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Debateflexible-photon/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/25 07:37 PM
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Having a higher education, more money or more hobbies does not put you in a higher league. Oftentimes it has more to do with the relative power that individual has in the dating game and how many options they have which often boils down to relative fitness and attractiveness. If you are easily replaceable or the guy just doesn't care then you can find yourself in a bad relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/25 07:58 PM
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I think this is the main reason why dating sucks these days. Too many people juggling too many people. Nobody really commits and takes a risk and so we spread ourselves too thin and act surprised when we don't get complete buy in from other people.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/25 03:05 AM
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Yes, way more effort than is generally worth it considering the kind of women most men end up with these days.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/25 02:08 AM
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Exactly. Being good in bed takes practice for a man and generally experience with multiple partners with a willingness to try new things. Women have literally no expectation to be good in bed. They think bringing 2 or 3 holes is sufficient and don't even get me started on women who are like a dead fish and are incapable of letting loose and actually having fun. Having experienced women who had great game in bed and showed genuine enthusiasm (the most important part) they are a rare breed that ma…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/25 02:05 AM
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The larger the supply the less market share each man has. Think about something as simple as mustard. If you go back in time to the 1980s when there were only a handful of mustards for sale at a typical grocery store then each mustard had a larger percentage of the market share with a couple being at the tip top making up for the vast majority of the market. Fast forward to present day where my grocery store has half of an aisle of different mustards. Again you will have a select few that make u…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/25 01:43 AM
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I disagree. The entire dating market operates on the principles of economics supply and demand. Men are naturally inclined to spread their seed as wide as possible which means they have a tendency to approach and like a large percentage of the women that they see. This creates an enormous supply for the women. Women having a natural tendency to be picky and by increasing the supply of Men available to those women they have even more incentive to be picky. This leads to a lot of men being single …
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/25 01:10 AM
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I have been married for 20 years and now single for 10 years. I have pumped and I have dumped. Yes women have much higher standards in the looks department. Yes it is mostly the fault of men for making themselves available to so many women.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/25 10:32 PM
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It's a reaction to the just world fallacy that women employ when it comes to single men. Basically if you're a single man then you're shitty and a misogynist and probably don't wash your ass.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/25 09:32 PM
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No. I would just prefer it to be shamed by friends and especially family.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/25 09:54 PM
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Same. I have high income and net worth and it's still very difficult to get matches. Of course I don't advertise it other than listing my job which is only a google search away from revealing my potential earnings.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/25 01:34 PM
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Personally I don't care what women think. If they are showing it off then I am looking and objectifying as much as I please because they are my eyeballs and you are in my field of vision. Make money with it as much as you like, you won't get any from me.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/25 09:15 PM
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Personally I don't care what women think. If they are showing it off then I am looking and objectifying as much as I please because they are my eyeballs and you are in my field of vision. Make money with it as much as you like, you won't get any from me.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/25 09:11 PM
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It didn't bother me. What did bother me was her MUCH lower libido than mine. I knew she had a colorful past but she just wasn't in the mood as much as I was. I broke up with her. Was she just not that attracted to me? Maybe. Was I just not that good in bed? Maybe. However I have experienced genuine sexual desire from other partners and recognize its absence. I have been told I'm an excellent lover by most of my past partners so maybe she just had experienced "TOO MUCH" dick and was burned out.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/25 01:29 AM
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WTAF? You really think it was created for men to benefit them? Why then were dowries a thing? Getting married was almost like taking on the responsibility of caring for a child. He was removing the responsibility from the parents in exchange for continuing his bloodline and creating heirs. In exchange the woman had a roof over her head, someone to protect her and food on the table. People who view marriage as some onesided thing that only benefits a man or only benefits a woman are miserable peo…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/25 01:53 AM
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I disagree. Almost anything that is critical of women's behavior is considered misogyny. Rep pill isn't there to be palatable to the masses. It is there as a response to modern feminism and the privileges women enjoy while pretending to be victims.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/25 12:55 AM
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Currently doing option 2. It's not bad
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/25 03:23 PM
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That's fine. I would just hope that she's not lying about never doing hookups and it certainly doesn't count if it's a woman who "no longer" does hookups because she's so burnt out from riding that carousel.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/25 06:21 PM
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All of the women that talk about a guy who is husband material and not hook up material are implicitly admitting that husband material is not as hot as hook up material. Now I want you to think back to all of the times where you have seen women get upset that their man doesn't consider them to be the most attractive woman they have ever been with. They genuinely get upset if their husband doesn't find them to be a 10 or let alone the hottest girl in his historical lineup. It's the same thing to …
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/25 03:53 PM
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Have I had sexual thoughts? Definitely! I don't think there has been a single moderately attractive female friend of my wife that I haven't thought about in that way. It seems to me to be pretty natural for a guy to imagine any moderately attractive woman in that way if only for a fleeting moment. Or maybe I'm just too damn horny but from discussions I have had with other guys it seems to be pretty normal. What matters is how you keep it contained. Is it okay? Well that depends on your definitio…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/25 11:55 PM
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But we are specifically talking about respecting a man for having a high body count versus a woman for having a high body count. You're talking about places where women are generally not respected because they have no rights which is completely different.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/25 09:19 PM
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Who has ever given respect to a man by comparing his strength to that of a woman? The only thing I can think of would be when a delusional woman talks smack and challenges that guy to a fight or an athletic endeavor. Even then, the respect is not given to the man. Instead people are usually laughing at the short sightedness of the woman.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/25 07:40 PM
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Really? Well I never claimed it was an original thought but it probably was with Aristotle.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/25 07:09 PM
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There is a biological reason for this. Ultimately a male's ability to mate is considered success in the animal kingdom. It is hard to get access to sex as a man. It is easy for women to get access to it. Giving respect to a woman who has a high body count is like giving respect to a man for being stronger than a woman. It is biologically innate and requires little effort.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/25 06:50 PM
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Here's my take on it as a leftist. Do women experience violence and sexual assault at the hands of men? Yes. The strong will always prey upon the weak and regardless of what any feminist tells you men are stronger than women. Men have higher levels of testosterone and thus are more prone to Ill informed decision making and sexual desires that most women don't understand until they themselves going testosterone supplementation. You can go read the accounts of trans men who had their eyes opened o…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/25 10:20 PM
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I've never really thought about it like this. You are correct in the amount of work necessary to garner interest as a man. It's not enough to just be yourself.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/25 10:31 AM
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But most claim they do it for themselves
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/25 08:17 AM
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So... greenlight to try for the butthole?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/25 12:19 PM
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I don't know any guys who hate their girlfriends and wives. Sure there might be some that are annoyed but a lot of that has to do with personality conflicts and henpecking. Some might be annoyed with the weight that their wife gained after a pregnancy or old age but it's still rarely distills into hatred. I certainly don't know anybody who hated the person when they initially married.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/25 10:37 PM
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I don't know what to say. You can argue that women are just as egalitarian when it comes to expressing interest in the opposite sex but every man will laugh from lived experience.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/25 03:43 PM
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Celebrities...
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/25 03:24 PM
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Go to a high school social event or a singles event. Notice the gaggle of women hanging around and vying for the attention of the same couple men despite there being a multitude of men.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/25 01:13 PM
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Have you seen the list of icks that women have over men just being humans living their lives?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/25 12:29 AM
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Then women would find them even more repulsive.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/25 12:20 AM
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I'll tell you what. In my experience it seems easier to find someone to cheat with than it is to find a single woman who's interested in dating. What the hell is going on with that?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/25 11:50 PM
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I have been the bad boy in a few cases and I can tell you it doesn't sit well with me. I do not like one night stands or situationships or cheating.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/25 11:31 PM
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A bang maid who sees me as a walking wallet
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/25 08:11 AM
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It is soooooo gay...not that there's anything wrong with that.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/25 08:07 PM
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You are obviously not a man. Anybody who has grown up as a man in almost any country has lived with the constant reminder that they are nothing until they build something out of themselves. We are constantly reminded that the world does not revolve around us and that nobody will be there to save us and that it is in fact our job to save others.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/25 01:11 AM
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Ding ding ding. I agree
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/25 09:56 AM
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Do you agree that most women would prefer a conventionally attractive man? Do you agree that most women would prefer a man who is on the taller side? Do you agree that most women would prefer a man who is paid a comfortable salary? Do you agree that most women prefer a man more on the masculine side? Do you agree that most women prefer a man with an athletic build? Now imagine that those women get inundated by almost all men and they have to find a way to filter them down. Do you agree that they…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/25 01:43 AM
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Tell me how the elite are causing the divide rather than just individual feminists bad-mouthing men on social media? I don't see billionaires and politicians trying to cause men and women to fight with one another.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/25 12:29 AM
