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ADVICEfindme50/r/RedPillWives07/03/19 09:43 PM
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Sounds like a lovely lady 🙄
/r/RedPillWomen07/04/19 04:30 PM
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An underaged child’s well being comes before anyone else. You need to be there for her as you are her only stability. You also need to find a long term solution. This is not a proper environment for her and it will, more than likely, cause a serious of big problems for her in the future.
/r/RedPillWomen22/03/19 12:43 AM
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I would never chase a man. That’s a good part of the vetting process for women. Women need to be shown the seriousness of men’s intentions. If he’s not interested enough to pursue then he can move on to the next. I don’t see how this could be viewed as the woman being in the captains roll. It feels more on the submissive side, more hunter/prey dynamics to me
/r/RedPillWomen21/03/19 08:44 PM
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I’ve been through this with my daughter. I was really shocked how bad the dating pool has gotten. Was married just after my 20th birthday and I hope I never have to date again. Chin up tho, my daughter is 27, married in her own home, pregnant with baby number 3. So not all is lost.
/r/RedPillWomen20/03/19 07:57 PM
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I’m old and old fashion so feel free to ignore this but I would say give a man 2-3 dates before writing them off just in case the first date was just a bad day for him. Unless it’s just creepy town then it’s a no from there. By date 5-6 you can start talking about deeper things in life and maybe see where he’s thinking it’s going. If it’s a quick move to the sex part then he’s just trying to play the long game and figuring you’ll cave soon. The longer he waits for you the more invested he is in …
/r/RedPillWomen20/03/19 07:49 PM
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Yes!!! Wonderfully put
/r/RedPillWomen20/03/19 07:32 PM
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That’s what vetting is about. Slowly getting to know someone and then learning if you match with them. You have to stop feeling that if you spend many dates with someone and it’s not a match then you’ve wasted your time. You haven’t, you have just invested in looking for the right person and you have gotten to know someone in the meantime. Enjoy the company, the flirting, enjoy dating again, even if it means he’s not your next relationship. Finding the right person takes time but is worth it. St…
/r/RedPillWomen20/03/19 07:22 PM
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Take that off your profile right away! It sounds like you are playing games. At least that’s the way they are reading it. Stating your sexual preferences up front is not appropriate if you are not looking for hookups. Those things should come up in conversation way down the road after you have trust established.
/r/RedPillWomen20/03/19 07:09 PM
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Nice thought. I’m going to write that out and read it over a couple times because I feel that is very true.
/r/RedPillWomen20/03/19 07:03 PM
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I felt better when I realized I’m not interested in any way in men who view fertility and youth as what makes a woman high value and attractive. I have a high value older husband who thinks I’m the sexiest thing around and who admires the woman who is intelligent and kind and who can find her passion and puts all she has into it. That’s where I’m putting my efforts these days. I’m putting it into myself so that I can be more for my husband.
/r/RedPillWomen20/03/19 07:02 PM
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I feel old too and when I started reading redpill stuff I felt kinda worthless as I’ve hit the wall and climbed over. I’m just now trying to figure out what my worth is as I’m a mother and grandmother without anyone really close by to mother. My husband is taking it in stride and has always been a very close, doting husband. But I feel lost and am really feeling middle aged. Some days I wish I hadn’t stumbled on to these subreddits because I never heard of “the wall”. I just try and remember to …
/r/RedPillWomen20/03/19 06:12 PM
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I’m in the same boat as you. When I stop and really look at him I’m quite shocked I was able to land such a hot one. At 62 he’s looking better every year. He just seems to have that mature, older gentleman look. He has even taken interest in how he dresses. No Dad jeans for him. 💕💕 That’s why I’m trying to step up my game. I think if I become a well dressed lady with grace and poise we could become a great power couple.
/r/RedPillWomen20/03/19 05:47 PM
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Funny, my husband opened our business this morning to finish an order for the Mennonite community. The gentlemen know my husband well through business but they are 45 minutes away from us. We have closer to Hutterite colonies but don’t have much interaction with them.
