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| 4 | Why do you have to know how read and act on a girl's interest? | Fundamentals | focus_flow69 | /r/seduction | 25/07/22 05:24 PM |
| 2 | Any experienced ppl now in a successful LTR care to shaer some insights they've learned over the years from both knowing game and being in a relationship? | Advanced (Certain Basic Skills Required!) | focus_flow69 | /r/seduction | 24/06/22 08:01 PM |
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| 2 | Should you Keep it Real as a Loser?You should keep it real with yourself first and focus on fixing your life first instead of worrying about girls and how they will perceive you. They will perceive you exactly as you perceive yourself. So until you put in some work, be real with yourself and start seeing yourself in a better perspective, I'd suggest you stop worrying about girls. I understand you want companionship and love, but the more you chase and focus on external things to yourself, the further it becomes out of grasp. Focu… | /r/seduction | 23/02/26 06:16 AM |
| 3 | Gym Girls are weird?Next time you see her just say hi, what's up how you doing? Ask her what she's working out today etc, joke around, flirt a bit but be non chalant. Tell her to have a good work out and say you're around if anyone needs a spot. Then do your workout. Continue mini interactions or body language flirting when you are close to each other working out. Eye contact, head nod, smile, sly smirk etc. Then reapproach at some point and ask for number to see if she's interested in hanging outside of the gym. I… | /r/seduction | 14/01/26 01:51 AM |
| 15 | Is it weird to hook up with your ex?Everyone tries to convince themselves fucking their ex is ok and makes up any excuse under the sun to rationalize it. The mental gymantistics required is a tell in of of itself. Do whatever you want obviously, but as long as you cling into things from your past, you prevent space from moving on to new things in life. In my experience, I did the same as you, justifying it as just sex and needing to get my rocks off. All it did was keep me neither here nor there, until something blew up where I ma… | /r/seduction | 23/12/25 03:14 PM |
| 1 | lost on why I can’t pull girls – need some perspectiveStop over thinking. Learn how to escalate verbally and physically, and then practice it. Get rejected, try again, repeat, and trial and error and eventually you will become more bold and confident. You aren't getting results doing what you are currently doing, so that means you need to change. Playing things safe and living the comfortable life gets you certain results. Some people are ok with those results, some are not. Sounds like you are not, so figure out what you need to change or do diffe… | /r/seduction | 29/11/25 06:31 AM |
| 2 | How to stop paying for women, without losing conversion?Is a greedy jew how you want the nbe remembered as a person? Seducing woman is more than just getting the girl. It's about living your best life, being a high quality person and attracting other high quality people. | /r/seduction | 19/12/24 03:00 PM |
| 4 | How to stop paying for women, without losing conversion?Lol bro good luck with this mentality attracting women. There is no such thing as pure 50/50 in a relationship, someone is always going to be providing more than the other. The role of a provider extends beyond just money as well. It may change and vary over time in a relationships, but you'll be disappointed if you expect strict adherence to 50/50. Have you ever had a friend buy you lunch? You met up for lunch and when it came to the bill, they just took care of it without asking and just said … | /r/seduction | 19/12/24 05:13 AM |
| 1 | How can you test a girl to see if she would let you get laid/ become fwb?Flirt, escalate with physical touch and be ok with rejection. Same advice as any other girl. Everything else is over thinking. If you aren't willing to do that, more walls of text online aren't gonna help ya | /r/seduction | 29/11/24 12:59 PM |
| 4 | I fucked one up pretty badly. Age shit test?Isn't that what you like about me? With shit eating smirk | /r/seduction | 25/11/24 06:51 AM |
| 2 | How to give her the best sex of her life?Yes it works. | /r/seduction | 05/11/24 02:15 AM |
| 1 | Is it normal, like part of the process, to be continually rejected?Life is continuous rejection celebrated by the wins in between. | /r/seduction | 04/11/24 08:53 PM |
| 31 | Is it normal, like part of the process, to be continually rejected?Failure and rejection is a part of life. The sooner you accept this this better you can grow as a person. | /r/seduction | 03/11/24 03:21 AM |
| 6 | Your fear of woman is not real, this is whyI read one of your posts and while I think people should appreciate your willingness to help, I think your advice is quite biased to your own anecdotal experiences and preferences that are through the lens of a woman perspective. You certainly don't speak for all women, but the problem with inexperienced men is they already perceive the world in black and white absolutes, so it can be harmful for them. | /r/seduction | 28/09/24 07:03 PM |
| 5 | What do you say when a woman asks for clarification about what you'll do in your room?Oh I just need to lay down for a second , I just had a long exciting date with a hot girl, I gotta recharge ya know. said with a shit eating grin and coated in sarcasm. 😏 Basically you can say anything as long as you follow the second part in how you say it. | /r/seduction | 24/09/24 03:28 AM |
| 8 | I learned that movie is perfect for escalating sexual. Don’t sleep on music too.If you are curious, the way you worded your post makes you sound young, timid and inexperienced. Not a knock, just sharing my observations. | /r/seduction | 21/09/24 06:13 PM |
| 1 | Fragrances / Colognes, do they make a difference?It makes a difference if you are acting in a way that's congruent with someone who knows they smell good and takes care of themselves. | /r/seduction | 09/09/24 01:46 PM |
| 1 | How likely is it to go from Dating to Relationship?Getting into a relationship isn't something that happens by chance, it's not like roll you a dice enough times and you'll hit. You have to make the decision to pursue it and she has to accept. It's as simple as that. Of course you have full control over that decision and your ability to influence her to accept. A lot of it stems from your perspective on dating, about women, where you are in life and what you/they are looking for. | /r/seduction | 09/08/24 07:37 PM |
| 0 | How likely is it to go from Dating to Relationship?Stop looking at this with numbers and trying to calculate a % and run metrics. It's all subjective and the answer is it depends. Yes, it's a numbers game in the sense that the more girls you approach and talk to, the more chances you get towards a successful relationship, but focussing on the specific numbers themselves is pointless. | /r/seduction | 09/08/24 05:59 PM |
| 1 | We talk about how to seduce a girl, but how about keeping her interested in the long run?You gotta keep doing just enough of the old stuff that worked but also mix it up with enough new stuff to keep the spark and passion going. Especially in the bedroom. As soon as the sex dwindles and you just accept it, your relationship begins to decline. A lot of people think it's natural for relationships to plateau and flatten out as you get used to each other, but that's only because they let it happen. It's a self fulfilling prophecy. People become complacent and lazy. | /r/seduction | 07/08/24 07:20 AM |
| 2 | At this point in my life, I think that most of this things are completely useless or just not effective at all unless she's into you.It's a poor mentality to have because it gives all the power to women. That's not to say it's entirely true or entirely false - it depends. Your efforts are best spent thinking about yourself rather than about others. Some people will like you and some people will not like you. Accept this fact and move on. | /r/seduction | 31/07/24 04:53 PM |
| 3 | Going "too far" sexually on first datesThink of escalation as a rollercoaster ride. It goes up and down until the climax or best part of the ride, typically the craziest where you go upside down or go really fast. You want this peak of feelings and emotions to be synced up to sex on the date. This makes it feel natural and women love feeling like things are happening spontaneously and in the moment. You don't want this peak to be the makeout because then it's over and you got no where else to go. It feels like sex should happen, the … | /r/seduction | 30/07/24 03:03 AM |
| 13 | I failed a shit test and I'm worried it's a wrap...Trying way too hard. Your follow up action is to replay the conversation, pick up where it left off and have a 2nd go at it? All you'd be doing is reminding her how turned off she felt in that moment and that it was indeed a major L because it bothered you enough to circle back and try again. Relax, have fun, keep flirting with her. After work ends, get her contact and invite her out to drinks. Stop trying to ask her out under work circumstances. | /r/seduction | 05/07/24 08:33 PM |
| 1 | is it better to be honest you only want sex or lie that you want romanceThe most common way to start a relationship is by testing the waters out over a period of time. This is how relationships develop organically. You go on a date, kiss, hook up and have fun. Repeat over period of time. You realize you like them more than you initially thought and so do they. Something long term can begin. On the flip side, you can also realize you actually dislike them more than you originally thought or she's only tolerable at best, but you have good sex. You continue for the sex… | /r/seduction | 05/07/24 04:37 PM |
| 1 | Not everyone can be a “high value” or top 10%. As more men improve competition does as wellWanting to be something and actually being it are different. Many guys want to be better but never take enough action consistently to be better. Like I said, the bar to be average is lower than you think and your perception has been warped by social media. You continue to make false assumptions about women and what they are "impressed" by. | /r/seduction | 20/06/24 03:15 PM |
| 1 | How to respond to low effort/boring/vague messages?Call out the elephant in the room Textings boring. Let's meet up x date and y time for ____. I'm sure we'll be more exciting in person 😉 | /r/seduction | 18/06/24 09:46 AM |
| 2 | Not everyone can be a “high value” or top 10%. As more men improve competition does as wellNobody should strive to be average. This is a loser's mentality. Yet, look around you, average men and women are everywhere. Why? Because average is a low bar, so it's easy. Many people say they want to improve, hustle, grind and be a high valued man. How many actually put in the work and take action to become better? Few do, because well, it's work and it's hard, so not starting, half assing it or giving up is what most do. You get one life. Don't aim to be the average version of yourself. Aim … | /r/seduction | 16/06/24 01:09 PM |
| 3 | Attractive older girl is coming over to hangout for the first time, I don’t know her at all (tinder) how do I relax both her and myself and have a good timeYou relax by planning the basics so you are confident you are well prepared to lead the interactions. The basics being, Clean your place Shower, make sure you smell good, wear something you feel confident in etc. Have a general plan for activities you can pivot from and to. Cooking, music, dancing, showing photos from travels, games, ice cream/bar etc near by. I avoid movies because you shift the focus from each other to the screen, but for some it's code to make out. If you are vibing on one ac… | /r/seduction | 09/06/24 12:59 PM |
| 20 | Woman I had ONS with - hot and cold behaviour (NSFW)She literally told you what gives bro. Stop being needy and insecure. Just live your life and continue to talk to her like a normal person without being so demanding of attention when you literally just met. Yes you had a nice night hooking up, so what? It's cool to be excited but ya gotta keep composure. Dont let the lay change what made her attracted to you in the first place. This is classic behavior that drive women away from when after they sleep with them. You just got out of a LTR, so it'… | /r/seduction | 04/05/24 10:20 PM |
| 2 | Turned down for sex after making out, salvageable or move on?If you knew each other and actually had a connection on the dates, she might actually see you beyond a hook up. Women have this dumb logic where they segregate guys with long term relationship potential and guys that they just hook up with. They make the guys who have potential wait for sex while they bang the other dudes on the pretense that it's just harmless casual sex because they know they won't date them. Whereas with dudes they like, they make up all these dumb rules and hoops they have t… | /r/seduction | 18/04/24 06:55 PM |
| 1 | First Cold Approach LayWanting to talk to strangers and socialize is not weird. | /r/seduction | 14/04/24 07:41 PM |
| 1 | First Cold Approach LayYes, tons of people you meet in every day life are not expressing themselves to you in an authentic way. I would say the overwhelming amount of people are not authentic. Most people act a certain way based on how well they know a person and the social environment they are in. Someone who is authentic is much more congruent in how they interact with people and express themselves. | /r/seduction | 14/04/24 07:41 PM |
| 3 | girls think i am gay, but i'm straight and attracted to women. what to do about this?Although it sounds basic and almost stupid, he's right. You are acting and behaving in a way that others perceive to be gay. If you don't like this, you have to change it. This is where many people run into a logical way citing the cliche that they don't want to change themselves for other people. My response to this isn't so black and white - it's yes and no. Yes you shouldn't change yourself to please others and give up your sense of identity. This can become a never ending cycle where you are… | /r/seduction | 14/04/24 06:20 PM |
| 1 | Feel like I can't touch on first datesYou already know the problem, so do something about it. The solution is simple and you already know what it is. Man up and overcome the fear of rejection. Accept the fact that you are afraid, and understand that's it's ok and normal to be afraid and despite that, you are man enough to overcome it and do what you have to do to escalate. | /r/seduction | 14/04/24 06:05 PM |
| 3 | Field Report #3 (I spent too much money)There's nothing to be scared about. The worst that can happen is she rejects you. Remember this every time you are scared to touch and escalate with a women. She can reject you verbally, physically or in many different ways. And the best that can happen is that she accepts it and reciprocate, giving you the greenlight to continue escalating. You won't know until you try. Some women do become more intrigued when you make them wait. In my opinion, this rarely works, and often, your behavior and ex… | /r/seduction | 02/04/24 01:01 AM |
| 1 | How is seduction different for Gen Z?You shame others for being cringe, yet you want to be like them. ??? Get a grip bro. | /r/seduction | 01/04/24 02:01 PM |
| 8 | Field Report #3 (I spent too much money)You judge yourself, your lines and actions too much before things have even played out. Just say and do whatever you want. Stop trying to follow other people's routines and be disappointed when it deviates from the expected reaction. Make up your own wit and routines and stories to tell. Dont just be a mindless soul trying to seduce women by being someone else. Learn to escalate. You didn't escalate and isolate Stella This is the key to pulling, building tension and not just doing endless approa… | /r/seduction | 01/04/24 01:40 PM |
| 2 | Help!!! Hooked up with a ClassmateYou can hang out with someone and like them and also communicate that you have other proirities in your life you need to focus on. It's not one or the other. You are in control of how you communicate and treat others. Emotional investment isn't something you choose to develop. It just happens as you enjoy spending time with someone and care about them. Actively choosing to to reject this with someone you actually enjoy the presence of because of your fear of emotional investment is stupid. Don't… | /r/seduction | 23/03/24 03:57 PM |
| 4 | Gym girl trying to get my attention?Hey do I know you, you look very familiar. No? Oh must just be my memory from seeing you around at gym, my names ___ nice to meet you. Do this with confident and then proceed to socialize like normal human that's meeting someone new. Then go do your workout. Repeat few times. Secure contact info and take them out on date. | /r/seduction | 20/03/24 02:14 PM |
| -1 | Why aren't you having fun with women?Listen to yourself. Stop spouting your delusional mindset and making yourself believe it. Seriously, it's so damaging. | /r/seduction | 17/03/24 02:01 AM |
| 44 | Places to meet girls that are actually open to talkingThere is no magic place where you can talk to girls with no risk of rejection. Stop trying to look for the easy way out and work on your social skills. | /r/seduction | 11/02/24 03:47 PM |
| 5 | Dancing with girls at clubYou are right but I find it's a good opportunity to show you are verbally confident and direct. | /r/seduction | 10/02/24 10:29 PM |
| 39 | Dancing with girls at clubTurn around and act like they bumped you. Hand in their arm or shoulder and continue to move to rhythm of music. Smile, eye contact and say dance with me. The only words you ever need to say is "dance with me" and extend hand out | /r/seduction | 10/02/24 03:19 PM |
| 2 | Advice for hookups during Spring BreakForget about the bet. Your primary objective is to have fun and be fun. With everybody. Always be escalating. If you see an opportunity, take it. Cut your losses quickly and escalate strongly on favourable responses. Prepare and plan your logistics so you can transition to a pull naturally whenever the timing is right. If you cant escalate directly to sex for whatever reason but still feel she's down to fuck, tell her she and her friends are fun, let's link up to party later. grab their socials … | /r/seduction | 04/02/24 10:59 PM |
| 4 | Why I struggled with women as an engineerAs an engineer, stop identifying yourself so much with your profession. You are so much more than your job. When you try to tie your entire personality and life back to your profession, you severely limit yourself. Be analytical and logical. But that doesn't also mean you cant understand and relate to women through emotion. You became an engineer because you are analytical and logical - that's who YOU are. Not just because you are an engineer. Stop trying to think of people as problems that need… | /r/seduction | 31/01/24 04:24 PM |
| 3 | "Be authentic" is terrible adviceIt doesn't matter what you call it. 99.99% of ppl will perceive this as bad vibes. In fact, even virtually I can tell it's bad vibes, so nevermind hearing this in person from a random stranger trying to date. No thanks. Sounds like you are just projecting your issues to the world and want to date yourself. People absolutely get rejected for being depressed - you just did by trauma dumping on people. | /r/seduction | 09/10/23 06:09 AM |
| 4 | A Man Who Knows Himself Very Well Is Naturally Very SeductiveIt means you know what you like and don't like. It means you have opinions about things. It means you can describe yourself very concisely and succinctly. And you aren't afraid of external judgment to express it. You value yourself and your ideas to verbalize them. How many times have you been in social situations where you ask someone for their preference and they meekly respond saying I don't have one or I don't care. Boring. Forgettable. 99% of population. If I ask you right now how would you… | /r/seduction | 06/07/23 11:25 PM |
| 1 | What’s the major difference between guys that can attract women and guys that cannot attract any woman no matter what they do?Figure out why ppl avoid you and find a solution | /r/seduction | 11/10/22 01:51 AM |
| 77 | What’s the major difference between guys that can attract women and guys that cannot attract any woman no matter what they do?This. Keep it simple, anything else just makes it more complicated than it needs to be. Don't be needy. Have an abundance mindset Don't succumb to fear of rejection. Learn how to escalate with women and overcome fear. Don't rely on social tricks or crutches. Put yourself out there and just practice socializing in high volumes. | /r/seduction | 09/10/22 04:45 PM |
| 6 | Wanna try out online dating? Here's some tips.You don't go straight into sex stories. You build up to it. You are almost using bait, to get them to think about sex and want to talk about it. Talking about tinder and your experience is easy because it's something you can both relate to and laugh about. Also if you do end up telling a short sex related story, the key is to be super casual and non chalant about it. This way, you show her that you aren't afraid to talk about sex and you also don't think it's this grand end all be all thing. Thi… | /r/seduction | 04/10/22 11:37 PM |
| 2 | Wanna try out online dating? Here's some tips.These tips apply for anyone. You have to understand the rationale behind WHY they work, which he explains in detail. Good advice is good advice regardless of who it comes from and their experience or expertise. | /r/seduction | 04/10/22 11:31 PM |
| 2 | Learn from me, Regret is a lot harder to live with than rejection.Put yourself in situations where you can gain experience. It's the only way. | /r/seduction | 03/10/22 05:38 AM |
| 4 | Learn from me, Regret is a lot harder to live with than rejection.Everyone has one of these moments brother in their life. It's what motivates us to change and be better. Don't sweat it too much. What's much more important is what will you do next time this opportunity comes up? Are you going to bitch out again or are you going to be prepared to take action? | /r/seduction | 03/10/22 05:37 AM |
| 5 | Vibed with a girl an entire concertNothing to be confused about. She wasn't interested in you beyond the concert | /r/seduction | 09/09/22 12:29 AM |
| 2 | How to be a more interesting personThe advice is to speak with no filter so you don't fixate on whether what you are saying is good enough or not. If your default no filter is negativity and boring questions, then you should fix that so that it's not your default no filter. | /r/seduction | 08/09/22 04:44 PM |
| 1 | How do you close?Your perception of what's awkward and what's not is wrong. Laying there and not escalating when she's expecting you to is awkward. Actually attempting to make a move despite not being 100% moment perfect is NOT awkward. You only feel it's awkward because it's the easy you tell yourself to avoid the risk of rejection. No escalation = no risk of rejection which means your ego stays in tact. Ya gotta get over the risk of rejection and accept it. | /r/seduction | 08/09/22 04:35 PM |
| 1 | I've been getting way more attention from girls recently and I don't know what to doStop overthinking, especially if they make themselves available to you. At this point, the goal switches from seducing her to just simply not fucking yourself up. Try to look at them as someone interesting that you want to get to know and have fun with. Be curious and intrigued and self amused. And learn how to escalate and lead the interactions forward when they present themselves. | /r/seduction | 08/09/22 04:20 PM |
| 13 | y’all need to be more confidentThis post is as tone deaf as it gets for a woman to post. Telling people to just confident and posting your own personal preferences for how YOU want to be attracted is useless advice. Zero actionable items. | /r/seduction | 08/09/22 04:46 AM |
| 5 | Kissing on the first date, rejected/ghosted for the second dateI personally don't think kissing someone on the first date will get you rejected. Kissing and escalating on date one is usually better then not. Sounds more like an issue of not enough flirting or building of attraction. How s your banter? | /r/seduction | 07/09/22 02:57 PM |
| 2 | I’m never too sure what the hell to do when women are acting wild at clubs, parties etcLoosen up a bit man. Reading your post you sound incredibly judgmental and not very fun to be around. Girls just want to have fun. If you want to act serious and like you are above everyone else, then don't go to the bars or club. Just because people act a certain way at the bars and club that doesn't mean that's who they are 24/7. People are there to let loose and have fun. | /r/seduction | 06/09/22 04:54 PM |
| 1 | Yesterday I wrote a post about being super sad/depressed about consecutive bad dates. I just had sex for 2 hours with a 8/10 girl from bumble. Took me less than 7 messages to get her to my house.Experience gives you the knowledge and confidence to know how to find out via various methods. You can communicate verbally or non verbally. Her body langauge will indicate whether she's into something or not. Experience will help you read body language better. Listen to her breath, look at her facial expressions, sounds shes making, tension in her legs, how her skin feels etc. You can also indirectly find out via dirty talk. Or you can just ask outright as well, but do so with confidence so you… | /r/seduction | 06/09/22 04:40 PM |
| 1 | Should I pursue girl with a BF?Just text her and be honest saying you find her attractive but you will not engage with someone in a relationship. So she can hit you up when she's single. | /r/seduction | 06/09/22 04:23 PM |
| 2 | How do you know if a woman is looking at you because she is interested?That's the point. You are concerned about the wrong thing. | /r/seduction | 06/09/22 04:15 PM |
| 1 | My super simple “Basic Guy Game” structure that will help you get comfortable meeting new women.That's exactly the point of my story. If people's perception of what you did is solely based on the outcome, then why does their perception matter at all in the first place? Protip, it doesn't. If it's only the outcome that changes how they feel about cold approaches, then that means their opinion is not grounded and easily swayed. You should never care about these opinions. People in pursuit of success will always have failures. Always. And with failures come naysayers and haters. Those who suc… | /r/seduction | 06/09/22 12:04 AM |
| 1 | My super simple “Basic Guy Game” structure that will help you get comfortable meeting new women.How do you think people ever become friends and form relationships? It always begins with two strangers initiating a conversation with each other. It's always been normal to speak to strangers. You are just protecting your ego because you sucked at it and had no success. Therefore by claiming its not "normal", it makes your ego feel better. I met my long term gf through cold approach on a train. Every time I tell the story everyone always tells me how it's so awesome and heart warming that we me… | /r/seduction | 05/09/22 10:56 PM |
| 2 | My super simple “Basic Guy Game” structure that will help you get comfortable meeting new women.Just do it and quit bitching about why it won't work or how people don't want this or that. Nothing but excuses. All interactions end well or it can end poorly. Focussing on why it won't end well will do you no good. | /r/seduction | 05/09/22 01:55 AM |
| 1 | Does peacocking still work?His point is you gotta dress in a way reflects your style and you peacock in your own style to draw attention to it. For example I'm a fun easy going kind of guy, and go to a lot of electronic music events so I like to wear fun party shirts. Like a pink pineapple party shirt. It looks good on me, fits well and looks stylish so I feel good in it. And ppl also constantly coming up and complimenting me on it. And I just act accept the attention and play around with it becauze it's predictable that … | /r/seduction | 23/08/22 02:40 AM |
| 8 | Advice for Single Guys Who Are StrugglingIf that's your example of confidence then you don't know what confidence really is and why girls are attracted to it. Also, just because you are confident doesn't mean they will 100% fall for you. But on the contrary, if you don't have confidence they will 100% reject you. | /r/seduction | 22/08/22 08:20 PM |
| 4 | How important are lingerie and sexy clothesAnd 100% scrub life | /r/seduction | 16/08/22 05:14 AM |
| 2 | How do you all bail out of conversations?Ahah this is actually kinda brilliant if you do it with swag and don't care about drink cost. petty and funny especially if you see it rile her up or make a confused funny face. Ever had a bitchy girl reapproach after? | /r/seduction | 14/08/22 07:13 PM |
| 3 | What's your response to this shit test? "You're not going to murder me are you?"Oh shit, you foiled my plan. Don't worry, I'm definitely not going to murder you. I ain't the serial killer type. | /r/seduction | 14/08/22 04:30 PM |
| 3 | I just fumbled the easiest approach everJust don't forget this time you fumbled the bag. Use it as your lesson and set a rule to never do it again. | /r/seduction | 14/08/22 04:23 PM |
| 2 | I've got her number from a group chat. Can I text her without it being creepy?Yes just be direct and honest. My only question is if you know she's interested why not just talk to her in person? In person game is far suprieror to text game. Text game is important too, but only after in person interactions. Have a good one on one conversation with her in person, flirt and let it be known you are interested and then just ask for number. Simpler, more confident and direct way. Never mind just saw you can't see her on break. Yea just be direct and message her saying, Hi, it's … | /r/seduction | 14/08/22 04:18 PM |
| 1 | How to increase interest without being desperate?Great work. This is getting a bit long so I responded via DM. | /r/seduction | 13/08/22 09:53 PM |
| 2 | First thing to realise.Then use your words and say sorry I'd like to go on about my day. Christ, communication is so hard. | /r/seduction | 13/08/22 12:31 AM |
| 1 | Strangest cold approach of my life todayWomen do find typically end up with guys on the same wavelength with them. But people change over time and as you get married there are other priorities and there can be other issues at play. Just because she got on with you doesn't mean she doesn't get on with her husband, just saying. | /r/seduction | 11/08/22 11:41 PM |
| 1 | Why do girls do this?The trick is to never be the one to initiate the relationship. You have to reverse the role and let her come to the conclusion she wants to be in a relationship with you. | /r/seduction | 11/08/22 11:38 PM |
| 1 | How to increase interest without being desperate?I think you are just overthinking. Go live your life, meet and talk to other women. You are investing too much time thinking about her. You need abundance mentality. You are right your text game probably sucks. Sounds like the only chance you have is in person, but like I said don't bank on it. If you see her in person by chance, then go talk to her and just try to have a fun normal conversation to catch up. Ramp up the flirtiness and don't give a fuck vibes. You need to remind her why she wante… | /r/seduction | 11/08/22 10:45 PM |
| 5 | What made you fall in love?Sexual chemistry and compabtility, kind heart, caring, affectionate, pretty, similar sense of humour and interests, warm and fun | /r/seduction | 10/08/22 11:00 PM |
| 1 | Approach techniquesYes im going to marry her and build a life and family with her. I'm the most important person in her life right now and the foreseeable future. And she is the most important person in my life as well. So yea, I can say with utmost confidence she is happier in life with me than without, as am I. ✌️ | /r/seduction | 10/08/22 10:39 PM |
| 1 | Approach techniquesSpeaking more broadly, ever heard the saying that life exists outside your comfort zone? Humanity would never be where its at today if everyone stayed where they were comfortable, this is a fact. Technology would stagnant, progress will come to a screeching halt and no one would ever take any risks , all in the name of being considerate and making the majority feel comfortable. If everyone thought like you and catered to the "majority", then by definition, everyone would be 100% comfortable all … | /r/seduction | 10/08/22 04:50 PM |
| 1 | Approach techniquesThe woman who like being approached would actually suffer. How do you know she isnt going to meet her future life partner this way? You are going deprive these women the opportunity to potentially meet the love of her life. Cruel. Why would I live a life where I am dependant on other people's reactions to me? That's what people in high school do. | /r/seduction | 09/08/22 11:00 PM |
| 1 | Approach techniquesOh great, super accurate. n=2 with a bias because the avg female on seddit is really representative of the entire female population End sarcasm | /r/seduction | 09/08/22 03:29 PM |
| 1 | Approach techniquesI am telling you that SOME women feel uncomfortable when approached by a guy in the street. It DOES matter how you go about it. I am telling you that SOME women DO like it, and you have basically said multiple times that you straight up don't care, yet you can't seem to see how that's disrespectful. I've used your own words and substituted them to highlight the differences in my very real experiences that form my beliefs from a male perspective. Let's just say I'm gonna trust myself and my lived… | /r/seduction | 09/08/22 03:26 PM |
| 2 | Won't I bother a girl if I approach her without her saying if she actually wants to be approached beforehand?Keep it simple and polite. Hey how's it going? I've seen you a few times now, thought I'd say hi. You work somewhere near downtown? The cold read initially will allow room for her to correct you if wrong and an easier opportunity for conversation. Then share some info about yourself and chat from there. Joke around, be relaxed and confident. Talk about yourself and ask some questions. Be ok with periods of silence whens there a lull. Can look away and then return back to her with more questions … | /r/seduction | 09/08/22 02:52 AM |
| 1 | Is it a bad thing for girls to see me approach other girls after closing with them ?Some will say yes some will say no. It depends. Some girls care some will not. My take is how do they know you don't already know these other girls? How do they know you aren't friends with them and are just saying hi? What if you just want to socialize with strangers? What if you randomly met another girl who you got on better with? Why are you letting this one girl who you got a number of with dictate what you do? Abundance mentality. No need to change how you act just because you exchanged di… | /r/seduction | 09/08/22 02:33 AM |
| 2 | Approach techniquesYea, and read my rebuttals. What makes sense for you? Take what's useful, productive and applicable to your own life and discard the rest. You decide what you want to do. | /r/seduction | 09/08/22 02:05 AM |
| 2 | How to increase interest without being desperate?You are right, you can become less needy by working on yourself and having your own goals while simultaneously chasing girls. The dating world is indeed not black and white. There are no absolutes and there are always exceptions. But from a mindset perspective, you cannot hold onto those rare exceptions as hope. Every man at some point thinks how she's different, she's unique, she's not like the others. This situation isn't like the others. This situation is different because of x y z and get do… | /r/seduction | 08/08/22 11:10 PM |
