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Yes. He’s breaking your trust, over and over and over again.
/r/RedPillWomen03/10/24 08:24 AM
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Thank you! Your distinction between breadwinner v provider is incredibly smart. You get it so much. And thank you for giving me actual red pill advice. I’m saving this.
/r/RedPillWomen05/02/22 01:27 AM
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Thank you so much for this reminder.
/r/RedPillWomen05/02/22 01:25 AM
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I accepted this. My main anxiety was him seeming to want to give up work completely.
/r/RedPillWomen05/02/22 01:24 AM
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This is such wholesome advice, thank you so much. I do have much love and respect for him, which grows over time despite blocks like this one. “Watch out for making your parents’ approval your hard line.” Very much needed to hear that, thank you!
/r/RedPillWomen05/02/22 01:22 AM
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Thank you! It seems his jokes lean more toward it being an insecurity rather than as a way to suss out whether the option is available to him.
/r/RedPillWomen05/02/22 01:20 AM
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Very valid point! I’ll try to go easy on the 50/50 thing.
/r/RedPillWomen05/02/22 01:19 AM
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Thank you, you get it. Part of my anxiety came from him saying that joke after the whole incident with my friends suspecting him of using me. He handled that incident well, but what frustrated me was that he wasn’t careful not to paint himself back in that light, even jokingly. However, others here also made a good point that it was an awkward way of communicating that our difference in status made him insecure, so there is that. He didn’t know that we had money since just now when he dropped me…
/r/RedPillWomen05/02/22 01:18 AM
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Thank you so much for this! I think it’s important that you highlighted ambition and drive, which he does have. It’s reassuring that he doesn’t fit what you would describe as mooch-like behavior. He loves his job and cares for his family - and despite the offhand comment, the rest of his character really does reassure me. You’re right, he is worth investing in. Thank you!
/r/RedPillWomen05/02/22 01:11 AM
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I think you laid out the situation beautifully despite being upset, so I very much appreciate you sharing this. My apologies for the thread, I know that it can be very cutting for a guy to come across some of the things that women advise in an attempt to secure / protect one another. And also, someone pointed out the paranoia of richer people. The cruelty and the discrimination in tone in regards to money really does come from that paranoia. So I hope as an onlooker you don’t take it too persona…
/r/RedPillWomen05/02/22 01:08 AM
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Sorry I upset you.
/r/RedPillWomen05/02/22 01:00 AM
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Thank you so much! I’ve had a talk with him and I wish I’d seen this first before I did. It turned out well, but I missed some points from here that I could have reiterated to him. The good news though is he made it clear it was out of humor that he said it, and that he was too passionate about his job to not work at all.
/r/RedPillWomen05/02/22 12:59 AM
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Thank you so much for this! I appreciate you checking my paranoia - which, you’re right, it is a paranoia I have been trained to have by my parents. Tbh, I very much would prefer to marry for love — although, I also want to be provided for - not so much in terms of money, but security that my husband won’t let me take on the entire financial burden on my own, while he switches roles with me and becomes a homemaker. But that’s an extreme case, which I find to be less and less applicable in my sit…
/r/RedPillWomen05/02/22 12:55 AM
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Thank you so much for pointing this out. I realized through your comment that he and I pretty much are the same when it comes to money. While I care for being provided for, it isn’t so much about the amount of money that I need, but the amount of concern and effort from him to physically take care of me (ie not giving me the entire burden of supporting the family financially, for instance). I really do treasure him in the way that you described him, and I love that word: enamored. Your last line…
/r/RedPillWomen05/02/22 12:51 AM
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What a lovely response! Thank you so much! You’re right. I’ve spoken to him since posting on the subreddit, and he’s handled it well. It was very much a joke, and he was too passionate about his job to stop working and completely rely on me. Thanks so much for encouraging me to focus on the good of the relationship - which is a very abundant aspect of it. It recalibrated my mindset a lot!
/r/RedPillWomen05/02/22 12:47 AM
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He has his MA and is on track to getting his PhD.
/r/RedPillWomen05/02/22 12:43 AM
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Thank you for sharing this! I think your story made a valid correlation. Fortunately, it also made me realize that my boyfriend is very passionate about his job, despite it not being “high powered” - which, I think, makes all the difference.
/r/RedPillWomen05/02/22 12:42 AM
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Thank you for this! The tone made me laugh and loosened me up a bit. You’re right: nothing unsolvable or even grave about our problem. As someone with a career track towards professorial tenure, he’s a decent member of society and he deserves more respect and trust from me.
/r/RedPillWomen05/02/22 12:33 AM
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