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flimbo2019/r/Divorce_Men14/09/23 08:06 PM
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Hey, man. Sorry you're going through this. I can see how frustrating and overwhelming everything has been, and it's par for the course for any relationship going through a rough patch. It's difficult to give more nuanced responses here, so I'll keep it brief. You're right that the relationship cannot be sustained with the paths you and your partner are clearly going on separately. I would personally suggest avoiding making any rash decisions that could hinder your recovery later— huge life decis…
/r/Divorce_Men15/01/25 07:26 AM
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https://chat.whatsapp.com/EzvkrF1pqejLbsQ9YEA7dv
/r/Divorce_Men26/04/24 01:28 PM
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Hey, brother. Sorry you've had to seek out divorce support, but glad you've reached out. The societal stigmas surrounding divorce and how men should behave while going through it needs to be discarded. It's dismissive of our struggles, it minimizes the challenges we're constantly faced with, and invalidates our authentic emotions (we're human). It'll take some time, but I know you'll make it on the other side. Whatever happened, happened. How will you personally respond to this challenging time,…
/r/Divorce_Men18/04/24 06:03 AM
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I appreciate you! 🙏 I wish I had some sort of a separation/divorce dictionary when I went through my divorce years ago. I'm meeting a lot of newcomers to the club who continually tell similar stories, but without the appropriate vocab to reference.
/r/Divorce_Men14/09/23 08:15 PM
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I'll sub. Good work, man 💪 Edit: i just realized you share the same podcast name as a ton of other people. Your podcast may be drowning in the sea. Consider changing the title 🤷🏻‍♂️
/r/Divorce_Men24/01/21 08:34 AM
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Hey man, sorry you had to go through this alone. I had to, too. Also, there's already a huge discord (and WhatsApp) group for this. Join us if you'd like. https://discord.gg/8BBau4JSPr
/r/Divorce_Men19/01/21 04:43 AM
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Hey, Brother. I'm sorry you're having to deal with this on your own. Reach out to me anytime. Changing of the surnames shouldn't be as big of a deal as you're making it out to be. It's just the name, not the person. I understand the value it has to you, but you're fighting the wrong fight. Everything is temporary... even the surname they're planning to change into. The choice is really up to them. Let go of the trivial matters and focus on what's more important: the relationship you still have w…
/r/Divorce_Men18/01/21 09:23 AM
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Cheers, mate! 🥃 My divorce was finalized 30 December 2019. It's been the best year I've had in a long time, despite Covid. Keep pushing and stay strong, brother.
/r/Divorce_Men11/01/21 06:54 PM
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Ah, a secret recruiter
/r/Divorce_Men16/11/20 08:00 PM
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Best to you, brother!
/r/Divorce_Men09/11/20 06:01 PM
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Nope.
/r/Divorce_Men08/11/20 06:55 AM
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💯 good sir.
/r/Divorce_Men06/11/20 06:22 AM
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Funny how you call me out for bashing your post and not being open minded. 😂 Judgmental much? I didn't call you out for what others perceived, but your post strongly points to women having hypergamy, which ones both ways. So much for open-mindedness when you feel that my post is attacking your space 🤣
/r/Divorce_Men06/11/20 06:14 AM
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I hear where you're coming from, but if you're gonna redpill, you've already limited your "free thinking" (as you've responded to some folks here). I won't bash you, but would ask that you avoid taking a hardline stance on these kinds of issues. People are varied with many different histories, cultures, experiences, and environments. I honestly feel conflicted with your post because it reminds me of the current American political climate. There doesn't seem to be a cushion for tolerance-- just n…
/r/Divorce_Men06/11/20 04:29 AM
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Also, don't waste time and energy trying to figure her out. You don't need that sort of added anxiety. Focus on your agendas and goals. Figure out what YOU want and bring them up during mediation.
/r/Divorce_Men01/10/20 05:55 AM
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Brother, at this point, look out for yourself and children. Protect yourself. Women on the verge of a split are fully capable of anything and everything. Emotions will drive them to all spectrums of good and bad. Grey rock and doing research for your imminent (and future) well being is priority. Good luck.
