febgeekymom Archive

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1	am I the only one who finds it easier to talk to women face to face than through texts? my SO does so much better with in person communication than with remote connections. We're making it work. We supplement texting and phone calls with periodic in person visits. For him it's the verbal exchange, the dialogue, the interaction he craves and thrives in.	/r/seduction	24/07/20 07:30 PM
2	One Year Cold Approach Challenge - Day 36 Progress Report This my friend is a demonstration of genuine curiosity.	/r/seduction	05/07/20 01:40 AM
13	One Year Cold Approach Challenge - Day 32 Progress Report Number 5: ouch. I'm sorry. I'm very glad you're putting yourself out there, going to different places. We have thrown a lot of advice your way. Probably enough for a notebook. As you become more comfortable with talking to them, remember to incorporate all this wonderful advice.	/r/seduction	29/06/20 12:58 PM
2	One Year Cold Approach Challenge - Day 28 Progress Report ( 1 instagram and 1 wechat) The pizza in your hand? Pure gold! You would have had my attention And kudos for getting past the Chinese barrier. It's one reason I like getting to know immigrants. Broadens your life experiences. You scored major points	/r/seduction	28/06/20 03:10 PM
1	One Year Cold Approach Challenge - Day 26 Progress Report The felt like an idiot part: you're doing good my friend. Doing good. Just means your interest in her is genuine	/r/seduction	28/06/20 01:33 PM
2	One Year Cold Approach Challenge - Day 26 Progress Report The funniest comment I got was when my ex husband was trying to hit on me. I was in front of my bike, looking in the attached bag for paper and pencil go take notes and he says, "is this your bag?" My first thought was, "no dumbshit, I'm looking in someone else's bike bag..." but I I respond, yes, it was, cue annoyed look Point is, I later married him despite his dumb pick up line... Hugs. The one worth keeping should hopefully appreciate your courage and boldness	/r/seduction	28/06/20 01:30 PM
1	One Year Cold Approach Challenge - Day Progress 23 Report We did. We took it off public posting.	/r/seduction	23/06/20 10:09 PM
1	One Year Cold Approach Challenge - Day 22 Progress Report If you called me out as a geek (aka a nerd) in a way that doesn't bring my looks into it, I'd be flattered. So, my outfit suggests it, my accessories suggest it, or even better, you catch me in some place geeky, like the science museum, or history museum, then I'd be flattered that you made the connection.	/r/seduction	21/06/20 02:47 PM
1	One Year Cold Approach Challenge - Day Progress 23 Report Computers, science, history, numbers, ya know, geeky stuff	/r/seduction	20/06/20 08:37 PM
2	One Year Cold Approach Challenge - Day Progress 23 Report Yep. Quite the opposite. Pretty and very kind and compassionate	/r/seduction	20/06/20 08:20 PM
3	One Year Cold Approach Challenge - Day Progress 23 Report Being called pretty, also doesn't encourage a conversation. It's an end stop...	/r/seduction	20/06/20 07:35 PM
1	One Year Cold Approach Challenge - Day Progress 23 Report My instinctive response is "oh really?! (Surprised look) And how did you come to that conclusion?" Followed by, "well, you obviously don't know me well then..."	/r/seduction	20/06/20 07:34 PM
1	One Year Cold Approach Challenge - Day 22 Progress Report Not sure how nerd is viewed in NZ, but in America, referring to a woman as a nerd can go bad on you. I get what you were trying to do which was to call her out as a sexy nerd. If a guy were to call me a nerd because I wear glasses, I'd be put off by it. Better comment if she was wearing a computer bag or school bag.	/r/seduction	20/06/20 07:29 PM
1	One Year Cold Approach Challenge - Day 21 Progress Report My first reaction when you say, "stop, i have to tell you something..." was "awww, that's so sweet!" Just makes my day! (Gush) Sorry, got a few days behind on supporting you. Busy week.	/r/seduction	20/06/20 07:19 PM
2	One Year Cold Approach Challenge - Day 20 Progress Report (Insta Close) The 1st, my immediate response is, (smirk) "okay, you do that." (Thing is, I'm not into fashion, so it would have fallen flat) The 2nd, I would have been put off by the first half, but the second half would have gotten a sincere response, giving him the benefit of the doubt for bombing the first part. The 3rd, would have fallen flat. The 4th, the falling in love, would have gotten me to smile, and if I was in a playful mood, a comeback. Right now, nothing's coming to mind. The 5th, my response w…	/r/seduction	20/06/20 01:55 AM