| 1 | Approach techniquesYou know what's crazy? You can approach without making others feel uncomfortable. 🤯 | /r/seduction | 08/08/22 10:48 PM |
| 1 | Approach techniquesI think it's fucked up to have a mindset where you put the comfort of random strangers who don't give a fuck about your life at all, before your own personal goals and happiness. You are free to reject as I am free to approach. I approached, succeeded and lead a happy life. Who are you to tell me I should have done it differently? Also, you correlate approaching with making women uncomfortable and assert this as fact. This is NOT true. It is possible to approach respectfully and charismafcially.… | /r/seduction | 08/08/22 10:17 PM |
| 2 | Approach techniquesIt's really not. Why would I let what others think dictate the pursuit of my own happiness and success in life? Stop trying to shame men into acting the way you want them to act based on your judgment. Again, based on your advice I would not have met my current gf. So are you suggesting I should have never approached and let this girl go on about her day, therefore depriving us both of a future relationship in the name of making an arbitrary group of women comfortable? Do you know how selfish an… | /r/seduction | 08/08/22 09:28 PM |
| 3 | Approach techniquesIt's not worth doing from your anecdotal experiences and perspective as a woman. My anecdotal experience is that I met my current gf through cold approaching on a train. Am I an outlier? It doesn't matter. She's the love of the life and I would absolutely do it over and over again. Had my inexperienced self listened to all these dissenting voices, I would not have had the courage to do what I needed to do to meet her. So, yes, it is worth doing. You have to understand it only takes one chance en… | /r/seduction | 08/08/22 08:45 PM |
| 4 | Family obligations causing me to feel trapped and hopelessYou have to explain to them why they have to go to a nursing home because it's the best option for them and for your life. You are wasting your life and youth doing this for them. If they loved you, they would want you to experience life normally and understand. Hate to say it and it sounds callous, but you need a hard reset to reinvent yourself. It is what it is. | /r/seduction | 08/08/22 07:20 PM |
| 1 | Approach techniquesApproaching someone is being labelled as being misogynistic now? Come on dude. Get this garbage outta your mind. | /r/seduction | 08/08/22 07:05 PM |
| 1 | Approach techniquesWhy do you think your voice as a woman who doesn't like to be approached trumps the voices of women who do want to be approached? You already admitted there exists women out there who do like being approached. Your answer is only specific to YOU and your anecdotal experiences and preferences, which in the grand scheme of things, mean nothing. So how can you use this to justify policing the actions of men? | /r/seduction | 08/08/22 07:02 PM |
| 3 | How much touching is appropriate?Reframe what touch is used for. Normalize touch. Touch by itself is not creepy or pervy, do not let society and feminists trap you into thinking this. Touch is a way to express yourself and to connect deeply with other human beings in a NON VERBAL way. You can speak in a way to get ppl to like you more, and similarly, you also can use body language and touch in a way to make people like you more. A touch on the shoulder can be reassuring or be used to emphasize a point mid conversation. Because … | /r/seduction | 08/08/22 06:51 PM |
| 5 | We often fear the results of our actions, when in reality it is inaction that is the much scarier alternative.Yea I agree know most men chicken the fuck out. What's the solution? To me, just keep it simple. Just nut up and do it. If you fail, then recalibrate, try to do better for the next one. Try again and again, keep doing deliberate practice. It's been studied in sports performance that deliberate practice is the best way to improve l. Its like anything else in life. When you first do something new you will probably suck at it. How do you get better? Practice. Not just mindless practice, but practic… | /r/seduction | 08/08/22 05:49 PM |
| 8 | We often fear the results of our actions, when in reality it is inaction that is the much scarier alternative.The estimated mental harm is over exaggerated and over emphasized. You are a grown ass man. Stop coddling yourself. Your ancestors have survived thousands of years of challenges far far greater than going up to a hot girl and saying hi. Talking to a hot girl is very insignificant in the grand scheme of things. Am I minimalizing it? Yes. Because that's how you have to view it You get rejected, your feelings and ego is bruised. So what? Carry on. If you don't have the mental fortitude to deal with… | /r/seduction | 08/08/22 05:07 PM |
| 5 | Won't I bother a girl if I approach her without her saying if she actually wants to be approached beforehand?I don't do any right now because I am in a long term relationship with someone I met through cold approaching on a packed train 3-4 yrs ago. The ideal spots to approach are just in your everyday life. Avoid specifically slotting out time for cold approaches. Instead, carry on with your normal life and just approach people as you normally encounter them in your daily life. Start with just everyone, simple social interactions, exchanging pleasantries even. Then more with women. Then more with wome… | /r/seduction | 08/08/22 12:41 AM |
| 1 | What can you say to compliment women's Boobs while making out?This dude is specifically asking for compliments on her boobs and your advice is to stimulate her brain Lol What you are really saying is that this doesn't turn you on specifically, which is fine. But i can confirm it definitely turns on women I've been with on and they love my dirty talk. Any genuine desire or lust for a women turns her on greatly because women love to feel sexually desired. Reading lines in text form online is not the same as actually have it said to you in the heat of the mom… | /r/seduction | 08/08/22 12:27 AM |
| 14 | Won't I bother a girl if I approach her without her saying if she actually wants to be approached beforehand?Loved the way you worded it. It really is a filter. What they really mean is if you suck at approaching, don't approach. We deep down want you to be good at approaching, but we do not want to be your practice grounds, so therefore ya gotta figure out how to get good at approaching without actually approach ing. This is where the weak and strong men separate. The weak will concede to the women's wants, needs and comfort and decide to not approach so they are happy. This the principle of putting w… | /r/seduction | 08/08/22 12:19 AM |
| 5 | Won't I bother a girl if I approach her without her saying if she actually wants to be approached beforehand?Rationally I am correct, you can have confidence in that, I assure you through my life experiences. The majority of people do NOT think like that. Perhaps try observing other people's social interactions in a group setting, and realize how this is radically different than how you would act or think. Obviously they think differently than you, otherwise they would socialize like you. Yet they do not. Your brain will see this conflict of realities over and over again until it realizes that it is wr… | /r/seduction | 08/08/22 12:01 AM |
| 14 | Won't I bother a girl if I approach her without her saying if she actually wants to be approached beforehand?Stop asserting your personal experiences and beliefs as factual. Thinking that every conversation in society is boring and uninteresting is just blatantly false and an ungrounded statement. Maybe that's true from your personal perspective and experiences because of YOUR own behavior and mindset. You are the common denominator of these boring conversations. Don't try to put these people in your shoes. I hate to criticize you like this, but what you are describing is not normal thinking and trying… | /r/seduction | 07/08/22 10:30 PM |
| 67 | Won't I bother a girl if I approach her without her saying if she actually wants to be approached beforehand?You need to wipe your mindset of how you are even thinking about cold approaches and to stop looking to reddit for girls opinions of cold approaches. You have it all wrong. First of all, your comparison to an annoying old man is incorrect. Why would you assume your cold approach is analogous to an annoying old man? Yea no shit, if you describe anyone as annoying, the obvious answer is no. No one wants to talk to someone uninteresting and annoying. This is obvious. The flaw in your thinking is th… | /r/seduction | 07/08/22 09:03 PM |
| 0 | What can you say to compliment women's Boobs while making out?I'd imagine the context in this scenario things are already hot and steamy and you've broken touch barrier. And about to physically escalate to sex and you are looking for phrases to compliment her breasts to dirty talk her to the next level Your tits are so hot You have the hottest boobs I've seen I love how they feel in my hands when I squeeze them You feel so good with your firm tight tits in my hands Playing with your tits makes me hard I love how your nipples feel over your shirt Do your ni… | /r/seduction | 07/08/22 08:45 PM |
| 8 | How to get over lost time?The thoughts are debilitating. But you know what's even worse? Letting these thoughts paralyze you from taking the first steps to make actionable items to change your life. Essentially, you turn your debilitating thoughts into a self fulfilling prophecy. How do you think that will make you feel on 10 years when you've done nothing to help yourself? There's no guarantee the action you take now will guarantee you success in romance or even life, but at least you are giving yourself a fighting chan… | /r/seduction | 07/08/22 08:30 PM |
| 1 | Is being Indirect and Hesitation a turnoff?Being indirect is fundamentally due to a fear of rejection, regardless of how you want to spin it or rationalize it to yourself. Why does it matter if you know if she is going to be receptive to it or not? Be direct so there is no confusion and you will get your answer as to whether she's into it or not. That's it. By avoiding this option, you are protecting yourself from the outcome of a direct rejection. Therefore you rationalize any excuse to not be direct, because you know by not being direc… | /r/seduction | 07/08/22 06:10 PM |
| 1 | How to increase interest without being desperate?You've already shown your hand of being needy, insecure and desperate. Very difficult to come back from. You are far too invested in this girl. Just move on. And if you have a future encounter with her, just try to pretend none of this shit happened. Try to flirt and talk to her like a brand new girl whom you don't give a fuck about. It may go well or it may not, who cares, mentally you've already moved on. | /r/seduction | 07/08/22 06:03 PM |
| 0 | Western Women Just Don't Understand Men.... Here's What You Can Do About it!I agree with most of the concepts of what you are saying. Unfortunately any women who reads this will view this as misogynistic and immediately throw it away making it difficult to have meaningful discussions. Most will roll their eyes at the concept that they have to take care of their men from a house hold and emotional perspective and proclaim that they are equals and can do whatever they want. I mean it's true they can do whatever they want, but that doesn't mean the relationship will be suc… | /r/seduction | 07/08/22 05:55 PM |
| 10 | How to bring up sex without seeming trashy?You aren't crazy for thinking it's unattractive for a hot girl to talk vulgarly about sex with other guys. Just because she talks about sex and is hot doesn't mean I'm gonna lap that shit up automatically. It's trashy and vulgar. And likewise, it's the same when guys do it. If you want to talk about sex, do it indirectly. You talk about your opinion, experience or the subject of sexually related things in a non chalant manner. This conveys you are confident and comfortable talking about sex, but… | /r/seduction | 07/08/22 07:58 AM |
| 6 | Fear of rejection and abandonment has ruined my mindset over the yearsNo other than answer than to just get over your ego, get out there and do it. We risk rejection in all faucets of life and everything we do if we expect change and profess. Your love life is no different. Majority of people end up realizing this at some point in their lives and end up taking these risks to pursue the life that they want. If they don't, then nothing happens in their life. They stay exactly where they are because they aren't willing to risk anything to leave their current status q… | /r/seduction | 07/08/22 07:51 AM |
| 1 | Is this something I can fix or it's just, something that happens?Did you flirt? Did you break touch barrier? I've had similar dates in the past where I would describe them similarly. We laughed and it felt chill. Then it fizzled out. I chalked it up to not escalating and evoking any romantic emotions out of her. | /r/seduction | 07/08/22 03:52 AM |
| 2 | Made out with shy co-worker. She told me she's liked me for a while. Now she's avoiding me?I agree he should make his intentions clear, but just not in the way you described. There are ways to make intentions clear asides from a direct verbal confrontation demanding a yes or no on the spot. | /r/seduction | 07/08/22 03:36 AM |
| 1 | Is this something I can fix or it's just, something that happens?You barely even talked about how your date went and the actual interactions on the date, despite it going well from your perspective. What exactly went well? Did you escalate and lead and if not, then why not? Your entire post focussed on your communication style, so I would tend to agree with that other poster saying you likely over communicated and seemed too committed | /r/seduction | 07/08/22 01:31 AM |
| 1 | How to escape black pill ideology?You can't change fundamentally how you look, but you can take care of yourself to present the best version of how you look. Just because looks matter doesn't put you in a black or white world where you either fail or win. The world is complex and is rarely black or white. Good hair cut, nice style, skin care routine, clean up facial hair, trim nose hair. Get fit and work out. Smell nice. Accessorize. Wear clothes that flatter your build, nice shoes. Style your hair. Clean up eye brows. Tan. I be… | /r/seduction | 07/08/22 01:28 AM |
| 1 | New girl moved into unit adjacent to mineLet's go have a neighbor date and go out for some drinks. Flirt and escalate on date. Don't over complicate it. There's no need to beat around the bush. She's know you are neighbors and the implications of romance between y'all, so he direct and make it clear what's happening but keeping it fun and playful and plausibly deniable that it's just two fun neighbors getting to know each other. | /r/seduction | 07/08/22 01:19 AM |
| 4 | How can I get a deeper and nice soothing voice?Speak slower and louder. Practice altering your voice going high and low until you find a sound that sounds natural and confident in. This is typically when you speak more from the core. | /r/seduction | 07/08/22 12:56 AM |
| 6 | What should be my reply when girls tell me on the date that they're screening me?Grin, laugh and say little do you know, I'm actually screening you. If they ask for what, you answer generically or non committal open to interpretation. Looking for substance Looking to see if she's fun. If she's a square or not. If she has the right vibes. If she is interesting or boring. If she's actually as attractive as she looks. And the best part is, you aren't even lying. You should be screening girls as much as they are doing to you. | /r/seduction | 07/08/22 12:50 AM |
| 3 | How to cold approach during the daytime in parks?Nicd advice I agree. Though I would argue bringing a frisbee, football or anything else is considered good because you are contributing, sharing and adding value to the group. | /r/seduction | 07/08/22 12:06 AM |
| 2 | I found this post in r/socialskills saying that women don't want to be cold approached, it doesn't work and guys should stop. What does r/seduction think about this?I'm average and succeeded so yea get tf outta here with your bullshit hyperbole facts. | /r/seduction | 06/08/22 11:55 PM |
| 2 | I found this post in r/socialskills saying that women don't want to be cold approached, it doesn't work and guys should stop. What does r/seduction think about this?He never said he doesn't get rejected. I think it's obvious at this point that no strategy allows you to get the girl 100% of the time. It only improves your probability of success. What he's saying is by focussing on the quality of the interaction and only interacting with women he genuinely wants to pursue, those high quality interactions are biased and more likely to lead towards being favored outcomes. Thus he doesn't need to go for quantity. | /r/seduction | 06/08/22 11:51 PM |
| 3 | I found this post in r/socialskills saying that women don't want to be cold approached, it doesn't work and guys should stop. What does r/seduction think about this?Yea or you could just purchase something and then make a judgment yourself. If you don't like it, you can always return it. What do you think is a more productive method of finding out whether it is good to do or not? Trust other people or find out yourself? 🤔 | /r/seduction | 06/08/22 11:45 PM |
| 1 | Made out with shy co-worker. She told me she's liked me for a while. Now she's avoiding me?Basically say something like this and just continue to act normal at work, like you did before you made out. Except now you can look at her with more passing glances and smile or say hi a bit more enthusiastically than before. Keep the romance primarily off work. This is likely what's bothering her if she is inexperienced with men and doesn't know how to navigate a work place romance while still being professional. It can be a lot for a shy reserved girl with no dating expeirnece. | /r/seduction | 06/08/22 11:34 PM |
| 12 | Made out with shy co-worker. She told me she's liked me for a while. Now she's avoiding me?I would advise not to do this. This may be anxiety inducing as fuck especially if you did this right after work and for an already shy girl. You are basically putting her on the spot and will fluster her and seem needy as fuck because you are asking her to tell you what's up. | /r/seduction | 06/08/22 11:31 PM |
| 3 | MasculinityYou can be masculine and still be fun relaxed and goofy even. They are not mutually exclusive. For me being masculine means be confident and comfortable leading yourself and others, as you please. Knowing when to direct and take action. The exact way you do it or communicate that can vary from person to person. It can be subtle, non subtle, verbal or through actions. This is why to be masculine you have to own it your own way, don't imitate others completely or subscribe to any stereotypes or la… | /r/seduction | 06/08/22 11:17 PM |
| 2 | Thank YouYea I mean if it's friendly it's all good, if you just want to be her good friend. But if you are trying to date then I may readjust strategy | /r/seduction | 06/08/22 10:50 PM |
| 7 | Thank YouAnother pro tip is to just end the interaction at its peak, for example asking for number after a high point in a cold approach such as a relabtle moment where you were both smiling or laughing. It serves two purposes, 1) it's abrupt and you take her emotionally from laughing happy 100 to 0 after you leave her. Shes back to her life before the interaction. So in her head, that contrast in emotions is HIGH, giving her that "oh who the heck was that guy and what just happened, he was funny AND smo… | /r/seduction | 06/08/22 10:47 PM |
| 9 | Thank YouWell my post was more about explicit date situations. I apologize if I'm inferring too much but it honestly sounds like you are putting her too much on the pedestal. The heart love thing isn't my style nor do I think you should be doing that to someone you aren't dating, it's not a very masculine look for you if you are trying to escape friend zone. Showing up at her work and the way you described the poster for dinner just sounds a little much. Lose the oneietis and just chill. If she isn't tak… | /r/seduction | 06/08/22 10:31 PM |
| 53 | Thank YouProtip, always end a date with a genuine big warm hug and embrace, kiss or as you already did, a verbal line that elicits good feelings Nice work and good job with the self relrfrction and analysis, that's how you improve your interactions each time | /r/seduction | 06/08/22 08:53 PM |
| 8 | I often hear the advice "Don't try too hard" and "Stop looking for a relationship and one will come to you". How is this not BS?You are correct in the sense that I'd you aren't proactive about it nothing will happen in life. Think of it this way. You open lots of girls, socialize a lot and try to meet women at every opportunity possible in your life. You learn from trial and error, you use resources, you read a few books, you come on here and read some advice and try it out in your next interactions. Obviously this takes times and you are "trying". This is good, this is what you want to do to be taking action towards wha… | /r/seduction | 04/08/22 12:10 AM |
| 3 | What works romantically doesn’t always work socially, and vice versa.Disagree. I believe you should behave as one congruent person throughout ALL faucets of life. I think one of the main reasons people are unhappy in life is because they try to wear too many masks in life for too many different environments. Why make it complicated? Keep it simple. Be who you are. And if you aren't proud of who are, change until you are the best version. | /r/seduction | 03/08/22 11:43 PM |
| 3 | Why is being awkward and nervous seen as creepy by women?Women get nervous all the time talking to men OR other women. Depending on what behaviors they exhibit from being nervous, they can be labelled as standoffish, quiet, rude, weird, awkward etc. In other words, with a little bit of embellishment, these are all synonyms of creepy. Stop fixating on the word creepy. It has no concrete meaning and is made up by women to describe any time they had an undesirable interaction with a man that they rejected. Stop worrying about others and worry about yours… | /r/seduction | 03/08/22 04:28 PM |
| 14 | Why is being awkward and nervous seen as creepy by women?The short, realistic answer is, yes. But don't look at it as that way. Your question should be, so I have to practice socializing with women and risk rejection? Doesn't this sound a lot more normal and logical now? This isn't about creeping women out specifically, its about improving your confidence and social skills. If you appear nervous to people in general when talking to them, it will put them at unease. So the solution is to practice until you become more relaxed and experienced at social … | /r/seduction | 03/08/22 03:51 PM |
| 2 | Talking/flirting with a girl when other people are around?Most won't notice or care. A small percentage will just because that's how people are, but will you let these strangers stop you from doing you? Learn to let go and not care about judgment from others. | /r/seduction | 03/08/22 04:56 AM |
| 4 | What to say when she says she has a boyfriend/ seeing someone?This line is honestly so cringe, I can't believe people actually use it. If it works for you, I suppose it works. But it would never sit right with me and my style. | /r/seduction | 01/08/22 08:35 PM |
| 3 | How to text and keep a girl interested while she’s out on a trip?You can't. She has to want to talk to you. Most people when on vacation are focussed on the now and present and are not overly concerned with things and people back home. If you try to push her out of that, you will come off as needy and desperate for attention because you need her right here right now. You can try commenting on her stories, but make sure it's nothing screaming like you need attention. If she wants to engage, it will be obvious by her responses and willingness to chat. Add value… | /r/seduction | 01/08/22 07:06 PM |
| 0 | what can I do to develop an abundance mindset?Abundance mindset isn't just about girls. It's about knowing there are options out there and YOU have the power and freedom to select as YOU want your life to be. It's not just about endless girls or things in life, it's about the trial and error of life experiences that allows you to figure out ultimately what it is that you want out of life. If you just cycle girls and never think deeply about what YOU want, then you are missing part of the puzzle. | /r/seduction | 01/08/22 07:00 PM |
| 1 | [Field report] Cold approach in ParisGuys who are super aggro about people talking to their girlfriend are insecure and annoying as fuck. I would never hang out with them, so you should be proud you dodged that bullet bro 👍great work for approaching and gaining experience | /r/seduction | 01/08/22 06:37 PM |
| 2 | I Never Get the Women I Truly Desire (Help)Pick one or two that you like the best, are most confident and proud about and identify your brand as predominantly from that. But like the other guy said, this is more about first Iimpressions. I think it's normal and healthy to have various shades of characters and personality that come and go for people who know you more. | /r/seduction | 01/08/22 06:33 PM |
| 6 | I Never Get the Women I Truly Desire (Help)Def not 10s. Furthermore, they may look attractive but to date or for a long term relationship, they could be a 2. | /r/seduction | 01/08/22 04:20 AM |
| 0 | FlirtingThen why bother asking? Either do it or don't. Best way to learn and find out than asking people on the internet. | /r/seduction | 01/08/22 12:35 AM |
| 1 | anyone here been practicing removing their “filter”? if so hows it been so far.It's great. Just say what you want, whenever you want. People dont like it,who cares. Be who you are by saying what you want. By having a filter, you are subconsciously saying your natural authentic thoughts are not good enough to put out in the world. A confident person would never think this way. | /r/seduction | 01/08/22 12:34 AM |
| 1 | FlirtingIt could work, but like he said, if you have to ask, then you probably don't have the social skills to utilize it effectively and just better off keeping it simple. | /r/seduction | 01/08/22 12:31 AM |
| 1 | Here is what I don't understand about shy girls I meet through OLD.They can be shy and also low interest at the same time. In my experience, I just don't like shy girls that much and find them off-putting. My mindset is that most shy girls aren't that fun or cool enough for me to spend all this effort to try to get you to warm up and open up to me. Don't get me wrong, I'll try my best, but if I'm not getting anything back from them and it's me doing everything the whole time on the date, I'm out. Ironically, my long term gf right now is quite shy, but once she … | /r/seduction | 01/08/22 12:27 AM |
| 1 | Do girls like it when you remember and use cute jokes with them over an extended period of time?Yes. Yes they do. | /r/seduction | 25/07/22 11:18 PM |
| 2 | Going to clubs/bars solo to game?Yep. Go out and enjoy and focus on having fun, don't be too outcome dependant. Aim to socialize, talk to men and women. When you find a woman who seems interested, escalate. Rarely will people ask you about your friends. And if they do, just tell the truth. You are out to socialize and meet some fun interesting people and see where the night takes you. That's exactly what you are out to do. You do what you want and aren't afraid to do so. | /r/seduction | 25/07/22 07:06 PM |
| 2 | Self-diagnosing sticking points and accepting who you are versus improving yourselfTo some extent, yes they should be returning your escalation. But sometimes girls can be super shy and nervous and will react neutrally. In those situations, she won't be too responsive and you have to confidently continue your escalation despite no tit for tat. It's kind of situation specific that you'll have to decide based on the date. My thought is that if she's turned off because you escalated too much, then she didn't like you enough to begin with. So if your game plan is always to escalat… | /r/seduction | 25/07/22 07:03 PM |
| 2 | Where is quality information about getting girlsRead a lot and follow what makes sense for YOU. Learn to use your critical thinking skills to take what's useful from people's experience and apply it in your own life. Dating and relationships are complex. No matter what someone says there will be a man or woman out there who disagrees. There is no secret manual out there that gives you all the steps to success. You can lean on behavior science, but feelings, emotions romance and love cannot be reduced to a research study. | /r/seduction | 25/07/22 06:33 PM |
| 3 | Self-diagnosing sticking points and accepting who you are versus improving yourselfDid you flirt? Did you have fun on the date? Were you confident? Did you escalate? If yes it all, sometimes there is just no chemistry and no connection. It is what is and that in of itself is something constructive you can take away from expeirneces like this. Women and attraction be complex, you can follow everything by the book by still fail. Roll with it and avoid hyper fixating on details. If you gave it your best shot and put your best self forward and she didnt like that, then she did you… | /r/seduction | 25/07/22 06:21 PM |
| 1 | Stop being a secondary character in your own life, and become the hero of your life's story.Preach 🙏 | /r/seduction | 25/07/22 06:04 PM |
| 3 | Should I pursue women or focus on myselfIf you are already talking to lots of woman, invite them on fun dates, practice flirting and escalating and having sex with them. Practice your social skills. As an engineer, I can tell you having good social skills and knowing how to communicate effectively supersedes any skills you will learn in school. Trust me on this. You can do all that and still focus on yourself. I don't see what the problem is. | /r/seduction | 25/07/22 06:03 PM |
| 1 | My worst regret with a woman happened yesterday. Regrets.And this is why confidence is important my friend. Your whole post is just beating yourself down and constantly second guessing yourself. 🤷 Be more decisive and take bold steps next time. Yes this can mean risk of rejection, it always does. Just roll with it. | /r/seduction | 25/07/22 05:56 PM |
| 1 | What do you say when your friends call you out for flirting with their friend?We'll see if she plays her cards right. I think she's attractive. | /r/seduction | 25/07/22 05:53 PM |
| 10 | My first two Daygame cold approachesTo be the devils advocate, do what you want as long as you are respectful. Is it worth it to give up meeting someone because they are at work? This someone could potentially be the love of your life. You never know. But by not approaching because you cater to these beliefs, you deprive yourself of the opportunity. I personally operate on a do not give a fuck and will do what I want mentality. She is free to reject as I am free to approach. | /r/seduction | 25/07/22 05:48 PM |
| 1 | How do I take more initiative in the bedroom?Best way to learn is to do. Youve seen what he does to initiate, so start from there and just imitate what he does. The more you do it, the more you can add your own input. There's literally no risk of failure or rejection if you try. However, if you don't try then there is 100% failure guarantees. Grab his head and pull him in to kiss. Caress his thighs and massage them while inching towards his crotch. Eye contact. Jerk him off. Grab his hand and direct it to your boobs and pussy. Tell him wha… | /r/seduction | 25/07/22 02:36 AM |
| 3 | What are ways to "game" girls within friend groups without appearing creepy?There are many ways to flirt and different people tend to have different styles. Its successful is also largely dependant on how its delivered and body language. That's why when someone posts their personal examples, others may cringe or think surely no one says this in real life. Ya gotta find what works for you. For me, I like to use hyperbole, sarcasm, over the top compliments, be hot n cold, and to smile a lot. I make assumptions about people instead of asking too many questions, cold reads.… | /r/seduction | 25/07/22 02:06 AM |
| 1 | Why so many rules when it comes to approaching girls? Like “oh don’t approach them at the gym” “don’t approach them in the streets” why so many rules?Make crazy unhinged assumptions. Then claim to want great dialogue. 🙄 Which part of anything you posted is even considered great dialogue? Saying all men is trash and I'm cheating on my partner and we are unhappy doesn't make it true no matter how many times you repeat it. And also definitely not high value behavior. If you have problems with dating in your life that's fine, everyone has challenges in life. Just don't come into this sub and project that shit and spread more negativity through du… | /r/seduction | 25/07/22 01:30 AM |
| 1 | Why so many rules when it comes to approaching girls? Like “oh don’t approach them at the gym” “don’t approach them in the streets” why so many rules?Seek help please. | /r/seduction | 25/07/22 01:16 AM |
| 1 | Why so many rules when it comes to approaching girls? Like “oh don’t approach them at the gym” “don’t approach them in the streets” why so many rules?You just love your assumptions don't ya? You are projecting so incredibly hard. I post on here to help and give advice to people who struggle with women and have poor social skills because I was once in their shoes. What value are you adding here? Zero. | /r/seduction | 24/07/22 11:35 PM |
| 0 | Why so many rules when it comes to approaching girls? Like “oh don’t approach them at the gym” “don’t approach them in the streets” why so many rules?Dont need to cuz I already have an amazing gf whom I met cold approaching ;) are you gonna tell me she's trash too for dating me? | /r/seduction | 24/07/22 09:52 PM |
| -1 | Why so many rules when it comes to approaching girls? Like “oh don’t approach them at the gym” “don’t approach them in the streets” why so many rules?I'm also high class. You don't know me, but by all means make assumptions about there, key board warrior. See? I can say it too. Try demonstrating some class through your actions | /r/seduction | 24/07/22 09:37 PM |
| 3 | Why so many rules when it comes to approaching girls? Like “oh don’t approach them at the gym” “don’t approach them in the streets” why so many rules?There are no rules in life. Do whatever the fuck you want. Be respectful, be kind and most importantly, have fun. | /r/seduction | 24/07/22 09:30 PM |
| 0 | Why so many rules when it comes to approaching girls? Like “oh don’t approach them at the gym” “don’t approach them in the streets” why so many rules?Takes trash to know trash | /r/seduction | 24/07/22 09:28 PM |
| 6 | What are ways to "game" girls within friend groups without appearing creepy?Be comfortable flirting with everyone. Joke around with the guys and treat the girls with the same energy. This way you will feel less self conscious about flirting with the girls because it's just congruent with how you act with others | /r/seduction | 24/07/22 05:14 PM |
