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| 3 | Contradictory opinions on cold approach in college | farfar336 | /r/seduction | 30/07/19 05:54 PM | |
| 2 | Correlation between rejection rates and timing | farfar336 | /r/seduction | 31/12/19 10:35 PM | |
| 2 | Situations when cold approach isn't appropriate? | farfar336 | /r/seduction | 01/08/19 04:54 AM |
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| 1 | Okay folks, we need a thread on not getting quickly attachedI used to have this problem. I fixed it by only looking at my messages twice a day. One in the morning, one at night. That way, you're not constantly checking your phone to see if you got a message from her. Also, dating multiple people helps, because if it doesn't work out with one girl, you always have other options. | /r/seduction | 18/02/20 05:13 AM |
| 1 | I'm great at approaching women (2-3 times per day), but terrible at closing. Help??I agree with you on everything there. One thing that stood out to me was texting her to let her know you're calling her in 5 minutes, as it's less intrusive and gives her time to prepare. Thanks for sharing, I learned something new today :) | /r/seduction | 11/02/20 06:25 AM |
| 1 | I'm great at approaching women (2-3 times per day), but terrible at closing. Help??That's a good strategy. But, she won't pick up the phone unless she knows it's you (otherwise, she thinks it's a telemarketer). So, it might be good to send her an initial text saying it's you. Then, you can call sometime after, correct? | /r/seduction | 10/02/20 05:56 PM |
| 1 | I'm great at approaching women (2-3 times per day), but terrible at closing. Help??What do you do when they don't pick up? | /r/seduction | 10/02/20 05:15 AM |
| 1 | Pros and cons of wording your invite for a date "Let's meet up later to get some food or drink. What's your schedule like?" It sounds very platonic and could be mistaken for such. But saying "I'd like to take you out on a date" puts more pressure on her. Your experiences using similar wordings?“Let’s meet up/go out for drinks, how does Thursday or Friday work for you?” I like this. One thing I suggest is to gauge if she wants to meet up with you in general. So, I'd modify it to "Let’s meet up/go out for drinks sometime." If she agrees, then I suggest specifying days: "Alright, does Thursday or Friday work better for you?" I have tried to be specific the first time I asked the girl out, but said she was busy. I wasn't sure if she was genuinely busy or if she just doesn't want to see me… | /r/seduction | 02/02/20 09:03 PM |
| 2 | Texting in between datesText her every 5 hours. The less frequent your texts are, the more quality they will have, so it will be harder to lose attraction through text. Plus, this way, you only have to come up with witty/flirty texts every 5 hours, as opposed to every 5 minutes. If you text too frequently, you will run out of things to talk about, not only through text, but also when you meet up in person. | /r/seduction | 02/02/20 08:55 PM |
| 1 | Tinder 101: A Complete Beginner Framework to Crush Online DatingTime | /r/seduction | 24/01/20 05:36 AM |
| 1 | Completely cluelessAny one works, but if it's all 3, then that's a really strong indication (not 100%) she likes you. | /r/seduction | 03/09/19 04:41 PM |
| 1 | Texting After the Date - Some Questions"I never understand why it's so difficult or too much to say; 'Hey, I had a great time, but I don't think we match. Wish you all the best!' " Some people are too scared to say it or are inconsiderate of just how bad ghosting is. Others ghost because they're seeing someone new, and if it doesn't work out with that new person, they can always go back to the person they ghosted, because they never officially ended it with them. I agree that one should use positive choice of words when breaking up. | /r/seduction | 03/09/19 04:38 PM |
| 1 | Is he responding back to my flirting/seducing?I wouldn't recommend dating people you work with. If you still plan to do it anyways, ask him out for coffee. You could be playing these seduction games all day, but it won't matter if one of you don't make a move. | /r/seduction | 02/09/19 11:00 PM |
| 1 | How do I stand out from a girl who gets constant attention?Have you talked to her before? If so, ask her out for lunch in person. If you can't do it in person, text her. | /r/seduction | 02/09/19 10:58 PM |