1	One Year Cold Approach Challenge - Day 19 Progress Report You hit the nail on the head, so to speak. It is direct, respectful, yet communicates desire. It should put a woman at ease. Your acknowledging the chemistry, showing an interest in more, but doing so in such a way, that if she were to decline, she would give a truthful answer. It also makes him charming by being polite. I'd love for the single guys to try that line on various women and report back the results.	/r/seduction	20/06/20 12:31 AM
1	One Year Cold Approach Challenge - Day 19 Progress Report My suggestion for situational approaches is to provide reasons to converse on the fly. I personally love that, and regularly talk to anyone anywhere. My reason for casual conversation was to practice conversational skills, getting comfortable talking with someone without the pressure trying to get their #. Selling yourself is a skill to learn like everything else. Not saying it's the best suggestion for him. It just seemed our hero was trying too hard and not getting his expected results.	/r/seduction	18/06/20 04:36 AM
1	One Year Cold Approach Challenge - Day 20 Progress Report (Insta Close) Great job with giving out your number. Puts the ball in her court and let's her think on it. The Instagram one: I think she was making excuses. She may have been put off by you. Now, after you get these numbers, are you following up and going out on dates?	/r/seduction	18/06/20 04:34 AM
2	One Year Cold Approach Challenge - Day 20 Progress Report (Insta Close) Woman here. I personally would love to be teased like this. The weird comment, is a bit off offputting, but the others would have gotten a twinkle in the eye, a mischievous smirk, and a playful banter back.	/r/seduction	18/06/20 04:32 AM
3	One Year Cold Approach Challenge - Day 19 Progress Report Hi there! I DM you earlier. hug my friend. We are on your team, rooting for you to succeed. You have several wingmen on your team. I think you should still do approaches, but without your goal of getting numbers/contact info. It seems to me that getting contact info is your only priority and you forget that the best comes afterwards. (Hint, hint) You were doing great doing situational approaches. Go back to try that. No flirting intended, simply casual conversation. My suggestion is to go in new…	/r/seduction	16/06/20 08:54 PM
2	One Year Cold Approach Challenge - Day 16 Progress Report (1 number) I think it's time I gave you a relationship book to read: Love and Respect, by Dr. Eggert? It's a world famous book (to my knowledge). This will guide you on what to do once you catch one.	/r/seduction	13/06/20 01:55 PM
15	One Year Cold Approach Challenge - Day 16 Progress Report (1 number) On behalf of our species, cold approaching takes balls and courage. I personally am impressed with the guy when it happens. I hate it when the few rotten apples tarnish the quality of the remaining apples. Not all of us are assholes.	/r/seduction	13/06/20 01:52 PM
0	One Year Cold Approach Challenge - Day 15 Field Report Number 2: Your pick up line about "him treating you well" was solid gold! I so wish a man would run the distance to catch up to me. That's really romantic of you. I hope she was sincerely flattered. Now here's an interesting thought: you are definitely getting better my friend. If you can, I'd seek a more people watching spot, where you can observe before approaching. I'm thinking a busy fast food restaurant, a book store, a park (bring your bike). The more I know you and how you think, my sugge…	/r/seduction	13/06/20 01:46 PM
8	One Year Cold Approach Challenge - Day 14 Field Report I agree with the other poster. It's hard, but make an effort to detach yourself emotionally from these interactions. when you do, you take the pressure off the other person, who may sense it. Our "spidey senses" are very keen. Keep your expectations low. In my head, I will give myself a "pep talk" remind myself that life will be okay if this goes wrong, there is always tomorrow, and most importantly, you are loved for who you are. Someone will love you other than your friends and family. I love …	/r/seduction	11/06/20 01:42 PM
14	One Year Cold Approach Challenge - Day 13 Field Report ( Push Pull and Calm) I'm going to let you enjoy the happiness of your success. You are truly learning how the game works. I could hug you, I'm so proud! Keep practicing my friend.	/r/seduction	10/06/20 12:16 PM
20	One Year Cold Approach Challenge - Day 13 Field Report ( Push Pull and Calm) I wish I knew you in person. You're truly inspiring	/r/seduction	10/06/20 12:15 PM
1	One Year Cold Approach Challenge - Day 12 Progress Report I LOVE talking to random people...it's how I get my social fix some days...	/r/seduction	10/06/20 01:58 AM
