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Dude, most of them are there for the same thing. Not saying they wouldn’t pass up a good deal if you are balling too. Just most of them aren’t exactly brokenhearted when they stop talking to you
/r/Divorce_Men16/02/25 07:21 AM
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Yup. They know the deal by hen. If they just come out and say that, their dating apps get blown up with pervs. It helped me get over my ex when I realized I could bang 10 of her and she would just be another one
/r/Divorce_Men16/02/25 07:19 AM
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Were you also married to my ex? Sounds exactly the same and then she is dumbfounded when the kids have issues with her. Just wait, stage 2 is her blaming you for her issues with the kids.
/r/Divorce_Men03/10/24 12:09 AM
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Yeah man, just be straight up about it. Don’t pretend like you want to lock it down. Plenty of women get that and are looking for their own thing too
/r/Divorce_Men29/09/24 03:42 AM
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You are real angry bro. Look at his post. She’s is getting healthy and is losing interest because OP admits he’s a lazy fat slob. I’m a divorced guy and I get what you are saying, but this guy is just salty bc his girl got fit and isn’t ok with him being sloppy.
/r/Divorce_Men26/07/24 06:40 AM
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Dude, you aren’t gonna wanna hear this but if you ever want her to stay in the marriage, do what she’s doing. Get yourself fine. That shit is hard work. She’s doing HIIT and you crying
/r/Divorce_Men26/07/24 04:39 AM
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Exactly. Imagine the beautiful things about your relationship, and now imagine her moaning on some dude’s dick. Snap out of it man.
/r/Divorce_Men14/07/24 05:33 AM
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Dude, she can be as adamant as she wants. She doesn’t just get to make that decision on her own. She’s trying to manipulate and bully you because she knows your feelings are still attached to her. She’s using your feelings to got you to agree to this. 100% she will hit you up for child support and alimony plus tell your kids that you abandoned them. She’s wants a divorce? Well, she needs to put her big girl pants on and get a job and a new place to live. Bet those “sahm is the hardest job in the…
/r/Divorce_Men02/06/24 09:02 PM
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Exactly, you don’t like their phone access? Change it. Sounds like you are afraid of your ex bro. Abide by the legal contract, if you don’t understand it, consult a lawyer. She is stealing custody from you by being constantly on the phone with your youngest. Nut up champ
/r/Divorce_Men19/05/24 05:56 AM
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It’s a lot easier to justify blowing up your husband and kids’ world when you convince yourself you are a victim who needs to escape.
/r/Divorce_Men06/05/24 02:51 AM
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It’s all about intentions. If this pharmacist chick is looking for a relationship, you sure as shit better tell her you have kids. If it’s just casual, then it only matters bc of scheduling. Don’t make it a big thing, but I wouldn’t waste either of your time waiting until the date. She’ll be extra pissed bc she spent time getting ready and wasted an evening with a dude who doesn’t fit her criteria. Just tell her, “In the interest of transparency, I wanted to let you know I was married before and…
/r/Divorce_Men26/04/24 05:12 AM
1

It’s good head. It’s always that
/r/Divorce_Men19/04/24 02:19 PM
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Dude, net worth isn’t the problem. 3 kids and no job is the issue. She’s got that sweet alimony and child support cash supporting her. You’re the next gravy train. Hit it for awhile and bounce
/r/Divorce_Men19/04/24 04:56 AM
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Solid advice but why are you on a subreddit for divorced/divorcing men?
/r/Divorce_Men19/04/24 04:54 AM
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Which is why a bunch of us suddenly started to hear what narcissists and abusers we apparently were for years before they got the “courage and support” to break free!
/r/Divorce_Men11/04/24 07:55 PM
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Date “spiritual” women for a good time, not for a long time. If she believes in magic crystals, she’s going to be a freak in bed. Bank it
/r/Divorce_Men03/04/24 06:24 PM
13

