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| 21 | Why are you sending him flowers? If he likes you he’ll come to you. | fdsthrowaway | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/12/19 04:08 AM | |
| 1 | Looks versus (potential) good character? | SEEKING ADVICE | fdsthrowaway | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/11/19 01:39 PM |
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| 21 | 💛My very EX boyfriend HATED this quote. I ended up marrying a man who is capable of loving an independent woman. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/03/21 08:05 AM |
| 8 | Imagine taking this sort of shit from a fat manlet, the audacity of men never ceases to amazeu/Shabutie420, with love, do you REALLY want to be a girlfriend for life for your POS alcoholic boyfriend? Really? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/06/20 09:00 PM |
| 16 | Second disappointing man in one week. My major, apparently, is cute.Fuck that guy lol | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/06/20 11:08 PM |
| 8 | A theory: ostensibly straight men that don’t eat pussy are possibly homosexualsA heterosexual man who isn’t all about my pussy is bizarre. Period. I’ve never dated a guy who wasn’t really, really into pussy - like looking, touching, tasting. I feel the same way about dick so... | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/01/20 10:23 AM |
| -12 | 2020 starting strong!Got it - Men suffer from the problems men create. here’s the smallest violin | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/01/20 04:36 AM |
| 3 | Does anyone else in this group also identify as demisexual?It’s not “creepy” to not want to fuck everyone lol. You are SO normal and your sex life sounds really healthy. As a woman in her late 30’s, it’s almost a little frustrating for me to have to convince younger women that “sex involves an emotional connection”. I didn’t grow up with hookup culture or ubiquitous porn. In college, women were agitating for the right to have casual sex lol. “Slut walks”, that sort of thing. I felt a sense of incongruity then - Yes, I want to be able to freely make my o… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/01/20 09:36 PM |
| 4 | Does anyone else in this group also identify as demisexual?Just think about all the shades of human sexual feeling that are being shoved under the “queer!1!” umbrella! And then what’s leftover to be labeled as “normal” (porn, hookups and misogyny). I’m shocked that “old fashioned” or what people now consider “prudish” isn’t some kind of “identity” yet. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/01/20 09:24 PM |
| 10 | Does anyone else in this group also identify as demisexual?If hookup culture didn’t exist “demisexual” wouldn’t exist either. You have to normalize the idea of hookup culture to even get started creating the “demisexual” identity. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/01/20 08:53 PM |
| 8 | Does anyone else in this group also identify as demisexual?men trying to normalize hookup culture EXACTLY. Don’t feel comfortable fucking any and every guy? Sorry babe thats normal and YOU’RE the odd one out. But don’t worry! We have web comics and t shirts and a qUeEr community for you! Don’t let your normal human feelings be repackaged and resold to you. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/01/20 08:51 PM |
| 5 | NEVER allow a man around you when you are in a weakened state.Men are GARBAGE. I hope you can get some rest ♡ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/01/20 08:29 PM |
| 11 | Does anyone else in this group also identify as demisexual?demisexulaity is a sexual attraction where a person eels sexual attraction only to people they have developed an emotional bond to But isn’t this like the default? We want to have sex with people we have an emotional bond with? I feel like modern hookup culture, rape culture and the patriarchy are trying convince women that a perfectly natural and normal part a human sexuality - Sex comes with an emotional bond! - is somehow a “queer identity”. It’s not. I’m not here to tell you you’re not demis… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/01/20 08:25 PM |
| -31 | 2020 starting strong!I like balloon guy’s messages so much I can almost forgive his penis! lol | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/01/20 08:13 PM |
| 30 | Actually stood up to creepy guys while clubbingGood for you! Don’t let garbage men get away with garbage behavior! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/01/20 11:46 AM |
| -7 | Close, but so far awayThis is my throwaway lol. I wish I could show you my main, and then tell me about how much I make excuses for shit men. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/01/20 11:34 AM |
| 6 | ME: Systematically explains and provides several examples of the male bias, double standards, and misogyny on r/DatingOverThirty that results in poor advice for women (and sends them running to FDS)......r/DOT MODS: wHy aRe yOu a VeSsEl for HaTe? 🤦♀️So catty! eyeroll | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/01/20 11:33 AM |