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Baggage also comes from parents and poor choices. Let's face it, dating and marriage are FAR easier when you are younger and more myopic and hopeful. We are biologically programmed to procreate in a very haphazard quick fashion. I don't think we evolved to try out different partners and put a bunch of thought into relationship dynamics. Evolution has tried to make us get our collective penises into collective vaginas as fast as possible to make a baby. Hence the infatuation and lust stage of rel…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/25 01:50 PM
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There was a video I saw not too long ago and unfortunately I can't find it right now. It was some kind of talk show with two women talking to a male dating coach. At the end of it the women proudly proclaimed that the nice guy nerds always win in the end and get the girl and that it just takes a while for women to realize that they are the better choice for mates. This is such a tired cliche and you're being disingenuous to believe that it's not something that has been hammered into men for deca…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/25 11:39 AM
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If you want to bring up natural selection then you can't ignore all the methods of natural selection that occur. I am willing to bet that if you go back far enough in time rape was probably a pretty standard practice amongst humans. So yes I would claim it is most likely natural albeit now socially unacceptable and criminal. However mother nature and natural selection don't care about morals and laws.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/25 10:33 PM
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In the animal world it's natural for the female to basically be raped by the male in many species. Go check out ducks as an example.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/25 10:20 PM
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I wonder if she will view rape and forced carrying of unwanted babies as natural selection? Men collectively can also affect natural selection in ways that I imagine most women would find repugnant. Let's not forget that conservative religious people tend to procreate at a much faster rate than your standard modern woman. Think about how that can affect laws and social norms.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/25 10:19 PM
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I think I'm a 5.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/25 10:05 PM
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Oh noes! Men aren't subsidizing our fun nights out while we call them creeps and ridicule them! SO NOT FAIR!!!🤣
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/25 03:42 PM
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What I'm saying is that if you really believe men are fearsome then why would you poke the bear? It doesn't seem smart to me. It doesn't matter if I'm progressive or conservative, don't write checks you can't cash.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/25 02:32 PM
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Yeah maybe. You also would think that if women were ACTUALLY afraid of men due to our strength and supposed toxic traits that puts women in peril, then they would be a bit more careful about what they say and how they treat men. Iran should be a cautionary tale to women that the backlash can be swift and irreversible and that their rights are contingent on the acceptance of the majority of men. I'm a progressive BTW.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/25 02:20 PM
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I'm old enough to remember MANY more jokes about women hitting their husbands with frying pans and rolling pins. When men joked about hitting their wives it was just as popular for media to show women doing the same to their husbands. These days it has become so lopsided that even the hint of it coming from a man gets you canceled but coming from a woman gets you applause.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/25 12:48 PM
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We do hold them to a higher standard. This is reflected in less committed relationships, less marriage, more cheating, etc. They only have to exist for our penis. For commitment and chivalry we hold them to higher standards.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/25 04:30 PM
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No thanks. All this to win a mouthy entitled woman? A woman who probably has a hundred guys in her DMs? I don't chase women like they are starlets. The best relationships are the ones that naturally just happen and take very little work to enter because there is mutual interest.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/25 03:27 PM
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How cute. She's pretending that she swipes on men based on their misogyny rather than their looks. I have no doubt that you do look for misogyny but that still doesn't take into account the inflated selection bias you have for swiping on the top 10% of men.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/25 03:04 AM
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Fuck him. While I generally roll my eyes at the term "toxic masculinity" this guy is the walking poster child for it as are most MMA guys. He needs to be prosecuted to the fullest extent of the law.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/25 10:11 PM
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But what if you are trying to make them feel included in the conversation?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/25 04:22 PM
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Well then stop expecting men to behave like gentleman if it's too much to ask.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/25 02:08 AM
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Don't be surprised that if all you have to offer is sex then men are just going to treat you like a wet hole. Men would be more than happy to pay for women if they are not hateful gold digging misandrists with a body count that would make pornstars of the '70s blush but instead behaved as ladies. For the most part you get what you give.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/25 01:33 AM
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Not your sex, but for benefit of Motherland it is OUR sex!
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/25 07:13 PM
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I can make sense of what you're saying in terms of the animal kingdom. I believe men used to be the selectors back in our distant past. Women relied upon men for safety and provisioning and thus had to catch the eye of the most desirable men for such services. This is no longer the case in modern society. Let us also not forget that it was probably MUCH more prevalent for men to force themselves on women and rape was likely a bigger part of everybody's life. Thus the bigger stronger men had an e…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/25 01:08 PM
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Spoken like someone who easily gets into and out of relationships with no problem and can get laid at the drop of a hat. Women always like to complain about how men are completely oblivious to their privilege but always seem to ignore the fact that they have privileges too that many men will never have.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/25 11:07 AM
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No. The complaint as I understand it is that there is a double standard. So many women talk about how men need to live up to a bare minimum standard of being kind, empathetic and have emotional intelligence and not be sexist. They will claim that men are not wanted for sex or relationships if they don't exhibit these traits and act as if the women are so morally virtuous that they are choosing to only select for these traits and take the horrible sexist abusers out of the gene pool. But then you…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/25 12:40 PM
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Maybe, but I'm often told I look 40. And hell yes I'm jaded.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/25 07:43 PM
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😂. Not a gramps yet and I've told my boys to think long and hard before they ever decide to bring a kid into this world.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/25 07:42 PM
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51 and in the same boat. I can get laid but the amount of work necessary often isn't worth it and as I get older the women in my age bracket become less desirable to put in that kind of work and sometimes feels even harder since they are jaded.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/25 07:34 PM
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Are you approached by men with romantic or sexual interests? Your picture shows you to be VERY non girly and possibly even a lesbian (from stereotypes).
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/25 01:12 AM
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Romantic and sexual satisfaction in a marriage were fleeting afterthoughts through most of human history. Everybody had a role to play as men and women and husbands and wives. People KNEW what was expected of them and found fulfillment in doing those things. Part of the problem these days is that people have no roles anymore and every person has a thousand different expectations and ideas for what they want and where they would like to fit. When there were uniform roles and expectations it was m…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/25 12:57 AM
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Do with it what you will.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/25 06:42 PM
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I'm saying that in the RARE instance that a man who is married captures the interest of a much younger woman then there is a danger he will cheat and if he does then it is likely he will not just up and leave his wife. This happens way less often than women becoming unhappy in a marriage and filing for divorce.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/25 05:56 PM
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The wall doesn't necessarily mean you're ugly. It means your age is starting to show. Your peak SMV is behind you and your ability to attract interest in men is now on a downward slope. If a man marries you (let's assume pre wall) and you have a good loving relationship, he's not going to throw you out just because you're aging. He presumably loves you for the life that you built together, your personality AND your looks. Obviously some men get caught up in affairs with younger more attractive w…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/25 01:24 PM
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Yeah I'll bet they are just dirt bags who got jailed for other things and then prison caused delinquency.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/25 08:40 AM
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Got to love it when people literally try to control the direction in which your pupils are pointed. I have the right to look wherever I please in public and if you don't want me to look then you damn well better cover it up or instantly leave my gaze.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/25 02:03 AM
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Way to shout your ignorance.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/25 06:26 PM
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Ahh. I see you're a Republican.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/25 03:18 PM
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Do a simple search for paradox of choice and take your pick. More choices leads to more anxiety and less satisfaction. Making choices is emotionally exhausting according to one article I read. I have frequently heard women complain about dating apps and the exhausting process of trying to pare down their matches and likes. Here is one for you https://www.zmescience.com/science/news-science/researchers-are-raising-a-red-flag-about-the-long-term-happiness-of-couples-who-met-online/
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/25 09:59 PM
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The title of my post is clearly stated. Men and women both seem to keep wondering what is wrong with the other sex when it comes to dating and I'm stating it is not the fault of either gender. It is simply how society has structured itself that has caused this bewilderment rather than men being terrible abusers and womanizers or women being gold digging whores.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/25 09:30 PM
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Easier to create marriage does not mean better. I never said it was better. There are a lot of you desperately trying to read between the lines to fill in your own narratives about me. I'm purple pill for a reason. I firmly live in the camp of believing every choice has trade-offs, some good some bad. It's for society and individuals to decide if the trade-offs are worth it.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/25 09:24 PM
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Moreso than large cities obviously. However the guard rails that society used to place on the population are mostly gone.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/25 09:19 PM
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Did I say that? I'm simply comparing past to present. You are the one applying your narrative to it. I'm not saying the past was better for people.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/25 09:17 PM
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I'm 51. The paths that people took to marriage back then were still VERY preordained and limited. Although I grew up in a small town. So it may not have been so in big cities.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/25 09:06 PM
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Where did I say or threaten female distribution? Your anecdotal evidence of being happier flies in the face of the countless women that are complaining about the dating scene these days. I'm glad you're happy and fully support women's freedom. I'm not saying things were better back in the day, I'm simply saying why it is more difficult today. I'm firmly of the mind that things are simply different due to the choices society has made and whenever one makes a choice there is always trade-offs. Som…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/25 08:37 PM
