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Basic Questionfeddyman_1216/r/askMRP21/04/26 01:56 PM
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Basic Questionfeddyman_1216/r/askMRP21/06/23 02:27 PM
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Basic Questionfeddyman_1216/r/askMRP23/06/23 12:15 AM
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Thanks. Had a friend go through a similar experience. Had me shocked but immediately that's where my money went.
/r/askMRP23/04/26 12:54 PM
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Thanks man. Definitely got my antennas up now.
/r/askMRP23/04/26 12:53 PM
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That may be the move. Thanks!
/r/askMRP23/04/26 12:52 PM
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So I'm not the only one who thinks this should make you paranoid? Haha
/r/askMRP21/04/26 04:26 PM
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Not at all actually. That's the one thing that's always been alive.
/r/askMRP21/04/26 04:26 PM
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OYS #6 43 yo, Married 19 yrs, 2 kids (18m, 11f) 6'1 220 lbs Read: RM series, NMMNG, WISNIFG, Rian Stone series, WOTSM Posted in last week's OYS the other day and made a comment about being "bored with life" and not having a male group to do things with. After thinking about things and reading some MRP sidebar, I realized I'm making excuses. There are so many things I can do in/around the house and more activities I could be doing outside that don't require anyone else. My issue is I've become to…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/03/26 02:12 PM
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OYS #5 43 yo, Married 19 yrs, 2 kids (18m, 11f) 6'1 220 lbs Read: RM series, NMMNG, WISNIFG, Rian Stone series, WOTSM Lifting: Been back in the gym 4-5 times a week. Finally back to 2 plates on the bench after a shoulder injury. Squats still need work but im getting there (have torn both Achilles). Overall I'm seeing results and so is my wife (and other women). Kids: Son is a freshman in college. Still working on bonding with the adult in him. I'm sure it's not uncommon to have to restructure yo…
/r/MarriedRedPill10/03/26 02:23 PM
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Ok. Well at any rate I hope you get out there and kill it! Take care.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/07/25 01:35 PM
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Saying things like that undermine whatever comes next. Not helpful to the listener. I didn't give any advice, I answered a question (with accuracy might I add). I will however refrain from doing so in the near future. I'll consider this the end of this exchange. I came here to get tools to stop answering to my wife, not start answering to you, haha. Thanks for the lesson though.
/r/askMRP09/07/25 02:12 PM
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Congrats! Wish you the best moving forward. Did the fact that she had an affair alter anything during the legal process? Or did it not factor in?
/r/MarriedRedPill09/07/25 01:03 PM
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I'll read these. And yeah I remember hearing that from the OGs here my first go-round. I'll admit that concept is less frightening to me now, which is already progress. I guess it's the ultimate form of OI for us married guys, but you're right I've gotten to the point where I need to change myself for myself....or be miserable. Those are my options. Thanks again!
/r/MarriedRedPill08/07/25 06:14 PM
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That's actually the complete essence of what I want him to know. Consider that one stolen! Like a lot of men in here my father wasn't around (passed away) when I was my son's age and for some reason I've found it more difficult to connect with him over the last 2-3 years. I know 100% it's from issues I had with my father not being around and my own fear of "ruining" my relationship with my son. It's NMMNG Daddy Issue Psychology 101....but I'll push through it and set an example for him to use go…
/r/MarriedRedPill08/07/25 05:25 PM
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OYS #5 42 y/o 6'0", 210 lbs, 21% bf Married 18 yrs, together 20 2 kids: 17m, 11f Read(ing): NMMNG, WISNIFG, Rian Stone Praxaeolgy Series, RM books 1, 2 and ; WOTSM, PFP -OYS 5.1: I need to stop letting every little thing my wife does and says affect me. Mitigation: STFU, working on OI, and using outlets to remove myself from her/situation (i.e. gym, driving range, walk around the damn block) -OYS 5.2: I need to step up and rebuild the connection with my son before he departs for college. We used…
/r/MarriedRedPill08/07/25 02:15 PM
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Got it Yoda...haha. much to learn I have.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/07/25 05:33 PM
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Yeah I have about 5 different theories running in my head. The closest one so far is: -It's a form of Dread. Because you're not denying that you COULD cheat, only ensuring her that if you did, you'd be honest about it. So, in a way, you pass a comfort test while still keeping the hamster working in your advantage... Probably not it, but still makes some sense.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/07/25 03:24 PM
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I dont think most guys here really understand the first sentence and what it really means. Enlighten me because I just read it, and understand the basic explanation but seems like you're talking a little more beneath the surface
/r/MarriedRedPill06/07/25 12:42 PM
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Thanks. I'd actually seen that while reading. Haven't gotten to it yet. But yeah that's something I'm going to have to more effectively deal with .
