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The “Whatever you think” response from The Empowered Wife is a reflection of a statement where he is either baiting you to engage in an argument or you feel that he has the capacity to manage the decision himself. If you want to engage in this decision, engage with him. If you’d rather delegate, respond with “Whatever you think”.
/r/RedPillWomen27/07/26 02:33 AM
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You gave him a direction & he followed it. It’s over. Learn the lesson & move on.
/r/RedPillWomen20/07/26 10:00 PM
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When you have a culture of overindulgence & overeating, you get fat - regardless of your genetics. Humans are not to designed to eat copious amounts of food.
/r/RedPillWomen18/07/26 11:53 PM
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Investing in yourself physically, especially as a woman, is always a good idea. If you can afford it, then go for it.
/r/RedPillWomen11/07/26 12:00 AM
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My opinion is that you’ve dodged a bullet. Better heartbreak now - cleanly & in your 20s - instead of getting married, having babies & then finding out that he doesn’t love you. Pick yourself up. Dust yourself off. And send him a silent Thank You for showing his true colours before the wedding.
/r/RedPillWomen07/07/26 04:41 AM
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You’ve got this.
/r/RedPillWomen06/07/26 04:43 AM
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Women have always been attracted to wildly inappropriate Bad Boy types that they KNOW are going to fuck they over - how else would murderers in prison find wives devoted to them? And why are romance novels filled with brooding, angry men who hate everyone, but the heroine somehow turns him around & softens him towards her? There’s something in your psyche that finds everything that is unacceptable about him, also deeply appealing. And without knowing you, it’s probably because he represents a da…
/r/RedPillWomen06/07/26 03:40 AM
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You want to let a man access to your body, mind & spirit in return for the risk of confusion, jealousy, non-commitment & STIs? Stop allowing these losers to charm you into dropping your panties so they can use you.
/r/RedPillWomen19/06/26 09:10 PM
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This is not a relationship. This is a two people communicating via a screen. The anxiety & mental energy is wasted on whatever this is.
/r/RedPillWomen19/06/26 03:06 AM
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I love this!
/r/RedPillWomen15/06/26 11:35 PM
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I say this gently - a man who will lie & cheat on you for 1.5 years is not a man who will take care of you. Because you were so young when you got together, you have very little life experience to compare this with. Do not allow a man - even a man who claims to love you - to treat you like that.
/r/RedPillWomen12/06/26 12:17 AM
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You have the entire world & youth on your side. Use this as the fuel to decide what makes you happy. Allow yourself to dream big - then expand that dream even further. You have the capacity to build a life that makes you happy, but first you need to try different things to identify what makes you feel good.
/r/RedPillWomen11/06/26 10:57 PM
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The poop comment. Everyone who is responsible for wiping their own butt understands the need for basic hygiene practices.
/r/RedPillWomen08/06/26 11:35 AM
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Weaponized incompetence is real. My dad used to break dishes every time he was asked to do the dishes (which was very rare). Surprise, surprise, no-one asked him to do the dishes anymore.
/r/RedPillWomen08/06/26 10:05 AM
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Love this! Please tell us more…
/r/RedPillWomen03/06/26 02:14 AM
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I try to focus on softness. Soft energy, soft responses. Soft movement. Soft voice. Clothes, hair & makeup that look & feel soft. Think of how a cat moves - they have intelligence, strength & great survival skills, but they move with softness & intent.
/r/RedPillWomen21/05/26 10:25 PM
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You aren’t in a position to “fix” anyone but yourself. Inspire? Yes. But he is an adult who is responsible for his actions & the consequences of those actions. If you’re looking at building a family & having children, this is a sunk cost fallacy. You need a man. Not a project.
/r/RedPillWomen19/05/26 11:19 PM
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If you can’t think about dating without getting yourself into an anxious mess, you’re already setting yourself up for failure. Honey, get a grip. Get some therapy. Then get out there.
/r/RedPillWomen14/05/26 08:59 AM
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You have to emotionally detach. His feelings about the situation are entirely his responsibility. You don’t have to feel bad about not being interested in his attempts to woo you. Just treat it like any professional environment - keep it warm, friendly & detached. Do not discuss personal details & let him sort himself out. You’re unlikely to be the first woman to reject him, & you definitely won’t be the last. Just keep your side of the street clean & don’t take on board any of his nonsense if h…
/r/RedPillWomen14/05/26 12:45 AM
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If they can’t accept, “I like you as a friend, & I’d prefer to keep it that way” then that’s on them. Often men don’t gravitate towards women on a platonic level, the way women do. If he wants to stay friends, then great. If not, just remember his ego has been bruised, so give him the grace to remove himself without the need to hold on to his presence in your life.
