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4

It would only concern me is that number was 0. Virgins are over rated and experience counts.
/r/seduction27/08/12 02:52 PM
1

You've been with a girl for a "few weeks" and still not had sex? Sounds like you may have something else going on. Having sex with a girl or not and when you have sex with a girl simply has no connection to what your relationship with her would or could be. Putting off having sex with a girl you are dating is probably more damaging than having it "too soon". We are all sexual creatures and to deny that is to engage in abnormal behavior. If you value her, satisfy her.
/r/seduction03/08/12 02:11 PM
4

I don't get this at all... I have a teenage son and we talk about everything. Hell, I've been pushing him for years to date as many girls as he can without hurting or lying to anyone. I've let him watch me approach women in public, introduced him to a few girlfriends (mine) over the years and gave him condoms for his 16th bday.
/r/seduction24/07/12 03:36 PM
-2

Avoid them.
/r/seduction13/07/12 01:09 AM
0

double post...
/r/seduction21/05/12 08:25 PM
5

If you know a girl is in a relationship, be it LTR or marriage, move on. There are plenty of women out there and the OP does not need to risk a confrontation over something that can be avoided. I hope that is what you meant when you said "...you can totally hit on guys gf / wives if you are cool about it". And if you are the kind of guy who propositions another man's wife for sex, then you are deserving of an ass kicking. Respect is important and something many have been hurt (or worse) over. Re…
/r/seduction21/05/12 08:23 PM
7

First a disclaimer: I have a bit of a fetish for violence and I enjoy fighting. As a matter of fact, the only thing I enjoy more than fighting/training is sex. Muay Thai, boxing, traditional martial arts.. love it. Having said that, street fighting is STUPID. Really, REALLY, REALLY, stupid. What is important is for you to develop your confidence and be comfortable in your own skin. One way to do this is to find a gym and train. You do not have to be the toughest guy in a bar. But you should alwa…
/r/seduction21/05/12 07:37 PM
30

Stop projecting your issues on this girl. Sex happens. We are sexual creatures by nature and women, in particular, can have a stronger drive than us men. For those ladies who embrace this, I say bravo. The world needs more freedom and less oppression. They say that the best things in life are free and sex is near the top of that list. Move past your insecurities and start living.
/r/seduction11/05/12 01:22 PM
2

As an "old" (by reddit standards) dude who has made the pursuit of women a lifestyle since the 80's, the OP is absolutely correct. Too much of anything can become a negative. And when it comes to sex, you run the risk of desensitizing yourself to the "magic" of what makes it so special. It is also addicting and can control your life in such a way that all your major decisions are centered on increasing your attractiveness to women: selecting a car, selecting your house, selecting your job etc.. …
/r/seduction10/05/12 01:18 PM
2

If that video were alive, I'd run it over with my car, stop and do it again in reverse... Then feed the pieces to rats.
/r/seduction07/05/12 04:29 PM
1

Only when I was inside her.
/r/seduction07/05/12 04:18 PM
1

With the end of each relationship you are presented with the chance to learn and become a better man. Sleep with at least three other women to remove the sexual or lust aspect of what you miss about the ex. This will allow a clearer analysis of what went wrong. Learn from that and become that much more confident, poised and self assured for your next partner... There is a whole world of women out there for you to experience, but not if you don't earn it. Accept what has happened here, let it evo…
/r/seduction07/05/12 01:52 PM
2

You have way more patience than me. If another dude rubs my head in an effort to "dominate" me, I'd hit him in the mouth or choke him out. Just the thought of someone doing this starts to boil my blood. Not that my "solution" is a good one. I must have anger issues... How do you stay so calm? I really need to know your secret.
/r/seduction27/04/12 09:11 PM
2

People over complicate these things.... Just sit down with him and talk about how you feel. Tell him what you find attractive about him and how he makes you feel. Look him in the eyes during the conversation and be honest in your delivery. Life is short and I wouldn't waste time with all the "games" people play. You are both adults. Even if he does not feel the same way about you he will respect that you had the maturity to tell him and be honored with the attention. If he does feel the same way…
/r/seduction17/04/12 05:16 PM
3

This is a really good question, but everyone is different and your experience may vary. For me, I've always abhorred the cliched lifestyle of coming home to a wife, kids and the same old routine. I've been more interested in pursuing my vices and having a damn good time doing it. I've cheated on almost every woman I've been with, slept with just about every female friend I've ever had and juggled multiple GF's for years... This does not come without a cost to your body, and more importantly to y…
/r/seduction17/04/12 03:19 PM
3