| 17 | Close, but so far awayShe supported him working overtime. And I agree, she should’ve went out with friends instead of staying home with her boyfriend. There’s no reason she can’t go out and have a good time. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/01/20 11:32 AM |
| -1 | Close, but so far awayNot a newbie despite the flair, thanks. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/01/20 11:28 AM |
| 1 | Close, but so far awayNo, I was telling her that her feelings are valid, and she should get a good nights sleep. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/01/20 11:28 AM |
| -7 | Close, but so far awayI get it. I don’t know ALL the details, I wasn’t there, so I’m responding accordingly. You know, like a stranger on the internet. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/01/20 10:20 AM |
| 0 | Close, but so far awayIt really doesn’t feel good when a night you’ve put effort into doesn’t go as planned. :( I don’t envy your BF for having to work through the holiday, but it sounds like he didn’t really recognize the effort you put into the night. I can’t say if this is like a red flag or anything, but I sympathize ♡ I hope you can get a good night’s sleep and you two can talk about it productively in the morning. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/01/20 07:21 AM |
| 46 | Who you shouldn't marryI’m definitely really only interested in marriage for the financial and legal aspects No girl, you’re not. You want commitment, you want a socially recognized partnership, you want a husband, you want MARRIAGE. Your boyfriend DOES NOT. This is so sad. Either he says “no” and she’s stuck in a permanent holding pattern because she won’t dump him, or he says “yes” and she’s talking about her “fiancé” 3 more years from now. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/12/19 10:49 PM |
| 77 | ME: Systematically explains and provides several examples of the male bias, double standards, and misogyny on r/DatingOverThirty that results in poor advice for women (and sends them running to FDS)......r/DOT MODS: wHy aRe yOu a VeSsEl for HaTe? 🤦♀️Accusing a woman with a valid complaint as “evil”, “filled with hate” or “bitter” is standard Reddit BS. A go-to phrase that means absolutely nothing and only projects the sayer’s insecurities onto the woman. Whenever someone doesn’t have a logical comeback I’m accused of being “hate-filled” LOL. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/12/19 10:41 PM |
| 7 | Pack your gym shit right now.Women-only subs are awesome ♡ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/12/19 02:45 AM |
| 26 | Pack your gym shit right now.Pregnant queen put your feet up! You’re doing the hard work! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/12/19 08:51 PM |
| 30 | Trad man "logic"oh we have a sub for this!! r/ActualStraightMen/ C’mon in! You don’t have to be Lesbian to participate (though you might wish you were lol)! ActualStraightMen don’t care who the space is for, they just come in dicks a’swinging. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/12/19 08:32 PM |
| 20 | The Best Way is Still Difficult (Warning: A Bit Whiny)I know how you feel. Touch is super important to me too, and I went YEARS without enough physical contact. It’s really hard. Don’t feel silly about needing it. Knowing this about yourself is really important too. It’s hard, but if you know what you need and you can communicate it to your next potential partner. Good luck! Edit - Congratulations on starting law school! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/12/19 08:25 PM |
| 9 | Would I be acting like a Pick-Meisha if....Yes. Yes you would. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/12/19 07:11 AM |
| 26 | Would I be acting like a Pick-Meisha if....One half-baked date and now you’re his MOMMY?? His cold, his medicine, his lookout. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/12/19 07:11 AM |
| 13 | Level up 2020Thanks to MY hard work I leveled-up at work and I’ll be earning more money next year. I discovered FDS, leveled-up my self-respect and dumped my LV boyfriend. I’m feeling good about myself and my boundaries! It’s going to be a good 2020! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/12/19 11:00 PM |
| 19 | What's the FDS equivalent of a "Plate"?FDS methods aren’t really that new. Women used to have dates with multiple “beaus” before they decided to “go steady” with one (which usually led to marriage). | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/12/19 09:50 PM |
| 15 | 🤡 ❌Step right up! SEE the amazing Scared to Commit Scrote! GAZE with amazement at the Contortionist Girlfriend willing to bend in any way necessary to keep her low-value dick! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/12/19 09:44 PM |
| 13 | Boyfriend doesn’t introduce me to anyoneI don’t want anyone to know about you Sorry that’s not a joke. :( | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/12/19 09:38 PM |
