femmecheng Archive

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4	Gender neutral "Be Smart" rape prevention campaign does not exclude male victims! Ireland doing it right. Ireland's almost always done this shit right. We never bought into liberalism and feminism, especially the current wave. That explains the no abortion laws...	/r/MensRights	08/12/13 05:18 AM
5	Funny how stupid something can sound when you apply the same logic elsewhere - Kidwalk Ah, that would make more sense.	/r/MensRights	07/12/13 07:25 PM
1	Funny how stupid something can sound when you apply the same logic elsewhere - Kidwalk I don't expect analogies to be perfect, but this is still a bad one.	/r/MensRights	07/12/13 07:25 PM
3	Funny how stupid something can sound when you apply the same logic elsewhere - Kidwalk This is just...bad. RE: freedom to play in traffic Implies that women want to do inherently dangerous things and not just live their lives RE: tell strangers not to danger us Implies that strangers are the most likely to commit rape RE: don't tell me to not accept candy I'm assuming this is referring to women wanting to wear what they want, which implies that clothing has a causal relationsip with rape, which we know it doesn't RE: don't tell me to look both ways, tell cars to stop hitting us Im…	/r/MensRights	07/12/13 05:23 PM
3	TRP ignores 'the wall' for men and assumes men's "SMV" is mostly age irrelevant A) older men are still fertile and do not have the same difficulty in conceiving a baby as a woman of a similar age, and The idea is that fertility is very important for marriage. I'm just going to throw this out there. Relevant points: Take this often-cited statistic: one out of three women over the age of 35 will not have conceived after a year of trying. The data on which that statistic is based is from 1700s France. there are some studies which have looked at modern couples, and these do pai…	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/12/13 04:16 AM
1	Can I encourage all MRAs to spend a little time helping men in crisis at r/suicidewatch? Use of mental health resources may be a significant contributor to gendered suicide rates in the US. Studies have shown that females are 13-21% more likely than males to receive a psychiatric affective diagnosis.[18] While 72-89% of females will have contact with a mental health professional at some point in their life, only 41-58% of males will make use of this resource That's the paragraph I quoted to indicate that women most likely have more access to pills. It also doesn't mean that men don'…	/r/MensRights	03/12/13 02:33 AM
2	Can I encourage all MRAs to spend a little time helping men in crisis at r/suicidewatch? You've been a user for an hour...so I'm not sure what exactly you did come here for besides berating me.	/r/MensRights	01/12/13 03:33 PM
2	Can I encourage all MRAs to spend a little time helping men in crisis at r/suicidewatch? Parasuicide means attempting suicide more than once. So this means that only looking at people who attempt suicide and not how many times they attempt it, women attempt suicide twice as many times as men.	/r/MensRights	01/12/13 03:26 PM
2	Can I encourage all MRAs to spend a little time helping men in crisis at r/suicidewatch? You fucking retard. You pathetic, intelligence insulting piece of shit. I came here for a respectful discussion, not to sling shit at someone. Have a good day.	/r/MensRights	01/12/13 03:23 PM
0	Can I encourage all MRAs to spend a little time helping men in crisis at r/suicidewatch? I didnt say there wasn't. You implied it by saying men had more 'mental conviction'. I think there is a lot of nuance to this situation. There's no use trying to explain the disparity by talking about guns when the same disparity exists in countries without guns I gave you reasons why you should consider why that disparity exists. Women kill themselves with guns more often when they have access to them (as in, they aren't outlawed). You don't seem to think this can be applied to a more micro-lev…	/r/MensRights	30/11/13 11:33 PM
-1	Can I encourage all MRAs to spend a little time helping men in crisis at r/suicidewatch? I'd love to point out that in the Uk we still the same disparity despite much less access to guns than US women do. Despite literally two paragraphs above: "Firearms, a highly lethal method, ranked the third among males (9.7%) and were rarely used among females (1.3%) in EAAD countries combined. In the United States, respective proportions were much higher—63.1% and 37.2%." In the US where guns are much more readily available to women than in the UK (EAAD refers to Europe), women kill themselves…	/r/MensRights	30/11/13 07:25 PM