/r/RedPillWomen14/05/26 12:09 AM
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If you’ve been officially diagnosed & are being treated for ADHD then you already know that you’re working against the natural wiring of your brain. To emulate the kind of woman you want to be, you’ll need to focus on slowing down, being mindful of yourself, your surroundings & the people in your life. Start treating everything as if you’re taking care of a single rose - you would be careful with the light, the water, how you trim the stem & handle the rose. You know that if you don’t care for i…
/r/RedPillWomen01/04/26 01:45 PM
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Is this inherent messiness an ADHD thing or a personality thing?
/r/RedPillWomen01/04/26 11:30 AM
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How long have you known this guy? You seem very decided that he’s the “right one” but it sounds like you barely know him? Your focus should be on, “Do I know enough about him to actually love & build a future with him?” rather than “How do I keep him?” Edit: It appears that OP is 18yo, & since this guy is “older” a man in his late twenties - which is a significant age gap when you’re barely out of high school - is not looking at a teenager in the same way when you’re in your late twenties & he’s…
/r/RedPillWomen30/03/26 11:47 AM
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First thing’s first - have you actually apologized to him? Like anything in life - we apologize, make amends, then detach from the outcome. If he forgives you, he forgives you. If he doesn’t, he doesn’t. Don’t beat yourself up over it - we’ve all said unkind things to people love. It’s in the repair that makes us stronger - just don’t do it again.
/r/RedPillWomen17/03/26 08:45 AM
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Do what makes you feel good. I wear it because it makes me feel beautiful & put together, which helps me face the day with more calm & confidence. If it made me feel like I was overdone or like a clown, then I wouldn’t wear it.
/r/RedPillWomen01/03/26 11:05 PM
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You have been performing wife duties without the title of wife. Paying for things? Working extra hours? Taking care of his children? Helping with his household? Girl, this is not about polarity or submission - you are doing the work of a staff member AND you have to pay? It’s “Provide & Protect” that creates the urge for women to submit. You’re doing the providing & protecting and he wants you to kneel to him?! Fuck that. Fuck all of that nonsense.
/r/RedPillWomen27/02/26 01:15 AM
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Please watch this video from Margarita Nazarenko. It discusses the feminine/masculine dynamics that you’re alluding to in your comment: https://youtu.be/dhZQHBxkJIw?si=JoPwIAqRc1UZ4icr
/r/RedPillWomen24/02/26 02:27 AM
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Genuine question: if your ex didn’t give you peace & you had great sex with a woman who was in love with you, why did you choose to reconnect with your ex? You don’t say that you loved the second woman, but there was something about your ex that made you return, despite her behaviour?
/r/RedPillWomen23/02/26 08:42 PM
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Honey, you have a 17 year age gap. Why a man who is nearly in his 40s is looking to date someone barely out of school is questionable at best. Now if you treated him poorly, that’s your lesson to learn. Don’t make the same mistake twice.
/r/RedPillWomen18/02/26 04:31 AM
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Seriously, don’t waste a single moment worrying about him & his future. Sure, he might end up getting married - but do you want the role of a suffering, neglected wife of an alcoholic? Fuck that! Fuck all of that! You have a life to live - make it beautiful. Make it meaningful. And only make room for men who treat you well.
/r/RedPillWomen31/01/26 08:34 AM
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I think you’re settling. If a guy is literally telling you that he doesn’t think he’s good enough for you - believe him. This will be his excuse when life gets hard & he can’t/wont step up. He is a man. Not a project.
/r/RedPillWomen30/01/26 06:24 AM
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Stop allowing this man to take any more of your time, mental, physical & emotional energy. Next!
/r/RedPillWomen30/01/26 01:05 AM
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Genuinely, what do you even see in this man? He has taken two years of your time & attention, for what, exactly? It doesn’t sound like he adds to your happiness, your wellbeing, your lifestyle - anything? The only connection I see is that you’re from the same background. If that’s your standard for your partner in life, then you need to lift the bar.