| 8 | How does one love themselves ?Listening to your needs is so important! Go to bed early if you’re tired, have something to eat if you’re hungry. It’s really small, basic stuff, but I think women are so programmed to think of everyone else first we don’t do for ourselves enough. You have to take care of yourself first. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/12/19 09:34 PM |
| 6 | How does one love themselves ?Skin care! Asian skincare (the multiple step kind) really helped me get out of a long depressive episode, and is surprisingly therapeutic for my OCD (lol?) Pretty underwear! I buy it for ME. Long walks in nature! Being around greenery is also very therapeutic. Loving self-talk! I (try to) talk to myself like a friend. We’re kind and loving when we talk to friends, so I can extend the same kindness and love to myself. ♡ Good luck! You’re an awesome lady who deserves good things! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/12/19 09:32 PM |
| 17 | My best friend is dating her dad and I can’t find her.This just in - Men are garbage! Dating your long-lost daughter?! wow what a pos loser! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/12/19 09:26 PM |
| 2 | Is he (28m) stringing me (29f) along? Not sure what to doWhat wrong choice? NOT staying with a guy whose life goals aren’t meshing with yours? The way you describe him, he doesn’t sound like a huge catch. And the conversation you just had, about him not being ready to marry for another few years, that would’ve really pissed me off. You could probably do better. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/12/19 01:41 PM |
| 2 | Is he (28m) stringing me (29f) along? Not sure what to doHE told he had no plans to marry you!! That 3-4 years bs is because you put him on the spot. I really believe that I’d you’re nearing 30 it shouldn’t take you longer than a year of serious dating to know if you want to marry someone or not. If your boyfriend couldn’t give you a clear answer by now chances are he’s not really planning on marrying you. Or he’ll string you along for a few years just to be sure nothing better comes along. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/12/19 01:38 PM |
| 2 | Is he (28m) stringing me (29f) along? Not sure what to doFiguring all this out is like half the battle. You can start making changes and decisions to get the future you want now, and you can be happy about that. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/12/19 12:11 PM |
| 5 | Is he (28m) stringing me (29f) along? Not sure what to doThink about it this way - Are you a “fixer upper” girlfriend? Does your boyfriend (who also was just caught by surprise at the idea you want to get married) exercising a lot of extra “empathy” to understand your “POV”? There are men out there who are ready to be your husband yesterday, AND who have careers (like you do!) want a family now (like you do!) and have their own apartment (like presumably you do lol). You’re an awesome woman bringing value to the table. What is your boyfriend bringing?… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/12/19 12:07 PM |
| 24 | Is he (28m) stringing me (29f) along? Not sure what to doDo you really want to marry a man who “never had a girlfriend before”, has “lots of debt” and “still living at home”?? Really?? If you are serious about settling down and starting a family soon, he’s not the guy for you. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/12/19 10:18 AM |
| 29 | My Embarrassing Wake Up Storydrank the wine and ate the pastries And FUCK YOU low-value loser!! LOL Now go get you some good, fresh, not drunk at 5 am dick LOL | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/12/19 10:07 AM |
| 7 | new hvm dateWith love, it sounds like maybe you should work on personal issues before you’re dating. Sharing personal information is a part of a healthy relationship, and if you don’t feel like you can do that no relationship is going to work very well for you. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/12/19 02:24 AM |
| 7 | I’m need of some adviceHis idea to meet at a mall right before Christmas sounds awful. But you need to communicate your boundaries more clearly. If you don’t want to go, say no and mean no. If he insists, tell him you can meet him some other time when he has a better plan. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/12/19 04:54 AM |
| -5 | Guy on OLD asked if I was trans ?Maybe it was a neg on OP. Like I said in a later comment, the way he asked made her feel uncomfortable, which was why she posted. That is a problem. But trans women who don’t say upfront they are trans women are not uncommon either, FWIW. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/12/19 12:31 AM |
| 15 | Guy on OLD asked if I was trans ?If the way he asked you felt weird though, it might indicate to something larger about his personality/character. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/12/19 11:44 PM |