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Hard disagree. The world has opened up to so many new options on how to live your life that were never even remotely allowed 50 years ago. Think about hairstyles, tattoos, piercings, fashion, the variety of religions or atheism one can pick from, and that doesn't even begin to take into account all the various subcultures in various forms of art that people develop. Think about the accessibility of all the physical activities and hobbies that people build their lives around that never used to be…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/25 08:03 PM
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Good point
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/25 07:59 PM
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Screw women and their ick feelings on gaming. They are just jealous because their noob asses get pwned all the time by alpha gamers.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/25 03:51 PM
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I would argue that most things that we consider morals are rules made up for creating a stable society. When people followed these rules or morals then they found that it was easier to live in larger groups of people which is how communities are formed. Fine you can claim that it's not rooted in morality and I will even concede that there is some insecurity behind it. However I think most people will agree that women who have been ran through are men who have been sleeping around with everybody …
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/25 01:07 AM
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Trust me that it's common. I'm just an average dude (looks wise) and off the top of my head I can think of four women that I was not interested in a relationship with and didn't find them particularly attractive but was offered sex and I took it. I considered them at least two points beneath me on a 1 to 10 scale in looks alone without even taking into account my financials and level of fitness.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/25 12:49 AM
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Yep. Women most certainly are not paranoid enough when it comes to giving up their bodies. Hookup culture is only a thing because women have made their bodies more available in general to men. If they don't respect their bodies as much as women of 50+ years ago how can they expect men to hold any sanctity to the act of sex? It's like not controlling your country's borders but complaining about illegal immigrants that crossover. (I hate Trump BTW)
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/25 05:40 PM
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Nope. Nice gynocentric take. If a woman manages to capture the interest of a man such that he is willing to jump through hoops to get her on a date and coax her into the bedroom then it is on the woman to decide if it's too soon and suss out his intentions. If she can't keep his interest beyond what her body has to offer then she should take a long hard look at herself and the personality traits she has that make men run away after bedding her. You can't just put all the onus on men and pretend …
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/25 03:37 PM
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No it's not their fault. What is their fault is the mistaken belief that if you are fuckable then you are also dateable. Dateable means men will want to CONTINUE to see you long after the sex because your personality is great.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/25 02:59 PM
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Yes, one advice.... therefore already fuckable. There i fixed it for you.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/25 02:26 PM
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It might be prudent to go around and pay tea users to post fake reviews about you. Make sure they talk about how toxic you are and what a bad boy you are. Pay about 20 or 30 girls to complain about you and it might really up your dating game.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/25 08:25 PM
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I whole heartedly believe that the reason why suitors had to be approved by parents and extended family back in the day is because women were completely incapable of recognizing men who are bad for them. It's such a tired cliche for women to fall in love with bad boys. The family wants nothing but the best for their daughter and thus can choose with sober minds untouched by lust and romance.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/25 01:46 AM
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Thanks for revealing yourself to be a clout chaser. There is an enormous population of women such as yourself who have absolutely no understanding of what love and commitment within a relationship means. Everything is transactional and status chasing. This is why marriage is dead and why the dating market is so messed up. In general men prefer their women not to have many options. If they find the woman cute enough and with a personality that is suitable trust me they will count their lucky star…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/25 02:02 AM
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Bingo! Most women have a plethora of men that are attracted to them sexually who the women find absolutely repulsive. This feels like misogyny to them because they hate these men. Feminists won't be happy until there is a chip inserted in the men's brains that turns our libido and vision on and off and they have the power to activate it at their discretion.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/25 05:58 PM
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Very interesting. Thanks!
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/25 07:20 PM
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Have you seen the recent trend where women are bemoaning how men used to go to war but now they play video games, or go golfing or insert favorite male hobby here. As if to say we are lazy and need to be out risking our lives for ???? Meanwhile women love to claim that if they were in charge there would be no wars. 🤔
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/25 02:36 PM
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What that saying? Women show up at the finish line and take the winners.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/25 06:37 PM
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You don't argue in good faith.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/25 06:07 PM
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I can tell you with my partner it is completely the psychological connection and validation that I experience and the enthusiasm and pleasure that I can bring to her. Admittedly when I was much younger (I'm over 50 now) it was much more about my orgasm. The chemistry between me and my current lover is perhaps the strongest I have ever felt in my life and as such makes the sex that much more gratifying. I rarely am racing to my orgasm. In fact I usually try to hold it off because it's disappointi…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/25 12:02 AM
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The upfront cost is HUGE on the apps. There are stats for this but I can't be bothered to look them up. Think about the steps involved Getting a match as an average guy maybe 1-2 matches a month. How many of those women respond to your first message? About 1 in 10 How often does it get past the talking stage where you have a rapport and there is nothing that icks out either party? Maybe 1 in 5 How many of those can you actually get to a live in person date? Maybe 50% of the time. The numbers are…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/25 04:52 PM
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A shitty take by a shitty person. You might as well say that every woman without a committed man has TikTok brain. When I look at porn I rarely ever watch porn stars and 10/10 women. I much prefer women that look more normal like they might love next door or I work with. A bit of a belly and jiggle in the ass. To me this is far more attractive.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/25 10:12 PM
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Approaching has always been difficult. Modern Women and social media has only made it doubly so. Shaming and putting men on blast for awkward approaches and the general hostility so many women seem to have has killed chivalry and men's desire to do so.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/25 10:05 AM
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Sorry but over sharing is definitely a woman thing. Which gender is known for TikTok and Instagram videos putting men on blast and sharing embarrassing and unflattering things to the world because of awkward approaches or dates?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/25 09:58 AM
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If you think masturbation and a good friend are good approximations to a loving romantic sexual relationship then I feel sorry for your partner.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/25 11:27 PM
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Right. It's a last resort.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/25 01:03 AM
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It happens. Homeless women trade sex for shelter quite often...and drugs.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/25 12:57 AM
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Nope. I've turned down offers of random sex with strangers plenty of times. I generally don't trust women that give it up easily if they are strangers. No way am I getting involved in her domestic drama.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/25 12:55 AM
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I did it willingly. After our first born she stopped working and stayed home. We had a second son and it worked well up until the point that she cheated on me. We divorced and she has done everything she can to make my life a living hell by being a completely unreasonable co-parent. Because I was the sole breadwinner and I make decent money she obviously got a good chunk of change out of our divorce. It's good when it works but it's too easy for women to cheat these days and completely up end yo…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/25 03:11 AM
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The only thing worse than small dick energy is big vagina energy.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/25 11:12 PM
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The scarcity mindset is why. If you're dating somebody and you have 99 other people waiting in the wings how much care will you put into that relationship if you see the slightest ick?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/25 11:06 PM
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Men across the entire spectrum of attractiveness can be assholes to women. However when it comes to getting dates on dating apps that tends to skew more towards the upper 20% of men on a regular basis. Most guys are lucky if they can get a single match every month let alone diverting that match into an actual date and relationship. It makes sense that the most popular and attractive men that easily get plenty of options are going to be more likely to be less careful in how they treat those optio…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/25 11:03 PM
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In other news, women complaining about being pumped and dumped will not get them married.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/25 04:35 PM
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A real man wouldn't give a flying fuck what women think about his choices on how he lives his life.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/25 12:42 AM
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I'm 51 years old and can't remember a day where I didn't think about an attractive woman. Simply going out in public or watching TV exposes you to attractive women and so of course you think about them. Relationships? Sure that is not a daily thing. Sex? If I see an attractive woman then my mind automatically goes to wondering what she is like as a sexual being.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/25 02:13 PM
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When I say that it's simply to state that women are not goddesses and above men. They are the same fallible annoying species as men. I've had my share of relationships and I've been married so obviously I've done something right when it comes to gaining their interest.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/25 08:54 PM
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I realized this a long time ago even before online dating. I don't chase. If a woman wants you then she will make it super easy for you to open that door. Why would I want to have to TRY SO HARD to "earn" the interest of another sack of flesh? Fuck that, I'm not a salesman.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/25 05:53 PM
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Personally I see it negatively. It sounds like they would be exhausting and too high maintenance. As far as being a groupie I would get in line for Anne Hathaway or Taylor Swift but only if I'm in the front of the line.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/25 10:49 AM
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They can certainly blame it. But it is not the sole reason. If you're a woman who does not want a man who consumes porn then that's a legitimate standard. It certainly decreases the number of men available to you considering how widespread it is. But if you took the time to analyze all the other filters that even get you to the point where you're talking to the guy to find out if they watch porn you might find that those other filters are far more to blame. Demanding a man who is tall, handsome …
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/25 11:24 PM
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Most men watch porn and most men get in relationships. Women hate it so men hide it and lie about it. So now you have guys in relationships who claim of course they don't watch porn and guys that are not in relationships who have nobody to hide it from so they admit to it.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/25 11:18 PM
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To cut to the chase it's because....better you lose money than the state.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates21/06/25 03:30 PM
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I can tell you I had plenty of friends while I was married. After my divorce my friendships dropped off drastically. People don't hang out with single guys unless it's other single guys or women who want to date you. Couples do things with other couples. Of course there are exceptions but generally speaking people don't like a third wheel and there was a lot of mistrust towards single men. I have two teenage boys and I can tell you that it was always difficult to get friends to come over because…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/25 08:32 PM
