hit by a car and I am the only match for an organ or a blood donation or whatever, the government cannot and should not be able to force to give up any bodily autonomy to save this person. Even if I was the one who hit them with my car. Similarly the government should not be able to force me to give up use of any part of my body to give birth to another person. Essentially it's not me killing the sentient person inside me. …	/r/PurplePillDebate	14/09/24 08:18 PM
7	q4w: Do you think your sex/head game is better than an experienced sex worker? If not, why should a guy choose you over a sex worker? I personally get the ick if a guy has used sex workers I suppose it's like guys who get the ick about women who are sex workers	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/09/24 10:32 PM
17	q4w: Do you think your sex/head game is better than an experienced sex worker? If not, why should a guy choose you over a sex worker? And why should any women want to choose a man who values transactional sex? He can go ahead. Idc	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/09/24 10:05 PM
17	q4w: Do you think your sex/head game is better than an experienced sex worker? If not, why should a guy choose you over a sex worker? If a man only values sex and looks he should choose a sex worker I don't want him either	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/09/24 09:46 PM
15	Telling struggling men to be gay is not a valid solution. It's a pisstake. Men on this sub complain about how boring women are. Or how they don't have real hobbies. Or whatever. They complain about women's sexuality because they aren't like men's on average. So you know, as a pisstake people are like "well if you hate women so much, go ahead and just fuck men?" No one is actually telling them to be gay. Just that if you hate women stay away from us please	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/09/24 09:38 PM
7	[Repost] Get the gov't out of Marriage: Marriage contracts should be privatized Oh so it doesn't have a societal benefit It's just a lot of work and a lot of beuracracy which results in probably worse outcomes because.. Uhhhh You felt like it I guess	/r/PurplePillDebate	02/09/24 10:30 AM
9	[Repost] Get the gov't out of Marriage: Marriage contracts should be privatized You realise people break up and can have kids outside of marriages right? You realise if less people get married, more people have kids out of wedlock. Which means they can still break up and have kids. Which nullifies your benefit. And if anything it makes it worse because now there's no guidelines to how they'd break up anything during the relationship. Which actually will lead to more fighting and more animosity. Which.....destroys the mental health of the kids more. So really this is all jus…	/r/PurplePillDebate	02/09/24 10:15 AM
17	[Repost] Get the gov't out of Marriage: Marriage contracts should be privatized So marriage is only for those who can afford lawyers? Poor people can't get married? For what reason? Who cares if marriage doesn't have "prestige"? What societal benefit would it give in order to give it prestige? So much effort and gatekeeping for the sake of ?????	/r/PurplePillDebate	02/09/24 07:27 AM
4	Do you really believe men were happier in their romantic relationships in the past, according to current standards? Again this is not universal. Being single is for many people, much much much muuuuuch preferable than in a relationship that isn't happy I would much rather live alone in a studio apartment with a cat than have to deal with a man who believes in gender roles or who doesn't do his share of the chores or literally anything that makes my day to day not happy. And believe it or not I have met many men who also don't settle for women who don't make them happy. And they're pretty damn content being si…	/r/PurplePillDebate	30/08/24 12:25 AM
1	Why are girls with boyfriends often more receptive than single girls in bars and clubs? Same concept. Are you not considering that the people who act like this stick out and the people who don't, you don't notice?	/r/PurplePillDebate	26/08/24 07:42 PM
1	Why are girls with boyfriends often more receptive than single girls in bars and clubs? Orrrrrr Women who are taken but aren't cheaters wouldn't be approaching strangers in clubs So by definition that one's you do meet are the ones that do? It's classic making assumptions. In WW2 people sent out planes. And then the plans came back with bullet holes and they spent forever trying to figure out how to reinforce those ones. When really what they should have been looking to improve were the planes that never made it back	/r/PurplePillDebate	26/08/24 04:29 AM
1	The Worst thing to happen to women was turning them into men. No. The only person at fault is the person who is trash If a woman is trash it is 100% her fault. Not her bfs fault. Not her husband's fault. No man's fault. If a man is trash it is 100% his fault. Seriously why are we always blaming women for the actions of men?. What are the forces keeping men from being better. What's incentivizing them to be terrible, lairs, manipulators. The fact that we blame women instead of them maybe? Let's be response for ourselves and not the other person Women have b…	/r/PurplePillDebate	26/08/24 02:25 AM
1	The Worst thing to happen to women was turning them into men. I disagree that the pill is at all a negative in society. The responsibility for fatherlessness does not lie upon women. That lies on men. If a man runs away, it is 100% the fault of the man. This shouldn't be phrased as "women need to choose better men" It should be phrased as "men should be better" because the fault there is with the man in the equation is it not? The responsibility of motherless lies on women. Secondly it is objectively and statistically incorrect that the pill leads to singl…	/r/PurplePillDebate	26/08/24 01:49 AM