/r/RedPillWomen30/01/26 12:27 AM
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Dating someone from a religion that doesn’t “accept outsiders“ is highly likely to be a sunk cost fallacy. There are of course situations where it works, and you could be that outlier, but I don’t think you guys are compatible.
/r/RedPillWomen29/01/26 10:27 PM
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Fair call. Maybe this is a cultural thing. Where I’m from, it’s essential to make it super clear, otherwise they’ll turn around & assume sex is still on the cards. I’d say something along the lines of, “I’m so looking forward to seeing you. Just so there isn’t any confusion, I don’t do sex until we’ve been together for a while. But I’m still looking forward to hanging out and exploring where this connection leads.”
/r/RedPillWomen28/01/26 11:40 PM
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Be mindful of your words. Men require directness. If you don’t mean to stay over, he may still think sex is on the cards & then you’ll leave. If you’re not up for sex, be super clear on this point before he arrives. What he does with that information will speak volumes as to his intent.
/r/RedPillWomen28/01/26 10:15 PM
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You’re 25yo. He has more than 10 years on you in terms on life/dating experience, PLUS he lives far away & has booked accommodation. There is a 99% chance he is expecting sex. So unless you make it very clear beforehand & when you see him, you’re going to end up feeling pressured into something you don’t want to do. Tale as old as time. Don’t fall for it.
/r/RedPillWomen28/01/26 08:32 PM
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Chatting means nothing. Meet them & date them, then decide.
/r/RedPillWomen28/01/26 12:19 AM
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Don’t just move on, send him a silent little Thank You that he only wasted your time in terms of hours, not years.
/r/RedPillWomen11/01/26 10:58 PM
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The only way you actually know he’s telling the truth is if you were to meet & over a period of months (& even years) he stayed consistent with his story on wanting marriage & to settle down. Some random guy online telling you empty words, then disappearing, speaks volumes about his character. It’s not a reflection on his feelings about you. It’s a reflection of his behavior as a man.
/r/RedPillWomen11/01/26 10:56 PM
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Did he lie online to attempt a hookup, waste your time & energy, then back out? Yes. He saved you future pain. Take the lesson & move on.
/r/RedPillWomen11/01/26 10:38 PM
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Amen, sister
/r/RedPillWomen03/01/26 12:55 AM
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Thank you for being the mature voice of reason. It gives me hope that people still see the grey & humanity in all this nonsense.
/r/RedPillWomen23/12/25 10:21 PM
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Yes, but the title of the post is misleading, so I’m not sure if it’s just for views.
/r/RedPillWomen17/12/25 02:48 AM
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Yes, I’m wondering if this is rage bait, based on the fact that OP decided to use the word ‘provider’ instead of doctor.
/r/RedPillWomen17/12/25 02:27 AM
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Yes, you’re being delusional. Get to know him for at least six months then ask again.
/r/RedPillWomen10/12/25 02:25 AM
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There’s not enough info in your post to determine if you’re being delusional or not. How “early” is early? Days? Weeks? Months? How old are you both? What gives you the impression he’s your future husband? Have you actually met?
/r/RedPillWomen10/12/25 01:30 AM
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You’ve known this guy for 4 weeks. And I’m assuming you’ve probably seen him a total of 10 times in that period? Plus messages & calls. The reality is, he is still very much a stranger. And he can put on whatever persona he likes - but at some point, the mask will slip & you’ll see him for who he really is - a man with a past. Now you can ask him about his past, but before you do, it won’t take much to find out what happened, as a lot of it will be in the public record (unless a minor was involv…
/r/RedPillWomen26/11/25 04:47 AM
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There really are no words. But my only advice is if you suspect substance abuse, run. It only stops when they sort themselves out. You cannot fix it or love him through it. This is entirely a him issue.
/r/RedPillWomen04/11/25 10:09 PM
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Substance abuse. As someone who works with men who pride themselves on being heavy drinkers, it’s a completely different experience to see heavy drinking & alcoholism (which I later discovered was peppered with cocaine use & gambling addiction) behind closed doors. On the outside he was a well respected, high earner, with a great home, good friends & just liked to drink. Cut a long story short, I ended the relationship due to his alcoholism, & he died (a fall down the stairs while intoxicated), …
/r/RedPillWomen04/11/25 09:22 PM
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I think men find women who are passionate about their work attractive, but they don’t actively seek out women based on how passionate they are about their work. It’s more about how they express themselves through their work, life, relationships, etc.
