fashlatebloomer Archive

Upvotes	Title	Category	Author	Subreddit	Date (UTC)

Upvotes	Comment on	Subreddit	Date (UTC)
7	What is the line between a man having freedom vs infidelity with other women? You are never gonna be a redpillWIFE by letting this man openly spin plates like that. He’s almost 40 and is courting other women in front of you. Dump him and move on, he’s either not high value or doesn’t value you highly.	/r/RedPillWives	20/11/24 04:41 PM
33	Where do I go from here? (I'm a man) This sub, for wives, is obviously going to be full of people who think marriage is worthwhile and a viable option for men… since we are married to men. You are going to have to put on your big boy pants and own your shit. If you are capable of overcoming poverty then you are also capable of maturing into the kind of man worth being married to. Why would any man or woman of worth marry or stay married to someone who is a selfish, unaffectionate cheater? Until you fix those things, stay single.	/r/RedPillWives	08/09/21 08:50 AM
5	Is it a core tenet in the RedPill sphere that the woman in a heterosexual relationship doesn't work, only works part time, or only works from home (or some combination of the two)? No philosophy is as cut and dry in practice as it is on paper. Even if both partners subscribe to all or parts of red pill ideology, real life will complicate things. Not all families can afford to live on one income. Sometimes men become injured or sick and cannot work. Not all high value men will want a stay at home wife or children. There is a lot of room to take what you want and leave the rest.	/r/RedPillWives	22/08/21 08:05 AM
1	Friends disappear after getting married. I Absolutely agree to this. The worst part of therapy is that it’s income dependent. It’s definitely a privilege. My point is that these feelings are valid, and talking to someone who is trained to validate your experience and help you reframe them so that you feel better could help. Maybe that person is clergy at your church. Maybe it’s a support group like this one. Maybe it’s your partner. Thanks for pointing out that there is more than one way to skin a cat, as the saying goes.	/r/RedPillWives	19/08/21 05:11 PM
4	Friends disappear after getting married. Honestly, I would recommend some therapy or counseling. Having our friendships grow distant as we grow older is super common and always distressing. Part of human development is having intense friendship bonds (especially in our teens). Historically this was vital to the survival of our species. Most people for much of human history lived in a small community where everyone shopped, worked, worshipped and socialized in the same few places as everyone else they had ever met. Our intense friendshi…	/r/RedPillWives	09/08/21 05:39 PM
1	Balancing emotion and logic Oh, that is a bit different than what I initially thought you meant. I think the dynamic of wanting to talk things out vs. go into immediate problem solving mode is definitely gendered and biological. Like another commenter said, when millennia of human women needed to have good social relationship in the village and men needed to solve problems in nature to survive… those patterns eventually stick. I didn’t lump that into logic vs. emotion though based on my own understanding of those concepts …	/r/RedPillWives	03/08/21 08:14 PM
9	Balancing emotion and logic I am a believer in red pill thinking, mostly in terms of how to embrace my desire for commitment and to align my behavior to vet and maintain a man who is hardwired to seek out sex. However, I don’t think that emotion is biologically female and logic biologically male. Imo, the belief that these traits are gendered is more a function of society, and is often used as an “out” to excuse poor behavior. Emotions are an inborn human experience. Emotions exist as our primary communication tool with ou…	/r/RedPillWives	03/08/21 05:10 PM
7	Why do people dislike this community so much? In my opinion, the reduce women down to a kind of commodity. They place value on each woman based on factors like age, virginity, fertility, femininity, etc. There is open talk about sleeping with and stringing along women who don’t meet the ideal standard set by the group. A common code word for women is “plates” (a literal object) and the common belief is that a true Alpha will “spin plates” or keep several women dangling until the man is in this 30’s, when he will choose the perfect virginal …	/r/RedPillWives	30/07/21 08:19 AM
1	Why do people dislike this community so much? R/marriedredpill	/r/RedPillWives	29/07/21 08:02 PM
19	Why do people dislike this community so much? There is a married red pill sub that is closer to RPW than the regular RPM and is focused on maintaining a monogamous relationship. I think that the knee jerk reaction to anything redpill is definitely tainted by the general red pill dating strategy that actually does devalue women to a large extent and is a big red flag for me when I was dating a vetting men.	/r/RedPillWives	29/07/21 11:41 AM
18	how can i feel like less of a burden being provided for? My husband earns enough for us both. He has said that would rather have my presence and attention on our home, relationship and projects than have me be gone 7am-5pm teaching pre-K and still only making 19k a year. It would mean a big hit in our lifestyle in terms of home comforts of I went back to work. Adding in eating at restaurants if we are both too busy or stressed to cook and it looks like not a lot of benefit overall if I went back to work. My sister is kind of judgmental about it. She a…	/r/RedPillWives	02/05/21 05:19 AM
11	My husband-to-be wants me to look after his nutrition - how do I begin? Trust that if he has asked you to do this task, that you are up for it and he trusts your judgement. You aren’t mothering him or restricting him, you are doing what he asked you to do as first mate. If he gets upset about that, he needs to own his shit. Completely remove the junk food from the house to prevent temptation. Look up volume eating. It emphasizes large amounts of healthy food to fill you up better. Plan to indulge in foods you can’t eat all the time a few times a month so you don’t f…	/r/RedPillWives	19/01/21 11:26 AM
6	Does “the wall” apply to childfree women? There are absolutely high value men who prefer an independent, successful and well-educated woman over a young hot twenty-something. They are looking for a partner that matches their own status as opposed to the most fertile. I’m lived in LA, NYC and the Midwest, and this is especially true on the east coast. If you take care of your looks and have high standards you can be a hot thirty-something with a career and will do just fine landing a high value partner.	/r/RedPillWives	25/11/20 08:55 AM
24	I (23F) just found out that my boyfriend's (25M) ex (21F) committed suicide, and his actions were one of the things that pushed her to do so. First, I want to just say that your concern is totally valid. It makes sense to worry about your partners ability to separate chastity from sexual assault. This would be a deal breaker for me personally, but I don’t think anyone but you can make that decision. If his concern is religiously based, that makes things more complex and he would have life long cultural attitudes and teachings to justify this belief. However, as a sexual assault and suicide survivor, no matter what her note said, your …	/r/RedPillWives	20/11/20 11:14 PM
3	Would you marry a man that didn't make enough to support you? Thank you for responding. I wasn’t trying to cast aspersions, I was just curious. I’m so happy you found “the one”! 🥰	/r/RedPillWives	14/11/20 05:40 PM
3	Would you marry a man that didn't make enough to support you? I’m curious. Do you think you’d feel the same if you didn’t have the security of a wealthy father? Assuming you and he have a good relationship, it seems that you could have some protection from typical financial stresses/emergencies that other couples might not have.	/r/RedPillWives	14/11/20 11:50 AM
8	How to go from the breadwinner to not working at all? I think you hit the nail on the head when you said that you’re in a grieving process. I really recommend some kind of therapy to help you navigate your “new normal”. I went through losing my dream job due to disability, and it was really hard. It would be hard for anyone, and there is no shame in getting professional support through the transition. I’m now much happier staying at home and taking care of things here. I took up art and some other hobbies that fill my time and bring me joy. It’s a …	/r/RedPillWives	06/08/20 07:37 AM