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He went through my dms, but i didnt feel like i was doing something wrong, a blind spot of mine, so when he confronted me about it i was surprised, and i didnt feel at the time like i had anything to confess, i have suggested to give him my login details afterwards and have been much more mindful about chatting since
/r/RedPillWomen11/09/24 04:25 PM
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Thanks for the clarification
/r/RedPillWomen11/09/24 04:22 PM
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I guess you're right, i still have some blind spots, and i live in a very blue society, and in day-to-day interactions, i sometimes forget to hold myself accountable. Well, im not perfect but luckily we have this wonderful forum to hold each other accountable
/r/RedPillWomen11/09/24 04:21 PM
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No ! I am faithful to him and would never cheat. I was reluctant to talk about the trust issues because 1.) the texts were at most playful but there was nothing inappropriate about them, he got mad because it was this particular person and 2.) i cheated in a previous relationship and its hard because it affects my credibility but i cannot change the past and i dont think it should define how trustworthy i am today years later..
/r/RedPillWomen10/09/24 06:52 PM
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I am scared ro give him space because in the past he has turned that against me and said that i was running away from the problems and should have insisted, i went there today to listen to him and his concerns and to express my side of the story and he just said he didnt feel like discussing it. When i apologized by text because i thought to give him time to calm down, he ended up saying that its a 'cheap next day apology', he disengages and stonewalls, and doesnt clearly ask for space, but then…
/r/RedPillWomen10/09/24 06:47 PM
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The irigin of the trust issues is that last year i was texting with someone from my past. I cheated on my last partner and he knows that. I think he struggles to believe that i've changed. But for me, this night out was unrelated to those things. He seems more insecure lately, the other day he got mad cause i wasnt 'talking to him' at a dinner party bec i started djing for 20 min.. it was also his friends there and i was really confused about it (this was the night before) i always end up doing …
/r/RedPillWomen10/09/24 05:34 PM
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I was texting over instagram with a guy i was once involved with last year, we had a huge fight about it, and i took a break from instagram for half a year. Since doing another account i've been really conscious about it and i dont let that happen again, i just engage with friends or ppl asking me for gigs
/r/RedPillWomen10/09/24 05:28 PM
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Yes you're right, i should have told him my plans in advance, and i apologized for it.. he didnt come to my gigs plenty of times and i didnt think it was a big deal, but do you think i deserve four days of silent treatment? Hes being really mean and at least he could acknowledge my apology..
/r/RedPillWomen10/09/24 04:00 PM
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I think he is also hurt because i know deep down i wanted to go to the other party because it is cooler and all the cool people were there, the A party where he was playing was shitty to me and full of tech-house machos, while party B was just with lots of cool people and just basically much more fun. I think he feels also degraded because of this, that I chose selfishly and with not so nice principles, out of fomo maybe. I dont know if its so much about trusting me in interactions or attention …
/r/RedPillWomen10/09/24 01:27 PM
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Also what is sauce for the goose and rethinking the relationship? Not familiar with these terms..
/r/RedPillWomen10/09/24 01:15 PM
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But we are both djs and he does exactly the same thing sometimes hangs at afterhours until midday with girls and its hard but i just have to trust that even when attention is offered, he does not consume it, as I try to do. When i feel someone lusting at me, internally I do not consume that satisfaction. I turn my attention away, and it is important for us to take part in parties in order to stay on the radar and strengthen our network, besides just enjoying the music and the serting, being in t…
/r/RedPillWomen10/09/24 01:12 PM
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No it wasnt a clear boundary, he said himself that he doesnt want to be controlling, and being able to go out with my friend is something i want to be able to do and he knows that. My point is that I prioritized my well being and I needed to have fun after all the family drama and he doesnt see that
/r/RedPillWomen10/09/24 12:26 PM
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Yes, no doubt. Better you lost him now than he play you for years! Focus on yourself and all will be well <3 breakups suck and you re not alone!!
/r/RedPillWomen05/09/24 09:47 AM
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Honestly, hes comfortable and you're not, so i would just focus on yourself for a while and make yourself happy. Do lots of self care and stuff that makes you happy, do things just for you and wait. When he comes around because the routine (conveniente for HIM) you openly and relaxedly (because you'll be happy and not thinking about him all the time) tell him what you want and need, give or take. Then see if he measures up. If he chickens out, bye! You'll be in a better place to take it from any…
/r/RedPillWomen24/06/24 03:53 PM
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He doesnt like the whole concept of instagram, he sees all selfish and detrimental behaviours in it, not just dm sliding and flirting, but overall making people too dependent on other peoples opinion, comparing, etc
/r/RedPillWomen28/03/23 04:52 PM
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He has always expressed his wish fore to leave the platform.. But has never made demands bec he knows i need it for work.. Nowadays all creatives heavily rely on insta for networking, especially post covid, but lately its been different
/r/RedPillWomen28/03/23 04:51 PM
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Its true, my biggest wish is to get the perks business side of insta without the bad parts, the gossiping, minding other peoples business, comparison.. Etc etc! Also the fake community feeling it gives off.. I actually do dislike it, but when i am less present on it, i notice. I get half the bookings. Its sad in a way
/r/RedPillWomen28/03/23 04:48 PM
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Yes i would! I already cut back instagram very much.. I check it only 2 a day i no longer hang there scrolling.. But for him its not enough he worries about orbiters and guys writing.. Its not about the content i share, hes more bothered at the fact that they have 'access' to me directly, kind of casually, i understand but.. Im super loyal and its frustrating, he once told me that he believes, that if i was in a bad place and someone would make a move, id give in. That just about killed me.. But…
/r/RedPillWomen28/03/23 04:45 PM
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Why would you have dumped me??
