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Apologies - when you said you drove to your boyfriend's every night my mind added "and slept there", when that obviously wasn't the case, if you weren't actually living there. Assume makes an ass out of me, and all that!
/r/RedPillWomen01/12/17 05:21 PM
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For the other point of view: if you're a definite "no" and he's a "maybe", be wary that that "maybe" isn't "not now, but someday". Really, if you know what you want - whichever side of the fence you're on - don't invest huge amounts in a fencesitter and don't expect to change someone's mind!
/r/RedPillWomen01/12/17 02:04 PM
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Well, if you drove 45 mins every night to be at your bf's and were spending every weekend there, to my mind you'd moved in at that point anyway just without making it 'official'..! Which seems sensible - try before you buy, while you still had an escape route. And really, if RP philosophy is that cohabiting is getting the milk for free, then if I'm going to the bf's, treating it like my home and clearing his fridge, cleaning his house, cooking his meals etc then he's getting the milk for free an…
/r/RedPillWomen30/11/17 12:03 PM
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While I understand where you're coming from, my worry about not cohabitating beforehand is the unknown of whether you can cohabit with that other person - the excitement of holidays is not the same as day to day grind, and no one acts the same when they're a guest as they do in their own home. I hate the thought of marrying someone, moving in, and then having to make a choice of whether I'd rather be lifelong miserable with someone I cannot happily live with, or facing the RMV dive of being a di…
/r/RedPillWomen29/11/17 12:26 PM
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If a cohabiting couple is producing children, combining assets, finances, material possessions, and doing all these actions that bring them to near-marriage - what is the point of NOT marrying? Well, that was sort of my point, because OP seemed under the impression that: I didn't see any factual reason to get married since it doesn't help a relationship, but the costs are very high if things don't work out My point was, if you arrange a LTR to look after all the things you mention, with wills, a…
/r/RedPillWomen28/11/17 07:51 PM
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It's worth remembering that the costs of a failed LTR often aren't that much different to the costs of a failed marriage. Most long term LTR have the same assets as a marriage to divide, a similar entwinement of finances, a similar need to split social circles, a joint house with joint possessions. (And often, children also, though obviously not for you) And if you do the LTR properly then you'll have individual legal coverage for things that marriage automatically gives that almostsurrendered m…
/r/RedPillWomen28/11/17 12:12 PM
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Practice makes perfect - a new job with new procedures and new things to learn will always be more stressful than when you are 'established', so don't look at this like an endless tunnel, but a period of becoming accustomed to a new schedule. Things that hugely stress you out because they're new and difficult will be routine and boring in 2 years. Most importantly, don't beat yourself up for not adjusting immediately, and bring your SO your problem. And, I get that as the bottom of the pile you …
/r/RedPillWomen25/11/17 06:39 PM
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He could also just be textually inept. I think this is a serious possibility - this is a boy in his early 20s. The chances of him being adept at playing the game (either plating or courting) is really fairly minimal and I think it's fairly difficult to tell the difference between him honestly signalling his intent and really just not having a clue about how to pursue a relationship.
/r/RedPillWomen24/11/17 03:59 PM
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It's nice to get the highlights of people's lives that I rarely speak to any more. The comparison part is something that I struggle with, but generally control. My Twitter is basically a specialist news feed for subjects that interest me, so I don't really consider it social media, because it's more just personalised media, if that makes sense? That's probably the healthiest output because I can glance at it 20 times a day if there's breaking news I'm interested in, or I can ignore it for three …
/r/RedPillWomen15/11/17 08:27 PM
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Three people have bought a house, and five people are engaged, and two are expecting babies, and four have been on a wonderful holiday and suddenly you feel like a terrible failure because you haven't done all of those... when the reality is, 14 of 200 people on your friend list have done one of those only and the other 186, like you, have done none of those recently. Staring at other people's highlights for long enough and your everyday starts to look a bit drab and you feel a bit rubbish, and …
/r/RedPillWomen15/11/17 08:20 PM
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The answer to that is: take control of the situation. Wear a condom, every time, and wear it correctly. Bring a condom that they know fits and hasn't been tampered with. Get a vasectomy. Male contraception isn't difficult at all. We look for men who are captains, here, and captains are men who are not merely passengers in life. If a man is not capable of taking control of his own vessel, then he has to accept what the weather brings and pay for the damage, and a man who can't own the consequence…
/r/RedPillWomen15/11/17 08:08 PM
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Morally speaking, it should be rare as hen's teeth, and it shouldn't be happening beyond 14-16 weeks without good medical reason. But it should be available for medical reasons whenever it is required (a lot of severe congenital abnormalities that aren't compatible with life aren't picked up until late on). Practically speaking - sex-ed is terrible, contraception understanding is terrible, access to early abortion is terrible - so I have to back down on my perfect ideal to accommodate reality.
