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Gotcha, thanks!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/21 12:06 PM
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What’s a “fakefem”?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/21 08:08 AM
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I’ve dated a handful of ugly dudes. They tend to be momma’s boys and cheaters. Insecurity + male entitlement is a terrible combo.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/21 07:58 AM
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She’s sounds YOUNG. Like, too young/inexperienced to be getting married. And he sounds awful.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/21 07:55 AM
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A man replied to one of my comments here on FDS the other day but the mods must’ve snatched it up super fast because it was gone in a blink! Thank you, thank you mods for your diligence and hard work keeping this space safe for us :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/21 07:45 AM
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Back before I was married and while I was still using OLD, I would have the same convo over and over again: Dude: Let’s meet for drinks! Me: I’m not comfortable drinking with someone I don’t know. Let’s meet for lunch? Dude: That’s really weird, why don’t you want to drink with me? I’m not a creep or anything. Me: I literally don’t know you and don’t want to meet you at night, in a bar, while one or both of us is intoxicated. We can meet in broad daylight while sober or not at all. Dude: You’re …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/21 07:15 AM
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Even saying to their partner, “I like receiving flowers as a gift” is apparently not an option? You know, I really dislike receiving wasteful gifts so I usually let people know a few options I’d like to ensure I don’t receive something that will sit in the closet for 2 years before being donated. How hard is that? “Valentine’s Day is around the corner, I’d love some flowers!” I mean, really.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/21 07:57 PM
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“The first time a man will receive flowers will be at his funeral”...as if most men won’t be pissed off and worried everyone somehow thinks they’re gay if they enjoy receiving flowers as a gift. Y’all won’t even wash your own assholes for fear of looking gay so don’t put this on women smh.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/21 07:39 PM
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“Women get to choose who they have sex with!” And men don’t? What is the point there? ETA: lmao @ whoever decided to PM me talking about “make him glove up”. First of all, how is it the woman’s sole responsibility to use birth control methods? A grown ass man doesn’t need to be “made” to wear a condom, he makes a choice and needs to deal with the consequences of that choice. Secondly, don’t come into my PMs with some shit you know is going to be downvoted to hell. Say it in public or keep it to …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/21 03:44 PM
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I guess “dating” is used more to refer to an established relationship nowadays. If you were talking to a dude on Tinder for a week, I wouldn’t say, “Oh yeah, Maude2010 is dating that guy from Tinder”, I’d say you were talking to him. There’s a distinction. “Talking” is very casual and preliminary, but distinctly non-platonic.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/21 05:50 AM
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“Talking” is more the period where you’re both clearly interested, maybe you’ve gone on some dates, but the relationship isn’t official or concrete. You’re not necessarily exclusive at this point, you’re more just getting to know each other. I’m pretty picky so I’ve had many more “talking” relationships than I have had “bf/gf” relationships.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/21 05:27 AM
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“If you lost about 10 more pounds you’d be kinda hot.” I was, at the time, so poor I was literally starving, thus the weight loss.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/21 05:10 AM
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Beyoncé!!!!!! Like....Beyoncé??? Homie cheated on frickin Bey of all people? Just proof that LVM will always get bored with what they’ve got and take that for granted.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/01/21 07:13 PM
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Tbh sometimes I find making myself repulsive a good trick for warding off creepy men. In that situation I honestly would’ve told the guy, “I’m on the way to the bathroom, I have the shits. I need to go.”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/01/21 06:40 PM
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I know couples who scream awful things when they’re fighting, “Fuck you, bitch!” etc. I could never love and respect someone who spoke to me like that. Even when you’re upset, even when you’re pushed to your emotional limit, there’s no reason to speak to ANYONE like that, much less someone you claim to be in love with.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/01/21 06:06 PM
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I was dating a guy in my early 20s, we got together right after Christmas but had been talking since November (my bday is in early December too). If I knew what I know now, I could’ve saved myself some time and effort - he did nothing for my birthday or Christmas even though we were in the “trying to impress each other” flirty stage. Throughout our relationship i mentioned that I didn’t care for roses as a gift and would prefer lilies or an orchid or a potted plant. I also told him often how muc…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/01/21 05:16 PM
