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Basic Questionfix-the-man/r/askMRP05/02/24 03:45 PM
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This is a sub about sexual strategies for men to have sex with women. It's not about morals or religion. They don't intersect except where you decide they intersect.
/r/askMRP28/07/26 11:08 PM
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But you can't even reach the low hanging fruit.
/r/askMRP28/05/26 04:29 PM
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Do you tell her she loves getting dick? I was roughly in the same situation once. I just relentlessly made sure to tell her she loved it. Turns out people will come to believe what you assert as true if you hold that truth. Or maybe she doesn't, and she's a great actor, but she giggles instead of rolling her eyes now, and gets wet from blowing me, and that's enough for me. It's okay to know that the spiderweb is there in her mind. You don't need to start picking at threads.
/r/askMRP22/05/26 12:38 PM
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Asking the real questions
/r/MarriedRedPill30/03/26 09:06 PM
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6’3”- 243 Lbs, BF Hovers around 20% Getting turned down all the way to Friday. It's because you're fat. She mentions something about feeling like a little girl and I doubled down on it. She tells me to don’t say that it freaks her out, I push through. I used to get this too. It passes if you are congruent. And look good without a shirt.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/03/26 06:16 PM
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You know exactly what I mean. Did you or did you not immediately before you got this wall of text send her some message to her that said, "it just doesn't seem like you find me attractive."? And then did you or did you not come here and post everything that she said and neglect to post anything that you said like we wouldn't see through your bullshit?
/r/askMRP27/09/25 03:50 AM
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The real answer here is to read the wall of text you sent her before she sent this to you.
/r/askMRP26/09/25 04:39 PM
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That's the part you focus on?
/r/MarriedRedPill27/05/25 04:07 PM
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I wouldn't be pushing her. You've already said you're going to end it. This is the sort of thing that can get you in trouble with a judge.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/05/25 02:25 PM
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Before you brush your daughter's hair, first brush your wife's hair in front of her. Her hypergamy will kick in, and she'll beg you to brush her hair.
/r/askMRP08/05/25 06:30 PM
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It can be hard to tell if you're rule 9 at first, and you don't always understand what you're doing wrong, which is frustrating. Sort of like Daniel getting frustrated at Miyagi making him wax his car. It was only later that he understood he was learning to parry attacks. Your OYS was pretty clearly a rule 9. It was not about you and what you did. It was about other people and how you were able to please them. You said you put on a tank top so other people could see your muscles. You did yard wo…
/r/askMRP24/04/25 03:00 PM
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Your OYS 5 says 61kg. This one says 62. I lost 90 lbs over my time here. The first 30 of that were a "just eat less bro" strategy. After that, I had to start tracking. Lost a lot of time being a lazy cunt. But while it was a shit strategy, it was working for a while. Your strategy isn't working for you. It's time to put in the effort.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/04/25 12:42 AM
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What are you eating?
/r/MarriedRedPill15/04/25 04:21 PM
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What are you eating?
/r/MarriedRedPill15/04/25 04:21 PM
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but decide not to say anything to my wife Why not? jokes I thought you may have crashed (feining being concerned) She probably was actually concerned. Even if she's a heartless leech, she'd still have to find someone else to leech off of if you died. That takes work. "I don't actually care" attitude Watch what they do, not what they say. But yeah, you did this specifically to get her hamster rolling. Don't act surprised that it rolled.
/r/askMRP26/03/25 11:51 PM
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No one can pull effortlessly. Anyone who claims that is farming engagement. Anything you want is going to take effort. You are allowed to smile and strike up a conversation with a woman. Anything that someone is good at they used to be bad at.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/03/25 02:45 PM
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There's a lot of present and future tense here. Not very much past tense. That means this is a lot of plans and not a lot of action. "I'm trying to build", "my plan is to focus", "hopefully I'll figure". One of the few past tenses I see is even a lie. "I stopped counting sex". You're a smart guy, and I'm willing to bet all my internet points that you know the number. How hard is it to count to two? Try to write next week about things you did, not things you felt. Action verbs. Past tense.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/03/25 01:35 PM
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Yep. Making plans feels just as good as actually doing things.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/03/25 01:19 PM
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So please guys, tell me how fucking stupid I am. Hey, bro, you asked me.
/r/askMRP09/02/25 12:16 AM
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Get her another ring. I think you two can go the distance.
/r/askMRP08/02/25 10:59 PM
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I’d thought about skipping last week as not much to report, but will definitely be skipping more often as I just put my head down and get to work. I think this is dumb. Your OYS 4 is not the same as Horns's 4. You are not where he was, and if you can't read your #4 and his #4 and see the difference, you're an idiot. You sound like you're trying to find an excuse to not get called a faggot every week. Also, the first sentence of that post reads, "Week in, week out, never skipping a week." But yea…
/r/MarriedRedPill21/01/25 04:57 PM
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My mom used to do that phone blow-up treatment to me. I warned her, and it kept going. I blocked her for 30 days. We got back to talking, and a few months later, it happened again. 30 more days. Now we've been going on 2 years of a pleasant relationship, and my phone doesn't blow up anymore.
/r/askMRP16/01/25 05:56 PM
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If she's getting drugs at a discount, you're missing an arbitrage opportunity here.
/r/askMRP16/12/24 04:31 AM
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"Start meeting my needs soon, or I will be forced to demand it from you a second time!"
/r/MarriedRedPill09/12/24 09:52 PM
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a note in my lunchbox (yes I have a lunch box, fuck you). This is my favorite part.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/12/24 06:51 PM
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Buy her a big, expensive suitcase.
/r/askMRP15/11/24 09:45 PM
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When it stops What? Like how rain stops? I see all your stats are in metric, so maybe English isn't your primary, but this is very passive language. A lot that you say implies that you don't view yourself as the driver of your own life. You are a passenger who has relinquished control of your life. That's also, by the way, why you blow up at your wife. People who don't feel in control throw tantrums when things don't go their way. It's their only coping mechanism. Like the two year old who doesn…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/11/24 02:48 PM
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Stop blowing up at your wife. You're fat. You snore. Fix the fat. (diet is ongoing for 12 weeks now), This concerns me. People who diet lose weight, go off their diet, and gain weight back. You would do well to stop thinking that you're on a diet and start thinking that you now have a permanently different relationship with food.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/11/24 02:21 PM
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To pussy to call the girl I met at the concert You said you texted her and got no response. That's all the response you need. Don't get me wrong, you're still a pussy. Just not for that.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/11/24 02:08 PM
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Right now my needs are only being met every other week, when I prioritize it. If this... But the mutual agreement (so far) is that we are exclusive. Then why did you agree to this? However, I still struggle with sexualizing/flirting. Are you touching them?
/r/MarriedRedPill12/11/24 02:02 PM
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You get a pass to skip ankle day.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/10/24 12:51 PM
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“what’s wrong with me having a little alcohol with dinner?” Well, for one thing, you weigh almost 400 lbs...
/r/MarriedRedPill01/10/24 01:49 PM
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This answer sounds very focused on the relationship and her emotional state, which is naturally why you balk at telling her the truth. It's not really attractive to admit, "I'm specifically not calling you as a manipulative tactic to show you you're not as important to me as I am to you." I agree with some other comments here about A&A through a shit test or two, then saying if you can be pleasant, please leave. I also agree with some of your replies that you've got frame issues to work on. Beca…
/r/askMRP24/09/24 02:01 PM
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Well, why didn't you call her?
/r/askMRP23/09/24 11:04 PM
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There's also plenty of content out there about how it's especially tough for men. Someone out there is willing to sell you what you want to hear. Why are you upset that she is buying what she wants to hear? Just tell her she's right and it is tough out there for women (not a lie), but thank God she landed one of the good ones, slap her ass, and go to work.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/09/24 01:03 PM
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Every time I've gotten light headed while lifting, it was because I didn't eat enough before. I was asking my engine to perform high at a high level without having fuel.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/08/24 02:49 PM
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Tell her this crescendo is making your D flat.
/r/askMRP09/08/24 11:31 PM
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What a beautiful love story.
/r/askMRP03/08/24 06:28 PM
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This is a job for the police, not MRP.
/r/askMRP01/08/24 04:11 PM
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You've defined the success of your actions with an outcome that you don't control.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/06/24 04:39 PM
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my dominant approach isn't working What do you mean it's not working?
/r/MarriedRedPill28/06/24 03:51 PM
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Your OYS is reactive to the world around you. It doesn't drive the world around you. You took tadalafil because she was ovulating. You went to the shower because she invited you. You write about her emotions being on a roller coaster as a reaction to changes in dynamics. What changes? It's very her-centered. Your initiations probably suck, but they're going to because your head is on her and not you.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/06/24 02:10 PM
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Fuck, this is a lot about porn and not a lot about lifting, fucking, or doing shit. No one wants to hear your bullshit fantasies or how they're really okay. Own your shit. Stop excusing your shit.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/06/24 12:48 PM
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Skillet is right that there are some tactical errors here, but on the other side, you went out and did shit instead of hanging out in your hotel room checking MRP. This was an OYS that had actions in it. Just make different tactical errors next time.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/06/24 05:22 PM
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It's pretty clear that your wife is consistently checking to make sure you're right there in that cozy little box where she left you, but look at these stories. while in bed before sleep, I put her head on my chest. let me touch your dick real quick. the second I join her by saying yeah that feels good, she stops like well yeah that's enough, let's sleep. I dgaf. You do give a fuck. That part is a lie. she is calling me from the shower wanna spend some time with me? I join her, check her out jus…
/r/MarriedRedPill25/06/24 02:18 PM
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I really don’t like cold approaches as it seems a bit harassing and also has no plausible deniability. This is because you view yourself as a burden to other people. Imagine if you viewed yourself as worthwhile and talking to strangers was a way of giving people the opportunity to talk to you.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/06/24 02:02 PM
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My wife started reading smut along the way, too. It's almost as if I purposefully cultivated an environment of sexual energy, and she found ways to explore her sexuality. If it's an issue that your wife has fantasies, DM me her phone number.
/r/askMRP25/06/24 01:32 PM
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When my girl complains, I tell her I have something better for her to do with her mouth and tell her to get on her knees. When I first implemented this, she made snide comments, she gave excuses, she said she wouldn't do it. I found that if I just stood there and kept my mouth shut after that, she'd would get there. Even if she left the room, she'd come back. After that, no more complaining. And if it's a hard no, oh well. She's just a girl. Given your lifts, you can probably overhead press your…
/r/MarriedRedPill18/06/24 07:58 PM
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On what?
/r/MarriedRedPill18/06/24 06:51 PM
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Sometimes they want you to fuck them now, and you don't have time.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/06/24 04:26 PM
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Well, 'Do you want to have sex?'. Bad start. Who wants to be fucked by "I dunno, do you wanna, maybe, have sex, you know, if you feel like it?" The sex was bad because you started bad. It was your fault. You did not have intent and desire, and your woman can not submit to the weak shit you were offering her.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/06/24 04:15 PM
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complains about me pulling the covers It's cute when they complain, isn't it?
/r/MarriedRedPill18/06/24 04:00 PM
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She told you twice she wanted you to fuck her. This one's on you. Most of the rest of this OYS seems like anger at your woman that you should instead point at yourself because you don't get it.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/06/24 03:56 PM
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"we need to spend some time this evening" and grabbed my ass This means, "I want you to fuck me now"
/r/MarriedRedPill18/06/24 03:41 PM
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I'd be curious what MRP "working" looks like to you. What exactly is it that you are wanting? If you are submissive, and your wife is dominant, or at least a switch, what's the problem?
/r/askMRP16/06/24 03:58 PM
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How old are you?
/r/askMRP11/02/24 12:57 AM
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Jesus, you talk about your wife so much. Learn to shut the fuck up.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/01/24 04:59 PM
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I printed out the cover of Hunger Games books and glued it to the outside of my sidebar books.
/r/askMRP19/01/24 06:05 PM
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I got my wife a dildo that periodically stops vibrating and asks if it's doing a good job.
/r/askMRP16/01/24 06:57 PM
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I have no approach to weight training at the gym Look up strong lifts 5x5. Any idiot can do it. It's probably the best thing I've ever done. None of the rest of your post matters.
/r/askMRP21/12/23 05:16 PM
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I'm betting your wife is heavier than your bench. Eat some chicken and get under a barbell.
/r/askMRP30/11/23 06:16 PM
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Relationship/Sex Nothing special happened during last weeks. Because you didn't do anything. Acitivity Instead of being passive when it comes to travelling I am doing research My goal is to start the SL 5x5 program. I read all guides on the website and watched the videos. This already feels like an accomplishment as I have spent lots of time in the gym without having a real plan of what to do. Lot of planning here. Not a lot of doing.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/09/23 04:38 PM
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Remember, marriedredpill is about building yourself up so that u are the sparkle in ur wife's eyes Are you new?
/r/MarriedRedPill15/09/23 04:46 PM
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Work on both and you’ll save the marriage. No.
/r/askMRP28/08/23 01:56 PM
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How fat are you?
/r/askMRP28/08/23 01:56 PM
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At 6ft and 165 lb, you could stand to gain 30 or 40 lbs. As it stands, I'm betting you can't bench a plate, and your squat is about your weight. The dad bod thing will go away if you can fix your lifts, and you can't do that without eating. If I were you, I'd spend the next 6 months eating 3000 cals/day and getting your PL total as high as you can. And post your actual lifts. It's 80% of your problem anyway. Own it.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/06/23 07:49 PM
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Something about your numbers isn't adding up. You're about 150 lbs, so if you're getting enough protein, that should be about 150g. Using the macros you quote, that means you're at 375/225/150 g for carbs/fat/protein. Turning these into calories, that works out to about 1500/2000/600 calories for a total of 4100 cal/day. But you're saying 3200 cal/day. Are you sure you're getting enough protein or that your macros are what you claim?
/r/MarriedRedPill16/05/23 05:29 PM
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Your lifts last week SQUAT 115, BENCH 115, ROW 95, DEAD 140, OHP 70 (Strong Lifts 5X5 program started December 2022). Your lifts this week SQUAT 115, BENCH 115, ROW 95, DEAD 140, OHP 70 (Strong Lifts 5X5 program started December 2022). These are the same. This is not the StrongLifts program. In that program you add weight every workout. Whatever you're doing is just a feel good check box.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/04/23 03:40 PM
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Did you notice how none of the questions I asked were about your wife? Did you notice how no sleep's comment was about how many words you devoted to your wife? I'm willing to accept you might be a good looking dude if you are just doing the mountain man thing. You're only 150 lbs though, so I doubt it. The big issue is that it sounds like your life is pretty much just you and your wife. This means you don't have options. Your wife can feel that, and women don't want to fuck men who don't have op…
/r/MarriedRedPill22/04/23 06:28 AM
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Do you regularly interact with adults who you are not related to you or your wife?
/r/MarriedRedPill21/04/23 08:06 PM
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Do you lift?
/r/MarriedRedPill21/04/23 03:35 PM
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Her logic often contends with mine and I find it hard to find any fault in it This is in direct contradiction to this I'm STFU. You don't need to argue. It's optional. I would echo others that my read here is that you don't have WISNIFG fully internalized.
/r/askMRP19/04/23 02:38 PM
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Story time. A while back, my car wouldn't start. I did not know anything about cars, and I was out of town for a wedding. So I called my friend, who knew about cars, for help. I explained what had happened, but when I told my friend that my car was a manual transmission, he said, "Ah. Move the floor mat from the driver's seat to the trunk." Thinking this advice was idiotic and unhelpful, I nevertheless did as instructed. Immediately, the car started right up. Slightly less time back, my wife was…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/04/23 11:09 PM
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You wrote a lot of stupid shit in this diary entry. Here's the worst one. joined a very good gym right away, finally a calisthenics temple with good martial arts courses and weight room (that I don't think I'll use).
/r/MarriedRedPill11/04/23 04:20 PM
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Username checks out.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/03/23 06:10 PM
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Were you two fucking before you got married? If so, were you tracking cycles then as well?
/r/MarriedRedPill04/03/23 02:11 PM
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NFP If it's a religious choice you've made, why do you spend the next few paragraphs bitching about not getting sex? You chose this path.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/03/23 01:58 AM
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I cannot fathom why men are putting as much effort into you as they are. You came here to fix something about yourself, but refuse to listen to the words you don't agree with. As though you're the best judge of what needs fixing. Instead, you are full of excuses and defensive attacks. Men here are standing you in front of a mirror and you are declaring that they must be projecting or that you struck a nerve. You continue to fight back just like you said you had to in OYS #2. Yet week after week,…
/r/MarriedRedPill01/03/23 04:22 PM
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Maybe if you get more massive, add another inch of shoulder, then the bitches will be falling all over you. They have to right? It's in their contract.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/02/23 02:45 PM
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How old are you? I'm guessing at 14 years married, you're too old to be making only 75k
/r/MarriedRedPill06/02/23 05:59 PM
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All good points, but by writing that out, you've just put more time and effort into OP than he put into himself. His OYS is shit. It's his only one in a month. And he's gained 4 lbs in that month. Is he really worth your time?
/r/MarriedRedPill31/01/23 07:24 PM
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I have found farmer carries to help with grip strength, and you can buy some lifting straps for a few euro to keep going on deadlift.
/r/MarriedRedPill31/01/23 02:38 PM
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Reading: Posts that refer to "killing the ego". No idea wtf that means. Then this This is my OYS #2. In the greater scheme of things, I am ahead of many who post here. This made me smile. Thanks man.
/r/MarriedRedPill31/01/23 01:52 PM
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Yeah, man. I got a lot got going on too. The days are just packed. It's a real tale of woe. Thing is though, if something is important to me, I don't forget to do it. And conversely, if I forget something, that's probably a sign that something wasn't really that important to me.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/01/23 02:29 PM
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It's about why you're tracking it. And you're tracking it because you forget to do it. So why do you forget to do it?
/r/MarriedRedPill27/01/23 08:34 PM
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I'm not pushing 50 yet, so maybe there's some factors there to consider, but my experience has been that you get stronger by lifting heavier weights, not lighter ones.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/01/23 01:58 PM
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If you were my friend, would you help me beat up a kid who called me names and talked about feminism to me?
/r/MarriedRedPill17/01/23 11:47 PM
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if a fight breaks out Fights don't just break out. Someone chooses to start them. Someone chooses to continue them. And maybe you choose to join them. Do you have any friends who will watch your back regardless? Not sure. I don't get in fights, and I don't spend my time around people who do.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/01/23 07:31 PM
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We. Let's back up. Are you the type of person who might beat someone else up if your friends didn't stop you?
/r/MarriedRedPill17/01/23 05:09 PM
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Stop listening to that podcast. It's making you do stupid things. You dropped weight and reps on every lift except squat between this week and last. I'm willing to bet you have no trouble talking to women because you fit real snuggly into the friend zone. You're comfortable with the orbiter strategy.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/01/23 02:46 PM
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Your social section is almost entirely stories of you Red Knighting in your friend group. Also, why are you friends with a guy you have to stop from beating somebody up?
/r/MarriedRedPill17/01/23 02:30 PM
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You're not doing either because both require you to lift 3x/wk and you don't. Both will work, but only if you will work.
/r/askMRP12/01/23 10:32 PM
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Look up strong lifts 5x5. That is your Bible for the next 6 months. Come hell or high water, you will not miss your lift days. And if you wanna do cardio, fuck it, do cardio. It'll get you more time away from your wife while you're still an angry bitch.
/r/askMRP12/01/23 10:14 PM
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You weigh 195 and bench 185. You have Been lazy and not hitting the gym enough I give you permission to be angry (for now) if you use it to lift up a barbell. Make sure your next week's OYS says "I lifted 3 times this past week" instead of "I should be going to the gym 6 times each week".
/r/askMRP12/01/23 09:24 PM
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Gotta make that money so she can spend it and feel relaxed. Good boy.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/01/23 01:18 AM
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From your first askMRP post I am a skinny bitch Is that a problem for you, or is it a mark of pride? If it's a problem, you're not going to get anywhere unless you increase your lifts. Which means you need to gain at least 30 lbs and make your driving motivation increasing the amount of weight you can lift. I'm not saying you should lift incorrectly. I'm saying that most guys I talk to who "are focusing on form" are really just guys who've found a weight they feel safe with and are scared to add…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/01/23 12:40 AM
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Why is it that every man who can't lift shit spouts off about prioritizing form?
/r/MarriedRedPill04/01/23 05:37 PM
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Hope many calories do you eat in a day? How much of it is protein?
/r/MarriedRedPill30/12/22 06:04 PM
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Let’s say she has a serious dealbreaker trait Does she have a deal breaker trait?
/r/askMRP30/12/22 02:24 AM
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The Morpheus bit in NMMNG is crap. It's designed to give you someone to whine to about your problems that isn't your wife. And whining is just a way to feel like you're making progress without actually working. Better to do the big 3. Lift (you're fat, stop being fat) STFU (don't talk about your feelings with your wife) Sidebar (figure out why all the shit you believe doesn't make panties drop) You can do all those things without a Morpheus. Anyway, this guy sounds like he sold you a set of good…
/r/MarriedRedPill29/12/22 02:09 AM
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I've been going hard on improving my physical health for my illness, my daughters, my wife and family. This is the reason for this But my wife was not falling for it. Echo that you need to pay attention to the covert contract stuff in NMMNG.