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🤣 impossible to read without my internal valley girl voice. And I'm a 51 year old dude from the Midwest.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen18/06/25 11:53 PM
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And yet strong intelligent women can't figure out why they can't get men to commit to them. Lots of stupid to spread between both genders.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/25 09:23 PM
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I can make my own sandwich....but it always tastes better when a woman makes it
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/25 09:36 PM
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You disagree that shaming a man for never having sex makes it more likely that they become more desperate to lose their virgin card?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/25 04:16 AM
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Using virgin as a pejorative perpetuates sexual violence. If you shame men for not getting any then some will become more desperate and resort to extreme measures to get it.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/25 04:03 AM
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I don't think women and feminist supporters understand how damaging it is to degrade virgins. This is something that has been around for decades if not centuries. If they make it shameful and debasing to be a virgin don't you think that that might increase the likelihood of sexual assault and sneaky underhanded tricks to get in a woman's pants? If the vagina is so fucking valuable that you would think that they wouldn't taunt the people that can't get it. It's like shaming the hungry while wavin…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/25 03:22 AM
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I agree with you. I think gaming is only a problem if the woman lets it be a problem. There's too many women who have very negative views and stereotypes about gamers. It's just a hobby. If the dude doesn't have a girlfriend in his life and he enjoys gaming why would you judge him for that?. Also why would he give up gaming just because he has a girlfriend? People are multifaceted and capable of having multiple interests and pursuits.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/25 12:05 PM
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So many women play this game. Not only do they reinforce love bombing by claiming the man isn't interested if he's not putting forth tons of effort but they also reinforce men not taking no for an answer. I have seen so many women claiming that they are upset that the guy that they rejected didn't try a little bit harder and go for it again.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/25 09:47 AM
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The bar is in hell for men*. *Attractive men with social status
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/25 08:08 PM
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You can't have amicable divorces if one spouse doesn't want it but instead wants to milk as much out of the other one as possible.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/25 02:52 AM
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Haven't you heard? Men in general are not approaching women. Women who are dressed to the nines with lots of makeup generally are hanging out in places where being approached is expected like a club or the bar. My ex-wife almost never wore makeup and pretty much dressed like a dude most times. My current girlfriend rarely dresses up either. She's a house cleaner and I find it sexy seeing her in frumpy house cleaning clothes and hair in a ponytail.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/25 02:40 AM
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Sounds to me like you are more attracted to high maintenance men with high expectations. That doesn't surprise me.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/25 02:37 AM
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Wrong. I see average women at the gym with barely any makeup wearing baggy t-shirts and sweatpants and I'm still very much attracted to most of them. Women wearing excess makeup and designer clothes is something women want not something men want.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/25 02:33 AM
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It is puzzling to me how so many women demand men step up and be more involved with kids and their care but they seem to draw the line at being a stay-at-home dad.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/25 10:36 PM
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Most men who are against abortion believe that the child has the human right to life over a woman's right to convenience.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/25 09:56 PM
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This isn't a relationship advice place. However I wouldn't trust you if I were him.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/25 10:02 AM
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It's victim mentality that makes modern feminism so unpalatable. Back in the 80s and 90s Republicans always said blacks had victim mentality and it made it hard to care about their needs. That pissed me off until I saw firsthand how toxic victim mentality could be when coming from feminists. Some of the most spoiled, wealthiest and entitled people walking the planet (young attractive white Western women) focusing on trivial minutia and acting like victims pisses off A LOT of people.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/25 09:07 PM
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This. There are statements in law about attempting to make sure the woman can continue to "live the lifestyle she has become accustomed to.". This is code for making sure that alimony or spousal support is not just enough to put a roof over her head and food on the table. If there is enough money they want to make sure that she can still afford the Lexus and take vacations and other luxuries that she may have had prior to the divorce. You never hear them say that a woman should provide for her e…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/25 12:51 AM
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Maybe make sex more difficult to get. Most men don't want to play the long game for a one shot at an average woman. Choose better means make better choices, not just choosing which guy to date.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/25 03:11 PM
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No. The fact that her friends were split on the decision tells me that this was some gray area BS date rape. Mixed signals, sex regret, inability to say no but he should just be able to read her mind, etc ... I wouldn't take my chances with a woman like that.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/25 02:10 AM
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You know what though. Misandry creates MORE misogyny. Men can then take your rights with increased support for such things.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates09/05/25 12:50 AM
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That's not what I'm saying but have fun with your interpretation of what I wrote.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/25 11:45 AM
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What is so hard to understand? Women want a bad boy who is responsible and emotionally available and holds down a great job. They would also prefer he have a dad bod like Jason Momoa or Chris Hemsworth that doesn't require him to spend too much time at the gym. He should also be in the top quartile of attractiveness and have the interest of most women but only choose her who is mid at best.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/25 09:32 AM
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Sounds to me like you choose horrible uncaring partners which seems to be a theme these days.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/25 07:00 PM
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While I agree that modern women are more radicalized due to the victimhood mentality they have absorbed, not wanting to vote for Trump is based. Trump is extraordinarily corrupt and dismissive of our constitution. Men supporting him as a means to get back at women are idiots causing unnecessary additional harm to our country.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/25 05:44 PM
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What about those of us who can get women but are so burnt out by their antics that a sex doll sounds refreshing?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/25 06:31 PM
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Isaac Newton invented Calculus and Physics over the course of a summer as a virgin.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/25 04:29 PM
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I suppose all the other shit that men do around the house and yard along with their paycheck makes them identical to a child.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/25 07:01 PM
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Well I guess you could divorce. But then the woman is just going to find herself with less financial means and still doing 100% of the chores and this time potentially a lot more child care than previous.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/25 10:35 AM
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I'm 51 and not afraid to ask a woman out if the chemistry is there. I haven't asked a woman out in over 2 years. I'm not on the dating apps because they are a failure. Just today I had my sprinkler system turned on and analyzed. This was done by a rather cute woman who looked a little bit younger than me probably in her early forties. I was very close to asking her out because there seemed to be a spark. There was definitely something there beyond good customer service, I would bet on it, but I …
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/25 01:03 AM
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For the most part
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates13/04/25 01:38 AM
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It's about AI robotic girlfriends and they are abused by their boyfriends.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates13/04/25 01:14 AM
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I completely disagree. Have you ever been to a comic-con? There are so many nerdy women that do the cosplay and love anime and comic books and every other genre under the sun that nerds love. Not all of them are gorgeous but a good many of them are cute enough.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/25 07:04 PM
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Obviously it's not all. But most men agree that women have to take on more traditionally masculine traits to excel in capitalism. At the same time we have half the women claiming that modern men are too feminine and the other half are claiming men are not feminine enough.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/25 08:40 PM
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Capitalism is dehumanizing. Women entering the workforce have become dehumanizing in their pursuit of Capitalism. This makes them more masculine and less attractive to men. Their beauty standards and regimen are not for men but to get ahead in a capitalist society. They have told us as much. "I do it for me, not for men.". They are harder to get along with and disagreeable, because they are like men. Men find it harder to find a partner that they want to commit to because once you get past the v…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/25 08:12 PM
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It's even more manipulative to argue that lonely men are lonely because of their dick. It's the equivalent of arguing that single women are lonely in their ability to pay bills.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/25 10:01 PM
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I worked with a guy who did an enormous amount of home repairs and he pretty much cooked and prepared all the meals and cleaned up afterwards. He's recently retired his wife earned probably about twice what he did and retired earlier than him. She was lazy and demanding and even kept him on a leash by controlling his credit card. Anytime he would use that thing she would immediately text him to find out if he just used it. He was not a happy camper in that marriage had would frequently complain …
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/25 02:16 AM
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I have a colleague who has a 21 year old son who just got his first girlfriend and she's 42. I'm pretty good friends with his mom and she supports it because the lady is so nice. Most of us at work are teasing her that he had found his Mrs Robinson but I can only imagine what would be said if the genders were reversed.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/25 11:34 PM
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It's like bitching about your shitty job options as a minimum wage worker but never bothering to get training or an education.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/25 04:39 PM
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There is a head space that I can get into with the right partner that completely outshines anything masturbating provides. I'm guessing you have never experienced that head space. It seems you just view sex as an action that has a beginning and end. I love to prolong things, take it slowly, marinate in the presence and breathing of my partner. Talk dirty to her, give her things to visualize while I perform foreplay. It's an art to get them worked up and NEED to keep things going as they are. Doi…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/25 04:22 PM
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Many men date who they can rather than their ideal. The vast majority of men do not walk around with a list of traits that they screen for on women the same way women do for men. The reason why women can have these lists is because they have many many options. I can tell you as a man that I would much rather date the quiet and demure 5 out of 10 woman than the bad bitch hottie who is an 8 out of 10.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/25 11:00 AM
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I already know what the women are going to say. "It's so hard to find a good man who takes care of my needs most of you are terrible lovers". Of course never mind the fact that they fail to communicate their needs and require mind reading and many opportunities to practice. The variety of ways that I have encountered for women to be able to experience orgasm is mind-boggling. Some of them require nothing but clitoral stimulation some of them can only get it through vaginal penetration and then s…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/25 12:45 AM