| 25 | Glad to find a platform for female empowerment in dating that doesn't glorify sex workI don’t want to argue with you, and I don’t think showing your tits to get a man to pay your phone bill is “leveling up” either, but there’s a big difference between prostitution and running a bullshit game on a man. Even just in terms of mental/physical health and safety. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/12/19 10:58 PM |
| 87 | Glad to find a platform for female empowerment in dating that doesn't glorify sex workI don’t even really like the term “sex work”. It’s like selling men’s ideas about female sexuality back to us in a way that makes it sound desirable. “Work” is autonomous choice. “Prostitution” sounds prude and old fashioned. But, as a feminist, I don’t want men’s ideas of “eQuALiTy”, and I don’t see FDS as running the same bullshit game on men that men run on me. There is nothing empowering about men using women for sex. And what really bothers me is that the whole “empowered sex worker” myth c… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/12/19 10:36 PM |
| 13 | LVM like this are so exhausting. I don’t care if you have a ‘high sex drive’, if you don’t respect my boundaries then you can go.He probably just sticks it in lol | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/12/19 10:19 PM |
| 29 | LVM like this are so exhausting. I don’t care if you have a ‘high sex drive’, if you don’t respect my boundaries then you can go.You’d think he’s get the point from your first comment - A woman who explicitly says she is looking for a partner who respects her time and boundaries probably isn’t down for sexting a stranger. Yet he persists. What’s wrong with brain-dead males who can’t take a hint, much less a “hey d00d no I don’t want to hear about your pp”? NEXT!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/12/19 08:41 PM |
| 44 | Nice Guys, Here’s Why You *REALLY* Got Rejected.Personal grooming is SO IMPORTANT. I can’t stand a grubby guy - poorly fitting clothes, dirty fingernails, bad skin, unwashed, etc etc. Even if you’re very physically attractive otherwise. Poor grooming shows you’re poor in general, you have poor time management skills, low social awareness and just NOT MY TYPE. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/12/19 04:16 AM |
| 26 | Women aren’t the only ones who lose fertility with age. Older men 35+ are more likely to have kids with birth defects. If you want kids, don’t settle. Go for someone who is young and still fertile!Old, worn-out sperm is a well-known medical risk: https://www.spectrumnews.org/news/link-parental-age-autism-explained/ https://www.nytimes.com/2019/03/25/well/family/the-risks-to-babies-of-older-fathers.html https://www.dw.com/en/biological-clocks-men-have-them-too/a-48113326 ETCETERA. Ladies looking for families, don’t settle for tired, weak old-man sperm, especially when it comes from flaccid, unhealthy males. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/12/19 03:56 PM |
| 9 | See where this goes or a waste of time?Your gut can tell you better than Reddit. If he seems worth a date he’s probably worth at least a date. And, importantly, It’s just a date. If you really feel iffy ask to speak on the phone before you meet to get a better feel for him. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/12/19 03:48 PM |
| 45 | Wife Finds Out Husband Has Been Taking Hundred of Pictures of Naked With His Dick On Her Face While She’s SleepingShe woke up to find her husband masturbating next to her while sleeping “MANY times” (emphasis hers), despite clearly communicating to him that that’s obviously fucking gross please stop. Okay ladies - Pushing boundaries? GOODBYE. Not respecting clearly set boundaries? GOODBYE. DO NOT be the woman whose husband is ejaculating on her sleeping face and taking pictures of it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/12/19 03:23 PM |
| 107 | Pickmeisha Sends Bouquet of Roses to Workplace of a Guy Who’s Unsure About Dating Her. Includes Note Saying He’s “Worth Waiting For” 🤢Please sir, may I have a bit of dick sir | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/12/19 03:14 PM |
| 6 | Men who often travel to South East Asia - red flag?I’m a foreigner living and dating in Japan for 17 years. I wouldn’t consider that by itself a red flag, especially if the guy is young. SEA and “exotic” developing countries like Nepal are cheap, popular places for young Japanese people to travel to. I went to Nepal with a Japanese boyfriend many years ago actually. An older guy, established in his career who travels to SEA regularly by himself seems strange though. Actually, I would wonder if a younger guy who travels to Southeast Asia a lot is… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/12/19 10:44 PM |