Bingo. “I would have never slutted around with drug dealers if you would have let me spread my wings!” Fuck that bro, ignore it and keep moving on.
/r/Divorce_Men01/04/24 06:05 PM
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A-fucking-men. For all you co-parenting dads out there. How many times has “co-parenting” meant your opinions on what your child needs are heard? If not, you are getting sold a lie of “coparenting” that essentially means your ex is the entitled expert because she is a lol and if you don’t agree with here, you arent coparenting
/r/Divorce_Men17/02/24 06:42 AM
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Goddamn right. I’m 50/50 and play Fortnite with my son for hours when he is with my ex bc she doesn’t put any boundaries around video games. I suck at Fortnite and don’t enjoy playing it but it’s hours of bonding time with him when I otherwise wouldn’t see or talk to him. Whats she doing during this time? On IG in another room. Ironically, when he is with me, we don’t play Fortnite. We just hang. Meet them where they are at is 💯rock solid advice.
/r/Divorce_Men17/02/24 06:32 AM
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Are you a guy? Why the hell would you write a book like this in the divorce men’s subreddit?
/r/Divorce_Men04/02/24 06:11 AM
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Never got anything close to the truth from mine. She said it was none of my business and not even cheating because she had already decided she wanted to divorce me. Dafuq? We were still married and living together. I guess that’s how marriage works now, it’s not infidelity once you just decide mentally you want a divorce. We’ve been divorced for 3 years and I guarantee she would still say the same thing. I’m sure whoever she is dating will also find out about this new version of fidelity the har…
/r/Divorce_Men22/01/24 12:59 AM
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Well, you should have taken a consonant because she had at least an emotional affair, in your own words made your life hell, and then wants to come back because she realized she loves you? What do you think is going to happen the next time she decides her needs aren’t being met? Saying this as someone who has felt similar. It’s a trap
/r/Divorce_Men18/01/24 06:17 AM
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Hundo, bitch used you to get her life set up in a big house next to her parents so they can watch your kids while she gets railed in the house you bought. Nah, fuck that bro
/r/Divorce_Men01/12/23 06:02 AM
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Why are you hanging around a subreddit for divorced men then?
/r/Divorce_Men30/11/23 09:16 PM
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My boys are 7 & 11yo, so I feel you in every single element of this. The problem is that life is now gone and it’s not coming back. Part of the reason you take time away and focus on yourself is to do the necessary work so you can be ready for an actually legit partner who will probably become part of the story in your kids lives. You are at the first step, but the only way is forward my man.
/r/Divorce_Men20/11/23 05:25 AM
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My ex did that with instagram. So many online relationships with various levels of boundaries. She said she was taking out the garbage on a 20 degree day, and 10 minutes later I find her in the ally, garbage bag by her feet, no fucking coat on, DMing some online dipshit. Once they go down that rabbit hole, they are gone.
/r/Divorce_Men02/11/23 04:35 AM
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My man, you’re shocked that women in their 20’s are acting immature? Especially when you wait until after you fucked them to say you are just having fun and don’t want anything serious? Also, some of the hottie ones see a good looking, well put together, in-shape older dude at the gym and think “nice dinners and vacations to Ibiza”. When they figure out they aren’t gonna get that after letting you fuck them, they get pissed. Sounds like you are tearing through that gym though. I’m in a similar b…
/r/Divorce_Men31/10/23 04:17 AM
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Lots of guys on here will tell you to get right to fucking, and not gonna lie, it does help. My ex cheated on me by hoeing around on instagram. Felt amazing to be desired again. If you don’t feel ready for that yet then focus on yourself first. Your libido will make sure you start fucking again at some point. Write a paragraph or two about the type of man you want to be at the end of this journey and then decide what the first steps are toward those goals and get started. Get physically active, …
/r/Divorce_Men28/10/23 01:04 AM
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Ex did the same. Luckily she opened up and maxed out 5-6 credit cards in only her name. During the divorce process, the minimums came out of our joint account. When the divorce was finalized, she ended up owing me 35k for JUST THE MINIMUM monthly payments. I have zero idea how much she owes on them in total, but she has to be buried in debt. Thank god her mess is not my problem anymore
/r/Divorce_Men16/10/23 12:18 AM
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While I don’t agree with the entire first part of this, you should absolutely call a young attractive escort.
/r/Divorce_Men01/10/23 03:41 AM
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I’m divorced. You can listen to the bitter dudes in this thread with good advice if you want to leave, or you can listen to this dude if you want to stay. Your choice
/r/Divorce_Men04/09/23 05:50 AM
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If that is true. Then so do men.
/r/Divorce_Men01/09/23 04:26 AM
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My ex wife went through a phase of being really disengaged as a mother during her infidelity and for a solid year after the divorce. It wasn’t great for the kids. Don’t know if it makes you feel any better, but my ex did turn it around a decent amount and got back to being a better mom to my kids. It may just be part of her crisis phase. As for the other dude, try to waste as little time as possible using mental energy thinking about her new relationship. It sucks bro, I’ve been there. Time will…
/r/Divorce_Men26/08/23 04:25 AM
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Ruuuuuuun
/r/Divorce_Men23/08/23 04:25 AM
6