From my POV, always. I was a top of the line asshole from my teens throughout my 20's. My father, who was a player himself throughout the 70's and 80's was an even bigger asshole. I learned from a master.
/r/seduction16/04/12 08:33 PM
10

Well, this wasn't always the case. But like anything else, do it enough and it loses some of the mystery. As a younger man, I lived for sex and made all my major life decisions around increasing it. I'll spare you the details, but will say that I pursued sex with all the zest one would pursue any passion or profession. Most women, however, view sex as a prelude to an ongoing relationship. When they realize that you are not interested in that, the result can be terrible. This is especially true i…
/r/seduction16/04/12 08:30 PM
19

As one 40+ to another, you're spot on. I differ only on one point; at this stage in my life, I am in better physical shape than I was in my 20's (I was too focused on working then) and my confidence comes from years of knowing myself and my abilities/limits. Financially, this is the point in life where money is not really an issue.... and I am still single. Having slept with many women, I can be selective with who I share my time with and can have an amazing evening even without sex (which I oft…
/r/seduction16/04/12 02:49 PM
2

Act the same as you always have... Changes will draw suspicion.
/r/seduction10/04/12 05:22 PM
3

Day & night game on Lincoln Road in South Beach... Major challenge but 8+'s all over. My old stomping grounds...
/r/seduction29/03/12 01:55 PM
6

Sorry, this is rather uncouth. A big part of "inner game" is high self esteem. Posting pictures of women you have slept with lowers your character and works counter to that goal.
/r/seduction09/03/12 05:02 PM
1

I prefer to make strong eye contact, approach and introduce myself while extending my hand. I use this for business and pleasure btw... Over the years, you get much better at doing this.
/r/seduction02/03/12 09:42 PM
6

Self actualize and discover who you are. Be honestly happy with who it is and women will take notice. It sounds simple, but this can be the most difficult, yet important thing you do.
/r/seduction29/02/12 02:37 PM
1

Work on your self esteem. Reading this, I get the feeling that you lack confidence in yourself. Women are sensitive to this and will reject you outright if they feel you are "passive". Building attraction from such a disadvantaged position would be near impossible. Overcome yourself.
/r/seduction11/02/12 02:57 PM
1

Old "PUA" at 23? Are you kidding??? You're still a kid. Get out there and sow your oats! ...btw, I'm almost twice your age, been married/divorced and can still hold my own in any room.
/r/seduction09/02/12 07:40 PM
-6

Sounds like you guys had a great time. But were you serious about only sleeping with 6-7 women?
/r/seduction04/02/12 11:49 PM
2

My comment wasn't directed to you... It was a general observation. When I was taking Yoga/Zumba/Salsa classes, what you expressed was a common reaction. I should have been more specific.
/r/seduction31/01/12 08:24 PM
1

Typical AFC talk.
/r/seduction31/01/12 04:32 PM
4

Dance/Aerobic/Zumba/Yoga classes. Great fun and the female to male ratio will be in your favor.
/r/seduction30/01/12 03:44 PM
1

Stay in touch, but move on. You sound like a desperate chump and you will be friend zoned thus screwing any chance with this girl in the future. Besides, the BF would have every right to come after you if you pursue her knowing that she is in a relationship. There are plenty of women out there. Go find them.
/r/seduction28/01/12 01:18 PM
1

Yes, it is.
/r/seduction19/01/12 07:58 PM
1

On crowded dance floors, you cannot make wide movements. Typically, you need to dance in a compact 1 or 2 foot area. This guy does that and also takes advantage of the open space he has for the exhibition. For example, when learning Salsa (NY style), you should confine your steps to within 12" in any direction. More than that and you will look "goofy". As you get better, you will learn to make wider movements look more fluid for those times when you can really work those open spaces. The guy has…
/r/seduction19/01/12 06:36 PM
3

I don't know man, those "games" kind of make you look insecure. Why try to benefit by putting people down?
/r/seduction12/01/12 10:57 PM
5

I don't date women under 30 anymore and I am in my 40's. It's not that I can't (my current GF is in her 20's.. conflicting eh?), it's just that sex for purely physical reasons gets boring after so many years. As I have aged, I've found that I pursue women that I desire intellectually just as much as physical. This means a tweaked approach to what most "game" consists of. Thinking about it, I'd divide it up in to two groups; age 29 to 34 and the 35+. The latter is looking for maturity and a sense…
/r/seduction11/01/12 07:12 PM
1