/r/MarriedRedPill06/07/25 12:37 PM
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OYS #4 42 y/o, Married 18 years, 2 kids (17 M, 11 F) 6'0" 210 20% bf Read(ing): RM series, NMMNG, WISNIFG, Rian Stone Praxaeolgy books 1 & 2 ->Currently re-reading Frame. Workouts: Recovered from a nasty infection (wipe down the gym equipment or learn the hard way). Was able to get back in the gym this week for weight training. Squat 200lbs, bench 225 lbs along with isolating smaller muscle groups. When I wasn't able to hit the gym, I was doing small weights, high reps , and pull-ups and dips in…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/07/25 09:22 PM
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I do actually.
/r/askMRP03/07/25 01:09 PM
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Haha. Got it. Thanks bro!
/r/askMRP02/07/25 08:34 PM
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Sorry if I'm autistic, but what exactly is the question? In my no-so-expert opinion, women complain about their men because: -They are trying to undermine and disrespect him (if others are around) -Shit test to see how he reacts to it (duh) -They actually like what they're complaining about but don't want him/others to know -They are trying to throw OTHER WOMEN off their man's scent. As a woman's friends can sometimes be her main competition (iykyk) -They're just bored and need something to comp…
/r/askMRP02/07/25 01:55 PM
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Thanks man. Preaching the gospel. For know, I STFU, sidebar, and lift!
/r/MarriedRedPill26/06/25 04:43 PM
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I can do all the "work" and continue to get better, but like most of us, I probably won't be able to answer that question until literally and figuratively passing tests. My decision to go back to square one is a result of having a blow up so bad it made me question if I'd accomplished anything I set out to achieve. It was the most basic of comfort tests, but I completely worked from her frame and started answer question after question like an interview until I finally blew up. I immediately knew…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/06/25 03:15 PM
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OYS # 3 or 4 (updated as I added yesterday but it's a new week) 42 y/o Married 18 yrs 2 kids 17(m), 11(f) Hit the gym 4-5 times/week for lifting, 1 day cardio Read RM series, WISNIFG, Praxaeolgy Series, NMMNG Career: Going well. Waiting to hear about a possible promotion. Also weighing retirement (Military) Family: Son starts college in the fall, excited for him to go into the deep end of the pool. Daughter is also doing well, getting into a mouthy phase with my wife so I have to step in and cor…
/r/MarriedRedPill24/06/25 12:46 PM
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OYS # (can't remember it's been awhile) 42 y/o, 6'0", 210 lbs Married 18 yrs 2 kids 17(m), 11(f) Hit the gym 4-5 times/week for lifting, 1 day cardio Read RM series, WISNIFG, Praxaeolgy Series, NMMNG Confession: I'm a Dancing Monkey. A year or so back I joined MRP and got some great tools, advice to help me stop being a BP b*tch living in my wife's frame, failing basic shit tests, and DEERing my ass off. I read the sidebar, STFU, lifted and got better and even ran some dread on the wife leading …
/r/MarriedRedPill23/06/25 07:16 PM
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PSA: get more male friends and you won't have to ask us this question. The thing about understanding boundaries is being aware that others have them to. If you being friends with other women is a boundary for her, then decide if you want to keep her or continue to have female friends. If she has an issue with it, address it, if not? Don't overthink it.
/r/askMRP24/04/24 09:03 PM
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Stay plan is the same as the go plan. Work on you and continue to be observant of her ACTIONS. Sometimes those will confirm or deny any suspicions in the absence of evidence. Spot any noticeable changes in behavior and ask questions - it may lead to you gathering more info, may not. But at worst it's practice for the next woman if you ever have a reason to move on. But one thing I've learned that has always been right is the Medium is the Message. You don't need to play detective but just observ…
/r/askMRP18/03/24 05:31 PM
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Sidebar (hard copy if you can), lift, hobbies. Why?? Because it's an easy way to have "other shit to do" when you don't want to be around that shit. Time and attention. Not money, not jewelry, not sex. Women run on the fuel of time and attention. If you take that shit away, and only give it to her as an award for desired behavior, you'll see changes. The best way to take away time and attention? Having "other shit to do" (see the top of my post) See how it comes full circle?