/r/RedPillWomen15/11/17 03:33 PM
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Child support, not mother support. I think making children suffer (financially) for the sins of their parents is detrimental to them - especially children who are already in a one-parent family. And practically speaking, children raised in poverty are less likely to contribute positively to society and more likely to be a drain on the system. So from my point of view, it's either my taxes or their father keeping them afloat, and I choose him, not me. So a financial contribution from the non-cust…
/r/RedPillWomen15/11/17 03:15 PM
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by pretending it's a problem with him. I wouldn't call it a problem: it's just how a pure alpha man is, because that's their nature. They may have a girlfriend, they may marry, and they will marry extremely well, but they are successful people and sex will always be available to them outside those committed relationships and they will more than likely take those offers up. Which is why so many highly successful men leave a trail of affairs behind them, no matter who their wife is. They can have …
/r/RedPillWomen12/11/17 06:13 PM
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Well, as you say, men are the gatekeepers of relationships - what they often want is sex without commitment. If they can freely and relatively easily obtain that, they have no real reason to open themselves up to a relationship, and should be viewed with extreme caution even if they say they are offering commitment. Extra-relationship sex is nearly as easy to obtain for those men as it was for them when they were single, and men will be men! Especially if they keep the same company that they did…
/r/RedPillWomen11/11/17 07:13 PM
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If it goes well, great. If it doesn't, you will probably have a very funny story to tell your friends about how you stuffed up. Win-win! In all seriousness, it is just a date and not marriage, so relax and if it's great, great, if it's not, really it's no big deal :) You are 19, and you're not meant to have it all figured out just yet even if some of your peers do a good job of pretending that they have.
/r/RedPillWomen10/11/17 09:43 PM
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I never said otherwise, nor have I suggested it. I merely said that - while the poster I replied to is right, a man places no value on your career because it isn't important, we don't only need to think of careers as they said, in how they benefit a captain, because careers can be self-care (which is rightfully emphasised, but generally in the grab coffee/have hobbies/go to a class kind of way) and beneficial to us as part of that self care. sometimes, having a career is beneficial in the same w…
/r/RedPillWomen10/11/17 09:04 PM
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Well, I don't see the problem with having a career for yourself, rather than for your captain, as long as you realise it has no impact on the partner you will be able to attract. Self-care and self-worth can take many forms, and sometimes that form is being professionally respected by your colleagues and peers. You just need to able to distinguish the things that make you feel good and the things that guys find attractive.
/r/RedPillWomen09/11/17 06:40 PM
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I keep asking you to explain the concept of how to challenge a decision that has been made by a man who neither a criminal, nor an addict, nor mentally ill, as I was previously unaware that that was advisable under RP guides. Could you provide a theoretical guide as to how to do that? I can give a theoretical situation as a framework, but I'm worried that if I do give an example, you'll bog down on the details of the example without addressing the actual question to the point where your answer s…
/r/RedPillWomen06/11/17 08:10 PM
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Could you point me to the specific part of the sidebar on how to challenge your man on a bad decision if he's made his mind up? I have tried, but the most likely options (the "assertive" post and the "bring your problem" post) don't really address that at all, and the "how to be a first mate" explicitly says: the next important step in being a good first mate is ensure full support of the captains decision even if you do not agree that it was the best one. It is ok to question and advise and rec…
/r/RedPillWomen06/11/17 07:32 PM
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Vetting is extremely important, Well, yes, but people change. I mean, if you asked me in 2014, I would say that Melania Trump had done a very good job of vetting her man so that she wouldn't have to take on an official political public role of her own... fast forward to 2017 and there she is, as First Lady, in a move that took the world by surprise so hardly her fault if she didn't predict it. What should she have done if she didn't want to be First Lady? Divorce? Stand her ground and fight him …
/r/RedPillWomen06/11/17 03:12 PM
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That doesn't really answer the question asked... what if you have a discussion about a serious issue and the captain has made it very clear that that's their decision and you know it's wrong? The sidebar says STFU and let them make the mistake - is that wrong?