/r/RedPillWomen28/03/23 04:37 PM
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I dont know but here in europe its totally normalized, everybody watches like everybody has instagram.. But if i break it down i think its cheating for me as well tbh
/r/RedPillWomen28/03/23 04:36 PM
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Well... I am not immune to the dopamine hits instagram gives me, and i can see that it has detrimental effects if one gets soaked into it.. But i dont spend much time on it as ive seen people constantly checking.. He gets mad even if he sees me on it once a day, while i dont post stories nor write with anyone, i mostly use it to post my gigs repost stories, answer to texts and check out whats going on in the nightlife, but i can sense the reactions and likes and all arent doing me any good, as t…
/r/RedPillWomen28/03/23 03:55 PM
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He means validation seeking, the superficiality of it all, promoting selfishness, dm sliders, the addiction to validation i guess i struggle with it myself.. Well with porn to me its also extrrnal sexually
/r/RedPillWomen27/03/23 04:03 AM
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No almost no pictures of me
/r/RedPillWomen26/03/23 09:59 PM
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Mmh i did extensive research on the subject and there just aren't any studies on copper toxicity from iuds nor on correlations with mental health.. Sadly not proven still means non-existent.. I think our female bodies are stressed out by their sensing a foreign object plus the physical impossibility of conceiving, which is obv a top priority of existence.. which makes us depressed on a deep level.. I def felt so much less bitter and anxious!
/r/RedPillWomen04/02/23 05:24 PM
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Anxiety and panic attack basically disappeared overnight, i felt a lot fitter and lost lots of water, emotionally much more stable, less mind fog and random paranoia.. I was 8 years on copper spiral, and developed all symptoms from the pill.. Girls if you have a copper coil and mental health issues, definitely do look into it, it is said not to have adverse effects which simply isnt true... Ah poor women are we!
/r/RedPillWomen02/02/23 06:10 PM
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Eww toxic
/r/RedPillWomen02/02/23 08:25 AM
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Actually I think he likes it very much xD he loves that I take care of him, but I get a little stressed out because I have plenty of things to do and when I'm late with my own things I get resentful on the inside and don't find so much pleasure in doing things for him as I did before... I always help him with everything and it's not very reciprocated, I even feel I'm 'spoiling' him and if he needs something and I'm not jumping he gets upset
/r/RedPillWomen25/01/23 09:56 PM
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This feels exactly like what I'm experiencing with him... I did some things for him because I genuinely wanted to do them for him and help him, he is very bad with paperwork and won't open his letters, so I opened them and sorted them and helped him with it, yesterday I came to his place and he had placed a pile of letters on the table and asked me to sort them xD I was a little taken aback... I guess I like to do it but if I feel expected to do it I feel unappreciated, especially because it's n…
/r/RedPillWomen25/01/23 09:54 PM
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In the beginning I was doing a lot more like cooking and fetching things, tidying up etc., we don't live together but we're always either at my place or at his, and I really enjoyed doing these things... But as time went by I noticed that he even started asking me to do those things or expected me to do them, but not really doing an effort himself... I notice myself on the inside going like ''well I won't do those things anymore'' and I don't like it... Yes I feel it is reciprocated in some thin…
/r/RedPillWomen25/01/23 09:51 PM
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Yes you re right.. I did manage to open up and communicate which i find hard to do at times especially when i have neg feelings that i dont want to spill onto him bec im afraid to scare him off.. But i doubt he would be happy with me asking this on a blog asges very private xd
/r/RedPillWomen09/01/23 05:34 PM
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Thank u for the answer, yes definitely i have been questioning my motives a bit, as in do i want to go out to seek validation? But i dont think so, he doesnt have much need for a social life like i do, i like being among people and banter around dance chat etc. I talked w him yesterday and he said he cant control when he aint in the mood for going out.. However he said he doesnt have many needs, mostly making music and seeing me, i just have more needs i guess
/r/RedPillWomen09/01/23 05:32 PM
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