/r/askMRP23/01/24 05:21 PM
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Here's the thing man. Doing what you want means exactly that. If you want to go on trips or go to parties, do it. You shouldn't let her responses (or fear of) dictate your actions. I'd only add that if what you want is to party and go out, then you're probably better off being single. If she's crazy and jealous, you're probably better off being single If you're in a relationship and can't get out of her frame, you're probably better off being single Starting to get my point? Do you NEED to be wi…
/r/askMRP23/01/24 05:01 PM
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It can be a CC if that's your expectation and you haven't communicated it to her. CCs are simply your uncommunicated expectations of others in response to your actions. First thing you need to do is communicate that expectation. My wife stayed at home after our second child was born, and she fully expected to do things around the house while I worked. If she didn't I either pointed it out or.....work with me here....just did it myself. If she's the least bit self aware, you coming home from work…
/r/askMRP23/01/24 04:48 PM
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I'm fairly new to MRP, about a year now. And I had the same issues with always feeling like I have to DEER and thinking that by doing it I'm "winning" and being THE MAN. After MRP and Sidebar, I realized the only way to undo this is with days, weeks, even months of STFU, AM, and A&A. Basically, I just stopped taking everything my wife did and said so seriously. These guys are right, treat her like the teenager she is sometimes and save your GAS tank for shit that really matters (only you can be …
/r/askMRP12/09/23 05:55 PM
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I wouldn't do it man. My experience years ago with this is that you'll likely get two outcomes: 1) it'll just serve as a way for her to complain about all the things you're not doing. What you feel won't matter 2) in the unlikely event that she sees her faults, it will just anger her more because seeing her own faults isn't her desired outcome It's a lose-lose. Work on your frame, lift, and get better. That's the only way to really change things. I went through a rough patch in my marriage and t…
/r/askMRP28/08/23 07:54 PM
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CCs span all types of relationships, not just intimate ones. Bottom line is anything you do, let it be because that's what made you happy or what you wanted to do, regardless of outcome/appreciation/reciprocation. Compliments, gifts, attention, affection, favors, etc. Anytime you do anything with an unwritten/unspoken expectation for the other person to reciprocate, it becomes a CC. Those will ruin relationships, and most importantly your confidence. As a recovering Nice Guy, trust me there was …
/r/askMRP25/08/23 04:29 PM
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It's a good book. I've read it. The important part is that it teaches you we're all a part of this big social machine called life. And sometimes understanding how to interact with others can make the game less complicated at times. If you're looking for the secret to ________, you won't find it in this book. It's just good knowledge and stories about ways to navigate different personalities and situations. Take that for what it's worth to you. Enjoy the day homies!
/r/askMRP21/08/23 04:25 PM
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This one lost me. I can't even figure out what you're trying to communicate, much less what you actually wrote.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/08/23 04:21 PM
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Nah, this ain't the middle ages man. But to each his own. Club the bitch on the head and drag her to the cave for all I care. Never any issues in my sex life so just offering my two pennies homie.
/r/askMRP08/08/23 03:53 AM
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I don't think anything. You said when you have something in mind she says "no", and it bothers you. That could be interpreted as her going "off script" and not following your demands. Covert contracts come in many forms. Seems like you're thinking "if I do this, then she should like it, and if she doesn't, then she's disrespecting me" If you don't feel like that's the case it's ok. Take it or leave it.
/r/askMRP04/08/23 02:53 PM
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Don't know about specific "material" you need, but sex is at its best when it's organic. If you're inside your head and thinking too much about what you're doing, it kills the spontaneity. Stop choreographing sex with her like some kind of checklist of positions. That may make it feel routine to her and kill her mood. If you're in one position and she feels good and is about to cum, and you change it up, that's like hitting the reset button for her and she may never get that feeling back. Also m…
/r/askMRP04/08/23 01:57 PM
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Man fucks these hos. You were in the wrong too, but still fuck em. Just know when you get in sticky situations with a woman at work, tread on the side of caution. Almost lost my career due to a foul bitch making shit up after I had to reprimand her. Look at yourself. What did you do wrong? What could you have done better afterwards? etc. RP is all about being a better man and understanding female nature. You failed this test homie. Dust off and move on....