0	Can I encourage all MRAs to spend a little time helping men in crisis at r/suicidewatch? Suicide, to steal Wiki's definition, comes from the Latin, "to kill oneself", is the act of intentionally causing one's own death. Suicide isn't a mental state, its not a disease. Its the act. That's why I made the distinction between attempting and "succeeding" (I put quotations around succeeding since succeed implies something positive and I don't think this a positive thing). As well, just for something to think about: However, while common, Lebacqz & Englehardt argue that referring to suicid…	/r/MensRights	30/11/13 06:10 PM
5	Can I encourage all MRAs to spend a little time helping men in crisis at r/suicidewatch? Its kind of like if you wanted to know the number of deaths in a population caused by a certain disease. The question was about who was affected. If you wanted stats on the % of people from each gender who were affected, you don't look at only the people who died. Instead, you look at who was affected, who got help for the disease in question, and who died and state that when claiming statistics. As well, men tend to own more firearms than women and there have been correlations between owning fi…	/r/MensRights	30/11/13 03:34 AM
9	Can I encourage all MRAs to spend a little time helping men in crisis at r/suicidewatch? The reported difference in suicide rates for males and females is partially a result of the methods used by each gender. Although females attempt suicide at a higher rate, they are more likely to use methods that are less immediately lethal. Males frequently complete suicide via high mortality actions such as hanging, carbon-monoxide poisoning, and gun violence. This is in contrast to females, who tend to rely on drug overdosing.[13] While overdosing can be deadly, it is less immediate and there…	/r/MensRights	30/11/13 02:05 AM
-1	Can I encourage all MRAs to spend a little time helping men in crisis at r/suicidewatch? I made this statement in reply to someone else. If by 'more affected' he was referring to severity of outcome, then yes, men are more affected by suicide. I though (perhaps wrongly) that he was implying that more men than women are affected by an incident of suicide, which is false (since I showed that women attempt suicide more often). It was ambiguous and perhaps I jumped the gun on it, but I hope it's more clear now.	/r/MensRights	29/11/13 11:57 PM
0	Can I encourage all MRAs to spend a little time helping men in crisis at r/suicidewatch? I guess if by 'more affected' he was referring to the severity of outcome, then yes, men are more affected by suicide. I (perhaps wrongly) thought he meant that 'more affected' indicated more men than women are affected by an incident of suicide, which is false. Either way, this shouldn't be a divisive issue. People need help, let's do our best to help them :)	/r/MensRights	29/11/13 10:42 PM
2	Can I encourage all MRAs to spend a little time helping men in crisis at r/suicidewatch? I did some further probing, and I found that when accounting for parasuicide, the rate between males and females shifts to 1:2. Either way, I don't want to turn this into something, I just wanted to show why he was wrong. I agree with what you said. If someone's contemplating suicide, I see no reason not to help, regardless of gender. At that point they're just a human being in need of some solace and support.	/r/MensRights	29/11/13 10:39 PM
12	Can I encourage all MRAs to spend a little time helping men in crisis at r/suicidewatch? Except that men are, by and large, more affected by suicide than women are. No. In the Western world, males die three to four times more often by means of suicide than do females, although females attempt suicide four times more often. Just go there and help people.	/r/MensRights	29/11/13 07:36 PM
5	TIL that men are totally and completely disposable in American Society today. Reminds me of this article Let's say that the person you love the most has just been shot. He or she is lying in the street, bleeding and screaming. A guy rushes up and says, "Step aside." He looks over your loved one's bullet wound and pulls out a pocket knife -- he's going to operate right there in the street. "OK, which one is the injured one?" You ask, "Are you a doctor?" The guy says, "No." You say, "But you know what you're doing, right? You're an old Army medic, or ..." At this point the …	/r/MensRights	22/11/13 03:33 PM
3	Huge archive of proof that discredits most Feminist/Misandrist arguments In America there are over 270 women’s commissions, but only one for men in New Hampshire. ...Yeah, while I appreciate the bevy of links, most of it doesn't seem usable.	/r/MensRights	20/11/13 04:01 PM