0	The Worst thing to happen to women was turning them into men. It's because your argument is literally - without the pill everything would be so much better when history has literally documented otherwise Women couldn't work, because they were constantly pregnant, which made them financially dependent on men. Which is how you got a shit ton of unhappy, miserable relationships. Which predominantly fucked over women more than they fucked over men. Cause at least men had financial power. Hard power (e.g. power that you can use at will like money) will always b…	/r/PurplePillDebate	26/08/24 01:19 AM
0	The Worst thing to happen to women was turning them into men. Ohhh so contraceptives are a okay if men benefit from it! If women get control over their bodies eeeehhhhh but think about the poor men! Of course. Duuuuh Silly me	/r/PurplePillDebate	26/08/24 12:59 AM
0	The Worst thing to happen to women was turning them into men. If we're saying contraceptives are bad I hope men are willing to be happy with having sex only 3 times in their fucking married lives. I am absolutely fucking not being pregnant eveyr fucking year because men are all "meeeeh women have control of their own boddddiiiieees" It's soooo baaaaaad that women aren't giving birth to 10 kids anymore because now some men get tempted into seeeeeex Why aren't wommeeeen ruining their liiiiives and staaaaying hoooomme so I could be less responsibllllllleeee	/r/PurplePillDebate	26/08/24 12:22 AM
7	Women, if you don't find men that much attractive and loveable, are you going to prefer female-female only relationships over men and wish such a society? If you don't love the men as men love women, And how exactly do men love women in a way that women don't love men? And don't say sexually/attraction. Sex is not love	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/08/24 06:06 AM
11	Why is it wrong to say that if men are in the mood and women are neutral (but not agaisnt it) they should have sex with their SO? Should is a really hard word to use here because then it becomes coded as an obligation and a chore. In your example of clothes shopping, does going shopping make you excited after you've had to do while being neutral? No? Do you roll your eyes at the thought of winter Wonderland but go anyway? Great. Going shopping with your person is now a chore. Do you like making sex feel like a chore? Then makes your partner desire sex less and roll their eyes at it more. And now that sex is a chore instead…	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/08/24 09:07 PM
–	The bar is on the floor for a being marriage material women Authority assumes a power imbalance or dynamic. Why is submission needed or desirable at all? By definition you would see yourself as "superior" in order to justify why you have authority over another. Why then would someone want to be seen as inferior? And why should that inferiority come from being born a woman?	/r/PurplePillDebate	08/08/24 07:18 PM
–	The bar is on the floor for a being marriage material women And yet this force is what justifies why a woman "submits" to a man? No. Either submission comes from violence from authority, therefore the entire system of it is born of men being abusive as a default Or men do not enforce authority via violence and therefore there is nothing that means a woman should submit to man.	/r/PurplePillDebate	08/08/24 07:02 PM
–	The bar is on the floor for a being marriage material women If a man uses force to enforce his authority he is an abuser. So I would gather that any man who believes he has authority vested in force, that he is a man to run far far far away from	/r/PurplePillDebate	08/08/24 06:45 PM
14	The bar is on the floor for a being marriage material women No I am not. To submit to authority is to be submissive. Why should the man have any authority at all? Because magic penis?	/r/PurplePillDebate	08/08/24 10:54 AM
53	The bar is on the floor for a being marriage material women The moment I read submissive as marriage material I failed to take you seriously It's such a low bar!!! Just do anything I tell you and let me make the decisions in the house! Because I have a magical penis!	/r/PurplePillDebate	08/08/24 04:08 AM
3	Double standard re. Male vs female insecurities Depends on the insecurity and how it's presented If you're insecure about your looks and self flagellate it can be annoying, and you do need to feel better about yourself. But ultimately it's not something that affects me too much And if all I have to do is say "you look great girl!" Then no skin off my nose. If you're in secure and you expect me to do something about it, meh. Now I'm out. Like if a guy is insecure about his height then whatever "go short king" If someone is insecure and it mani…	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/08/24 04:01 AM
8	All the excuses used by age gap haters to interfere with age gap relationships can equally be applied to bigots trying to stop gay / lesbian relationships, as age gap haters use the same kind of infantalizing rhetoric, concern trolling and "we're doing it for your own good" gaslighting. You dont exist / are unattractive/ other excuse for why women just want to get hawt men and have zero actual concerns	/r/PurplePillDebate	05/08/24 11:44 PM