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So men are milked of a huge chunk of their paycheck for child support and potentially alimony and then you belittle them for not finding the money to take the mom to court which also means they have to take time off of work. When that many obstacles are put up just because of a vindictive mother is it any Wonder why some men break and do one of two things. They give up fighting for the kid or they threaten and kill the mother who is the source of their issues.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/25 01:41 PM
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https://youtu.be/x3lypVnJ0HM?si=k1WHRNRe9l6zDUaQ
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/25 08:07 PM
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You're right. It's probably even more lopsided based on simulations I've seen.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/25 08:00 PM
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Guys are not upset that women are concerned for their safety. It's just suspicious that they use that excuse on dating apps and for some reason have all unanimously decided that it's the most handsome and wealthy 20% of men that definitely won't abuse or kill them.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/25 07:50 PM
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I'm strong and lead an active lifestyle due to lifting weights regularly for decades (I'm 51) though I'm not ripped. I have a successful well paid career (over $200k/yr). I own two homes and have a net worth of over a million dollars without counting the houses. Most people who know me claim I'm one of the smartest people they know. I'm a bit of a nerd (and probably a bit on the spectrum with ADHD though undiagnosed) and love learning and reading and know a lot of things about a wide array of to…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/25 11:55 PM
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Don't even begin with the "dating is dangerous for women so they have to be more selective". Women are not selecting for the least dangerous men. How can you even know if somebody is dangerous if you haven't even talked to them? How do you even know if that handsome man that you did choose isn't an abuser or serial killer? It's not hard to fake normalcy for a few conversations and a date before you decide to cut her up into little pieces.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/25 01:26 AM
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Damn patriarchy and men's privilege
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/25 12:37 PM
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Redpillers are sidelined. Why try to convince them of something that isn't true?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/25 02:31 AM
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This is probably why men experience a boost in money. Divorce tends to happen later in life. I'm willing to bet most divorces happen in the mid to late 30s which is when a man is approaching his peak earning potential having been working in his field for anywhere from 10 to 15 years. At this age a lot of men get leadership positions. Getting rid of a wife certainly helps your finances because women spend way more money than most men do as women enjoy shopping more than men. So he's not having to…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/25 04:36 PM
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I think I'm a pretty good judge as to whether a guy is ugly or not. Hell all you have to do is go over to one of the dating subreddits where people post profiles just to see the kind of guys that are having no luck. Plenty of women in the comments will even say that they seem like a great catch.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/25 12:53 AM
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Nope. There are plenty of normal dudes out there who are objectively not ugly and with no ick factors that are having problems finding a partner.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/25 12:46 AM
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Also any woman who is not currently partnered up with a guy is only good for her wet holes otherwise she would have a boyfriend or husband that is committed.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/25 11:10 PM
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I looked up the average price of a prostitute in Germany where prostitution is legal and they are a close cousin to us in terms of Western sensibilities and prices. It's about 350 bucks for an hour. The average hourly wage for a house cleaner can range anywhere from 15 to 25 bucks so let's just say it's 20 bucks. I hire a house cleaner once a week and pay her about $120 and she's here for about 5 hours on that day which is more than enough to do my weekly cleaning needs. If you assume a 1 hour s…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/25 01:33 AM
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There was one where she says that she and her girlfriend hype themselves up to get ready for the hot guys and then she admits they know they will ignore any guy showing interest in them. There was another where she says she will NEVER send a rose on Hinge to a guy because she doesn't want to boost his ego. Also it's creepy if a guy sends a rose to her.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/25 04:14 PM
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Go check out her other videos and you'll see why she's single.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/25 02:53 PM
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Stoicism is the way
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/25 12:58 AM
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No. Making a vow is not a holdover from puritanical times. Vows and promises will go on into the future. Obviously you can change your vows to be almost anything you want but if you're of the mind that you can and should leave just because you're getting bored in a relationship then I would suggest you remove the parts of the vow that pertain to till death do us part. I would also claim that if you are building into your relationship the expectation that it will end in a trivial fashion then it'…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/25 12:37 AM
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I agree that you can do it. However I think there is shame in it. Considering you took vows and now you are breaking them. Although it's no surprise because in my experience promises don't mean shit to anybody these days.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/25 11:08 PM
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The left wants infrastructure projects and support unions. We want to simplify healthcare and reduce it's costs via single payer. We want to raise the minimum wages and increase social safety nets. While none of these are solely in the domain of men, they do overwhelmingly benefit men. It just doesn't dog whistle in the same way as driving pickup trucks, shooting guns and owning liberal soyboys does.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/25 03:51 PM
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Leftist here. It's really disappointing to see so many men get caught in culture war BS. Their egos and sensitivity cause them to backlash and overreact by trying to show how hyper masculine they all are. Republicans are playing men like a fiddle with patriots and guns and scary trans sissy boys and soyboys. These men won't vote Democrat because they believe it makes them more feminine to do so even though leftists want to look out for everybody whereas Republicans want to look out for nobody.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/25 03:28 PM
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Please show me a society that existed for one generation.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/25 11:28 AM
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HVM generally are rule followers. They have a good education which you can't get without believing and following the education system. They also tend to conform to whatever the societal Norm is. The societal Norm is having children.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/25 02:36 AM
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Spoken from a place of privilege as a woman who can get laid whenever she pleases. It's not a waste of time to get together with someone who you enjoy their company or personality maybe watch a movie together have some drinks and fool around. There was no waste of time in any of it.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/25 11:21 PM
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Because she's an easy option for sex. Why don't women understand this? I've been pursued by women I considered less attractive than my level (5 or 6 in my estimate) I was always kind to them and would frequently get freaky sex from them but made it clear it would just be fuckbuddies. Invariably their feelings get hurt because I don't treat them like a girlfriend but instead a buddy to fuck.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/25 08:58 PM
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While I agree default joint custody is best, there are still obvious dirt bags that should NOT have custody. In my case, my ex wanted full custody and I had to fight to get joint. I'm upper middle class and she was a stay at home mom who felt that since I worked I shouldn't have my boys except on weekends. Of course what she really wanted was to move away with them and get maximum child support while shacking up with her new boyfriend. I NEVER would have dreamed of demanding full custody because…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/25 02:11 PM
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Many incels voted for Republicans in hopes to reign women back in via abortion rights and other things feminists hold dear. Get enough incels politically active and hating women and it will be your problem.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/25 02:25 AM
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I'm going to throw this random tidbit in. Go look up what trans men experience when they start boosting their testosterone via prescription. I've read a number of essays that claim it was unbelievable how horny it made them and opened their eyes to how men live with it. Men are predisposed to want sex and women more and women should be grateful for the suppression of it that MOST men are successful at doing.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/25 04:01 PM
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Best money I spend on myself is my house cleaner. I forego A LOT of luxuries that I can afford (I'm frugal), but a house cleaner is well worth it.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/25 05:22 PM
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This is not true. Sometimes they get very emotionally invested in the girl and it becomes painful. Especially if she uses him as a sounding board to gripe about her dating woes. Sometimes cutting off the friendship is best for his psychological and emotional well being.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/25 11:08 AM
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"Because you just don't understand the trouble of having so many people wanting you but just not the perfect guy who checks off all 40 of the boxes on my list. And then when I do find that perfect guy I find out he has a hundred other women who are interested in him and so I can't keep his interest."
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/25 11:12 PM
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Fair enough
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/25 03:34 AM
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So what you're telling me is that you are the kind of partner that shuts down communication about sexual desires. And you also wish to control a potential outlet that your partner would have for said sexual desires.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/25 03:31 AM
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Not necessarily. There's plenty of better stuff that I view that I don't plan on asking my partner to do. It's an outlet.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/25 03:27 AM
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I was married for 20 years to a woman who Loved men with six pack abs where you can see their hip flexors. I've never had six pack abs and I didn't feel insecure about it. We like what we like and we can't always have everything that we like. If somebody wants to leave you for six pack abs or a BBC then so be it. Your relationship wasn't worth having.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/25 03:03 AM
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Men desire variety because they can't have it. Regardless of what kind of woman you are men will inherently watch porn with women that are diametrically opposed to your specific physical appearance. Even if you're a 10 out of 10 in the looks department chances are your man will start looking up ugly chick porn. Remember Hugh Grant cheated on his wife the gorgeous Elizabeth Hurley with a hooker that was about a three out of 10. Why? Because she was different than what he was used to.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/25 01:37 AM
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What about Foot fetish stuff?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/25 01:34 AM
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I would love it. We could share an interest and enjoy porn together.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/25 01:36 AM
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Meh. I've had kidney stones. Talking to women who have experienced birth and kidney stones, everyone of them has said birth is less painful.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/25 07:50 PM
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In general men don't get offended when a woman is interested in him. They certainly don't get angry if they find out a woman is trying to get laid by him. These are almost solely in the domain of women's feelings.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/25 02:02 AM
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How disgusting that anyone, man or woman, would feel betrayed. Although let's be real, it is 100% women that feel betrayed about the scenario. Guys catch feelings a lot easier from a girl than vice versa. It's not like it was some sneaky underhanded way of subterfuge romance.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/25 11:48 PM
-1