/r/RedPillWomen04/11/25 08:51 PM
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Not a man. But from what I understand, they generally give zero fucks about a woman’s career, but are enamored by our connection to our emotional, passionate selves, when it’s expressed in healthy ways. eg. passionate about making the world a better place through art or raising children or simply passionate in bed. Woman are often in tune with their emotions because we’re so integrated in the way we can express our feelings deeply & easily. This can often be harder for men. So expressions of hea…
/r/RedPillWomen04/11/25 12:50 PM
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Absolutely. Both parties should be vetting each other for marriage (if that’s the end goal), based on individual standards, & regardless of whether or not they met the criteria of “double standards.” If she finds a man she likes & his deal breaker is, “I’ve slept with X number of women, but she can only sleep with X or less” then she has to decide if she wants to be with a man who has one set of rules for himself & another set of rules for others. There’s nuance in sharing information about exes…
/r/RedPillWomen30/10/25 09:58 PM
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I think you make a valid point. However, she may find that the nature of double standards is that quite a lot of men have spent their 20s sleeping around, but then have decided that they want someone who is less experienced. I don’t think you should deliberately hide the truth, but you need to allow yourself to be open to the right man and open up at the right time.
/r/RedPillWomen30/10/25 09:19 PM
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Curious as to how you would manage this, based on the fact that you can’t change your past.
/r/RedPillWomen30/10/25 09:06 PM
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Absolutely. Your appeal lies in him uncovering your mystery & feminine mystique. Not laying your entire history out bare for him to judge.
/r/RedPillWomen30/10/25 07:20 AM
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Any man who asks you for a body count is trashy. If they ask you the question, just remind them that it’s none of their business. If you’re in an established relationship & it comes up, then you can have that conversation, but that should come from both sides from a place of safety & respect.
/r/RedPillWomen30/10/25 06:39 AM
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It sounds like you’re burnt out. Allow yourself time to rest and reset and figure out your own priorities. No one needs to know your body count, except you. You’re only 27 years-old. You have your whole life ahead of you - don’t give up the goal on finding love, partnership and marriage (if that’s what you want). But like anything in life, you’re also allowed a season to pause, rest and hibernate for awhile. But the Spring always comes again, and you’re allowed to renew and rebuild yourself, in …
/r/RedPillWomen30/10/25 06:16 AM
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There’s a reason women in his own age category don’t want him. Run.
/r/RedPillWomen28/10/25 07:15 AM
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You’ve got a roommate situation, not a partnership situation. What if he ended up sick or in an accident? Still 50/50? What happens when you have kids & take time off work? Still 50/50? You are letting this man dictate your future & your dreams. He won’t even marry you until he deems you’re “ready”. Stay if you must, but be willing to give up on some big dreams there. That could absolutely lead to future resentment.
/r/RedPillWomen28/10/25 03:32 AM
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Absolutely. You’re just wasting your time (& his) if you want different things. So be open about your preferences early on (if you think there may be a future in the relationship).
/r/RedPillWomen16/10/25 12:40 AM
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That’s why it’s a numbers game. Apps are just a tool to meet people. Most is not all.
/r/RedPillWomen16/10/25 12:38 AM
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Ok. Get on the dating apps (best to focus on Hinge or Bumble) and just start practicing meeting people. Post photos that are appealing, but not thirst traps and focus on meeting up sooner, rather than later. Unless you’re willing to be used & dumped, I’d avoid having sex with anyone until you’ve been regularly dating for at least 2-3 months. And if by date 2 or 3, there isn’t mutual chemistry, respect & attraction, end things quickly & move on. Modern dating is a numbers game - like applying for…
/r/RedPillWomen15/10/25 11:54 PM
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How old are you? I’m not sure if you’re questioning is due to your young age or neurodivergence or cultural background. In a world where we’re drowning in information, courtesy of the internet, I can’t understand how you can be this naive? (Unless this is a troll post)
/r/RedPillWomen15/10/25 11:44 PM
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We don’t have enough information from your post to determine what constitutes your mental illness, so only you know the answer to your own question. But if people are out there, partnered, & living their life with schizophrenia, bipolar, addictions & BPD, then you can to. The most important part is that you are actively seeking treatment & managing your condition.