That is why I said "If not..." and went on to address that situation. But, there are some men who are gay and don't/can't/won't admit to it. This is sad and sometimes anal play can be related to it. I don't know "what is what" in this case, but I didn't want to rule out the potential for a larger issue... Hell, I say let your freak flag fly. Lord knows I have my share of kink way worse than this.
/r/seduction10/01/12 10:51 PM
-7

Are you Bi? Or struggling with being gay? If yes, then you should deal with those challenges not framing. If not, and you just enjoy having things put in your ass (ala Dennis Rodman), then you need to find out her fetishes. Start with that and make them happen for her FIRST. Then suggest your own. Be light hearted, but confident about it. Give her directions when it comes down to the first time. This goes for most fetishes....
/r/seduction10/01/12 09:26 PM
3

I hope one day you fall in love, truly and deeply. Then get your heart broken in such a way that you understand the pain you may be causing. Maybe then you will show some emotional maturity.
/r/seduction09/01/12 04:17 PM
25

The majority of people have some form of herpes. Most people have the lesser simplex strains that result in the occasional cold sore. Others have the full on genital variety and have to manage it through medication. It is way more common than you may think. Worst case would be to avoid intercourse when you have a break out. With modern medicine, this should be infrequent. As for telling a potential partner about it, yes you should, but not until you need to. Best case, you may be worried about n…
/r/seduction08/01/12 06:33 AM
4

Shit no, those should be your targets.
/r/seduction16/12/11 03:49 PM
9

There is a lot of bad advice floating around in this thread. Some of which, if followed, would put you at risk of getting hurt. The thing is, you can get away with diffusing, standing up and joking about hitting on someone's girl many times; but it only takes that one time where these tactics fail to send you to the hospital or worse. And it has been my experience that that one time where you get hurt, will be the time you never see it coming. Someone will cold clock you when you are not expecti…
/r/seduction16/12/11 03:29 PM
1

At that age, you shouldn't need to do that stuff at all anymore. Ideally, you would have at least one or more women to get you off. Unless your married....
/r/seduction15/12/11 09:47 PM
1

After he sent you away, did you see the guy with any other girl? Perhaps he was using you as a pivot since he was alone. If not, the dude sounds a bit odd. From your description, he comes off as struggling a fair bit with controlling the frame. Perhaps he intended on picking you up and somewhere in the process got tripped up. I've dated a couple strippers (was a dancer myself in college), but I've never bothered them while they are working. I've found it is always better to meet outside of "work…
/r/seduction15/12/11 09:31 PM
3

Yup... then comes the next stage where you actively avoid having sex with women you just met in order to avoid crushing their hopes and dreams... There is nothing more poignant and sad than the loss of that twinkle in a woman's eye after she realizes you are no longer interested in her (post coitus).
/r/seduction12/12/11 03:05 PM
2

Just came across your FR... DON'T DO DINNER (first) DATES!!! Man, you must be a masochist to put yourself through this. You would have been much better off going out and doing something fun. Something you would be doing anyway without her and that you are good at. Then ask her if she'd like to join while you had her on the phone. This way, you are showing her a good time and coming off as C/C (confident and competent). If you don't have activities that you are good at (and fun), step up your gam…
/r/seduction12/12/11 02:24 PM
1

My point is to "dance" as your opener. Don't get caught up with some of the complexities of this PUA stuff. Dance-> build attraction. Whatever you say after that is not as important as HOW you say it.
/r/seduction18/11/11 05:51 PM
2

If you are going to a club; DANCE. Or learn how in advance. Nothing is more amateur than guys standing against a wall with a drink trying to look "cool" because they can't/won't dance. Dancing, when used properly, is one of the best ways to open, demonstrate confidence and show that you know how to have a good time and thus build attraction. Use this! Then isolate with some small talk about how well she moves. Neg on her shoes not being "appropriate" for dancing. Segue way in to more sexual over…
/r/seduction18/11/11 03:49 PM
3

There is a fine line between what the "good" dancer is doing and looking like a complete tool. When dancing with a woman, feel her rhythm. Most girls dance on a two count, then as they or the music become more energized, switch to a one count... And that is where guys get lost. Learn the difference and lead her while dancing. Then you can pull off all the wide torso/arm/neck movements described here.
/r/seduction11/11/11 05:20 PM
2