/r/RedPillWomen05/11/17 11:23 PM
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No but you must follow, not lead the way. That doesn't make you lower status but it sure as anything means that you have to abide by and support your husband's decisions, even if you disagree. If you disagree, you shut up and do what he wants, not follow your own decisions or argue back. That's one of the core teachings of RPW, no? That you acknowledge that he is leader and you do what he wants without bitching, even if he goes against what you want. If you think that makes you lesser, then not …
/r/RedPillWomen05/11/17 05:55 PM
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Well, that's the power of being older and wiser. They can lead the young actors/actresses via small steps that individually look reasonable at the time, the young person has no experience of where this is going, and teenage brains are extremely malleable - we don't fully develop the frontal cortex - which is involved in complex decision making - until our mid 20s so the experienced adult is working with an advantage. Which is why when the younger person gets too young, or the age gap too wide, t…
/r/RedPillWomen05/11/17 03:31 PM
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This may be because I vetted well enough that our interests aligned Well, bingo, that's the thing. The trick is always to vet for a man who's going to make decisions you like. If you're a homebody who doesn't want to move more than ten miles from your home, vet for a man who would never want to move cross country. If you want financial success more than that settled feeling, vet for a man who takes those opportunities. But if you're a homebody and your husband takes the job cross country, then y…
/r/RedPillWomen05/11/17 02:21 PM
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Well.. both companies take on the name of the larger company. The new, improved company refocuses its business efforts towards the goals of the Mr company and the Mrs company stops her activities to play a supporting role to him, and she refocuses her efforts into the longevity of the Mr name by procreating. The Mrs company does discard large parts of her previous activities - although you're right, she doesn't become nothing, she takes on the goals of the Mr company as her own. The Mr company l…
/r/RedPillWomen04/11/17 03:26 PM
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Not even either, but if you have 3 kids you're basically doing a load of washing every day, and you're the kind of person who irons socks, underwear and bedsheets, and bakes every day, and home cooks from scratch every day, and you buy fresh food every day and pay all your bills by visiting the bank because you don't trust autopay, and makes everyone's lunches for school/work... wash all the windows once a week, hoover the house once a day... It adds up. Especially when you can't drive and you'r…
/r/RedPillWomen04/11/17 03:19 PM
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I don't think I ever saw her stop working, 7 days a week. If she sat down, she fell asleep. My dad on the other hand had 5 days of working a fairly flexible job, and perhaps a half day of outside work in the summer (with obviously not much in the winter). Maybe it's that she did a lot of the gardening that didn't help, but unfortunately gardening was one of her jobs that she actually enjoyed and it gave her a break from housework.
/r/RedPillWomen01/11/17 09:28 PM
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That's how my parents did it. My mom was busy raising kids and running errands and doing household chores from 6am - 10pm while my dad worked 8-6pm then came home and put his feet up, except for mowing the lawn once a week and washing the car occasionally. It worked out well for my dad.
/r/RedPillWomen01/11/17 01:46 PM
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Because if a partner isn't comfortable acknowledging to the world that you're their partner, then they're not comfortable that you're their partner. And no matter what else they do, that's not real commitment.
/r/RedPillWomen30/10/17 07:07 PM
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I suspect, because they build resentment over the years that they can't do anything career-related because their husband doesn't want to rear their children. So they stay together for the kids, and then when the kids are gone it's "Sayonara, husband, time for me to do what I could have done 20 years ago if it weren't for you!"
/r/RedPillWomen30/10/17 08:04 AM
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Talented women, forced by their husband’s attitudes to downgrade their aspirations, bide their time. After their children leave, often so do the wives. About 60% of late-life divorces are initiated by women, often to focus their energies on flourishing careers post-50. Is the missing bit that provides context for your confusion! to edit: there is a third way to the one you suggested. But that involves one or two sets of grandparents being on constant standby to babysit should they need to. I've …
/r/RedPillWomen29/10/17 09:30 PM
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In general, it backs up what RP says. Men don't want to do childcare, don't expect to do childcare, and don't alter their worklife to take on childcare. So if there are children involved, women have to take on the bulk of the childrearing load, and that's just the way it is whether the women thought they were career women or stay at home moms. As people are fond of saying: red pill isn't fair, it just is. Men can outsource childrearing to their spouse and have it all, women can't. It is, essenti…
/r/RedPillWomen29/10/17 06:37 PM
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And a chemical short chain alcohol is a short chain alcohol, my friend, but you get very different effects from drinking ethanol (the alcohol you drink) to ethylene glycol (antifreeze). Comparing prescription use of a stimulant designed to alter the brain to a neurotypical standard, with the much higher doses of different but related drugs used to induce illegal mind altering states from the starting point of the neurotypical standard is not accurate. If your presented point of view is OP's husb…
/r/RedPillWomen27/10/17 02:00 PM
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If you persuade someone to stop taking medication that controls symptoms of a disease, for whatever reason, and then you mock them for displaying the symptoms of the disease, you are not doing good things. You don't take insulin away from someone then mock them for being in a confused, pre-coma state. If you tell someone to stop taking medication, then you have to be prepared to essentially take over the medication's place in that person's life and cover those symptoms yourself and be patient wi…
/r/RedPillWomen27/10/17 09:28 AM
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If you can financially give your family what you need without you working, then the question really is: do you need to work for yourself? If going to work is going to be essentially self-care, where you get to recharge as an adult with adult conversations, and that means the time you give your children is slightly less, but of much greater quality because you've practiced that self care and can be more patient/less stressed, then going to work is a great idea. Especially if there's enough money …
/r/RedPillWomen26/10/17 07:24 PM
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My point was, in America the ultimate symbol of commitment is marriage, normally in a religious building, with a religious figure blessing it on behalf of a deity. In other countries, that's sometimes a bit weird so trying to transplant those specific ceremonies (not the commitment bit - the specific ceremony around the commitment) doesn't work, as different cultures have different ways of showing that same commitment (which is the important bit rather than name!). I mean, in several European co…
/r/RedPillWomen22/10/17 02:48 PM
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Quite a lot of French couples only PACS (marriage lite with a few less legal responsibilities) and never marry - very different culture to the US where religious marriage is a common thing.