/r/RedPillWives16/03/19 03:40 PM
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I moved to a new province 10 years ago. Our new village is less than 700 people and my church is an hour drive away so we don’t get in too much. I do have a couple friends but we don’t get together much. They are in different stages of life and work. Church attendance is truly for the 60+ group in this area. It’s a very party hardy type of town (think long, cold winters, hockey, booze, pick up trucks) I’ve been trying to figure this out for a bit now. So we put our house and business up for sale…
/r/RedPillWives16/03/19 02:47 PM
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That’s too bad you don’t have thrift stores. It’s a great way to get a few items cheap to mix up the wardrobe and add variety while you lose weight and go through different sizes. I would say then your best bet is YouTube videos and Pinterest. I follow makeup tutorials from women my age. Check out capsule wardrobes too. It gives you a basic few items to start with and then add to as you get to your goal weight. Fill in with scarves, handbags, shoes, accessories, and makeup. They won’t need to ch…
/r/RedPillWomen16/03/19 01:33 PM
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I’m heading into the second hand store today to look for some new stuff and trying my hand at tailoring my own clothes. I think most women’s bodies don’t fit properly into clothes just off the rack so I’m going to learn to fix and tailor my clothes (going really cheap to start with). Do you think you can try that maybe with help from someone? Also, the second hand stores usually have really cheap accessories that can soften a look. Bangs look better if you can keep them whispy and not a heavy cu…
/r/RedPillWomen16/03/19 01:20 PM
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That’s why I’m not sure if I should give advice. I want my bathroom tiled and my husband isn’t getting around to it (5-6 years now) so I’m studying up on tiling and looking for a good sale on the design I want. I figure once I start he’ll jump in but if not I’m going to make sure I know how to finish it on my own or have a number of someone who can close by. P.S. I’ve got 28 years of marriage with him under my belt so we’re both kinda use to each other and still like each other. No fear of divor…
/r/RedPillWives13/03/19 02:31 AM
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I’m not sure if I’m the best to give advice in a red pill way but I have read the books and the text book answer would be to reword the request and try and use a more feminine approach and see if you can speak to his more masculine traits . Maybe along the lines of how difficult it is to care for his home when it’s in such disrepair and how you would love the opportunity to decorate so that guests will be impressed with his abilities in home repair and how you’d love to spend hours baking and co…
/r/RedPillWives13/03/19 02:18 AM
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I responded to everyone’s post but didn’t hit reply. So, just wanted to say thank you 😊
/r/RedPillWives09/03/19 04:07 PM
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Sorry, I thought I hit the reply button but I missed each time🤷‍♀️
/r/RedPillWives09/03/19 04:05 PM
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I subscribed to her yesterday and I think my daughter has some Madame Chic books. I listened to her while getting ready for the day this morning m. Thank you
/r/RedPillWives09/03/19 04:04 PM
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I am looking for skirts and dresses for the summer. Ones that I can wear flats, sandals, or a pair of white tennis shoe type. My lifestyle isn’t set up for any thing close to a heel. I do own dresses and heels which I wear to church but not everyday. My business attire consist of clothes that you don’t mind getting dirty. When it comes to heels, I have finally come to terms with being the same height as my husband (over 5’10) and wearing high heels beside him is okay even if I feel huge. So now …
/r/RedPillWives09/03/19 02:43 PM
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Ohh, I’m going to check that out today. Thanx
/r/RedPillWives08/03/19 06:28 PM
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I love Dr. Laura. I’ve listened to her for years and I do follow her on Instagram.
/r/RedPillWives07/03/19 11:09 PM
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That could work too. I smack my head more than shake it when I read Reddit
/r/RedPillWomen22/02/19 09:26 PM
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Smack My Head, lol Sometimes you want someone/anyone so bad that you are willing to look the other way or rationalize behaviours and/or feelings that should be gigantic red flags. This isn’t the only relationship that is out there for you. Consider that so much better could be out there waiting for both of you but you are too busy try to fix something that is soooo broken. He’s not happy, you’re not happy, how long do you want to suffer. Walk away and better yourself. I was always taught to stop…
/r/RedPillWomen22/02/19 08:17 PM
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I can’t find one positive in this post. Even “I love him” is then replaced to “Im addicted to him”. SMH There is no advice that can help you with this, very aptly labeled, shit show. You are addicted to the drama and you call it “love”. Nope, nope, nope
/r/RedPillWomen22/02/19 07:41 PM
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I have seen a few posts lately that give the vibe that the women are desperate to lock down a husband before a certain age and that may lead to them choosing and staying with someone that is more on the wrong end of TRP. I started following subreddits r/trp and r/mrp by accident over a year ago and have found RPW because of it. I get the basic theories but also understand it in a realistic view. I need to bring my best but he also needs to bring his best. If his best isn’t right for you then the…
/r/RedPillWomen20/02/19 12:15 AM
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I also recommend personal counselling for both of you. It’ll make the joint counselling much more helpful once you both start working on yourselves independently.