| 1 | Texting After the Date - Some QuestionsNot the guy you replied to. If you've already sent her a message to hang out, then the ball is in her court, so don't ask her again, it makes you look needy. If she was truly interested in you, she would want to see you and reply back to set up a date. I would wait 1 week, and if you don't hear from her, send her a text asking to meet up. At this point, it's unlikely she is still interested, so I'd move on. | /r/seduction | 02/09/19 10:39 PM |
| 2 | Completely cluelessIf a girl is doing one of the following: Asking you questions back Giving long answers to the questions you ask Not going back to reading her phone/book Then that's a strong indication (About 50% in my experience) that she is interested in you. If she's not doing these things, it doesn't necessarily mean she isn't interested. Either way, don't rely on signals. ask her out on a date (not to 'hang out') to know for sure. | /r/seduction | 02/09/19 08:06 PM |
| 1 | Text gameI learned something new about text from this: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=NdI59RZHejI&t=0s | /r/seduction | 02/09/19 01:51 AM |
| 1 | Why does girl always respird to my stories butYou already asked her to meet up, she said she couldn't, so the ball is in her court now. Only reason she won't ask you out back is because she isn't interested in you. | /r/seduction | 02/09/19 01:47 AM |
| 2 | Why does girl always respird to my stories butDon't initiate texts or plans with her anymore, if she is truly interested, she will let you know when she wants to hang out. Keep your text responses short. | /r/seduction | 01/09/19 02:11 PM |
| 6 | I know I'm attractive but I have no game whatsoeverTalk slower, it gives you more time to convert your thoughts into words. | /r/seduction | 01/09/19 02:09 PM |
| 1 | When she is not available"I'm busy" and "I'll let you know" are common excuses for saying "I'm not interested" I would stop initiating texts with her and seek other girls. | /r/seduction | 01/09/19 02:07 PM |
| 1 | Where is, honestly, you’re favorite place to pick up women?College and book stores. | /r/seduction | 01/09/19 02:04 PM |
| 1 | Going on a study "date" tomorrow with a girl I barely know. How do I feel out and encourage romantic behavior?Even if the signs aren't there, she may still be interested. Only way to know for sure is by asking her out for coffee at the end of the study session, (don't text this, do it in person). | /r/seduction | 01/09/19 02:03 PM |
| 1 | Help Boys ‼️When you and her talked in person at the concert, she felt good talking to you, and that memory is still fresh in her head. This is a metaphor for 'The iron is hot'. If you wait too long, that connection and memory she had with you won't be as strong, making her less likely to say yes for a date, so the 'iron' becomes cold. You could also Google this term if you're curious. | /r/seduction | 01/09/19 12:59 AM |
| 2 | Text gameTexting should only be used to set up a time to meet up. The more you text, the less things you'll be able to talk about when you actually meet up. Running out of things to talk about during a date is boring and a bad way to maintain chemistry. Also, by not texting as much, you give them more time to miss you, so when you finally meet up, the chemistry will be stronger. If they text you with open ended questions, try to keep it short ("How was your day?" "Great! You?"). You'll think they might l… | /r/seduction | 01/09/19 12:54 AM |
| 2 | How do I get girlsAsk what your friends are doing to get laid | /r/seduction | 01/09/19 12:52 AM |
| 2 | What to respond? (pic inside)Ask her about her hobbies, does she work out, where does she work, why does she like working there. That should be enough. But don't ask her to hang out again, the ball is in her court. | /r/seduction | 01/09/19 12:50 AM |
| 1 | Help Boys ‼️If you can't ask her out for lunch in person, ask her through text. Don't wait, strike while the iron is hot. | /r/seduction | 01/09/19 12:47 AM |
| 1 | How do you respond when a girl cancels same day?You should not initiate texts with her anymore. You've put in effort, now it's time for her to put some effort too. If she is interested, she'll text to reschedule. If she doesn't text back after a week, move on. | /r/seduction | 31/08/19 03:30 AM |