My ex was the exact same. When I asked her why she never told me about any of her unhappiness, she said “I knew how you would react.” Ok, so you didn’t express your needs because you are psychic and can predict my responses and now it’s too late to work on things? Yeah…ok
/r/Divorce_Men04/07/23 03:43 AM
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We need to rally around this type of dude. This is r/divorce_men not r/divorcerollsofmen
/r/Divorce_Men26/06/23 04:30 AM
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No, you aren’t wrong to be mad, but you being mad doesn’t matter to them at all. Stay mad but it only hurts you in the long run
/r/Divorce_Men19/06/23 03:24 AM
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Dating, while fun, isn’t a hobby 2. All hobbies don’t have to contribute to self-improvement. Fun for fun’s sake is cool too. 3. If you have tried that entire list of amazing hobbies and haven’t found anything you enjoy, have you considered you might be depressed? It’s not all about crying under your covers. That shit looks different for guys. Lack or loss of interest/enjoyment in enjoyable activities is a big sign you might be stuck in the shit. Just a thought. Be well brother
/r/Divorce_Men17/06/23 04:40 AM
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Have you ever taken a moment to think about how most of these 80 women who you are going on dates with are actually there to legitimately meet someone and not just there to validate your ego and fix your broken self-esteem? You straight up admitted that you don’t even give a shit enough to remember their names anymore. Damn, bro…You are the exact reason people say work on yourself and wait a year.
/r/Divorce_Men15/06/23 05:45 AM
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Exactly, my ex did the same thing. All of the sudden she needed to take “solo” weekend trips and was at the “gym” after work for 3+ hours 4 nights a week…riiiiiiight, ok. 20k on new boobs and a tummy tuck too then divorce papers came. OP’s wife has been banging away since the kids left. She’s telling him to go do it too so she doesn’t look like the one who nuked the marriage. Best of luck OP, sounds like you are on the right path
/r/Divorce_Men14/06/23 03:20 AM
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Bro, it actually sounds like you are depressed and don’t realize it. With love, get your shit together. Talk to someone, exercise, take those kids to the park and be present in every moment. You just lost 50% of their childhoods because of the divorce. Savor every moment you have because they are all precious and will be gone before you know it. They may not remember every dinner with you, but they sure as hell will remember you giving up your time with them.
/r/Divorce_Men10/06/23 04:59 PM
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Check your custody agreement dude. You should have them for at least a large chunk of time on Father’s Day because it is considered a holiday. It’s pretty standard, so it may already be included. If so, tell your ex and arrange to pick your kids up. She may not be doing you a “favor” by allowing you to tag along with them and just hopes you don’t notice what it actually says in the parenting agreement. Even if it isn’t specified, not letting you spend a few hours solo with your kids on Father’s …
/r/Divorce_Men10/06/23 03:31 PM
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Also, tons of women in their 30’s who have decided they personally don’t want to have kids but do want a family, so they are actually looking for a guy with kids.
/r/Divorce_Men09/06/23 05:01 PM
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This 100%. Women who are online dating have to deal with such an unbelievable amount of insanity and bullshit, that all most are looking for is a guy who has his life in order and is enjoyable to be around. Guys don’t realize how low the bar actually is, but you do actually have to invest in yourself a little to clear it.
/r/Divorce_Men09/06/23 04:57 PM
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He’s right, you have to pay for whatever app you use. I’ve had several women show me their dating profiles and they literally have 1000 guys trying to match with them at any given point. Most are trash, but it’s still a lot of noise. Pay for the app you use, get a good opening line, save any sex talk until after she’s laughed at one of your jokes and touched your arm when you are out for a drink. For god’s sake, don’t love bomb. 53 and a kid is nbd to most women unless you are out there trying t…
/r/Divorce_Men09/06/23 04:49 PM
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This is the truth. My ex used to tell me that the thought of having sex with me disgusted her. I started to believe it after 3 years of hearing her degrade me. I was shocked when I re-entered the dating world. I’m 43, single dad, fit, 5’9, definitely not a model but not bad looking, have my shit together. The amount of absolutely cool and attractive women who want to meet and are chill about casual relationships is amazing. My dating range is 30-40yo. Women tell me all the time that they have 10…
/r/Divorce_Men09/06/23 04:45 AM
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My ex just invited me to a water park with her and our kids. I was like, “yeah, I’m not gonna play super dad in the pool and water slides all day with them so you can lounge around. Those days are over”
/r/Divorce_Men13/03/23 04:32 AM
4