/r/TheRedPill26/07/23 06:47 PM
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Legendary post....LMAO!
/r/askMRP21/07/23 12:06 PM
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Do us all a favor, for the next week focus on YOU! Don't initiate sex. If it happens, great. Don't disclose your feelings/butthurt...just stfu Don't think about what she's feeling Do what makes you happy, like BJJ, gym, etc Bonus: If you work from home, leave a couple days and work from a coffee shop or public place (if possible). Get away from her. Bottom line is you gotta sidebar, lift, etc, etc. But you gotta break up this pattern you're in and get out of her damn frame! As Rollo famously say…
/r/askMRP19/07/23 05:57 PM
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Lift, sidebar, stfu, oys, and post stats and details next time. Wife probably knows she has to fuck you but is repulsed by the thought of it, so the less she has to hear about it prior to, the better for her. In all seriousness, words don't have the same effect on women as they do men. Tease and flirt with her throughout the day, smack her ass, grab her from behind and kiss her while she's cooking...shit like that. Most women aren't going to slide off their chair from you telling her you're goin…
/r/askMRP18/07/23 10:09 AM
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First off, keep taking care of yourself. It's a broken record but lift and sidebar is key. Second, close your eyes...imagine for a minute your wife was just a plate you were spinning. She's busy, and you're busy living your life. When you do have the opportunity to have sex, blow her back out and leave her wondering wtf just happened to her. Then get up, wash up, and go to bed or even better leave the room and go do something if it isn't late. Bottom line is, married or not, women are turned on …
/r/askMRP14/07/23 02:54 PM
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The shit tests are a constant thing. Once you pass a few you'll get a false sense of comfort and they'll ramp back up with more intensity. Bottom line is if she's reacting with anger towards having sex with you that's a no-go. Lift, eat right, and focus on improving. With that your confidence will grow and usually so will the attention you receive from other women. This should spark some anxiety in her to want to jump your bone. If that doesn't work, then continue improving and living life, doin…
/r/askMRP05/07/23 07:21 PM
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So I would given the length of your career, you are in some form of leadership position? If one of juniors came and ask you to teach them something who you rub their face in it? What is it about this that so difficult? Classic Nice Guy tendencies: That is correct, been in leadership for about the last decade. Currently an Office in Charge of my unit. And no I wouldn't rub it in anyone's face, I actually enjoy teaching and mentoring....but I'm getting your point here. I guess the difficulty stems…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/06/23 01:54 PM
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Shit you're right my bad. Height: 6'0" Weight: 215 BF: 20% Diet is somewhat clean. Discipline is an issue when running around and just grabbing junk here and there. Trying to get more protein so I supplement with shakes and bars. Also eating alot of chicken and tuna. The sweet tooth and alcohol does me in. Gotta cut down on sweets and limit drinking to social/weekends. Not totally skipping leg day, just doing it once a week at the moment. Doing legs presses, hamstrings, lunges. Squats and calf r…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/06/23 01:47 PM
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Appreciate that. This is solid advice. Thanks G. Why steer clear of TRM? Just aksing.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/06/23 12:36 PM
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He says that because by constantly saying what "she" thinks means you're operating in her frame, not yours. Regardless of what "she" thinks the question is...what do YOU think? How do YOU want to improve? Etc. Maybe what "she" thinks isn't always reasonable so if you gauge your value based on her thoughts and words, you'll never be happy. I'm new here but I've managed to grasp that concept thus far. Good luck bro!
/r/askMRP25/06/23 06:43 PM
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Lmao @ "wreck her". Good stuff!
/r/MarriedRedPill25/06/23 03:57 AM
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Bet! Thanks G
/r/askMRP24/06/23 01:15 AM
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OYS #1 Been on here a few days. Already fucked up and probably posted shit too soon before getting the "temperature of the room". Thought now was a good time to post my first OYS. 40 y/o; married 16 years, wife 36 y/o. 2 kids- 15 boy and 9 girl (ages) Read: NMMNG, TRM, sidebar Reading: TRM-PM, Ethos of Men (short but good) Why I'm here: I got to a point where I felt like something was missing. I have a great career, pretty good marriage, great kids, etc. But as I've gotten older I realized that …
/r/MarriedRedPill24/06/23 01:14 AM
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Thanks G.