| 1 | I’m upsetNext time you see her, before class, sit 1 chair away from and say "Excuse me, do you understand how [concept] works? Can you explain it to me?". | /r/seduction | 31/08/19 03:25 AM |
| 1 | I [F24] with guy [24] who left me on delivered but still engages with my social media. I saw him at the gym!Don't message him anymore. Talk to him in person, ask him to give you advice on working out, for example, ask him is your form good, ask him what other exercises you can do to target X muscle group, ask him advice for losing fat or getting stronger. Make sure to ask him out for lunch or coffee at the end of the conversation. | /r/seduction | 31/08/19 03:17 AM |
| 4 | I study in a very small community college. I don't want to hit on girls and be known as that creepy player. How do I pick up girls in my college ?Don't shoot all your shots. Make sure she is doing at least one of the following when you have a conversation with her: a) Asking you questions back b) Giving long answers to the questions you ask c) Not going back to reading her phone/book If she does one of these things, there is a high chance she'll say yes to a date. Also, make sure it's just the two of you, so no one else hears you asking her out. | /r/seduction | 31/08/19 03:12 AM |
| 2 | If you met a girl one time for a date/in a bar and it went well but you won’t be able to see her for a few weeks. Do you text her throughout those weeks? If so, how?If a girl is truly interested in you, she'll stay interested even if you don't text her for a month, you shouldn't have to 'win her back'. If she loses interest, then it's likely that she was not interested in the first place. By not initiating texts in that period, you give her time to miss you, wonder what you're up to and remain mysterious. Let me give you more proof. While she was away and you two didn't text, did you miss her? Were you still interested in her? If she was initially intereste… | /r/seduction | 28/08/19 12:16 AM |
| 21 | How to get with a girl in my social circle/class ?I've had more success with indirect approaches as opposed to direct, so here is how you do it Breaking the ice Class: Sit 1 chair away from her and say "Excuse me, do you understand how [concept] works? Could you explain it to me?". Social circle: Ask a mutual friend to invite some friends to hang out, including you and her. During the hang out, go up to her and say "Hey, I don't think we've met, I'm IdesOfMarch" Investing Class: After she explains [concept], introduce yourself "By the way, my n… | /r/seduction | 27/08/19 06:23 PM |
| 2 | If you met a girl one time for a date/in a bar and it went well but you won’t be able to see her for a few weeks. Do you text her throughout those weeks? If so, how?Do you mean she loses interest, or you do? | /r/seduction | 27/08/19 05:47 PM |
| 1 | Girl giving me interest and then all of a sudden ignores meYes, keep it short. | /r/seduction | 27/08/19 05:45 PM |
| 2 | Stop texting women immediatelyTexting should only be used to set up a time to meet up. The more you text, the less things you'll be able to talk about when you actually meet up. Running out of things to talk about during a date is boring and a bad way to maintain chemistry. Also, by not texting as much, you give them more time to miss you and remain more mysterious, so when you finally meet up, the chemistry will be stronger. If they text you with open ended questions, try to keep it short ("How was your day?" "Busy, you?").… | /r/seduction | 27/08/19 06:52 AM |
| 1 | Need to get over a crush!!! Help please!!I would do more approaches (10 more) before facing your crush. | /r/seduction | 27/08/19 06:47 AM |
| 1 | Should I text a girl in highschool everyday?Do not initiate texts, keep responses short, and only use texts to set up more dates. Don't ask her out through text either, do that in person. | /r/seduction | 27/08/19 06:45 AM |
| 1 | How should I stand & where are my hands when talking to a girl? (DEF not hands in pockets! bois)Do not cross your arms or put your entire hand in your pocket, that conveys low confidence. You should either: Keep your hands by your side, like this: https://www.gettyimages.ca/detail/photo/portrait-of-businessman-smiling-while-standing-royalty-free-image/998456956?adppopup=true The thing I like about this is you can stick out your chest, widen your shoulders, and appear taller Put your thumbs in your pocket, but keep your other fingers outside If there is a table/chair, you can rest one hand … | /r/seduction | 27/08/19 06:37 AM |