/r/askMRP24/12/22 05:53 PM
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How did you discover that she is checking her ex's Instagram?
/r/askMRP07/11/22 05:45 PM
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Is the joke that he outlifted you on every lift when he was 70 lbs lighter than you? You're a weak, fat fuck, and you would do well to accept that you are a weak, fat fuck. Then you might actually do some fucking work on not being so weak and fat.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/11/22 11:57 PM
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Enabling for whom?
/r/MarriedRedPill01/11/22 08:31 PM
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Your relationship with your wife is not complicated. It's predictable. You believe your value is based on how much your woman needs you to go out and bring home meat. Your whole self-valuation is based on how much money you make compared to her. What do you like to do if you're by yourself? Have you gone out and done it? Go out. Do an activity.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/10/22 10:05 PM
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Your wife might not get on board about 123 Magic. Mine never did. You can do it without her getting on board.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/10/22 01:11 PM
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OP is doing 4x/wk though. If I were 4x, I wouldn't do them all sequentially and then rest three days. I'd weave my rest days in between. Do you disagree?
/r/MarriedRedPill14/10/22 05:26 PM
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You can't lift Monday through Thursday. Your body needs rest between lifting sessions. Find a program. StrongLifts 5x5. GSLP. Wendler's 5-3-1. Follow that. Including rest days. And post your lifts. Even if they're low. Own it. What have you read? If you haven't read all the prereqs, I'd council against rational male.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/10/22 03:24 PM
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GSLP is a 3x/wk program, but you say you're lifting 4x/wk. How are you splitting it up?
/r/MarriedRedPill12/10/22 09:22 PM
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There's a book out there that talks about assertively stating your desires and not feeling guilty about doing it.
/r/askMRP12/10/22 06:08 PM
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Obviously, I want to keep this housekeeper "I want to keep the housekeeper. Do not fire her." My broader question is this: how do prevent destructive behavior in my wife without resorting beta behaviors like coercion, pleading, explaining, rationalizing, bargaining, ultimatums You can't prevent any behavior she chooses to employ. As far as not resorting to beta behaviors... I've completed NMMNG and MMSLP, currently reading WISNIFG Keep reading.
/r/askMRP12/10/22 05:36 PM
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What have you read? Your writing tells me (and muzzy, btw) that you are not your own judge. You seek good boy judgment from your wife, from women on dating apps, and from the usernames here. Then, when you get something you don't want to hear, you lash out like you did muzzy's comment. Or you go back to your two month old post and show that you posted your first OYS like a good boy. Why are you doing that? What do you have to prove to those usernames? I'd encourage you to look at your writing an…
/r/MarriedRedPill10/10/22 05:19 PM
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What about posting here will do that for you?
/r/MarriedRedPill09/10/22 09:09 PM
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Why are you posting here?
/r/MarriedRedPill08/10/22 11:49 PM
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This is some stupid hamstering. Once you're divorced, you don't owe her anything more than the courts say you owe her. You're making an argument about being true to your word and keeping your honor. But you're also saying the price of your honor is less than the price of 50% of your stuff, otherwise you'd have told her already. So you can probably put an upper bound on your honor if you're interested to know it. I'd encourage you to think about if it actually serves you to tell her. And think ab…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/09/22 02:22 PM
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I'll tell her about it after the divorce goes through. Why?
/r/MarriedRedPill27/09/22 07:52 PM
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Tell her you want to draw her like one of your French girls. Then give her a stick figure with wavy hair. If she complains, give an exasperated sigh and tell her no great artist is appreciated in their lifetime. Come on man. Is this not funny to you? It's funny to me.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/09/22 04:13 PM
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You need to eat more, not less. You look like a 12 year old.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/09/22 02:25 PM
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I don't understand. Can you not feed yourself? Do you need her to get the goldfish down from the top shelf?
/r/MarriedRedPill20/09/22 04:51 PM
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OK, let me try this again. YOU sound like YOU are needy, and YOU are ostensibly here so YOU can learn what to do about YOUR issues, which are what YOU can control.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/09/22 03:51 PM
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Why indeed? You sound like you need her more than she needs you.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/09/22 03:17 PM
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Would you be able to enjoy the trip without her there?
/r/MarriedRedPill14/09/22 12:36 AM
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Why don't you like your girlfriend going to the conference?
/r/MarriedRedPill13/09/22 11:04 PM
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You're not reporting what you lifted. In three months your squat has gone up 25 lbs, your deadlift has dropped 10, and your bench is the same. Can you squat to depth without the bar on your back? Does your hotel have a gym? Most don't have barbells, so I doubt you did these lifts this week. Most of these numbers look like copy paste week to week, and they're a lot more important than your hurt feelings in a hotel room. Strength > Weakness
/r/MarriedRedPill13/09/22 06:54 PM
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Doing 2 days per week at the gym, training takes about 90 minutes. The 3 days rest in between feel very good. I look at your lifts and the thing I think first is that you definitely need rest. Rest is the thing you need to prioritize.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/08/22 01:45 AM
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Are you legally married?
/r/MarriedRedPill23/08/22 09:39 PM
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Okay. I went back and looked at your history and I remember you. Why are you only threatening divorce?
/r/MarriedRedPill17/08/22 08:33 PM
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However, I find I'm at a loss of what else to do to assert boundaries This is a big problem. Walking away never works as my wife chases me down and will block me in room or hold on to me. I cant really get physical. If you can OHP 150, this is a problem you can solve unless you're married to a whale. Seriously, just grab your keys and go for a walk. Is she gonna hold you the whole way? About the line in the sand, I've thought very seriously about threatening divorce several times, but I made a r…
/r/MarriedRedPill17/08/22 05:44 PM
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My challenge is, like it has always been and for many of us here... To the community and all of you working here on yourselves, it is fantastic, I appreciate your honesty and the work you are all doing. Grinding away to make your experience better, your leadership better. This is just masturbation. You didn't do shit about your body. Stop trying to fill that shame with attention from the locker room. You don't like yourself, so you find things that reinforce the idea that you're shitty. That's w…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/08/22 02:19 PM
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u/threekindsoflucky was talking about giving everything in imperial units as well when they are already there in metric. He's very upset that our temperatures go from 0 to 100 throughout the year.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/08/22 06:18 PM
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This is much better. More stuff you did (or did not do). Cancelled a meeting. STFU about an offer to play house. Canceling another meeting. All of these were done because you're scared you'll talk too much and capitulate. So there's issues there. But there's a reason why STFU is early advice. You don't have the frame to deal with those situations assertively yet. About the weight. How long have you been running a deficit? You say you need to trust the process, but do you trust yourself to follow…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/08/22 10:01 PM
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You being butthurt is a you problem. If the point of the post is to get advice on a you problem, why is your title about her?
/r/askMRP07/08/22 04:48 PM
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How do I not seem butthurt when really I'm very butthurt?
/r/askMRP07/08/22 01:36 PM
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I don't give a fuck what works for her. Go read Nice Guy again. And every time Glover says "nice guy" mentally substitute your name in its place.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/08/22 08:29 PM
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Why can't your ego handle the silence?
/r/MarriedRedPill03/08/22 08:11 PM
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If you don't want to divorce your wife, why did you bring up divorce to your wife?
/r/MarriedRedPill03/08/22 05:33 PM
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The day you get your flair on askMRP?
/r/askMRP31/07/22 04:44 PM
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Been going about 3 times a week, short sessions like just deadlifts or just squats So you walk downstairs Monday, do what? 3x5 squats at 105 lb, then call it good and walk back upstairs and say to yourself, "I'm good until Wednesday"? Do you take a shower, or are your workouts designed to not have you start sweating? we're still doing the two living spaces (I am renting a 'man cave') WTF? FINALLY I have a temporary blocking list; it's extremely short. I am somewhat thick-skinned but overly antag…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/07/22 03:29 PM
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Lifting - I'm B+ consistent here What does B+ consistent mean? You're either consistent or you're not. A+ or F. Did you hit your lifts this week? Did you have sex this week?
/r/MarriedRedPill27/07/22 01:46 PM
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Mine is in the garage. Any cage that's easy to move, I wouldn't trust to save me if I buckled under the bar. Do you need a guest room? Are people really flocking to stay with you two love birds? Do you want to get divorced? You seem to be saying, "my wife wants to get divorced, so alright, I guess". Similar to how you're saying "my wife is fucking someone else, so I will too, I guess". Stay or go, step 1 is fix the 250 lb shit. You look better than I did at that weight, but you still gotta rein …
/r/MarriedRedPill26/07/22 07:57 PM
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Are you both openly fucking other people? Are you also fucking each other? Buy the squat cage. I bought one two years ago. It's the best money I've ever spent.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/07/22 06:44 PM
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Before you get rule 9'd what are your lifts? Agree with Chupacabra. You need to learn to shut up. Set boundaries for yourself before you worry about setting boundaries for your wife. Perhaps one of those could be "I will not engage in arguments".
/r/MarriedRedPill26/07/22 06:33 PM
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Do some work.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/07/22 05:32 PM
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Sounds like you're right after a little Googling. I originally based my estimate on competition weight classes. This and this and a few other places indicate the right weight for a 5'6" guy is 165 lbs.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/07/22 12:29 AM
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Agreed that while gaining weight he's got to pick up a barbell once in a while. He's barely squatting a plate. He can't deadlift two. It seems like you're suggesting he doesn't gain weight since he won't look good because he can't lift. I'm suggesting he gain weight so he can lift more. OP, definitely don't just eat more if you're not going to try to put weight on the bar.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/07/22 10:55 PM
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This is a list of feelings, hopes, and dreams. And one thing you did, which is hitting your bf% goal. You could have stopped there. I love that you titled your post "The Turning Point" though. Really puts the spotlight on the special snowflake ego that is everywhere else in this list. Did you fuck your wife last week?
/r/MarriedRedPill20/07/22 08:24 PM
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This feels like around 1800 calories with maybe 120g protein. If I were you I'd up it to 2700 and make sure you're getting 175g protein.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/07/22 02:12 AM
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I thought you posted your lifts. Something like a plate on bench and squat, and a plate and a half on deadlift. Did you remove them? At 5'6", I'd suggest shooting for a weight of 175-180. You didn't answer my question. What are you eating?
/r/MarriedRedPill19/07/22 11:35 PM
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weight 67 (148 lb), This is your main problem. And you've only gained 8 lbs in 4 months. What do you eat? I can guarantee you need to fix it. I’m terrified of getting caught if I approach Start by saying hi. I'll bet they won't go find you on social media and tell on you. You're scared of women. Your wife. That random one you didn't approach. You might find them to be less scary if you were bigger than most of them. Do you see how one solution helps with the other? Do you see why it's your main …
/r/MarriedRedPill19/07/22 02:13 PM
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Your question is implying that you can't find the time to have sex because you are too busy. But if that were true, you probably wouldn't be here because men who find this place want to have sex, can easily think of plenty of times when they try, but their wives won't have sex with them. I'm going to assume you're full of shit and the latter is true. Pick up something heavy, use your mouth less for eating and talking, and read the sidebar.
/r/askMRP19/07/22 01:18 AM
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He offers real good advice. You should just do whatever he says. He knows what you want better than you do.
/r/askMRP15/07/22 11:20 PM
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Do you have Tinderella's Instagram? Men trading notes.
/r/askMRP15/07/22 11:10 PM
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hiking with gf You're way too in your head about who should be leading. It's her hobby. Follow her up the mountain. And grab her ass to steady yourself because you're so inexperienced at this and she's so sure-footed. daughter I'd be interested in whatever notes you have on this. I have a nephew who seems similarly lost.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/07/22 05:34 PM
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feeling like I was going to feint came up again after deadlifting If I'm feeling lightheaded while lifting, most of the time it's because I didn't eat anything recently. It's like when you're low on petrol and the engine starts sputtering. I grab a protein bar or shake, and that generally helps.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/07/22 05:20 PM
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If your lifting is volume vs weight lately, then why are your posted lifts only one rep?
/r/MarriedRedPill13/07/22 02:42 PM
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My grip strength sucks. I've started hanging from a bar to help that. It's pretty cheap. What grip do you use to deadlift?
/r/MarriedRedPill12/07/22 03:49 PM
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Lurkers are men who think they've done the work but haven't. What are your lifts?
/r/MarriedRedPill07/07/22 06:58 PM
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When I look at other women, I feel guilty
/r/MarriedRedPill25/06/22 02:04 PM
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There's a Horns post about your woman being your greatest creation. Applies here too. Your boys are raising hell because you created hellraisers. Is that what you want? Because your warning to your wife applies to you too. Eventually, you will not be able to physically confront and cow them anymore. Might be later than your wife, but it's coming. I've got my own anger issues, and I don't always handle things perfectly. But if hell was being raised, and it was more than I could safely drive with …
/r/MarriedRedPill31/05/22 04:11 PM
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I don't understand because you said "ass whooping" and "physical discipline" a bunch of times in your post. But now you're saying bass and physical presence. Are you physically hitting your kids to gain control of an out-of-control situation? Or are you not hitting your kids and just using chest puffing language to a bunch of idiots on the internet to show us you're a tough alpha who don't take no shit from 9 year olds?
/r/MarriedRedPill31/05/22 03:11 PM
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Bullies and stupid people learn through pain. But earlier... when I have to break out some physical discipline. So which one are you raising?
/r/MarriedRedPill31/05/22 01:57 PM
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Post your weight and lifts
/r/askMRP30/05/22 02:47 AM
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Why is underwater habitat welding gay and underwater welding isn't gay? As a 23 y.o. I don't know what your finances are, but almost two years ago, I spent $1000 on a bar, plates, bench, and cage. It's been the best purchase I've ever made. Be 135 a month from now.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/05/22 01:59 PM
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FITNESS AND HEALTH You're too fat. Get under a barbell this week. Post your bench, squat, and deadlift next week. Shut the fuck up with these machine workouts.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/05/22 01:52 PM
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You came to red pill for a fix. As I understand it, red pill is about understanding sexual dynamics between men and women and strategies for maximizing women's sexual response. There's a lot of pieces to that, but one of the big ones is you gotta touch her. Touching builds comfort, shows dominance and confidence, and established a baseline of how your interactions will go. It's generally frowned upon here to say think of how your wife feels, but I'm going to. You are telling your wife through yo…
/r/askMRP18/05/22 01:46 PM
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Out of curiosity, what does "I don't touch my wife" mean? Is it, "I won't even shake her hand" or is it, "I don't fuck her"? Somewhere in between?
/r/askMRP17/05/22 10:05 PM
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You'd probably save a bunch of money on strength coaching by being consistent. My lower lifts are stalling right now, and it's really frustrating. It's seems like it should just happen for me. But it doesn't, so I go to the gym and I fail. A lot. But I keep going to the gym. You've gotta do the reps. Because quantity has a quality all of its own. If you're 22% fat @153, then you have 119 lbs of lean mass and 34 lbs of fat. If you lose 11 lbs (even if it's entirely fat), that's 119 lean and 23 fa…
/r/MarriedRedPill17/05/22 07:31 PM
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What have I done in the past year? Agreed. Your lifts are bad. Your fat is bad. Are you doing a program? This seems like you've been wasting your time. Okay, you missed two workouts in May. Your numbers are not painting a picture of a man who is putting in the effort over the course of the rest of the year. I still have not made enough progressput in enough work to get expressions of interest from anyone else or to have my wife be interested in sex. FTFY Game is the area when I am the weakest. N…
/r/MarriedRedPill17/05/22 02:11 PM
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I say all of this just to document that I have an eager, submissive first officer that is looking to add value. and that it makes me feel really good and accomplished.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/05/22 05:51 PM
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Basically, I did it all to myself over the last 18-24 months. I was in perfect health 2-3 years ago. How much did you weigh 24 months ago?
/r/MarriedRedPill10/05/22 05:18 PM
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For reference, this is when I knew you had no idea what you were talking about. But I didnt swallow the pill, Shame on you. Good girls swallow.
/r/askMRP05/05/22 07:43 PM
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I don't see any place where you've listed the reading you've done, and I'll tell you, there's a book for this quote. Solving my main personal weakness will probably help the relationship
/r/MarriedRedPill04/05/22 11:38 AM
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Shit tests happen when a woman finds you attractive. She's checking to make sure her feelings are correct and you actually are worth her investment. She's saying, "Look, I want you. You're already in. Just don't fuck it up." It's like kicking the tires to check how sturdy the frame is. If a woman isn't giving you shit, it's probably because she doesn't give a shit. So focus on you. Stop being unattractive. Then start being attractive. Also, what the fuck is an exploration date?
/r/MarriedRedPill03/05/22 08:51 PM
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You are one of those guys that don't know how much they suck yet. I’m mostly done with the anger. Is that so? My wife gets her tits in a twist Then despitethe lack of reciprocation There's a lot of "my wife" in this post, but I want to hit this in particular. You wrote words about how your wife doesn't put away the laundry, then she--in her head--thinks you are weak because you didn't call her on it. In her head. You've come up with how she must be feeling about something you didn't whine to her…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/05/22 05:58 PM
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Out of curiosity, why not? Bigger, Leaner, Stronger does publish a 4 day split program. Is it just, "don't switch it up so soon because you haven't been going on this program very long"?
/r/MarriedRedPill03/05/22 02:56 PM
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Don't know where you live, but where I live people are regularly getting offered more than asking price for their houses. Might not be the case for you, but worth understanding.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/05/22 01:18 PM
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The trick is to just get it from the library if buying it is the issue.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/05/22 01:15 PM
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If you had frame, you wouldn't be bothered by comments about your height.
/r/askMRP27/04/22 02:16 AM
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Knee jerk reaction: effective implies that I was trying to get a specific reaction from her. Knight takes bishop, forcing king to d7. And that's not what i was doing. I am trying to provide a view of how I'm operating and a path forward. But that's bullshit. If I truly didn't want anything, why did I say anything in the first place? There's not really a reason to if I'm not trying to achieve something. I definitely wasn't trying to get an agreement to have sex more. So it's not really a FMOFY sp…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/04/22 12:54 AM
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If you do it well, take pride in having done it well. She might want that. She might not. My wife doesn't get a three count. Spanks happen when earned. I do see a nice anticipation build with the counting though. Might bring that in.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/04/22 10:50 PM
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I get it man. There was this girl in college I had a dynamic with that could have naturally led to sex. Never did though. But we did cuddle together in her dorm room while she asked my advice on the guy she liked. I even got to touch her bra strap a little. Honestly it was all I ever wanted out of that relationship. It was just... magical.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/04/22 09:56 PM
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Now that we're home, I need to see how I can prevent the housemates with kids dynamic from returning. Did it go away? You didn't have sex. As usual. Your words.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/04/22 05:44 PM
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I tried to get my wife to read 123 Magic. I just implemented it. I also explained it to her, but she doesn't do it right. Don't know if it's that she doesn't understand the problem or if her feelz just make her react. Doesn't really matter. The system works for me and doesn't work for her, and that's not my problem. Every now and then she'll say, "I should really read that book", but she's just looking for me to say she's a good parent anyway or something. Point is, do it for you and your standa…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/04/22 05:41 PM
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Your OYS is a list of things that suck about you. Next week try to make it a list of things you are doing (have done, past tense) to not suck anymore.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/04/22 04:57 PM
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I don't have a good feel for what a 5'7" guy wants to weigh, but 150 seems early to start cutting.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/04/22 04:54 PM
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Talk less. Write less too, while you're at it.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/04/22 04:37 PM
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How long do you have until you are 50? I started at about 250, and I can tell you it took me a while before I could do a pull-up. Maybe not until I was around 200 lb. I can't recall. And you're not gonna get there rowing 85 lbs (assuming your row and bench track together).
/r/MarriedRedPill26/04/22 04:31 PM
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OYS #65 Stats: 36 M, 5'11", 170 lbs., 17.0% BF; Wife 37; 1 kid, 6 Books: NMMNG, MMSLP, WISNIFG, TRM, What a Year of Owning Your Shit Looks Like, Pook, TWOTSM, PFPFTPM, Day Bang, Red Queen, How to Win Friends & Influence People, Bigger Leaner Stronger, Power of Now, Untethered Soul, How to Talk to Anyone Lifts: GSLP BP: 162.5x9; BS: 225x6; OHP: 110x5; DL: 285x6; ROW: 182.5x7 Squats right now are causing me a lot of difficulties. I haven't successfully increased these in three attempts now. Lookin…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/04/22 03:51 PM
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Buy a barbie doll. They're at target in the aisle with the other girl toys, so you'll be right at home. You can buy clothes to dress her up however you want.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/04/22 04:31 PM
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There's this dialogue in WISNIFG where the guy wants meat that he bought from a store, but can't find when he got home. He might have lost the meat himself, but he goes to the store and says he wants his meat. The store asks if he checked his car. Yes, it's not there, and I want my meat. This is really irregular. It may be, but I want my meat. I can't authorize that. Who can? Bring him here. I want my meat. Imagine this Her: You made me feel bad. You: I want to leave the bathroom. Step aside ple…
/r/askMRP13/04/22 05:59 PM
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I appreciate it. It's still a target rich environment though. I just failed to get 240 on my squat yesterday. Second time to try after going back down to 225 and working up.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/04/22 11:21 PM
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I'm confused. Shouldn't brownie points be redeemable for anal?