Go to a local Lifestyle club together... While there, you will meet people with different levels of experience that can make your first time easier. Or, you can just go and watch what others do so that you can figure out what is and is not worth trying. If nothing else, being around a sexually charged atmosphere can really motivate you to try different things. Just go... have a couple drinks and see what happens.
/r/seduction09/11/11 10:47 PM
1

The apps looks great man! I don't think the openers are very good, but that is more my issue with content and PUA in general than any fault of your app...
/r/seduction01/11/11 05:08 PM
0

Read "The Way of the Superior Man".. then go live it.
/r/seduction27/10/11 04:52 PM
7

I have been with this girl many times... She is the Brazilian at a Karaoke bar, who I fucked in a swivel chair surrounded by observers. She is the author I brought back to a haunted hotel room who fucked me whilst commenting on the black and white photos from over 100 years ago; while encouraging the entity to make an appearance. She is the Puerto Rican girl who loves fucking in strobe lights with body paint and black lights... I love this girl; her spirit, her energy... her verve. But mostly, I…
/r/seduction26/10/11 02:57 PM
7

Meh.. It's all good when it's all new. But further down in life, you'll tire of the game and all the broken hearts, dreams and wishes left in your wake.
/r/seduction20/10/11 01:52 PM
1

Sometimes a woman covering her cleavage means she has issues with her breasts and is embarrassed about them or something in that area. This may seem contradictory if she is wearing a low cut blouse/shirt, but such is the way of women at times. Knowing she has low self esteem can be a predatory advantage...
/r/seduction28/09/11 08:31 PM
1

SDC will list events and club nights in your area. You can also try SLS.. There are WAY more people in to the lifestyle than you may think. A word of caution though, once you get used to multiple partners and group action, you risk "vanilla" sex becoming a bit boring.
/r/seduction07/09/11 01:43 PM
1

I've been down this road many times... Just go to a lifestyles club. If there isn't one near you, make a profile on SDC.
/r/seduction06/09/11 09:59 PM
1

Caligula... afterwards, you won't seem so bad.
/r/seduction06/09/11 08:37 PM
2

If you've never done Yoga, or if you are not very good at Yoga, bad idea. On the other hand, if you are good and have been doing Yoga for a while, then it could be very effective.... BTW, I've picked up women at Yoga classes and practiced for three years. Stretching together can be a great turn on.
/r/seduction07/07/11 08:24 PM
11

These sound really adolescent.
/r/seduction01/06/11 09:28 PM
1

I used to be active in south beach.. A friend has a meetup group of pua's. They used to have monthly get togethers. If I recall correctly they were mostly novices but a fun group nonetheless (of about 30). PM me and I will pass along his info.
/r/seduction26/05/11 08:13 PM
-1

There is quite the rumor that GSP is gay... There are even some questionable pics that could support this. Hell of a fighter though, gay or not.
/r/seduction13/04/11 06:35 PM
1

Granted, but his decision to make out with the girl is still disrespecting the current boyfriend. It would be different if the girl lied about having a relationship. Man to man, the BF is well within his rights to take it up with the OP...
/r/seduction25/03/11 07:38 PM
3

Karma is a bitch and you decided to intentionally manipulate a girl you know has a boyfriend. This is blatant disrespect to the BF on your part and he is quite justified coming after you. The HB8.5 will likely tell him (eventually) so I'd be ready if I were you.
/r/seduction24/03/11 02:11 PM
1

Do women really need a "How To" for hooking up with their male boss?
/r/seduction11/03/11 03:58 PM
1

So how did it go?
/r/seduction21/02/11 08:46 PM
1

Meditating with a woman can be one of the most sensual things you've ever done.
/r/seduction17/02/11 05:20 PM
1

Breathe through your nose while at a bar or nightclub. You'd think otherwise.
/r/seduction11/02/11 10:20 PM
5

Rarely... And if I did use it, I'd use little enough for her to catch the scent from only 1-2 inches away.
/r/seduction11/02/11 05:59 PM
-2

"When do girls Change?" When they become WOMEN, until then, enjoy the crazy.
/r/seduction08/02/11 10:55 PM
1

Yes. Be more direct with your compliments and sexual talk, but be careful with your timing for the latter. Jumping to sex talk too early will show your hand. Wait for 2nd kino escalation. Once you breach the subject, talk like a man. That is, be blunt about what you will do to and with her.
/r/seduction04/02/11 02:16 PM
2

