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THE AUDACITY OF SCROTESfirefliesxx/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/20 11:48 PM
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OP, I'm so sorry those things happened to you. I went through something similar, back when I believed that "casual sex" was empowering for women. You didn't deserve to be treated like that by those garbage men. I found that therapy, both talk therapy and also EMDR, really, really helped me heal. I cannot recommend it enough. I initially just tried to repress and ignore and move on, but the negative memories and thoughts were still just under the surface, causing issues. It's so scary to think ab…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/20 04:04 PM
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Much, much better! :) It took time and therapy but I'm at a way better place in my life now. Thank you for asking! I hope you are doing ok <3
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/04/20 05:29 PM
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I'm so sorry this happened to you. You are so brave to share your story, and it's incredibly brave that you texted him and told him it was wrong and you did not consent. I have been a victim of sexual assault before, as well, and only one time was I able to say anything to the rapist afterwards. And it was so terrifying. I'm so glad you're working with a therapist, and I hope things continue to get better. <3
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/04/20 11:24 PM
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I'll be honest, it bothers me a lot that you're not pressing charges. I'll be honest, it bothers me a lot that you think you have any right to tell a rape victim what to do. You're trying to be supportive but why write this comment? It's incredibly insensitive and the last thing you are supposed to do when trying to be supportive to any victim of rape/SA is tell them what to do. I suggest you read u/throwahweigh3521's comment somewhere up above yours. The vast majority of cases that are reported…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/04/20 11:22 PM
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And you don’t have any fiefdom you need to pass to your heirs, you goddamned assistant manager. My favorite comment I've seen this week. 😂 All so true, though. The sad, poorly-aged scrotes like to cling onto the fact that some of their dusty, crooked swimmers might be able to limp their way to an egg, if a woman ever let them that close to her body.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/04/20 06:45 PM
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Personally I remind myself that I would rather continue living my awesome life than lessen my standards and end up settling for a LVM. I'm sometimes tempted to lower my standards, too, especially when we are all quarantined and have an unprecedented amount of free time. But then I remind myself of all the things I love about my life, and how I would never want to sacrifice any of the them for a man who isn't 1000% worth it. The times I have dated LVM, I grew tired of their bullshit within weeks.…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/04/20 12:23 AM
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Being a pickmeisha got me raped. That’s the long and the short of it. He was traditionally attractive in a way- super tall, athletic, muscular. He took what he wanted from me. Even before that, I never actually found him attractive. :( I just wanted to say that it was not your fault. It's always the rapist's fault. I was talking to my friend once about the night I was sexually assaulted, and I was blaming myself. I was saying how I should have left earlier or should have known better, things lik…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/04/20 12:15 AM
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Not the original commenter but this one has a great summary of studies about the risks of it: https://www.medinstitute.org/2016/08/the-consequences-of-heterosexual-anal-sex-for-women/
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/04/20 12:17 AM
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The one silver lining is that I remember they would frequently recommend giving a handjob by twisting both of your hands in opposite directions on the dick, and I've heard multiple men say that just feels like a torsion/rug burn on their penis. So like, at least some good has come from Cosmo?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/20 02:55 PM
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I read through the sub I believe you are referring to and it is deeeepressing. There's a post there now about how a woman's husband confronted her and asked her if she liked how she looked and she said, "Yes but also no," and then she asked him if he liked how she looked, and he said no. Then she goes on to talk about how he only calls her sexy when he's horny, and punches the drywall when he's mad. She's too scared and isolated to leave him. I feel so bad for her and I am once again floored at …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/20 02:49 PM
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Omg 🙄 I'm sorry you went through that. I have heard and read that it's those who accuse someone of cheating incessantly who are often the ones cheating themselves. Cause they project their guilt about it onto their partner. For that reason, I do often wonder if my ex was also cheating the entire time he was accusing me. But other times I think he legitimately just had an undiagnosed mental illness. Or, he was just a giant ass. Hard to say.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/20 02:32 PM
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Truth. My ex used to tell me he "knew I was cheating" because I was too pretty. Like he used the fact that he found me beautiful to constantly accuse me of cheating (I wasn't) and wanting to leave him (I didn't for 2 years, because I was young and stupid and loved him despite his bullshit). They're absolutely insane and take all of their issues out on us.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/20 03:56 AM
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I mean I don't drink coffee but people should still brush their teeth twice a day. I don't care if it means you have to drink coffee and then wait an hour or brush your teeth and then wait an hour. I can't imagine walking around all day with morning breath mixed with coffee breath.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/20 12:38 AM
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Think about it, most men when by themselves are perfectly fine living in squalor, not brushing their teeth, not wiping their ass properly, with a diet consisting of cereal, peanut butter directly out of the jar, and frozen microwave meals. Can I just say that since joining OKC, I have seen numerous men admit that they only brush their teeth once a day???? (One of the questions you can answer on your profile specifically asks, "How often do you brush your teeth?") I can't decide which option is m…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/03/20 06:07 AM