| 61 | Reddit's a goldmine tonight. This Pickmeisha + her pornsick boyfriend financially supporting cam girls + dead bedroom. THIS is what the future for women looks like in a pornsick culture.WDI do? girl you LEAVE. If you’re to the point of “oh gee internet strangers my bf’s financial, emotional and sexual resources are all going to random cam girls not me wat do??” you should have left yesterday. I think posts like this really show the value of listening carefully to your “inner voice”. This Reddit post is basically a recording of the insecurities in this poor woman’s relationship. And it sounds ridiculous. I’m sure a month after she breaks up with this asshole and rereads her post… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/12/19 10:22 AM |
| 10 | You don't have to do ANYTHING in bed that you don't seriously, really, truly want to do.“stretched out” is a weird myth made up by people without vaginas lol | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/12/19 10:35 PM |
| 7 | You don't have to do ANYTHING in bed that you don't seriously, really, truly want to do.Fingering is super underrated | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/12/19 04:18 PM |
| 28 | I think this horrifying post from dating_advice pretty much perfectly sums up what this sub is empowering women to avoid by knowing their worth. DO NOT BE HER.Unwashed sick dick! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/12/19 05:19 AM |
| 17 | Get him to say goodbye to pornDon’t know why you’re being downvoted. I want to believe OP will have a really positive conversation with dear boyfriend, and he’ll like totally empathize with her and “no babe I love you so much no more porn” or whatever. But ACTUALLY, her boyfriend will probably get defensive and think she’s a prude. And he’ll hide his porn use. If he’s already consuming porn he already doesn’t have a problem using women, and I don’t see OP changing that, nor should she. There are already HVM that don’t use po… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/12/19 01:06 PM |
| 3 | Cleveland Steamer Night! Open mic for males! Drop your ploppies here!I guess it only depends on if we all actually care what the menz think. TBH any male lurking on FDS is definitely one I am NOT fucking like dude get a life LOL | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/12/19 08:28 AM |
| 7 | Stay sober on datesYou don’t know me, but I’m rooting for you ♡ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/12/19 05:15 AM |
| 27 | Stay sober on datesNothing to add, but good for you! It takes a strong woman to break an addiction. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/12/19 10:40 PM |
| 3 | (His new girlfriend is involved) Trying to not contact himStop replying. You can only stop the crazy train by getting off. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/12/19 09:01 PM |
| 17 | Man pursues woman who is sexually inexperienced. Expects pornstar performance. Complains about her lack of experience in bed. Calls her technique "boring", "bland". Insults her for "not knowing how to be sexy".... Fucking hypocrite. DAILY REMINDER TO TAKE ZERO SHIT FROM THESE PORNSICK MEN! DUMP HIM!their pasts are often garbage fires | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/12/19 08:49 PM |
| 55 | I’m just... wow. Don’t see the reason for stayingbrainwashed into believing contemporary sex poz bullshit Poly relationships are a MALE FANTASY. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/12/19 12:58 PM |
| 84 | I’m just... wow. Don’t see the reason for stayingMarried her high school sweetheart. In a “poly” relationship. Husband has a fucking live-in girlfriend. (!?!) She still does all the work. Wishing you, your kids and your $25 a week godspeed. Men are fucking GARBAGE. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/12/19 11:20 AM |
| 10 | OLD profile red flags #1: "No Drama"No drama = You don’t get to have emotions | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/12/19 11:09 AM |
| 3 | OLD Red Flags #2: Pics that don't make sense & flipping off pics.They’re married. Tinder profiles with random pics or very scanty info means married where I live. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/12/19 11:08 AM |
| 44 | Man Does his best friend’s 11 year girlfriend a solid and tells her the truth: HE WLL NEVER MARRY YOU. (She’s in denial)Why marry your high school sweetheart anyways?? LOL Girl there is better dick and higher quality men out there I promise!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/12/19 11:00 AM |
| 45 | Fuckwit husband wants 2 "hall passes" because his wife got raped by 2 men. Then suggests a 3some to help her get over it.I can’t believe she thinks there’s something there to fix. Her husband sounds like a disgusting piece of shit. I wouldn’t want a man like that around my daughter. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/12/19 06:49 AM |
| 33 | Why Men Must GIVE in RelationshipsTO BE HONEST, a man who spends large amounts of money on frivolous things, even if they’re for me, isn’t husband material because it shows he isn’t responsible with money. But a man who can’t pay for dinner and drinks, or a nice Christmas present? Thanks but no thanks lol. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/12/19 04:44 AM |