1	Calling men who you disagree with "Weird" is A Toxic Femininity Oh efffff you people. Weird has nothing to do with feminity or toxicity or whatever buzz word in your head. To be weird is to deviate from the norm. That is all. Like to drink in a group of non drinkers? "It's so weird that people need alcohol to have fun" Fuck me I was weird because I didn't have fucking niche. I was an extrovert who liked to party and liked nerd stuff. My friends who loved to go out clubbing and drinking and who id meet with after study to just chat with made fun of me (in fri…	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/08/24 01:48 AM
–	A lot of society does not appreciate motherhood until no one wants to do it. And the result is that women might not want to have children because all the burden of sacrificing independence, financial and social comes from them. Men should stop whining about it unless they're willing to pick up the slack	/r/PurplePillDebate	01/08/24 12:20 AM
–	A lot of society does not appreciate motherhood until no one wants to do it. Further to that though, the fact is that there is no "glory" in it. Men get to build civilization. They get to be in history books. They get to feel important. Women are "behind the throne " and "support" and absolutely no one will learn of the wife of a scientist or the mother of a revolutionary. Nope. Good women don't make history. Good women don't build civilization. Good women are happy on supporting roles. You want to put emphasis on child rearing and mothering? Society buckle up and do it.…	/r/PurplePillDebate	31/07/24 11:43 PM
–	A lot of society does not appreciate motherhood until no one wants to do it. Men: women have no rights! Stay in the kitchen! Be submissive! Men are the captain of the ship by virtue of the magic penis! Men built society! Feminists: how about no Men; waaaaah you evil feminist	/r/PurplePillDebate	31/07/24 11:22 PM
1	What Educational Reforms Would You Advocate for to Address Any Pill-Related Concerns/Problems? It's not about sports though. People need to be physically active to be healthy. That's scientific fact So I'd say kids need to be put in something physical. Cub scouts outdoor stuff, running groups, swimming class, rugby, tennis whatever. Yeah you should have something like violin if you want, but a base level of fitness is something every one needs	/r/PurplePillDebate	30/07/24 08:46 PM
9	CMV: Self improvement is just a way to try and blame men There is a built assumption that the woman is not having unrealistic standards Who cares if her standards are unrealistic? Thats her problem to deal with. It might mean she's single forever. It might mean she looks for guys who are incompatible for her and has issues because of it. But that's her issue not yours. Her life to live, her consequences to bear, her decisions to make. On that note There is a built assumption the man is not good enough You don't have to self improve if you don't want t…	/r/PurplePillDebate	30/07/24 01:40 AM
12	CMV: Self improvement is just a way to try and blame men Because you can't and shouldn't control others only your self You can't make some one like you. In the same way you cant force people to be your friend. Either you make yourself other people like or you don't get liked. If you want someone (or say a demographic ) who doesn't want you either: turn yourself into someone they want change your demographic It's not about fault it's about what you can do	/r/PurplePillDebate	29/07/24 11:49 PM
1	Is there anything you agree with MRAs on ? Private labs with only 0 (not the father) and 1 (is the father) answer. No storing. No known identities. It's been the norm in my country for 20 years now. Though still not mandatory. That would work. It would be super useful if we all got genetic testing for medical reasons anyway. I know we have prenatal ones which is great as we should know about it before birth. Impossible in Europe where the cutoff point for abortion is 3 months. And it's quite difficult to know you're pregnant in the first…	/r/PurplePillDebate	29/07/24 09:30 PM
7	Is there anything you agree with MRAs on ? Circumcision of under 18s should be illegal Child custody should default to 50/50 unless one side is incapable (addiction / abuse) Culturally we need to stop the expectation that men pay for the first date. No, women dressing up to look good does not count as equal effort to payment and being driven around. Culturally we need to catch men up to being able to break out of male gender roles. Mental health and suicide matters Things that I agree with in principle but have reservations on: mandatory…	/r/PurplePillDebate	28/07/24 06:06 AM
9	Feminists can't be "allies" to men's activists, because the feminist movement, broadly, is actively hostile to men According to this sub alone: abortion rights being eroded is actually a thing. Right now. Legally. single mothers should be denied benefits to punish them. Except of course I don't see anyone punishing deadbeat fathers. Also I love how the part that takes responsibility (aka taking care of) the result of said irresponsible decision is the one at fault instead of you know ...the fathers that ran away. There are even people who think and I quote " the woman makes the baby. Baby is only her respons…	/r/PurplePillDebate	25/07/24 05:41 AM
9	Feminists can't be "allies" to men's activists, because the feminist movement, broadly, is actively hostile to men In which case you can then assume that hostility against men's rights activists are also completely justified as we should be judging them on their most vocal	/r/PurplePillDebate	25/07/24 05:13 AM