| 2 | (FR) The dangers of not escalating fast enoughOr more like the danger of not knowing when to cut your losses. Ya not all girls are responsive right away and some take time to warm up, but after a while, ya gotta realize she aint need time to warm up; she just ain't into it. She just wasn't into you, doesn't matter how fast you escalate. | /r/seduction | 24/07/22 01:41 AM |
| 1 | honestly speaking, how is anyone supposed to be confident in this day and age?The first mistake you are making is assuming what you've stated are facts. They are simply ideas that you've convinced yourself to be true. You will never be confident with this mindset. So honestly speaking, you cant unless you reinvent yourself. | /r/seduction | 24/07/22 01:28 AM |
| 1 | Negativity is Making Me Hate Women & Destroying My Game - HELP!!!Yep. It's hard work and the path to success isn't always clear. Sometimes you improve, sometimes you are stagnant and sometimes you may even feel like you are regressing. Just have trust in the process and yourself that your dedication and hard work will work itself out eventually. This is the struggle everyone has to go through in life, whether it's girls or anything else. Successful people are the ones who didn't give up and stayed hungry and continued to chase improvements. I have a few thing… | /r/seduction | 24/07/22 12:04 AM |
| 1 | Negativity is Making Me Hate Women & Destroying My Game - HELP!!!If you believe they are uncomfortable because you are coming on too strong, then you may need to tone it down. Anecdotally speaking, usually day time approaches you can't be as direct and upfront as you would as a bar or club. For me, this is calibrating your actions and behavior to the social situation and environment. This takes a lot of practice and social experience to figure out. To be the devils advocate, for every woman who thinks you are coming on too strong, there is another woman out t… | /r/seduction | 22/07/22 06:29 PM |
| 1 | Negativity is Making Me Hate Women & Destroying My Game - HELP!!!That's great to hear, glad it helped for you! That's the kind of attitude people on this sub need more of instead of excuses and whining about how woe is me, way to go man! Also, don't give up if it feels difficult at first or unnatural or even if you face rejection. You definitely will. After all, you are so used to focussing on the negative outcomes, it will feel forced and unnatural to make yourself intentionally focus on the things that can go right. Habits die hard. You've probably been thi… | /r/seduction | 22/07/22 04:32 AM |
| 1 | Negativity is Making Me Hate Women & Destroying My Game - HELP!!!There's always an infinite number of ways an approach can go bad. There's also an infinite number of ways an approach can go well. Why not redirect your energy and focus on all the good outcomes that could happen? Think about how you will feel good after for just confidently approaching even if she rejects you. Think about how you can go in with that mindset but maybe be even More pleasantly surprised when she doesn't reject you. Think about how maybe it's the start of an amazing relationship ma… | /r/seduction | 21/07/22 04:59 AM |
| 1 | I think i'm friendzoned, should I fucking go for it anyways?Lol you literally just told this girl you don't want her and you expect to not get immediately friendzoned? | /r/seduction | 21/07/22 03:15 AM |
| 1 | How to broach the subject that I think I love my best friend?No possible way to bring up feelings without damaging friendship. Also high chance of failure. Women generally aren't attracted to best friends. And there's a million of your stories out there. My suggestion is to go date other people and you will realize you may not actually like your best friend romantically that much. If you must try, then ask her out on a date and be very clear you are interested romantically. Do NOT pour your emotions and feelings out, it never ever ends well. | /r/seduction | 21/07/22 12:11 AM |
| 3 | Going on a date with a woman more than twice my age. I think she’s beautiful and I’m very excited!Would you rather be poor and hot? Or ugly and rich? Why? Tease her whatever the answer is. Are you the same person at work VS on a date? Which one do you enjoy more? Do you feel pressured to wear different hats? What's life like for you? Learn about her life and offer your opinion. Compare and contrast your lives. What do you think about fuckboy culture? How was dating for you growing up? When did you lose your virginity? Were you more sexual younger or older? What's your type? Tease, make assum… | /r/seduction | 20/07/22 11:18 PM |
| 134 | Going on a date with a woman more than twice my age. I think she’s beautiful and I’m very excited!Be fun, have fun. Joke around, tease, flirt, banter. Ask lots of questions. Ask daring questions. Be curious. Be polite and a gentleman. Be respectful but also don't be afraid to be bold. Eye fuck the shit out of her. Stare at her body if she's dressed up and if she catches you just have a shit eating grin and don't acknowledge it. If she calls you out, just say my apologies, im easily distracted 😏. Older women want to feel desired, so do things that will make her feel that way. | /r/seduction | 20/07/22 07:03 PM |
| 1 | To the low value menThe key idea is that there are people out there who have been dealt worse cards in life, yet they are thriving for some reason. Why can't you? Yea, you'll have excuses for me I'm sure. But you don't think they did? Obviously they over came it at some point. How did they do it? Hmmm... Surely not by whining and saying woe is me. 🤔🤔🤔 Gee I wonder what they did, maybe I should go and explore that. | /r/seduction | 20/07/22 06:37 PM |
| 1 | Serious or humorous ?!Depends on the girl, but I'd wager serious will fail more often than not. Serious is boring, logical and straight forward. Not very creative and limits your personality. I think the opposite of what you just said. Serious convos lack charisma. | /r/seduction | 20/07/22 06:29 PM |
| 3 | How can I get back at the girl i’m seeing?Don't acknowledge anything she's doing to have an effect on you. Don't be thirsty, act as if you are above it but still playing along for the sake of amusement. If she grabs your dick, grab her hand and hold it tightly without moving, make her squeeze your cock and then pull her hand off and tell her you she's a naughty girl with a shit eating grin and that she isn't ready yet. Set up a date and be the most confident you've ever been with shit eating grin whole time. When you end up in a private… | /r/seduction | 20/07/22 06:24 PM |
| 1 | Someone please help me decipher this girl's behavior.Doesn't seem like much of anything to me if I'm honest. Like I said, there's no point in hyper analyzing something like this. Either talk to her again. Or don't. | /r/seduction | 20/07/22 06:08 PM |
| 1 | Finally talked to this girl that works at a café I like going to!Having a good conversation from an approach doesn't necessarily mean she is interested enough to considering pursuing anything further. It's a rejection as clear as it can be, so accept that and move on. | /r/seduction | 20/07/22 06:00 PM |
| 2 | Someone please help me decipher this girl's behavior.Don't know, personally I'd spend no further energy thinking about it. Only way to find out for sure is to initiate contact and gauge her reaction. | /r/seduction | 20/07/22 05:57 PM |
| 5 | Someone please help me decipher this girl's behavior.It is weird but who knows. She could like you and just have been shy and nervous the first time you asked her out. Or she could actually not like you at all, but likes to creep on people on social media. Who knows. Just talk to her like a normal person when you see her next time or make a comment on her story and see if she responds positively. If she doesnt, then she ain't into you. | /r/seduction | 20/07/22 05:46 PM |
| 1 | I’m autistic so forgive my dumb question. Is my coworker into me?Sounds like she's interested. Some advice, especially since you said you have autism, is to keep it simple. Don't overthink and just focus on the following. 1) Accept it as fact that she's interested. There's no need to interpret anything she says or does as anything other than that she's interested. 2) Be curious about her and ask lots of questions, but don't be afraid to provide your opinion and thoughts. 3) Flirt, banter and tease, but don't go too far. Sometimes if you do go too far, it can … | /r/seduction | 20/07/22 05:41 PM |
| 6 | Is it okay if I see a pretty woman walking in the parking lot of my apartment complex and I introduce myself to her while I’m driving out or driving in? Like say “hi, excuse me?” They’ve seen me around since we all live hereJust say hey ive seen you around a few times, since we live in the same building, I figured I'd introduce myself and say hi. I'm xxx. Chat for a bit, build some rapport and see how it goes. Ideal if you aren't in a car. | /r/seduction | 20/07/22 03:08 AM |
| 3 | QUESTION: If I want to get good at game, should I aim to start out not trying to get laid and just approach?You need baby steps first if you are inexperienced socially or at talking to women. Most of these people are the analytical type, over thinkers. If these people just hyper focus on sex as the end goal from the get go, they just become thirsty as fuck and give off desperate, needy vibes that repel women like no other. | /r/seduction | 20/07/22 03:03 AM |
| 1 | How to Appropriately Escalate, Be DirectYep. It's more self amusement for me to be honest. Nothing quite like a that's what she said joke. I don't care what people think or if it will offend them. If they are getting offended over some innuendo jokes, then we were never gonna match up in chemistry anyways. Sexual innuendo doesn't mean it has to be crude or vulgar. It's just injecting sexual connotations into a light hearted conversation, which when done properly will convey you are comfortable around the topic of sex and aren't so ser… | /r/seduction | 20/07/22 02:55 AM |
| 1 | How to Appropriately Escalate, Be DirectI'll say whatever I want to strangers. | /r/seduction | 20/07/22 02:31 AM |
| 2 | I f***king love rejection.Uh maybe she was feeling down and having external validation made her feel good about herself? Just because you are married to someone doesn't mean they are all you ever have in life. You are being far too judgmental and extrapolating for no reason. | /r/seduction | 20/07/22 02:19 AM |
| 1 | Need help with flirting in a nightclubHe knows what he's looking for so he's adopted a direct style that will auto filter women out who isn't looking for what he is or wouldn't be a good match for him. This is actually the most efficient way for him to meet and have sex with girls, and if it works for him, it works. Like you said, this doesn't work for YOU and your friends. Which is fine, you auto filter yourself out and both ppl can move on to find what they want. However, personally it doesn't fit my style to be this direct, nor a… | /r/seduction | 20/07/22 01:33 AM |
| 3 | Am I a Simp for this?Dont think of it as flying for pussy. You are flying to hang out with someone cool who will show you around Miami. Sounds like a fun vacation. Go with no expectation other than to travel and have a good time. | /r/seduction | 20/07/22 01:14 AM |
| 2 | Any other guys have an easy time getting laid but hard time finding a girlfriendJust keep being you and doing what you do. Yea you don't want to give off explicit fuck boy vibes, but let your actions convey that. No need to change who you are as a person and 180 degree to simp ville. After you fuck a new girl, ask her out on dates other than drinks and to fuck. Take her out to do something fun like go on a hike, go to the museum or park to play frisbee, go on a walk or take her out to the driving range or go to a music festival. This conveys to her that you value her and he… | /r/seduction | 19/07/22 05:54 AM |
| 1 | How to Appropriately Escalate, Be DirectFlirt and banter. Make sexual innuendos. Ask daring questions. It depends on the context as well. In this case, it honestly sounds like a genuine fun interaction. There's nothing wrong with these interactions, in fact these are awesome things to have. You say things weren't moving anywhere. What were you expecting, be honest? And if you were expecting something, why didn't you do something about it? It's on you to lead if you want something to happen. Did you enjoy your time with her and have fu… | /r/seduction | 19/07/22 05:34 AM |
| 2 | I have nothing to talk aboutReal talk bro. This is what I did when I was awkward as fuck and wanted to practice to be better socially. Most guys will never do this. Instead they would rather just whine and complain about how they can't talk to women and how all the hot guys just get all the women without working for it. 🤷 | /r/seduction | 19/07/22 03:03 AM |
| 1 | I have nothing to talk aboutThat's your problem. You can't have a conversation just by asking questions unless you are already very well socially adept and know what you are doing. You have to have your own opinions and experiences. You cannot be insecure about what you have to say. You say it for the sake of putting your opinion and thoughts out there into the world. You don't give a fuck if other ppl will want to hear it or think it's interesting. When you have this mindset, you alternate between asking questions and sha… | /r/seduction | 19/07/22 02:59 AM |
| 7 | how do you go from casually chilling at your place to fucking without being awkward?Get ready for the flake. | /r/seduction | 19/07/22 02:43 AM |
| 1 | How do dumb guys turn women on mentally?Over thinking implies you think too much and do too little. A smart person would realize and understand why that is bad. | /r/seduction | 19/07/22 02:38 AM |
| 1 | Do I have to play a character?No you don't. But many people do. Many people also lead shitty lives. My philosophy is to be one congruent person as much as possible, regardless of who you talk to and the social situation. This lets you relax and be calm and confident because you know who you are really well and you don't need to worry about constantly changing who you and adapting to the ever changing social situation. But of course, you must also calibrate yourself socially. It sounds contradictory but calibration is differe… | /r/seduction | 18/07/22 01:32 PM |
| 1 | Pushiness vs DominanceIt just comes with practice. When you lead often, there will always be someone who gives the feedback that you are pushy. That's just the nature of the game and someone will always feel that way. There is always the risk of appearing as pushy and is thus the burden of leading as man. Just accept this and roll with it and calibrate accordingly to situation. | /r/seduction | 18/07/22 01:28 PM |
| 1 | How to get laid: Have a normal easy going conversation about nice stuff then ask her if she wants to join you for a bottle of wine at your placeOr... You could do both. It's not mutually exclusive. I can talk about fun exciting stuff while being flirty for maximum effect. | /r/seduction | 18/07/22 12:59 PM |
| 2 | Do women rationalize romantic feelings differently than men do?You're wrong for twisting my words. I never mentioned anything about manipulation. Get outta here with your bullshit. We will agree to disagree. | /r/seduction | 18/07/22 06:24 AM |
| 1 | Is it worthwhile trying to date without having a social life first?I cannot comment other than suicide is not the answer and hope you can find yourself in a better place tomorrow than today. I was in a dark place for a long time due to other issues and I found solace in life after attending a Tony Robbins materials. I would suggest you give look into his stuff and be open minded. Deattach any existing beliefs you have about yourself and your life and listen to what he has to say. | /r/seduction | 18/07/22 06:14 AM |
| 1 | Anyone here have poor social skills and found a fix?Yes, its called practice. There is no magic short cut. I am also introverted and fare much better in one on one or small social settings. I know this fact about myself and I embrace it. I know what I'm good at and what Im not. So I go out and purposely practice what I'm not good at, and also continue to practice what I am good at to be even better. I found reading books such as the charisma myth and how to win friends and influence people to be very helpful. Take what resonates with you in those… | /r/seduction | 18/07/22 05:45 AM |
| 1 | How to get laid: Have a normal easy going conversation about nice stuff then ask her if she wants to join you for a bottle of wine at your placeIf you have shitty boring conversation that's flat and logical questions and answers, then there's gonna be no spark, attraction and typically no sex. | /r/seduction | 18/07/22 05:28 AM |
| 1 | How do dumb guys turn women on mentally?Imo overthinking is not something that should be accepted and embraced. It's a negative trait. You can be smart and analytical and not overthink. | /r/seduction | 18/07/22 05:24 AM |
| 1 | Just want to get this off my chestShoulda ran up to her to with a shit eating grin and gave her shit for not saving you from being sexually harassed by that gay dude and that she owes you a drink. 🤷 Easier said than done in the heat of the moment of course. This is where having confidence and expeirnece kicks in to help. | /r/seduction | 18/07/22 05:22 AM |
| 3 | Follow-up on a Girl telling She's Got a BFOver analyzing. Just talk to her to get the answer to your burning question of if she's possibly "still interested"? Wave next time she's looking at you, smile go up and say hi how you doing? Chat like a normal person, do not bring up past conversation or any weird observations you saw. If the vibes and chats are good, ask her out to grab a drink. If not, then be like ok good to see ya I gotta get back to my work. More action you take and less thinking you do the better. | /r/seduction | 18/07/22 05:19 AM |
| 2 | Is it worthwhile trying to date without having a social life first?Forget about women and focus on improving your social skills and having a social group. All your answers have been excuses. Stop the excuses and stop saying why you can't do this or that or this is too hard or boring. Get up, do something about it. We live in the internet age where there is limitless reousrces out there on how to improve your life. Life's hard, and sometimes we all want to give up. We all feel that way, but at the end of the day, everyone else had to rise to the occasion and sol… | /r/seduction | 18/07/22 05:06 AM |
| 3 | Do women rationalize romantic feelings differently than men do?Chemistry is only part chance. There are definitely actions someone can take and behaviors to adopt that will encourage the emergence of chemistry. Is it guaranteed? No. Sometimes if there is no chemistry there is no chemistry. | /r/seduction | 18/07/22 04:55 AM |
| 3 | She doesn’t believe in love1)She's either rejecting you as everyone has said and laying it down easy. 2) Or she's insecure and self sabotaging because she sees you as someone who she can actually date. But her past trauma is guiding her actions to self sabotage and just save herself the self fulfilling prophecy. Either one is no bueno to be honest and I would gladly NEXT and move on. Insecure self sabotage doesn't just randomly stop, it will creep up over and over again in ways that will frustrate you and make you want to… | /r/seduction | 18/07/22 04:51 AM |
| 1 | girls want to be desired, not neededI could have. But it's also the most important sentence I wanted to impart on you. It's not meant to be rude or offensive, I just don't want to sugar coat reality. | /r/seduction | 18/07/22 04:39 AM |
| 3 | Do women rationalize romantic feelings differently than men do?Basically this. You are overthinking and trying to understand it using explicit logic and reasoning. Not feeling a spark is 100% a legitimate reason, and in fact, probably the best reason to reject someone. Trying to date someome because they check all the boxes on paper, but you have no chemistry with is literally a waste of time and will always result im an unhappy ending. The real question you should be asking is what is chemistry for women and how do you create it? I can sit here and write y… | /r/seduction | 18/07/22 04:33 AM |
| 6 | You know how girls complain, “I hate how he acts different around his friends/others.” So what to do?Never betray who you are as a person. I've learned over the years, it's much easier to have confidence when you only wear "one hat" in life. You really get to learn to know who you are and learn to embrace it. Some people wear too many hats. They change how they act depending on their social group and environment. To me, this is a exhausting, draining and inauthentic way to live. I feel like I don't know who the real or best me is. To respond specifically to your question though, the key is to c… | /r/seduction | 18/07/22 04:22 AM |
| 0 | girls want to be desired, not neededEveryone successful in life had to optimize their behavior, man or woman. People get rewarded in public what what they practice in public. You have NO idea what others who you perceive to be successful had to do to be that way. Sometimes it looks easy or they don't need to try at all, but you don't know what's going on behind the scenes. Grow up, take action or keep whining and do nothing. | /r/seduction | 18/07/22 04:10 AM |
| 2 | I f***king love rejection.Lighten up you fucking square. It's flattery if someone thinks you are good looking enough to approach and talk to. | /r/seduction | 18/07/22 04:05 AM |
| 2 | Is the PUA community basically dead?I think that's exactly what PUA needs, a rebranding. Re-package the ideas and concepts into relatable modern life focussed on self improvement and personal growth. Just abandon all old PUA terminology and rebrand everything. PUA has a terrible reputation and trying to revive it is holding onto a relic of the past Imo. Don't get me wrong, take all the concepts but just market it differently to the public. | /r/seduction | 13/07/22 06:44 PM |
| 5 | Is the PUA community basically dead?These are broad general concepts. Just because mystery did it one way and explained it one way doesn't mean that's the way. You take these concepts and apply them in a way that makes sense for YOU. For me, wearing a nice watch to stand out is applying the concept of peacocking. I like to wear colorful short sleeve party shirts, I get lots of compliments and people approach me. It's also my style so I feel comfortable and normal wearing it and it makes me stand out. | /r/seduction | 13/07/22 06:27 PM |
| 1 | How are some guys so good at getting girls talking?You have to calibrate for the situation, this goes without saying for any social situation, dating or not. You also care too much about this imaginary "line". It's a self limiting belief and restricts who you are as a person. Yes there's a line, but this line is constantly changing and crossing it momentarily doesn't matter. Heck, cross it and own it. A date isn't a job interview, you don't need to be on your best behavior to land the job. You shouldn't be trying to win her over, you are trying … | /r/seduction | 13/07/22 03:13 PM |
| 2 | I think I’ve realized I act “too interested” on first dates. Is that possible/ tips to avoid that?Go in with no expectations and be prepared to judge and assess whether she is fun and entertaining enough for you to be interested in her. You are going on the date to see if there is compatibility. You don't go into the date having already decided she is awesome and amazing. When she's talking, is she actually funny or are you laughing because she's hot and you want her to feel validated by you laughing? Does she ask good questions or is she boring? If she gives boring responses, you will call … | /r/seduction | 13/07/22 03:14 AM |
| 2 | How are some guys so good at getting girls talking?It can seem contradicting, but just remember that social interactions are never black and white. There are no absolutes. Trust and comfort helps build rapport with women and allows them to open up to you more easily and escalate more easily. However, it's only one component of attraction. Mystery, allure, risk often outweigh that in attraction. When you can combine both in varying doses, that's when you really get the ladies chasing you. If your questions feel generic to you, then stop asking ge… | /r/seduction | 13/07/22 03:06 AM |
| 1 | Girl at work I found attractive smiled at me. I did not smile back and don’t really know why? Need some guidance…You are nervous because you have no experience interacting with women. Solution is to go interact with more women. Any woman. Baby steps. Just say hi, smile and repeat. No expectations, you aren't hitting on anyone, so chill. You are getting expeirnece interacting with women. Talk to anyone and just exchange pleasantries, and after a while, you will realize woman are just humans too. | /r/seduction | 13/07/22 02:44 AM |
| 1 | How can I approach the new girl that works at my gym without being weird?Keep it simple. Don't think of it as hitting on her. Think of it as you saying hello to meet her and being outgoing and friendly, just to have a pleasant chat. Say hi next time you see her scanning in. Smile, make eye contact and say I've seen you a few times now, I should introduce myself, I'm XXX, wave or palm up hand shake. Ask her if she's new here? Talk about how youve been going to the gym here for a while now and you really like it etc. See how the convo goes, if it starts to taper off th… | /r/seduction | 13/07/22 02:41 AM |
| 3 | How are some guys so good at getting girls talking?It's boring to you, but perhaps to women it's interesting because it allows them to talk about themselves. People like to talk about themselves, so when ppl give them the opportunity to do so, most will take it. Women will also talk more if they feel comfortable sharing with you and trust you. I find this to be a subtle vibe that some people just give off better than others. I have a friend that connects easily with women, and I've noticed for some reason, even brand new woman that he meets, the… | /r/seduction | 13/07/22 02:31 AM |
| 2 | I always fumble when I'm so close and it pisses me offEveryone's had these cringe experiences in retrospect. The difference is how you are going to act in the future. Some simply live in the past in regret and let it haunt them. Others take what they've learned as life lessons, and draw motivation from them to never repeat the same mistakes again. The choice is yours. | /r/seduction | 13/07/22 01:29 AM |
| 1 | I always see stuff about how guys are used as validationYea and girls who constantly seek validation from guys are typically toxic and generally not very pleasant to be around. Is that who you want to be? | /r/seduction | 13/07/22 01:20 AM |
| 1 | Trying to set a date but this girl is not great at texting back.You're already operating from a scarcity mindset, tripping cuz you don't wanna lose the opportunity and how she's a 10 and you need to prove yourself to her. Be better than that and understand that just cuz she's hot she aint all that. She ain't shit just cuz she's physically attractive. You don't even know if you're going like her. Maybe she's really annoying to hang out with or has bad manners etc. Who knows. Maybe she does maybe she doesn't. The point is don't put her on a pedestal before you… | /r/seduction | 13/07/22 01:15 AM |
| 3 | Things I can't tell my fwbThat's great then. My rule is to always let the woman arrive at the conclusion that she wants more than FWB. If you two truly are vibing, then she will get there at some point. Don't rush it, be patient and enjoy each other's company. In the mean time, continue to use actions and not words to show how you feel about her. Keep doing fun things and keep it sexy. This is how you enter a long term relationship starting from FWB. It cannot be forced. It's not saying I love you let's be more than fwbs… | /r/seduction | 09/07/22 12:41 AM |
| 1 | Crush texted me that I look hot. She had rejected me a year ago. What do I do?That makes us something we both have in common, let's talk about it over drinks 🤔 | /r/seduction | 08/07/22 06:28 PM |
| 1 | The worst dating advice I’ve ever received was to focus on having fun and not getting womenI mean is it not obvious? Have fun, but if you want to meet women you must approach. Likewise if you only approach and don't have fun, you will just loathe everyone when you get rejected. The mindset is to have fun and self amusement, and the actions you take is to socialize and engage with interesting and attractive people. | /r/seduction | 04/07/22 11:06 PM |
| 1 | Went to the beach alone. I’m tired of doing things alone.Take an opinion on things. Know who you are and be confident that you know that. To know yourself is to be yourself. Have opinions and take a stance on things, don't worry about what people will think about your opinions, just take a stance and be someone who has opinions. | /r/seduction | 04/07/22 03:38 AM |
| 6 | First cold approach at 36Nah you did fine. If you are ok with younger girls you could have asked for her number. If you aren't, it's also completely ok to just have a friendly chat with a stranger. Don't listen to ppl who demonize you for doing either. Do what YOU want. | /r/seduction | 02/07/22 03:56 PM |
| 1 | Asking for the next dateReframe the mindset. You aren't asking her for anything. You are offering her another hang out session with you to do something fun. | /r/seduction | 02/07/22 12:13 AM |
| 3 | Using touch as a way of flirtingGuide her through crowds hand on lower back or offer hand and hold hands When talking and standing close, use hand gestures like when someone speaks. Then alernate between doing that, not doing anything with your hands and touching the sides of her shoulder during points of emphasis. If done properly it should feel very natural and you can do brief touches and slowly build up to hold onto their shoulder for a few seconds longer while maintaining eye contact. Sit next to each other eating or at b… | /r/seduction | 02/07/22 12:12 AM |
| 1 | People in bars and clubs avoid meYea bro listen to this guy and follow his advice. You need to figure it out and help free yourself from your self limiting beliefs and be more positive. Forget about girls and validation from others for now. Focus on you being better. | /r/seduction | 02/07/22 12:00 AM |
| 2 | First relationship I was so innocent. Where has that innocence gone?Everyone views their first relationship as special or has its own place in your heart simply because you end up doing a lot of your firsts from it. But it's a biased view and once you meet other ppl, guy and girl, you will realize the world is a big place and maybe the first isn't so special after all. | /r/seduction | 01/07/22 11:48 PM |
| 2 | I’ve always been the funny guy and it has gained me nothingThat's not necessarily true, especially from a long term perspective vs short flings and hook ups | /r/seduction | 01/07/22 11:44 PM |
| 2 | From getting a file from a colleague at work. To making out in a red hot sauna.👌 Nice work brother | /r/seduction | 01/07/22 11:43 PM |
| 3 | What makes the rooms vibe more seductive?Disco ball, colored lights. Candles. Quality sound system. Good song selection. Clean look. Art work. Plants. | /r/seduction | 30/06/22 10:36 PM |
| 6 | How do you actually flirt with girls?You ever have a close buddy where you would rib on and joke around with and know they wouldn't get offended and it was all in good fun? Do exactly that but add in sexual references and jokes and maintain strong eye contact and physical escalation. | /r/seduction | 30/06/22 10:35 PM |
| 2 | Do girls ever tell guys to stop contacting them as a test?Who cares. You never even met her in person. Move on. | /r/seduction | 30/06/22 06:57 PM |
| 12 | Girl I'm seeing told me shes been with tons of dudes with huge cocks.Lol bro hook up with her first before you obsess about her history. Just chill and go with the flow for now | /r/seduction | 29/06/22 07:44 PM |
| 2 | Day gaming at grocery store?Yes, I'd walk up to any random person, man or woman and be happy to say hi how are you. Yes I understand how some people can be alarmed or weirded out. I also understand there are some people who won't care and be curious as to what I have to say or who I am. There will also be some people who are indifferent. There will be some people who are excited someone approached them because they never have a chance to meet strangers. Anyone can perceive anything to be weird in any context. I'm not going… | /r/seduction | 28/06/22 03:55 PM |
| 0 | Day gaming at grocery store?Great, then move along. You'd look at me like I'm weird, I'd look at you like you are rude and actually happy you self selected yourself out. Life goes on. I'm free to approach and you are free to reject. It's really no big deal, but the fact that you feel the need to go on the internet and rant about how terrible it is that someone dare say hi how are you is hilarious. Breathe and relax homie | /r/seduction | 28/06/22 03:18 PM |
| 8 | Day gaming at grocery store?Basically yea | /r/seduction | 28/06/22 03:13 PM |
| 1 | I have a naturally self-deprecative nature that I think is unappealing to women.Don't tell yourself you are naturally self deprecating. If you keep thinking that's the natural you and it's who you are, then you are also limiting yourself to the belief that you can never change. Yes you should be yourself, but that doesn't mean you can't change yourself to be who you want to be. | /r/seduction | 28/06/22 02:17 AM |
| -2 | I left my number for the cute waitress and she texted me "Heyyy". What do I do?Hay is for horses 😉. What's up? How was your shift, did anyone else ask for your number? | /r/seduction | 27/06/22 11:46 AM |
| 1 | Any experienced ppl now in a successful LTR care to shaer some insights they've learned over the years from both knowing game and being in a relationship?I'm not disputing the prevalence of it, I know it happens and I wouldn't be surprised. But knowing that does nothing for me. So what, there's evidence that it didn't work for them. Why didn't it work? Surely the answer isn't that all women suck and sex always dies. Lol and id you believe that then well we will just agree to disagree. The purpose of this topic is to glean on successful LTRs advice and expeirneces so you can get ahead of this so that this doesn't happen. For every failure there's … | /r/seduction | 25/06/22 06:46 AM |
| 1 | Any experienced ppl now in a successful LTR care to shaer some insights they've learned over the years from both knowing game and being in a relationship?You can blame woman but I will also hold the man accountable, that's my point. I mean it's a fair point but your views seem overly cynical about women. | /r/seduction | 25/06/22 06:05 AM |
| 2 | Men, why would you fall in love with someone you initially planned an only sex relationship ?Because sex makes people feel emotions, especially with new experiences like someone younger. It reminds them of when they were younger and they realize perhaps life could be different with this girl. A better life. Sometimes its just an illusion and they understand this and just don't care. Sometimes they just fall for this illusion. The sex feels good and they begin to associate her and sex with good times. If their life is good, but steady and consistent, it can get stale and people want chan… | /r/seduction | 25/06/22 06:01 AM |
| 14 | What's w/ women and toxic guys?Ya gotta find better quality women bro. The answer is not to treat them worse lol | /r/seduction | 25/06/22 05:57 AM |