/r/MarriedRedPill05/04/22 06:37 PM
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Bro, your wife was having sex with the hotel room. You were just the dildo. Was this your first blue pill vacation?
/r/MarriedRedPill05/04/22 06:02 PM
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I still haven't figured out though how to convert this to sex though, Let me help 2 HJs.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/04/22 05:52 PM
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This is a good and much less glib answer about anger. I've never found anger to be very useful for accomplishing things. Some men do. Mileage may vary. But getting angry over shit testing is all frame. It's your brain telling you that you are not your own judge.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/04/22 05:41 PM
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Regular lift days I do 3x5 chin ups with body weight. Usually by the end of the workout, my AMRAP on those is 7 or 8. Fresh, I can do 10, but 11 doesn't feel far off. For non-lifting days, I bought a belt with a chain, and over time got myself to an extra 35 hanging off me while doing pull ups, not chin ups. As I have gained weight, I've started failing to get the reps with the extra 35. I top out at 4, and get about halfway on the 5th rep.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/04/22 05:21 PM
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Divorce her. Don't. Do what you want. But... I am now just living my life "as though my wife was dead", free of any restraints. Why do you need to divorce a dead woman? Can't you just live your life? Can you see how "I'm living as though she were dead" and "I need to force the issue with this divorce card" represent a logical contradiction?
/r/MarriedRedPill05/04/22 04:11 PM
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I passed the shit test test and began feeling anger. Passed it, did you?
/r/MarriedRedPill05/04/22 03:44 PM
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They're all 3x5 with an AMRAP final set. I report weight and rep number for the AMRAP set. I think you're seeing decimals from my microplates. For example, I could have instead written BP [email protected]
/r/MarriedRedPill05/04/22 03:11 PM
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Current goal is to work on setting boundaries and taking time off from kid duty in order to be more social and interesting. Interesting to whom?
/r/MarriedRedPill05/04/22 02:58 PM
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Sounds like you just realized dread is a massive covert contract. This is good. As far as the rest goes, it's so full of buzzwords and bullshit I don't know what to tell you. You're either going to move forward with the divorce or it's just an empty threat like it has been in the past. But if you do move forward, know that you're doing it because you're upset your dread contract wasn't upheld.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/04/22 02:29 PM
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OYS #64 Stats: 36 M, 5'11", 168 lbs., 16.4% BF; Wife 37; 1 kid, 6 Books: NMMNG, MMSLP, WISNIFG, TRM, What a Year of Owning Your Shit Looks Like, Pook, TWOTSM, PFPFTPM, Day Bang, Red Queen, How to Win Friends & Influence People, Bigger Leaner Stronger, Power of Now, Untethered Soul, How to Talk to Anyone Lifts: GSLP BP: 177.5x5; BS: 235x6; OHP: 100x8; DL: 305x5; ROW: 182.5x6 I've widened the grip on my bench by quite a bit and have been really focusing on how I set up with my feet and back. This …
/r/MarriedRedPill05/04/22 02:06 PM
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As for the divorce threat next time tell her she gets this one. Next time she brings it up, you're filing. Only do this if you'll actually file. Otherwise you're like my wife who counts my kid to three and then starts back at one "but means it this time."
/r/MarriedRedPill16/03/22 01:43 AM
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Use this
/r/askMRP15/03/22 07:04 PM
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I really like that you organized the whining about sex story in the same sexton as the whining about your car story. Both situations are you being upset that you didn't have control over a situation. I think when people read WISNIFG, their eyes are opened up to the idea that they can be assertive and they can now get what they want instead of stewing in their anger about not getting what they want. The world is now their oyster. Eventually, they come to realize they have over reached in reclaimi…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/03/22 03:17 PM
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Before I started OYS when I thought I could read Athol's blog and talk about my feelings with my wife, I had a set of dumbbells and a yoga ball. When I started to OYS, I bought a cage, a barbell, plates to get to 300 lbs, a bench, and a rubber mat before I got to #2. Cost me about $1000. Best money I've ever spent. Get a bar. Start on strong lifts 5x5. I said it l last week, and I'll say it this week. This place can't help you if you can't get under a bar 3x/wk.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/03/22 02:43 PM
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OYS #63 Stats: 36 M, 5'11", 166 lbs., 16.0% BF; Wife 37; 1 kid, 6 Books: NMMNG, MMSLP, WISNIFG, TRM, What a Year of Owning Your Shit Looks Like, Pook, TWOTSM, PFPFTPM, Day Bang, Red Queen, How to Win Friends & Influence People, Bigger Leaner Stronger, Power of Now, Untethered Soul, How to Talk to Anyone Lifts: GSLP BP: 170x5; BS: 235x5; OHP: 107.5x5; DL: 300x0 ROW: 180x7 Internal: I did 2x5@300 on deadlift this week. When I went in for my third set, I couldn't get a single rep, so I'm reporting …
/r/MarriedRedPill15/03/22 01:22 PM
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Then go back to those two questions I asked earlier and answer them.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/03/22 12:35 AM
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I didn't say that. You can go back and see that at no point did I say you SHOULD be or do anything. I'm simply noting that you are making a decision and you are not owning it. You are so focused on this woman. Making sure she respects you. Dominating her. Yelling at her. These are all problems with you and your head. You've got your own shit. Fix that. Stop whining. Stop deflecting your decisions. Own your shit.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/03/22 10:11 PM
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OK good. Now I'm going to write two sentences and then ask you two questions. Sentences: 1) I decide how long my former girlfriend gets to live in my house. 2) My former girlfriend decides how long she gets to live in my house. Questions: 1) Can you see how those sentences are different? 2) Can you see that you have written both of those sentences to me?
/r/MarriedRedPill09/03/22 06:45 PM
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So you made the decision to let her stay?
/r/MarriedRedPill09/03/22 06:07 PM
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I was hoping I could also live with you for however long I want and not have sex with you.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/03/22 04:48 PM
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Finances don't make decisions. They inform decisions. Humans make decisions. So the question remains.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/03/22 12:15 PM
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until she’s able to afford her own place Who decides when she's able to afford her own place?
/r/MarriedRedPill09/03/22 03:19 AM
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Who the fuck cares what her intentions were? This reads more like you were scared you would look bad. My guess is she's bringing this up because you leaving the marriage looks a lot like you leaving her (in her eyes). And when you can't engage with that it confirms it to her. So now her only source of truth in this situation is your ex. Even if her intentions aren't genuine and she doesn't trust you at all, how does not engaging with her legitimate concerns do anything but confirm that you're no…
/r/MarriedRedPill08/03/22 11:02 PM
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I'm just learning how to do this myself. I went from following my wife around like a puppy to doing other shit as a manipulative tactic to withdraw attention in response to not getting attention. Then I went from that to just doing other shit because my life is busy, and I don't always have time to give my wife. Somewhere around there, my time became a display of value. Because it wasn't wrapped up with hidden agendas and it was no longer something I had so much of that I was giving her all of m…
/r/MarriedRedPill08/03/22 10:44 PM
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+1 on showing instead of telling. Notice that u/sea-tease, Dunlop, and I are all saying show. OP, I spent a long time trying to tell her as a "feminine grows through praise, if I tell her, she'll do X" covert contract. First keep your mouth shut about what's in her head. Then, learn to keep your mind shut about what's in her head.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/03/22 07:34 PM
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dancing monkey I'm confused. Why does your back hurting make you not remember what you did?
/r/MarriedRedPill08/03/22 04:17 PM
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That suggests that at some point, your wife went from not feeling valued by you to the opposite. How did you show your wife you valued her?
/r/MarriedRedPill08/03/22 03:25 PM
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I did go home and tell the wife about it and let it sit for a couple days. Two days later - she is trying on some kinky underwear You're dancing. Enjoy the benefits while they last. Rows @ don't remember Why not?
/r/MarriedRedPill08/03/22 03:15 PM
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On the way to dropping her home, she wanted to engage me about leaving my marriage. I deflected it and she stone-walled for the remainder of the trip. Why did you deflect here?
/r/MarriedRedPill08/03/22 03:05 PM
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My current plan is to Gym exercise 2x times per week, 2x times running and 2x times do exercise to strengthen my core. Every beginner program I know of has 3 lifting days a week where you do at minimum 2 of the major compound lifts. 5x5, GSLP, 5/3/1, the Bigger, Leaner, Stronger program. I'm sure there are more. There isn't a single one that says you can get what you want on 2 days per week. I'm not an expert, but I believe there's a reason for that. If your goal is body fat, you need to be cutt…
/r/MarriedRedPill08/03/22 02:52 PM
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OYS #62 Stats: 36 M, 5'11", 163 lbs., 15.5% BF; Wife 37; 1 kid, 6 Books: NMMNG, MMSLP, WISNIFG, TRM, What a Year of Owning Your Shit Looks Like, Pook, TWOTSM, PFPFTPM, Day Bang, Red Queen, How to Win Friends & Influence People, Bigger Leaner Stronger, Power of Now, Untethered Soul, How to Talk to Anyone Lifts: GSLP BP: 167.5x6; BS: 225x8; OHP: 107.5x5; DL: 290x5 ROW: 177.5x9 I'm following the lifting plan. First time completing a press higher than 105 in a long time. I bought a set of 1.25 plate…
/r/MarriedRedPill08/03/22 02:29 PM
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Have you fixed your door yet?
/r/MarriedRedPill01/03/22 07:52 PM
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I have 2.5 lb plates, so I add 5 every time if I hit 5 on AMRAP the previous time.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/03/22 03:18 PM
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This is good advice because I can already see that happening. I'm sure I'm fucking up. I am having more trouble controlling my eating than when I was cutting. Right now, I'm taking it as growing pains because I'm doing something I've never done before. I'll focus on not getting into a binge/purge cycle. I also moved from my modified GSLP 4 day plan to the 3 day plan as-written (also your advice). Haven't finished my first week yet, but my ohp this web I did better than 105x4 on my AMRAP set, whi…
/r/MarriedRedPill01/03/22 02:27 PM
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picture Your legs are too skinny. Do more squats.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/03/22 02:06 PM
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I questioned what was meant by that Then a sentence later kept my STFU on point You're lying to yourself. You had already failed the STFU. This was a very foggable test. "Yep. That's assuming we move together."
/r/MarriedRedPill01/03/22 02:00 PM
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What were your lifts? You say you're doing that, and there's actually a pretty cool story about you doing the work to hit your goals. So what did you actually lift?
/r/MarriedRedPill01/03/22 01:29 PM
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OYS #61 Stats: 36 M, 5'11", 163 lbs., 15.4% BF; Wife 37; 1 kid, 6 Books: NMMNG, MMSLP, WISNIFG, TRM, What a Year of Owning Your Shit Looks Like, Pook, TWOTSM, PFPFTPM, Day Bang, Red Queen, How to Win Friends & Influence People, Bigger Leaner Stronger, Power of Now, Untethered Soul, How to Talk to Anyone Lifts: GSLP BP: 165x6; BS: 215x8; OHP: 105x6; DL: 285x5 ROW: 180x5 In the weeks since my last post, I hit my admittedly arbitrary goal of seeing under 15% BF on the scale and have started to eat …
/r/MarriedRedPill01/03/22 01:14 PM
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Sure. Took me a while to find it. About 13:30 timestamp. Mids Watch 20 Looks to be pulled from an old J10 comment, so I can't really say Rian agreed, but his follow up comments seemed to. Here's the quote. You were so fucking clearly butthurt, and your best option was to at least Own That Butthurtness, and maybe say something like: "Look, when shit like last night happens, I just feel rejected, and that's not your problem, but I don't know what else to tell you, except I'm not very eager to spen…
/r/MarriedRedPill08/02/22 09:22 PM
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OYS #60 Stats: 36 M, 5'11", 163 lbs., 15.6% BF; Wife 37; 1 kid, 6 Books: NMMNG, MMSLP, WISNIFG, TRM, What a Year of Owning Your Shit Looks Like, Pook, TWOTSM, PFPFTPM, Day Bang, Red Queen, How to Win Friends & Influence People, Bigger Leaner Stronger, Power of Now, Untethered Soul, How to Talk to Anyone Lifts: GSLP BP: 170x4; BS: 225x5; OHP: 105x3; DL: 265x5 ROW: 180x7 Push Lifts didn't progress, but feel better. I added tricep work to help with lockout. They seem smoother now in the early reps,…
/r/MarriedRedPill08/02/22 02:00 PM
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Pretty sure there's a 90 day return policy. No receipt needed. As long as they're still in good condition.
/r/askMRP06/02/22 06:11 PM
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Hope much do you eat in a day?
/r/MarriedRedPill02/02/22 04:34 PM
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Nice guys put others' needs before their own because they think that means they are nice. The problem with that is that they are not actually nice, since they have an unspoken expectation that their niceness will be recognized and rewarded.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/02/22 08:58 PM
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Kinda reads like she's getting off on the spankings and you may actually be encouraging that behavior without realizing it.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/02/22 07:47 PM
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The purpose of weightings is to allocate effort in the event of conflicting priorities. Because time is scarce, and you don't have enough of it to devote to yourself. You're devoting your time and effort to other people instead. But for a minute imagine what if these priorities did not conflict. What if you freed up time to focus on yourself by spending less time focused on others? You're approaching these priorities from a mindset of scarcity. There's plenty of time to do all of these. You're j…
/r/MarriedRedPill01/02/22 03:22 PM
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OYS #59 Stats: 36 M, 5'11", 165 lbs., 16.0% BF; Wife 37; 1 kid, 6 Books: NMMNG, MMSLP, WISNIFG, TRM, What a Year of Owning Your Shit Looks Like, Pook, TWOTSM, PFPFTPM, Day Bang, Red Queen, How to Win Friends & Influence People, Bigger Leaner Stronger, Power of Now, Untethered Soul, How to Talk to Anyone Lifts: GSLP BP: 170x4; BS: 220x4; OHP: 105x3; DL: 255x6 ROW: 180x6 Lifts have stalled. Believe the push issues are tricep lockout related, so adding triangle push-ups and floor presses to my acce…
/r/MarriedRedPill01/02/22 02:48 PM
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It's true most who come here are married. But some aren't. And many who come here aren't looking for strange. But some are. Red pill, even the married kind, is a set of tools to maximize sexual success. How a man uses those tools is up to him. And we don't judge those choices. We do however judge effort and effectiveness. Maui is trying to explain that to you, so I think what you mean to say... is thank you.
/r/askMRP29/01/22 01:05 AM
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She loves you, she needs you, but there ain't no way she's ever gonna want you, Now don't be sad, cause two out of three ain't bad.
/r/askMRP28/01/22 05:30 PM
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Are her tits bigger than yours? If you're looking for advice on how to not be an asshole, you came to the wrong place.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/01/22 08:57 PM
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When was the last time you had a “blowup?” I don't really remember. Couple months maybe? When was the last time you felt butthurt after a rejection? This hit me. I would say I haven't felt butthurt in a long while. I've let go of controlling completely. I don't worry about her rejections, move on, and do something else. This is what i honestly think. But I'm feeling butthurt about your comments, so I know you must be on to something. I'd love to know how you're seeing what you're seeing because …
/r/MarriedRedPill26/01/22 04:36 PM
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I was wondering if he put together that a lot of that list applied to himself.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/01/22 04:06 PM
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OYS #58 Stats: 36 M, 5'11", 167 lbs., 16.4% BF; Wife 37; 1 kid, 6 Books: NMMNG, MMSLP, WISNIFG, TRM, What a Year of Owning Your Shit Looks Like, Pook, TWOTSM, PFPFTPM, Day Bang, Red Queen, How to Win Friends & Influence People, Bigger Leaner Stronger, Power of Now, Untethered Soul, How to Talk to Anyone Lifts: GSLP BP: 170x4; BS: 220x4; OHP: 105x3; DL: 245x7 ROW: 180x6 I continue to cut, maintaining 1600 cal/day. BF continues to go down. This weekend I was out of town for a birthday party. I did…
/r/MarriedRedPill25/01/22 02:43 PM
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I run gslp but 4x/wk. Day A and B on Sunday Monday. Day A and B again on Wednesday Thursday. I didn't want to go down to 3x/wk when I started it.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/01/22 07:14 PM
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This thing puts me at 13.8% body fat. That's really fucking different than my bathroom scale's 17%. I'm going to get a measuring tape for a navy check when I get home tonight.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/01/22 04:01 PM
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I'm going to lay aside the underlying issues of these comments about defining success and having it rough based on having sex with a woman. Success right now is getting body fat to something below 15%. Instead, I'm going to just go with it. I don't believe I have it any harder than any other man in here. You name the bullshit a wife has pulled, my wife has pulled it too. I went through a noob gains phase where we had sex almost every day. My wife has had a talk with me about being friendly with …
/r/MarriedRedPill19/01/22 02:08 PM
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Stalling on the barbell row... I just don't get how to do it without overworking my back I don't see a deadlift number in your lifts. Are you doing them? Bet your back would be stronger if you did.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/01/22 09:31 PM
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I don't miss workouts. I add weight if I hit 5 reps the last set of the previous workout. If I didn't, I try again at the same weight. All your comments are based on weight. I'm not attached to a weight. I want to get fat below 15%. However, I know that you know what you're doing, and I also know that I don't. Basically, I'm trying to reconcile your advice with the advice in Bigger, Leaner, Stronger that you cut to lose fat and you bulk to gain muscle. Therefore, since fat is what I want to opti…
/r/MarriedRedPill18/01/22 07:50 PM
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I'm actually more disciplined at the lifting. In the year and three months since I started lifting, I can probably count on one hand the number of workouts I've missed, and definitely on two hands. I spent seven months on SL, six months on 5/3/1, and the past two on GSLP. Right now I'm doing 4x/wk. If I hit 5 reps on the last set, I'll go up 5lb next time. If not, I'll try the same weight next time. If I don't hit it three times in a row, I'll deload 10% and start again from there. My nutrition …
/r/MarriedRedPill18/01/22 07:33 PM
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I'm very fun and flirty. I touch her, pick her up. I do a ten second kiss every day, and it's enthusiastic. I keep things playful and active. This week, I tried to teach her to do a handstand.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/01/22 07:06 PM
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I can't explain the lack of progress I can. But I won't. It's not important. What is important is my path forward. I have two numbers that need fixing. BF and lifts. I want to prioritize BF, and the book I've got says cut to fix that, so I'm cutting. did you kill that validation seeking by now at least? Pretty sure I did, yeah. I'm not worried anymore about what my wife does or doesn't do.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/01/22 05:57 PM
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Right now I'm trying to shed body fat and get under 15%. I might be misunderstanding. Shouldn't I be cutting to do that? Mostly going off of Bigger, Leaner, Stronger advice here. You're telling me to bulk though.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/01/22 03:57 PM
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DL 2205, Squat 1305 (squat has always been a problem for me)chin +30lb 5, BP 1555 Then... 195b, BF ~12%(cheap callipers) This smells like bullshit. Those numbers are all over the place. What's wrong with your squat?
/r/MarriedRedPill18/01/22 03:51 PM
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Last three months it has hovered between 170 and 175 while I did weekend drinking and snacking.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/01/22 03:05 PM
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OYS #57 Stats: 36 M, 5'11", 169 lbs., 16.8% BF; Wife 37; 1 kid, 6 Books: NMMNG, MMSLP, WISNIFG, TRM, What a Year of Owning Your Shit Looks Like, Pook, TWOTSM, PFPFTPM, Day Bang, Red Queen, How to Win Friends & Influence People, Bigger Leaner Stronger, Power of Now, Untethered Soul, How to Talk to Anyone Lifts: GSLP BP: 170x4; BS: 215x6; OHP: 105x3; DL: 235x7 ROW: 180x5 I didn't drink any alcohol this weekend, didn't do any snacking, and kept to my portions. I was able to be social and maintain m…
/r/MarriedRedPill18/01/22 02:07 PM
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OK you got me curious, so I went and looked it up. I started posting body fat when I got a scale that reads bf at the end of August at 18.7%. From there until American Thanksgiving (about 2.5 months), I dropped to 16.5%. So almost a percent a month. Not sure if that's reasonable or incredibly slow. After that, there's a spike at Thanksgiving to 17.6%, steady loss until Christmas at 17.0% (again, almost a percent in that month). Then today a spike up to 17.4%. The evidence is that I fucked around…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/01/22 07:49 PM
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A really great instance where I found myself being more in control of my wife Why do you want to control her? The read I get is you seem to be getting off on it a bit.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/01/22 04:41 PM
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Lifting: 210 S, 90 OHP, 120 BP, 275 DL These are the stats I maxed out at before I took a shit during the holidays Nobody cares what you did a month ago? What did you do this week? How are you getting your 170g of protein in if you're abstaining from meats? Those two goals seem to be at odds with one another.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/01/22 03:37 PM
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About a week. Hard to say what variables are mattering right now because of the week i took off from my compound lifts while out of town. I can say when I did my 165 this week, it was tough, but I didn't struggle as much as I had on 160. I failed to get five on that weight twice before I eventually did it. 165 I got four and failed, re-racked immediately, did the fifth rep. I wasn't able to do that on 160 two weeks ago. Still a failure, but one I think I can hit next time.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/01/22 02:26 PM
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OYS #56 Stats: 36 M, 5'11", 171 lbs., 17.4% BF; Wife 37; 1 kid, 6 Books: NMMNG, MMSLP, WISNIFG, TRM, What a Year of Owning Your Shit Looks Like, Pook, TWOTSM, PFPFTPM, Day Bang, Red Queen, How to Win Friends & Influence People, Bigger Leaner Stronger, Power of Now, Untethered Soul, How to Talk to Anyone Lifts: GSLP BP: 165x4; BS: 210x5; OHP: 100x6; DL: 225x8 ROW: 175x5 I had a death in the family over the winter break that required an unplanned trip out of state. The hotel I stayed at had a few …
/r/MarriedRedPill11/01/22 01:29 PM
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I started reading more of everyone else's OYS reports, per my brother's recommendation. Are you related to a previous MRPer? Did someone Red knight you?