-1	Girl on my FB. Sending her flowers right this instant You are the one who brought the stat up to try and use as a counter-argument therefore the burden of proof is on YOU to show that your stat actually represents what you say it does. If you actually read my full reply, I stated that I never had an argument in my comment where I posted the stats (go back and check). Everyone was complaining about no one posting them, so I did. That's all. I left the interpretation up to everyone else. Then you said "First, just because there's a lot of agreement o…	/r/MensRights	12/11/13 10:15 PM
0	Girl on my FB. Sending her flowers right this instant First, just because there's a lot of agreement outside of court doesn't mean that an anti-male court isn't necessarily involved. Yes, I know this. But you're going to have to show me that it does in fact exist. If the people making these decisions already know about the court being sexist then their decisions could very well be coercive. For example, if men know they will be screwed over in court, they may accept being screwed over outside of court because they're screwed either way, but at leas…	/r/MensRights	12/11/13 09:13 PM
0	Boys raped more often than girls "In this category of completed intercourse the boys outnumber the girls 6.7% to 5.6%! " So how does that support this?: "...but that the rate of severe sexual victimization is about the same." I consider a 1.1% difference to be about the same, particularly given the error margin.	/r/MensRights	12/11/13 08:58 PM
4	Boys raped more often than girls Female children: 92% male adult, 8% female adult Male children: 60% male adult, 40% female adult	/r/MensRights	12/11/13 08:55 PM
7	Boys raped more often than girls It actually pointed out the exact opposite...that girls are sexually victimized quite a bit more than boys (though in the lower levels of abuse), but that the rate of severe sexual victimization is about the same. A quick look at the table shows that a total of the various types of abuse sum to 16% of males and 24.7% of the females. But what you find is that 13.2% of the boys experienced this lowest level of abuse and 22.5% of the girls experienced this lowest level of abuse. But look what happe…	/r/MensRights	12/11/13 08:48 PM
-2	Girl on my FB. Sending her flowers right this instant That may be statistically important until you consider that most custody agreements aren't court-sanctioned and are agreed upon by the parents. I could be wrong, but I have seen some child custody documents floating around on this subreddit regarding outcomes when men actually choose to pursue custody, and they have a better chance once it goes to trial...it just rarely goes to trial. So yes, women get custody more often as a whole, but when men try to get custody, they are more likely than wome…	/r/MensRights	12/11/13 05:47 PM
9	Boys raped more often than girls Interesting article, but I always thought the general understanding was that in terms of rape, the most dangerous time for men/boys is when they are children (~age 4) and for women/girls, the most dangerous time is when they are young adults (~age 18), so this falls into that narrative. That being said and I don't intend to undermine this, the rape difference between boys and girls as quoted is 1.1%. Boys are raped more (by an amount not particularly statistically important), so this isn't so mu…	/r/MensRights	12/11/13 05:39 PM
8	Girl on my FB. Sending her flowers right this instant Here's some stats for those interested/so people can move on How is child custody decided? 51% agreed on their own 29% settled without third party involvement 11% decided during mediation 5% resolved differences after a custody evaluation 4% went to trial (of the 4% that initiated litigation, only 1.5% actually completed it)	/r/MensRights	12/11/13 03:51 PM
0	Essentially how it goes. Good point, but I think you'd have to look at more than that. For example, if condoms have a failure rate (typical use) of ~8% more than that of birth control, you'd have to look at how many of those failures result in the actual birth of a child (i.e. how many women don't get abortions) and how much that birth then affects taxpayers (or how much the abortion costs insurance payers). Additionally, look at how often STIs are transmitted through casual sex and the cost of treating that vs. providi…	/r/MensRights	11/11/13 06:55 PM
1	Essentially how it goes. Monogamous relationships are in fact still a thing.	/r/MensRights	11/11/13 06:24 PM
1	Essentially how it goes. Because the pill is more effective. Additionally, most guys would prefer to have sex while the woman is on birth control than to have sex using a condom as a sole source of protection.	/r/MensRights	11/11/13 06:07 PM