/r/RedPillWomen15/10/25 08:37 PM
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This guy sounds exhausting. Save your attention for men who make it clear they want you.
/r/RedPillWomen13/10/25 09:35 AM
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That’s an automatic response to every post.
/r/RedPillWomen26/09/25 06:01 AM
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There’s a reason female humans are one of the very few species to live past menopause - we actually do value as we age. Society might disagree, but the biology is a fact. We are valuable as we help raise communities, provide feminine wisdom & care for our children & grandchildren. Of course, men also contribute, but don’t buy into the idea that women lose their value as they age. If we all died off past child-bearing age, society would look very different.
/r/RedPillWomen25/09/25 09:03 PM
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Proud of you. This is so helpful.
/r/RedPillWomen19/09/25 05:52 AM
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He sounds like one of those men that love bombs & future fakes (I hate this lingo, but it’s so apt) in order to get into your panties. If you want to date him again go in with the understanding he’s already showing himself to be a liar & a man who doesn’t respect women (Andrew Tate). The apps are filled with these types. So sure, have your fun, but don’t be surprised if it fails spectacularly & he becomes another painful life lesson. I’d also add that your “chemistry” sounds like your instincts …
/r/RedPillWomen16/09/25 08:20 PM
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The question isn’t why did he slow fade after two dates (which only he can answer), the question should be more, why am I extending my time, heart & mental energy over a man I only had 2 dates with & then he disappeared? The process of dating is about vetting for love & compatibility. His actions were neither loving nor compatible with your desire for communication & commitment. This guy has done you a massive favor by removing himself from your life (with minimal fuss, no less). Was it rude? Ye…
/r/RedPillWomen14/09/25 09:17 PM
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As a woman with an ex who died from his alcoholism, as well has having other unmanaged addiction issues, you’re completely right about not being a good partner if you cannot get sober & be happy sober. You get to decide - let the past be the blueprint for your on-going destructive behaviors, or let it become the blueprint for transformation & living a life you’re proud of. If it’s the latter, THEN you’re ready for marriage & sharing your life in partnership.
/r/RedPillWomen09/09/25 08:32 PM
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You may have misunderstood the meaning behind “Secure attachment”. No judgment, I’ve been reading about it for years & it really only clicked a few months ago. Secure attachment is how you attach to yourself. And if you are securely attached to yourself - this will flow onto your relationships with others. You go into romantic relationships with an open heart & an open mind, while still maintaining your boundaries & clearly communicating expectations & standards. If these standards are met, you …
/r/RedPillWomen03/09/25 08:44 PM
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Focus on being playful & friendly. Cultivate a sense of openness that suggests you are there to have fun, but within your own boundaries. Dating should be fun for both parties.
/r/RedPillWomen02/09/25 09:41 PM
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You don’t need to drop your standards - these men are simply weeding themselves out of the equation by not respecting your boundaries. During early dating focus on being hard to get, but easy to be with. Your perceived value as a partner increases when there is a level of distance & chase. Keep that distance in the early stages. Don’t give your body over to random men who are just trying to get into your pants through guilt or coercion. But focus on being playful & fun to be around. There is an …
/r/RedPillWomen02/09/25 09:26 PM
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Appreciate it. Thank you!
/r/RedPillWomen26/08/25 11:30 PM
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Any other guidance, hints or tips you’re willing to share? I think I need this, especially today, because I feel like I’m spiraling.
/r/RedPillWomen26/08/25 11:22 PM
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Everything you wrote resonates with me so much. I’m saving this as a much-needed reminder.
/r/RedPillWomen26/08/25 09:21 PM
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Until you actually know their net worth, it can just be all smoke & mirrors. Move on.
/r/RedPillWomen25/08/25 03:32 AM
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No judgment from me, but the only answer is to stop outsourcing your sense of safety & approval. You need to turn all that love you seek in your father & men inwards. Seriously, get to a point where you love & appreciate yourself so much that you now have the capacity to receive the love & appreciation from others. Until you see yourself as a valued individual who should be treated with value, love & respect, you’ll be drawn to men who reflect your father, & subconsciously push men away who coul…
/r/RedPillWomen21/08/25 07:07 AM
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A lot of this depends on how old you are. If you are still in your child bearing years, then he may be thinking you may change your mind. However, if you’re in your 40s or older, he will understand that when you say you don’t want children it means that you really don’t want children.