This is the problem two friend parties creates. It turns into a race for who gets the invites out quicker, etc. My feelings toward my ex have nothing to do with my kids birthday parties.
/r/Divorce_Men13/03/23 04:31 AM
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If you saw her on a dating app, I guess that means that you are on there too. Focus on your matches bro
/r/Divorce_Men12/03/23 05:46 AM
6

Similar feelings man. My ex is hot and it was/is still hard to get over even when I realize that is about all I like about her. Sure, your ex will have no problem having guys line up to fuck her just like mine, but that’s all they will want to do because, if she is like my ex, she has a lame ass personality (partially from relying on her looks). What helped me let her looks go was taking a long look in the mirror and realizing that it wasn’t her attractiveness that was the problem, it was my ego…
/r/Divorce_Men07/03/23 04:20 AM
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Translated - “All of my friends and the guys who are currently trying to fuck me agree with me”
/r/Divorce_Men01/03/23 12:07 AM
2

I know it’s hard now dude, but your primary responsibility is to your kids. Dig deep, be the man and father they need you to be. Going 700 miles away is abandoning them. You got this.
/r/Divorce_Men01/02/23 06:52 AM
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God, my ex wife did that. I it’s like I could watch her search for things to dislike me for. It’s all part of the rationalization process though. It’s a lot easier to excuse breaking up a family and putting your kids through a divorce when your spouse is the devil rather than a decent guy who you don’t love anymore
/r/Divorce_Men28/01/23 02:53 PM
3

Are you paying for her plane ticket or hotel room?
/r/Divorce_Men05/01/23 02:55 PM
2

Ahh my bad. Misunderstood
/r/Divorce_Men28/11/22 07:03 PM
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Dude, your youngest is 5 months old and she is pulling this now?!?! You sure it isn’t 1. Post-partum 2. Not someone else’s? The timing of this is fishy.
/r/Divorce_Men28/11/22 03:31 PM
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The controlling narrative is to justify themselves as victims
/r/Divorce_Men26/11/22 07:34 PM
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“Women like this want your continued support without giving you anything meaningful in return” hits hard man. It’s the continued expectation of emotional support when dealing with our kids that gets me sucked back in.
/r/Divorce_Men23/11/22 11:06 PM
3

I live in a major metro area and hinge is by far the most successful for me. Bumble is ok and Tinder is just a dumpster fire filled with bots, scams, and bored wives. There are some legit women on there, but it’s just not worth the effort to weed through the other bullshit. See my other comment on who to avoid on the apps.
/r/Divorce_Men31/10/22 04:38 PM
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Same exact situation as you brother. I’m 42yo and found out my ex cheated on me for a year before we divorced. It does a number on your self-esteem. We have 10 & 6yo boys and split 50/50. I waited a year before dating to get my life right and work on myself. That work was important but when I started dating, I realized how amazing feeling desired again was and how much I needed it to truly be able to heal and move on. My best advice is to just be honest with your intentions and don’t fall into a…
/r/Divorce_Men31/10/22 04:07 PM
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Those feelings of depression just mean you are an engaged, loving father to your daughter. I have 10 & 6yo boys who I share 50/50 and life is amazing when I have them. It feels empty without them. The only way that I have found to cope with the pain is to appreciate that having them 50/50 means I get to dedicate being fully present with them when I have them. Handle the rest of your life business when she isn’t there so you can love every moment you are with her instead of having to divide your …
/r/Divorce_Men30/10/22 05:09 PM
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You are gonna have to pay the monthly fee if you want to have any success. I’ve used Hinge, Bumble and Tinder. Hinge has been the most successful by a long shot. Bumble is ok, did swipe by my ex-wife on there. Tinder is a cesspool of bots, scammers, people cheating on their spouses, and some normal people. Good profiles go a long way. Start getting decent pictures of yourself. Good luck out there
/r/Divorce_Men28/10/22 11:38 PM
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But you keep doing it. If you don’t want to do it, stop.
/r/Divorce_Men26/10/22 03:34 PM
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Get ready for her to quit her little waitressing job bc of the 8 fucking kids she’s going to have to take care of and take 70% of your salary between alimony and child support.
/r/Divorce_Men03/09/22 05:12 PM
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This sub is currently currently trying to set a guys priorities straight. I’d say it’s functioning as intended. Every parent who abandons their kid has some kind of sob story about why they gave up…yawn.
/r/Divorce_Men01/09/22 05:14 AM
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I’m a divorced father of two myself. I’m sorry, but do you want to be the dad who explained that he moved away because he didn’t like it there? Stop being in victim mode. Make some friends, invest in your career, start a life instead of whining about yours. Step up to your parenthood brother.
/r/Divorce_Men01/09/22 05:10 AM
2