No worries... also, if you're looking for a mental edge in this encounter, consider this: it is likely that she was in a LTR and got taken for granted by her (ex?) husband. Her attraction to a younger guy probably stems from a lowered self esteem and denial over her aging and perceived lessened sexual "value". Having sex with you represents a "validation" and temporary reprieve from this creeping self doubt. Use this to your advantage by playing to her vanity. Avoid the usual back handed complim…
/r/seduction03/02/11 10:06 PM
4

Opening lines in this situation don't really matter and she likely won't give a shit about you say (although she will feign interest). She is an older woman who wants to fuck a younger guy. Make small talk about the party or whatever the hell is going on, isolate and shift the conversation to working out. Feel her arms, legs back as part of your conversation (kino escalate 1). Pull back and say something about your body and see if she touches you in return. If so, shift again to something sexual…
/r/seduction03/02/11 09:40 PM
5

Isolate--> small talk turned quickly sexual. Escalate kino pullback and look for reciprocal interest. If so, escalate kino again, then time shift with change of location and f-close that night. If change of location not possible, escalate kino to k-close, give her YOUR number to setup 2nd meeting. You should be fucking her by second date.
/r/seduction03/02/11 09:15 PM
5

I'm assuming she is at least 15-20 years older than you. If this is the case, then the attraction is purely sexual. She is not interested in your opinions, wealth or character. As such, then I say fuck her hard as the day is long.... Don't even bother with any pretense.
/r/seduction03/02/11 08:13 PM
0

I have to disagree with the hive mind here... I do NOT like when a girl tries to chat me up. Although it may not be true, the woman comes off as desperate and usually has dependency issues. As a man, I like to choose my targets and pursue them as I deem necessary. If I am attracted to someone, I will decide the manner in which to seduce and the time this takes place. Having a girl chat you up removes that choice and forces the situation upon you. Perhaps you are correct when dealing with "quiet …
/r/seduction27/01/11 04:01 PM
2

The above post covers it... I'd like to add one more thing and that is to celebrate your success. This could be anything from your job, or something you accomplished with your kids; anything that took some effort/planning on your part that you followed through on and accomplished the goal (whether big or small). By celebrating these victories we remind ourselves of good we really are. And this is the root of self confidence.
/r/seduction24/01/11 05:33 PM
1

lol, nice rant. No offense man, but it sounds like you're getting old. Welcome to the club! (pun intended) What you need to do these days is have an agile game. As a middle aged man who dates -10 to -14 years, I left random one night stands long ago. You have to bend technology to your will and approach your target from all vectors. Friday/Saturday are and have always been amateur night at the clubs.
/r/seduction24/01/11 05:18 PM
3

I disagree. Making the effort to go find other women to "occupy" yourself with can come off as insecure. By walking away, you're telling her that you have the confidence to end the date and have other things to do: your time is precious. This "should" be the truth. The tactic here is to walk away with a smile not showing any malice. If she is any kind of decent person, she'll be back with an apology. Then you'll have a slight edge as she will be in your "debt" for allowing her your time once aga…
/r/seduction14/01/11 06:26 PM
13

Her actions, as you describe, are insulting. When insulted, do you hang around for more? Essentially, she is saying that her phone conversation is more important/interesting than you. This is not a woman you should spend time with. Leave.. if she realizes her mistake, she will stop you. If not, spend your time on someone more worthy.
/r/seduction14/01/11 05:39 PM
1

Just think that this is exactly how she will look when you make love to her and enjoy the moment.
/r/seduction14/01/11 05:27 PM
9

I'd give her about 60 seconds then interrupt her conversation and with a smile say "goodnight" and leave. She can grab a taxi.
/r/seduction14/01/11 05:14 PM
1

I slept with most.. There is something about doing Yoga together that leads to exploring your bodies in more detail. It's Tantric.
/r/seduction13/01/11 02:59 PM
1

Yes, I did Yoga for almost three years. Met some awesome women at these classes. It's not for everyone, but if you can pull it off, it is worth the effort... plus you get in great shape.
/r/seduction12/01/11 10:59 PM
1

Yoga or aerobics class... if you're in decent shape.
/r/seduction12/01/11 09:36 PM
1