| 1 | Any experienced ppl now in a successful LTR care to shaer some insights they've learned over the years from both knowing game and being in a relationship?Yea, but I mean why would you be dating someone who isn't doing that? You wouldn't. | /r/seduction | 25/06/22 05:52 AM |
| 1 | Any experienced ppl now in a successful LTR care to shaer some insights they've learned over the years from both knowing game and being in a relationship?Life's a lot of work 🤷 there's never a guarantee anything work outs, as long as you are having fun while doing it that's all that matters. When you date someone compatible with you and your life style, I don't view it as hope. I view it as something I have control and influence over and view it as my duty as a man to steer the relationship towards success. Obviously she has to reciprocate on some level and put in effort as well. | /r/seduction | 25/06/22 04:53 AM |
| 1 | Any experienced ppl now in a successful LTR care to shaer some insights they've learned over the years from both knowing game and being in a relationship?Agree. This sometimes can be tough to swallow though when life takes you for a ride and you end up on some down times. Admittedly I struggle with aspects of this right now. I faked it till I made it, made it for a bit, and then caught myself in a rut, and then kinda limped out of it and still am trying to be better than yesterday. | /r/seduction | 24/06/22 09:18 PM |
| 2 | Any experienced ppl now in a successful LTR care to shaer some insights they've learned over the years from both knowing game and being in a relationship?I agree both have advantages and disadvantages. I love the freedom of being single and being able to focus on what you need to do for yourself. Unfortunately it sounds like you haven't had a successful LTR if you can't seem to maintain sex in the relationship. My key learning so far is that you HAVE to keep the sex going otherwise it will turn into what you've experienced. You gotta be proactive and and take steps to maintain the sexual interest and keep it high. I am also probably having more s… | /r/seduction | 24/06/22 09:16 PM |
| 8 | What is the "vibe" to give off, sexy vibesFocus on who YOU are and what YOU want to do and not what THEY want. Your whole post is catering to them and saying oh woe is their feelings and to avoid being too sexual or too nice. Guess what, no matter what you do, some woman out there is gonna disagree. So if you wanna vibe and be flirty and sexual, just do it. Don't think about whether or not that it will make her uncomfortable. Too much focus on others detracts away from your own vibe. | /r/seduction | 24/06/22 08:14 PM |
| 2 | What do to when you miss your "escalation window"?Easiest and most straight forward solution is to act like nothing happened and book anither date where you have fun and where you escalate. 🤷 If you miss your opportunity, you try to see if you can create another opportunity for yourself and you seize it instead of making the same mistake you made last time. | /r/seduction | 24/06/22 08:12 PM |
| 4 | My friends are shooting me down with girlsThey don't have high standards, they are just scared of rejection. Don't sugar coat it for them. | /r/seduction | 24/06/22 08:09 PM |
| 1 | Dating a Model - TipsYea but you operate under the assumption that he isn't confident or social enough to thrive in or handle those social conditions. Now obviously only OP can know if he can or not, but I don't think you should resign to absolutes of no he shall not do this or that because of assumptions and self limiting beliefs | /r/seduction | 24/06/22 07:49 PM |
| 2 | Dating a Model - TipsI disagree with not partying. I think you need to show you understand the party scene, how to have a good time and be social, but also know that it is not a threat to you. Difficult to show especially if you don't have expeirnece. But basically show you know about it and welcome it, but you choose to party and engage as you wish. You can enter and leave her world, but she can only enter yours when you bring her. | /r/seduction | 24/06/22 06:55 PM |
| 2 | Dating a Model - TipsYa, hate to say it but basically this. Simple and to the chase. | /r/seduction | 24/06/22 06:52 PM |
| 29 | Social Proof (having friends about) is a night and day differenceOh it is definitely a game changer. The key is to just be a super social dude so you can make friends and have any girl be your friend like this. It's like a walking living proof that hey I'm fun and cool 😎 if you see other ppl that are cool or chill, try to "recruit em" bring em in as part of your vibes and others will feed off that energy and also attract like minded ppl. People on the same wavelength as you | /r/seduction | 24/06/22 06:49 PM |
| 1 | How do you handle the "what are you looking for?" question?Ice cream. I'm looking for ice cream. Let's go get some | /r/seduction | 24/06/22 06:45 PM |
| 93 | My friends are shooting me down with girlsLearn to work solo, your friends are just holding you back. They are sucking your energy. Go talk to other people, guys and girls, who knows, maybe you will find out they are cooler than your friends. Make new friends and lead by example. | /r/seduction | 24/06/22 06:39 PM |
| 3 | We’re All Going to Fucking Make It BraLife is vague. There isn't a step by step instructional manual on how to achieve success. Furthermore, even if it does exist, ask yourself how hard you've worked in life and what have you done to deserve it? | /r/seduction | 24/06/22 06:37 PM |
| 2 | How do I not give this a fuck?Go and just be chill with everyone. If you see her, be cordial say hi and just explain it was tough and you've already decided there is no such things as friends with exes, therefore you just cut off contact as the sinmplest solution and you hope she can respect that. Then turn around and go chill with other ppl at the party, and avoid talking about her, your relationship to other ppl, avoid gossip. If ppl ask, just say she's chill, I'm cool, we just doing our thing and leave it at that. There's… | /r/seduction | 24/06/22 06:35 PM |
| 1 | how to handle gf tantrumsYou tell her you'd like to discuss it regardless. You tell her what you told us, that you think it's disrespectful to act that way and not talk about it to resolve it going forward. And if she will not engage, then that means it will be reoccurring going forward and you don't know if this is something you can deal with indefinitely. If she tries to start an argument about it or bring up something else, just tell her you aren't going to let her deflect and just physically leave her there. She wil… | /r/seduction | 24/06/22 06:38 AM |
| 2 | How to fight neediness and don't look desperate?Its just a different perspective l. I'm not claiming that's what neediness is all about. I feel sometimes people, especially inexperienced people with women, get confused because multiple perspectives and viewpoints can both simultaneously be true for different people. We lvie in a gray world not black and white absolutes. Your perspective sounds like it's coming from someone who dealt with someone being needy whereas mine is from someone who was once needy and fixed it. What you said is also tr… | /r/seduction | 24/06/22 02:12 AM |
| 1 | Should I only invest in the FUCK YES girls. A post to all the daygamers.Agreed. If they are unsure, just try your best to escalate for sex. And then reassess after that. Some girls can completely turn around after they feel comfortable with you and you have sex. | /r/seduction | 24/06/22 12:41 AM |
| 9 | How to fight neediness and don't look desperate?Non needy people implicitly convey that they can get a lot of women and have an abundance mentality. Whether or not that's actually true doesn't matter. The girl just has to perceive that you have options, and you are actively choosing her over your other options. It is this perception that drives her to feel like she must win you over and thus become attracted to you. If you are needy, you are implicitly conveying you don't get women often. You are worried this one chance you get is all you get… | /r/seduction | 24/06/22 12:30 AM |
| 1 | One-itisJust stop. Cut all contact from her. That's your only action. | /r/seduction | 23/06/22 09:21 PM |
| 1 | Stop trying so hard and you'll get laidYour core advice to focus on yourself is correct, but it's wrong to only focus on yourself. Just as it is wrong to only focus on women. You have to focus and work on both. This is like saying you can improve your basketball skills by only focussing pm strength and conditioning in the weight room. Sure, you can, but you'd be foolish to not immerse yourself in what you are actually trying to get better at, which is playing basketball. You will always make the most progress by doing more of what yo… | /r/seduction | 23/06/22 09:18 PM |
| 2 | Did I Just Get Sh*t Tested?!Yep and they all love it | /r/seduction | 23/06/22 09:06 PM |
| 4 | Finally got laid after months of trying but it was mediocre, so I want to get better at sexBe in control, take the lead, and act like you know what you are doing because you do. If your dick is flaccid, then grab her hand and make her jerk you off and look her in the eyes, be direct, tell her to get you hard and you can't wait to fuck her. Show her how to get you hard. Show her what you like. Show her what turns you on. Most girls are passive in sex and look to the man for direction to escalate the situation. If the guy is unsure of himself or doesn't take action and expects the woman… | /r/seduction | 22/06/22 04:32 PM |
| 2 | Went on a date with a girl, and kind of blew it. Now I don’t know if she actually wants to see me, or just wants to fill seats.Only way to find out is to meet up, have fun at the party, talk to lots of people and at some point isolate her, make a move, physically escalate, touch her, go for a kiss. Anything else is overthinking. | /r/seduction | 22/06/22 03:58 PM |
| 1 | why are white women so difficult to escalate with compared to black or Hispanic women?He's just being descriptive. I'm Asian and hearing him say that allows me to contextualize the situation much better. And also no offense taken lol | /r/seduction | 22/06/22 02:29 AM |
| 3 | Change Her Mood, Not Her MindQuality post I totally agree with your points and the underlying fundamentals behind it. But I think for more inexperienced people reading this, they aren't going to see the main points and may even miscontrue them. They see this as slimely manipulative typical PUA stuff or on the other spectrum, believe its necessary to be this cold, heartless, manipulative guy in order to win sex with woman. The audience of people seeking help has changed and the landscape of dating has changed with social med… | /r/seduction | 20/06/22 04:12 PM |
| 1 | What is something you've learned throughout your seduction journey?Anyone can be this dude if they get their shit together. | /r/seduction | 20/06/22 02:47 PM |
| 1 | Escalation Game Advice: Going to festival with this girl, she wanna keep her stuff at my place and have dinner before festivalGreat to hear you enjoyed yourself and had a good time. Single mom doesn't sound that fun, so on to the next! | /r/seduction | 20/06/22 07:42 AM |
| 1 | How do I avoid establishing a friend-vibe with my next door neighbor at my apartment complex?It's not silly. What's silly is that people think you don't need to learn, study and practice to become good at something. You don't just magically become good at something. Attracting women is no different, it's a skill that can be improved upon. Just because someone is not a virgin doesn't mean they know how to attract woman. People can get laid just by being in the right place and right time, this doesn't make them any better than you. In fact I'd argue you are better than them because you ar… | /r/seduction | 20/06/22 07:22 AM |
| 3 | What is something you've learned throughout your seduction journey?Which part of this do you not agree with? | /r/seduction | 20/06/22 01:35 AM |
| 1 | I think I'm hitting a plateau and don't know what the next step isNothing's happening because you aren't escalating and leading the interaction to the next stage. The next stage can ONLY happen if you isolate her in privacy and ask her to leave the venue with you. If that's what you want of course. Club game is more about body language and striking when the iron is hot, not trying to charm them with words or a funny story. Dance with them. Touch them when you dance, hands, shoulders, lower back, spin em around, grind with em, bring your face close to their nec… | /r/seduction | 20/06/22 01:14 AM |
| 8 | need a good comebackare you asking me for a swim date? i'll consider it... | /r/seduction | 20/06/22 12:48 AM |
| 1 | How do you physically escalate without being creepy?https://pdfcoffee.com/kino-escalation-ladder-2nd-edition-vin-dicarlo-5-pdf-free.html https://www.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/hlmra/dicarlo_escalation_ladder_concise_and_emphasized/ Read and study this. Take notes. Soak it in and then apply it. Trust it, it works. | /r/seduction | 20/06/22 12:22 AM |
| 1 | Can someone volunteer to review my Tinder profile?hit me up via dms i can give you my thoughts | /r/seduction | 19/06/22 11:54 PM |
| 1 | What are the differences in seducing someone in their college years, someone who has finished school, and someone who is well into their career?Younger girls play more games and older woman tend to be more straight forward. Recognize that and adjust your normal game to exploit that fact. | /r/seduction | 19/06/22 09:36 PM |
| 1 | Did I choke the close here?It's not dead yet. If I were you I'd reach out to the mutual friend and secure the number if YOU still want more interactions with her. I personally find sexually open women hot. And the fact that she was openly sexual but then controlled herself at the end to deny you, rather seductive. And if you do get her number and go out, it can be a fun game where now it's your turn to subtly deny her sexually and purposely tease her and YOU get to choose when to fuck her. This will drive her nuts because… | /r/seduction | 19/06/22 09:32 PM |
| 13 | Had the time of my life at a club last nightClubs and music festivals are a great way to build your confidence. Endless girls and guys to approach and work on social skills and you just dance and enjoy yourself if it doesn't pan out. Win win scenario. It helps a lot too if you like electronic music too and follow the scene. | /r/seduction | 19/06/22 09:26 PM |
| 1 | Asked a girl for her number and then she told me she doesn’t give out her number to strangersGood job approaching first of all. Baby steps and you took the first one! Now understand as others have said, you must build some rapport before going for the number. This typically takes minimum a few minutes of conversation. Imagine if a stranger came up to you and asked for your number right after introducing yourself. You would feel confronted and hesistant because you don't know them and first thought is what if they are weird and do something malicious to me. So yea, no thanks not gonna gi… | /r/seduction | 19/06/22 09:24 PM |
| 3 | Did I choke the close here?Yea you did choke. Basically last minute resistance, pretty common with girls with not wanting to feel slutty or wanting to know the guy more. Should have called her out on her game and teased her about being sexual all night and now being too tired to have some private time between you two. If she's still saying no, then accept it like a man and say we will have to continue our encounter next time 😏. This continues to build the tension, and shows confidence because you aren't so thirsty and des… | /r/seduction | 19/06/22 09:17 PM |
| 1 | is cheating really that common? how are so many other guys able to find women who are willing to cheat with them?You don't know shit about how much others put into their lives to improve themselves and attract women. You only see and hear about the success but you don't know what happens behind the scenes. People get rewarded in public for what they practice in private. People like you only see the success of others and whine and complain about how life isn't fair. Shut up and go do something about. Pro life tip, everyone who is successful in life has to work hard one way or another. Yes, everyone. Even th… | /r/seduction | 19/06/22 08:52 PM |
| 5 | No you’re not working too hard to get womenTop quality post 💯 agree and it is exactly what I did to become the man I am today. Having once been an inexperienced man in my early 20s with women, it hurts me to see some of the garbage being posted here in this sub. | /r/seduction | 19/06/22 08:36 PM |
| 50 | What is something you've learned throughout your seduction journey?This is more from a long term relationship perspective, but I think it can apply in the initial phases of dating as well in a more subtle manner. Most women, whether they know it or not, want a dependable man in their life that they can trust to lead them, help them navigate through life while having fun. Don't confuse this with simping. You do NOT try to gain their trust and show leadership by doing them favours and catering to their every need. Just don't. The first part is biological survival… | /r/seduction | 19/06/22 06:35 PM |
| 12 | What is something you've learned throughout your seduction journey?You need to hang out with higher quality people if this is what you've learned from women. | /r/seduction | 19/06/22 06:19 PM |
| 1 | What is something you've learned throughout your seduction journey?Life logistics and timing and life goals is a real external factor when talking about long term relationships. It's a different game than the initial attraction phase, which is what this sub is focussed on | /r/seduction | 19/06/22 06:17 PM |
| 2 | What is the right and healthy mindset to adopt if you’ve never had success with women before?Start small and counting your small wins as success. Such as simply looking women in the eye and saying hi. Thats a win. Then once you get some momentum from these small wins, you do more such as actually approaching, maybe just to ask for directions or something indirect. That's another win. You build on this, understanding that your expectation is just to accumulate small wins to build your confidence and mindset. Then move on to approaching and actually having a normal conversation. Then ask … | /r/seduction | 19/06/22 05:06 PM |
| 11 | I'd say for most of the women that let you fuck them, you are actually the price. You still gotta "pursue" a bit, but its just formality. Opposite to the women that have no interest. But some guys struggle to see the difference.Ya gotta feel for the newbs who come and see this top voted bs and take it as gospel without understanding the nuances behind that statement. It's true to some extent but not in the way they generalize and throw blanket, emotionally driven statements. Christ just read rest of comments here and it's a mess. No wonder some newbs are so jaded reading this shit, people posting wildly absurd takes and acting as if it's gospel | /r/seduction | 19/06/22 04:50 PM |
| 3 | Even drugs don't helpYou were right, you should avoid buying a girl a shot just because she asked you to. If she leaves cuz of that, she was never interested to being with. She was interested in the shot. Figure out why you feel ashamed to show interest and then tackle that from the root. It's generally a fear of rejection from my personal expeirnece, once you figure that out then you must take action to remedy that. | /r/seduction | 18/06/22 06:01 PM |
| -2 | Women with "Woke" or "Toxic Feminism" mentality - Is it worth the effort to date these type of women?It's not worth it bro don't bother | /r/seduction | 18/06/22 04:33 PM |
| 1 | Women with "Woke" or "Toxic Feminism" mentality - Is it worth the effort to date these type of women?Nope. I have 0 attraction for these people and wouldn't even want to be their friend, never mind romantic partner. Stay far away and understand the minority of women are not like this. When you meet someone like this, try not to engage and just acceot that you fundamentally just will not vibe and get along and move on. Don't dwell on it or spend too much energy or emotion on it. Let them have their views and outrage, just do not engage in it. | /r/seduction | 18/06/22 04:28 PM |
| 4 | PSA: The truth about dating apps from an insiderGreat post and I'm surprised more people don't already know this. Or they do, but just choose not to think about it. I view dating apps as nothing more than another avenue to meet people. If something lines up great and I go in with open mind. If no matches it's all good, I have other avenues to meet women. | /r/seduction | 18/06/22 04:25 PM |
| 1 | Escalation Game Advice: Going to festival with this girl, she wanna keep her stuff at my place and have dinner before festivalDon't simp and put her on a pedestal. Dont be needy. I'm already getting these vibes from your post, just try your best to not do these things. No dinner. Pregame drinks before. Pregame is to establish rapport and comfort. Banter and joke around and talk about fun stuff. At the festival, don't talk as much, focus on dancing and body language and eye contact and smiling. Music is too loud that talking is ineffective. If you must talk, speak directly into her ear, use your hand to cup so the sound… | /r/seduction | 18/06/22 04:10 PM |
| 1 | Even drugs don't helpStop thinking about other men who aren't on your level. This sense of competition feeds a toxic mindset of you telling yourself you aren't good enough or there is something wrong with you. Focus on yourself and how you can be better. Look to others for inspiration and direction on how to be better. They are more than on your level if they can approach and talk to girls, in that one specific regard. And because they can do this well, they don't need to be "on your level" in terms of money and oth… | /r/seduction | 18/06/22 03:59 PM |
| 4 | Do Asian girls usually act weird when approached?Asians are generally more shy and reserved, especially when interacting with non Asians. Don't take it personally. | /r/seduction | 18/06/22 03:53 PM |
| 1 | How do I avoid establishing a friend-vibe with my next door neighbor at my apartment complex?Have fun conversations and banter with her. Go out together for drinks. Escalate via dicarlo escalation ladder (look it up id you don't know). Don't do the whole dinner date thing. | /r/seduction | 18/06/22 03:47 PM |
| 86 | Women, do you like getting approached in public?Here's the quick answer, it doesn't matter. Some women are gonna like it and some aren't. It was always going to be like this. You have to just do what YOU want and decide on the type of girl you want to attract. And the only way to do that is to talk to more girls. And to talk to more girls, you have to approach. 🤔🤔🤔 | /r/seduction | 18/06/22 02:35 AM |
| 18 | Non Asshole way to get a girl out of your house after sex…This guy knows what's up 💯 classy tip on the driving them home too, provided y'all had a good time of course | /r/seduction | 18/06/22 02:24 AM |
| 1 | Approached, I guess, still need help.I wish too bro, but brother keep trying and use that as motivation to be bolder and be more decisive. Learn to accept rejections as nothing more than what they are, a simple no in a moment of time. Any other time it really could be different, but alas you will never know because you only had one chance. and you tried your best at the time. And if you didn't try your best, well then you know to will have to just try harder for next time. Try harder as in be more decisive and swift, avoid self dou… | /r/seduction | 18/06/22 12:38 AM |
| 0 | Opening Line for someone who does jiu jitsu?Hey u watch ufc? | /r/seduction | 18/06/22 12:09 AM |
| 3 | I (M23) Invited a girl (F23) I like to my party, how and when do I talk to herYou forget about all this overthinking and these questions and focus on the following things. 1)Have fun and talk to EVERYONE, girl or guy doesn't matter. Ask people how they know each other, ask about what they do for fun, talk about your hobbies, sports, music, shows or events, trips coming up, any funny stories during the pandemic etc. Avoid boring questions. Play drinking games. Give people shit and then laugh and say you were just kidding and let's go get a drink. Talk to people for 5-10 mi… | /r/seduction | 17/06/22 11:53 PM |
| 1 | Being silent/laid back can ruin you?Nice explanation, I agree 💯. It's not about being fake, it's about being flexible, open minded, not fearing rejection and willingness to have different perspectives. | /r/seduction | 17/06/22 10:31 PM |
| 2 | Being silent/laid back can ruin you?You are right, being curious is actually the key. Be curious about everything and everyone. It's not always about gaining or losing something, you are just curious for your own amusement. I'll give another anecdote. I attended a martial arts class when I graduated school and was job searching. And one of the guys there was very helpful in coaching me on my technique. Very friendly and made it a fun time for me. We got talking and realized we were both engineers and he helped me land a job interv… | /r/seduction | 17/06/22 10:21 PM |
| 1 | Are women are weird now? Got dates and asked for sex by playing League of LegendsSmall sample size, don't make generalizations about women based on a few experiences. Women be weird and crazy, sometimes you just don't click and sometimes you do. Banter, quality conversations, flirting will always be effective to some degree. | /r/seduction | 17/06/22 10:14 PM |
| 2 | Being silent/laid back can ruin you?Every friend you ever had in life was a stranger before they gave you their time, interest and affection. Why did they give those things to a stranger they just met? Because you bonded and connected and share details of your life over a period of time. You realized you relate to each other and enjoy each other's company on some level. If nobody shared anything about themselves or opened up, no one would be friends. You aren't hoping to get anything from anyone, don't think so far ahead. You are … | /r/seduction | 17/06/22 10:08 PM |
| 1 | Is there a reason why the girls I hook up with get drunk beforehand?They are nervous and want to be more social to make it less awkward. They enjoy being drunk for sex. Who knows who cares, focus on yourself. | /r/seduction | 17/06/22 09:55 PM |
| 1 | Is it true that sex/relationships aren't as great as everyone makes them out to be? Should the pussy be taken off the pedestal?Separate sex and relationship until you are actually in a relationship, then they can blend together to become something magical. Until then, treat and view sex as something that's really fun. It's a fun, playful, enjoyable activity and you are trying to see who wants to have fun and who has sexual chemistry with you. A relationship is something sacred that only those whom you deem worthy of sharing your life and time with. If they are hot and you have great sex, but she doesn't meet your bar to… | /r/seduction | 17/06/22 09:49 PM |
| 1 | This girl been acting weird. Not sure what she wants from meJudge people by their actions not their words. Be upfront and tell her you cannot engage with someone who is disrespectful to your time and affection, and based on her actions, she is not contributing value to your life and thus would like to cut her out and move on. Straightforward and honest to the point. No games or wishy washy bullshit. Stand up for yourself and don't let a woman manipulate your feelings and well being for her own ego. | /r/seduction | 17/06/22 09:41 PM |
| 1 | How would you interpret if a girl says something like, I’ll do so and so (sexual stuff) for any guy that does this for me? (What she asked for is free and takes no little to no effort)It's her indirect way of inviting you. She thinks by insinuating sex she can get you to take action to ask her out. Up to you if you want to engage with her or not. I know you said she's kinda unattractive but it could be fun and if you don't have much experience, you can go in with an open mind with no pressure. You can go with the flow and you decide to have sex with her not. | /r/seduction | 17/06/22 09:35 PM |
| 1 | Being silent/laid back can ruin you?You already know the answer to this. Being a quiet and reserved person will not do you any favours in life. I was this person before and still am in certain ways. But growing up I came to the realization that to succeed in this world, you need the help of others. And to get the help of others, you cannot be quiet and shy and reserved. My girl is also very shy and quiet when around new people, but not when she's around me, friends and family. She is very outgoing around people she is comfortable … | /r/seduction | 17/06/22 09:22 PM |
| 3 | Are we as men working too hard to get women?Christ, this post became a pity party. Take action and take control of your lives. Complaining and finding solace in others like you won't make your lives better. | /r/seduction | 16/06/22 04:16 AM |
| 0 | Have You Ever Tried to Pick Up a Waitress in Your Favorite Place For CoffeeIf you think she was flirting, then she was flirting. Dont let these haters detract you from what you experienced and felt in person. They don't know shit. If you get rejected, you get rejected, really no big deal and nothing more to it. But if you let these doubts seep in your mind, you will erode your own confidence and then being rejected will be a self fulfilling prophecy. Have confidence and believe in yourself when you think they are flirting with you. Understand that you may be interpreta… | /r/seduction | 14/06/22 02:41 AM |
| 1 | Have You Ever Tried to Pick Up a Waitress in Your Favorite Place For CoffeeNice that's actually so good. Hope others can take inspiration from that | /r/seduction | 14/06/22 02:37 AM |
| 38 | Cold approach actually works.The amount of people arguing about why cold approach doesn't work in an post example of a cold approach that resulted in a happy ending is astounding. The state of this sub really needs some better energy. | /r/seduction | 14/06/22 02:07 AM |
| 1 | Why am I rejected by lower SMV women than myself?Date higher SMV girls then. Don't ask just do. It won't be any harder if you are higher value like you said. | /r/seduction | 13/06/22 10:09 PM |
| 1 | whats the step by step for getting dates/sex??Because everything I described is about your mindset. Everything im telling you is what worked for me. I've wasted enough time trying to help. Clearly it's not getting through. Good luck. | /r/seduction | 12/06/22 05:45 AM |
| 1 | whats the step by step for getting dates/sex??It's not simple; I've never said this was simple. It requires you to be honest with yourself and to spend the time and effort to reflect on yourself and change how you view yourself, life and others. There is no simple answer. It's not do x y z and achieve results. Life's not a video game. It's trial and error using your own personal best judgment and being diligent and accountable for your own success and failures. There is no step by step to help you achieve success. There are only guidelines,… | /r/seduction | 12/06/22 02:06 AM |
| 1 | whats the step by step for getting dates/sex??I'm not going to further waste time explaining anything to you when you are just combative. I'm asking you because I want you to tell me what you think a good mindset is. If you do not know or are unsure, then go think about it. Like actually sit down with pen and paper and think about what that actually means to you. And logic out why you think it would be beneficial for you to improve your social skills and hence ability to talk to and attract girls. | /r/seduction | 12/06/22 12:09 AM |
| 1 | whats the step by step for getting dates/sex??What does a good mindset mean for you? | /r/seduction | 12/06/22 12:04 AM |
| 2 | Sh*t Test Or Flat Out Insult?Who cares. Move on, it's online and it's a no. And christ, this is what qualifies as a field report these days... The state of this sub 😬... | /r/seduction | 11/06/22 11:47 PM |
| 2 | What comes first, chicken or the egg problem.If you have severe problems with your social skills and a bad mindset then work on yourself first. If you aren't terribly lost in the social skills department, it's best to do it concurrently. Learn on the fly with girls as you approach and gain more confidence doing it. And also work on yourself doing other things so you gain confidence outside of just girls. Both will transfer and feed into each other and fuel growth in both areas as long as you work hard and aren't afraid of rejection and fai… | /r/seduction | 11/06/22 11:43 PM |
| 11 | Hit the bars alone -You dont need an excuse. An excuse implies there is something wrong with what you are doing or you are embarrassed to be out by yourself. You aren't. If you want to go out alone you go out alone. If someone asks (people rarely ask and probe), just state you are here by yourself enjoying a drink. There's no need to elaborate or further follow unless they ask (again people will rarely ask). If they do ask, you just tell them why you are out, stated as very matter of fact. yea I just wanted to grab… | /r/seduction | 11/06/22 11:39 PM |
| 2 | I don't know where to start, I moved again + my story - need advice!First off great job and attitude to looking at improving yourself. I suspect it's your success sin helping your fathers business in the past that gave you new found confidence that carried into your social life. Try to recapture that momentum by creating success in other areas of your life. Small successes will build on each other. As for small town social group, that's gonna be a tough one if you don't vibe with em all that well. I would just try your best anyways and keep an openmind. And try … | /r/seduction | 11/06/22 11:32 PM |
| 1 | whats the step by step for getting dates/sex??I wouldn't want to hang out with you simply based on how you post. It can't be any better in person and certainly not for girls. So yes in our opinion, it is indeed a mindset problem no matter how much you want to say it's not. | /r/seduction | 11/06/22 11:26 PM |
| 1 | Any advice on this energy-drying crushing thing?You'll fb stalk but you won't talk. Lol seriously... | /r/seduction | 11/06/22 10:34 PM |
| 2 | Asked a girl to dance then didn't know what to doPretty common expeirnece asking girls to dance when you have litlr experience. If she didn't say no, that means she was at least ok with you in her personal space and possibly touching. The problem is most girls are shy or anxious about the overall approach, so they rely on the guy to lead the interaction. The problem is when the guy is also hesitant and waiting for a positive reaction from the girl to start making moves. Which will never come because she's waiting for the man to lead. This awkw… | /r/seduction | 11/06/22 10:10 PM |
| 2 | whats the step by step for getting dates/sex??This guy responds like this constantly to every person who tries to help him. I've tried and so have others. He's beyond us at this point. His goal isn't to improve; he just wants someone to validate his experience of why his life isn't going to way he's fantasizing about. Validate how it's all due to some external factor that's caused all his life problems and any advice we give is bs because it doesn't align with his previous experience. 🤷 You know how this goes... | /r/seduction | 11/06/22 09:51 PM |