Same boat man, I’ve made some legit great friends from dating. Legit as in helped me pack and move from my marital house when it sold. Some FWB, some without the B. Most of the time it was because I wasn’t feeling it or it was mutual. It’s been one of the best parts of dating. When you aren’t a dick and open to more than just romance, friendships happen. Enjoy it man!
/r/Divorce_Men24/07/22 01:22 AM
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Why would she figure anything out when you are right there to do everything for her? You already know what you need to do. Cut the cord.
/r/Divorce_Men28/06/22 04:51 PM
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Then therapist
/r/Divorce_Men12/05/22 02:46 AM
4

This was my comment on that thread: Good for him and tough shit for you. You wanted this, now you got it. Deal with it. Something tells me you thought that sweet free alimony cash would land you in a million dollar house, but you ended up in a condo. Womp womp.
/r/Divorce_Men12/05/22 02:24 AM
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Do it for the gram!
/r/Divorce_Men08/05/22 06:26 PM
4

Bruh, your kids are more important than anything. There are red flags all over this situation. I don’t care how much you love your wife, she should not resent your kids for your ex wife’s behavior. She knew you had kids getting into this situation. Fuck her for resenting it now. Your kids are for life. Her jealousy of them is a sign of her emotional immaturity and any attempt she makes to distance you from them should be an immediate fuck you to her.
/r/Divorce_Men30/03/22 04:03 AM
2

Bruh, stop swiping on the crazy hot Russian and Chinese models.
/r/Divorce_Men08/03/22 11:16 PM
3

I'm newish to the online dating scene in Chicago as well. Generally speaking, I've met some really great women. I haven't met anyone I can see dating long-term, but I have had a lot of fun dates and casual romance. Agree with everyone else, get your kid out of the pics. I had that problem too. A few selfies and a solo pic will do the trick. Spend time crafting good answers to the prompts. I will say this, attractive women get A LOT of attention on dating apps. A women I who ended up turning into…
/r/Divorce_Men08/03/22 10:51 PM
2

Go for it man. No one at the bar cares. Sit your ass down, order a drink and start chatting with whoever is there. Or, just sit in silence and enjoy your drink. Resist the temptation to stare at Reddit on your phone. Last time I went to a bar by myself, a barfly introduced herself by telling me her back door was open for business. I didn't verify it was unlocked, but you never know where your night might take you.
/r/Divorce_Men15/02/22 08:02 PM
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Bingo. My ex got a tummy tuck and new tits then started thirst trapping online. It was over after she started getting all that attention.
/r/Divorce_Men31/01/22 02:30 PM
2

If you were up front about it then fuck her. She should learn to read before wasting your time. There are plenty of women out there who are actually looking for a guy with a kid. Sounds crazy, I know, but it's true. That's on her man. She wasted your time.
/r/Divorce_Men26/07/21 03:39 AM
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It’s fucking Facebook and social media. My ex did the same shit. Got bored and starting hitting up (or getting hit up) by old high school and college hook ups...they’re all “just friends.” Riiiiight...
/r/Divorce_Men29/06/21 03:39 AM
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I went through this same phase man. Some nights it still rears it’s ugly head. Two things worked for me 1. Popped in headphones and did either a guided meditation, audiobook, or music. At minimum, it slowed my mind down. At best, I was able to just focus on the words being pumped into my skull and fall asleep. If you go the audiobook route, pick a boring book. 2. When I think about the past, I repeat “learn from it or leave it behind.” What that means to me is that if I am going to spend time go…
/r/Divorce_Men06/06/21 03:38 PM
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