| 56 | The charmless sociopaths I’ve met have missed this memo. Just use your “superior” sense of humor to cope with your shitty life duh.oh geez guys we created a society in which we can’t express human emotions without being attacked by other men ladies feel sorry for uuuss! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/11/19 09:27 PM |
| 7 | Random guy in my DMs inquires about my plan to go to a concert tonight. Why do I get the sense he’s trying to insert himself in my plans? What does it matter if it’s date?I date in a foreign language; I’m an English speaker living in a very non-English speaking country and while I have an excellent command of the language I’m not a native speaker. I wouldn’t hold grammar mistakes against a non-native speaker. If he’s just a fuckboi who can’t be bothered to spellcheck his messages then fuck his lazy ass lol | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/11/19 09:01 PM |
| 2 | Disgusting excuse for a man rapes this poor woman, she’s trying to figure out how to “let him down easy”I hope so | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/11/19 08:52 PM |
| 7 | Temporary? Dead BedroomNOT temporary. You’re sacrificing your needs to stay with him. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/11/19 03:38 AM |
| 3 | How do I break away? Or do I try one more time?....need adviceHaving an AP only makes sense if you’re both married. Why would a young, attractive single woman want to get involved with a married man? It will never be the relationship you want. His family will always be more important (rightfully so). He might not be losing interest in you. Maybe one of his kids are sick, job is busy, things are tetchy with the wife and he just doesn’t have time for extra right now. Or he is losing interest in you because a huge part of infidelity is “new relationship energ… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/11/19 10:55 PM |
| 10 | Setting boundaries without seeming attached or meanTrust your gut. I can think back to my worst boyfriends, and there were always the even the tiniest little red flags early on. It doesn’t matter how any of us take the comment, what matters is that it “doesn’t sit right” with you. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/11/19 04:59 AM |
| 3 | Should I cancel my date with him?To be honest, I really don’t like it when the person I’m going to meet comes off as insecure so a big X for both of you I guess. His texts sound vaguely passive aggressive to me, like he wants you to feel bad for him. It might not be a terrible date, but that’s a trait that might carry over into his personal relationships. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/11/19 04:55 AM |
| 2 | How Can You Tell If A Man Will Be Good In Bed? (MEGATHREAD)TRUTH | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/11/19 10:15 PM |
| 21 | How do I handle this? Stalker tendencies disguised as “genuine” msgs from fake twitter account. This does cree me out beyond belief. He knows my first and last name and continues to search three years later..?Don’t respond. Document and block. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/11/19 02:15 PM |
| 12 | Post-First Date Struggles. KEEP ME STRONG!YES. More fishing!! Less obsessing! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/11/19 01:18 PM |
| 4 | Maybe he’s a crossdresser? 😂look I’m good at clothes!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/11/19 01:16 PM |
| 28 | This text my ex husband sent me while on his way to meet his side chick to discuss their future together. I was giddy thinking he might be planning a much needed romantic date for us. Surprise! He packed a bag and walked out two days later. Protect yourselves.I fucking hate your ex husband. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/11/19 01:12 PM |
| 2 | Research events, places and restaurants you want to go to for the inevitable "where do you want to go?"It’s not a bad thing to know what you like! I know what kind of place I want to go on a date, and I have no problem telling him. I’d rather he decide the actual place. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/11/19 01:04 PM |
| 25 | Am I wasting my time? 18FAs an 18 year old, why would you want to be stuck with him? Did you plan on staying with the same person you started dated at 16 for the rest of your life? Trying exploring your independence first. You don’t like how attached you are to your boyfriend so maybe you should work on being happy without a boyfriend. If you don’t want to do a long distance relationship then don’t. You have to choose. Your boyfriend will not choose FOR you. It will probably mean you breakup, but that leaves you free to… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/11/19 02:03 PM |
| 4 | I get it’s a numbers game but I have 100+ matches and they’re all low value/low effort 😭I never start messaging first. Seeing him put in an effort is important to me. I’ll forgive a “standard” sounding first message, and I usually reply, but then if his reply doesn’t interest me I unmatch I only messaged first once, because the guy had a bunch of pictures and an interesting sounding profile. But then his reply was really, really low effort. So...? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/11/19 11:34 PM |