/r/askMRP23/06/23 04:50 PM
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Gold!
/r/askMRP23/06/23 03:21 PM
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Ouch! That hurt so good. Thanks G
/r/askMRP23/06/23 02:48 PM
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Thanks bro
/r/askMRP23/06/23 02:47 PM
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Been with my wife for 11 years. Married 1 year, and just had our first child Going back to this. That's a pretty long time to be with someone prior to marrying. Did you decide to get married after she got pregnant? Just sounds like she's been with you a while, hit Epiphany, got knocked up, then decided to marry you for BB. You're a commodity in her life now. Work on you and bould that bond with your kid. Wives come and go, but the kid will always be yours. Your kid will thrive most in a house wi…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/06/23 01:49 PM
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Haha! Got it.
/r/askMRP23/06/23 12:31 PM
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I don't feel so bad about my last two posts now....
/r/askMRP23/06/23 10:30 AM
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Nice!
/r/askMRP23/06/23 10:03 AM
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This can happen for a couple reasons: 1) She doesn't find you attractive anymore (unlikely but possible) 2) She doesn't find herself attractive anymore One thing we forget is that women that feel sexy usually behave sexy and are more sexual. So keep working on you of course... but that baby shit fucks with a woman's head. So now and then slap her on the ass, grope her tits, tell her how good that dress looks. Make her feel like an object of sex and she may loosen up and rock your world.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/06/23 03:24 AM
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Establishing boundaries. I get it. Working on it.
/r/askMRP23/06/23 02:28 AM
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I'll try it and report back. It goes back to the boundaries thing. Trying to enforce them is hard when you've never really had to do it.
/r/askMRP23/06/23 02:27 AM
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Yup. I do.
/r/askMRP22/06/23 11:35 AM
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Bro! You ain't lying. I've been unplugged for about a month and seems like there's monsters in every closet. Gotta calm down a bit.
/r/askMRP22/06/23 02:48 AM
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That's 100. Trying to keep from going Rambo over everything. Once you unplug seems like it's danger everywhere at first.
/r/askMRP22/06/23 02:43 AM
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There are very few people in the history of civilization that don't have any sexual desire. This is probably due to: 1) She's not confident in her body or looks and that makes her feel less of a sexual being. Typically the woman that's confident in her looks knows she's an object of sexual desire and plays into it. 2) There's nothing about you/your relationship that gives her Gina tingles. Period. Work on you. Lift. Be attractive. Create some anxiety in her. Hell let her "catch" you watching por…
/r/askMRP21/06/23 10:09 PM
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I'd say just focus on you and your mission. Lift, work on game and the competition anxiety may move her to hear you out and put some meat on those bones. The fact that she knows you don't find her sexually attractive and is not willing to adjust accordingly is not a good sign though. Genuine desire is not just sexual, but in her desire to please and accommodate you. Absent that, there's no overt threat that will make her change.
/r/askMRP21/06/23 10:00 PM
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Yeah man. Trying to shoot that hamster down! I have a tendency to overthink. Thanks G
/r/askMRP21/06/23 09:52 PM
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My guess is your hamster is going rambo bc you've been consuming a lot of RP material Probably right here.
/r/askMRP21/06/23 09:51 PM
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Yeah. Good call on that one.
/r/askMRP21/06/23 06:00 PM
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Yes.
/r/askMRP21/06/23 05:20 PM
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I saw pictures, and a few of them were taken with random guys at the bar they were at. She said it was "all in fun" and that she didn't even want to take them. Make of it what you will.... Other than that I have nothing to go off but past history and her story.
/r/askMRP21/06/23 04:50 PM
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I respect that. I'm sure we've all experienced things that don't pass the smell check with women. Thanks G
/r/askMRP21/06/23 04:21 PM
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OYS Disclaimer: I cheated on her a few years back with a married woman so it's probably the "little bitch" voice in my head telling me she did it too. Other than that I'm killing it at the gym, at work, with my finances, etc. I'm learning this RP game and my life has already shown some improvements. Don't have a huge network of guys to bounce this shit off of, so I decided to post this basic ass question/scenario to see what the MRP community thinks. Thanks fellas!
/r/askMRP21/06/23 04:17 PM
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Edited.
/r/askMRP21/06/23 03:19 PM
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Looking back at it you're right
/r/askMRP21/06/23 03:15 PM
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