1	Essentially how it goes. Yep and you can generally find free condoms. See: university campuses, planned parenthood clinics, doctor's office, etc. I think most people who support the idea of birth control being covered by insurance would also support the idea of free condoms.	/r/MensRights	11/11/13 05:59 PM
3	Essentially how it goes. they get jobs they wouldn't normally take, That doesn't work when you suddenly have a much larger pool of candidates because of unwanted babies...	/r/MensRights	11/11/13 04:41 PM
1	Essentially how it goes. You may not use it directly, but if you plan on having sexual relations with a woman and expect her to use birth control, you are certainly a beneficiary of it.	/r/MensRights	11/11/13 04:33 PM
5	Another reason false rape claims are so horrendous. They destroy the credibility of actual rape victims. I don't think she was pretending it was avoidable...I think she's discussing how it made her feel and the injustice of having undergone that and then not having the evidence tested.	/r/MensRights	10/11/13 10:23 PM
6	Another reason false rape claims are so horrendous. They destroy the credibility of actual rape victims. The reason this is bad reporting is that if you imply something is bad, you imply it should be changed. Or if a victim implies something is bad, we can acknowledge the reality of the situation and allow others to empathize with what has happened while understanding there is currently no other way to go about it. It's certainly an unfortunate side effect with this type of crime, but that doesn't mean we shouldn't be discussing it.	/r/MensRights	10/11/13 10:17 PM
5	Another reason false rape claims are so horrendous. They destroy the credibility of actual rape victims. That's not a proper analogy...she was a victim, not a suspect, reporting a crime (before she got the filing a false rape accusation against her). Murder suspects aren't generally the ones reporting the crime.	/r/MensRights	10/11/13 09:30 PM
11	Another reason false rape claims are so horrendous. They destroy the credibility of actual rape victims. She did undergo the standard procedure of an investigation. She made the comment that it felt degrading. That's her interpretation of it. How is that a problem?	/r/MensRights	10/11/13 09:29 PM
1	We have a responsibility to start using the phrase "Genital Mutilation" and not Fe/male Genital Mutilation. Practical answer: transmission from the mother Contextual answer: they wouldn't	/r/MensRights	10/11/13 09:24 PM
1	Another reason false rape claims are so horrendous. They destroy the credibility of actual rape victims. I think that harmless (as in no-one was arrested), widely published false accusations, especially those that waste a lot of police time, are a very, very good thing. Wow, really? Because if you aren't arrested, there are no other repercussions! Let's waste police officer's time and drag an innocent person's name through the mud to educate people. There is no better way!	/r/MensRights	10/11/13 09:16 PM
4	Another reason false rape claims are so horrendous. They destroy the credibility of actual rape victims. Honest question-you think a rape victim undergoing what they go through when they report a crime (giving details and being swabbed) is on an equal level of humiliation as what happens when people report other crimes? I disagree with your take-away. The article isn't presenting the investigative procedure as being degrading/intrusive/unreasonable, the victim is. She's not saying it should not to be done, but I think we can all agree that being swabbed after being raped can feel degrading (a neces…	/r/MensRights	10/11/13 07:57 PM
1	I noticed something interesting in my health insurance policy about birth control coverage... Todd Akin's statement was in regards to women becoming pregnant from rape, which isn't relevant to what I said. I'm stating that there are some natural ways to induce an abortion.	/r/MensRights	06/11/13 06:44 PM
3	I noticed something interesting in my health insurance policy about birth control coverage... I worked in a hospital one summer in the operating ward. The particular hospital I worked at specialized in ENT, gynecological, urological, orthopedics and a few other specialties. The vast majority of the women who had oopherectomies/hysterectomies were doing so for cancer reasons (I actually shadowed a surgeon during an oopherectomy. The woman had ovarian cancer before and the procedure was a preventative measure to ensure it didn't come back). Obviously that's not true in all cases, but that …	/r/MensRights	06/11/13 06:08 PM
0	I noticed something interesting in my health insurance policy about birth control coverage... women simply don't posses the ability to induce abortions on her own. They do though.	/r/MensRights	06/11/13 06:01 PM