2	One Year Cold Approach Challenge - Day 10 Field Report Can't speak of other women obviously, but i use the line "I'm taken" ( or some variation, like "my boyfriend..., or "I have a boyfriend") as a way of bluntly, yet politely stopping any further flirtation/sexual chemistry. It's my way of saying "I can't continue flirting with you". Honestly, if I'm enjoying myself, I hate saying it. And as a single woman, the last thing I want to do is "close the door" to a potential date. I'll say it as a sign of respect for the relationship I'm in, implying ple…	/r/seduction	10/06/20 01:33 AM
1	One Year Cold Approach Challenge - Day 12 Progress Report Bookstores? Where can you go where instead of asking about them, you're able to start a conversation based on where your at? And make some lighthearted remarks about what you're doing. We have Barnes and Noble bookstore. I'd gladly chat with a guy about my favorite book subjects there...even in the cafe.. Video store? Favorite movie? Remember, put her at ease. She needs to feel safe around you. The more safe and interested she's in, the lesser chance she'll confess she's in a relationship... I H…	/r/seduction	10/06/20 01:19 AM
2	One Year Cold Approach Challenge - Day 12 Progress Report You have a lot of good advice. I know the success of my first dates have resulted in a positive, yet "innocent" first touch. I still rave about being greeted with a warm enthusiastic hug & huge smile from a near stranger for our first date. Letting knees touch is another good one too. We don't give it much thought. The subtle sexual overtures: if the guys did that, I certainly didn't notice it, but I probably felt the chemistry it caused.	/r/seduction	10/06/20 01:12 AM
3	One Year Cold Approach Challenge - Day 12 Progress Report I agree with you on that. It is hard going from job to date request smoothly. Do you have any specific suggestions on a better approach? He's doing this to improve himself in life.	/r/seduction	10/06/20 01:04 AM
1	One Year Cold Approach Challenge - Day 12 Progress Report One: I love your writing style. You are very descriptive. Even though I forget what "stacking" means, I am able to picture what you are describing in my head. Our conversations have got ME thinking, "Well, if I were cold approached on the street, what would convince me [S, 43F] to accept a date request from a stranger and not be turned off by it?" & "Where would I want to be asked out?" I would say, stay away from the grocery store. Not enough interaction. Very transactional place. The poster wh…	/r/seduction	10/06/20 01:02 AM
24	One Year Cold Approach Challenge - Day 11 Progress Report (2 numbers) The first one: GREAT JOB! I'm so proud! Number 2: so close! But you're getting the hang of it. 3 & 4: I'm so proud! You put them both at ease. That's the secret. Act like their friend, though you are strangers The line "excuse me" is fantastic. It relaxes us. It says you're not threatening.	/r/seduction	08/06/20 07:30 AM
3	One Year Cold Approach Challenge - Day 10 Field Report When I was 16, I was cold approached by a man in his mid 20's. He asked me out while we were at the bus stop. I didn't have a boyfriend, but lied and said I did because I was creeped out by him. These posters are right. Be careful with the looks line or something that implies you are trying to ask us out immediately. Go more with what I suggested to you about the parks. You were on to something with the music lady. And thank you for being kind to the teenager. For 6, I think you your heart was i…	/r/seduction	08/06/20 07:18 AM
2	One Year Cold Approach Challenge - Day 1 Progress Report Honestly, I'd have to think on that. We require a different set of rules almost. Usually when I talk to a mom, I focus on the kid. I used to teach preschoolers so I have that plus my kids as an ice breaker. Maybe you could share what you observe and report back? The thing that's generally true with us mom's is our bullshit meter is sensitive. So, if we're single, and we see you trying to hit on us, we're likely to put you in the "jerk" box right away. Also with mom's, you have to think "what is …	/r/seduction	07/06/20 01:59 PM
3	One Year Cold Approach Challenge - Day 1 Progress Report As my user name implies, I am a mom. Of 2 teens. Please ask. I genuinely appreciate your dedication to make yourself a better man. I love that trait in a man. It seems hard to find lately. Remember the note taking advice I shared earlier. Take notes so you remember to use them later. When I became single four years ago, I did a womans version of this. I challenged myself to connect with men on a better, deeper level and improve my communication and relationship skills. This is a part of my life …	/r/seduction	07/06/20 06:21 AM
