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I can't believe that this isn't common sense to some people. You're simply stating the truth behind both sexes. I hate when people try to paint a whole sex as evil, as if the potential of being evil isn't inherent in humans in general (as much as the potential to be good). Someone being shitty literally only means they focused on their evil side / anger based on hurt more, and it has nothing to do with gender. Gender only influences HOW and in which way someone may be evil.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/22 12:53 PM
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They do, but only with either other shitty people or very wounded people. These relationships / sexual experiences are usually always unhealthy and often make people feel empty afterwards.. People with a shitty personality and those who sleep with shitty people are usually unhappy.
/r/ExRedPill28/01/22 02:38 PM
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Well 'cause being a good, fun to be around person takes more work than just superficial behaviour changes. You gotta work on your mindset and mental wellbeing, which is a LOT easier said than done. These guys who claim working on themselves and their personality "didn't work" often didn't ACTUALLY take the effort to self reflect on their behaviour or work trough unhealthy coping mechanisms. Examples: Being a good listener 'cause it makes you a "good friend" is nothing if you don't actually want …
/r/ExRedPill28/01/22 02:28 PM
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Tell yourself what you want. Looking at the average redpiller you'll probably never feel fullfilled with this mindset, plus healthy minded people will mostly avoid you.. sooner or later you'll realize the red pill is a very skewed version of the actual reality.. it's only true to a small extent. It's just unhealthy, this is my genuine concern. (Edit: Also, you seemingly just want to argue and wont actually listen to other perspectives. Pretty unproductive as I'm already repeating / explaining my…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/22 09:54 AM
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Yeah I'm not gonna repeat myself again as you're just putting words in my mouth. I just claimed nuance. My arguments are based on common people's sense (outside internet brainwashing bs), not just my experience. I'm gonna end it here, goodbye.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/22 09:41 AM
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So you admit you can't fully know womens reasons when they have casual sex? Of course I can't know 100% (no one can, that's why subreddits like this one exist), doesn't mean I can't objectively use my brain.. also not having had casual sex doesn't mean I didn't once have a similar mindset too. You're no woman, I AM a woman. I listened to SO MANY other women, I understand womens nature first hand. My claims can be backed up by asking self aware women.. yours are probably backed up by wayy too bla…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/22 01:15 PM
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Your "studies" explain nothing if you simply listen to actual different humans, studies can never fully explain complex human behaviour (plus there's always studies on both sides). Nothing I wrote shows me "complaining", I just tried explaining objectively. My actual reason for commenting is that I feel bad for the many lonely single people who can't find a good LTR. Again you're projecting as the way you type is you complaining about some womens "self serving" mindset, as if your mindset isn't …
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/22 01:09 PM
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Yeah ok fair enough.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/22 11:20 AM
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No, it's not about being afraid of rejection. Most women also get rejected on the regular. It's about being careful to not get used in a way they can't stomach.. if they're looking to fuck they don't wanna get used emotionally too and guard their mind, if they're looking for a LTR they don't wanna get used sexually (as it will hurt when they're interested in more than sex) and guard their body. You don't get to tell men what standards they're allowed to have. They're allowed to guard their time …
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/22 10:46 AM
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You seem to only hear what you want to hear. I'm not trying to tell you how to live your life or what standards you should have in any way, I'm trying to help you understand these women's perspective (as I often listen to many different people). Don't close yourself off too much from other people's perspectives, you risk being in a bubble and eventually growing bitter and isolated. Also, don't assume I'm biased and talking for myself. I personally never had casual sex and I'm in a LTR. I simply …
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/22 10:34 AM
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It's not that she doesn't guard her body, she just does it differently. She can still respect herself. Her priorities and boundaries are just different then. Different ≠ Nonexistent. You forget the fact that women (looking for casual hookups) instead guard their mind much more 'cause they offer their bodys intimacy. If they guard their body instead (when looking for a LTR) they will offer their minds intimacy, hence why a casual hookup with a potential boyfriend will hurt. When actual romantic f…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/22 11:43 AM
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You misunderstood my comment. I didn't say sex isn't important or that withholding sex is in any way healthy in a relationship. However, when you start to get to know each other (when LTR oriented) both healthy men and women tend to first guard themselves but build a friendship / relationship before jumping into spending money / having sex right off the bat, that way you weed out superficial / selfish people out of your dating pool. It goes both ways. I see it's hard for you to understand why wo…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/22 09:11 AM
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Doesn't mean "chad" didn't have to respect boundaries, she just had different priorities then. No regular (non toxic) woman involves herself with a man she doesn't find attractive / valuable. Also, men who see sex as a "reward" instead of placing value on human connection have issues. The same with men who think they can dictate how women think / feel based on her actions who they observe from outside. Learning to deal with trust issues, insecurity, self respect, self reflection, taking actual r…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/22 11:55 PM
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THANK YOU, many people here sometimes make me question my sanity. These people got their heads stuck up their asses.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/22 11:39 PM
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So you wont date "sluts" 'cause some men can't behave (and dehumanize women)?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/22 11:10 PM
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The issues you mentioned here all come from insecurity driven men and quite nasty behaving types of men that pedestalize sex and reduce women to the fact that they slept with them. None of these are the woman in questions fault. We should rather call out men that stoop that low instead of dehumanizing the woman in question. To clarify, this doesn't mean women should not take responsibility for their own actions, they just shouldn't be held accountable for other people's behavior. But my opinion …
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/22 11:09 PM
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Wow that's beautifully written! You / these writings sum up healthy femininity pretty well. I truly hope and wish for confused and hurt TRP / FDS people to find peace of mind. The more you start to see humans as complex beings the more you'll realize most people aren't evil. One can recognize the world isn't all black without letting their guard down.