In the long run, #8 is the most relevant.
/r/seduction12/01/11 03:26 PM
2

Although I am late to this thread, it was an interesting situation. I have one golden rule with women sleeping in my bed. That is, if she is sleeping there, we are fucking, no exceptions. All my female friends know this and some will avoid the bedroom because of it and some gravitate towards it as a result. I agree with what you did and may have done the same. A woman who cannot control herself either through excessive drinking or drug use has no place in your bedroom and is LUCKY to get the cou…
/r/seduction07/01/11 04:36 PM
6

Sure.. I'm over 6', tan, physically fit and Latin. I train Muay Thai, do Yoga several times a week and live across the street from the beach. Game is about confidence, and all aspects of your life should help you sustain it.
/r/seduction05/01/11 10:22 PM
1

I've done this on and off for many, many years. This takes a LOT of time and effort and as you get older, becomes less enjoyable. As recently as this year, I'd have sex with three different women on Fri thru Sun, while juggling others during the week. What do you want to know?
/r/seduction05/01/11 03:54 PM
3

That has Asperger's all over it... Perfect!
/r/seduction03/01/11 08:38 PM
1

Smile, look him in the eyes and tell him something that you find attractive about his style/fashion/clothes in the form of a compliment. Trust me, he WILL get it. If he doesn't, he's probably not the kind of guy you should be after anyway... After the compliment, segue way in to situational small talk and let him take the lead.
/r/seduction03/01/11 07:59 PM
4

You people are fuckin funny.. Jump up and down in the bathroom? Walk around high fiving strangers? Xanax? Dry hump your wingman in the alley?? LOL. If you have to do any of this shit just to talk to women, I'd suggest fixing the real problem: low self esteem/confidence.
/r/seduction03/01/11 03:47 PM
2

Because she was "playfully flirty" with you does not mean she is interested. Many older women will flirt with younger guys in hopes the younger guy will flirt back. This appeases their ego and makes them think "they still got it". Your best bet is to not return her flirts and remain aloof. Friend zone her and playfully make comments about you guys just being "friends" whenever she flirts. Make her work for you; remain the prize. After doing this for a while, pick a night as you mentioned, isolat…
/r/seduction30/12/10 08:53 PM
2

I'd steer the conversation towards sex. But then, I am a more of a "direct game" kind of guy. I've found that ALL women are sexual. You just have to bring it out... Work on making her feel comfortable around you. Find her "passions" in life and try to create "bonds" with her on these by demonstrating some knowledge on the topics... then challenge her on those beliefs with your questions. If you do this kind of "push/pull" thing right, you'll have her curiosity and can segue way in to light sex t…
/r/seduction29/12/10 10:05 PM
1

You could make this happen... Have you ever thought of vising a Lifestyle club with your BF? Sounds like you guys are on the threshold and could easily segue way in to some soft swap.
/r/seduction29/12/10 09:06 PM
1

You're never too old to improve yourself and THAT is where everything begins. NOW GO.
/r/seduction28/12/10 05:01 PM
1

From a psychological standpoint, I think you'd get the same results from taking a ball of yarn to the bar and you started "knitting" (provided you knew how)... This sounds so bizarre, I might have to try it.
/r/seduction22/12/10 06:12 PM
1

Good point... at almost twice your age (and experience), I would not wing someone so young. It would be comedic.
/r/seduction21/12/10 06:28 PM
2

This is an interesting book... Thanks for pointing it out.
/r/seduction21/12/10 05:19 PM
1

Read these a looong time ago and loved it. It does seem to me though that we, as a society, have actually regressed in term of our behaviors and etiquette. The Victorian era had so much more social grace compared to today. People knew what was expected of them and acted accordingly... mostly. This is what makes Casanova so interesting. He had a way of being a complete gentleman while at the same time breaking every rule of etiquette he could.
/r/seduction15/12/10 03:49 PM
2