1	Women: on a scale from 1 - 10 how do you feel about being approached in by a man in public who wants to give you his phone number? I don't know, like 5? I wouldnt date someone who could approaches even when I was single. All my bfs and eventual husband was through social circles. But I don't hate it if they're respectful and leave. Would even be flattered. I know girls who would consider it though so..	/r/PurplePillDebate	23/07/24 01:41 AM
3	If the majority of children are raised by women, where do gender roles come from? I think puberty now is worse. Algorithms mean that kids are exposed to shit like Andrew Tate on a more frequent and insidious basis. So I don't think it's gotten better at all.	/r/PurplePillDebate	22/07/24 10:01 PM
4	If the majority of children are raised by women, where do gender roles come from? Men aren't responsible for patriarchy and women can perpetuate patriarchy. Patriarchy is just a catch all term in which we describe a social system that heavily favours hard power to be masculine and male. Patriarchy can also be detrimental to men. It's just that the ways it is detrimental to men is harder to quantify as it tends towards emotional issues. (Boys don't cry, it being socially expected for boys not to have the same emotions) Women are affected either financially or by an set of norm…	/r/PurplePillDebate	22/07/24 08:19 PM
1	Women hate the manosphere because the manosphere teaches men to protect themselves from women, which makes it harder for women to exploit us You're gonna have to back up your violent crime stats on that one. The 80s/90s were easily the most violent time for crime in the US. And crime has decreased overall in 30 years in most western countries. And yet we also have the highest single parent household rate in history. So no crime hasn't much to do with single motherhood https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Crime_Survey_for_England_and_Wales#:~:text=The%20Crime%20Survey%20for%20England,for%20National%20Statistics%20(ONS). Poverty indicates p…	/r/PurplePillDebate	20/07/24 08:53 PM
1	Women hate the manosphere because the manosphere teaches men to protect themselves from women, which makes it harder for women to exploit us Lmao so it's always "some in the manosphere" but it's okay for it to be "all women" or even "most women" get real IMO, there were many things that were better in the past: affordability and standard of living for the middle class, lower crime rates, lower suicide rates, etc. ofc not everything was better as we all know Violent crime actually decreases per capita unless you live in a war torn area. We're just more aware of it because news gets disseminated more quickly. We also admit to suicide a…	/r/PurplePillDebate	20/07/24 07:51 PM
3	Women hate the manosphere because the manosphere teaches men to protect themselves from women, which makes it harder for women to exploit us Nothing wrong with men preferring or seeking out women who want to be submissive and/or a housewife. Does not make the man evil or sexist or controlling. The problem is men forcing women to do that. According to this sub and also university speakers: if women only accepted that they're supposed to be feminine. And nurturing the past was better because before women went to the work place everything was sooo much better feminism ruined everything western woman bad (aka women who believe they shoul…	/r/PurplePillDebate	20/07/24 10:41 AM
7	Women hate the manosphere because the manosphere teaches men to protect themselves from women, which makes it harder for women to exploit us I think if that was all it was that's would be fine Instead its Andrew Tate and fresh and fit. Its women should be submissive housewives Its you should lie and cheat and its okay if men cheat but not the other way around. Its how it vilifies single mothers (but not the men who produce the children!) If they just told men to hold boundaries and self-improvement it would be fine. But they are all very clearly misogynistic pricks. But somehow it's random ticktok women saying they want tall guys tha…	/r/PurplePillDebate	20/07/24 05:36 AM
2	Q4W: To those who think men and women are equal, why have women's leagues, women's bathrooms, women's clothes, why even call yourselves "women"? Answer the question.	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/07/24 08:09 PM
2	Q4W: To those who think men and women are equal, why have women's leagues, women's bathrooms, women's clothes, why even call yourselves "women"? In that case, since men commit more violent crimes, do you think men are inherently inferior? By your own logic?	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/07/24 07:18 PM
2	Q4W: To those who think men and women are equal, why have women's leagues, women's bathrooms, women's clothes, why even call yourselves "women"? Physically stronger in most ways. I understand what you're saying. But in general there's a reason male and female sports are different teams. Let's be honest here. Yes giving birth is its own kind of strength but by most definitions I think we can agree that physically men are on average stronger	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/07/24 03:29 AM
11	Q4W: To those who think men and women are equal, why have women's leagues, women's bathrooms, women's clothes, why even call yourselves "women"? But I don't think men are inferior. I think men and women are different and also equal. . I would argue that being a teacher (female dominated) brings equal value to society as a plumber (male dominated)? Why? Because plumbers are a necessity but so is the ability to read and write and be educated. I'd argue that ability to give birth and create life (only biological female is capable of this) is of equal value of being able to defend life (like being a police) You're the one calling people infe…	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/07/24 02:47 AM
