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Everyone recovers at their own pace. Some can get into dating or even a new relationship right away. Others need several years before they can move on to a new relationship. For me my exW had been unfaithful years prior to her exit affair so detaching was much easier because I sensed I didn’t have anything worth fighting for. Your circumstance may be vastly different.
/r/Divorce_Men03/07/23 09:26 PM
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Truth is kryptonite for cheaters and their supporters.
/r/Divorce_Men11/02/23 10:08 AM
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So is alimony seven years with child support for your youngest another nine?
/r/Divorce_Men04/02/23 09:58 PM
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Have you discussed this with your attorney? The agreement is a binding document that can be enforced by the court. I had to do this and had a cease and desist type of order issued by the court.
/r/Divorce_Men02/12/22 09:16 PM
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Yes, people should vet lifetime partners like BoD’s vet potential CEO’s. Albeit more romantically. Marriage as a business decision usually doesn’t result in long term happiness.
/r/Divorce_Men17/11/22 01:30 AM
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I wish you the best.
/r/Divorce_Men15/11/22 03:01 AM
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Are you willing to allow your cheating ex-wife to ruin any chance at a future relationship? If so, she wins even more. I went through the same after a 9-year marriage. Been married now to a lovely lady for over 30 years. Learn how to detect red flags in women you date. The info is out there.
/r/Divorce_Men15/11/22 02:02 AM
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It's on her for financial assistance from the bio dad(s). At some juncture you are going to have to let her sort things out on her own. If things really go south with her are you in a position to take custody of your children?
/r/Divorce_Men22/06/22 11:36 PM
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No, custodial time during children's events doesn't mean excluding the other parent. Lawyer time.
/r/Divorce_Men21/06/22 11:14 PM
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What does your lawyer say? And if you don't like what they say get a second opinion. There should be a definition of what child support covers in your jurisdiction.
/r/Divorce_Men21/06/22 11:12 PM
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Isn't she receiving child support for two children that aren't yours?
/r/Divorce_Men21/06/22 10:04 PM
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What I have shared wasn't a lie. The women I was with actually said that and made it clear that's what they wanted. One had a hysterectomy so pregnancy wasn't in play. she cold have chose condoms for STI protection but she didn't even bring that up. Another went on birth control so we could avoid condoms altogether. Again her desire, her choice. The others were already on BC so it wasn't an issue. Understand that these relationships weren't casual. I wasn't involved in a string of ONS and never …
/r/Divorce_Men18/06/22 02:38 AM
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First of all, who down-voted this? The use of condoms just shows the shallow nature of OP's ex's sex life. Any halfway serious relationship I have been in the women rejected the use of condoms. It isn't natural and it was always explained to me they love feeling the "gift" they receive inside them. OP's ex isn't having that kind of sex.
/r/Divorce_Men17/06/22 09:51 PM
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Seems like a trip to the Big Island is in order! Check out the Halemaumau crater within the Kilauea volcano.
/r/Divorce_Men09/06/22 06:11 PM
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But the defamation lawsuit wasn't about how god of a husband he was so it never figured in the trial just like her fitness as a wife didn't play into the decision as well.
/r/Divorce_Men02/06/22 09:23 PM
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She is beyond redemption given all that yo gave up so she cold live her new life. That right there tells you she's cold-hearted and unfeeling. She won't won't change for boy toy. I will agree it wasn't enough for your soul-sucking ex. Nothing would have been. Do not mistake your skank ex as representative of the majority. At the very least you could red pill it and still have a fulfilling life.
/r/Divorce_Men27/05/22 11:06 PM
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Millions of men have gone through this and re-built their lives including discovering love again. I don't mean to downplay what you're going through but all of us had traveled that path. My ex-wife also tried to replace me as father but my daughter and son with her wouldn't have it despite her grooming attempts and OM fell way short of ideal. Re-married now for 31 years, and yes, three more kids. Her, she's on her fifth husband with other men sprinkled in here and there. Be a rock for your child…
/r/Divorce_Men27/05/22 10:59 PM
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We need to make a stand against toxic feminizing.
/r/Divorce_Men25/05/22 06:18 AM
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Might be worth a shot to document everything and have your lawyer demand court-ordered mediation. In mediation when she continues her games the court will see she is in essence non-compliance with the court order.
/r/Divorce_Men20/05/22 03:15 AM
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Bitter ex-wives are the real version of Invasion of the Body Snatchers. One day they are sweet then, bam!!, evil.
/r/Divorce_Men20/05/22 03:11 AM
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One of the top ten rules is no unprotected sex when planning for separation/divorce is planned or even contemplated, and suspicion of infidelity. In your case after trying for so long this may be a blessing. You are young enough to have more children as well to someone you want to be with.
/r/Divorce_Men20/05/22 02:59 AM
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You can reveal the truth but not using the language in your post. I have seen, "We are getting divorced because mommy has a boyfriend and that hurts daddy a lot." That's stating fact not spewing vitriol. Like others have said, getting your act together will work for you in the long run. When they look back years later there will be enough track record with their mom to understand what kind of person she is and see the family history in a different light. As they grow they will be able to accept …
/r/Divorce_Men18/05/22 06:45 PM
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I am sorry for what you are going through. I wish you well.
/r/Divorce_Men18/05/22 09:39 AM
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If she is the breadwinner you are most likely eligible for alimony if allowed in your jurisdiction. IT's not forever and can be reduced as your income grows or you get remarried. As for the kids, if it is established you were the primary caregiver you will most likely receive child support as well. As for custody most times its 50/50 but that doesn't relieve child support.