/r/RedPillWomen20/08/25 12:28 AM
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Trying to change your body to keep someone else happy means you’re placing your perceived value in their hands. This is a sunk cost fallacy that will never work in the long term. Invest in yourself for your benefit - if he comes along for the ride, great. If he doesn’t, that’s out of your control.
/r/RedPillWomen19/08/25 05:06 AM
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It doesn’t actually matter what the number is. Because any numbers only represent a sample size of that particular community or demographic. Some cultures love women who would be considered obese by Hollywood standards, & it really depends on the man’s preferences. If you’re married & you want your husband to find you more attractive, losing weight & glowing up may work - but there’s no guarantees. What is a guarantee is that if you lose weight & put an effort into your physical appearance, your…
/r/RedPillWomen19/08/25 04:45 AM
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If this is the worst aspect of your relationship, then be grateful that’s it.
/r/RedPillWomen17/08/25 11:18 PM
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“I want to get married” focuses on the act of marrying vs “I want to be a wife” focuses on embodying the traits of being a wife. Anyone can get married - but embodying what it means to be a wife is a choice that encompasses the mind, body & spirit.
/r/RedPillWomen10/08/25 02:44 PM
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Slow down. I’ve had spinach in my fridge longer than you’ve known this guy. You are projecting - big time. Get to know him in person, then judge if he’s worth your time & attention.
/r/RedPillWomen07/08/25 07:22 PM
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I would add that your desire for marriage & a man who wants to be a stable provider & father is not a step too far. If you can live in the Caribbean & want those things, there are men out there who also want those things. You are not some outlier - you just have to refocus your attention on being with a man who wants the same things as you. And as soon as you find someone out of alignment with that goal, move on & move on quickly. If he is in alignment with your goals, open yourself up to being …
/r/RedPillWomen30/07/25 05:17 AM
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Respectfully, you previously posted about how unhappy you were last Christmas because you felt sad & jealous that two friends were married & your bf hadn’t even made time to be with you on Christmas Day. It’s nearly August - do you want to spend another Christmas waiting around for him to change his mind about marriage & babies? People don’t change unless they want to change. He told you & showed you the extent of his commitment to you - believe him.
/r/RedPillWomen29/07/25 11:42 PM
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Have the conversation, but be fully prepared to accept his decline & respect his choice. This may be something you just need to accept in your relationship.
/r/RedPillWomen29/07/25 10:20 PM
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Unless you want to stay with the status quo in this relationship, it’s time to move on. If, after 2 years, he doesn’t want to introduce you to his family & is against marriage, then you’re investing your precious time in the wrong relationship. You can’t change him or the dating pool. But you can change yourself & start any new relationship off by indicating, from the very early stages, you are dating for marriage. There’s your husband, & then there’s everyone else. Don’t waste your time, body, …
/r/RedPillWomen29/07/25 09:24 PM
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There are people who live in LA & NYC complaining they can’t find a decent date, let alone a husband. I would not be moving specifically to find a husband- I’d be moving because it improves the quality of my life.
/r/RedPillWomen23/07/25 12:27 PM
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Amen, sister.
/r/RedPillWomen23/07/25 04:34 AM
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Fuck no. I have no interest in playing second fiddle or being involved in some sort of poly situation. If he’s not focused his romantic & sexual attention on me, I’m out.
/r/RedPillWomen23/07/25 04:32 AM
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“I don’t know if he’s keeping me around for comfort or convenience.” Yes.
/r/RedPillWomen21/07/25 08:12 AM
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You’re looking for assurance. The only assurances we ever have in life is to take the next step that feels right & in alignment with our values & the knowledge we have in the moment. Maybe, in some parallel universe, you didn’t end the relationship & instead married him? Maybe you guys get back together? Maybe you see this season of your life as a stepping stone to greater things? Who really knows? You have to back yourself & trust that whatever you choose in this moment - just this moment - is …
/r/RedPillWomen16/07/25 11:10 AM
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Great article!