You're right. It's always been that way, it's just right now the repercussions of being caught are so low that it's a non issue.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/25 02:58 PM
4

You can have divorce and cheating shame without forced marriage. Not all traditional and conservative ideas are bad. This coming from a lefty progressive.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/25 02:44 PM
7

Yes but only if divorce and cheating were shamed as it was back in the 50s. Currently serious relationships and marriage don't mean shit in today's society and they are no more stable than teen romance.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/25 01:49 PM
2

It's not like he does none of those things. It's just that it's going to take time before he trusts her enough to put that kind of money into. They can still do fun stuff but maybe just not to the level of his non serious relationships in the past until she has proven herself.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/25 01:40 PM
8

Here's the corollary if the genders were switched. Imagine a woman who enters a long-term relationship with a man finds out that all of his other previous relationships with women involved a lot of fun times out of clubs going on trips and him buying them things, but those relationships weren't serious and just for funsies. Now imagine he withholds a lot of that stuff until he figures out if you're long-term relationship material. Women are going to feel some kind of way about that. That's preci…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/25 12:40 PM
2

I've honestly never seen men claim women are not safe. Usually women are claiming an overwhelming feeling of danger while going on dates with strangers which is why they have to "be so careful about choosing".
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/25 10:54 AM
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You are arguing in bad faith. You can't turn around in any of these subreddits without banging into a comment about how women feel unsafe and are constantly protecting themselves against predatory men. They can't go anywhere or do anything without feeling unsafe and now you are claiming that women are perfectly safe. I tend to agree with you that they are but the vast majority of them apparently don't feel that way.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/25 01:17 AM
5

And I would claim some men are performing these roles. What percentage? I'm not sure. Probably about as many men are doing their gender roles as there are women performing theirs. Anecdotally when I was married I was the only one who worked and I earned a good living. My wife raised our children and cleaned day-to-day stuff. I also cleaned and I did most of the cooking. I also hired a house cleaner every couple weeks to come in and do the more deep cleaning of the bathrooms and the kitchen. I al…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/25 11:26 PM
7

Yes all women. In the same scope that you claim men are not performing these traditional gender roles.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/25 11:22 PM
22

Yet women want men who earn more which means they are looking for providers and they also want men that are taller and stronger and more masculine than them which means they want protectors. Women want men to perform traditional gender roles but are unwilling to perform their own traditional gender roles.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/25 11:16 PM
2

This is the root of misogyny. Women becoming more masculine and independent and less fearful of mouthing off to men has made them even more dismissive of the misery of men. What do you think happens when you ridicule and bully someone for their painful existence?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/24 11:36 AM
18