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Same. I was so disappointed when I went to the comments. I was stupidly expecting a discussion re: art, human ingenuity, the concept of making something so skilled and beautiful knowing it’ll melt over the next couple of days... Nope, just porn sick losers who want to hump a hunk of shapely snow. What a bummer.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/01/21 05:25 PM
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When they have a photo of a dog and you tell them their dog is cute and they say it isn’t their dog... We all know they’re being intentionally misleading. A photo with a dog says, “Look! I’m a nurturing person, capable of keeping a small creature alive.”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/01/21 05:16 PM
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Yes, exactly! I was able to really contextualize for the first time that the little girl who lived through all that trauma is gone and has been for a very long time. In her place is an adult, capable of making her own decisions, free to live without the influence of people who are frankly evil. And that adult is me! I knew it logically but I feel it for the first time. I’ll be eternally grateful to EMDR for helping me make that mental shift.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/21 11:34 PM
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Same here! I only had a few sessions of EMDR and I seriously felt - I hesitate to use the word cured, but much much better anyway. I had an extremely traumatic childhood and I was struggling to emotionally “grow up” as I felt trapped in my traumatic memories of being a child. EMDR pushed me right into adulthood, and it felt amazing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/21 05:57 AM
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Right? There’s literally no way these men would find it cute/funny if she spent a decade buying him stuff that she was interested in and he wasn’t. He’d be posting on AITA instead like, “AITA for asking my wife to stop buying me Outlander merch? I don’t watch the show and actually get annoyed with her for spending too much time watching it, but every year she buys me new Outlander merch for Christmas. She says it’s a joke and tries to get me to pose with the stuff, but it really pisses me off. S…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/01/21 03:46 PM
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She looks MISERABLE in the early years, and then indifferent. Definitely not how you should be making your spouse feel on Christmas morning (or ever).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/01/21 07:49 AM
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Girl, my thoughts exactly.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/01/21 07:48 AM
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Sunk cost fallacy is when you say, Well I’ve put so much time and effort into this relationship already, and I don’t want to start over, and maybe he’s not so bad, and maybe with more time and effort I can fix him.... It’s just wrong. Sinking more time and effort into a failure is pointless and misguided. Better to get out as soon as you know it’s not going to work.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/12/20 01:39 AM
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Probably Tinder, and he probably pretended to be someone else for 6 months or however long it took the sunk cost fallacy to kick in for his wife. That’s why all Tinder profiles look the same - love the outdoors and my pupper, looking for a partner in crime, let’s go on an adventure, let’s eat tacos and skip the small talk, here are some (old) photos of me in college on a trip I did not organize or particularly enjoy, aren’t I worldly? Men have an idea of what women want and pretend to be that so…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/12/20 04:38 PM
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I genuinely enjoy watching people play video games that have a story (so not online football or shooters, more like Skyrim or Fallout). I’m lousy at video games but I enjoy the medium as a way to tell a story and I like working out the puzzles etc. I also really like Pride & Prejudice. What I don’t like is the weird “manly” culture of dismissing the interests of women while insisting that women be into the same things their boyfriends are (while also insisting they should be GENUINELY into it or…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/12/20 12:26 AM
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Same here. Someone posted a very out of context quote on another subreddit and went on at length about how all the women on FDS are “crazy” and “disgusting”. I thought, let me grab the popcorn and check out what these whackos have to say for themselves! Turns out, it was mostly stuff I agreed with or grew to agree with after a little bit of reflection. 🤷🏻‍♀️ Now I’m one of the disgusting psychos! Oh, well.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/12/20 04:58 AM
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The cheerful “no thank you!” is my go to! I also have a sort of solemn, regretful, “Oh...no...” I combined with briskly walking away and shaking my head when someone asks me to give them something or do something for them. I tend to dress in a kind of quirky 50s style and I’m over 30 so I think people assume I’ll be super eager to help them. I am not.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/12/20 04:53 AM
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I went on a date with a guy who was considerably shorter than he claimed to be online (my height, and I’m 5’3”...I don’t even care about height! I just don’t like liars) and dropped a couple of bombshells on me during dinner: 1) that he had a child (“I mentioned it on my profile” he insisted, though I can assure you he most certainly did not) and 2) that he and the mother of said child still lived together, this second admission said coyly and followed with, “But you’re okay with that, I hope?” …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/12/20 04:38 AM