/r/MarriedRedPill21/12/21 08:04 PM
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Relationship I meant that the self-improvement kick after a year is clearly not just a phase, and that she might be getting on board. Basically I'm seeing signs that the rope is pulling. I do view this as something I've been driving, a sign that the shape of the container she's filling is better than before, if only slightly. But I also respect the warning about judging my own progress on the response of my woman. I take that warning close to heart. Father I think I'm a good dad. But more import…
/r/MarriedRedPill21/12/21 06:39 PM
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OYS #55 Stats: 36 M, 5'11", 172 lbs., 17.0% BF; Wife 37; 1 kid, 6 Books: NMMNG, MMSLP, WISNIFG, TRM, What a Year of Owning Your Shit Looks Like, Pook, TWOTSM, PFPFTPM, Day Bang, Red Queen, How to Win Friends & Influence People, Bigger Leaner Stronger, Power of Now, Untethered Soul, How to Talk to Anyone Lifts: GSLP BP: 160x4; BS: 200x6; OHP: 100x3; DL: 235x8 ROW: 170x6 I got angry this week. Zen pointed out that I was checking boxes on lifting, not pushing myself. Ragnar said it a few weeks ago …
/r/MarriedRedPill21/12/21 02:21 PM
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Lifting: Barely. Do you look like Thor in Infinity War or do you look like Thor in Endgame? Hey, I get that you think it's about how to handle this type of test or how to present that type of alpha behavior. But until you fix this part, you're not going to get anywhere. You're trying to treat symptoms instead of the disease.
/r/askMRP17/12/21 03:12 PM
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OYS #55 Stats: 36 M, 5'11", 172 lbs., 17.4% BF; Wife 37; 1 kid, 6 Books: NMMNG, MMSLP, WISNIFG, TRM, What a Year of Owning Your Shit Looks Like, Pook, TWOTSM, PFPFTPM, Day Bang, Red Queen, How to Win Friends & Influence People, Bigger Leaner Stronger, Power of Now, Untethered Soul, How to Talk to Anyone Lifts: GSLP BP: 150x8; BS: 190x6; OHP: 95x7; DL: 225x9 ROW: 170x5 I lifted four times this week and went for a run over the weekend. Numbers are going up, either in weight or in reps, since I'm d…
/r/MarriedRedPill14/12/21 02:28 PM
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I have been a lazy ass this week and haven't done my exercises because I prefer to sleep This is bullshit. Are you sleeping 16 hours every day? Or are you prioritizing other stuff and blaming it on "oh but I've got to sleep"? Because... I get so distracted by anything! From Google to Wikipedia, I keep on wasting my time browsing for stupid stuff so many hours! You're fucking around, not doing any work and saying let's see what I do next week. Then blaming it on needing sleep like you didn't put …
/r/MarriedRedPill08/12/21 07:25 PM
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Goal - Cut Down Alcohol to occasion drinking only. What does this mean? I get the feeling you and I disagree on what occasion means.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/12/21 12:53 AM
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I'll paint it like this. I've gone to enough dinner engagements where nothing being served was on his small list of foods that he will eat, so we just gave him chips or crackers or breakfast cereal the host had in the pantry. And enough dinner engagements where I decided to give him what was served. There are other kids there eating the food. It's not shrimp curry. It's cheese pizza or quesadillas. He usually just refuses to eat in these scenarios. Success is my son has a broad enough repertoire…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/12/21 10:05 PM
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EDIT: Replied to wrong comment. You set a boundary you weren't sure you wanted to enforce because you were afraid how it would look to others if you didn't. You checked her phone because you were scared. You decided on a divorce because you were angry and ashamed at what you found (and maybe because you allowed the kids' room sub to egg you on). You don't want to back down because MRP might judge you. The decisions you have been making are emotionally charged and not from your own frame. That's …
/r/MarriedRedPill07/12/21 07:43 PM
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I know I am.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/12/21 03:59 PM
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"So, I guess I won't be getting any more attention tonight." Your wife is awesome. One of the things I love is that wives seem to know exactly where we are weak and poke that area hard. At least mine does. I'm really grateful for it. It takes me a some time to get from pissed to grateful, but I always get there. This is a really good gift. You probably didn't even know you had that weakness until she showed it to you.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/12/21 03:14 PM
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I agree with SBill. Every time I even dip a toe into TRP or MGTOW or the other red pill spaces I feel stupider after. They all seem like that one weird trick that'll make women infatuated with you. It's the difference between appearing attractive and being attractive. I'd rather sell a product I believe in than trick someone into buying a product I don't. And then try to trick them into buying it again tomorrow. In two weeks. A year. 5 years.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/12/21 01:53 PM
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OYS #54 Stats: 36 M, 5'11", 172 lbs., 17.4% BF; Wife 37; 1 kid, 6 Books: NMMNG, MMSLP, WISNIFG, TRM, What a Year of Owning Your Shit Looks Like, Pook, TWOTSM, PFPFTPM, Day Bang, Red Queen, How to Win Friends & Influence People, Bigger Leaner Stronger, Power of Now, Untethered Soul, How to Talk to Anyone Lifts: GSLP BP: 145x8; BS: 185x10; OHP: 95x6; DL: 220x8 ROW: 145x14 For a bit this week, body weight was going the wrong direction. Things have started trending down again since then. Result of m…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/12/21 01:44 PM
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Given your ask post, I'd like to see your next OYS have something about the anger you have and how you're working through it. You've been angry at your kids. You've been angry at your wife. You've probably been angry at friends and colleagues. I know you logically know you're really angry at yourself. How are you internalizing that? It's still manifesting as lashing out at others. And it will continue to in future relationships unless you work on that.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/12/21 04:54 PM
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This is not the finish line. I understood last week that I would take a hit both on the scale and in this ring for my choices. I also know that you're not just talking about this week. I appreciate what you're saying. Thank you for the hit.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/12/21 01:48 AM
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I like all the advice here. I downloaded the book and am reading it now. Thank you and everyone else who has helped me with this one.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/12/21 01:44 AM
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So far he has only succeeded. I've never had him miss the timer, but I was willing to let him skip a meal if he did. Don't make the norm success. I'm not sure I follow what this means. I agree that I have been using fear as a motivator, and I don't like that. Thank you for your help.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/11/21 04:11 PM
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What I'm doing is I'm making him sit down with a new food and telling him if he eats it I'll get him a food that he is comfortable with. If he starts delaying, I'll set a timer for him to finish. If he does, great. You get your preferred food too. If he doesn't, oh well, we'll try again next time. He's scared of the timer though, so I'm looking for alternatives. I like the idea of the game or the trade. I'll try that.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/11/21 01:34 PM
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OYS #53 Stats: 36 M, 5'11", 173 lbs., 17.6% BF; Wife 37; 1 kid, 6 Books: NMMNG, MMSLP, WISNIFG, TRM, What a Year of Owning Your Shit Looks Like, Pook, TWOTSM, PFPFTPM, Day Bang, Red Queen, How to Win Friends & Influence People, Bigger Leaner Stronger, Power of Now, Untethered Soul, How to Talk to Anyone Lifts: GSLP BP: 140x8; BS: 185x5; OHP: none; DL: none ROW: 140x9 I did not lift heavy things last week. I did body weight exercises as a stop gap and went for a few 2 mile runs. I ate without con…
/r/MarriedRedPill30/11/21 11:42 AM
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You flared and moded guys want to see the retards have done a little work for themselves before wasting time on one timers.... It's not a great amount, but it shows I've put in some work. OK, so we establish that you did it to show off to internet strangers. I get it. Just realize you did it and it's a thing to work on. This shit is pervasive.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/11/21 04:57 AM
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What did I miss? You did it wrong. It's Up, Up, Down, Down, Left, Right, Left, Right, B, A, Select, Start. If you did it right, she starts squirting.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/11/21 02:28 PM
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Part of what books like NMMNG are supposed to teach you is that sometimes you have self-serving intentions that you don't actually think you have. You're not aware of them because you've convinced yourself you have some other, nicer intention. So you do stuff, and when people point out the bullshit behind it, you say that wasn't the intention. Consider that Renaissance Man is right and you do have that secret intention to look better in front of internet strangers. One of the things this place t…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/11/21 02:17 PM
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There's a concept of tactics and a concept of strategy. Tactics are the individual moves we make to gain incremental advantage. These are often opportunistic and reactionary. Things like, "he left himself open to a discovered check, and now I can win a rook." Strategy is the overall game plan that you want to execute when playing the game. This is broader and doesn't focus on minutiae like tactics. Things like, "I want to play a long, defensive game, because I believe I have better endgame skill…
/r/askMRP17/11/21 03:08 PM
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OYS #52 Stats: 36 M, 5'11", 170 lbs., 16.5% BF; Wife 37; 1 kid, 6 Books: NMMNG, MMSLP, WISNIFG, TRM, What a Year of Owning Your Shit Looks Like, Pook, TWOTSM, PFPFTPM, Day Bang, Red Queen, How to Win Friends & Influence People, Bigger Leaner Stronger, Power of Now, Untethered Soul Lifts: Wendler 5-3-1 BP: 155x4; BS: 205x3; OHP: 105x4; DL: 235x7 I'm out of town next week. It will be my deload week, so I'll be doing mostly body weight while I'm away. I didn't plan it this way, but it works out nic…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/11/21 01:31 PM
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So the only reason you don't get all whiny with your children is that you have power over them. You get upset about your wife because you don't have power over her. What if I told you, this need for control and bitching that you don't have it is a huge problem for you? Learn to be unaffected by these people in your life regardless of your relative power situations. That's very easy to say and not very easy to do. But it's the only path forward I see for you that leads somewhere positive.
/r/askMRP14/11/21 08:24 PM
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So why do you argue with your wife and get all upset?
/r/askMRP14/11/21 04:12 AM
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When your kids whine and bitch at you, do you argue with them about how you're right?
/r/askMRP14/11/21 03:23 AM
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I ought to be provisioning and caring for my wife Yes, that's your most basic duty. That shit eventually needs to extend out into the world. It's a big reason why you should go out and talk with other women people If should's and ought's were pussy from THOT's, we'd all be asking you two for answers.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/11/21 03:21 AM
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Agreed. A lot of work. I don't see the CC, but I've missed them before.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/11/21 10:29 PM
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1) Be a man who doesn't seek his wife's approval for my own self-worth. 2) Don't solve #1 by replacing the need for my wife's approval with the need for another third party's approval.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/11/21 09:29 PM
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No. But I'm happier with where I'm at than where I was. And that trend has been true for a while. So I'm happy with the positive progress I see.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/11/21 05:06 PM
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OYS #51 Stats: 36 M, 5'11", 175 lbs., 16.9% BF; Wife 37; 1 kid, 6 Books: NMMNG, MMSLP, WISNIFG, TRM, What a Year of Owning Your Shit Looks Like, Pook, TWOTSM, PFPFTPM, Day Bang, Red Queen, How to Win Friends & Influence People, Bigger Leaner Stronger, Power of Now, Untethered Soul Lifts: Wendler 5-3-1 BP: 145x8; BS: 195x4; OHP: 100x4; DL: 220x9 I continue to lift at the same weights that I did in my previous cycle. I like that I can compare my current to where I was four weeks ago. I had a coupl…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/11/21 12:09 PM
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I must not fear. Fear is the mind-killer. Fear is the little-death that brings total obliteration. I will face my fear. I will permit it to pass over me and through me. And when it has gone past I will turn the inner eye to see its path. Where the fear has gone there will be nothing. Only I will remain. It does seem at first that the quote is about building a wall that keeps fear out. Some of the less known later parts are about allowing it to pass over and through you until it leaves you. About…
/r/MarriedRedPill04/11/21 08:04 PM
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Fear is the mind-killer.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/11/21 02:15 PM
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This is an interesting model. I've been likening it to walking a tight rope or a balance beam as a model. A tight rope walker doesn't look like they're putting a lot of energy into staying on center. It looks effortless. But begins that look there are hundreds of muscles making tiny corrections based on small sensory inputs. There's a lot of action behind that effortless look. You seem to be advocating for a model of eventually not really worrying about that. A "you don't have to dodge bullets" …
/r/MarriedRedPill03/11/21 02:13 AM
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This is a better OYS than your past few, but I think you know that's not saying much. Let's do some obvious tune-ups. I kept everyone's emotions in check You can't keep other people's emotions in check. What you can do is be calm and methodical when emotions are high. The oak doesn't keep the storm from blowing. It simply weathers it. Joked to wife afterwards, "good thing I was home when this happened." This isn't a joke. It's a cry for validation. You're doing a needy thing and calling it a jok…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/11/21 01:49 AM
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This weekend, I was so in my wife's frame I felt sure I was either going to give a dishonest OYS or get a rule 9 myself. I recovered and recentered before I wrote my OYS, but it was a close thing I can attest there's a temptation to write the rule 9 post when you recognize how fucked up you're being but you can't seem to make yourself stop. A feeling that you deserve the ban, so you better write it. Call of the void or some shit. I recovered. My story this week was swinging the wrong way and rec…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/11/21 12:16 AM
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I think that's one of the dangers. Too much presence can lead to complacency. If nothing bugs you, you're always satisfied, and you have no drive. This can be blissful, but it can also lead you to living under a bridge under I-95. There are extremes to this pendulum to swing between and find your own center. Mine was a bit too far to the "I'm worried about shit" side of things, so I found this helpful.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/11/21 05:44 PM
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I got a lot more out of PoN, surprisingly since it's much more right-brain aligned and I am not. I thought it did a better job of telling the reader why it was useful, what problem it was solving. PoN taught me how not to sweat my problems, and that worrying about them was very ego-based, yes. I'm not sure I got much out of US, probably because I latched early to the idea that it was the same book with less hippie Chakra stuff. Don't really want this to turn into a book report, but another issue…
/r/MarriedRedPill02/11/21 05:18 PM
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Feel better getting that out? Good. You're better than this. Get back to work.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/11/21 04:00 PM
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OYS #50 Stats: 36 M, 5'11", 175 lbs., 16.9% BF; Wife 37; 1 kid, 6 Books: NMMNG, MMSLP, WISNIFG, TRM, What a Year of Owning Your Shit Looks Like, Pook, TWOTSM, PFPFTPM, Day Bang, Red Queen, How to Win Friends & Influence People, Bigger Leaner Stronger, Power of Now Lifts: Wendler 5-3-1 BP: 140x8; BS: 135x5; OHP: 70x5; DL: 155x5 Going into my next cycle of 5-3-1 I've decided not to raise the 1RM on any of my lifts. I want to test if I can get more reps than my previous cycle. One of my mental issu…
/r/MarriedRedPill02/11/21 12:51 PM
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I don't have the exact quote. But you're right, those two situations are different. But that's not the point. The point is whatever it was, it helped me realize I had a hidden belief that I was hanging some hopes on that I wasn't yet aware of. The point is I found something I had to let go of, and I let go of it.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/10/21 01:49 AM
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I get that. If you don't want to be in the relationship, then don't. But your words are very focused on the relationship. I just wrote a response about how it reads to me that you have ego issues and your response was about whether you should next your LTR. Breaking up will not fix those who issues. Nor will staying together. Neither choice will fix your shit. So why are directing your mental energy to a decision that won't fix your shit?
/r/MarriedRedPill26/10/21 09:21 PM
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That's because you are butthurt. You have an ego telling you that you deserve something from her, and you have her actions telling you that you don't deserve shit. These two realities create a dissonance in your mind. This is why you're annoyed at an apparent lack of respect. And why you made an attempt to control her actions going forward. Your OYS reads like you think you've mostly got shit figured out and you're here to refine your DHVs so you can cold open a 3-set and mirror the 9 by matchin…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/10/21 08:22 PM
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Then why did you call her out on her disrespect rather than just adjusting your time and commitment accordingly?
/r/MarriedRedPill26/10/21 07:46 PM
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Let me rephrase: why do you need someone who respects you?
/r/MarriedRedPill26/10/21 07:27 PM
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Why do you need her to respect you?
/r/MarriedRedPill26/10/21 07:13 PM
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I did have opportunities to go and lift, but instead I slept in and hung out. I don't have a strong vision here as to how I want to present myself, but I know I'd like to be way cleaner in my presentation I need to challenge my minds current set of beliefs I will also be more disciplined in accounting for where my money is going by utilizing software. Truth be told, I'm working there out of obligation Welcome to MRP. We value men who do work here. This was a lot of words to write "OYS 2: I didn'…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/10/21 07:10 PM
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The past two weeks are some of the first OYS you've posted where I actually knew what you did after reading it. You got called out last week, and now I have no idea what any of this OYS means. Are you avoiding getting called out with nebulous language?
/r/MarriedRedPill26/10/21 06:56 PM
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annoyed that she didn't inform me before Why?
/r/MarriedRedPill26/10/21 06:31 PM
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So, I got in on Athol's blog, which was pro talk to your wife. When she asked, I told her. Everything. We read the blog together. I didn't find MRP and it's don't talk about fight club advice until later. But overall, the cat was out of the bag early on, and so when she asks questions, I answer them. To do otherwise would seem to me like I was ashamed of something of I was doing, and I don't want to ever be ashamed of anything. Thing is, she almost never asks. She hasn't read any of the sidebar …
/r/MarriedRedPill26/10/21 06:05 PM
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The red knight thing is something I sometimes feel creep up on me too. I've largely given up on it though. Tried once. The guy bounced off it. Kept wanting to put responsibility on his wife. It just doesn't work, so it isn't a worthwhile use of my time. I said something about a guy we know getting divorced, and my wife flat out asked if I was going to red pill him. Right in front of my feminist sister and her husband. That was quite the test. I said that was a terrible idea, and then we started …
/r/MarriedRedPill26/10/21 03:46 PM
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OYS #49 Stats: 36 M, 5'11", 175 lbs., 17.0% BF; Wife 37; 1 kid, 6 Books: NMMNG, MMSLP, WISNIFG, TRM, What a Year of Owning Your Shit Looks Like, Pook, TWOTSM, PFPFTPM, Day Bang, Red Queen, How to Win Friends & Influence People, Bigger Leaner Stronger, Lifts: Wendler 5-3-1 BP: 110x5; BS: 135x5; OHP: 110x2; DL: 250x2 Started a deload week, so bench and squat are low. I'm feeling stronger and think I'm looking better. I had a PR on deadlift. My OHP also feels like it's gotten better. Don't think I'…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/10/21 12:08 PM
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We tell guys when they get here to pretend their wife is dead. It helps them make decisions for themselves. Your wife just died. My sympathies.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/10/21 08:43 PM
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You're paying a lot of attention to what this dead girl does. Didn't you get a warning shot?
/r/MarriedRedPill21/10/21 08:32 PM
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Bruh. Can I call you bruh? You're very hung up on whether she disrespected you by telling you she's a woman with an endocrine system that does what a woman's endocrine system does. A lot of people here are asking you why does it matter? You are responding by doubling down on your ask of whether she was disrespectful. Again for telling you something a basic health text book from any blue state high school would have already told you. Consider that the men asking you why it matters might actually …
/r/askMRP21/10/21 07:38 PM
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I wrote a reply to you a month ago with some effort. Go look at that. It still applies. You say you've read the sideboard. Are you sure?
/r/MarriedRedPill21/10/21 02:59 PM
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I'm not sure if you understand what I'm asking. Why do you believe it applies to your marriage? Is it because you believe it should? Or is it because you're wife believes it should? If it's the first one, fair enough. If the second, maybe try to understand why that is. I'm not trying to knock your faith here. I might even be projecting. I just know I spent a lot of years going to church because I thought it would make my wife love me. Then not going to church because it never did. And now going …
/r/MarriedRedPill20/10/21 02:07 PM
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This is actually my big shit to own, and I wrote about it an OYS or two ago. I haven't developed a concrete goal here beyond "look good naked". I think that looks like consistent sub 15% BF. Not sure if that's 10, or 12, or 13. Plan is to get there and see how i think it looks. I know I'd like to have abs. But there's no plan or timeline for that. So far, everything I've done can be summed up by the phrase "eat about half of what I used to, and get under a barbell 4x /wk". A few weeks ago, I tho…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/10/21 02:49 AM
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Anyone who reads Leviticus (okay, maybe Dueteronomy, my memory is hazy) knows who made the rule. Who decided the rule applied to your marriage? Did you? Or did your wife? There's no third option.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/10/21 08:15 PM
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Your only credible concern seems to be the STD issue. I don't even think it's that credible because you can't get an STD without the S. But if it really concerns you, go get tested. If you're clear, either she didn't cheat, or the guy is clean, and you can rest easy. Unless the STD isn't really the issue and you were lying to yourself, and really what you care about is being made to look like a fool. I'm suggesting that you're giving her a lot of mental real estate. We tell guys when they get he…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/10/21 07:50 PM
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What if the important part isn't that you are informed, but rather that you want to be informed?