2	One Year Cold Approach Challenge - Day 1 Progress Report We do. Just like you spend time on your facial hair, some of us spend time on our outfits. Try to avoid the "you look pretty" because some posters are right: the attractive ones get complimented frequently and are accustomed to hearing comments about their looks. Now showing me with your actions that you think we're attractive: actions truly speak louder than words. I like to talk to people while shopping. Usually in line somewhere. Try that a few times and see how it works. Also, I realize you …	/r/seduction	07/06/20 04:46 AM
2	One Year Cold Approach Challenge - Day 8 Progress Report 7: You were perfect! That is exactly what we need to see and here. That you went out of your way to connect with us. We don't often get complimented by men outside of our partner. I'll guarantee she went home and bragged. You made her day.	/r/seduction	07/06/20 03:48 AM
2	One Year Cold Approach Challenge - Day 6 Progress Report Making her laugh...awesome! If you get me to laugh, that's half the battle. You also get points for making me smile. Also good idea about not putting so much weight on whether or not you succeed. I always seem to achieve my goals better when I stop paying attention to the metrics of my goal. When I focus on the details, I get dragged down by lack of progress. I'll try to follow you and give you pointers and suggestions.	/r/seduction	07/06/20 03:44 AM
2	One Year Cold Approach Challenge - Day 3 Report 1: that one is perfect. Great work putting her at ease.	/r/seduction	07/06/20 03:35 AM
1	One Year Cold Approach Challenge - Day 2 Progress Report Not bad. Seems your getting better. The quirky one...good job. Sometimes, a short encounter is all its going to be	/r/seduction	07/06/20 03:34 AM
3	One Year Cold Approach Challenge - Day 1 Progress Report Fourth one: you were on to something with the swan earrings. Not sure how I would have made the conversation longer tho. Great job pointing out the earrings.	/r/seduction	07/06/20 03:31 AM
2	One Year Cold Approach Challenge - Day 9 Progress Report (Most Adorable Girl) 6: with the Adorable Russian: you did very well my friend. Very well. I probably would have accepted the invite.	/r/seduction	07/06/20 01:27 AM
3	One Year Cold Approach Challenge - Day 9 Progress Report (Most Adorable Girl) Ask me about my dress, my hat, my purse. If you have the chance to linger, volunteer where you are going or why you are in the area. Make a comment about the architecture nearby. You need to put me at ease, be like my closest friend in order for me to accept a number exchange. Usually, I need about 8-16 hours of interaction to get an adequate sense of who you are. But sometimes, I may be swayed after an hour or so. Please volunteer your info. You are showing me that you are not "threatening". Us…	/r/seduction	07/06/20 01:23 AM
1	One Year Cold Approach Challenge - Day 9 Progress Report (Most Adorable Girl) Food yes. Breathing, absolutely! Rather fond of it. Free money...it depends. Not a gold digger	/r/seduction	06/06/20 04:52 PM
6	One Year Cold Approach Challenge - Day 9 Progress Report (Most Adorable Girl) Woman here. I'll admit, I had an intentional one night stand from someone like you: bold and courageous enough to start a witty conversation with a stranger you happened to encounter. At the time, I did have a boyfriend both times we met. But, he made me want to hide that fact from him. You my friend, would have thrown me off my guard had you approached me like this. However, depending on your moves, I would have either flirted back and would have gone with the flow or suddenly decided I was mar…	/r/seduction	06/06/20 03:11 PM
1	Making female friends goes a long way I never have been that way. I do not consider myself girly at all. Grew up around guys, was a tomboy for years. I'm finally getting in touch with my "female side" and starting to dress more feminine and focus on my girlfriends more. I found my girlfriends through work or in my neighborhood. I attract a "type": mellow, self employed, multi tasking like crazy, sometimes a single parent. I'm always up to for another friend. Feel free to message me directly.	/r/seduction	04/06/20 04:05 AM
3	How the fuck do you flirt or notice when someone is flirting?? Men's flirting goes over my head if I'm not in the mindset to expect it. I'm slow in that regards. Once had a guy get pretty sexual with me in a texting conversation. But because I wasn't expecting him to be flirting with me, I interpreted his comments as being crudely funny. It wasn't until several months later, after I had reread his comments, that it dawned on me he was flirting. Not sure how to get better at it though...	/r/seduction	03/06/20 04:31 PM