10	MRA's, please don't do this! What other groups within MRA do you think give us a bad name? I don't think you can deny that there was a patriarchy in Western society and still is a patriarchy in a lot of developing countries. I think most MRAs denounce that there is currently a patriarchy in Western society.	/r/MensRights	03/11/13 05:20 PM
4	Never realized how badly I was being treated... In regards to #2: but the point still stands that if she did get pregnant, she'd be keeping the child, I'd be paying, and it was her that pressured me into making the bad decision, but apparently it's my responsibility and she gets to decide the total outcome? The point still stands that you consented to unprotected sex knowing the risks (STDs, pregnancy) and the options available to you (nearly none). Fair? No. I don't want to lecture you, but do not have sex with someone who is pressuring you …	/r/MensRights	28/10/13 03:22 PM
1	AVFM's Paul Elam on interfering with crimes, particularly rape. Not sure I agree with this either. The context of the response was that there was a group of boys who did nothing to stop, and indeed egged on a rape while it was occurring. If you think they acted right, I don't want to engage in conversation with you.	/r/MensRights	24/10/13 04:07 PM
1	AVFM's Paul Elam on interfering with crimes, particularly rape. Not sure I agree with this either. It was a gender neutral statement. When I asked if you think women standing by when a rape is occurring is wrong, it is implied that I think it is. There is an expectation of involvement if one can do so with no threat to oneself, as in the case of calling the police. My context was clear in my very first statement when I said 'call the police' as a form of intervention. Think what you want.	/r/MensRights	24/10/13 02:31 PM
1	AVFM's Paul Elam on interfering with crimes, particularly rape. Not sure I agree with this either. You're really stretching here, because at this point you're not talking about intervening, which is one of the things the guys were shamed for failing to do. It's a part of the imperative that Paul and John are speaking out against - in this case, it's the act of holding men responsible for the actions of other men. Calling the police is intervening. Intervene: take part in something so as to prevent or alter a result or course of events. By calling the police, you are reporting a crime which wi…	/r/MensRights	24/10/13 02:01 PM
1	AVFM's Paul Elam on interfering with crimes, particularly rape. Not sure I agree with this either. My original statement was: You don't think the guys who watched the Steubenville rape going on and said things on camera like, "She is so raped right now," had any duty to do anything? Call the police in the very least? If you watched a group of women rape a man, would you not find it morally wrong for them to be complacent in view of a crime without any call to action? The implication being that if anyone is watching a crime progress, it is a moral imperative to call the police. This isn't abou…	/r/MensRights	24/10/13 01:44 PM
1	AVFM's Paul Elam on interfering with crimes, particularly rape. Not sure I agree with this either. I explicitly laid out that it does not depend on gender. I see you didn't reply to my other comment where I said it twice. There is nothing for me to backpedal on. I'm not from the againstmensrights subreddit (don't even know where that came from). If you actually went through my history, you would see that I frequent this place.	/r/MensRights	24/10/13 01:20 PM
1	AVFM's Paul Elam on interfering with crimes, particularly rape. Not sure I agree with this either. If you insist on misrepresenting what I said, even though I said regardless of gender we are done. You are justifying your own point by intentionally misunderstanding.	/r/MensRights	24/10/13 12:37 PM
4	AVFM's Paul Elam on interfering with crimes, particularly rape. Not sure I agree with this either. That wouldn't stop the rape No, but as I stated in another comment to you, we do not only call the police when a crime is in the process of being committed. We call the police so they can acquire evidence in a timely fashion and can get relevant witnesses and their stories at the scene of the crime. It is irrelevant whether or not it stops the rape, though in an ideal scenario it would if they called soon enough. It would simply mean that if the rapist was going to retaliate against him for invo…	/r/MensRights	24/10/13 04:16 AM
24	Two men who were wrongfully convicted of rape awarded $10 million for the 17 years they spend in prison after DNA evidence proves they were innocent. xpost-News Absolutely. This is something everyone agrees should be done. It helps protect those wrongly accused of rape and helps rape victims get their real rapist punished using evidence. There is no excuse for so many tests to go untested.	/r/MensRights	24/10/13 04:06 AM