/r/RedPillWives11/02/19 04:22 AM
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Your post is lacking a lot of details that would have made our replies more helpful. A lot of things have been left out. What I’m reading from your replies is that you are having sex. But just not enough? Or just not enough PIV? You are the full time bread winner? Pay all the bills? He suffers from depression for over a year? If I’m correct (I’m a little confused still) in what I’m reading and this is true than this is a much bigger problem then what the “convo” was about. Yeah, I’m thinking thi…
/r/RedPillWives11/02/19 04:12 AM
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Awww, you’re breaking my heart. It will get better either way. Life is hard but it does get better with time and courage. Listen to some Jordan Peterson on marriage and having courage to get through the hard times in life. We all go through tough times and it’s not just once. After all that we have been through together now when it gets tough we just look at each other, shrug, and say “hold on dear, the roller coaster hasn’t stopped yet”
/r/RedPillWives11/02/19 01:13 AM
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I think he has forgotten that a marriage is a vow. A vow that you make to work through problems and there are a lot that come in life. I’ve been married 20+years and our marriage has gone through a death of a child, health problems, severe money problems, long distance moves, dead bedrooms. So after only a few years and he’s ready to call it quits already 🤷‍♀️ I don’t think it would have survived for the long distance anyways. But.... let him sit for a bit and think this out. Maybe he’s just jum…
/r/RedPillWives11/02/19 12:35 AM
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Once you feel better you’ll look better in your clothes too. Attitude really makes a difference. I sometimes envy ladies who can do the frilly stuff and look cute but then when I get the right clothes for me I look much more sophisticated and I like that better, lol. So maybe think sophistication and find a roll model, might have to go back a generation or so but I’m sure there are some around today. So if you are more of a plain, dark dresser concentrate on makeup, hair, accessories , and a sig…
/r/RedPillWomen28/01/19 08:30 PM
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Put the money into nice clothes that feel good for you now. Don’t try and hold out till you lose the weight. Some women look great in frilly stuff, some look ridiculous (that’s me). I look on Pinterest a lot under classic style. I find well tailored, classic style fits me and my age. I find a ruffle or flair adds weight to my body type. It’s difficult to give too much advise because we don’t know your style but I find looking frumpy, or unkept just doesn’t add to feminine style. Just make sure w…
/r/RedPillWomen28/01/19 07:56 PM
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I’m keeping up on the reading with you. I’m taking it very slow on my way through this time. I have a lot of changes to make that have been 20+ years in the making. I do find myself stopping throughout the day and going over the list of my husbands unique manly attributes.
/r/RedPillWomen26/01/19 06:18 PM
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Disagree. While looking for marriage , morals and character were at the top. The other qualities are nice but won’t keep a quality person around and won’t keep a relationship/marriage happy or together.
/r/RedPillWomen22/01/19 12:20 AM
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It is scary but you could make a well thought out plan for maybe 6 months ahead. Save every last penny you can. Cut housing, cut groceries, cancel subscriptions, cut phone bills. Then present it to hubby. Add to the list what you will bring to the table being a SAHM. Include diet plan for him ( breakfast at home, packed lunch, hot supper ready), walks around the neighbourhood for exercise and hikes with the kids on the weekend. Start googling frugality, go on Pinterest, find SAHM blogs where the…
/r/RedPillWomen21/01/19 05:26 PM
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My suggestion would be to quit your job and look for housing closer to your husbands business. If you can stay home you won’t need the child care provided by your MIL and also save 3 hour commute for you and 2 hours for hub (if I’m understanding logistics correctly). If you need a little extra money then you could find an At-home job (babysitting) or maybe even help at hubby’s business? I stayed home and worked for the family business and also studied up on frugality and realized I save more mon…
/r/RedPillWomen21/01/19 04:52 PM
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I’ve gotten into Yasmin Levy in the last few weeks. Has a European romantic flair. She just appeared on my mix and I followed it which led to Lovers in Paris 💕. Makes me feel much more feminine.
/r/RedPillWomen17/01/19 02:38 PM
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Ring and a firm date, in my humble opinion.
/r/RedPillWomen07/01/19 03:08 PM
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Just bought it for my phone and will be following along👍
/r/RedPillWomen22/12/18 02:39 PM
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