/r/Divorce_Men01/10/20 05:51 AM
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You adopt the IDGAF mentality and keep pushing with your own life pursuits. Taking any action would only make the situation worse. If the neighbors want to believe your stbx, that's on them. If they're decent people, they'll know they're missing your side of the story. And if they're great neighbors, they wouldn't care to take sides or butt in. Don't react to your stbx's bullfuckery-- she feeds on your despair. It makes her feel more powerful and in control of your emotions. Don't give her that …
/r/Divorce_Men06/08/20 09:03 AM
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Brother, this is exactly what happened with my previous marriage. Rather than confronting the issues at hand, living in willful ignorance was my X's choice. The problems continued to compound and she continued to find distractions to avoid having any real conversation. None of this is on you. If you don't think she's willing to put the work in, start planning for an emergency escape route. Be prepared for an eventual fallout. If things work out, then no big deal. But if things continue to falter…
/r/Divorce_Men26/06/20 07:57 AM
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Nice! I just joined the link.
/r/Divorce_Men02/05/20 04:14 PM
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I'm coming up on 1 year after DDay, and 4 months post divorce. Whatever you're feeling, know that we all feel similar pains, but individually, we all suffer differently. With that in mind, everyone's result will vary, so for those who are still suffering, don't feel worse just because you're taking a little longer to come out of the abyss. That's one mistake we all go through and should work on bettering. We tend to think about others and how they came out rather than focusing on ourselves and o…
/r/Divorce_Men30/04/20 04:06 AM
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You're too inside your own head. It's not a big deal. You only feel that way because you're busy wondering what others will say or think about you. That's unnecessary anxiety. Reflect (not dwell) on the past, prepare (not ruminate) for the future, and live in the present. Be humble and accept your current obstacles as life-challenges to overcome. Don't let pride and insecurities run you. Of course, you have to put in the effort and not become complacent once you're living under someone else's ro…
/r/Divorce_Men07/03/20 06:17 AM
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Hey, man, try not to dwell on it for too long. I know the situation sucks bad, but it could have been worse. My ex-wife cheated on me, and continued to do so even when I stupidly tried to reconcile with her. I filed for divorce, and while I was searching for a new dwelling, she had already introduced my daughter to her AP, even having my daughter spend nights with her at the guy's place when I was out of town. When I finally moved out, she moved her AP in immediately. Two months later, our cooli…
/r/Divorce_Men06/03/20 06:33 PM
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I wish it were that easy for my case. My ex-wife could care less about our daughter or her first son, yet at the same time, not willing to give me full custody. It's about getting government support at this point.
/r/Divorce_Men21/02/20 08:54 AM
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Everything is difficult in the beginning. Practice won't make things perfect, but it'll definitely make things more manageable. Having cheerleaders on the sideline help a lot, and fortunately for you, there are a ton of us pitching our support in your favor. You got this, brother. If you ever need a boost or someone to vent to, dm me. We're all part of this fraternity.
/r/Divorce_Men16/02/20 07:20 AM
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Not much you can do. I have an almost 12yo daughter, and my ex moved her boyfriend into our old home as soon as I left. Even more... he was the guy she cheated on me with. I only had words for my ex regarding my daughter's safety... which is the more important thing. Just a heads up... your kid (s) may develop attachments to the new person. Don't blame your kids or feel less of a father because of it. Ego can be a devastating thing to handle. Accept that more people can love and support your kid…
/r/Divorce_Men16/02/20 05:35 AM
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Add me to this list. Nearly 12 years married (wife was unfaithful, plus two kids in the family) and divorce will be finalized next month. Oth, I am seeing someone. I think a huge part of how our relationship has been working is constant communication, and the fact that we agree (she just got out of a relationship, too) that our relationship could very well be a matter of us both being in rebound mode. No expectations. It also helps that she was my best friend. It's tough goings a lot of days, bu…
/r/Divorce_Men07/11/19 03:54 PM
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