| 1 | She said she wants to go out but I’m not sure anymoreShe's not interested. You can go to the store, but don't go out of your way to talk to her. | /r/seduction | 27/08/19 06:30 AM |
| 1 | How to flirt with a guy over the internet w/o being weird or awkwardCan you provide more details? How do you know each other? Do you have something in common with him? | /r/seduction | 27/08/19 06:28 AM |
| 1 | What Am I Doing Wrong + Tips to Modify My ApproachCampus is the best place to approach girls. I prefer indirect approaches, so next time you see a girl on campus, go up to her and say "Do you know any courses I can take to boost my GPA/grades?". After she answers your question, you can introduce yourself and say "By the way my name is JewelThroughCoal". If you need more details on how to proceed from here, let me know. | /r/seduction | 27/08/19 06:25 AM |
| 1 | Best text game resource?Do not initiate texts, keep your responses short, and only initiate texts to set up dates. | /r/seduction | 27/08/19 06:17 AM |
| 1 | Girl giving me interest and then all of a sudden ignores meHere's what happened: She liked you initially, but when you two started texting more, she got to know you better, so you became less of a mystery to her, and mysterious guys are more attractive to girls. Also, if you're replying to her very fast, then that shows to her that you're too available, which tells her that you don't have much going on in your life, lowering her attraction towards you. From now on, do not initiate any texts with her, and keep responses short, for example, Her: How's you… | /r/seduction | 27/08/19 06:13 AM |
| 2 | Hooked up with a girl Id rather have in the friendzoneDon't wait, or else she'll keep chasing. Text her saying "Hey, I'm not feeling the chemistry between us, I'd rather stay friends, sorry." If she doesn't respect that, you can ghost her. | /r/seduction | 27/08/19 06:03 AM |
| 2 | This girl led me on and i don't know what to do about it?She is no longer interested, so you should move on to other girls. Don't send dick pics when asked, show it to her in person. | /r/seduction | 27/08/19 05:53 AM |
| 3 | If you met a girl one time for a date/in a bar and it went well but you won’t be able to see her for a few weeks. Do you text her throughout those weeks? If so, how?Do not text until you know she'll be able to see you again. When that time comes, text her "Hey, its been a while. Lets grab a drink on [day] to catch up". | /r/seduction | 27/08/19 05:41 AM |
| 1 | How do I find out if the girl wants to date me and be exclusive? We're temporarily long-distanceIf she is interested, she will reach out to to you, but for the time being, assume she is not interested and move on. | /r/seduction | 27/08/19 05:36 AM |
| 1 | What are the best places for game except clubs and bars?College and library | /r/seduction | 27/08/19 04:04 AM |
| 1 | How do I get her interested or where do I go from here ?If you keep messaging her its not going to lead anywhere. Might as well ask her out now with "Texting is boring, lets continue this over coffee". | /r/seduction | 27/08/19 04:01 AM |
| 3 | Asked a girl from work out. It didn’t went the way I wanted to.You left the ball in her court, and she isn't making any plans to meet up, so she's not interested. | /r/seduction | 27/08/19 02:46 AM |
| 2 | With social media, do you still ask for a girls number?If you give them your social media, they'll find out more about you and you'll be less mysterious. | /r/seduction | 27/08/19 02:42 AM |
| 1 | Situations when cold approach isn't appropriate?When you say on the phone, do you mean during a phone call or texting/reading? | /r/seduction | 01/08/19 05:20 AM |
| 1 | How to randomly talk to girls for example at a hotel or at school (freshmen btw)I suggest giving this a read: https://www.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/9pps3z/how_to_approach_a_girl_in_college_without/ | /r/seduction | 01/08/19 04:39 AM |
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