/r/RedPillWomen10/07/25 02:39 AM
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Without knowing the details, sometimes men just freak out at the thought of having to commit to one woman for the rest of their lives. For some guys, instead of feeling a sense of security & partnership, marriage feels like a loss of freedom & feeling like he’s being controlled. And maybe, because you had given so much of yourself to him, he felt like this was a responsibility (sexual fidelity, financial commitment, future kids, etc) that all seemed to be a blocker to the freedom of more financi…
/r/RedPillWomen10/07/25 01:03 AM
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Can I ask how long you guys engaged & how far were you from your wedding date? Also, what was his reasoning for ending things?
/r/RedPillWomen10/07/25 12:50 AM
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I would say be very cautious. Your primary concern is your wellbeing & that of your baby. Pregnancy & changes to hormones makes us feel vulnerable & desperate for security, so make sure that you’re not pinning your hopes on this guy to provide either. If he does - great. But be super careful of your heart, body & mind. Also be mindful that there are men who have a fetish/kink for pregnant women & he’s not out to use you for that. And just to add even more to consider, there are active pedophiles…
/r/RedPillWomen11/06/25 07:18 AM
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This is so helpful. Thank you
/r/RedPillWomen22/05/25 10:46 AM
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Can you expand on this, please? What are the differences in what it looks (or sounds) like to be agreeable vs submissive? My interpretation would be agreeable: Playful, but open to challenge the status quo. Submissive: Defer to your husband when in doubt?
/r/RedPillWomen22/05/25 10:02 AM
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God, I needed to hear this.
/r/RedPillWomen21/05/25 11:27 PM
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Makes total sense. But this is his journey and we can’t live it for him.
/r/RedPillWomen21/05/25 11:05 PM
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He is who he is. Someone who has the words & ideas & promises, but lacks execution. You can’t do this work for him or even inspire him to match you - you’re his wife, not his mentor. Step back. Allow him to fall & learn his own lessons. It sounds like you’re carrying the load for the both of you, so either continue on as is or let it go. And I say this with a huge amount of love & from being in a similar dynamic for 22 years.
/r/RedPillWomen21/05/25 10:10 PM
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Personally, I see function and value as two separate things. You can buy different kinds of cars, and they will all be valued at different prices, however, all serve the same function - to get you from A to B. So the question was?l, Does cleaning make me more feminine? In my opinion it doesn’t make me more feminine, but the function of human beings is to serve, and that can include cleaning. So I think all humans should clean - men or women.
/r/RedPillWomen09/05/25 09:49 PM
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Hell no. I wasn’t put on this Earth to do manual labor. My value lies in my Being, not my Doing.
/r/RedPillWomen09/05/25 06:08 AM
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If you’re going to be a whore, be HIS whore
/r/RedPillWomen08/05/25 07:22 PM
10

What’s the point of a “First Mate” if they withdraw & offer no opinion? You’re not playing the role of supporter & advocate - you’re playing the role of dependent. Dependents are often seen as liabilities. Step up because you’ve been blessed with a voice & you have been asked to do so.
/r/RedPillWomen07/05/25 04:06 AM
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Second this
/r/RedPillWomen02/05/25 03:40 AM
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You want marriage. He doesn’t want marriage. You’re not compatible.
/r/RedPillWomen21/04/25 08:30 AM
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Chemistry & spark can also be our body’s internal system triggering us into fight/flight/fawn responses. Something about that “sparky” person can be highlighting an internal need you think that person could meet. This is the opposite of peace & predictability (which is generally the ideal situation for a long-term committed relationship). Seriously, if you’re settled & happy in your current relationship, don’t go looking for chaos, under the guise of chemistry.
/r/RedPillWomen17/04/25 03:28 AM
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You haven’t even met him & you already don’t feel good about it due to core compatibility issues. Move on.
/r/RedPillWomen05/04/25 01:34 AM
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Ooh… thanks for this! My mistake
/r/RedPillWomen04/04/25 01:28 AM
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Go over to r/AL-Anon & have a really good read. Navigating a relationship with an addict is incredibly hard. You’re not engaged/married. You should know what you’re getting into.
/r/RedPillWomen03/04/25 12:51 AM
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If you want to be married at some point, why not educate yourself now? The book is based on the author’s experiences in the breakdown of her marriage. Learn from her, so you don’t have to make the same mistakes.
/r/RedPillWomen11/03/25 08:55 PM
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