1	AVFM's Paul Elam on interfering with crimes, particularly rape. Not sure I agree with this either. isn't relevant to whether femmecheng's statement proves my point about expectation. The expectation is demonstrated. No, I explicitly stated: "If you watched a group of women rape a man, would you not find it morally wrong for them to be complacent in view of a crime without any call to action?" What expectation am I putting on men to intervene that I do not also place on women? If anyone sees a crime being committed and can help with no harm to themselves, I think they are morally obligated to …	/r/MensRights	24/10/13 03:03 AM
0	AVFM's Paul Elam on interfering with crimes, particularly rape. Not sure I agree with this either. I can absolutely predict that someone could walk away from the scene (large and loud party) and call the police, which puts the caller in no harm. There is no excuse to sit idly by and even egg it on, as the boys in the video were doing.	/r/MensRights	24/10/13 02:54 AM
2	Man rapes girl, is jailed. Wife's complicity isn't important enough for headline I did read it. They both trafficked her. The man additionally raped her. They were not "equally involved in the crime" as you put it. Ilyas and Tallat Ashar brought the girl....Ilyas Ashar, 84, who was found guilty of 13 counts of rape, was jailed for 13 years at Manchester Crown Court. Tallat Ashar, 68, convicted of benefit fraud and trafficking, got five years.	/r/MensRights	24/10/13 02:51 AM
1	AVFM's Paul Elam on interfering with crimes, particularly rape. Not sure I agree with this either. In what world were the guys watching the Steubenville rape going on in any position to risk their life?	/r/MensRights	24/10/13 02:00 AM
0	AVFM's Paul Elam on interfering with crimes, particularly rape. Not sure I agree with this either. Tell it to the guys shamed for not stopping the Steubenville rape. You don't think the guys who watched the Steubenville rape going on and said things on camera like, "She is so raped right now," had any duty to do anything? Call the police in the very least? If you watched a group of women rape a man, would you not find it morally wrong for them to be complacent in view of a crime without any call to action?	/r/MensRights	24/10/13 01:16 AM
99	Two men who were wrongfully convicted of rape awarded $10 million for the 17 years they spend in prison after DNA evidence proves they were innocent. xpost-News This is why rape kits and DNA evidence need to be tested. Both men and women benefit from this.	/r/MensRights	24/10/13 01:04 AM
2	Man rapes girl, is jailed. Wife's complicity isn't important enough for headline I didn't realize that, but the woman didn't conspire to rape the girl...She may have been complicit, but that's not necessarily a crime.	/r/MensRights	24/10/13 12:03 AM
5	Man rapes girl, is jailed. Wife's complicity isn't important enough for headline They weren't equally involved in the crime though. I understand what OP is saying, but the man did additional crime by raping the girl, which the woman did not.	/r/MensRights	23/10/13 10:51 PM
2	Male privilege your question is based on wrong reading, i said "evolutionary advantage" not "advantage" in my original post, there is a difference. my argument is, that a matriarchal society would be here NOW, if it were a viable form of government. the fact that theyre not, tells me that they either never existed, or have been overthrown or conquered. what does this tell us? it tells us that matriarchies are either less respected by their own people or less martial and hence more prone to being overthrown or …	/r/MensRights	21/10/13 04:10 PM
1	Male privilege Your entire answer is circular reasoning-you're using what is to justify what is without answering my question. ok, lets say you are run by women now, what would be different? I don't know. what evidence do you have THAT something would be different? None off-hand, simply speculation that things would be different based on different power dynamics. if matriarchies were viable systems of government, wed have them by now Why? If something worked for a long time, how much time do you give society t…	/r/MensRights	21/10/13 03:07 PM
2	Male privilege im just saying that patriarchies are at the very least the dominant, if not the ONLY system of government, and that there probably is a reason for this. Like what? I can see it being beneficial hundreds of years ago, but what advantage does a patriarchy have in modern society?	/r/MensRights	21/10/13 02:34 PM
8	Male privilege You're using your stat to feed your bias. What it confirms is that women are less likely to be successful at suicide. Anything beyond that without a source is speculation.	/r/MensRights	21/10/13 02:27 PM