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All the more reason to do it early and keep an eye out. Why invest time in a dude who’s just going to try to sleep with your friends?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/12/20 04:28 AM
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I think that analysis is valid. It felt like watching a display of toxic masculinity (and each man was, in the end, consumed by it).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/12/20 04:26 AM
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I loved it. I personally took a queer reading of the film and assumed the younger man was gay. The older man, to my mind, represents what the younger man thinks a man is supposed to be. He’s able to see and make love to the light, while the young man has to face the horrors of tHe VaGiNa via mermaid fantasies/nightmares and frustratedly attempt to masturbate to something he doesn’t want in the first place.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/12/20 04:25 AM
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I compliment people of all genders often because that’s just my personality. I’m not conventionally attractive. It’s amazing how often men get weird (somewhat offended? Grossed out? Shook for reasons unknown? I’ve even been called “gay” by a few men for complimenting them...) when I tell them they have great hair or a nice smile or whatever. So men don’t just want compliments from women; they want compliments from good looking, available women. Meaning....as per usual, they want an invitation to…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/12/20 04:06 AM
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Yes please!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/12/20 03:14 AM
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I don’t think you’ll find HVM on Tinder. When volunteer options open up again post-covid, I think that would be a better option. Try volunteering for Habitat for Humanity or at an animal shelter.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/12/20 08:05 PM
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I had the same thing happen just recently. I discovered FDS and started going to therapy at the same time. Had a breakthrough in therapy where I realized for the first time that I was an actual adult and my child abuse had happened a long time ago, while also reading about the negative side of porn and BDSM. I started to associate porn addiction and BDSM with LV people and felt that my interactions with BDSM were particularly unhealthy as they allowed me to “relive” my child abuse. I was groomed…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/20 03:40 PM
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But at least you did leave! Now you have years of freedom ahead of you 💖
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/20 05:33 PM
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Oh yeah, I’m not engaging further. If she wants to spend her life “raising” her husband, that’s her business 🤷🏻‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/20 05:33 PM
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The video went as follows: the wife asks her husband not to stay up all night playing video games with his friends (already an absurd thing to HAVE to request). The husband ignores the request and stays up until 5 in the morning. This is treated as “cute” by the video. Several commenters said things like “my husband does this and then when he does come to bed he’s loud and wakes me up lol isn’t that cute” or “my husband does this and then sleeps all day and doesn’t spend any time with his family…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/20 04:07 PM
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Are they referring to PMS? Aka the moment in a menstrual cycle wherein a woman’s testosterone is highest and estrogen is lowest? Hmm...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/12/20 02:36 PM
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And he doesn’t want a vegan because she’ll have her own strong concepts of ethical behavior and compassion 🤷🏻‍♀️ and be used to being ridiculed for sticking to her beliefs
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/11/20 05:35 AM
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As a fellow fattie, I feel 99% sure that one of the reasons she puts up with this shit is because she feels “required to” since he “puts up” with her being fat. I’m so glad that the body positivity is helping women learn what a tool of the patriarchy body shaming is!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/11/20 10:03 PM
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I love (read: hate) the part where he tells her that her sticking up for herself and her right to have an acceptable partner is a “turn off”. As if women exist for and long for nothing but male sexual approval. That’s the moment I would’ve said, “Good, we’re both turned off then. Let’s break up and you can get your shit out of my house.”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/11/20 09:51 PM
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Do NOT let him guilt you for having a disability. Oh hell no. I have pretty severe endometriosis and when I’m having flares I’m pretty much bedridden; there have been times when I’ve had plans with my husband I needed to cancel, household duties I couldn’t deal with (we both work 40 hours a week and split chores about 50/50, with him doing the dirtier/heavy lifting and me doing the more general tidying and organizing), you name it. My husband has NEVER complained that he was lonely and needed to…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/11/20 04:00 PM
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I read posts from FDS to my husband all the time, and he always says something in agreement. We were literally just laughing in disgust this morning over the various “men’s day” posts here.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/11/20 03:15 PM
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