| 43 | I get it’s a numbers game but I have 100+ matches and they’re all low value/low effort 😭Because men on tinder just swipe right on EVERYTHING. I match almost every man I swipe right on. But I just met a seemingly HVM on tinder, AFTER weeding through dozens of low value/low effort messages. It can happen! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/11/19 10:38 PM |
| 13 | Good Morning to Everyone Except FuckBoys!The picture leaves something to be desired, but this is actually a really great quote (check my profile!), originally attributed to the Australian writer, Irina Dunn (thanks Wikipedia) I dated a guy in college who was SO triggered by this quote, lol. He was a cringey niceguy | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/11/19 09:07 PM |
| 64 | It would be more impressive if he weren’t such a looker, but I’m honing my FDS craft.WTF is up with untidy/weird backgrounds on OLD profiles?? Nope sorry dude the piles of dirty laundry behind you are just not doing it for me | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/11/19 11:06 AM |
| 16 | Think I might be potentially getting a slow fade/ghost. Is this a good text to send?It’s very unlikely you’ll get a satisfying reply Like NONE. Leave him BE. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/11/19 11:03 AM |
| 17 | The myth of "sex positivity"Sex Work Exclusionary Radical Feminist Basically a (real) feminist who thinks a woman selling her body is never good. Prostitution should be illegal. Period. There is nothing empowering about selling sex. Period. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/11/19 10:27 PM |
| 34 | Hey guys - if you have to go down on her for an hour, you’re doing it wrongIt’s not her guys, it’s YOU. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/11/19 09:18 AM |
| 12 | Reasons why we aren’t gold diggers for looking for money and investment.my body just rejects it LOL. The womb {{{knows}}} | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/11/19 09:48 PM |
| 7 | Nosy Male “Friend” wants to know AITA For Calling Out My Friend Who Has Been Heavily Browsing /r/femaledatingstrategy?YoU sHoUlD sToP rEaDInG!! Just like a man to think he knows what’s best for a woman. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/11/19 09:41 PM |
| 16 | After posting here, received a DM from a man trying to "help" me XDWon’t someone PLEASE think about the short menz!!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/11/19 09:35 PM |
| 9 | Dating - Engagement - Marriage Timelinestuck with a live-in [partner] EXACTLY. It’s a lot harder to extract yourself from a relationship (or dump someone!) when they live with you. Big NO. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/11/19 06:45 AM |
| 36 | Dating - Engagement - Marriage TimelineI can’t imagine getting engaged and not being married within a year of then. 3, 4, 5 year “engagements” are a joke. That’s just a man’s way to trick you into doing wifey shit without actually committing. I’m kind of old-school in that I don’t even think you should live together before marriage. You’re cooking his breakfast and you’re still only his girlfriend?? FUCK THAT. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/11/19 06:26 AM |
| 15 | Here's Muh Dick. 53? Please.eww it looks LUMPY. hey baby nestle in my matted chest hair | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/11/19 12:07 PM |
| 23 | Have any of you guys came across any genuinely good guys?All of the “good” men I’ve met have had warm, loving and respectful relationships with their mothers. Men who still rely on their parents/mothers for their basic needs are a joke. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/11/19 12:04 PM |
| 44 | Bask in their desperation - boob shamingwomen being jealous of big fake boobs lol no MEN like to IMAGINE that women are super catty bitches to each other and our relationships are filled with drama. It’s a stupid, tired trope. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/11/19 11:49 AM |
| 4 | Is him using coupons on a first date a bad sign?Drive through Burger King, (with a coupon!) on a (maybe first??) date? I get the mortgage thing, but don’t you then make dates part of your budget? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/11/19 11:43 AM |
| 8 | How do you guys deal with feeling insecure about your looks?I think there’s a lot to be said for self care - like skin care, hair care, mani/pedicures, massage, clothes that you like, whatever falls into your interest and price range. You might feel more secure if you focus on doing things that make you feel good (and generally have the side benefit of improving your attractiveness). I actually climbed out of a long depression a few years ago and part of the process was Asian skincare lol. Taking care of myself, noticing myself more, was really important… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/11/19 12:30 PM |
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