5	"Thus it was fine for women to accept alimony from men for a half-century, but when the roles were reversed in only 3 percent of the cases, it was time for reform." TL/DR Running a household is super hard when you have kids, but many women (in my limited experience) do not eagerly find work after kids are self sufficient To play devil's advocate, how do you know this? They may not have jobs, but that doesn't mean they aren't looking. Imagine being 35+ years old with a 10 year gap on your resume. How easy do you think it would be to find work?	/r/MensRights	18/10/13 02:04 PM
19	My 19 year old sister just tweeted this and I couldn't agree more! I agree. You can take this one of two ways: Respect everyone, because you should respect someone until given a reason not to. Respect no one, because you have to earn respect and don't get it by default. I think OP's sister is the latter type of person.	/r/MensRights	13/10/13 10:23 PM
1	Only men should pay! If women have to pay alimony it needs to be reformed. Sympathy means to try to understand something without having experienced it yourself. Empathy means understanding because it has happened to you. So, it shows a lack of sympathy, because until it happened to her, she was unable to understand ti.	/r/MensRights	12/10/13 03:45 PM
1	Only men should pay! If women have to pay alimony it needs to be reformed. Right, I get that, but that doesn't answer my question. How long do we hold people to opinions that they held once upon a time?	/r/MensRights	12/10/13 03:32 AM
0	Only men should pay! If women have to pay alimony it needs to be reformed. However if the women is getting supported and then she initiates the divorce for whatever reason then it seems a little unfair that he has to pay up even though it was her call to abandon their life. You can think of no reason when that seems fair? None at all? Cheating, abuse, etc...	/r/MensRights	12/10/13 02:01 AM
1	Only men should pay! If women have to pay alimony it needs to be reformed. I think it's perfectly fine to demean people who are so ignorant that they have failed to open their eyes for the past several decades I just have to say, most people here haven't been alive for several decades. Where do you draw the line? If someone is 20 and then changes their mind, do they get a pass? 25? 30?	/r/MensRights	12/10/13 01:55 AM
1	Only men should pay! If women have to pay alimony it needs to be reformed. Not to be pedantic, but that's sympathy you're talking about, not empathy.	/r/MensRights	12/10/13 01:52 AM
2	i pay $2,500/ mo to my ex-wife for 1 kid It's not that you don't trust your partner, it's that you realize that situations change and that if something went wrong, people can become bitter. It's realistic.	/r/MensRights	11/10/13 04:38 PM
6	Here's one to rustle the jimmies: Dude in r/confessions gets told "no sex, just friends" before visiting a girl. She instead initiates a blowjob. Thinking sex is now go for launch, he tries for that and she lets him. Next day? "Rape!" People who use oral sex as foreplay.	/r/MensRights	10/10/13 03:50 PM
4	“Women get to decide, you have to convince them,” perspective. This reinforces the perception that men must somehow prove themselves to women and women must somehow be “won over” by a man to have sex with him. This isn’t consent, it’s mutually reinforced manipulation. (Crosspost from r/sex) That's actually a really interesting way to look at it. I've never thought about it like that. It seems...accurate.	/r/MensRights	03/10/13 07:44 PM
1	“Women get to decide, you have to convince them,” perspective. This reinforces the perception that men must somehow prove themselves to women and women must somehow be “won over” by a man to have sex with him. This isn’t consent, it’s mutually reinforced manipulation. (Crosspost from r/sex) Ah, point taken. Thanks for the clarification.	/r/MensRights	03/10/13 06:12 PM
6	“Women get to decide, you have to convince them,” perspective. This reinforces the perception that men must somehow prove themselves to women and women must somehow be “won over” by a man to have sex with him. This isn’t consent, it’s mutually reinforced manipulation. (Crosspost from r/sex) It's funny you say this because just yesterday in the AskReddit thread of "Men of reddit, what were you surprised you had to teach your girlfriend?" a lot of the answers were "she has three holes". Conversely, in the AskWomen thread today of "Women of reddit, what were you surprised you had to teach your boyfriend?", the answers were the same, i.e. "I have three holes". One sex ed teacher replied in the Askreddit thread that a lot of female anatomy is overlooked because in sex ed, it's about pre…	/r/MensRights	03/10/13 06:03 PM