| 1 | Made out with two girls and fucked one of themYou have to work through the girl you already know. The key is to be super upfront and honest, and say you think her friend is cute, do y'all want to hang out again together? If you try to go about it separately, she will think you are choosing her friend over her, despite you being friends and are hooking up. Women feel all kinds of jealousy and betrayal from this stuff. But if you are honest and just mention how her friend is attractive, that doesn't change anything between you and her. You ar… | /r/seduction | 11/06/22 09:47 PM |
| 1 | I failed tonight, and I don't know why.What are some things you like to do in life that makes you happy and feel confident afterwards? Something you genuinely enjoy and are passionate about. If you can't think of anything, then you need to think harder. Then do it, be happy about it after and then commit to going out after doing said thing. And you have no expectations other than to have fun, enjoy yourself. And you will do this through meeting and chatting with people, men or women. Self amusement from people watching. Enjoying a dr… | /r/seduction | 11/06/22 07:58 PM |
| 5 | Any advice on this energy-drying crushing thing?Now imagine if he had the same attitude, so good luck never communicating with each other. | /r/seduction | 11/06/22 05:17 PM |
| 6 | whats the step by step for getting dates/sex??I do have success. I met my current gf the love of my life through improving myself and learning about dating through trial and error from approaching. I approached her on a packed train, which 99% of people on this sub will never do and would rather write ten pages of excuses as to why they can't do it rather than just doing it. It's also through this relationship as well that I learned much more about women, dating, attraction and communication. | /r/seduction | 11/06/22 05:11 PM |
| 3 | Displaying confidence, working on confidenceMy mentality is that you just approach and ask for number confidently. You do not need to verbally tell her you want her to feel comfortable and safe. You make her FEEL that way by the way you carry yourself and approach. Verbally saying this makes it awkward and weird Imo. Just be natural and confident. If you are confident, rejection is the last thing on your mind, and if it does happen, you are already prepared for it, so it's no big deal. Woman are grown adults, they can muster up the courag… | /r/seduction | 11/06/22 04:52 PM |
| 5 | Any advice on this energy-drying crushing thing?I think in the time and effort you spent over analyzing you could have just talked to him. You said you value communication yet you cannot do it yourself. | /r/seduction | 11/06/22 04:46 PM |
| 6 | How will you describe a 10/10 guy?Don't ask women on reddit. Women on reddit are generally not ones you want to attract. Most have skewed perceptions of men and bias towards what THEY like and want. Also what they tell you is a 10/10 may not necessarily also be what's required to initially make them feel attracted to you. Attraction is an emotional thing and can often conflict with what women tell you they like. Generalizing but it is what it is. FDS is a prime example. I actually get physically sick when I read what women post … | /r/seduction | 11/06/22 04:40 PM |
| 2 | I failed tonight, and I don't know why.Nothing really went wrong other than the fact that you didn't do much of anything and you also didn't set yourself up for success. Try a better game plan next time that will help you succeed better. You were already tired when you went. You talked to one girl and it didn't go as smoothly as you wanted. Then you left. Then you question your self confidence after you beat yourself up. | /r/seduction | 11/06/22 04:38 PM |
| 2 | Turning her fear into attraction(Hypothesis)It'll probably work. This spike and swing in emotions and proving her assumptions wrong is very good for making woman feel some type of way. Of course this hinges on you actually being a nice person and not just being fake nice. And also not maliciously and purposely trying to scare her. Maybe your style and facial expressions are just naturally intimidating and that's who you are, so you own up to it. But internally you are a really nice person. | /r/seduction | 11/06/22 04:30 PM |
| 15 | whats the step by step for getting dates/sex??Don't be so thirsty. Instead of thinking about sex already, think about how if you will have a good time on the date. Then if you find her attractive on the date and you guys have chemistry, after she has passed your bar, then sex can be on the table. This will allow you to be way less needy, less pressure and reframe the situation where she has to impress you. Of course this doesn't mean you cant still plan and prepare all the logistics for the possibility of sex. This way, if it seems like it … | /r/seduction | 11/06/22 04:23 PM |
| 1 | As weak as this sounds, I want to ask a girl/girls who ignored or ghosted me what’s wrong with meIt's really hard to say what the issue is based on what you post online. But it's probably one of two things or both. Your weak mindset and mentality let's people step all over you. They don't respect you because you allow this and they get a thrill out of it knowing they hold something over it. You perceive there to be something wrong with you when there probably isn't, so you act in a way that projects low self confidence. Your friends and people you interact with are low value people and shit… | /r/seduction | 11/06/22 04:16 PM |
| 1 | Successful flirt attempt? Or not?Sounds like a fine conversation, a little nervous on your part. Follow the advice someone said of saying something boldly or not at all. Don't throw in meek qualifiers to put you back in the middle like not to make it awkward etc. It's only awkward if you think it's awkward and make it awkward. Continue to be friendly and polite and chat her up when you see her and see where it goes. Don't be needy and be open to whatever happens. Be confident in what you are doing and remember to be yourself. | /r/seduction | 11/06/22 04:07 PM |
| 6 | Should I just give up and focus and “improve” myself or continue trying to get better at the game and going out and approachingPeople go to school for much longer. Having the skills to attract woman so you can meet your soul mate eventually is arguably more important than most things in life. Pick your priorities. It's always easier to pick up your phone and jerk off to some Porn and call it a day. But is that the life you envision for yourself years down the road? | /r/seduction | 11/06/22 03:59 PM |
| 9 | I hate to admit it but I’m jealous of my friend who doesn’t seem to struggle at allLol girls can simp too when roles are reversed | /r/seduction | 11/06/22 04:49 AM |
| 3 | Confidence, assertiveness - so hot!Yes its literally like 90% of men struggling on this sub. Seems to be a common theme with the overthinking analytic and introverted personalities of some men. For women, this comes naturally and maybe the disconnect in dating is the woman don't really understand this perspective from men. They can't fathom how someone could be so out of tune socially when to most women it seems like a no brainer. Well, as you can see, it's a common issue and why some men are misunderstood to be creepy when they … | /r/seduction | 11/06/22 02:21 AM |
| 1 | How do I hit up a girl that I barely know?Real talk 💯 | /r/seduction | 11/06/22 01:53 AM |
| 1 | Not escalating/leading quickly = unconfident? {FR}From someone who goes to a lot of shows, understand that girls just come and go at edm shows. Most are super cool and chill if they go lots and some younger ones are more nervous and anxious about everything that happens. And some girls are just really open and touchy feely and like to play with people's attention because they can. Enjoy the moment and the chemistry and try to escalate if you can. If they reject you or your escalation fails, just move on. | /r/seduction | 11/06/22 01:50 AM |
| 5 | When girls respond with "thank you :)" after initial textIf this isn't a troll shit post, no. In no context, would you ever say that to any girl. That's just rude and unsavory bro and ANY girl who is actually pyscho enough to be attracted to someone who talks like that to them would be major red 🚩 Be a better person. | /r/seduction | 11/06/22 01:35 AM |
| 2 | How to not make it weird when approaching acquaintancesYou need to it make it obvious it's date from your prior interactions through words (flirting) and or body language (touching eye contact etc). You have to flirt and escalate to indicate that you are romantically or sexually interested in her. Then find out something you have in common or both like and suggest a hang out based on that common subject. If you showed proper intent and she likes you enough, she will agree to hanging out. If it's not obvious, and she still agrees to hang out, you hav… | /r/seduction | 11/06/22 01:31 AM |
| 1 | How do I tell her I don’t want anything serious ? we’ve been hanging out around a monthHey I'm just trying to be a good guy here and wanna let you know I'm leaving in a month so I can't commit to anything serious. But you are super cool to hang out with and if you like hanging out with me too, we should make sure we have some crazy sex before I leave 😉 | /r/seduction | 11/06/22 01:27 AM |
| 1 | When I'm with girls 1-on-1 at parties, what do I talk about ?Saying this is actually probably better than most of the stupid responses here lmao. Alternate between saying do you eat ass audibly and mumbling it, with the loud music it'll take a few rounds for her to hear, just repeat it until you make it clear you are just fucking with her with a shit eating grin lmao The true answer for those who say nobodies know is, you literally talk about anything you want and make it FUN. Don't talk about shit that's not fun. Ain't nobody wanna talk about how many br… | /r/seduction | 11/06/22 01:23 AM |
| 2 | Did anyone notice THIS in a Bar/Club?I've actually only seen this happen once in real life. I'd love to hear others chime in how often this actually occurs because I'm under the impression that this doesn't happen that often. And when it does, it's a combination of good natural game, confident balls to quickly escalate and immediate physical attraction and a good ole bit of luck with right time right place right person kinda deal. | /r/seduction | 11/06/22 01:19 AM |
| 1 | Is me being cold and distant scaring women off?Depends if that's the kind of person you want to be seen as. It can actually work in your favour if you can approach confidently. Their first impression of you is intimidating, scary and unfriendly. But then you approach and are actually quite courteous and friendly and confident. This 180 flip of their assumption and proving women wrong can spike all kinds of emotions in them, provided you approach properly. This is also assuming if you aren't completely inexperienced and have some level of soc… | /r/seduction | 11/06/22 01:13 AM |
| 13 | Girls are Attracted to Men's Positive/High Energy and Smile, so Much That...The reason is because positive happy energy implies abundance and you can add value to their lives. Versus if you are down, low energy and negative you can take away energy from their lives if they interact with you. Everyone prefers to get something rather than to give something and will thus naturally be drawn towards someone who can give value. | /r/seduction | 11/06/22 01:09 AM |
| 1 | Girl acts differently when talking to meDoesn't matter, like others said trying to get a read on her before a date is overthinking and pointless. Go and enjoy the date. For me, I actually think the whole situation is interesting. She's nice and soft to you and you enjoy that vibe. What's it to you how she is with her friends? If anything you should feel special you get a different side of hers other than her friends. The fun part is you won't know which one is her most genuine self and personality. So if you want, make it a fun game. … | /r/seduction | 11/06/22 01:07 AM |
| 1 | Is there a point to bother when you are going to be someone's 2nd+ choice at best?I get your frustration and it's ok to vent once in a while, but to be honest that isn't the purpose of this sub. We are here to help each other and share insights on how to better attract woman. Venting and complaining is detrimental to that and also invites other people to join in on the wallow wagon. This can warp others, especially less experienced and already low confidence people's perception of woman because they see your venting as reinforcement for whatever faulty or unhealthy assumption… | /r/seduction | 10/06/22 09:17 PM |
| 2 | Is there a point to bother when you are going to be someone's 2nd+ choice at best?People treat you bad because your mindset sucks. It's not your fucking height bro. Look at everyone's response compared to how you respond. It's just negative energy over and over again. Just responding to you is sapping my energy and diminishing my mood. If it's that bad online, I can't even imagine talking to you in person. Stop blaming external factors and fix your mindset. | /r/seduction | 10/06/22 07:39 PM |
| 1 | Is there a point to bother when you are going to be someone's 2nd+ choice at best?Are these generalizations helping you attract women and be a better person? If you met a super awesome chick and everything about her was great, but she has small tits. Would you dump her? Sure, if you really care that much about the size of someone's breasts and it means that much to your overall enjoyment of the relationship, drop her and find someone with bigger tits. People like that actually exist out there. Some would describe them as shallow. You don't want to date these people, so be hap… | /r/seduction | 10/06/22 07:33 PM |
| 2 | Is there a point to bother when you are going to be someone's 2nd+ choice at best?Are you short fat and bald? Do you have autism? Why are you concerned whether or not women desire these people? The only thing that matters is if women desire YOU. You want to blame your height and physical attributes, things that you cannot control for your failures. Is height and looking good something universally desired by women? Probably yes, but my point is every girl weights it differently especially when relative to other considerations such as style, chemistry, humour, personality, life… | /r/seduction | 10/06/22 06:07 PM |
| 4 | Is there a point to bother when you are going to be someone's 2nd+ choice at best?Why do some men prefer blondes and other brunettes? Why do some men prefer girls who are shy and submissive and others prefer women who are able to challenge them? Do all men enjoy nice ass and tits? Yes. Does that mean there isn't individual variation in what people think as attractive? No. She can have nice ass and tits, but maybe she's too assertive for me, so that brings down my level of attraction for her. Everyone's rules and scale is different, and sometimes external factors can super sed… | /r/seduction | 10/06/22 03:09 PM |
| 5 | Is there a point to bother when you are going to be someone's 2nd+ choice at best?He's right. Read your comment and evaluate the way you view women and yourself. Change your scarcity mindset. | /r/seduction | 10/06/22 03:04 PM |
| 1 | What do you do/say in this situation?Yeaaa this ain't it chief. She gonna dry up faster than the Sahara desert if she heard this. On second thought, if you said this with a shit eating grin and clear sarcasm and you have lots of confidence it could work, but only because you are mocking the idea of it. | /r/seduction | 10/06/22 03:00 PM |
| 1 | What do you do/say in this situation?You know reverse psychology doesn't work on me right? | /r/seduction | 10/06/22 02:57 PM |
| 2 | Kissed my date last night mid sentence.Good luck on being successful at anything in life if you are ok with not taking initiative. This is not something you should accept as your personality. Everyone should strive to take initiative in their lives. | /r/seduction | 10/06/22 03:35 AM |
| 1 | Kissed my date last night mid sentence.Who gives a shit. Just do it you pussy and find out. She'll either reject you or enjoy it. Anything else is overthinking, which is what everyone on this sub does too much of. | /r/seduction | 10/06/22 03:27 AM |
| 2 | Kissed my date last night mid sentence.That's actually what women think. They think if men don't initiate, then they assume he isn't interested. Or worse, he's a pussy. Both assumptions will kill any attraction she has for you. You are a man. You won't attract women thinking like a woman. Lead and initiate, take risks and do not allow the fear of rejection dictate your actions. Will some women initiate if they want you to escalate? Sure a minority will, but will the majority? No. So if you want to play the losing game and miss out on… | /r/seduction | 10/06/22 03:22 AM |
| 1 | How to know what mistakes I am making on dates?Just because you kiss her doesn't meant you lost your mystery. Kiss her always on first dates. It shows you are bold and confident enough to do so which is attractive, and also shows you desire her sexually, which is what gets women juices running. Following that logic, every time you bone a chick she will lose interest in you because you revealed your hand. How much sense does that make? | /r/seduction | 09/06/22 09:40 PM |
| 2 | Sober in the night clubMusic is key. Enjoy the music and go for the music and social vibes. Don't go with the goal of meeting girls. | /r/seduction | 09/06/22 05:32 PM |
| 1 | How does vulnerability lead to non-neediness?That's the right attitude brother. Feel free to dm if u ever need a boost | /r/seduction | 09/06/22 05:24 PM |
| 2 | Why can’t I even look women in the eyes?Just do it. Stop making excuses about why you can't and start making reasons for why you can. | /r/seduction | 09/06/22 03:30 PM |
| 2 | How does vulnerability lead to non-neediness?Nobody ever has it fully figured out, everyone is always working on some part of themselves. You never wait to take action. Stop viewing yourself as someone who needs to he fixed, this implies you are broken. Yes you have problems, but you are someone who is working to be the best version of yourself. The difference in how you view yourself is subtle but profound. | /r/seduction | 09/06/22 02:49 PM |
| 1 | Kissed my date last night mid sentence.Bro you are on a date, girls expect romance. A kiss is one of the most basic things in romance. It's really not that big of a deal. They expect it. You want it. So give it. | /r/seduction | 09/06/22 04:47 AM |
| 1 | How does vulnerability lead to non-neediness?Very nice response with specific action items someone could go and do right away! Whether they do it or not is a different question, but thanks for sharing! | /r/seduction | 09/06/22 04:03 AM |
| 1 | How does vulnerability lead to non-neediness?Worthless comment lol. Try contributing something of value | /r/seduction | 09/06/22 04:02 AM |
| 2 | How does vulnerability lead to non-neediness?That's the right mentality bro. DM me if u wanna chat or have questions, I had similar experiences when I was younger | /r/seduction | 09/06/22 03:49 AM |
| 1 | How does vulnerability lead to non-neediness?Being authentic is more than just revealing your deepest and intimate details of your life. It can be one aspect of it I think, but it's more than just pouring your heart and emotions for the sake of doing it. To me, being authentic means being the in moment and present and true to who you are. But a caveat to this is you also need to accept and be happy and comfortable with who you are. If you aren't comfortable with who you are, you view yourself as needy, as a nerdy quiet virgin, you put your… | /r/seduction | 09/06/22 03:47 AM |
| 1 | How does vulnerability lead to non-neediness?Reframe your mindset brother. Imagine living in a world so restrictive that you cannot make conversation with a stranger. And the reason is to protect those who don't want to be bothered by others, so everyone else has to abide by those restrictive rules. How invasive of my rights. It's my freedom and right to talk to anyone about anything. They don't have to further engage me or even like what I'm doing, but it is my right to do so. And the socially calibrated enough and well put together man y… | /r/seduction | 09/06/22 02:11 AM |
| 1 | How does vulnerability lead to non-neediness?Probably because you have only done it once, so naturally yes, you were bad at it and the girl reacted negatively. You rationalize excuses to not do cold approach because you were rejected in your one and only attempt. In essence, you gave up after trying once. Give up the ego, stop protecting it and accept that rejection is part of life. | /r/seduction | 08/06/22 08:29 PM |
| 1 | How does vulnerability lead to non-neediness?Being vulnerable and being authentic is very critical, but it is also a very abstract concept that not a lot of people understand. It is especially challenging and confusing for those who already have low self confidence or little success with women. To be vulnerable and authentic is to be who you are without worrying about rejection OR acceptance. It just is and you are just you. You can talk about being a virgin at 22 and explain you don't even know why you are one, it has just never happened.… | /r/seduction | 08/06/22 08:22 PM |
| 2 | New girl at work acting weird what’s her game? I’m suspiciousYa gotta chill and go with the flow. She's obviously into you, so just relax a bit and joke around with her if you find her attractive. Don't put yourself down and say why would she be into you. Just accept it and use the ego boost. | /r/seduction | 06/06/22 05:22 AM |
| 2 | what could I have done better?Probably should have ended with a hug or kiss, but other than that, date sounds like it went well. Just go out again for drinks and amp up the banter and break the touch barrier. Look up the dicarlo escalation ladder and try it out. | /r/seduction | 06/06/22 05:18 AM |
| 1 | So are “opening lines” played out at this point?It is what it is bro. Be pragmatic and do you. | /r/seduction | 06/06/22 05:09 AM |
| 12 | How to stop obsessing over one girl?You talk to other women and preoccupy your life with other people and things. She becomes an after thought once you do this and realize how silly your infatuation was to begin with. | /r/seduction | 06/06/22 02:47 AM |
| 1 | So are “opening lines” played out at this point?It's a boring starter regardless of whether it's coming from men or women. You are right, women are even more guilty of this because they have little experience approaching, so they can't come up with much more than hey or hi. My opinion is that as the man, it's your duty to initiate and lead the interaction to be better than the bare minimum. It's unfair but that's the way it is and has always been. We should all strive to be better than normal and to stand out. Imagine if you are interviewing … | /r/seduction | 06/06/22 02:44 AM |
| 0 | So are “opening lines” played out at this point?Hi how are you? Good. How are you? Good. This is how 99% of these conversations go online AND in person. Sure it's "normal", but why do you want to be normal? Girls have a million messages and matches, and have seen this opener a million times and knows that it's boring and leads to nowhere and is generally a waste of time. That's why they say don't do it, because they are literally telling you it's bad. I work in an office and hear this pleasantry exchanged more often than I'd like, so I know t… | /r/seduction | 06/06/22 12:46 AM |
| 3 | Roommate(F) brought other girl back homeShe lives there, she can do whatever she wants. This is why you don't fuck your roommates because ppl get butthurt over this stuff and cause drama. | /r/seduction | 06/06/22 12:38 AM |
| 1 | Moving professional relationship to something moreHey so since the projects over now, let's grab grab some drinks at X on X? I think it would be fun! Just invite and ask. Anything other than a fuck yes is probably a rejection | /r/seduction | 06/06/22 12:36 AM |
| 1 | Is progress supposed to be this slow?Your expectations are unrealistic. Just because you analyze and practice pick up doesn't mean you "should" be able to pick up a girl every night. From where you've started you've already gained tremendous ground, so clearly it's working and you are learning small lessons each time. Now the question for you is, where are you headed next? My goal is always to just enjoy myself and be social enough to meet girls and know how to escalate when I need to. If your goal is to pick up a girl every time y… | /r/seduction | 06/06/22 12:22 AM |
| 1 | How do you view rejection?Not everyone vibes with everyone. Some people will like you and some people will not like you. The goal in life is to socialize with people who like you. So if they reject you, they are simply self filtering and doing a favor for you by saving you time. You are better off without them. | /r/seduction | 06/06/22 12:06 AM |
| 1 | I have never been friendzoned. Women either end up being my girlfriend or dont want nothing to do with me. But I'd actually like some female friends to hang and go out with.You have to talk to them and treat like you would with a guy friend. Give no indication you find her attractive or want anything sexual. Just treat her like one of the boys. Just be aware most hot girls will think you are trying to fuck them by befriending them, so you must not give any indication of that. You can still banter and flirt for fun conversations, just don't escalate sexually and dismiss her as a sexual partner. Talk about other girls and indulge her if she talks about other boys, co… | /r/seduction | 05/06/22 11:56 PM |
| 4 | How to reply to texts like: “don’t know I’m looking for” and “I’ll know when I find it”I'm pretty good at helping people find out what they want 😉 insert other variation of cheeky banter Keep it flirty and just banter. Don't talk about anything serious over text and online, it's seriously boring and turns women off. You haven't even met in person, how can she or you commit to a relationship over a text conversation? Don't talk about it or bring it up. Meet in person, see how you vibe. See if you have chemistry and try to escalate sexually. If you have none of that, there is no rel… | /r/seduction | 05/06/22 11:49 PM |
| 2 | Horrible night clubbing aloneShit happens, the journey can be tough. Take what you can and learn from it. Be proud you went out on your own, considering most people will just pussy out and not go at all. Be proud you went out and took action, despite not having a good time. Try to have more fun by yourself instead of relying on others. Dance, smile, converse for the sake of curiosity and meeting people. Don't take yourself too seriously. Be better at reading social cues when a girl or group does not want to engage with you.… | /r/seduction | 05/06/22 11:44 PM |
| 1 | You are enough to take action as you are right now. You don't need to be perfect or maxed out at everything, life's too short for thatDo whatever you want. My experience is overthinking leads to more failure. Keep it simple. | /r/seduction | 03/06/22 10:31 PM |
| 1 | You are enough to take action as you are right now. You don't need to be perfect or maxed out at everything, life's too short for thatWho gives a shit? The point is you are unaffected by these notions and you approach and talk them as if it doesn't matter. Because it doesn't. You are approaching for self improvement and to see if they are worth your time to pursue. Nothing else matters. If they reject you they reject you. | /r/seduction | 03/06/22 09:57 PM |
| 1 | You are enough to take action as you are right now. You don't need to be perfect or maxed out at everything, life's too short for thatThat what you perceive to be standoffish behavior from girls can often be them being nervous or unsure of you. Girls require more comfort and security before they will open up. By just leading or initiating an interaction without any expectation of anything in return projects a lot of confidence by itself. What you say matters less than how you say it. Smile. You don't have to like everyone and everyone doesn't have to like you. Acting natural is better than doing a fake routine. Heavy eye conta… | /r/seduction | 03/06/22 09:45 PM |
| 1 | Mini (?) Guide to Natural Game: BECOME THE BEAST!Yea and? You are still you. You just changed into a better you. Humans grow and change over time, that's just how it works. This is different than if someone desired to be alpha like Chad. They will replicate their attributes but its fake because you are just trying to imitate someone else. Be alpha, but be the alpha YOU | /r/seduction | 03/06/22 09:28 PM |
| 0 | You are enough to take action as you are right now. You don't need to be perfect or maxed out at everything, life's too short for thatIt is a numbers game. In the sense that not every approach is perfect and not everyone will like you. But if you practice enough that when you do meet someone you vibe with, you have a better chance and more experience of not messing it up. But I can approach a million women and each approach I give a meek hello and stare at them in awkward silence, I will never have success. Trial and error to improve upon each and every approach is necessary, and everything else OP mentioned. | /r/seduction | 03/06/22 09:10 PM |
| 2 | Mini (?) Guide to Natural Game: BECOME THE BEAST!You aren't fundamentally changing into a different person. You are actively improving yourself to be the best version of yourself. The best version of yourself is cool calm and confident. It's still you and your personality, but a better version of you without anxiety and nervous tics. Sure maybe you can never fully rid your anxiety, but surely you can improve it and you are still you. | /r/seduction | 03/06/22 09:00 PM |
| 1 | You are enough to take action as you are right now. You don't need to be perfect or maxed out at everything, life's too short for thatBro, life is complex and its not do x y z and voila girl magically falls in love with you. Everything seems vague because what works for me may not work for you. But what does work are general concepts like better social skills which involve reading body language and social cues. And if you'd bother taking the time to read a fucking book there's more than enough specifics in there for you to apply. No one is going to hold your hand and spoonfeed you all the steps necessary to make someone fall i… | /r/seduction | 03/06/22 08:45 PM |
| 0 | You are enough to take action as you are right now. You don't need to be perfect or maxed out at everything, life's too short for thatRead a book or summary about body language and non verbal, and then go approach again and pay attention to the details and things mentioned in the books. Something as simple as you smiling will allow people to be more at ease and you can recognize this in their body language. There's no set topic for what you talk about, you talk about what you wanna talk about. Yes you prepare and practice to some extent especially when you are a noob, but the reality is that's just something to fall back on. T… | /r/seduction | 03/06/22 08:35 PM |
| 1 | You are enough to take action as you are right now. You don't need to be perfect or maxed out at everything, life's too short for thatFigure out why you are failing and change your approach. Learn to read body language and social cues better. And then keep approaching. Dont just keep doing the same thing if it's not working. Approach in different settings, try different things to talk about, how you talk etc. | /r/seduction | 03/06/22 08:20 PM |
| 1 | You are enough to take action as you are right now. You don't need to be perfect or maxed out at everything, life's too short for thatThen learn. You live in the age of information where anything is accessible by a mouse click away, and you are telling me you can't possibly figure out some resources to help you improve your social skills? You make it sound like woe is me, but the reality I think is that you fear failure so much that you won't even attempt. Just do it. No one's going to hold your hand through life. No more excuses. Spend a few hundred hours at improvement and if you still aren't getting anywhere then you earn t… | /r/seduction | 03/06/22 06:40 PM |
| 3 | Advice on a CrushAsk her out and acknowledge you are moving in a few months, so if you like each other just enjoy it now. Also understand when you both leave for college it'll probably be over, but don't think about that and just do whatever you want right now. Don't be scared if this or that, instead think about what can go right. | /r/seduction | 03/06/22 05:39 PM |
| 8 | You are enough to take action as you are right now. You don't need to be perfect or maxed out at everything, life's too short for thatApproaching girls is improving yourself. You are learning how to talk to girls and improve your social skills. If you are banking on working out so that girls come to you, you are in for a rude awakening when that doesn't come to fruition. Men generally have to lead and initiate interactions if they want success in their dating life. That's just the way it is. | /r/seduction | 03/06/22 05:31 PM |
| 31 | You are enough to take action as you are right now. You don't need to be perfect or maxed out at everything, life's too short for thatThen focus on improving your social skills before you even think about girls. Baby steps at a time. If you are unwilling to take action to help yourself then no one can help you. That's just the way it is. | /r/seduction | 03/06/22 01:47 PM |
| 2 | Today I knew that the problem is my social anxiety and my shyness.Just talk to her and say hi. Forget about this story you concocted in your head. From your story, it sounds like you haven't even talked to her. So go and do it and see how it goes. Anything else is just overthinking and not productive. Stop telling yourself and labelling yourself as shy, awkward and inexperience. Even if you are. The way you think about yourself trains your brain to be a self fulfilling prophecy. | /r/seduction | 03/06/22 05:23 AM |
| 1 | I think I might not be able to approach without lowering my inhibitions. Any way to do this without intoxication?There is no romantic interest until you talk to her and find out she's actually your type. You are assessing her personality and looks to see if she fits your criteria as someone that can be part of your life. So therefore, you talk to them like you said you do with everyone else. You put them up on a pedestal, so therefore you have this huge fear and anxiety of talking to them. When in reality, you need to reframe yourself and put yourself at the top. By you approaching and talking to them, YOU… | /r/seduction | 03/06/22 05:18 AM |
| 1 | Should you let a girl lead you by holding your hand?If it happens it happens but you should make an effort to lead her after a while. I don't care what anyone says, but most women want to be led by a man who is confident and knows what hes doing. So if there's space, you speed up and go in front. Or you can disengage after getting to an open ar a and then initiate leading her next tkme | /r/seduction | 03/06/22 05:11 AM |
| 1 | 5 Reasons Your Approaches FailThis is just so wrong. Social skills is something that can be learned and improved. Read the charisma myth. Certain behaviors, demeanors and attitude resonate much more frequently with the general women population than other ones. | /r/seduction | 03/06/22 05:03 AM |
| 2 | 5 Reasons Your Approaches FailNo one gives a shit if you actually have to go in 5 mins or not. The reason it works is because these strangers don't know why you are talking to them and their gut reaction is that if they engage you in any way, that you could end up talking to them indefinitely. For most people, this is a negative reaction unless you can charm them right off the bat or they already find you super attractive. So when they hear you are only talking to them briefly, they are relieved since now that fear of indefi… | /r/seduction | 03/06/22 04:54 AM |
