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This 100%. If a guy can afford to buy you a meal and some drinks, and chooses not to, I don’t get it. If he’s not willing to spend $30 of his disposable income to treat someone he’s interested in, how can one expect him to make ANY sort of sacrifices. I spend money on things I prioritize. If I buy a pair of shoes for $50, but won’t spend $50 on a bag, I value those shoes more than that bag. If a guy can’t show you that you’re any sort of priority, why bother?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/07/20 07:27 PM
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I literally go to type something out to make a Reddit post or ask a friend and as I type it out I go, “you clown. He’s not interested.” And then I backspace, contemplate my life for a moment, and move on lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/07/20 05:57 AM
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This is definitely a post I will come back to and read often. Thank you so much. You’ve really helped me understand how all these ideas (forever girlfriend, being goal-oriented, commitment from a boyfriend) all work together. I definitely want to get married some day, but I also see how this time is supposed to be for me to work on myself. I’m a little relieved at the idea of just... relaxing and not rushing the timeline. In my head, it was “bad” according to this strategy to date for multiple y…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/07/20 06:39 PM
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Is there a general guide for what the "timeline" of a relationship should look like? I'm 21, and I don't think I'll be ready to marry before I'm 25 at the very earliest. I've got a lot of career and other goals to work on first. I think, if my boyfriend sticks around that long, that's a good sign. I think the common wisdom on FDS is "he should commit right around a year" but now I'm wondering if that's just specifically for women whose goal it is to get married, whereas my goals right now are fo…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/07/20 08:07 PM
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That’s really where I’m at. If I am carrying a conversation and paying for my meal, how am I any better off than just going out by myself?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/07/20 05:46 PM
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I’m type 1 diabetic and I cannot even imagine being in a relationship with someone like this. It’s such a constant battle to remain healthy and not totally burnt out over it. My boyfriend is super supportive of me, helps remind me when I need to change things, and listens to me when things get hard. He makes it easier, not harder, for me. He doesn’t act like it’s a burden on him, because it’s not. It’s a burden on me that he helps me with. The misconceptions about type 1 are infuriating. I canno…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/07/20 08:25 PM
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Ya know, I don’t have a ton of details, but I’m just gonna give you my general take. I don’t know what kind of life transition he’s going through, but (and unhelpfully) it depends. Like my pick-me friend is dating a guy who treated her so poorly when he was studying for some kind of certification test. UHHHH? Life gets harder than studying for a test. So I like to think I would have peaced at that. That shows he can’t handle the most mild of stressors. I think that a guy will make an effort even…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/06/20 07:18 PM
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I’m in a long distance relationship with someone I’ve known for a long time before this (so we kind of traded the awkward getting-to-know-each-other phase for the awkward we-used-to-be-BFFs-but-now-we’re.....? Phase). So I have no insight as to beginning a relationship (romantic or otherwise) long distance. I didn’t used to understand what people meant by this, because I’d never seen it before, but when a guy is interested in you, he will make himself very clear. This guy actively WANTS to date …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/06/20 05:02 PM
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Ive been wondering the FDS on this as well. My boyfriend and I are both in our undergrad and we both have jobs but aren’t necessarily not broke students lol. I think we handle it pretty well. He lets me know I can order anything I want at restaurants, but sometimes he asks if I want to split an ice cream or just get appetizers or something. And we both don’t eat a whole lot (or are at least trying not to lmao). And I’m totally fine with splitting stuff. And it gives me the experience of being tr…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/06/20 09:30 PM
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One of the ways I gently encourage my friends to move on from a guy who is clearly playing them is to point out all the things the guy “goes after.” If he has any ambition in any part of his life, he can say “hey, would you like to go on a date with me this Friday?”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/06/20 03:27 PM
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Honestly, yeah. That’s my motivation worded better than I could have. My boyfriend (very new relationship, but we’ve been friends for years) is incredible, and I can absolutely see a future with him(and he’s brought up a future too). But I need to keep myself on a tight leash since I don’t want to be blind to any red flags that may exist. I can’t get too invested or carried away too fast.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/06/20 03:42 AM
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Even just the first thing breaks my heart. “Have I ever complimented something you clearly put a lot of effort in?” And she has to think about it. And the answer was “no.” Also the concept that she shouldn’t do something bc he hasn’t verbally approved of it? Outta my face w that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/05/20 05:13 PM
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I just had my first kiss (at 20) and honestly? It was wonderful to kiss my wonderful boyfriend, but it was awkward and clumsy and I didn’t feel “fireworks” but let’s just say, we’re improving with practice. I think if both parties are interested in learning each other’s styles, that chemistry can be developed. So I have no real advice other than I don’t know that you need to test the kiss to know if there’s long-term potential.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/20 05:00 PM
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Have you found that you become more physically attracted to a guy over time (when all the basic hygiene and grooming habits are there)? I’m really into my current bf. Everything about him is great. He’s super respectful and ambitious and thoughtful and supportive. I feel shallow, but the only thing I hesitate on is that he’s not physically what I’m usually into. I do feel like I’m finding him more attractive over time though. Thoughts on this?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/05/20 02:58 AM
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I mean honestly. The standards Ed holds women to versus the standards he holds himself to are mind-boggling.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/05/20 10:42 PM
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I saw the clip of Ed giving her a toothbrush and toothpaste like she didn’t have one. She had already told him already she brushes her teeth every day and the problem was stomach ulcers (I think). It broke my heart that he hurt Rose’s feelings because he was laser focused on how he was impacted by her breath and didn’t listen to her when she already explained why. So selfish. And when the problem couldn’t be solved for less than $4, he went radio silent about it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/05/20 07:52 PM
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The Gift of Fear is a fantastic book (or audiobook at least, I listened to it) that talks about exactly this. I think it’s a must-read/listen for everyone, but women specifically.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/05/20 01:03 AM
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Yeah. I’m with you there. I think it’s gotta be 50% GIRL what are you DOING?!?! and 50% come with me, girl. We’ll get you sorted out. The balance is important. Bc growth is painful, but there’s no need to add unnecessary pain.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/04/20 05:12 AM
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I think shaming this behavior is kind of the point. There's a lot of stuff that pops up in this sub that reminds me of stuff I used to do, and this sub points out that some of that stuff is stupid. Does that mean I am stupid now? No (not for that reason at least lol). Does it mean I was stupid then? Closer to yes, but not necessarily. But was what I was doing stupid? Oh, 100%. I think the main takeaway from this specific issue is that you need to act your worth, and your self-worth is not shown …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/04/20 04:10 AM
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