/r/MarriedRedPill19/10/21 07:11 PM
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Interesting. Why do you need to be informed to make a decision?
/r/MarriedRedPill19/10/21 07:03 PM
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Are you here to become a better man, or are you here to ask Holmes of Apathy whether your wife was unfaithful? She cheated. She didn't cheat. Honestly, it doesn't matter. What matters is that you are insecure and angry about the possibility. You need to fix that. Your hamster is taking you for a ride. Calm the fuck down. Work on the man you want to be. I'm seeing progress with you, but most weeks it's "my wife did this, and now I'm in an emotional tailspin". This week, try "my wife did this, and…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/10/21 05:22 PM
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OYS #48 Stats: 36 M, 5'11", 175 lbs., 17.4% BF; Wife 37; 1 kid, 6 Books: NMMNG, MMSLP, WISNIFG, TRM, What a Year of Owning Your Shit Looks Like, Pook, TWOTSM, PFPFTPM, Day Bang, Red Queen, How to Win Friends & Influence People, Bigger Leaner Stronger, Lifts: Wendler 5-3-1 BP: 155x3; BS: N/A; OHP: 105x2; DL: 235x6 This week, I have some shit to own. Last week, I reported that I ate a bunch on vacation, missed two lifting sessions, and came back only gaining 3 lbs that I quickly got back off. I sp…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/10/21 10:44 AM
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I appreciate what you're saying, and I'm starting to recognize this. You can't break those rules if you're in a place where your wife's mood affects your mood. I'm still not there totally, but those clouds part from time to time and I have greater visibility. There are also rules that I broke that I learned I shouldn't, but that's a story for Tuesdays OYS. The preview is that I can't skip two lifting sessions, eat however much I want, then try to fix that shit in a day when I get back.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/10/21 01:11 PM
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A defining trait of teapots is that when agitated or under pressure, they make high-pitched, shrill noises in complaint about their situation. They're also often short and stout, though not always.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/10/21 10:35 PM
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Still have getting this dialed in at the top of my list. Current work and family commitments have limited time to make progress. This is your shortest section, and all you say is other commitments are pushing it out. It's not actually at the top of your list. cocktails What all those other people do doesn't matter. Why are you not drinking? More importantly, why does not drinking mean you can't have fun?
/r/MarriedRedPill14/10/21 05:43 PM
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OYS #47 Stats: 36 M, 5'11", 175 lbs., 17.4% BF; Wife 37; 1 kid, 6 Books: NMMNG, MMSLP, WISNIFG, TRM, What a Year of Owning Your Shit Looks Like, Pook, TWOTSM, PFPFTPM, Day Bang, Red Queen, How to Win Friends & Influence People, Bigger Leaner Stronger, Lifts: Wendler 5-3-1 BP: N/A; BS: N/A; OHP: 105x3; DL: 235x6 Went out to wine country for a long weekend. Drank a lot of wine. Ate a lot of food. No scale in the hotels. Gained 3lbs when I got back. Got back on the diet, back to pre-trip weight aft…
/r/MarriedRedPill14/10/21 04:06 PM
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Not necessarily for me. I'm naturally pretty self-centered and don't have a lot of difficulty talking about myself. I also think one of the things I learned early on from my lurking period was how my problems were all my fault, which is something I think rule 9 is supposed to teach. The problem comes when it's easy to learn the shortcut. Just ctrl+F for she and rewrite as necessary. That's really easy to do, but it doesn't really teach the intended lesson. Some guys come in, get a ban, come back…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/10/21 12:56 AM
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The root cause is scarcity mindset. I have a pervasive belief that my wife is the only woman who would have sex with me. This belief is false, and I'm beginning to understand that. But the mindset dies hard. I continue to notice behaviors that are driven by this mindset. When I do, I stop the behaviors. The idea here is that I'll slowly kill the mindset by progressively understanding and eliminating these actions.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/10/21 06:07 PM
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The pause on rule 9 wasn't done to make things better for all the OYS'ers. It was to make it easier for the mods who get a good chuckle from watching us struggle, lol. Somewhat agree, but I also think there's value in turning the reins loose. People can be guilty of not posting their actual mindset because they know they can get "she"-banned. I know I've been guilty of this. That makes it hard to see your actual problems and have them pointed out to you. That being said, I do miss the bans. If f…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/10/21 05:43 PM
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I've been through this with the praise thing. It's a covert contact. The problem is you're using praise as a manipulation tactic. You want a certain response out of her. Read your post again if you don't believe me. When you genuinely don't care if she does the thing or not, that's when you're praise will be genuine.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/10/21 02:50 PM
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OYS #46 Stats: 36 M, 5'11", 175 lbs., 17.4% BF; Wife 37; 1 kid, 5 Books: NMMNG, MMSLP, WISNIFG, TRM, What a Year of Owning Your Shit Looks Like, Pook, TWOTSM, PFPFTPM, Day Bang, Red Queen, How to Win Friends & Influence People Lifts: Wendler 5-3-1 BP: 145x5; BS: 190x6; OHP: 100x4; DL: 230x3 I've started reading Bigger, Leaner, Stronger this week. Thus far, I've lost a total of 75 lbs with the rather simple strategy of getting under a barbell 4x/wk and eating less than I used to eat. No special c…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/10/21 11:56 AM
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She's the chore captain, I do what I want Does becoming the captain involve fucking chore play? She's upset having to do everything while I have free time. Are you taking care of your shit? You're a grown ass man. I'm not saying do the dishes so you can get your dick sucked. I'm saying do the dishes so you have a clean sink. It's your fucking sink. It's not about having sex. It's about having standards. Lift: Unsure, but been going to gym. What does this even mean? Did you go to the gym and sit …
/r/MarriedRedPill02/10/21 11:41 PM
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Careful with that. You don't need internet idiots to tell you you did something cool. But you did something cool.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/10/21 06:36 PM
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Came here to say this. u/ragnar-Daneskjold Good field report. And good job shutting up after the meme. Did you make that?
/r/MarriedRedPill01/10/21 06:01 PM
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You're welcome
/r/MarriedRedPill01/10/21 05:21 PM
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I personally threw the scoreboard out long ago Then There's no logic in the argument, because my hours are spent paying for the environment that I live in And My SMV far outweighs her...woman who engages in poor sex You're scoreboarding. It's just not, I got sex two times this week anymore. You changed what points on the board are. But the board is still there.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/09/21 10:44 AM
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Good job. Dust is right. This is a marathon. I still feel like I'm starting out. But if you always take steps, you can cover distance in time. Glad to see you moving your feet.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/09/21 12:23 AM
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I have a different take than some of the others. Here's what I see. See I RARELY get shit tests If anyone was likely to get mad or testy, it was me. no fights unless I initiate one And 6’7” 252lbs Couple all that with She’s avoiding my reaction I wonder if she's actually just scared of you. You seem to be an intimidating presence. Alpha gym bro. I admit, I haven't been able to get a read on you, so I haven't really talked to you yet. And my diagnostic powers are better put towards the Billy Beta…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/09/21 11:10 PM
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Better, but... I am going to journal on a daily basis Are you going to? Or did you? It's been a week. I was reading Atomic Habits, and he tells a story about an author who writes a page a day for his novel and an author who works on an outline for his novel every day. At the end of a year, one has a novel and one has a really spiffy outline. There's a difference between saying you'll do something and actually doing it. You see the problem. That's step one and a step not everyone gets to. Don't s…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/09/21 07:35 PM
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There's a reason this guy got a response from me and the other guy got a negative inquiry. He seems like he wants to do it right but doesn't know how. The other guy seems like he thinks he did it right and is hot shit.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/09/21 06:20 PM
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This is a place to do work. Like everyone here, you came here because there's something about your life that you want to change. But your life is the way it is because of the way you are. The problem is you. And to change your life, you will need to change yourself. But you've got a long history of being the same. A lot of inertia. And changing that inertia takes effort. Effort that you have to be willing to give. It won't be fun, and it won't be easy. So, are you determined to make an effort? O…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/09/21 05:19 PM
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What about your post deserves the effort of my input?
/r/MarriedRedPill28/09/21 05:03 PM
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No effort.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/09/21 04:05 PM
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No effort.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/09/21 04:04 PM
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I'm just getting started on duolingo for Chinese (a language I know a bit of already). Having done it for a year, do you think it has gotten you relatively conversational? Is there a path past the beginner stage?
/r/MarriedRedPill28/09/21 11:58 AM
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OYS #45 Stats: 36 M, 5'11", 175 lbs., 17.9% BF; Wife 37; 1 kid, 5 Books: NMMNG, MMSLP, WISNIFG, TRM, What a Year of Owning Your Shit Looks Like, Pook, TWOTSM, PFPFTPM, Day Bang, Red Queen, How to Win Friends & Influence People Lifts: Wendler 5-3-1 BP: 140x6; BS: 180x6; OHP: 70x5 deload; DL: 155x5 deload Physically, I'm making continuous progress. Seems like most weeks, I see a new lower number on the scale for weight and body fat. Average weight this week was 171.2. BF was 17.2%. I went ahead an…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/09/21 10:16 AM
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You're not doing the work. You seem to be under the impression that this is a place where men gather to complain about their wives. You seem sad and boring. Fix that. Stop writing about your wife. Next week, try to write an OYS that doesn't mention your wife. Just as an exercise to see if you can.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/09/21 09:57 PM
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I honestly hate "hopefully I can". I'm guilty of it too. It sounds so weak, and doesn't own the failure or the success. What if we went with "this will be a good test for me" when we have something we want to succeed at but aren't sure we have the foundation or will for yet? I'm not sure if it's a good model, but it feels better than the other one.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/09/21 02:24 PM
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Oftentimes she is the one that comes upp with it though, and I realise "yeah, that's a thing I should do". It's not that I refuse just because it was her idea, but I kick myself a bit for not thinking of it first. This happens to me sometimes as well. First it's important to realize that she's gonna catch things that you miss. It's part of her job, and it brings you value. Second, what I've done to make sure I'm owning things is I have a running list of everything I want to get done over the nex…
/r/MarriedRedPill21/09/21 01:08 PM
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OK, so if not for the hiatus, you'd be rule 9 on this. Everything in this post is about your wife. She began viewing herself as the captain and me as the first officer. What do you view yourself as? What do you want to be? she makes my life hard. Which she's genetically programed to do. Time to accept that. It's what MMSLP is all about. she has a tv in the bedroom that she hogs and a lot of the time i sleep in the spare bedroom when i dont want to hear any more reality tv and soap operas Why doe…
/r/MarriedRedPill21/09/21 12:04 PM
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OYS #44 Stats: 36 M, 5'11", 175 lbs., 17.9% BF; Wife 37; 1 kid, 5 Books: NMMNG, MMSLP, WISNIFG, TRM, What a Year of Owning Your Shit Looks Like, Pook, TWOTSM, PFPFTPM, Day Bang, Red Queen, How to Win Friends & Influence People Lifts: Wendler 5-3-1 BP: 165x1; BS: 125x5 deload; OHP: 105x2; DL: 245x1 Finished the current cycle on 5-3-1. I'm conceding that my bench max isn't what it was when I started 5-3-1. I was about 25 lbs heavier then and measured my max bench at 200. That's just not the case a…
/r/MarriedRedPill21/09/21 11:35 AM
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So I get what you're saying. Her response about the kissing made me feel a certain way, and I reacted to that. It's needy and validation seeking. At the time, I didn't feel pouty. I felt like I was setting a boundary. But it was a boundary set for a shitty, defensive reason. You're right. There's more to the story. I have a lot of other thoughts that I want to write, but I'm beginning to see they all boil down to whining about deserving this or that. I think what I'm seeing is that I need to wor…
/r/MarriedRedPill14/09/21 02:46 PM
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OYS #43 Stats: 36 M, 5'11", 175 lbs., 17.9% BF; Wife 37; 1 kid, 5 Books: NMMNG, MMSLP, WISNIFG, TRM, What a Year of Owning Your Shit Looks Like, Pook, TWOTSM, PFPFTPM, Day Bang, Red Queen, How to Win Friends & Influence People Lifts: Wendler 5-3-1 BP: 175x0; BS: 180x12; OHP: 100x5; DL: 230x3 Weight continues to fall. I've been off alcohol for just over two weeks after getting sick. It's been less difficult than I anticipated to just not drink. Thought I'd feel awkward about saying no, like my re…
/r/MarriedRedPill14/09/21 10:19 AM
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Getting a bit tired of "My wife is a hippie and doesn't trust doctors, what do I do guys?" It's every post you make. Aren't you tired of writing it?
/r/MarriedRedPill08/09/21 06:22 PM
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I am still in a calorie deficit. Logically, I understand it's reasonable to not see gains. I made a conscious choice to prioritize getting the weight down over getting the lifts up. I lose sight of that and get frustrated though. I haven't noticed a correlation between validation seeking and stalled progress. But I could see myself missing it. I'll be on the lookout.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/09/21 03:13 AM
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The problem is you remember how fat you were. You have all those pictures of you with your pudgy face and your soft belly. That goofy smile. And you look at yourself now and think "yeah, that's good enough". You're sexy now. You see it. Others see it. You're satisfied. You did it. You need to learn to not be satisfied. To not settle. You're really just okay and meeting everyone's minimum standards of attractiveness. Meeting their standards. And in case you can't tell, I'm talking more to me than…
/r/MarriedRedPill08/09/21 03:10 AM
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If she doesn't say no and it's always great, what are you here for? You're getting the sex you want.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/09/21 06:55 PM
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Think of MMSLP as a guide to how women work internally. Then pair it with NMMNG to realize that you're doing all these things for her. To get her to respond in a certain way. Then, realize that if you're doing all those things for her, then you're not really as alpha as you've convinced yourself by reading MMSLP. They work together. NMMNG to understand why you do what you do (and why it's decidedly not attractive). MMSLP to understand why she does what she does (and why she is decidedly not attr…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/09/21 06:13 PM
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Man, thank the mods for the rule 9 moratorium. We surveyed a hundred married men, top five covert contracts on the board: Name something that will make my wife want to fuck me more. 1) If I do all the house chores so she doesn't have to 2) If I randomly kiss her neck to get her in the mood 3) If I make her cum real hard during sex 4) If my dick is big and girthy like in the good porn 5) If I don't hold her hand so she misses me There's more, but they're less explicitly stated. What are your lift…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/09/21 05:57 PM
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I'm glad you're pointing this out, and I'm glad I wrote about it. I'm beginning to think it's a set of excuses or delay tactics for why my lifts are not improving. My bench has been stuck and getting worse since starting 5-3-1 (even though my physique has been getting better from my perspective looking at the mirror). I've been frustrated by this and hamstering reasons why it's not my fault or beyond my control. But like so many things, it is my fault and up to me to work on.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/09/21 04:59 PM
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OYS #42 Stats: 36 M, 5'11", 180 lbs., 18.5% BF; Wife 37; 1 kid, 5 Books: NMMNG, MMSLP, WISNIFG, TRM, What a Year of Owning Your Shit Looks Like, Pook, TWOTSM, PFPFTPM, Day Bang, Red Queen, How to Win Friends & Influence People Lifts: Wendler 5-3-1 BP: 165x2; BS: 180x12; OHP: 95x7; DL: 220x7 Did well this weekend to not drink and to not overeat despite going to a few different labor day weekend festivities. I left town for a day, and had to rearrange my workouts a bit to accommodate. Didn't miss …
/r/MarriedRedPill07/09/21 12:49 PM
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I dealt with the scale shit test too. You handled it better than I did, but I will say that "okay mom" isn't amused mastery. It's sarcasm and is not attractive. Not a huge issue. Just maybe recalibrate your mindset there.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/09/21 09:26 PM
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That's interesting. In my head those two sentences were completely unrelated. Just didn't fuck this week. And then a story about how her disappointment didn't affect me. I can see how they read like they're related though. I just generally say at the beginning of the relationship section if we fucked or not this week.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/09/21 12:35 AM
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I can't say I really understand the nature of the masculine and the feminine. I'm 41 OYS in and I still feel like a new guy. I'm here asking for help and trying to do the work and maybe offering my thoughts along the way. I'm not going to fight you for Horn's soul or whatever this is. He knows I'm an idiot. I think your assessment of the ex-wife's behavior is spot on. It is indeed all about money to her. But not to the son. It stuck out to me because it sounded to me like he's a kid looking for …
/r/MarriedRedPill31/08/21 07:54 PM
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"Son, everyone and doctors too are here to help and support you - but you are the only one who can solve your own problems." This is good. I don't think it's bad to point out that healing will take work and effort. As a tactic, I might add something like, "and I know you can get through this shit to the other side". So much of what drives guys here to keep working is a vision of who we want to be and how we can stop being who we have let ourselves become. But that vision takes a long time to dev…
/r/MarriedRedPill31/08/21 07:02 PM
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This is fine advice, but I'm going to focus on prevention rather than cure.
/r/MarriedRedPill31/08/21 06:00 PM
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I don’t share that same gift as her (like him talking to her at length and depth about his mental situation) This stuck out to me. Does your son not feel he can talk to you about his mental situation? You have an intimidating man, Horns. Everyone who walks in here can see it. I'm sure your son can see it too. And you're his dad instead of words on a web page, so I can only imagine. Are you someone he can own his shit to? Does he need to talk at length about his mental situation to somebody? If h…
/r/MarriedRedPill31/08/21 05:34 PM
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Is partner the new end-around for she or wife?
/r/MarriedRedPill31/08/21 02:28 PM
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OYS #41 Stats: 36 M, 5'11", 180 lbs., 18.7% BF; Wife 37; 1 kid, 5 Books: NMMNG, MMSLP, WISNIFG, TRM, What a Year of Owning Your Shit Looks Like, Pook, TWOTSM, PFPFTPM, Day Bang, Red Queen, How to Win Friends & Influence People Lifts: Wendler 5-3-1 BP: 155x4; BS: deload 125x5; OHP: deload 75x5; DL: deload 150x5 I am generally pissed about the bench numbers dropping. I decided to bring my calculated 1RM down five lbs after failing an attempted 5x yesterday. I'm trying not to get too worked up abou…
/r/MarriedRedPill31/08/21 12:49 PM
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Everyone manipulates everyone. You. Me. Your mom. Everyone. The point of WISNIFG is to give you tools to first recognize manipulative behavior in others and second deal with it in an assertive manner that holds to boundaries that you have decided on and judged for yourself. It's a good book. You should read it.