/r/ExRedPill15/12/21 10:00 AM
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I feel like most women would find 1 to be worse. I personally however would be able to get over 1 better, as I'd assume I probably failed to support him enough, I mean there's usually both who contribute to relationship issues. It would still however feel very hurt and betrayed that he lied about it though. Still, I feel like I could understand this decision better. 2 would crush my spirit, the fact that he so very randomly give something so intimate of his to someone makes me feel like he compl…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/21 09:51 AM
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They usually can't, rarely however will the types of "average men" with this sex obsessed worldview want to understand why and take responsibility for their unhealthy mindset though.. and they always think they're the experts on women's experciences instead of actual women. (Just know I'm talking in general about these types of men, not you personally OP!) ​ Women in general tend to have lower sex drives, at least mostly when it comes to casual sex. Women tend to have a very strong sex drive if …
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/21 08:40 AM
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Wow, the people pleasing part hits hard. This is exactly why many women still go seek "alpha" men.. not 'cause they actually like stuck up "redpill" men, but 'cause they're used to being a trampled on "yes woman" and they find comfort in familiarity. I'm one of those women, I got raised around abusive wannabe "alpha" men.. did I ever truly desire a toxic alpha redpill man? No. Did my trauma still make me feel like I want such a man? Yes. I can assure you that many "redpill wives" are also trauma…
/r/ExRedPill14/12/21 10:26 PM
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Yeah totally agree! I'd argue that most average people fall on a spectrum and aren't any of the two clear "gender categories" at all. Shy, quiet dudes can still be very masculine in their own unique ways, likewise with assertive, bold women having their own unique femininity. If we look around us both are still very desirable to many despite not perfectly fitting the mold. Some people just tend to obsessively categorize others to distract themselves from their mental issues, confusion or boring …
/r/ExRedPill14/12/21 10:09 PM
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Yeah that's pretty much a reflection of the average woman. Most of us don't want stuck up wannabe "alphas" who constantly feel the need to prove their masculinity. (edit: typo)
/r/ExRedPill14/12/21 06:41 PM
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Wow thanks for your insight, I as a woman have a very similar experience (including my character and boyfriend). I'm glad I'm not the only one xD
/r/ExRedPill14/12/21 06:35 PM
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Yes, I am attracted to such men, but not BECAUSE of these traits. I will like these traits in them if I like their character / them as a person. ​ I can be just as attracted to a timid, shy and sweet guy, I actually like these traits a lot. Still, in the end it's the quality personality I'm attracted to, the other more "superficial" traits (like behaving assertive or timid) I will start to appreciate after I fall for the guy as a person. My boyfriend has many traditionally masculine traits but i…
/r/ExRedPill14/12/21 06:17 PM
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I would be careful with Dennis Prager / Prager U in general. I had this perception of him too, but when I read his risky neanderthal article "When a Woman Isn’t in the Mood" I distanced myself from him / PragerU. You're definetly right with many TC's being respectful though, the internet is a bad representation of them. It's usually "RP follower" TC's that are toxic. (edit: wording)
/r/ExRedPill29/11/21 02:43 PM
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Try healing the wounds behind the fact that you're allowing one crappy woman / other people define your self worth and life.. when you learn to care less about shitty people and learn to be content on your own some problems suddenly solve themselves :) It's healthier being content on your own than bitter with shitty people. DISCLAIMER: This may be super clishee but it really is the key to peace of mind.. the happiest people are those who give less fucks. You'll learn how some things are just way…
/r/ExRedPill29/11/21 01:08 PM
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Thanks, I already have a great psychiatrists. And the vunerability thing is also a pill I had to swallow, I used to be a chronic oversharer.. now I keep things mostly private, which is why I shared the post on a throwaway. Luckily enough I already found a wonderful boyfriend, who doesn't believe in RP stuff (except some basic common "masculine" beliefs like me not being overly modest), I just personally still struggle with not being paranoid that my bf secretly agrees with RP and that I don't de…
/r/ExRedPill18/11/21 06:54 AM
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Ironically enough I already made the experience of them telling me it's "same sex attraction" and something nonexistent as a sexuality and just perversion.. sadly enough my family thinks the same, so I wasn't even surprised in the slightest. So while it gave me a reality check it sometimes still isn't enough as I was taught to believe religion over facts. (edit: typo)
/r/ExRedPill18/11/21 06:50 AM
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Thanks a lot. My rational brain always disagreed with RP beliefs tbh.. the emotional part is hard to overcome. And you're right with the trauma sharing thing.. I used to compulsively overshare it.. now I keep everything to myself and only share it with trusted loved ones. The privacy thing is also why I shared this on a throwaway. Best wishes to you too.
/r/ExRedPill18/11/21 06:47 AM
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Thank you, I hope you heal further too. Luckily enough I already have an amazing psychiatrist.
/r/ExRedPill18/11/21 06:45 AM
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Thank you, right back at you! Yeah you're right, luckily I never suffered by the fear that there's no good guys, just by the fear that some guys may secretly be abusive.
/r/ExRedPill17/11/21 09:58 PM
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I see myself as someone who learned about RP to cope, realized it's too extreme and without enough humanity and nuance, and now try to look at life with a less "pilled" but rather nuanced mindset. Some of the root is good and true, but a lot of it then goes too far and is to extreme.. I'll take out some good gold nuggets but leave behind the dirt where it should stay.
/r/ExRedPill17/11/21 08:41 PM
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