| 1 | 5 Reasons Your Approaches FailNo its not. My job as a seducer is to talk to whoever I find attractive. If we vibe we vibe if not we part ways. | /r/seduction | 03/06/22 04:46 AM |
| 1 | 5 Reasons Your Approaches FailOk so try again with someone else? Change your delivery? Speak with more confidence? A lot of this is trial and error to see what works for YOU and what doesn't. No one can know this unless you try yourself. This isn't a video game where you do x y z and voila you get the girl attracted. Some people will like you and some won't. And this isn't static, maybe if you approached them in a different setting different time with different delivery they would have been receptive to you. Humans are finic… | /r/seduction | 03/06/22 04:44 AM |
| 2 | 5 Reasons Your Approaches FailYou're trash, get outta here, you contribute nothing here | /r/seduction | 03/06/22 04:41 AM |
| 3 | Attraction is not created by what you logically say but instead by what you emotionally convey. You cannot logically convince someone to like you.You should not think about whether you have to be agreeable or not in order to attract her. Do you agree with what she told you, yes or no? Your first thought and reaction, you just go with that. If you agree, great, you build a connection by sharing a common viewpoint. If you disagree, great, now you can banter and tease each other about why you disagree. Special note though, don't disagree and try to banter if she's venting about something serious. Learn to read the room and social cues. This … | /r/seduction | 03/06/22 04:31 AM |
| 149 | You are enough to take action as you are right now. You don't need to be perfect or maxed out at everything, life's too short for thatJust do it | /r/seduction | 03/06/22 04:23 AM |
| 7 | Seduction 101: Prologue Part 1 - The State of SedditQuality post, I was also a scrub back then and while I never got to don Juan status, I had moderate success. That moderate success was good enough for me since it led meeting my current gf and love of my life 😊. I feel for men who have little experience and knowledge of how to talk to and attract women, because I too, was once there. And you are right, there is definitely a lot more woe is me attitude these days and incels trolling and just being toxic as fuck. Back then, the community was all a… | /r/seduction | 03/06/22 04:20 AM |
| 1 | Wtf am I missing?There's nothing wrong with them. Just do you, be friendly and polite and social. Talk to women. Talk to everyone. There's always going to be haters for this and that, just ignore it and do you. If it makes sense to you, then try it out, be socially calibrated of course and see what happens. And like someone else said, be there to workout first and meet people second. Workout is priority, everything else is just extra | /r/seduction | 01/06/22 05:28 AM |
| 1 | I got rejected today and I’m proud as fNah that's not what I mean. I'm saying have an abundance mentality and friendzone her if she's chill. Meet friends, party, be invited out to group social events. If she's not chill, then move on to the next girl. | /r/seduction | 01/06/22 02:12 AM |
| 1 | I got rejected today and I’m proud as fI would hope so. Hot girls only have hot friends right? | /r/seduction | 01/06/22 01:30 AM |
| -1 | I got rejected today and I’m proud as fYou banter, flirt and have some interesting conversations about anything because you aren't worried or concern about sex or impressing her or any of it at all. You just chill and see if you like hanging out with them. Go do something fun like walk around the park, grab some food, go for a bike ride and drink and bs. Like you would with a bro. It's literally free practice to talk to girls and learn to attract women better. Why do men not know how to talk to women? Because most don't talk to a var… | /r/seduction | 01/06/22 01:29 AM |
| 1 | I got rejected today and I’m proud as fShe could be fun to hang out with. You go in treating it like a fun hang out like you would with a friend. You don't usually go hang out with a friend thinking about banging them later would ya? You go hang out, chill with no pressure and if she's cool great maybe she has other friends she can invite out next time. Practice your social skills. Pravtice talking to a girl with no expectations. Maybe she's not fun to hang out with. Then u know and probably realize she doesn't even make the bar to b… | /r/seduction | 01/06/22 01:23 AM |
| 2 | I got rejected today and I’m proud as fYa that's all good too. I probably would have done the same back in my shy beginner days, but easier to say now that I'm in a relationship and have more life and dating experience haha it is all in the mindset though, do whatever you want regardless of outcome of anything | /r/seduction | 31/05/22 05:21 AM |
| 2 | Thinking about dating/hooking up so much I’m losing focus on my career goals. Advices?Forget about women and focus on improving your social skills. If you can't even talk to your friends or make real connections without freaking out socially, you are doing yourself a disservice by focussing on women. You will be fixated on women and constantly get rejected and feel like shit. Own your life and fix your short comings, then once you feel better about that, then start talking to more women and only then do you begin to focus on attracting women. There's gonna be a lot of trial and e… | /r/seduction | 31/05/22 04:10 AM |
| 2 | Why “nice” isn’t attractive, and why it actually makes senseYou are absolutely right. But I think you can also absolutely be nice and attractive. You just have to be genuinely nice and stand out, and not just the default "nice" that everyone else is. It needs to come from an authentic place where you are pleasant to interact with and you wish well for others in a kind hearted way. Be proud to express how kind you are and show it through confident words and conversation. If that's who you truly are and you express it well, then that is your value. The pro… | /r/seduction | 31/05/22 04:03 AM |
| 57 | I got rejected today and I’m proud as fShoulda friend zoned her the second she said that and taken her out for a fun hang out with zero expectations. Sounds like she was interested to hang out but not romantically, so why not? Female friends are great to have. | /r/seduction | 31/05/22 03:59 AM |
| 6 | My favorite technique to check if the Date is still on ScheduleSome women generally hate being out on the spot and having to decide right away. It might not be because they don't like you but they could be feeling anxious or nervous about the date or something else. And if you shoot that text early in the day she may be feeling pressured all day to respond. Your question also implies there is a chance the girl doesn't want to come and by double checking you are unconfident whether she will come or not. Second option allows you to project more confidence by … | /r/seduction | 28/05/22 05:22 PM |
| 1 | What's that aura that some guys project which makes others instantly show respect ? And how do we get it, or is it for some people only?Real talk lmao do u have enough will power to get it?? | /r/seduction | 27/05/22 05:23 PM |
| 1 | Girl apologized in advance she's going to be hungover on date - should I bother?Overthinking. Two options. Show up and be super fun and try to make the date as fun as possible. Barelt acknowledge the hangover. If she's not reciprocating even a little bit or makes it all about her hangover and how shitty she feels then she won't get a next date from me most likely. Other one is to just cancel yourself and tell her to rest and you prefer to flirt with her at her best 😉. | /r/seduction | 26/05/22 09:38 PM |
| 2 | What’s your view on being FWB with your ex? Detrimental or is it possible? Does it take away from healing?Two words of important advice I learned. Don't live with your folks after moving out and don't fuck with your ex. That is all. | /r/seduction | 18/05/22 02:10 AM |
| 2 | What's the most profound thing you've learned while dating?Read the book called the charisma myth. Very eye opening book. Don't make any excuses, read it, digest it and then try it. | /r/seduction | 18/05/22 02:05 AM |
| 0 | What's the most profound thing you've learned while dating?That's your idea of romance, you can't project that for all women. There are definitely women who seek sex first and derive romance out of that. There are plenty of women who hook up with someone they find attractive and then want to pursue more romance with them, without having established this openness and indepth vulnerability you speak of. | /r/seduction | 17/05/22 03:34 PM |
| 2 | What's the most profound thing you've learned while dating?It's a chicken or egg situation and can be different for everyone. I've had times where I'm not romantically interested in a girl because I didn't see her that way. But then if the topic of sex comes up and we talk about it or if it becomes clear sex is on the table with her, then I see her in a different light and change my perception of her entirely as to now a potential romantic partner. In my experience, I find this to be true with woman as well. Sex and romance go hand in hand. | /r/seduction | 17/05/22 03:31 PM |
| 10 | What's the most profound thing you've learned while dating?I understand how things "randomly" happen. There are a million factors outside of our control, and sometimes things can just happen in life whether you planned for it or not. Luck is a large part. But my point is things that YOU want will rarely happen, because you are relying on the randomness to align with you. Instead, that's why it's so critical to lead and escalate so YOU can influence the events in your favour. Many things are random in life, but it's a cop out to explain away everything i… | /r/seduction | 16/05/22 04:09 PM |
| 11 | What's the most profound thing you've learned while dating?Yes I agree the tease and build up is fun, but that's only if you are both exactly on the same page and understand what's happening. This is difficult to establish on first dates because you don't know each other well, so one person may think they are teasing well and building it up over 3 dates while the other person is oblivious and expects a release to the tension by the end of the night. Or they may not even interpret the teasing as anything sexual at all. These mismatched expectations creat… | /r/seduction | 16/05/22 05:01 AM |
| 100 | What's the most profound thing you've learned while dating?Seduction is simply learning how to read social cues, how to be charismatic and to know when to escalate and lead. That's it. It's not manipulation tactics or do step xyz and girl A will fall in love in love with you. Social cues tell you how to read the room. Being charismatic draws people towards you and you provide value. Knowing when to escalate and lead is action based and the bridge to make your wants and needs become reality. Very few things in life just happens randomly, even if people t… | /r/seduction | 16/05/22 03:44 AM |
| 25 | What's the most profound thing you've learned while dating?What's the difference between a relationship and a friendship? For me it's the sexual chemistry and romance. If there's no romance then you are simply my friend. That's what he's getting at for women. | /r/seduction | 16/05/22 03:26 AM |
| 3 | What's the most profound thing you've learned while dating?Nice summary. I think this is what gets feminists panties all in a bunch when you try to generalize things that most women find attractive. They don't seem to understand that both generalization and uniqueness of individuals can both exist. | /r/seduction | 16/05/22 03:21 AM |
| 15 | The girl I was seeing stayed at my best friends houseLol just chill and relax. Don't tow her car, she'll contact you. Just don't be phased and drop her out of your life. No need to assume the worst and provide a negative reaction | /r/seduction | 14/05/22 03:43 PM |
| 1 | Why do most guys not need to do any of this stuff to find relationships with women?Sometimes people don't expose their whole relationship dynamic when out in public with their friends or colleagues. I flirt and joke around a lot with my gf at home when we are alone, but when we are out and about we tone it down depending on who we are with. | /r/seduction | 13/05/22 11:13 PM |
| 2 | Update to the Post: “How should I go about dating the popular girl, when I myself, am a loner”Forget about all these idiots questioning the authenticity of your story and personality. Just negative energy because they can't fathom someone liking someone for who they are. You got the right mentality, have fun and enjoy. Remember what made her attracted to you in the first place and just keep doing that. This doesn't mean don't change yourself and always look to improve, just don't change for the sake of her. Keep it chill and genuine. And also it would also be in your best interest to at … | /r/seduction | 11/05/22 01:36 AM |
| 2 | I hate dating as a manI die a little when I see these posts and swarms of guys come out here to make it a pity party. What happened to taking control and owning your life? | /r/seduction | 08/05/22 10:33 PM |
| 2 | Game for WomenBe super friendly and outgoing and then initiate innocent touching like rubbing of arms or hand on legs when laughing. Then make lots of eye contact, smile. Talk subtly about sexual things like make a joke or innuendo. Any man who is comfortable and confident with woman should take a hint if he is interested in you at all. To drive em extra crazy, do some hot n cold or push and pull, so they don't know for sure they have it in the bag. So tldr. Basically same things men do to woman, except roles… | /r/seduction | 08/05/22 07:23 AM |
| 6 | Do I have to play the game to win?You have an unhealthy view of what game is and what's required to attract a woman. Everybody wants a secure healthy relationship, problem is no one wants to work for it. In fact two people can want the exact same thing, but that won't make you a perfect match for each other. You can't just will that relationship into existence. You have to live a good life and know how to attract the people you want in it. How do you attract people? You have to understand what women like and don't like. You have… | /r/seduction | 08/05/22 07:12 AM |
| 1 | Was friendzoned but she gave me a cha ge for a dateYou are projecting incredibly hard, everything you accuse me of you are yourself. Id rather not trigger you any further and will leave you with your own words. "Your assumptions show you are lacking and need to work on yourself" | /r/seduction | 08/05/22 06:55 AM |
| 1 | Was friendzoned but she gave me a cha ge for a datePutting someone up on a pedestal is about their importance relative to yourself. Of course you care more about your friends and family than strangers, that's not what putting women on a pedestal means. No one has hurt me, I'm mature and old enough to understand how the dating world tends to work. You scream about misgony but your tone of disrespect and assumptions about my life are is ironic. Notice how I've said nothing to attack you personally yet you choose to insult me. Shows your own charac… | /r/seduction | 08/05/22 04:49 AM |
| 1 | Was friendzoned but she gave me a cha ge for a dateIt's the overwhelming minority. Anyone who is successful in a long distance with no physical contact is the exception not the norm. Everyone wants to think they are special and they are different, but chances of success are low for obvious reasons. Real life interactions and bonding cannot be replaced by technology, we are social creatures. I don't know for sure but the way he's describing the situation to me seems like the girl is just using him for attention and her own ego. No one should be p… | /r/seduction | 07/05/22 11:53 PM |
| 1 | Was friendzoned but she gave me a cha ge for a dateBro if you didnt even meet in person, it was never that serious. Not even close. There's a million other women in the world, the chances of this situation playing out successfully is astronomically low. Go on the date, don't get me wrong, but stop putting her on a pedestal. She can say she loves you and really values you as a friend, but look to her actions to see how she really feels. | /r/seduction | 07/05/22 06:53 PM |
| 9 | How To Be An Attractive ManHe won't cuz he just likes to whine and criticize instead of adding value like OP | /r/seduction | 04/05/22 06:34 AM |
| 3 | Flipped perspective with an attractive woman with no game.Such is life haha | /r/seduction | 03/05/22 05:41 AM |
| 38 | Flipped perspective with an attractive woman with no game.For those who can't understand why OP would turn her down, bottom line is, when women are creepy and aggressive with no social calibration, it's a massive turn off even if they are physically hot. Such a turn off to the point where you don't want even want to power through just to fuck them. This is actually how hot girls feel when creepy guys hit on them. It's hard to explain the feeling until someone does it to you and you get this creepy feeling of grossness. Could OP have recognized her soci… | /r/seduction | 03/05/22 12:04 AM |
| 1 | Trying to seduce someone feels like manipulationYou need a mind set change and you probably also need some small wins in social interactions to build some confidence. Think about what you can do to make that happen. Focus on yourself instead of others. Be relentless and laser focussed on yourself and how you can improve your interactions with others based on what YOU do. Their approval and response may or may not be favorable all the time 100%, but there are certainly things you can do to improve those odds in your favour. Learn and trial and… | /r/seduction | 26/04/22 01:56 PM |
| 5 | The Proximity Principle: Unless you are consistently interacting with women, don't expect them to magically show up in your life.Make better friends. | /r/seduction | 26/04/22 12:17 AM |
| 2 | If someone ghosts you, it’s not because they are intimidated by you, or they don’t have time for a personal life. They’re simply not interested. Don’t let your ego get in the way of seeing reality for what it isYea so what if they don't like you? You don't like everyone either. Yea your ego is hurt and it's a negative feeling, that's ok, accept it, embrace it and then realize then rejecting you is the universes way of saying they weren't right for you anyways. Because someone who is right for you won't reject you. So move on and learn from it | /r/seduction | 22/04/22 05:12 AM |
| 2 | 1 year of daily daygame results - This is my success ratio, what is yours?Hate to break it to ya bud, but it's extremely difficult to create attraction if she isn't already into you in one way or another. Seduction is more about building comfort, screening and getting further along with those who are already attracted to you in some way, so that you can escalate. | /r/seduction | 12/04/22 06:08 AM |
| 2 | Why am I getting ghosted so often? I've been out of the game for 7 years and holy crap is this a huge problem!You will never get accurate feedback. You either attracted her or you failed. Don't get hung up on minor details of what you did right or wrong on the date, instead focus the bigger picture of how to attract better. | /r/seduction | 10/04/22 11:56 PM |
| 1 | I’m angryNo I agree with what you are saying and have gone thru similar experiences. I too also really enjoy my alone time. And my perspective perhaps used to be more like yours and I was in a similar place in life to you. But for me, I came across the love of my life from a cold approach and we've been very happy together. It's made me see things on the other side and realize the cynicism about girls and inner game sometimes isn't as helpful for others, especially those who reallt struggle with self est… | /r/seduction | 10/04/22 07:37 PM |
| 10 | UPDATE... On the cringy-ass note I left for my cougar neighborFollow this comments advice 👍 | /r/seduction | 10/04/22 06:48 PM |
| 1 | I’m angryI fully agree with what you are saying, but I tjink it's unrealistic for ppl to be comfortable being alone forever. Fotever is absolute and endless, and 99% absolutely are NOT ok with that. Forcing yourself to believe that is counterproductive. The mere thought of the possibility of that is crippling for many people. Instead, simply strive to being comfortable, happy and content with being alone in the moment. You still have ambitions and hope to end up with someone and find companionship, but w… | /r/seduction | 10/04/22 06:35 PM |
| 2 | The only person’s opinion you should care about is your ownNothing you do will make you automatically talk to girls. You aren't a robot, you always have to make the conscious choice to do something | /r/seduction | 10/04/22 02:24 AM |
| 2 | How to approach a guy, how to tell you are availableComment on how they smell good, their style, their physique, hair, sense of humour and charm with people/women. A mix of subtle compliments and more direct ones work the best to build sexual tension. Indirect would be getting in close, asking what cologne he uses. Then saying you like it. Direct would be saying you smell really good. | /r/seduction | 09/04/22 11:20 PM |
| 8 | The only person’s opinion you should care about is your ownExactly. And so many people have a shitty opinion about themselves. How can you honestly hope to attract others when your own opinion about yourself is trash? | /r/seduction | 09/04/22 11:15 PM |
| 3 | I want to get over female validation, but this whole “build a better life” shit is hard as fuck.Do mma cuz you want to, not because you think girls will like it. If you do anything in life solely because you think girls will like it, then you will always be disappoint when one of them doesn't. If you pursue activities or interests that you genuinely like AND also overlaps with things women would tend to find attractive, that would be much better. This way if a girl doesn't care about it, you still enjoy it and do it for yourself so it doesn't matter. | /r/seduction | 09/04/22 11:11 PM |
| 3 | After MONTHS of being a scared little bi*ch I finally did my first direct approach! I feel like on top of the world :DShe either says yes or no. Don't need to think beyond that. | /r/seduction | 09/04/22 06:01 AM |
| 8 | it felt weird being going out all by myselfThink about how many people were at this event and having fun and with their friends and socializing. Out of all those people, how many of them do you think even knew or actually gave a shit that you were alone? I'd be willing to bet there was only one person and that person was you. You aren't that important and the sooner you realize everyone is too worried thinking about themselves to think about you the better it will be for your life. | /r/seduction | 09/04/22 05:53 AM |
| 2 | I approached a girl in the mall, she slept over - but no sex?We will agree to disagree. They can be ass naked and moaning my name, but verbally tell me to not touch her. Sure they can say that and I will respect that, but I will ask then why the fuck are you naked and moaning my name? Because you can? Sure, you can do whatever you want, but I have zero tolerance for games like this. I know you are trying to frame this as an issue of consent, but to me this isn't an issue of consent. Women can reject you at one point in the night and accept your advances a… | /r/seduction | 06/04/22 02:35 AM |
| 1 | I approached a girl in the mall, she slept over - but no sex?That's fine if she makes it a point to state she doesn't want anything physical due trust issues etc. Nothing wrong with that. The problem is saying that and then suggesting she sleep over. It may have been the way he worded it, but it sounds like she's the one who brought up the idea of that. If she doesn't want escalation then don't suggest to sleep over at a guy that you just met. Ask him to take you home or get you home safe. I wasn't there but to me these conflicting messages scream girl pl… | /r/seduction | 05/04/22 07:52 PM |
| 12 | I approached a girl in the mall, she slept over - but no sex?Sounds like trouble and playing games tbh. Was purposely fucking with you by suggesting to sleep over and then hard rejecting you, knowing that you'd think it was an easy lay. Huge red flag and would avoid at all costs | /r/seduction | 05/04/22 12:21 AM |
| 0 | Flirting with “Low Self Esteem” WomenIf a girl said that to me, I would say you're right, you aren't the girl for me and walk away. Anyone who says that ain't my vibes at all | /r/seduction | 05/04/22 12:15 AM |
| 1 | When you're rejected, would you prefer the real reason or given a cliche easy let down reason?Girls don't even know the real reason half the time. They may think it's something specific like oh he turned me off when he said so and so. This gives them a logical reason to dismiss you. But the reality could be more overarching, they just weren't attracted to you and your personalities just didn't mesh and there was no spark. If in an alternate reality, you never said such things that turned her off, would she still like you? No, she would probably still find something else to point out that… | /r/seduction | 05/04/22 12:09 AM |
| 0 | Took a PUA bootcamp but it didn't change anythingResults always come from yourself. Everyone can read a book and take a course, but at the end of the day, it's the actions taken as a result of their learnings that produce change and results. Training is only meant to guide you on your self improvement journey, there is no easy quick fix pill. | /r/seduction | 04/04/22 01:35 PM |
| 0 | She told me I can do whatever I want to herListen to this guy. He knows what's up | /r/seduction | 03/04/22 06:09 PM |
| 4 | Is it bad to openly tell a girl "I think we should have sex"?Annie are you ok? Ahaha Yea I agree. You can ask them if they are ok without directly saying that. Just be confidently and rhetorically ask/dirty talk into their ear as you kiss their neck and ear region if this feels good, if they like this, if they you want more, if this turns them on. Ask or better yet, state these questions with a smirk and be confident as hell. These are all sexier questions than if you are ok and also addresses their consent and comfort. If they are into it, it will obviou… | /r/seduction | 03/04/22 03:30 PM |
| 1 | People Having a Hard Time Accepting That You’re Higher Value Now?This is the correct answer. They are acting weird likely because they are insecure themselves after seeing your improved self. There is nothing you can do to fix their insecurity, and tis not about you, it's about them. No one gives a shit about you. You are wasting energy and time even thinking about this. Just do you and pursue your best, no need to justify yourself to anyone at all. Lead by example | /r/seduction | 02/04/22 02:05 PM |
| 2 | NEVER date someone you are unattracted to, ever. And always be honest with intentions.Could always just reach out and genuinely apologize or just fuck it and chalk it up to a lesson learned. It is what it is. In learning the game and discovering who you are as a person, you will fuck up at some point. No point in beating yourself over it and just try to learn what you can from it | /r/seduction | 29/03/22 01:13 AM |
| 1 | Umm can someone explain this?The only correct action is to fuck her first and talk later. Lol seriously bro it cannot get more obvious than this. She wants you to lay her down. Show some confidence, take the lead and blow her mind | /r/seduction | 29/03/22 12:27 AM |
| 2 | NEVER date someone you are unattracted to, ever. And always be honest with intentions.Yea fair enough I understand. I think you should have made a concrete decision when you explained to her you weren't looking for a relationship. Either commit to what you said and decline the wedding invite or commit to going and having a good time. Be a leader in what you want and lead the situation instead of being wishy washy and back tracking based on what others want. If you ask her now, she's probably thinking she would have preferred you having the balls to decline her in the the first pl… | /r/seduction | 28/03/22 02:38 AM |
| 12 | NEVER date someone you are unattracted to, ever. And always be honest with intentions.You honestly just sound like a bad time bro, not even dating specific. Like you didn't have the courtesy to be nice to someone who invited you out to be her plus one and made it all about you. It's fine if you realized you didn't like her, you coulda just had a good social time at a wedding and made friends with everyone and partied with good vibes. There was no need for you to be an absolute buzzkill. You sound self aware so I hope you understand why this is a really bad trait to have and you s… | /r/seduction | 26/03/22 10:22 PM |
| 1 | Female friends…I agree with you. People can have no female friends for a variety of reasons. I agree that it is good to have female friends for reasons listed by OP. But to judge and condemn those who have little female friends is a bit of a reach. I generally get along better with guys than girls. We have more common interests and relate to each other better, hence we bond better. Theres a reason the boys are the boys. I have a few female friends that are close to being one of the boys, but they were far and … | /r/seduction | 24/03/22 01:33 AM |
| 13 | My tipps for dates over the years10/10 post. This subs needs more of this shit. Keeps it real, simple and short instead of diving into the "why" it works. People here tend to have analysis paralysis. Just follow what this dude does on dates and your dates will be 10x better. The end when he says the girl has to go home, which is a good thing cuz u gonna fuck on second date is bang on. You kiss and escalate properly, you build proper sexual tension that silently brews in the girls mind. This will drive her crazy and be looking f… | /r/seduction | 18/03/22 06:59 AM |
| 3 | Escalation for dummies. Very short version.It's a generalized statement like saying all men love sex. His point is to highlight that men and women are not so different. It's this perception of women not liking sex that makes many men nervous to escalate. Just because you have a specific outlier doesn't invalidate his point here. Does all, every single men or women enjoy sex? Obviously not, but the vast majority do. | /r/seduction | 16/03/22 07:53 PM |
| 24 | How do I let girls know on apps that I’m mainly looking for casual sex?Sounds like you just wanna hook up with girls without having to put in any effort or improving your game. Sure you can try that, but from a female perspective, they know most guys are trying to hook up, whether they explicitly say or not, so why would they choose you specifically? It could happen but chances are lower than actually what you've been doing imo How do you think casual sex actually works? Do you think people just agree 100% before hand to fuck solely based on a text convo and pic? N… | /r/seduction | 16/03/22 04:01 AM |
| 2 | [23M] How to make up for crucial social milestones I missed out on during my youth?You have to accept it and move on. We are all dealt cards in this life and some have more fortunate upbringing than others. But reality is, it's all smokes and mirrors, everyone has their own challenges you don't hear about. Yours could be worse, could be better than others. Regardless, it doesn't really matter because that's all in the past. You can't change your past experiences but you cnlan change your future. And that starts with action and a mindset change. If you have the work ethic to st… | /r/seduction | 13/03/22 10:11 PM |
| 1 | [23M] How to make up for crucial social milestones I missed out on during my youth?Another pity party post. Look at all your responses, they are just excuses to not take action. Get a grip on reality and realize nothing in your life will change until you stop victimizing yourself and start taking action and ownership of your life. Not dismissing your feelings or struggles, they are real and the pain and regret is tough. But the real question is what will you do going forward? What's happened has happened. | /r/seduction | 13/03/22 06:39 AM |
| 12 | Do you think women are oblivious to the skill that guys need to be successful at dating?Yes most women are oblivious to the skills required and challenges that mus tbe over come by men to have a successful dating life. The main reason is because 99% of women do not have to be approached, if they wait aorund long enough, someone will approach them. To most women, this is good enough because they don't have to risk rejection or think about how to approach and attract men. They just have to focus on looking good physically and men will proactively approach them, that's it, that's a st… | /r/seduction | 07/03/22 07:23 PM |
| 4 | Why do women feel entitled of you as men taking them out to dinner on a first date?Is it working though? Everyone on that sub sounds salty as fuck and how many of them actually have a high value man? I'd imagine if they had one they wouldn't be on there to begin with | /r/seduction | 07/03/22 07:15 PM |
| 7 | Why do women feel entitled of you as men taking them out to dinner on a first date?I'd rather be celibate and die alone than be in a relationship with anyone from that sub lol. It's toxic as fuck 10/10 and reading anything on there just leaves a bad taste in my mouth | /r/seduction | 07/03/22 07:04 PM |
| 1 | If you’re new to cold approaching read this.Unless you made a very good impression or know exactly what you are doing, most girls will barely remember you from the number. She has no reason to further engage you on the phone when she's got million other easier options. Why invest in this dude who barely chatted with her at the bar for 10 mins the other day? She probably had dozens of chats with random men at the bar that night, why would she invest in you? You fight an uphill battle with this approach. You met her there, you approached an… | /r/seduction | 06/03/22 04:48 PM |
| 0 | Advice from a girl: don’t always take it personally if you’re rejectedAgreed, but unfortunately some of the women who lost here just think the whole concept is misogynistic and post polarized views, advice and comments that are detrimental to men inexperienced in dating. OP was actually a helpful post to give clarity in a few women's perspective to people. | /r/seduction | 06/03/22 04:37 PM |
| 5 | Advice from a girl: don’t always take it personally if you’re rejectedSome are neutral, some like it and some don't. Only way to find out is to talk to them. Are you going to let those who don't stop you from finding out who do? Individual women are unique just like men, so focus on what you need to do instead of worrying about whether they will.enjoy your approach or not. Rejection is part of the journey | /r/seduction | 06/03/22 04:35 PM |
| 6 | Advice from a girl: don’t always take it personally if you’re rejectedBro that's her explanation of her self, her mindset and her rationale. You can't really dispute that... If the guy was 20x more charming and made her heart flutter, and external circumstances didn't exist, would she have been more interested? Perhaps, but that's a unrealistic, hypothetical situation, so let's ground ourselves in reality. | /r/seduction | 06/03/22 04:32 PM |