/r/RedPillWomen22/10/17 01:21 PM
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PACS (I’ve never heard of it) It's essentially a little bit like a civil marriage. Officially, you are not considered single for tax returns/forms anymore, you are pacsé. Civil unions are far more common in France than most places - 75% of unions in 2000 were civil rather than anything else and that number only grows. While pacsé was originally started to give homosexual couples a way to formalise their union, most pacséd couples are heterosexual. So her question is basically "we are marriage-li…
/r/RedPillWomen22/10/17 01:18 PM
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Yes, but the banks have accumulated money with a wide strategy of low risk = low reward (e.g. stable government bonds) and high risk = high reward (start up companies, emerging nations, wars). And they had a large initial investment, back in the 19thC, and compound interest is amazing over century long periods, and still a fair few lost everything in 2008 crash - but were bailed out by the Government. Assuming that your multimillionaire didn't start trading in the mid 19th century, and that no g…
/r/RedPillWomen08/10/17 05:30 PM
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The self made man would still have had to take incredible risks to gain that amount of wealth, so I still wouldn't trust them not to follow their nature and take incredible risks again. And incredible risks have incredible losses a lot of the time! Stability and a hard worker over the gambler who got lucky, every time. Because luck runs out and hard work doesn't.
/r/RedPillWomen08/10/17 12:48 PM
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I'm sorry, but I can't think of a single attractive woman who would go home with someone dressed by Walmart to their parent's basement. Even when women choose a ONS, they're still motivated by the outward factors of success, because that's how they're wired. Even with a ONS, you have to give the appearance that you're successful. Thinking that women are wired to want that even when they're told they're free to choose is basic Red Pill, I think? If you're aiming for really high value women (model…
/r/RedPillWomen08/10/17 12:44 PM
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Beyond a certain age, they sort of do, unless they are willing to lower their standards drastically. A high value woman will go back to your parent's basement when you're 20 - she's not going to go back to your parent's basement when you're 50. If you're trying to take women/girls back to your parent's basement at 50, you're not going to have much luck. If you live in your parent's basement at 50, wave your sexual success goodbye. Hell, it's going to be weird if you have roommates at 60 and that…
/r/RedPillWomen07/10/17 08:20 PM
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Really? I thought women needed to be beautiful (fertile) and men needed to be successful (providers). I don't think anyone looks at a penniless 70 year old man and thinks, "if I get hitched to him, this time next year we might be millionaires and I can raise our children comfortably." There's a limit on women's patience while waiting for success - if it hasn't happened by a certain point, you're unlikely to persuade any woman of worth that it's going to happen at all so you need to drop your sta…
/r/RedPillWomen07/10/17 07:18 PM
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An investor who has made many millions is, when you get down to it, a high risk gambler. And as such I'd never really feel that stable with someone whose finances were that precarious, because bad market timing could see you losing your house. Whereas an established lawyer is unlikely to be left with no way of earning and effectively has an income for life, assuming that they don't do anything stupid enough to disbar themselves. The question is basically: what's your risk tolerance? And mine isn…
/r/RedPillWomen07/10/17 06:58 PM
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Then I apologise. I understood RP's "Jesus as Messiah" mission statement to be "men and women are different, men and women are treated and responded to differently, this is what life is, play the game with the hand you've been dealt and quit whining that you can't have everything because that ain't happening." And everything else was sprung from that core belief, in the same way that the rituals and symbolism of the different churches spring from their core belief. To have such a large proportio…
/r/RedPillWomen29/09/17 01:28 AM
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If one Christian believes that they are eating the actual body of Christ in communion, and other believes it's a symbolic eating of bread, then you would have to really be a religious extremist to call one Christian and the other not, because the Reformation is over.
/r/RedPillWomen28/09/17 09:39 PM
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how women's sexual preferences change based on their cycle Actually that one has some basis in truth. Ovulating women do show a preference for more masculine features over more feminine ones, and that's something that's reasonably repeatable and well demonstrated and well-accepted. Extrapolating from those studies to women's preference in long term partners (and women's faithfulness) is where it starts to get a bit pseudoscience-y and frankly reaching further than the data can reliably take you.…
/r/RedPillWomen28/09/17 04:19 PM
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