Bingo.
/r/seduction03/12/10 05:34 PM
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Older pua here that has retired (for now) to a LTR with a bisexual girl 14 years younger. These days, I get to coach her on picking up women, then watch as they get it on... Tough gig.
/r/seduction02/12/10 02:37 PM
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"Me-yay a girl number!! haha" SERIOUSLY?? I can't think of a worse thing to say to a woman. Some helpful advice... Work on your self esteem. Avoid women until you can actually improve their lives by being a part of it.
/r/seduction15/11/10 09:13 PM
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She was probably physically attracted to you.. that's it. 30+ year old women can spot betas a mile away, and you my friend, have been spotted. She "gave you advice about college" is not a good sign. During the conversation, it became apparent that you could not provide resources for her nor were you alpha. Since you hit only one of three "buttons", she began to lose interest. It is likely that if you were to email and ask her out (gag), she would politely decline. If you really want to lay this …
/r/seduction12/11/10 05:53 PM
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If you are really in to this shy chic, meet her family BEFORE trying to sleep with her. The idea is to put yourself firmly in the middle of her (very small) comfort zone. The more you build a bond with her, the less shy she will become. Begin building a rapport with her parents/siblings. Be Alpha, but don't rush sex. If you time yourself correctly and wait until you have somewhat of a bond, the shyness will drop and the sex will be the best possible. BTW.. you did the right thing leaving her alo…
/r/seduction12/11/10 02:43 PM
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40's here and I date 20-30. I actually swore off 20's recently because they tend to go dramatic when you break it off. Women in their 30's are perfect. They know how to fuck and have been around long enough to know what's what. Even better, get yourself a bisexual woman in her 30's and use her to pickup bicurious girls in their 20's... Good times. One more thing... As a "mature man" it is even more important for you to be alpha. Don't think that just because a girl is 24 and smoking hot that it …
/r/seduction05/11/10 07:21 PM
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Sorry man.. but this sounds weird on so many different levels. You went clubbing with your parents? At least it was a Latin Club.. They tend to have older crowds. Also, many Latin women who dance Salsa are good in bed.
/r/seduction01/11/10 08:57 PM
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Buy her shit.
/r/seduction06/10/10 03:31 PM
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Sounds like you gave his words power by fighting him. To make matters worse, you gave him even more power over you by losing. Sucks.. Having said that, my friends and I once chased another group of guys over a racist slur at a nightclub. We caught up to them at a highway rest stop after they blocked us in. Long story short, I broke the guy's jaw in a fit of rage that I regret to this day. I almost, and probably should have, spent quit some time in jail for my behavior. The moral here is that you…
/r/seduction27/09/10 02:59 PM
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Exactly... And if you reach your late 30's/early 40's and are not married (I'm not), then 100 is not much of a stretch. How about orgies? If you messed around with multiple women, you could have 5-10 in a single night... but I digress.
/r/seduction13/09/10 04:46 PM
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Meh.. I'm over 100, but then I've been sexually active for over 25 years. That's only four different girls A YEAR... And I have done much more than that.
/r/seduction13/09/10 02:07 PM
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You should have nutted in her palm.... for the lulz.
/r/seduction25/08/10 04:16 PM
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Go out with her again... But this time, approach the relationship with complete apathy. As such, use her sexually for all the things you have not done, but want to (be imaginative). See how far she will go. Eventually, she will reach the limits of her sexuality and balk. At that point, push her further. Since you wont be emotionally attached, you won't care if this all works out or not. Keep fucking other chicks the whole time. There is a good chance she will be more attracted to you if you do w…
/r/seduction20/08/10 01:59 PM
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These are very basic points... The article reads as if written by someone very young.
/r/seduction06/08/10 03:49 PM
1

I disagree... I keep nothing that encourages them to stay the night.
/r/seduction04/08/10 09:53 PM
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Women.
/r/seduction02/08/10 08:54 PM
1

I like to hold her hands... during sex.
/r/seduction16/07/10 02:03 PM
1

Don't shit where you sleep.
/r/seduction02/07/10 02:38 PM
1

To you... By my definition, it is. So when asked , "do you love me" I can quite honestly say "yes". Love comes in many different shapes and forms.
/r/seduction22/06/10 09:58 PM
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When I was younger, say teens/20's, and was asked "Do you love me?" I would say "We have to make love for there to be some between us.." This worked for younger more emotional type girls. As an older guy now, I live in the moment and loved many women, even if just for a week. So I answer quite honestly "yes".... But "love" is a fickle, fleeting thing and quite often goes away as quickly as it comes. The more dangerous question is when they ask "Do you STILL love me?", to which I usually say "yes…
/r/seduction22/06/10 04:29 PM
1