| 2 | This is NOT an incel sub, and some people on here need reminding of that. You have control over your own dating success if you improve & approach.Ok well just give up and complain more and stay single. That's a great alternative. Seriously get a grip. There are tons of people below 5'10 and below 6" who are successful in life and with women. Does having those attributes help and give you an advantage? Sure but just because you have those attributes doesn't mean you will be successful with women. If your mindset, attitude and personality is toxic and negative, it doesn't matter what you look like. For fucks sakes there was a dude who was f… | /r/seduction | 04/03/22 04:57 PM |
| 4 | This is NOT an incel sub, and some people on here need reminding of that. You have control over your own dating success if you improve & approach.Hes not being a bully. These whiny fucks need a reality check and someone to call them out for what it is. Whining and a woe is me attitude is cancerous and detrimental to all people who are looking to improve their skills with women. The more we normalize these attitudes the worse it gets because all it does it encourage others to think and act the same way. | /r/seduction | 04/03/22 05:13 AM |
| 3 | This is NOT an incel sub, and some people on here need reminding of that. You have control over your own dating success if you improve & approach.Just another excuse, who cares if tinder hoes are doing that. Don't focus on what you can't control, focus on yourself and what YOU can do. | /r/seduction | 04/03/22 05:03 AM |
| 6 | This is NOT an incel sub, and some people on here need reminding of that. You have control over your own dating success if you improve & approach.Yea bro I agree for sure. People are just too afraid of rejection and too scared of taking risks in life. They'll learn soon through life that you don't get anywhere by not taking risks outside of their safe bubble | /r/seduction | 04/03/22 05:02 AM |
| 1 | What obvious hint she gave which encouraged you to kiss her?Depends how she rejects you. You have to read the situation to see if it was a hard rejection or if she is just shy or isn't ready to kiss you. If the latter, you can continue to escalate but dial it down a bit to just hand touching or brief shoulder contact and see how she reacts. If poorly, then take a hint. If things are still going good then just continue escalating and try for kiss again. If denied ahain but vibes are still good then just repeat and get more flirty. | /r/seduction | 02/03/22 04:04 AM |
| 1 | Giving a girl from my hometown a ride back from campus. She’s super hot. How do I not make it awkward and werid?Now's the time to be better friends. How do friends become better friends? By talking to each other, it's not rocket science. Just ask lots of questions, and pepper in your own experiences and thoughts even if she doesn't ask. You have to lead the conversation a bit in the beginning because most girls will not. So you ask lots of questions, share stuff about yourself and she should open up and be more social. Easy topics.Music, sports, current events, family, hometown, mutual friends, what do th… | /r/seduction | 02/03/22 03:58 AM |
| 2 | My new GF asked me if she's melted my heart. How do I respond using game?Forget about game and be yourself and keep doing the things that made he attracted to you in the beginning. Keep it simple and don't start simping now that you are in a relationship. It's ok to let out affection, but don't become a puppy for her now that you are dating for two months. | /r/seduction | 02/03/22 03:54 AM |
| 4 | I hate approaching when other people are in ears reach?You are in your head. Cuz you are worried and scared of looking like a loser if you have a bad interaction or get rejected. You fear being mocked judged and ridiculed by these strangers. . The reality is, these people don't give a shit and some of them are even envious that you have the courage to talk to her. You are focussing on the negative outcome, so you are doomed to start. Instead think about what could go right. Think about how if someone overhears you chatting this girl up and getting h… | /r/seduction | 02/03/22 03:50 AM |
| 1 | I'm 27(M) was never taught gameBecause there is no such thing. You can get really good at talking to people and encouraging behavior that shows they are dtf, but it means fuck all until you escalate and fuck them. To get there will always require you to talk to them, escalate and risk rejection. There is no way you can just "tell" someone is magically dtf. And even if they were and you could sniff em out, that doesn't mean they wanna fuck you nor does it mean they will make a move. | /r/seduction | 02/03/22 03:43 AM |
| 1 | Rejected 3 months ago. We're still matched on the app. Should I message her?I would take this lesson to heart, make a move and not friend zone yourself next time. But for now, this lady is gone so just leave it be. | /r/seduction | 02/03/22 03:41 AM |
| 4 | Dating App trick for seemingly low interest girlsReal life is chaotic and unpredictable, most people don't actually know what they want. And sometimes getting what they want, they realize that hat they wanted and what they need in life are different. People learn this through living life and experiences. It's very rare relationships happen because two people wanted exactly the same thing and that was it. Relationships often happen when people taking chances and get to know each other and find out they actually get along, are compatible and hav… | /r/seduction | 02/03/22 01:47 AM |
| 3 | [deleted by user]If you wanna do it then just fucking do it. You don't need to ask the internet to find out. You can literally just do it a few times yourself and learn through experience. Sex is one of those things you just have to be confident to try different things and take the lead as a man. Women generally love that | /r/seduction | 25/02/22 03:45 AM |
| 1 | Please Work on your looksYea you get it bro, I hope you really do. Now go do something about it instead of shit posting. It'll be healthier for you. Trust me bro, once your mindset becomes a toxic habit, you are fucked until you change that completely. It's just an endless feedback loop that makes you incredibly unattractive to a home. I'm an Internet stranger and I can safely say Id want no part of you in my life with those toxic attitudes based on your posts. Sucks to hear but just trying to help you out with some col… | /r/seduction | 18/02/22 04:53 AM |
| 1 | Please Work on your looksEverything in life is easier said than done. Quit shit posting, fix your attitude and change. Other people with much bigger challenges than you have over come them, why can't you? You can, but you'd rather avoid rejection and cry about it online. The people that succeeded went out there, took risks and faced the challenges head on. | /r/seduction | 17/02/22 03:50 PM |
| 3 | Please Work on your looksJust give up and die alone. Is that what you want to hear? Christ you are an insufferable fuck. Man up and take control of your one and only life. If you spent half the time taking real action instead of shit posting all your negativity on here maybe you'd have some success. | /r/seduction | 17/02/22 05:24 AM |
| 1 | Public Service Announcement: Those girls you are afraid of approach are usually more insecure than you!Having the belief in your head that you can get any guy is different than actually confirming it via real life. If you had this strong belief about yourself, think about how scary it is to have that belief shattered by someone rejecting you in public? Being rejected would disrupt their beliefs about themselves. To protect themselves from that possibility, they rationalize to themselves a million reasons why they dont need to approach. They don't do it so they don't risk rejection. It's the same … | /r/seduction | 14/02/22 09:19 PM |
| 15 | Public Service Announcement: Those girls you are afraid of approach are usually more insecure than you!No, most women don't approach because they fear rejection. Whether they will admit it or if they even know it or not, it's the truth. They've been conditioned their whole life that they don't need to approach. Guys will approach them and it's happened over and over again. So life has taught them to sit and wait and something will happen. This is the equivalent of men sitting around hoping a women approaches them. The difference is that it will never happen for a man, but for a woman it will even… | /r/seduction | 14/02/22 07:13 PM |
| 2 | Rant: I don't see the point of doing night gameKeeping it real 💯 | /r/seduction | 13/02/22 06:34 AM |
| 5 | Seducing women with a disability/deformation and a perspective on why looks truly don't matter.Truly a legend. Anyone who still makes up whiny excuses for why they can't do this or that after reading this needs to give themselves a reality check and understand its all just excuses. If this man could do such things, so can you! | /r/seduction | 12/02/22 05:32 AM |
| 6 | [deleted by user]It worked for me. I met the love of my life when I approached her on a packed train and we've been going strong fot many years now. You can fail and be rejected hundreds of times, but it only takes one to go right 💯 | /r/seduction | 08/02/22 07:39 PM |
| 9 | This is it guys, I think I've figured it out.Ya just fake it till u make it. Avoid revealing information that can discredit yourself, theres no need to volunteer information about your insecurities or perceived inexperience. Act confident and like you know what you are doing and you will be. Honestly girls don't know otherwise, they just judge you based on what you allow yourself to be judged on. Girls find guys much more attractive if they know or at least have the illusion that they are desired by other women. It makes them feel special … | /r/seduction | 06/02/22 06:49 AM |
| 1 | [deleted by user]Just leave her. Y'all broke up for a reason and let's just say getting back together is a waste of time. Move on and embrace the unknown, embrace your oppurtunity to meet new people and girls instead of living in the past. | /r/seduction | 01/02/22 09:01 PM |
| 2 | As a man you can't seduce women with just basic hyigeneLol | /r/seduction | 01/02/22 07:58 PM |
| 5 | As a man you can't seduce women with just basic hyigeneIt's a date. That's how you flirt. It's not meant to be logical or a serious statement. He's not asking her about kids. The implication and flirtiness of it is that the kid looks good because both the parents are attractive, implying you find her hot. And having kids also indirectly means you will fuck, so you are bringing up sex without bringing up sex. If every statement is direct and logical dates would be boring as fuck | /r/seduction | 01/02/22 07:06 PM |
| 6 | [deleted by user]If you are in bed with a girl you find attractive and she seems into you, and you are not escalating, the problem is with you. You are scared of rejection or unconfident about what you need to do. Anything you tell yourself to rationalize why nothing happened is just an excuse for you because you were too scared to make a move. That's it. So no more excuses and just go out there and fake it till you make it. This is what everyone had to do at one point in their lives. | /r/seduction | 01/02/22 06:57 PM |
| 2 | 21 Rules (Principles not game)Yea if you want a one way ticket to the friend zone follow this advice | /r/seduction | 27/01/22 12:01 AM |
| 1 | What do you do when she is losing interist ?She could be losing interest for a million reasons, don't assume it's because of something you did. Whatever the reason is doesn't really matter. She's clearly playing games or isn't interested so I would just forget about her and focus your energy on yourself or someone else. Trust me she ain't special, there's a million other girls out there for you | /r/seduction | 26/01/22 06:40 AM |
| 2 | [deleted by user]It's a free country, I can talk to anyone I want, anywhere any time. It's also your right to ignore me, tell me to fuck off, tell me you aren't interested or show disinterest. If we vibe, we vibe. If we don't then we part ways. How am I suppose to know if we have chemistry if I don't approach and talk to you? How do you think people become friends? At some point, someone talked to someone else. Mind blowing stuff, I know right? People don't just become friends randomly, someone has to approach. … | /r/seduction | 26/01/22 06:23 AM |
| 2 | [deleted by user]Everything you wrote is just a roundabout about way of an excuse to not take action and ownership of your life. Your negativity is draining and you wonder why you aren't attractive to women. Negativity and low self esteem is hugely unattractive, it oozes out of your social interactions even if you aren't aware of it. You are stuck in a loop and really need to change your mindset. No one can help someone who doesn't want to help themselves, so this will be my last reply. If you do want to help yo… | /r/seduction | 26/01/22 06:13 AM |
| 1 | [deleted by user]orry man, hate to break it to you, real life doesn't work like that. No one ever became successful by sitting around and waiting for success to knock on their door. Even if you got IOIs, what makes you think you know what to do after that? How are you gonna approach her? How are you going to flirt and escalate? How are you going to attract her and keep her interested? You've never approached so you have no experience and will likely just fuck it up even if she is initially attracted to you. Thin… | /r/seduction | 26/01/22 12:45 AM |
| 3 | [deleted by user]Normal means average. Who the fuck wants to be the average? Be fucking extraordinary man, you get one life bro, take control and quit being scared. Also I met my gf from cold approaching on the train and now shes the love of my life. I'm not super attractive, I'm an avg height Asian and I approached a tall pretty white girl blond hair blue eyes in a packed train. My approach wasnt great by any means and I was nervous as hell. And I couldn't even tell if she was into it or not. But I didn't let a… | /r/seduction | 26/01/22 12:17 AM |
| 2 | [deleted by user]Quit your fucking complaining and do something about it instead of wallowing in your self pity. Sorry if it sounds harsh, but that's all I hear from your posts, just excuses because you are chicken shit of rejection. So what if you get rejected and your self esteem takes a hit? Do you think successful people in life got to where they are in life by receiving a yes from everyone every time? No, they get rejected over and over again, yet they persevere and try again and again until they succeed. W… | /r/seduction | 25/01/22 08:49 PM |
| 3 | [deleted by user]Number one rule for any approach is to always ask for a number. Whether they give it or not doesn't matter, but you must make it a habit. When you don't ask for a number, you are mentally telling yourself the interaction went poorly and she will reject you. This is based on your perception. From her perspective she could be swooning on the inside but just trying to contain herself and is super nervous. Or maybe she thinks you are awkward and just thing to be polite. Who knows. You have no way of… | /r/seduction | 25/01/22 07:05 PM |
| 4 | [deleted by user]Yea its different because you built up these reasons for why they are different. We are telling you to change this mindset and talk to them as if they are not different. You are treating hot women on a pedestal before even taking to them. Quit making excuses and go talk to people. There are hot women who are actually nice and accommodating as well and there are old women who are nasty and mean to talk to. You wouldn't know because you don't talk to them, but instead you just generalize people to… | /r/seduction | 25/01/22 06:55 PM |
| 3 | Women can be extremely fickle with their emotions when you first get to know them. They can be attracted to you one day, and then lose interest the next. Understand and accept this before you develop feelings for someone you barely knowThey aren't exclusive to women, but I would agree women are more likely to exhibit those behaviors based on my personal experience. His explanation is to provide a perspective to men as to why a successful date in their eyes didn't lead to anything. Is that explanation applicable to every single women on earth? No, obvisouly not, humans are unique beings, that goes without saying. But again, from experience, I would say that explanation is very valid for most women, whether they want to admit it… | /r/seduction | 14/01/22 09:11 PM |
| 5 | Women can be extremely fickle with their emotions when you first get to know them. They can be attracted to you one day, and then lose interest the next. Understand and accept this before you develop feelings for someone you barely knowWomen are different than men in some ways and similar in other ways, united by the fact that we are both human. But there is absolutely a difference between female and males, and to pretend otherwise is the worst advice you can give. He never implied women were less than men, thats your own injection of thought. Different is not the same as less. | /r/seduction | 14/01/22 04:50 PM |
| 1 | [deleted by user]No problem, dm me if you want to chat or share more thoughts. I'm also a 5'8 Asian Canadian FYI if that matters LOL | /r/seduction | 10/01/22 04:05 PM |
| 4 | [deleted by user]Sounds like you were living the dream for a long time with your travels and meeting women. It's fun, it's great to know you have the power to attract people and feel desirable. You should be absolutely proud and grateful to have these skills and expeirnece that you worked hard for. But like all things in life, too much of it can be a problem. There are very few things in life that don't follow this rule. Too much money, too much sex, too much women, too much food, too much partying etc. These ar… | /r/seduction | 10/01/22 05:12 AM |
| 2 | Are women the most driving life force (for you) ?You are onto something for sure. But I would say it's not that women, or the pursuit of women are the most driving force, but rather the chance to have an amazing experience and comfort of meeting that someone that really gets you and you can share life with. To me this is the greatest thing to have in life, is to find and meet your soul mate, someone you can share life with and are happy and excited to spend time with. But this girl ain't easy to find because not every girl you meet can fulfil … | /r/seduction | 20/12/21 07:01 AM |
| 2 | Sex is like a play. Intercourse is the final act, not the entire show. The preceding acts are talking, touching, building tension, and foreplayThis technique when done right makes them squirt like a waterfall. There is no lying or convincing of me she came. The puddles it leaves behind and her skin getting flushed and fully body goose bumps and facial reaction is obvious she came. It simulates the g spot and you can physically feel the spongy spot contract, and as you build it up you have to be quite aggressive with your hands. Usually most guys ease off at this point because it feels too aggressive, but every time I just explain to th… | /r/seduction | 12/12/21 06:45 PM |
| 4 | Sex is like a play. Intercourse is the final act, not the entire show. The preceding acts are talking, touching, building tension, and foreplayWhat's your point? I think it's implied nothing in life is as simple as do x and y and z happens 100% of the time. If I smile while talking to people, i generally have better social interactions, but does it have the same effect on everyone? No because ppl are different and unique, but that doesn't mean it's not good advice to smile. His advice is a helpful starting point for someone who has no experience. Technically there is no correct method, you do what works for you, through trial and error… | /r/seduction | 11/12/21 09:18 PM |
| 8 | Sex is like a play. Intercourse is the final act, not the entire show. The preceding acts are talking, touching, building tension, and foreplayThis move if done correctly using the middle finger and ring finger with correct rhythm and motion has never failed for me to make a women cum. Yea all women are different, but if you ask most experienced men or read online , this technique always gets repeated because it works. | /r/seduction | 11/12/21 07:17 PM |
| 2 | I’ve built up enough resentment for at least two lives through textingHey man I get it and feel your frustrations and venting helps. But ya gotta realize you gotta have a better mindset. You have all this negativity built up in your mindset, you really need to reframe yourself and make this an enjoyable and fun process. Don't be so dependent on the success of texting and responses from girls to the point where they are getting you down on life. After all, it's just text. Make it fun and flirty and playful when you text. If it works it works if it doesn't oh well, … | /r/seduction | 06/12/21 04:33 PM |
| -1 | Do drunk girls mean what they say?You missed when the iron was hot. I would have said something like oh I know where I'm going that's two blocks away then with a smirk, grab her shoulders to let her know you are serious and lead her to walk side by side. That's showing confidence and leading and communicating to her that yes you are accepting of her invitation in a playful yet confident manner. | /r/seduction | 31/10/21 06:33 PM |
| 18 | I jerk off daily no reason to stopI can relate and totally feel you bro. But your mindset is toxic and is feeding your confirmation bias that your life sucks. You say there's nothing you can do to improve your life, and therefore you vape, watch porn and do all these things that you know make you feel like shit. Well, the reason you are depressed is because you feel like you have no ownership in your life, you feel trapped so you seek relief by indulging in these things, but these instant gratifications only make you feel good t… | /r/seduction | 28/10/21 04:53 AM |
| 4 | Lost 32.5 year old. Deep issues with womenForget about women and just practice socializing with everyone, men or women. Treat everyone the same and be comfortable socially with lots of practice. | /r/seduction | 23/10/21 05:05 PM |
| 3 | Danced with a girl last night in the club, and then she ended up running awayThat's great. What are you going to do about it other than whine about it? You can't change your height and neither can anyone else, so you can continue to be feel sorry for yourself and keep the pity party going or change your mindset | /r/seduction | 17/10/21 10:43 PM |
| 2 | Had sex on the 3rd date, she's gone cold and flakeyYea.. That doesn't sound like a good sexual experience for all parties. And also doesn't sound like it's your fault either. She sounds insecure about her body or sex in general, but could have also just been awkward first time sex with someone. Either way, you weren't able to establish sexual chemistry, which is often the number one thing that can make the girl want to come back for more | /r/seduction | 17/10/21 10:40 PM |
| 2 | Danced with a girl last night in the club, and then she ended up running awayThere's no approach that's 100%, dancing is a great way to escalate. Jus t because she rejected you doesn't mean shit. People get rejected all the time despite doing all the right things. Just move on and quit acting all butt hurt because your ego can't handle a rejection. If your ego is bruised with every rejection then you won't get very far with women. Seduction isn't a do x y z steps in order then bam women is acquired. Anyone who sells you this is bulls hitting you. There are set fundamenta… | /r/seduction | 17/10/21 10:30 PM |
| 7 | Danced with a girl last night in the club, and then she ended up running awayLol I guarantee you it's not your lack of height holding you back from girls if you are already 6'1. Get a grip on reality, your mindset stinks | /r/seduction | 17/10/21 10:26 PM |
| 3 | [deleted by user]Don't criticize but you can certainly disagree. You should be confident in your views and express them freely. If they disagree, that's fine, you can have a civil discussion about it, but yes don't turn it into an argument or battle. | /r/seduction | 03/10/21 12:35 AM |
| 1 | [FIELD REPORT] Simultaneously making out with two girlsThat sounds like a fucking fun night. Love the reports and details. That's what clubbing and gaming girls is all about, it's about having fun, being wild, experiencing these dual make outs you can tell as stories later. If you get laid great, if not y'all still had a blast. And those new friends you made obvisouly did as well, sounds like they enjoyed your vibes and want to to party more keep up the energy bro I'm with you | /r/seduction | 02/10/21 01:23 AM |
| 6 | Be aware of her non-verbal communication patterns and mannerisms. Constantly gauging attraction levels is important, especially in long-term relationshipsI totally agree with what you say here. I find deferring the decision making to her a challenging one sometimes. When we first started dating I just led and did what I wanted to and gave no fucks, and she was very open and easy going. But as we began dating I naturally became more considerate of her needs and began asking for her opinion or what she wants instead of just doing what I wanted. Simple things, like leading when we were are exploring and just picking a way to go instead of asking her… | /r/seduction | 28/09/21 03:18 AM |
| 36 | [FIELD REPORT] 5'7 Asian Las Vegas, Did she use me for drinks?Yea homie. You fucked up. When she's giving you go signals from physical escalation, you don't need to over think about stupid simp shit. Instead, be playful. You can push back in a playful manner. Say no. You buy me a shot with a shit eating grin while you hold her tight and close. You cam tease her about saying she hasn't earned another drink yet etc etc. Think about it, what you've done has gotten you so far because she was attracted to you. Then all of a sudden, you were overly analytic abou… | /r/seduction | 05/09/21 04:11 AM |
| 6 | I quitYou won't have any success if you continue to believe you are not somebody that is not enjoyable to be around. Honestly, I understand you have depression and totally empathize with you. But from my point of view, just reading the way you talk negatively about yourself based on all these limiting beliefs was mentally draining. Your negative talk and perception of yourself and who you are as a person turns itself into a self fulfilling prophecy. All you have are limiting beliefs that you tell your… | /r/seduction | 02/09/21 06:50 AM |
| 1 | Should it be this hard?Keep smashing, but also think about how you can smash better and better each time, also think about the expeirnece as a whole and not just the sex itself. Look up g spot technique on how to make a girl squirt, master this and trust me she will beg for more. If you can show you are a master in the sex department, most girls will begin to consider a relationship even if they didn't initially. So focus on sex and relationship will naturally manifest because the girl arrives at the conclusion hersel… | /r/seduction | 01/09/21 05:36 AM |
| 3 | Should it be this hard?Send her something flirty or sexual but not directly asking her to meet up and fuck. Maybe a gym photo, ab shot or something. No words. Something that is sexual in nature but still allows her to be curious. Be coy, see if she plays the game and gauage level of interest , she will reciprocate, but key is how much effort does she make. This helps build sexual tension, and will let you know if she cares enough to build or if she literally just wants you to fuck and get it over with. | /r/seduction | 01/09/21 05:27 AM |
| 2 | Is it a bad idea to assure the girl I asked out that it's ok to say no instead of ghosting?Just chill and move on, sounds like she just wasn't interested. Don't bother over analyzing why she is acting this way or how she may think. You literally will never know, and it doesn't matter. Focus on yourself and what you can do better next time to build better rapport and comfort and communicate in a better style. | /r/seduction | 30/08/21 02:00 AM |
| 1 | [FIELD REPORT] Out-gamed a taller guy and got pinned against the wall by a bigger girl #MeTooFuck the haters, you are doing great brother. Even if you didn't get laid, as long as you were entertained and had fun, then you were successful. You probably took 10x more action and approaches than the average chump judging you here would even take. Especially women, I feel most are just arm chair quarter backs, but if push came to shove and if they actually had to actually approach men, risk rejection and try over and over again, they'd stop after 1 or 2 and then cry about how men are pigs. I… | /r/seduction | 24/08/21 07:35 PM |
| 6 | [FIELD REPORT] Out-gamed a taller guy and got pinned against the wall by a bigger girl #MeTooFuck the haters, you are doing great brother. Even if you didn't get laid, as long as you were entertained and had fun, then you were successful. You probably took 10x more action and approaches than the average chump judging you here would even take. Especially women, I feel most are just arm chair quarter backs, but if push came to shove and if they actually had to actually approach men, risk rejection and try over and over again, they'd stop after 1 or 2 and then cry about how men are pigs. I… | /r/seduction | 24/08/21 07:35 PM |
| 2 | The reward is far greater than the risk when deciding to talk to a beautiful womanSounds like it's the excuses you're having trouble with. Buckle up and learn on the fly, you'll make mistakes, embarrass yourself and get rejected, probably multiple times. Or maybe not, maybe you'll stumble a bit but learn along the way. | /r/seduction | 13/08/21 06:47 AM |
| 1 | I had a worst approach ever and my friend ruined it even moreSomething like that would really piss me off. Your friend is an ass hole and I'd probably not hang out with him again. You are free to say whatever you want to girls. Even if it's cringe af, your friend should not be prioritizing their feelings and actively put you down to appease strangers. Instead he should be supporting you, either by positively engaging such as continuing the joke or simply by shutting the fuck up. If he's doing the former, is he really your friend? | /r/seduction | 08/08/21 07:02 PM |
| 3 | Are you aged out of the “game” here in the U.S.?It's ok man don't feel too bad about the L and being older. I think theres a lot of pressure as people get older, you think people expect you to have it all together, especially when talking to younger people. But the reality is we are all human and must suffer failure to progress, at any stage in life. Next time focus more on being social and just talk to more people to relax yourself. Be less outcome dependant on girls. When you see a girl staring at you, just approach, be friendly, say hi and… | /r/seduction | 08/08/21 06:42 PM |
| 3 | I’ve made animated summaries of 50 of the best self improvement books. I’ve made a list of the links for each of the videos so you can find and watch the summary of the book you are interested in more easily. Hope this is useful.These are great, thanks man! How long does it take you to make one? | /r/seduction | 08/08/21 06:31 PM |
| 1 | Is approaching a girl in the gym a good idea?Who cares just do it if you want. Be bold. Be a normal, socially calibrated human being. You don't need the approval of anyone to tell you it's good or not. | /r/seduction | 06/08/21 04:14 AM |
| -5 | I was a bit creepy but it works outAgreed. Imagine if a girl hit on a guy and he gave her a fake number instead of telling her he wasn't interested. Imagine the conversations with their friends. Omg what an ass hole, he wasn't man enough to reject me out front he took the easy way out, what a pussy! | /r/seduction | 26/07/21 12:32 AM |
| 1 | Would it be weird to send her a cold email?Just do it then and explain exactly what you explained to me how you got her email. Nothing to lose. Also just try your best to be professional and make it clear you aren't a pyscho who will react poorly if she rejects you. | /r/seduction | 18/07/21 05:28 PM |
| 1 | Would it be weird to send her a cold email?Work email is a little weird and stalker ish. Surely if you can find a work email, you can find LinkedIn or Facebook? I think a message on those platforms would be more appropriate. I would just msg it with some genuine, honest thoughts saying you thought she was interesting and attractive and wanted her number but your meeting abruptly ended. You took a shot using the internet and is fully aware it might be a bit abrasive but decided to take a chance to reach out and here you are. Acknowledging… | /r/seduction | 18/07/21 04:57 AM |
| 3 | Should I call this girl?One option is to talk to her in person and flirt. Then ask for her number again and then be like oh I already have it when she gives it to you. Then be more assertive in your text game. | /r/seduction | 16/07/21 03:58 PM |
| 4 | I recently graduated highschool as a virgin. I never even kissed, held hands, or went on a date with anyone. It may not be a big deal to people, but I wish i could've had those teenage experiences which I will never have another chance for...I totally feel you dawg and I understand why it seems like such a big deal to you. The other teenagers who are dating and getting that experience are having a blast for sure, and will never have understand what you are going through. However, that time has already passed you by. You graduated and that chapter closed. Accept it. With that being said, whenever a chapter ends, a new chapter begins. In fact, a much more exciting and opportunity filled chapter is about to begin. Arguably one of the m… | /r/seduction | 16/07/21 05:11 AM |
| 1 | Fundementals of gameFocus on improving your mindset and life instead of girls at all. Your current mindset that your life is mundane and don't deserve girls is a self fulfilling prophecy. Forget about gaming girls and just get better at social skills with everyone. Hot girl or friend or random stranger, are all just normal people that you can talk to. | /r/seduction | 12/07/21 07:36 AM |
| 1 | Fundementals of gameYou are an adult in control of your own life. Don't wait for somehow to hold your hand through everything in life. If you want to be a man, this is the first thing you need to understand. Take action yourself, take some risks and put in the work to learn and be better. | /r/seduction | 11/07/21 12:33 AM |
| 1 | I’m in highschoolFocus on yourself to be the best version of yourself. Learn to talk to girls first like a normal human being and then go from there. Focussing too much on getting laid when you are in HS distorts your view of women and seduction. | /r/seduction | 02/07/21 04:05 PM |
| 9 | 24 m. Cannot get a reply back from matches on tinder. FrustratedGo outside and try in the real world. Rejection and/or success on tinder is meaningless As long as you only do tinder, you will be stuck in this frustration cycle. | /r/seduction | 02/07/21 02:54 AM |
| 2 | 27 year old virgin going on first date hopefully, need adviceJust meet up with her for drinks to pregame before your show. If she doesn't want to come rave, great you pregamed with her, loosened up and can go have fun at the show without worrying about her. If she actually comes to the show, in my experience it ruins my own enjoyment because I'm trying to cater to their needs, especially if they haven't raved before or don't listen to the music. | /r/seduction | 02/07/21 02:47 AM |
| 1 | Subtle, light, playful touch is crucial in building attraction and reinforcing the idea that you are more than a platonic friendYea agreed for sure | /r/seduction | 01/07/21 06:49 AM |