/r/askMRP28/08/21 01:30 AM
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As for the weights, it sounds like your lifts are little better than your de-loaded numbers indicated One of the things I noticed with 5-3-1 is that it can be confusing to report numbers because they change from set to set and week to week. I'm committed to reporting what I actually lifted over the week rather than some theoretical thing I'm pretty sure I could lift. Unfortunately that mean one out of every 4 OYS is gonna be about 50% of my calculated 1RM. I don't have a better reporting system …
/r/MarriedRedPill25/08/21 04:56 PM
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Is that shit in metric units of some sort? Nope. Imperial pounds. I'm running 5-3-1 with calculated 1RM of 210, 230, 280, 125 (BP, BS, DL, OHP). Last week though, I failed my bench 1x on 180. The last "heavy" bench I succeeded was 3x170 the week before. It's true that since switching to 5-3-1 from 5x5, I think my bench and ohp numbers have gone down. Even so, the most I ever successfully 5x5'd was 165 or 170. I started as a weak guy, and I'll admit I still am. Part of it might be my own weight g…
/r/MarriedRedPill25/08/21 02:17 AM
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Bondage? Or are these like giant band-aids? Yeah, we're into nurse-patient play. Bondage though, really. Phone corrected it. You're nowhere near done with the journey This is clear to me. I agree that I haven't done the work. But there's a little goblin telling me I have, and I'm discovering that even though I logically know something is false, some part of me still believes it because it's easier if it's someone else's fault and not mine.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/08/21 03:15 PM
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lifting shoes I hate tennis shoes for lifting. The soft rubber soles steal all your impulse on the push. I squat barefoot on a hard rubber mat I bought at tractor supply. I'm curious if the shoes would be good for me. Seems like the mold along the arch would help distribute pressure. But there's a slight angle to the soles as well that slightly I think would reduce required ankle mobility. In curious if men here have thoughts on this.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/08/21 01:31 PM
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OYS #40 Stats: 36 M, 5'11", 185 lbs.; Wife 37; 1 kid, 5 Books: NMMNG, MMSLP, WISNIFG, TRM, What a Year of Owning Your Shit Looks Like, Pook, TWOTSM, PFPFTPM, Day Bang, Red Queen, How to Win Friends & Influence People Lifts: Wendler 5-3-1 BP: deload 115x5; BS: deload 125x5; OHP: 105x4; DL: 240x4 Weight is holding steady right now. Scale readings averaged 180.8 over the last week. BF at 19.x%. My workouts feel better than they have. I'm getting the next day soreness that says something happened. I…
/r/MarriedRedPill24/08/21 12:53 PM
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OYS #39 Stats: 36 M, 5'11", 185 lbs.; Wife 37; 1 kid, 5 Books: NMMNG, MMSLP, WISNIFG, TRM, What a Year of Owning Your Shit Looks Like, Pook, TWOTSM, PFPFTPM, Day Bang, Red Queen, How to Win Friends & Influence People Lifts: Wendler 5-3-1 BP: 180x0 (failed 1x); BS: 175x10; OHP: 100x5; DL: 225x6 Weight spikes on the weekend from putting too much into my mouth at social gatherings. Averaging 181 M-F, then when I weigh in on Sunday, 183. No more out of town trips coming up, so this should stabilize,…
/r/MarriedRedPill17/08/21 09:55 AM
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I am quite disciplined with going to the gym but tend to let things slip when I can’t get to the gym This reads to me like you're disciplined except when you're not. Which means you're not disciplined. Which means you're bullshitting yourself. Now, it might be a language thing. If I remember, you're not a native English speaker. It might be you meant something else and you really are genuinely disciplined except in certain very special scenarios. Which brings me to... You're still bullshitting y…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/08/21 07:44 PM
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So far, my motivational strategy has been to switch between 1) doing my own thing and 2) whining like a bitch. The first tactic is effective but slow. For example, after losing 50 lbs, she decided that maybe lifting weights was effective and she should do it too. The second tactic is of course stupid as fuck, but always sounds like firm boundary setting and effective leadership before I open my mouth. Many vets say that at some point you have to stop STFU and set actual boundaries and almost 40 …
/r/MarriedRedPill10/08/21 07:57 PM
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I do my sets of 5-3-1 on the one main lift, then I do 4x15 of three accessories. I cycle through them, Ax15, Bx15, Cx15, then back to Ax15, taking a short rest between C and A. One of those accessories is always the complimentary BBB main lift (OHP if it was a BP day, DL if it was a squat day, and vice versa) at 50% of my target 1RM. I'm experimenting this time through with going up to 60% on the main accessory lift. Then two other accessories that work similar muscle groups. Skull crushers on b…
/r/MarriedRedPill10/08/21 04:09 PM
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It's true. My patience has been low this week... because I'm still a pussy. We we're talking about how I'm wearing my wedding ring on a different finger now because it falls off my previously fat ring finger. My wife complained to our friends this week how women have been flirting with me, and it's annoying her. In my head, I thought "Then why, blah blah blah?". I'm suffering from the covert contact u/AlphalfaSprout mentioned in his comment. I'm working on it. Turns out knowing it was coming did…
/r/MarriedRedPill10/08/21 03:56 PM
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OYS #38 Stats: 36 M, 5'11", 185 lbs.; Wife 37; 1 kid, 5 Books: NMMNG, MMSLP, WISNIFG, TRM, What a Year of Owning Your Shit Looks Like, Pook, TWOTSM, PFPFTPM, Day Bang, Red Queen, How to Win Friends & Influence People Lifts: Wendler 5-3-1 BP: 170x3; BS: 175x10; OHP: 70x10; DL: 215x10 Took 3 days off lifting to go to a cabin for a family and friends weekend. Rearranged my schedule to make it happen, but over the two week period, I'm still hitting all my lifts. I did not track calories over the wee…
/r/MarriedRedPill10/08/21 01:53 PM
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Cold War situations require two people to be at war. Have you tried not being at war?
/r/MarriedRedPill06/08/21 12:48 PM
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On the subject of praise, I needed some time to think about where I am. How I became less needy about it. Some time ago, I started making a point to compliment strangers. Your hair looks nice. I like your tattoo, what does it mean? You look like you lift, what do you bench? I don't care about them. They're strangers. If they say fuck off creep, I'll move on. Every single time though, they are excited that I noticed them in a positive light. And as I kept giving them praise without expectation, I…
/r/MarriedRedPill04/08/21 01:49 PM
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Do you see how you're being an angry cunt? Slapping your kids, moments of rage, I'm the only one giving energy to the relationship, I feel like a sucker beta. I really feel sorry for your wife and kids. Do something about your anger. Honestly, stop worrying about getting your dick wet at all. You have more important shit to work on.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/08/21 10:09 PM
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You have really knuckled down it looks like over the past 2 weeks dropping 10lbs in that time. Good work. Didn't really expect anybody to shine a light on that part. While it's true I have started making a downward trend again, a big part of that 10 lbs is that I bought a new scale last week that measures body fat and a bunch of other metrics. Lost 5lbs just doing that, so the old one was probably a little off. That or this one is, but I trust the new one since it's digital and not a needle on a…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/08/21 08:06 PM
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I really should treat this fitness section like it's the most important thing in my entire fucking life 241 lbs. No shit. She rattled off her friend's husbands who wouldn't do that. Aww. You're such a good boy. Went to the driving range on Sunday in between errands, so snuck some in. Uh-oh. You're a naughty boy. Don't let her find out. Seriously though. When you want a beer, go lift instead. The good boy, bad boy frame issues you're having don't mean shit if you won't choose to lift consistently…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/08/21 05:21 PM
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How are you a beta bux if you don't have a job? What do you lift? How much do you weigh? Do you have a shirt that doesn't have have an x-wing on it? You're reading Pook and rational male and you clearly don't have the basics down first.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/08/21 03:38 PM
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OYS # 37 Stats: 36 M, 5'11", 185 lbs.; Wife 37; 1 kid, 5 Books: NMMNG, MMSLP, WISNIFG, TRM, What a Year of Owning Your Shit Looks Like, Pook, TWOTSM, PFPFTPM, Day Bang, Red Queen, How to Win Friends & Influence People Lifts: Wendler 5-3-1 BP: 160x2; BS: 175x10; OHP: 70x10; DL: 150x10 Last week was my deload week. Program says just do 3x5. I decided to do 3x10 for the volume. I'm front-loading my lifting this week because I'm taking a weekend camping trip with the family. 4 days without lifting, …
/r/MarriedRedPill03/08/21 12:50 PM
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This on the other hand is spot on and good advice.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/07/21 09:19 PM
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This is where I get confused. I did initiate. She did decline. I did go do something else I wanted to do. I'm trying to see the nuance here.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/07/21 09:18 PM
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The more I write about this and process it, the more I see that. Clearly a blind spot.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/07/21 07:27 PM
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I think it's more needy about the bj than the time and attention. The later time and attention I view as a carrot for the earlier sexual energy. And to give that time without receiving enthusiastic sexuality would be rewarding bad behavior. And I can hear W&S in my head saying "how much effort are you going to put into someone who's not attracted to you?" (He'd probably call me an idiot and tell me I'm misinterpreting things). I'd say the mental process was along the lines "I know I was out Frid…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/07/21 05:54 PM
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The order of events was more like mid-morning ask for BJ, plan on hanging out at night anyway, then mid-afternoon the invite to go out comes along and I accept, then evening was the actual top golf. The events didn't conflict. I just probably would have declined the invite to spend time with the wife if she'd been more receptive earlier in the morning. And I'm having trouble parsing if that's removing time and attention or being butthurt. Didn't feel butthurt. I enjoyed myself thoroughly. But my…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/07/21 04:33 PM
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OYS #36 Stats: 36 M, 5'11", 190 lbs.; Wife 37; 1 kid, 5 Books: NMMNG, MMSLP, WISNIFG, TRM, What a Year of Owning Your Shit Looks Like, Pook, TWOTSM, PFPFTPM, Day Bang, Red Queen, How to Win Friends & Influence People Lifts: Wendler 5-3-1 BP: 115x10; BS: 190x9; OHP: 105x2; DL: 230x6 2 mi run 1x/wk Entering the deload week on Wendler's. Bought a new scale this week that tells bf% and other metrics. First few measurements range between 19% and 20%. I've added dumbbell chest flies to my accessories …
/r/MarriedRedPill27/07/21 02:35 PM
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OYS #36 Stats: 36 M, 5'11", 190 lbs.; Wife 37; 1 kid, 5 Books: NMMNG, MMSLP, WISNIFG, TRM, What a Year of Owning Your Shit Looks Like, Pook, TWOTSM, PFPFTPM, Day Bang, Red Queen, How to Win Friends & Influence People Lifts: Wendler 5-3-1 BP: 115x10; BS: 190x9; OHP: 105x2; DL: 230x6 2 mi run 1x/wk Entering the deload week on Wendler's. Bought a new scale this week that tells bf% and other metrics. First few measurements range between 19% and 20%. I've added dumbbell chest flies to my accessories …
/r/MarriedRedPill27/07/21 02:23 PM
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OYS #36 Stats: 36 M, 5'11", 190 lbs.; Wife 37; 1 kid, 5 Books: NMMNG, MMSLP, WISNIFG, TRM, What a Year of Owning Your Shit Looks Like, Pook, TWOTSM, PFPFTPM, Day Bang, Red Queen, How to Win Friends & Influence People Lifts: Wendler 5-3-1 BP: 115x10; BS: 190x9; OHP: 105x2; DL: 230x6 2 mi run 1x/wk Entering the deload week on Wendler's. Bought a new scale this week that tells bf% and other metrics. First few measurements range between 19% and 20%. I've added dumbbell chest flies to my accessories …
/r/MarriedRedPill27/07/21 02:22 PM
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OYS #36 Stats: 36 M, 5'11", 190 lbs.; Wife 37; 1 kid, 5 Books: NMMNG, MMSLP, WISNIFG, TRM, What a Year of Owning Your Shit Looks Like, Pook, TWOTSM, PFPFTPM, Day Bang, Red Queen, How to Win Friends & Influence People Lifts: Wendler 5-3-1 BP: 115x10; BS: 190x9; OHP: 105x2; DL: 230x6 2 mi run 1x/wk Entering the deload week on Wendler's. Bought a new scale this week that tells bf% and other metrics. First few measurements range between 19% and 20%. I've added dumbbell chest flies to my accessories …
/r/MarriedRedPill27/07/21 02:22 PM
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I introduced a couple of friends to TRP I did this once about 18 months ago. He was having trouble with his marriage. Wasn't able to accept that it was his fault. She found a Chad to pound her into the mattress. They filed about two months ago. Thing is, I saw all this happening and tried to fix it. But I was save-a-hoe on my friend. I was making his problem mine because I knew how to fix it (or thought I did). Invited him to lift with me. Recommended sidebar books. Told him about posting on OYS…
/r/MarriedRedPill21/07/21 02:57 PM
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I depend too much on protein powder to hit my macros, and do not get enough fibre/micro-nutrients/animal protein I'm an idiot about this, and I don't think I'd hit my protein macros without the powder. Why is it not okay?
/r/MarriedRedPill21/07/21 02:37 PM
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Okay, I looked at your post history. You're trying to fix the relationship. This place won't help you with that. First, I think you need to decide whether you want to get your advice here or at relationship_advice. The philosophies of these two spaces are opposed almost to the point of being mutually exclusive. They'll tell you to work on the relationship. We'll tell you to work on yourself. Personally, I've found talking about the relationship with my wife to be a fruitless endeavor, while the …
/r/MarriedRedPill21/07/21 01:04 PM
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I realized that I needed to do something about this. I reached out to a couple friends. Got some good perspective. I wrote down the negative thoughts – assessed how stupid and bullshit they are. After this, my mental state was back to normal. Can you expand on this? Did your friends say something specific to you? Was writing things out the catalyst? I find it hard sometimes to get to I am the prize. I know it'd be valuable to me to understand the tools you use to let go of shitty mental stuff.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/07/21 05:42 PM
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Refused her demand, Why? Was it something you're ashamed of? confronted her...I told her...I replied Lot of talking here. What's worse is you weren't even mad about the phone. You were mad about not getting cuddles but wanted to find something less weak to bitch about. But it's the bitching that's weak, not the subject. So now you're bitching, and you're lying. And why are you looking at her phone anyway? Are you worried she'll leave you? Is it because if she does leave you, you'll never see ano…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/07/21 03:04 PM
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OYS #35 Stats: 36 M, 5'11", 190 lbs.; Wife 37; 1 kid, 5 Books: NMMNG, MMSLP, WISNIFG, TRM, What a Year of Owning Your Shit Looks Like, Pook, TWOTSM, PFPFTPM, Day Bang, Red Queen Lifts: Wendler 5-3-1 BP: 160x1; BS: 190x9; OHP: 100x3; DL: 220x6 2 mi run 2x/wk Failing my heavy bench press set. 160x5 or 170x3 or 180x1. Used to be able to 1RM 200 when I was doing SL, so this has gone away during Wendler's. All other lifts are doing well. In addition to BBB, I've added some chest exercises to some of …
/r/MarriedRedPill20/07/21 01:34 PM
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It's a good book. Red pill for children. I've read it and implemented it. My relationship with my son is great and fulfilling. This was more a discussion of how to handle when you ask for support in front of the kid and it is refused. To Ragnar's point, I disagree. I don't actually see a problem with explicitly saying you're not supporting me here. I want you to support me. If done with OI. Do I walk away? Is that demonstrating to my son that I'll fold on boundaries if he can get mommy on his si…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/07/21 04:17 PM
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OYS #34 Stats: 36 M, 5'11", 195 lbs.; Wife 37; 1 kid, 5 Books: NMMNG, MMSLP, WISNIFG, TRM, What a Year of Owning Your Shit Looks Like, Pook, TWOTSM, PFPFTPM, Day Bang, Red Queen Lifts: Wendler 5-3-1 BP: 170x2; BS: 170x8; OHP: 95x6; DL: 205x6 2 mi run 2x/wk Getting back under the bar, I lost a bit from the vacation. My bench press feels like a problem for me right now. I engage my right shoulder too much. I can feel it inching up toward my ear as I'm trying to press, and the right side is where I…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/07/21 02:07 PM
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22.4%. Still fat. Planning to get down to 175. From there I'll need to focus on getting my lift numbers to rise. I'm not sure how much I like Wendler's for that. Impatient Zen suggested GSLP for that part.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/07/21 02:32 PM
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For example, do I take the kids after work because they were crazy all day and she needs a break? (She is amazing with my kids, great mom). Do I clean the house because she cook food for my lunches / dinners all day? This is not a good mental model. I spend time with my son because I enjoy his company, and I can give him things that his mom can't. Not because she needs a break. She does, but that's her problem. My time with my kid is valuable shit to me. You're looking at these as things you sho…
/r/MarriedRedPill08/07/21 03:26 PM
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OYS #33 Stats: 36 M, 5'11", 195 lbs.; Wife 37; 1 kid, 5 Books: NMMNG, MMSLP, WISNIFG, TRM, What a Year of Owning Your Shit Looks Like, Pook, TWOTSM, PFPFTPM, Day Bang, Red Queen Lifts: Wendler 5-3-1 BP: 160x3; BS: 170x12; OHP: 105x2; DL: 220x8 2 mi run 3x/wk Numbers above are most recent Wendler's numbers, but it's not what I did the last two weeks. Hotels didn't have barbells, so I made due with dumbbells, doing 3x12 on the stronglift program with significantly lighter dumbells. Used treadmill …
/r/MarriedRedPill06/07/21 01:25 PM
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Sometimes when I have a needy night and can't sleep, I go out to my rack and do a set of pull-ups. I'm pretty fat, so 5 about does it. Then I go back to bed. That's often enough to get me to sleep. If not, rinse, repeat.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/06/21 01:28 AM
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Most can't. I'm 30 OYS in and I'm still not sure I can. What I can do is try to be better today than I was yesterday. You're all butthurt about your sex life right now. It's in everything you write. I don't see a lot of value in making major decisions until you fix that about yourself.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/06/21 09:04 PM
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I can go get pussy from randoms and be happier with less effort. That's good. It would suck to have to put in effort.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/06/21 03:44 PM
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Jokes and hilarity aside, I still think there might be something here. Are you sure you're not mate guarding and laughing it off to excuse yourself? Because... I looked at her phone’s browsing history once.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/06/21 08:24 PM
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I can somewhat see that in your posts, although I admit your posts are usually too abstract and metaphorical for me to give any feedback on or to really get any lessons from. It's clear you're doing work. I just can't understand your language. I tend not to like the mission to find the mission mentality. It feels directionless, which to me is the definition of not being a mission. I'd just be calling it a mission to feel better about myself. Are there actions one can take to find a mission if on…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/06/21 03:02 AM
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That's what I've been doing. What I'm trying to say is that I don't think it's gonna cut it for much longer. It's just distractions and busy work and at the end of the day, I'm still just chasing pussy. Because I haven't replaced it with anything else.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/06/21 06:33 PM
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I did not cook shrimp and I moved my grill around to the front yard where it took place so that nobody in attendance could leave my sight for even 1 second. I don't understand this section. Are you mate guarding? If so, why? Are you showing us you've read a lot of MRP posts? If so, why?
/r/MarriedRedPill22/06/21 04:04 PM
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Hey, paragraphs! You've proven you can adapt and change. Just read your post last week, and I agree the marriage is over. But if it really is all your fault, what are you going to do about that part? You can't divorce the real problem, because the real problem is you.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/06/21 03:12 PM
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Had our first fight in a few weeks as she has been pleasant the last month and a half, but the nature of the fight brought me back to all the wasted years together. I was going to wait until September to get moving with the divorce but the next day I called one of the lawyers This seems like a huge lack of frame. She hurt your feelings and you responded by changing your timetable. You say I now see a situation that I ALONE fucked up But then my marriage beat the fun out of my life and also beat …
/r/MarriedRedPill22/06/21 02:11 PM
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OYS #32 Stats: 35 M, 5'11", 195 lbs.; Wife 37; 1 kid, 5 Books: NMMNG, MMSLP, WISNIFG, TRM, What a Year of Owning Your Shit Looks Like, Pook, TWOTSM, PFPFTPM, Day Bang Lifts: Wendler 5-3-1 BP: 160x5; BS: 170x12; OHP: 105x2; DL: 220x8 2 mi run 3x/wk Back to week 1 of the 5-3-1 cycle. After this one, I will likely take a deload week. I have been skipping the 4th week of Wendler's thus far. Small success this weekend. Limited my alcohol intake to a single drink at social events. GS pointed out it wa…
/r/MarriedRedPill22/06/21 12:43 PM
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I had to Google MTOR. I'll agree that it's a hindrance for me. I'm in a pattern of kicking ass during the week. Maybe seeing 190 on the scale. Then socializing over the weekend, beer, chips, and letting go. I'll see a higher number on the scale and start fighting during the week to get it going down again. Your point about impairing muscle growth is well taken though. As far as wife game, I continue to playfully game. I can and do touch her however I want. I have a tendency to go hard on pushing…
/r/MarriedRedPill17/06/21 01:27 PM
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But I feel a strong need to continue to grow these new mental models and destroy those old ones before I can create some sort of grand recap of my journey here, let alone any useful note for others. I'm calling bullshit. Because this journey that we are all on in the Married Red Pill: it does not have an endpoint I've read your OYS from #1 to #52, and I don't think I'm the first to tell you that your journey has value for others right now. It certainly has had value for me. If you don't make tha…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/06/21 01:53 PM
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OYS #31 Stats: 35 M, 5'11", 195 lbs.; Wife 37; 1 kid, 5 Books: NMMNG, MMSLP, WISNIFG, TRM, What a Year of Owning Your Shit Looks Like, Pook, TWOTSM, PFPFTPM, Day Bang Lifts: Wendler 5-3-1 BP: 175x2; BS: 180x8; OHP: 95x5; DL: 210x8 2 mi run 2x/wk Had to rearrange the workout schedule this week to accommodate traveling for a sudden funeral. Missed a run and drank too much, but got my lifts in. I've been working on moving to a low bar squat. I had been resting the bar basically on top of my shoulde…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/06/21 01:41 PM
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If you instead refrain from initiating (no sex, -2) but go out and play a sport (+3) then you net +1 in value. What about that-10? When you realize this gain in value from doing something else, and your brain will do it for you because it's always trying to optimize value, you reduce your Pavlovian response (from -10 to -8 to -6, etc) The part that I'm not following here is why there is no -10 in the second situation. He still initiated and got a "sex tomorrow" (-10), then instead of starfish se…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/06/21 07:43 PM
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That's really hard to compare. I switched from 5x5 to 5-3-1 in the middle there, and 531 isn't really based on lifting as heavy as you can every time. From a gut feel, I'd say my lower body lifts have gotten better and my upper body lifts have gotten worse. Regardless, I was at BP 160 BBR 170 SQ 195 DL 225 OHP 110 I think I hit 170, 175, 205, 245, and 110 before switching. As far as missing workouts, I think I missed a day or two of doing squats, and my ability to get squats in and also appropri…
/r/MarriedRedPill08/06/21 04:36 PM
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OYS #30 Stats: 35 M, 5'11", 195 lbs.; Wife 37; 1 kid, 5 Books: NMMNG, MMSLP, WISNIFG, TRM, What a Year of Owning Your Shit Looks Like, Pook, TWOTSM, PFPFTPM, Day Bang Lifts: Wendler 5-3-1 BP: 165x3; BS: 170x8; OHP: 90x5; DL: 200x12 Halfway through my second cycle of 5-3-1. I'm noticing some shoulder pain during ohp and when I laterally raise my arm. Everything else going well here. Mental: Last week W&S made me think abouthow attractive I am to women who are not my wife. I have no real desire to…
/r/MarriedRedPill08/06/21 01:27 PM
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If the longterm goal is to become the captain, one has to gain control over the ship. A mental jump I found effective is that it's not about gaining control of your wife's ship. That way leads to power struggles. Rather it's about having your own ship. And she's allowed to come aboard. You don't have your own ship. Your wife has a ship. You are her first officer. You want to be the captain of her ship, so you're starting a mutiny. I still enganged at that point and said: "[a bunch of words about…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/06/21 04:15 AM
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If we're including my wife, yesterday. If not, probably a decade.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/06/21 06:01 PM
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I'm good at starting conversations with women. What I don't do well is create sexual tension. I generally hit the friend zone real hard. I sense there is some fear in my approach which is I'm sure the root of the problem.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/06/21 05:31 PM
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OYS #29 Stats: 35 M, 5'11", 200 lbs.; Wife 37; 1 kid, 5 Books: NMMNG, MMSLP, WISNIFG, TRM, What a Year of Owning Your Shit Looks Like, Pook, TWOTSM, PFPFTPM, Day Bang Lifts: Wendler 5-3-1 BP: 155x5; BS: 170x5; OHP: 100x4; DL: 215x9 Finished first 3 weeks of 5-3-1. Choosing not to do a deload week because I started with very conservative numbers, so I'm back into week 1 again. The shit to own this week is weekend partying. Bachelor party. Wake for a friend's dad. Memorial day cookout. I ate and d…
/r/MarriedRedPill01/06/21 01:38 PM
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OYS #28 Stats: 35 M, 5'11", 195 lbs.; Wife 37; 1 kid, 5 Books: NMMNG, MMSLP, WISNIFG, TRM, What a Year of Owning Your Shit Looks Like, Pook, TWOTSM, PFPFTPM, Day Bang Lifts: Wendler 5-3-1 BP: 160x6; BS: 160x7; OHP: 90x5; DL: 190x9 Having started a new program, I find my weight has started going down again. I saw the underside of 190 this week then fucked it up by eating three cheeseburgers at a backyard grill this weekend. Weekend eating is where I need to cut from. I started conservative with m…
/r/MarriedRedPill25/05/21 12:47 PM
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Kino her, then isolate, and escalate. She'll be purring like a kitten in no time!