You know how women face problems that men will never understand due to biology? It's kind of like that.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/24 10:45 PM
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Going to start wearing pants that show off my cock and balls in the gym. Everybody just mind your own business about what I'm wearing.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/24 10:39 PM
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Yawn
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/24 09:04 PM
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Nope it's their choice. But don't be surprised when you find guys looking at your butthole when you're doing Romanian deadlifts.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/24 08:50 PM
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Lol no. Just amazed that some women don't wear panties under those leggings.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/24 06:25 PM
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I've literally seen vagina and butthole through some leggings.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/24 06:18 PM
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No one cares what you deem to be inappropriate time for our eyeballs to be pointed in your direction.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/24 01:36 PM
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I think men are a lot more realistic about the kinds of women that would express interest in them. Due to our constant status of being rejected by so many women very few men are easily fooled when a very attractive woman expresses interest and romance to us. In fact my alarm bells go off so quickly that I instantly assume that it's either about money or getting laughs at my expense. Meanwhile I don't think many women have as low of an opinion about their looks as men do and truly believe that th…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/24 02:46 PM
2

I have never heard of men being furious about a bald woman. However it is ingrained into society and expected for women to treat bald men with disdain as prospective partners.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/24 04:14 PM
0

I'm a leftist and generally do not like it. There is a caveat though. If a woman is sufficiently attractive and has the whole tattoo piercing thing going on, then it can add to her allure. However that really only works for women who are 8's and above. If a woman is overweight or not blessed with good facial genetics then it's really not going to help her.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/24 10:03 PM
4

It's obvious that all the dating belly aching is just the victim Olympics.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/24 07:36 PM
9

It's literally the difference between being a door to door salesman vs being a person who just answers the door to decide if they want to hear his spiel. Yes it may be annoying to have 3 salesmen knock on your door in a given day, but it's nothing compared to having to canvas a whole neighborhood and have hundreds of doors slammed in your face or unanswered.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/24 07:16 PM
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Because men are not allowed to be victims. Remember we rule the patriarchy that only oppresses women. Women and children get to have sympathy, never men.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/24 07:01 PM
1

20yrs divorced
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/24 02:29 AM
2

Here is where I see the problem with modern feminism. They have become like evangelical Christians. Most of the strides that feminism wanted to achieve on a legal basis have been done in our society. There is no systemic oppression of women from a legal or governmental perspective. Everything that is left involves policing the opinions and actions of individuals. Kind of like how Christians tell us how to behave and think. It fails miserably and so will feminism.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates12/12/24 04:23 PM
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And also has less testosterone
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/24 03:11 PM
2

51 with two teen boys divorced but with a partner.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/24 12:40 AM
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I'm red pill in many ways and I'm very much a leftist. Redpill means you are awakened to the true nature of women and act accordingly. It has nothing to do with bullying although there are indeed red pillers who are bullies. It also doesn't mean you hate women. It simply means that the stories men are fed throughout childhood about women being something more loving and pure and righteous have been exposed as complete and utter BS so act accordingly if you decide to get involved with them.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/24 02:12 PM
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Reddit is one giant left wing progressive space.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/24 01:52 PM
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Paintings of six pack abs
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/24 01:10 AM
2

You do understand that there's something called sexual dimorphism and gender roles? The things that make women wonderful are not necessarily the things that people would seek for the qualities of leadership.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/24 04:10 AM
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Because while many leftist and conservative men will eagerly trumpet just how wonderful women are, this does not extend to political leadership. There is still quite a thick glass ceiling for the presidency that is upheld by both men and women. I have talked to several women who don't believe the President should ever be female.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/24 03:54 AM
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The "women are wonderful" propaganda is not some extremist leftist thing only shouted by Blue hairs. It is the cultural norm.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/24 03:50 AM
6

The whole world is plagued by women are wonderful. Why can't we have a little corner for the men?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/24 03:34 AM
2

You seem to be conflating bad behavior with average looks and average or below average height or income. The vast majority of men who have bad luck with finding a partner fit into one of those slots. It has nothing to do with bad behavior. Unless you consider being too short or just not handsome enough or wealthy enough as bad behavior.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/24 04:03 PM
1

Well now you have even more single men voting as Trumptards.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/24 03:11 PM
1

Is this true?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/24 03:02 PM
2

Here is a much simpler truth. All of the single men that don't have a woman or children filling up their life, have extra time to listen to a stupid podcasts that tend to lean to the right. If women want men to stop listening to Joe Rogan and the assortment of other right wing nut jobs that lead men to vote for Trump then maybe women need to be a bit more relaxed in their so-called high standards for a partner that ticks all the boxes. You know what I would rather do than listen to Joe Rogan? I …
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/24 02:29 PM
2

Women are spoiled for choice today when it comes to suitors. And many of them certainly behave like they're spoiled.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/24 02:37 AM
3

Because of women's poor choices.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/24 01:57 AM
14

Red pill is nothing more than a backlash to the horrible treatment that men have dealt with when it comes to divorce and relationships and society's tendency to favor and defend women.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/24 03:46 PM
1

I earn over 200k and live in a city where that is a considerable amount of money because it's a low-cost area. I do not advertise my wealth and I drive a beater minivan. I can occasionally get a match or two every month but the conversations usually fizzle out. I don't want a woman who is attracted to my money. I do have my occupation listed so it wouldn't take much for them to look up my salary ranges, but it's not a well-known occupation.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/24 11:53 PM
1

Why should I if I have equal custody and she works a good job? You sound like a child. It's people like you that make men want to inflict harm via their vote. I'm a leftist but some of y'all are so fucking self-righteous and so detached from reality it's infuriating.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/24 04:43 PM
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I was married so no I was not thinking with my dick, we planned our children. And if you're going to talk about men shirking their responsibilities then child support and the court system is indeed part of that discussion.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/24 04:38 PM
1

The minute court ordered money is involved is when most of the shitty behavior begins. Men running away and women gaming the system or conning the men to maximize the payout. That's the part where an agreed upon mandated monthly child support should be decided upon. It should be based on how much it actually costs to have a child in a certain amount of time. This coming from a man who has been paying child support for 8 years despite having split custody.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/24 04:34 PM
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If it's such a huge scary imbalance then it sounds like women need to be MUCH more careful when and who they have sex with. I'm pro choice but it is impossible to make life perfectly safe and beautiful and balanced when it comes to pregnancy. As long as you have two individuals that are free to make whatever shitty choices they make you will never have a situation where both parties are completely happy with their rights and responsibilities.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/24 02:24 PM
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The fact of the matter is that there is plenty of imbalance in our country around the process of pregnancy and child birth between the genders. Plus there are plenty of shitty people making a difficult process even more difficult. Yes there are deadbeat dads but there are also lying cheating women carrying illegitimate children. There are also men screaming for the right to be in their children's life but are blocked by bitter mothers.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/24 01:47 PM
3

No they should not. Women have dick thrown in their lap all day everyday so their value is in their ability to say no to it. Men actually have to work to get the interest of women in order to bed them. The accountability is not equal because the effort each gender has to expend to get laid is not equal. Kind of the same reason when it's amazing that a woman attains a high level within her profession that is typically male-dominated. She deserves more accolades than a male that achieves the same …
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/24 03:20 PM
1

In the past it never much mattered to me. In the present I find Trump and his MAGA cult so detestable that I can't stand the thought of trusting my heart and mind to such low information detestable people.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/24 02:50 AM
3

Has any of that changed? And now women are doing it increasingly to rival the worst of men.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/24 01:27 AM
1

Tell us your historical ignorance without actually claiming you're ignorant of History.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/24 01:08 AM
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I'm a leftist and have been following the red pill for years and have not fallen down the rabbit hole. It has opened my eyes to quite a few things but I still believe women should be able to vote and work and not be abused. One thing to keep in mind though is that this stuff did not happen in a vacuum. It's backlash against the double standards and hypocrisy of modern day feminism and their never ending attacks on masculinity and male spaces.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/24 12:35 AM
2

Hot is overrated and plentiful and has an expiration date. Beautiful is timeless and rare. Hot is just someone you want to fuck. Beautiful exists along all decades of life and encompasses grace, poise, maturity and lived experience.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/24 07:00 PM
4

I'm 50 and quite successful. I don't need another man in the house. I'm fine with B as I want someone to bring a feminine domestic touch to my home.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/24 04:55 PM
1