| 3 | Subtle, light, playful touch is crucial in building attraction and reinforcing the idea that you are more than a platonic friendNatural is better of course, but men have to lead the date. If you wait for things to happen "naturally", it may or may not. You aren't going to touch her unless you concisously decide to make that action, so do it decisively and boldly. If you don't initiate any touch on a date, attraction will wane quickly | /r/seduction | 01/07/21 12:37 AM |
| 6 | Subtle, light, playful touch is crucial in building attraction and reinforcing the idea that you are more than a platonic friendDoing anything out of your comfort zone is perceived as creepy? LOL. Maintaining eye contact with a pretty girl is out of most people's comfort zone, does this mean they shouldn't do it? Get real | /r/seduction | 30/06/21 08:36 PM |
| 69 | Finally broke the Gym CodeIt's the fucking gym lol if shit blows up you just be mature, say hi when you see her and continue on with whatever you do. It's a gym not work | /r/seduction | 23/06/21 05:40 PM |
| 3 | How do I get a girl to grind on me and eventually make out at loud dance club? Is it all about non verbal?Slow, methodical, teasing and firm movements of hands to the rhythm of the music. There's a lot of area between neutral areas (hip bones, side of waist, lower back, side of legs) and more intimate areas (asscheeks, under ass cheeks, pelvic area below hips but above pussy, inner upper thighs etc). The focus of your movements should be on the music and dance while touching more intimate boundaries, hence the term escalation. There are also different forms of touches you can use like firm holds, li… | /r/seduction | 20/06/21 06:06 PM |
| 41 | How do I get a girl to grind on me and eventually make out at loud dance club? Is it all about non verbal?Don't start with just grinding. It can work but rarely unless you know exactly what you are doing. Instead you have to escalate with body language. Eye contact or a simple hi, dance with me to let them know what you want. Offer your hand and just dance for a bit. Escalate to shoulder touches, hips and keep it non sexual and just dancing. If she's enjoying and has no problems on hips, then you can slowly navigate around hip early. Moving your hands slowly around the hip area to graze the waist, l… | /r/seduction | 19/06/21 06:03 PM |
| 7 | Some thoughts after getting my first girlfriendStop thinking of women like they are things that you can rank them based on your preferences. Each woman is an individual and unless you know them all romantically and intimately very well, there is no way for you reasonably conclude who's your number 1. You may THINK she's your number 1 pick because you think she's hot and she fits all your shopping list criteria, but being in a relationship with her may be less than ideal. There is no number 1 until you find yourself in an amazing relationship… | /r/seduction | 18/06/21 06:41 AM |
| 1 | Women give the best dating advice. . .but not when they're giving dating advice.Truer words have never been spoke | /r/seduction | 15/06/21 04:17 PM |
| 1 | To me, it feels like I can only approach a girl if we meet in a place where that's "socially acceptable", be it at a bar, work or school. How do you approach a girl who's just trying to mind her own business that you met at some random coffee shop?Just start small then and work your way up. Have friendly chats with customer service workers, just a few sentences beyond hi how are you. Approach a random and ask for directions? Then work to improve social skills with your friends and family at the same time as well. Your goal for now isn't to pick up attractive girls, it's just to improve your social skills | /r/seduction | 02/06/21 03:35 PM |
| 0 | To me, it feels like I can only approach a girl if we meet in a place where that's "socially acceptable", be it at a bar, work or school. How do you approach a girl who's just trying to mind her own business that you met at some random coffee shop?Clearly didn't understand because you addressed nothing of substance | /r/seduction | 01/06/21 07:28 PM |
| 0 | To me, it feels like I can only approach a girl if we meet in a place where that's "socially acceptable", be it at a bar, work or school. How do you approach a girl who's just trying to mind her own business that you met at some random coffee shop?We'll agree to disagree. You clearly aren't understanding my points. I'm not pretending. I know I've made people's day better. Does it happen all of time and is it the same for everyone? No, not everyone reacts the same obviously, but I am confident myself and most people I know will have a better day if they have a pleasant interaction with someone unexpected. By definition, being a high value person, you should automatically be leaving people better than when before. High value people also att… | /r/seduction | 01/06/21 07:04 PM |
| 2 | To me, it feels like I can only approach a girl if we meet in a place where that's "socially acceptable", be it at a bar, work or school. How do you approach a girl who's just trying to mind her own business that you met at some random coffee shop?If you don't wanna predator hunt, then don't predator hunt. I personally feel it's better and more organic to approach beautiful women you see as you go about your own normal life, instead of purposefully slotting out time and location for the sole purpose of approaching women. The approach is always gonna be the hardest and most awkward part. Usually most people are taken aback wondering why this person is talking to me. You can alleviate this by just plainly stating why you are talking to them… | /r/seduction | 01/06/21 06:55 PM |
| 14 | To me, it feels like I can only approach a girl if we meet in a place where that's "socially acceptable", be it at a bar, work or school. How do you approach a girl who's just trying to mind her own business that you met at some random coffee shop?Exactly, it's literally talking and people make it out to be such a big deal. It doesn't help you have women freaking out and calling people creepy when they have zero context of what actually happens when it's done. It's just talking. My opinion is that women thinks its creepy on this sub when they read it because it's analytical due to the nature of the topic and people breakdown it down point by point, so it seems robotic, manipulative and "weird". When the reality is, some men just don't hav… | /r/seduction | 01/06/21 06:46 PM |
| 0 | To me, it feels like I can only approach a girl if we meet in a place where that's "socially acceptable", be it at a bar, work or school. How do you approach a girl who's just trying to mind her own business that you met at some random coffee shop?It's not wishful thinking. It's called adapting a winning and positive mindset which is what a majority of men need when talking to women. Whether your anecdotes or my anecdotes are correct is a moot point. I agree both can be valid and correct since they are based on real life experiences. But what mindset is most beneficial for me if I'm approaching? Since I've had success and literal feedback from interactions that yes, they did enjoy my approach, im going to focus on the mindset that if I ha… | /r/seduction | 01/06/21 06:31 PM |
| 27 | To me, it feels like I can only approach a girl if we meet in a place where that's "socially acceptable", be it at a bar, work or school. How do you approach a girl who's just trying to mind her own business that you met at some random coffee shop?Not many people do it, but people on this sub do it, yes. I did at various locations until I met my gf of 4 years on the train. See my comment above for story of the approach. I wasn't obsessed with it, but I mostly did it to improve my social skills, confidence and probability of meeting women to date. Every approach I did pushed me out of my comfort zone and made me feel better about myself. I had successes and failures like all things in life. Y'all only want to approach when it's a sure thin… | /r/seduction | 01/06/21 04:46 PM |
| 10 | To me, it feels like I can only approach a girl if we meet in a place where that's "socially acceptable", be it at a bar, work or school. How do you approach a girl who's just trying to mind her own business that you met at some random coffee shop?You would make someone's day better if you did a good respectful approach. 100%. If a stranger came and said hi and you had a pleasamt conversation, that's something out of the ordinary for 95% of people. For most people, almost anything that breaks the monotony of their routine life is welcomed. How do you do a good respectful approach? Well sorry ya gotta practice to get better and in that practice you're gonna have some duds. That's life. | /r/seduction | 01/06/21 04:39 PM |
| 46 | To me, it feels like I can only approach a girl if we meet in a place where that's "socially acceptable", be it at a bar, work or school. How do you approach a girl who's just trying to mind her own business that you met at some random coffee shop?If everyone minded their own business and everyone left it at that, humanity would NEVER have made it to what it is today. Things only happen in this world because people take risks, and inject themselves into other people's lives. This is true whether it's for love, career, family, friends etc. Minding your own business is status quo, and while everyone has comfort in status quo and wouldn't mind staying there as the default option, growth and progress is what people truly desire. Your right to… | /r/seduction | 01/06/21 03:59 PM |
| 35 | To me, it feels like I can only approach a girl if we meet in a place where that's "socially acceptable", be it at a bar, work or school. How do you approach a girl who's just trying to mind her own business that you met at some random coffee shop?You can look for those indicators but if use them as your requirement to approach you won't get anywhere. It will give yourself an excuse to always pussy out, even if she is actually giving indicators. "she smiled oh but I'm not 100% sure it was at me. She gave me eye contact but it wasn't friendly". Your mind can explore all kinds of hypotheticals and create self doubt which will actually just hinder you in the long run. The only way to know for sure is to chat them up and guage their response.… | /r/seduction | 01/06/21 03:55 PM |
| 17 | To me, it feels like I can only approach a girl if we meet in a place where that's "socially acceptable", be it at a bar, work or school. How do you approach a girl who's just trying to mind her own business that you met at some random coffee shop?Agreed, toss your limiting beliefs out the window. Additionally, you can also never know exactly what a girl is feeling or wants unless you go and talk to her and find out. Don't think of it as hitting on her, think of it as just chatting and getting to know her. Then from body language and reaction, you can get a feel for if she is receptive or not. If she's not receptive you can just ask for number and then say it was a pleasure talking to you, I have to go now but have a good day. That's it, … | /r/seduction | 01/06/21 03:43 PM |
| 4 | Guys - how did you go in for the kiss on your date?Quite the opposite actually lol your advice seems like it'd come from a woman | /r/seduction | 01/06/21 02:57 AM |
| 11 | So I did it, I worked on myself for years and the ladies came pouring in… now I find myself being wanted by 2 awesome women (gf material), and not sure what to doIf the older girl isn't even physically in your same city then logistically she's not happening | /r/seduction | 31/05/21 06:32 PM |
| 1 | I'd appreciate some feedback on that topic. I'm getting the result that I want but I don't like the way I'm getting it.Bar hookups or people you just wanna lay will be attracted to this and if that's what's you want that's fine. But think about whether or not you could have a relationship about someone who's drawn in by this? Wouldn't you rather date someone who finds kindness, openness and warmth attractive? | /r/seduction | 30/05/21 06:42 PM |
| 3 | Send your text and forget about itLmao and? If she's turned off because you didn't respond in two hours, she isn't someone you want to invest any further time in. Have higher standards for yourself | /r/seduction | 29/05/21 06:31 PM |
| 1 | A rejection of modern dating methods - Delete your apps post pandemicYou literally just accused him of being angry for something you didn't say, and referenced your use of "if". I called you out on that, and now all of a sudden you meant he actually was harassing you. So you did say he was harassing you or did you not? You keep saying we aren't reading what you wrote, but in reality I think it's you who aren't reading what we post. Projecting much? | /r/seduction | 24/05/21 05:17 AM |
| 1 | A rejection of modern dating methods - Delete your apps post pandemiclol it's hopeless arguing with these people i've realized. wasted too much of my own time and effort, this sub is trash | /r/seduction | 24/05/21 05:12 AM |
| 3 | A rejection of modern dating methods - Delete your apps post pandemicYou literally said "harassing anyone else?" Else implies you're saying he's already harassed someone here. I can understand the disagreement, but the removal and point about harassment is just so off base. Encouraging people to talk to strangers in real life is NOT harassment. He didn't tell people to go up to people in the gym and ask them for their number and to not leave them alone until they give it to him. That's harassment. He's simply telling people to have the courage to approach and tal… | /r/seduction | 24/05/21 05:08 AM |
| 4 | Had a girl over that was crazy about me. We started making out then she tells me were not compatible? Anyone else experience this?It sounds like she's just not over her ex. She wanted to get out there dating to try to get over him or see if it would help, hence eagerness to hang out with you. But as soon as you escalated sexually, it reminded her of how he used to kiss and be intimate with her. And that reminded her that you aren't him, and she realizes she isn't over him and is now making out with some dude while mentally thinking about her ex and their break up. So basically it's a major buzz kill for her interest and se… | /r/seduction | 24/05/21 03:11 AM |
| 6 | Had a girl over that was crazy about me. We started making out then she tells me were not compatible? Anyone else experience this?Variety and confidence. Mixing up kissing, nibbling, suck and tongue action. Teasing with the tongue. Tempo. Taking a pause and eye contact. Know when to pull the breaks. Switch it up between long drawn out make kisses, and light pecks. Turn head in different directions. Kissing different areas such as neck, clavicle, ears etc. Gently grabbing hair and head to pull them in. Sucking on bottom lip, involve some teeth and then gently pulling away(might be an actual term for this, not sure, but chic… | /r/seduction | 24/05/21 03:08 AM |
| 2 | Telling a girl I like herGonna be blunt. Sounds like you took a full 2 years to safely secure yourself in the friend zone. Textbook case of friend zone example. To be honest, there is no good way of telling someone you "like them". A better way is to physically escalate on a date and go for a kiss. But from what you've written, I already know you're going to tell me that you like her too much and don't want to risk losing her as a friend blah blah blah. Reality is, reading that probably made you scared shitless and you'… | /r/seduction | 24/05/21 03:00 AM |
| 1 | A rejection of modern dating methods - Delete your apps post pandemicIt's terrible. Honestly this sub is pretty bad, I want to offer help to people who are bad with women by sharing my thoughts and perspective, but this sub doesn't really seem to be an outlet for that. Instead, it seems to be a hostile place where all the toxic traits from all the bad apples sit and simmer. Let me know if you start a blog or channel, I'd be happy to bounce some ideas around. | /r/seduction | 23/05/21 10:12 PM |
| 2 | A rejection of modern dating methods - Delete your apps post pandemicThat's great to hear. Consider the possibility that there's also someone out there exactly like you, but they don't care about timing, body language and ability to read the room. They just like to be approached, period. Chances might be low, but doesn't mean they don't exist and there may also be more of them than you think. There's literally millions of women out there, all with variations in preferences of what they like and don't like. In the game of relationships, 1 good match is sometimes a… | /r/seduction | 23/05/21 09:03 PM |
| 1 | A rejection of modern dating methods - Delete your apps post pandemicYou love to be approached only when it goes well. That's great and totally make sense, but very few people become good at approaching by reading advice online. Like all things in life you need to practice, so yes, some men will be shit at it, they won't know how to read body langauge, they won't know how to calibrate and make women comfortable, they will be awkward. You call them creepy, but they are fucking trying. If no one tried, how would anyone get better? How does anyone get better at anyt… | /r/seduction | 23/05/21 08:38 PM |
| 2 | A rejection of modern dating methods - Delete your apps post pandemicWhy do you keep taking his points and slapping on assumptions and extrapolating? No one said relationships is the sole cure to loneliness and depression and our drive for relationships. Our point is if we don't approach, the chances of us landing a life partner diminishes greatly. So if we grow old and are still single because we never took any chances, then yes, we will be fucking lonely because that's the definition. And chances of you being depressed as well in that situation? High or low, yo… | /r/seduction | 23/05/21 08:25 PM |
| 2 | A rejection of modern dating methods - Delete your apps post pandemicThat's literally your subjective opinion that the gym is a difficult place to strike up a conversation in. I live my own life, if I see a cute girl and I want to get to know her and introduce myself, I will do it. If I wait and try to wait for the best time so that the stars align, 99% chance the average male will make an excuse and end up NOT approaching at all. A simple saying that's applicable to all things in life, the best time to do anything is always NOW. My right to talk to you is just a… | /r/seduction | 23/05/21 08:17 PM |
| 5 | A rejection of modern dating methods - Delete your apps post pandemicYou're missing the point. He's not saying rejection would cause loneliness and depression. Hes putting into perspective the fact that you can meet the love of your life by taking action and talking to someone, even if it's at the gym. If you don't take action and are discouraged by your personal experiences (which are valid because you experienced it poorly and felt that way, but is not reason for people to use as general advice). What if tomorrow someone who was actually socially competent chat… | /r/seduction | 23/05/21 02:43 PM |
| 1 | [FR] 05/19/21 – Assume She’s DTF Earlier Than You ThinkGreat fr, I disagree with your opinion about kissing. If you are getting DTF vibes, going in for a quick, unexpected kiss can spike their emotions, let you know you are spontaneous and also on the same wavelength as them. The key though is don't be thirsty and don't go for a long make out. You only want to tease them and let them know you know what's up and aren't afraid to act on it. If I know they are DTF or I know I need to quickly escalate, I like to just pause randomly in the middle of a co… | /r/seduction | 23/05/21 04:05 AM |
| 1 | Nightly account #17.Keep trying brother, your attitude is great and sounds like you are motivated and making good progress. It sounds like you are comfortable making cold approaches now which is great. May I suggest you take your newly learn skills and confidence into normal day time approaches? It's really no different than night game except you tone down the directness slightly and focus more on being friendly and extra chatty. | /r/seduction | 23/05/21 03:57 AM |
| 1 | Getting a negative reaction from wife after becoming more dominant in the relationshipIt's different when you are in a relationship man, you can't just suddenly decide to change yourself and how you react in the relationship without some consideration for your partner. Think about it from her perspective, you aren't reacting and responding like you used to. She's gonna be wondering why and usually this is when the female brain takes over and starts going crazy with what ifs, which can start a negative feed back loop in your relationship. This isn't to say you cant change yourself… | /r/seduction | 23/05/21 03:48 AM |
| 1 | Cold ApproachThis is the way. Also just try to be relaxed and don't rush trying to get a number or anything. Just be outgoing, friendly and nice and then after bukding rapport, convey your interest. | /r/seduction | 22/05/21 11:52 PM |
| 1 | Cold ApproachDating app vs approaching in real life is not the same. You even comparing them is ridiculous. In real life you have the opportunity to build a connection, a chance to pique their curiosity, spike emotions, to make their day better. You can't do none of that online, it's not even close to the same. Cold approach ain't gonna be sunshine and butterflies bro, you are gonna get rejected and it's gonna suck. But you are suppose to learn from the experience and find out what works and what doesn't whe… | /r/seduction | 22/05/21 11:50 PM |
| 2 | I honestly don't get why I got friendzonedTough to say why, people can do things for a variety of reasons, most times out of your control. However, it seems like you are overly analytical and I also do believe you should have made better moves and tried to escalate to build sexual tension. You can super compatible but if there's no sexual tension then it ain't flying for most girls. Without that spike in emotions, girls either think there's no spark, you aren't interested or you're a pussy. All 3 of those result in same thing, rejection… | /r/seduction | 22/05/21 11:18 PM |
| 1 | Went out for the first time. Failed hard and feeling shitty, could use adviceFocus on improving yourself and pushing your own comfort and risk tolerance, and if you successfully do so in a given moment, view that as a victory instead of thinking that you only win if you impress a girl or score with one. Thinking too much about the girl will kill your game, trust me especially if you are an analytical person. | /r/seduction | 18/05/21 03:24 PM |
| 2 | Went out for the first time. Failed hard and feeling shitty, could use adviceBe bold, take risks and take action. You need practice, repetition is the mother to mastery. That's all, keep it simple. You said you barely tried to talk to girls, yet you had all this time to read and learn about pick up, over analyze and critique yourself internally. Look how long your post is about your failures. If you spent a fraction of your time actually taking action to put yourself out of your comfort zone and just boldly approach, fail, and try again, you'd do a lot better. You aren't… | /r/seduction | 18/05/21 04:21 AM |
| 3 | FR Girl in the park again. Always the parkWhatever works for you. Text game is pretty important for me because most girls are glued on their phones these days, there's obviously right and wrong ways to approach it and everyone's different. But if less texting has worked better for you in the past then stick with it! | /r/seduction | 13/05/21 08:23 PM |
| 9 | FR Girl in the park again. Always the parkI wouldn't wait a few days to test, it sounds like she was into it so you want to keep the momentum going, just drop some fun banter texts in the evening and avoid long convos and keep the thirst levels down for sure. | /r/seduction | 13/05/21 07:42 PM |
| 1 | Going for a drink on Wednesday for the first time with a girl I matched with back in 2019. I'm obviously attracted to her but our communication has always been platonic. How do I change this in person?You gotta flirt and tease her. Look up Craig Ferguson for examples of how he teases his guests and playfully banter with them. You don't have to do it as well as him, but as long as you give off that flirty vibe, the conversations should be more fun and flowy. Then combine it with touch escalation and you communicate to her you want her more than as a friend. If you talk to her like how you text her, which is like a friend, then you will only be seen as a friend. Don't think about if it'll be aw… | /r/seduction | 10/05/21 11:40 PM |
| 2 | FestivalsJust chill and don't thirst too hard for girls. Do approach girls and guys often and try to make friends with everyone. If you vibe with a girl, great dance and hang out with them, but also don't be too butt hurt if they leave at some point. That's just what happens at festivals, people come and go. Grab her IG snapchat or something and y'all can meet up another day or time. | /r/seduction | 10/05/21 11:29 PM |
| 2 | How to remember all these dating advice in the moment?As an over thinker I can relate to this question, not just in terms of seduction but for most things we learn. There's so much material and details, how can we possibly remember it all, especially in the heat of the moment like a social interaction? If anything, it's a distraction to try to remember all this shit while having your heart pounding from talking to a beautiful girl. It doesn't work in my expeirnece. My solution is to use the 80/20 rule, look up Paretos law if you aren't familiar. Bu… | /r/seduction | 09/05/21 11:21 PM |
| 2 | How to remember all these dating advice in the moment?This. Im glad you got it and I think a lot of women don't, especially when they all just say be yourself. They aren't wrong, being yourself is legitimate advice. But being yourself doesn't exclude you from improving on your weaknesses, analyzing your seduction approach, coming up with a systematic approach. What is yourself anyways? We all change throughout life, at what point is change defined as not being yourself versus reinventing yourself to be better? What if your current self is not perfo… | /r/seduction | 09/05/21 10:58 PM |
| 4 | FINALLY got a girl’s number who I actually like!! (Field Report)This has to be satire troll or copy pasta lol | /r/seduction | 08/05/21 09:45 AM |
| 1 | FR Girl at parkI would send a few fun and short texts, nothing serious maybe tease her about finals or make a joke about your dog doing something funny or send her a pic of her dog. One thing I like to do is role play and talk about her in third person, one example send a cute dog pic and say your dog is so excited from meeting her new friend, your dog can't wait to go back to the park! The new friend is obviously her, but it's less direct and leaves creates more of a fantasy story she can use her imagination … | /r/seduction | 07/05/21 03:41 AM |
| 1 | If there is one thing that would attract you the most about a woman, what would it be?Actually, what triggered me was your shitty advice and responses to people calling it out for what it is, but thanks for womansplaining what triggers me :) No one has to make you out into a man hater, you did a good enough job yourself | /r/seduction | 26/04/21 07:11 AM |
| 1 | If there is one thing that would attract you the most about a woman, what would it be?No one is against empowering confidence in women or men. The criticism is when you strongly advise someone to ONLY focus on that AND to ignore the men's perspective. It's overly simplistic and naive advice. It seems like all you want to do is plug your ears and accuse everyone of oppressing and hating women and we are all sexist pigs. You hyperbolize what people say so you can rationalize everyone is out to oppress women and keep using that as your central argument. Get over yourself, your advic… | /r/seduction | 26/04/21 06:47 AM |
| 1 | If there is one thing that would attract you the most about a woman, what would it be?Encouraging a woman to be confident and self empowered is a great message, it's the same message to men seeking seduction advice. What is toxic and why people are criticizing you is the way you explain it and your hostility towards men. It's not a personal attack when that's the communication you have chose to convey your message. That's the impression you have left. If we are going to keep speaking in absolutes, I will also say men also have to live daily with the unfair expectations of women. … | /r/seduction | 26/04/21 06:05 AM |
| 2 | I wanna know what’s the thing that’s holding people back from being confident person , the person who talks to everyone in a cool way being loud enough to be heard not shy or hesitant to speak in that way rather than speaking in a soft way , talking to everyone , being themselves with everyoneAs an introvert, I think you nail it pretty good. The simplify it more, I think it's because introverts analyze too deeply and are ultimately afraid of rejection and judgment. They are so afraid of it, they never take action to ever act any differently to actually experience the results for themselves. Instead, they are paralyzed by their what ifs and stay within what's comfortable for them. If you want to be confident and social with everyone in the room, then get up, be loud and talk to everyo… | /r/seduction | 26/04/21 06:00 AM |
| 2 | If there is one thing that would attract you the most about a woman, what would it be?I understand your point and it is valid, but you should also consider that everything in life isn't so black and white. She can do what she wants and improve herself AND also solicit the opinion of the very audience she is trying to attract. Using an analogy, I would say your advice is the equivalent of telling an entrepreneur to prepare for a business pitch by only considering what he/she think is important, instead of trying to think from their audiences perspective, the investors point of vie… | /r/seduction | 24/04/21 10:41 PM |
| 3 | How to differentiate between flirty teasing and friendly banter?Sounds like an excuse so you don't don't have to man up imo | /r/seduction | 19/04/21 11:11 PM |
| 16 | Been liking this girl for months, And we became very close. Is there still attraction or did I lose the chance?Chill out bro, she has exams and you haven't even fucked yet and you're talking about marriage. Don't let your neediness mess this up, just go with the vibes | /r/seduction | 28/03/21 08:57 PM |
| 2 | Met a girl at the bar last night, texted her, but no text back. What to do next?Does it matter? You have something going on tonight and you want to invite her to it because you are interested in her.if she accepts great, if she doesn't or lukewarm well then move on. And you are way too invested over a bar girl from 10 min of interaction. To be honest, maybe you just weren't memorable enough in your interaction and she has no interest in pursuing anything with you. You yourself said you had an introductory convo, nothing exciting. | /r/seduction | 24/11/18 10:19 PM |
| 1 | Met a girl at the bar last night, texted her, but no text back. What to do next?Just throw the invite and if response great if not, next | /r/seduction | 24/11/18 10:11 PM |
| 1 | When a girl says she's busy on the night you propose going out, what do you say next?Chill out bruh, read it with a comma after he said girls don't give a fuck and it will make sense what he said. He's basically saying if the girl likes you and finds you attractive, then she won't make u jump thru dumb hoops for her attention. Girls don't think like that, they either like a guy or don't or on the fence. If they don't like u, you probably won't be able to change their mind | /r/seduction | 18/11/18 06:02 PM |
| 2 | I quickly get bored of women I meet.They don't have to share your interests, instead be curious about theirs and ask things to find out why they are interested. Being curious is always a good angle to approach from | /r/seduction | 20/10/18 02:43 AM |
| 2 | Does Marijuana ruin your game ?My own experiences are all I need and if you learn about weed you'll know that there's more than just thc in the plant. Different strains have different concentrations of cannibinoids and terpenes in them, so it's not a stretch to imagine that different ratios of them would provide different effects. A simple google search will bring up tons of research and new specific products being developed for anxiety etc. Additionally, the method of delivery can also change the effects because of how certa… | /r/seduction | 14/07/18 06:11 AM |
| 2 | Does Marijuana ruin your game ?Strains make a huge difference except most people don't understand this or try to downplay it. A good sativa and high cbd weed will relax you and make you super out going as opposed to stuck in your head of anxiety | /r/seduction | 14/07/18 02:23 AM |
| 111 | [FR] "Are you single?"It's also quite effective stacking yes questions in a row, it tends to make people more agreeable to continue saying yes since they already said it a few times so it's nbd. Compared to if you went straight for the number, the question and her answer seems for daunting | /r/seduction | 14/07/18 02:14 AM |
| 2 | Here's Exactly How to Improve Your Game InstantlyIt's not artificial, your real voice is your chest voice | /r/seduction | 21/06/18 02:35 AM |
| 3 | Is it possible to know if she’s ‘the one’ just after the first date?Vibing hard on the first date doesn't mean much other than the fact you enjoyed each others company... You're already thinking about this girl being perfect for you. Just relax and go with the flow. I'm not saying she can't be the one, but to even consider that at this point in time is ridiculous. Finding the "perfect" partner and knowing so requires much more time and effort and experiences together than just a simple first date high | /r/seduction | 20/05/18 07:36 AM |
| 3 | [FR] - Solo gamin and problem with a bouncerI'm sorry bro but you're delusional... That's the honest truth. Those girls didn't like you or gave a shit about what happened. You yourself said they never even looked back. Stop blaming the bouncer and work on your awareness as others have suggested. | /r/seduction | 02/05/18 12:17 AM |
| 4 | Single (M, 30)I mean.. He's actually not wrong.. | /r/seduction | 22/04/18 05:22 PM |
| 2 | [FR] Day game of cute college Volleyball ChickSounds like your approach was superb, very assertive and self confident. The hard part is done imo, I would continue to be flirty over texts and show confidence but don't over commit and feel the need to be so responsive. Dial it back a little, even when you meet up with her again. Maybe be a tad bit more serious and less flirty, and then slowly throughout the date, begin build up back to your initial approach confidence and energy. This push and pull of energy will feel natural with physical es… | /r/seduction | 21/04/18 01:15 AM |
| 0 | Is it too early in friendship/relationship to ask girl to go on a vacation with me?Acknowledge that it's early and it's unusual. But you think you'd have fun together so you figured why not ask. if it doesn't pan out it's no big deal cuz you'd go regardless, it depends on the girl tbh but if you approach it in an aloof manner I see nothing wrong | /r/seduction | 10/04/18 05:21 PM |
| 2 | Be mysterious or be open?Here's a suggestion, why don't you be both at different times depending on how you feel? I personally find one of the most attractive traits is to have a consistent personality but don't be too predictable if that makes sense | /r/seduction | 05/04/18 02:43 AM |
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