/r/Divorce_Men18/05/22 03:58 AM
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Depending on the amount of equity you have in the home that was some expensive ducking for her. She was before the way she is now it's just that at the time it served her to hide it.
/r/Divorce_Men18/05/22 03:02 AM
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The dark side is strong with that one.
/r/Divorce_Men14/05/22 02:43 AM
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You have purged the toxicity out of your life. Clean slate. Make of it what you want it to be! Her guy is a cuck helping her raise another man's kids. How does a man get lassoed into that?
/r/Divorce_Men13/05/22 11:21 PM
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Have you been paying child support or have a relationship with the boy? If not, and you are the legal father being listed on the BC how did you get out of that obligation? Do you have other kids together so that contact continues with ex?
/r/Divorce_Men13/05/22 08:14 AM
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Character would be the most important trait. The challenge is to detect character from social conditioning, parental influence, religious beliefs, etc. Because when your marriage hits the 10-year plus mark or a difficult period it is character and not all that other stuff that keeps them loyal and committed. Ultimately, everyone does what they want to do society, parents, and religion aside. Plus, you need a partner that can express themselves constructively. Your courtship period should not be …
/r/Divorce_Men09/05/22 07:08 PM
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I do not agree, however, I will agree the pool of people that have the mindset of of traditional marriage in our society is becoming smaller and smaller.
/r/Divorce_Men06/05/22 02:09 AM
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You learn something new everyday!
/r/Divorce_Men04/05/22 09:56 PM
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Recommend a thermal condom.
/r/Divorce_Men04/05/22 08:29 PM
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If you decide to take legal action do not use the lawyer you used for the divorce!! You were clearly not counseled properly. A good lawyer saves you from yourself.
/r/Divorce_Men03/05/22 07:38 PM
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I would seriously vet the OBS's story. If true, your children will be in a harmful environment that could have long-lasting effects. I speak from experience. My children despised POSOM and physical abuse was part of it. They were groomed to hide it from me, both sets of grandparents and other family. It was only when he started getting physical with the ex-wife did she decide to pull the plug on the marriage of which she cheated a couple of time as well. When visiting my mom for a summer they be…
/r/Divorce_Men03/05/22 12:23 AM
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Your issue with the parenting didn't just happen. Their attitudes were fostered over many years. You are now trying to reverse years of molding them into what they are now. Expectations for college, career, etc. are established in a child's early years. If college isn;t the thing then some kind of trade school, apprenticeship, licensing, certification and such are the alternative so they start earning a gainful income for themselves. I have two adult sons that still live at home which are gainfu…
/r/Divorce_Men20/04/22 01:02 AM
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I'm sorry but I do not have your point of view. I see my former marriage as a glass of pure water. My ex-wife's betrayals and subsequent abandonment were an eye dropper of fecal waste. The whole thing is now tainted and undrinkable. The marriage did produce two children I love and am proud of who now have families of their own. And my children have not behaved as my ex in their marriages. I have to say I am envious of your mentality in regard to your situation. I just can't get myself to come ar…
/r/Divorce_Men06/04/22 11:46 PM
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My ex-wife's parents and grandparents built the congregation where we met. ExW was a serial cheater. Had paternity doubt over my first child. Left me for another man after nine years of marriage. My kids et me know there were a couple of other guys they knew about prior to that. Other people let me know as well. However, except for the paternity issue no one said anything to me while we were married. Said all that to say young people, men and women, need to learn how to assess character in poten…
/r/Divorce_Men06/04/22 10:23 PM
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Although my first marriage ended after 9 years after she left me for another guy my second marriage is 31-years strong. Picked the right one second time around.
/r/Divorce_Men18/03/22 01:47 AM
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I must be the exception.
/r/Divorce_Men18/03/22 01:43 AM
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I think we're saying the same thing. If marriage was never meant to be a legal contract you're implying that was not the original intent. Divorce laws (government) make marriage a contract only when divorce occurs. No divorce, no foul. What is wrong with marriage when both are and desire to be faithful and committed to each other and the relationship?
/r/Divorce_Men17/03/22 10:55 PM
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Marriage is a great institution. It's the inequity of divorce that is the travesty. If divorce law punished cheaters (absent abuse) by giving primary custody to the betrayed and were penalized in asset division, no possible alimony, etc. we would be singing a different tune. Until that happens I understand your sentiment.
/r/Divorce_Men17/03/22 10:08 PM
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Yes, divine punishment is a real thing and there's more to come. Let me add, "Now consider this, ye that forget God, lest I tear you to pieces, and there be none to deliver." (Psa. 50:22) "It is fearful thing to fall into the hands of the living God." (Heb. 10:31) But also, "Vengeance is mine" (Deut. 32:35). It is not for us to carry out vengeance. Any reference to God's punishment, again, is not advice or endorsement of harmful or hurtful action by men against each other. As you stated, you hav…
/r/Divorce_Men10/03/22 06:33 PM
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First, please get the scriptural reference right. You are referring to 2 Samuel 13:14. Just because an incident is mentioned in Scripture doesn't mean it is being endorsed or given as advisable action. Other scripture prohibits siblings to have relations (Lev. 18: 6-14) and prohibits rape (Deut. 22: 25) . Otherwise Absalom, Amnon's brother and Tamar's sister, has Amnon, the incestual rapist, killed (2 Samuel 13:23 - 29). All of these events were prophesied as a consequence for these people's fat…
/r/Divorce_Men10/03/22 02:36 AM
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