Sounds like the perfect girl to me. Move on.
/r/seduction09/06/10 08:33 PM
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Not really a part of "seduction" per se; more of a consequence. I've gotten to the point where seeing the pain caused to a woman when she realizes you don't want to have a relationship with her (after you've had sex) bothers me.... a lot. I guess old age softens you, but I'd rather avoid the sexual encounter entirely if I know that the girl is going to be hurt afterwards. I never worried about this crap when I was in my 20's. I've tried sticking with older more experienced woman, but even they s…
/r/seduction09/06/10 08:29 PM
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No, I mean "be naturally confident". One is the result of the other. Believe that you are making the girl's world a better place by being in it. Then make that happen. What you say is secondary... Just don't sound so scripted...
/r/seduction26/03/10 09:42 PM
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Ugh... That whole series of "potential threads" after his opener sounds contrived. Get over the nervousness of talking to strangers and conversation should just flow naturally. If it doesn't, work on your confidence/self esteem. Then it will.
/r/seduction26/03/10 07:18 PM
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Tell one you're busy Sat night and arrange to see her during the day. Keep the night date with the other. I juggle between 3-4 women all the time. It takes a lot of effort, but is well worth it.
/r/seduction24/03/10 02:39 PM
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Good work... Always use the online medium to qualify your target and number close around email #3. From there, give her a call(s), setup the date and you can time shift much more easily. She will feel as if she's known you for a lot longer than she has. This means you'll be making out or more with her around the second date (or first if your smooth). Work the safety/security trigger of the female psyche... It does fuckin wonders.
/r/seduction20/03/10 01:45 PM
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As an older man (for reddit), I call them often. As often as I can.
/r/seduction12/03/10 03:14 PM
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Pick your target. Send an open ended email that includes something from her profile. Be witty... When she responds, expand on her answer to demonstrate "high value". Wait for her response (this will be email #2 from her). At this point, your email response will be #3 to her and should include a request for her number... Call her and work your game. Simple. Use this "formula" on five girls and you will likely # close on more than half.
/r/seduction09/03/10 10:08 PM
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I've had a lot of success with online sites. It took me a while to get the "hang" of it, but now I can usually close on the majority of girls I select. The key is to # close as quickly as you can (without appearing too aggressive). Then setup the date and work your game in person. Most guys waste way too much time emailing back and forth... Get the number within the first three messages and escalate from there. EDIT: OKC is really lower quality women... Try one of the premium/pay sites.
/r/seduction09/03/10 03:56 PM
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You don't... Give them the commitment, or at least, the illusion of the commitment. Girls at that age have a lot of indecision, doubt and uncertainty in their life. Be the older, wiser father like figure who can show them what this thing called life is all about. You expand her tastes by showing her the beauty of vintage music, art, movies etc.. This demonstrates a depth of knowledge and breadth of living that younger guys cannot compete with. Be the Alpha. Control the frame of conversation and …
/r/seduction05/03/10 06:03 PM
1

I'm in 40's and date late 20's/early 30's. What do you want to know?
/r/seduction05/03/10 05:24 PM
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Try SDC.com... Put up a profile, go to parties, have sex. My LTG and I did that for years. Welcome to the Lifestyle.
/r/seduction05/03/10 05:22 PM
2

Ok... I think this girl is a freak and may have wanted two guys at the same time. She probably already shared this fantasy with the ex and you were almost part of that reality...
/r/seduction05/03/10 05:11 PM
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This is for the bi-curious ones... I would make friends with your target. Do girly stuff: malls, coffee, shopping.. Escalate the kino. For example, while shopping, try on some clothing together and offer opinions. Help her "adjust" her tops. Let your hand slightly graze the side of her breast, apologize ("oh..sorry"...smile) and see how she responds. Talk about how the men in your town are dogs, too nerdy and generally not good enough for you guys (in a joking way). Go to Macy's and try differen…
/r/seduction05/03/10 05:02 PM
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I beg to differ. The approach is the tough part in a Gym, because the bitch shields are strong. Aerobic and yoga classes work well if you are athletically inclined. Take the classes for a while, warm up to your target and close. Patience is the key here. If you move too fast, you WILL be rejected. Two to Four weeks max. Once you number close, set up a "workout date". If she agrees to that, sex will come (pun intended). Be confident and DHV with knowledge about health and what the exercises can d…
/r/seduction26/02/10 02:50 PM
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These are definitely IOI's... Depending on your position, it is relatively easy to get a girl interested in you at work. The challenge is not giving in and having an office fling. I say this as someone who has banged girls at every job I've had... Most recently, I had some attraction building between myself and a female coworker (architect). Her and I went in to the owner's home to fix an issue with the media center. I asked her to give me a tour. When we got to the bathroom, I closed the door, …
/r/seduction24/02/10 05:42 PM
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