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Upvotes	Title	Category	Author	Subreddit	Date (UTC)

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3	Am I an asshole for saying this: You're too delicate, not an ahole. And you will find yourself to be angry, and you will see that it will not fix itself quickly even if you want to. Once you find a new and better partner, you will fall in love after several likely disastrous attempts and failures, maybe, just maybe you will come to this conclusion that it went for the better for you and you'll forgive your wife and you will find out she made you a favour.	/r/Divorce_Men	14/11/24 01:05 PM
2	Suicidal You'll find a younger woman. Come on. You could use therapy and gym, but everyone around will tell you this so...	/r/Divorce_Men	05/09/24 08:10 PM
5	Wife doesn’t know what she wants I am the sole provider so I’m obviously still paying everything. Why? Why on earth? Pay for yourself and half of what children need. Then, BOOM. restraining order last week out of the blue. Even more, take care of your needs, and your children, but her needs are hers.	/r/Divorce_Men	05/09/24 11:32 AM
1	Should I attend daughter's birthday party if ex brings her new boyfriend, or just have a separate one? My experience is: have a separate party. During your own time with her. You're a single father, just part time.	/r/Divorce_Men	04/09/24 06:40 PM
1	Feel kind of stuck. Any words of advise? Maybe she can drive the child to the football every Monday? It's a long run, not a sprint. And not about scoring the points for being the best parent, just be yourself. The manipulators usually lose in the long run. Play chess with the kiddo, install some app ar buy a set. It will be unforgettable. You are not going to lose him.	/r/Divorce_Men	10/05/24 02:45 PM
2	To keep or not to keep Myself I decided to stay. I had too much on my head in the beginning, 'for the kids' was another reason, not sure if true. Especially that my daughter decided to follow my ex. Now after a year, the home is mine - no traces of my ex in my head. No opinion though about what would have been better. I am fine.	/r/Divorce_Men	19/03/24 08:34 AM
1	Wife ask to split day after my dad died You will find someone who cares about who you are and what you feel... Next time. It's not difficult, just tiring. At least it was for me, at 50. I looked for (1) love and (2) a partner. Much easier to find #2. You're younger, so you have much better perspectives. Just know what you're looking for! And don't look back, she was not worth it.	/r/Divorce_Men	11/02/24 11:00 AM
3	Has anyone’s Ex-wife ever apologized for putting them through hell? I can't explain it. I can, maybe. You seem to have waived your freedom. Source: been there, done that. Maybe it's your case as well?	/r/Divorce_Men	11/02/24 10:15 AM
3	Has anyone’s Ex-wife ever apologized for putting them through hell? She never did. About being laughable - there is a part, and it was about believing I would care she regretted. She may regret, and even possibly does, but the heck would I ever even care for that... Source: 1 year after the divorce.	/r/Divorce_Men	11/02/24 10:10 AM
3	Why am I numb and paralyzed with inaction? How do I gain momentum to make a change? >>she has been unsatisfied in our marriage for basically the entire time This is obvious. Any wrongdoer will justify him or herself. Do not listen to that. Not now, for sure. Take it as a proof of her being broken. She is, because she does not want to repair, stay together. Without this, you by yourself, you will never create a relationship. >>I'm scared of what the next step means for me Don't be. You will be better any way, there will be a period of sadness until you realise you were not a bad…	/r/Divorce_Men	07/02/24 09:59 PM
7	After your divorce did you realize that women added little or a lot to your life? The added a lot, just not what I thought they did. With my new partner... I still like sex, I like being loved, shared emotions, and time we spend together. These are normal needs and no need to cut them out or deny. Earlier, before the proverbial hit the fan, I had thought there was tenderness, care, safety. Now I grew up and I do not need them from my parter.	/r/Divorce_Men	27/01/24 03:58 PM
3	Friends with your ex wife I tried, I was polite and nice, then she went on with blaming me for her own errors in the old aggressive way and I kicked her out of my house, she came for a short visit on some occasion. It did not work, I believe there was a reason the marriage broke up.	/r/Divorce_Men	27/12/23 07:46 AM
3	What did you gain through divorce? Myself, a new partner, time for myself, peace of mind.	/r/Divorce_Men	23/12/23 09:07 AM
2	When does life get better? Hi Rookie, Really really sorry to hear you're still broken after 2 ys! This is unacceptable :) Joking, but let me try to tell you my story a bit. Pick-me-dane is when you try to win her over. To become even better. You enter a competition with the other guy. For me, aside from learning to cook which turned out very necessary for home making, it was for example just asking her to stay when she said she wanted to leave for good. It was a 'I will change for you even more' promise. They say, never w…	/r/Divorce_Men	05/04/23 05:06 AM
3	When does life get better? boy you are so young I envy you! at 26 you'll be fine in two months :)	/r/Divorce_Men	04/04/23 09:41 AM
6	When does life get better? 3 months and already not regretting her gone. But our stories are different, I was betrayed, pick-me-danced for 6 months, I am on therapy and do quite a lot of gym. So in total, 9 months of katharsis, I went deep and did not soothe my emotions but opposite. I have just started dating a bit (and I am 50).	/r/Divorce_Men	04/04/23 05:23 AM
2	should I ask 1 more time Just a little story, 20 years, divorce in progress. Also codependent feelings, like you. I do not regret asking one more time, I had hopes until she filed. You know why? Now I have this rationalization - or maybe it is the truth - that whenever there is regret of ending this, it is on her. I could not do anything more. Whenever life brings her down, she will have doubts and regrets. It is sort of a vengeance. It hurt me a lot. Still in therapy, but the only vengeance I can hope for to get her.	/r/Divorce_Men	24/02/23 07:00 AM
7	What happened? Search for hope. Elsewhere. I am starting to move away from a woman that was 1/2 of my life. I have bought her out of our flat. I go to gym 3 times a week. Taking care of myself. Staring hobbies again. Meeting new and old friends. All these changes have one goal. Change bings opportunity. If I don't change things, they will remain as they are. So... change. The journey is yours.	/r/Divorce_Men	13/02/23 01:06 AM