2	How Feminism Has Failed Our Children 5) Modern feminism devalues nurturing children, which is harmful. I really beg to differ. Just a couple days ago this thread came up. Look at the comments that are being upvoted (mainly said by one person) Childcare performed by women is primarily done for the benefit of women. Children's well-being and food are mainly a matter of financial contributions supplied by the man. The labor is not that big of a deal You can follow everything he said. It seems like /r/mensrights was devaluing nurturing…	/r/MensRights	03/10/13 01:52 AM
3	Dear MRA The problem with being nice and positive is that it doesn't work, it doesn't achieve anything. I don't necessarily agree with you on this point, however, this is what people in this subreddit constantly criticize feminists for. There's always talk about the "angry feminists" but now it seems like you're saying it's ok for MRA to be angry because it promotes change, yet we demonize feminists for the same thing...	/r/MensRights	03/10/13 01:44 AM
3	TIL by 2020 women will control 0.77 of every dollar wealth in America. Up from 60% of wealth in 2008. when in reality nothing you mention comes close to equating to a fulltime job. You're really shitting all over stay-at-home moms here. It's not a full-time job for someone with no kids, but if a woman stays home with one, two, three, or more kids who are too young to go to daycare and she does so with no help, that IS a full-time job.	/r/MensRights	30/09/13 05:55 PM
7	Two months ago I made an infographic on male privilege, well, it sucked, so here's a new and better one! [Fixed] You probably heard a woman say that once. "Women have always been the primary victims of war. Women lose their husbands, their fathers, their sons in combat. Women often have to flee from the only homes they have ever known. Women are often the refugees from conflict and sometimes, more frequently in today’s warfare, victims. Women are often left with the responsibility, alone, of raising the children." Hillary Clinton	/r/MensRights	26/09/13 02:28 PM
5	Two months ago I made an infographic on male privilege, well, it sucked, so here's a new and better one! [Fixed] men are responsible for female sexuality having any value. I think that's biology. But honestly, if my boyfriend said something like that to me, I would be upset. He should see sex as something he wants, not something he "gives me" to make me happy. It should be mutually beneficial.	/r/MensRights	26/09/13 02:12 PM
16	27 Male Survivors Of Sexual Assault Quoting The People Who Attacked Them Why does it matter who the rapist was? This is focused on men sharing their stories as survivors, not about the irrelevant rapist. You also probably shouldn't be judging whether or not you can take someone seriously based on their face.	/r/MensRights	25/09/13 04:24 AM
7	Ok that's great... wait what!?!? While this is absolutely pathetic, Facebook isn't the best for getting rid of hate pages based on gender (this goes for both men and women). I've only seen them do it when it completely blew up in the media, and even then, it was only for a page or two.	/r/MensRights	24/09/13 06:26 PM
6	Suck it up and pay To be fair, getting a prescription for birth control involves going in every three months (and we all know how long it takes at the GP's office), isn't always covered by health insurance, and if you're a shy person, you have to admit you're doing this to someone else.	/r/MensRights	19/09/13 09:07 PM
1	Suck it up and pay You're going to have to elaborate for me. From Wikipedia: Due to the simplicity of the surgery, a vasectomy usually takes less than 30 minutes to complete. After a short recovery at the doctor's office (usually less than an hour), the patient is sent home to rest. Because the procedure is minimally invasive, many vasectomy patients find that they can resume their typical sexual behavior within a week, and do so with minimal discomfort.	/r/MensRights	19/09/13 08:57 PM
6	Suck it up and pay Yes.	/r/MensRights	19/09/13 08:46 PM
-5	Suck it up and pay Mad that while the woman has many, many options when pregnant That's because only one person becomes pregnant...	/r/MensRights	19/09/13 06:29 PM
-6	Suck it up and pay Surgery is fairly major. Most surgeries are, but a vasectomy is like getting your wisdom teeth out. Can be done with localized anesthesia, in-and-out within half a day, generally ok to do anything after a few days, etc. It's really not a big deal. Edit: Guys, really. If you're going to downvote me, please tell me why. Literally zero of my friends have any qualms about vasectomies and everyone I know considers it a painless, quick, easy, effective surgery.	/r/MensRights	19/09/13 06:28 PM