/r/askMRP18/05/21 10:32 PM
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Your post sounds like it belongs in r/relationship_advice. You spend the entire time whining about how she hurts your feelings. This is a place where we advocate focusing on and being responsible for yourself. You don't really show that you're doing that. We have nothing to go on. How old are you? How much do you weigh? Can you pick heavy things off the ground? Do you have a job? Is your shit together? Your "mother-in-law" probably just thinks you're not good enough for her daughter. Given the l…
/r/askMRP18/05/21 09:55 PM
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Mother-in-law girlfriend One of these two is a lie.
/r/askMRP18/05/21 09:35 PM
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So I need to get angry You sound angry already. I've never found anger to be particularly helpful. When I'm angry, I do less work, not more. But I argue that I do more. It's poisonous. Why are you angry? At whom? Is it helpful? It sounds like you think you're angry at your wife. Why? Do you have any control over her? Any at all? Does being angry at her further your goals? You might have realized that you're actually angry at yourself though. Why? Is being angry useful? Or is doing the work usefu…
/r/MarriedRedPill18/05/21 07:57 PM
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I'm pretty good at conversation... with other people. Who don't see me every day. I'm engaging, friendly, interesting, funny, a bit of an asshole, and a good story teller. Problem is my wife knows all the stories already. Which means that u/HornsOfApathy is right. I spend too much time with her. I'm not developing new stories. The other problem is that I'm pretty good at conversation... in a safe, friend-zone kind of way. I have never been a very successful closer. I don't inspire desire in wome…
/r/MarriedRedPill18/05/21 07:21 PM
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OYS #27 Stats: 35 M, 5'11", 195 lbs.; Wife 37; 1 kid, 5 Books: NMMNG, MMSLP, WISNIFG, TRM, What a Year of Owning Your Shit Looks Like, Pook, TWOTSM, PFPFTPM, Day Bang Lifts: Wendler 5-3-1 BP: 155x8; BS: 155x9; OHP: 90x8; DL: 190x9 Haven't figured out a good way to report 5-3-1 numbers. There's a lot more metrics in this system. I'm in my first week of this, so my lifts were light. In addition to the main lift, I'm doing BBB with the opposite lift 5x12 (OHP on BP days, DL on BS days and vice vers…
/r/MarriedRedPill18/05/21 02:41 PM
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I'll take a swing. When you're balancing games, and you find something that's fun but nobody plays it, you usually want to buff that strategy so that it's playable. When you do it's better to overshoot and make it too powerful than to undershoot. If you undershoot, nobody will play it still, and that's not the data you need. Whereas if you overshoot the balanced power level, people will play it, you'll get to see if that strategy is actually fun and working, and then you can adjust down to a pow…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/05/21 11:58 AM
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My goals have always been to look good and are not numbers based. I don't have a goal weight, and hitting the 1000-lb club isn't as important to me as looking in the mirror and not being disgusted by what I see. That said, I do recognize that the numbers correlate to success at those goals, so I don't discount them and am trying to get the lifts up and the weight down. My issue with StrongLifts and why I made the change was that because of failed sets, I was spending a long time working out to g…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/05/21 08:24 PM
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Better, yes. But ultimately a crutch we have to 1) realize we've started relying on, and 2) wean ourselves off of.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/05/21 06:32 PM
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I agree with slash. Or not slash. Whatever. It sounds like you've got the right mindset about it. It's so easy to get into these power struggles, and I know I've got my own issues with trying to prove to my wife I'm a big, capable, manly man. Glad you're not trying to tear down her frame anymore. I think I'm just learning that lesson.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/05/21 06:30 PM
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There's a lot of good realization in here. I'm just coming to grips with being able to game without pushing. You've been pushing for sex as a source of validation, and it's smothering. I’m scattered and confused as fuck about MRP right now. This is because you're also seeking validation from the guys here on MRP and I think you're starting to realize it. I think it was particularly strong last week. I bought a gift that I liked. I’m so tempted to DEER to you all about what and why but I don’t ha…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/05/21 06:14 PM
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I now often feel as though she is running her own MAP on me. I admit, this is a weak area for me. I haven't done the reading. But I'm pretty sure you don't run a MAP on anyone except yourself. If you're running your MAP on your wife, it's probably a dancing monkey program and not a MAP.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/05/21 05:51 PM
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Since then I’ve started referring to him has her boyfriend. Don't do this. It's needy as fuck. You're trying to guilt her for being attracted to someone who isn't you. She can't control who she's attracted to and neither can you, so stop trying to. Lastly maybe a seedling of an abundance mentality. I was in a local grocery store in a nice area where women take care of themselves. I don't see how any of this story shows abundance. You saw women you would fuck, then argued yourself out of being wi…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/05/21 05:40 PM
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One question I have about this story is if u/Grounded_spark had a reason to go a different way or if he was just trying to prove he's his own man. It's a question of his motivations. Not going through traffic seems like a good reason to listen to your first officer. It's a shit captain who steers into shoals to say you're not the boss of me. But he might not be doing that, and I'm projecting because that's a weakness of mine that I'm dealing with. Edit: I'm also getting this read because of the …
/r/MarriedRedPill11/05/21 03:46 PM
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I noted in your year of OYS that one of the things you did when your wife tried the guest room tactic was you physically got her stuff and brought it back to your bedroom. I can't find a quote right now, but at the time you seemed to lament that it was the wrong move. With the benefit of hindsight, do you still believe that it was the wrong move? Or was it right for you because you had the mentality required, but wrong for OP?
/r/MarriedRedPill11/05/21 02:10 PM
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OYS #26 Stats: 35 M, 5'11", 200 lbs.; Wife 37; 1 kid, 5 Books: NMMNG, MMSLP, WISNIFG, TRM, What a Year of Owning Your Shit Looks Like, Pook, TWOTSM, PFPFTPM, Day Bang Lifts: SL 5x5 (last time) BP 170 BBR 175 SQ 205 DL 245 (3x5) OHP 100 I'm switching to Wendler's 5/3/1 program. After over 6 months of StrongLifts, it felt like time to do something different. Started yesterday with bench, so my most recent bench lift was actually 1x5 at 115/135/155. I'm doing a boring but big program for the assist…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/05/21 01:47 PM
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OYS #25 Stats: 35 M, 5'11", 200 lbs.; Wife 36; 1 kid, 5 Books: NMMNG, MMSLP, WISNIFG, TRM, What a Year of Owning Your Shit Looks Like, Pook, TWOTSM, PFPFTPM, Day Bang Lifts: SL 5x5 BP 170 BBR 175 SQ 200 DL 240 (1x5) OHP 110 (5x3) Added some Dumbbell shoulder work on days I'm not doing OHP. 60 lb 3x10 Arnold presses. Easy enough until I got to my OHP day and found I couldn't hit the weight I did last time. Dropped 5lbs and finished the lifts. I missed a 5x5 of squats this week. Only 3. 4 were on …
/r/MarriedRedPill04/05/21 11:59 AM
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I’m starting to have a lot of neck/back/shoulder pain Your numbers look like you are new to lifting. Are you sure your form is good? I started lifting about when I started OYS and I had some back pain from bad DL form early on.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/04/21 08:22 PM
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I slowed down giving my wife positive feedback because I don’t want to pedestalize. I made these comments [assume you mean the praise comments like from your previous paragraph], however, following rejections for sex and affection when I really felt like punishing her with my own butthurt. This seems to me like a different type of pedestalizing. You're still reacting to her rejections. The read I'm getting is that you hope if you praise her, she'll be less likely to reject you in the future. I m…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/04/21 07:54 PM
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My big takeaway was stop trying to explain things to your kids. Just say what you need without emotion and then shut up. STFU.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/04/21 04:57 PM
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OYS #24 Stats: 35 M, 5'11", 200 lbs.; Wife 36; 1 kid, 5 Books: NMMNG, MMSLP, WISNIFG, TRM, What a Year of Owning Your Shit Looks Like, Pook, TWOTSM, PFPFTPM, Day Bang Lifts: SL 5x5 BP 165 BBR 175 SQ 195 DL 235 OHP 115 (5x3) Mental: Last week I realized I was an asshole using power games and pushing to browbeat my wife into submitting to me. There were a lot of problems with this mindset, so this week I tried to focus more heavily on just liking myself. Stop faking that I like myself and actually…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/04/21 12:07 PM
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Why would you spank for a safety thing? When he was younger, his pediatrician told us about research showing that spanking doesn't work unless it's a safety thing. That sounded like a good rule to me. Now, I'm resolved on not spanking even then. You never have to yell. Raising your voice under emotional control is one thing, yelling. Never. This is a good point, and maybe "yelling" is a mischaracterization of what I do. I very rarely lose emotional control when I raise my voice. Still, something…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/04/21 12:08 PM
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Blarg is right. I don't get this level of nuance. At least not at a level to apply it to myself. Maybe because I don't see my life as awesome. Because so much of my perceived self-worth is still tied up in my sex life. I've got a lot of ego left to kill, as MitW showed me.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/04/21 12:17 AM
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This is perhaps the single best bit of feedback I've gotten so far in my OYS about what is wrong with me.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/04/21 12:08 AM
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That one makes a lot more sense. I'm generally unafraid to touch my wife. She's just not attracted to me. Right now, my focus is on 1) not apologizing for it, 2) not explaining that I won't apologize and here are all the reasons why, and 3) waiting for the storm to blow over. Basically, the shit I would have done a year ago, the shit I would have done 10-15 OYS ago, and what I hope will feel natural to me 10-15 OYS from now.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/04/21 12:36 PM
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I agree that I've got huge mentality shifts to work through. Many of my issues I'm so blind to I don't even know they're there. That's why I'm here. I don't agree that I'm blaming others. This is for sure on me. But I'm willing to accept the possibility that I'm blind about this too, and you're right about me. It's certainly in my history to throw blame everywhere but where it belongs.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/04/21 12:20 PM
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I don't feel depressed though. I'm feeling at peace about things. As though I used to have these extremes of emotion. Really happy to be hanging out with friends. Really sad my wife isn't attracted to me. Now it's like things have settled toward an emotional average. Hanging out with friends? That's fine. Wife not attracted to me? That's fine too. I don't really know the reason for this change. I tried to explore it in my OYS. I'm probably overthinking it. I do that. I recognize that it's a prob…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/04/21 05:06 PM
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OYS #23 Stats: 35 M, 5'11", 200 lbs.; Wife 36, 5'0", 100 lbs; 1 kid, 5 Books: NMMNG, MMSLP, WISNIFG, TRM, What a Year of Owning Your Shit Looks Like, Pook, TWOTSM, PFPFTPM, Day Bang Lifts: SL 5x5 BP 165 BBR 170 SQ 190 DL 230 OHP 110 Had a weekend out of town. Missed one 5x5 of squats, but did not fall behind on any other lifts. I'm at weights now where I fail on many of my lifts by set 4 or 5. Generally, my strategy has been to rest a few minutes or move on to another lift and come back with the…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/04/21 01:48 PM
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OYS #22 Stats: 35 M, 5'11", 200 lbs.; Wife 36, 5'0", 100 lbs; 1 kid, 5 Books: NMMNG, MMSLP, WISNIFG, TRM, What a Year of Owning Your Shit Looks Like, Pook, TWOTSM, PFPFTPM, Day Bang Lifts: SL 5x5 BP 160 BBR 170 SQ 185 DL 225 OHP 110 I deloaded squats to work on form. Noticed my butt was pushing out behind me on the way up and stressing my back. Focusing on a straight bar path. Mental: I'm doing well on this front. I'm less in my wife's head and more in mine as time goes on. I'm doing the things …
/r/MarriedRedPill13/04/21 01:34 PM
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What can I do right now to fix me? You can shut your mouth. Just shut it. It's literally number 2 after lifting. Before anything else, I need frame Before anything else, you need to learn to shut your mouth. Building frame takes time. Us idiots come in here looking for a silver bullet to make pussies wet, and we're told early on there isn't one. It's a long road. Most are weak and will bail. Everyone gets pissed that it's not happening fast enough. Shutting your mouth is comparatively quick and …
/r/MarriedRedPill07/04/21 01:34 PM
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It is a problem of mine. Thanks for your help.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/04/21 09:33 PM
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That's possible. My view on this is if I'm feeling well enough that I'm not spending my day in bed, I'll at least try to lift. And it was just a head cold. I was congested but able to function. My entire life I've made excuses to not work out. I don't want to be that guy anymore. Given that tendency, I want to err on the side of lifting unless I really, honest to God can not. And if I get more sick, then I found a limit.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/04/21 09:30 PM
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Most of the time, I think my butthurt is rooted in laziness. I spent a long time not doing any work. My time was all couches and snacks. Any butthurt I'm feeling is my lazy self arguing that I've been working hard for 6 months, and why isn't this working? And if it's not working, why do I continue? That's my first wolf, and it's possible I'm still not doing enough. But I'm working on not feeding that wolf anymore through my lifting and my mental self-improvement. He doesn't want to die though, a…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/04/21 06:29 PM
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OYS #21 Stats: 35 M, 5'11", 200 lbs.; Wife 36, 5'0", 100 lbs; 1 kid, 5 Books: NMMNG, MMSLP, WISNIFG, TRM, What a Year of Owning Your Shit Looks Like, Pook, TWOTSM, PFPFTPM, Day Bang Lifts: SL 5x5 BP 160 BBR 170 SQ 195 DL 225 OHP 110 I am doing SL 5x5 every other day without fail. Progress is slow, but I am progressing. JCX gave me some stretches to look up last week to help out my mobility. I've incorporated those, and while I've never really had a mobility problem, I do feel a lot of relief wit…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/04/21 02:07 PM
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I can see what my mother did to him She didn't do anything to him. Did your wife make you the way you are? She has no desire for me because other women have no desire for me So if other women have desire for you, then so will she? drifted into monk mode whilst I sort my shit out and giving her some space which she needed. That's so nice of you to do that for her. a sloppy dresser who doesn’t care about making her look up to me If you dress better, then she'll look up to you. There's a lot of con…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/04/21 01:00 AM
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I'm just an internet idiot, but what I was saying wasn't about your history making you who you are. And it wasn't about any one thing you said. You read like you are hiding your problems. There are a lot of statements you make that are at odds with other statements you follow up with. This makes me think you're scared to show your vulnerability. If that's the case, it'll hold you back until you square with it. I can only assume you've come here asking the vets to help you be a man worth fucking.…
/r/MarriedRedPill31/03/21 12:37 AM
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I'm doing Strong Lifts 5x5. It's a good beginner program. At 5'10" and 215, lifting should be your priority. You're focusing too much on tactics for your wife when you have underlying structural issues that need fixing. That being said, don't go sleep in the guest room. If you're not butthurt, you just fall asleep in your bed. It's yours.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/03/21 01:56 PM
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This all sounds like smoke and mirrors. I'm a guy who attracts women, but I'm not having sex with them. I'm a guy who lifts, but I skipped three days this week. I'm a guy who reads, but I'm not doing the reading. I'm a guy who had a revelation about my correct career path, but I'm going to pursue other paths.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/03/21 01:29 PM
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OYS #20 Stats: 35 M, 5'11", 200 lbs.; Wife 36, 5'0", 100 lbs; 1 kid, 5 Books: NMMNG, MMSLP, WISNIFG, TRM, What a Year of Owning Your Shit Looks Like, Pook, TWOTSM, PFPFTPM, Day Bang Lifts: SL 5x5 BP 160 BBR 165 SQ 185 DL 220 OHP 105 I am doing SL 5x5 every other day without fail. Progress is slow, but I am progressing. Last week, I said I'd do no-load squats on off days to help alleviate my knee issues. I did that and also have a lot of focus to stretching frequently. The tension still hurts und…
/r/MarriedRedPill30/03/21 01:00 PM
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Don't ask your wife to quit to help yourself quit. Boats need islands. Islands don't need boats. Just make a decision every day that you're not going to smoke. Then follow your decision.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/03/21 05:46 PM
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OYS #19 Stats: 35 M, 5'11", 205 lbs.; Wife 36, 5'0", 100 lbs; 1 kid, 5 Books: NMMNG, MMSLP, WISNIFG, TRM, What a Year of Owning Your Shit Looks Like, Pook, TWOTSM, PFPFTPM, Day Bang Lifts: SL 5x5 BP 155 BBR 165 SQ 175 DL 205 OHP 100 Got back on squatting at a deload and working back up at 5 lb a cycle. I'm noticing my knee pain actually goes away if I squat. It's like I develop tightness in the joint after a rest day, but with stretching and squatting with no load, then doing my lifts, it feels …
/r/MarriedRedPill23/03/21 12:21 PM
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What I know is that my knee hurts when I hit about horizontal thigh on the way back up.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/03/21 08:29 PM
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OYS #18 Stats: 35 M, 5'11", 205 lbs.; Wife 36, 5'0", 100 lbs; 1 kid, 5 Books: NMMNG, MMSLP, WISNIFG, TRM, What a Year of Owning Your Shit Looks Like, Pook, TWOTSM, PFPFTPM, Day Bang Lifts: SL 5x5 BP 145 BBR 155 SQ n/a DL 195 OHP 100 2 mile run 1x / wk Taking another break from squats because my knee is aggravated. I was pushing 180 and failing on my first set for three workouts in a row. Adjusted my rest times between between sets after some advice on my last OYS. I've been having better success…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/03/21 02:52 PM
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This comment thread is helpful. Thank you. And thanks u/Guiltandshame99 as well.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/03/21 01:31 PM
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Generally, I set a timer of a minute. This could be terrible. I'm a huge idiot about this.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/03/21 01:17 AM
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I redefined success as how well I initiated sex instead of feeling guilty for wanting it. I redefined success as how butthurt I felt when I was rejected. These are me-centered ideas I can look to as progress. I still struggle with this and fail more often than I should. But I succeed more often than I did on OYS 1. We all came here because we wanted that area to improve. But that's trying to fix the relationship, and you can't do that. You can only fix yourself.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/03/21 06:11 PM
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Goals: sex on demand One of your goals is dependent on someone else's actions.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/03/21 01:25 PM
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following being asked for a BJ. Because I asked for a BJ. while a solution was arrived at While I fixed the chain. This passive voice isn't doing you any favors. You did it. Own it. I was the ONLY adult in fancy dress, and it was fine!! This is good. For your kids and for you. Temporarily doing body-weight squats (mainly not to lose the flexibility), push ups, stomach crunches and re-started cycling Better than last week. This week, pick up your 6 year old. My 5yo loves being squatted. My wife l…
/r/MarriedRedPill02/03/21 07:00 PM
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OYS #17 Stats: 35 M, 5'11", 205 lbs.; Wife 36, 5'0", 100 lbs; 1 kid, 5 Books: NMMNG, MMSLP, WISNIFG, TRM, What a Year of Owning Your Shit Looks Like, Pook, TWOTSM, PFPFTPM, Day Bang Lifts: SL 5x5 BP 145 BBR 150 SQ 175 DL 190 OHP 95 2 mile run 3x / wk Last night I tried to push OHP to 100. Got through 2x5 before I failed. Moved back down to 95 and could only get one or two reps at a time. Quit OHP, moved into DL then came back to OHP after. Was able to push 95 for the remaining 9 reps. Feels simi…
/r/MarriedRedPill02/03/21 02:01 PM
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The important thing is that you have a life and a passion that is not centered around your wife. I can't tell you anything specific. It's your life. What do you want to do? If it's martial arts, great. If it's building a car, great. If it's getting together with other men to study the Torah, great. It's your life. I can only assume you are here because you want to change your life. Your life won't change unless you make changes. Lift. Eat. Post every week. Nothing will happen if you don't make i…
/r/MarriedRedPill24/02/21 02:23 AM
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At present waiting for gym to reopen. I don't have the space for the equipment at home, I want to use a trainer initially to avoid injury and I want to have somewhere to go out of the house. I hope to start cycling again Your answer here was "nothing" or "hope". I do get on with my stuff instead. The sitting at the computer was dealing with my property investments etc, not mindless surfing Your answer here was "stuff". Also, above you gave a list of 9 things you did, and 6 or 7 were "be more [ad…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/02/21 08:47 PM
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If your gym is closed, what did you DO instead? If your wife won't kiss you, what do you DO instead? It sounds like you sit at your computer. Is that furthering your goals?