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I had the exact same experience. I'd share some of my stories, but as I commented on the thread that was shared by OP, I don't want to be judged for past mistakes. But everything you said it accurate, it's incredibly disturbing. The "doms" are porn sick sadists who get to call their fetish for harming and degrading women "kink." And they've convinced liberal feminist women to defend it and get sucked into it. :( I hate it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/20 05:20 AM
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I don't think you need to apologize or say it sounds bad. You're aware of it and working through it, which makes you strong. :) I also spent many, many years seeking validation from men because I grew up with family issues and horrible self esteem. I thought I could "fix" the bad ones and gain emotional validation from that. I promise, it gets better if you keep doing the work to unlearn those harmful patterns. I am so much more confident in myself now and I know my value. Therapy helps a lot to…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/20 05:17 AM
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Holy shit did you date my ex?? Years after I dumped his ass, I finally started processing how much that type of constant accusing and emotional blackmail messed with me. I now think he might actually have been suffering from a legit disorder called Delusional Disorder, type: Jealous.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/20 01:53 AM
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I just don't believe you can do A2M and not get some type of infection! It definitely does increase your risks of various infections. You can get intestinal parasites from it. 🤢There are studies confirming it. Someone on FDS also shared an article recently that was written by a gay man about how he had 3 different intestinal parasite infections over a few years, from engaging in anal sex-related activities. 🤢🤢🤢
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/20 06:06 PM
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It sure is! It's the same line of thinking that leads to those heinous "virginity balls" that dads take their daughters to. Or, less extreme, the dads who talk about "keeping the guns out when the boyfriend is around." It's so creepy and weird and incest-y.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/20 05:29 PM
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That’s why you have all these dads that protect their little girls from dating with pronounced passion. Because they know their daughters will be treated the way they themselves treated women in their fuckboy phase. I agree that lots of LVM do the whole (creepy) song and dance of trying to "protect" their daughters in weird ways, like virginity pledges and the jokes about keeping the shotguns out when boyfriends are over. I don't think they became HVM though. I think they're just misogynistic cr…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/20 05:06 AM
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One of my really good friends used to be in engineering and she said the misogyny was awful. Her male coworkers either didn't respect her and/or creepily tried to hit on her at work (aka sexually harassed her at work). I could imagine it would be very hard to try and find a good partner in that field! I definitely understand why you are using OLD to try and find HVM.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/20 11:27 PM
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I waiver back and forth on this. My career and other activities (volunteer work, etc.) are largely female-dominated. So I've gone weeks without meeting a single, straight man out "in the wild." Once I'm less busy, I would like to do more things that will set me up to meet men in person because I think it's easier to get a good "gut read" on someone in person (though not always), but it's just not possible for me right now. So I use OLD, and I think it is really discouraging because there are jus…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/20 10:31 PM
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I've been in a similar situation. I'm sorry you went through that. I know how it can be both sad but also a giant relief to leave them. And I'm glad you're now feeling that relief!
/r/askFDS21/03/20 06:54 AM
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Honestly I think it's just been very deeply engrained in people to never say anything that could be considered even remotely negative about anyone in the LGBTQ community, lest you be labeled any sort of "-phobic." And stating that HIV transmission is higher in men who have sex with men than any other population is somehow considered "negative," even though it's just a fact. I mean, it's a very unfortunate fact and it's upsetting that it is still the case. But I hate that lib fems have decided it…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/03/20 05:38 AM
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I think your idea about gay sex = aids might be homophobic and untrue, but aside from that, it's not ever safe to get into a guys car on the first date. As other commenters have said, it's not untrue. There are objective facts and statistics about the higher rates of HIV amongst gay men than any other population (see the CDC website on HIV transmission statistics). There's a plethora of reasons for that higher rate, but it is what it is. I know there's some conditioning that's been going around …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/03/20 05:25 AM
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You're hoping for a redemptive arc like we dated men with mental illness and it turned out to be fine? I believe people with mental illness can date and be great partners. But in my experience, many men will not take the necessary steps to help themselves, and they rely far too much on their female partners to be both their girlfriends/wives, and their therapists, life coaches, dietitians, etc. A great example, which I have lived and which many of my friends have lived, is my friend "Anne." Anne…
/r/askFDS16/03/20 05:30 PM
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There was a study published in the journal Cancer that found that a married woman who is diagnosed with a serious illness is 6x more likely for her husband to divorce or separate her compared to a man with a similar diagnosis. And in the study, the divorce rate was 21% for seriously ill women, and 3% for seriously ill men. Given that the control group divorce rate was 12%, this suggests that while disease makes husbands more likely to leave, it makes wives more likely to stay. All I can really s…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/03/20 05:11 PM
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Truly this is the kind of stuff that makes me want to swear off all men forever. I met a guy IRL who assaulted me that night. A few days later, I got a message from him on a dating app. Turns out we'd been matched on the app and just happened to just meet IRL without realizing at the time we were matched on the app. He messaged me, "Guess we were a match all along ;)" 🤢Clearly he was either oblivious or being intentionally malicious, and I'm not sure which is worse to be honest.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/03/20 06:57 AM
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"I'm a feminist" = "I'm a wolf in sheep's clothing looking to score easy points to convince women to sleep with me"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/20 06:54 AM
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