2	Q4W: To those who think men and women are equal, why have women's leagues, women's bathrooms, women's clothes, why even call yourselves "women"? Equal doesn't mean identical We should have the same rights as each other and be treated equally under the law. But biologically males are stronger and females give birth. Parents are equally important in a Child's life (unless one of them is dysfunctional.) and have an equal right to be in a Child's life (again, unless one of them is dysfunctional). But it's the bio mother that's responsible during the pregnancy and it's the bio mother that produces milk. This isnt the gotcha that you think it …	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/07/24 02:37 AM
3	Woman who want marriage should make it clear from get go and not give him years waiting for him to pop the question. There's no dearth of guys who would drag you for years I think people are too scared of conversation. And the end result is either a massive time waste on the person who wanted commitment and hurt. Rip off the band aid early And if the other person lies, then you know you did your but and that he/she was just a massive asshole.	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/07/24 10:07 AM
1	It does feel like the Blue Pillers here are committed to making men feel like they're never the prize It isn't. No one is the prize. Buuuuttttt you can only change yourself. You cannot make other people change. So naturally the advice will be about what you can do. And in the end for all parties the juice must be worth the squeeze. Man. Woman. Attack helicopter. Are you worth it? Does being with you make me happier than without you? This sub in particular is heavy on men saying they will date by woman. While women stick to "must be worth it". But men can do that too. They can say a woman must be…	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/07/24 05:36 AM
3	Woman who want marriage should make it clear from get go and not give him years waiting for him to pop the question. There's no dearth of guys who would drag you for years I think the issue is being more upfront about what you want in the future. Like no you can't expect commitment on marriage on month 6. But you make it clear that you would like to get married some day. Or that you want a ltr. Not necessarily with you right now. But that's what you're looking for. Clear the air. Make clear you want to start dating casually but with the intention of seeing if this can become committed. If at 6 months you don't see it becoming a committed relationship, you can leav…	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/07/24 05:28 AM
10	Woman who want marriage should make it clear from get go and not give him years waiting for him to pop the question. There's no dearth of guys who would drag you for years I think there are two very big extremes being discussed. When you're younger (20s) it's normal to not look forward so much at the first date. Might be good however that when your desires do start changing and you want marriage, you out on your big girl pants and have a conversation with your ltr. If they're hesitant or noncommittal, start asking yourself what you want. If it's in your timeline to get married after X years, tell him that. And leave when it doesn't happen or he doesn't agree. Once…	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/07/24 12:51 AM
1	Woman who want marriage should make it clear from get go and not give him years waiting for him to pop the question. There's no dearth of guys who would drag you for years Ah yes. Wahmen bad. So original.	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/07/24 12:42 AM
2	Friends of perpetually single men often have a different perspective than perpetually single men themselves Lol he's got his first gf in his mid-30s I think you're thinking of the worst of the spectrum. This one of those things where he's okay on the surface and so can make multiple friends, but as time goes on he becomes really annoying. And his emotional capacity is very low. He's that friend that occasionally says off colour things that everyone ignores because it's easier. But you wouldn't want to be in a relationship with him. It's one of those things that isn't noticeable on first or second meet…	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/07/24 09:15 PM
1	Friends of perpetually single men often have a different perspective than perpetually single men themselves I am friends with a guy with horrendous social skills. Can't read the room at all. He does have friends, but we're all nerds here. And I can't stand him for extended periods of time. Fun to play games with. Not fun for well...anything else. A lot his close friends are also very socially awkward nerds. Now he did get a gf. She's just as socially awkward as he is. So it's not impossible. But, it's just harder in general	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/07/24 07:36 PM
2	Dating is mutual fraud. Women have to sacrifice independence, having to submit to a head of the family, having a relationship where a man gets all the hard financial power. Not to mention any career desires they might have wanted outside the house. Men have to sacrifice....????....???...???..??? ...???	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/07/24 01:16 AM
1	Video of women dancing in an office ignites gender war online Men are the rational gender my ass	/r/PurplePillDebate	15/07/24 04:44 AM