/r/MarriedRedPill23/02/21 03:54 PM
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OYS #16 Stats: 35 M, 5'11", 205 lbs.; Wife 36, 5'0", 100 lbs; 1 kid, 5 Books: NMMNG, MMSLP, WISNIFG, TRM, What a Year of Owning Your Shit Looks Like, Pook, TWOTSM, PFPFTPM, Day Bang, MAP Lifts: SL 5x5 BP 145 BBR 150 SQ 170 DL 180 OHP 95 2 mile run 1x / wk I missed a workout this week, so I'm a day behind. I got three in since last OYS, but I do every other day. This week should have been 4 workouts. Next week, I'm going to lift two days in a row, but skip squats the 2nd day to give those muscles…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/02/21 03:32 PM
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The PE might be fucking with my head. I've honestly never really thought about it. In the old days my thoughts on the subject were something like "well I haven't had sex in like 2 weeks, of course I'm busting early" with a hidden "and that's your fault, wife". Frequency hasn't really increased, but I've mostly gotten rid of the mental butthurt about it. Now, I'm just accepting it as the way it is when you don't have sex for a while, or at least I'm trying to accept it. I was trying to share my r…
/r/MarriedRedPill17/02/21 06:50 PM
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If I were fucking from an authentic, masculine frame, it probably would drive her over the edge. And importantly, I wouldn't give a shit. I don't know my T levels. Haven't checked.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/02/21 01:00 AM
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That's a really interesting question. Gut reaction: no. It would be different if the things I was doing were for someone else. That's not the case though.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/02/21 04:13 PM
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OYS #15 Stats: 35 M, 5'11", 210 lbs.; Wife 36, 5'0", 100 lbs; 1 kid, 5 Books: NMMNG, MMSLP, WISNIFG, TRM, What a Year of Owning Your Shit Looks Like, Pook, TWOTSM, PFPFTPM, Day Bang, MAP Lifts: SL 5x5 BP 145 BBR 150 SQ 165 DL 170 OHP 95 2 mile run 1x / wk Thanks to u/HeckleandChide for reviewing my form videos. He pointed out some form issues with my bench. So I'm working on fixing that. Too cold to go out and run, so instead my son and I played an epic game of tag a few times that was essential…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/02/21 02:48 PM
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OYS #14 Stats: 35 M, 5'11", 210 lbs.; Wife 36, 5'0", 100 lbs; 1 kid, 5 Books: NMMNG, MMSLP, WISNIFG, TRM, What a Year of Owning Your Shit Looks Like, Pook, TWOTSM, PFPFTPM, Day Bang, MAP Lifts: SL 5x5 BP 140 BBR 145 SQ 155 DL 160 OHP 90 2 mile run 2x / wk 5k run My bench has hit a plateau at 140. I'm putting 145 up for 3x5, failing on set 4 and finishing at 140. I've looked up some form videos. Best I can figure is I haven't been squeezing the traps during the lift. I'm trying to incorporate tha…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/02/21 01:53 PM
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I'm working on it. Two things. I bought a knee brace this week, and that makes squatting feel a lot better. Is squatting with a knee brace a bad idea? Second, I'm hitting a wall on BP at 140. I looked up some form videos and the thing I think I'm not doing is squeezing the traps. So that should get things moving up again.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/02/21 03:43 AM
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The bit about the shit tests feels a lot like where I am. I've noticed that the tests are getting harder and lasting longer. Sometimes my frame holds through them and sometimes not. I'm viewing it as a recognition that I've leveled up and am ready for the hard(er) tests. I just keep telling myself to focus on me and trust the process. You seem to be doing well.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/02/21 02:14 PM
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Oh for sure I hamstered it. I agree completely. That's why despite the fact that I held my ground and didn't give up stuff like I would have in the past, I still consider it a failure. The failure was engaging at all. And right now, at noob level 0, I think I engaged because I was afraid of nuking the whole thing. There's a lot of reasons why I'm scared of that. From being scared I couldn't attract other women to believing that she wouldn't be able to take care of herself without me. I'm lack of…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/02/21 03:12 AM
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OYS #13 Stats: 35 M, 5'11", 210 lbs.; Wife 36, 5'0", 100 lbs; 1 kid, 5 Books: NMMNG, MMSLP, WISNIFG, TRM, What a Year of Owning Your Shit Looks Like, Pook, TWOTSM, PFPFTPM, Day Bang, MAP Lifts: SL 5x5 BP 140 BBR 145 SQ 145 DL 155 OHP 90 2 mile run 3x / wk I bought a knee brace this week for squatting. Liked it for lifting. Tried it during my runs too, but I don't think I need it then. Mental: I've been trying to self-assess my frame this week. I did a lot of appearing to NGAF this week, but it w…
/r/MarriedRedPill02/02/21 01:52 PM
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She shouldn't. My time has mostly been put toward keeping my couch warm for many, many years. It's only recently I've started lifting and running. I generally get together with guys one every week or two. I need to find something to do that gets me out having fun on the average night though. So far I've only made myself scarce lifting, but that's just me going to the garage so not out and not far and I guess not actually scarce.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/01/21 02:22 AM
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I get that, and I'm not saying nuke or don't nuke. I'm just trying to say it doesn't seem like the decision to nuke is being made from a place of strong frame. And therefore, maybe save that decision for later. The flip side is that I can see I have an implied "should" here, so maybe I'm overstepping.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/01/21 07:48 PM
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The lifts are pounds. They're shit, but I'm working on it. Being in people's heads is a constant problem for me. I've always been good at faking not giving a fuck what other people think about me, but the amount of mental energy I devote to what people think of me gives away that lie. I'm not sure why she doesn't value my time. I obviously have guesses, but is that something I should be worrying about? Given how much I'm in people's heads, especially hers, right now I'm trying to value my own ti…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/01/21 07:29 PM
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It's entirely the second one. If you were that oak, the timing of OYS posts would have nothing to do with anything. And this is a good place to practice your WISNIFG. If you DEER to an internet idiot on OYS 12, I'm sure you're DEERing with your wife.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/01/21 02:56 PM
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OYS 1: "Stay plan is the go plan." OYS 2: "I have oneitis." OYS 3: "My family follows if I captain." OYS 4: "I'm going to divorce next week." You are all over the place.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/01/21 11:55 PM
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OYS #12 Stats: 35 M, 5'11", 210 lbs.; Wife 36, 5'0", 100 lbs; 1 kid, 5 Books: NMMNG, MMSLP, WISNIFG, TRM, What a Year of Owning Your Shit Looks Like, Pook, TWOTSM, PFPFTPM, Day Bang, MAP Lifts: SL 5x5 BP 135 BBR 135 SQ 135 DL 145 OHP 90 2 mile run 1x / wk 5k run Ran a 5k this week. Just because. I got to the end of my 2 mile run and felt like continuing. Took an extra rest day after that. Started squats again. Feels good to be doing again. My knee doesn't feel fully healed, so I'm staying light …
/r/MarriedRedPill26/01/21 12:30 PM
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OYS #11 Stats: 35 M, 5'11", 210 lbs.; Wife 36, 5'0", 100 lbs; 1 kid, 5 Books: NMMNG, MMSLP, WISNIFG, TRM, What a Year of Owning Your Shit Looks Like, Pook, TWOTSM, PFPFTPM, Day Bang, MAP Lifts: SL 5x5 BP 130 BBR 130 SQ N/A DL 135 OHP 90 2 mile run 3x / wk This week, I got back to lifting and not eating as much, and I'm starting to drop weight again. I'm feeling focused during my work outs, and I like the progress I'm seeing both in the mirror and in my general energy levels. Mental: I realized t…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/01/21 04:12 PM
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You sound like you hate yourself. Of course you don't love your wife.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/01/21 03:47 AM
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It was from a place of being needy. I'm working on killing that. I'm working to internalize that sex isn't something a man makes a big deal about afterwards. It's just something that happened. It's in progress, but I've noticed that when I'm not needily hounding her about yesterday's sex, she seems less disgusted by me. And more importantly, I'm also less disgusted by me.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/01/21 07:25 PM
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OYS #10 Stats: 35 M, 5'11", 215 lbs.; Wife 36, 5'0", 100 lbs; 1 kid, 5 Books: NMMNG, MMSLP, WISNIFG, TRM, What a Year of Owning Your Shit Looks Like, Pook, TWOTSM, PFPFTPM, Day Bang, MAP Lifts: SL 5x5 BP 120 BBR 120 SQ N/A DL 125 OHP 85 2 mile run 1x / wk Took a trip over a long weekend for me. Runs faltered. Looking forward to getting my routine back. Lifting continues to go okay. BP and BBR continue to feel light. OHP is heavy to me. After a couple attempts, I can do 90 5x5 but my form suffers…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/01/21 03:01 PM
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It's good advice and an accurate assessment, but it's just treating a symptom. That CC was a frame problem of chasing sex for my own validation. I can already tell there's another one about "now that I'm not making a big deal out of it, sex will be better and more often". These CC symptoms will keep popping up unless I cure the disease. I want to get to a place where sex is just something I do and not something I need for my own self worth.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/01/21 02:27 PM
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OYS #9 Stats: 35 M, 5'11", 215 lbs.; Wife 36, 5'0", 100 lbs; 1 kid, 5 Books: NMMNG, MMSLP, WISNIFG, TRM, What a Year of Owning Your Shit Looks Like, Pook, TWOTSM, PFPFTPM, Day Bang, MAP Lifts: SL 5x5 BP 115 BBR 115 SQ N/A DL 120 OHP 85 2 mile run 3x / wk Really only missed one A day and one B day due to holiday travel. The knee is starting to feel better. It still hurts a little after my deadlift sessions, so I'm still not squatting with weights. Just doing the motion with no bar is feeling good…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/01/21 03:26 PM
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OYS #8 Stats: 35 M, 5'11", 215 lbs.; Wife 36, 5'0", 100 lbs; 1 kid, 5 Books: NMMNG, MMSLP, WISNIFG, TRM, What a Year of Owning Your Shit Looks Like, Pook, TWOTSM, PFPFTPM, Day Bang, MAP Lifts: SL 5x5 BP 105 BBR 105 SQ N/A DL 110 OHP 90 2 mile run 3x / wk Big set back this week. Started feeling knee pain during my squats. I would hit a point of pain during my way up at thighs slightly above horizontal. Front of knee cap and slightly above. I can still get around. Walking isn't painful, and I can …
/r/MarriedRedPill22/12/20 02:17 PM
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You mention dread in relation to your wife. How does that work when part of your marriage is an open understanding that you go off to fuck plates regularly?
/r/MarriedRedPill15/12/20 10:27 PM
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OYS #7 Stats: 35 M, 5'11", 215 lbs.; Wife 36, 5'0", 100 lbs; 1 kid, 5 Books: NMMNG, MMSLP, WISNIFG, TRM, What a Year of Owning Your Shit Looks Like, Pook, TWOTSM, PFPFTPM, Day Bang, MAP Lifts: SL 5x5 BP 95 BBR 95 SQ 140 DL 100 OHP 90 2 mile run 3x / wk Numbers are growing. Except OHP. Hit my first workout where I couldn't complete the 5x5 at the next weight. Try again next time. It's getting colder and I'm bundling up more on my runs. I noticed a difference in my pace because of the extra layers…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/12/20 01:45 PM
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Fair enough. My mistake. Thanks.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/12/20 05:30 PM
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OYS #6 Stats: 35 M, 5'11", 215 lbs.; Wife 36, 5'0", 100 lbs; 1 kid, 5 Books: NMMNG, MMSLP, WISNIFG, TRM, What a Year of Owning Your Shit Looks Like, Pook, TWOTSM, PFPFTPM, Day Bang, MAP Lifts: SL 5x5 BP 90 BBR 90 SQ 130 DL 90 OHP 85 2 mile run 3x / wk Lifting continues to go well. Haven't missed a workout since starting OYS. The one audible I've called is that I just do every other day instead of MWF every week. This means some weeks I do 3 workouts and some 4. I figure at my light weights, the …
/r/MarriedRedPill08/12/20 03:04 PM
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I think what you're saying is that I should understand I didn't do anything impressive. Stop thinking I did. No one here is impressed, and anyway that mindset leads to saying "good enough," declaring victory, and quitting half a mile into a marathon. I'm starting SL at the beginning. Just the bar. Adding 5lbs every workout. I know it's a weak lift and doesn't actually mean anything. I know there's a long road ahead. I appreciate you taking the time to talk to me about this, and please let me kno…
/r/MarriedRedPill04/12/20 02:38 AM
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The difference between the two feels like a nuanced point that I'm not seeing yet. I'll need to chew on that. Definitely right that I don't think someone else would fuck me. Pretty convinced my woman does only out of a sense of wifely duty. I can't blame her. I certainly wouldn't fuck me. That's why priority 1 is getting my body to a point where it looks like a man and not a marshmallow.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/12/20 04:10 AM
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I'm starting SL at the beginning. Just the bar. Adding 5lbs every workout. I know it's a weak lift and doesn't actually mean anything. It's just a number that has more digits than the last one. Like watching when your car hits 100,000 miles. Thanks for the tip. Will start wiping my ass after I shit.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/12/20 04:00 AM
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OK, yeah. I don't eat whole pizzas. Never did. But I could put half of one away pretty easily. I don't do that anymore though. BF. Don't know it. I know it's too high. Seems like a thing guys here track hard when they're somewhere between 6% and 20%. I don't think I'm within spotting distance of those numbers.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/12/20 01:53 AM
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I know what the right answer is. It's just not the true answer. I would say what I'm scared of is life without my wife. I am the definition of scarcity mentality. The only two people who ever touched my dick are my wife and Palmela Handerson. I've never been not fat and ugly. And that scarcity is itself pretty ugly. That's why the DNGAF I felt this week was a big deal to me. Even if it is mostly fake.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/12/20 01:47 AM
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It's not even the sex. That's still a once a week drip feed. Well, twice one week. No real progress there. It's more that I said no to a few things and the world kept turning after a few hours of pouty princess didn't turn no into yes. I know my frame is shit and these are false positives. Don't really know how to fix that. But people here say putting more plates on the bar than last time will help. I'm gonna try that.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/12/20 10:33 PM
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"Woke up later and mind was dwelling on the whole exchange," This is something I've struggled with a few times since I went no fap. Thanks for the link. I'll try this mental model if (when) it happens again.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/12/20 03:52 PM
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OYS #5 Stats: 35 M, 5'11", 220 lbs.; Wife 36, 5'0", 100 lbs; 1 kid, 5 Books: NMMNG, MMSLP, WISNIFG, TRM, What a Year of Owning Your Shit Looks Like, Pook, TWOTSM, PFPFTPM, Day Bang, MAP Lifts: SL 5x5 BP 80 BBR 80 SQ 110 DL 75 OHP 80 Lifting is going well. I've been good about not getting impatient and loading plates. Having hit triple digits on squats makes me feel accomplished. The other numbers grow pretty slowly. I ran a 5k this week with some folks. It was about half gravel and half sidewalk…
/r/MarriedRedPill01/12/20 12:07 PM
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Mostly, it struck me about how my wife naturally wants to follow my lead of i just do it, but u/JCX_Pulse was right. It doesn't actually matter.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/11/20 02:20 AM
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I'm following SL 5x5. Never lifted before. Starting from the beginning. Just the bar. Adding 5lbs every workout. Was lifting higher earlier because I thought I should but strained my back between OYS 1 and 2. Congratulations, you get to keep the farm. So I'm starting from the very beginning. You're right about everything. I have a long way to go.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/11/20 09:58 PM
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We both know it's hers. We both know my frame is made of straw right now. And we both know how weak i am. Here i am. I have fucked my life up. I suck. But I'm starting at the beginning on SL. I'm adding 5 lbs every workout. And I'm trying to suck less each week. This week I failed and took a step back.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/11/20 09:52 PM
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OYS #4 Stats: 35 M, 5'11", 220 lbs.; Wife 36, 5'0", 100 lbs; 1 kid, 5 Reading: NMMNG, MMSLP, WISNIFG, TRM, What a Year of Owning Your Shit Looks Like, Pook, TWOTSM, PFPFTPM, Day Bang, MAP Lifts: SL 5x5 BP 60 BBR 60 SQ 75 DL 66 OHP 60 3x/wk 2 mile run Continuing work here. Squats are starting to feel less awkward. Balance is more sure now. I'm generally happy with that. Rows and DL still need work to get into muscle memory. I catch myself engaging the back too much still. Also took the wife on a …
/r/MarriedRedPill17/11/20 01:51 PM
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Absolutely right. That's the easy road. Fuck that. Disclaimer: Me either
/r/MarriedRedPill11/11/20 11:25 AM
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No man, I swear! That fish was this big! Seriously though it's definitely not good looking women. More like the fat girls. Might still have been pity though.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/11/20 01:15 AM
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OYS #3 Stats: 35 M, 5'11", 220 lbs.; Wife 36, 5'0", 100 lbs; 1 kid, 5 Reading: NMMNG, MMSLP, WISNIFG, TRM, What a Year of Owning Your Shit Looks Like, Pook, TWOTSM, PFPFTPM Lifts: SL 5x5 BP 50 BBR 50 SQ 60 DL 60 OHP 55 3x/wk 2 mile run Lifting has been a focus for me. Still wanting to get to higher weights, but I view it as a discipline test. AlohaMaui gave me some advice last time that helped me to focus better. As much as I want to load weights on and get in there, right now I need to shadow b…
/r/MarriedRedPill10/11/20 01:48 PM
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I agree that I need a new mental model for this. Thanks for the help.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/11/20 01:23 PM
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Fuck, that's interesting. It was less covert when taken from the full conversation. We eventually got to an overt statement of I want you to take care of it. You're better suited to do it than me. But this was DEERing and not captaining. This was, "If I explain really well how I'm not the best person for this job, she'll see i make good decisions and trust my decisions in the future." I appreciate the insight.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/11/20 10:23 AM
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OYS #2 Stats: 35 M, 5'11", 220 lbs.; Wife 36, 5'0", 100 lbs; 1 kid, 5 Reading: NMMNG, MMSLP, WISNIFG, Rational Male Year One, What a Year of Owning Your Shit Looks Like, reading The Book of Pook, Way of the Superior Man Lifts: SL 5x5 So I bought a squat rack, a bench, and 300 lbs of plates+bar. Figured I'd start at something i knew I could do that was not just pushing up the bar. Started at BP 135; SQ 135; BBR 135; DL 140; OHP 65. Well, after one increase to DL 145, my lower back is tapping out.…
/r/MarriedRedPill04/11/20 03:41 PM
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OYS #1 STATS: 35 M, 5'11", 225 lbs.; married 8 years, Wife 36, 5'0", 100 lbs; 1 kid, 5 LIFTS: 4x /wk Dumbell curls 3x12 35 lbs (each) Dumbbell Triceps extension 3x12 35 lbs Dumbbell Shoulder press 3x12 30 lbs (each) Dumbbell squat 3x12 70 lbs Dumbbell row 3x12 35 lbs (each) I know Jack shit about lifting, and I own a set of 30 lb and a set of 35 lb dumb bells, so this is an area to fix. Also running 2 miles 3x /wk. READING: NMMNG, MMSLP, WISNIFG, Rational Male Year One, What a Year of Owning You…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/10/20 06:58 PM
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