I enjoyed it. I watched it with the ex-wife. Loved the sex scenes and found it funny and interesting enough. I watched every single episode back in the early 2000s.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/24 10:53 PM
1

I'm an average looking guy. I have an above average build because I lift weights religiously. I earn over $200,000 a year although I don't advertise it. I have literally no luck on the apps. I am perfectly content to date an average plain looking woman. They apparently are not content to date me because it's so hard to get attention from any women. I'm no incel as I've been married for 20 years and have slept with about 10 women. It is way harder to get a date these days than it ever used to be.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/24 10:12 PM
10

Women...not people. Women focus on the wedding, very rarely do the men.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/24 08:59 PM
2

I love providing and feeling needed and appreciated. My ex wife was far from ideal and not at all my dream girl. However I loved her and for a while she was appreciative. Feeling needed and providing for someone I believe drives men to greatness. It makes them go for that promotion or business idea. By ourselves with nobody to inspire us we are content to live far below our means and not give two shits about striving for greatness, certainly not to attract an unappreciative entitled modern woman…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/24 08:52 PM
1

I think it is a very common thing amongst Indian men to be hyper masculine. I live in the United States and have an Indian friend who I believe tries a bit too hard to show his masculinity. The way that he speaks and holds himself are among the ways that he does so. I've seen enough Indian movies to know that this is also how the men behave in their popular culture.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates26/10/24 07:56 PM
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This is an interesting take. The just world fallacy in the eyes of conservatives usually involves God or Jesus rewarding you for a good life and being a good person. If you're down on your luck then you have become disfavored in the eyes of Jesus. With progressives you can basically swap God and Jesus for women for their just world version. Kind of makes you think doesn't it?
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates03/09/24 01:48 AM
6

All it takes is a Blue pilled average man. Plenty of them around.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen28/06/24 06:19 PM
13

She's cute enough that she will have men lined up around the block.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen28/06/24 02:35 PM
57

Conservative country girl who is a tattoo covered single independent mom.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen23/06/24 11:01 PM
7

Women are disgusted that ugly people exist and DARE to approach them. Yet somehow it is mens fault that women are held to unrealistic beauty standards 🤣
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/24 12:55 AM
9

I disagree. A change in attitude at a societal level is needed.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates23/04/24 09:24 PM
10

I foresee a backlash effect against feminism. Women may find themselves thrown back into the equivalent of the 1950s if they aren't careful about how they proceed and continuously trample over the needs and concerns of men. They would not have equal rights if it weren't for men and thus those rights can be taken away by men.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates23/04/24 09:12 PM
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Out of the way boys I'm going in.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen10/03/24 12:45 AM
33

Let's also not forget that once they transition they get to tap into the patriarchy with all of its benefits and secret powers /s
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates04/03/24 12:41 AM
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My first gut reaction to this is that trans men have no shared experience with cis men. Being raised from boys to men in today's culture is sooooo different than transitioning to a man post adolescence and then dealing with the realities of trying to date women.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates03/03/24 11:58 PM
7

That study indeed shows no gender differences but it doesn't seem to control for which gender initiates divorce. Women initiate divorce more often. It is also much easier for women to find a partner which I believe makes them a much higher flight risk, particularly if they had a multitude of partners previously.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates11/02/24 01:08 AM
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I don't think pair bonding is as important for men as it is for women when it comes to having meaningless sex. Men are able to pair bond and have meaningful relationships much more easily despite having a number of random sexual encounters in the past.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates10/02/24 11:52 PM
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I agree with what you are saying. I have often wondered though if sometimes hyper awareness of a danger only makes the paranoia worse and has a negative impact on what the left is trying to achieve. I agree that the left would like for women to live in a safer world where abuse by men is a distant memory and they no longer need to fear it. However sometimes I think that the hypervigilance and always looking out for possible red flags for abuse and focusing on statistics makes women look for it i…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates08/02/24 01:10 AM
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This. They will claim that those unfair practices to men are just part of the patriarchy and infantalizing of women so we should support them. Of course you will NEVER see them address these issues directly.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates07/02/24 01:42 PM
3

Anybody who doesn't see the difference between these two things is being purposefully ignorant.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates30/01/24 03:36 AM
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Of course not. Men can't be exploited in a patriarchy. Women are always the victim.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates16/01/24 09:39 PM
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Admittedly some would. I don't believe for a moment though that the relevant organizations that champion feminist causes would support it.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/24 11:58 PM
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No way. It's an untouchable subject. Feminists would never allow it. Men would be too ashamed to support it. Politicians wouldn't touch it with a 10-ft pole. The women who do want to legalize their prostitution wouldn't be taken seriously because they're just whores. I just don't ever see it happening in this country.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/24 09:57 PM
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I agree. It has always bothered me too. Women use it because it's an unquantifiable thing that they can hold over men.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates05/01/24 02:43 AM
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So a woman can be excited about their relationship with you and be genuinely enthusiastic to meet a very important part of a man's life, but a man is not allowed the same emotions or grace?
/r/RedPillWomen14/12/23 01:46 PM
1

Is this true if a woman wants to meet my kids quickly? I'm a man.
/r/RedPillWomen14/12/23 01:43 PM
6

I do want to put a little bit of a damper on your achievement of getting an internship. You are both very young and it's impossible to tell really what your life is going to turn out to be like at such an early stage. If you're both in sales however I can tell you that you have the edge because you're a young assumedly attractive woman. Having worked in sales myself I know that the hiring process tends to preferentially go after attractive women because it garners more interest in the product if…
/r/RedPillWomen14/12/23 01:07 PM
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I'm sure she's swiping left on hundreds of guys who would be perfectly adequate for her but don't meet her criteria.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen10/12/23 11:53 PM
7

Is she a leftist? I've only heard her speak on men's issues but not politics
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates27/11/23 09:31 PM
3

Beau of the fifth column I would strongly recommend as he is not your typical leftist. I also like Kyle Kulinski and the majority report with Sam Seder. Sam Seder can sometimes be annoyingly pro woman if you ever hear him debate with an incel or a red pilled guy but his takes on other topics are based. I'm progressive and I also find many of the far left insufferable and I despise the constant blaming of men. I can't tell you how many times I get into arguments with people who just blindly accep…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates27/11/23 01:10 AM
5

The general populace doesn't have the stomach to witness homeless mothers with children out in the elements. It may be a leftist policy but the alternative would most likely be worse. Kind of like how conservatives hate abortion but if abortion were gotten rid of then you start seeing horrible situations like kids getting raped and being forced to carry the rapist child.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen24/11/23 11:38 PM
1

I'm sure he would still be on the hook for child support though right?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/23 03:42 AM
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Talk about your straw man arguments. Browser history is nowhere near the same magnitude as being responsible for a child. I've already had two children with my now EX and at the time she had complete access to my browser history and my phone.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/23 02:51 AM
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Nothing like making the man the bad guy for wanting verification. What does it matter when he asks for it? The only people who would have a problem with it are the people who are the least trustworthy. Why isn't the woman the problem for taking issue with it?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/23 02:30 AM
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I'm sure if the normal women would take better pictures they would get more attention
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/23 01:37 AM
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The main practical reason is that the states do not want to pay for the financial burden of a child and would rather hook that onto a man. Our country doesn't even have nationalized healthcare. So there is no way that they would want to create Social services solely responsible for raising a kid to the age of 18 when they can force a man to do it instead.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates12/11/23 11:11 PM
9

Yes but 30 more pounds with a twist
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen01/11/23 11:50 PM
9

I wonder why she can't find a man to snuggle her covered in bruises, slap marks, semen and spit of another man? So unfair!
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen28/10/23 02:19 AM
22

I've been red pilled for a very long time. I'm approaching 50 and I first started noticing the preferential treatment girls got way back in grade school. It never sat well with me.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates25/10/23 01:31 AM
14

In older movies (80s and earlier). Leading men and heroes were portrayed as stoic serious loners. That's not so true anymore.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates24/09/23 12:30 AM
12

Plus she smokes often just to add the Cherry to the Sundae
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen12/09/23 12:29 AM
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